So right now, I am 23, got a good job with a good salary straight out of uni has a software eng for a Transportation/Defence/Aerospace comm. I am really fit, I am crazy good soccer player and I lift. Socially I can be shy especially around new people but once I get comfortable, I become socially dominant.

On the other hand, I have been in an LTR for 4.5 years. I get sex and compliance whenever because again once I get to know someone especially a girl, I am comfortable holding frame, I am very dominant in the relationship and take no shit.

Unfortunately, being in a relationship for that long has made me uncomfortable getting knew girls. when I am out and about, I got strong IOI's, but I got no game to do anything. Also, I have social anxiety, so new social situations takes me a while to build up tolerance, but once i am comfortable, I am all over the place.

One of the common ways to make someone anxious about a situation more comfortable to gradually increase exposure. Is there a way to gradually build ones fundamentals when it comes to gaming girls? And what are the fundamentals to work on. I want to treat this like I am in training mode for soccer, in that mindset I become way more patient and outcome independent.