How do I become unsheltered?

SkimSTi · 2017-04-06T23:04:09+00:00

baby steps dude. cant run a 10k if you can barely walk a mile. your expectations are set too far out so you will always feels defeated... start with small goals. you said you lost some weight and are still doing it, great. 20 more to go. but achieve 5 first. focus on 5. your accomplishments will come more quickly and frequently, which will help you feel better.

another example, with the making eye contact with people... are you in cars a lot? whether driving or a passenger?..... this helped me: wear sunglasses, and literally force yourself to start looking at people. everywhere, all the time... they will look over at you, practice not looking away. might be hard at first. but by being in your own car, it gives you your own personal 'safe' space, and the sunglasses makes it feel like a shield. then, as you practice and get better, trust me you will start making solid eye contact in person. it will take a little time, but remember, baby steps. start with maintaining eye contact until people in the car look away first, with glasses on. then when that gets easier for you, do it without glasses and same thing.. lock eyes with people. next thing you know, you will be walking down the street and have no problem looking at people. or when driving you will be smiling at women you find cute and they might just smile back...

the thing is, you do need to train yourself. you are just going to make it difficult by forcing yourself to make leaps instantly. it might make you feel more fearful... so just start small, and remember. praise yourself for the small accomplishments... 'hey i looked at that guy/girl over there for a second or two, i win!', it can only get better from there without overwhelming yourself.

dudes do the same thing in pick up/game with rejection. when they first start, it hurts. but they start experiencing it more and more, but for them, the winning achievement was approaching. and they praise themselves "yes i approached! who gives a fuck if they said no!! i just conquered a fear!!!".. So they won regardless of the outcome. soon the rejection is just like any other interaction and doesnt phase them.

vandaalen · 2017-04-06T22:44:36+00:00

So... How long since you started your RP-journey?

Title	How do I become unsheltered?
Author	Mamuliz
Upvotes	1
Comments	3
Date	April 6, 2017 10:04 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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