I recently stumbled upon TRP and I'd like to share my situation. I'm 25 and this girl is 26. She was hitting on me at work so I asked her out.

We ended up having a semi FwB relationship for a while until I moved (and we stopped working together).

We haven't really defined anything, but we've continued messaging back and forth. She talked a bit about feelings ("I'm falling for you") and then went cold...I tried to bring it up, if she wants something more than just FwB she should say so. She said "we can't be more than just what we are right now".

At this point I was already dating 2 other girls from my new town. A short while later, I went back to the old city for a vacation and met her. I was quite excited to see her, I have to say.

After the 2nd round we started fooling around again and then somehow the question "what are we" popped in the middle of the conversation.

She couldn't answer and neither could I. She proceeded by telling me that she's just got out of a relationship and she's not ready for a new one. I said "Fine, I won't stress you into anything", and we continued to the 3rd round, and it was truly ecstatic..I made her cum maybe 10 times and she literally milked me....TMI, nevermind. I told her "I have to say, you're the best sex I've ever had", after which she smiled and said "I've been meaning to tell you the same thing". We fell asleep together and the next day she left for work.

We keep in touch from time to time, she sends me pictures and messages, and I do the same to her, but I can't help but feel hopeless regarding her. I feel absolutely nothing for the other girls I'm currently seeing, and I'm actually forcing myself to have sex with them, and even then I'm thinking about her, how hot she is and how good is the sex with her.

I think I have "oneitis" for this girl. I'm constantly craving to talk and see her (although I suppress it), I get depressed if the tone of the conversation isn't "100% aligned" (and for some reason it's never 100%, unlike with the 2 other girls where I don't even put in effort and they are 100%), and in general, I also think that this girl is in some way damaged and isn't capable of showing me true emotion or willingness to get closer. Living on her own since 13, multiple relationships with much older guys etc.

Her expression of feelings always come in small bursts and fades away quickly.

This is affecting my sleep, occupies my mind and peace. Looking for advice. Thanks guys