Hey boys,

I'm looking for some suggestions on how to move forward. Or maybe just tell me to stop being a pussy.

My situation is I moved to a new country to pursue a LTR. At home I had my shit on lock good job, flash company car, nice house, good social circle, great family, well known around town and fairy successful spinning plates. Once I moved all this fell away and eventually so did my confidence and respect of my girlfriend. After 6 month she threw a marriage ultimatum at me and branch swung when I wouldn't play along and because I was no longer the man I had been and also AWALT.

This was almost a year ago. I decided to stay on and make a go of it on my own rather than return home. I have since been grinding away as prescribed. Lifting, Martial Arts, Meditating, Running, reading everything, good job, started a side business, trying to be more social.

My issue is two things that I'm having a hard time getting past:

A) Almost constant toxic thoughts about the ex. I know it's unhealthy and have tried to CBT and meditate my way out of it but I can't let go of the anger towards her. I gave up everything for her and it meant absolutely nothing to her. I've since worked out she was emotionally abusive. That didn't start till I was here and had only her to rely on. She would often tell me that she had to break up with me because of some shortcoming of mine. When I had frame I would laugh at her and call her bluff but it eventually wore me down and I ended up playing into it which is kind of related to the other issue.

B) I'm struggling to regain my self worth/confidence. I've made a few friends here through martial arts but it's nothing like home was. So I spend an awful lot of time alone. My social skills and self belief are very weak. Been through about 5-6 other girls but nothing lasts very long. Been working on cold approaching which to be honest has mostly been a lot of walking around not taking action. I had a few successes getting numbers but they don't seem to go very far as I feel like they pick up on my neediness/low self image. I know I can attract girls and get a lot of IOIs but can't seems to translate that into much more.

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Any suggestions on what I could work on to regain my confidence/masculinity would be appreciated.

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