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[–]f0ster5 3 points4 points5 points 10 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
It doesn't ever completely go away; you are human and it is a natural occurrence for every one. You have to condition yourself, and accept the fact that females are not wired biologically to love you the same way men are to them. It is what separates everyone who practices TRP from anyone else. It takes a lot of will-power, and eventually you won't get it as bad, especially when you garner a true abundance mentality. But we all have our moments of weakness, no matter how much we try to hide it, but we are better because we know the truth and we know how to control those moments.
[–]night_rider1991[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Id say this is definitely a moment of weakness for me.
Just as a general rule (and obviously for this chick, not gonna lie), how do I proceed in these kinds of situations? Ignore em completely?
[–]f0ster5 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
It depends on what outcome you expect to happen - do you want to date this girl? Or do you want to separate yourself from the oneitis completely? In both situations your best bet is to lay off her for a while, don't contact her unless she contacts you first, and go have some fun with other ladies. Remind yourself there are even better looking girls than her. At this point you can either forget about her, or if you wish to pursue a relationship than do so, but always keeping under the discretion that you can walk away at any time and find someone else when she stops making you happy.
[–]night_rider1991[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I do want to date her. My feelings at this time are that my oneitis (the feelings, not the girl) will sabotage me. In the past, I've gone after oneitises and they've resulted in the LJBF so I've been wary of pursuing girls whom I've "caught feelings for."
I do have her number, (she asked me to put it in her phone at a bonfire to send pics) but have only texted her once. (A major fuck up where I thought I had texted a similar named girl who I had a ONS with about a forgotten jacket in her room, sent it to her instead.) Otherwise its been no contact outside of class already.
Just fired up Tinder and will take your advice on pursuing other leads in the mean time.
[–]f0ster5 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Even when dating girls you don't want to let oneitis control your relationship. Always remember - she does not and cannot love you in the same way you can for her. Accept that she may cheat and you will never know about it. This is why you have to 'give up' on her for a bit to remind yourself and get over those feelings; otherwise you will be correct, it will sabotage your relationship and you will not be happy.
[–]night_rider1991[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Will do. The solid advice is greatly appreciated, brother.
[–]RedPillWatchTower 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This is a post for /r/askTRP. Repost there.
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