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those are women's brains that also make the decision "i wanna sell sex" thats what im trying to say here. Well my sister, mother, grandmother, and niece don't disagree with me. There are women who have, women who might be actively trying to conduct business and women I don't know very well personally. Of course I would try to respect these women, much more than whining or entitled people of course. But I'm here arguing with you, not them, and I can't help but see a reason for that. i cant just g…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 09:29 PM
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so is banging strangers at a bar or hooking up with partners one met on a dating app or all sorts of other things women do without exchanging money but they arent keen on asking me for my opinion or yours so whats the point outlawing it when these are adults? People who are casual with each other can consent. Someone on the verge of literal death or something she to lack of money cannot consent. Where do you draw the line? Well I'm not saying it's perfect, but I would say draw the line somewhere…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 06:49 PM
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You haven't told me anything about a different continent, although I'm a bit older and I've lived a while and I never heard of such a culture. However, it would be very unlikely and very interesting to hear how someone from a culture with such clear views ends up going so far in the opposite direction.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 04:21 PM
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but yeah hooray for untrafficked prostitutes, too bad i live in a MENA shithole where i'd get physically assaulted if i spoke up for decriminalizing johns and prostitutes No one is physically assaulting you for that. Oh my God, OK I'm leaving this sub again. I do disagree with you, though, being a John is irresponsible and gross and should be illegal. voicing your sexual frustration on reddit is the same thing as banging strangers unprotected in bars Read this sub for a bit, what are you new her…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 04:17 PM
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Complaining endlessly to internet strangers about one's sexual frustration as though one doesn't care how one has sex or who would get hurt is literally a sexually irresponsible attitude. Those men are about one trafficked woman or one too many beers away from being super irresponsible. They're the same type of dude - the type with impulse control issues who don't handle their emotions with healthy coping mechanisms.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 04:08 PM
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Men are more socially allowed, where I grew up, to chase sex under any circumstances. Women have always felt consequences for that behavior when it goes wrong. Men have, too, but they're more likely to say "doesn't matter, had sex." That's an actual song sung by an all male band. How is it more extreme to point out the dangers of such ideas than it is to say that your sexual impulses should never be criticized? Some of y'all never had nieces and nephews or half sisters raised by toxic coparents,…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 01:42 AM
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Bro can practice law but doesn't cook but will eat other people's food. Smh
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 02:41 AM
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The fact that you put it in quotes is VERY telling. I think I remember one of your alt accounts lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 02:39 AM
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You can most certainly make efforts that make a difference, like online research into the clitoris, articles not videos duh
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 02:35 AM
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I mean, I'll talk to a man, but I'm not going to go into romance with him! And that makes it even easier for men lol I'm not arguing that lesbians do or don't have it easier, but that straight women have it about as hard as straight men. Straight women find it harder to determine if a man is compatible. They are driven, yes, and part of that drive means they put us on the spot and expect us to take chances when we are less informed than they are. Really lame men on the internet will fetishize in…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 06:01 AM
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And that literally is one small part of a potential relationship, I would say a less important part than moving in together as it is usually very low-stakes. For instance, I am not "cowardly" or afraid of rejection when I don't approach. I just literally know it won't work due to experience, which was backed up by my mother. Any time I would have to bring up romance to a man, it would inevitably be rejected. And I have survived that, but there would be no need for that. The men who have ever sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 05:21 AM
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Still seems highly biased. Other women, at least the ones I have knon, would easily dispell you of this notion.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 05:12 AM
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Secret "go bags" are a outdated. One would need a separate account for the money, and to just keep the passport/debit card in our wallet. Dried fruit? Tampons? These are emergency supplies. I WANT my husband to know about that type of bag. My extra change of clothes in the car is not a secret either lol, he has one too. Emergencies happen, and preparation is key. Those emergencies are not always an abusive - or a solo - situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 05:07 AM
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I mean, your experience is so biased and limited that your first thought is about being brave enough to approach. If you had a teenage niece that was dating while still learning, you would see that's literally not the only or main serious concern in regards to women dating. You may have it easier in other ways than you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 05:00 AM
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Men aren't a monolith. Love some, hate some. Same with women. I know what I believe better than you do, I'm sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 03:27 AM
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I could never hate him. Have fun with being a jerk.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 03:19 AM
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Yeah I never said that. I make fun of jocks, dude. You REALLY are off base.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 03:15 AM
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What the fuck lol. I hate bullying and was a virgin when I met my husband. The fuck are you talking about? You got a source or do you just pull things out of your arse? I'm literally on this thread talking about how men DO NOT grow through simply sticking their dicks in vaginas, but yeah go off like I'm on the opposite lmao. At this point you really are agreeing with me!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 03:09 AM
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Not all women or girls are happy lol And even a happy young girl or boy has things to learn, and their happiness will evolve as they do, maybe one day into a relationship Hahaha oh you know all about me? Cute OK yeah bye
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 02:57 AM
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There are single women, and younger girls on here. Even if not posting, some are likely looking at some point. I N T E R N E T
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 02:54 AM
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Suuure lmao And girls view this site too btw
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 02:51 AM
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This is the internet. The very troubled male half is certainly on here sharing their personal experiences. There is more than likely some young person who CAN learn from what I have to say. I haven't exactly led a crazy wild life lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 02:30 AM
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Are you new to this damn sub, or do you not see men posting about said expectation ALL THE TIME for my nephew to see? And I'm not supposed to address the double standard before he scrolls around? Yeah OK LMAO
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 02:25 AM
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Lmao, there was at least 2 other commenters who actually read to see what I meant and not your gross twisting. But tell yourself whatever makes you feel better. bye now
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 02:23 AM
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Not your business lol. Obviously you want to see the bad, and I have other things to do now, so...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 02:22 AM
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I dated to get married in the first place. I'm an adult who knows what they want, which is how I selected my husband who is not a whore. I'm not on here much anymore because I got a life, as a should, but I am most certainly qualified to have my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 02:07 AM
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I said only a TRP dummy would dispose of them. Like only a TRP dummy would use them. Because promiscuous people who use people are dummies. We clear now?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 02:05 AM
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JFC save your judgment for someone the fuck else. I was just stating something that is utterly UNdateable in general in my opinion because men on here crow about the opposite. I am not trying to date anyone, and I'm not your wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 01:59 AM
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Only some online hater troll can hear me say "man a lot of these dudes have some really undateable qualities" and make it all about me trying to mingle around again. Yeah right bruh.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 01:55 AM
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It means if a woman wants to be exclusive on her wns, invite the man to dinners and holidays, do his laundry cook for him, maybe even live with him to do all those things while paying half the rent... He will usually push for that as a good deal even if he has to cheat on the side and hear a little bit of bitching. The only thing is that he might say no to marriage, kids, too many dates, too much quality time if he isn't feeling like it. But usually men know women have things to offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 01:50 AM
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See this is a surprisingly honest and interesting take. Is it a porn thing? The same way y'all get off from watching strangers be sexual even unrealistically so, y'all find sex to be an interesting topic to discuss graphically with other people for no other reason than good clean entertainment? Is that the deal?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 01:46 AM
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Alright, in that case I may send some of the idiot boys/men here to you if they bring it up bc I'm generally busy. I've seen a lot of men arguing against you though. I feel like it's kind of bullshit, though, they are almost always willing to take a woman's time and energy in a relationship if she puts up with low enough effort and maybe commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 01:41 AM
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Yes, I'm not literally looking for a man at this moment, but I still hate manwhores and wouldn't date one in the future. After my husband, if there was a dating future afterward somehow, I would probably be even more strict on last lovers. No longer a naive young virgin woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 01:38 AM
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I swear, this is the biggest blind spot. Sure, relationships aren't for everyone and sure men have their risks to carefully consider. But to think that women are somehow different sexually when they have multiple partners than the same behavior in a man? Just utterly insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 01:35 AM
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Being single is not a torture sentence. No reason to be that desperate. Perhaps you should tell people this instead of supporting power struggles. Fuck, even if no one clearly wins the power struggle to a point of clear power imbalance, the effort itself is too exhausting. That's how abuse happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 01:24 AM
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A relationship where one party does not respect the other party, and the other party does not desire the first, is objectively a fucking failure. None of us would want that for our nieces and nephews, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 01:22 AM
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"Simps are ruining the dating market, blahbitty blah the dating market is unfair, rabble rabble, etc." You mean men are willing to FUCK almost anyone. And for a lot of men, you're right. You worship these men. Maybe you want them for yourself, I don't fucking know. But please take them, I sure don't want a manwhore as a woman! Y'all be acting like casual sex is the best deal for men... Baby, this is what happens. Male sluts are usually disposable just like any casual woman might be to many TRP d…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 01:21 AM
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You only need ONE relationship not to fail. If you try 4, and one is successful, you could be married by the time you're 28 easily. You could also just stay single. You don't HAVE to do shit. If you've got a slave instead of a partner, you already failed, obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 01:15 AM
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Putting a penis in ones vagina is difficult. Pleasurable sex, mutual respect, admiration, passion, orgasm? Yeah, that takes real work on both ends. I feel like most sexually active adults would know this... And if finding a part to stick your part in is so difficult, get a toy. Fuck what other men say, just do what you need. No one else will know unless you are literally such a tool that you can't be discreet.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 01:13 AM
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Apparently he is, and he considered the alternative cheap 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 02:23 AM
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Cheaper? You're delusional. I subsidize my husband's existence as much as he does mine lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 02:22 AM
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Never heard of a man actually treating a woman in a friendly and sexy way... And NOT wanting her to do his laundry, stay over, pay half the bills, etc. They don't seem capable.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 02:16 AM
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but still overall women are going to want to date up or at least equal as that’s how they are naturally. Anyone who says men aren't this way is lying. Now, a man might bone someone unfortunate for a few nights like a woman might have some bad first dates, but otherwise we all are human and we want something as good for us as we can manage. Strange to me that this ever became gendered or a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 03:17 AM
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That's like saying "give it time and you'll be curious about crystal meth." I mean, sure we all have weird fucking impulses every now and then, but that doesn't mean it's right for us. Some things are too serious to just jump into them on a whim of desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 03:07 AM
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Watching Fight Club for the first time! Brad may be a huge asshole IRL, but he used to look great on camera. I have NO idea how all the red pill little bitches can complain about their dry dicks, or that one crazy woman, or how they have to wash their own boxers after watching this movie!!! In the first 20 minutes alone, I basically beat my depression that's caused by a REAL set of problems and not some misogynistic pity party. So anyway this is a decent Sunday night. Quit being snowflakes out t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 03:04 AM
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I think most people are average. People revert to the mean. I could be wrong. Is it possible? Highly unlikely. is it wrong to speak of someone this way even if it's true? Definitely. Remember, this brilliant man chose to knock up this horrible woman. That's what makes it even more unlikely Anyone with half a moral compass would teach his child not to speak of their poor, helpless, challenged mother this way. That part is not for nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:48 PM
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when I said he was right, I meant he was right about me leaving her. That's not how you worded it. You intentionally added these bits. Hormonal issues... God ...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 04:07 AM
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.....? She was sick? How? And even if so, him fixating on the 'young' part is so dumb. My parents would just assume I was going with someone age appropriate no matter what!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:49 AM
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My mom was incompetent, had poor genes, and just all around is miserable to be around. But my dad is incredibly intelligent. Whoo boy. Wonder who taught you how to talk about your mama this way. Must have been your amazing dad, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:46 AM
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Hell, I was like 24 or 25 back then too. Dude that makes it even worse I also didn't say I should go for as young as I can. You agreed with your grandfather, who said that. Same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:45 AM
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Half the men on this sub want a "barefoot and pregnant feminine woman." No woman ever had said "you don't need to learn how to cook, I'll do it for you!" And gaining an employable skill takes years after high school, nonstop experience, etc. Learning how to cook is something all people do before high school. It's not an opportunity that is taken away from men, ever. False equivalency. Sure the tone is not great, I guess, but hatred against men? You wouldn't know the meaning of the phrase, or mis…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:44 AM
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How did she take your money? Dates and stuff? I thought y'all got married, did she not have a job and contribute or what? Big guts on you talking about how she wanted to play the field when you are talking about going for as young as you can get like you are somehow different.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:40 AM
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Fuccboi, but loved with her and cheated on her? Yeah, that's the woman's fault, sure! /s What the fuck, dude? who she admits she thought he was kinda lame at first. But he was devoted, stable, and hardworking, so she went on to marry him and eventually really came to love the guy Doesn't sound like that has anything to do with your "grandad" being physically weak or unmasculine or unattractive. Sounds like your grandma probably had a bit of a slow time warming up after she was cheated on by some…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:39 AM
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It just seemed like there was a fairly obvious answer. I was looking forward to the original commenter's reply, but since she didn't... Well, I figured maybe she wanted us to figure out the obvious. And if not, she can reply. I admit I have no firsthand experience with anything remotely casual lol. Like I said, that's always seemed too complicated for me. At least if I'm in love for life, it can last long enough and become good enough to be worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:33 AM
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I ain't stopping her from replying lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:28 AM
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No, she says they already took the time to juggle several people and to determine that they weren't suited for a relationship before sleeping together. They already managed complications, but the complications were there. IMO, always have been and always will be.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:26 AM
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in retrospect, we both should've listened. How in the fuck do you figure this, and are you aware that it sounds like you've basically sipped your family's destructive kool aid?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:24 AM
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Possibly because sleeping with a guy she likes quickly could accelerate the whole commitment thing faster than she wants, or slow it down? Could be possible. Sex makes things complicated, unless you're putting effort in otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:21 AM
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There's nothing romantic about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 03:25 AM
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No, it definitely doesn't happen after sex. My husband was my first. Most of my side of the family is this way, or was when young.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 03:12 AM
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The oldest French Open tennis champion is a vegan soyboy. He's healthy as shit, and he has been particularly resistant to injury with a very long career. You're putting veganism in the wrong column entirely.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 03:10 AM
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They hit on them but no one is committing to them commitment is the ultimate goal. So you're married then. Right? Right? If not, then don't presume things you can't stick to yourself. Hypocrisy is a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 03:02 AM
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Yeah I’m still young and appealing. Sorry if that bothers you Bothers me that you are dumb enough to think "being in control of your sex life" is everyone's answer, and that you think t's OK for you to turn that into your whole ass personality. Believe me, I would never want to commit myself to you no matter how young and appealing you are, and you have done nothing but prove how conversations are "too formal for you." I assure you it reflects upon your girlfriend, too, and that I believe you wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:11 PM
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Did I come to the space about debating red pilled men so I can talk to women? Lmao Who do you think is on the other side of the debate? JUST men? Really? You're doing a poor enough job representing yourself. Nope. Part of the redpill is understanding the women you are dealing with and vetting them so you don’t have regrets of course. I know I don’t ;) And this is exactly why I made my original comment about how your original comment presents the red pill. You can't start of advocating for fuckin…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:27 AM
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Your GD title says "dating advice," that is the part that's unclear. I would never open up a serious talk about substance use with a roundabout line like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:11 AM
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He ain't you, and he's glad. Did you come here just to troll women, or do you have a genuine defense for why you are out here recruiting other men to just fuck about indiscriminately and casually without spelling anything out? Would you not be concerned about your nephews getting involved with someone they regret, if they listened to you? Do you not care for the young men who are listening at all? Or do you just have no idea what you're talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:10 AM
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I'm married, but nice lack of civility you got there
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:06 AM
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No, I just rolled my eyes at them and changed the subject because I had to deal with the manwhores. You? You I can mute if I want. But you came to this place, you claim how nice it is to take your road in life. You're actually on a soapbox, this isn't some passing comment you made in the middle of a workday. You get my real opinion, and you can mute me too if you wish.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:04 AM
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Really? Did anyone else thing that yours rant about self-respect counts as "dating advice?" Especially when you start out by assuming dating is something NO man should do? Bitch, that's like me saying, "I have some drug tips, don't do them." Does that make any sense to you, even if someone agrees to your premise that wahmen bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:01 AM
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I'll take a mental note that "taking the redpill" means slinging around diseased community dick until someone comes along cheap enough that you don't need to ask them for a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 01:59 AM
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Well, you made a dumb post with a dumb title, because "have the self-respect not to date" is not dating advice. Learn to write more clearly.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 01:53 AM
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Hahaha Yeah babe, surely the women you have been asking out will suddenly be asking YOU out if you just stop. There's NO way they don't want you, you just haven't had a good approach! Oh come on.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 01:46 AM
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Hating the people you fuck and shit posting on the internet is not a pretty result.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 01:43 AM
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Meh, you caught me on a night where I can admit it's hard. Trusting my partner is hard. Dealing with men at work, and preparing for a difficult male-dominated job, is fucking hard when I'm still expected to do all the dishes and remain the "sexually pure yet super sexy" one. Sometime life is hard. I'm sure men have those days, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 05:05 AM
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There are certain productive things to be aware of about male nature, your personal past being a fat better example than a mass shooter but important nonetheless. Also, like almost no women are mass shooters, so let's not pretend it's edgy or unproductive to say women deserve some respect on our name by the same logic you are using to defend men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 04:22 AM
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Oh, even living in a rural area might make sense to me why you don't have much romantic experience. I could easily understand this. No, I don't think I consider this an automatic red flag or a problem. It might be a CHALLENGE, but it's not one that's insurmountable I don't think. What you said about support? That makes a difference, I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 02:36 PM
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Tchaikovsky is the best classic composer, hands down. With with your RP flair? I'm not sure you would stack up to such discriminating taste. And I like rock music myself, even moreso than classical.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 08:26 PM
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Most women don't even approach men, the standards for charisma have always been tougher on men. Different standards for yes. From my perspective, I'd this means anything, rude and unsociable men made me feel awful when I dared to flirt as a teen girl, so I assume their "social standard" is for me to be "submissive and feminine," creating this difference of expectations. In the end, it still boils down to common social expectations, which to me means not expecting me to hit on you while also feel…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 12:19 AM
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Hahahahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 11:14 PM
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Anyone who manages to impregnate a woman was almost guaranteed to be given the chance to get in her good graces, and that of his children and both of their extended families at the very minimum, not to mention the added career bonus opportunities men have. Yeah maybe that's not "men of the manosphere," but it is a factor real world men living the life experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 07:41 PM
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Thank Lilith, you're the real MVP!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 07:35 PM
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What of your father? He had children with a woman. What was his role there? And what were his grievances with ya mom? We are talking about a compiling of social events and phenomena that are changing the landscape of dating and it’s negatively affecting a large portion of men. That’s what you guys don’t want to believe in. I told you what I saw in my family. I am in my late 20's. I've also told you what I've seen in men you get than me. Very rare that any of them would share this huge social con…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 07:35 PM
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Dismissive? I said "they should break up so he's not miserable from his preferences," and you think I'm dismissive? No. And of course I would say the same for a woman whose important preferences aren't being met.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 07:32 PM
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Every man in my family would be ashamed at the comments on this site made by most men. So no, just based on real life experience in my area, I do not think most men share those experiences. And in the younger generations, the men who aren't so wholesome just... Don't seem to care about anything more than sex in a relationship. I do not think this experience of "women suck" is common to men. However, even the initial comment I replied to implied frustration as a basis for men's complaints about t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 07:07 PM
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So all women also should be treated like queens by men who deserve to be tolerated, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 07:00 PM
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Yikes, no I'm pretty sure most grown women know what they get themselves into unless they are literally lied to when a partner says they are monogamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 06:58 PM
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I'm pretty sure most married men have broken up with at least one woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 06:57 PM
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When two consenting adults knowingly make things happen, they both need accountability. It needs to go BOTH ways. "Oh well I had to take advantage if you because I knew one day a supermodel would sweep me for my feet" does not take a man off the hook for spreading around diseases to perfectly nice ladies in the meantime. But if the women knew it was casual, well, they should be testing and they should be on birth control and they should be aware of the risks as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 06:53 PM
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But the men on here complaining about wahmen are not saying "I am frustrated," like an emotionally intelligent person might. The men on here literally say "this is not OK, we have a gynocracy and men are impressed and there will have to be an uprising." There are two arguments to be made, then. "Of course it's OK, your claim is whack and has no foundation. How can anyone even be this dense?" Which I have said, and usually is met with "lol that's not an argument. Yeah, pal, and neither is anythin…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 06:50 PM
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He's out sometimes, and I'm too poor to entertain myself without the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 06:42 PM
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I wouldn't date a dude who is on Insta. I'm not 18 anymore, and even then it was a dealbreaker because I had a life and an education that I didn't want to interrupt for some diseased doucherocket.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 06:28 PM
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I'm pretty sure the man gets thrown away because he said something rude, which is valid. 15 years, huh? What an exaggeration. But yeah it's better to separate the household than have a miserable husband/dad who can't get his dick preference. If weight loss doesn't happen in 14 years, it might be a bit much to take on for that person. And dealing with the miserable, dry-dicked man is even worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 06:22 PM
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Yeah, there's a normal way and a not normal way to make requests. Requesting something reasonable that you like out of care is fine, whether that is a nearly trimmed beard or a nice dress. Acting like your partner is gross for having one hair out of place, or for wearing a tube top, is not fine. At that point just quietly break up and don't add to the drama.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 06:16 PM
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It might be that they don't talk about their casual one night stands or "short relationships" with you? I mean, that would make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 06:07 PM
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I dunno, I feel like the consequence of social isolation (because everyone realizes you are a thoughtless jerk) and the consequence of having to deal with people you clearly can't respect are really bad consequences. As a woman, I would never, but I guess if I had all of the financial advantages of a man and I had this drive ONLY to have sex without ever wanting to hold another person close and care for them, maybe it would be different? Idk, I hope not because I have a husband and a father whom…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 06:02 PM
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A sustained 49% incel rate would be crippling. As a woman, we can't fuck a man into bettering himself. Can't keep negotiating against ourselves due to a threat of violence. If whatever is happening is unsustainable, then maybe it's time to come over to "our side" a little bit. Doing the dishes and being fun/sociable doesn't seem too much to ask, when it's looked at by the gender who has been doing this the whole time.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 05:58 PM
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I hate to ask this.... BUT... So why? Why do you have demand for your side job, then? All of that money for something they could get well enough from anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 03:36 AM
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I'm pretty sure men can say no, too, but they don't want to. It's like telling me you have no control as a voter, when you stayed at home on election day because you don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 11:16 PM
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I'm shocked that not a single manosphere clown has attempted to address this glaringly obvious hole in their "argument." Well, I'm not THAT shocked.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 06:35 PM
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Sometimes boundaries are hard. But when the guy is really out of line and you keep your boundary, usually he will help you create space lol. But if I separated from my husband, someone who I actually slept with? There's no way I'd want to stay just friends. If we can work it out as friends, I couldn't see not being his caretaker and his helper and his lover. Because, well, we have already done that and I thought it was good.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 02:51 AM
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Eh? Do YOU like THEM? If so, do your best until it seems they aren't increasing their investment with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 09:52 PM
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Holy moly, little dude is not only climbing up and jumping off heights taller than him but he also is holding himself up by his arms like in bars. And he is SO young. Dude going to be an athlete.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 09:50 PM
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My littler nephew is fun and sweet. Exhausting maybe, but I love him. So now I've decided maybe I'd be OK raising a boy. Even if he has some issues later on, many people do and I'd live. I'm sure there would be good things, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 09:47 PM
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Doesn't it strike you as a little mentally unhinged to be stuck to and sleeping with a guy who may or may not even be able to enjoy ONE NIGHT with you? Because when my sister did that yeah she was very unhinged
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 08:56 PM
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Niche scenarios and really bad luck do not account for the majority of people having excessive struggles, especially not for only one single gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 06:37 AM
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But women ARE attracted to men and socialize with men, especially in school when men could be putting in effort and settling down early instead of riding some pussy carousel "because they can."
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 06:34 AM
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here we are criticising men and telling men that is their fault that they are not valuable enough to date an average chubby looking McDonald's girl. I don't think that's what's being said. I think it's being said that average men ARE likely "valuable" enough, and that it is illogical to conflate this "value judgment" with what their social life is actually like.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 06:33 AM
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How does our bitching affect your perfect life. This, Einstein. This is how. You want to bitch, defend your right to bitch, but a WOMAN'S life is perfect and everything is all about men. Narcissism, bias, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 06:30 AM
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Eye roll Y'all act like your perfectly average, not rich Chad fathers didn't get married and have kids with your mama. Wait a minute, DID your fathers abandon your mamas? I know my dad would be ASHAMED if his grandson thought this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 02:58 AM
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I think few people that have families really regret family formation and the kind of unmatched social bonding that generates even if they have some regrets about not being about to live out some bourgeoise fantasy life YOU, my friend, are the one with classist and biased perceptions on the issue. I grew up middle class, a house and a bedroom of my own but no cable TV and no car fof me. Parents made some bad decisions (only supported 1 kid though), maybe I took too long to correct the issues. So …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 03:54 PM
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YES! My opinion, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 03:36 PM
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Ah yes, of course, my opinion cannot be considered. I suppose that ends this conversation lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 03:16 PM
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You asked "from the beginning," that doesn't mean from before they talked. Just seeing someone in the street isn't a beginning to anything. It is literally nothing. To be an option for anything romantic or sexual in nature a guy has to be attractive, which most men aren't from what is shown. Obviously, I disagree. Plenty of average men are physically attractive enough for average women if they were to behave in compatible ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 03:12 PM
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Every guy I dated was "invisible" before we talked. Why? Because I was a busy person who didn't have the time to fantasize or swoon over any random guy. He had to pass more than one threshold to even get noticed. I considered that I liked them AFTER we talked and they were confirmed to be things like kind, smart, and funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 03:02 PM
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That's from online dating data, no? Unreliable. Many insufferable f-boys and leftover 30+ men use online dating. "Just noticing" a man happens in small clans, or like i said in places where women go to meet men in a convenient and cozy place like a pub. You don't take the NY City subway and notice the good looking guys There are too many, it wouldn't be possible consciously. I've explained this multiple times, how are you not getting it? Let's say, for a moment, that we are talking about a cozy …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 02:38 PM
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But women don't notice guys who are attractive for no additional reason. There is not enough time. Unless maybe she's literally out looking at a convenient place to meet men, I guess? I've explained this. Passing by a good looking guy and then not speaking to him literally means nothing, and will not register to be noticed, much less is that "attraction in the first place."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 02:20 PM
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If one is wise enough, before you even fully have your first sex partner you can make sure it is a good experience. It's easier and faster to learn by performing the "best/right way" over and over than it is to learn from singular, failed, and uncommunicative procedures few and far between. One should never even have sex bad enough to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 04:45 AM
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Do you not have friends, or a relationship with your kids? That's what I thought. Now I do agree that ROMANCE and sex go hand in hand, but that would require asking someone's name first and getting to know what they like in and out of bed one step at a time, wouldn't it?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 04:42 AM
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And that's how you get your situation. Which if I'm being honest, no one wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 04:39 AM
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I'm not surprised at all that women file more paperwork than men. It's unpleasant alright, but it just looks like men are lazy and cowardly for allowing things to fester when the other gender party so often must take care of real business.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 04:39 AM
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When's the last time a woman told you how imperfect you are? Just because you know it doesn't mean anyone would ever be dumb and rude enough to say it. What makes you think you can, and without consequences to boot?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 04:34 AM
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That's animal mentality, which is totally incompatible with humanity and human connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 04:27 AM
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In that case, doesn't really matter if a man is not consciously noticed, does it?.... Anyway, if you want to ask, I spoke to my husband first. I was a virgin, and I wasn't thinking about screwing him at all. I just told him he had a nice shirt. I had been through 2 "breakups" in middle school and high school, and I was scared it would happen again. Wasn't looking for a relationship at all, I was just making oil tea conversation. That day, I knew he was special. He pursued me from that first conv…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 04:26 AM
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You are too civilized for this sub lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 04:19 AM
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Even when I was young and single, never did I ever waste tome rating random men on the street as to where they stood 1 to 10. I never asked myself "hot or not?" or "do they pass my looks threshold?". I was way too busy for those kind of thoughts, those thoughts literally don't serve a purpose. I had to at least have reason to speak to the guy first. If he seemed really disgusting, a stereotypically "good looking" dude would just get on my nerves. If a man seemed like we could get along at all so…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 04:16 AM
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No, that feels incredibly invasive for men I know OR men I don't know. I'm literally not into porn. It's bad enough if my imagination takes on forms I don't like, which only happens rarely. I'm in a monogamous relationship, so what feels good to me and my emotional needs and desires are connected with my husband. If I'm doing something on my own, it isn't about a guy or some kind of desired connection. I'm actually happy just having been with my husband. Solo time is just about taking the edge o…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 11:23 PM
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Getting treatment for a problem isn't a red flag. Letting the problem fester is a red flag. Treatment is a green flag. Now, mental problems CAN be incredibly difficult to treat and manage. Pete's manwhore history IS a red flag, but it would be truly hypocritical for the women he's dated to call that out. Almost like he does flock to red flags... And yet regardless of that, he is not a deadbeat dad and he extended a lot of compassion to both Kanye and Ariana. Just by that alone, he's doing better…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 11:16 PM
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:-l Actually fat women almost never criticize fat men, so your claim about this being one-sided is false. Y'all men on ever even will say a man's weight doesn't matter as much, it's mainly height, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 11:45 AM
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They literally made it a movement to try and get men to stop being unattracted to fat women Bruh, how did you type this?!?!?! Let me promise you, if women had ANY recognition for their agency and humanity, you would never have said this with your whole chest that "women's movements" are really all about fucking men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 05:32 AM
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"You have all the power if you are a good looking man! Just remember that, be all about yourself, and then that's a healthy relationship!" Bruh wtf are you on? Can I have some for the holidays?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 05:29 AM
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Q4M: have you ever been hollered at by a group of men from a driving car, or is this just something men only do to women? It happened to me, so I'm curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 02:53 PM
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Haven't heard a woman complain about this in a club environment where women actually dress raunchy. HAVE made this complaint myself wearing long, baggy shorts and a t-shirt walking down the road. don't know if it was sexual attention or not, but it was unwanted attention for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 02:51 PM
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Plenty of prostitutes have very low looks standards, and much higher money demands, than a woman just looking for enthusiastic sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 02:23 AM
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My body count is 1, so, idk about all that. Not always true. Yes I do want to like the guy, not for money.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 12:36 AM
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You have your other business to shield/clean your cash income. You don't think you could report abuse without getting automatically accused of something that is already next to impossible to prove? Couldn't ANY rapist or abuser just accuse the woman of that, and have her be arrested? What exactly do you think they would do to prove some case against you? Believe me, I've looked into it more than I wish I had to, and it doesn't seem easy to build a case.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 12:33 AM
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I would violate terms of service so, so fast...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 12:30 AM
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moreover, when women call guys "assholes" often times those guys aren't even malicious at all. They just don't want to commit to her, because they have more/better options. I've had sex with one man ever, he is my husband and while I cannot guarantee he has never cheated, I hope he is not a cheater. So no, when I call men assholes it is not because they didn't commit to me. It is because I have heard them talk about 3 or 4 different women in a sexual way, meanwhile if they ACTUALLY HAD any optio…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 12:25 AM
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I would advise men to actually start families in their own damn 20's, but I know how hard that is for both genders these days. Maybe society will change to allow more freedom and space and opportunity for young adults soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 12:15 AM
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My dad had 2 baby mamas. The first daughter, who didn't get all of his time? She hates him, AND me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 12:08 AM
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All I know for sure is, you've got no life if all you want to do is go on dates all day. Red flag for me. Respect is arguably a bit too far, but it isn't good.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 11:48 PM
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That's the thing. Only men with obscene and unrealistic standards need to obsess this far about the "quality of women" they date. If you get 4 hours of workout in per week and you eat well and you use skincare and you dress appropriately, 99% of nondisfigured men can get a partner that matches them easily. Work as hard as you can at your best job otherwise, I guess, but that's really all you should have to do to find someone average who matches you. We can't all be in the top 1%.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 11:41 PM
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I'd never tell men to NOT use their work ethic, or to neglect their appearance... But I would never say that personality absolutely doesn't matter. It's not even that hard to be emotionally intelligent and conversational and to have personal interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 11:36 PM
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Nah, I actually want a partner. His opinions, to take care of him... I sacrifice, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 11:25 PM
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Why can't women just be real and accept that most men are talking to her because of her body? Bodies ain't made for talking, and like another comment said, the guy didn't want to talk. That is so damn important, it beared repeating by me. As for why we want a man that is interested in us? We are people. We have lots of things about us, things which are not random but are a part of our life. If we are to risk getting pregnant by a guy or letting him into our home, we want to know that we are all …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 11:19 PM
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It matters, yes, but science is still studying how quick a calorie deficit will place its full effect on calorie storage. Some weeks in a deficit, I lose nothing. Other weeks, I have a smaller deficit and I lose 3 pounds at once. I know what I'm talking about. Do you? I never said it was calculus. It's fucking biology, which is more complex than any sort of math. Alcohol has affects on weight loss, from what I hear. I know what works, and yes a calorie deficit works. But in practice, if you are …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 11:07 PM
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"addition and subtraction" "Lol you loved food" Bruh, you don't even stay consistent with your own BS. I can literally eat the same amount of different foods, and depending on the food I could lose or gain weight. There is science that shows that depression is commonly correlated with weight loss among overweight people, but I'm not gonna go find that article for someone like you are talking to me right now. I do enjoy food though. I miss it. Of course I do. If you're trying to shake me for it, …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 11:00 PM
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And those decisions as well as their consequences are hard. Truthfully, I'm not even doing it for my husband although many might say it is a big thing for him. Been on this for over a year, even moreso now than ever. It literally causes depression to lose weight as an overweight person. That's the one bad symptom I experienced. Yeah it's manageable, mostly because I need to do it, but it's also hard (especially given other outside factors that apply to me).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:55 PM
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I know how to do it. Doesn't make it easy. I'm not a dude, no I don't look like a damn body builder. I cannot eat or lift like that. My first step is just getting cardio together, I'm having to make the times I made back in middle school but for longer distances. Then I will lift more. I know how to get fit, thanks, like I said I have already lost 53 pounds and still have more to lose. I know what it entails, and it is not easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:51 PM
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You've never been as overweight as I was, I can tell. I'm glad you "stayed" for, good for you. I am a short woman whose mother died while she was trying to get a job and pay for her own future. I can't eat as much as you and just naturally burn it off, and I was going through a tragedy. Life happened, and if you can't understand it then don't speak on it for me. Not everyone's experience is just as easy. I managed to lost 53 pounds after the fact, and still working on it, so I have seen changes …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:47 PM
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HAHAHAHA Oh well good for you. Not the case for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:41 PM
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Marriage of 6 years, together 10. Not much experience outside of him, but neither my mom nor my stepmom seemed to ever be OK with a lack of sex at any age except maybe when my mom had her terminal illness. And what "works" for you, to avoid what you say is the trend? I haven't figured it out for me. Maybe staying fit and taking on even more work, which you say in post is a BAD thing, but those things are a lot of effort/hassle on my end and I'm still working on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:38 PM
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Maybe in some ways, everyone is different. In other ways, equal rules and treatment is pretty objective. Cheating, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:34 PM
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Didn't ask you. Like you said, maybe I prioritize different things. He's a good husband in many ways and he treats me as a worthy, equal human. Point is you are stereotyping, and from my perspective it doesn't seem accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:31 PM
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Both men and women want to be treated at least with equality and fairness. Some particularly bad people are OK with holding self-centered double standards for others which they don't meet. Those people are fucking exhausting, for men and women both.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:17 PM
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That seems to be YOUR assumption in the post, where the husband comes in wondering why all of his attempts simply cannot build the opportunity to rekindle sexual connection so much so that he geta frustrated and has to talk about it. You even say this is common, but far from it in my experience. One time, a young man asked my husband if being married means he can get sex whenever he wants. My husband said "yes, that's how marriage works" because I really like being with him and I like sex, I lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:15 PM
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only adhering to your terms would qualify someone for something akin to slavery. OR, and hear me out, it could be an agreement between two people who want the same things? Including taking care of one another when they are sick and at the end of their life, like in a marriage. I actually WANT my husband to be taken care of if I die or he gets sick, and I WANT to be the one to comfort him. Those are as much my terms as they are his, but of course it should go both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:10 PM
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Not "necessarily" for your assumptions, either. Mr. Always Right, much? I promise you my husband hadn't touched a dirty dish in the house in 2 years. Not that it would stop me from loving him, but it can get old and stressful if kids are involved and it's bad enough. Usually by that time with the lack of equality... That's the one things it's hardest to come back from in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:03 PM
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At best, one small part of what I described is being willing to defend against violence. Read again.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 04:12 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 11:25 PM
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Am woman, have never believed this.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 05:24 PM
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But if you "use" these people for "recreation," you become the snobby rich kid who is utilizing the many, many options they have. How do men miss this?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 03:13 PM
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Eh, plenty of women are single and don't meet boyfriends but also don't keep entertaining malicious fuckboys either.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 11:48 PM
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The whole point of a f-boy isn't that he slept with someone and dumped them. That's just life, and frankly most any guy might do it once or twice. It's that he has made multiple mistakes leading to an unhappy route over and over again. That's what makes a bad dude, a bad dude. That's the negative part. A guy who keeps making these shitty, fickle decisions over and over again might even sometimes be "nice," but he's going to have some serious issues that take time to work through for a long-term …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 05:00 AM
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I cant imagine not knowing if you've got feelings for someone before sleeping with them. And since you have high standards which we have discussed before, I can't imagine not assessing sexual compatibility through a little experimentation and discussion. I especially can't imagine just being horny for... Anyone half nice... When I can acknowledge that all sex partners are not that great for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 12:55 AM
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Now how in the fuck does this work. You get to know someone, but don't decide if you could to share a life with until long after they pleasured you several times? Or you just get into a relationship with someone who just make you feel like "meh, take it or leave it" for a while? Can't relate. I mean, I understand getting to know people. I don't understand being wishy washy after you already do.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 12:24 AM
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But women don't care about that. Half of us don't WANT to fuck half of a football team. Problem is, even if we have 1 or 2 normal boyfriends, we can't help but be accused of it. It kinda sucks, but our close good people obviously won't be that rude to us. And they likely wouldn't be even if they knew we fucked 3 football teams, either.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 11:57 PM
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"Would maybe fuck" does not necessarily mean "is waiting to fuck, will take risks to fuck, will commit to fucking, and still thinks about fucking once the guy is also married and has 3 kids." And that's if she even meets the looks threshold. She might be large and/or ugly, or "mid" as so many men on here negatively say.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 11:47 PM
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Gross. Obviously I disagree. Men give sex, too, and women get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 11:16 PM
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Most of them wouldn't be my type, but they're not ugly either, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 03:01 PM
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Yes!! You put that so well, thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 01:58 PM
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Yeah pretty OK is right. I'm hanging in there. I think I'm slowly figuring things out for getting the future I want.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 02:19 AM
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Hi! How are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 01:17 AM
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But the dumber manosphere never got the memo that I won the debate, and I wouldn't want a girl your age to come onto this sub without also adding the wisdom of a woman who has been married. Also, divorce does happen, my work may not be over.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 10:49 PM
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Willfully misunderstanding women's points, good on you :-l
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 05:12 PM
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No, I'll call men a manwhore too. Blessed virgin monk is fine. Virgin asshole is not. Guy who has had a few partners (not too many, ofc) is fine. Guy who is an asshole who "runs through" living people is not fine. What's difficult to understand?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 05:03 PM
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Or not even necessarily wrong since it's an opinion, but not indicative of how most people view it? I listen to other people. Yes, I have considered that other people might have a different perspective. On the other hand, most dudes just watch to nut to put it simply. They'll agree, it's not like it's a whole hobby. Yes there are also men who make it their hobby. Everyone is different, I guess. Okay and? They still went in with the expressed purpose of watching something that from their perspect…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 12:46 PM
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More like "how dare you demand that women understand your perspective, while you also can't bear to listen to a woman explain what many other people might want in a relationship?"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 12:13 PM
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I think most people tend to enjoy being sexually aroused and reaching orgasm Primarily this is a physical release in my opinion, especially if under the influence of certain visual stimuli. It's not really about the joy. If it were, personally I think it would be done differently and I certainly don't think it would so often involve straight guys zooming in on another guy's dick. I can't seem to open your links, but if you're basically talking about 50 shades style stuff, many viewers got joy ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 12:11 PM
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Women don’t seem to even try to understand men’s perspective on this. It’s really bizarre considering it’s coming from the “empathetic” gender. OK, here, let me understand. You have witnessed it experience some poor treatment from women. You graduated to Chad status, and experienced better treatment. Despite the fact that this would be incredibly rare for any woman to ignore her own sexuality just to sell out for some "honorable" relationshio with a mid guy, I will believe you. Congratulations. …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 12:07 PM
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It would be relevant because women can love their partners, too. And we wish men on here could believe it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 12:01 PM
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How about we #believemen? No, because another one if your comments said women don't even know how to show empathy, and men have been told to believe me all the time yet they never do.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 11:59 AM
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And a man having a relationship with a woman is also not the highest honor. Why are you copying and pasting otherwise?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 11:55 AM
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You've never had a woman in your family share compassion for your situation? I have told this to men I know. I may have even said it on here. But it doesn't excuse how most men in here shit talk women. Not every situation deserves the same response.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 11:53 AM
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99% to be sexually aroused and orgasm. That's not why people watch movies, obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 11:52 AM
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I'm a woman who doesn't have different standards, so forgive me if I don't take your word and your assumptions so seriously. Are you sure you just didn't literally find different women?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 11:44 AM
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I’m not trying anal or using handcuffs unless l know for a fact that I’d trust you with my extra set of house keys. I ain't even touching a man's D at all unless this is where we are at. That's just how it is. Are we supposed to pay for a hotel every time I want to bone? Am I supposed to kick him out before cuddles? Are we not gonna make breakfast and joke around after, even though he's the only guy who heard me fart in my sleep? I just think I can do better.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 11:42 AM
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Same with my hair. I don't like it that much. Might be better if I was able to get more sun and pay for healthy hair treatments/maintenance though. Too poor for that right now though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 11:26 AM
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Men: men will find so many women hot and fuck them and even treat them OK, women have dating it sex life easy Also men: wow she is a 4, I couldn't even begin to get hard, and I'm good at this! Yeah yeah, whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 11:21 AM
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People don't watch porn for entertainment, though. They watch it for one reason only.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 11:15 AM
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That's gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 11:14 AM
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Every female romance lead I've read has a family of her own, friends, and/or a career.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 11:13 AM
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Obviously I don't agree. I think enthusiastic consent is sexy to most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 11:18 PM
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'm a guy who had a "harem" at one point but I gave all that up a few years ago to pursue feminist values. I would love to ask a woman out for a deli sandwich but now I'm so caught up in checking my male gaze, making sure to never sexualize women or objectify women or micro oppress them, it's not really possible at this point Oh you're a hoot at parties, aren't you? I can tell with the deli sandwich thing that you're thinking of a specific person and a specific situation. I hope that happens for …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 06:15 AM
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I still don't get what you meant by that, was it about casual sex? Like I said most men are not looking for casual sex. Nah, I never said all men. I said PPD/manosphere men. May I introduce you? Listen to what they say.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 06:14 AM
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plenty of women do indeed “share Chad”, which you now seem to agree with, with the caveat that you label the “mentally ill” How many is plenty? Sure it's happened. It's not enough for you to make a "women bad" post while leaving out any individual details you may or may not have bothered with to make this story more complete and less gender biased as fuck. Wait until I blow your mind and tell you men have treated women differently based on their looks, too, or how men have been in toxic situatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 06:00 AM
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Oh that's funny because it sounded much more overly broad and cliched to me the first 100 times I've seen it here.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:57 AM
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I don't know what you mean by "don't act like you want a relationship on my end first" Let me introduce you to PPD and the manosphere, the men have been explaining it to you all along. I am talking about their delusional complaints about Chad, specifically, not normal well-adjusted men. And we were talking attractiveness, so yeah men more willing to have sex with more women does mean men find a lot more women attractive. No, being willing to have a mid-at-best relationship for a year or for mayb…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:56 AM
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And no man seems to like the town bike, so they say. Why race higher?!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:53 AM
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It seems less believable when you don't engage in any discourse as to why you didn't question and explain this Hella unhealthy dynamic, even if it is occasionally happening. That is why I brought up the argument about it being troubling, and you not saying shit about it really just like "Oh this happened, wahmen, right? Nothing to see here." Yeah my sister has done crazy shit, too. You know what I have to say? She is mentally ill and has a diagnosis. That's what I say. I don't play it off like s…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:52 AM
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I will die on the hill that women are NPC's to men, too. We are just NPC's that too many of y'all are willing to have sex with at the drop of a hat, and you think that means you're treating us well enough. Actually, yeah. You helped me parse out the real logic behind the argument. Thank you for that. To the manosphere, sex = good enough treatment. The double standard lies when women have to meet the extra bar of "also don't ever have had sex with anyone but me, and don't act like you want a rela…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:45 AM
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Yes because all of the female CEO's and the female engineers are proof of how society loves feminism, right? Scorn for men's movements... like what, exactly? Name one thing men even want. It's not custody of their kids, it seems. SMH. You have to realize the reasons behind this are NOT because everyone wants to see men get fucked. You can't possibly miss it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:40 AM
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I've never seen a man in the west take a hit for admitting he likes girls. It is very much expected. But it's also expected to respect women, somewhat.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:38 AM
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It's certainly not sex clubs. No one I work with would do that. Give me a break. I never even said someone had to do what I did, you know. I just said it's not a lie, and I certainly don't think it's unhealthy. But you can't argue that it is unhealthy, can you?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:36 AM
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Oh bullshit. As a woman who is not Stacy, this is bullshit. Maybe women have issues, too? Ever think of that? NO. Damn. Men do feel differently for Stacy than a regular woman, but this was honestly what made me write the post. I've had been bitch about how Chad gets to have harems, while "most men" don't even get any desire at all. I know that's not true at all because I am a woman who has been attracted to regular dudes in occasion. And I never had the gall to think they had to treat me like Ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:35 AM
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Men who don't approach... Cannot complain about how much they age failed, because they tried nothing. That is the argument. Don't fucking pervert it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:32 AM
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That seems like a Hella convenient excuse to go through life thoughtless towards any partners, but sure go off I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:28 AM
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And yet male lives are considered more interesting and noteworthy and financially/economically valuable than a woman's.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:27 AM
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You seem to be right most of the time, I course. I just... don't understand how any functional man given all of the benefit of doubt in the world can be that stupid...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:26 AM
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I wasn't a virgin when I married, either. But I was a virgin when I met my husband, and when I bedded him. What do you want to bet that number is about half of that now? I don't, but clearly you do. I can see where you're coming from.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:24 AM
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Society isn't as kind to women in general, if you ask me (lower than Becky these days). That DOES explain why men display entitlement, even if for more complex reasons than jealousy. It doesn't explain why they preach on it like it's somehow logical, though. That's the part that gets me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:22 AM
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Someone please, think about what the men want and how we can best use them by placating them! I mean, or not.....
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:20 AM
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Lucky. My only is not that open anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:17 AM
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It's not about relating, or even preference. The data shows that longer lasting couples have similar experience, usually. If a man wants to get more and more experience, he is limiting himself to the absolute more experienced of women. But they don't actually prefer it. It makes no objective sense, regardless of my personal feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:15 AM
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Women barely ever say anything about "but Stacy gets much better treatment," except when we are asking for something very reasonable like being asked out for a deli sandwich, and yet manosphere men think women are unreasonable. Meanwhile the manosphere goes on and on about how Chad gets to impregnate whoever he wants, or have a literal open one-sided harem. It makes no damn sense. I appreciate that you don't want to "settle," make your choices, but then when those choices leave you single of cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:12 AM
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How many people do you know Chase after celebrities? I never said no one gives them this treatment, just not enough regular people with dignity and lives to be statistically relevant. You know what is more rare? Marrying the first guy you fuck. Just saying. No, it's really not. Especially historically. My mother and grandmother were the same. Not my sister, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 04:55 AM
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I assure you the phenomenon of “sharing Chad” in one way or another is not rare. If I have to look up articles to hear about it...... yeah it's rare enough. Worth noting that this "other" way of sharing a man seems particularly disgusting. Sounds worth PR bing into, especially if it's happening more lately! I've said it before that Chad doesn't exist, and I do indeed have trouble imagining a man who just inspires this. Not even the hottest celebrities would get this kind of behavior from anyone …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 04:40 AM
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I was trying to give you the benefit of the doubt at first that maybe you had made some assumptions you could explain with words, but since you never explained... I mean, fuck?! Did you never question how insanely toxic that dynamic sounds?! And you don't explain where she admitted that either? Idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 04:21 AM
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I mean, I'm married. I know with almost full certainty with whom, unless he dies or cheats or leaves. When? I don't know. Weekends are better bets, but only sometimes. This weekend seems like it might work out. Never can say for sure, life has been going through a stressful decade. We are going to the food bank and working out, so uh, he might me too tired and stressed. Or not. I'll have to get consent. I wouldn't want to put money on it, that's money we can't afford to lose.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 03:01 AM
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Oh your implication that they fucked was clear enough. But it doesn't make any damn sense for all of the reasons I mentioned, and you never outright stated that sex was had. You just implied it with the dick comment. But sure you don't have time for me, and I don't have time for your farfetched story of a woman simp. So bye.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 02:58 AM
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A woman would never try to use your husband for sex and if she did it would just be bizarre. She's a woman, she can get sex anywhere, why would she bother to trick this one dude when she knows at least 100 others that are willing? Your husband may not have had much casual sex, based on his principles, but idk if that means he never desired it. Not so much principles OR desire. More like he had sex a few times in a casual-ish way, then decided it wasn't worth it later so he stopped being one of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 12:40 AM
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I mean, they all went as friends and he slept with everyone else? She didn't even have sex at these places? No that doesn't sound to me like dating? Duh? I am attracted to my husband, he is hot to me at least, no he will not be touching anyone else without me dumping him. That's how it goes, is that not how it goes with your mother and your sisters and cousins? What culture are you all from? Even I am from the US, my family is evangelical and would never support such a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 12:37 AM
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Because it should be a mutual act with mutual satisfaction and pleasure. "Selfish" should never enter the equation, although ideally there should be some personal satisfaction as much as satisfaction for other partner(s).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 11:10 PM
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But are YOU also sexually promiscuous, and think that somehow you don't "fit" just because rules for your own dick are different from rules for "bitches"? That is the question. I LOVE a man that can turn down a woman who is a bad fit. Not so much one that knocks her up before using that judgment, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 11:08 PM
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You... don't mention her sleeping with this muscley guy specifically. But then you say she wanted access to his dick? Which thing is true?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 11:06 PM
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Yike
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 11:03 PM
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Attractiveness of the guy. Any woman can have casual sex if she wants, it's more rare for men to be able to have it, since women typically hope for a relationship when they have sex with someone (not all women I'm sure). Women who want to wait for a relationship, do wait (even if they might be lied to once or twice). My sister is OK with casual sex, so she's had it multiple times. Even still, any guy she's been with long term is equally attractive to the ones she got with shorter term. She's jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 09:13 PM
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Even the guys who get long relationships with my sister who sleeps around would usually be considered attractive, for one thing. The casualness is not dependent on attractiveness. The reason my sister is casual is likely because she's literally mentally ill - speaking of her case, and one of the few i can speak of. There may be people who enjoy casual sex, but the mentally healthy ones do not complain and are much more discrete, of course. I don't know what culture you grew up in, but where I gr…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 08:51 PM
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Were you literally cheated on in a relationship of over one year? How bad was it, what this person did to you? If it wasn't that bad, just move on and be the bigger person. Now, if there's a good enough reason to be petty, though... I might understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 01:01 PM
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I just want to know, how is that a win? Do y'all never make it past the phase where your lizard brain wants to procreate without even possibly knowing about it? Does conscious thought ever enter the picture? Or do you believe that some good woman out there literally does not exist? Or do you plan to get married one day, even, and you somehow know she'll never satisfy you in the same way unless you have had a lot of random sex with others before?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 12:54 PM
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Yeah that's the thing. While I was waiting to get to know my husband or anyone else I like, I was laid back and generous. I just didn't smother them quickly or end up having sex with multiple of them. I see no reason why it can't be appreciated that I take my time getting to know someone - especially since I was so young when I was single/dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 12:51 PM
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Obviously, I wanted to sleep with and marry someone who likes me more than the vast majority of men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 12:49 PM
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You asked us about our feelings, and then you wonder why our responses are about us?! Talk about reinforcing MY point. Obviously it's not just about women being advantaged but a small minority of men possibly being the only men who experience real desire. My gym analogy is problematic in that very strongly built women are arguably even more rare than chads. I don't believe this is true about men being able to be desired, and there you go using that Chad word.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 12:39 PM
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Those would be the last things in my mind. I don't need to change yours, but to be honest I also can't understand it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 12:36 PM
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And I don't tolerate men in my bed that I don't love. I can still enjoy sex when I get the opportunity, my libido isn't a problem. Have you HAD good sex with a random man, without working for it? Yeah my husband did the work, too, but like... effort from my end is OK and helpful when it's worth it for example I also like sex a lot, and he is a caring intelligent man. What does bad in bed even mean? As far as I'm concerned, a loving man is almost totally likely going to do well when given a fair …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 04:41 AM
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Yes, I can't say that was all that easy for me. And neither has it been to have a relationship that's worth my time. At least make sure it's the best you can have. I DO agree not to press the issue too quickly when meeting someone, but after sex might be too slow, definitely too slow for me. If I was ready for that, I would already be in love.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 04:31 AM
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Choices matter. Always have. Especially for the good things. How did you not know this? Have... have you ever accomplished something important?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 04:18 AM
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You gotta be detached enough but also interested enough iykwim. It's a delicate balance. Lmao even my sister can't do that! Definitely couldn't be me. I want it, or I don't. There is no in between. I always knew I was capable of more, and it happens by working for it. Good things don't just fall into people's laps.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 04:15 AM
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I have such a hard time believing this, but it might be because of my cultures and religious upbringing or my high expectations. I had at least 3 boys who openly wanted to have sex with me. Like, teenagers, boys that age young adults at the oldest. They were handsome, but I wasn't that into them emotionally (possibly vice versa in some ways). One had a drug problem, the other was a bit racist and told me he didn't believe in marriage. One simply didn't have much to talk about and did not seem to…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 04:12 AM
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I don't think your little thought exercise is very helpful at all, for one thing. I don't find it challenging to hear about a struggle. I find it challenging to be told I "live life on easy mode" when half of y'all would never make it through what I made through. I find it challenging that men expect to be immediately heard by the other sex without judgment... when I've never had that luxury in my life. I find it challenging that men have more sex partners than women, and yet men STILL claim tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 04:02 AM
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Because the first thing men who struggle to get sex or a relationship are told is to "improve". Is this accurate? We say this online, assuming the men struggle because they already tried and failed. We don't tell this to every 15 year old boy who doesn't bother asking anyone to dance at homecoming.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 03:50 AM
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Oh, yeah I did this one too! Like I made sure emergency services were on their way for a literally overdosing man. That was fucking scary. I didn't have narcan because I don't do drugs or hang out with druggies, but looking back on it I'm glad I didn't have Narcan and have to decide on getting closer to use it. I'm not a trained professional, and druggies are scary. Careful walking around downtown Houston at night, folks. Someone just... dumped him in the side of the road it looked like. Yeah, y…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 03:04 AM
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I did this. There was a boy in my middle school being quite literally kicked by a girl while he was down. I screamed at her to get off him. She did. I was much shorter and early in the school while she was probably 2 grades above me, but I was strong and trained. They teach you in martial arts how you aren't supposed to attack people when they are down. It was an instinct. I am a different woman today. I will always value men as people, but I haven't been in that position for a while, and I have…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 03:00 AM
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If I can't find a partner that is willing to pay for my life I failed as a woman and deserve to die. Worst take ever
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 11:20 PM
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Yeah I met my man in college too, we make the same amount and anyone who tries to say "beta bucks" is silly as hell, but I AM an educated professional and I was required to grind. I also have only ever been with him sexually. Not sure why you are keeping the bar so low for yourself as an imaginary woman, I don't think it works like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 12:51 PM
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Always bet all chips on the life you want. Any other option is not worth living. Strongly disagree. Life with a man can be great, so can life without one. Dedícate all the time and effort that people use in a job/career to improve myself as a partner and meet/vet/attract a single man that combines realistic potential with lack of options and just enough morality to be compatible with my goals. Be the best he can ever get from early on and continue to be that while building a life with that perso…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 12:43 PM
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marketing myself as a good long term option would be like “taking candy from a baby”. "NLOG" yeah yeah, dream on, most women don't actually suck. If everywhere you go smells like shit, check your shoes. I think the issue for me if I was a girl is finding a guy in terms of PERSONALITY that I genuinely WANT to be with. I’d struggle with that for sure. This part is actually true though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 12:40 PM
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And how did you meet her? What does she do? Are you Ivy League? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 12:38 PM
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Obviously I disagree. Looking put together, interesting, and aesthetic isn't necessarily arousing especially for all people.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 02:33 AM
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Hot is subjective, for example you clearly think having lots of casual sex helps and I don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 02:08 AM
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Chad doesn't exist, so idk wtf you are talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 01:55 AM
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If you choose to have sex with someone, but then are upset when you don't get a relationship, and further you declare you got nothing out of the sex, it sounds like you wanted the relationship and not the sex. They wanted sex within a relationship. Which further raises the question, why did you have the sex then ? To hear women tell it, they were informed there was basically a relationship. They wanted sex within a relationship. Maybe on logical reason would be because the woman was inexperience…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 01:54 AM
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In the handful of situations where you might meet a woman who is trying to convince you something you heard about from her past is irrelevant to your current shared sex life? Ok, I get that. Make your decisions. On the internet, when women say they didn't cum and he was a jerk and they wish they never went to visit a dude? Maybe they know more than you, ya know?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 01:46 AM
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It's up to women to decide de what they get, not you. Many said they didn't get orgasms. I personally would never take the risk as I said before, so that's all I know. Wild to me how you think you can tell women what they got out of... someone else's looks, and an experience you were never a part of. I'm arguing why one would not like it, I'm not arguing why one would talk about someone else's personal experiences. That part was all you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 12:40 AM
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why do women not see having sex with attractive men as a positive thing? Pregnancy, diseases, shame, disrespect, female version of blue balls, insecurity. What's to like? I'm sorry, but I have always said no to casual sex because there's more to being attractive than being good looking. A nice body and face does not make up for all that other shit, the experience would be unattractive. My opinion, take it for what you will.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 12:11 AM
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Same.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 12:08 AM
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Unpleasant, orgasmless, pointless. So glad you asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 11:51 PM
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Umm babe, I have only slept with my husband, so you're telling me I'm not allowed to say men are trash now because I never slept with one who abandoned me? Wow, that feels too limiting. I think I'll prove you wrong! Some men are trash. They can be trash to other women, but still trash. They can be single monks and also be trash. I could be trash. Not all men, not all women, not my husband, but definitely some humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 01:47 PM
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Bringing it up like it fucking excuses something really implies it matters more, but if you can't see that why would we talk?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 11:17 PM
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Compatibility based on what? Communication. From your example, how to tackle certain chores/tasks. Education level, hobbies, philosophies to an extent. We need to be able to communicate on those things and understand each other. If he doesn't like anything I like, I am sure we would both bore each other to death like what you're talking about. You can make small talk at work without worrying about those things too much, but romantically you've got to comment and reach some agreements in whatever…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 04:55 AM
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I also try to act a little silly and goofy, but that's not really "funny" in my book. OK, interesting. Good to note. Have you always noted that women are pretty dry in communication, yet you are around them a lot? Did you by chance mean to say women at a certain point in your second paragraph because as it's written now it leaves me confused. Yes, the last word should have been "women." I edited. However, in my experience when asked "what made you decide to pick me" you always get a weird/dumb/n…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 04:36 AM
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Some men can be boring at conversations. Most educated ones aren't, though. Just my opinion. Helps that I'm willing to hold up my part most of the time. My biggest question was about your age. Folks in school, folks who are of age to do many social activities... they will usually learn on their own about how to socialize with women in similar ways to men. I have worked with men before, and while it is weird with some of them it is usually not much different than working with women. Romantically,…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 04:20 AM
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The title said things I've seen before, and frankly does not well match the body. In the context of this sub, where I have heard many such things as the title before, someone needed to hear my criticisms. I don't consider it a personal attack, obviously. I made a very valid, needed point and asked for some more clarifications. You might want to pause reading too and make a bit of a fine point if you kept on hearing your gender be dehumanized.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 04:15 AM
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I genuinely feel like a lot of men in the manosphere have not given any deep, independent thought to women in relationships as full people. I have gotten too used to seeing it on here, I suppose. Too many things start to look a certain way. You do have my apologies for my assumptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 04:13 AM
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I try not to be a liar, even online.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 04:08 AM
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Honestly no, not until after haha I mean, I get it, sounds like you get a lot of dry convos. That can be draining. I try not to do that to people, but I'm sure I do sometimes. I have a lot of people I talk to with similar or common interests, and we usually talk fine. At least I find that folks will ask questions or smile or be nice. Romantic interest, though? I stand by my first comment. If course people shouldn't try to force something that doesn't align.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 04:04 AM
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Breaking fucking news: women are people, and people have their own personalities, needs, and life paths. How old are you? And why are you here if you never even got that far in considering what interpersonal relationships are?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 04:01 AM
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So? Men can be shit in bed too. Then also let women vent? Jeesh we are unhappy with the sex life is not an insult that’s just insane. Especially if it’s with male friends and we are venting. Ok so your gf can say that to her girls too then? And you won't be pissed? Come back when you're not disingenuous. Cause she wouldn’t ever want to do anything I suggested. That depends what you suggested, I guess. Even with her level of experience, and what she DID do on her own suggestion or something. She …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 03:43 AM
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We would just say how we are unhappy and that was it? Yeah, even that is an insult especially when the person you were talking about can't defend themselves. The woman in question also didn’t try her best so there’s that. What made you think this? I never said men aren’t bad? You said they mostly all must have good reasons for watching porn and it's barely ever a problem, but it is clearly caused by women being shit in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 03:37 AM
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So this was just one woman? Very much not what you indicated before. If I'm being honest, if a man I loved and tried my best for told me I was shit in bed and told all of his friends who also said women ain't shit in bed, I'd probably go ghost myself. Your perception of what's rude may not match mine, clearly. If you want to say bad experiences exist now, I'm not going to disagree with you, but you better apply that to men being bad as well. Especially your friends who talked smack about their s…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 03:23 AM
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Because you chose to put yourself in that situation when you knew it wasn't going well and you couldn't help make it go well, and then even after the fact you prolonged everyone's agony... And being with someone you’re unhappy with isn’t cool. Oh I would agree entirely. But if that's all the experience you ever had, you might want to look within and consider why you complain so much about sex with women in particular.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 02:17 AM
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Men: We can have sex with any woman, we have highest sex drive, blah blah blah Also men: I have not typically enjoyed sex with women. Also I get a kick out of telling them so and prolonging everyone's agony. Make it make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 02:14 AM
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That reflects much more on you than it did them. But hey, I guess that's just my opinion, I value commitment and being able to be content with my lover. I'm glad you left them if you were not happy. Of course, that's going to impact your life to have this sort of standard. We all have choices to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 02:12 AM
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You thought you were. There is a chance the women would disagree. After all, you had sex with them, no? And I'm sure you didn't tell them how awful they were. If they were so bad, should have left rather than seek out porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 02:06 AM
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Yes divorce. It's an option, but not one I'll relate to easily. What if I don't trust you and your friends? Seeing as how you'd never understand what I went through.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 02:01 AM
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No, takes more effort for much less benefit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 02:00 AM
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And how many men have you fucked to know? Lmfao. I gave him my all, I make up for lost time, I have passion. If anyone doesn't, it is him, and I don't appreciate how you fault mr for that. Please tell me how you have it backwards?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 02:00 AM
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Oh yes I have my virginity to one man, we did great for a good long while, then things slowed down. Surely I'm just terrible at sex. What a fuckin suggestion.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 01:56 AM
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Why would I not just use what is available? Like, my hands are available. I don't need the Internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 01:55 AM
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I don't know what people are on about, I don't mind spending 10 minutes extra with my fingers. Taking my time is actually nice. Also helps that I never developed a habit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 01:55 AM
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That's exactly why I don't look up porn. Well, that and leering at random slutty strangers doesn't really arouse me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 01:53 AM
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Extreme responsibility? Not fucking women who fall short of the mark for commitment or motherhood gets men taken advantage of now? What the fuck have you been smoking?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 10:40 PM
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They have some, stop denying it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:46 PM
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Ok bully for you. Just don't define "special treatment" as "politely shutting the fuck up while women go about their normal lives." That's the same treatment you would give a man, it's not special. It's just basic courtesy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 04:09 AM
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I meant to say women who eventually want to get married but are focused on their career so they put it off until later. I don't see a problem with a 40 year old woman in a high-powered career who decides she wants to start dating It just makes no sense. If you like men, make even a small amount of time to date men. No use in being open to that starting much later. That would just kill much of your sex life. But hey, I guess there are some rare cases for every scenario...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 04:08 AM
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To think that anyone but 5% of women could ever come close to marrying 5% of men. To think that "striving" for becoming a stay at home mom will actually come with any kind of back up plan when shit hits the fan. I guess physical fitness is great, and social skills are great. You can use those to strive to date whoever you want, but those things are much more likely to get you a great support network and a career and a long, healthy life than they are to attract a rich man to you specifically.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 04:06 AM
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Practical advice: don't stress to much about this unless you're actually in this situation where a woman is judging you and being rude. It might just possibly be that women are less cruel, evil, and difficult than you have painted us. Of course you will struggle if you withdrawal for too long, by the way that goes for women, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:58 AM
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I can see the comparison, although obviously to me one seems much more common than the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:56 AM
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from a modern, progressive point of view I find it a bit problematic to tell a woman who wants a career, for example, that you gotta get married and have kids by 30 or else you're a useless spinster. Of course women should have the option to not date or to not have kids and to do other really cool, useful things. Men can also have that option, but for those men to later bitch about women later because they wanted to do something different is out of pocket. Especially when those men usually had t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:56 AM
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Never seen that. I guess I believe you, but when I saw Tik Tok I watched a lot of women talk about actual abuse and misogyny and not shallow shit. That seemed to be what women talked about basically.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:51 AM
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Exactly, which is plenty not to complain about broke ass trashy women but not always enough to say you can afford a stay-at-home partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:50 AM
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Literally.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:49 AM
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You shared the car, that's on you, too. Why do mad? Yeah that's a red flag, but not on her. I guess a week reassuring does sound a bit much, but so does being mad for a day. Especially if you express things the way my husband does.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:47 AM
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Well I've never heard of it lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:45 AM
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I'm short myself. If he was a lovable man, and especially if he had a nice face, I doubt I would ever notice he's short. Definitely not a fear, and I wouldn't clown on those men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:44 AM
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Many men on this sub do, not always just you. It just seems to be where the conversation is going when you say "oh look at me, I'm the most traditional best man in the world, why are so few women understanding anf being what I want?"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:43 AM
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You think wrong. Some things are unreasonable. Such is life.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:42 AM
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But in my class (former class? Idk) this is actually most single moms. I don't know why that is ignored, men on here don't claim to be min wage broke...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:41 AM
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But most men in that age are also fathers. I sympathize that it might be difficult to find a tiny percentage within a tiny percentage of people, but in the end that is best. Or you could settle down and have kids when all the other people do? Men be literally obsessed the concept of kids but don't consider this, IDK why.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:40 AM
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"date" No, don't lie. You want to date fun. You want to date someone who minds her own business like you do. Dating yourself would be fine. You just don't want to have kids or marry yourself, I guess. Too bad most couples don't have that luxury of only pulling a few strengths though. Welcome to 2023, that doesn't mean you have to insult women though.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:38 AM
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Yeah if you weren't part of the top 5%, we might actually care and work for that. But you are, and I'm never going to meet a guy like that who is willing to be an equally good father, so I'll just do my thing like the rest of the bottom 95%.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:36 AM
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I will say that, yes, my stepmom uses makeup and clothing to the point of toxic femininity. If she ever doesn't look a certain way in public, it's the biggest deal ever. Like, actually no it's not, simmer down. And your eyebrows and nails are actually falling apart from all that fake shit, damn. But that doesn't apply to wearing makeup to a date, to a wedding, a bit of tinted sunscreen, something reasonable like occasional dress up. That's just fun. So masculinity can be viewed the same way. You…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:33 AM
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Sex requires consent from multiple people. Being a bad parent is entirely in a man's control, actually, not just the woman's. Unilateral my ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:18 AM
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Eh, that dude may have at least been above the level of online bitching. Most are.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 02:18 AM
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Many people try their best to that and still divorce. Those people still have lives. Hell, sometimes sex protection fails. Abortion isn't for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 12:33 AM
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Men have rights when it comes to adoption... hey have all sexual and reproductive power, fuck it up, and still expect men to fix their shitty lives for them. No woman "expects" a man to come and fix things just because some single moms are open to dating, SMFH And men have at least some power. Use it. Jesus.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 12:19 AM
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I'm saying the question was asked because men have bitched over and over about single moms dating consenting men. Maybe stop whining about it, doesn't look good.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 10:26 PM
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I would suggest that you police your own dick, just as I would police my own kids. Beyond that, what can we do? Not much.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 10:21 PM
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I know how it works for parents who have a brain, yeah. I suppose I can't speak for idiots, but I'm not going to get on the internet and try to stop men from being idiots, either. Not my problem. I would hope you have more important issues to face as men, but hey, your call.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 10:18 PM
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Depends on what it is? "Women live on easy mode" is absolutely untrue. Half of the things men say won't help their situation at all, so yeah it's better for everyone if they shut up or at least keep this in private conversations where it's more relevant, more helpful, and less general. If men actually WERE helping themselves, we would have a different conversation, but no the manosphere does not do that. I would sooner take a bullet than have my nephew be taken in by the BS.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 10:16 PM
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women just want men to stop talking about the problem because they're benefitting from it. You think women are benefitting from men not talking about their problems? Because talking about the problems... fixes them somewhat? I'm not sure I agree. The issues are not that simple. Furthermore, it should be easily understood why women pipe up. You must admit that, on this very sub, you have seen men say the phrase "women love on easy mode." You have to know why we would have an opinion on that. It i…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 10:12 PM
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Older people are more likely to indeed have dependents to take care of, and early dating doesn't involve folks' children anyway. My closer cousin's boyfriend knows her kids. He buys them gifts sometimes. He's nice to them, and he has the money to be kind this way if he chooses. That's as far as it goes, they don't live together or anything as the minor ones still need stability. But since they were dating for several years, of course he met them. Just not in the first month probably.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 10:04 PM
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The manosphere knows the transaction that took place and women will deny it till they're blue in the face. I know these things exist, but that's not the case for most old men line cooks asking out the young waitresses and you know it. No woman lied to you and denied it. I can't even with this level of ignorance.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 10:02 PM
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Usually yes. Just like usually people should date in their age range. But if 2 people wanna date and they get along and everyone who knows them thinks they are happy, I'm not gonna complain.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 10:01 PM
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And women make investments, too. Protect yourself from big evil all you like, but then you wouldn't be the man who is serious, would you? And men who make investments can fuck up later, as can women. It happens. Your biases can't refute that. At least see the reality, or you won't be protected from anything and neither will your nieces if they are taught slanted falsehoods.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 09:50 PM
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No trailer trash woman is bothering you as a potential good future father. Don't act like that is the case. Some middle class women, like 2 of my cousins for example, have children whose fathers are present and were in a relationship for a long chunk of childhoods. However, they are single now, and you would be as biased as you are uninformed to try and just ONLY the women for that relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 09:41 PM
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No one has said older woman don't struggle though. And no one said men don't struggle though. We just said y'all don't struggle so much more than us. when men point out that its going to be a lot harder and you should secure a good guy now, they're ignored. No, you are not ignored. Your words are taken for exactly what they are. We know what our options are. We know if we even have the option if a good man we want, you don't. We know if we are straight or gay, you don't. We can make our own choi…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 09:39 PM
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Aww thanks bb
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 08:03 PM
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men as a whole do not want to undermine the importance of fatherhood or of a woman choosing the father of her children carefully. Then perhaps men as a whole should be more careful about their sperm? The manosphere way too often forgets that men, too, have a choice in their sex partners and in how the next generation is cared for.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 08:02 PM
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If a single mom offered herself to the type of loser jerk that bitches about women online... those men would be punching way above their weight. Although I suppose, in a sense, you are right those men have not been trying too hard for ANY woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 07:42 PM
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Obviously I have my opinion and you don't like it. Maybe when you have kids someday, or nieces and nephews, you'll get why that's not the only thing that matters. At least that's my wish for you. Good luck and goodbye.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 06:34 PM
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Obviously I don't think that's a good enough reason, for most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 06:15 PM
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Many does not equal all.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 06:14 PM
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I'm confused. These women are doing well besides dating, and on par with the men? Why the fuck is anyone calling them high maintenance? Because they don't seem happy with repeated ONS? Can you see a problem with that? Why are you saying it's correct?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 01:12 PM
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Just because younger women are doing better than older women doesn't mean it's not a problem to struggle in your old age. See how that works? Yeah, yeah, everyone has problems. Even today, our whole society has extended adolescence. It's hard. That doesn't mean you get to overgeneralize and trash women online without being called out. We all have problems, part of life, some reactions are uncalled for.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 01:08 PM
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I suppose we have all had that problem at some point, but you're about to earn money and dating as an adult. I'm not sure you're right. I once was in a similar position. My family lost some money, a close relative died, I got busy with education. When I met my husband, he was not as fit as he is now and he was even less wealthy. Now, we hit the gym together and we have both been working jobs and stuff. People can change, if I were you I'd be going with someone who wants to grow with me. That's j…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 12:53 PM
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Dude... you're probably watching my ex right now.... Fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 10:57 PM
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is it more that you get to be first? But when you are also having your first, or early on, this in itself can mean something.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 10:55 PM
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Why would someone want a guy who thinks she is ordinary but he is attractive? Even if it were true?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 10:52 PM
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Until you become... what? Your best self? You know you could just be that guy now, with someone who is good enough that you don't constantly look for better? I’ve never said males are logical. You're on a debate sub, I assumed you had some train of thought and you are definitely male
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 10:30 PM
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I can get along quite well with a near stranger. But she's going to see your actions in practice. She will know you don't intend to marry and when you don't intend to have kids that will also seek obvious, especially if she is religious and cares about such things. If not maybe it won't be a problem. There are ways for men to hide things, but let's just say the only man that ever worked for in my life is no financial/fitness ace, and he DID marry me. Here's my question to you. You don't wish to …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 09:42 PM
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Same way I know, possibly?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 01:02 PM
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I would clearly disagree, but I have to go to work just like any other adult, so bye I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 12:53 PM
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Warning someone is giving them ammo to make better decisions. It's not protecting them, although I would say it's pretty fucking expected and normal that anyone who loves someone would try their best to be helpful and a bit protective. That should be expected of one's partner, or mentors, from age 3 all the way to age 50. Or men are so evil, that an age gap always means abusive relationship? A LARGE age gap, as I have said one million times, leaves more room for people to have diverging lifestyl…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 12:51 PM
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It means I'm allowed to question both sides for a relationship without being questioned about "why I'm taking agency from women." No one ever says that when a man gets questioned. Don't know where the male hivemind got this, but it is biased and nonsensical and I'm a little over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 12:30 PM
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What did I say that is incorrect? Are you alright? How can I be incorrect in asking a question? You said I didn't answer the question. And then I showed you where you quoted my answer. You saying that I didn't answer the question was false.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 12:23 PM
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I just don't understand the logic behind the lack of agency attributed to women in this situations. I really believe women can be coerced, especially much younger women. But at some point I believe women have to take responsibility over their own lifes. I think the same of guys that are themselves in dumb situations. Ok finally you said something worth discussing. I still say adult women are given plenty of agency and responsibility for their own shitty decisions. We will all say "that was a bad…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 12:22 PM
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They all have agency to an age appropriate level (say full agency maybe 21 in my country when drinking is allowed), that doesn't make their decisions good. This is where you quoted my answer. Yes I did answer. You know what you said is objectively incorrect, and I can say that in a civil way!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 12:16 PM
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I still don't get your point, so women have agency from 21 but it doesn't mean they make good decisions, what point are you making? I'm so glad you asked. Let me finish my point, to counter what seems to be the point on the manosphere hivemind. No one ever said women have no agency or that anything reasonable should be illegal, we said it is often a shitty decision for a young woman to risk getting pregnant and sharing diseases with a man old enough to be her father. Your clever little "question…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 12:03 PM
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So even inexperienced women often find themselves choosing the experienced guys. I understand where you're coming from. Even though he told me he was a virgin, this happened to me. Many men might reduce my decision down to him being attractive, and that's one side of the story. I married him, of course he is very attractive to me. I do feel like men miss the other side of the story, though, where some attractive and inexperienced men basically turned me down or when I turned down good-looking, e…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 11:20 AM
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why did you feel the need to add "that doesn't make their decision good"? Because I am allowed to question people's shitty decisions to date someone their father's age, obviously. Most time it feels like ppd women talk to men here like we are single mind with different accounts. Yup, you got that right. I've heard the old argument about women and their agency and how great age gaps are from 1000 different accounts, but it's all the same to me. The same logical fallacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 11:17 AM
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turns into a more abstract question of whether a less attractive person, aging being one of the main causes of someone becoming unattractive one way or the other, is likely to be lovable or loved, at all. The answer is: very much not so likely to be lovable at all unless you work on being a reliable and worthy person beneath the surface for the majority of your younger life. That is one of the points I'm making here. It's not about if you find someone slightly younger, like I would do the same m…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 11:15 AM
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She’ll be able to replace me but I want her standards messed up. Again, that is spiteful as Hell, and I don't get why. If you are young enough to not know about kids, that could be figured out some time soon ish. That doesn't have to be an issue. I'm not sure about the religion thing either, as long as you are respectful, but you aren't moral so I can see that will eventually pop up as a real problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 11:10 AM
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I know reading isn't easy so I get it... K byeee
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 11:08 AM
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"Women of all ages are just generally bitter toward men, especially old men...and it doesn't necessarily have anything to do with envy." That is copy and pasted from you. Comprehend deez nuts. I mean look how triggered you just got and you didn't even understand the question! I told you facts. You assuming some sort of feelings is biased and fallacious. I simply do not feel attraction to old age, as most people also do not. It is something we learn to appreciate when there is a deeper love. The …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 04:15 AM
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We truly don't like like old men... because we are bitter? And you're sure it's that? You're sure it's not the saggy balls, the balding, the patchy white beard, the beer belly, the smell? All of that shit is inherently gross when it's not developed throughout years of a relationship with a man I have other reasons to love. Is this fucking news to you? Do we women need to be much more militant online about our sexual attraction, like men are?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 04:05 AM
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He's either delusional or a troll, most probably a troll because anyone with access to the internet does not think that a BMI of 22 is a health issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 03:59 AM
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You are damn right.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 03:54 AM
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No, they come across a person with a brain who knows that sex has consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 03:53 AM
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So you're not compatible... but you want her to struggle to replace you? Why? Like, out of spite? Is this some kind of hate fuck? But no, it's not even like that because you would have to look at her face for years... you men make no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 03:51 AM
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My husband managed to overcome his cowardice though. And given the other things I have to put up with, that became a fair enough pre-req.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 01:48 AM
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100%!!!! Well, that OR a very cruel rejection. I'm sure that last part comes with a certain type of privelege, which I am OK acknowledging... As long as I'm not basically told I'm living life on easy mode with my own concerns being dismissed. Oh... wait... not gonna happen any time soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 01:46 AM
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I agree that a drinking age of 21 and those Texas vaping laws are stupid - just as stupid as sending 18 year olds into combat. I also don't believe in "protecting" adult women - although I reserve my solemn right to judge their shitty ass partners for not protecting a person who was seemingly the closest to them. I believe in letting young adults make certain mistakes, including at some point taking the decidedly critical risks of sex. I also believe many adults can be stupid, all the way from 1…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 01:17 AM
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Meet me with that argument when they can also buy a drink or a vape.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 12:34 AM
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They all have agency, that doesn't make their decisions good. Interesting how you never ask that question when a man's decisions get questioned.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 12:16 AM
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State or federal? Care to give me a good reference? Umm... please?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 12:14 AM
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We're not. We are turned off by people who have experience that is totally incompatible with our own. Women with limited experience like myself hoped for men like you once were.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 11:15 PM
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Easier when I'm in good shape, too. That's going to be a bonus once I reach my goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 01:11 AM
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I'm basically you, and I only do the natural stuff. Exercise and diet. Swear off caffeine. Reduce stress, cut off shitty people and find peace with your other goals or whatever. Meditate. When I don't do these things, I'm a mess of anxiety. When I do, I am basically normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 01:11 AM
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No, over 60 DID have some sort of sex within the past year.....
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 11:03 PM
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When it's biased, incorrect, and levied at basically defenseless strangers... yes I count that as hateful.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:45 PM
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It took my husband, my one and only, roughly 6 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:45 PM
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the economy isn’t cause of the problem if that’s what you’re hinting at. It causes many problems which can mix with other problems. You must see that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:33 PM
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They have no idea how much dating has changed in the past 10 years nor are they willing to acknowledge it as they are the beneficiaries in this culture shift. I met my husband about 10 years ago, and I benefit from nothing. Nor do my younger female friends seem to see any new benefits nor does there seem much evidence or reason for this serious change you seem to claim. would be tempted to jump into bed with them on the first date Tempted? Maybe, maybe AFTER a very good date I would think about …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:32 PM
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My husband has thrown more serious fits than every woman I ever knew, so uh, kinda doubt that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:22 PM
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Good, I'm glad they don't want to be hateful. They should also be concerned with appearing that way to other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:22 PM
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How much would a man have to date around to tell the difference? I know friends who don't do that, I don't do that to people. There are many types of women here. It's not like we are all one, bad group. That's the part that seems biased and wrong and even a bit hurtful if I was sensitive. But I am old now, and I'm not so sensitive. Guys into pickup want easy things. Good for them, but I'm not judging myself or my fellow women by those standards. If a man expected that of me, I'd be happy to disa…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:19 PM
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I mean, he has talked about going to the EU, but that's with me, his original wife. It's not for romantic or sex purposes (one would fucking hope).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:09 PM
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I actually just showed him your post. Didn't even ask at first. And then, I told him I wanted to no. There's no reason for me to put spin on things.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:02 PM
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I can tell you worded it in way that sounds like “do I look fat in this dress?” Actually no. I know him. He has his reasons. You wouldn't know, apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:01 PM
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So you could tell how stuck up the average fit western woman is (the one born in the west) I don't rely on your experience, in fact, as my friends and my family members do not share that experience. I cannot say, as I was fit when I met my husband and I have been working very hard to get it back and I certainly do not treat him like I am stuck up. Never did.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:00 PM
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"In Hell, I guess, because break terms of service without you."
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 09:57 PM
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(the west has extremely high obesity rates) And that's where you are from, no? You think you are better? This is just one part of what I mean by equal. Not only are their values are much better suited to what a man needs As a woman from the west, I have no clue what you think you mean, but my husband would disagree with you fiercely, for I do meet his needs (except he might crave more diverse sex, but that's not MY value problem)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 09:46 PM
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The other commenter is right. Many men with high body counts are way too into drugs, alcohol, and other bad things. They're not that great of men, and the women who choose them are bottom of the barrel themselves. I don't know why so many other men are blind to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 09:33 PM
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I mean... maybe if you were literally going to pay just to get laid maybe temporarily? Or you could find an equal hear and get laid in a fun way for the rest of your life? But I understand that would require certain skills and sacrifices...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 09:32 PM
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You can teach a child languages even if neither parent knows... worldly is kind of niche to me, as you said most people here just aren't and don't care to be. I personally am going slower just because I also have to get those loans paid and get my career started with my extensive skills that has been so much of a challenge to even begin.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 09:10 PM
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I'm starting to suspect the redpill may be partially the result of social paranoia. Very true.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 09:03 PM
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A more understandable mistake for her. I personally am very, very against pressuring others. That's just my values, or arguably my personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 09:01 PM
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Extremely niche preferences, although I am learning fluency in a second language. Eventually, I want to travel much of Europe and learn a 3d language. Maybe get EU citizenship. My degree is in engineering, as you can tell by my username. I bet you don't meet may Filipino women with my math skills. Yes, I took out loans, and I am seeing that they get paid essentially on my own as I said before. I am not a burden. You can tell I have plans. I am young and many of them are unfulfilled. I realize th…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 08:58 PM
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I trusted him and believed him when probably everyone on PPD would probably insist he's a cheating prick. Gave him my virginity and married him, so I sure hope I can be right in my extreme levels of trust. I'm not blind, one day I may confirm or deny...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 08:48 PM
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I can't just not be American anymore. I can't not be independent, educated, and smart. I wouldn't want to. I already told you I'm getting skinny. Let me rephrase, I would be insulted but also worried for my son because I'd know he is very wrong. There is no poor cloth for women here. That's silly. There might be poor sex education and physical fitness culture on both sides, and that IS something I worked hard to overcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 08:39 PM
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It's a little more understandable when you realize women have to go through the age of like 22 before marriage is reasonable, and almost no guys are really waiting until marriage. Some aren't assholes though. Shame the one she got seemed more like a true asshole at the end. If you feel like you're fighting too hard... maybe you also have a problem. It shouldn't be a fight.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 08:37 PM
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That doesn't mean with most of the people I know. Perhaps you don't fit in here with a majority, and that actually isn't always a bad thing. I get that. I also do think it seems rude and puts women on the defensive when you say "there are 6 million women where you sre from, and I actually wasn't interested in any. But the women elsewhere are fine." Just seems off, you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 08:32 PM
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Thank you for this, literally
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 08:29 PM
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No u r false
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 08:26 PM
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Seeing as how you travel for work, I get that for you. Sure it works for some people. But like you said, maybe some birds don't actually suck and some people from those places aren't blind. Russia? Really? Dunno man, I would definitely find it insulting if my son told me he specifically idn't feel like dating where he and I are from, but that's your business.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 07:37 PM
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Possibly, but rarely even so. It's not going to be a decision made lightly. There would have to be a reason, a real one that is super challenging to fix, and we can't make our partner do their share of the fixing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 07:15 PM
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No one asked you to give standing women an ovation though. Shutting your mouth would have worked fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 07:11 PM
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surely it must be normal weight men who are fed up and leaving I wouldn't know or care, to be honest. I don't think it's truly happening as much as it is really hateful online blustering. Only guy I knew who was a "passport bro" was an old guy with white hair who brought a wife back form the Philippines. Cringe, wouldn't want that for my daughter, but not my business. Yes he was a normal weight but he wasn't a young, cute guy that ought to be starting a new family. He should act his age, if I wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 06:58 PM
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Statistically speaking, yes that's what's going on in the economy right now. More and more people ARE giving with family, and those who can't are paying way too much in rent. I only wish it was a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 06:57 PM
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saying that you “pay your own way” is a yellow flag. Not because that’s bad, but listing that upfront implies that is the best thing you bring to the table. Kind of like if a guys tinder profile only read “I’m a nice guy”. I'm married and not trying to date, definitely not you, all you need to know is I'm not a burden and I am working very hard including getting back into shape despite my shitty culture. If it's easy to find someone anywhere, so many people would not solely choose Poland. And mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 06:45 PM
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I think men should never marry, because it's a dupe. At least in America. You think much to generally for all other men. You think fat guys are pulling women in foreign countries? Lol. No, I think fat guys stay in the US as do most successful guys as well, and to advocate against that is weird as Hell and most men seem to be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 06:41 PM
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Outcompete... how? I keep hearing men say this, but what I DO NOT hear is any of my European cousins slobbering over the thought of an American.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 06:39 PM
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The average Joe is paycheck to paycheck, especially a young single guy. You seem out of touch. Unless you're expecting dudes to be old...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 05:18 PM
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That's all well and good if you are 28 dating 23 or something. More power to you. But, if you ruin those relationships time after time, 28 year olds will not see 28 year olds as losers anymore. You, at 33, will just be less hot. Even at 23, most men my age and even above were losers but I was not willing to dumpster dive for something with lottle potential.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 05:06 PM
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And she might be wrong. That's her choice to make though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 04:56 PM
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Not only are they not virgins, but the average bodycount for this woman is 7+ That is lifetime count. Not just 25. Many people divorce or become widowed. Also many American men are fat. It's a culture thing, and one I don't imagine many hot, fit eastern European or Asian women would appreciate. Being sexually open is also cultural. If you were raised in NYC where sex is normally not a big thing, it ought to be just normal to you as well. I was raised in the south, it was pretty important to me, …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 04:55 PM
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I'm not ashamed to tell my wife that she's more attractive than the women whom I could attract in my own country. Wh... what?I mean, how does that even WORK? We all have someone who is the most attractive and the best fit, but for that to depend on someone being raised differently than you... that could be a symptom of a problem, or at the very least it can lead to a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 04:49 PM
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We all had geography in 10th grade, babe.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 04:43 PM
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Right.. the men who can't afford to leave, the men who are clearly not as unhappy as you are... you're protecting them... Get a batter argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 04:41 PM
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It was a man who posted this question. It takes a man being creepy first for someone to even make a post, and believe me the women do not want them to stay. WTF.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 04:39 PM
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Because dating is easy enough for them to get married, but long term relationships are fuckin hard. Divorce impacts women, too? Men can be at fault, too?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 04:38 PM
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Why not date someone who understands the culture where you grow up? What is so wrong with me, as an American woman? FWIW, yes I am fat, but I will be joining the Navy myself within 6 months. I'm sure you met women in the service, too. I am working fucking hard, and I pay my own way. What's so wrong with that? And how, as a practical matter, it THAT much easier to find someone in Poland? I would think they not only want their culture understood as well, but they have standards. Polish men are hot…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 04:31 PM
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Actually most same country couples date within their class, not significantly poorer. Dating someone from another country, even if not poor, is a vast chasm of difference to overcome even for couples that click by chance. But to CHOOSE to travel outside of the country, SOLELY for women... That's extreme. Just like dating out of one's socioeconomic class is extreme, but traveling for romance would be even moreso. A man who cannot accept his own culture is, by definition, an outlier. Most men here…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 04:27 PM
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No, I wouldn't be OK with that at all. And that's exactly why I no longer expect a man who is a millionaire to marry my broke ass. If a man is sleeping in my bed, especially every night after night living with me, he becomes family. The way I was raised, spouses do not have separate retirement accounts and separate food budgets and separate levels of vacations from spouses. I plan to make more than my husband as soon as I can, but he's still going on my adventures with me and he will be taken ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 03:54 PM
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Because many young boys are exposed at age like 11 or 12 when their brains are incredibly vulnerable, for one thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 02:16 PM
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There are many people like myself who consider prostitution often akin to rape. After all, trafficking has also existed, and you mentioned what marriages used to be. There is a reason these terms are used to separate these acts from, well, pleasurable experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 02:12 PM
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And yet sex with consent is so markedly different from other penis-vagina action that laws are made with the differences in mind. As you've said, there's a word for it, it's called rape, and we can use language in modern times to mark the huge difference. There are horrible rapist men, and a few women, in the world. It's a thing. We all know it. We can't change them, but we don't need to identify with them either just because they touch genitals.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 01:46 PM
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I would say, on average, most young men are a little easy to bed, unambitious, and antisocial for my taste. On the other hand, I don't consider myself average. I'm sure, for plenty of average women, there's nothing wrong with many men. It's a matter of two people who are flawed in ways that work together. Parents, and older mentors, probably do not talk quite enough about the fact it's not supposed to be easy to find. It's not supposed to feel unnatural, either, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 03:59 AM
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most thoughtful men feel the same about average women they might or might not date. I do anyway. It's not a clap back. It's the truth. So why aren't you holding all of the absolutely troubled dudes in the manosphere to this standard and explaining shit to them? They need it, but they're getting it the wrong way. I'm a woman, so it's not my place online for strange men, but you could maybe explain this to many men on here...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 03:53 AM
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Men can have sex whenever they want. They just have to pay for it Eh, that's not sex, is it? Sex is fun, mutual, intimate. Sex is not a dick going into a pussy. There just more to it. I can't explain it to the minority of men who don't get it, though...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 03:44 AM
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Do not marry someone to tell them their time is worth less than yours. Even if you are a capitalist pig who strongly believes such notions, you should NEVER even marry into such a circumstance. Become a monk, go make all of your own money. Even if technically the household gains very little, society needs workers of all trades and levels. Capitalism is actually a failure, but even the stupidest capitalist knows not to marry with this type of attitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 03:41 AM
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Not sure I think that would be ever super common. Sex is sex, "kink" is... something different? Maybe that's just my opinion...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 04:02 AM
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"Yes, you've just described capitalism, now pick up your sickle and hammer and start your revolution" You're literally tempting fate. I'm about one half of a catastrophe away from things that would violate tOS to talk about, so...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 02:38 AM
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sex is fundamentally no different under capitalism and it's naive to assume it is." The system promotes this, yes, I don't disagree. But the system is wrong. Sex IS fundamentally different. People do that for free, they crave it. That's why it's bought. Capitalism is the ONLY brain dead ass system that would see 2 people doing the same fucking activity and say "oh one person should be paying for this, the other will need to get paid."
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 01:46 PM
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Ok, that's fair. So, I did date a little but when I was young, but I had some other obstacles and I was more limited than most people in modern day. I understand, especially with covid recently, that sometimes life gets set back a bit. I wish you all the best despite any challenges. Good luck. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA I mean, I can understand where you're at right now, but please at least keep in mind for the future that this was not meant as a joke. For anything joyous or sustainable, you will have to us…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:19 AM
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I think men tend to make these types of relationship decisions much quicker than women do, even if they slow it down for caution's sake. I always believed it, and at one point I found some stat to back me up. It's fine to have that sort of standard for the physical atttaction, in fact I think I understand your point very well. On the other hand, I think a group hang out or something sort of conversation can help set up some further standards and weed out some boring dates. That's my personal tak…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:13 AM
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Very high bar is fine, but honesty many women are great. Most men do end up finding a very good marriage, or at least one. You mentioned the legal system, and that is going to depend upon some specifics, so that part is up to you. For me, as I was young and in the US when I found love, it made sense to marry legally for both of us. To be perfect for me, the woman only has to be cute enough that I immediately want to have sec with them Lol what? From there it is all about her intellectual and emo…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:05 AM
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I just said special. I can't tell you what that means to you. So, what then? You meet someone a little special, then trash it? Don't try to build up the bond and water the grass where you want it to grow? Damn, I dated men and I like dick. If I found a man who was a little special... I'd work with that the absolute best I could. Met a few in my day. At least I admit they exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:52 AM
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I mean, my husband was 19 when we met. His mom cooked for him. He has a good palate for healthy food, never impacted his weight. I didn't know she planned his lunches. Why would I have asked that? but because they are who they are, and didn’t change throughout the marriage, and women want more and more over time. This is true to an extent. My husband hadn't changed... too much, anyway. But I am learning more after I lived with him. We share finances more. We got together when we were flat broke.…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:42 AM
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Yes, only marry if you find someone special. A little weird to assume that special women basically don't exist, especially to you, but go off I guess. You know best.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:36 AM
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I'd also push for more male prostitution, But I would not pay for that, not ever. Not if sex was the only thing to save my life. That's why I think it is gross. Nothing more to it, it's just... not what I want for so many very good reasons. I'm not a teenager anymore, so I doubt I'm going to change my mind, either.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:33 AM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:28 AM
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Calling sex labor at all is dehumanizing, though. It's supposed to be fun, passionate, personal.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:27 AM
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While this is true to an extent in dystopias, it is usually very human to both be able to work productively and to have sex out of personally chosen desire. As long as that productive work is, ya know, healthy and respected. Service workers should be taken care of physically and respected socially. Any medical worker who touches private parts should be protected by safety measures, for example, like not getting exposed to jizz or unnecessarily close contact.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:26 AM
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it's far more common to see the man protects the woman from SOCIAL violence. The first boy I ever loved did this for me many times. Such a good human. so I suspect the desire for a social protector gets sublimated into the more general desire for a mate with high social capital. Smart catch. This is a LOT of thought about what ladies like, though... how old are you? At a certain point, you have to learn from experience how things apply to you, and what YOU like as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:22 AM
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Omg no...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:16 AM
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I'm sure she would have stopped in the past, but she doesn't necessarily have to stop now just because you met her a couple if times and then ignored ger and now want to waltz back in. You shouldn't even text her in the first place, what about YOU taking a break instead of desperately jumping back to someone who so recently was such a bad fit to be ignore completely? It's not desperate to date men who ask you on dates sometimes. What you're doing, on the other hand...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:16 AM
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No. Never, if course. Only men did that to me, it sucked, and I decided not to be a POS.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:12 AM
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I can't believe I agree with you...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:10 AM
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Omg. Even in the first clip, the girl is ASKED...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 12:24 AM
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Short men in pics? I used to watch tik toks from women calling ot misogyny mich more than you ever did, and I swear that was NOT the topic for women saying ick.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 12:13 AM
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Yeah. Bios with misogyny. We ought to all agree that's gross, and not about being ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 12:10 AM
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I mean, I'm NEW. Of course I need to learn. I can't get licensed until I train. I wouldn't feel fucking bad about it if one of the old white men in the field would actually take on that responsibility, but no I guess we can't have that. Whatever. I'll figure it out like I always do.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 12:09 AM
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To a large group of anonymous strangers? When no one asked? Kinda yeah. And women definitely do. It’s all over tik tok and not to mention women coined the term “ick” Women did not coin the term. Men deal in ick, too. And oddly enough that isn't having to do with a man being ugly from th start, so once again not the same. But I know women do wrong, so stop fighting me on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 12:08 AM
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Not feeling attraction is one thing. Saying it out loud, about someone who liked you, is talking shit. Comes off as rude an arrogant, but at least it's anonymous on both ends. You insinuated that one was more fucked up Hmm did I? Maybe I did, but I'm definitely top busy playing Minecraft to argue about it. Think what you want. I know women do fucked up stuff, but this one isn't one women do. And it's more fucked up than most things anyone will do IRL.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 12:06 AM
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Umm no, I didn't get the job, so no diversity wave. Thanks. The job I did get is menial compared to what I can do, but I just passed probation and I proved myself good at it. So no, you can accuse me of many things, but not that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 12:04 AM
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To me it looks like he just isn’t attracted to them. Wh... why would you fuck someone who is not attractive? It's the same thing. I say the same about short men with women that women don’t have to give us a chance if they don’t want to. No, but you probably should hold off on talking shit while you don't know the person, of course....
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 10:32 PM
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I never said anyone had to date these women. I shouldn't even have to say all this. The guy was being rude for no reason. You can reject someone without being rude. At least you new link is more relevant, calling random men out to get rejected. Funny how no woman said that shit in this sub for me to see, though. Obesity is different for age and height so even then it varies. Plus truths can be true without numbers. And none of that applies to the rudeness of the original commenter, either, does …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 10:20 PM
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The link you shared as horrible behavior was TwoX, why are you sidestepping it? Ugh. So because something is rude it’s not true. And because something doesn’t have numbers it makes it not true? Dead is objective. A pulse of 0, if you will. Death is medically relevant. Obesity issues can be medically relevant and measured, but that's not what OP did, so it's not objective or helpful. It is rude, and seeing as how he is rude, I don't think I trust him to even partly be truthful without detail. thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 10:03 PM
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Except no one acted like these women gave OP the world, or like they're doing the bare minimum. I love it for you that you took an opportunity to complain about TwoX, but no that does not apply to someone complaining about people genuinely liking hem. Also on if someone is fat it is a fact like me being short or someone being tall babe. And we don't even know that was the case since the original commenter likes to bitch about women at length for little reason, but "in the US" as you say most peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 09:53 PM
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It sure as Hell is a career for some that do move up, though. Try not to be so black and white. All he did was point out facts and say why did they like him. Women do this all the time. No, I've never seen a woman wonder why someone matched with her. In fact, men are culturally expected to shoot their shot even to the point of swiping right on literally everyone. Calling someone fat isn't a fact, babe.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 09:41 PM
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How many royal people do we have especially in the US? Never said it was common, but I did say you are ignorant to say it's not a career. I stand by that, sorry to say. Who was being rude? The dude who basically called these women fat never-do-wells because they dared to add him on a dating app but he wasn't attracted.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 09:30 PM
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Also on hinge, you only get so many likes/day. Why would these women waste their likes on someone far out of their league? Never been on this app, I absolutely did not know about this. It does make it more clear why you are suspicious here. Other people are human. They make mistakes sometimes. They might be new to the app, or maybe you're picker than many men. I can't tell you for sure, but it is their problem to worry about.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 09:28 PM
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You have clearly never heard of the nannies who raise royal children. It can, indeed, be a career. My husband hasn't cooked anything very good for me in maybe a few years. He might season the rice, if I'm lucky. My father definitely can't cook, he burns almost everything. I, on the other hand, am an excellent baker from scratch. Hey, again not every man has to agree with this, but it's still rude and unnecessary and out of place to criticise people relationships aren't exactly the picture you in…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 09:26 PM
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Bartenders and nannies are not McDonald's workers. That's fine though. He doesn't have to date them. It sucks to hear for a man, I'm sure, but a nanny and a cook is going to have skills at home that can be used for traditional roles which men generally don't or even can't do, like breastfeeding. There's nothing wrong with that, even if that woman isn't as skinny as some men may like.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 09:22 PM
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aren't going to college and most have a highschool degree (stated in profile). No one is going to put their first couple of community college courses while they are going through a tough time supporting themselves on a dating profile. That doesn't mean they're not doing things with themselves. Yeah, a slightly overweight women at like 150 are going to get some hate, but we are not the same as a 300 lb person play video games or live with mommy. It's different. I do absolutely not believe a visib…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 09:20 PM
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It's still a career.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 09:14 PM
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don't really think what anyone says here should factor in anything that you do does hard work justify some unreasonable standard if that's what you're implying. I'm outright stating that I don't have to justify myself to anyone when I'm serving my country and making serious sacrifices. No justification is required, and yes, no other opinions need to be considered. I'm a pretty reasonable person, and I always endeavor not to be rude. I would never act entitled to some big, strong, strapping Navy …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:01 PM
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but more than that I'd have thought the former makes more money no? Yeah, so I am certified but none of my efforts have yielded this great paying job yet. I'm sure there are several reasons, but seeing as the percentage of women in my particular interests is so low, I can't help but feel that has worked against me too. So now I get to join the armed forces. Y'all want this half form of equality, cool, just know that when I'm serving my ass off I will have earned every single bit of pickiness I d…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:48 PM
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Hmmm. Wonder why. Actually don't tell me, bye lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:32 PM
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They are, hence why we don't actually live in an equal world, and why men's focus on women's sexuality "catching up" kind of makes me want to vomit
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:31 PM
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Some nannies have graduated from prestigious programs and do well for themselves. As for servers and bartenders, they are possibly working their way through school. I have no problem with women way below my league liking my profile. I was just wondering why No you weren't. You can't be THAT stupid. They like your profile because they like you. I'm not expecting to get with Margot Robbie, just looking for someone who isn't morbidly obese and ugly Well you said 10 and you said just overweight, so …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:30 PM
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Accepting to work with me, percentage of engineers, and used to harass women sometimes but at least that seems to be mostly better in Cali. I don't have solid stats for most of this, just my experience. We could maybe blame age and the economy, too, I guess. Plenty would argue with me that young men have it just as hard or my level of skill sucks. Well, I'm busy equally paying my own bills and I took out the loans to learn what I could in school, so I don't know what more could possibly be expec…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:27 PM
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To say it or to like them?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:20 PM
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Should be obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:20 PM
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Talking to someone as a woman... is talking to them as a regular person. Even if it's not the same as taking to them as "OTHER' people. Women are regular people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:20 PM
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We live in an age of equality but the male engineers whom I made every reasonable attempt to work with collaboratively have not caught up.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:18 PM
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Actually you didn't say you like them....
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:17 PM
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Are they delusional into thinking they are a 10 No you're delusional thinking you're so perfect only a 10 can like your profile. Also I'm not sure how you know they have no career? Fod you check their profile and find nothing about it? Maybe they wouldn't want to be specific about that on a public profile. You have liked plenty of profiles that didn't match with you, I'm sure. That's life. Not sure why you ever thought you were above it, that seems incredibly silly. Online dating and talking abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:16 PM
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I understand when you try everything and it just doesn't work, it's normal to be frustrated. We all rely upon others to an extent, and we live in a society. On the other hand, if you don't even put in effort for yourself, then no one else wants to hear your BS.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:12 PM
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Now do women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:07 PM
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I've never dated as an older woman. I cannot say, only that I would rather not date a much older much. Yes, I used an extreme example. And you've illustrated my point perfectly, indeed. It's not that money makes a woman OR A MAN more sexually attractive. One with a little less money will do fine, but a little experience and status and life and intelligence will matter compared to not having any for sure. I can't think of a worse match than two people at different life stages. It's not like a man…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 04:18 AM
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I do, I just find it odd that you don't also tell them and instead direct your BS towards a feminist thought pattern
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 01:48 AM
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But other people do care, so tell that to them instead of this person responding with the same threat the manosphere has been constantly making to women
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 12:21 AM
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Great now tell that to women instead of crowing on and on about how the wall makes it less likely for a woman to find a good, exciting relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 12:14 AM
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I'm a size 12 dating a younger man. Do not let yourself feel like shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 12:12 AM
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I don't know. Your average wealthy man is likely going to be decently smart. You don't think he'd get bored by someone who isn't equally smart? You don't think they'd be viscerally disgusted by trailer trash? I feel like these are valid points.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 12:10 AM
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Thanks. I'm thinking a lot about the competition thing. Maybe I am competing with him just out of insecurity. Maybe I'm competing against some imaginary person who would have made my younger self more proud. Maybe I'm just too messed-up or unfortunate to be able to make immediate change at this moment. Maybe I'm being impatient. All of this just surfaced today, so I'm going to need some time...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:31 AM
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I mean, I said that I have gained some weight and I've been getting it off. We have been long distance before. We have been so stressed about money that we go to food banks. Of course or sex life has had its rougher spots through all this. I don't think I resent him for that. Eh, I dunno, maybe I do resent that he has much more experience than me, I guess. I still wanted to enjoy what we can have, obviously. I still love him. I expect to meet my fitness goals in February. Before he got pushed th…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:05 AM
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Yes there's a chance. I can either be alone here, or give up my one and only job for something else. My choice, I guess. I don't like these choices very much. If I was doing this when I was 18 and fit and spry, i would feel differently. But now I feel like these are my last years to adopt a child or maybe to be more attractive again. And they're gonna get fucked up. I guess I better get used to the idea of making peace with being old. I've made peace with worse before.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:54 AM
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My bosses and colleagues seem to really like me. They say I'm smart. My last several bosses before this loved me. Colleagues got along with me pretty decent too. I haven't had a problem with a colleague since engineering school where certain young men had an attitude I didn't like and no laws stopping them from saying what they wanted. My promotional opportunities are mainly in a distant department though, since my direct bosses are staying where they are for now. I pass my probation for this pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:48 AM
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I wasn't trying to give out too much info, but yes. He is joining the service. They are pushing him through because he's not fat and I am. Whoop-hee. Now I have to TRY to join him. But furthermore, I got denied again today for a promotion I earned years ago. If I DON'T go into the armed forces, I don't fucking see how I'm ever going to eliminate any debt or do something more than push papers. No one wants to accept me, and I don't know why! It made me have compassion for struggling men for a mom…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:38 AM
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He started the first step to a probable promotion today while I was denied one. I'll probably stop eating from a food bank, but then my husband will be long distance AGAIN and/or I will have to end my first half-decent job with promotional opportunities (even if I stay, obviously no guarantee I will ever be accepted) just for his convenience. It all sucks. See? No hope. No more promise. The once intelligent, pretty girl is now just... an orphan in a distant marriage pushing papers at best for no…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:31 AM
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I have another issue that might stop me. That's personal, though. I figure I'll start to get the weight down, but still I'm just overwhelmed. Being stationed way from my husband and not being able to adopt kids or something for the last years of my somewhat young life... it all sucks. Everything sucks. I haven't had a time I enjoyed since, well, probably about 8 years ago when I thought my mom was going to get better. Maybe if I believed I could do it without being screwed somehow, I could tell …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:22 AM
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Thank you so much, sweetheart. Treasure the times now while you have them. Treasure your family as much as you can reasonably. Treasure the innocent dances and dates you might have while you are young anf you don't ever have to worry about cheating. Keep up your fitness, and appreciate what your body and mind CAN do. Do your own research on choosing your own field, and don't let anybody stop you. Network, and do an internship or a few. Learn to drive early, which you've already done, so that's g…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:12 AM
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Exactly. Fuck that. And it's not like I need accomodations anyway. All I need is for someone to give me a chance to show my skills. The people I work with now love me. How can that possibly be so much to ask for a technical role, too? Fuck capitalism.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:06 AM
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I grew up with a very present father who is 6 feet tall. I don't fetishize tall guys. I'm embarrassingly short myself. With that being said, a man who knows how to fight and shoot and a man who defends what he values is non-negotiable. My caring father would have it no other way. I was just thinking earlier of the shorter man who protected my when I was little. I think he grew to be 5'7'' or 5'8'' as an adult? I don't know. I don't carry a measuring tape for men. But he was in track and field, g…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:05 AM
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I'm down about 45 pounds total. It's not enough for the armed forces. Still need to work on it, although I think it's actually taking a toll on me. My husband pointed out how weight loss can cause symptoms of depression. Thank you for your compassion. My husband is really trying. I think he believes in me. I've put a lot of pressure on myself since I was a little girl, though. I was always told how smart I am and, once, somewhat pretty. My colleagues lately have been supporting me once again, bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 02:58 AM
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He's not dropped me. He has actually been very supportive tonight, after we had a chance to calm down. But that doesn't mean he can just manufacture more money than the average person has. I need to take care if my own self now, apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 02:49 AM
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Maybe I have some kind of neurodivergence. When I was younger, and based on all I have been able to do, I would never have thought it was disablingly bad. I try not to even get evaluated too much anymore because I'll probably end up joining the armed forces. My weight is definitely holding me back there. My condition should not theoretically stop my from joining when I do lose weight, which has gone well so far. But who knows? I always seem to get fucked. I've worked hard physically in the servi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 02:47 AM
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Mom got cancer and died. Dad remarried someone I don't get along with. Economy tanking. Had to move away to try and regain some of my old promise, but that didn't pan out exactly the way I thought. Stress eating and sleeping, I guess, when I was trying to get through school with a dying/dead mom. Not sure why people seem to think I'm less capable than when I was younger, really, professionally. Part of me just thinks it's because I'm a woman and everyone assumes I should be relying on a man and …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 02:44 AM
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No man can be relied upon guaranteed. Furthermore, I said I don't want to be an anchor dragging him down, and you just don't want to listen. You believe that men, women, and fate are all a certain way. You are wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 02:40 AM
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Y'all don't understand when I say I lost everything. I eat what I get from a food bank.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 02:39 AM
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The older I get, the less hope I have. I don't think I like life today. My husband made an accomplishment. Things finally started moving fast for him. I, on the other hand, got rejected after doing my absolute best. There's absolutely no objective reason why I should be the anchor holding him down. I have been working my ass off to lose weight, I worked my ass off for STEM, I got a job, I weathered through the hard times. And yet... I've lost everything. He just wants me to be happy for him, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 02:22 AM
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I'd toast with you, but that wouldn't be good for the fitness preparation.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 03:35 AM
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i'm a dirty commie tho so i blame capitalism, natch. Based AF take the commie red pill. I am inclined to agree tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 03:28 AM
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Not that I've seen in literally any other case, but OK.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 03:21 AM
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Don’t you respect men enough to believe the words that they say? Ummm, THOSE men? The ones who say problematic shit online and harass me? No. Belief in someone's judgment is earned. My husband, however? Yes. He said he doesn't want to do more or socialize more, OK great. Unless he is exhibiting unhealthy behaviors, then I'll believe he may indeed be taken care of.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 03:20 AM
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Outside of parent-child-relationships, women arre usually offered more help whereas men have to fiend for themselves. Oh OK then. I'm calling bullshit. This hasn't been my experience at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 03:12 AM
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I mean, there is actionable truth here for a young demographic. For a 20-25 year old college guy, they need to grow the fuck up and learn to be more selective with their big brain. They need to get to know people and observe patiently. Half the people their age are progressing super slowly, and half aren't. They are all young and starting out close enough, though. They can easily meet and work out logistics for s future if their personalities mesh. On the other hand, once a guy reaches 35, most …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 03:07 AM
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An engineering degree? Dead easy. Woman in STEM, graduated, you are wrong. I'm gonna save your ass by joining the Navy though, so you're welcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 02:56 AM
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You can afford to waste more than that. You know the women you want are educated and wear nice suits anyway. What on earth would make you think they'd want a moissanite ring to go with their power suits? Or is this just yet another excuse not to commit again?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 02:49 AM
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I'd like to hear more about this. What about your parents?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 02:48 AM
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So true.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 02:47 AM
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I have a half-sister. I learned a lot of what not to do from her adult shenanigans, but I did not grow up with her. Different moms, different ages. Very different. So, on the negative side, I was never close to a growing boy who wasn't interested in dating me to understand what they go through. If I ever had to raise a young boy, I would be at a loss! Also, as the "only princess little girl" I was pretty damn sheltered. I never got pregnant by an asshole who would bail, never tried drugs. Took m…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 02:44 AM
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No one is owed anything. Choices can be made, and those have consequences. Like sex without even an orgasm or anything positive at all that just ends in nothing but being tossed aside without so much as a friendly conversation... well, that is what it is. It happens, and I'm unsure why you want me to pretend that I see how it's truly positive for women. But in the end, that's their call and their decision. Orgasm for the man, and not for the woman. Objectively not equal. Happens more often in ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 01:09 AM
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This is the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 12:49 AM
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Both individuals benefit from sex and Isn't that up to me to decide in my case, and everyone else in their case? I know for a fact there are offers being made for sex that I would not benefit from. That is my call, thank you very much. neither is obligated to provide a relationship or even friendship afterwards. Never disagreed. Plenty of men have tossed women like cum rags. Occasionally a woman has done something similar. Sometimes people split for good reasons. On the other hand, if it happens…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 12:48 AM
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I don't know if "less emphasis on looks" is the right way to put it. We still like an attractive guy importantly, but we recognize that attractive for 50 is different from attractive for 25. My sister absolutely did not start going for ugly guys, and I could be 80 and I wouldn't do so either.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 12:44 AM
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The ones who weren't into me were so very mean in high school, I honestly didn't want to bother to keep up. A few handsome guys from my teen past reached out to ME much later. Accepted one on LinkedIn because he was previously nice enough, ignored the other on Facebook because he was very not nice and newly single and based on context I'm sure wanted to bone. So, the jerk is now a single dad and must still be super promiscuous. The reason I rejected him in high school never changed. The other gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 12:37 AM
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link But it's not a joke. Some men on here do actually say rather dumb things like all marriage is a scam and all women are burdens and all men really really really just need and want sex. just ask u/workaholiconew
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 12:16 AM
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I could honestly care less if guys wanna buy their girl flowers or telling her how good her outfit is RP is a strategy. Would YOU be a loving partner ever? Without any feelings involved, do you accept that it's a good strategy for some situations? As far as I can see, TRP does not. In fact I recently had a man on this sub tell me all women are burdens.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 12:09 AM
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I think I disagree. If my husband was a bad listener compared to literally everyone else in my life or something, that's an issue all on its own.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 12:03 AM
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Men can’t simultaneously be the gender that’s desperately trying to settle for anything in a skirt, while also being extremely picky and only focused on a small subset of women (The latter just seems like projection and an imitation of common male critiques of women tbh.) Let me explain the counter-argument usually goes more like “but how many women are actually going to be viewed as too ugly to fuck by literally all men?” Yeah being fucked and then tossed like a cum rag is a pretty easy thing t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 12:00 AM
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If it is true, you'll have to evaluate that. But if you don't have any real evidence and things are actually good, I wouldn't tirelessly look for some unfixable problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 11:51 PM
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If you are a big enough dick, no you kinda can't just undo that... Furthermore, worrying about what you CAN'T change is even sillier than worrying about what you can do better. Decide early on if the things you can't change are good enough, quit worrying, and if things change later then roll with it. I can't turn myself into a skinny Asian model either, I'm aware. I can't let it mess with my head.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 11:50 PM
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You actually think a woman can find someone to listen to her, give her gifts, have more interesting conversations... and that won't lead to her neglecting you? Because she won't be your emotional tampon anymore then either. She won't bake you cookies. And I guarantee you, whether you admit it or not, your girlfriend provides those things to you besides sex that are important. Like yes I can have friends, but if they are more romantic with me then my husband, that IS going to lead to issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 11:47 PM
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Ask them, they are here lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 11:44 PM
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I genuinely believe it would be easy enough for you to find at least one woman your age who you could have dated at one point. All the men would be taken too in your age group, so the competition is a bit less stiff.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:03 PM
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Women have sex after menopause. Both my mom and stepmom. Umm? What does weight gain or being a stay at home mom for a few years have to do with being a slut?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 04:57 PM
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Lmao this is what my personal trainer told me. He was the quintessential basically strong, thick dad bod. He literally said "I know how to cut back on bad foods and body fat, but that's not fun, I don't want to do it."
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 04:54 PM
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If men's problems were actually all about sex, this might work. I'm not dumb enough to buy that's their main or only issue, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 04:53 PM
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I wouldn't hold off forever. You should be able to manage asking for a date with someone you like while akso building your life. Young women are also building lives, and if they're going to date while young (which apparently men prefer) then those young women will want men who aren't way too far ahead of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 04:51 PM
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perhaps they are becoming rarer the more we postpone adulthood. Oh this is totally true. My great grandfather and great grandma had a huge age gap, but I try to remember this part. Things have changed since.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:17 AM
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It takes patience to handle the flighty and impulsive nature of a typical 20 year old, too, though.... Thank you for your compassion.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:05 AM
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I wouldn't say I have close male friends myself anymore, truly. But I do interact with men normally, and I don't see a problem with it. Even if I found one of them somewhat attractive, that doesn't have to ruin my marriage or take my attention. I still like my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:53 AM
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I don't count it as baggage. Anything healthy that happens to 95% of people is just life. No need to label it negatively. Why consider it baggage? I lost my mom when I was sort of young. Breakdowns became rarer, and less extreme over time. I never let it be a serious burden to my husband. Believe me, he has down worse, and he DIDN'T lose an immediate family member. Healthy people do exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:51 AM
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Yeah people can feel things. But as long as you don't talk about intimate personal topics, or touch the person or buy them gifts, you're in the clear. Not everyone can be rich lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:43 AM
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I have 2 eyes, dude. I know reality without publishing it. You don't seem to get it, though. Why I said bye.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:38 AM
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Judge the person in their entirety. Mental health professionals struggle enough with getting neat little labels of diagnosis onto their patients. BPD and NPD are associated with many serious red flags. That doesn't mean life is back and white though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:37 AM
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I have zero intent on destroyijg my career by showing the flaws of women.... so yeah you wont ever find any such data... it is academic/professional suicide. Haha cute OK bye then.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:33 AM
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I've seen a lot of young people on drugs, unable to move up. Men and women alike, seemingly worse for women as we don't have the same muscles and we get pregnant and old white men judge us while loving to mentor young men. That's just me speaking as a woman in STEM, though, I realize. Also men tell women it's our fault all the time I do realize it comes across as hateful, but not just towards men. The hate towards men specifically comes from a different place, in my opinion, but it's quite clear…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:32 AM
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if you dont verify anything with real world data Yeah real world data collected by my life experience. Social scientists have not done a great job yet of collecting certain data on a mass scale on many dating issues. Who do you think we are? The youngsters are out there taking their women or improving themselves... Actually most of this sub is younger men, last time there was a poll taken. may be older than your father... No, my father can't use the Internet too well. He's in his 70's.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:28 AM
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People can bond over their life experiences. It's not baggage if you have a healthy attitude about things and process with emotional intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:23 AM
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Women can function without having unrelated men in their surroundings, can they not? No, I'm a public sector worker. I pay my half of the expenses by work that requires seeing men every day. Best opportunity I had, and husband's best opportunity requires seeing unrelated women, too. This is equal. Pay my bills in full and maybe we can talk about it, but that's nit an offer my lover made and in any case he does not seem to have an issue being around other women, so it would be a hypocritical reas…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:22 AM
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And my experiences have been verified by me. Not really following women around to verify your example, and I highly doubt young men are either. Maybe I would trust the word of an older man who dated enough women to know. That would be my dad, who absolutely never ever would say such a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:17 AM
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the gap in experience due to having had greater experience sexually and in relationships,which women tend to have far greater due to the ease of finding partners, is never discussed. My husband has had more sex partners than me. Actually most guys I ever talked to had more romantic experience, except one. I don't know where you're getting your assumption from that things are so easy for ladies. Talk to the awkward girl at school, talk to your female cousins, figure this out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:14 AM
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It actually IS a huge deal to date someone in a different socioeconomic class or with too much of a different past. I specifically don't recommend that, unless the structural issues are addressed somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:12 AM
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Wow so productive. Not that I actually derailed anything if substance from you, so nice non argument. Take care baby
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:10 AM
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But look at the thread though. You weren't a victim of shit until a female commenter came around. Classic DARVO.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:07 AM
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Boys in my high school were literally not men at all. They liked to swing their dicks around and trash talk like they were, though. Very painful to watch.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:04 AM
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My father was 75 having sex with my stepmom. So yes, I think old people like to bone. Retirement homes are STD hot spots. Sex is fun, it just is. The trick is to make space for it in a somewhat younger adults' busy life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:02 AM
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Yeah those women also wouldn't have sex with those previously gay men. FAR different than nutting in someone, and then fucking their best friend, spreading diseases to all, and then saying "Actually all of you are too slutty for me, but I was attracted enough to bone though. Good luck! Byeee! I guess I hope I don't find out whether or not y'all are pregnant!"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:00 AM
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If I was getting hit on too much, I would know and I could figure it out myself. My husband doesn't need to be the arbiter of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:51 AM
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Baggage isn't always a problem for a relationship. A 50 year old widowed man is much better off with someone who has some "baggage" than someone who has not lived or grown at all. If I'm being honest, not all abuse or bagge is equal. Some can be a real problem, especially if not worked through. But losing a loved one, after a certain age, is life. A wise and smart person will not let it keep them from having a decent, happy life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:50 AM
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Well, you can't stop the things that make you function once you get the relationship. It's not like women function in society just to find a man, then we can become chattel. That's ridiculous. Maybe we still need to have lives for purposes outside of a relationship. Maybe step one for a relationship is the same step one for having any other form of life and identity. Is that so hard to imagine?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:46 AM
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So close to reaching the point, yet so far away.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:43 AM
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That's all men have lmao. That and some messed up studies I don't even feel like dealing with.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:41 AM
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Kick a dog that's down enough and it's eventually going to stop getting back up. You actually think men get dragged down and kicked when they are down by society? That's so far from the truth of what I have seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:39 AM
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And yet if they choose to take risks with their belongings and share their bed with someone, consequences are still a thing. We all make our choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 10:36 PM
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I was raised by two parents who stayed together. I lived in Texas, moved to SoCal later. We had a home. You don't just bring anyone into your home. Even now, I live by that. My room means something to me about safety. Even if it didn't have emotional significance to sleep in the same bed as someone, which I believe it does, all of my belongings are in my place. That's risky!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 10:31 PM
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No. Women are not stupid. Even the most impulsive woman acknowledges that sex comes with bigger risks that almost any other activity.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 08:36 PM
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If company equals sex, it gets more complictaed. Sex in an adult activity that comes with significant risks, and we should treat it as such. Even then, there are ways to minimize risks with little more than just sex, but people fail at that all too often. We must teach the next generation to do better.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 07:20 PM
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Tf has that to do with Hookups lmao OOF. Ok if you can't figure that out, it's time for me to put the phone down lmao. STD testing before every new partner, even a hookup. Condoms versus other methods of protection. Vetting people for what you are looking for matters even in a short-term situation. All of that is part of being an adult and thinking of consequences when hooking up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 04:14 PM
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I mean, I did it in a car and it still wasn't casual, so... Maybe this wouldn't matter if men didn't ask and judge all the time. I'm always so confused when PPD men say women are the worst slutshamers, because that has absolutely never been my experience. The truth is, casual sex is less likely to result in orgasms, and most women actually mean it when they say it. Maybe it doesn't take any kind of special logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 04:13 PM
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You should do that regardless Monks do not get STD tests. I am married, and I get tested very rarely. If I had a new partner every week, of course that would be a different situation, and you're silly for suggesting otherwise. You should always use condoms anyway Again, am married. We have permanent birth control. I'm not a cheat, he better fucking not be. We are not paying for condoms. Judge me all you want. Yet you Same/invalidate people who don't do that choice. I lay out the facts about sexu…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 04:10 PM
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Yup.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 04:03 PM
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Then that's even sillier from her part lol, imagine being in long term relationships and still getting pregnant and end things with your partner. Yeah she might be silly as Hell in some ways, but she knows that adult actions have consequences. That's all I said, by the way. I never said "you're a piece of shit if you break up with someone or stop sleeping with someone."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 03:59 PM
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The "good thing" you imply (relationship/marriage etc) Ain't something people who want ONS want, atleast in that period of their life. Are you willfully misunderstanding me at this point? Even communicating about good foreplay takes fucking work. Getting tested for STD's to be safe takes work. You don't have to have a relationship to be less than casual. What don't you get? Yes,you communicated how to fuck and some stuff about you, that means you should be together now because conservative dickh…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 03:58 PM
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Have you thought that people just want to have a pleasant experience with someone they like? I think that even that is not casual. It requires communication and effort, which for most people tends to blossom into a longer term arrangement of some sort. Given that she has 2 baby dadies and i have no baby mommies, don't think so🤷 You think she got pregnant from on-nighters? Silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 03:46 PM
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You'd have to actually ask her, then say it. She's over 16. In some states, that is above the age of consent. I don't have to ask her if she uncomfortable in those clothes, because she picked them out and she would have to try for herself. I'm not asking her because it's not my business or my call. Obviously, she has parents. You, however, made it your business without considering any of my questions. I am pointing that out to you. Being underage, she'll be able to live if she's not wearing clot…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 03:44 PM
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Alright that's on brand for you, I'll allow it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 03:31 PM
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Even my sister knows better, and she has 2 baby daddies. don't have these hangups about sex as you do. It's not even about sex, although in my opinion it translates into sex. It's about how you learn to communicate with people by getting to know them instead of expecting them to read your mind on what you like or want or expect. Same thing goes for foreplay as goes for building a life together.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 03:29 PM
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She's almost an adult. She will be having prom next year. The following year, she may be rushing a sorority. She's supposed to not look like a little girl anymore. She's allowed to feel pretty. Furthermore, her size or shape may make it difficult to find longer things that suit her. I was incredibly petite at her age, and I had that problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 03:27 PM
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I did not bleed my first time having sex. The anatomy of women is absolutely not accurate to many things that have been said about hymens, and changing that narrative is ultimately in favor of science.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 03:22 PM
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You don't have to have people reciprocate in order to not be a dumb ass who pretends your own feelings don't exist. Understanding one's own feelings is part of being a functional adult, and it is absolutely not unmasculine or whatever dumb ass old cis het white men may have told people.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 03:19 PM
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Talking about bodycounts and going on dates or inviting someone into your private, scared home is not casual, and I'm sick of men pretending it is. You want to go get a slice of pizza or a deli sandwich? Sure, that's fine, be casual enough. Don't have to have a relationship with that person. But if you want to communicate with that person and have something worth more of your time, you're going to have to be more than casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 03:17 PM
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Exactly this. Happens a lot. Most first relationships in high school or whatever are absolute shit. I'm lucky I even had a good one in middle school. Definitely none of them ruined my ability to have a happy relationship now.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 03:13 PM
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It's a polite social shortcut to saying "i don't think we are a good fit." Could also be used when my celebrity crush kicks ass at what he does, or it could be used to say I DON'T have a spark with a guy who is always a horrible tipper. There's nothing wrong with having this polite social shortcut. In fact, it might do you good not to self-deprecate when a woman turns you down by saying this. Just move onto the next, and if you're truly happy the way you are don't try to force a change through a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 03:07 PM
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Where I am from, marriage comes with important legal rights and religion is decreasing in it's stronghold. Still, people take the social bond of marriage seriously. I understand that not every family or every culture will see things this way. On the other hand, reducing all of marriage to the one small thing you dislike, which must not even be a big part of your life anymore, seems like a bit of an intellectual shortcut to me. Your life, not my business, I guess...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 05:10 AM
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If you have ever delt the desire to have sex or a relationship, you have felt the desire for something more than is necessary or needed. If you have logistical reasons for not wanting marriage, that's all well and good. If you simply do not feel your happiest in any of your relationships as of yet, that occasionally happens. Nothing wrong with that, but it's probably really common and normal for many people to WANT marriage when they're in a happy relationship that will last.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 12:50 AM
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He's the ONLY, so of course. I have never been quick or over eager to have sex. It's an adult thing that should be taken seriously, even if people are more casual, but I am a stable person who would consider raising children and being loyal for life to a man who I would care for on his death bed I deserve to look my hardest for the sane in return. Not only is my man to the best looking, but he also proposed to me. He seems to be as capable as I am of monogamy - non casually.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 12:45 AM
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Cool.story bye
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 01:47 PM
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One crazy sister compared to my cousins, mother and grandmother is nothing. Your family seems to be stuck together, too. Why all the illogical overgeneralizations about women being burdens? Nevermind, I don't care, doesn't apply to me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 01:00 PM
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I don't even disagree: always jerk off before you make a decision. That means jerk off though, not "swap fluids with a stranger who might also make a baby with you." Growing up means knowing the difference. Growing up means accepting the meaning of sex in your life without making it the only meaning. That boy would agree even as a man now, which is probably why he never slept with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 02:50 AM
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average guys rarely do Average or mid or whatever LOOKING guts definitely do. They are typically less capable in several ways than men who form a precious few meaningful valuable relationships, though. Much like you'd probably say if a woman. Clearly that's my point of view.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 02:46 AM
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I am still a well rewarded and seen being of my community without my body or work... are you? Much moreso than someone who fucks his underlings, I am sure. even if it was not the case. I refuse to be a slave to a woman just for sex... I So much for being a romantic. Working together isn't slavery. It's called family. There's honestly not much I can say if you missed out on that when you were little like my sister did
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 02:37 AM
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Your family married, a story old as time. Did you not say? I hold as much value as you do without the body parts though. And if you are much older, there would be nothing to exchange joyfully and mutually. I myself am married. We both enjoy sex and do other things as equals.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 01:43 AM
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it is your mistake to think it means anything too meaningful without sexual satisfaction... This is what you call strong will? Pass. Not that you care, but I have learned many right lessons starting with when I fell in love when I was 12 with a 13 year old boy. He would never, ever say what you just said. He would not respect you. I learned my true will from him. I wish you to have the same good fortune, one day.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 01:32 AM
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Same reason some women have many more sex partners than others. Incredibly lower or higger standards. Men do tend more towards the extremes, especially of lower standards. They are like vagina seeking missiles. They go to where the easy sex is, no matter even if it costs them literal money sometimes. Men do that much more than women. Idk why, I try to just hope that my standards can weed that out. All I know is that promiscuity is not for me, and I deserve someone similar in that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 01:20 AM
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If someone posted "the sky is blue" 13,000 times on the internet, you'd probably think someone has a mental problem, correct? what makes you think I care about such useless concepts such as dignity or your opinion? You cant provid eme sexual satisfaction... I am just talking things with people on here... I am a person who talks on here. That's who I am and that's how to get my opinion, take it or leave it, you chose to be here to talk. I'm not a walking vagina, and I do not trade sex for grades.…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 01:15 AM
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My father has had many wives. Somewhat of a gap, and with my in-laws too. He would never, ever say what you do. His actions speak for themselves. While his wives may be beautiful, they have lately been more than pretty faces. One of the early ones was not, and he finds that to be a much more important topic of teaching the future generations.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 01:12 AM
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Again I say: you will never see me comment on or care about the dating habits of men who are not dating me. My only question is: why are YOU strangely acting that way on the internet, when a person of dignity would never?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 01:07 AM
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Because they're smart and have things to research for good money, actually. I'd be surprised if you were a professor. Average age gaps show that college girls are indeed with frat boys. Whatever you're implying is not the general truth. You can put as much excuses or dellusions as you want but it is the truth... younger women are better. You mean more attractive? Sounds like you are deluded about what life is made of. There's more than attraction. Sure maybe younger women are at their most attra…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 01:04 AM
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You dont need to believe me... but well, it is the truth as I see it. Again, that's never been the point. Who is supposed to care? This is the internet, average age gaps IRL are small. It's not like 36 year old men get 22 year olds IRL. It's not happening, and it's very very strange that men seem to care so much. You'd think y'all could just... move on with life. Very strange ass behavior. The truth of your feelings is really meaningless. And well, women are famous for being quite vocal for bein…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 01:00 AM
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I didn't ask you a question lmfao. I made a statement about the reason it's important why men who constantly talk about young, hot women do not get women. That's what I said, and then you come on talking about "truth" and "butthurt" as if you have a reason to speak. No, I came in saying that it's strange behavior for you be doing nothing but fantasize about that which you cannot have. I am sticking to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 12:56 AM
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Bottom line is this: even if I am one day not wanted, or promise you will not hear me crowing on and on about those who do not want me. But if you want to behave the opposite of me and say such strange on the internet, I might point out what is happening so the youth can read real perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 12:47 AM
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It is not random... thats why it hurts so much and every woman feels they must shut me up... If you were doing what you want, you wouldn't HAVE to brag about it. It's fantasy. My marriage is not merely fantasy, and I have no reason to be hurt. Silly silly person, you seem to have overlooked my entire point to push your own - which no one needs, proving my true original point aactually. You're moot.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 12:37 AM
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I am the person who controls my own conversations, obviously. I can't make certain ignorant men in this shut shut up, but I don't need to engage with them on matters of which they wilfully understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 12:35 AM
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Believing in a dellusion is not for me just for a fake and unbelievable lie? You don't have to believe shit. You just don't have to shout random things that might be comparatively true from the rooftops, especially when those things have no practical value whatsoever. Leader? What are you leading? A looney bin?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 11:46 PM
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Because it is a delicate subject. Not everyone can learn from it, not everyone can teach about it, we are on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 11:12 PM
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Baby I was once 16. So were you. Many men once had non-white, or fuller, hair. Everyone ages. That doesn't make anyone better or worse. Go and learn about empathy for your fellow human beings. Fuck, maybe even easier if you just imagine how your own self will want to be treated once you're past your peak. Create the world you want to live in. I thought that type of leadership is what men want to be known for? So damn silly...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 01:00 PM
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Why do women feel the need to bring it up? Because crowing on and on about wanting people who don't want you is pointless and pathetic and we are truly baffled to see men spewing this undignified trash. Hope this helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 12:58 PM
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whres and nerd incels at best, criminal at worse. Someone who enjoys sex. The worst thing a woman can be, right? I know you don't mean someone who sells it or something. No wonder why single moms often hate the fathers of the kids so much... their plan to make them stay did not work, and it was just a sillly game of power. I would blame the father more if women did not have basically all power after coitus and before Your logic isn't even consistent within itself. Men DO have some power before a…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 12:54 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 12:48 PM
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One step further: sex isn't something you get, it's something you share. Getting YOUR way.... isn't sex. That's something else entirely, which I don't wish to discuss.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 04:30 AM
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Then you should be a monk and find something better to do then, if that is how you see shared sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 01:45 PM
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Naomi Osaka isn't married. She is incredibly athletic and wealthy. All indications show she will be a better mother than many regardless of her dude, although last I checked they didn't just break up right away when she got pregnant and they probably talked about both wanting to keep it. I'm sure this is an Apex example, but it exists and it's one you know. Women should absolutely take responsibility for choices that their own children can perhaps call out. But you, as a stranger, should also sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 04:34 AM
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100%, but how long does that take in favorable circumstances? Less long than it takes a man to finish with his disk being untouched, probably.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 03:35 AM
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You missed the initial conversation on another thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 02:07 AM
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Stating a fact. Don't flatter yourself by thinking I have any kind of feelings about you or your silly comments whatsoever. If you saw women as people, you might realize the flaws in YOUR logic and that I am really capable of not caring what a random man thinks of me as a woman. It's not that hard to see. Didn't you have a mom? Anyone born with a vagina you ever cared about deeply at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 02:02 AM
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women can use a literal fake dick right in front of her man and it’s “why are you so insecure little boy?!” Never have I ever heard of this happening, first of all. So much for your logic and reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 01:08 AM
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And you, on the other hand, are such a peach.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 01:06 AM
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men and women are different and thus have different “sticking points” with arousal. First off, I'd die before "competing" with you. Secondly, both parties require some careful touch on their parts to go from aroused to orgasming. Are you gonna go away yet? You're not teaching me anything, I have not much use for this...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 01:03 AM
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I guess? And how is that anything to do with a woman wanting to use a vibe because her partner literally doesn't care about touching her clit? Is there some epidomic I don't know about of women who request mainly specifically large dildos in the beginning of sex with men? This is such a silly conversation...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 01:01 AM
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Sure, focusing on that is a productive discussion. Not. Have you nothing of substance to say? Even after I clarified? This is not an edifying conversation. Is that clear enough for you? Men don't have trouble coming in sex like women do, first of all. Maybe you can start with learning that and leave me alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 12:51 AM
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Own it. Ick. I don't fucking want to. You won't own that you know what I mean, so I'm not even inclined to bother with anything coming from you tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 12:43 AM
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Put a vibe on a clit or put on some porn without touching him. See which orgasms faster. You fucking know what meant, if you're gonna play dumb go home.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 12:36 AM
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That's... not how a dildo works? Dildo's aren't even usually the tool women want to use during shared sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 12:05 AM
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Porn doesn't actually lead to an orgasm. You can watch it and not get off physically. You can not, however, put a vibe on a woman without her literally orgasming. It is nowhere near as simple as you describe.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 12:03 AM
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I dunno, marc behavior can get really really annoying when repeated and clear and very close.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 11:41 PM
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POTENTIAL partners. That's a difference, don't you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 11:32 PM
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Actually, sort of the opposite. I can appreciate a man who can believe in something. As long as he had a sensible and grounded reason for putting off a relationship, I would simply be glad to be a man's first. It kinda sucks that my husband was with other women before me, and I didn't even know it. Would have been nice to start out as firsts. Maybe if the priest man loved and respected me and I treated him the best I could, that's as close as I can get to getting back what I missed. That fantasy…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 04:09 AM
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I can't speak as directly to that, and I do think dating gets easier for both genders as they age, but if I was single and celibate when I was "younger and higher value" as a woman, well, it can definitely happen to an older woman. I just can't speak to that from experience as I have been married in my years since I was young.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 03:50 AM
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For me, and for many women? Yes. It takes more than 10 minutes, too, to tell if a woman is like that. You can't just assume. It's best for men to wait. At least that's what I would want for both my daughters and my sons. And I'd want for my son to WANT to have his own standards for better than casual, meaningless sexual interactions. Just my opinion, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 03:22 AM
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I can explain about friends. There was a dude in college. He was funny, handsome. Old for my taste, though, and I usually go younger. I liked him. I wouldn't say outrageous, but it was inconvenient the timing he chose for sure. And I had to process all the guilt that things had gotten so, so confusing by the end. Again, like I said, this was not the same as a bad casual sex proposal, though. I knew he didn't mean any harm. Flattering, just overall sad and inconvenient. In another lifetime, thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 01:54 AM
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I'm always hesitant to use black and white thinking. A man might make a mistake that blows up a relationship. Maybe he deserves that loss, but I wouldn't swiftly call him evil as a whole ass person. Same thing with a woman - just because she is a single mom with maybe just one co-parent for a father doesn't make her evil or any black and white thing. Also, as a woman... a lot of the guys I know I didn't really date. Maybe they were sort of flawed or lacking. I try not to trash them. I didn't dat…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 01:32 AM
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In the same way it's easy to say incels and virgin men are annoying when you've always had easy access to romance and sex. I mean this with the utmost respect, but please, go talk to young ladies. You will find many of them have problems getting a date to prom, many have had mainly had romance dangled in front of them as pressure for sex. This was me when I was younger. I don't know about suffering in silence, perhaps therapy or a lot of things can be employed, but asking women to accept casual …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 01:26 AM
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I can see the stereotyping in the way you're describing. There's definitely a biased component to consider, similar in both cases of men. I get that. On the other hand, folks who have lived in big cities or been hit on by really desperate men will understand, it's not JUST a boss to a stereotype. There is a statistical chance that the person making trouble for you on the streets actually does have a serious problem that is not easy and simple to fix. The best chance might be to just get away as …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 01:20 AM
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while it's true that not all women judge virgin men, most women do. I explained why that happens in a dating context after a certain age. I was under the impression that antisocial behaviors (narcissism etc) were actually more attractive to most women. You were mistaken, although narcissism is actually classified as antisocial in a clinical sense rather than a colloquial and literal sense of being against socializing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 12:23 AM
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If you found yourself single again, would you go for a virgin the same age you are? If I were single again and I met a virgin priest - someone who wanted to give up his collar for me.... I'd be the luckiest fucking woman alive!! Unfortunately, you and I know that isn't the case for most virgin men trying to date. Let's not take harmful intellectual shortcuts. Women don't always judge "virgin men." Women take issue with most men who are passive, asexual, porn-addicted, antisocial, etc. Partly bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 12:07 AM
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Yeah no one likes a waste of consciousness. To be cruel about it is uncalled for, though, understand. Not everyone needs my opinion, and I understand that. Even moreso, though... someone or several people repeatedly begging me for money/favors/sex I can't give is just uncomfortable. That goes beyond doing nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 12:03 AM
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Honey, being celibate or a virgin is your business. Treating women like it's THEIR fault or problem is shameful. Know the difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 12:00 AM
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I'm setting my goals for a reason - I am going to need for us both to be aiming a little higher. I would like to get debt free and enjoy a week having sex on the beach without doing dishes. Him gaming for 2 weekends a month isn't going to stop those things from happening. Maybe once we do have more resources he could cut back a bit and that would be fine. Yesterday morning he helped with one of my goals and even found something special for us to both do. He's doing alright enough for what we hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:37 PM
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Hahahahaha Oh the just world fallacy and probably some form.of several others too. Can it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:29 PM
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There are multiple reasons, especially financial, too. I would fully expect a father to game with his son. I'm not opposed to all gaming, but he can't even manage a lot of responsibility just between just the two of us and he will literally get in a bad mood if he is interrupted and he has very little patience for noises/children/diapers in general. His priority is significantly with gaming. He gamed for 7 or 8 hours yesterday, he's been gaming for 3 right now. That's his weekend sometimes. No, …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:28 PM
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No, my response says the same thing. My husband games. He'd rather game than help take care of a baby, for sure. Do I find that kind of lame? I guess. So we have used protection methods until it gets worked out. I have accepted there are things I won't do as much or at all because of his gaming. It's way more acceptable than drugs or whatever, and he is much easier to relate to and spend time with as a person even though he games. I totally agree. I still find it lame, but in my particular relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:20 PM
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Mmhmm
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:14 PM
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Wow that's a lot of assumptions being made for no reason. Oh wait, there is a reason. She has a job of her own, a degree, she makes her own money. The dude was on a similar level to her, but of course he made more money than her because she breastfed and stayed home alone and and took tome off when necessary for their 4 kids. Dude has cars and motorcycles for himself. She doesn't have fancy shit really, she saved plenty and did not stifle him on what he wanted/earned. You don't know what the fuc…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:08 PM
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The fact that it's such a common complaint amongst women basically proves that they are less likely to disqualify the gamer in the first place There's a lot of them, some can quit in the dating phase or at least hide it. Of course these men end up dating plenty of real women. It's not an addiction with withdrawal or something, but it CAN cut into daily functionality when living together happens. Also, it might be something to compromise on. Like with my husband, it's not a disqualifier, but I'd …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:02 PM
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My cousin is a single mom. Her husband worked for a big company, traveled for work, made a lot of money. Very functional. They divorced, so she's a single mom. Dude probably cheated from what I can gather. Wouldn't accuse him to his face, but the point is this: single moms do not all have children with losers. Sometimes single moms have children with functional men who have a major flaw. Almost everyone has a flaw. Sometimes, 10 years down the line, it can snowball into something unacceptable. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 09:59 PM
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Not angry? Who the fuck said we are angry? You believe everything haters say about women without the input of actual women? No. We are not angry. We see alcoholics, criminals, addicts, and we can stay away. Real simple. My husband, though, he's a good guy. I don't want to leave him. I genuinely didn't know he would game this much. Apparently any normal enough guy can just fall into pushing the boundaries of responsibility for games while his wife does the chores. It's a lot easier to run into. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 09:54 PM
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Ugh I never said you did. I simply said it's not an option , and I went even farther to say that there WERE no viable options or really much to say, making your entire conversation a non-starter. There's always breaking up, I suppose. That would be a different conversation, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 06:27 PM
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I would agree, but if my husband says he's not been in the mood because he's stressed, what would I say? No means no.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 04:17 PM
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Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 06:09 AM
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And as a person who has been to regular gyms, this is not very common at all in my area.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 06:03 AM
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Even that should cost money or effort moving gym equipment or whatever. I AM a woman, you know. I like taking care of myself. Attention is a private matter, the gym is neither time nor place.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 04:14 AM
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It's not that hard to get men....
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 03:45 AM
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You don't have to like the newer art. Not everyone will, but I would definitely say respect the game. I personally think their art seems to come from Avery genuine place, even if deemed too repetitive or whatever by some.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:13 PM
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De Niro and the Stones are legendary icons for a reason - especially the Stones. Nothing, and I do mean nothing, was ever going to top Tattoo You. If all you value is a legacy of superiority, yeah they could have stopped a while back. Personally, I value a lot more than that. They do what they clearly love - which is why I connect with their music so much in the first place. De Niro is an actor with a face and a look. The Stones have soul, they make the crux of the art themselves (De Niro's work…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 08:20 PM
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Look at the song "Doom and Gloom," plus the song you originally pointed out. These guys are taking on very modern issues, issues very different than they would have thought deeply of 30 years ago. Their perspectives have evolved, and their art still has novel value. By the way? Take their other newer single "One More Shot," and put it in perspective with "Angry." Might take your original opinion and change it around a bit about the irony.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 07:25 PM
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In my opinion, it's not really ironic to talk about anger in a long relationship among older people. Trauma, history, whatever - stuff happens. I've been with mine for almost a decade. We aren't actually old or saggy (well, not too much so), but I am too embarrassed to post online some of the things he's done. He is very good looking, but he is infuriating. Some would say this relationship could turn out to be a failure. Well, anything can happen. I've learned things in this decade of my first a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 06:47 PM
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The Stones are my favorite band because of how real they are. And they're also introspective. They know she's mad. She's not just old and/or unaroused. She's ANGRY. There's something going on beneath the surface. In a lot of boomer relationships, that's the case. My father had had no problems with his more recent wives because he understands this now that he's not young and dumb anymore. With that said, I'm sure old and saggy genitals don't help. It takes love and care and also something beneath…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 04:59 PM
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A lot of times, yeah. Not always in a sexual way, either.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 03:27 PM
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And I still have plenty of time to “play video games and jerk off to porn.” Just not at my parents place. Lolz. So this is enough for you? Do you think many men feel this way?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 10:50 AM
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go talk to the men in ur life JFC I fucking did. You know that. Bye
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 10:43 AM
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I follow some gay men on Tik Tok, highly recommend. One of them was literally advising straight men to wear shorter shorts, and he has a point. Those long ass basketball shorts do not do men favors. Crop tops are fine too, although I get why thy came out of fashion. I'm not sure if Nike level short shorts really work for men, they are not common enough for them to do anything other than shock me lol. But I do know that men could stand to go shorter on the shorts. Time for a trend change. I even …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 10:43 AM
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Date? So what do you mean here? They socialize and gain life experience, they find a life partner, or they go clubbing together and knock people up? It's church. I'm guessing it's not the last one, so how the fuck do you reduce all women to baboons?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 10:41 AM
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Lots of young men I know go to church to hit on hot girls there. What are u talking about. And how do we think that works out for them? Think. and i guess u are high and mighty and special I make my decisions for reasons, but I'm not special. You ought to be holding yourself to the same damn standard. If you don't, that ain't my fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 10:38 AM
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My father goes to church. He is over 70. I'm sure he is shocked at the things people wear these days, but he would never tell some random young man at church to go around with the intent to have sex with women and to assume that most women want attention from Chad when out in a group of friends. Let me tell you a secret: my husband and my father had experience. I love them as men, but as boys they were idiots. They will tell you as a stranger about their mistakes themselves. They've been with wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 10:34 AM
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Yeah I have a father too, and for sure he would call you dense lmao. So would my husband for that matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 10:26 AM
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Is there... Is there not some way to have a medium experience with a medium experience woman? I thought that's what most people do?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 10:26 AM
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I did talk to my mother while she was alive. I have lived life as a woman. I am not the dense one.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 10:25 AM
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I don't even want to have a conversation with you anymore lol bye. Yes women show more skin when given enough freedom at the beach. Do you not get fucking hot outside in Texas? Have you never been to the beach? Do you honestly think about fucking THIS MUCH? I guarantee you most women don't. I've had one partner, did not meet him at a club, and I certainly didn't go on outings with other women all just for men. Do you have a mother? Go talk to your mother FFS.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 10:23 AM
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So question. Is it your contention that most of these guys posting woman hate on the internet are 100% virgins themselves? Because I honestly never took it that way. Even when I hoped for a virgin, I did not end up meeting one who was bold enough to form a relationship with me if his own choice. Even men claim on here "every guy honestly wants a virgin woman" before. It's not that men are jealous of women with MORE experience, or a life, for that matter. That's not how I've been reading the situ…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 10:19 AM
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No, I've never been to an actual club. Yes people in clubs - where there is probably heat at night in winter - are going to dress a certain way. Yes, if you're at a literal club people might be more interested in socializing romantically. Yes, most of those people are probably single. Sometimes there's maybe a group of girls who go out to hang with friends and they dress in the club-esque way to look like they fit in, but you shouldn't make assumptions in that case before there is some kind of s…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 10:16 AM
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Bikinis are about the beach, dude. Not everything is about some sex market. Come the f on. And even if a woman looks attractive in a romantic market, do yourself a favor and meet her or talk with her at least one time before immediately jumping to sex. Making assumptions just because you met someone on a hot day outside or at the beach is a very, very socially stupid thing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 10:09 AM
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Ideally, the status quote would be people genuinely helping people. Sometimes, that's not the case. Sometimes it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 10:07 AM
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Eww
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 10:05 AM
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I never did. Maybe in clubs, you would? Miniskirts were not that popular even in summer. I could buy short shorts and leggings, maybe... Maybe a shorter dress, if the occasion was special enough and the heat was on? But not just to attract attention while going down the street.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 10:04 AM
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Honestly yes. But don't neglect to have a social life and perhaps be open to relationship among girls in school or whatever. Ya know, the kind of situation that's not online and where you don't get asked about height.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 10:00 AM
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I've had a gym membership before, and I've never seen what you're talking about with the shirt. If anything, I need to actively pull my shirts up in the front more towards the back so the entire world doesn't see my cleavage when I am stretching or planking. Mileage may vary where you live, I guess. The point is: even if women don't actively cover their butts in leggings doesn't mean they want to have sex with a man. I promise you most of these women aren't even thinking about sex with men they …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:52 AM
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Also no one is telling women to get with older men, UNLESS those women are also older themselves New to this sub, are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:46 AM
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Yeah I've heard of that in New York. I never lived in New York. You'd have to ask someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:45 AM
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I would say signals CAN be sent that way. I would also say it's really ignorant to assume a woman is thinking that way in almost every case you see on a daily basis** **Unless you are also at a rave/sex type club/etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 04:05 AM
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Fucking men can be done without short shorts. Surviving a Texas summer cannot. Source: a woman born and raised in Texas
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 03:50 AM
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Suddenly women spontaneously forget all the ways they've been wielding their wardrobe. Nothing to forget. I saw a woman today in the gym wearing converse. Not exactly practical, but the only man in the gym was my husband. No makeup in this heat. Trust me, not trying to fuck. I'm not saying we don't have ways of wielding our wardrobe, but you'd be amazed how little it actually takes to fuck. Clothes are quite rarely a mating call, and even when they are, I would personally argue it is quite unnec…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 03:49 AM
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100%
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 02:57 AM
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All that can be done without deliberately dressing like a hooch. And the vast majority of women, especially at work, DO dress in a way that might be considered fashionable but not "hooch." Nothing wrong with this but obviously all the men not in booty shorts during the same 110 degree day can attest the ass cheeks hanging are also not necessary. I mean, yeah if your balls hang you have different priorities. You need a few more inches of protection. However, when it comes to women, that random gy…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 02:57 AM
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It's not a mating call to wear what everyone else is wearing that is comfortable on a beach or something. Not a mating call to want to look energetic, lively, and hip in business functions to project room for growth. It's just not like that. I Obviously, I grew up in Houston. Rule of thumb: if a woman is wearing short shorts in 110 degrees, she doesn't want to fuck you, she wants to beat the heat.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 01:27 AM
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Ciara had like, one boyfriend, no? That's all I ever hear about. How the fuck do women get called promiscuous just because they don't want to kill their baby? I fully support the right to choice, but that definitely means most women are going to avoid abortions as much as possible, and this doesn't make them promiscuous. SMH.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 12:20 AM
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I clearly disagree with your assessments. And the fact that you're painting things in this honestly backwards light is exactly why it seems like more than mere intellectual disagreement. Why do I disagree? Because society calls women gold diggers all the time, and they tell us we belong with older, obviously likely balder and fatter, men. Because all women ever said was "I don't think I should hate myself in this body." I don't know what kind of backwards attitude you have, but women aren't stup…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 12:13 AM
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There is a big difference between taking a risk on 10% of your yearly salary versus taking a risk on the health and well-being of your children
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 01:42 PM
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IQ matters, but not so you can have smart kids. IQ matters so you can stick with one person and not love a life of drama. I'd never make it with you, although I have a strong suspicion I'm fairly smart. I just don't do drama, coparenting, or other BS. I'd be amazed to find a high IQ woman who does. My sister has BPD and she already killed most of her braincells from substances.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 01:28 PM
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But posting about it online at length when no one asked kinda does indicate fear. Otherwise, you'd mind your business, and you might even get your head out of your butt and get a better opinion anyway. Being positive about oneself in the moment is important. If you can't realize that, well, we have not much to discuss, so don't post. Simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 01:06 PM
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I could say the same thing about finding a new baby mama.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 01:00 PM
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And yes. women are pretty much a monolith. Pfft k bye
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 11:09 PM
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You are just a weird for presenting yourself as some kind of bad boy and making druglord references for dating guys, that are a little younger. I'm just saying it's not that big of a deal lmao. It was meant to be a comical commentary on the original post which seems to claim that men have a monopoly on predation and all women are just shaking scared in our boots from fear about men rejecting us or grooming us.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 11:08 PM
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Women cannot ever know when you are desingenuous... they just tend to be extreme overthinkers, so if you are being desingenuous or genuine? They will think you are lying anyway. Honestly this is true sometimes, but a guy who is dumping you early on for bullshit reasons? Yeah that's a case where some women will know. Women aren't all a monolith, and men aren't all bad at acting, but "I don't feel a spark" isn't particularly a convincing act. Actions do matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 12:37 PM
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I don't care what you think. Point is, I won't date an older guy. And I'm not under 25. I can, and I will, avoid that. Whether you think I'm cool isn't the point. These men who think they're "worth more" than women their own age are clearly the ones who aren't as cool as they think. Just look at the facts, 18 year olds do not line up for 30 years olds. Even 25 year olds don't. Average age gap is small.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 12:34 PM
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Women aren't stupid. If you're being disingenuous, they'll know, but sure it's more respectful and mature not to have a fight about it. Get to know people in school or whatever and if you find one that doesn't enjoy picking fights or being a bitch, ask her out for who she is as a person. How can I possible be the first person to give you this advice on how to date?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 02:31 AM
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Honestly yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 12:56 AM
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This would be a solution though
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 12:54 AM
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I'm almost 30, and if my husband dumped me I'd probably date a 26 year old man! I'm mistaken for early 20's by the women I work with. Yes I am selfish about these age gaps, but not in the way you're thinking. Bitch, I AM the predator. I am the danger. I AM THE ONE WHO KNOCKS. You don't have a monopoly anymore. I'm doing feminism a favor. Even my now husband is slightly younger. I do have some standards though, obviously. I'm not totally ignorant to what actually lasts, and to why I care about so…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 12:39 AM
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I was not even 20, older men are not all that great themselves (baby mama drama, think their jobs make them better than you, balding), and everything I said before about not wanting somebody who isn't as serious as me. I can understand it for some people I guess, but there are reasons I don't recommend it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 12:44 PM
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(for some it might be even their only job opportunities). Are you capable of acknowledging what an absolutely terroristic threat that is? Not just to onr woman, but to ANY woman in as society that says a woman's only ability to live can be through gratifying a man's penis? SWERF my ass. Thoughtful customer, my ass. I've worked survive before, but thankfully it was a little more safe than sex work! I know how thoughtful customers are. When you work your way through that, we can maybe talk about t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 03:52 AM
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I will say, when I was a traditional-ish young lady looking to get married basically, finding a mature man my age was a special challenge. They sometimes take a while...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 03:27 AM
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You don't care about the consent, because if you did, you wouldn't be taking away the autonomy from sex workers and let them give their own consent whenever they like, not whenever you like. Actually I'm not for arresting sex workers. I respect them. I'm for arresting Johns. It might be ethical to give consent whenever, but it's not ethical to take what you might like to consider consent. If you're the only one with my survival in your hands and sex with you is the only sufficient employment I c…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 01:58 AM
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(and I'm not getting back to that abstinence bs for your wants). Yeah that's called rape. Which is illegal, immoral, and not a dog whistle. You can't buy consent. At least I wouldn't want you buying my nieces consent, and that ought to count for something, shouldn't it? Religious or not. I don't care if you go out and have fun, as long as you have the responsibility to take care of consent and sexual/reproductive health issues equally with your partner. I'm genuinely not very religious. What's y…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 01:10 AM
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I had ONE sex partner, who I wanted to be my husband. Does that sound like I'm compatible with someone who views screwing around with several people as "more fun?" And, I'm a woman in STEM. Only reason I was a little behind is because my mother got sick and died, and my patents sheltered me. Do I sound like I'm compatible with someone who intentionally wanted to hold off on career ambitions? That's not me. I understand certain situations happen. 5 years isn't too extreme, maybe things do happen.…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 12:28 AM
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That IS one of the things that would concern me about an older man. Like... If you're on my level now 5 years older than me, how far apart are we going to be in 10 or 20 years?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 11:29 PM
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Well my husband is a couple of months younger than me. We married young. I'm not young anymore, but I did give him my virginity, so I'm not gonna be happy if he doesn't treat me like I'm beautiful anymore after the 10 year anniversary. I don't want only 10 years of easy, passionate sex in my whole life. I'm sure you could understand. And I'm also sure that there might be less available, attractive older women than you get women for a single man. But there are people in my situation, though. Some…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 09:15 PM
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Go through the economic troubles together, it'll build your bond and it'll allow for both partners to have their input instead if one partner saying "this down payment is mine, so I want X and you have to agree."
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 08:15 PM
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Are you saying you're not attracted to women your own age? Should I dump my younger husband assuming his eyes aren't going to be mainly for me for the rest of our lives, since I'm about to be 30?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 08:13 PM
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FYI "I'm not sure a lot of people would make that choice" is not meant to be condescending, and it might appear less so if enough men had an ounce of respect for women in the first place. Are you new to this sub? Have you seen the dudes on here? They are MUCH more dangerous to women, especially sex workers, than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 08:01 PM
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Don't let the internet raise your kid, be a responsible parent maybe. OK fair, eventually those kids will need some independence though. Maybe 13 or 14, they will find a way to browse the internet wherever they wnt basically. And as a woman who apparently clearly doesn't understand the concept of sex work and has never had a brother who grew up as a man to share this information with me and to impart understanding, what would I say? How would I parent a son? Where to begin? you'll find tons of p…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 07:50 PM
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I certainly want the draft to be illegal, and I certainly am against acts of aggressive war, of course. Silly argument. Soldiers have reason to want to protect their families and their own lives from terrorists, though. Sex workers have no reason to care for a rich asshole's nut EXCEPT for threat of death/terror. What's not to get? You're not out selling access to your vulnerable body parts, are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 04:24 PM
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They are filling a need in a market and deserve respect like any other profession. All people deserve human dignity, which is why I'm not for turning anyone's private parts into a professional tool. There is no market need for that. Men - and let's be real, it's usually men - can get their own nut without risking public health. I'm sorry but I'm not cool with people who blame sex work for the shitty behavior of some men. Boys as young as 11 are now routinely exposed to internet porn. These are b…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 04:17 PM
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How you gonna track that? And also, don't forget that bit about a set with one being too big to even think of trying. An inexperienced person will try out several sizes. Many toys come in sets, not all of which gets used. This isn't something you're likely to easily get good data on. I mean, if you've got the time, do research, I guess. Or if your girl has a multiple toys of one perfect size, it probably means something. I wouldn't bet on anyone to have that reliable information, though, without…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 03:33 AM
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Whose goal is it to "get laid" by women who are "easier"? I, for one, am not talking to anyone who has that goal. If you got that goal, go elsewhere. On the other hand, I assume that over 70% of people really want to be with a good person. If you want a relationship that lasts more than a few nights - if you want something more than a "plate" (eww) - you need to also be a good person. Why? Because those other good people also want a good person. They know they deserve a good person. Being with a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 03:31 AM
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New to lifting, and have been basically permanently cutting. Am overweight. I increase the weight numbers s l o w l y
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 02:50 AM
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Why on earth would anyone be in one that's NOT good? Gotta try your best not to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 02:48 AM
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It's sex. It's not rocket science. Different experience every time you wake up in the morning, too. Do it enough, it gets monotonous. I HAVEN'T done that casually, and I already know I don't want it for all the reasons I've stated.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 02:47 AM
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Your compassion for teenage boys cannot extend to the anuses of the internet or to the realm of women's rights. Wrong is still wrong. Unhealthy ways to vent are still unhealthy. Posting hate is still hateful. Women are still people. Now with that said, I have lately said I would be scared to raise a son. Your entire argument is the reason why. The existence of porn is a modern change, and yes it may have impacts which you were wrong to immediately deny. On the other hand, even 100 years ago, boy…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 02:39 AM
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Ok good for you I guess. Hope you have a vasectomy. Still does not answer how you think fresh sex will make your life more interesting, but whatever, I guess. No matter what your feelings are, they will never apply to me as a woman. I know how mansluts are. I'm not dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 02:25 AM
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I never tell anyone they shouldn't have a preference. Just that they shouldn't be hypocrites. Almost every man who wants a tradwife is not good enough to be a virgin himself. On the other hand, most women who don't want virgins are not virgins themselves. It works out the way it should for women. Like should attract like.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 02:24 AM
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Little problem with that. I have never bought a dildo. My husband bought some, and I have used one. The other was purchased as a set, and it is far too big for me to even consider. I think I got rid of it, I know I told him I wanted to, but he objected at first.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 02:22 AM
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Why? Why is casual sex more fulfilling? If you were a woman who got pregnant, got shamed, and also didn't orgasm... I'm gonna doubt you feel this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 02:17 AM
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It’s merely to be free to definitively walk away from a bad woman/relationship knowing something better is out there for them And that's a freedom men have. Women DO like men, you know. Well, most women who swing that way, anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 12:35 AM
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Even then, yes, looks good for his age.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 12:30 AM
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Hahahahaha. I feel so bad for this mother, but she is based for being honest. Yeah, she has some experience with multiple men. Unless she's literally unhinged like my sister, believe her when she says finding a good one even for ONE night of fun can be a challenge. Personally, I just found articles online to look into what works. I also got lucky, and I waited for a guy who had to meet a lot of criteria before even thinking he might actually be good in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 12:23 AM
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How old IS he in those pics? I did think he looked older than that recently. Listen, he's great looking for his age. Always has been great looking. Good for him. I don't believe in giving numbers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 12:20 AM
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Agreed, actually lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 12:19 AM
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Funny how it never occurs to women that the guy might say no. But it does, and you're so wrong, and also it's not occurring to you that some women might say no at one point but yes later.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 12:17 AM
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Nice, now do men. No? Not today? OK....
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 12:15 AM
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Yes, can. That does not mean every time, or easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 12:04 AM
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I can't picture actively wanting to increase the number of dudes who have been physically close to me. Just one, one good man with whom I could actually work on keeping things good. That's all I needed. Variety is nothing but a risk. Honest question: since you're so sure you want it, what makes you think it'll be any better or even any different with multiple people?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 09:57 PM
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Gotta be picky, and fairly slender, for lifting to help. My husband didn't lift until recently. He's very strong though now lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 09:48 PM
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You mean Elon Musk? But, like, he gives me ALL of his money? Shit... Nah. He's too gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 09:47 PM
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First pic is clearly better. Good looking side of average like the other person said. Getting vibes though, like he might be a sociopath? Can't explain...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 09:46 PM
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She was right, don't know what point you think you have. "You're wrong," sure as shit doesn't suffice, and neither did the argument in the screenshot.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 08:52 PM
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Yes you are! You are important, and capable, and correct!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 08:50 PM
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No fucking shit, and most of those users are men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 08:44 PM
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That's the thing. If they can't, it's because they can't socialize or compete and accept their reality. When I left my state for a better life, that was hard, but O dod it for money. I had no delusion that a whole half of the population would be somehow different here.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 08:43 PM
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Yeah I'm sure they just don't want orgasms. Must be it. Lmfao. Also, whatever happened to research? Both my partner and I read articles that helped SO MUCH right from the start of us even trying to have sex, it has been fun every time but better and better.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 08:33 PM
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I very rarely have multiples, I've also been fine with him just having his. It's definitely not several fold, but even anything favoring women tends to happen in relationships with men who care. Casual sex absolutely does not favor women in any way. I can get why that would be an ego boost, but so is being a good father and husband, so I'd prioritize that one like my father always did.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 08:32 PM
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My husband did his research and knew what to do, no problem. I didn't have to tell him, although if he didn't satisfy me the first time I most certainly would have let him know. Also, I was smart enough to vet for ALL compatibility before moving onto sex. I knew he was a great researcher, I knew he cared to please, and I knew we could communicate. Whenever there is something to say, I can easily say it. There just never has been anything major, he is great in that department when we get the chan…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 08:30 PM
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AND to figure out if we want to be with them. Getting to know people takes time, and it's unpleasant to rush someone who you like who you are newly dating. I wouldn't want to put pressure on my partner to commit early or anything that I see as special until sufficient time has passed. I appreciate the same from them. After all, that handsome guy you went on a few dates with could be anybody... One of my early boyfriends ended up being a dealer. I had no idea until we already broke up when he tri…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 08:27 PM
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None that I've ever known IRL, especially with physical interaction. I suppose it could have happened. But what makes more sense: one woman or two has to get a different line of work because it's illegal, and a few men have to make peace with the fact that sexual contact may not be in the cards for them, or we have no way at all to ever arrest someone who took part in most of these activities while married with someone who is very underprivileged? Keep in mind, if it's fully legal, there is no i…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 08:22 PM
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Hardly anyone is going to want to sell access to vulnerable parts of their body for no socially productive reason. There will likely be very little supply of sex workers available in a healthy society. There will also hopefully be very few men who are THAT "lonely," but somehow many dudes who see sex workers are actually in relationships. The supply and demand problem has encouraged exploitation within the industry, all because of certain sexist attitudes. For the record, I would be easily fine …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 06:47 PM
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So overall i just don't even think you are trying to hear any perspective aside from your own and you have this image of a punch of pimps and slaves traders being the only thing in this scenario. In my country, there are two kinds of escort. Both give up a lot for what they do. Both are likely to have experienced trauma. The more common/average one is one addicted to substances. It doesn't matter if there's a pimp or a slave trader, a junkie addict on the street is not consenting any more than a…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 06:40 PM
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You making sound like every country that has legalized prostitution has sn std epidemic. Which is not true. Legalized prostitution isn't the only form of prostitution, and my country HAS seen an increase in STD rates in recent years. If it was legal, some argue that condoms would be even more likely to be used. I'm not so sure about that, but I AM sure that your view on this condom mandate in a "free market" would decrease the clientele available for an entrepreneur. Less prostitution is fine by…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 04:31 PM
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Medical staff have personal protective gear mandated. Prostitutes are paid extra not to use it, as that ruins a lot of what Johns like about the experience. It's not just a job, it is an unnecessary public health risk. It just so happens that the working party involved doesn't even get a nut out of it. Honestly, I can't even explain to you what the John gets out of the experience without making myself physically ill. It's like they enjoy putting the woman at risk and making her dance like a pupp…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 04:21 PM
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for just existing in their body That's.... Not what prostitution is....
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 04:07 PM
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Just folks who purchase other human beings. If only one side of the transaction is empowered, yeah that's a problem. You could just keep this to yourself, though. No reason I should want to hear about it. No reason for you to post about it. I don't want to be empowered by purchasing sex from men. That's obviously not how I see it, we are probably never going to reach any kind if agreement here. You can move right along now.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 03:58 PM
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That vast majority of women are not sex workers and would not want to be sex workers, just like myself. I know this might be hard to believe, but I in fact do have things in common with a lot of other women. It should be obviously that prostitutes have a vastly different experience level in a very different context, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 03:46 PM
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I said the manosphere could argue, not that you did. Your life experience has obviously not taught you for sure anything about sleeping with someone like me. That much is clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 03:44 PM
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Bruh you said yourself you didn't have any experience without hookers. But go ahead, strawman my argument and speak to me like I'm the one being rude. Go on ahead. Wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 03:42 PM
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Yeah, that's their job. A woman like me probably wouldn't be able to know. I'm sure the manosphere would argue that I knew in my lizard brain, but I'm not 100% convinced.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 03:39 PM
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I imagine you can be a leader without lots of experience. Honestly if you're willing to break the law to hire women and you don't care what they want at all, well, you're halfway there already. I don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 03:34 PM
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I just vomited, thanks for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 03:30 PM
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When I was a woman of 26, I had one adult long-term relationship. Just one. I think I would never want to be with a John, but I would have really liked to have been with a virgin. It would have been nice to be someone's first, as long as he loved me. Too bad for me, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 03:28 PM
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Is that why women are relegated to brothels? Because they had so many options, so that's obviously the one they went with voluntarily? Even if that was true for a handful of women, supply and demand would NOT let the average Joe afford the time of such a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 03:27 PM
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Honestly, this got my upvote.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 03:25 PM
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It is difficult now that you're out of school. I won't lie to you. I'm not sure what you mean about experience. I admit it's difficult for me to understand your situation, as I was learning to socialize in public school as a teenager. Even if I didn't have many people to date, I learned to talk to boys and how to respond to the things they would say. I didn't have brothers myself, so almost all of this learning occurred in school. Even that helped me to navigate dating my husband in college.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 03:24 PM
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I disagree that true love exists And yeah. That right there? That's what you need to question and re-explore. To me, that's what's not objective. Just because people work together and share things with each other doesn't mean they don't also have feelings - real feelings, the kind that aren't paid for. Honestly, I can see why you have extra difficulty finding someone if you can't wrap your mind around the idea of caring about someone and sharing with them mutually and voluntarily.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 03:21 PM
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Sorry, but touching someone's body FOR MONEY is not intimacy. It's phsyical touch. I also personally view purchasing sex as pretty gross like you now own something the other person should have the most influence over. Personally, the thought of someone acting like they knew me and wanted me when they really don't would make me physically ill. I do believe that, but I'm just some Internet stranger. If I knew you and I cared about you as a person, I'd wonder why you are willing to spend your money…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 03:18 PM
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Honestly? I can't remember the names of places, but I know the food types that are famous in the area.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 03:11 PM
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Dallas is decently beautiful. Try the barbecue and steak, it's great there. I moved out of Texas to better my life, although I grew up there and spent most of my life there. Things are looking up where I'm at now. I'm back down to my wedding weight, and looking at a promotion.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 03:00 PM
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While I do believe that my partner has to see what I bring to the table, I also believe those questions are answered through actions, observation, and spending time together. It's not best gathered through interrogation.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 02:58 PM
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Using people to feed the need for external validation? Some women are doing the same thing... Yeah, but those women don't talk shit about those men on the internet. Most of the worst women still pretend to like the men. Men feel no such obligation. Never said women are perfect, don't put words in my mouth. There are some differences among the genders, though, like women don't get validation from spreading diseases btw. AIDS has no cure, but you can earn back a few hundred bucks spent on a dinner…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 02:49 PM
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"The word?" Tf? Lol Well, I'd say don't talk to my oldest nephew, but I'm afraid he's already seen the dark side. There's not much more you could do to him if you tried.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 06:25 AM
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You know, looking back on our conversation, "what do you bring to the table" is a prerequisite for sex and a relationship. This whole conversation is exactly what I need to have done before sex happens. I don't want to have to worry about that with someone I'm already sleeping with. The sex, and the relationship, come later. I will find out how I feel about you and how you love your life, THEN it should be easy enough to make a plan involving our sexual health and pleasure. That can become a pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 06:23 AM
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I took a very non-traditional path. I have studied, researched, and worked in more than one engineering-related field. Right now I'm going civil.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 06:10 AM
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why not do that with a woman who is also experiencing it for the first time and will be 100% committed to my kids? I mean... I hope no mom is less committed to her younger kids... That would be scary! It's up to you, but I would hardly be making recommendations to other men about it if they happen to really like a single mom. I am under 30 myself, not a parent. I'm married now, but say if I wasn't I also have my biases. I am old enough to know what baby mama drama is. I love kids, all kids, so m…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 06:08 AM
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I do believe teams accomplish much more together than they do apart. This is true as an engineer, and as a married person. Our marriage is not perfect, but we can at least say we are objectively an insanely good team together.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 05:58 AM
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In 30's, you CAN have more kids with a single mom. Or in your 40's when your time for kids has essentially passed, take my cousin. She is dating a guy. They don't love together. He doesn't "raise" the kids. Maybe he never did want kids, I don't know. He's basically the fun uncle who mom goes to hang out with when bio dad has the younger kids. They're all over 10, so it's not like the kids get in the way of the dating relationship too much. Maybe when the teens grow up, they'll marry. Maybe they'…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 05:53 AM
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Thanks. We have accomplished a lot as a team. If he wants to be loyal, too, things will work out.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 05:37 AM
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That's fair. You're not wrong. On the other hand, there are things I can't change that impact me. I don't post about them on the internet. From a young age, I accepted the reality I might end up single. I didn't want to be unhinged. Now as a married woman, I have accepted the possibilities in my marriage as well. Things happen. I've lost loved ones. I've been through a lot. I can't let men define my life. You'd be surprised about how "not easy" that has been.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 05:34 AM
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Wouldn't believe me if told you, and my husband is frankly the only one who needs to know. I offer plenty. We're a team, I'm loyal. It's worked for over a decade. Knowing you in some small way, it's probably not what you'd want, but it works for someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 05:26 AM
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Yeah, if the friend knows the couple personally she probably knows a lot better than what a picture can show. On the other hand, no one REALLY knows except for the guy. And they're still together, so most likely it's happy enough. Thank God, we don't force marriages anymore usually in modern day.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 05:21 AM
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Good looks Only if you don't act like that's better than me protection The last boy who protected me from actual harm was 14, and that was more emotional than physical. I was in love with him. Now, if you were him, you'd be worth your weight in gold, but you're not. wisdom beyond your years. Oh that's a funny joke
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 05:18 AM
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For some guys it's their worst feature, but you're right, it's usually not the be-all end-all. But you have to look around the sub you're in. These guys will point to anything and everything that might have a slight impact - even if it's impossible to change, like height. Just being content, somehow, hasn't worked for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 05:13 AM
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Yeah because knocking up random women and spreading disease is really the best way to keep looking for better. Tf?! You wanna do better, just go on and get it over with. Oh what's that? You can't? Then go monk, or learn to appreciate what you have. Some form of Buddhism, either way lmao. Did your daddy not teach you that sleeping with ho's ain't the way to go? What about your mama?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 05:08 AM
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Fake ass comment
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 05:05 AM
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I've lost that much in the last 3 months. That's such a fucking dumb thing to change your whole ass life perspective on - especially when you're as single/lonely as you say you are. How old ARE you? 20?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 04:59 AM
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You will be on the hook for takibg on part of the massive burden of raising a child with none of the benefits. That entirely depends on the situation, doesn't it? Some older men have careers, love, friends, even status. They have things to do. They're not concerned with monopolizing a woman's time. She's OK to love her kids when they need her, especially if those kids are over 10. Lifestyle and life stage matters. If you're a brand new face out of college who wants to build something, do not go …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 04:58 AM
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Except flighty men who get fawned over by other men because "cheap sex is the best deal." Except those men, sure, it's standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 04:52 AM
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:-l I've spoken to you a few times. And no, no you wouldn't know half that shit if it jumped up and bit you. But go off King
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 04:51 AM
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she’s hella down tho and I don’t have anything better lined up so I might as well. But if the shoe was on the other foot, you'd be pissed and you wouldn't want to waste your time, right? 🙄 And it just kills me. Like, seeing someone you don't really want ISN'T wasting your time? How is it any better? She's the prize, because you WANT to get a notch under your belt, and you're talking about her this way? And yet women never speak about men, the allegedly lonely sex, this way. The honest to God tru…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 04:49 AM
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CMV flair doesn't seem right for this... But no, men are not "shy" in my opinion. Men are highly motivated, competitive, strong, and emotional. They cannot fully hide what they want very well usually. Autistic men are still men. Autistic men that I know - and there have been a few - have been just as honest, opinionated, and open as any neurotypical bro. It helps that I don't treat people very poorly if they have special interests, poor vocal tonality, tics, etc. People know things don't have to…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 01:40 AM
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the department from which most people derive the greatest meaning and happiness in their lives. This is entirely just false. My husband has a lower libido, and more experience than me. Our sex life, while fun when it happens, is absolutely the smallest part of my success. How hard I work for my career... The closeness we share and the goals we work for to climb up from where we were born... Those are FAR more meaningful and joyous.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 01:32 AM
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33? Women 15 years your junior are barely adults, first of all. Second, I am almost your age with ONE SEX PARTNER. Your generalized judgments about women aren't all too accurate, just from an objective standpoint. Like other commenters said, working on social anxiety is something you can do. I think your sexual anxiety is more related to socialization and trauma than it is actual sexual performance. You can't expect a woman's "feedback loop" to heal you. Clearly, that ideal is not working, and f…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 01:29 AM
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PPD actually does a great job proving a RP point in this regard. Women can be huge assholes, they just do it covertly... Nothing covert about it. If you're on the internet railing against women's equal rights all because of your pp, you're a brat. You do not and should not have your way to change things in the way you want. The message is loud, the message is clear. And yet the bratty men don't stop...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 12:16 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 02:08 AM
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I feel like this is super likely.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 02:02 AM
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I want my daughters to be just like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 11:30 PM
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We don't mix finances. That's for people who think business and love should mix. My parents ran a business together outside the home until my mother died, and my father was her power of attorney in final moments. They gave me their last name you shared. They actually did put all their eggs in one basket, which was valid for them, but not the point. Besides, I'm not in a relationship to acquire property or money. Again, not trying to mix business with love. Nice virtue signaling. I didn't marry m…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 09:51 AM
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Sex with a random person isn't special. Good sex with a good person is. No one does need a bad relationship. That doesn't mean people don't have a drive to be with some other people on occasion. Big difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 09:21 AM
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More risky. You want your partner to get hit by a truck and leave their life insurance to their next of kin? You want them to leave the shared car or their half the house to someone who's not you? Want to worry about inheritance tax when spouses don't? Want their medical decisions left to someone else? What about your own wishes? Listen, if you don't want a likely lifelong level of commitment, you're a fool to mix finances and give your partner a permanent key to your private sanctuary. Period. …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 01:06 AM
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Clearly that's just your opinion, to which you are completely entitled. Act on your opinion. Do not ask other people to change it, when you're clearly happy with it for yourself. Make sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 12:57 AM
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These "attractive, but not very attractive" guys are literally average. I'm sure their girlfriends see them the same way I see my husband. I'd call him very attractive to me, you surely wouldn't consider him significantly above average. Listen, many women are attracted their share of men - everyday, normal men. I keep telling you PPD this, but God forbid normal men even consider a woman who doesn't approach them and immediately make a baby together. Because all wahmen are sluts or whatever, righ…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 12:50 AM
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Seeing as how he just went to the gym with me and pays half the bills and he wished me good luck on my event today... I'm gonna say he passes this at least a lot of the time. I'm not the only one putting in effort here, and that counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 12:44 AM
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Don't have a penis or identify as a man, I wouldn't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 12:10 AM
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It's honestly hard to tell if the relationship is stressful, when the other shit we've been through since college together has been so bad we can't think of much else.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 12:10 AM
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Bruh What do you think a divorce and a frat boy could do for my mental health? That's the most impulsive alternative here if I was operating based off one sole, inescapable priority. But I have recently had sex with my husband, as happens with married couples. I'm thinking I'll be fine. I absolutely do benefit from sharing love with my husband, but if he said no that would be a HELL NO, obviously, and I would not be cheap enough to rush into anything stupid. It wouldn't even help.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 11:55 PM
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Oh yeah my husband might be a misogynist in some ways, theoretically, but he's not thinking with his dick. He likes me to do his dishes and shit. Even outside of himself, he's not so boring and so distant that we cant spend several days together talking about things other than sex while the laundry isn't being done. He is a whole person, and he sees me as more than a vagina (even if he sees me as someone who can serve him sometimes). Big, big fucking difference. I've also never been used for sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 11:34 PM
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Yeah no guy in my family, or any guy worth associating with, would ever say it. No coworker would ever say that. But go off about your locker room ass saying, king.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 11:28 PM
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Of course it's not good enough. Literally almost ever human already knows and empathizes with the fact that sex is a strong biological urge. You don't need shorthand for it - you don't even have to say it at all! We ALL know! Have you heard a word I've said about MY relationship? We get it. As an internet stranger, that's the best we can do. People/friends in real life could do it better. But when these men get on a public soapbox because of how women's rights hurt them so damn bad they could DI…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 11:27 PM
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Or to get better jobs. Validation is nice and all. Hell, seeing ourselves presented well in the mirror is nice and all. Not the same as moving across the world, though. Not remotely.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 08:34 PM
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Bringing up issues when they actually matter does, in fact, tend to bring better results. Also, I'd never tell my husband he needs to change who he is. If I'm having an issue, I direct it like it's US vs PROBLEM. If I start to think the problem is him... yeah, that's when I start to consider we maybe shouldn't be together.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 08:00 PM
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Married, don't wear makeup or heels. So, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 07:55 PM
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I agree there's a line to be drawn. I've asked myself that question a lot in my own relationship. I think everyone can agree it's important. The matter of when and how you bring it up, though, definitely matters. Right after childbirth or when your partner is covered in your kids throw-up isn't the right time. It helps to know that, in a long term relationship, there will also be times YOU are stressed or away or otherwise unable. Treat others how you would want to be treated.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 11:21 AM
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Not everyone wants a relationship, or is straight. Yes struggling with dating sometimes at a young age is normal. No one said good wholesome relationships are always easy from the start, but getting along with women at work and getting to know women of your own culture should at least be doable and not a special problem. Women don't need to make it easy for young men to date right away, the way I've heard women in other countries will literally bend over backward for some very lackluster relatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 11:18 AM
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Women are targeting resources. Impoverished women, in fact, are targeting rare and bare survival resources. It is not about any set of men. Many type of disgruntled western guys will croon about becoming a passport bro lmao. You think Benedict Cumberbatch is going to Thailand for a wife? Nah. High earning isn't the phrase you're looking for. On the other hand, men with decent money who can't find a happy relationship in their culture of origin are obviously looking for something that women gener…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 03:25 AM
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I guess that's your prerogative. As a woman, I never felt that desire in general except on very rare occasions. As it turns out, I'll never be a truly model looking person even if I get fit my glutes and my height and other things go against me. I accepted it, but I still think being in a monogamous and passionate relationship is the only kind that should exist - even if the passionate people know they're not full models.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 12:45 AM
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Chad in training? You work out every day? Listen, I'm going to go out on a limb and say diet or even weight may not be a real issue for you... Keto did work for me, but also just limiting food in general. I can't afford the low carb stuff, except flaxseed bread that I ead given from charity a couple of times.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 12:39 AM
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I only speak for me, but going to extremes is the only way for it to go fast. It's not pleasant, and I don't recommend it. I'm sure you can do it, if I can. I recommend looking into running. That's my next goal here, and I think it will help a lot overall with health and fitness. It seems to be my weak point.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 12:34 AM
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"I don't want my pussy ripped apart after childbirth" is NOT wanting to neglect your spouse. And I have no idea how the fuck you got there. I'm married. I have gone long distance for my spouse. I have dealt with him when he is depressed and stressed. We have gone without sex, but he is my spouse. There were a dozen other ways in those months where he usually tried to make me feel like he was not neglecting me. This is adult life in a capitalist dystopia. It is what it is, but spousal neglect ain…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 12:32 AM
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It is super important. But it can wait a few weeks. Like making a baby in the first place, or applying for a new job, or getting a proper STD test, or improvement mg your fitness with workouts, or any other number of things grown ass adults do over time. Life is not all sunshine and roses. Waiting a couple months for sex doesn't mean you never get to have it. It can be important, and it can have to wait for a short bit sometimes. What don't you get?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 12:27 AM
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Yeeeeah... Who did this? What the fuck? You are imagining things...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 12:24 AM
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I'm preparing for an important social event, and I'm over a decade older than you, but I still feel like you did when you were driving your friend to a game or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 12:20 AM
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I just commented that "I'm trying to lose weight." I've lost like 40 pounds and I'm still just like "idk if it's working lol." Anyway, trying my best!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 12:17 AM
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Trying to lose weight, so a small portion of leftovers. I'm not cooking a thing right now. I can. Will later in the week. Not today.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 12:16 AM
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I really like your take. Thank you for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 12:15 AM
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Listen, it's not about man or woman. I'd expect my sister to date a reformed(?) rake. They'd have a lot in common. It's just not me. Never has been, never will be. I can even respect a man who has his fun rather than choosing a long-term relationship... Unless he does things that are not respectable. I have known plenty of male players who trash women - that part IS gendered, honestly. Many more men are like that than women. I also cannot respect anyone who is too impulsive to build some form of…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 11:20 AM
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I repeatedly told him we didn't have to do it. There was one time I even gave the ring back. It was a long while before we set a date, and at that point especially, I was like... Ok now that we are making a plan, are you sure? You don't have to go through with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 02:12 AM
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Cargo pants are much worse than basketball shorts. Makes somewhat of a difference in smoothing over an initial approach to look like you fit in at the venue. If that step has been a struggle, taking a look at your wardrobe might be worth your time. It's fairly cheap, fast, and easy to fix. Also, there are plus-sized women in suits at some places. If you are a plus sized man, I would wear a suit and shave your neck to get a much better shot with those women. For some men, especially older men, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 01:21 AM
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Was called a cum dumpster when I was a virgin. I agree. I knew nothing about cum or erections until I was 20.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 01:11 AM
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Maybe slightly more presentable, but not big enough of a difference to matter for a relationship. Trust me, I still look like me in clothes. So does my husband. And that's not even to mention the risky effects of changing looks verus spreading diseases. If you end up not liking how she looks in a few months, no big deal really. If you get her pregnant and bail, HUGE FUCKING DEAL.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 11:53 PM
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Everything exists sometimes, probably. There's a lot of nuance in the world. Has a guy appeared more attractive to you due to his relationship status and options? I don't want to fight for a man that's taken, or to prove myself special. I'm not into competing for love. Work is work, love is something else. I have never felt this way about a man who is in a relationship, but a guy who can socialize and knows what he wants is good. A man who did not wait until he was 30 to decide relationships are…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 11:50 PM
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That's... What PIV sex is.... Unless you believe in abortion, I guess. And there ARE times when that's a necessary evil. Anyway, there are other methods of contraception, and I think it makes not only the sex turn out better but it shows a lot of character to make sure you love the person you're welcoming into your private bedroom. There's always the chance it won't work out, but obviously it did for me and for my parents who married quickly. They might have used condoms though lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:11 PM
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Sorry, not gonna spend money to purchase condoms to protect against diseases my husband shouldn't be out catching. We were both tested before. And get this - if I did get pregnant - there is a plan in place. Imagine that, we actually took the time to work through complex issues. What risk do you think I'm taking here, exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:04 PM
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I met mine in 2014 in college. Yes, if you're out of school, it's much harder. I get that. Maybe you should have been fucking less Stacy's and settled down back then lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:01 PM
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Condoms fail, and the vast majority of men don't know how to use them properly. I never fucked a stranger, personally, nor have I used a condom. Testing is done first, and I made sure it was real. We are now married!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 09:58 PM
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This behavior is manipulative and should be shamed more. Or you could fucking try to meet women in person and ask them out? Duh?! Find me a man who hasn't told women "just wait for sex, that solves your problem!" and you will see a unicorn. But that's actually fine, because I did it myself and I'm glad I was never with someone who dipped right after.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 09:58 PM
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Because he enjoyed the sex enough to have it, and could have gotten her pregnant. It only hurts everyone to dip at that point. Find me a man that stupid, and I'll even pity him, but I'll also be surprised at that level of colossal stupidity and cruelty. I've seen it before. We see it in this sub. But it STILL shocks me, every time. I can't look away from this sub, and I can't ever begin to understand. I'm just... Shocked.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 09:56 PM
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not sure I understood the question, How are "western" women more demanding? That is the simpler way to phrase my question. they will basically try to find out what kind of woman you are looking for and try to become her, ...... That, that doesn't sound like good treatment to me. Is this what men want? Fake ass shit? As a woman, you'd bet I'd pass. Of course, I know most men don't have the discipline to actually try to become anything for me. What they really are would be lying just beneath the s…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 09:53 PM
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This makes a lot of sense. Not that I ever told myself it's only fair I get to sleep around - that's NOT ME - but I can understand wanting to be ready. Hell, I'm married, and these years of being poor together are very difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 07:28 PM
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it will increase your own body count so it is a win win. Sorry, but no. Men with high N count are ewww.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 07:07 PM
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Yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 07:06 PM
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You never know. My mom was a decade younger than my dad, and she died on him. The point is that BOTH parties should want to leave their shared home to their life partner when one life ends. Don't have to know who, can't know who.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 07:01 PM
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My husband wanted it much as I did. He knew I wasn't going to jump out of my ass 5 years into a relationship just so he can be my boyfriend. If it ain't forever, I'm not putting too much into it. He also felt the same way, though. Now, in the younger crowd, some women are concerned about their limited fertility while men are concerned about being financially set. Men may take more time, but I DO believe they want marriage with someone they love. Couples that don't marry, in my country, don't sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 06:59 PM
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neither Call of Duty nor "life experience" is a qualification for a relationship, Bruh If you're 45 about to date someone likely half your age who has never held a decent job or been financially independent or grieved the death of a loved one... You're gonna have a bad relationship. And I'm sick of men pretending otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 02:57 PM
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Less demanding? Oh now you're making shit up. Once the guy meets the standard before even dating her, she's got no reason to have to demand anything. It DOES make for a more functional relationship, and that's quite the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 02:52 PM
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Because no amount of "I don't want to be alone" can make it appealing to mother a grown man who also wants to jackhammer your holes. Some 25 year old women think there's a bit of time to grow up. Most 20 year olds think there's a bit of time. By 35, there's not much time to become more self-sufficient. Hardly any 35 year old woman's standard is a millionaire, and you know it. She wants a man in her level, and you shouldn't even question that. Wouldn't you want the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 02:50 PM
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How do these other women treat you better? And what do they feel more demand for than western women, in return?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 05:09 AM
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Same here, but YOU have actual kids though! You kind of have to be forgiving.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 03:07 AM
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And yet somehow TRP selects for the absolute worst women while still thinking women's nature is to only demand the best. Hot take, but you'd probably be getting the exact same drama and easy sex from the exact same women just be seeming relatively no threatening. No need to hit the gym or get a real job. I promise the ugly line cook at your local restaurant gets laid the exact same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 03:06 AM
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Split and divorce aren't the same thing. If it takes years to get through court from the time you find out you've been cheated on, the worst of the pain will be over, I'm sure. And yeah that's about the only thing that would make me leave my husband. Still could argue that the whole marriage would be a sham if he cheats, but it means something to me now, at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 03:03 AM
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AND co-parenting is usually really, really hard for the parents to even do their best.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 03:00 AM
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You're learning!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 02:58 AM
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We're talking millions here. That would cost millions. Half my life has been put into supporting myself in a big city job, including gathering debt that needs to be paid down over time. The country is gorgeous and having a little family would be great, but I'm not settling for having to be a teacher eating beans and rice when I could be doing much more in the city AND our kids could have more opportunity. The price for taking away my career opportunity is that I would want to be provided for, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 02:57 AM
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You can at least wait a few months before daily texting, honestly. And there's no reason to "move on" if you're still single. Act single. Text several women. Spend a little time with several women. There's nothing wrong with that if you're not spreading diseases, making babies, or lying. I guess, with that said, if you're on date 3 to 5 and you know you've fallen... Yeah, it's probably fair enough to expect the same in return and act accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 02:50 AM
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Funny, in the automod someone is saying Chad doesn't do oral. Can you men not agree on what stereotype is which? Is many, like, 3 others? That's how many others it was for my husband, my one and only. Of course he's the best I had. And you know what? There were some things we got better at, but he was no slouch even in the beginning. It's sex, not rocket science. Being good looking helps I guess, but no not ever woman fucks Brad Pitt. What the fuck is with this line of thinking? The best guy I e…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 02:46 AM
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Oh I probably shouldn't be saying this But If anyone doesn't think women's sexuality is shamed, that person just doesn't WANT to see it. Single moms this, ho's that, prudes there. Spare me. I cannot even have this argument. I hate saying touch grass, and I guess I'm not. I REFUSE to believe anyone's feet are that dry. This ignorance has to be willful.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 02:39 AM
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I'm not a man.....
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 02:32 AM
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I don't even make that assumption about men. Matter of fact, a close colleague of mine is a significantly older single man. I adore him. He's not the most fit anymore, but not for nothing he is tall and has nice hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 01:43 AM
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40 is much older than 25, first of all. I don't know about society, but I know my own opinion. I mean yeah I was married at 23, but that was WAY early. We have a lot of fun, but he also might be hiding something bad. Don't ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 01:33 AM
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You might consider that women 16 to 25 are focused on aspects of life that don't involve a romantic relationship with a penis haver.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 01:10 AM
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Also it would still be happy even if she was gold digging because she would technically be getting what she wants No
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 11:35 PM
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Ok yeah but happily married fathers aren't on PPD shitting on women, yk?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 12:48 PM
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But men really do be lying though. Me having a good job or some relatively normal aging/life experience does not mean I can't be loved.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 12:46 PM
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Sounds like you're just agreeing with me, someone who doesn't critically analyze their experience likely won't have much real success and shouldn't be dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 12:33 PM
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Sex is not a need. Sex is also a very unique, intimate experience that cannot be replaced. Your entire question is ass backwards. Notwithstanding, I shall try to make something helpful in response. Mutual caring for platonic friends is similar to PARTS of a beautiful, loving sexual relationship. In fact, if a man cannot be friendly to me, i assume the possibility of good sex does not exist with us. Masturbation can fulfill a sexually pleasurable PART of the equation. With all of that said, there…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 04:01 AM
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but it feels like a pretty torturous way to ask a woman out on a date. I think taking interactions one step at a time in comfortable. These steps taking time is really normal if you are young and inexperienced. On the other hand, yeah if you are 35 and experienced, maybe you can afford a dinner or 2 without testing the waters slowly first. Experience does count for something. But in the beginning early 20's or whatever, slow steps actually decreases anxiety. I can't tell you how much of a relief…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 03:47 AM
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Experience is worth nothing if you don't use it to think critically. But of course you have to actually be fair and objective in your assessments...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 03:44 AM
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Ummm... There's a common denominator here. And women like sex, so I'm pretty sure it's not women...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 03:30 AM
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In the first 3 dates, a kiss. If you want to end up in bed, that personally doesn't "just happen" for me. I needed to know my husband was into what I liked. I had the share that with him a little bit at a time. We needed to both be tested. We needed to work out contraception, and what happens if we actually both become parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 02:41 AM
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Oh, apparently you'd be surprised - there are a number of dudes on he manosphere who think serial killers get all the chicks and steroids are a great way to improve a man's dating life fast. Setting the right goal is important. "Dating" in the broad sense is almost never the worthiest goal to act upon regardless of results measured by that yardstick.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 04:18 AM
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Serial killers have results, too. That's not all that counts. Steroids produce results, yeah. What aren't you getting?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 04:06 AM
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Actually yeah. Pretty much any commendable approach to working towards getting what you want includes motive more than "date someone, anyone." Did you not catch that? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 04:00 AM
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There's a difference between taking a chance and making a mistake. Things that are commendable: Asking out someone you like, politely Getting fit for your overall life Working hard to sustain a comfortable lifestyle Perfecting skills Enjoying your purpose Building symbiotic connections Things that are not commendable: Harassing women who clearly aren't interested Getting mad when you're told no Taking steroids Overworking yourself to the point of breakdown Picking a career that doesn't suit you …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 02:06 AM
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No one is saying that, you're making up strawman arguments. No I'm really not. A guy who wastes all of his time worrying about dating in an unproductive way is literally wasting his time in an overbearing way. That's not something anyone should do. I'm arguing against it, in all contexts, because apparently you think It's impossible for them to channel their feelings in a better way as they "can't help what they want." F that. Give people some space, whether it's working or not, getting a purpos…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 12:46 AM
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Yeah, no: people's spouses are very important to them. Ugh. No I'm not. No one tells struggling men not to CARE about relationships. We tell them not to spend a bunch of their time on it when the time is not producing positive results for them. FFS. Even for you, if your spouse is important, don't spend all day up their ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 12:33 AM
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Eh, a good -relationship- would most likely be with only one person and would not involve a majority of life focus. Yes it requires focus every now and tj n during together time, but it leaves room for a much more -focused- life purpose... Or 2. I could see dating multiple people taking a good amount of effort though. That's not for me, I have other things on my mind. One person is plenty.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 12:28 AM
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It gets easier to focus on one if he is actually a good force in your life. But then again, that can get pretty intense and serious. You a little young for that. If you get a prom date, don't stress over noticing a cute celebrity every so often. For real.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 11:43 PM
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Male mindset. Of course meeting women is fun and hot. Women are great. On the other hand, being with random men in a romantic context was not so fun for me. Relationships are where it's at. Make of this what you will.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 11:42 PM
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This idea that just because you’re the same age, y’all will have a lot in common isn’t rooted in reality Ya know, no one ever said that, but it probably IS EVEN more difficult to have things in common with someone from generations past. Gen X'ers are almost never on the same page as me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 11:39 PM
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u/purplish_possum u/astronautloveshack What do you guys think of Santa Cruz county? Familiar at all with the area?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 12:49 PM
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Hmm... Pass.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 12:45 PM
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Today you're giving good advice, although I've disagreed with you in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 12:32 PM
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After all, sex is a mutual and intimate experience between two people. It involves some level of connection and vulnerability. The sex I HAVE is like this. But then the dudes who want casual will talk shit about women being desperate, about how that one lady is crazy because she worried about getting pregnant when he didn't use a condom twice. These are actual, real things I have heard from a grown man who is a divorced father. Sometimes, sex is not the beautiful thing we all know it should be. …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 12:09 PM
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I actually have a story that is quite similar to you, although I probably have some neurological advantages. What I mean is YOU have to try. With YOUR resources. It's the toughest thing I've ever done in my life realizing I'm on my own battling uphill on several fronts, and it took a long time. I'm likely never going to be a mother from all the time and effort spent on other things. But with that said, I'm doing a lot better these days. I love my colleagues, they like me. I even made plans to ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 01:14 AM
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I mean you could like.. try socializing? I've liked dues with many of these traits, I'm just not going to carry the convo every time. I already carry the load of planning every holiday, most meals and dates. Hell I'm about to even make more money, I hope.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 12:13 AM
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Samesies
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 12:10 AM
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I respect their preferences and boundaries. I won't lie to them, manipulate them, use them. I treat them as humans. Just not people who would be a good partner for me. Of course, my man makes less than the position for which I am interviewing soon, so... There's levels to this. It's not like I judge my by the numbers willy nilly. I want a partner who can grow with my with my capabilities. Leo DiCaprio is a very wealthy, very famous, talented man. I'm a broke, mid, more loyal and caring person th…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 12:09 AM
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You probably right, but if it's that bad... The truth had to come out and we gotta split. I need someone sexually compatible who doesn't spend his time hiding his actual sex life from his alleged sex partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 12:04 AM
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Guys I've had homeless people around my workplace, actually most of them, and they keep asking me for my money when I actually keed what i have. All I'm trying to do is live my life, and there's nothing I can tell them. No matter way I say, they hate me. Can't we do something to get these people some actual help?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 12:03 AM
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Then the fact that you know just makes you closer, and still isn't a bad thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 11:59 PM
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Finding out a truth that you feel strongly enough to care about is a GOOD THING. Not a fault, of anyone. Hiding it in the first place might be tho
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 11:56 PM
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I think that's how they define winning.......
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 11:50 PM
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Girl. Tf?!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 11:49 PM
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Hahahahahaha I'm about 5'0. At 120, my stomach was flat as a board. Up to 130, I could outrun most crusty dudes and still looked pretty good.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 11:45 PM
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If I get a divorce from my only partner because he cheated, and I'm about 35, did I "have my fun?" I also wouldn't plan on reducing my work hours at that age. By that time, I will have leave saved up and I will have an actual plan for the kid most likely. Although childcare and housing costs are ridiculous lately.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 11:44 PM
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More like 50. 40 is questionable. And any age more than a few years older is more radioactive than necessary when looking for a life partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 11:41 PM
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One woman should be a compliment to a man's life, but strong enough that he'll actually put some effort into maintaining that complimentary relationship. Like if she's having a bad week, maybe pick up a bit of slack in a way that doesn't deplete you. If she has a great opportunity on the other side of town, consider working with her to find a "win-win" compromise without sacrificing your purpose. That's what I do for a man who complements my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 11:37 PM
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Same with Benedict Cumberbatch. He's a longer, darker version of my first love, from face to personality to voice to physique. I appreciate his work on its own, of course... But it isn't the same. Sherlock gets me really emotional sometimes lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 12:05 AM
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Only guy I've ever slept with was younger :-) What you think you know about reality couldn't fit in my hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 11:38 PM
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Are you really trying to make women get on here and say that men can't have a preference among young, single women or something because 'this isn't about age'? Get out of town. Men have preferences all the time. We know how you feel about ass and tits. We are not stupid, and no one is persecuting you! If you're single and you choose to date some people grow the Hell up and realize no one else cares. The reality is that weight does correlate fairly strongly to age and pregnancy/motherhood. If men…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 11:35 PM
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Women would have the stones to leave if they were in a miserable situation. There, fixed it for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 04:18 PM
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Thank God I haven't seen that. Let's hope I never do. I was not raised to think that's normal, and I wasn't raised to think it's normal to bone strangers, either.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 04:02 PM
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But women don't have the same connection to a purpose? How do you figure? The therapist didn't give a task. Anyone can say "clean your room." While that may be one part of therapy, that doesn't take an hour and that is not the full extent of what had to happen for your friend with is therapist. Anyone can pick a small task and do it. I, a woman, have done that myself. Imagine!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 03:59 PM
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So no mutual combat. Like I have seen. Admittedly not too often, but still.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 03:48 PM
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Sometimes it does work, sometimes not. Why are YOU making this gendered? If a man isn't solving his problem, someone's got to figure out why through communication. But sure it is available for someone to go through Google and find fitness info. It's possible for someone to make a career plan. That's not exactly therapy, I don't think. Someone who is not ready for that step DOES need to talk, man or woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 03:41 PM
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Verbal communication is great "Not all men" but plenty of men are still at this stage with their problems. It's one important part. Women also eventually need to move onto action as well. That's where I am myself with fitness and working on a promotion.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 03:35 PM
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I will agree that most things are minor, but the victims involved literally just walked away. It doesn't take much for a person to learn to give their person some space. Don't ask me how I know, but I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 03:29 PM
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If a man's natural inclination to shut up is a problem, maybe stretching the boundaries and using his words is a great place to start. It's not natural to lift 5 times a week either and push yourself through hard laps of swimming, it's actually really difficult but worth it when it relates to your other goals. Talking it out is just like any other step towards solving a problem. There's nothing special and unmanly about using words. Half of the greatest authors I enjoy are men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 03:27 PM
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I'm very curious what's so great about being dependent on some dude. Even my mom had, like, a job and stuff. Mothers can do that. I would be terrified of something happening to my spouse. Of course, part of that is because I do have a degree and some experience in the job market to even BEGIN to know what an entry level person is getting themselves into.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 03:22 PM
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But is that from horniness or disrespect? Because I've been pretty horny and still decided to have integrity.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 03:18 PM
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Those biases or bones are about sexy feelings. They're not about marriage. Marriage is a conscious construct, and a big decision at that. Cavewomen who got pregnant by a hot man did not always have a very high chance of caveman becoming a civilized gentleman, surely you know this in our evolutionary history, right? The species wouldn't get very far if we were evolved to be attracted to non-fertile women. That much is obvious and supported indisputably by science. You're the one complaining about…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 02:40 PM
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1) you speak for yourself, although no one asked who you respect 2) I have physical and emotional strength myself in ways he does not, but neither of us are weak. 3) Smarter? If only you knew.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 02:31 PM
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Shouldn't it be easy to tell if a guy sees women as human or not? Like without even meeting him in person? It is sometimes easy for me to tell. I'm patient. Waited many months to sleep with my husband. There were times when men tried to put up a front, though. I have definitely met them in person and had them in my social sphere for a brief time, although I am the last person who would accept that. Also, I work in a male-dominated field, entry level at my age. I work with men whether I choose th…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 06:54 AM
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Deception is deception. No, deception is not all the same. Context matters. Hell, no 2 scenarios of ANY concept are exactly the same. Nuance is a thing. Tact and subtly are important to all aspects of socialization, but that's not an excuse to take such 'deception' to an extreme. They also use deception to imply they are interested in something casual when what they actually want is to secure commitment from a men they might otherwise be unable to. Lol what? Am woman. That would never be an effe…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 06:48 AM
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What if it's lying for months on end, not just a few days? I guarantee you people have gotten things after those months they never would have gotten without some lies.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 06:41 AM
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"Meme lol" and "I disagree with your lived experienced based on nothing more than my fee-fees," are really not valid arguments. I agree that giving up on dating EVERY man is usually not the answer for most women, but it's also blatantly obvious that some men are "like that" and we need to discuss the differences. It really is like we aren't even human. I will say those selfish, rude men don't often respect other men as equally worthy people, either.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 06:40 AM
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No one has ever ONCE made a human being or spread a disease by just looking younger and more fertile. Don't you think your comparison is invalid, and for that matter, dramatic?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 06:30 AM
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Utter lack of ambition, work ethic, or standards. Obsession with some unrealistic, shallow goals to the detriment of anything more important/meaningful. When they blow up or hide shit instead of actually facing problems in a more healthy, timely way. Yes, this includes emotional problems. Inability to adapt to change especially when it's genuinely a necessary, normal part of life. Failure to stand up for and support the people closest to him when they deserve better. If you can't be good to one …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 06:25 AM
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Being a slob justifies breaking up. But you did some things before you got to that point, didn't you? Well, not everyone else does. Just saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 10:16 PM
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You know what? Maybe you're right. Maybe sex is earned. Not from one side, but in general. It IS an adult responsibility, after all. It IS a mutual effort that requires this level of communication. It requires agreements. Might as well be negotiation. Even though it's supposed to be generally fun, there's a give and a take in some senses.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 10:14 PM
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Yes, Einstein, a couple who wants nothing to do with each other will break up. A couple that both cooks and cleans and engages emotionally and sexually, however, might likely be happy for both parties. Have you considered that?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 10:10 PM
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Yah there's nothing romantic about having sex too young and sneaking behind the back of your family who is just looking out for you. There's a reason kids back then weren't screwing. They were kids in school. Woman, lost my virginity at 20, too early if anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 10:00 PM
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No. Not for most women I talk to. You have your own bubble.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 09:58 PM
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Or not. But hey, let's go with your logic for a minute. Partners are not for sex. So do you think women stop having sex, or start cheating? We all know long-term partners funding a whole lifestyle don't just switch around.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 09:53 PM
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Me 2. And honestly he had sex in the brain while I was more lover oriented at the time, so...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 09:51 PM
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accept fat, masculine and combative women? And what are you here? Do what you want though, it's your life. Just try not to be so biased, as there are plenty of women who are much much more understanding and gentle than you seem.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 09:46 PM
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Condoms are a great took when circumstances require. With that said, they are not an excuse to forego 3 months of waiting for proper testing and getting to know your partner. I very much agree with using other methods and being careful about procreation. Procreation is a huge responsibility. I get that. Which is why I say, I recommend folks don't have sex in LESS than 3 months. If you're still not sure 3 or 6 months after meeting someone, that's fine too, but if you cant wait for proper testing …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 07:15 PM
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I prefer not to stifle the guys I'm interested in early on. Maybe a text here. Maybe one phone call per week I'm between dates. More than a couple hours of phone calls per week that early on, and I'd be concerned of love bombing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 03:13 PM
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Oh bullshit. You can't know someone within only 6 hours or so, and sometimes those hours are all in the same very limited context at first! That's bullshit. No one brings home to mama someone after 6 hours/possibly 3 dates. If you sleep together right away and your dates are all weekend long, you'd have an argument, but then you'd still be sexing early on.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 03:08 PM
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And what type of sex drive is it where you are looking to have sex with a random person without really knowing them? It's what they call "being willing to hookup/FWB." Hope this helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 03:04 PM
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We've been together 10 years at this point. I had contraception worked out before I met him. 10 years of condoms would have been a lot. At least you get some joy if you raise a baby. No joy from using condoms. I don't want to string someone along in a relationship, and I don't want to be strung along. "Lol we haven't made it to the 2 year mark, wrap yourself up buddy." Like no, if I wasn't very young I would have probably already been married by then in a relationship. I'm trying to love and tru…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 02:54 PM
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Yeah there's always a risk, but we have been together a long time. Think of what all those condoms would have cost. The waste, and NEVER experiencing unprotected sex? I don't think I want that. Honestly, even if the dude is a cheat, he takes some responsibility for protection as well. Again, he willingly got tested before a new partner. He has repeatedly expressed concerns around certain diseases. Let his side chick be doing the condoms, I guess. There's always risks, I get that, and this is my …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 02:40 PM
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If you must know, I'm never going to plan to have children of my own. If he was a cheat, I would want to know and I would not be married to him under more serious suspicion. I will not be spending my hard-earned money to protect from diseases my husband is not supposed to be catching. That's a hard boundary.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 02:35 PM
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I think you shouldn't speak in absolutes if you're really only talking about a trend.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 02:28 PM
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Didn't you just spend half the thread elling me about the multitude of protection options? We have been tested. That was what we chose, and the sex was rather good that way, which matters to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 02:26 PM
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That's what purple just said lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 02:23 PM
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That’s how you end up pregnant by a guy you met three months ago Since I was very young when we met, we waited just a bit longer. We were friends for maybe 4 months, and dated for 6. If I had positive prior experience, I could likely have known faster. My other forms of contraception are my own business. I have not had a child after about a decade. There are way more men who are FWB material Fuck no. I met those boys in high school and some later. I know how they speak when they're not trying to…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 02:22 PM
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I knew for certain was going to be satisfactory in bed and also tick all of my other boxes in the correct time frame. Rush or no rush, I cannot imagine meeting enough men who potentially meet that criteria to bone more than one lmfao there are men that women have been patient with for years that just never become good enough to please them. That's one extreme. My personal recommendation would be about 3 months to get tested and not have to be hampered by a condom, then expect both some sense of …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 02:12 PM
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I don't believe every person's first relationship is going to work out. I DO believe being with someone who is willing to test properly, to talk about the future together, and to introduce you to his family is simply a much better statistical choice than any random guy at a bar who looks nice. Waiting may not be sufficient in all cases, but NOT being patient ain't a good sign for most things in life that matter. Beyond that, yes, my luck with 1 partner was not totally in my control. I realize th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 02:03 PM
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Well I guess I have the luxury of knowing they're wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 01:59 PM
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you can have your partners tested beforehand, Which takes time. About 3 months to do properly. This is what I do. And if someone can't wait for that short time while also developing a bond with me, they're not putting in the work for a caring relationship IMO. That's why I don't think I would enjoy casual sex, and I'm sorry if putting it that way reflects somewhat on other people, but i believe in putting in effort and making effort for the people who are worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 01:59 PM
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When you call people sexually repressed and tell them how they don't enjoy their long-term partners, you're definitely pressuring people.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 01:56 PM
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You're on fire today 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 01:55 PM
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BRUH. Are you really saying I don't enjoy my husband?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 01:54 PM
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Did I say no to men who could have been bad at sex because of my own choice? Yes. Is that partly responsible for my life path? Yes. Why are you so Hellbent on arguing against basics? Obviously, I was a virgin. Excessive "skill" wasn't something I demanded right away. We did take the time to practice and learn together, but he did some research before we even got that dar. The work was worth it because I wanted to keep dating him, I knew him for more than 5 minutes, and we both showed our intenti…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 01:49 PM
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There's only so many methods available. That also sounds like a lot of effort just for sex with a man I don't even know will be any good for me in bed or out. Not worth it early on. STI's only have ONE method of prevention, which many men don't even know how to use properly. I will stick to my plan of making sure the dude is tested, and that the dude is at least sticking around for a while because we mesh well together in and out of the physical realm.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 01:35 PM
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Most men can enjoy sex with even the most random women. I'm not buying your argument that easily. I turned down boys/men before my husband. I made part of my own luck through carefully deciding what I wanted. That's what people should do when they're, like, adults whoa are mature enough for adult activities.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 01:32 PM
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None of which is 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 01:30 PM
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Because I don't care that much, and furthermore it's a lot more effective AND polite to determine attraction holistically through video chats and in-person meetings. I'd be hesitant to use OLD AT ALL.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 08:04 AM
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:-l
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 07:37 AM
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lead to finding an amazing gf I knew I was sexually compatible with early on. That sounds like it was the easy way out for you, but I'm glad it worked out. Good for you. I don't hate. I'm married. But that's only the beginning of a love story, isn't it? I'm not sure under certain circumstances. I knew I was sexually compatible with my one and only partner by having actual discussions with him and taking things one step at a time, using introspection and communication. No, I didn't expect to find…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 07:19 AM
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The risk of contracting AIDS, while using condoms with a partner that has been tested, but hasn't waited the full three months of exclusivity is extremely small. It's not easy to survive where I live without a car. It IS easy to wait and test properly and have fun WITHOUT condoms, which is why I think someone who insists otherwise might be irresponsible. Either way, doesn't sound good to me. I don't want someone who's looking for the easy way out all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 06:36 AM
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The emotional problems DO start to affect physical desire, but it often starts on the inside IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 06:33 AM
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You know what, I agree. Only ask people out on a date if you've spoken with them for half a second already. No more online dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 06:15 AM
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...... That's not even PART of a conversation...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 06:06 AM
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She ain't even present for the majority of the story. And by the time they were together seriously, she was not a single mom, she was the mother of his child. FFS. I don't understand what all she knew about the sickness, frankly, I'm not that up on historical norms.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 06:03 AM
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I would never want a man to get surgery for me, especially one that hurt his intimate sensitivity. No guy at a 6:00 mile is dating me. Mine is already far from that, and far from the bench. I'm the one doing the work mostly. He still looks great to me. Imagine that. Listen, when someone told you straight women aren't ever attracted to a normal/average decently healthy dude with minimal training, they lied.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 06:01 AM
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It's not just money. My guy doesn't do drugs, I don't do drugs. People have to have things in common besides looks and water if they're getting married. Now with that said, of course looks and wallet matter. If you CAN reasonably improve, and you want to, do so. Part of that improvement is not becoming "bad."
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 05:55 AM
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Attempted robbery with enhancement? Yeah, that's bad alright. Who cares if she's hot though? There's gonna be someone for everyone. She's probably bad too. You gonna deny it though lol. Doesn't mean AWALT and I'm sick of pretending it does. If my husband did that shit, if leave. He is not over 6 feet, strong but not large, and fairly lean. I'm not that attractive and I'm aging. I wouldn't stick through that if he did it to be bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 05:52 AM
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He doesn’t have his height listed in his bio, so you ask. He says 5’10”. Would never happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 05:48 AM
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Again, proper tests take around 3 months for a new partner in a timely manner to keep them safe. Sure you could get one before you meet someone new, but then don't act like waiting 3 months is the end of the f'ing relationship after the fact. She didn't know she was gonna meet you, so yeah. You can also use a condoms and get std tests you know. But why would you? They do carry risks, and most people don't even use them correctly. Ok fine it's possible, but I won't force myself to bet on it, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 05:40 AM
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Oh come on now. Sure a lot of men do great, but nothing is ever perfect, and wealth inequality is a bitch these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 01:38 AM
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No, I think it insinuates that a naked and loved grown man being functional around a shared house is hot. Do you think I don't cook or tidy up in my underwear? I'm a woman, and I do. It's most comfortable where I live. Unless there's greasy/questionable food involved, even naked is fine sometimes. And everybody's gotta eat. I can't afford In N Out every day, nor would I need all the calories.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 01:36 AM
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Haha yeah... So baby daddy #1 is a pretty cool guy. He's got too many tattoos, but he loves their daughter and he married my sister for a while. He got clean and became a counselor. He is tall, and masculine, basically a Viking. He seemed like he would have been the right fit for her, but of course, that didn't last. Second baby daddy is a fresh younger thing, a surfer. Apparently they were legitimately together a while, but my parents never told me at the time and now the dude refuses to admit …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 01:20 AM
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2 baby daddies Diagnosed BPD At least 1 suicide attempt resulting in institutionalization Broke her leg to make a point to a man I think she used to do meth?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 01:08 AM
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Considering players make initial approaches on women all the time I doubt there is much correlation at all. The players move on fast when they don't touch you. They can't hold conversation, can't make plans, can't think critically at all really. The non-player who approaches with intent to marry you, that's someone who wants a future ANd works for that future. Which is what most women want if they're gonna risk getting pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 01:02 AM
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Mine doesn't even try to clean the shower anymore. He does barely anything on the toilet. Won't touch a dish. He'll do laundry pretty good, at least that's something.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 12:56 AM
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Actually yeah those chores are among the easiest! And it's worth noting that my husband is the only one who has clogged the toilet.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 12:54 AM
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My sisters ex's prove you wrong. And don't call me Sir unless you're at the business end of my riding crop. Which you never will be.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 12:53 AM
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Lame ass take, men who aren't chumps are also competent in the house. I'm not even sure i can say much more while remaining civil... How about I put it this way: it would be a sign of entitlement and weakness for a man to think that his equal contribution is a liability.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 12:51 AM
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I'm actually very good at rizzing up specifically psychotic women Lilith should have added "cannot use logic" to the list, because THIS does not really jive with you having any kind of serious physical issues. You get that, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 12:49 AM
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why not just assume you guys weren’t a good fit? That's exactly the assumption I'd like to make, only I'd rather do that before there's a chance I'm pregnant with his baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 12:45 AM
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Hello, Redditor. I've had sex with ONE person. Yes compatibility matters, but when I was falling in love with him before deciding that I would have been willing to have his child, I already knew compatibility. It was sexual in nature, but not in the sense that I had to have PIV to determine for sure. That's how I see it. Remember to challenge your own assumptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 12:44 AM
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"OMG, no I can't wait a few months for a proper aids test, what do I look like? A responsible adult?" - said a man who would become a poor husband, if at all
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 12:42 AM
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I genuinely think this makes sense if someone actually was dumb enough to settle for bad sex with a new partner. Of course you'll notice a different experience from the past. If I fucked a casual guy who didn't do foreplay first, that's how I'd feel. On the other hand, it's entirely abnormal to start thinking that way about a committed exclusive partner who satisfies you. That's when you can move on from the past memories for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 02:07 PM
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That depends on your location and your life, doesn't it? I am trying to live off charity/foraged food and get strong at the gym, so yes I am much busier than you would imagine. Also in the suburbs there aren't a lot of people just out and about hanging out. People have stuff to do. Even in downtown Houston, you have to go to bars and stuff to have idle chit chat. In the streets, people are moving. No one wants to be interrupted in their shopping or their business or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:26 AM
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I'm sure you can socialize with coworkers and yet avoid spaces 1-to-1 private meetings too. There are like 4 people in my office, max. The very first time I came in to this job I was alone with a man for about 20 minutes just because we were on time and on point getting set up. You'd have to be mega powerful and not worried about being late or blowing someone off entirely to pull off NO one-on-one time with the opposite sex. I imagine there are even senators who would like to have a private word…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:24 AM
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And that's fine, but there will be a lot of opportunities to discuss work that are friendly and not problematic if you are not excluding the opposite gender. I know this because almost all of the people in my chosen field are opposite gender. Of course I avoid pressure problematic types of things, but I am still friendly with male colleagues in a platonic way.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:18 AM
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Yeah that's a red flag for me, too. Bring your fucking kids if you're just showing me around the area, I don't care! But even then, big difference between "Hey can you step into my office alone real quick with the door open to look at this software issue? Hey do you want to order a pizza today and celebrate our new client?" Versus "let us meet when my wife and kids are away." Good Samaritan is doubtful, but honestly I agree that HR is not the move in that scenario unless there were additional is…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:16 AM
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Told me he was a virgin. Since I was, too, I was dumb enough to believe him. I did not have the life experience to know different. I was, however, smart enough to know if he was planning to stay with me. We married. I'm a bit more confident in my experience level now, slightly. That might help in the future if I have to face the big bad dating world again. I know not all women have this situation. I know "not all men." Not many men, even. It seems rare. Now, on the other hand, I didn't go lookin…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 05:51 AM
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Harder to find, yes. I would not have been likely to meet many older men with anything fun about them. Cautious? Oh God, no. I used to think that bad people were so rare. I was wrong! Harder to get in general.... Yeah no. We were all broke, so he could be broke too. Now that I've made something of myself, men ask "why are your standards going to be hire when you are old an valueless?" Bitch my employer does not find me valueless. My degree is actually in something good. I'm actually smart. And y…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 05:39 AM
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I lost another couple of pounds already. I'm healthier. Still feels like I have a long way to go. I'm just tired, man. I'm tired. I hope this hard part financially and physically ends soon. I'm gonna get some rest now.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 05:31 AM
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Russell is human, I'm sure he did some shit too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 02:40 AM
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If Future was father of the year and his kids loved him and the kids didn't want another father figure and treated Russell like shit, you might have a point somewhere. Except Future is a POS, and Russ essentially functions as a true father figure. Those ARE his kids, and it certainly seems like Ciara has treated him like a respected member of the full family as well. Blood isn't everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 01:21 AM
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Yeah HER children has value to her. It's not just his. TF?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 11:17 PM
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That's good for you. I don't have casual sex, so for me my sex drive can get out of hand pretty easily and mix my feelings. I have gotten good at creating distance.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 10:46 PM
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My dad was a former biker with a nerdy side. He married my mom and actually settled TF down. The ones who find a young, beautiful, attractive mother type will put away the bike. That's what you do when you have a kid. The ones who would rather keep going, like the ones in the meth game, are more likely to find a rough woman with a similarly rough life. It's actually impressive they manage to find a relatively healthy partner at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 10:45 PM
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That is radical. Y'all should have done it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 10:24 PM
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Yeah, I agree. But I never had that situation WITHOUT ATTRACTION. There was always something romantic there in those situations, even if it wasn't official. I was never super close with someone who wouldn't have made a pretty excellent partner in some ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 10:22 PM
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Umm? And? Since when is stepdad and insult? Even if you don't want that for you, your assumptions about other men who are stepdad are unwelcome and inaccurate
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 09:23 PM
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I've had one partner ever. I was single for most of my teen years. No sex at all. While it may not be difficult to come by some dude who would jackhammer me, anything I would want would be hard to come by. I would legitimately not even think of having the kind of sex that is easy to come by.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 05:09 PM
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That's why I said the bit about missing information. I was not meaning to judge, I was meaning to ask. Although I must admit the idea of enjoying casual, paid sex is VERY foreign to me, and i doubt i will ever relate to that bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 02:40 PM
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This dude has actual relationships, so no he was not just rejected as nauseum. Most boys don't even ask out that many girls in high school! However, this is like comparing the lives of the wealthy to the poor. way to go ladies! Very differing views indeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 02:37 PM
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If I decided that relationships with men were not an option, I'd be celibate. That's an option. In no universe is it hot to sleep with someone who does not want me. I have put my 20's into one intimate relationship, and the only way it's ending is if he cheats on me or something horrendous like that. I can understand if that happens a few times, I might give up, but I can't understand wanting the very thing I can't keep in my own comfortable home taunting me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 02:20 PM
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Your experience of gender roles clearly isn't mine. We are allowed to have differing point of view. If you decided you were done with relationships, one I wouldn’t judge you your choice is your choice. I want to be clear, I agree. I asked a question, and I was considering multiple possibilities for the answer, but everyone has their own breaking point where they can give up on something. 25 is fairly young, that's probably not a lot of failed relationships in the first place and likely not a lot…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 02:17 PM
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He wanted it bad enough to work on it before, and 25 is pretty damn young to say something you started at 16 or 18 just never worked out yet. "It just doesn't bring him happiness anymore" feels like the very, very short version of the story.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 02:11 PM
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I don’t trust engineers at all. The people who I am applying to train with build your bridges and your highways. You said escort consent depends on the amount they charge. Not what I said. I said that arguments could be made based on different amounts of money, not that it's the only deciding variable. I've never been involved with sex work, that's not me. I worked really hard to even have a chance to get where I'm at without touching any crusty man I don't want. That's just what consent means T…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 06:54 AM
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You said I was like those other people who are manipulative, abusive, and crazy and who deserved to be cheated on. That is what you said. But if the best you can do is attack my opinion on prostitution and my comments about your cheating asshole friends, I'm sure I was right in the first place. We can BOTH agree that you're not the type who could understand and appreciate a partnership with me. That's exactly why I would filter out Johns, and it is more than OK for you to not be compatible with …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 06:44 AM
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So please do tell me. What makes you think I am so manipulative and abusive? What makes you think I deserve to be cheated on? That's a wild take, and I might not want to hear it, but there's a small chance it might be interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 06:36 AM
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It just happened Sus They were unstable before, Why don't I believe you? Condolences to your future bf I'm married. He says you're a troll and not to even worry about you lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 06:32 AM
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Ya know what if I was dating a dude who went in a Mexican cruise to fuck hookers, that situation might make me a but unstable for a minute, ngl. That's why I wait for sex and try not to get myself into that situation. I'll let you know in another decade if it worked if I had to try a second time or more.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 06:22 AM
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Everyone is less than perfect, except no one deserves that. And what the fuck would you think you know about those women anyway? Sometimes people lie. Your friends certainly could have lied, they have been more than proven capable.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 06:20 AM
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I mean, people lie. I would actually believe that prices are going to change slightly for different situations, but 90%+ is an awfully steep discount to give a whole ass group of men for no reason when you gotta work to live. Just my take, but yeah the fact that you would support your friends cheating is even worse and I'm not expecting to learn anything worthwhile from you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 06:14 AM
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They charge based on appearance (crazy right) so when someone who is attractive wants to do it they give a price next to nothing because they also want to do it. Its their JOB. Good grief. What are you on? I can't with this. Goodbye.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 06:05 AM
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if the escort is barley surviving on $30 which isn’t true Clearly I don't agree with this entire sentence starting here, and I don't believe there will ever be a way to find some sort of wisdom from someone who goes on vacation with a bunch of cheating assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 05:59 AM
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It is a POSSIBLE indication of not relying on basic survival. I try not to speak for women who aren't clearly and evidently vulnerable. It appears that YOU ignore women who ARE clearly and evidently vulnerable.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 05:53 AM
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That’s just their price. Dog, $30/he is barely surviving on that sort of work and you know it. You haven't won shit. I just don't want to talk to you, and the rules limit what I can about it. I mean, what use would I have arguing with a man who thinks cheating with hookers is no big deal and it's JUST a price... For a human being's disease risk?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 05:51 AM
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I’m sorry, but do YOU know what consensual means? It means they shouldn't depend upon you for bare survival when deciding whether or not to fuck you. But hey, you know what, you go do you. And your friends are assholes, btw. Nice choice in friends. I can't emphasize enough how I'm glad you're not dating or touching anyone I know including me. Have a good one bye
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 05:43 AM
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I think your just salty hearing the fact that beautiful women will have sex with me for $30 in Mexico. ............ Hahahahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 05:40 AM
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they still choose to do it when there are plenty of other jobs around. Treat these women like adults they are. Very, very fucking few women I know, which contributed to a supply and demand issue in the market. So you mean to tell me they can’t work at McDonald’s? I mean, I don't think that should happen either, but I think it's less barbaric than exposing one's clients to one's own diseases for a nut. For the record, I intentionally do not try to speak for all sex workers, it's Johns who I reall…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 05:34 AM
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"Life and death" is not really a part of a consensual sexual experience. That's a threat, not a good time.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 05:31 AM
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Money can be the difference between life and death. Doesn't apply to a rich escort work 5k/hr, but it definitely applies to a Mexican hooker charging 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 05:24 AM
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I've been applying to the same class for 2 years, school to prep for many years before that. You might be underselling the emotional investment in a career by a bit. But see, I am not a cold robot. I do understand there is a period of grief and heartbreak when a relationship falls through. One night even want to be single for a bit and regroup. But to stop loving entirely for the long term? To detach sex from love entirely? Well, I'm a woman. How the Hell would you judge ME if I did that?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 05:16 AM
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You and I both know, if it was going to be equal, I would want it equal in the other direction. Which is exactly what I want, really.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 05:04 AM
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I didn't say it shouldn't hurt. I said it's a part of life, and I asked "why quit on this specifically?" I know exactly what I said, but you sound like you don't. This guy had whole ass relationships. He was doing OK. No one is belittling him, in fact it seems he gave up on a path where he was merely a few years away form what he was looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 05:03 AM
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The system that hates women is an issue. Some women HAVE died. Derogatory God whistles are a part of it. They are small, but still worth noting as a warning sign like in my example.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 05:00 AM
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We’re going to pretend like rejection especially a string of them over time isn’t painful Never said that. It would be fucked to put words in my mouth!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 04:57 AM
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Because on this sub and by a certain type of man the word is a dogwhistle for "wahmen are never adults." It comes with more clues, and any non-sensitive person can see it. It's also a joke in the Q4W they'll ask "female women, question?" but that joke is only funny because it acknowledges how dumb that sounds when a misogynistic dude does that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 04:56 AM
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It's not about sensitive. Are you new to this sub?!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 04:52 AM
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Where I am, hiring is NOT legal. Furthermore, the minute you realize you can't with that person, your dick should deflate sufficiently. I would never touch a man who I didn't know wanted me. That's NOT hot, no matter how he looks. Sex is more than tits and ass bouncing around. It's a shared moment like any other in the comfort of ones private home. Personally, I wouldn't even have that type of fun with anyone casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 04:25 AM
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Clearly I disagree. Paying someone one office work hour's wage to put their health at risk for your nut and their chafing is WAY different then me wanting my husband without employment being involved. I might even see your point if you were hiring someone who's been working for $5k an hour for a few years, but you wanted it cheap you say. They aren't doing that for funzies, you don't need a shrink to know that. Don't care how you think I sound. It would be illegal for my employer to try that shi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 04:22 AM
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If we were to apply your strict definition of consent then every sex is rape. Nope. Many women want to gate-keep easy sex to ensure they have value in dating market. You ever consider what this might mean to my definition of consent? Although, yeah there are a lot of sexual encounters that just bring drama. Men at least cum, women cum less in causal encounters especially. Maybe having slightly less sex would be a benefit to others, it's worth thinking on. That's up to them. As for me, I CAN cons…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 04:11 AM
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Bruh that's a lot of money... Yeah I enjoy sex too, but I know it comes with risks and I don't just have it any time I feel like having a bit of harmless fun. And you missed the first question.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 04:07 AM
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I did not look that deep into it. I don't care too much. It was a lot of years ago. We don't know what all he told her, or how all he treated her, or why she wasn't dating others. Speaking as a woman, I can speculate about one factor. When she was "childless" and young, there would have been less men her age looking to settle down so early. She might not have had as many options. I know that goes against what TRP tells you, but I had many fewer peers looking for serious relationships at that you…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 04:02 AM
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Idk about those women. I don't idolize random dudes, especially not ones I know so little about. I wouldn't hold him up for an example personally, not would I make him a villain. I think we can all explain to men how they should be without comparing to some dude none of us know much about anymore. They aren't all that public, really. They tried to avoid that for their kid presumably due to Future and his assholery.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 03:45 AM
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One does not roll their eyes at a competent train of thought. Are YOU hallucinating?! What part of pop off did you not understand?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 03:37 AM
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You said you'd roll my eyes and think I'm crazy instead of believing I'm competent. You literally did. You know what, off you pop now, since I'm so dense. Byeee
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 03:35 AM
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I’ve gotten 5 escorts on a boat in Mexico at night for $30 each. All beautiful women. Do you know what consensual means? But yeah hot chick go burr, whatever. Lmao your looking in the wrong spot. I'm not looking at all. I would never, and let's be crystal clear about that. I am a woman, but still. He wants sex on the spot so he pays. To each their own. I have had relationships and actively date, That's not what the OP says, though. He says it wasn't good for him to date actively. Strippers might…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 03:34 AM
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An inferior animal who is incapable of determining and explaining reality, according to you, apparently. If I say someone is treating me as less than competent, I mean it. End of.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 03:31 AM
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...... On the internet without evidence?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 03:27 AM
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