Let’s talk

flsb · 2024-07-05T21:19:02+00:00

I've never told anyone this story, but there was a particular 12-hour window early in college where I had two interactions with two different women that's always bothered me:

It was early in the school year (this was '02, holy hell I'm old) and us students were all seated, waiting for the professor. The girl to my left starts ranting to the girl on her left about a guy in an another class earlier in the day was seated next to her right (so right where I'm sitting) and was hitting on her, trying to get her number and she was annoyed about it. Perfectly reasonable, but she kept loudly and visibly ranting to this girl about the interaction, and I wish she would've turned to me for a quick second and acknowledged how she might be making me feel uncomfortable: "not you of course" or something to that effect would've been a basic courtesy, but I mostly shrugged it off.

The real kicker though is that next morning. I'm walking the 15-minute walk from my dorm building to a campus building where my first class is, and a girl (different girl) whom I've never seen before starts walking right beside me, keeping pace. Keeping yesterday afternoon's interaction in mind, my 18-year-old self doesn't say a word to her. After about 10 minutes into the walk this girl turns to me and says "why are you continually ignoring me? I'm walking with you and you don't say a word."

I just wanted to scream to the whole world "I GUESS US GUYS CAN'T FUCKING WIN, CAN WE?!!!!!" My respect and reservation that clearly had been signaled to me ended up backfiring. I get it, both girls were probably 18 and so was I, so we were all young, but society in general gives us guys mixed messages and then refuses to acknowledge the mental problems that fester as a result. It's a difficult world for guys to navigate that stuff sometimes. I know, I know, it's such a nothing story with no real consequences, but for whatever reason this still nips at my heels all these years later.

Asatmaya · 2024-07-05T14:41:20+00:00

I'm actually having something of the opposite problem.

I've been having serious health issues for the last 6 months or so, but it turns out that a doctor I saw last year falsified my medical records saying that I was exhibiting "drug-seeking" (for trying to get a prescription refilled) and "antisocial" (for refusing the Covid shot) behavior.

Now, every doctor I go to sees that, ignores everything I say (chest pain, short of breath, passing out if I stand up too fast) and refers me to psychiatric counseling, and they keep trying to find a reason to involuntarily commit me (that is literally in the records).

You couldn't get me to talk to a therapist for love or money, at this point.

Remybunn · 2024-07-06T03:12:03+00:00

The one woman I could have ever trusted has been dead for over two years now. She was my best friend and the closest thing to a platonic soul mate I'll ever have. She was so on the level--a feminist who didn't demonize men, who was simply fighting back against the sexist shit her father and brother constantly exposed her to. I feel like the entire female gender no longer exists, because she was the only real woman I ever knew. The rest are just parasites in human costumes.

JDMWeeb · 2024-07-08T21:04:34+00:00

Growing up, I was heavily bullied physically and verbally from my classmates and teachers in elementary/middle school, not to mention the abuse and physical/emotional neglect from my own family. I tried to ask for help from any adult that would listen but I was told to suck it up and to not cry because "crying is unmanly". Nearly 10 years of that and I have severe trust issues, never open up to people, and other problems. I have been doing therapy for almost a year now, but I still have a long ways to go.

Title	Let’s talk
Author	Jedi-Master-Jacob
Upvotes	36
Comments	9
Date	July 5, 2024 1:31 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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