(M/29, 1.87m, athletic, ISTJ) After some time reading, watching YouTube channels and the sort, I think I kinda have some skill related to texting to women. Therefore, I find getting a first date quite easy.

However, I start stressing a lot when I have to think of a plan or a schedule on what me and the other person are going to do during the evening, as it seems we men always have to have that initiative. I accept that.

Usually, grabbing a drink and going to eat something out is just fine. The issue is that when I do this, they almost always find me an interesting person for several things I've experienced in my life but somehow I don't know how to spark the flame of physical attraction, u know? And I become being the friend or just someone they don't feel an attraction to.

I think I'm bad at building playful stuff like soft touch or more interesting plans and so on that can eventually lead to kissing out of attraction. Cause I can be thinking "damn, she's so cute I wanna kiss her on the cheek and blablabla" but I am not good at making her know that at all. If I did I'm sure it would be so weird.

After these encounters then sometimes the other person start replying way slowlier through instant messaging and with a noticeable less interest.

What can I do to change this?

Thank you for taking the time to read this, hope your opinions are helpful!