brown guys in Canada

Gandalfthegrey2323 · 2019-11-15T16:57:20+00:00

I live in an area with many indian people and have brown friends I made in college and at my current work place. Most were born in the US and complain about this. Ironically the one that gets the most tail is my one buddy born in India. He goes to my gym and is an awesome dude. He is tall and skinny but he exudes confidence like no other. He is really funny and chicks love talking to him because of this.

He has also made a lot of white friends.

Now this is going to sound bad but making white guy friends has made a huge impact for him. This tells white women he can make friends outside his culture and he is “one of group”. Not race wise but he is part of their social demographic. If he only hung out with indian dudes he wouldn’t do well.

Black chicks will not date white guys for example unless they can be comfortable in black culture and make friends confidently. For example, if I dated a black chick could I go to the family barbecue/picnic and have a great time and show I can be part of her social demographic? Or would I feel uncomfortable and be socially isolated. If not then chances are she will be turned off.

Women don’t like to get out of their demographic so you need to. When you start making friends in other cultures you will feel more comfortable around women of that culture and more confident.

I’m not saying try to seek validation (never seek validation) but this shows strength and social confidence. She can date/bang you without worrying getting shit for it because her gf’s will say, that dude is awesome.

Every brown guy I know that doesn’t do well is because they play the victim card. Most only hangout with other brown dudes as well. This limits their demographic to brown women. Women of other demographics can sense this.

Basically what it all boils down to confidence. Do not stop hanging out with your bro’s but start talking to different people and getting friendly with people of all cultures. Trying to date women outside your culture but only hanging out with people of your culture will work against you.

MattyAnon · 2019-11-15T17:10:24+00:00

girls are very wary of dating brown guys

Brown guys, or YOU ?

Most of them flake, even if we've had a great fun initial interaction.

This is normal, stop blaming your colour.

SemperPrimus · 2019-11-15T16:26:06+00:00

Have you thought about increasing your smv?

Domebeers · 2019-11-15T18:43:05+00:00

You may not like to hear this, but a lot of girls are put off by brown guys not because they are brown, but because brown guys have a reputation for not knowing how to act with women. So 1, start teaching your own how to not be so clingy and creepy when around women. I know youre not all like that but you guys do have that rep in the dating world, so enough of you are like that. Simmer down.

2, get off the OLD and start approaching in real life where a chick can take a proper measure of whether you 'get it' / are a 'guy who fucks' / whatever term you want to use. IE that you are a normal guy who isn't going to try to wife her after 2 months.

Ant1matter8 · 2019-11-15T16:18:17+00:00

You want an area where women want to date brownies? That's not how it works.

It also depends what kind of brown you are, for example an indian is at the bottom of the barrel thus a chick being into that is not that common

Protocol_Apollo · 2019-11-15T18:20:29+00:00

How do you know they are prejudiced against brown guys?

You don’t.

If you come into every interaction thinking she’s going to reject you due to x, it’s becomes a self fulfilling prophecy: you will get rejected but YOU will make up the reason why she rejected you, you will still believe it is due to x even without proof.

Always let the woman come up with the reason of rejection.

Kabuki431 · 2019-11-16T01:21:51+00:00

Dont be part of the herd. I have seen groups of Indians, Nepalese and other SE Asian ethnicities stick to their group and come with their 1 or 2 chicks and 7 to 8 dudes.

Pimpcool420 · 2019-11-16T02:57:08+00:00

Southeast Asia

KingRead · 2019-11-15T16:21:19+00:00

I'm born and raised in the GTA area. You have two options:

1) Embrace your inner brown boy and go after strictly brown girls. They usually always prefer brown guys. 2) become white washed so you can relate to the 'white' girls.

The reason you struggle is because you're unrelateable. You have nothing in common with those girls. Either find girls you have things in common with - brown girls - or become someone that white girls go for.

I shouldn't have to say this, but you better be in really good shape and have your grooming / wardrobe on point.

I'm a brown guy too and have girls from all races into me. It's funny cause one even told me afterwards she doesn't like brown people lol

Massap24 · 2019-11-15T16:18:10+00:00

Odd I always hear about how accepting Canada is to minorities. Lol come to US

Title	brown guys in Canada
Author	AlBorne75
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Date	November 15, 2019 4:03 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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