Let's just cuddle - Virgin shit test?

huge_gap · 2016-07-04T00:49:12+00:00

Eh. A girl told me she just wants to cuddle and then we had sex. You didn't escalate.

Escalate until you hit a giant stop sign, then leave. You're a busy man and ain't got time for shit like that.

ecosci · 2016-07-03T23:21:04+00:00

You failed to escalate she was prepared to be deflowerd but your too damn focused on logic you have to be natural and let things happen in the moment female nature cares nothing about logic man,now you may have set things back even further and probably ruined it for the other guys too.

joey_2000 · 2016-07-03T22:10:50+00:00

If she is a virgin she may have no idea what the sensation of someone elses hand is like, and in my experience with a 'virgin' they will squirm all over the place the first few times, unless you get a solid no from her or any obvious signs of discomfort/pain, just keep escalating with a shit eating grin on your face...

Regardless, your post smacks of oneitis, the prescrption for this being to bang the replacements you claim to have in place.

kappaccount · 2016-07-04T04:50:19+00:00

My current LTR was a virgin when we met, and all the times we "cuddled" and "watched movies", it ended with me having an orgasm, while taking care of her with my other hand, or having her sit on my face. This was mostly how we had sex until she relaxed enough for me to penetrate. She used to be terrified of my dick. These days, she's the most nymphomaniac bitch I've ever met.

You simply have to escalate. She will be shy and nervous, but if you keep frame, she will not only trust you, she will eventually be begging for you to do more to her, than just "cuddle".

One thing I learned with my LTR, was that the penis was extremely strange to her, almost alien. She felt embarrassed looking at it, like it was forbidden. So let your girl see it, both relaxed and erect. Let her touch it, if she dares. When you guys are chilling, walk around naked as if you were alone, and let her peek on you when she thinks you're not looking. Make some fun out of it, see if you can make her laugh about it. Mixing some humor into it is a sure win. I once laid small pieces of her favorite chocolate on my relaxed dick, just a chill Friday night, and she couldn't stop laughing as she picked them up with her lips. Establishing fun, relaxed and non-sexual scenarios like so are important, to make a virgin feel comfortable around you.

To acknowledge the elephant in the room is key, and even if she's watched porn and touched a penis before, she's never had it inside her, so make sure she knows your dick and feels safe around it. This will make it all the more easier for both of you.

And drag her in the shower with you, without doing anything sexual. Make her feel comfortable around your naked body, while she is naked as well. If she's shy and resists joining you, spray some shampoo in her hair, that worked for me.

leftajar · 2016-07-04T17:02:11+00:00

Two mistakes.

One, you accepted the "we're cuddling" frame. "Let's just cuddle!" "Among other things." She'll keep pushing to get you to agree to only cuddling. This is the betafication process already underway.

Two, is you didn't try anything sexual. Go for it 2-3 time, on the third stoppage, freeze her out. Just get up, put your shoes back on, and start leaving. She'll either allow you to leave, or act to prevent it by warming up. Either way, she respects you.

deci-mator · 2016-07-04T09:22:49+00:00

Women like to be lied to. They want to be persuaded into doing things so that later they rationalize it away and make it seem like it wasnt their fault so that they can sleep well at nnight and so that their friends do not think any less of them. What you need to do is prolong your foreplay... say 20-30 minutes, to really get her wet. You can use push and pull tactics to make her really want the dick. Then continue to escalate, eat her out for a bit, then finger her at the same time, suck her tits. Pay attention to her body, and use her whole body to your advantage. Women have tiny vaginas all around their bodies. (For a virgin what you need is for her to get comfortable in her mind.. If she doesn't get comfortable there's alot of resistance and chances are it will hurt when you go deep inside.) Once she's comfortable and extra hot and wet... now you can take your condom, put it on, give her the head first, let it marinate for a little bit; then give her 2-3 inches of shaft and let it marinate again. (the most sensitive parts of the vagina are the clitoris and the entrance of the vagina) After that you can gradually increase and reallly start banging her. Another thing you must remember is what happens outside the bedroom is just as important as what happens inside the bedroom. If your beta as fuck outside the bedroom chances are her legs are going to be sealed together airtight.

hownao · 2016-07-04T00:23:46+00:00

Marry her and have children.

Title	Let's just cuddle - Virgin shit test?
Author	freddykoteas
Upvotes	15
Comments	23
Date	July 3, 2016 9:56 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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