I find that sometimes when on dates/hitting on women I can start sexually esculating to at least kissing without being explicity sexual. I am often not explicity sexual because I suck at steering conversations like that and general prefer to esculate via kino getting closer and closer over time.

however I feel like sometimes whilst this can work in the short term, it can block me in the long term.

I also noticed I sometimes get ahead of myself and make moves too quickly. again, in ther short term this can be fine, but in combination with the above and trying to get laid too quickly in the long term it leads to needlessly blowing opportunities.

one good time I had was were I was on a date with a girl, got talking, got close, but tried to kiss her too early (think it happens a lot when I'm having my first date in a while) to which she didn't want to do. I felt like I should leave but I stayed and stuck it out. Over time I tried here and there with still no luck. however at oen point we were fooling around which lead to me picking her up and pretending I was going to fuck her in the park. A few more jokes like that and before you know it, she's asking me to fuck her in the park, which I did.

I mean I guess that experience answers my own question, but just wanted a bit more help and other peoples experiences to bounce off