I’m trying to improve upon my push/pull skills by becoming smoother but obviously there are some nuances that I am not picking up. Here’s an example.

I’ve been talking to this chick who I’ve reached the comfort stage with this before sex. There’s natural chemistry. She double texts me (she texts, I don’t reply, she texts again). Definitely wants the d. But Logistics got in the way of closing so I haven’t fcked her yet. . Now she is driving two hours to visit me and is gonna stay at my place.

However, I think I may have fcked it up by pushing her away too hard. Text thread below.

Her: “wait so I’m coming? I haven’t heard from you in a while so I assumed maybe just staying in the city this weekend haha”

Me: “you’re coming. Here’s my address. And here’s where we’re eating dinner insert homeless shelter address”

The homeless shelter joke being the push

Her: Bye

I really don’t think it was that bad of a joke. I do understand where she is coming from. She’s driving out of her way. She really likes me and is looking forward to visiting. And I offer to take her to a homeless shelter for dinner... I can see why she is annoyed...but it was a joke. Did she just not get it?

How do I maintain frame here? Just not address it and ask her what time she’s gonna get here?

Or do I need to pull with something comforting like “I got some homemade fried chicken I could share with you”. This makes me feel a bit needy. However, would this be an exception?

These are some of the nuances I need some clarity on.