I'm here to drop by with some venting and ask for a possible solution.

I just ended a LTR of 5 years recently with someone who has undiagnosed BPD, but showed all the signs. I used to joke with her about the games women play and that I don't want any part of it. That somehow I was better for just not playing.

Anyways, now that's out of the way. I'm single and have been looking for a potential partner. I met a girl and we had been chatting for a week or so after I got a number.

Here's the problem. I had been way too beta with her in the beginning. Admittedly I opted in to having semi long conversations with this girl over text messages.

Yesterday I asked her if she was free and I told her that I want to see her, in a more assertive type of way. She agreed and then I told her goodnight and that I would let her know.

I told her I would be busy for a few days and decided that I would be spontaneous and ask her out randomly sometime this week instead of making plans. I then went radio silent all day today.

She seems genuinely interested in me and would text me back even if I was blowing up her phone for an hour or two a day.

I now realize how stupid it is to talk on and on with her via texts. How do I undo this fuckery my beta side has caused? I'm now pretty embarrassed and think she probably thinks I'm getting annoying.