I had this chick in bed, and it turned into this stupid game of teasing.

We're making out, and I'd increase physical contact, and then she'd move away completely with some excuse: "let me turn on some music". We resumed after she came back. Then, apart again, and she'd ask some unrelated question to break tension. She did this so many times that I didn't even feel like banging anymore. I just went into this mode of observing what the fuck she was trying to do. It was hard not to do that when I'm trying to get it on.

We went at it for a bit. It was just whatever. I was calm throughout, even though the whole back and forth was pissing me off. Strange thing is, she was pissed off at the end after I told her that I had to leave. It seemed like she wanted me to get angry?

My question actually relates to that: what do you do if a girl is purposefully trying to piss you off? I would never explain this to her, that's for sure.

In the context of this situation, is it better to be angry? to increase aggressiveness? This would've been more true to myself.

Regarding amused mastery, at some point anger is justified, is it not? Think about it: a person that doesn't get angry, always smiling like an idiot. It seems really artificial. You can't connect with anyone like that.