I'm a rookie noob. Got lucky talking w/ someone who I see as HB10 at a bus stop while our bus was late. I have no idea how to flirt/tease/escalate. I wasn't even confident enough to ask to meet up sometime afterwards.

We and her friend talked for a couple mins. They even asked me questions. I was often holding my hands close to my face/my mask as I was nervous. There was some silence but then I couldn't take it anymore and said I'll go check around the corner if the bus is coming already. Then I couldn't get back to them as I was almost completely depleted of confidence. But when the bus did arrive as I passed them by I confirmed that it was the right one. Then they passed me by in the bus to sit further away and those were our last interactions.

I went off the bus earlier than them and the next day I couldn't stop thinking about her. I was even a bit depressed at the thought that I will most probably never ever see her again in my entire life. Abundance mentality kind of helped. E.g. reminding myself that there are at least 10k women in this world as hot or hotter than her that I could eventually be w/ if I keep self-improving and cold approaching. Even if it's but a 1k not that many are even capable of or need that much in an entire lifetime.

Ofc, I know realistically the numbers are 8 a year when you you've started getting traction. Nonetheless I had to constantly read/think of sth to not be too down. She's still stuck in my head tho. I get overly attached way too easily.

I had oneitis before and for some reason everyone who's not as hot as my previous oneitis makes me reject everyone. Even when I was offered a relationship w/ an HB6. Even when I was straight up offered to spend a night at a uni dorm of another HB6 whose all roommates were out to visit their families.

Should I just keep approaching and hopefully get good enough that when I meet someone who would be hot enough I could escalate ? Or is there sth in addition to this that might help ?

I'm trying this approach anxiety program:

https://www.goodlookingloser.com/anxiety/program-index?start=5

I only build up enough confidence to approach about 1/10 women passing by. But after building social momentum, after about 2-3 times asking for time/directions it's easier to approach almost anyone. However, I still am very far away from learning how to get someone actually interested in me.

How do you suggest I calm down while I keep on practising to get good enough ? Meditating is a bit difficult & I'm getting my discipline to do it daily. Same w/ hitting the gym. There's one outdoors nearby so I go there. I don't lift as I've been out of shape & am trying to get back to self-improvement. I think I should at least be able to do 40 or sth pushups w/out any breaks b4 I start lifting.