Particular Situation...

Fuzea · 2014-11-12T04:48:17+00:00

High school for me seemed pretty average at the time, a few relationships here and there, nothing too significant. Although I knew I was going out of state for college and none of the girls I dated wanted to go out of state, so I kind of knew how things were going to end. I'd say I was like you, easily the best gamer in my peer group, but not so aggressive with the volume. Now fast-forward to college. I basically pump and dumped my freshman-sophomore years of college. I hit on a lot of girls, I had a lot of hook-ups, and I had some relationships. The whole time I was looking for "the one" as some people phrase it. In my mind I had a heart. Yes I talked to a lot of girls, but that was just part of my journey to ultimately getting a girlfriend that I genuinely connected with that wasn't just another fling or short term relationship.

In the end it's really all about what you want. Do you want a relationship? Pursue women, and find one. Do you want to have numerous hook-ups? Go for it. Do some soul searching man, find yourself. Find who you want to be and pursue that image of yourself. Find friends that support what you do and can genuinely appreciate who you are. (this also means they need to be able to check you when you're fucking up). A lot of job interviews ask you "Where do you see yourself in five years?" Answer that question in regards to your relationships. Make a plan to achieve that. Best of luck.

Triocheesy · 2014-11-12T05:29:17+00:00

Don't shit where you eat. Likewise don't try to get with girls in your immediate social circle. check out /r/highseddit It's seduction for highschoolers

recyclablebantha · 2014-11-12T15:35:46+00:00

In highschool I would spit game better than anyone in my clique

First off, it's important to realize that this was not really a high water mark for you. As much fun as you had, look at the results here:

I exhausted every girl I considered an acquaintance......

(only) closed a few of them.....

.....since I had exhausted my social circles my guy friends kinda stabbed me in the back.....

Since I had a girlfriend my game suffered......She and I broke up and I got sick with oneitis

...I could seduce her every time with FroYo and Marvin Gaye.....

Therefore my name is tainted.

Where to start?

Good game shouldn't result in burning bridges like this. Girls should speak well of you after, if you're doing it right. And there will always be haters, but even most guys should be supportive if you're playing it right.
You may have thought you were gaming your GF, but FroYo and Marvin Gaye..... this comes off lazy. To be blunt, it sounds like the break up was at least partially influenced by the fact that you got lazy and stopped being attentive and being fully present while with her.
Whatever rumors were passed around should mean shit to you if your inner game was in order. Just because some people think your name is "tainted," doesn't mean shit unless you let it.
Oneitis indicates that apparently fear was ruling you....... would that be accurate?

Some of this might sound bad, but the point is to point out that you didn't reach some pinnacle of proficiency. You weren't practicing healthy "game". Which means you're not really having to choose between feeling human and picking up on girls.

Whilst trying to deal with oneitis I DC'ed everyone except for the gym, focused on school and not being a useless piece of shit(countered because I still ended being a piece of shit.)

Again, no one is going to cut you a break, unless you do. Cut it out with this. Stop calling yourself a piece of shit.

And I developed a weird mindset and some could say I developed a "heart" because I got sick of pick up.

Pick-up is basically being social. It sounds like you weren't really doing "pick-up." You were manipulating people and being immature. Which resulted in people rejecting you and you feeling like shit about yourself. The good news is that you have a level of awareness that would allow you to make big improvements if you turned your attention in the right direction.

You could do well to read or reread something by Mark Manson or David Wygant. Or watch something by them on YouTube.

Title	Particular Situation...
Author	edragon20
Upvotes	5
Comments	5
Date	November 12, 2014 3:24 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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