This will be a field report with a question mark as I want to see if I handled this correctly and what I can learn from.

Summary: Friend almost botched up first meetup with Tinder girl, played it cool, got second date and got hot and sweaty. Sorry if it gets a bit long as it is a rant/venting too.

 

Body: So as I'm trying to put theory to the test, reading around TRP for a few months now, I got a date with my second Tinder match. I quickly made her interested with a small game where she would guess which country I originally came from and from that getting her number was easy. She is at best a HB6 with a thin, but tall frame.

Quickly found out that she lives in the neighboring city and that I would be visiting it on Saturday to go out drinking with some friends and she could meet me then. She quickly agreed and I went radio silent for the next two days.

 

Just so we are clear, I did not go out drinking for her, it was just a coincidence that she lived in that town.

 

Anyways, the day comes, she texts me and says that she can't make it if I don't make it downtown before midnight. So I thought to my self, fake it till you make it, so I responded with "That's okay, I'll text you if I can make it before midnight". I went radio silent again and just had a good time with my friends. My reasoning for how I answered was really that if she really is interested then she will stay beyond midnight to meet me.

 

We go off the buss and right before it hit 00.00 I got a message that she is already by the bars and waiting for me. So we meet up, give her a hug and start kino right away, hand on her back and leading her when necessary. We meet up with two of my friends (not sure where the others went) and we hit a bar and order some drinks, this is where I really messed it up.

 

The two friends who didn't ditch me are supposedly my best friends and I have been at the same school and grown up with them till I was 19 years old. However, they are beta as fuck, I didn't realize how much until that night, lets call them P and O. So we sit down, I introduce them and thought I could use them to just loosen up the atmosphere and P had already told me that they would leave after one beer to leave me and Tinder-girl alone to talk.

When P stood up after the first beer and tried to get O to join him, he just sat there and looked at him like he was an idiot. I could see what had happened, he had taken a liking to the Tinder-girl and didn't want to leave as that would be spoiling his chances to get with her. For the short while she had been sitting with us, he had interrupted any interesting line of conversations I had with her with stupid shit like "I can't believe that you would just meet up with a random guy from Tinder. (Trying to make me look like a creep?)".

 

At this moment I just went into IDGAF mode and just focused on having a good time, striking a conversation with her whenever possible and just having a good time with my "friends". We went to some other bars and had a few more drinks before we all took a cab. While in the cab, O (beta bitch) actually asked her if she wanted to go on a date with him. She shut him down completely by saying she was still on a date with me, we reached her place, we both went out, I gave her a hug and then she left. O then asked ME for her number. I was shocked, if he couldn't land her number by himself, what made him think that I would give him her number.

Later that night before we all went to sleep, P said it was douchy what O did, even though he was tempted to try to get with her too, he resisted that temptation because we are friends...

 

Anyways, fast forward a few days, I sent a message with "Nice to meet you on Saturday, even though it got weird with my friends." She thought the same and thought it a was shame that we didn't get to talk in private, so I just responded with "Come to my place on Wednesday and we will do everything we didn't get to do on Saturday." Few more texts to arrange the logistics, she comes over on Wednesday, we watch a movie and we get hot and sweaty in the bedroom after the movie ends.

 

Lessons Learned:

  • Have a backup plan, but don't bring date to said backup plan.
  • Beta friends will try to steal your date if given the chance.

Questions:

  • What can be done better, I have tried to give the most detailed explanation of that night without it getting too long
  • What made her agree to a second date, in your opinions?
  • What is the best way to plate her, just keep hanging out and having fun (of course, sex too). I have already told her I'm in a weird place in life and not looking for a LTR.
  • What should I do with my beta friends, I am really at a loss at this, they are my two closest friends. However after this last weekend I just don't know anymore.