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I lived in one of the largest cities at the time. With that many people you are bound to have some serious creeps.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/14 12:16 AM
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It used to be annoying because it would happen non-stop,it was a daily occurrence at minimum. While most of the time it was just harmless occasionally it would be creepy. I've been followed or had my wrist grabbed or my way blocked. The worst would be when a group of men would block the way and "tease" me, aka make some rude comments and not let me leave. I genuinely feared for my safety. You never knew where things were going to go, after the first call out. Catcalling very rarely happened when…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/14 08:07 PM
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From the 125 pound guys to the 250+ lb guys any of the UFC caliber ones would wipe the floor with the average male Sure, I can see that. But wouldn't the professional class of any advanced profession wipe the floor of the avg guy? Men are taller than women on avg, it makes sense that a preference for height could develop. But it is a preference for trait in a sea of many more important ones. What might seem like a base, innate attraction can come from cultural conditioning. For example, in some …
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/14 12:27 PM
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At first glance with no other knowledge about the person, I find tall men more attractive. Like some women are into muscles, or men into butts. It's just kind of my thing. I made emphasis of that because even with a strong preference, it's just a preference. All of our base attractions are symbolic and luckily we are thinking humans so we can analyze what they might have stood for, just like you did with height attraction equalling an attraction to a protector. While I'm sure the smaller UFC guy…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/14 01:14 PM
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Height matters, but no more than hip ratio for women. It's noticeable and preferable, but there is a great more to attraction than just that. I have genuine thing for tall men, a tall man in a room really gets my blood pumping. Even with that preference in place, I had a serious relationship with a man who was 5'4", I have many celebrity crushes that are my height or shorter, so it really is more than just height that can pull attraction. Just make sure the other aspects of what you have to offe…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/14 01:40 PM
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So why does a motivation thread seem like the best place to troll with this? What's the connection between supporting the women in this thread to make improvements in themselves and what Jon Stewart is calling attention to? Is it because it's sticked? I don't understand. Your user history reveals that you are intelligent, you make pretty calm grounded discussions. You must know trolling doesn't really change anyones opinions, and that it's a circle jerk. You could post this to /r/purplepilldebat…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/14 11:02 AM
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He is just incredible at picking up new skills, I kind of love/hate him for it. He is so physically inclined it's ridiculous. Any new sport or activity he tries, he never has that awkward learning curve. It's just instant accuracy. He's always been like that. It's so cool! I'm totally jealous of it too, especially if I have been struggling to learn.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/14 08:03 PM
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I am going to sit up straighter. I don't care if it's uncomfortable or if I'm not used to it. Great idea. I have read this over and over each time and fixed my posture! Thank you for this. I need to add this to my goals this week too.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/14 03:38 PM
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First of all I want to give you the biggest high five for being complete honest with yourself about not meeting your goals. Sometimes I worry that people will fudge results or choose too easy goals to keep face. If you are meeting 100% of your goals 100% of the time the goals are too easy for you. ( I really hope that doesn't come across as a backhanded compliment, it's not meant to be at all) I never get my nails done because I chip the polish within 12 hours no matter how careful I am with app…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/14 03:33 PM
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My husband! I wasn't going to write more at first because it is literally impossible to list all the things I love about him. This isn't dumb tee hee pandering, really I love him in a way I can't describe fully. That doesn't make for a good answer though, so here goes: In no particular order: Magmanomous, strong, gorgeous, a great father, curious, hard working, loyal, strong bullshit detector, playful, brave, honest, persistant, high sex drive and the skill to accompany it, quick witted, well re…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/14 01:02 PM
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Variety looses impact if applied too often. Don't rush to play all your cards at once. Pacing, anticipation, and building of desire are very important in a marriage. Let the impact of a change be enjoyed fully before trying another one.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/14 01:06 PM
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What are you planting this season?
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/14 01:39 PM
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Way to go! You can do it!
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/14 01:38 PM
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Have you talked with /u/eatplaycrush? She seems to be very knowledgable about calculating correct caloric needs.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/14 11:29 AM
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Self care is really important. Good for you for taking those steps.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/14 10:48 AM
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Last party for a while was a success. My daughter's present came out perfect! I neglected my violin practice. 😔 New goals! Spring cleaning! Deep clean one room! Do that violin practice! Paint more! Walk the kids to school everyday it's not raining or snowing. Work on the appliqué for the quilt I'm going to make.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/14 05:54 PM
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A man might cheat, but you can't tell that by his number. Low value men with terrible self esteem have just as much potential to stray when given the opportunity. You aren't focusing on the right criteria for a LTR. You should be looking at his honesty, boundary enforcement, loyalty and social bravery. Cheating is cowardice, selfishness, or a lack of will power. When you are dating with intent to marry, you should be filtering for these things. Again what what they do, not what they say.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/14 01:39 PM
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Not too long, this is my first still life. I have been drawing/ sketching for years, but I had stopped for a while after finishing schooling. I'm now really making an effort to get back into the arts, for myself and our home. It's 11x14 but I made it on cheap canvas because it was the first class. I wonder if I could re-stretch the canvass
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/14 11:21 AM
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Oh wow, thank you! Your landscape is amazing! I hope I can do something like that at some point
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/14 10:53 PM
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Thanks! We had a limited pallette of 3 colors: ultramarine blue, cadmium red medium, and cadmium yellow medium. And titanium white to tint the colors
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/14 06:02 PM
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My oil painting from class We are doing the alla prima method, one shot paintings. I'm excited to learn more.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/14 05:34 PM
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You shouldn't depend on someone for your happiness. I agree. You shouldn't put up with bullshit. I agree there. Happiness comes from within, but having a happy family requires more than one person working to maintain a happy home. I think it's important to realize that not putting up with bullshit,doesn't mean go around with a chip on your shoulder. And likewise being kind and generous doesn't mean becoming a doormat. I like to care for my husband. I do things like run him a bath or bring him th…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 12:06 AM
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What about taking care of a home is incongruent with being educated, strong, or of strong character? Are you suddenly less educated if you follow your husband's lead? Do you turn into an incapable dolt if you aren't in charge? Does making your home beautiful and comforting to everyone who enters, confirm inferiority to you? Why do you look down on the things traditional women do and provide? What are these ideals that conflict? What are the RP actions your husband seeks from you? These aren't me…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/14 10:35 PM
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I'm not usually the one to respond this way but, if you don't have any problems, then what's the problem? To be very frank, clearly there is some disconnect. Is it sexual? It seems likely based on the information you gave to us. But even if it's not, whatever is causing this issue you are feeling, it was enough for you to ask strangers for advice over the internet. And it's not like you asked in one of the nicer subs, RPW is pretty harsh nearly all of the time when someone brings up a problem th…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/14 10:21 PM
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I'm not against bed sharing, but it can put a damper on your sex life if you don't actively pursue sex outside of the bedroom to make up for the lack of ease that falling into bed with just your husband provides. It sounds like he is looking for sexual validation, by posting those pictures. If he hasn't strayed yet he is definitely taking his first steps toward that path. How often are you guys having sexual contact? How often do you two shower together, go on dates without the kids, aka find yo…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/14 09:20 PM
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I'm pretty sure it's a generalized no unless your LTR doesn't like you hairless. I mean some men really like women with soft fine hair, but I wouldn't advise not shaving just to attract those men. I think men who shave their chests and especially the area between the belly button and their pubic area are gross gross, squirmy, gross gross. But it's in style now, and young women probably prefer it. So suggesting that men stop shaving there is just as bad advice as telling a woman to stop shaving h…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/14 09:11 PM
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The two parties went well! Costume has been sewn, now I just need to work on the accessories! I have to drop off the the check at the town charity for that family. I didn't raise a lot of money, but I think it's the thought that counts? So this weeks goals: violin practice be a good hostess for yet another birthday party! But this one is a kid's party so we are getting pizza for all the guests. finish the accessories to the costume pull out all the old baby clothes and sort them for my newest ne…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/14 01:39 PM
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I won't call you names, but I can try to bug you daily about avoiding the junk food?
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/14 01:31 PM
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I think it's important to begin opening up with transparency before marriage, because you are still vetting the relationship. This gives an opportunity to see what each person does with this new responsibility, which I think can be very telling as to what kind of person they are. My husband is pro transparency, we share an email address for all family related stuff in addition to the work email addresses. We both have the passcodes for everything, PINs, I could check his voicemail if I wanted to…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/14 01:27 PM
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That's so cute!
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/14 01:12 PM
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I love it! I just like to see what everyone is working on.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/14 05:44 PM
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Awesome! My kind of vacation!
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/14 01:36 AM
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My husband is just shy of two years older than me. I feel like that is pretty much perfect for us. We share many cultural coming of age references. We are pretty much on the same page for energy and life experience. I think 5 years might work well too. I don't know any women who got married younger to a much older man who didn't have big relationship issues/ horribly stupid drama filled break ups. I think older men are attractive to younger women, but I think the age difference can become a matu…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/14 01:35 AM
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Awesome! I always wondered about p90x, do you love it? Do you follow a meal plan with it too?
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/14 11:51 PM
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Crock pots are awesome. I'm doing nom nom paleo 30 day program and she has ton of slow cooker recipes, that are delicious and simple. http://nomnompaleo.com/recipeindex
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/14 11:49 PM
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What kind of vacation are you going on?
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/14 11:40 PM
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I love the idea of a gratitude journal! How are you planning on filling it?
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/14 11:39 PM
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I keep a small collapsible basket for stray socks then like every week I go through the basket and match up what I can. I do laundry every day so maybe you might do it every 4 wash cycles or so.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/14 11:38 PM
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You can do it! You are almost there!
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/14 11:36 PM
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Well, I did deep clean one room. I made lots of cute lunches for the kids. I did not get the sewing done. I am doing nom nom paleo 30 days of paleo and making the lunches from that and it has gone over great with the kids and other mothers at the school are asking me how I do it. 😊 The room cleaning went great. I took everything out of the kitchen, I even moved the big appliances like the fridge and the stove and deck scrubbed the floors, washed the walls and vacuumed out the vents. I will try a…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/14 11:35 PM
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Proof you can submit to your man and be a hardworking business savvy take charge personality in all other areas. It's almost like being the supporter is a worthwhile endeavor and not some tragic beat down like other people might suggest.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/14 09:12 PM
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Can't build castles on quicksand. The relationship was doomed from the start. As a woman she should have dumped him after he showed he could be physically abusive. As a man he should have left when he realized he didn't trust her. Instead they got pregnant again. So, is the husband being a jerk? Yes. He stole her identity to gamble online, and he is surprised she is no longer attracted to him? He is stupid enough to leave sexual videos on his cellphone when he child could access them. He gasligh…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/14 03:45 PM
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Again, I'm sorry for being harsh. I want you to come out of this ok, and you will if you focus on healing and growing.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/14 10:35 PM
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It seems harsh but really, No. Not now. You have had no time at all to learn from your past experience. You do not want to submit to another abusive man. You currently have 0 skills for weeding out abusers and manipulators. What is different about you now that will keep you safe? You are still in the hospital kid. Please self care first. No man who isn't full of issues would pursue someone still in the hospital. Something is off here. Honestly I'm worried for your well being. Talk to whoever is …
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/14 10:08 PM
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Thanks I will check it out.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/14 05:25 PM
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Will you please share your pysanky when you have made them? They are one of my favorite parts of spring.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/14 04:59 PM
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Tempest, how do you fair on the bone broth fast? I'm usually a raging emotional wreck if I try to fast, but maybe the bone broth would be more stabilizing.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/14 04:58 PM
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This weeks goal are all domestic duties. Get back to making personalized paleo bentos for the kids at school. Pattern and sew my daughter's costume. Deep clean one room
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/14 12:40 PM
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I'm not talking about the type of man I would be attracted to, but men who get pushed around by women sexually exist. Sexually aggressive women exist. I'm saying if your man seems great but has trouble being a softie for a sad girl pout he could find himself in a place he never should have been in the first place. Again not really the type most of us would go for, so maybe it was an unnecessary addition.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/14 07:44 PM
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One thing I learned is don't settle for a guy you aren't actually attracted to because you think they are less likely to cheat. A man with lower value is not more likely to stay faithful, it might even be a red flag is he's needy for attention and therefore he might cheat to boost his self esteem. Don't enter a relationship with a known cheater. If he is cheating with you, he hasn't had any time for growth to learn about self control. This goes for emotional cheating as well. Look for a man who …
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/14 07:26 AM
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Oh reading comprehension fail.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/14 12:32 PM
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Hmm, I think what it is for me is that if I am quiet, it leaves others a chance to speak. It is a real flaw of mine that I dominate conversations. So maybe it's not an example of universal snow flaking, but my personal issues with snow flaking. When I wrote my comment, there were no other ones. If I didn't write it and just waited, we would still have other peoples voices, including yours. I guess I just think I went too far with the comment. I'm ok with you disagreeing.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/14 07:20 PM
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Meh, there was no need to talk about my hair color or whatnot I could have just left it at "people can be catty...." I agree we can't always agree, but I think sometimes you can learn more by listening, not talking. I talk a lot. I tend to have a lot to say about everything. My journey is to learn when to hold back.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/14 06:22 PM
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Thank you. I also want to apologize for special snowflaking on your post there. I am going to leave it up because I think it's a good to have an example of how really adding a contradictory anecdote really doesn't improve the discussion. If you see me doing that again feel free to call me on it. I promise I won't be offended. Or more realistically, I might get offended then realize how silly I'm acting.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/14 04:53 PM
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I am so envious! My terminal hair length is mid upper back. My hair is so straight to begin with that it has no natural volume at that length, luckily braiding or twisting before it dries works for a little while. Any tips on getting it to grown out full and less thin at the ends? I tint my hair colors, which is extremely easy for me since I'm a blonde and it fades back to my natural color pretty quickly. I have definitely had to defend my hair choices though. I think people are just catty, and …
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/14 03:19 PM
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Hmm, I'm not sure how to answer this since I don't think we've ever had a shower misstep. Maybe you need to install some grip bars or one of these
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/14 08:34 PM
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You are junior, finish. A bachelor's degree is like yesteryear's highschool diploma. Most jobs have a requirement for it. Most of the time it isn't even a requirement to have a bachelors in the same field, but just to have one. Is is a little silly that this little piece of paper is considered more valuable than 4 years experience in the field? Yes, but that's just how it is. You have what 32 credits or less left? Do it, get it done, finish the job. You are far too close to quit. You have a free…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/14 08:08 PM
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Ok sleep is very important. Is it a lack of time to sleep issue, a lack of falling asleep easily thing or a lack of staying asleep?
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/14 05:41 PM
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Aww, I'm sorry you aren't getting enough sleep.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/14 05:04 PM
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Awesome!
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/14 05:03 PM
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My minimalism kick, two steps forward and soon two steps back. The kids and I have gone through and got rid of a ton of stuff, but birthdays are coming up, I have to be careful it doesn't all come back. I have made 6 paintings, 3 oils, three digital. I'm still in the planning stages of a quilt, but the fabric is purchased. Violin practice is going well. I can play twinkle twinkle and a few different scales without the dog howling in harmony. I haven't concentrated on the the strength building I …
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/14 05:02 PM
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Having children and finding the right person to grow old together were high priorities in my life. Just as high as getting my degrees. I met my husband and we got married very quickly, we have been married for 10 years. Before we had children we lived off of my husbands salary, while we put every penny I made into savings. This allowed us to put aside a huge nest egg and buffer for us once I began to stay home. I am lucky enough that I have an advanced degree in a field that regularly asks for m…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/14 10:41 PM
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While TRP goes with the idea that all strategy is amoral, RPW strongly believes in moral and immoral sexual strategies.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/14 10:28 PM
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Most of the men's subreddit seems to be geared for men who are not natural leaders. They use huge generalities and steadfast rules to lead newcomers to understand. Think about people who are masters of their skill, chefs, artists,musicians. Almost all of the aside from a gifted few had to start with strict and unflinching structure. Picasso's Guernica is beautiful because he took his classical background knowledge and twisted the rules to make someone new. To the untrained eye you might not be a…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/14 10:22 PM
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I think you might like Athol Kay.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/14 12:05 AM
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Have you thought about cultivating wild edibles that are native to your area? Sometimes it's better to just go with what works instead of fighting the environment.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/14 12:00 AM
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Seems like a sunk cost issue to me. She's still hopeful that she'll get what she wants. She wants him still, despite recognizing his lies and manipulations. She's saying no more but if she was really done she would just leave. Giving an ultimatum that he better marry he just proves she is still willing to be manipulated further. When she realized the commitment she wanted wasn't coming she should get out, without the overdramatic overture.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/14 05:37 PM
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Silk pillow cases- no breakouts ever plus it helps keep the moisture in your hair. Mei Fa hair Styx for a super fast french twist that allows you to to the "librarian hair let down and shake" I do use lemon in my hair and on my skin to lighten things up.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/14 03:59 AM
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Oh that is a great list
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/14 01:23 AM
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Well ignoring #1's polarizing superiority nonsense, most of it is very good advice. I particularly like and practice 4, 6, 10, 11(the first one), 13,15 and 24.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/14 06:54 PM
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Honestly, yes you can be friends and have nothing happen. If you have a friendship based on respect, no one will make any moves on each other. However you become friends with someone because you think they are great people. If you are attractive at some point your friend will be attracted to you. Most people are capable of not acting on this attraction, but to pretend it couldn't possibly exist is laughable. It is not unreasonable for your SO to keep a bit of a guard up when addressing your rela…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/14 04:54 PM
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If TRP offends you don't read TRP. If RPW helps you, read RPW. TRP isn't our space, we are connected but if you think that most men and women act differently of course our subs are going to act differently. Men tend to need things in black and white terms in order to process them. So as they are learning to not pedestalize women, they tend to demonize them until fully processed. Women tend to see everything in shades of grey, so we have and expect a softer approach. Men's approach can go wrong b…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/14 06:34 PM
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Function first if you are playing a sport. You want to look prepared to play, and it's unintentional how good you look doing it. Not that it should be unintentional, you just don't want to look too vain and prissy to play. No jeans though, you want to be able to move. I personally like a field hockey uniform style myself, (athletic skirts and knee high socks) but that might be a bit dated. Yoga pants should be fine. Get a good sports bra, fitted correctly so it works but doesn't make you have a …
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/14 06:09 PM
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I love running skirts! They make athletic ones which are a bit longer and still have the compression shorts under.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/14 05:47 PM
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Get yourself a panache sports bra! They are awesome and not squishy uniboob ugly. They go up to H cups.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/14 05:44 PM
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Take what you need and leave the rest. There seem to be many people from differing aspects of the political spectrum. In the states, I'm considered a strong liberal, but in other places conservative or moderate. I have lots of things I disagree with others here on, but whatever. This place offers something I feel is pretty rare, a dedication to creating happiness and stability in a head of household/ leader & homekeeper/supporter. This place realizes the value in the role of supporter, which in …
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/14 08:37 PM
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I can't believe we are having this conversation in RPW. One of the things I enjoy so much about this subreddit is not having to apologize for wanting a traditional family setup up.Traditionally, families include children. Of course some people don't want kids. But just like Dana said, many of us have watched as people who wanted to wait till later, wound up waiting involuntarily even longer/forever. Easily having kids after 35 is possible, easily having healthy kids after 35 is possible, but it …
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/14 08:16 PM
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I was going to add my thoughts in here but I think you've said it better than me.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/14 01:09 AM
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Wool, shearling and vintage fur. Used fur from thrift shops, or flea markets are totally worth it for warmth. Fleece lined leggings are a godsend. For snow play and such I just wear a "totally flattering" one piece snow suit and boots with great grip, because an active, happy, playful woman is an attractive one.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/14 10:03 PM
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I know you say you were depressed, as if it is over, but from looking over your responses it seems like you still are. Every answer is coming through a huge lens of negativity and helplessness. I feel for you, I truly do. I don't know what it will take for you to get out of this dark fog and see all the options and shots at happiness you still have here. Depression is pretty insidious and can really cut your legs out from under you. You to make self care a priority. Feed yourself better. You hav…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/14 10:41 PM
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RPW has offered things I haven't gotten anywhere else in an active community before. For me, it doesn't matter if AMALT or AWALT or any of NA___ALT . Nonmedicated is an overly emotional person. Nonmedicated does have to actively practice the art of stfu and just listen. Nonmedicated enjoys thinking of ways to actively please her husband. Nonmedicated is not a natural leader but an amazing supporter. Nonmedicated is happy to talk to other people who actually respect the work of someone who stays …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/14 05:14 PM
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That stinks. What about getting a bath tub drying rack or clothesline and dry stuff while you are out at work? Is that possible?
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/14 05:12 PM
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Flylady seems to very helpful for a lot of women. Working towards minimalism is helpful too. I find wiping down things as you pass by helps. I have a general rule to try to do the "leave it cleaner than you found it" thing in each room I pass through. Laundry is done every day in my home first thing in the morning. Wake up put a load in the wash. After showering and dressing it's time to put stuff in the dryer/ hang things up. After breakfast is cooked, served, eaten, and cleaned up,stuff is rea…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/14 01:27 PM
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Yeah I'm curious about that too.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/14 03:07 PM
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INFJ here, with an ISTP husband. Haven't read about how are supposed to mix, but I mix really well with him.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/14 07:53 AM
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Hey trabat00 I don't want you to think I forgot but I have been a little busy. I have found a few journals and have complied some reading material, which I will get to. There are no studies I have yet found on enthusiastic consent, but some of the titles do discuss non verbal communication and verbal communication as a way of expressing and receiving consent or revoking consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/14 09:58 PM
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Exactly. No matter how much you trust your husband, things get lost, stolen and hacked. If you have any aversion to having your encounter or naked image public for the world to see DO NOT MAKE A SEX TAPE/NUDE PHOTO.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/14 01:27 AM
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He wanted to have the babies with just us, no midwives in the room. That was/is never going to happen. I was already on board for low risk birthing at home, after the ease of birth of our first. However, I'm not giving up a team of medical professionals who brought supplies like oxygen tanks and medications to stop hemorrages, no matter how much faith my husband has in my abilities to birth.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 06:45 PM
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I trust my husband to respect my boundaries so I've been sitting here trying to think of any where he has made a desire known that I had to nix. I refused to give birth unassisted. That really is the only place I can think of that I ever gave him the "you have got to be kidding me" look.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 06:08 PM
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"You are mine. I am yours. Your behavior reflects directly on me. My behavior reflects directly on you. I expect both of us to behave in a way that brings nothing but honor upon us both." Is this a personal quote? I like it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 05:56 PM
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But why male models? (Please, please, please get the reference)
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 05:06 PM
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I can't find the show, my Google fu is weak. I did find this though, http://www.oecdbetterlifeindex.org/countries/japan/
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/14 05:02 PM
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Popular culture has yet to catch up with what has been discussed in sociology, psychology and psychiatry for years. Masculinity studies talks about the unrealistic images of males in the media. Dr Harrison Pope has pretty much opened the academic study of visual culture's effects on self esteem and mental disorders in men including BDD. If you are looking for a place to start reading, you might be interested in his work.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/14 04:22 PM
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But you don't even have that. You have nothing. What are you talking about? It seems like you skimmed my reply instead of reading it. I do not have "no experience" I just am not going to share my sexual history with you. I'm not going to get into a who has better anecdotal evidence argument. It's silly. I haven't conducted scientific studies but I know where to search for them. jSTOR is great if you have access to it. I'll do some research and get back to you, who knows I may even prove you righ…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/14 03:31 PM
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It's interesting, I was listening to a radio show the other day and it was talking about how Japan's population crisis is actually benefitting Japan's standard of living. I wish I could remember the interview. I'll try to google it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/14 12:47 PM
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On the converse, is she stiff? Does she not make eye contact? Is silent? If you stop for a moment does she seem to relax? I did not avoid, I just chose not to repeat myself. The shy woman still moves during sex, still responds in her own way. I do not have "no experience" I just am not going to share my sexual history with you. The idea that only sexual history could give insight into the ways in which people have sex is shortsighted. There are many ways of gathering information and anecdotal pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/14 12:08 PM
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The best part of being submissive to my husband is actually developing better self esteem. Crazy right? I used to be angry at myself for not being able to be perfect in all avenues. I'm no longer stressed about my natural submissive tendencies. I am shy. This is ok. Making big decisions stresses me out because I am constantly able to see all sides of things. It is nice to feel comfortable enough to trust that my husband is capable of making good decisions for all of us. It is nice to go with my …
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/14 09:25 PM
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Look everyone should be taught both sides of the coin. Speak up for yourself and enforce your boundaries and also look out for the possibility others may not do the same. The harm in screwing some who doesn't want it is greater than not screwing someone who does. It's like giving advice on crossing the street and driving, yes everyone should cross at the crosswalk and wait for the light but not all pedestrians do that so be alert for jaywalkers. On the converse use the crosswalk and wait for the…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/14 08:50 PM
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Valentine's day, white day, steak and a blowjob day we celebrate it all but only because they are fun. If they get celebrated earlier or later it's no big deal. My husband and I love to surprise each other all throughout the year with shows of love and appreciate. I'm starting to think the more the better in that respect.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/14 07:39 PM
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I did not say "do not pay attention to your lover" anywhere. WTF No, you didn't say it word for word but I did say: Fair? It is completely reasonable to ask everyone to pay attention during sex. To which you replied: So everybody's sex has to be like yours otherwise they are rapists? So again I reply: Why is it too much trouble to ask people to pay attention to each other during sex? Why can't fight to minimize issues from both sides? Teach people how to enforce boundaries AND teach people how t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/14 07:28 PM
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We met hiking and wound up having a mutual acquaintance. I first noticed his laugh, and quick wit and his leadership. We got married within the year. I was 22 when we met and 23 when we married. I love so much about our life together. I love how we strive to be the best we can be for ourselves, each other and our children.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/14 06:39 PM
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A guy talking like this is likely to sound like a low value creep who is killing the mood....Here's a novel idea: teach women to say no. My reply translated: there are lots of says to get enthusiastic consent for sex/fooling around. Here is one way that shows he isn't a low value creep. Also here are a bunch of examples to check for non verbal consent or lack thereof. Pay attention during sex to your partner. So you are saying it's fair to expect men to do this every time or??? My reply translat…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/14 12:21 PM
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A woman who responds positively to "beg for it" is in an obvious state of enthusiastic consent, no need to ask. She would give a million physical signs she's really into it. Agreed unless of course there is prior understanding of desires. She would talk dirty to you without being asked. Maybe, but that's not a given. Most women who are turned on by a man who would command them like that, prefer to follow. Here is where I think we agree: ...obvious state of enthusiastic consent, no need to ask. S…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/14 11:55 AM
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Ok help me see the other side. What other goals for sex could there be besides everybody have an awesome time?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/14 04:22 AM
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Are you actually asking me to explain how to have sex while paying attention for every possible scenario/ coupling that might ever exist? Do you honestly believe paying attention during sex isn't available or desirable? Did you read the article by Stoya? Did you read my comment in which I agreed with you that we should teach people to speak up and say no? Give me an example of being incapable of paying attention during sex, or why it might be desirable to have a partner who wasn't overcome by lu…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/14 03:52 AM
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So everybody's sex has to be like yours otherwise they are rapists? That's not at all what I said, not even remotely. I don't see where you're going with this. You made a claim that was easily proven wrong, all I had to do was give an example like I did. You are the one leading this dance. You are the one ignoring questions and responses. So really why don't you tell me where we are going.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/14 03:09 AM
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Fair? It is completely reasonable to ask everyone to pay attention during sex. My comment was a reply to the idea that getting consent is a display of low value or a mood killer. I gave a concrete example of asking for consent while maintaining both dominance/value and mood.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/14 02:41 AM
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waves Hi there!
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/14 01:37 AM
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That's it exactly. You create a world together that is so valuable that a short term excitement isn't worth the trade.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/14 09:02 PM
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Clearly you have never growled in someone's ear "Tell me how much you want it. I want to hear you beg for it before I give it to you." That type of request for consent is extremely dominant and a huge turn on. Consent doesn't have to be a form you fill out. Sign here and get it notarized. Check ins don't have to be mood killers. Are her hips moving? Is she pulling you/holding onto you? Does her breathing change excitedly when you tell her what you are going to do next? On the converse, is she st…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/14 08:52 PM
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Invest in one good pair of heels in a neutral style so with good care they will last you for years. Realize that different brands and styles will fit you differently. A brand one woman swears up and down is soo comfortable might put you in heel hell. Pointy toe boxes are almost always uncomfortable. You are looking for quality, here is a good guide for spotting quality but I disagree with her styling for your body section. this article has some great company suggestions. Remember it is better to…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/14 01:20 PM
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Thank you for the ideas! I'm going to try them out right away!
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/14 01:07 AM
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Thank you for the link! :) Archery was one of my favorite classes at school, I am so sad I never kept up with it. I am going to make sure to make some time for it.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/14 10:57 PM
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I volunteer at a preschool once a week and I have for several years. All the youngest kids want to be faster, want to fly and be 'super' I'm the ____est is a common yell as they run around the yard. Everybody loves coming over to see my baby and talk about wanting to care for it. The differences I see are not in who the children see themselves as in fantasy play, but in smaller hard to quantify things. If I had to generalize I guess: Both genders will start or lead, but boys tend to lead with "s…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/14 10:28 PM
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Find a good seamstress/tailor and get clothes that fit nicely on you. Invest in the highest quality you can. Customize your clothes to fit ladies! If you don't sew, then get a tailor/seamstress. Trust me, spend the money on a few pieces you love and care for. A good fit is more important than quantity of clothes.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/14 09:37 PM
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I used to hate valentine's day for it's commercialism and it's forced feeling. Once I had kids I started to see it differently. I loved your post! I'm going to make this valentine's a day to appreciate all the love we receive, romantic and otherwise.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/14 08:25 PM
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Live more a more minimalistic life. I'm trying to really get rid of all the unnecessary stuff in our home and keep the things that add beauty and utility. I want to paint more. I have a studio that needs to be cleaned up. I want to relearn the violin. I want music in our home made by us. I love string instruments, a violin is small and portable. I want to ask better questions. There was a blog post on momestary about asking better questions to your loved ones as a way to connect. I realize how o…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/14 05:34 PM
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I have never swatched once and I'm an advanced knitter who does all fair isle, aran, and charted lace. So envious. I'm not on ravelry, thanks for the tip. I'll check it out.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/14 02:47 AM
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I have no obligation to strangers who make bad decisions. The children themselves aren't the ones making decisions. Women don't have a right to birth control. I was referring to the legal status in such cases as Griswold v. Connecticut and Eisenstadt v. Baird
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/14 02:45 AM
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I just have two spoiled enormous black moor goldfish who I managed to turn gold. One is the child of the other. I accidentally made fish babies by changing the water too often a few years back. I love knitting but I'm awful at actual making a swatch so I wind up having to wet block everything. I mean you would think I would have learned my lesson eventually, but I just get so excited and want to start a new project right away. That satisfying click.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/14 02:32 AM
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Who lives in your fish tank?
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/14 02:10 AM
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I became a bit of a gym rat, building my own bicycles, knitting, appliqué, welding, thrifting, pretty much everything diy. I just built a lofted bunk bed for the girls' room, I'm so proud of. I am sewing them some silk pillow cases from some very 80's blouses I found thrifting. Wildfood foraging and basic survival skills have been new hobbies I've picked up recently. Who makes a wicked birch bark basket? I do! Who can make a figure four trap and a bow drill? Not me easily but I'm getting there!
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/14 01:44 AM
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Yes. If people knew there wasn't a safety net they might think twice before having children and making consistently poor lifestyle decisions. Tax payers shouldn't be burdened because you couldn't afford your own kid. But then shouldn't you also be backing pro sex education, access to birth control and abortions? Be patient with me, I have never had anyone tell me they were ok with children starving before, and I am trying to understand your reasoning. You'll have to explain the relevance. I was …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/14 01:21 AM
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I can understand having rules and wanting to discuss something specific without derailing your subreddit. I've been a mod in a forum before. Thank you for welcoming me.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/14 12:53 AM
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I still identify as a feminist. I pm'd a mod before posting in here since I have happily chosen a traditional marriage setup and this subreddit has been suggested to me in the past. The mod said I was welcome as long as I followed the rules of the subreddit, and I hope I'm not breaking the rules by answering this question directly.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/14 12:14 AM
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Sure, just turn around and pay for the person behind you, maybe you'll get a chain reaction going. I love it when that happens. Cafe sopresso for everybody!
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 11:50 PM
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I just don't think people are logic driven creatures. I think we like logic, we can apply logic, but I think living logically requires much more effort and restraint than can be expected. Instincts aren't bad either and not all problems can be solved with logic. So when making an argument with the intent to change minds or educate either audience or opponent you have to acknowledge ethos and pathos. Edit: a good example is the juried justice system. We would love it if juries could just look at …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/14 06:14 PM
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You are ok with children starving? (Getting rid of welfare/child support) With women dying because their pregnancies kill them (hellp syndrome)? (Getting rid of feminism backed legislature) It is such a different set of values than I am used to.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/14 06:01 PM
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I didn't read that from the OP. Why would you think you can't respect a submissive?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/14 03:43 PM
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Here's my issue with this thinking. You are thinking as the money as a stability guarantee. The stable man will already have "making enough" to care for his family as a priority. A man who makes a lot doesn't equal a man who will use that money wisely, or be in a position to make the mortgage payments, or even want you to not have a career as well. If you focus on a man with a good work ethic and similar values that include raising a family in a safe environment, you will get the stability you a…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 01:54 PM
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I think that many people seem to go to ridiculous insults like neckbeard/legbeard as shorthand. I think words have a lot of influence over the type of culture we foster, so really the snark should be held back when trying to engage people you disagree with. Also insults like "virgin" as if that proves TRP wrong just winds up backfiring if the person isn't a virgin/incel. Seem like poor debate strategy to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/14 01:37 PM
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Overnight I was thinking about your situation, and the first month of my relationship with my husband. You want to look for ways to support what he is currently doing in the way you are planning to if you were married. You want to anticipate his needs and provide for them, showing your good sense and caring heart. With my husband I would bring him a coffee when I knew he was working hard and couldn't get away. You want to show your best qualities in a realistic manner though. Don't play up your …
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 01:23 PM
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I'm not saying he was lying about being interested or that he is without a doubt still hooking up with other women. Only you and he can know that. You have some positive and negative evidence for a shot at exclusivity. You and he seem to be comfortable and content with each other. You both stated you were looking for more than a hookup. However you haven't explicitly defined the relationship and he still hasn't gotten off of Tinder. Talk to him and decipher his answers. You need to know where yo…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 03:58 AM
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i want to make the most of it and give it my best shot first before i leave. and perhaps help him make up his mind so he does want to invest in an exclusive relationship with me Fair enough. Just be careful, if you play the role of wifey he may just use you as his main while he continues to hook up elsewhere. Another poster made a good suggestion about communicating the need for exclusivity. I'm sorry to say though if he isn't the one suggesting exclusivity, he's probably just not as in to you a…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 02:56 AM
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Thank you for being so patient with me! I really appreciated the insight into a different way of being.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/14 02:12 AM
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Would you like to have children someday? Do you think you will ever seek out another asexual for some kind of partnership? Like have a house together sort of thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/14 01:56 AM
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Yes good marriage material is subjective. I think you need similar values for a good marriage. I think intelligent women can be "gamed" but only in the beginning of a relationship. No one can keep up a false sense of self, no matter how good the acting job. So the marriage won't work.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/14 01:52 AM
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Platonic love, can you define that for me? Like a BFF?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/14 01:39 AM
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You actually believe a "unicorn" by your definition is going to marry a guy with a track record of inability to commit who is twice her age? Not unless there is some serious drought in men. Sorry but she will marry a man who is younger(edit: younger than. 20 year age gap) and doesn't have "huge fidelity risk" tattooed to his forehead.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/14 01:31 AM
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Yeah, if a happy healthy marriage with a sexy young woman is a goal, it's kinda silly to think she isn't going to choose a man in her age bracket as opposed to a perpetually single 40+ man.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/14 01:24 AM
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Aromantic too? I hope I'm not being insulting by being intrigued, your sexual and romantic identities are so different than mine, I am just so curious. You don't fall in love? Feel free to tell me to shove off.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/14 01:19 AM
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Do you identify as asexual?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/14 10:29 PM
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While older men might be attractive, there are very few "unicorns" that are going to want a family with a man who is older. Especially one that has had a high number of sexual partners and no committed relationships. A 40 year old perma bachelor is not a catch for a woman in her early 20s. Unicorn in this particular discussion is a substantially attractive submissive woman, who has a main life goal of marriage and children before she turns 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/14 10:06 PM
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You mentioned that you talked about wanting a relationship. Did he actually say you two were exclusive? Because is he didn't, I see a problem here. You used a app you acknowledge is used for non committal hookups but you are looking for a traditional exclusive relationship. You can't game a dominant man into commitment. You can do relationship and personal upkeep once HE has decided he is interested in investing in an exclusive relationship. I just don't see how you are actually on a trajectory …
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/14 09:24 PM
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I've explained it to my husband as if I feel something is a problem enough to share with somebody else, I feel kind of dumb/overly sensitive for having the problem if he can just suggest a solution immediately. I want him to empathize a little first, or I just want to try to figure it out for myself and I'm using him as a sounding board. Sometimes even sharing a problem out loud makes you realize what a little problem it is. I don't force him to guess what I'm looking for though. He's got a lot …
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/14 09:10 PM
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I feel like this could be rewritten from the perspective of those you disagree with so vehemently. What happened to the social contract to make feminism so appealing? Why would revolution and the chaos that comes with it, be worth it? Feminism didn't occur out of nowhere anymore than any rights struggle has. Why did those in power fail in their duties to protect their charges?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/14 05:50 PM
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Bad experiences are more likely to be committed to memory than good ones. And people who feel insecure about their place can be pretty vicious trying to keep whatever the currently have. There are a lot of people who aren't getting their needs met in this world. We all want a reason why this is. If we knew why, we could fix things, or so we all seem to believe. We want a just world. All of us just want to know what the reality of the rules are in this world so we can play by them. Most of us are…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/14 05:43 PM
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Yes far too many that's why I'm a feminist "Every baby a wanted baby"
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/14 07:03 AM
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Generally this behavior comes from the more attractive chicks This I agree with, but it comes from a place of poor self esteem and desire for validation. Women who are confident in themselves don't need to line another man up before a break up. I never had trouble finding guys who wanted to date me, why would I have to develop a safety net? It's the woman who is unsure of her worth who needs the back up plan. I don't know any women like this anymore. That was nonsense I saw committed by young gi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/14 06:42 AM
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Wow, those girls seem like they have pretty low self esteem to be behaving in that way. And this is something you encounter regularly? Are we talking high school/undergrad age? This is just so alien to me. You have officially made me feel old, because no one I spend time with acts like that. Soon I'll be shaking my cane and yelling at small children passing by.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/14 04:52 AM
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Can I make a suggestion? Do NOT have kids out of obligation. It seems like you are starting to understand that being child free is an option. I have children. I love children. If my husband said "let's have more" I would immediately. I have always wanted children. Raising children is fucking difficult! It is a strain on every aspect of your life. No joke. Resources, privacy, ease of a sex life, the stability of your relationship; There is no aspect of your life that doesn't undergo a serious ree…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/14 04:31 AM
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What do you think Feminism is if you believe the definition of "gender equality based on the idea that women are people too" is deliberately misleading? I get the feeling this sort of tangent could lead to a shitstorm, but I'm willing to risk it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/14 03:44 AM
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My argument was that there is a lot of time that would have to go by between starting to slip into bad habits and loosing enough attraction to get to the point of cheating or dumping. During this time, the part where I'm less attracted but not unhappy, I would say "hey, what is going on here? Our relationship is suffering right now. Let's get back on track" I trust my husband would do the same, because good communication is a large part of our marriage. That and we have actually done that for ea…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/14 03:00 AM
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I have read it. Even within the post he repeats "sexual strategy is amoral" Please don't read this as snark, but are you conflating immoral and amoral? They mean different things and are not interchangeable. I enjoy exercises in looking at strategies for anything amorally. Particularly because you can often see why certain paths are considered immoral, since even amorally the risk far outweighs the possible reward. This is the take away I got from that post, not hyperbole. I draw different concl…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/14 02:39 AM
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Instant mashed potatoes?! Oh dear, someone grab my fan! I do believe I have a case of the vapors! But seriously, I hope you are feeling better.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/14 02:25 AM
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It's fun to do once, but it was so not worth the effort aside from novelty. I was so excited when I found out we had sugar maples on the property. Sap collection is easy, but the boiling down for such a little jar? I'll stick to picking it up at the market.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/14 11:23 PM
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The idea is though, that you have to constantly be on point. You have to constantly treat her like you're dating and show your best side. Because if you do start slipping, and you're no longer the man she wants you to be, and another man does come along that does fill her expectations, then yes, it makes sense she'll jump ship. I don't blame her. Why stick around in a shitty relationship? If you are in a relationship long enough slipping out of our ideal forms will happen eventually, it's inevit…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/14 11:15 PM
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Ooh I have never tried! I will be harassing my Québécoise sister in law to pick up some next time they are there.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/14 10:46 PM
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I had a life goal of having my kids before 30 and it has worked out very well for me. We married young, had a few years of just us, then the kids. I say if you know without a doubt you want kids, have them earlier, or at start trying earlier. You never know what life will throw at you. I had a good friend who found out she was pregnant when I was 5 months along with my first. She found out too late the pregnancy was ectopic and she lost both the baby and her Fallopian tube. After trying all sort…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/14 10:34 PM
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Extended family is such a good reason to have children earlier. Raising kids with active grandparents is such a great thing. I had a very special relationship with my grandmother and that is something I am lucky enough to give to my children. So many people are raising kids without a community. Schools segregate by age, children rarely get to interact with other generations. Extended family is a built-in community, we would be foolish not to appreciate it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/14 10:26 PM
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I was with you on the pancakes until you said cheap syrup. That is blasphemy. Do you have a minute to talk about our lord and savior pure Vermont syrup? Could I interest you in some maple butter?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/14 09:14 PM
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Oh, just wanted to add I sent a message to a mod in RPW since I am looking for a place to discuss marriage children and homekeeping. She said anyone was welcome there as long as they follow the posting rules. So I will see how that works for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/14 07:18 PM
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No naughty pictures! Ever! Phones get lost, emails can be hacked, screenshots can be taken. No naughty pictures! You do not have control over what happens, not matter how "responsible" you and your partner are. I also wish I had learned about CBT earlier. And since I was married in my early twenties, take a photo of your wedding even if it is at city hall. It's fun to look back on how you both looked, also the children will want to see the pictures. My kids are fascinated that there was a life w…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/14 06:49 PM
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I just can't tell anymore since lurking about the internet. I could believe I am lucky and that the stats don't match my experience. I really feel sorry for people who cannot find love or trust like I have.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/14 05:29 PM
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Yes! And in a LTR/ marriage tingles come and go. You will eventually have a time where sex or lust cannot be the priority. What happens then? The commitment is "for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, to love and to cherish/ honor and obey, till death us do part" Financially difficult times, sickness, bad times, frailty of old age-these happen! This is when a relationship built solely on lust is going to fall apart. Love is what keeps you…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/14 05:03 PM
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Here's my idea: in terms of getting women to find you attractive, a narcissist will get more than a "nice guyTM" since you are getting more people, you will able to be more choosy about who you sleep with. Clearly at this stage your interest in a sex and visuals, so your selection can easily avoid dealing with the issues of personality and longevity. There are lots of things I agree with in TRP(hence the purple flair) but I think it takes, normal solid advice like "don't let yourself get abused"…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/14 01:25 PM
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I find the first stifling to discussion and the search for truth. You appear to have clearly chosen the first, but present your position as if you supported both. I don't think it's an either or situation at all. If you don't do both you are going to have a difficult time. I chose the first because I am an empathic person. I actively choose the second because I am a sensitive person and it's easy to have a gut reaction that distorts reality. So I have a gut reaction of being offended, I stop and…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/14 12:48 AM
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I guess I kind of go by the belief that we have both a moral duty to try not to be offensive and to do our best to not be offended. I also feel it is the duty of the strong to protect the weak, and a personal duty to try to be the strongest we can be. I agree with the perception regarding equal snark, which is why I think snark should be avoided, and moderated out of an argument. I never said the meek are attacked. I agree that it's usually just the big dogs barking back and forth in these poop …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/14 10:47 PM
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Clearly I disagree that what has been described here is too much moderation. Could you elaborate on your ideas of non banning? I am pretty submissive and sensitive, I'd be eaten alive in a sub that was ok with poop slinging. I would just stop participating. How does a non-banning sub foster discussion that includes the thoughts of the meek or those that have no interest in dealing with a culture of personal attacks and purposeful word twisting? ( I'm not asking rhetorically) Edit: Took out the g…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/14 09:33 PM
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Responding to trolling attempts gives the mods more work, using the report or pming the mods and not engaging makes their job of encouraging rational discourse easier. Most moderators in debate subs have to ban people. Having a place where people aren't just slinging poop at each other requires it. It seems like in this case, one user was a lightning rod for poop. The mods wanted that user to message or report it instead of slinging back poop in kind. The mods are saying less poop flinging is be…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/14 07:22 PM
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I don't want to speak for ShadyIntent, as she can make her own arguments. If a man was actually sexually successful from a evolutionary standpoint, wouldn't he have multiple children spread amongst multiple women? Most women would not want such a man for LTRs. Only the most fringe of women in most societies would think of marrying such a man."I want a man who has 3 kids by 3 gorgeous amazing high value women" is just as absurd as "I want a woman who has 3 kids by three amazing high value men" Ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/14 12:31 PM
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Frequency of sexual encounters is a perfectly rational measure of sexual success. I wasn't saying otherwise. I was saying the researchers themselves stated the limitations of the study and suggested the need for future studies that did look for other factors, like you are supposed to in a research paper. I personally would find the suggested follow up research more applicable to suggestions for modern dating, since very few people actually want to just spread their genetic material. So I am exci…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/14 03:56 AM
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Oh my Loki!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/14 03:17 AM
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I guess there were a few parts to my post. One, that the bishounen manga is readily available in chain stores in the us. Two, that pretty boy phenomenon is a multi cultural thing. I don't think feminine and submissive are the same. I personally think that dominant pretty boys are probably the most popular. Also just in case it wasn't clear, I just jumped in and answered for u/symmakhia. I am interested in the tangential study, but it does say that they are defining success by number of partners,…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/14 02:56 AM
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You can definitely find bishounen in Kinokuniya in Rockefeller center. It's all over the Barnes and nobles. "Flower boys" "bishounen" "metro sexual" it's definitely a common preference. one of the first articles I've found
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/14 01:38 AM
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I had a reply all typed out and I lost it. I'm sorry that I don't have time to as much thought into this one. While I'm happy that there are people who read TRP who do not devalue me as a person, I have read several posts over time that really express the view I mentioned. As far as I can recall the divorce rate is lowering as less and less people feel the need to marry. I'm fine with people who do not want a lifetime commitment, but to do so out of fear? That seems like cutting your nose off to…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/14 12:21 AM
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Yeah, I think at the time everything was swinging like a pendulum. There was a time rejecting forced housewife status meant rejecting the value of being a caregiver. I was emphasizing your point, or was trying to. I also wanted to open up the possibility that the other poster came from an older generation of feminist thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/14 09:37 PM
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I can't speak for tubefox, but I know the backlash did exist. My own mother suffered from the la leche league telling her she couldn't work and breast feed. Now the book they put out has been updated. I consider myself a feminist. I'm a housewife, a generally submissive person, and I like having a more dominant husband. Have i received backlash from feminists for that? Sure, but just from random stranger internet feminists. The women in real life who have given me shit for being a housewife who …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/14 09:24 PM
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Check out /r/redpillwomen you may have more in common with them than you think. I don't think I'd be welcome there at all. They think feminism is bad. TRP thinks I have no value aside from my vagina, that I am incapable of honor, that I would leave my husband or cheat on him because I am a hypergamous slut. TRP thinks I get a "pussy pass" because I am an attractive woman. I can't speak for RPW but if they are women who agree with TRP, I don't think I would fit in there at all. I'd love to find a…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/14 09:07 PM
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Hi, I'm not sure if I should answer this since I don't identify as blue pill. I definitely don't identify as redpill either. In fact the redpill stuff I read comes from thebluepill. I absolutely love a confident, dominant, leader. I have been married for 10 years to an amazing man. What first attracted me to him was his magnanimous spirit, his generosity, his quick wit when dealing with someone who was being a domineering jerk in a group. He was confident in himself and his own value as a human …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/14 07:46 PM
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