Starting cold approaching at 19

badabing654 · 2025-05-22T22:06:44+00:00

Talk to anyone and everyone. Don’t drag on the convo. Have no expectations

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-05-23T02:07:09+00:00

- Should I just start now or should I work on my physique first?

Having a better physique won't remove your anxiety or insecurities about cold approaching.

- Should I only approach if they give signs?

When you cold approach, there are no signs, hence why it's called "cold approach". If there were signs it would be called a "warm approach". Cold approach means you approach because you feel like it and have the balls to do it, not because women are signalling you to do it.

- How to not take rejection personally?

You need to understand that rejection is not about your worth as a person, it's about whether you connect or not. Rejection only hurts when you use womens as tools of self-affirmation, where a woman liking you is something you interpret as proof that you are worth something, and a woman not liking you is something you interpret as proof that you are worth nothing. This mindset grants women too much power over how you feel about yourself. Power that they did not earn and which you are giving them for no justified reason.

If you are secure in who you are, love yourself, then you don't see rejection as a sign that you are inferior, but simply as a sign that you did not click and that the right girls will naturally click with you without that having to mean that you are suddenly worhthy. Because a woman clicking with you doesn't mean she is telling you that you are good enough, cuz women aren't judges of a man's worth, no matter how hard you want to give them that role that they did not as you to give them.

- What is your advice to interact with cold approach girls?

To say right away that "you want to get to know them because you liked somethig specific about her and would regret it if you didn't approach her" as a conversation starter and then spend 5-10 mins getting to know each other, rather than trying to go for a number because getting numbers is overrated and most of them won't lead anywhere if there is no prior connection during the first conversation you had with each girl.

sefan78 · 2025-05-24T06:35:44+00:00

Good on you for starting early. I started at 21 and I am glad I did because it’s definitely helped me with speaking to women and get out of my comfort zone.

Title	Starting cold approaching at 19
Author	East-Singer4798
Upvotes	4
Comments	9
Date	May 22, 2025 10:00 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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