so as the title states i'm new on seddit. growing up i've always been akward when it came to hooking up with girls.. however i've always had girls as friends. understanding them wasn't too much of an issue, but who really knows wtf they're thinking!!! i didn't loose my virginity until i was 18y.o. to a long term gf.. after we broke up i didn't get anything because i honestly didn't know how to really "hook up" as on might say. i eventually got a girlfriend briefly then ended up in jail for a few months due to illegal activity i was involved in.. after that i was still dumb when it came to hooking up with girls until one day i decided that i wasn't gonna be "forever alone." i've been reading articals on seddit for the past day since i discovered this sub-reddit. i read the same stories over and over again.. mostly "me and my wing man went to a bar and HBwhatever this and that" blah blah blah.... i want to know how much of this advice you're following has worked. all i see is unsuccessful stories with most likely unsuccessful fellows commenting on what they did wrong. now, so you understand I AM NOT HATING ON ANYONE HERE! i'm simply here to give you my $.02 on the matter, with nothing but respect. cuz i know how you feel! so as i've already stated i didn't loose my virginity 'till i was 18, didn't hook up with the next girl 'till i was 20. but since i've turned 18 my "number" is now 21. (i know this because the girl i'm talking to had asked my numberand i sat down and made a list and counted them. (usually a bad idea, but she is still talking to me, so whatever) so if you are still interested in what i have to say keep reading, i'm prolbably not gonna use the crazy lingo i cannot understand in this, but i'm all about helping my fellow brethren. so here's how things changed for me: 1) figure out what genuinely makes you happy, like a hobby or whatever (mine is drawing and painting) 2) don't be afraid to say hello to a woman. strike up a conversation!! 3) don't be afraid to throw in a compliment with a smile! now don't be a creeper and go in for the kill on the first sentence. tell her that you like her hair, something innocent like that! if she smiles or atleast keeps talking to you this is a good sign! 4) find a common interest and elaborate! before you find common interest bring up #1 from the list (something you are confident about) 5) ASK ABOUT HER AND HER INTERESTS!! most of the time girls like talking about themselves just as much as you do! ask questions to keep them talking and find common ground within that conversation 6) look for body language.. like playing with the hair, ect. 7) when you've found common ground tell her about something that you've done with that interest (think about something awesome, that made you impressed with yourself or a great connection having to do with said interest) because if you're this far she'll be likely interested in what you have to say!! 8) if you're this far and you have made her smile or laugh, make physical contact. don't grab her ass or lick her boob, instead touch her elbow or arm when bring up a point (usually something important) remember when you do this not to shy away thinking that you've fucked up. own it. it's simple do this: full palm arm touch "you know what else, blah blah blah" while making eye contact 9) smile and converse 10) when you feel the conversation might start to get stale say something like "hey, i gotta meet up with my friends, let me get your number and we can grab coffee"

now if all has gone accordingly, by the time you reach #10 she will without thinking about it give you her phone number!! this has worked for me 9 out of 10 times. so once you've got the number call her and schedule a date. once you've agreed on a date remember this: she IS interested! BUT that doesn't necessarily mean you're getting some, however, she has some interest in you! so what you do with that is on your own accord... but here is some helpful advice: be confident, if you don't feel like you own the moment, SHE WILL KNOW IT. it's tough at first but you really just gotta go balls to the wall without showing any fear! no lie! DO make physical contact with NO HESITATION.. don't make any pervy moves, be modest.. atleast somewhat :) if she doesn't give you a dirty look you're practically in. but always remember to treat her like a lady but BE DOMINATE. this is the best i have to offer you off the top of my head, and has proven successful in my case! remember don't be a douche but don't be a push-over. it WILL take you some practice and you'll have to modify to your own personality! the thing is, is that i read most of the advice on seddit and a lot of it has it's truth, but some of it seems akward, and the stories i read on here are kinda lame. remember if you think of a girl as a person rather than an HBwhatever you'll be able to connect better. also, i've never used a wing-man, i think it's BS and a real woman can sniff it out.