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Maybe I needed to elaborate more but I would expect that if a man is interested in a woman for a long term relationship, he for sure wants to have sex with her. And I’m sure that will come up. But I also believe that he will attempt to also speak and get to know different things about her. He will attempt to date her. Whereas there are men who when they are only interested in sex will try to put out as little money as possibly in the dating phase, they will try to bring the conversation to sex a…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 12:23 PM
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I think you should reread the sentence you are so confused about because it’s pretty basic. It’s literally the title of the OP with a “not” in it. My take isn’t a blue pill take. A blue pill take would throw logic to the side. My take understands the basic concept that men arnt settling down with women just for sex. If that was the case we would see most high value men with attractive prostitutes who are willing to give them anything sexually. The women I have met who are struggling to find men …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 12:19 PM
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If you genuinely believe that then do you also believe ALL high libido women are participating in casual sex? Do you believe that high libido individuals (men and woman) are not capable of satisfying themselves through masturbation?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 10:04 PM
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What is blue pill about my takes? Also that sentence isn’t missing words, not sure what you don’t understand. If a man was only determined long term relationships based on sexual compatibility you wouldn’t have men taking women on dates prior to sex. You wouldn’t have men marrying women who arnt having sex with them as much as they want. I have had numerous men take me on dinner dates without ever bringing up the topic of sex because they were interested in more than sex and they didn’t want to …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 10:02 PM
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Not having sex casually or quickly doesn’t equate to low libido.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 08:53 PM
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If a man values a woman for a long term relationship he isn’t pushing sex immediately because he understands that a relationship is more than sex and he believes she has more to offer. If a man is only engaging in sexual conversations with a woman or pushing for sex without dates it’s because he only values that he woman for sex. Women who consistently find themselves meeting men who only want sex are not low value as sexual partners. But they do have a characteristic that lead men to deem them …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 08:38 PM
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What is your experience? Are you getting dates?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 03:50 PM
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My comment had noting to do with who relies on who. If you’re doing 50/50 neither partner is paying for everything. There are tons of women who have their partner pay for everything and have no issue saying that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 11:51 AM
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I don’t really understand your response. He won because he brought children into the world and was able to walk away from them? I also don’t understand why you brought up child support. Child support can be garnished from your wages if it is not paid and you don’t need a lawyer to go to family court. Whether or not she has the means to get on is not provided within the OP. Also where in society are men taught not to value marriage? I don’t get your point about being married because I am not argu…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 08:46 PM
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He won in what way? Many men don’t claim marriage is terrible. Many men choose to get married everyday. Both men and woman take a gamble with marriage. This particular man did not value marriage, he also did not value fatherhood. And he demonstrated that in various ways that this particular woman chose to ignore.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 08:22 PM
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My man would have an issue with this. But he is also against strip clubs for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 12:31 PM
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The whole story has red flags all over it. First most people practicing 50/50 understand you can’t split it exactly down the middle if there is an income disparity. The split recognizes the income disparity. Also I’m going to assume this woman is not married to this man given that you referred to his money as his money. Having multiple children with a man who is not marrying you is a poor decision. Choosing to having a second child with a man who won’t even buy diapers for the first child is eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 12:27 PM
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Guys my boyfriend is now my fiancé! He proposed yesterday on my birthday! I broke down crying the minute I realized it was about to happen, he didn’t even made it onto his knee.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 08:48 PM
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I don’t think I care for surprises. But I know he feels like an engagement should be planned between the couple, it should be on the man. Happy early birthday girlie. My birthday is Saturday. Officially leaving my 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 11:41 PM
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I am but i kind of ruined the surprise for myself because i looked in his stuff and found the ring. We had talked about getting engaged this year but I didn’t know he even bought a ring yet. So now I’m scared my surprise face won’t be good. My birthday is coming up this weekend and we are going to see my family in my mother’s home country, we are leaving tomorrow. So I’m thinking that’s when he will do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 10:15 PM
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I think my man is gonna propose soon, possibly in the next week. I remember when I met him 4 years ago, I came to PPD and told yall I met a man that is so hot that I’m ok with him pumping and dumping me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:14 PM
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Yall when do you think you will stop having sex? I see post on Reddit about people in their late 60s upset their partners don’t want sex anymore. I can’t imagine being almost 70 and still having sex. I feel at that age there must be so many aches and pains.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 05:31 AM
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My and my bf were fwb for over a year before we decided to be in a relationship and things were much easier back then.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 10:02 PM
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I wouldn’t be able to look past that, the relationship would probably be over. That would be too much of a risk towards my health.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 09:54 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/s/cEGDlTzw2k Something I realized very early on in dating as an adult is that some people have no business dating. Too many people are looking for a partner and want to normalize unnormal shit instead of seeking therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 05:04 PM
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She was good for a couple of years. She has schizophrenia. She suffered from addiction to hard drugs essentially his entire life and he was raised by his grandmother. She started living with him a few years ago and he got her sober. He did this out of a feeling of obligation not because they have any sort of deep relationship. This last year she decided to start smoking weed and eating thc gummies and I think that has triggered her recent psychosis episode. She also hasn’t been taking her medica…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 10:30 PM
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My bf is under a lot of stress at the moment. His mom made a ton of poor decisions which has led to her being in a psych ward for 2 weeks and as of last week she is homeless after deciding to not go to the boarding house the hospital set up for her after she was released. She then decided it would be a smart idea to shut off her card where she gets her social security. To say the last week has been stressful is an understatement and I feel bad thinking about this but I’m not sure this is baggage…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 10:18 PM
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That’s a strong if. Currently she is not dating someone in private equity and from comments she’s made it sounds like he makes less than her.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 03:54 PM
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I know of at least two women who have good careers who feel this way. My friend group is small so maybe it’s not a majority of women who feel this way. But I was simply commenting on the women that do. Personally I also make similar money to my friend and I can’t imagine walking away from that. I also am afraid of walking away from my career and ending up in an abusive situation like you described. I have an aunt who chose to be a stay at home mothers for pretty much the entirety of her marriage…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 03:52 PM
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I follow the Christian marriages sub Reddit and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen a post about a woman complaining that her man isn’t leading because he’s not supporting her wanting to be a stay at home mom. And people have to comment and tell her theres nothing in the Bible that says women shouldn’t work.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 03:42 PM
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Yes, I live in NJ roughly 30/40 min from Manhattan. On 160k you can definitely own a house but there’s a possibility of being house poor especially going it on 1 income. You for sure would be looking at over 50 percent of your income going just to maintaining the house and paying the mortgage.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 03:36 PM
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I really can’t wrap my mind around why so many women what to be stay at home mothers, especially college educated women with careers. Two incomes are always going to be better than one. I have a childfree friend making 160k and can’t imagine buying and maintaining a house in her own. Yet she expects to be a stay at home mom in the future where her husband will pay all the bills and support her and multiple children.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 02:27 PM
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Convince you of what?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 02:25 PM
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This is the answer. This whole thread can be shut down now. A large percentage of women need to believe that their lives are under threat. And I would argue that the percentage of women who believe that needs to be a lot closer to 100 than to 50. As a woman who does not believe that, I will not be participating in any uprising. Things would have to get a lot worse to change my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 02:22 PM
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Yea I see it in a similar way now. I’m in the best relationship I’ve been in my entire adult life. I love this man more than any man I’ve been with. And yet i can walk away from this relationship easier than any other relationship. Because I’ve learned it’s just not worth my time to be fighting for certain things. We are either on the same page or we are not. When I was younger I felt like a relationship was the end all be all and it’s really not. Tbh even if I got married, if kids were not invo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:38 PM
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I was constantly in a relationship. I’ve been single for less than a year my whole adult life. And a good chunk of that was spent fighting for relationships that weren’t worth it. My exes are no longer in my life, those relationships are no longer relevant to my life. So it was largely a waste of my time to have been in those relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:34 PM
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Whenever I see people under 25 talking about relationships problems on Reddit, my immediate thought is “who cares, leave them”. I remember being young and feeling like an ex was my person despite all the drama. But really those relationships were so irrelevant looking back now. If anything I regret not being single more and not dating more.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:04 PM
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You mentioned statistically men want children more. Is there a statistic you are referring to? The OP seems more anecdotal. Anecdotally, I still see and know more women who have a strong desire for motherhood than I know men who have a strong desire for fatherhood. There was actually a post on this sub a couple weeks back where men were asked would they choose to be a single father or give their child up for adoption and I was shocked by the amount of responses that said they would give the chil…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 07:10 PM
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I will continue to travel even if I got married but there definitely would be more of a routine/structure with marriage. I currently work remotely. If I’m not in my relationship I can work anywhere in the states and I would have no issue. There’s nothing tying me to my state. Whereas as a wife, well even as a gf, I would not abandon my significant other for a long period of time to travel while working. My bf has an established business in our state so he does not have the work life freedom I ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 04:28 PM
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I’m about to hit the wall in a little under 10 weeks and I’m not sure how I feel. I thought by this point I would have some epiphany about kids. Instead I feel like I want to completely forgo all societal expectations and just travel for a year. I have a great bf and I’m expecting an engagement this year. But I’m now questioning why I want the engagement/marriage. I know a large part of me just feels like it’s time, we have been together long enough. I also feel like if I’m going to do the wife …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 03:19 PM
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This is very well put. There are both men and women who have a lifestyle or qualities about them that don’t make them compatible for marriage. If they are not interested in marriage then it really doesn’t matter. But there are qualities people should strive to have if marriage in the near future is something that they are interested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 02:07 PM
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It’s because they assume a pretty young girl would have someone who wants to eat with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 04:50 PM
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I am registered to vote. I have voted in the last 3 elections. I will probably never vote again.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 04:48 PM
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You don’t have to destroy yourself to deserve something. If I work hard in my job I deserve a promotion. I shouldn’t have to sacrifice my mental health to get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 04:48 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/BlackPeopleTwitter/s/1Bo4AsBTXr Stuff like this is what made me realize men really don’t care about your past if they want to be with you. Even when you look at some of these “influencer” women. Some of them keep popping up with new male celebrity. These men have money, they can have whoever they want and yet they choose a woman that has publicly been linked to multiple other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 04:44 PM
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Thank you for your advice. Yea I don’t know what type of therapist are out there. I also don’t know what type of therapy is available, like another commentor mentioned her therapist combined eastern and western practices. But I don’t know what the difference are. I am considering therapy but I actually wasn’t considering going back to better health. I tried it a second time for a month a few years ago and the therapist they assigned to me only did over text. That time around I quit immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 12:39 AM
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How long did you stay with a therapist before changing? What factors did you look at to determine that you aligned with a therapist vs deciding a therapist wasn’t for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 12:17 AM
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Has anyone here done therapy and did it help you? I did some brief sessions in better help years ago but quit quickly. I didn’t feel like i was in a place to implement “the homework” I was being given. But now I’m thinking about possibly considering it again. I consider myself a very happy individual but this past 6 months possibly even a year I find myself dealing with a lot of anxiety and depression. My doctor has offered to put me on antidepressants but idk if this is a route I want to take.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 11:51 PM
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If people want to move to find love I think that’s fine. I think how men view women in America isn’t any different from how women are in other countries though. Sleeping with women casually or dating long distance is going to be very different from a full time relationship that has its ups and downs and goes through actual tribulations. My main critique of your OP would be you not recognizing that are lot of passport bros are looking for easy sex from vulnerable women. It has nothing to do with …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 01:48 PM
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Yea, a couple where both people are financially smart with their money and willing to split expenses get to live life on easy mode. Something to be very cautious of is a partner who expects the other person to pay all the bills.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 05:16 PM
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All the discourse about which gender sucks more is nonsense. This is your friendly reminder that both men and women need one another because both genders are too broke to survive this economy on their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 02:05 PM
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If a guy were to approach me and he is a complete stranger he first has to meet a physical threshold of what I find attractive. Obviously I’m not going out with him on the spot so as we initially communicate via text in the following days, I am now checking to see if he has a lifestyle that aligns with mine. That determine if I continue to move forward with dating. There is no man that I’m immediately going to be 100% interested in pursuing a relationship with simply from physical attraction. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 04:42 PM
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What is this sub for? Isn’t it just a dating debate sub, why wouldn’t everyone’s opinions be welcomed?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 04:37 PM
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I believe there was some sort of rehabilitation attempt. They are religious which is why they have 19 children. So whatever therapy or rehabilitation was probably done through a Christian org. Whether or not the people running the rehabilitation were actually licensed professionals I am not sure. Oftentimes Christian therapy is not by licensed individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 02:15 AM
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To be clear none of the CP stuff happened when he was a child. All of that is after they attempted rehabilitation.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 10:18 PM
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So hindsight in 20/20. I guess my intial comment was more so questioning if they were wrong for thinking their child could be rehabilitated, when they had no clue how the future would turn out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 08:44 PM
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So from my understanding they did send him to therapy. Idk how good it actually was because as an adult he had CP on his laptop which landed him in jail. The whole situation is unfortunate. The parents get judgement but I feel like there was no way for them to win in the situation. There daughters were already traumatized and what should have been the next step, try to get your son locked up?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 06:09 PM
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No child was raped from my understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 05:46 PM
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Q4A: So idk if you are all familiar with the Duggars but they are a religious family that had like 19 kids. Two of there sons in adulthood have been arrested for some form of CP/Child molestation. It came out that one son, who is now serving jail time for having CP as an adult, would inappropriately touch his sister when they were younger, at the time he was a teenager. Allegedly to try and contain this behavior the parents built their house where all the girls shared one room and all the boys s…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 05:02 PM
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It’s interesting seeing some of the age gap post this morning. I’m in an age gap relationship and apparently I don’t have the power but I actually feel the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 01:07 PM
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I guess it shouldn’t be surprising that so many men would opt for adoption, I mean men walk out on their children everyday. But for some reason I was actually surprised by these comments. Paternal instinct seems to not really exist for men, if a woman isn’t involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 07:43 PM
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Did any of your parents kick you out? Like you were a good kid, no issues but they just said “well you’re an adult time to leave” I just saw a video of this 22 year old crying cause she lost her job and rent is due. I legit don’t know what a young person does to pay their bills if they didn’t go to school. I would be running so fast to live with my parents. But then I was like maybe her parents don’t want her.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 07:40 PM
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In my initial comment the women had an issue with all porn content including linking free porn to infidelity. I said I didn’t understand why they would have an issue with that but I could understand having an issue with only fans. You asked why and then I linked only fans to infidelity. I never said the man was open. I just mentioned women’s views on porn content. This is a conversation about women who have conservative views on porn. I would think it’s a given that the men they are with are not…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 01:25 PM
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My initial comment was about women who had an issue with all porn content so I don’t know why you would think that in the scenario I was describing the man was open with his partner about only fans and the woman was ok with it. Maybe that is where the confusion lies in this conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 04:56 PM
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I can’t speak for women either lol. The same way you can’t speak for all men. If the intent was to get off they would just watch something for free or use a free AI chatbot. They are not on a dating app because there is a risk of their significant other finding out. They absolutely would go on one if they could build that connection without the risk. I don’t think the woman providing the service is looking by for connection. I think most of the time she’s not even the one responding. It’s probab…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 04:12 PM
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I’m rereading it and I misunderstood. I initially read it as “women who partake in casual sex have less mental illness on neuroticism” When It was actually saying “of all the women who partake in casual sex, the ones who actually enjoy it have less mental illness on neuroticism”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 12:24 PM
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I had one guy friend in my 20s. There was never anything romantic from either of us so I do think men and women can be friends. But every guy I dated had an issue with this relationship. I think a lot of people, probably most, are not trusting of their partners having a friendship with the opposite gender. Because of this these relationships become more easily discarded.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 12:03 PM
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I haven’t accepted any data on this. I’m making a judgement based on my own experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 11:52 AM
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To have a place to live that you can modify at your own convenience, that you don’t have to worry about being asked to leave. Ultimately when you pay it off it will be the cheaper living option vs renting.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 11:51 AM
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I live in NJ, and likely when I’m ready to buy a single family home it will be between 650k-800k. There’s a lot above that, my friends just bought a house for 850k, but idk how they are financially doing it. Don’t forgot our interest rates arnt great so we are talking about 5k+ mortgages a month.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 11:49 AM
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Complete BS. Considerable casual sex especially in women would actually indicate to me some level of mental illness.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 11:44 AM
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I don’t consider only fans a hobby. But I actually do think people can police certain lifestyles their partners may want to engage in. You would never find me in a chippendales environment and you would never find my partner at the strip club. That’s a rule in my relationship established by my male partner. I do think it’s real for the men paying for it. I don’t think they are acting, I very much think they want that to be their reality. An actor and everyone on set knows they are putting on a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 11:41 AM
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Well financially I think there’s an issue with using money to sustain the lifestyle of another woman, when that money could go to the betterment of your family. Also from my understanding men can communicate with women on only fans so they pay for it not just for content but to then communicate and develop a romantic relationship with that woman. At that point you are at the very least attempting emotional adultery.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 03:06 AM
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In competition in what way?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 03:03 AM
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No. Actually I would lose respect for anyone trying to take the livelihood of another individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 11:21 PM
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Idk if it’s just a Reddit thing but on here I see a huge demonization of porn. I can understand being upset if your SO is paying for only fans. But I see people equating looking at pornhub to infidelity.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 11:14 PM
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This lady is actually from London so maybe you’ll find her perspective even more interesting, with both of you being European based.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 04:43 PM
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Yes I understand the situation and I wouldn’t change anything in my initial comment. You wouldn’t feel it if you paid 4000 vs 3000. The fact that you would rather put a financial strain on your partner who makes significantly less is concerning.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 01:57 PM
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Personally my man would cover much more of the mortgage, probably all if he made that much. As someone making 150k, I can tell you that half of the mortgage is around two weeks of her pay. From what I understand many couples divide expenses based on the percentage they make to one another. The reality is, that women would never be able to afford 6000 mortgage on her own. Thats a decision they came to, based on the high income because there is an understanding that the higher income can cover tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 01:26 PM
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From my understanding the OP is about people who do walk away and choose not to be committed. And it’s explaining that those people arnt actually afraid to commit it’s that they don’t want to commit to red flags.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 01:13 PM
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There’s this girl I follow on ig: @nushcope, she has a lot of content covering this topic. You might enjoy. She ultimately moved to Senegal, where her husband is from to have a village to help her with mother hood.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 12:48 PM
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I don’t think it’s about not trusting yourself. I think it’s actually about trusting yourself enough to walk away from red flags before you get too far.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 12:41 PM
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That didn’t even occur to me. That’s how far removed I am from this lifestyle. No, I wouldn’t date a man who had removed his genitalia.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 08:31 PM
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Yes that is what I meant.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 07:26 PM
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It depends on when plans were established and how often we are talking. If I made plans with you 3 days ago and haven’t talked to you since then I would want a confirmation. If I intended to go, then I would probably reach out myself and get that confirmation before I showed up.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 05:49 PM
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I wouldn’t date a trans man. I would probably be open to a reverted trans woman but honestly there’s a good chance that someone who has gone down this path has completely different views than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 03:54 PM
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I definitely view it the second way. But I’m more inclined to believe that most men view it the second way as well. Men arnt really the gender known to be hopeless romantics.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 03:48 PM
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I have this issue is all my relationships. I’m not a big communicator. I’m a get upset and get quiet type of woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 03:40 PM
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I can’t speak for myself because I have no clue how I would handle grief but I watched my best friend go through this, losing her fiancé suddenly. It was devastating for her. She went through different phases of being angry at god, being angry at herself, being angry at her fiancé, being sad, feeling isolated in her pain. She just started dating again, literally this month. This October will be 4 years since his passing. She’s in a much better place and in a way optimistic that she will find a m…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 02:11 PM
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I’ve definitely seen many women who dress like men, act like men, look like men, and date women. And there’s no doubt in my mind that those women are not attracted to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 09:37 PM
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So is that what it is, people get comfort from sleeping with strangers?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 06:50 PM
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Eating food does give a feeling of comfort which is why we have emotional eaters.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 05:54 PM
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I meant after the actual event of having sex with the individual. After youre done having your total orgasms for the session. Does the person sleeping around feel lot of positive feelings about the experience? Does it make them think oh now I gotta go experience that again with another stranger?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 04:48 PM
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I really don’t understand the desire to sleep around for either gender. I feel like after the orgasm, you arnt left with much great feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:44 PM
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If a man is taking out multiple women in a first date, it’s unrealistic to be expecting him to pay $100+ dollars for each date. Which is what restaurants dates are costing especially if alcohol is purchased. Do you think most men who are of dating age have hundreds of dollars of disposable income to date?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 02:39 PM
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If a mainly female hobby then I could see that possibly women join these hobbies to just enjoy themselves and maybe bond with other women. Some women are also just shy. I have a friend who joined a Catholic group. She’s Catholic and they do a lot of hiking activities which she loves. They also did a big trip to Italy this past year. The group is about 50/50 male and female. She is secretly hoping to meet her husband there. But she isn’t the type of woman to message first or initiate so one of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 01:26 PM
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I assume if I would have kids that I would adjust. I’ve also read stories of women who didn’t crave motherhood but once they were in it they felt very fullfilled. I’m sure it is a beautiful thing. But I feel like would have to be in it to really see the benefit if that makes sense. My mom talks about if I have kids I have to give up how much I go to the gym and in my head i immediately think “well my gym has a daycare”. I just can’t imagine giving up parts of myself for a little human.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 02:54 PM
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How do you account for the birth rate dropping in the 90s to now? I’m born in 96 so I wasn’t thinking about the time before women could work or before they could have a bank account.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 02:36 PM
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A big reason I’m turned off from kids is the responsibility. I have so much stress and things going on currently. I can’t imagine how to throw a kid into the mix. Was life easier for women in the past or were they less risk averse? My mom actively got pregnant with me while she was a broke college student, illegal and my dad was a fwb. I can’t imagine making the decision to be a mother if I was in that spot.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 02:32 PM
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I don’t think what you described has to be the reality but I also am not aware of what jobs you have access to. But a high paying 9-5 does give you time with your family. That being said I do think ideally both parents should work.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 02:02 PM
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No point in enjoying that activity in a relationship that isn’t going anywhere 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 05:26 PM
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I’ve never had sex with a random stranger or someone I just met. I had a drunken one night stand with a friend once. And my current relationship and my previous one started out as fwb. But I knew all these men would be in my life long term if I wanted them to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 05:14 PM
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No. There’s no value in giving to relationships that arnt going anywhere long term. Masturbation is a better option.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 05:08 PM
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What about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 05:03 PM
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This is going to work with some women and not others. My friend has a lot of anxiety, so she enjoys smaller dates in the beginning where she doesn’t have to maintain a conversation for a long period of time with a guy. Like another commenter she also views constant messaging as love bombing. I on the other hand got offered dinner dates very quickly when I was on dating apps and so that became the minimum I would accept for a first date when I was dating. For my own safety I would never go to a m…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 05:02 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 04:56 PM
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Guys I’m about to hit the wall in a few month. And I’ve decided to give some advice to all you younger people because I’m older and wiser now. In your twenties get a high paying skill. But also have fun. Dont wait for friends to do the things you want to do. Don’t be afraid to go to that restaurant you want to go to, by yourself. Travel. If the relationship is having problems, leave. You have time to find someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 04:54 PM
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These days a lot of people want to paint the picture that if you didn’t vote for the same party as me then you want me to die. And because of this thought process it’s easy for them to have this idea that political views and the parties people align with should be dealbreakers. People are allowed to pick whatever dealbreaker they want. But at the end of the day, when you have parties that are being paid off by the same lobbyists it really doesn’t matter. People vote based on what they feel to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 11:03 PM
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Eh I don’t crave motherhood at the moment. But I know I would be a good mom. And my bf adopted his siblings child after they passed so I know he would be a good dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 10:06 PM
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Maybe they don’t have much sex now, so this wish they had more prior to locking into this relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 09:26 PM
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I don’t have any desire either. I’m about to turn 30 and I’m waiting for that light switch to go off In my head where I start to crave motherhood. That is supposedly what happened to my mom. I have so many female friends that have such a strong desire for motherhood though. They believe they will find deep fulfillment in it and I just can’t relate. That being said my bf wants a biological child so if we get married I will probably appease him and have at least one.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 09:23 PM
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Very interesting. In my initial comment I didn’t mention men who hadn’t been married because it’s very easy for me to wrap my head around a man not feeling connected to a child that came from a woman he didn’t love. I guess in my logic I wrongly assumed that husbands love their wives when they have children with them and therefore feel connection to those children.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 02:59 PM
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I find it strange when a couple gets a divorce and the husband becomes an absentee father. Were they only present as a father because of the wife? Did they never want fatherhood?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 02:03 PM
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A lot of people talk poorly about OLD but I feel like that is the go to place to meet your partner. Are people really going into the world to meet people these days?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 01:47 PM
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Probably a lot in this day and age. I have two close friends who met their significant other dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 01:46 PM
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If I recall correctly men and women leave relationships at the same rate pre marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 10:37 PM
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You were repulsed by someone trying to help you?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 02:11 PM
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I haven’t been single for quite a few years now. But my best friend recently joined hinge and she gets the ick for the most ridiculous things. A guy texts to much she get a the ick lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 05:38 PM
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Hi Sarai, I’ve been alright. Just living life. Nothing new. How are you doing? How was your Valentine’s Day!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 06:00 PM
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As a woman unsure about kids the why you wants kids post was a nice read.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 02:12 AM
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Around minute 2 they show Pearl on her stream and she looks terrible. I don’t remember her looking that bad
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 08:10 PM
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I don’t have a problem with ICE as an entity. But like woman said I’m not interested in dating law enforcement or military men. I find that a lot of them are losers who went into those fields to feel like they have some sort of power.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 01:49 AM
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I have an aunt and uncle who are still married today. My uncle financial supports her as he has always done but he was in and out of the house for the last 20 years. He got a job in another state and visits on holidays but is largely gone. He’s always had other women for the entirety of his marriage even when he had to go home to his wife every night. At one point he was living with one of his mistresses when his children with his wife ranged from ages 1-14. After 30 years the wife is still hell…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 01:46 AM
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I’ve read invisible monsters, fight club and choke. I decided to start survivor.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 04:15 PM
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I haven’t. I’ve read invisible monsters, fight club and choke. I also started tell all years ago but I lost interest, don’t remember why. If there’s a specific one by him I should try let me know!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 08:51 PM
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For all the readers out there can you guys suggest me some fictional books? I really like chuck palaniuk and have read a few of his books. If you have any suggestions with similar vibes that would be great. I’m not really interested in any of these soft porn books or anything where the primary plot revolves around romance, I also don’t think I’m interested in reading fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 07:23 PM
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Q4M: Do you pay on the first date/multiple dates? Do you pay for stuff for your partner in general? Do you find that the women you’re dating are looking for you to pay for a lifestyle they can’t afford? Questions were inspired by a post I saw on the main Reddit page about a man who was poor and frustrated with dating because the dating culture seems to only value money. My logic is that if you’re poor and you are also dating other poor people, shouldn’t it not be an issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 02:33 PM
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Heyy, I like to pop in here when things are on my mind. PPD is the most neutral place I’ve been able to find on Reddit. How’s it been going?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 03:14 PM
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Yea that made no sense to me. At this point I haven’t been keeping up with the news as much. Tbh I’m one of the conspiracy believers that thinks there’s something bigger going on. So I’m skeptical of like everything I hear on this topic. Is that still the belief that he is disassembled and reassembled the gun?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 02:34 PM
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No I think it’s more so about staying with the political tribe. Whereas, with myself, I don’t feel any loyalty to a specific party so I feel like I’ve stayed consistent with my views.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 02:30 PM
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I gotta watch the clip. I saw a bunch of other clips where he celebrated people losing their jobs. Which obviously diminishes my sympathy for him. That being said I don’t think he said anything bad and I don’t think his job should have been in jeopardy for what he said. I think it was hypocritical, conservatives celebrating him losing his job. As if they arnt the party for freedom of speech.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 01:29 PM
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We don’t know anything about the groyper stuff. He believes the shooter is democrat. I don’t really see why we have the align with the shooter with any party. I think that it’s a bit weird how people are essentially idolizing Charlie Kirk. I actually think he might fall into the category of idolizing him but he doesn’t see it. I think that his wife’s reaction is a bit strange. I’m assuming she’s heavily medicated. He thinks she’s so “strong”because she must have a closer relationship to god than…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 01:24 PM
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I don’t think it’s necessary. But I don’t really get how people actually trust the media these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 01:18 PM
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The whole Charlie Kirk saga is really exposing some differing views that me and my bf have. And I realize how we analyze things very differently. I am inherently skeptical while he seems to believe things at a face value.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 01:00 PM
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Yes roommate do and should share cleaning responsibilities. You were the one claiming that the mental load of the home falls on the woman. I was just pointing out that doesn’t have to be the case. What your response to me is describing is friendship. Friendships exist. It doesn’t negate the benefits of a romantic relationship. I’ve addresses them in my earlier comment. It doesn’t take into account many people don’t want to live with a roommate as they get older. It also doesn’t take into account…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 09:50 PM
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So in regard to your first point. The difference between having a boyfriend you do 50/50 with vs a roommate is that you are working towards shared goals together. Long term successful relationships require partnership. When the burden is shared it allows you to achieve a greater life together. For example, I can get a house a lot faster putting into savings with a partner vs trying to do it on my own. On top of that I do get love and intimacy and someone I can rely on. If my car breaks down my r…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 08:29 PM
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Dude did you read the post? My reasoning is literally in every comment. And my views are very much in relation to the post I linked. I mentioned where I live and where the OP is because this is not a conversation about generalizations. It’s my opinion very much based on the society myself and the OP live in. I don’t know where you get in outsourcing my logic. I’ve literally given my opinion, you just don’t accept it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 08:37 PM
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SexualizIng of the body occurs whether or not it is a choice. I live in America and I’m pretty sure the OP for the post I linked does as well. The female body and the male body are not viewed the same. You’re doing mental gymnastics to ignore reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 08:28 PM
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Men’s nipples are not sexualized. Male and female bodies are not the same nor or they looked at the same. If a man’s penis was visible because he isn’t wearing underwear yes he’s dressing like a sex worker.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 08:14 PM
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Honestly not sure. Just kind of stating that overall his mind could have been complex and comprised of viewpoints that were a mix of both parties. He could be just be radical lol vs being radically left or right. Personally I don’t particularly like this whole idea being spread that college is indoctrinating people. It’s werid to me. Parents should be encouraging their kids to go to college, statistically it’s your best way out of poverty. I am college educated and actually covered gender identi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 07:36 PM
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It’s not about control. Many people don’t want their partners dressing like sex workers. It’s more about respect for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 07:32 PM
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Many people arnt comfortable with their partners dressing like sex workers. Such is life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 07:31 PM
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A lot of people are trying to attach him to a political party and it think it’s ok to be like he’s not representative of either party. He seemed to live a liberal life and suppose this parents claimed he was changed/“indoctrinated” in college. But he was also raised by republicans in a conservative state.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 07:28 PM
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Honestly crazy take to me. Whether or not you wear underwear in public shouldn’t be a reason to throw away your relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 07:25 PM
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I think people need to know when to pick and choose battles especially if your partner is a good to you. Whether or not you respect his wishes for you to wear panties in public shouldn’t really be a battle you’re ready to pick.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 07:24 PM
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It’s fine not to wear a bra. But it’s really shouldn’t be a reason to argue with your significant other. Your bf doesn’t feel comfortable with your nipples showing through your shirt in public then put a bra on.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 06:48 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/whatdoIdo/s/vhKFrgbskP The comments are crazy. This is why you really can’t ask for relationship advice on Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 06:39 PM
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Because they understand that many women and men fall on a spectrum in regard to their political views. Most people are not on the extreme end. They also understand that it’s ok to have a difference of opinion. I say that as a pro choice woman dating a man who is pro life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 02:40 PM
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Because they have never listened to Joe Rogan. Also for some reason people can’t grasp the fact that voting for a party doesn’t mean you agree with all their views.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 02:33 PM
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I was pissed at him before and came to PPD for advice. This is my second time asking for advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 06:54 PM
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That would be my reaction as well. He was trying to say “if the roles were reversed I would wear stuff that made you comfortable”. But the roles would never be reversed, because if women look at him I still know he’s mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 06:53 PM
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I also feel this way. Like if I give into this what is next. I understand your partner guiding you and I understand compromises being made in a relationship. But this feels more like trying to force me to change out of insecurities or possibly lack of trust in me. His whole thing is he doesn’t like men looking at me and I’m giving the impression to them that I’m single. But if you trust me why does that matter. And I’m a pretty girl, men are going to look at me regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 06:22 PM
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Recently he had made comments about my church dresses being about the knee which I threw in his face last night. Because I think my church dresses are fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 06:20 PM
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That’s how I feel too. I do think there are clothing that’s not appropriate that women wear to the gym. However, I don’t feel like I’m wearing that type of clothing. I was ok dropping the leggings with a seam down the asscrack because I feel like they are intended to look more sexual even if it’s covering all of your legs. But overall I feel my clothes are appropriate which is why I feel so adamant about not changing.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 06:19 PM
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He does not. Up until recently when it got hot, he always had a hoodie on in the gym. He’s a retired bodybuilder, still running steroids so he’s in great shape. Wearing the hoodie is something more common this past winter. I don’t know if it’s is way of getting me to cover up more.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 06:17 PM
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Guys I had a discussion/argument with my bf yesterday and I’m wanting insight on if I’m in the wrong. So I have a decent figure. My butt is big for my frame, my waist is small. In a fairly petite person 5’1, 125lb. I go to the gym a lot, 90 percent of the time with my bf. We met in the gym. Fitness overall is a big part of our life and I’m often in gym clothes even running errands. I’ve cut out those legging that have a seam down the asscrack. I know you when you squat they can really emphasizes…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 05:56 PM
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I never said she didn’t want to marry him. There’s no biological clock for marriage but there is one for kids. Lots of women are walking away from their chance at motherhood waiting for marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 10:26 PM
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Yea that’s also insane to me. While it may be unconventional, if you want a baby and you have the means to support a baby then go have it. I have a friend who’s pregnant with her second baby for her bf of around 2.5 years. She’s 35. I have friends who don’t support it but what should she have done wait till her late 30s to start trying?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 10:14 PM
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It’s baffling to me when women in their 30s desperately want kids but are waiting around for a man to propose or for everything to be done the right way. You don’t have the time to be waiting around to fit societies mold of how things should be done.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 10:06 PM
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Men, this is what the gym can do for you https://np.reddit.com/r/GYM/s/yfl0fQJWiG
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 06:39 PM
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So many people create unnecessary problems in their relationships. Example: https://np.reddit.com/r/NoFapChristians/s/9BthlCC6aY I’ve come to realize that maybe porn isn’t the best thing and people should try to avoid it. But unless your partner is watching it to an extent that it’s an addiction, this is not an issue to create turmoil in your relationship over.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 01:25 PM
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You fyp is not a reflection of reality. It’s showing you what you want to see. My second point had nothing to do with research. Women are more likely to go to a doctor in general. They are also more likely to encourage their husbands to go which is why married men on average outlive single men. People don’t just get degrees for money. It might surprise you but some people actually value being educated.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 12:01 PM
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I have never dealt with a saltwater tank before but I’ve decided to start my own coral selling business so I’ll be buying a tank this week. Very excited!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 06:40 PM
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The women on dating apps are looking to date. After 27 you also have to take into consideration biological clock. Women who arnt interested in a relationship and are happy single are not on apps. Women are more likely to go to a doctor and deal with any issues they have vs a man. The average man in American only makes 500 dollars more after tax than the average woman in America
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 10:55 PM
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I just saw someone on threads say student loan forgiveness would encourage people to have babies and you know what, that not a bad idea. 25k forgiven for every baby
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 10:52 PM
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Yes I did both. I’m confused by your comment after doing that. How are women the problem here?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 06:23 PM
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People outgrow PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 06:06 PM
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In what way? You think men should be mean to women?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 06:05 PM
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Why did you admit attraction? Seems like you’re further opening the door for his advances
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 06:03 PM
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I’m with the friend that thinks she doesn’t want to be rude. It eases the blow if she is still offering friendship. Also it makes things less awkward if you’re seeing her everyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 07:35 PM
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If a woman doesn’t value sex in her relationship and she isn’t having sex and the husband is being a “good” guy. She isn’t going to consider her relationship a failure. So there will be no resentment. Resentment will occur with cheating because adultery is villainized. It’s seen as one of the worst, if not the worst, things you can do to your partner. And the victim of this will feel that they could have done better but they are essentially stuck with their husband. In regard to it shutting down…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 06:58 PM
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Tons of relationships stay together despite infidelity. Imo the main reasons being: The man doesn’t have the balls to leave. His wife is usually providing value in his life that he won’t get else where and he’s usually also concerned about losing money. Many men don’t want to take care of their children fully on their own and are willing to give up custody but doing that also requires them to pay child support which they don’t want to do. The wife is afraid of financial instability without her h…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 06:31 PM
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If she makes the same as you, and you have similar responsibilities in life she will be alright. I don’t have kids but I’m in a much better financial position to have a kid on my own than a lot of couples who are having kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 01:16 PM
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Do you guys have lucrative jobs?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 01:11 PM
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Imagine the mental gymnastics it takes to convince yourself being healthy and clean is a fetish.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 01:10 PM
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It’s literally just because more women are liberal. Everything he said is nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 02:01 PM
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Idu. Whats his issue with Grindr?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 01:55 PM
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Everyone I know aside from myself, carries a wallet
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 01:54 PM
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I knew someone who got a girl pregnant the first time he had sex at 13. She was also 13 and kept the baby. He ultimately didn’t support the child for a long time because he was a child and his parents were mad at the girls parents for even encouraging her to keep the baby. I think at his age I would support financial abortion because he was too young to know right from wrong. But grown adults having sex know there’s consequences to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 03:28 PM
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Being a stay at home wife and mother, while the man provides.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 09:37 PM
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I’ve never gone to a male gynecologist. I do go to the gyno once a year it’s a pretty uneventful experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 08:11 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/Christianmarriage/s/tqlh6I8TIu Really interesting analysis of the traditional family. A woman staying home while a man works to provide is actually modern and progressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 08:10 PM
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In a traditional relationship the man is the leader. I’m not here to argue if it’s correct or not. My comments have just been clarifying how traditional relationships operate. You don’t have to be in one, if you don’t agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 12:51 PM
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I’ve literally explained it. We have seen historically how traditional women have had to take care of their families. You cant change the definition of words because it suits you. I call the husband a traditional man especially if he is the breadwinner and leading the family in decision making.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 06:22 PM
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A traditional woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 06:02 PM
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I hit a new low weight! Officially down 10lb
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 05:51 PM
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I wouldn’t reduce women who make so many sacrifices for their families to that, but if you want to go ahead.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 05:50 PM
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Love on a spectrum is a great show. Highly suggest it. The relationships seem to be lasting.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 05:25 PM
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Basically. I consider my grandmother a traditional woman and she did it all. I used her as an example on another comment: https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/9k2pVYqHyw Edit: I said some. But the reality is that at one point it was probably most.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 05:17 PM
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It would be difficult yet some women did it. My grandmother dropped out of school at 11 to support her family. She met my grandfather at 18 and married shortly after. They had 5 kids. She cooked and cleaned their home (kids helped as they got older). She also worked as a manager of a retail store, she was also a Sunday school teacher. My grandfather was the main provider because he was college educated and had a better paying job but her job was still needed for their family.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 05:15 PM
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Domestic work. She’s still child rearing, still taking care of the home. If you’re going to link anything to a traditional woman it’s domestic work and her role in the children’s lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 05:10 PM
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Being poor doesn’t mean you arnt a traditional woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 04:27 PM
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Thats not true, women worked farms, were seamstresses, involved in the crafting industry, etc. Not working was only a privilege for well off women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 06:43 AM
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I actually don’t think you’re correct. Are you saying men can’t love their biological children in the same way women do? Also traditional woman does not equate to a woman who doesn’t work.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 04:53 PM
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Take what you read on here with a grain of salt
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 02:21 PM
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Do it. I got lip filler for the first time at 23. No regrets. Don’t just go to anyone, make sure you see lots of photos of the injectors work.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 01:32 PM
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I wouldn’t ask him to skip. We can always celebrate my bday on another day, it isn’t a big deal to me. But I do know that not everyone thinks like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 07:18 PM
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My bf really wants kids, he would be really upset if I joked around like that
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 02:43 PM
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Something I never understood is the anger around fake pregnancy announcements on April fools day. How does someone joking about pregnancy affect another woman dealing with fertility issues?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 02:39 PM
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What is an ultimatum in a relationship, can someone give me an example? For me this is confusing because communication is a necessity for a healthy relationship. If something is a dealbreaker for you that needs to be communicated to your partner. Is the preferred/healthier option to just end the relationship with no explanation?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 01:20 PM
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Why can’t you get a house without their money? In my head my parents money is for any rainy days they hit when they are older. If they leave me inheritance money I can then use it to grow the wealth I have already achieved for myself throughout my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 05:37 PM
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By not being careful I mean that I don’t use condoms. The pull out method has been effective for me. I have been on and off birth control throughout my twenties, going on 4 years off now though with no plans of getting back on.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:48 PM
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My man is not careful about protection, we never used it. The only reason he doesn’t have kids is because of steroid use. I’m not careful about protect either though so can be mad at him. I do think if I knew he had abortions in relationships prior to me I would feel some type of way especially depending on the relationship he had with that woman. It wouldnt necessarily be a dealbreaker but I feel like creating life with someone is something special.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:38 PM
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If your parents gave you money right now, what would you use it for?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:34 PM
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I would give here a 4. I consider her below average. I do think she can find A man interested. But her options are less than the average woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:23 PM
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There was a time on PPD where if you posted an opinion it had to have effort. I don’t even think the debate tag was an option. It was CMV and you had to back up your claims. We need to go back to that. Too many people abusing the debate tag.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:22 PM
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Where are your stats to back up your claims? You criticize self reports but it seems that your entire argument is backed by opinion. As a grandchild of a woman who has 5 children, I’ve always thought the idea of creating this big family to bring you joy as humorous. What is the guarantee that your children/grandchildren will be present in your elderly age? They could have migrated for work, 3 of my grandmothers children did just that. What is the guarantee your kids will have a relationship with…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:11 PM
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This is bs
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 02:06 PM
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She doesn’t need to propose to find out…there’s other steps before that
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 12:42 AM
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I never said anyone has to follow traditions. I understand that there is no uproar about men having to propose so a woman proposing is not the solution. Have you considered someone who isn’t following a tradition is actually ok with the tradition? That maybe a man who hasn’t proposed, is ok with the tradition he just doesn’t want to get married to that woman so that’s why he hasn’t? I considered that, which is why I made that response. Chances are, he is more than fine with the tradition and jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 08:01 PM
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You think taking care of a sick partner is fun?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 07:06 PM
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It’s a weird expectation for you to think people have to be a monolith and belief everything of a group or nothing of a group. Most people ascribe to some beliefs of a group and but not all. That’s like thinking a democrat has to support everything Biden believes or a republican has to support everything trump believes. In reality people exist predominantly in the middle.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 06:52 PM
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As others have said, laser. There is no way to fix this on your own.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 06:25 PM
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Lol there’s so many comments I’ve left on PPD over time being critical of feminism, including the one I just left responding to you previously. You sound like you can’t properly engage in a conversation so you’re trying to box me into a group that I’ve openly stated I’m not part of on multiple occasions.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 06:24 PM
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There are many men who claim to want marriage, they say that it is right around the corner and then ultimately don’t meet the commitments they make. In general though I don’t think communicating expectations should be looked at as pressuring your partner. In a long term relationship topics are going to come up that were not spoken about on day one. Sometimes a topic is discussed and people change their mind. Having a healthy relationship is being able to communicate about these topics.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 06:22 PM
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My comment wasn’t about giving sympathy to these women. It was about pointing out their lack of agency. We both agree that they should have left much earlier. The particular example focused on women but I notice in general both gender seem to lack agency in dating these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 05:59 PM
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I don’t consider myself anti feminist but I don’t consider myself feminist either. The current mainstream feminist movement is comprised of privileged women looking to get more privilege. There are things I believe in and things I don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 05:56 PM
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They often do communicate. Many have are verbally deceived by their partners and told that engagement is around the corner. Instead of following a tradition that is mainly done by a man they should just leave. There is no need to break gender expectation to be disappointed by a man that has already made his intent clear by his inaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 05:51 PM
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She doesn’t have to propose, she can just have the discussion and leave if it doesn’t happen in the timeline she wants. A man proposing is a gender expectation widely accepted pretty much everywhere. If he wanted to he would.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 05:41 PM
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Yea I don’t understand why some stay so long. Maybe fear of loneliness? There are other men and if you don’t find someone you love, romantic relationships are not the only way to fulfill your life. It’s better than being in a relationship where you are just growing more resentment.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 05:33 PM
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Because if a man/woman isn’t willing to do a tradition that is followed by the vast majority of the world, chances are they just don’t want to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 05:29 PM
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If a woman stops making an effort a man can leave. From my knowledge most if not all states cannot force someone to stay married to someone else. Marriage provides a lot of benefits: If you are sick that person is your next of kin so doctors would look to them to help with major decisions vs a relative that may not be close to your partner. It helps to protect assets. If you buy a house with someone there’s a court process to go through to determine what happens to the house. So say you as a man…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 05:28 PM
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I discovered the waiting room wed sub awhile back, it’s women upset their bfs haven’t proposed yet. It’s not uncommon to see a woman post about being in a relationship with a man for 10 years and still no ring. Why would you wait that long? It seems like there is a lack of agency with people these days. Maybe it’s because we have normalized so many different scenarios that people don’t understand what to push for in relationships and what issues to take a backseat on.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 05:05 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/s/HpOK9Z3OBE Conservative women tend to be meaner lol. Major cope
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:11 PM
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A father would help with a lot of your points. For example, you say “if a child life is abusive, what good is a father going to do”. Umm a lot of fathers would not want their child to be abused. I actually have a close friend that was sexually assaulted at 9 years old by a close family friend. They went to their father about this issue on the other hand their mother was quick to defend the abuser. Having a father isn’t going to fix everything. But yes, a child having an added adult in their life…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:09 PM
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New low today! Hopefully by Saturday I will be down 10lb
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 01:03 PM
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She was paying 300 a month but yes still a lot. I believe she ultimately maintained weight. She found she was eating slightly less but it didn’t completely remove her appetite. She also stopped working out as life got busy for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 05:48 PM
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Basically. We are seeing a lot of weight loss from celebrities. But I think that weight loss is from the hunger cues diminishing with ozempic, plus having access to fitness trainers, plus having access to nutritionist, plus having access to personal chefs. From her experience it wasn’t the miracle drug that it’s being made out to be. And from the information she was provided when she hopped on it, it does not claim to be a miracle drug, it claims you will lose 1lb a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 04:53 PM
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I have a friend on it who didn’t and up losing much. It promises 1lb a week and she was doing that on her own with just good eating and exercise. But she also believes is eating realistic portions. If she went on it and also starved she probably would have saw amazing results.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 04:38 PM
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People with years of experience in tech arnt being reached out to… Obviously shit sucks. The point of the initial post was asking for advice on how an up and coming generation could avoid it these hurdles.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 06:04 PM
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I responded to this person and I didn’t fully adress them applying to 1k+ in positions. But in my time of applying to jobs I’ve probably applied to 30 in total. And that includes all applications between 3 jobs. Times have obviously changed. There shouldn’t be an expectation to apply to over 1000 jobs in your field in order to get a good paying job.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 05:56 PM
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I have been reading r/cscareerquestions and many people are applying to that many. People with years of experience are out of work in the field for 2/3 years or have to leave it completely. I am fortunate to still be employed in tech, but what I’m reading about people’s struggle once they have lost a job or even what is happening when they come out of college is alarming. It’s from these stories alone that for the first time in my life I’m wondering if people should still go to college at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 05:53 PM
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So the reason I’m not sure if this is good advice is because this is exactly what I did and I’m now seeing it fail for people younger than me. People have always talked good about STEM majors and now so many people in tech can’t find a job. So many young people are coming out of school and can’t find employment.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 05:43 PM
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What advice would you guys give an 18 year old who wants to live a comfortable life in the future? Be able to afford their bills, live on their own, maybe go on a vacation once a year, put a little bit into savings with every paycheck. For me college was always a must. But I do feel like a lot of people are getting screwed over going to college and I’m starting to wonder if that is really the way to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 05:32 PM
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I remember reading a story on Reddit. This mother had a daughter who decided to identify as male. She supported her daughter and a year later the daughter decided to be a female again. The mother realized that had her daughter been brought up in the 90s she would have been anorexia. She was going through uncomfortable feelings about her body and instead of the media telling her to be skinny it was now tell her that she must be a man. The concept of sexuality is being on people more than ever and…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 12:33 PM
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I ignore a lot of DMs so no
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 12:17 AM
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I actually am behind on my daily schedule. I put on makeup right out the shower everyday. But I lay around in pajamas and try to avoid cleaning so those are the main changes.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 04:00 PM
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Today’s steps to romanticize my life. Put on makeup, put on a cute comfy outfit to be in my house, clean my apartment.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 03:50 PM
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It’s common sense that children are a bigger commitment than marriage. But a lot of people lack common sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 03:48 PM
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“Get that click”? What does that mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 03:47 PM
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My dad now has to go into office for a couple of days a week. He essentially worked on call, while at home. Now he’s refusing to work outside of the 9-5 hours when he goes into the office and his job is losing it. He will probably get to stay home fully again fairly soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 03:17 PM
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I read a good chunk of his manifesto years back. Entitled rich kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 03:13 PM
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Love this! Just screenshotted it so that I can reference back to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 03:07 PM
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I want to feel like my life is luxurious and easy and beautiful.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 02:31 PM
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I want to romanticize my life. Girls how do I do this? Are there any subs on this?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 01:56 PM
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I went and googled and educated myself. It’s what a lot of people who responded to me are saying. The department of education was only started in the 70s. Prior to that, certain aspects that they now handle were handled by other departments and the rest was left to the state. Which is what they are trying to return it to. Currently the department of education gets 268 billion and yet teachers are expected to pay for the supplies in their classrooms. The shut down of the department puts the power…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 01:33 PM
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What is the purpose of shutting down the department of education? What is the alternative to having a department of education?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 12:12 PM
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I understand that perspective which is why I said I would wait to make a judgement. The media is currently looking to make it seem like it’s unheard of for green card holders to lose their green card which isn’t true. So is it typical for ICE to keep the nature of an investigation private, maybe?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 05:33 PM
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When I worked In office I took breaks to talk to people all the time. I was still in office. You can’t show up to work 2 hours later than everyone else everyday though, especially, if you arnt working 2 hours laters and not end up having an issue. She has a daily standup that she’s missing multiple time every week. Her colleagues are going to eventually have an issue with the expectation for them to show up to work and for her not to.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 05:08 PM
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Full time in the office could easily be the same schedule btw. Meetings occur in tech fairly often once you’re no longer at the junior level. Also main issue is that at 10am everyday she’s dropping her kid to school. If she has to go into the office even some days she’s going to have to find a solution to this. Because a job isn’t going to be ok with her showing up to work at noon. She might as well find the solution and keep the work from home gig where she doesn’t have to deal with a commute.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 04:44 PM
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Is there expectation that their people should just be allowed to commit crimes in our country?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 04:27 PM
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It’s always a suggestion when my friends want to go out, or even for dinner dates. My bf is more inclined to lean towards Italian or American. I think there’s so many better options but people are so scared to try things they don’t know.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 04:26 PM
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She can vent all she wants. That doesn’t make her perspective correct. She’s venting because she views her company as being in the wrong for asking her to do a job she being paid to do. Remote work is still in the minority. If she looked for another job she is more likely to end up back In office.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 04:24 PM
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In the post the fact that she’s missing a daily meeting has now escalated. I also work from home and agree with you, it often comes down to just getting your work done. That being said, we arnt entitled to work under the conditions we want. If her employer expects her to attend a meeting that is occurring during her work hours it’s her responsibility to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 04:09 PM
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Just read up on it quickly. I would wait to make a judgement on this story. If he’s committed a crime then he risk deportation. Green card holders are aware of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 04:07 PM
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I don’t agree with the recent news simply because it’s like we are making up random new laws. People have always been able to protest. That being said losing your green card isn’t new. My cousins dad lost his and was deported when he beat up his wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 04:00 PM
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Maybe I’ll change my mind when/if I have kids, doubtful, but I see a lot of women complain about meetings and work expectations given that they are also taking care of kids. For example: https://np.reddit.com/r/womenintech/s/scXfQGm5iX Work from home doesn’t mean you juggle your job and parenting responsibilities at the same time. During the hours you are expected to be on the clock, your responsibilities as a parent should be delegated to someone else. Pre covid she would have been in an office…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 03:58 PM
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A McChicken is not beating sushi in a poll
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 03:10 PM
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I feel like the rest of the world would catagorize American cuisine as burgers which wouldn’t rank as high as the categories beating it on this chart.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 02:54 PM
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Masters
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 02:52 PM
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Do you live in an area with cold climate? Vitamin d deficiency is pretty common in area that get cold.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 02:52 PM
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I like pizza, I eat it rarely. It’s bread and cheese, just feels like im eating unnecessary shit. I don’t like tomato sauce, i prefer rice over pasta, and I only recently started being ok with meatballs but hated them most of my life. Actually to be specific I hated Italian meatballs. Haitians have a meatball that I loved growing up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 02:51 PM
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I am not a huge fan of Italian food, I hate that it’s so popular. Idk how it’s done it Italy, but here I feel like it’s so unhealthy compared to other food you can have.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 02:34 PM
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I’m down 3.6lb since starting with the new bodybuilding coach on Sunday. Check in is on Saturday, I’m hoping to lose another .5lb before then.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 01:04 PM
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Things happen, an accident can occur. Also there’s benefits such as social security when a spouse has passed, protection when acquiring assets, sharing health insurance, etc. If your parents were ok with marriage why did it take one person getting sick to commit to it? They were already in a relationship, recognizing in a legal way would have only benefited them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 12:53 PM
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There are legal measures you can take which may or may not hold up. The one legal measure that will hold up in marriage, as you are seen as next of kin immediately. There’s other benefits as well such as being able to get social security from your deceased spouse. Theres also protections if you use to buy assets together. The idea that marriage is just a piece of paper is a myth. There’s a lot of benefits.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 12:50 PM
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There’s a lot of benefits to marrying someone. Imagine you spend 20 years with someone they have a health issue that makes them unable to make decisions but you have no say in what treatment occurs because you are just a girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 12:18 PM
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They both sound like they are trying to convince the world that they are happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 07:35 PM
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You should say to him “hey I noticed you’re gaining unnecessary weight. Do you want to train with me?”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 04:57 PM
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This is abnormal behavior on his part.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 04:56 PM
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Maybe, I just spotted an age gap post and would engage. But i realized I’ve literally engaged with the same post on multiple occasions during my time on PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 03:28 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 03:14 PM
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How do you accidentally spend the money on a video game? Didn’t he look around and realize there’s no groceries?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 03:11 PM
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There needs to be a pinned thread that links like 10 age gap post. Everyone who wants to make an age gap post needs to read it before making their post. If you arnt presenting anything new on the topic then you can’t make your post that says the same dribble as the previous ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 03:10 PM
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I am avoiding difficult conversations. Someone I ghosted had my ig. He ended up asking me what caused me to ghost on multiple occasions and I eventually responded. There were a lot of things he said in our discussions that flagged for me. (He seemed like he had heavily bought into the red pill negatives about women). Ultimately I ended up telling him all these things I thought were negative about him and I didn’t really think that was my place. Like sure I thought his views and personality sucke…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 03:03 PM
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People can and do do whatever they feel is right. Just because it feels right doesn’t mean it’s smart. There’s a lot of people in unhappy relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 10:29 PM
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Everyone should be dating people they are attracted to. Not doing so ultimately will just lead to relationships that lack intimacy. And that might be ok for some, asexuals do exist. But it won’t be for most. So what the guy is saying isn’t ridiculous. What’s ridiculous is expecting men to find jobs that don’t exists. Most men will not find a job or have access to a job that he can fully support himself and another woman on completely. Especially a woman who wants brand name items, wants to be ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 06:07 PM
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In my field you also need certifications and it would be considered way more valuable if you got a cert during unemployment vs chose to flip burgers. I can’t speak for trade jobs. I would assume that someone who has a trade and chose a self employment route during a period of unemployment would be more favored than someone who chose to step out of their field to work a job intended for high schoolers. But I could be wrong. Either way your point of view is not particularly relevant to most jobs t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 03:26 PM
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What jobs are you hiring for? Because I know what you’re saying is not accurate to a corporate career. It would be accurate to most fields, if not all fields, I can think of that require a degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 03:19 PM
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Filling a 3 month gap with a fast food restaurant is not going to assist in getting you a job in any job that qualifies as a career. Edit: what jobs are you hiring for?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 03:14 PM
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3 months is a short period of time, im not sure why you think otherwise. Also in the OP the argument for leaving so quickly is because of a wealth disparity. A fast food job isn’t fixing OPs issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 02:41 PM
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If someone isn’t actively not choosing to work for a long period of time that is something different. But 3 months is a short time to decide your marriage isn’t worth fighting for. Also as someone in a corporate job, if I knew a colleague who lost their job I wouldn’t advise them to immediately run out and find a fast food gig. I would if advise them to spend their time applying, and hone in skills to help get another job opportunity in their field.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 02:19 PM
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I would be shocked, given that there’s no kids involved in the scenario I would be happy the trash took itself out. 3 months is a short period of time. If you’re not willing to to go through that short of a low period with someone, you shouldn’t get married in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 12:52 PM
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It does shape a man out good. Idk what it would look like for a woman to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 10:52 PM
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I’ve gotten it here and there. I suggest it. If you don’t like it, it’s not like it’s permanent.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 10:50 PM
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Bodybuilding coach. Sounds like you have a lot of experience riding the CC.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 10:49 PM
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Update: I think I found a coach I like. I’m actually really excited. Now to see how my bf reacts, he’s not as supportive of this venture.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 09:54 PM
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They don’t do much more than that tbh. They make you a meal plan and adjust it week my week and also make a workout plan that rarely gets adjusted. Literally asking for hundreds of dollars for 10 min of work tops a week after making the initial plan.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 08:51 PM
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Looking for a bodybuilding coaches. Just got off my first consult call, the cheapest coach for this particular company was 390 a month. The coach i previously worked with was 500 a month. Insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 08:41 PM
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Nah your responses wouldn’t work. You have to remember this is their first time speaking and she’s going to have multiple men reaching out. The guy has to stand out. Asking what she thinks of Paris isn’t going to make him stand out. A dad joke might be cheese but it will still get a better response that some boring “what do you think about Paris”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 05:25 PM
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I don’t think my actions would change. There would probably be less guilt.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 03:26 PM
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I agree. I wasn’t saying the celebrities are not living in reality. I was saying that the people who are trying to spin some woman hating narrative are not living in reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 01:25 PM
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What does it matter if they are coming from women?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 01:23 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/Fauxmoi/s/m7TKF2mIyK Idk why people choose not to live in reality. This has nothing to do with hating woman. One woman has been affected by age and the other has not. So a little makeup can do a lot or enhance the older woman while on the other hand it’s being used in excess on the younger woman and actually making her look older.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 04:07 AM
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I have had 4 long term relationships. 2 of the guys were on my radar as potential romantic partners and I was more passionate in those relationships than the other two. My current bf is one of those men. One guy was through a dating app. Another was my longest relationship. He was on my radar as someone I could possibly buy weed from not necessarily as a romantic interest. Almost like clockwork he came knocking on my door to invite me to a party. We got together shortly after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 02:23 AM
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I feel the author is too consumed with feeling sorry for themselves. Life happens and we all eventually develop emotional scars. But I’m not waking up crying at night. And if someone is, that is something to deal with. The idea that we wouldn’t expect a person partnered up to deal with that baggage is ludicrous. Also something that stood out to me is her excuse for eating like shit. She made a comment to suggest that someone who eats unhealthy isn’t at fault for that. They very much are. It’s ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 05:59 PM
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No one is comparing her to when she was 11. We are looking at photos of her currently and wondering why a 21 year old looks so old. No one is scouring the internet to look at the thousands of photos published. We are seeing the photos highlighted of her at premieres. If she doesn’t like the criticism she should get a new makeup team.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 03:49 PM
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Nah she looks older. But it’s the makeup they are doing on her.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 03:41 PM
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Didn’t a lot of serial killers get away with so much because of inability to check dna at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 03:40 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/TikTokCringe/s/Pu8uCycrhO This guys probably on ppd.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 03:38 PM
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I’m not into Star Wars.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 02:59 PM
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As someone who’s seeing an Ewok for the first time today, I can’t agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 02:53 PM
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Yes that’s been disneys thing of late. It’s their way of trying to make more money with the logic being that they will obviously bring in a young audience. But they will also bring in an older audience who view it as nostalgia. They will get me for lilo and stitch but I haven’t seen another live action that excited me. They are saying Snow White live action will actually really hurt Disney financially, given that a ton of people plan to boycott the movie.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 02:52 PM
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I just googled Ewok and I actually have no clue what this is and I’ve never seen it before in my life. When I initially responded to you I thought an ewok was a Wookiee.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 02:49 PM
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I don’t know much about Ewok especially at 5 years old when the cartoon movie came out. So for me it was new and fun. It’s a great storyline as well. Even as a little kid you understand the love of family and the fear of being separated from family so I feel it resonates with all ages.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 02:45 PM
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Lilo and stitch trailer came out and I’m so excited about it!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 02:40 PM
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It’s still an npc division so you can do PEDs. But the overall look they are looking for is a more natural look.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 11:55 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/musclebeauty/s/CgirBapgED This girl competes in the division i initially wanted to compete in. But it would require steroids to ultimately go pro in this division.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 04:48 PM
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No. I was very open to it prior to meeting my bf and wouldn’t mind running just one cycle lol. But he’s not a fan of me doing that so I’m not. But this new division is looking for less muscles and less hardness compared to the other female divisions. So it gives a better opportunity to women who are natural.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 04:43 PM
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There’s a new women’s bodybuilding category and I’m really contemplating if I should try to train to compete in it. I know I my man might wouldn’t like the size I have to get down to though. I think he also thinks it’s dumb so idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 04:26 PM
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I read this at 17 and fell in love with Russian literature. It led to me take a few Russian literature classes in college just for fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 04:24 PM
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I am talking about squatting with reps. I don’t power lift. She did 8 reps of 95lb. If you are squatting multiple reps of 200+, while being 135lb and not going to the gym consistently that would be very surprising.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 12:16 AM
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Most women are not squatting their body weight the second time they ever squat. Even most women who go to the gym inconsistently but have squatted many times are not squatting their body weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 12:03 AM
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My old nail tech asked me to start training her in the gym and I’m having some of the best workouts I’ve had in probably over a year. She’s 4’11, 104lb and her second time ever at a squat rack and she’s squatting 95lb. So many of the women I’ve worked out with in the past as so lazy to push themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 10:29 PM
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I reposted something on the megathread for you a couple of days ago, did you see it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 06:45 PM
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Yea second week into meeting my man I showed up at his job with food. He thought it was the sweetest thing. This is also why I advocate for women fucking their men a lot. You would be surprised at how compliant a man is when he is given affection often.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 08:15 PM
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I understand that but what is the solution? People want high paying jobs or at the very least jobs that allow you to live comfortably, which a lot of fields are not offering.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 02:32 PM
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Fair, I didn’t think of it that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 02:01 PM
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People do suggest trades here as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 01:57 PM
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What are they? I’m genuinely asking. Aside from nursing which has its own issues I feel so many majors are just money in the universities pocket.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 01:56 PM
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What other fields should people do? Isn’t the point of college to go into a field that will get you a profitable career?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 01:45 PM
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Ah ok, yea in Europe cigarettes seem a lot more popular than America.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 01:45 PM
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Are you American?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 01:43 PM
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A hot chick who does only fans or shows her ass all over her page.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 01:32 PM
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Where are you from in the world? It’s so rare for me to be around someone or even see someone smoking a cigarette.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 01:30 PM
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So people on Reddit these days are always bringing up the low birth rate and how it’s going to fuck us and blah blah. But are there going to be jobs for all these babies they want us to bring into the world? I see so many people on the CS sub stressed they can’t get a job. Will high paying jobs be available for these future people or will it be a life of poverty and struggle?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 01:29 PM
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I don’t necessarily agree because some people don’t let themselves go. They are big from a young age or something just genetically makes them unattractive that they can’t help. On the flip side there are people who are attractive who do little to nothing to be that way. They are just genetically gifted.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 01:58 AM
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I just have the belief that less conventionally attractive people are more open because they know they can’t lean on their looks so they are willing to do other things to keep a partner. I think it’s also why a lot of poly people are weird looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 01:49 AM
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Fat chicks I assume would be more open sexually than more conventionally attractive women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 01:35 AM
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I’ve approached guys before to show I’m interested. But I already know they are interested in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 01:18 AM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/moreplatesmoredates/s/ftKWEwoU3S This is for the guy looking for a woman with 19 bmi.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 01:07 AM
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Yes it is
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 02:35 PM
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This is your daily reminder that the pay gap is a myth.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 01:23 PM
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There’s a book called hood feminism and it talks about how fighting for equal pay is just about women in already privileged positions trying to get into more privileged positions. Unequal pay does not exist in the vast majority of fields.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 01:22 PM
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The only thing I care about on this list is paying for first date
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 01:17 PM
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It’s a high earning field where the work life balance is often not bad. Back when I was single doctors weren’t an option for me because even though they would make money, I imagined that they would spend a lot of time working. But I’m also in tech so not meshing with an engineer is not something I consider.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 12:36 AM
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I know on the date if there will be a next date. I only have good dates because if they are boring I entertain myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 12:00 AM
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I would not buy a house with someone I’m not married to. If you breakup there is very little legal protection. Honestly, I don’t even want to live with my bf pre engagement but I’m might have to give him that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 11:59 PM
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Why don’t you date engineers. That would be my top field to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 11:57 PM
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My man would leave me because he would be very upset that I’m not actually pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 11:56 PM
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I am not single. I was last single around this time 2022. The longest period of time I’ve been completely single was 5 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 09:06 PM
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Are these males having consensual sex or are they being taken advantage of by older women? Abuse on male children is often overlooked
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 04:41 PM
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I’m gonna add this to my book list. I’ve been trying to read more but it’s hard to find books I’m interested in. So much of what’s suggested these days are these cheesy romance books.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 04:12 PM
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I’ve had great experience with women in my field. My current manager is a woman and shes like a big sister to me. I’m super passive and chill and she’s ready to fight anytime she thinks someone is taking advantage of me. I also remember in the first year of my career there was an older lady in my department who was the secretary to the head of my department. She had a lot of pull given who she was directly reporting to. She was Dominican and thought I was Dominican. One day I came to my desk and…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 04:04 PM
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No I didn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 12:30 AM
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I’m on gymsnark all the time. I’m don’t snark much, often I’m advocating for the anti birthcontrol, antivax influencers. Today I made a comment defending a male coach who’s being blamed for the death of his female client.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 11:10 PM
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Landed on some random sub where women talk shit about this one woman because women are haters. Anyway there was a discussion about the girls body fat and I wanted peoples opinion. What do you guys think this girls body fat percentage is: https://np.reddit.com/r/SarahBowmar/s/Dnk9KGkp0Q
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 10:47 PM
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Whether or not is the best decision was never the argument. The other individual was arguing that society is encouraging on to be self autonomous. I disagree with that and point out housing is an example of how society is changing in a way to push us to be in relationships. If someone managed to stay in a sub par relationship for the majority of their twenties I would trust more that they were capable of having a successful relationship over someone who made it to their 30s with no relationship …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 09:56 PM
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Well yes, the person I’m responding to is speaking about modern society. A current economic problem would count as modern. I also mentioned in another comment that most people don’t intend to go through life with their best bud. Most people would not want a roommate in their 30s. So the solution that these people would naturally lean into is a relationship. Romantic relationships are still very much normalized more so than having a roommate past your 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 08:19 PM
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I didn’t change the argument at all. I said it is unrealistic for a person to have a good quality of life without a partner. And I said that society is the cause of that. You assumed that I was talking about emotional bonding. When I said society I meant the economy. I then in another comment gave the example of housing being something that is forcing people to be in relationships. My examples have only served to explain my first point further. The average person doesn’t make enough to be able t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 07:43 PM
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What does insurance plans have to do with people splitting cost for housing? The article literally explains that’s why people who are not single are not struggling as much. They are splitting bills with one another. Housing is a necessity. We are literally in a society that has made being in a relationship a necessity for survival. In theory we should only be entering relationship because we want to. Theory doesn’t always apply to the reality of what life is in present day.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 07:20 PM
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I’m not sure where you live but in America relationships are absolutely a need for many people to survive, it has nothing to do with needing someone as an emotional crutch. https://www.redfin.com/news/single-people-struggle-to-afford-housing-survey/
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 06:57 PM
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You would be, for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 06:04 PM
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For some people it does take effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 06:02 PM
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I disagree with that. It is actually unrealistic for the average person to live a good quality of life as a single individual for many years now. I would argue that society is pushing people to lean on relationships more than ever. And most people are not planning on going through life with their best bud. They instead plan on finding a romantic partner. The inability to acquire one for long periods of time indicates a character flaw.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:59 PM
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I think this way about both genders. For me it’s not necessarily if you’re single. It’s if you have made it to that age and were unable to have long lasting relationships. Any woman or man who was 35 and managed to not have a long lasting romantic relationships would be a red flag for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 04:39 PM
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I’m in tech. I did computer science in college. I wanted to do some sort of engineering. In my career I’ve had the job title engineer.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 02:31 PM
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There is a book called the defining decade, that adovocates for couples to not move in together till after they get engaged. The logic being that when you move in together you entangle yourself to where it can be more difficult to leave so you end up wasting years of your life or even marrying the wrong person. Me and my bf have our own places and we visit one another. I can’t see what I would get from moving in with him that I don’t already know.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 01:57 PM
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I’m pretty happy with what I ended up doing. I don’t have a desire to do anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 01:53 PM
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Left. I actually thought the guy on the right was a woman initially.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 01:52 PM
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Overdose, a couple years before he met me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:17 PM
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Someone explain the trump tariff stuff to me as if I’m 5. What is occurring? How will my life be affected? Is this a good day to buy some stocks?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 05:57 PM
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I didn’t. Actually it’s also the anniversary of his sisters death. He mentioned her death last night and my response was “omg this is our 3 year anniversary of having sex”.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 05:56 PM
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I did not. I’m not the best girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 05:22 PM
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Yesterday was the 3 year anniversary of having sex with my bf for the first time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 04:58 PM
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Maybe you’re dealing with the wrong women. I know one woman who’s told me that her family didn’t approve of her cousins bf because he didn’t have a house yet. That was so strange to me because I would want to buy a house with my partner not moving into his house. She is of a different culture than me so it maybe a cultural thing. I personally don’t care about car or materialistic things. I still drive the car my dad bought me when I was 17 and I can afford to buy another car for years now. 70k i…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 03:40 PM
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Pregnancy is traumatic on a woman’s body. We are all aware of that. If a woman chooses to have a baby that’s her choice. Why should she be compensated for a choice that she actively made?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 03:34 PM
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Depending on the age I would think the individual had something wrong with them that they were unable to maintain/attain a long term relationship. I would probably also assume that they would be a difficult partner to be with. For example, if someone (applies to both men and women) spent a majority of their adult life single and living alone they have things about their life they are use to and won’t be willing to budge on. Their ability/willingness to compromise is less than someone who has bee…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 03:31 PM
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Daily reminder to sleep, train, eat.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 08:56 PM
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I seriously cannot wrap my head around Americans supporting the continuation of the war in Ukraine
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 03:45 AM
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Did you have a point to make?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 06:14 PM
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I’ve had that same thought since I was young. I plan on doing the courthouse thing, that’s what my parents did and they are one of the few happy older couples I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 05:52 PM
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Watching season 2 of the white lotus. Everyone sucks, if the nice guy I was rooting for turns out to just be some entitled rich kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 05:51 PM
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I also don’t get what you mean by respected. Giving to respect to someone is like a basic thing. People give it to complete strangers. How were these women disrespectful to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 05:29 PM
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Why does there have to be group activity?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 05:26 PM
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Apparently
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 08:20 PM
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I also did not like her but gave her content a shot after hearing her Israel stance. Her content at least the recent stuff I’ve been watching is very entertaining to me overall I agree with the majority of her takes I’ve heard recently.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 08:19 PM
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Candace said that conservatives are hypocrites for not calling out Elon for being a deadbeat dad. She’s easily becoming my favorite independent journalist.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 08:12 PM
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Oh wow that’s not very nice of that link to do
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 08:01 PM
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I’m on here because i find dating topics fascinating. I also think PPD actually has a good variety of people compared to most other subs which tend to be an echo chamber.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 07:45 PM
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https://www.instagram.com/reel/DFaj5IMP6AI/?igsh=MTJtN3A0OWxnZTdubA== Gotta get on drugs to get into your divine feminine
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 07:43 PM
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Nah I discovered twox after the election and they are definitely crazy over there. The mensrights sub might be crazy too, I haven’t check it out. They could be be extreme cases of the genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 07:22 PM
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I’m gonna say California cause I’ve never been there. But as someone who lives 30 min from nyc and has gone there 5 times or less in the last 5 years, it’s trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 04:46 PM
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No. It happens often enough that it would get annoying to bring it up every time. I also feel like my bf might want me to cut contact with these people but I’m not good at navigating those interactions. It’s not people I know but for example if it’s a guy at the gym, what do I do? Not say hi, change gyms?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 04:15 PM
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The pilots in the recent crashes that got news coverage, were gen z?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 04:02 PM
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I remember the outfits I was wearing the first two times I talked to my partner. No clue what he was wearing. My partner is half naked all over Instagram. I said damn this man is attractive before I even met him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 03:42 PM
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I remember the outfits I was wearing the first two times I talked to my partner. No clue what he was wearing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 03:41 PM
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That’s a good answer. Mall cafeterias look nice too, compared to going to sit in a McDonalds.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 03:40 PM
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The men who genuinely want a virgin wife are not the men pushing to have sex before marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 03:38 PM
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I think that’s amazing. I didn’t add it to any of my previous comments but one source I was going to point to was the fact that men are 6 times more likely to leave their wives soon after a cancer diagnosis. For you to end up in a vulnerable position and be looked after despite the circumstances changing is great. My mom is recently retired and her income has changed and she’s surprised at certain things my dad volunteers to pay for. They have always had their designated financial responsibiliti…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 03:35 PM
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I have no clue. I don’t make that money. Which was kind of the point of my grandmothers comment. You don’t really know how someone is going to act when there is a power imbalance. You just know how they are currently when there isn’t. I do think how I view the money would be dependent on what it’s spent on as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 03:28 PM
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My partners contributions at home would not be financial contributions. I would also be contributing at home as well. This is also not my real life scenario. My partner does work and I have no intention of hurting my partner. However, I can recognize that i am protective over the money I’ve worked hard for. So despite being well intended it’s easy to fall into a situation where I would be seen as an abuser if I had a partner that did not work. The point of the comment is that despite being a gre…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 03:00 PM
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What does anything I state have to do with respect? Are you under the impression that people don’t feel protective over the things they have worked hard for?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:46 PM
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I don’t think it is. I think it also applies to women. I make a lot of money, I work hard for my money. I can’t imagine a man sitting at home not working and telling me how the money I make should be spent. I can recognize that if I was the sole provider for a home that I would have very tight purse strings on the household money and possibly be considered financially abusive. That is human nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:30 PM
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The (greatest/nicest/best) man is still likely to take advantage if given the opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:11 PM
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It means that if put in a position to take advantage a man will. For example, a woman that doesn’t have her own money is less likely to leave if a man cheats and a man would know that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:04 PM
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I don’t have kids but I expect I would continue to split the bills the same. I work a salaried position so the same amount of money would be coming in. I only intend to take off the maternity leave that my job provides which would be 4 months. I already work from home and I don’t see that changing in the future. I have no desire to be a stay at home mother. My grandmother who I consider a traditional woman (cooked, cleaned, had 5 kids, married from 18 till the day her husband passed) always said…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 01:55 PM
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That’s not true. Traditional women have always worked. A woman not working was a privilege of the rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 06:29 PM
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Q4ALL: do you feel resentment towards your parents? For those who answered yes, do you feel like having a relationship with your parents is optional?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 06:06 PM
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Have you thought of asking bf chatgpt what to bet on?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 08:08 PM
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Many women are saying her weight loss is concerning.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 08:07 PM
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Are you talking about any man commenting on dating spaces? I would guess most men on ppd who want a traditional woman don’t want that because they want a woman to rely on them. If you are talking about red pill influencers, their motivation is money.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 09:59 PM
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I don’t see what being in the manosphere or being a passport bro has anything to do with it. These men saying they want a traditional relationship, I don’t see them saying they want a stay at home wife. So the conclusion you’ve come to that they want a woman who can’t leave seems false.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 09:53 PM
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I actually don’t think so. I think that most men who say they want a traditional woman, want a woman who makes them feel like they are the leader in the relationship. The unfortunate thing is that a lot of men seem unable to do enough to make their woman feel comfortable enough to relax and let him lead.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 09:40 PM
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That’s how humans work.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 09:38 PM
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Trying to impress a woman they just met by offering money. I remember on 90 day fiancé there was one woman who was unemployed, two kids and the guy (an American) paid all her bills. People were quick to judge her as if she forced him to do that and was using him. But she was doing sex work, that’s how they met, and he offered to take her out of that life. He offered to pay her rent and buy her new furniture and give her money for her kids. She obviously accepted it when he offered but he was the…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 08:23 PM
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They are upset because they wanted more than sex from having sex. They wanted to have a full relationship. They arnt attached but they view sex in some personal way and they wouldn’t have done it if they knew they wouldn’t get the relationship out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 08:20 PM
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They are in their 20s. Many people have an inflated view of themselves and hope they are the exception. Also people who are desperate are not going to be thinking in a logical way. It’s the same reason there are men who will loses thousands to a woman. Surely most men know that a woman’s love isn’t contingent on giving her money and yet there are men who end up in relationships with women who contribute little and demand a lot financially.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 08:16 PM
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There are a lot of women who are having sex with men hoping to gain commitment from it. That’s not a revenge fantasy that’s reality. Its pretty easy to go to a dating subs and find a post of a woman annoyed/upset that’s she’s slept with a man pretty quickly and he’s no longer speaking to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 08:10 PM
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Not really. My bf enjoys it, but only certain skits.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:20 PM
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It’s not being paid for that. This individual lost their passport and had to get another.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:40 PM
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It isn’t performative when she will ultimately experience life through the lens of a black individual. People who don’t know this woman will view her and treat her how they would treat other black people. Thats the real reason I would have no issue calling her black, because she’s taken significant steps to actually live the perceptive of the identity she claims.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:39 PM
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If a white individual turned themself black I would recognize them as black. For example, I would have no issue recognizing this woman as a black woman https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Martina_Big
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:18 PM
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It’s my own. But just because someone chooses otherwise doesn’t mean we have to abide by their choice. If a white individual asked you to recognize that they are black despite having no black lineage you would not.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:07 PM
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I never said anything about clothes. Someone can be wearing a dress and still look and be a man. In the majority of cases sex often does match visual representation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:06 PM
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Yes, visually the person in the post I linked looks like a woman. It’s more confusing imo to put their biological sex when they look nothing like it. What other things is it used for besides identifying someone visually? Edit: I’m not trying to imply anything. I’m literally stating an opinion clearly
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 05:55 PM
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Why would I address a man, who looks like a man, as a woman? I’m a quarter Indian. Most people who dont live in diverse environments immediately assume I’m fully black, I’m half. I don’t demand that people recognize my Indian side. I recognize that I don’t look Indian and it’s silly to make emphasis of that to complete strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 05:53 PM
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Lily Tino looks like a man and should be address as such until he takes the necessary steps to look like a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 05:45 PM
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In terms of the context of the video they changed her passport to male. She looks like a woman, sounds like a woman. I would think it’s more confusing for someone who has to look at her passport in the airport to see M for male. Biological gender should definitely be acknowledged in sports. But in this context it seems useless to acknowledge it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 05:44 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/Fauxmoi/s/RHbXsEUkIQ I do think if someone looks like a woman and wants to be called a woman we should oblige. This individual has taken the steps to be called a female.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 05:39 PM
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My man is a natural financial provider. I moved less than 2 months after meeting him and he surprised me at ny apartment with dishes. We were serious for a while and he would still buy groceries for me. He’s paid my rent in the past, pays for things for my business, pays for things with my car. He comes from a background where women often don’t have the best jobs and men are just expect to cover a lot of the cost so for him this is just the norm of being a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 04:06 PM
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Give her an inaccurate view of men and dating, make her unnecessarily distrust of both.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 03:59 PM
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Finding this place at 18 is not great.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 03:15 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/Christianmarriage/s/BnmyPFJyCL Q4All: do you think shorter men struggle to get women to submit?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 02:02 PM
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Being a surrogate vs raising a child as your own are two completely different things. The government does not recognize blood. It recognizes who is on the birth certificate.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:02 PM
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Your facial features arnt immutable. You can get work done.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 03:13 PM
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It’s insane how blindly people believed in the Covid vaccine.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 03:11 PM
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About to watch Candace’s latest episode and she’s supposed to discuss if conservatives are really frauds in regard to Elon musk baby mama drama. I commented on someone discussing that here a couple of days ago so let’s see if Candace says the right thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 06:31 PM
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Im actually banned from r/Conservative. I actually consider myself conservative but I guess I wasn’t conservative enough for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 06:10 PM
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How does that work?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 04:04 PM
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One of the subs is r/Fauxmoi. They have over 4 millions followers. I can’t imagine they are white listing every account manually.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 04:03 PM
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I doubt I’ll do a wedding but if I did I would have kids. It’s so dumb not to.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 04:01 PM
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I notice that some subs I comment and from my end it looks like my comment was posted but it’s actually not visible to anyone. Does anyone know why that would happen?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 03:58 PM
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She’s using a google pixel and in portrait mode. If you’re looking for a good camera it’s way better than Apple.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 05:45 PM
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It’s my parents 26 anniversary today and my mom did a tea for her and my dad, so cute: https://imgur.com/a/s8Vnyiw
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 04:19 PM
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Men this is the type of woman to avoid ^
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:24 PM
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I might be biased because I have been really liking Candice but in her defense she’s very pro life. One of her main ads on her videos is for a hotline to help reverse abortions if you’ve taken pill version to terminate pregnancy. So I don’t necessarily think she would have supported aborting the child simply because it was out of wedlock. This is an example though, of why people should just live their lives how they want. People are quick to criticize others and yet they are living the same life…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 12:03 AM
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What is the drama?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 11:50 PM
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It’s not degrading for someone to figure out if there is chemistry before investing in someone. You arnt proving yourself, both of you are figuring out if there is a possibility of a future. Why should a man invest in a woman or anything at all before knowing if it’s worth it? That’s not how anyone with common sense operates in regards to anything in life. Unless you are upper middle class, which most people are not, it shows a lack of financial intelligence to spend 200 on a first date. A man d…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 11:47 PM
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Programming is a skill. What languages can you code in? There’s a lot of advice on cs interview subs to help with what steps to take to get employment.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 11:36 PM
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Ngl ppd is one of the better subs on this site. I don’t hang out on a lot of male dominated subs, but the female focused subs I’ve been on recently have me rolling my eyes so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 08:51 PM
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I’m one of the good women here.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 08:45 PM
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Your mindset isn’t one that takes accountability. A large part of getting a good job is not luck or networking. You apply for jobs. You develop skill sets to get you the interview. You do well on the interview because you made sure to educate yourself. Whether you do all of that is in your control.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 10:33 PM
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Interesting. Not something I thought of. I’ve been thinking more about how I would parent recently, if I had kids. In my head, I feel that in some part the parents are probably at fault for the child’s failure to launch.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 10:25 PM
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Your issue your arnt taking accountability for your life. I have networked over the years and I have people I can reach out to for referrals or even a job but I have yet to have to lean on my network for a job. A big part of success is taking control of your own life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 10:22 PM
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Why do you guys believe are the reasons for failure to launch in young adults?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 10:20 PM
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I think ENM is more popular nowadays because of people’s fear of missing out. Not because people naturally gravitate to being in a relationship with more than one person. I am fulfilled sexually and emotionally with my one person so I don’t see why I would need another.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 09:57 PM
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It doesn’t have to be greedy. It’s a nice day. You can do something small and simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 12:34 AM
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I love see people celebrate love on Valentine’s Day
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 09:10 PM
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Ok nvm he might be smarter
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 07:00 PM
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My mom is doing a Valentine’s Day tea with me, my bf, and his mom. The boiler at my mom’s house konked out yesterday though so it’s gonna be pretty cold till someone comes to fix it later. I didn’t buy my bf anything. I think he’s running around trying to buy me something right now. I also had my first day of “work” in 8 weeks today. I’m ready to just sleep and relax, which is what I’ll be doing later.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 06:54 PM
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If it’s any consolation, he might not be smarter. He might have just been more charismatic in the interview.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 06:36 PM
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Not really. She is a regular woman who is willing to degrade herself to keep her access to money. This isn’t a celebrity marriage, it’s a celebrity man married to a regular woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 06:35 PM
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Idk if this is true. In regard to dating I feel a lot of single men are blaming single women and vice versa. In regard to reproducing and marriage, people are opting out of it because they view kids as a lot of responsibility they don’t want. People opting out of marriage are just dumb and don’t understand/know the benefits of marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 05:01 PM
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Women don’t easily walk away from rich men. Especially women who don’t have much outside of being with that man.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 04:59 PM
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Well from logical standpoint, her mistress didn’t betray her, her husband did. So she knowingly created a situation to cause physical harm to a woman that ultimately didn’t owe her loyalty. She can be a victim of betrayal and she can also be a culprit in perpetrating violence. Both can be true.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 04:57 PM
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From the article I saw it said he wanted a new muse. Why are you guys assuming she would leave? This woman has no self respect. She’s been walking around barely clothed in public for years now to keep him happy. Pre Kanye she was an architect with a masters degree, she’s literally willing to degrade herself for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 04:29 PM
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There was a post on Reddit from a woman whose husband cheated on her. She was aware that her husband’s mistress was also married and that the mistresses husband was abusive. She decided to call the mistresses husband,knowing this information, and he beat his wife so badly that she ended up in the hospital. She then hopped on Reddit and wanted sympathy because her husband was so disturbed by her behavior that he left her for good. She actually got a decent amount of support (probably still over 5…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 04:26 PM
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Yes it’s that bad. Most anorexic women I’ve seen were never even fat and were pretty pre anorexia.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 04:20 PM
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She’s dumb. She let him have all this control, let him publicly humiliate her only for him to leave. Even if they didn’t actually split, they will at some point.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 04:19 PM
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I think Kanye went full nazi prior to this when he was with her so idk if it’s that. I actually wouldn’t be surprised if he was the one that left her.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 04:04 PM
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I just sent this to my man
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 03:59 PM
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Kanye and his wife supposedly split. Imagine going fully naked for a man in public and you guys break up 2 weeks later.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 03:59 PM
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I knowingly didn’t pay my gas bill for months in my new place because the gas company annoyed me. (They refused to take my name off the bill at my old place because they were unable to access the meter, but the meter was in another tenants apartment) Anyway the gas got shut off and I was like fuck it, I don’t cook anyway. I got taught a lesson really quick when my water for my shower wouldn’t get hot 😂 They took 3 weeks to come and turn it back on, I was tempted to call them and say I had a baby…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 06:57 PM
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That girl is lying and her outfit is ugly. I was a cutie when I was in office wear. There’s lots of fun outfits. Now I’m just in gym clothes everyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 06:39 PM
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The woman whose sons didn’t come to her funeral, was she of a culture that values sons. Indian culture values sons a lot. But from what I’ve seen, the sons are the ones that remain home with the parents. The daughters marry and leave. Not saying the daughters don’t care, I’m sure they do. But they have set up their culture to have the sons support the parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 06:37 PM
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No, Chad is about physical appearance. Being a Chad has nothing to do with dark triad.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 06:35 PM
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I don’t think so. I think it’s definitely what the initial message/messages are. But as I mentioned in another comment, if a woman have mutuals with someone I feel like she’s automatically going to be more open to getting to know you vs you being a complete stranger in her head.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 05:17 PM
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Yes the first scenario is what I was thinking of. If you have mutuals with someone, they are more inclined to give you time vs a complete stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:55 PM
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I have a friend whose relationship started in a similar way. Her family and her bfs family were acquaintances that were at the same wedding. They are Indian and it would have been inappropriate to approach her in front of her family. Her now husband, found her ig after the wedding, and started talking to her that way. My first interaction with my bf was also through Instagram.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:54 PM
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Something I don’t see mentioned a lot here, sliding into someone’s DMs might be the best way to go about partnering up. I believe the stats show that most people are now pairing up from meeting online. But people also say that online doesn’t equate to online dating. Meaning that a good chunk of couples must be pairing up via social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:34 PM
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I’ve actually taken personality test where I’ll switch from extrovert to introvert on the results but it’s always between 50-60% in one direction.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 03:33 PM
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After 8 weeks on the bench at the consulting firm I work for, I finally have another client. Ngl it’s been great to get paid to lay around and do nothing, this was my first time on the bench in 2 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 03:31 PM
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What do you do for a living? Most people with careers are doing similar work, just growing their knowledge in that field. Doing something completely different doesn’t sound very stable.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 01:51 PM
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Maybe I’m going to botch this explanation but the concept of league of legends is that you have champions that fight against one another on two different teams. Arcane is the backstory of several champions that are in league of legends.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 01:50 PM
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Wasted it in what way? It’s less wasted because you did the same thing for different companies? When I first got out of college I thought I would hop around to a lot of job but now I’m at my third company where I’m appreciated and compensated well. I have no clue when I plan to leave cause what’s the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 01:43 PM
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No I would think that type of man is dumb
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 01:41 PM
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She is not big enough that weight would be impacting her.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 12:02 AM
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That particular woman either has really high standards or some major baggage we don’t know about. Because she is pretty and I’m sure would do very well on dating apps (she claims she’s on them). In general though I think a lot of women don’t prioritize relationships. I know women who desperately want the family life but afraid to put themselves out there. One particular friend of mine is afraid of the impact ghosting may have on her self esteem. At the same time she isn’t getting any younger so …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 11:58 PM
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I think white people are more normalized for all races as they are more prevalent in the media we consume. I remember really enjoying the Netflix show Beef, and it was so interesting to me being that it was a predominantly Asian cast. And yet I don’t think twice about a show that only has white people. That being said I can easily see myself dating someone of my own race or someone white.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 11:52 PM
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Why is this relevant? Maybe you should be asking why men only like white women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 11:47 PM
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I have no clue what to say in it. My bf has given me multiple cards and the things he’s said in them are so beyond sweet. Im just not that good with vocalizing my love for someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 07:08 PM
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I did nothing. He wanted a card and still tells me I owe him a card for last year. He got me jewelry. This year I’ve booked a restaurant for us. Maybe I’ll get him a card, I don’t care if he gets me anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 06:04 PM
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Yes. I think that ultimately they were in a toxic relationship. I think when the case was being publicized in the media there was a gloss over of the fact that this man was an addict. I remember she was criticized by his lawyer for sending a photo of him passed out to her friend and saying “this is what I’m dealing with”. As if it’s not normal to seek support in friends and family. It’s unlikely that any relationship that has drugs and adultery involves is not going to be toxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 05:54 PM
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We don’t know if she was a bad woman when she met him. We do know he was an addict when he met her. I didn’t jump to her defense. I didn’t even say she was a victim. I can recognize that it is not easy to love someone and be in a relationship with someone who is an addict. It’s weird to see men defend a man simply because he is a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 05:52 PM
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Had what coming?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 05:48 PM
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I do agree that celebrities are basically aliens.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 05:19 PM
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Jonny depp was an addict and an adulterer. You shouldn’t sympathize with him simply because he’s a man. There are actual good men to sympathize with.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 05:18 PM
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There are bad women who are with good men. Amber heard wasn’t one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 05:17 PM
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I don’t really believe in passport broing especially if a man is looking for actual love. But I will admit there’s at least one man every season of 90 day, that would struggling with dating in America, but finds a foreign woman completely devoted to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 05:16 PM
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Are you trying to say something?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 05:12 PM
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She shouldn’t have claimed domestic violence. But his toxicity most likely led to her toxicity. Moral of the story: don’t date an addict
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 05:09 PM
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Amber heard was wrongly convicted in the court of public opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 05:01 PM
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Most of them
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 05:54 AM
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By later in life she simply meant whatever age Lilly chose to settle down. Lilly herself also expressed concerns about being able to find a man when she’s ready to settle down and start a family. Candace did not bring up athletes. I’m sure the type of man Candace approves of would not be interested in Lilly. That was a just example from my head of what I think she could land, that other women would want. I was actually thinking of the entertainment bubble when I thought of who she could end up w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 01:35 AM
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Well I do think she can pull a rich, attractive man, who is attentive to her. By HVM I really just meant a man other women would seek out. For example, I could easily see her landing a professional athlete.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 01:20 AM
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Yea I’m thinking the same. I can easily see a lot of men that women would want, going after Lilly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 01:14 AM
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So I’m watching Candice Owen’s talk to Lilly Philips and Candice believes Lilly will not be able to get a man of quality partner later on in life. What do you guys think of that? Do you agree with Candice? I’m not sure I agree with Candice. I think this girl is pretty enough that despite her behavior she is still in a better position to get a HVM than the average woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 01:11 AM
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Yes she looks soft. Like If I saw her walking down the street I would never think, “that woman has been in multiple gangbangs”.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:43 PM
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I expected her to have a more hardened look. I imagine that type of lifestyle just weighing down the body.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:42 PM
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No, she looks soft. I would expect a more hardened look to a woman who lives that lifestyle. Race was not something I thought of.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:41 PM
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Lily Phillips looks nothing like what I would expect a woman of her lifestyle to look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:49 PM
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This was the initial comment. I had posted it on the megathread a few days ago. https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/zjnQXuV11h
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 01:36 AM
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I talked to my bf before coming to PPD as mentioned. I think that your assessment is a bit off. Another commenter understood our situation better, we act as partners in both of our businesses yet have no legal commitment which is the issue. I assume that will be resolved if we decide to get married. Currently both of us give advice on how our money should be spent on the businesses and both of us are active in one another business. In regard to validating my feelings, he can understand my feelin…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 11:39 PM
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In what way?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 11:02 PM
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15 an hour is equivalent to the life of many Americans. Your sarcasm doesn’t negate the fact that you were trying to claim that these people were making slave wages. Most illegals come here because they believe their is an opportunity in this country that they wouldn’t have in their own the same way this women went to a country she felt had an opportunity for her that she wouldn’t get in America. It’s that simple. Everyone isn’t a victim fleeing something.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 11:01 PM
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I don’t understand what you’re saying here “all relationships involve a partner not making decisions you agree with and negative traits”. Can you expand on this? Was this something you said to me or is just a hypotheses you have in general? I guess it shows compassion but you can’t have so much compassion that you’re fucking yourself over at the same time. It would be one thing if he had a ton of money coming in, but at the moment the money coming in pretty much covers all the bills and very lit…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 09:25 PM
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So update on my dilemma with my bf if anyone’s interested. So the night before I even brought this to PPD I made a passive aggressive comment about the fact that he was giving his cousin money I had worked for. He agreed immediately and said he understood why I felt the way I did. Now this is typical of my bf. He agrees with me, he validates my feelings but it doesn’t necessarily mean anything will change. Well the next day he calls me, this is after I’ve already posted on PPD, and without me br…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 08:30 PM
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I will give an update on another comment
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 08:02 PM
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Minimum wage is much higher than 7.25 in many states. I don’t know why youve convinced yourself that every illegal is fleeing something. You’ve even convinced yourself that every illegal doesn’t speak English which simply isn’t true. Guess what people come here for various reasons. Some people come here just because they think life in America would be better but they have a fine life in their own country. Some people also come here who like that woman in Pakistan are not of sound mind. If you re…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 08:02 PM
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I’m not manipulating anything. Im clearly anti illegal immigration and I’ve made other comments about it before. But I was pointing out how people can clearly see how silly this woman is but have normalized this same behavior in America. I asked you a question and you have chosen to not answer it because the reality is that there are illegals coming here who fall into the same category as this woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 07:51 PM
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Do you believe everyone who comes to American is sane and fleeing persecution?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 07:42 PM
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Do you really believe everyone who comes to America is illegally is fleeing crime? The shittiest jobs? Tons of illegals work in restaurants in America and guess what Americans apply for those jobs. Many are discriminated against, especially black Americans. Also many of these illegals are making minimum wage and higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 07:41 PM
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Yup
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 07:25 PM
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Yup that’s her. Went to a country because she saw a benefit to going there and now refusing to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 07:25 PM
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Everyone is looking at this lady in Pakistan like she’s crazy for going into these people’s country and just staying there. But it’s supposedly racist to be against people doing just that in America.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 07:10 PM
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I’m catching up on the Justin baldoni and Blake lively drama and it seems like this woman ruined her career to make her jealous husband, Ryan Reynolds, happy. I believe in standing by your man and validating him but sometimes you have to also set him in his place.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 07:18 PM
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I did and it ended up being probably the best first date I went on.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 02:10 PM
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I did CS and I sat in lecture halls with maybe 90 guys and 10 girls. Got asked out once in 4 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 01:53 AM
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He helps me quite a bit in my own business. The only difference is his business needs daily attention whereas mine does not. I help him that much because I would rather him get to save money than spend it on an extra employee and I enjoy helping him. My main issue is that the money is going to his scumbag family. If that wasn’t the case I wouldn’t consider asking for compensation.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 03:12 AM
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What does being partners mean when you say that? Is that only through marriage? I can’t imagine giving him a stake in my properties when I’m not married to him. And if we were to get a divorce I would want my properties to be 100 percent mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 04:53 PM
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Just poor life decisions. They are single with two kids from different women. They always need money for something. Help with rent, help with something for the kid. Job isn’t paying enough. It would be difficult to hire someone else financially. He actually has a grill cook who quit because he’s afraid to leave his house because of ICE and we were discussing not even replacing him and just working harder so there’s extra money from not paying him.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 04:51 PM
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I guess the big issue with asking for compensation is where to draw the line. I am thinking about asking for compensation for the busiest day I work which is a full 12 hour day. But I am there doing something for his business daily. Tomorrow, he will go and change the locks on one of my apartment doors for me since the tenant moved out. I don’t plan on compensating him for that. I’m concerned that asking for money will disrupt the dynamic we have. But at the same time I’m become resentful.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 04:28 PM
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Another user brought up not working for him. Maybe that is the solution. I feel sad about that because I do work for him simply because I enjoy it. We both like spending a lot of time together. But I am also becoming angry and resentful over the situation. I honestly would rather see him save the money, not give it to me or to his cousin. But in my head if he’s giving it to anyone it should be me first since I’m working so hard. I will have to probably have a deeper discussion on how i feel with…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 04:23 PM
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He can pay his cousin sure. But he’s paying his cousin with money he would have to pay a staff member if I didn’t work for free. I work for him because I want to help him. Maybe I will bring up not working for him but he will then have to find someone to replace me and he loses the money either way. I did bring up his cousin to him. He said he will talk to his cousin but I know either way when his cousin is in another tight bind and he comes for money he will help him.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 04:19 PM
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I brought up his cousin but I didn’t bring up compensation. I feel bad bringing it up because we both help one another but I definitely help a lot more and I’m very physically and mentally tired because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 04:16 PM
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So in my tiredness yesterday is when this actually dawned on me. I never thought about being compensated because I helped because wanted to. But yesterday I was like wtf am I doing. I actually did bring it up to him and he said he will talk to his cousin but I don’t really feel like that’s a solution for me. Because I know him and I know when his cousin comes for help again he’s gonna still give it. I feel like I need a solution where I don’t become resentful and I feel like that would be throug…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 04:14 PM
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I agree. I feel bad asking for this because we would well together. There are times when some emergency is happening at my rental and I will stay in the restaurant and work while he goes to my rental and handles it. I feel like we have a relationship where we just support one another. But I also feel exhausted and I’m starting to feel angry that he’s easily giving away money to someone while we work so hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 04:09 PM
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I post on the last megathread the minute this one spawned so I’m reposting my dilemma. So here’s the issue. Me and my man both have businesses, he has a restaurant and I have rental properties. We both help one another cause that’s just what partners do. But I definitely help him more. We do it because we enjoy spending time with one another. My bf is an enabler and has been giving a lot of money to a cousin who’s struggling. I’m getting upset because I feel this person mismanages their money. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 04:02 PM
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Ok guys so here’s my dilemma. Me and my man both have businesses, he has a restaurant and I have rental properties. We both help one another cause that’s just what partners do. But I definitely help him more. We do it because we enjoy spending time with one another. My bf is an enabler and has been giving a lot of money to a cousin who’s struggling. I’m getting upset because I feel this person mismanages their money. I’m in my bfs restaurant pretty much daily, I do his social media promo, I wait…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 04:00 PM
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Guys I have a dilemma with my man. Should I post it here? I don’t really want to post it on a relationship sub cause I feel like people are so dramatic with their responses on those subs.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 03:51 PM
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Having a dog is like having a baby. Having a cat is like having a teenager.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 01:45 PM
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Looks for both
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 01:46 PM
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Approach sure. Once you have been approached both people need to make an active effort to engage with one another
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 01:34 PM
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People who are interested in you are going to text you
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 01:05 PM
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That’s beautiful. There’s definitely many ways to experience motherhood and under the right circumstances I don’t think the nuclear family is a necessity.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 06:47 PM
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I do believe that if people want to be parents they don’t necessarily need to have a partner. I have a cousin who desperately wants to be a mother. She’s a doctor and makes a good income. She just broke up with her bf of 4 years and is now 36. I don’t see why she doesnt go the sperm bank route or find a man who’s ok signing away his rights to a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 06:27 PM
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Week 2 of 20 done. Down 5lb! This week I’m keeping the same diet, same workout place but increasing steps by another 1000 to 10k.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 06:23 PM
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Responding to someone who commenting on something I said isn’t acting like a moderator. It’s kind of sad how low effort your responses are that you keep deleting them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 11:40 PM
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Someone not having the same opportunity as other doesn’t mean they have a right to go into someone else country. I do wish people the best in their country. Where did you see that I blame anyone? I can understand people desires to leave their country. I can also understand that having a desire to not be in your country doesn’t give you a right to someone else’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 09:16 PM
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I also hope that I have one girl. If I have a boy I might have to try again. But then if it’s another boy I’m done.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:36 PM
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The country that your ancestors helped create is still here. The pain your ancestors went through isn’t currently occurring to them. I never said a person in third world country deserves less than me. They are free to have the same as me in their country.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:34 PM
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You’re right. I did not word it correctly.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:31 PM
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Actually multiple people understood what I was saying and someone actually commented to you backing up my point about illegals.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:27 PM
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Someone who is illegal is an immigrant that just came here. Yes they could be people on visas but becoming an American citizen is not something that happens overnight.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:24 PM
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I should have said illegal immigrant. I assumed that was understood when I said an immigrant that just came here. There is nothing we can do about legal citizens. I am talking about people who are against deportation and believe that people who are not here legally have equal right to be here.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:17 PM
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I don’t think they are our business. We can’t support everyone. Legal Americans need to be priority before we give charity to anyone else. I am not a huge fan of getting rid of student debt. But I would much prefer to see our government money go to that before it goes to support people who arnt here legally.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:14 PM
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Illegal immigrants who are here came here of their own accord and chose to stay in a country unlawfully. That’s their choice. No one forced them to do that. Also there are people who have just come to this country illegally and they havent even given anything back at all to the country. Yet people think they have a right to be here.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:12 PM
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It looks like understanding that if you are an American especially several generations that you have a right to the country. I didn’t say to implement anything. I just see people of all races who think people here who arnt even here legally have an equal right to the country. That’s a dumb thing for them to have told themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:10 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:08 PM
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Are you talking about immigrants that are not legal citizens like people on visa? There are legal citizens that are also immigrants.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:56 PM
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Why does someone living here illegally deserve the same opportunities?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:54 PM
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People who come from generations of people who have built this country absolutely do deserve to be first in line to the opportunities that their ancestors created for them. To say America is the land of immigrants as if generations of people haven’t been living here for years is to try and disregard the hard work that people have put in to make this country. And when I say that I’m talking about all races. Imagine being a decedent of slaves, your ancestors literally suffered and died to help cre…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:53 PM
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She’s not interested, she’s trying to bail. Don’t message her, move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:47 PM
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I don’t understand how some Americans have managed to convince themselves that they deserve the same or less opportunities in this country than an immigrant who just came here.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:46 PM
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They could be dealing with things mentally or have witnessed things that they are trying to protect you from.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:43 PM
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Maybe they see how the lives they loved negatively impacted them and they are trying to protect you from that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:33 PM
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When I grey I can’t see myself embracing my greys. I don’t understand why other women are doing it. Aging themselves for no reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:10 PM
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I wouldnt expect an engagement in that situation I would just expect to go down to a courthouse and get married. Which is exactly what my parents did. No ring involved, no official engagement, they just went down to the court house and got married. My mom bought herself a band a few years later and my dad has never worn a ring.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:55 PM
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Completely agree. I think he’s handling it how he should. I think he could even fully walk away and he would be in his right to do so. But the whole situation just sucks for the kid. Similar situations have happened in my family and it was great for the kid because the bio dads were absolute trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:19 PM
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Yes I suppose. Very similar situations have occurred in my family and those men have stood by the child and raised them as their own fully. It’s been so pivotal in how the child ended up growing up. I definitely think the guy has a right to even fully walk away if he wants. But even just removing financial assistance I think could be difficult for the child to understand. That child only knows him as a father, he’s not going to see it the same way we as people from the outside will.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:04 PM
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Damn that sucks. Basically he found out his 12 year old son wasn’t his. He decided to get a divorce, he still wanted to be close to the child but he no longer wanted to take care of the child financially.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 03:43 PM
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I tried therapy for the first time 3 years back. I didn’t stay in it for long but the first session gave me a whole new perspective on how I had lived my life. It was pivotal on how I chose to move forward with my 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 03:42 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/AShq78mM1h I have mixed feelings about this post. I get how he feels betrayed so i understand getting a divorce. But don’t you still have enough love for the child to want to be the father that is there. I might be biased given that there are similar situations in my family.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 03:37 PM
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I don’t think they will get divorced. It’s just not a thing people in high positions do often. She also lost her mother last year. So she may just care less to put on fake smiles around people she doesn’t care for, while she’s grieving.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 03:05 PM
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Yes. I lowkey want to do that with my current bf but I know he’s not gonna be down for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 02:16 PM
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Not actually what I did
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 02:33 AM
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Could be where you live. I live in an area where I see women daily with BBLs and boob jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 01:32 AM
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Because you don’t know people you meet on dating apps you are more likely to keep your standards high because there is no emotion for the other person that pushes you to comprise.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 12:10 AM
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This might be true if you meet someone organically but I’m doubtful if it applies if you meet on an app.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 11:57 PM
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DEI programs are just there to look nice. Diversity isn’t particularly common in many workplaces and even the few people who make the place look “diverse” are there on merit. I have only ever got called backs to job when I put white as my ethnicity. Another user here showed a Stanford study where white men with criminal records were still considered more than black men that had all the qualifications and no criminal record.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 11:55 PM
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It depends on how flattering the clothes are on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 05:09 PM
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lol my shirt is pulled up for 5 min to take a photo I’m not walking around in a bra or shorts that could be underwear. Werid that you have photos saved of me btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 05:07 PM
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It’s 26 degrees and multiple women are in the gym with shorts on or their stomach fully out. Insane behavior. You can still look hot with clothes on.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 04:31 PM
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I don’t think I’ll be doing it but I do think it’s a good idea for people to opt out of social media. Especially young people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 03:54 PM
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“The claim i was alluding to affirmed that increased loneliness in males is a result of bad character the stats directly contradict that” Umm here you are saying exactly that but ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:45 PM
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The initial post looked to say “women claim that they care about morals and yet they sleep with criminals”. My response has been pointing out that your points to make this claim don’t go together. The women claiming the first part are not the ones sleeping with criminals.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:31 PM
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I was never counting your point. All my comments have clearly stated your points to make your argument don’t go together. If you said bad behavior doesn’t always matter because women who live amongst gang members are ok with sleeping with gang members, I would say sure. Instead I’m saying celibate men who are celibate because of poor personality and morals probably don’t live amongst women that have normalized poor morals.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:18 PM
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It was a first date so I can’t say I like his company more because I didn’t know him all that well. But honestly, i would prefer to pair up with someone who enjoys the same things as me. I believe that many couples become a “roommate” situation because when all the partying and drinking is done they don’t actually have anything in common. Being in a new relationship will drive you to compromise on things that you really shouldn’t compromise on. You might be thinking “oh I would love to cook for …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:14 PM
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I’m not changing any goal post. I’m explaining why your points don’t back up your argument. Your response to me basically said you are knowingly make an argument in poor faith. I don’t know what women you have had debates with that act like women have a hive mind. But they don’t. If you make an argument acting like women have a hive mind people are going to point out that they don’t and so your points to make your argument do not work together.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 05:54 PM
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The women in the second point that are interacting with these men are different from the women in the first point. They are more likely to come from broken homes, more likely to be in a desperate financial situation, more likely to be looking for a man to help them. They are going to make morally poor decisions the same as the men in their community because that is what they know. It’s silly to think that men and women act the same in all demographics and social classes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 05:41 PM
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Yea if you don’t drink and the place has a limited variety of what you can eat it can definitely put you in a difficult spot. I love to try new restaurants and i remember going out with a guy once who discovered that he needed to change his eating habit or he would develop crohns. He had to give up gluten and I remember being on the date and thinking how am I going to have a relationship with this guy, he can’t do the one thing I love doing, eating.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 05:39 PM
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That was my yesterday
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 05:34 PM
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I don’t feel like these stats are connected. There are a lot of women who will never interact with criminals and gang members. The men in your second point are not dealing with the women in your first point. Also nondrinker does make you a bit of an outcast as an adult and can make it harder to pair up. And I say that as a non drinker.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 05:32 PM
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Yes, that’s why in my first sentence I used the word partner. If any man or woman asked for this it should be a red flag. I guess the individual being asked could use it to their advantage but like what is the purpose of the relationship at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 05:11 PM
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How come no one is seeing how sketchy/weird it is for your partner to say you’re not allowed to let people know you guys are dating. At best, she’s embarrassed of you. The worst, she’s embarrassed of you and she has another bf.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 04:44 PM
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I weighed in today. I’m down .4lb which isn’t a lot. But the goal is 1lb a week. One day I’ll have abs again
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 04:01 PM
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I am a nice person. But I’m not good, I’m morally grey.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 01:31 PM
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I’ve never done a date where I’m getting drinks at a bar and probably never will. I was/am against those type of dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 01:29 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 12:33 PM
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Yes it is relevant because it has nothing to do with the definition of mutually beneficial. We should never have discussed tangible benefit. We discussed it because you claimed that it was a requirement and I didn’t fact check before continuing the conversation. You were incorrect. Something DOES NOT need to be tangible for it to be mutually beneficial.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 02:43 AM
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Yes, what about my comment that I just said to you has to do with tangible? You were the one that initially said something had to be tangible to be mutually beneficial and you were wrong. It doesn’t. What facts are you looking for?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 02:26 AM
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“Also the definition of mutually beneficial is “When two people or groups work together to achieve a shared goal”. If a man’s goal is for the woman he is with to be comfortable and her goal is to be comfortable then him giving her money is mutually beneficial.” Money is not the mutual beneficial thing. The fact that they are achieving a shared goal is why it is mutually beneficial.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 02:17 AM
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My money argument does stand. I literally explained how it correlates to the actual definition of mutually beneficial.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 02:14 AM
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Tangible benefit is actually irrelevant. It has nothing to do with the definition of mutually beneficial. Also money is one of the first things you need to be comfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 02:11 AM
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Giving money to someone is a form of physical intimacy. The woman is sharing her need and the man is choosing to help her. That requires closeness. Also the definition of mutually beneficial is “When two people or groups work together to achieve a shared goal”. If a man’s goal is for the woman he is with to be comfortable and her goal is to be comfortable then him giving her money is mutually beneficial.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 02:07 AM
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I think jack Dorsey is attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 01:52 AM
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Eh it’s easy to criticize when you’ve contributed nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 01:25 AM
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What tangible thing is sex providing?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 11:25 PM
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Sex literally produces an emotion. What is the tangible benefit of sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 11:02 PM
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I never said sex didn’t pleasure both parties
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 11:00 PM
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Many men take joy is providing for their partner financially.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 10:31 PM
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Yes I understand that, aside from the therapy isnt gender affirming care elective surgeries? I sounds like this is something that he should be against. I also don’t get what thought process is compelling a bishop to plead for this?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 04:26 PM
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Does he persecute them? Saying they are two genders I would say is far from persecuting someone. I think it’s a little weird a bishop would advocate for that. I was trying to figure out if it was more to it than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 04:11 PM
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I don’t get the bishop asking trump to show mercy. What does she want him to do? Especially asking for mercy for lgbt community. Like what’s going on that he needs to show mercy about?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 04:06 PM
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A lot of people reduce marriage to a piece of paper. But it’s so much more than that. Getting married has a lot of legal benefits that people should want.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 03:15 PM
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Yea sure. I gave a guy from PPD my ig once.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 12:34 AM
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There are women who think a man is commitment worth because of the facade he puts up. The definition of being mentions the use of manipulation for an individual to get what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 08:29 PM
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I literally use the word virgin in my initial comment to describe the guy. The overall person I described without any other context men will say “well look at least he is not disrespectful to women”. That’s literally in the comment example that you are responding to. However, my comment goes on to show that he ultimately isn’t any different. So the idea that women should sacrifice good looks for these men who appear to be respectful is dumb. Because these supposed “nice guys” are the same. If yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 07:32 PM
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My point is that many men are disrespectful of women. A man’s lack of romantic experience is no indication that he will show a woman respect, despite that often being indicated on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 07:12 PM
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No I saw he was unattractive and as I continued to watch I saw his personality is also unattractive. Hes like many other men, his virginal status is no indication that he will be respectful to women as is often indicated in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 07:09 PM
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The idea that women should pick virginal men because they somehow have more respect for women is pushed here all the time. Men on here critize women all the time for going after men with money or men who are attractive. They say things like “oh she wants the bad guy who will cheat instead of the nice guy”. When in reality the “nice guy” doesn’t cheat simply because he can’t find another woman willing to sleep with him. Quick example of a comment made earlier to me today: https://np.reddit.com/r/…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 06:41 PM
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https://preview.redd.it/9fttvaog3eee1.jpeg?width=1400&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d3d58dd0d9dca9b0f6c0b020b2e1e8efe63bb283 This woman on 90 day fiancé decided to be with this man “a religious, broke, 46 year old virgin”. She shares an issue she has with something he’s doing and his response is “you’re the cutest when you are mute”. And this women, is why you should pick a conventionally attractive man, cause at least when hes treating you bad he’s still something nice to look at. Picking the “nice g…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 06:27 PM
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Not in a FAANG. That particular company was a Fortune 500. The majority of the team were still Americans. I now work for a consulting firm but we are all Americans. My clients often do have people with h1B visas and imo they are not more competent than Americans who went to college for computer science. My passion about it is more so seeing young people complete degrees in CS and struggle to find jobs. I believe a country should look out for its people. I also believe that if you complete a degr…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 05:40 PM
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Possibly. Back during trumps first presidency I saw people in my team lose their h1b visas and literally had to leave the country immediately. It’s disappointing that he won’t be doing the same this time around.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 05:28 PM
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Yes and we should be concerned. All of our politicians are being bought.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 05:24 PM
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I understand what you’re saying. But any billionaire donating millions wouldn’t you think that there is some incentive on their end to do so? When bill gates donates 50 millions to the support Kamala, is it out of the kindness of his heart?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 05:23 PM
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No I’m pretty anti immigration which has been a big motivator in who I vote for. So the discussion on h1b visas has been disappointing to me. I’m also not a fan of big pharma profiting on messing up peoples kids. But I’m also pro choice and pro gun control. These are not huge factors on who I vote for though. I live in a blue state so there’s already laws on that at a state level.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 05:16 PM
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Honestly any billionaire donating millions to any party should be alarming to regular civilians.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 05:12 PM
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What do you mean now? Have I indicated before that I had a presence for democrats? I’ve always been center but right leaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 05:10 PM
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Raye’s entire album is fantastic. Highly suggest it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 05:03 PM
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Yea it was weird. His face was weird. The whole things was awkward. I feel second hand embarrassment for him just watching it. These celebrities just live in a reality that we cannot relate to.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 05:01 PM
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As someone who prefers trump and probably any republican candidate over a democrat at this point, I will also say I am disappointed with Elon involvement.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 05:00 PM
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Didn’t watch the inauguration and any info I have from it is from Reddit. Whats I’ve seen being discussed, Carrie underwood performance and Elon musk. the Elon musk thing was very weird and cringe. Someone said he’s trying to be a rebellious teenager and I have to agree, embarrassing. Carrie underwoods technical difficulties were unfortunate but she sang beautifully. I guess people on Reddit don’t want to highlight that because videos keep cutting the performance short and not actually showing u…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:55 PM
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Ok? What evidence is there that men are more ok with being cheated on now than in the past? Edit: are you saying it’s 50/50 and women are just a likely to leave now due to infidelity?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:53 PM
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I do believe men are less likely to leave for other reasons. I think that is mainly because men are attacked more for leaving a marriage. They are seen as abandoning their family even if they intend to still be an active father. Women are given the option to pursue their happiness. Men are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:51 PM
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Men are more likely to leave if their wife cheats. “61% of men who cheated are still married, while 34% are separated or divorced. But only 44% of women who have cheated are still married, and 47% are divorced or separated.” I think that makes sense. It’s the same way men here view n count on a woman differently than on a man. A woman having sex is seen as a bigger deal than a man having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:33 PM
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There’s a lot of “pious” men who cheat. My grandfather also cheated on my grandmother their whole marriage and he was a pastor. I would say the two big indicators to if infidelity will occur in your marriage is social status/money. My uncle is grotesque but he’s a head doctor in a hospital and makes enough to support multiple families. From what I know most of his mistresses (if not all) have been financially desperate. But in my opinion it would be silly for a single woman to reject a man becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:26 PM
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Both the average man and the average woman is going to end up struggling financially after a divorce especially if kids are involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:19 PM
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I think I fall into the 50/50 category. There are things you listed that I just don’t care to deal with. I like him driving, I like to pick dinner. I like him dealing with the house stuff. Funny enough both me and my bf have businesses and I hate to deal with anything with my business and often have him handle it and he doesn’t enjoy dealing with things in his business but I enjoy it. So we are often making decisions for one another’s business.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:18 PM
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Most people don’t have the patience to wait for an individual for months and months and I say that as a woman. I’m not going to go six months without having sex because a man is vetting me that long.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:13 PM
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And what’s stopping a man from just agreeing in order to get what they want?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:12 PM
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I’ve always understood why people would stay in marriages with infidelity, especially women. It’s hard to be a single mom, hard to split bills and possibly struggle, depending on culture a broken family is looked down upon , etc. And for awhile I was like I get it, if it happened to me and I was married I would consider staying. But it’s hit me, it’s such a waste to give your life to an individual who repeatedly shows you they don’t love and respect you. My aunt stayed with my uncle for 35 years…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:10 PM
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I mean there are men and women who will put up a lie for a while. It’s also easier to do in today’s age when people arnt meeting others through third groups and are predominantly meeting online where the main form of communication is texting. You can be concerned about being used, take precautions and still be used. Also in another comment you mentioned after one month is a better time to have sex. There are people here who will say that’s still early. Unless you’re waiting several months. which…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:56 PM
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Both are being used. No one is being stolen from. It’s the same thing, which is why that’s the example I used to compare it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:33 PM
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I never said anyone was entitled to a relationship. You arnt entitled to a relationship and you can be used for sex. Both can be true.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:21 PM
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If a man willing chooses to give a woman his money how is that stealing?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:20 PM
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Dinner is a mutually enjoyable act.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:18 PM
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Or it could means that sex isn’t something trivial for some women, which is why the guy had to lie about his intentions to get sex in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:17 PM
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The discussion is not about if it’s right or wrong that someone is being used. It’s just about how it occurs. OP is claiming that being used for sex basically doesn’t happen. If a man enjoys the date why would it matter that the woman lied to him just to get a free meal? Maybe because people go into interactions expecting a certain outcome and it’s disappointing when you were deceived about what that outcome would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:16 PM
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I didn’t say that at all. Being used as nothing to do with regret. I actually said nothing about regret so I don’t know where you’re getting that from.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:12 PM
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I did not use the word consent as if to imply assault, that is literally the actual definition from google. Consent in this regard just means that you may not have agreed had you known the truth. You can recognize that someone used you and you can also recognize you made poor decisions/judgement. Both things can be true at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 05:40 AM
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When someone is using someone they are aware of their intentions. If you had a genuine interest and then lost interest then no that isn’t using someone. However, there are women who go on dates just for the free meal and are well aware that they have no interest in the guy. Those women are using the men for free meals.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 05:01 AM
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From Google: “Being used” means someone is taking advantage of you for their own benefit, often without your full understanding or consent. It can also mean someone is manipulating you in some way. If a woman pretends to like a man just to get his money then he is being used for his money. Because he is under the belief the she genuinely likes him but the reality is that she is being manipulative for her benefit. Had she been honest there’s a chance he would not give her any money. The same thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:16 AM
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I didn’t make up my mind about anything initially. I tried to ask you about your comment to get your perspective and you attacked me as if I’m supposed to know about you personally. In this conversation alone youve inflated your value.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 06:03 PM
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This interaction actually shows me that my assessment is probably correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 05:59 PM
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I don’t know you. I also don’t know what you’ve been told about what type of woman you should date. How would I know what women you’re dating Einstein?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 05:53 PM
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What women have you been with that people say you should be with?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 05:31 PM
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Ngl trump is looking a little weathered in this photo.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 05:19 PM
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I see this with other cultures as well. I feel like it’s a lack of self identity or some sort of self hate. I knew a girl who had no Brazilian affiliation, didn’t look Brazilian in anyway. Almost all her friends were Brazilian and she had gone out of her way to learn Portuguese. I can’t be bothered to even learn my father’s native language let alone some language I have no affiliation with.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 05:19 PM
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I’m convinced that the online dating troubles people have are due to them being low value but inflating their value. That goes for both men and women. Men and women talking about what little the other brings to the table while they also bring nothing to the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 05:15 PM
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I would continue to date him but I would also start dating other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 05:08 PM
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Most young people are very heavily motivated by material objects of both genders. But that’s actually beside the point. My point is there are a lot of young people who want to be passionate about their careers and don’t see a value in education. What pathways do they have in mind when they seem to want to opt out of working a job that pays the bills and opt out of educating themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 04:56 PM
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You are probably correct. I’m assuming these young people are just living rent free in their parents house because I can’t think of a job that will pay an 18 year old enough to live on their own aside from sex work. I also never felt I had to the option to just do nothing out of high school. My parents were very focused on education so going straight into work without college wasn’t really an option for me either.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 04:53 PM
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I think maybe social media is doing a number on kids. I can understand people being pessimistic but I’m also in my late 20s. I was so full of optimism out of high school. Yea I was depressed but there was so much hope that I could make my life better.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 04:51 PM
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I see a lot of young people not even want to try at life because they feel like the odds are already stacked against them. I don’t understand their logic because what is the alternative?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 04:40 PM
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I think she stayed for the same reason a lot of people don’t end their marriages after affairs: fear of the unknown, mental/social pressure to maintain the nuclear family, lack of desire to split assets.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 04:27 PM
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Third date rule is weird. Setting specific timelines like that make the whole relationship feel forced.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 03:17 PM
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The average man definitely is not a couple points higher than the average woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 02:55 PM
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I don’t get what is meh sex like do the girls just not do anything? Is it a lack of passion?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 01:38 PM
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What permanent risk has she taken? Any risk she took was for herself. She was on birth control because she wanted to have sex without pregnancy. She had kids because she wanted to have children. She has agency over her life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 09:12 PM
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Yes I would say that is inconsiderate then for him to just shut down. I do understand his perspective better because I don’t get why the first option would be an options that could be permanent on his end. Its interesting to me that she’s willing to end her relationship when she could also just take the permanent step on her end.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 08:53 PM
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Her body being modified is her choice. I also have side effects from birth control and chose to get off of it. I also manage to have sex without pregnancy. I remember a story on a reality show years ago where the rnb singer Neyo asked his gf at the time to get her tubes burnt after giving birth to their last child together. Apparently, they figured while she was in the hospital to give birth that it would make sense to just do the procedure then. She went forward with the procedure only for them…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 08:50 PM
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That’s very possible. I didn’t think of that. I see that other commenters also made the assumption he must want to have more kids possibly with another woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 08:19 PM
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It’s not likely he wants more kids. It’s very possible he just doesn’t see the need to make a change to his body. I feel the same way. Why would I tamper with myself when there’s multiple ways to prevent pregnancy aside from birth control pills and vasectomy. The highest percentage I could find estimates 20 percent of men have vasectomies. It is not common procedure.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 08:12 PM
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I wouldn’t say we have enough info to make that conclusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 08:05 PM
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We don’t really have his perspective. It’s possible that he sees other options. She’s the one asking Reddit if she should leave her bf because he wont get a vasectomy as if there arnt multiple ways to prevent pregnancy aside from birth control pill and vasectomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 08:05 PM
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You’re probably right about the second part. It’s possible that he did try to communicate but she is being adamant about him needing to get a vasectomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 08:02 PM
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I suggested that in my comment. But there’s also numerous ways to prevent pregnancy. Trying to force your partner to make a modification to their body and being upset when they say no shows a lack of consideration for your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 07:58 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/J6anDz2hWF Going to Reddit for relationship advice is horrible idea. The vast majority of these comments are encouraging this woman to leave her bf. She has indicated no issue with the relationship aside for a disagreement on how to prevent pregnancy, she has two kids. Do people not realize how difficult it can be to be a single mother of two? Do people not realize what a big ask it is for someone to make lifelong modifications to their body?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 07:48 PM
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Two days ago people were crying about how much tik tok was a necessity and how it will increase unemployment by over a million by banning it. Now that trump supports it they don’t want it anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 06:06 PM
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No this is for aesthetic reasons. I am physically healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 06:01 PM
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I started at close to 143lb, goal is 120lb. I’ve done a similar cut before with a bodybuilding coach. I went from 140lb to 116lb. I was lean but had muscle definition. I’m doing this without a coach this time but I’m following a similar diet because I want a similar look. Hopefully there’s more muscle this time around.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 05:44 PM
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Lost about 3lb this past week. Diet and workout is gonna stay the same. But I’m going to up my steps to 9k a day.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 05:27 PM
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I mean women can also do this as well. If people work hard for their stuff they are entitled to it and they have a right to take whatever avenues there are to protect their assets. I have two homes. Legally if I were to get married my husband would be entitled to half of them. I bought these homes as a single woman, why should he be entitled to something I worked hard for long before I knew him?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 10:43 PM
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My dad had never worn one and the band my mom wears she bought herself. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with not wearing one.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 02:12 PM
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I had no interest in watching the sopranos till I found out it was based in jersey. I love watching the opening credits because that really is what it looks like to drive through our neighborhoods especially the area I live.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 04:52 AM
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Maybe. I think I’m somewhat of an overachiever. I have a plan for my life and obviously my partner is a big part of that. Their mess ups can’t fuck up the plan. And I think maybe I don’t trust my partners to not fuck up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 10:04 PM
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There are multiple aspects of my life that are easier because my bf is in my life. But being with someone does add a stress to my life that wouldn’t be there if I was single. The issue is more on my end, I take on the stresses that my partner deals with. I have this issue with everyone I end up in a relationship with.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 09:49 PM
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Yes. There are a ton of attractive, uneducated, unemployed men. No amount of physical attractiveness would make me date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 02:07 PM
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You should change that belief.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 01:49 PM
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Can’t you follow up with someone?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 01:49 PM
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Women like men who work hard for money. Not men who work hard for a fake medal.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 01:48 PM
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I see this behavior with all types of people on this sub. This has nothing to do with blue pill and everything to do with someone who has no debate skills coming to a debate sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 01:47 PM
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Women only nightclubs arnt a thing because the genders enjoy being around one another. Women want to be around men. Men want to be around women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 01:45 PM
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This is what happens when all you care about is looks. A woman with a career can’t ask for alimony but some men want to be so adamant that careers don’t matter with a woman. A smart man/smart woman knows your partner has to be a package.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 02:04 PM
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Idk what you’re saying
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 09:56 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/KRc41m1ecb Yes that’s exactly what I described building up as.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 08:43 PM
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Building up doesn’t have to do with dissatisfaction with a partner. Building up your partner could be cooking a breakfast for them before work so they arnt starting their day hungry, which leads to them having an overall better day. It could be compliments a partner who has low self esteem. It’s asking yourself “how can I make my partners life easier”.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 05:54 PM
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How is building up your partner toxic? A big part of building up your partner is supporting them. The world is already hard as is. Why would you want to be with someone ready to make it harder or someone who is willing to sit back and watch you struggle?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 05:09 PM
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When you are in a romantic relationship with someone both people should be thinking to themselves “how can we grow together, how can we build one another up. How can I help my partner” Instead I think we have a lot of men and women who are thinking “how can I offer as little as possible to an individual while taking as much as possible from them”. These people I believe have this mentality even when dating which is why I think dating has become much harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 04:40 PM
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How are 98 percent of people 18-24 single? Am I missing something?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 02:59 PM
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Maybe you need to adjust your standards. Sounds like you’re looking for women who don’t even look healthy. Healthy bmi is between 18.5-24.9 so 19 is getting pretty skinny. My bmi was 23 in this photo and pretty small in it: https://imgur.com/a/37aLeD0
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 03:15 AM
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For me it was sunk cost. I think I convinced myself that even though was unhappy there was no better situation. I would either be alone and unhappy or with someone worse and unhappy. Sometimes you can’t see beyond your own misery and visualize a better future. The reality is that being alone is better than being with someone you’re unhappy with. But I didn’t realize it at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 11:15 PM
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Looking back at my past relationship, a big reason I stayed in it as long as I did was because I was afraid of being alone. That’s probably one of the biggest reason couples don’t that need to breakup stay together, especially unmarried couples. What a dumb reason to attach yourself to someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 10:26 PM
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Children do look like both parents. Many men who never did a paternity test know for a fact it’s their child because the child looks like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 02:24 PM
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Yall this man in the gym just asked me if im putting on weight 😭 I really have to stick to this diet now
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 04:51 PM
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Mike and ximena season 5 of 90 day fiancé: before the 90 days
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 03:52 PM
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On the season of 90 day fiancé in watching, this 30-something year old guy who hasn’t had a gf since high school starts talking to a cam girl from Columbia. He tells her he can take her out of that life, she leaves her job and he pays her rent and all her bills for a year and a half, he comes to Columbia to visit, she sleeps with him a handful of times then says she wants to wait till marriage. Won’t even let him sleep in the same bed as her. Eventually she breaks off the engagement and tells hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 03:46 PM
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Wow. Yea this study aligns with my experience when applying to jobs in tech.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 01:47 PM
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It can migrate. It’s a rare side effect and has a lot to do with how good your injector is.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 01:43 PM
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Oh interesting, yes I’ve never seen this in America
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 01:35 PM
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Filler is a magical thing
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 01:31 PM
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I see a lot of talks recently about DEI hires. Do these programs actually make a difference in a company. I’ve never gotten a call back for putting my real race on an application.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 01:30 PM
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I think sexual compatibility is something that we have been told not to focus on. I mean I can’t speak for everyone but if I had a great partner (good family, good values, good job) and the biggest issue was he wouldn’t have sex with me, my family would think I’m crazy for leaving. But sex is definitely important and incompatibility should be seen as a valid reason to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 01:10 PM
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Not really I’m currently not directly or indirectly affected by birth rate decline. That is a fact. Maybe instead of proposing a child free tax you instead think of ideas the government can better support parents so that people actually choose to be parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 09:58 PM
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Your first sentence is funny given that youre trying to pin your reality on others.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 09:41 PM
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Probably B. Aside from the influencer part, B actually describes my current bf.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 09:38 PM
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I don’t have problems actually and my name isn’t Jessica.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 09:37 PM
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I don’t think much of the birth decline actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 09:34 PM
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I think if I recall correctly she became popular on TikTok I think for tradwife content. But then she used the n word and people canceled her. So I think she’s just acting extreme because she lost the ability to grow her account the way she wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 09:02 PM
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Oh yes the walking will be a little difficult, I’m thinking of doing like 10-15 min on the treadmill or my walking pad to help get it done. I actually started the year saying I wanted to do 12k steps a day. But i learned very quickly that wasn’t an easy thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 09:00 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/CringeTikToks/s/X3Dr6MJSdI If this is how kids make you act I don’t want them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 08:59 PM
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Thank you! The diet is where I’m most likely gonna mess up but I just weighed in at my heaviest weight so in this moment I feel determined to stick to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 08:28 PM
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Are they? I felt my calories were a bit high but my bf thought my activity level was high enough to accommodate it. I lift regularly almost daily for the last 3/4 years so that’s nothing new. But the diet is where I’m gonna have struggles. I worked with a coach and got into insane shape back in early 2022 but have been struggling to lose back weight for the last two years.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 08:27 PM
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I was just giving approximations of what the daily goal will look like. Today my exact macros will end up being 151g protein, 107g carbs, and 71g fat which is 1671 calories. For cardio im gonna just make sure my heart rate is around 130. I know I can get that done on elliptical.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 08:23 PM
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Crafted a new meal plan and workout plan for myself. Fairly typically bodybuilding diet. Around 1700 calories a day, 100g of carbs, 70g of fat, 150g of protein. 8k steps a day, 3 cardio days 30 min of elliptical, and 4 lifting days. I struggle to be accountable so I’m gonna share my journey here hoping that it will help me stick to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 08:13 PM
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Me and my bf already have each others passwords
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 08:09 PM
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I don’t like the pressure I feel with the weight going down on me. My heaviest I’ve squatted is 205lb which I don’t think is bad for being 5’1 and a woman. But i just don’t enjoy the movement. I do love bicep curling but I feel like my arms are way bigger than they should be for my body and I became a bit insecure about it. New plan is still to do 2 days of legs, a full body day, and bring back an upper body day.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 03:38 PM
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I’m trying to find my passion for lifting again. Did my first upper body day in a long time yesterday. There was a time when I use to do 4 upper body days. Ive been trying to do only legs for the last 6+ months because I felt my arms were too big. But just doing legs is so boring to me. Weighed in at my heaviest yesterday so time to really get in the zone.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 02:08 PM
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I know a woman with 4 kids and 4 baby daddies. The 4th married her and she lives in a nice big house in the suburbs now. Good looks will get you far, despite her baggage she looked great.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 02:03 PM
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Is this the new daily thread?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 01:49 PM
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I have never witnessed this in any church I’ve been to.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 03:42 AM
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Pregnancy is avoidable when having sex. If it wasn’t then the average American household wouldn’t have less than 2 kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 06:28 PM
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I can understand becoming a single mom out of wedlock once. But how do you make that decision multiple times especially with different men? Don’t they think about the current child they have and how that could impact that child’s quality of living?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 04:33 PM
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What about Ariana grande and her man. I would say they are another good example
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 05:03 PM
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I did get an estimate and talk about the work before hand. They are doing a ton of other work on the house as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 04:26 PM
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Yea I guess in the future I will be more detailed with my questions to confirm what they can do.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 04:25 PM
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Yes I hired a licensed general contractor. He has also been doing other renovation work for me aside from this for the last week and a half.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 04:24 PM
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My sink cabinet is in the kitchen. Maybe I made a wrong assumption. The paperwork I have with them said installing the cabinets. To me that would mean having a sink cabinet that has a working sink, the same way it was working when they started the job. I do think that I should have been informed beforehand. They just started the installation. They have been working on the apartment for a week and a half and I’m now being informed about the need for a plumber. Now there’s this stress to get a plu…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 04:23 PM
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The sink was working fine before. So if you took apart a sink and removed the cabinets and put in new cabinets shouldn’t you also be putting it back in the same condition you found it in? If I’m wrong maybe I’m wrong. But I would assume that if you take a job the final outcome is a working outcome. Especially if it was working before.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 04:20 PM
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I’m the complete opposite, I was exposed to all types of food since I was young and I’m open to eating pretty much anything. I always want to try new stuff but so many people in my life are just use to what they know that no one wants to try new things with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 04:17 PM
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I hired someone to install new kitchen cabinets for me. They took the job, they are working on the sink cabinets and now they are telling me I need to get a plumber to do the connection for the pipes to the sink. Wouldn’t that be part of the installation that I’m already paying them for?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 04:15 PM
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I don’t have kids but If I did I would probably beat them if they were acting up.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 12:44 PM
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Great questions also she should add a description of herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 09:33 PM
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Yes men who are assertive in the workplace do not face the consequences and judgment that women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 01:06 PM
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No i didn’t. The very next sentence shows I’m speaking about a professional setting. That being said I’ve just googled femicide rates and its alarming.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 10:16 PM
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Why are you discussing violence against any individual? The post is about taking initiative. OP brought up how in the workspace he doesn’t see women doing that. I explained why that’s the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 10:03 PM
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I know they are known for plastic surgery. That doesn’t change my view. Botox and filler are affordable for the average woman, so is ozempic.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 10:01 PM
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Women often face harsher consequences/judgment for speaking up. In a professional setting a man being assertive is a good thing, a woman being assertive is her being a nag/bitch/difficult/etc. You’ve also brought women not taking initiative in dating but why would they? Gender roles are still normalized in our society. Taking initiative means to be the first one to do something, esp. to solve a problem. Women do take initiative in various areas of life. I would argue that in regard to the home/f…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 09:38 PM
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Kim kardashian looks fantastic for 44. People love to hate on some of these celebrity women but many of them are really showing how great you can look even at mid life.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 06:46 PM
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I got my bf into 90 day fiancé and he watches it like he watches ufc, every 5 minutes he’s screaming at the tv. It’s so funny
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 03:08 PM
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Yea this is bizarre. If you are relying on porn to maintain an erection there’s obviously an issue that needs to be addressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:37 PM
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I see a lot of women have an issue with it maybe for religious reasons or feeling as if their partner is getting off to someone else. From what I’ve read some men also suffer from performance issues due to watching porn. Either way, people are allowed to set boundaries around what they are comfortable with in a relationship. It’s not for me or you to understand, it’s for their partner to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:36 PM
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People need to have realistic expectations from a relationship. If you as a man let yourself go and are disgustingly obese, don’t be upset if your wife/gf doesn’t want to fuck you (obviously applies to women as well). If you as a woman don’t fuck your partner, don’t be upset if he’s watching porn (obviously this applies to men as well).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:21 PM
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How would a man know this?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 03:57 PM
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My partner (a man) actually has the same perspective as you, that you’re getting off to someone that’s not your partner and that is a betrayal to the relationship. I understand that perspective from a man looking at it. For me as a woman, I don’t feel like I’m getting off to someone in the video, I’m getting off to the actions in the video. Nevertheless, we have decided that neither of us will look at porn. I think each relationship has to set the rules that work for them. If porn is a deal brea…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 03:54 PM
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As someone in tech I can assure you diversity quotas are not making any impact on men acquiring jobs. The average man is still financially better off than the average woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 03:42 PM
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Lmaoo what man wrote this post
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:33 PM
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I didn’t say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:26 AM
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The average man works 3 hours more than the average woman. So if he uses the money of those 3 hours to date, he has equally opportunity to invest as women. So why arnt men also millionaires by their 30s?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:02 AM
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From my own experience sleeping with someone early on is no indication of how much a woman is attracted to a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 11:59 PM
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I don’t know if I don’t want it at all. I don’t hate kids and I know my bf wants kids. But I don’t know if I would be a good mom and I don’t sit here dreaming of motherhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 11:54 PM
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Women still have bills to pay. Also are you saying that men spend so much on dating that they can’t invest?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 11:45 PM
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Spent the day with my cousins baby and it’s hitting me that I’m not sure about kids. I know women who want motherhood so bad and I just don’t feel that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 11:43 PM
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I’m not understanding the math on how you spent that much on dating. Also if that money is distributed amongst multiple women how would any one woman become a millionaire from just letting men court her?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 11:41 PM
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Well then women should advocate for themselves more. The gap does not exist for women who choose to do so. Blaming the patriarchy or men not taking care of their kids is nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 05:42 PM
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Any difference in the same role?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 05:39 PM
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I don’t think my life would be as good as a man. Everything I’ve accomplished as a woman I would have accomplished as a man. There’s nothing I can think of that I don’t have because I’m a woman. I do think that if I was a man I would want a similar woman to who I currently am and idk how easy that would be to find.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 05:38 PM
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I am confused by your responses I was looking for clarity. Women making the same money as men doing the same role seems very relevant to me. That alone shows that the wage gap is a myth. However in this comment you seem to be saying that that is not relevant and it’s just amount men making more money in general: https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/zjLl5ujsmV
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 05:34 PM
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From the comment I responded to you are literally saying the wage gap has to do with the difference in general. And women making the same in the same role is irrelevant so in a bit confused by your response.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 05:30 PM
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Yea me and my bf spend time at one another’s place but I realize i really like having separate space. Living together pre marriage is obviously normalized but I’m beginning to think it’s not something I have an interest in.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 05:27 PM
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No it isn’t. Different roles make different money that is common sense. No one expects a McDonald employee to make the same as an engineer.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 05:25 PM
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Of course. My comment wasn’t about kids. My comment was about how it could be difficult to adjust to living with someone when you are already use/comfortable with how you live. For example, if you are someone who is use to never having dishes in your sink and you have a partner who doesn’t wash dishes immediately that might be more annoying to you especially knowing you arnt reliant on that partner to pay bills. I’m already really comfortable with my life living alone and I run my home exactly h…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 05:23 PM
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From what I recall it exist in two fields tech (the field I’m in) and medical field. The discrepancy in tech is 4% which after tax you’re possibly talking about as low as a 200 dollar difference. That gap exist because in these field women have to advocate for their own salary and women are less likely to do that. I can check my numbers it’s been a little bit of time since I looked at the study. The wage gap btw is the idea that a woman working the same position as a man is paid significantly le…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 04:01 PM
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If it’s gets mixed into with maternity leave it shouldn’t. Those are two separate topics.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:23 PM
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My post isn’t really relevant to people struggling financially. It’s relevant to people who arnt. There isn’t going to be peace for a man or a woman if you don’t know how you’re going to pay your bills.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:20 PM
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I’m in my late 20s and I would guess that if someone is living on their own at my age or older and needs no financial help then they probably can create a decent amount of peace in their life. If you’re struggling financially though your best bet is to partner up to alleviate the burden.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:06 PM
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The wage gap is a myth pushed by liberals. It doesn’t exist and in the couple of fields where a difference can be seen it is very small.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:03 PM
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Is it possible that marriage a birth rates are declining because people see how peaceful life can be on your own? I have a man. But I’ve lived by myself for 3 years now and it’s so peaceful. I’ve been thinking of moving at the end of this year. Both me and my bfs leases end in the fall and it popped into my head that maybe we should consider moving in together. But honestly I think I would rather continue to live alone unless I’m engaged.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:00 PM
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Do you live with family? How are you paying bills?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 02:30 PM
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Some people lack the intelligence to do what you are asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 02:26 PM
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How old are you? Whats your day to day life like?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 02:24 PM
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It’s literally the same topics as ppd.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 04:24 AM
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Talking shit about women watching a show that covers gender dynamics while you’re on a sub to talk about gender dynamics 🥴
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 03:36 AM
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If there is anything 90 day fiancé has taught me is both men and women will make dumb decisions if the person they are pursuing is very attractive to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 01:38 AM
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I disagree with this. Why do people need this long between relationships? What is being done in month 8 after the breakup that isn’t done at month 2?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 01:01 AM
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It’s ethical and I wouldn’t feel betrayed.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 12:58 AM
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Where did you get what that family planning drives decision making? I would think humans are driven by what makes them happy. If it’s by family planning what is the logic behind people who have affairs or do anything that goes against the benefit of their family.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 07:12 PM
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Why is it werid for someone not to have kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 06:57 PM
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People disregard other’s feelings all the time. This is something that would naturally happen in all relationships at some point to some degree. Parents to their kids, kids to parents, boss to subordinates, etc. So imo doing something that disregards someone’s feelings is something that a couple can move past. Most relationships are monogamous. Most people in a monogamous relationship would assume their partner wants to stay that way. If you have two people who are ok with a non monogamous relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 05:07 PM
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I understand that, couples break commitments to their partners all the time. These things happen in all relationship not even just romantic. Cheating is specifically looks down up because disloyalty in that way causes a lot of pain for someone who believes in monogamy. If you don’t have an issue with being in a poly relationship, forgive the cheating and open the relationship. It’s better to stay with the father to your child vs creating the same dynamic with someone else at least imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 04:54 PM
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I’m watching 90 day fiancé. This woman left her husband because he cheated. She’s now talking to some Nigerian man and she’s ok with him having a second wife that can give him kids since she’s not able to anymore. How does that make sense. Should have just opened the marriage you were already in.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 04:47 PM
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Yea she probably has one too
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 03:14 PM
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What bots? He’s suing NYT for the story they published and people are reporting what he filed in his lawsuit
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 03:05 PM
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What are you saying? A regular man should have regular standards yes or no?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 03:03 PM
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But if all they are improving are the things you listed they are still regular men. So they should have regular standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 02:45 PM
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I don’t know why you are discussing high value men. According to your OP, women have standards that a regular man can meet.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 02:39 PM
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If the minimum requirement of that man is that the woman stays young forever then no. But then your argument should be that men should lower their standards not women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 02:26 PM
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Nothing you mentioned has anything to do with a man being high value. Being physically fit, emotionally strong, emotionally stimulating are basic things that everyone should be working on.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 02:19 PM
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We have to wait for information on if that’s even true or if she decided to do the scene naked. Because she also claimed he walked into her dressing room without permission while she pumping. But in his new lawsuit he provided texts with her inviting him to her dressing room while she was pumping. This whole situation is reading a lot like she provided consent but because she is unhappy with end result she is now claiming she didn’t give consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 02:07 PM
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What are you saying
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 01:53 PM
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More news about the Justin baldoni and Blake lively situation is coming out. And as I suspected looks like Blake was lying. One of her claims was that he sexually harassed her by showing her pornography. Reality: he showed her a video of a woman giving birth as they discussed how to recreate a birthing scene for the movie
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 01:50 PM
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Imagine saying that it’s normal for men to have the standard that women stop aging. But it’s a high standard for a woman to expect the man she’s with to be emotionally stimulating. Sir did you read this after you typed it?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 01:22 PM
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That’s what it sounds like based on what his wife said. He turned to her right into the new year and told her “btw I expected a baby”.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 05:47 PM
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She has accepted his cheating for the entirety of their marriage (30+ years). She is devastated. Idk if she loves him but I think she never thought he would do this. I also think she was very committed to keeping up the facade of a happy marriage and this breaks it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 05:46 PM
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I have an uncle who frequents the Philippines. From what we know he has multiple women over there. At midnight on new years he revealed to his wife that he has a girl pregnant over there and it seems like he has also contracted oral and gential herpes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 05:25 PM
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Yup that’s how I’ve managed to make it happen yesterday. Ended up taking a 10pm trip to the gym just to walk on the treadmill. I set that goal one day when I hit 12k steps naturally and I guess I thought that was what I was typically doing. But it looks like I do more around 5k on average.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 12:55 PM
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A lot of women (and men too) get caught up in the idea of being in a relationship. They are afraid to be alone and they hope the things about their partner they don’t like will eventually fix itself. Then they commit with marriage and kids, the novelty of the relationship wears off, and become resentful that their partner never morphed into who they wanted them to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 12:49 PM
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Your request is really weirdly specific. The thing that really stands out as werid to me is sitting in a room and not talking. I would assume a couple that has nothing to say to one another probably doesn’t like each other. I probably fit your description had you not said the talking part.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 12:45 PM
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My dumbass committed to 12k steps a day for the next month. Apparently I don’t walk anywhere cause I’m struggling to hit these steps
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 12:35 PM
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Try doing what? I know multiple bipolar people who are doing pretty good
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 12:34 PM
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Women arnt complaining that men make more money or have prestigious jobs. They are complaining that the expectations and rewards of men and women in the same positions are different. A prostitute still has the right to their body. The amount of men a woman has slept with is not relevant when discussing consent to her body. She is still allowed to say that she doesn’t want a particular man to touch her. How is the family court system set up? Only about 10 percent of women receive alimony. Is your…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 05:07 PM
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I’m in devops. I have my degree in cs. Thought I would be a dev but ended up in a rotational program out of college and landed in a database engineering role where I was doing infrastructure work to automate aws databases deployments. Had no clue about any of that stuff but really liked it and ended up staying in roles that dealt with infrastructure as code and CICD.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 08:05 PM
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Yea idk if it’s cause I’m an only child and I’m a girl but she’s always been like that. When I’m entering the house with my man or friends I literally yell out to let her know that I’m entering with someone since there’s a good chance she’s walking around the house unclothed.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 08:01 PM
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Honestly idk. I was 24 and 25 and I just had this idea of one day living on passive income. Wasn’t that knowledgeable but took the leap because I was in a position where I could risk it. 4 years later I can tell you that owning rental properties is in no way passive income.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 07:59 PM
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When it’s just me and my dad in the house my mom sits at the dining room table fully naked to eat.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 07:22 PM
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Yes I’ve been fortunate to have had employment the 6 years I’ve been in this field. I’ve also been fortunate to be in roles I’ve felt appreciated in for at least the last 4 years. In the years I didn’t feel appreciated, I went and bought two rental properties hoping to one day pivot to that fully. But that has its own headaches.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 07:15 PM
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I actually think women would have a harder dating experience especially if kids were involved, given that a step father is probably more forced to be active in a step child life than a step mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 06:51 PM
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I went to church, now im walking on my walking pad to get my steps in.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 06:49 PM
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I’ve been reading through the women in tech sub and It’s been a big eye opener to how blessed my experience in tech has been.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 06:47 PM
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Yes, that’s the discussion at hand and I’ve stated the reasons I think that is. Someone can be disregarding their vows and also not initiating divorce. Filing paperwork is not step one in marriage vows being abandoned.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 12:43 PM
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I don’t think it has anything to do with abiding by their vows. I think it’s a mix of what I said and also someone mentioned men being afraid of divorce court (forgot to add that into my initial comment).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 04:17 AM
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I think that is another reason I forgot. I don’t think it boils down to that alone. Definitely a mix of what I mentioned along with what you mentioned.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 04:15 AM
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Oh no it has nothing to do with men valuing their word and everything to do with what I said. Also someone mentioned that men being afraid of divorce court is also a factor I forgot about.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 04:14 AM
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I mean I guess not. Why would it be problematic. People get out of contracts all the time. Btw I don’t believe honoring vows has anything to do with why men are less likely to file first.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 02:01 AM
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I think that women have a lower threshold of being able to stay in relationships that they are unhappy with. It’s also possible that maybe they are less likely to seek gratification elsewhere and instead focus on leaving the relationship that makes them unhappy. My logic behind that is that relationships between gay men have the highest levels of infidelity. They are the only group (male/male, female/male, female/female) where a majority percentage of relationships experience infidelity. This su…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 12:42 AM
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Tell yourself whatever you gotta to sleep at night
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 08:40 PM
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Most people’s offer transactional love. The only dynamic that probably has a majority percentage of people who don’t offer transactional love is the love that a parent has for a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 08:30 PM
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Lol my place in society? Someone referring to you using your husband’s name because that’s the norm is an attempt to erase your personhood? I have had no issue explaining my logic but the minute yours is questioned you turn to personal attacks. Sir you know nothing about me and it’s pretty clear that you’re at a loss for how to try and defend this nonsense so have a good day.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 08:28 PM
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What is she taking? There nothing that’s been done against her.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 08:05 PM
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Someone sending a letter that refers to a married couple as a common way to refer to married couples isn’t forcing anything on them. If your wife was this bothered by someone referring to her as your wife you probably should be a bit concerned.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 07:24 PM
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People arnt going to have a blaring sign that show contempt for their partners. It’s the small things like this. When you marry someone you become one. Why would you be this upset that someone is making a reference to you in that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 07:04 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/go7nQUDxXt So many people secretly hate their partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 06:50 PM
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My comment has nothing to do with a woman accepting not receiving pleasure during intimacy. My initial comment actual described a man who cared very much about his partners feelings and making her feel good. Not sure why but you keep attempting to move the goal post.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 06:21 PM
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Generic baddie pretty much goes hand in hand. Baddie is a certain look, which Megan currently has alongside with many other women on Instagram. Imo I don’t think she stand out anymore. Young Megan fox had a unique sultry look. To be fair I think even that version of Megan had work done but her work has become too extreme and replicates too much of what other women are getting done.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 06:14 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/trueratecelebrities/s/BQ4v2T4TGH Angelina in her 30s is stunning and by no means a generic beauty. She’s more than 10 years older than Megan so comparing them currently isn’t really fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 05:43 PM
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Baddies are hot. She wasn’t saying she wasn’t hot. But she’s hot in the same way that a lot of women who have money and have a high following on Instagram are hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 05:27 PM
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My thoughts are exactly what you stated. She was being set up to be the next Angelina Jolie but she messed it up with all the fake work done.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 05:25 PM
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If you’re viewing having sex with your partner, again a normal form of intimacy, as being used. You have issues with sex that you should discuss with a therapist. Lol I never demanded any woman do anything in her relationship. People are allowed to let their relationship develop all the resentment they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 04:44 PM
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This has nothing to do with consent. If you dont want to do something that makes your partner happy despite having no limitations that prevent you from doing it, you shouldn’t be surprised if your partner becomes unhappy in the relationship. You’re doing mental gymnastics to turn a very practical statement into something dark.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 04:29 PM
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I don’t understand your question. There are many men that say thank you. Saying thank you isn’t aligned to one gender from my knowledge.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 04:22 PM
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Men in real life arnt claiming any of the things you said. You should want to have sex with your partner simply because it’s a major form of intimacy. But if you know your partner values it that’s an added incentive. We don’t get to tell someone to have sex, you’re correct. But if you are choosing not to have sex with your partner and he stops doing things that also make you happy, you don’t really get to be upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 04:20 PM
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They are expecting that from being a good partner their partner will be good back to them. If you ignore what your partner values simply because you don’t value it then you arnt a good partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 04:16 PM
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A lot of women are deceitful about what they are willing to give in a relationship. Men can’t be mind readers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 04:07 PM
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Lots of guys are good to their partners and they still arnt getting sex. That’s what I put in my initial post. Women are expecting men to go above and beyond and yet they expect men to change what they value.bEven you suggested that a man should find something else that makes him happy if he isn’t getting sex. That mentality will ultimately lead to unhappiness in a relationship. You can’t expect your partner to keep giving and you don’t give back because “it shouldn’t be a chore”.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 04:05 PM
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I think it’s rational to not want to date someone who has children with someone else. For a woman at least, you might not end up having to be around the kid that much. But for a man you’re looking at immediately taking on the role of father and provider for a child you didn’t bring into this world.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 04:02 PM
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Yup, I do think that’s what I described. You have to be willing to give to get. I think many relationships fall into this standoff of waiting for the other person to do something they like before they do something they like.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 03:57 PM
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Sex is not the only thing they are getting out of the women they are with, but it’s something they value. Sex is a form of intimacy and it’s not the only form. But if that’s the form your partner values and you’re unwilling to do it then I’m doubtful of how happy the relationship will be. And if sex is a chore once and awhile that’s ok. If you can’t meet your partners needs for whatever reason they may become unhappy. They may leave. There is nothing wrong with that. People don’t have to change …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 03:55 PM
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I was watching soft white underbelly interview a divorce attorney. He said that one of his female clients knew her marriage was over when her husband stopped buying her favorite granola. He would automatically go out and buy her favorite granola when he saw she was running low without her having to say anything. When thinking about something she stopped doing for him the first thing that came to mind was blowjobs. She would give him blowjobs almost daily to start the day and then at some point s…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 02:58 PM
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It has nothing to do with being swayed by the media. His wife most likely ignored the fact that he was unhappy, ignored his concerns about the marriage. When he saw examples of the what he considered a loving marriage and showed his wife, she chose to twist things instead of acknowledging that her husband was happy and they needed some sort of compromise.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 02:50 PM
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If the story is real I would say the demise of the marriage is probably her husband not being happy with their relationship dynamic and TikTok making him think he could change the dynamic.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 02:45 PM
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Anyone with that high of a count, male or female, most likely has some mental issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 10:57 PM
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The nature of marriages is not to end. A majority percentage of first marriages stay together.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 10:55 PM
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Yes and there are marriages that end that’s why we also discussed divorce rates. Eventually doesn’t mean marriages that don’t end or last long lol. Time passing could be any period of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 04:43 PM
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I think both genders recognize conventionally attractive people and ideally want to be with those people.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 03:28 AM
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But I would say all the topics you’ve listed are similar to top free advocacy. They are ideas that haven’t gotten very far. Unlike top free advocacy I wouldn’t say these ideas are being advocated for in mainstream spaces so OPs claim that they are taking criticism and yet standing my their ideas I would say doesn’t really apply.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 03:25 AM
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I get that you’re saying they don’t count but what about the men who are letting themselves go? Do they not count as well? I think that men desire companionship and not just by any woman. Sure they want to be desired physically but I also think that they want a woman that they desire physically. I think focusing on money over looks will get them a woman they desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 08:31 PM
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She’s settling if that’s what she values. Women who are living the life they want because they are with men that can provide that I doubt feel like they are settling. Both genders let themselves go. I’m not arguing that. But it seems your argument is that what men truly value is to be physically desired by their partner above all else. Idk if I agree with that. But for sure if a specific man values that then he should pursue it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 08:16 PM
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No one is counting the exact dollar in someone bank account. The lifestyle bezos is giving his woman vs what Leo would give his is the same. They are literally at the same event. They are both wealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 07:46 PM
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I do believe working class woman exist. And even those women would love a man that can handle all the bills.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 07:45 PM
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I mean there’s also a lot of men who are looking for relationships that are not in shape. A lot of husbands who let themselves go. If someone main focus is being with a woman who finds them physically attractive sure focus on looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 07:45 PM
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A man would have no way of knowing if a woman was consistent with her rules for having sex. If you go to dating subreddits you’ll see that many woman are frustrated with how quickly men want to have sex. Men will wait for a woman they feel is worthwhile to wait for. Above average woman know that which is why they don’t have to sleep around. Men at the end of the day do look to settle down, I think we can both agree on that. The point of my comment being that if they are looking to settle down wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 07:42 PM
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Both of them have money. Money and looks is obviously going to do well. I never said looks wasn’t important btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 07:37 PM
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Physical attraction is specific to looks. But my comment was mainly about how men can get above average women (I should have been more clear but this is just the daily thread so I didn’t feel like fully explaining myself)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 07:36 PM
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My statement doesn’t exclusive apply to women who chase money. Women in general I would say value a man that can provide.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 07:33 PM
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I don’t expect men to settle. Do you think rich men who have these young hot wives think they are settling?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 07:31 PM
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I’m not arguing it’s not important. I’m saying that without money you ultimately are left to settle. Above average woman arnt going to stay with a man just because he’s good looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 07:28 PM
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Above average women arnt sleeping around like that. It’s women who men don’t want that hope to use sex to leverage a relationship. Also if men didn’t want relationships, most rich men wouldn’t have wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 07:21 PM
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Yes I am. I think people are thinking that I’m saying looks don’t matter. That’s not what I think. It matters but it’s not as important. Someone who is average in looks or a little below average but with money can get a very attractive woman. But a very attractive woman wants a soft life so she will ultimately settle down with the man who has the money to give her that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 07:20 PM
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I disagree. I think having money is more important.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 07:17 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 07:17 PM
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I think someone can’t be ugly. But I also don’t think most people are ugly. I think a man with average looks or a little below average with money won’t have much of an issue getting a woman they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 07:17 PM
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I do agree but I think the looks threshold isn’t that high if you have money. Maybe average or a little below. I think having money is a better focus.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 07:16 PM
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Not really. Men here talk about hypergamy all the time. Looks alone will not get a good looking woman. Good looking women pair up with men that make their life easier aka men who have money.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 07:15 PM
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Of all the things men have the choice of focusing on to get women, I think looks is the least important. Obviously you can’t be grotesque though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 06:01 PM
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What are these deeply unpopular ideas that men advocate for? I disagree with the reasoning behind why movements fail that women take up. I would say the real reason is that not enough women are behind it. For example you brought up a cause “top free advocacy” that i as a woman do not care about. I think where you are likely to see change is on ideas that are supported significantly by both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 05:58 PM
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Lmao so because I used the word married twice it means that I was only talking about marriages that don’t end. Wow I didn’t realize that if you use the word married twice it means that you are talking about a specific marriage. Ma’am get off of Reddit and go back to school.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 12:43 PM
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Again point out where I said people who don’t get divorced or long lasting marriages lol Are you suggesting no marriage ends in divorce just because I used the word married? Also where did I say anything about long marriages?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 01:49 AM
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I’ve seen it. The conclusion I’ve come to is that both of them have probably done wrong to the other or made the other uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 06:14 PM
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And where exactly do I specify couples that don’t divorce?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 06:13 PM
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Just read it upon your suggestion. It didn’t change my perception of the situation. Blake felt uncomfortable at one point during shooting. The issue resolved itself through her speaking up. Later right before promotion for the film starts she announces that she won’t be doing promotion with Justin. All the cast unfollow Justin. He thought a powerful couple was going to come after him and so he tried to act in advance to protect himself. The article says that the PR company “went hard at the pres…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 03:12 PM
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I’m a little confused/conflicted by the whole Justin baldoni/Blake lively situation. People are quick to side with Blake cause she’s a woman but idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 02:41 PM
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Lol no I didn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 01:47 PM
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I literally explained what stats I used to come to that conclusion….and you acknowledged that my numbers made sense…. I literally linked your comment agreeing 🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 11:52 PM
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It’s not my personal experience. I literally commented explaining the stats I used to come to that conclusion when you initially responded to my comment. Numbers you agreed with btw. Edit: https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/f1UfQOfXHP link to you acknowledging my numbers make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 07:26 PM
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It’s not my personal experience. I literally commented explaining the stats I used to come to that conclusion when you initially responded to my comment. Numbers you agreed with btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 07:22 PM
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Yes?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 02:11 PM
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I never stated my personal experience. I used logic and numbers throughout all my explanations. You used your personal experience and also showed you have a lack of understanding for basic words.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 01:27 AM
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Your personal experiences are pretty irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 07:40 PM
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That’s not true. There’s a ton of quality men. Quality does not revolve around looks, it also has to do with character, education, income.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 03:55 PM
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Ehh maybe bad options sure. But a lot of women do not have access to quality men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 03:43 PM
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Common actual does mean prevalent. The definition of common is “occurring, found, or done often; prevalent.”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 03:41 PM
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I got the same impression. I would be interested to know what he looks like. It actually sounded like he was jealous of his wife to me. Also men want the woman they are with to stop looking good because they know that they are shitty partners and they don’t want their wife/gf to have other options.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 03:32 PM
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I got the same impression. I would be interested to know what he looks like. It actually sounded like he was jealous of his wife to me. Also men want the woman they are with to stop looking good because they know that they are shitty partners and they don’t want their wife/gf to have other options.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 03:32 PM
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I got the same impression. I would be interested to know what he looks like. It actually sounded like he was jealous of his wife to me. Also men want the woman they are with to stop looking good because they know that they are shitty partners and they don’t want their wife/gf to have other options.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 03:32 PM
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I got the same impression. I would be interested to know what he looks like. It actually sounded like he was jealous of his wife to me. Also men want the woman they are with to stop looking good because they know that they are shitty partners and they don’t want their wife/gf to have other options.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 03:32 PM
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I think it’s more of the regular people feel United. A public figure endorsing murder is going to get pushback. It’s wouldn’t be a good business practice for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 02:31 PM
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I think that’s generally the case but I don’t get why. What if the woman just isn’t ready yet? We don’t judge men for taking their time to propose
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 02:29 PM
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Who are you saying can’t substantiate the claim?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 02:22 PM
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So my point stands that it’s fairly common for long term couples to grow distant.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 05:10 AM
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What percentage has to do with multiple marriages? Even if the percentage is 40 percent for the divorce rate, there’s most likely higher than 10 percent of married couples who choose not to divorce simply because they don’t believe in it. Meaning the percentage of marriages that fail are still a majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 11:01 PM
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I don’t think looks out weigh it. But money probably does. Financial instability is the number one reason for divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 08:23 PM
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I don’t think many people go into marriage expecting to become distant from their partner but I definitely think it’s the norm. 50 percent of marriages end in divorce and theres a percentage that stay together simply because they don’t believe in divorce. With those numbers it means that most marriages ultimately fail.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 08:22 PM
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Being married to someone you don’t want to hang out with I would say is the norm for most married couples eventually. That shouldn’t be something hard to imagine. When people start out they have stuff to talk about because they don’t know one another. As the relationship progresses and your life becomes intertwined you have those things to talk about. People who don’t enjoy one another’s company from the very start except for sex don’t end up in long term relationships with one another.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 02:48 PM
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Depending on how much status and money is apart of the equation I would say it works. It’s pretty easy to read about men cheating on their wives and their wives staying because of the money their husbands make. There’s a lot of couples who end up having nothing to talk about even the ones who didn’t chase money or status. People becoming distant from their partner is fairly the normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 02:04 PM
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The individual I was responding to was claiming that people without partners gain intimacy through watching porn. What you are saying is something completely different. You are having a shared experience with your partner and your intimacy is with your partner. Your response does not explain what the other individual was saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 01:41 AM
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I’ve seen lots of claims about how/why porn is harmful.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 07:35 PM
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I never argued that porn should be illegal. How does someone garner intimacy from porn? I don’t gain intimacy from watching a movie. Also release can be attained without viewing porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 06:04 PM
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What is the benefit of porn? If someone is against porn how does that correlate with being weak or insecure? This post is trying to normalize sex work but doesn’t do anything to tell us why it should be normalized.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 01:55 PM
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There are literally parents who sell their children for drugs…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 08:40 PM
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I’m confused by the argument. How does me picking my own partner remove security? What does a 16 year old with clear trauma and issues ending up with a predator have to do with liberty?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 08:38 PM
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B.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 02:58 PM
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I think when the women are very young it often is about being predatory. A 35 year old man can find a woman in her late 20s that looks youthful. Going after an 18 year old has nothing to do with looking for youth.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 01:06 PM
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I specifically said men. There are women that I’m sure would agree, I never said there wasn’t. But the average American family has 1.94 kids. If you as a man meet a woman who is already of a age where pregnancy is high risk and she already has kids of her own and you’re shocked that she won’t give you a kid then yes you would be ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 11:45 PM
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I wouldn’t say it has anything to do with being poor. Child care is the highest it’s ever been, owning a home to raise your kids in is less attainable than previous generations. And many young child free people are smart enough to know that especially with social media bringing information to us constantly. Why would they opt into that when they are informed on a regular basis how hard that decision could end up being?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 11:39 PM
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Are birthdates being low only a gender relation issue? I struggle to imagine having more than one child if any at all because it seems so financially draining. Something JD Vance said in his Joe Rogan interview is that conservative America is very pro birth but it isn’t pro life. If there’s no support for parents that’s going to lower motivation to become a parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 11:17 PM
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I don’t think women think in the way you’re describing. But I do think that single parents should look to pair up with other single parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 11:15 PM
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Men who marry women in their late 30s or early 40s and expect kids out of them especially if they already have kids are ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 10:23 PM
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What I’ve seen referenced on here is that women prefer men 1-3 years older than them. The large age gaps that are often are referenced on PPD are not common and from my understanding chances of divorce increase the larger the age gap. The people with age gap relationships often criticize men who go after women in their late teens/early twenties. These women don’t have life experience and so it is easier to prey on them. I say that as a woman who was an age gap relationship at 19. My ex was 7 yea…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 08:53 PM
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No. I gave an example of an unnecessary change I, as a woman, could make.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 04:48 PM
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My point being that if your interested in a successful relationship, your partners opinion will matter to you. A large part of attraction is physical. Someone can be a good partner and not be attracted to their partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 04:46 PM
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Men get upset by this too. I’m pretty sure if I cut my hair off into a bob my bf would be upset. Kind of weird to make unnecessary changes that would make your partner less attracted to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 04:31 PM
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I wouldn’t say I was a hot mess. But I definitely stayed in spaces too long because I was afraid of what would happen if I changed it up. For example, staying in a job too long because I was insecure and was afraid I wouldn’t find another job that saw value in me (I went on to work at two different companies that treated me better than the one I was scared to leave). Staying in relationships too long because I was afraid of not finding someone else if I left.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:59 PM
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What do you mean by that?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:57 PM
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Even if it is, it resonates with my own experience in my early 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:50 PM
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You should be fine then. I majored in CS and was making six figures by 24.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:34 PM
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I remember being younger and hearing people in their 30s and 40s say they would never go back to their 20s. As a 28 year old I get it. I read so many stories on Reddit of young 20s people making poor decisions because of uncertainty/fear and I feel for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:33 PM
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What are your major in school?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:09 PM
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My bf loves ufc and every time I watch it with him and see these men rolling around with one another I think to myself “this is a little gay”. So I’m going to say yes, masculinity is kinda gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:09 PM
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The last time I was single, what matter to me in a long term relationship was a partner that was Christian. I had dated a man I deemed an atheist once and I determined that was an absolute no go. I thought any religious man would be ok but when I dated a Muslim man the idea of my children becoming Muslim and not Christian repulsed me. It was important to me that they were ambitious and had a way of paying significant bills. I have no issue going 50/50 or as close to it as possible with a partner…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 04:51 PM
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It usually takes me a year or more just cause I either don’t see my friends that often or like if I’m seeing them it’s just a girls event or something
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 02:24 PM
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The author of fight club, Chuck palniuk, also wrote a book called snuff. It’s about a porn star trying to break a record by having sex with 600 men in a day. The book is told through the perspective of the men who showed up to it. So interesting how something that ridiculous is coming to fruition.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 02:23 PM
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I don’t have countless men vying for my friendship. Probably the only characteristic that would turn me off in a friend is a man that is abusive to people. But I don’t look for certain things to say “yes now this guy can be my friend”. I have one close male friend and the friendship bloomed naturally. We met at work and were assigned on a project together. We got along well, maybe that’s because we were the only two people in the job for a particular town. We chit chatted a lot and it’s bloomed …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 02:15 PM
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Yes I’m doing it for myself. I have insecurities my skin is not perfect. I prefer to not walk around and wonder if someone is looking at me because of my acne marks. I don’t really understand how this concept is hard for some men to grasp. Do you guys not groom yourselfs?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 01:58 PM
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I would say my bf has some redpill views. He believes money is a pretty big factor in who women choose to be with. He believes women who are overly showing their skin are looking for attention. He believes that many women who are so upset about abortion laws are upset because they want sleep around and then use abortion as a means of birth control. He came to his views largely on his own. The only redpill content he’s ever watched was probably a little bit of Andrew Tate and he felt like they sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 05:57 PM
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Lol I was trying to emphasize that it hasn’t even been two years yet and so much has occurred
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 09:43 PM
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They got married pre pregnancy actually. I suspect him needing a green card and her being desperate/insecure was driving the show.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 07:10 PM
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I have a friend who in the last 22/23 months has met a guy, got married, had a baby, and gotten a divorce. Life moves fast for some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 07:06 PM
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On the version I’m watching, the other way, multiple couples are already married. So for those couples at least it’s not just for the show.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 03:28 AM
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Watching 90 day fiancé the other way and this is such a shit show. I love it. Multiple couples on this show don’t seem to follow many red pill claims.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 03:23 AM
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I don’t care how much a guy makes exactly but I care if about if he would able to pull his weight financially if we were to live together. I don’t care how much a guy spends on a date. Both me and my bf eat out a lot but at local spots, we also don’t drink. Our bill is typically under 100. I think it’s crazy that people are doing dates that are 200+ dollars. When in a relationship I have no issue spending on my guy, and I have no issue going 50/50 on bills. I do like when a guy makes the effort …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 11:51 PM
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I think if a man wants sex within the first 6-8 weeks of a relationship that’s a realistic expectation. But I don’t see how they can communicate that without it seeming to only be about sex. I can see a man not having that conversation not because he’s trying to con or shame a woman, but because it’s overall a difficult convo to have with someone you don’t really know.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 11:41 PM
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If they have those conversations early on they will kill all their relationships prospects. If a guy i barely knew was telling me about his sex expectations, I’m going to immediately think he’s only interested in sex and not even bother to meet him.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 07:58 PM
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If a woman’s femininity only comes out with a certain man then she’s probably not that feminine in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 04:07 PM
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I don’t see it. She has a look like she was meant to be a midget. Also all literally all the photos of Sabrina out there she’s wearing pounds of makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:51 PM
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Idk I looked her up and I think she looks better than Sabrina. Something is off about it Sabrina’s dimensions.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:40 PM
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Why would you not want to lessen the financial burden for your partner? 50/50 doesn’t typically work because people make different income. But contributing a percentage compared to your partner does help both people. Most men and women are not making enough to survive on just their income.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:32 PM
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Looks fantastic
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:20 PM
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Fildelity is not conditional. Someone is going to either give it or not. A similar amount of men and women will get cheated on. And the men and women who cheat are still in a minority group.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:14 PM
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So what is the difference between you and someone born with testicles? Do you suffer from ED? Are you able to have children one day? I think those would be the first questions out of my mouth if I was told this by a guy. I wouldn’t look at him any differently, I would just wonder how it would affect our relationship long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 07:36 AM
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As a woman whose also into fitness I can get the annoyance. Often times the influencers that are being pushed by the algorithm are naturally skinny women who are just trying to show their ass for attention. I don’t see the same reactions to women who are into bodybuilding. But those women usually don’t but a camera under their ass when they are trying to show what they do on back day.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 09:33 PM
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Most men do offer this. The majority of men in heterosexual relationships don’t cheat. And cheating statistically is about the same for both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 08:57 PM
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If you are going to characterize someone as submissive then obviously you lead the question is your favor. Would you assume a dominant man is into role playing sexual assaulting women? Cause that what the OP is claiming.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 07:24 PM
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I think it would depend on the therapist. I tried betterhelp a couple years back and based on the quiz they make you take, they pair me with a therapist focused on high achieving women who struggled to juggle life. This was exactly what i needed and my first session I found to be extremely impactful in how I think today. My other sessions were kind of useless after the first.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 07:19 PM
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If I’m interested in dating and I’m a single parent I would date a single person with kids. I’m being divorced or widowed wouldn’t make a difference to me. I actually think single parents should focus on pairing up with other single parents. I’ve heard both single dads and single moms often want a partner that is child free. I think that could easily become an unfair partnership for the child free person.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 07:15 PM
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Being a good guy has nothing to do with if you’ve allowed porn to affect your brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 07:07 PM
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A man can be dominant in bed without participating in the kinks that OP is discussing. Also OP is claiming that good guys have a moral issue with these kinks so they treat women in general different because of their moral views. I would say that is incorrect seeing as though those are fairly common kinks.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 07:05 PM
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If a guy is into CNC or not is not an indication of is he’s a good guy. He’s just not into that. If he has a moral dilemma with it that I would say is on him. Most “good guys” have no moral dilemma. Porn has done a pretty good job of normalizing the kinks your discussing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 06:57 PM
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Impact in what way? On a day to day basis based on how people interact you are able to determine what sexual kinks they have?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 06:51 PM
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I know multiple men who consider themselves a “good guy” simply because they won’t cheat. That’s literally the bare minimum you can offer in a relationship. And most of the time the reason they won’t cheat is because they would struggle to find another woman who wants to sleep with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 05:31 PM
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I think that a lot of your post is bringing in topics that are irrelevant and that’s where my confusion/issue is. You can say “nice guys” struggle with dating because they do not execute their actions with confidence. And maybe I could agree with that. But “nice guys” have no moral dilemma with CNC, they have no issue with domination. They don’t have a stronger moral framework than “chad” or the “bad guys”. Most of the “nice guys” I’ve met are not respectful, gentle, or considerate of women’s fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 05:29 PM
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Own them in what way? Most people are not demonstrating their kinks publicly. Also when I say that someone’s personality outside of the bedroom doesn’t determine what kinks they are into that also goes for “Chad” or the “bad guy”. These men are not guaranteed to be into the kinks you’re discussing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 05:14 PM
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I disagree with this take completely. The kinks you are describing are common from my knowledge. I don’t equate a nice guy with not having those kinks. I actually think someone’s personality outside of the bedroom has little reflection on what they would be into sexually.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 04:53 PM
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It could be cultural. In my area it’s pretty common for a man to have his eyebrows shaped up. But idk if that’s a common thing overall. My bf shaves his whole body but I do feel like men shaving is not as common.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 03:39 PM
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Femininity is defined by a set of characteristics. So is masculinity. It’s not something vague that is subjective. If a woman demonstrates multiple masculine characteristics such as being assertive, aggressive, stoic, self reliant, dominant, etc. I would consider her masculine. I think it’s normal for a woman to have one or two characteristics that are masculine. But more than that and I would probably consider them a masculine woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 03:28 PM
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I agree with this take. I don’t personally believe it’s a gender issue. I think it’s just a people issue. A lot of people don’t care about their partner. the way they expect their partner to care about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 12:59 AM
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Chase
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 12:24 AM
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I expect this would be a deal breaker for most women and that it would lead to either the man agreeing to not move forward with it or divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 07:06 PM
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I would say the girl whose angry. In the scenario with the guy leaving you don’t mention if the woman has the baby. If a baby is involved that adds extra stress to the situation. If the baby is aborted then the situation are equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 05:39 PM
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Both of them have the same solution. As a parent you speak to them and guide them. People make poor decisions all the time. Fortunately a lot of decisions can be undone or at least apologized for, like walking out on your pregnancy. Feelings can be let go for example forgiving the man that hurt you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 05:12 PM
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But you agree that she has to first be informed before you have sex with the other woman correct?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 05:07 PM
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There are couples who encounter this issue and choose to open their relationship. That’s perfectly fine. Seeking outside of the relationship without your partners consent would be an issue. No one is obligated to stay celibate and if someone feels their partner is trying to force celibacy on them they should come to a solution with their partner or terminate the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 04:05 PM
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I wouldn’t date a man my family wouldn’t approve of. I did it once, fought with my family throughout the whole relationship. When we broke up I regretted fighting with the people that have been by my side consistently over a man. Income, college education, religious background, whether or not he has kids are all things my parents would care about. Physical appearance is not something my family would care about.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 01:20 PM
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His money doesn’t belong to him? I think I’m pretty well off financially. I dont believe money buys you happiness. But I think it gives you opportunities to achieve happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:18 PM
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The stats are werid. I think the claim is that over 60 percent of young adults now meet online. But as lift mentioned i think online could mean multiple things aside from apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:17 PM
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When I came back recently from my PPD hiatus someone in the mega thread mentioned that’s there’s a woman whose very active on PPD but doesn’t come into the mega thread and he’s happy about that. After hanging out here for a little bit recently, I now realize who he’s talking about. And I’m also happy she doesn’t come in the megathread.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:15 PM
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If he is unhappy with how she’s acting i would advise him to leave. Even if he were to manage to change her, long term it would probably just lead to resentment in her part which would ultimately kill the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:13 PM
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Who are you talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 01:36 PM
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So many generalizations in this post it’s ridiculous. This if often said on this sub, but people do not exist in a monolith. And I say that as a woman who leans more conservative.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 04:49 PM
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So your intent was the start ANY conversation? Cause the conversations are all pointing out how easy it appears to be a woman dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 11:51 PM
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It didnt. You claiming that those risk exist but then showing a woman who is doesn’t feel like she’s at risk for those things and doesn’t show herself experiencing your claims doesn’t start any conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 02:53 PM
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There are influencers who openly share when they don’t feel sure about dates they went on. Nothing you showed in your OP shows the risks you claim. The woman you posted got into a car with a complete stranger to then go to a spa and where a small bathing suit around him.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 01:24 PM
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Not really. If she had unpleasant dates she can reveal that, there’s nothing wrong with sharing her story. But their woman didn’t have that. What larger point still holds? That women get to be treated to nice dates multiples times a week?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 09:20 AM
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If you’re trying to say women don’t have it easy, you picked a pretty bad example to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 10:15 PM
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This wasn’t the OPs experience and obviously not a worry for her given that she was happy to be picked up from her home for her first date and then taken to an intimate spa where she was in a small bath suit.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 10:14 PM
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I think it seems like she enjoyed her dates. All of them were rated 7 or higher which is a pretty good score. If this is most women’s experience dating it seems like they have it pretty good right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 10:12 PM
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My mom told my dad that she would not be cooking regularly in their relationship. She watched her mom either running after kids, in the kitchen cooking or running out the house to work. That wasn’t the life she wanted for herself. My dad agreed and for pretty much the entirety of my childhood and teenage years my dad would buy food from restaurants that feature cuisine from his home country. He would buy enough for 3/4 days and reup after. It worked for us. There’s no one way to live life succes…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 08:02 PM
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That’s a ridiculous expectation. The first part you could do but the second part I would say makes it much harder
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 01:15 PM
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If his plan was to not work indefinitely then no. A man who is choosing to put himself in a situation where he can’t work wouldn’t be a man I consider perfect for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 01:13 PM
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What would you be fleeing in your current state that wouldn’t affect Puerto Rico?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 01:11 PM
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What bare minimum standards are women accepting?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 12:13 AM
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Women have their standards too high in regards to dating. Men have their standards too low in regards to dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 06:38 PM
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What standards do women have that you consider low? I would argue women have too high of standards. When I see discourse around expectations for men to pay for $200+ dates, bills for women as if they arnt adults, etc. I find myself wondering if these women are living in reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 06:36 PM
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Many woman are not dating with the intention of having children soon or even at all. So why would that have anything to do with how those women are picking men?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 06:34 PM
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Agreed. Many of them were barely living in America full time as is. Congrats you moved to the house you already owned outside the country.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 05:03 PM
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By week 5/6 of my semesters I was skipping most of my classes and self teaching. It would start with me falling behind in one class or a project and missing a class to sit in the library and self teach or finish the project. Then I would fall behind in the class I missed. Next thing I know, I don’t know anything going on and I might as well sit by myself in the library and try to figure it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 05:00 PM
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The majority of the people I’ve met are partnered up. They arnt even dating. They have girlfriends or wives at this point. I mentioned in another comment that there are guys that I assume were either virgins or low sexual experience by the time we graduated college and they are also married or engaged. I’m sure they exist I’m not denying that. But based on my experience it seems like a small minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 04:57 PM
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I would guess they exist in a small minority and maybe it has grown since Covid especially with work from home becoming more common. But honestly even the “weridos” at my job when I went into the office are paired up now. I can think of at least 4 guys I was friends with in college that I think were virgins when we graduated. 3 are married already and one is engaged.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 03:39 PM
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5’7, 5’8. I don’t consider 5’10 short
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 03:34 PM
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I’m sure they exist I’m not denying peoples existence. The point of my comment was they are probably a small minority because the short tech bros I know arnt permasingle. I would guess that probably everything that is discussed in these spaces exist to some degree. My comment was more about what degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 03:33 PM
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Developer. Nope. I’m trying to think and literally everyone I worked with is either currently dating someone, engaged or already married. There’s one guy I knew in college who gave incel vibes who also majored in CS. I would talk to him and he would tell me how the world was horrible and his parents were horrible and he was suicidal and this girl he liked didn’t like him. I can imagine he might still be single but he also gave school shooter vibes. Also he didn’t get a job straight out of colleg…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 03:30 PM
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No I do know them. I was in this field prior to Covid and mass work from home. I was actually in a company that hired 20-30 kids straight out of college every year. So I know many people in tech that are in my age group. My closest friend who I have maintained a friendship with for 6 years now through job changes and moves is a 5’7, 30 year old, Indian guy who was assigned to help me out back when he was 24. I was friendly with his ex who he met on a dating app shortly after I met him. We use to…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 03:24 PM
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I’m in tech, in my late 20s and I know very single people in my field. Even the short men I know are partnered up or dating and having some degree of success on dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 03:12 PM
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I don’t really get what people are supposed to get from that conversation. I can definitely see myself having that convo with a guy I don’t care about at all. But it’s not a convo I would care to have with a man I care about. Evan if it’s just the same stuff he does with me I wouldn’t even want those images in my head.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 02:23 AM
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Not really. I think that’s kind of werid for anyone to ask about women or men. I don’t want to know what my man did with another woman. I don’t see what people are even supposed to get from that conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 02:22 AM
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No man or woman should be discussing with their partner what sexual acts they performed on their exes. If you’re doing that you’re begging to get your feelings hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 10:02 PM
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Has the way couple interacted with one another sexually changed? Intimacy can dwindle because of kids, emotional needs not being met, busy work schedules, etc. I assume that has always been the case throughout history. Yet people still expected their partners to be faithful.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 09:27 PM
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Why would I google mobile? Even in the richest areas of America having a six figure salary puts you above average. Edit: If anything all you’re saying is you’re even more exceptional in mobile than you already were in Manhattan.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 02:13 PM
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The average annual salary in Manhattan is still 80k.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 01:00 PM
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OP didn’t mention a specific location so why should it be relevant
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 04:45 AM
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What is the redpill logic that explains Arian grande and Ethan slater
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 06:53 PM
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Congratulations you should be proud of that. It’s impressive. You did something 98 percent of Americans couldn’t do.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 02:51 PM
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Yea he’s either very accomplished and feels like women are getting more praise for the same things he’s done. Or he has accomplished little to nothing and is just a hater.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 02:44 PM
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Actually it is impressive. If you have managed to keep your weight off while people around you have gotten fatter, you should be proud of that. If you did something 98 percent of other people couldn’t do, you should be proud. Maybe it’s easy to you but it’s not easy the a good majority obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 02:42 PM
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