Thanks to Ciel (Chen City) here is the best formula/playbook for dealing with shit tests that I've ever seen. It's from his community at playingfire.com.

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I responded depending on the context with

  1. Flip it back on her aggressively and shit test her
  2. Ignore and move on with conversation
  3. Agree and amplify
  4. Smiling at her as if she's so cute for trying
  5. Until the end, when I just started giving her shit for being boring and predictable saying the same shit.

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A couple comments: #3 agree and amplify, what it means is, "amplify to the point of absurdity so that the shit test ends up sounding ridiculous"

#5 is for when she keeps throwing up so many repetitive shit tests that you call her out on it

So ... all the posts we see on here every day, "How do I deal with this shit test?" ... refer to this list before you post.

Do you want examples of the techniques that are verbal?