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Disappointed with myself

lalaeticia

June 18, 2019

6 upvotes

/r/askTRP

Today I fucked up.

I was working, doing deliveries. All was good, a bit hectic but no worries. I ended up delivering to this house (we deliver groceries to the kitchen, plenty of time for small talk etc), where a solid 8 latina opened the door. She lived with her parents and she was 22 and I was 23.

She was all stumbling over her words and giving great IOI's, but I fucked up and also went on shutdown.

I feel bad for not sharing the value we could had giving each other. She missed out on my value and I missed out on hers.

I always feel like this time will be different, I will drop the beta role and lead, but once in action the shutdown just kicks in hard.

How do I drop the extremely optimistic visualization when in my head and outside the field and fucking up when in the field?

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Title	Disappointed with myself
Author	lalaeticia
Upvotes	6
Comments	24
Date	June 18, 2019 3:27 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/c23m7l/disappointed_with_myself/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/disappointed-with-myself.242667 https://theredarchive.com/post/242667

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[–]2SirKolbath21 points22 points23 points 7 years ago (23 children) | Copy Link

[–]lalaeticia[S] 7 points8 points9 points 7 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

[–]2SirKolbath6 points7 points8 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Is the phrase “Don’t shit where you eat unless you think you have a good reason?

I’ve worked in HR and I’ve chosen not to hire people based on their conduct at “shitty part time student jobs”. I killed an internship that would have led to an $85k a year position for a kid whose previous landscaping job told me during a phone check that he was a good worker but was filling his own car with the company gas card. Integrity is important in my field and this kid didn’t have any.

There is a reason the guidelines of TRP are written as they are. It’s so they can be applied to a variety of situations. You never hit on any woman anywhere where the consequences of failure can cause drama or damage to your life. This means shitty part time jobs, school, and even your favorite bar or the gym.

You go ahead and get your stupid ass fired over a woman. I like my paycheck and no sloot is coming between that and me.

[–]lalaeticia[S] 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]2SirKolbath6 points7 points8 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]BurnoutRS2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]SpicyYeetJuice0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]BackOnGameJP0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

[–]2SirKolbath-4 points-3 points-2 points 7 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

[–]BackOnGameJP2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

[–]Non-Cookie-cutter3 points4 points5 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]2SirKolbath-4 points-3 points-2 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

The sheer fact that you think having direct experience in the fucking field is somehow intellectually dishonest shows that you’re an ass who should not be talking.

Jesus, do you argue erosion patterns on granite structures with a geologist and when he says he has personal experience and training then accuse him of “appealing to authority”? Did you pull that stunt with your English teacher when he told you to stop using comma splices?

I am the authority on this subject because I’ve been in the hiring position. You are talking out of your ass and have never hired a person in your life. I am not appealing to authority. I am an expert witness on the subject, you fuck!

I am not wrong, and I sincerely hope that you lose out on a very good job offer because someone like me, who had the sole responsibility of researching candidate histories, makes a phone call to your current employer during a background check and discovers that you caused unnecessary problems by not keeping your dick in your pants at work. It’s going to take such an avoidable impact before your stupid ass realizes I was right all alone.

I gave you a link to the sidebar. Shut the fuck up and read it. You do not know what you are talking about.

[–]BackOnGameJP1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]Vikingcel0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]Sonny_Luna0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]Sonny_Luna-1 points0 points1 point 7 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

[–]2SirKolbath-5 points-4 points-3 points 7 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

[–]cpotpie11 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]Sonny_Luna0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

[–]2SirKolbath0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link

[–]Sonny_Luna0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Oh have you, now?

You're really trying to support your argument with an assumption about how long I've been coming here? You've gotta be kidding me. That's how women argue, dude.

Either way, I've been posting here longer than you. Not that it matters. That's just an appeal to authority. You got upset and your argument became emotionally based.

Fourth and final, you are giving advice directly contrary to the information presented in the sidebar

Ok, post the evidence you have that supports my argument.

I understand TRP recommends not getting involved with co-workers or clients in a professional environment but that's not what we're talking about here. This kid is a delivery boy. He friggin 23 years old. It's not a serious job. It's not a career. So getting involved with a girl he delivered groceries to is not a big deal.

But if you have an actual argument, let's hear it. Free free to masturbate to my post history if you're still feeling anxious and it makes you feel better.

lol

[–]2SirKolbath0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Either way, I’ve been posting here longer than you.

Literally proven to be a lie.

That’s just an appeal to authority.

Second person so far to incorrectly use the intellectually dishonest debate tactic claim of “appeal to authority”. Maybe you should look up what it actually is. Since I have actually been in charge of hiring and firing and had to do candidate research, I am arguing from a position as expert on the process while you are simply making shit up.

Ok, post the evidence you have that supports my argument

Sure. This is the second time I’ve told you to read the fucking sidebar and for some reason you’re still talking.

This kid is a delivery boy. He friggin 23 years old. It’’ not a serious job. It’s not a career. So getting involved with a girl he delivered groceries to is not a big deal

Wrong. Speaking as someone who has hired and fired, actions you have never considered or performed, I can tell you that a competent employer will make those pre employment screening calls. I’ve already said this in other threads. Someone who has been here “longer than me” would have seen it.

But if you have an actual argument, let’s hear it. Free free to masturbate to my post history if you’re still feeling anxious and it makes you feel better

You mean like claiming out the gate that my statements were “pussy”? Would that be an argument to you, dipshit? It’s honestly like you don’t even remember what you post. Maybe that’s why you think you’ve been here for six years when you have only been here for a couple of months.

lol

Use of “LOL”, laughing emojis, or other phrases of similar nature are theatrical, fake laughter used in place of actual arguments.

Your argument, such as it is, is purely emotional. “He’s a kid” arbitrary definition. “The job isn’t important” arbitrary definition. “He should get her number” chasing the feefees like a little girl does.

My argument is based on reason (You can and will lose your job for this.), reality (I have been a hiring researcher and withdrawn candidacy for applicants who had similar transgressions at their “McJobs”), and has the support of the common baseline of The Red Pill: the sidebar, which provides clear examples of what shitting where you eat means and why you shouldn’t do it.

Since you tried (and failed, epically) to call me out on “appeal to authority” and clearly consider yourself some kind of expert on dishonest debate methodology, maybe if you want to be taken seriously you could consider learning what they are. Not to get all tu quoque on you, but FFS, we’ve established that you’re a liar, you have no credibility, you don’t know what you’re talking about, you’re a hypocrite, and you’re inconsistent.

Now shut the fuck up, rookie, and go read the fucking sidebar. To help keep you from getting distracted I’m going to go ahead and block your stupid ass now. Later, tater.

[–]Sonny_Luna1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]Sonny_Luna0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

Literally proven to be a lie.

Aww, come on. You know that’s not true and that you’ve only proven the age of my current account.

How bout this: if I can prove you wrong, you delete your account. If I can’t, I’ll delete mine.

What do you say?

Also, you haven’t provided any evidence supporting your assertion. You literally posted a link to the sidebar.

My guess is that your argument is totally based on emotion.

Second person so far to incorrectly use the intellectually dishonest debate tactic claim of “appeal to authority”. Maybe you should look up what it actually is.

Your argument is absolutely an appeal to authority. You are representing yourself as the authority. You assertion is that you’re right since you’ve been here longer than me and that I’m wrong because you’ve been here longer than me.

You’re mad so you’re just lying. And I get it. But you need to work on that.

Wrong. Speaking as someone who has hired and fired, actions you have never considered or performed, I can tell you that a competent employer will make those pre employment screening calls.

You can only speak for yourself and I’ve never seen an employer for a menial job call a previous employer.

So now I have plenty of experience fucking coworkers and witnessing many friends doing it over the years and rarely suffer consequences. So, as I said, it’s sometimes an issue. But your generalization is foolish.

Edit:

And you see what happens? I issue two challenges and he capitulates on both. His arguments are emotionally based and he falls apart when confronted.