I’ve been talking to this girl for about a month and so now. We actually met on tinder a few months back, life happened, and she said she didn’t have time for dating. I respected that and we were completely silent up until earlier this month.

I liked her. I like our conversations. We even face timed a few times before meeting. I was happy finally getting a chance to get to know someone again since I’ve been completely single for the past 3 years (that’s why I’m writing in. I’m rusty with this stuff now lol)

But she just admitted to me that she had BPD just this time around. I don’t know which kind, but she was skeptical about dating, but I was at least wanting to test the water.

Long story short, we didn’t see eye to eye when I came to how we showed romances. She wanted to take things “creepily slow”. I’m not a complete horn-dog, but I like to tease and be teased after the 3rd/4th date. Even though she kissed me on the first date, and she led us to 3rd base a few weeks after. I gave us a week until we hung out again just to be sure having sex with me was really what she wanted—since she did say she wanted to take things slow.

I went off the same energy as the week before, but she wasn’t as receptive. We went from talking daily to barely talking at all. She told me that she may have asexual tendencies or may be asexual herself.

I offered to be platonic with her bc I really enjoyed talking with her. She’s cool, but I want to find someone that I’m on the same page with (emotionally available)... I even told her that, but she never genuinely responded to what I said (feel free to ask about it)

So, should I just drop her completely? She seems to have pushed me away sexually, but I think she’d still be a cool friend. I know I shouldn’t feel responsible for her, but I feel like I get where she’s coming from to an extent. We have similar pasts, and I wish someone was there for me through my hard times. I fee like she just really needs a friend... idk help.

Side note: I don’t have BPD, but I was recently prescribed Prozac for my depression. I feel a lot better, and if I have happiness to share, I’d like to do that but idk