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[–]Endorsed ContributorGarl_Vinland16 points17 points18 points 11 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
A better title for this thread would be: Three beta orbiters and their girl.
she is really fun and cool so I want to keep things up with her
It sound like you have oneitis for a party slut. Don't worry, it happens to a lot of guys at your age. There is next to nothing you can do to ensure she doesn't fuck either of those guys, or the next one that comes along.
[–]RichardPalma0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Three beta orbiters and their girl.
Actually, it's two plates, an orbiter, and a girl.
[–][deleted] -3 points-2 points-1 points 11 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
It's not so much I have oneitis as I kind of want a secure date to prom, well aware what she is. If it helps my cause she is well aware of two girls that want to go with me
[–]Endorsed ContributorGarl_Vinland6 points7 points8 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
What makes the two of them less appealing than the party slut?
Right now she probably sees you as "the guy who's going to pay for my big party night as long as I string him along for the next month."
[–][deleted] -4 points-3 points-2 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
She's better looking, more fun. The other two one is a shitty ass kisser and the other will not get down. Remember it is senior prom so the ultimate goal is to get laid, I'm sure you remember. I've already banged the bad kisser so I want a new accomplishment. The other two also plopped themselves in my lap so I identify with the saying "want what you can't have and don't want what you can have". Does that make sense?
[–]Endorsed ContributorGarl_Vinland2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
long story short we end up hooking up that night.
I was under the impression this meant you fucked her already too, so I don't see how that argument is relevant. If that's not the case then you are the guy paying for a date with the girl who is definitely fucking at least one other guy, without having fucked her yourself. Don't be that guy.
"want what you can't have and don't want what you can have". Does that make sense?
Not really, since you said one of them won't fuck.
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
By hook up I meant I got a BJ and fingered her. Terminology and such obviously different because of age and shit
[–]2ndLion6 points7 points8 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Stop being on the defense. He's giving you some valid advice. If you ask a man a question expect him to answerd like a man, and not to your liking. In the end you're free to do whatever you want.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sounds like the plot for the next high school rom com box office flop.
If anything this belongs in r/AskTRP
[–]BowlOfCandy2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Fighting over women is silly, it's a dynamic that enables shitty behavior from women. You shouldn't focus on "keeping her from going back to her boyfriend", that is not of interest. You are a king, you can make any woman your queen, you don't have to try to keep her there to be your queen.
You seem to lack abundance mentality. You have displayed confidence and assertiveness that has drawn her to you, but do not fall back to BP demeanor (ie: give fucks) because that will make her go back to bf.
Abundance mentality: if she does go back to her bf, she wasn't worthy to be your queen. Drop the oneitis, be a king.
[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points0 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Great advice, I have abundance, but not necessarily the mentality only because if she does go back to her bf I have to fall back on my second choice prom date. But I guess that is exactly the point of abundance mentality so I will definitely work on it.
[–]RichardPalma-1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
She had a bf at the time but he wasn't there and she didn't want him there. He is an extremely crazy beta orbiter
If he's an on-again-off again boyfriend, he is not an orbiter. Orbiters circle but never approach for fear of crashing. His footsteps are all over that moon. The other guy seems to have gone into orbit but that doesn't mean he won't attempt a landing again.
So at this party I can tell she is digging me, long story short we end up hooking up that night.
You are at best a plate here. Certainly not nearly as close as an on-again-off again bf.
But, since you are young I feel the need to point out that this is not necessarily a bad thing. See what you have is potential. Asking her to the prom was a great idea. The way you prevent her from going back to her old boyfriend: in my experience the best way is spending so much time with her and having such a good time that she won't even miss him.
You should know that any time she sees him in an ambivalent way. She remembers the good times but she also remembers why they broke up. Sometimes those good timey feelings can override and sometimes not. I don't know her, him, or you, so I can't say for sure. But if they keep getting back together like multiple times, it's not a good sign. You just have to try hard to keep her impressed, or maybe just move on to someone else if this is really that big of a thing for you.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I really don't cared I am a plate or whatever to her, not looking for a an LTR because as I've said she has shown many red flags. I should've stressed that part more, pretty much I just want to keep her for prom (1 month) and hen whatever happens happens. But this is the best advice so far.
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