Why do we always hear about 'abusive men' from women ? Why is it that these so-called abusive men that women supposedly hate and want nothing to do with never have any problems finding women ? There's never a short supply of women with 'abusive boyfriends'

Do these men have a sudden transformation from being perfect gentlemen to being abusive assholes? No of course not. People's behavior doesn't change that easily or rapidly, and if it does there were probably warning signs early on that went ignored.

Of course it's very unlikely that it's some new problem. It's easy for a lot of women to absolve any responsibility for their choices in mates when it suits them, or to completely misrepresent normal masculine behavior as 'abusive' whenever they choose to do so...

... are you the dominant one in the relationship? do you take charge? do you make decisions? Well that's attractive to most women, but with the blink of an eye, or when she decides she's not getting what she wants, those normal male traits can be redefined to mean you have an 'authoritarian personality disorder,' and that makes you a "controlling, abusive psychopath" who "needs professional help"