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BigAjax/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 03:56 AM
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BigAjax/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 05:32 PM
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Same experience here. Awful, long-term joint pain just disappeared, my first week on TRT. Not a single flare-up since. Surest sign that TRT was the right call for me.
/r/askMRP27/07/19 06:19 PM
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I'm with you on this one. This comes across like some purply, super faggy woo-woo shit that puts a woman up on a pedestal as a mirror of your worth and some sort of collection box for your validation coins. In all honesty, if this mindset genuinely works for some guys, that's fantastic. For me, though, reading this made my flesh crawl and it struck me as a perfect example of trying to red pill your way to your blue pill fantasies.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/19 03:12 AM
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I tend to inflate my progress. Failure solves that problem. That's funny, because my take on you is that you're terrified of the consequences of actual progress. Hence you self-sabotage, undersell your progress, talk yourself out of things that you've realized are in your own selfish interest, and refrain from enjoying the benefits of the progress you've actually made. That's where your failure is and why it looks like you're the most slowly progressing person here. You're way up in your own hea…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/19 07:53 PM
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Pretty sure this post has given me a four-hour boner
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/19 10:00 PM
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Holy shit, man, that's the extra-strength stuff you're dishing out there. Lots for me to think about. Thanks for that. Cocaine and lasagna are a helluva combo
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 09:15 PM
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Your dodgy lasagna isn't some sort of magic sponge that's going to wipe that error away
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 03:39 AM
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don't know what you've got 'til it's gone" kind of thing (Great... Poison Song Earworm. Fuck.) Can't trust this advice - motherfucker thinks it's Poison when anyone who knows shit about shit knows it's Cinderella
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 03:24 AM
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Glad to hear you tagged the old lady. Don't worry about popping early. Totally expected given the circumstances. The worst thing you could do is to get up in your head about it, and doing a whole bunch of shit with the intention of lasting longer is exactly the sort of thing that will get you up in your head about it. Same goes for the initiation stuff. Just focus on continuing to do what you've been doing and allowing her to step into your frame. Your days of chasing are over.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/19 04:24 AM
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If she wore high heels, she'd strike oil
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/04/19 04:51 AM
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Have a look at this turd burglar's post history. We need to get better trolls.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/19 03:53 AM
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Major Faggot thinks he magically turned himself into Sergeant Rock with some alpha sprinkles and is such a feelz-driven bitch that he can't help shouting to strangers about that one time when Mommy nicely asked him if he wanted his sex cookie after she yelled at him and he was a good boy for two days. ​ I have some seriously bad news for you. You're still a validation-seeking pussy and you're too much of a 'tard to realize it. Now, instead of just seeking validation from your harpy BPD cunt of a…
/r/askMRP30/03/19 05:20 PM
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From your 2/26 OYS: 5'10 240lbs Ya I'm still fuckin fat just like my first OYS ... I still don't lift because I'm still a faggot Unless you managed to dump about 60 pounds of lard in less than a month, you're still a fat, unfuckable slob. No woman should get the tingles for you in your current state. What sort of plates could a fat fuck like you hope to get? How could you get hard for the sort of woman you'd be able to pull in your current condition? That aside, you're, unsurprisingly, still a f…
/r/askMRP21/03/19 04:38 AM
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You don't talk about Fight Club, period. Plus, you're going to try to red pill some seriously BP 60yo dudes who aren't looking for it? Are you really willing to risk having a couple suicides on your hands?
/r/askMRP16/03/19 05:43 AM
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Faggot can't turn off his mind reading device because he's a fucking incorrigible beta who has to be constantly scanning his social environment to make sure he can immediately respond to the emotional state of his superiors. Pussy-assed bitch can't help but have his mind filled with replays of details of the past and feel like he lost his security blanket, because he has absolutely no fucking direction in his own life and no projects that define his self-concept. Pillow-biter makes his wife feel…
/r/askMRP01/03/19 05:28 AM
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It's just that the marriage is a bigger pain in the ass to get out of with lots of bureaucracy. Yeah, like being dead is a lot harder to wake up from than a nap
/r/TheRedPill22/02/19 10:25 PM
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What do you like about this woman? What value does she present to you? Why do you feel such a strong desire to stick your dick in the pussy of a woman who, by your own description, seems to be a total zilch, especially in comparison to you? The way you put things, you seem to have the expectation that if you become a better dancing monkey, she'll decide to become a better person and will start sexing you up on the reg, and then all will be right with the world. That's seriously fucked up on mult…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/19 06:08 AM
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How much lower do things have to get for you before you decide to actually make yourself your own mental point of origin and start living a life that's rewarding to you? This is gross. Not the part where you're using tinder to trying to get some strange. That sounds like a step in the right direction. What's nauseating is the part where you're living in an escape-proof self-made prison that has no actual bars or walls, just the threat of some sexless harpy leaving you (being angry at you, etc) a…
/r/askMRP28/11/18 04:21 AM
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Athol Kay
/r/askMRP14/11/18 03:53 AM
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If you divorce her and stay equal earners, it's pretty likely you'll get divorce-raped a bit. Why would that be? She already earns a bit more now, but not that much. I'd be negotiating for 50/50 time with the kids and no child support. Great if it works out that way and all the more reason to not bite into that shit sandwich you've been assembling for yourself.
/r/askMRP28/10/18 04:22 PM
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I don't think you're as retarded or hopeless as others here do. It's good that you can be pretty clinical about this and see her for the cheating slut that she is, and (up to a point) you're willing to think pragmatically on behalf of yourself and your kids. You aren't moping around hoping to win her back, etc. Your plan would actually make sense, if what you truly wanted out of life was to be able to spin plates on some miserable bitch's dime. In that case, you've hit the motherlode. Problem is…
/r/askMRP28/10/18 03:45 PM
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Thanks for the details and advice
/r/askMRP29/09/18 07:21 PM
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After recently getting my T numbers (550 ng total, 14.5 pg free) I'm considering TRT. Local men's clinics for me are around the price you note. If I can find a way to do it for $1000/yr, I'd probably jump right in. I'm guessing u/2ndal's Defy place is online. Gonna check that out tonight.
/r/askMRP29/09/18 12:54 AM
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I’m just mad that she reacts negatively when I want one little thing for myself despite having provided so much. She ain't your mommy (I hope), so you're working with the entirely wrong framework. The fuck you care about her negative reactions? The only person who let's her be your judge is you. Let me ask you this, genius: how much do you think she cares about your negative reaction to her negative reaction? Not one fucking bit. All she cares about is keeping you in line and the collateral dama…
/r/askMRP22/09/18 04:33 AM
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Your wife is a higher class version of the truck driver's wife that Patrice O'Neal destroyed (3 minute mark) : https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=XhDbuZ1oUFw Love me! Fuck me! Feed me! You're enabling her bullshit. You don't want bullshit from her? Then make it clear you won't take bullshit from her. Or are you so scared of losing her special, magical pussy that you really will keep putting up with the bullshit, even though you're hoping that she'll be extra nice and civilized, and stop it because it…
/r/askMRP20/04/18 04:05 PM
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I'd say he passed with flying rainbow colors
/r/askMRP14/04/18 03:32 PM
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There's the obvious concerns about it sliding out mid-squat or you tripping over it when racking the weight. Assuming you're not a total spaz, I wouldn't worry too much about those. I know some guys feel like they have better balance with the plates there, while others feel like they're going to tip backwards. The big issue is that it increases knee strain, which negates one of the benefits of deep squats over just going to parallel. Plus it focuses the burden of the weight on the front of your …
/r/askMRP07/04/18 10:48 PM
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I haven’t either (squatted that way). My calves (or ankles?) Can’t get the angle required without me completely fucking up my back posture. I’ve been compensating by elevating my ankles slightly (stepping on a 2.5 lb plate), but I really should be incorporating some kind of stretch or something to actually fix the problem. Two things. First, your problem with getting down ATG is probably your hip flexors, not your calves or ankles. Gotta stretch those fuckers out. Tight hip flexors kill ROM for …
/r/askMRP07/04/18 03:00 PM
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She used to feel in control, because she was in control. She had plenty of resentment for you and found you to be inept and unreliable, but she was comfortable being in control. Now, she no longer feels in control, but she's far from trusting you. So, now she feels out of control and is anxious because some dipshit has grabbed the reins from her. No woman is going to react well in that situation and, yeah, going nuts about simple shit is about what I'd expect from one. Stay the course and keep i…
/r/askMRP24/02/18 09:17 PM
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Looks to me like you're using her reactions as the yardstick for your actions. Which means you're balls-deep in her frame. What the fuck do you care that she didn't like how you planned to handle things? Why are you looking to Mommy to tell you whether you've been a good boy? Don't you think one of the lessons to learn from this place is that, if you're doing it right, you're going to piss your wife off at times? You know you're owning your shit when you are recognizing what needs to be done, pr…
/r/askMRP10/02/18 05:07 PM
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As I noted, but some of your ADD missed, i am halfway through the book and said this whole world of guys talking about how to be alphas on the internet is new for me. This betrays how shitty your overall mindset is. You stumble into a men's locker room with no idea what a men's locker room is really like. You have your hard-on sticking out and start acting like the guys in there should give a fuck about you just because you told them how cool you heard they are. You want men to invest in you - b…
/r/askMRP22/01/18 04:03 PM
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Good fucking job. The more you do it, the more you'll know about what to expect and the better prepared you'll be for when you hit something you haven't seen before.
/r/askMRP20/01/18 03:08 AM
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TL/DR: Mostly beta dude who figures he must be at least 10% alpha since his wife is still down with fucking him and wants to build confidence and assertiveness. Do I have a place here? Totally beta dude who uses his wife's attitudes and behaviors as an indicator of who he is as a man. Fee-fees and alpha sprinkles litter your post. Overweight slob who supposedly read a lot of the sidebar but somehow has the idea that yoga and jerking off with old lady dumbells will give him a fuckable body. Entir…
/r/askMRP17/01/18 04:07 PM
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This is gayer than Jim J. Bullock.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/12/17 09:42 PM
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I recommend you get the same tatts as Brucie from GTA4
/r/askMRP22/12/17 09:33 PM
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Stretching is important with squats because most guys have fucked up muscle imbalances and shitty hips, which then leads to back and knee problems with squats when you load on too much weight. Stretching helps you get to a point where you're able to use proper ATG form, starting with a fucking empty bar if you have to. So, fine, stretch, but scale it back to what's actually needed to get you ready to put the bar on your shoulders. Don't use the stretching as a way to avoid the real work (i.e., s…
/r/askMRP21/12/17 02:03 PM
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we met each other’s emotional needs completely. I have never felt such a deep connection to another woman and she felt the same. It was astounding what we felt for each other. I wish I could put it in words more clearly how profound this connection was. Profound, he says. Their connection was fucking profound! despite all of this, I miss her and love her to this moment. She completed me so much I still dream of her and how happy I was with her. My heart is broken not having her with me. She comp…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/17 03:19 PM
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Your frame is so shitty that you're looking for validation from internet strangers about feeling a hit of validation from a post-wall, Podunk-dwelling hag. Congratulations on your promotion to Major Faggot.
/r/askMRP16/12/17 10:30 PM
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How is this your "biggest lesson"? It's a comparative claim and by itself is completely unactionable. You're just looking to circlejerk about how awesome MRP is. Great, you have some of the lingo down. Have a fucking lollipop.
/r/askMRP16/12/17 10:19 PM
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Your conception of the entire situation is fucked. You're expecting her to do whoreplay to earn "services" from you. That's no different than thinking you can do choreplay to earn "services" from her. Instead of telling you that you're a stupid pussy who has a whale-shit level of commitment to really understanding what MRP is about, I'll throw you a bone (different than the bone Chad will be throwing into your old lady): start thinking in terms of value - yours and your wife's - and whether your…
/r/askMRP15/12/17 02:19 PM
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At a minimum, every guy in a deadbedroom should do some research to learn the true price of pussy. What's the cost of a HJ, BJ, and full service at your local massage parlors? What does an hour or two with a quality escort cost? How much is an Ashley Madison membership and weekly (whatever) hotel rooms? Drinks at an upscale bar far enough from home and an Uber to the apartment of the chick you pick up? You get the picture. Since I'm a hell of a guy, I'll give you the short answer: pussy is ridic…
/r/askMRP15/12/17 11:24 AM
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It's pretty unusual (i.e., fucking impossible) for a guy who is truly okay with either outcome to roll over in response to his wife's command to go to marriage counseling and to actually give a shit about what marriage counseling might be like. Search your feelings ... you'll find that you're still a faggot.
/r/askMRP14/12/17 01:56 PM
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You're just another jackass who is looking for the right button combinations to make your wife feel the way you want her to feel. You don't give a shit about improving yourself or actually being worth fucking enthusiastically. All that matters is that your mommy-figure uses her vagina in just the right way to validate you and fill up the emptiness inside you that you can't be bothered to fill up on your own. You pushed through and get the sex you wanted, so what's the fucking problem? Oh yeah, i…
/r/askMRP12/12/17 09:21 PM
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You're one of the women who used to post on MMSL, right? I'll summarize this response: Let your frame go straight to shit and attempt to negotiate sex with your wife through choreplay. Puff out your chest and make sure she knows you think you're awesome. Look to her for direction on what you should be doing. Tell yourself that a supplicating, smallballs approach to life really is being the captain and not the least bit beta. Then get back to rubbing your dick raw in the bathroom and wondering wh…
/r/askMRP02/12/17 03:30 PM
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Good find, reddit is funny as fucking hell
/r/askMRP02/12/17 08:13 AM
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Guys, guys, I'm perfectly content with a shitty marriage and I view self-improvement as a chore that I need external motivation to take on. Talk me into joining your club! Fuck you. Lay there in the mud and drown or let the jungle rot eat you alive.
/r/askMRP01/12/17 09:40 PM
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Or perhaps you should find someone else to have sex with, I just do not have any more energy to give.. She sounds like a smart woman
/r/askMRP26/11/17 04:56 PM
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Your opsec sucks, your understanding of relationships sucks, and your frame sucks. You suck. You are a needy, whiny, validation-hungry little fucker who is all in a twist because the new mommy-idol in his life sent him packing. I hope you live near me and get a new girlfriend, so that I can fuck her senseless while you sit at home nursing your limp dick, fishing for validation from wall-approaching randos on dating sites, and posting online about how to deal with her low libido and how she has a…
/r/askMRP26/11/17 08:12 AM
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Holy shit, just read OP's post history. Take a look at it and decide for yourself if responding to his questions is even worth it.
/r/askMRP22/09/17 06:22 AM
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Are you a real man of value? If you were, you'd have better things to do than worrying about fucking ugly chicks on the side. Also, a real man of value wouldn't even consider the question of whether fucking any woman would add to his value. Worry instead about what you should be doing to add value to your own life, so that you don't have to ask anonymous strangers if cheating on your wife with livestock somehow makes you Dark Triad. JFC, did you read the coloring book version of the sidebar mate…
/r/askMRP21/09/17 01:50 PM
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Unfortunately, so far, the younger ones haven't come around awfully much, hence my hesitation to dump it off so quickly. There's your problem in a nutshell. You're 36 and can't get traction with the young chippies. Which means you're physically unattractive and/or shitty at game. Given that you're mooning over some wall-approaching cocktease and don't have the abundance mentality to kick her the fuck out of your room when she pulls this shit (especially for a second time), I'd say it's pretty cl…
/r/askMRP20/09/17 09:26 PM
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Warning, trickle truths ahead!
/r/askMRP18/09/17 03:21 PM
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Is she really so stupid as to be rawdog fucking other dudes and leaving her Plan B in the medicine cabinet at home? Next her Is she really such a disrespectful cunt as to be rawdog fucking other dudes and knowingly leaving her Plan B in the medicine cabinet at home? Next her Is she such a compulsive liar that she actually bought it in case you two had an oops!, but her first instinct is to lie and aggressively gaslight you? Next her Did I leave out anything?
/r/askMRP18/09/17 07:42 AM
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.... do I continue to fight? .... do i need to focus on her needs and be more empathetic and hope i earn her trust back? .... i am hear [sic] to ... hopefully save this You suck at being a man. That's okay, tho, because most guys who have found this place once sucked at being a man (note: I am NOT saying that most guys who have found this place once sucked a man). You have this bizarre notion that attraction, desire, and arousal can be earned. That through your good deeds and virtuous thoughts a…
/r/askMRP16/09/17 10:16 AM
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Plenty of advice around for programs, so I'll skip that. To my mind, once you're on a solid program, the most important thing to do is to avoid fuckarounditis by not really pushing yourself. Too many guys "work hard" and have little to show for it, because they are waiting for some magical signal from their body that they're ready to move to heavier weights. Fuck that. You have to be regularly adding weight to the bar, no matter what. Even if it's just a tiny increase each week, it adds up and i…
/r/askMRP10/09/17 09:21 AM
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Pretty standard issue case. GFTOW and then get back to me about what a loss this is for you, how special she is, and how you want to win her back. Delete/block her number, toss any shit of hers you have, read all of the Rational Male books, get yourself in the gym, find a mission to focus on and go after it with all you have. You've been given a get out of jail free card, as it sounds like that relationship was a ticket straight to eternal Beta hell. Don't fuck it up.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 10:19 PM
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It's not a stretch to say that you're a fucking jackass. You initiated, she said no and told you she has a brick stuck in her intestines. A day later, the two of you go out and have a good time, which is followed by a good fucking. The simplest story, which apparently is too complex for your sperg brain to handle, is that somewhere along the line she took a colossal dump and started feeling like a human being again. After that, a numbnuts such as yourself somehow managed to DHV in front of her a…
/r/askMRP07/09/17 10:07 PM
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I am a chronic over-explainer and over-planner, and I get anxious and frustrated when I feel like I'm being misunderstood (or when there's even a small chance that I might be misunderstood). Basically, I'm a sperg. It works great for me professionally. With women, it's by far my most unattractive trait. I constantly fight against this tendency. At least I'm aware of it and am improving in dealing with it. Wanting to be understood just screams Beta: it kills any sense of mystery about you and put…
/r/askMRP03/09/17 07:34 AM
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This is great. Pretty much every new guy who wanders in here and says he doesn't have a clue what he's doing or why none of the stuff he's doing since finding out about MRP is working, should read this.
/r/askMRP31/08/17 06:44 AM
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Where does this rank on your list of shit to give a fuck about? If it moves the needle at all, your frame is so weak that it's a sure bet that your wife does wear the pants, no matter what bullshit story about "swallowing the red pill" you've sold yourself
/r/askMRP11/08/17 10:32 PM
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Holy shit, you have weapons-grade autism.
/r/askMRP11/08/17 10:09 PM
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What's wrong with looking like a dick? Some version of "What's wrong with X?" is my go-to everytime someone tries to shame me with some SJW garbage or otherwise force me into a Beta Box. I might not actually respond with the question, but it's what reflexively goes through my mind. "You're so aggressive!" "What's wrong - actually a problem - with being aggressive?" "You always put yourself first!" "What's wrong with making my life about what I want?" Why should I care that I seem like a dick to …
/r/askMRP11/08/17 10:02 PM
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u/scurvemuch hit the nail on the head and his response is really is all that needs to be said. The truly hard work involves (i) actually going through the process of reckoning with yourself about exactly what you want out of life and how you want to live your life, and (ii) developing the mindset to allow you to truly follow through on that and accept the consequences of it. But to play a long just a bit with OP's question about his marriage, it's important to realize that unattracted-attracted …
/r/askMRP04/08/17 03:12 PM
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Yeah, the depression could just be a result of feeling trapped with a Beta. On the other hand, if it's something that's internal to her (history of it, runs in the family, whatever), feeling like you have some male's fee-fees on your plate of responsibilities won't help a woman deal with that shit. Depression is some awful shit and is hard enough to overcome on its own. Carrying some weak, co-dependent dude's emotional garbage only makes it worse.
/r/askMRP01/08/17 01:54 AM
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One of the surest signs a guy is balls-deep in his wife's frame: "why isn't she responding?" And a woman is certain to sense if a guy is in her frame - the tells might be subtle, but she picks up on them, even if only unconsciously. If he is in her frame, it kills attraction, any effects of dread, etc. The less you think about her, her view of you, and the relationship in general and the more you think of yourself, your projects, and what you want to get out of life, the better off you'll be, no…
/r/askMRP01/08/17 12:38 AM
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Doesn't really seem an OK and human response. "Human" as in the stories we tell ourselves to make us feel like we're radically different from and superior to all the other animals on earth? Or "human" as in how human beings actually are? You know which one RP deals with. What u/cholomite said is one of the most core RP principles. It's good advice, especially to a guy who has been RP-aware for so long but who can somehow still manage to say that his marriage is his mission. Knock off this "well …
/r/askMRP31/07/17 03:53 PM
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They do "this" (whatever a guy pisses and moans about) because weak males let them. You couldn't get her to budge on your plan? No problem. "See you later, sweetie, I'm sticking with my plan. Don't wait up." If you don't think your plan is so good that it's worth sticking with even without her approval, then why the fuck should she go along with it? She was right to bail on your shitty plan. The night out wouldn't have been as fun without her. I really enjoy my time with her whether we are at ho…
/r/askMRP10/07/17 03:13 PM
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User name does not check out
/r/askMRP09/07/17 01:08 AM
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You're hamstering like a mofo to avoid the pain of the real work. And you're wallowing in the shit-mess of your self-pity while trying to sell it as some sort of noble, humble, realistic insight into your situation. You are still fucked in the head and have no idea where you are on the chessboard, but you're talking like you have things figured out twelve moves down the line. Maybe your marriage is FUBAR. Maybe your wife fucked that doc and maybe there were even some other dudes. Maybe you'll be…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 03:02 AM
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she's right now my only source of sex/intimacy I doubt I'd find a plate anytime soon I've asked her why she'd rather see me ... Let me see if I have this right. You told her it's an OLTR on your side, but yet you take yourself to have no other options for pussy. That girl is leaking other dudes' spooge right now and you're wasting time and bandwidth asking about what to do with her. That's some funny shit. You're 22yo with at least some RP awareness, and your entire life is sitting in front of y…
/r/askMRP15/06/17 03:08 PM
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What other alternatives do you have? You can keep being a fat fuck who shovels his own early grave with every mouthful of garbage he puts in his poorly maintained body. You can keep being a worthless fuck with a hot wife until she has another affair, one that you can't hamster away with "I can't prove it was more than a kiss." You can continue to drag your wife through the grotesque, embarrassing pity party that you call "divorce counseling." You can let yourself still be viewed so poorly by you…
/r/askMRP15/06/17 02:26 AM
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Why are you rooting through the garbage of a relationship you don't have to be in? It sounds like a hassle, you think she's lame, she's coming down with baby rabies, and you're taking on a risky career change that she's not onboard with. Whatever sort of great wife material you might think she is, you're speculating there and just hoping that you can turn her into a winning lottery ticket by pressing the right RP buttons. Donkeyboy, this one is pretty easy to figure out.
/r/askMRP06/06/17 03:55 AM
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Just looked at your post history. You talk about your "wife" and refer to yourself as a RP vet here: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/5wlvbz/the_wife_pms_redpill_and_awalt/ You posted a few hours ago about slamming adderall and oxycodone here: https://www.reddit.com/r/opiates/comments/6citk6/oh_my_fucking_godadderall_and_oxy/ The rest of your post history is a trainwreck. Either you're a total piece of shit, a troll, or a piece of shit troll. Can't believe I wasted any of my time on …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/17 06:32 AM
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I guess sidebar and lifting is my next first step FTFY You are panicky, desperate for validation, and wrapped up in deep oneitis. Right now, no one on this board can help you with anything and you're wasting your time posting this kind of crap. It's time to start un-fucking yourself. Start reading the sidebar this instant. Do 100 pushups before you go to bed. Put all your thoughts about your gf out of your head and spend a serious chunk of time confronting yourself and doing the work of digging …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/17 06:08 AM
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First, this pile of spastic "help me not shit my pants ... yet again" garbage belongs in some sort of idiot boy version of askmrp specially designed for those with an extra chromosome. Second, if she did fuck a lesbian, that would be her taking a step in the direction of fucking a real man instead of your moronic pussy ass. Third, if you can somehow seriously entertain the idea that she sees you as the least bit alpha with all that beta bitch crap you just vomited out for all the world to see (c…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/17 05:49 AM
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Another thought: you note that she initiated the conversation about sex, as if that makes it okay that the discussion took place. I used to think like that, too. All it did was keep her box dry like a silica pack. When you don't initiate those conversations, all you've accomplished is not shooting yourself in the nuts. When you engage in the conversation after she's gotten the ball rolling, you've fallen into her frame. Nothing good can come of it, as evidenced by your attempt to negotiate her d…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 05:54 PM
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I told her that marriage is a contract, and that she needed to uphold her end of the bargain if she wanted me to uphold mine (good way to term it, thanks Athol Kay). I was providing the lifestyle and lack of worry, but a very basic biological need was not being met. Did you consult Karrass, Raiffa, or Ury before engaging in that negotiation? She got teary and quiet, then horny... message received You mistyped 'desperate to keep her provisioning intact' as 'horny'. Happens all the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 05:37 PM
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What should I say tonight? I'd go with, "Hey, sweet-ass, let's go toilet paper the Smith's lawn this weekend." Don't be a slapdick and talk about your fee-fees, how you have a plan to make the marriage better, or anything serious. At most, if accused, acknowledge you've been distant, but don't try to explain or defend it. Just move on from it as though she told you your tie wasn't a good match for your outfit. And then go fucking lift. "Alpha job"? Unless your job duties involve banging hot co-e…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 02:24 AM
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... she ... her ... her ... her Username checks out
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 02:10 AM
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Pretty sure Shaggy recognized a corollary of this.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/17 08:19 PM
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Among your many obvious problems is that you are suffering from the illusion of control. You "need to know [you] did everything [you] could"? Bullshit. You're fucking weak and codependent. She's a junkie from a family of junkies, with a brother who is dead from being a junkie. You have zero control over her and her life outcome. What you can control is your life and the environment your kids are raised in. Let me make this real clear for you: in every way that matters, she is gone and there is n…
/r/askMRP26/04/17 12:03 AM
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What did you think she was going to do? Stop looking for her approval and validation. Also, stop thinking in terms of winning arguments. You told her how you expected things to be and she went along with it. Everything else from her is just noise, unless you make it something else by taking it seriously.
/r/askMRP15/02/17 01:15 AM
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A respected poster at MMSL (fredless) gave a pretty succinct statement about negotiating sex, chore play, etc (I'm paraphrasing here): the only acceptable medium of exchange for sexual favors is other sexual favors. Strikes me as right. You seem super-excited that your wife is now willing to engage in negotiating the price of using her mouth as a masturbation device. All it will cost you is your dignity. Let's say you're right about your wife smelling the strange on you or you just giving off an…
/r/askMRP26/10/16 03:40 AM
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No, not good, Scotty. Everything is great in your marriage except that you're a needy pussy. Let's see, you can pull new chicks with relative ease, but can't get your wife to fuck you like a porn star. The difference is pretty easy to explain: those other chicks don't know you yet, so your neediness hasn't had a chance to dry their vaginas. Your wife, who knows you well, knows - even if it's only deep down, subconsciously - that you're the kind of deeply beta, weaksauce jackass who would serious…
/r/askMRP17/09/16 09:47 PM
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You're welcome. I've only recently joined the ranks of the unfucked and I'm not even where I want to be yet. Pretty much everything you've said was part of my worldview for a long time. Do what you have to do to purge that garbage and reclaim your life.
/r/askMRP08/09/16 01:31 AM
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I haven't read it, but I believe Ryan Holiday's Ego is the Enemy deals with this. I got the message pounded into my head here. It's also lurking in sources like NMMNG, Book of Pook, Models, and Rational Male.
/r/askMRP08/09/16 12:43 AM
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Good. Now kill your ego.
/r/askMRP08/09/16 12:30 AM
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I see a lot of myself in him, too. Fucker is just sprinkling alpha all over the place and making all kinds of secret deals to preserve his ego. Took me a long time - several years - to own up to the fact that I was doing that. And then I had to drag myself to really do something about it. It's an incredibly hard step to take (at least it was for me), but the hilarious thing is how much easier everything gets after you take it.
/r/askMRP08/09/16 12:19 AM
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Actually, from what you've just described, it absolutely is your fragile ego. Where do all those negative emotions come from? How is that an external circumstance that is utterly beyond your control - your wife's behavior - causes such great internal disruption in you? Because of your ego investment in an obviously false narrative. Envy, anxiety, resentment - you'd feel all those things because the little story you told yourself about your life and how it could be, would come unraveled. Get your…
/r/askMRP08/09/16 12:14 AM
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You're starting to see where the real work to be done is. If you don't fix the co-dependence and don't find a way to value your own thriving for its own sake, then any new relationship you enter will end up in the same place. More importantly, your life will end up a dim shadow of what it could be. EDIT: I am mad because there's nothing I can do. That is utter bullshit and total mind cancer. You certainly can do the one thing that's most important: unfuck yourself, even if it takes a long time. …
/r/askMRP07/09/16 11:16 PM
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I've given her the entirety of my commitment, which is seemingly what a woman wants most dries her vagina with. FTFY
/r/askMRP07/09/16 11:08 PM
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With lots of guys, the oneitis and neediness are so baked in that the woman's qualities cease to matter at all. He just needs her validation, her approval, her sandpaper pussy on his dick. He's been chasing her for so long and has grown so desperate to "win," that she's now just an object and he needs to have her. At this point his ego investment is so huge that not getting her approval would be utterly catastrophic to his psyche. So, he could bullshit you by offering up a bunch of supposedly gr…
/r/askMRP07/09/16 11:04 PM
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You're needy as fuck and your MAP is one big covert contract. Stop trying to drag her into your "frame" - I used the scare quotes because you clearly don't have a real frame right now, but you've created a facade of one. Get yourself to the point where you're genuinely improving yourself for your own benefit, not with any covert contracts tacked on about expectations of how she'll respond. If you do that right and she's still not responding (and you've given her enough time to stop reflexively s…
/r/askMRP07/09/16 10:52 PM
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Great example of kicking yourself back to ground zero and rebuilding a genuine "I am the prize" frame. Awesome that she came around, too. I definitely know the feeling of ramping up initiations in the face of repeated rejections in a desperate bid to get my fix of that sweet, sweet validation. When I look back on it, it looks an awful lot like the behavior of some junkies I've known. I don't get shit tests or comfort tests. That's bad, I know. Of course, with the pressure she's obviously felt fr…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 04:59 PM
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I've tried all that stuff with genuine confidence and got BTFO every time.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 02:04 AM
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No idea if she ever rubs one out. No way would she let me watch her masturbate. The door out of this really doesn't seem to open right into that.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 02:03 AM
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Good stuff here, lots to think about. Putting it in terms of trying to drag her into my frame and broadcasting a shitty, resentful attitude, captures a lot of what I was doing wrong. I think there was some deep insecurity underneath all that for me. Basically, when I'm honest with myself, I get the strong sense that I never trusted that she would just decide to step back into my frame and was never patient enough to give her a chance to do that. Plus, I just needed that validation right away. So…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 02:01 AM
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This captures where I'm at and what I think is the right way for me to go. I didn't post here looking for validation, encouragement, or even advice. I do greatly appreciate all the feedback I've gotten, though. All I intended was to share my story as a vivid example of how not to do things.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 05:31 PM
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No trauma that I know of. I think the only trauma she's suffered is the "every unhappy wife is a rape victim" that u/Archwinger once posted about. She never liked dirty talk or anything dominant, and was always pretty vanilla, but she used to be very intense during the vanilla sex. And oral was part of the package. If I could get her to start rubbing herself like you describe, it would be a major achievement.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 05:29 PM
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everything is centered and continues to be centered around your wife's acceptance of you. This is the crux of your issue. I totally agree. That's what I wanted to highlight with this post. I feel like I'm finally past that. Maybe I'm wrong about that, but, in that case, at least I know that that's the source of my problems and what I need to keep working on.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 05:22 PM
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I have tried PUA stuff on her and it's bombed. Could be that I suck at it, but I'm pretty good at gaming other women. I will check out art of seduction. Her annual physicals have come back normal, but I have not pushed for a full hormone panel or anything like that. Back before I killed my ego and sorted myself out, I made such a big deal of her lack of desire being her fault (and potentially hormonal) that she's gone out of her way to say that there's nothing wrong on her end and she's tired of…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 05:15 PM
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I appreciate the gist of your post, but I think the kind of starfish I'm dealing with is not the kind that can be ramped up with SGM. I went that route and it turned into a total freak out on her part. Can't go down on her, direct her, put my hand on her throat, move her around, finger her, talk dirty, etc. She's admitted to making sure she doesn't enjoy sex so that it doesn't send the message to me that she'd be up for it more often. It's awful and the only appropriate response is to walk away …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 05:08 PM
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The whole point of my post was (supposed to be) about how corrosive neediness and validation thirst are. I took sex way too seriously because of that and turned it into a minefield in my marriage. Finally got proper perspective because I realized (a) I have a ton of value and (b) whatever I lack in value is not to be found between her legs.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 04:59 PM
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No. In case it isn't clear in everything I've posted here, I fucked up how I handled things due to neediness and being a weak-assed bitch, and only recently have I developed the self-respect and frame necessary to handle things appropriately. Would she want to fuck a guy who acts like a little boy? I'm not letting her off the hook or pedestalizing her. I told my story here because it might help some other guy just starting off avoid fucking things up as badly as I have.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 12:45 PM
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Definitely hard nos. As for your point, my shitty frame, neediness, and validation seeking kept me coming back and orbiting her for all that time. Finally getting my shit together has led to me distancing myself from her, both physically and emotionally. I've only recently started doing that and a family issue made it difficult to go full-bore with that at first. Anyway, I've definitely trained her to view me as a needy fuck through my failure to properly distance myself from her much earlier. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 12:39 PM
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Your post is one of the things that prompted me to make my post; the post about the problem with people who post at r/deadbedrooms is the other. I think it's pretty likely that I will end up cutting bait, but I know for certain that I have not had all my shit in order while acting for quite some time as though I did. Until I got honest with myself about my weak frame and did something about it, I was doomed to be the guy who spun out of a crappy marriage and into a bunch of drama with plates. No…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 04:57 AM
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I'm convinced the oneitis is gone, because I wouldn't bat an eye if she told me tomorrow morning that she wants a divorce. I'd just move right on to spinning plates. I've already processed the "loss" of the relationship I never could have really had with her and I would not dwell on the split. Her positive qualities don't outweigh or offset the lack of sex. They are just things I take into consideration when I reflect on what I want to do, given the options before me and my realizations of how I…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 04:39 AM
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I can see that. Thanks for the clarification.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 04:31 AM
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I'll have to think about that. I had figured that nuclear level dread might be a final, desperate Hail Mary, if I couldn't get her to buy into my finally-established frame by more conventional means. You might be right, though, that I'll still come across as MAPing for her unless I get to a point where I'm sticking my dick in other women, or at least actively cultivating opportunities to do so. I flirt a lot with other women, but it's all catch and release. Maybe stepping past that is necessary.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 04:21 AM
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You're wrong. Sex is biological need to reproduce and ensure the survival of the species. Just because the individual doesn't need sex to survive doesn't mean that the species doesn't need it So, you mean, he's right. You aren't your genes, any more than you are your khakis. And you ain't the species or your future offspring, either. You - the guy whose dick will or won't get wet - don't need sex. Realizing that and acting in accordance with it, is a big help to getting the sex you want.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/16 03:45 PM
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These words from my wife made me see things clearer than ever before. There's mistake number one and a sure sign that you haven't touched the sidebar My wife and I were arguing about why we don't have more sex Well, there's mistake number two, and a fatal one at that. At this point, there is no chance you've read the sidebar I never ever asked her if she enjoyed the sex. I just assumed she did. Well, maybe he's not hopeless, after all. I want to see things from her point of view .... I want to c…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 09:31 PM
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Jesus, this is ponderous. Can't believe it's taken this long: tits or GTFO
/r/TheRedPill24/07/16 11:38 PM
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Great post, really helps clarify some things that have been kicking around my head for a while. In my own case, I have a very bad tendency to dwell on and to want to relive great times from the past, and to find a routine that will somehow (magically) produce moments just-like-that on the reg in the present. This has led to stagnation in critical parts of my life, despite marked advances on multiple other fronts. I'm virtually certain it's a large part of why my wife can tell me that I'm so awes…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/16 03:38 AM
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This. Some shitty behavior is a deal-breaker on the spot. Plenty of other things demand you to temporarily remove from her the reward of your presence/attention and to give yourself the reward of some free time, peace and quiet, etc. Eventually, either she's been reinforced to behave like a civilized human being or you cut out the cancer cluster. All this communicating, even "from an alpha frame," is just chickenshit negotiation. The second a woman gets you talking about your fee-fees or your pr…
/r/TheRedPill16/06/16 05:03 AM
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Why do you care? Dump her with a "I don't need your shit in my life" or just ghost her, and that's that. It's not your job to give a fuck about how she acts with the next guy after you dump her ass, it's not up to you to help her be a better girlfriend to the next cock she hops on, or anything else like that. The OP is spot-on with the comparison to a cancerous tumor - cut the cluster of bad cells out and move on with a healthy life.
/r/TheRedPill16/06/16 04:55 AM
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Stumbled across this while tracking down some old posts and am really glad I did. This is one of the most useful, insightful things I've come across about relationships, anywhere. That last full paragraph is fucking brilliant and it's been running through my head all day. It helps me see what the good alternative is to my usual asshole-alpha response to my wife's histrionics. I was so blind (probably borderline 'sperg) that all I knew was that I hated the idea of placating her and apologizing fo…
/r/askMRP22/04/16 12:24 AM
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I think I'll write an article titled "10 Things for My Woman Not to Do When I'm Out of My Mind Horny." Since it's just biology and I can't help feeling that way, I'm sure women will understand that it's their responsibility to just deal with me when I'm like that. Seriously, though, it's useful to hear right from the horse's mouth that both her shit testing and her passing of responsibility are out of her control. The former is explicitly stated, but any guy who is the least bit RP easily picks …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/16 04:13 PM
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Multiple kids, grade school through high school. Wife is pushing fifty and premenopausal, so I have to believe her body isn't screaming for her to make a new baby, but who the hell knows. Anyway, I'm practicing STFU like a motherfucker and am working hard to condition my attention and affection on what I get from her. Last few days, she's on the rag and miserable as hell. She gets nothing from me until that shit changes.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 02:19 AM
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I'm aware of the passive/active dread distinction, but it looks like I fell into just focusing on more active forms of dread when I was referring to dread. Thanks for the reminder.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/15 03:06 PM
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Yes
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/15 04:55 AM
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I was thinking of dread as industrial grade tension. What I meant to be focusing on are milder forms of tension besides dread. My reason for that, roughly, is that dread might be too suffocating or too powerful in some cases. Or maybe a woman has tuned out the dread for whatever reason. These other, less threatening forms of tension might get the hamster wheel working for a guy in that kind of case. If the woman hasn't totally checked out, that is. Anyway, I agree with you that existing entirely…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/15 02:52 AM
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Unfortunately, my stories often are as wordy as this post. Something I badly need to work on.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 08:17 PM
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This, this, this, a thousand times this. How many guys in shitty relationships - including me, now and in past LTRs - sit there and think about how much they love this woman and how badly they want to make things work with her? The guy is ready to run through a brick wall or suck down all kinds of shit sandwiches to try to make his relationship better. Meanwhile, she's treated the guy like garbage for months or years on end, without a thought at all about how to make things work well for the guy…
/r/askTRP24/07/15 02:50 AM
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I'm a guilt-inducing little bitch. Just realized it this morning. The weird thing is, this is exclusively limited to sex. Everywhere else in my life, if I don't get what I want (run into resistance, etc), I deal with it in a tough-minded, level-headed way. With sex and affection in general, though, if I don't get what I want, I do things that are directed at making my wife (past girlfriends, too) feel guilty for not giving me the feelz and validation I was looking for. This has pretty clearly wr…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/15 04:36 PM
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This. Whether it's a chick still merrily spinning around on the cock carousel or one scrambling to find a provider to lock down before the Wall crushes her, it's entirely to a woman's advantage to have it be as easy as possible to distinguish the AFs from the BBs. Cuts down on wasted effort, missed opportunities, etc. "Dad bod" just screams "no tingles here, but provisioning aplenty." Rollo has pointed out this kind of thing several times. Trying to sell this "dad bod" crap is just one more way …
/r/TheRedPill02/05/15 09:06 PM
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