Lost a bunch of weight, now what?

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tomaleu · 2013-08-01T02:05:39+00:00

By being an interesting person. What interests you? go do something you haven't before, like rock climbing, playing guitar, hiking, fishing, hunting, tap dancing, scuba diving, make some moonshine, chop down a tree, build a canoe, raise chickens, strictly train a dog, roller skate, beatbox, cut your own hair, wander the streets at night, make your own wooden pipe, cultivate a garden, go make friends with hobos, make a boxcar and roll down hills, learn to surf, walk up a volcano, take a trip through a forest etc. etc. etc. DO THINGS.

gibby6385 · 2013-08-01T03:29:41+00:00

Eat healthy, I'm 6'4 and 210 lbs. I'm 28 and was 300 lbs back in high school days. You love food obviously, don't fall back in the trap like many do.

Start putting yourself out there now, when you continue to lose more weight. Friends, family and people who know you in general. Will start giving you mad respect. Bang some 5's, practice so when you start pulling in 9's you know what you're doing.

Last of all, girls go for tall guys. So reap the benefits of it. Always play up your height when any girl ever makes a comment.

10199 · 2013-08-01T05:25:16+00:00

"My father never went to college so it was really important I go to college. After college, I called him long distance and said, now what? My dad didn't know, so he said get a job. When I got a job and turned twenty-five, long distance, I said, now what? My dad didn't know, so he said, get married. I'm a thirty-year-old boy, and I'm wondering if another woman is really the answer I need."

RedSunBlue · 2013-08-01T06:40:54+00:00

Any advice in the meantime?

Get on Starting Strength or StrongLifts.

AlphaPill · 2013-08-01T11:45:37+00:00

Turns out that when you're fat, people perceive you as arrogant in situations where a skinny guy would be considered confident.

While that may be true there's no reason for you to cede to their opinion. Letting them frame you is the problem and it transcends weight. You could be in awesome shape but the second you get put in someone else's frame you're screwed.

Need to 1) deflect them and 2) if you get stuck in one you need to bust out of it asap.

While there are times when people are truly being weird/creepy it is typically just a frame other people put them in to control the interaction. Check your behavior to make sure you're not doing anything wrong and then take control of these situations.

You're not being creepy, they're being overly sensitive; you're not weird, they're judgmental; you're not annoying, they're intolerant; you're not angry, they're just bitter. Don't say these things directly, just adjust your attitude accordingly and it will be implied when you speak.

kukul · 2013-08-01T02:42:34+00:00

How to go creepy to being mysterious

There's no real way to do that without going through the social and likeable phase, don't even try. The trick is to be able to entertain everyone with a witty conversation, but choose to leave them wanting more, not to sit there like a sperg.

From weird to interesting?

Talk about subjects that are interesting to everyone. Always let the other person move towards unconventional grounds. Be the one to say "Fuck yeah I like Star Trek", instead of "Do you like Star Trek?".

Annoying to funny?

Play it safe, being the witty and charming kind of funny is hard as fuck and the "we mostly laugh with you, but often at you" kind of funny is worse than being mute.

Angry to stoic?

That's the ultimate prize.

Also buy some good clothes once you're at your goal weight.

soapjackal · 2013-08-01T17:32:32+00:00

Get testosterone and d3 levels checked. Make sure you keep both up

Make some goals: -body (martial arts, strength, food, aesthetics) -mind (reading, training, supplement) -recreational (hobbies, arts, fun) -relationship (family, friends, women) -work (skills and investments) - school (education and learning - I recommend life long) - attitude (meditation, philosophy, experience)

Be in the moment, work hard, cultivate friends and networks. Find things to do, people to talk to, stuff to learn. Make yourself interesting with experience. Enjoy life and don't apologize for your existence.

favours_of_the_moon · 2013-08-01T02:04:49+00:00

Don't back down.

Don't be a douchebag, but if a girl tries to shame you are get you to back down, don't do it. Creepy is when you fail the shit test.

Mysterious is when you do your own thing, and you don't care what she thinks.

PinkfloydPurplefloyd · 2013-08-01T10:37:21+00:00

In terms of interesting I would suggest you read a lot and practice enunciation of your words by learning and applying public speaking principles. Back in my teens, I was an avid reader but inversely a bit of a social invalid and so despite my knowledge of many things, I fucked up quite a bit when trying to build up my social proof in 12th grade. This is the biggest thing I can suggest: coming off clearly.

Title	Lost a bunch of weight, now what?
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Date	August 1, 2013 1:41 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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