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| 260 | It’s not funny | CULTURAL MISOGYNY | Quirky_Confusion_235 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 06:15 PM |
| 189 | Unhinged stalker believes I’m someone else or her friend. Threatens to keep calling me until I give him her number. Creates new numbers each time I block. | MALE DEPRAVITY | Quirky_Confusion_235 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 06:29 PM |
| 129 | How does FDS feel about women in the military? | Quirky_Confusion_235 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 03:24 PM | |
| 72 | Saved my Best Friend with FDS | FDS SUCCESS! | Quirky_Confusion_235 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Temporarily living with bf. What should I vet for/how should I vet?? | DISCUSSION | Quirky_Confusion_235 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 04:47 AM |
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| 5 | Abortion starting to be banned in many states. No exceptions.Definitely compelling but also very triggering for me at least. I’ve also heard a few people say they wish society was like Gilead which makes me sick. 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/22 04:53 PM |
| 57 | Abortion starting to be banned in many states. No exceptions.I had to give up on watching this show because I realized the society it depicted isn’t too far off from where we seem to be headed. It’s chilling to think about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/22 02:19 AM |
| 10 | How are you leveling up?New job, new city, new apartment. Started attending some dog training classes to help me strengthen my bond with my pup and soon I’ll be starting a language class so I can make friends in the area and keep learning. Sometimes I feel like I’m so far behind, but I have to remind myself that even tho I’m starting over I’ve made so much progress. Just need to focus more on my mental and physical health this year. I’m better than where I used to be, but I know I’d be happier if I made myself more of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 11:38 PM |
| 11 | How are you leveling up?You can do it!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 11:36 PM |
| 43 | Scrote keeps on contacting me.It’s still illegal even if he was underage as well at the time. continue to block and delete. I’m so sorry you went through this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 10:54 PM |
| 313 | Reminder to also vet your female roommates!This is very true. I’ve definitely experienced sketchy house guests. It’s perfectly reasonable not to want strangers in your home, but unfortunately this is a difficult rule to enforce if it isn’t explicitly written into the lease. OP, I suggest getting a lock for your bedroom door and securing all your valuables before this stranger comes over if you can. Is any furniture in the living area yours? I’d move that as well. It may seem “petty” to your roommate, but you honestly never know what peop… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 10:41 PM |
| 60 | Makeup Give UpI have a love/hate relationship with makeup. On one hand, it’s so much fun! But on the other hand, I hate how it feels on my skin. It tends to block my pores too and cause breakouts which I don’t like. I only wear it when I want to, which is maybe once or twice a week at most. And I’ve definitely gone multiple weeks without it too. As an adult, I get a few comments here and there but not often. My work is very diverse with many women opting to not wear makeup while others do. People are so used … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 06:23 PM |
| 90 | Pickme’s thrive off of The Bachelor (referring to the bottom tweet)If she had come forward with her concerns before the Fantasy suites, she would’ve been accused of giving him an unfair ultimatum. The way I see it, all she did was wait and see if he would act in a way that aligned with her values. He didn’t. He also claimed he loved the other 2 women and slept with them. Planning to do the same with her. But he loved her the most. How can she even believe that?? Actions speak louder than words. That would make a lot of people uncomfortable, even if it is a dati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 10:23 PM |
| 3 | Met a creep and now motivated to not repeat. How do you motivate yourself to glow up when you've had nothing but bad experiences with men?We all deserve to have self-love and respect from others no matter our physical appearance. That being said, there is nothing wrong with wanting to be physically in a healthier place. But don’t beat yourself up over where you are now. Bodies change and grow over time, and this is normal. It’s also normal to want to take care of your body as best you can. We only have one after all. Sometimes self-love means going to the gym instead of eating an extra slice of pizza. It means taking charge of you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 03:05 AM |
| 190 | How do I avoid men coming up to me?I would not tell them you are 17 as this will make you even more of a target for certain especially creepy pervs. I often say I am waiting for someone (dad, friends, boyfriend etc.) or I act as though I do not hear them and walk away. If I feel like I must acknowledge someone I say “no thanks I’m not interested.” Note: where I am from people (especially women) are expected to be extremely polite, and even tho I hate extending pleasantries of any kind to a stranger who makes me uncomfortable, I d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 11:29 PM |
| 104 | 21yo woman and her 30yo 🚩 homeless boyfriend 🚩 has moved in to her home 🚩within 2 months 🚩My jaw fell to the floor when she said her mom encouraged her to go for it. It could be the mother is thinking if she freaks out/says it’s a bad idea then she’ll push her daughter into moving forward with this decision. I know when I was young my mom was against me living with a significant other, but I thought I knew better and rebelled against her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 07:16 PM |
| 7 | Unhinged stalker believes I’m someone else or her friend. Threatens to keep calling me until I give him her number. Creates new numbers each time I block.Thank you for the idea! For now I am silencing all unknown calls and just ignoring him in the hopes he’ll just give up. But I’m still going to the authorities to at least make a report. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 01:22 AM |
| 7 | Unhinged stalker believes I’m someone else or her friend. Threatens to keep calling me until I give him her number. Creates new numbers each time I block.This started today | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 11:18 PM |
| 12 | Unhinged stalker believes I’m someone else or her friend. Threatens to keep calling me until I give him her number. Creates new numbers each time I block.How can you tell if you’ve been SIM swapped? I have never heard of this before | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 11:03 PM |
| 32 | Unhinged stalker believes I’m someone else or her friend. Threatens to keep calling me until I give him her number. Creates new numbers each time I block.I know. I will try to take it to the authorities but I don’t know the woman’s full name or know if I have his real number since he seems to be using fakes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 06:41 PM |
| 30 | Unhinged stalker believes I’m someone else or her friend. Threatens to keep calling me until I give him her number. Creates new numbers each time I block.I have blocked every number but he must be spoofing because he’s called from over 10 different numbers | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 06:40 PM |
| 128 | Unhinged stalker believes I’m someone else or her friend. Threatens to keep calling me until I give him her number. Creates new numbers each time I block.Thank you! I’m wary of posting in other subs for advice because I’ve heard many are not female only and will defend men like this. I will see if a threat works. For now, I am just blocking all the numbers. It’s so sad the poor woman he’s trying to harass had to change her number and call the cops on him. And he’s so bent on getting his way he’ll threaten anyone who he thinks might know her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 06:39 PM |
| 96 | Unhinged stalker believes I’m someone else or her friend. Threatens to keep calling me until I give him her number. Creates new numbers each time I block.Has anyone dealt with something like this or similar? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 06:30 PM |
| 553 | Scrote insults his girlfriend to his friends, then takes joy in telling her about itI’m genetically always going to have a double chin unless I get surgery. If anyone ever tries to make me feel bad about it or make fun of me, I’m gone. Babe, I’m trying to explain to my friends how your penis is next level thin and small. Got a pic?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 04:12 PM |
| 55 | When Talk Show Hosts Make Celebrities Uncomfortable (how gross. it's of course mostly women)I definitely think watching behavior like this somewhat normalized it in my brain for a while. Like I thought men just naturally do weird things to women and we have to laugh, smile and be as accommodating as possible. Otherwise we can’t take a joke or are too prudish. I feel so bad for these women tho. They had to put up with so much to have their careers. And I shudder thinking about how those disgusting hosts must treat other women in their private lives with no cameras rolling…terrifying… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 03:40 PM |
| 37 | The FDS Handbook in PDF FormThank you so much for sharing this link! And thank you Moira for your hard work here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 10:07 PM |
| 164 | Men's ability to make everything about themselves is astounding but also the fact that the same features celebrated on men are shamed on women. Men were telling her she SHOULD get a nose job but saying her hypothetical son is a God. 😐She is beautiful and these idiots are just jealous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 05:47 AM |
| 6 | Keep it real out thereI remember being 14 and a freshman in high school. A junior boy was interested in me. He had been held back I think because he was 17 soon turning 18. I remember being so flattered and all the girls in my class being a mixture of jealous/excited for me because I had an older boy’s attention very early into the start of the school year. We texted, and he would meet me outside of my classes to escort me to the next one. Cute but in hindsight creepy as he was likely trying to control my free time s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 01:02 AM |
| 154 | Dating Strategies for Asian WomenAs a non-Asian woman who lived in Asia for a couple of years and loves learning about other languages and cultures, there is a difference between people who are looking to expand their worldview and people who simply idealize/fetishize another ethnicity or race. All men have the potential to be depraved regardless of their background. I witnessed pretty disgusting behavior from both white and Asian men while living abroad. Most expatriate white men I encountered were blatantly looking for an Asi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 03:52 AM |
| 108 | This holiday season I urge you to take trip down the girls toy aisle.I volunteered at a toy drive for underprivileged families and the way volunteers were instructed to shop for kids was based on their biological sex + age. Almost all the girl toys for 9-11 year olds involved makeup, jewelry, fashion, etc. Now, there is absolutely nothing wrong with any of those things. But to assume that only girls would be interested in such toys and not provide them with other options is awful. Also, the makeup kit packaging showed much older women wearing little to no clothin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 06:13 PM |
| 6 | Don’t Panic, Have a PlanDefinitely stock up, but plan B is not meant to be used as regular birth control. It can really mess with your hormones and cycle. It’s also potentially less effective for people with higher BMIs. (More research needs to be done here) Plan B supposedly is less effective in a single dose for people weighing about 165 or more pounds. Prescription Ella can possibly prevent pregnancies more effectively if your BMI is above 25. But there are still limitations. The copper IUD can also be placed as eme… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 07:24 PM |
| 9 | “The sex lives of college girls” a new disgusting HBO specialSad thing is I know several young women who briefly participated in this college hookup lifestyle quite recently (just before covid). Some were pressured into it by their peers/environment, others genuinely just wanted to go wild and have fun. I’m certain many did it to escape from past trauma. The justification for it was they were horny but not ready for a relationship. It didn’t help that most of the men on campus were also repulsed by the idea of a relationship. Because god forbid you only d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 03:23 PM |
| 9 | You can’t be better than me - even on your lunch break!Just jealous of her success. Why couldn’t he pause something? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 12:18 AM |
| 14 | What is your sexuality?Pansexual! Out and proud. But I don’t go out of my way to tell people anymore or make it super obvious. I’m tired of having people either argue with me or fetishize me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 10:25 PM |
| 15 | Have you recently met any man who was actually willing to wait to have sex with you under YOUR TERMS?Oh I can relate. The first time I blocked someone I felt so guilty and conflicted. The weird non confrontational programming women get growing up is insane and makes it very hard to assert firm boundaries. But I’m proud your friend was able to block! Hope we see her here soon :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 02:02 AM |
| 32 | Have you recently met any man who was actually willing to wait to have sex with you under YOUR TERMS?Ew this is awful!! And also wild. But what a sick loser. I hope you and your friend can bond over this and lean on each other for support during this time. The worst thing you could let him do is triangulate you against each other. It seems like you’re done. I’m hoping your friend is done with him as well. Especially if he treated her so poorly. This should be her wake up call. Bring her to FDS!! He doesn’t deserve either of you or the gf. And hopefully she wakes up and leaves his nasty ass too.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 01:36 AM |
| 43 | Have you recently met any man who was actually willing to wait to have sex with you under YOUR TERMS?This is awful!!! So glad you blocked him. How did you find out?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 12:23 AM |
| 13 | Sex work is not a "pure" service job like being a barista or a maid, it is undergirded by the commodification of the female body. Women are viewed and treated like goods.Gosh the women who are desperate are already so much more vulnerable in general. I hate that these brothels think it’s ok to proposition women in uncertain circumstances. As if they need to add more trauma and danger on top of everything they already deal with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 03:05 AM |
| 38 | A man disclosing his mental health/therapy habits early on is an absolute red flag*she was a female prisoner to his anger This articulates exactly why I decided not to go into the mental health field as a counselor. But I hope he has moved on and is bothering someone else now so she can have her peace. That sounds awful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 08:17 PM |
| 50 | A man disclosing his mental health/therapy habits early on is an absolute red flagExactly! And I have encountered plenty of men who used this and some other similar tactics to look woke and self-aware, but they were definitely manipulative and serving their own self-interest. Like you said, they’ll use therapy as a get out of jail free card. *My therapist helped me realize I’m poly and suggested we slowly open the relationship so we can both have our needs met. (I’m already on tinder but I only swipe in therapy) *My therapist says I just need a partner who is patient and unde… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 08:14 PM |
| 133 | Sex work is not a "pure" service job like being a barista or a maid, it is undergirded by the commodification of the female body. Women are viewed and treated like goods.And when a woman loses her job, will the government expect her to sell her body before giving her financial assistance?? So many issues with this “industry” as a whole. I worry we are on the way to this dark reality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 07:53 PM |
| 196 | A man disclosing his mental health/therapy habits early on is an absolute red flagAgreed. I also now exercise more discernment when sharing information about my mental health with others. While I do not believe there is any shame in having a mental illness, I like to be more acquainted with someone before I divulge my private medical history. There are other ways to reduce the stigma and promote awareness that do not involve giving personal details. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 07:46 PM |
| 7 | What's with all these shows glorifying casual sex as "empowering"?Exactly! This lifestyle is so glamorized because men benefit from having easier access to our bodies. Alcohol and drugs lower inhibitions, and the media is reinforcing that hookups are normal and shouldn’t be given a second thought. Women don’t pay to get in places because we are seen as “products” men will pay just to be around. And I’m sure a lot of sick dudes think the fee to get into the club merits their creepy behavior and advances toward women just trying to have a girls night. If this is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 07:39 PM |
| 37 | What's with all these shows glorifying casual sex as "empowering"?Without watching the show, I can only give my limited opinion. On one hand, I appreciate when TV shows and movies portray unmarried, sexually active women as confident and successful because, for far too long, women were expected to be pure and virginal before marriage. And even if that’s some people’s personal desire, it’s wrong to shame women who don’t conform to that standard. This type of content helps reinforce that it’s perfectly normal for young women to explore their sexuality. And inclu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 04:47 AM |
| 6 | Love is never enough!I am so sorry this happened to you!! I hope his pathetic attempt to take your children was unsuccessful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 09:19 PM |
| 6 | Boundaries with male friends and pickmes not having anyOh gosh that’s even worse. Why would you entertain being someone’s plan b,c,d etc. especially when they show they don’t respect the person they are dating??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 09:17 PM |
| 168 | Love is never enough!Agree with most of this list minus the childhood trauma. I think it’s completely up to you if you feel safe disclosing this info, but I’d wait a long long time at the very least. Or only reveal the gist of things without going into extreme detail. That’s what therapists are for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 03:38 AM |
| 38 | Boundaries with male friends and pickmes not having anyAgreed. Also the fact they aren’t very close makes me think he sees her as a backup option rather than a true, platonic friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 01:54 AM |
| 69 | I don’t know what to do.Take him to court if you can! Gather evidence. Then block and delete. Don’t let him gaslight you into thinking a dirty toilet gave you chlamydia when he’s so obviously at fault. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 01:48 AM |
| 55 | Frmr tradcon. Rised, rebelled, now what?Wow I am so incredibly proud of how much you’ve overcome in this harrowing situation. I cannot imagine how difficult this must all be. But you are doing amazing and good things are coming! Before you worry about dating HVM, I would first formalize your separation in a divorce and try to get court mandated child support/alimony. There are three primary reasons for this. He’s paying for the bills now, but he could stop at any point by simply fleeing the state. You may not be on the hook for his de… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 12:39 AM |
| 1 | Scrote harasses a 21 year old girl and people in the comments are blaming HER for not “shutting him down”…Sad but true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 01:10 AM |
| 1 | Men cannot be trusted with an idea like polyamory and its popularity shows how naive and desperate women have becomeWhen my ex told me they wanted to be poly and date our roommate and 2 of my best friends, I should have broken things off then and there. A few people might genuinely be into dating each other and make it work somehow, but so so many other times it’s men wanting to have their own harem. Not for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 11:52 PM |
| 3 | The Guide to Being Approved (ie, Getting a Flair)Thank you mods!! I’m glad this space is so safe and secure. This is not an alt account but I do not post anything identifying on Reddit. I do engage on a few other subs tho, so I may make an Alt for those and stick to FDS on here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 11:08 PM |
| 23 | How does FDS feel about women in the military?I think that alone is enough to keep me out actually. I’d probably forget the rules and get in serious trouble. That’s so frustrating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 07:29 PM |
| 35 | How does FDS feel about women in the military?I do have a degree, so if I did this I’d definitely prefer to go the officer route. Also still can’t believe we have a space force haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 06:31 PM |
| 32 | How does FDS feel about women in the military?I’m glad your experience wasn’t as bad as others but I hate to hear about how your battle buddies were treated. The lack of personal freedom also terrifies me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 06:30 PM |
| 28 | How does FDS feel about women in the military?Thank you for sharing! I’ve heard similar things as well despite seeing more women enlisting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 03:49 PM |
| 44 | Bi & wlw gals, how have your experiences compared in hetero dating versus wlw?Thank you for sharing this. LVW absolutely exist. I’ve seen a lot of straight women wistfully sigh after a bad break up saying they wish they could be bi or lesbians as if that would solve all their dating problems. While I’ve had more experiences with problematic men than women, I’ve still encountered quite a few women who exhibited tons of red flags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 11:24 PM |
| 71 | First dates, vetting tips, precautions, safety.It’s good to show interest in getting to know someone, but if your date is asking you 100 questions without revealing much about themself, they are fishing for ammunition to use against you later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 02:50 AM |
| 37 | This really backs up the study on a majority of men leaving/cheating on their terminally ill wives. 🙄This opened up a ton of emotions for me. My parents divorced when I was very young, and my mom died when I was a teen. I reconnected with my dad, but every now and then he would make awful comments about my dead mother. It made me furious. I feel so sorry her dad tried to spin it around on her and make her look like the asshole when he publicly said such awful things. And sorry but she WAS his mistress. If that term offends you, maybe wait for the divorce to be finalized before you stick your di… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 01:57 AM |
| 65 | This meme is insulting to sharksAre these nurse sharks? Because IRL these little cuties are amazing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 01:36 AM |
| 12 | PickMe here, left another idiot. Was I right?I’m friends with an ex who was a childhood friend. We dated in hs very briefly then went back to being best friends. This is the only ex still in my life, and I wouldn’t entertain someone who could not respect that. OP was very clear from the beginning about her situation and just asked to be informed. I think this is reasonable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 05:10 PM |
| 7 | Vetting Using Pandemic RhetoricOf course! I have faith things will get better. My area which has a large anti-mask/vax population is seeing increased rates of people following public health procedures. Our local news has done a great job recently encouraging people to take all precautions they can. I’ve seen people with MAGA hats and confederate flags lining up for their shot. People I know of who were anti vax for a while are now getting their first doses. It’s a relief, and I hope more people start to open their eyes and se… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 02:21 AM |
| 14 | Cringeworthy :/It took me a minute to find too 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 02:17 AM |
| 12 | Vetting Using Pandemic RhetoricWow I’m so sorry you and many others are experiencing so much animosity for trying to help people during a global pandemic. I’ve been lucky that almost everyone close to me is very pro-vaccine and wears masks. I have no issues spending time in small groups with fully vaccinated people. In any sort of public space where I don’t know who is vaccinated and who isn’t, I wear my mask and social distance. But now that Delta is pretty bad in my area, I’m reluctant to gather in crowds larger than 6-8 pe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 01:57 AM |
| 9 | Beware the hobosexual and other bumsAdded to my watch list | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 11:26 PM |
| 26 | I am not even surprised anymore 😒Ewwww this is so gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 11:22 PM |
| 3 | It’s not funnyThank you! Yes, documenting things at work is a very good idea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 09:48 PM |
| 6 | It’s not funnyWow this makes me so sad for you and your mom. I hope she is able to remove herself from this situation someday. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 09:13 PM |
| 20 | It’s not funnyI definitely don’t give a shit about the reactions of random men or acquaintances. But it’s a lot harder to walk away when it’s someone in my family or a coworker I have to be around a lot etc. I need to just get better at not letting it affect me because you’re right, they do just want to get some kind of reaction out of me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 08:01 PM |
| 11 | It’s not funnyThank you all for your replies. I think for me, grey rocking will probably be best the solution. When I try to educate a man on why those type of jokes aren’t funny and are actually harmful, I’m laughed at and called too sensitive. Where’s my sense of humor?? I have a great sense of humor, and I don’t need to hurt others to be funny. Alas, I am not the type of person who can fake not getting the joke and asking a man to explain it to me. I think I would explode on the spot. The only way I think … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 07:50 PM |
| 7 | Gabby Petito case is what I believe would’ve happened to me if I stayed with me ex.I’m so sorry you went through this, but I’m relieved you got away from him. It makes me so angry to see people dumping all the blame on Gabby when she is the one who is dead. Even in the body cam footage, she was obviously the one in distress but she still blamed herself and tried to protect BL. The fact they seriously considered her scratching him domestic violence when a 911 call reported him assaulting her earlier is horrendous. It’s like the concept of reactive abuse is completely foreign to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 06:19 PM |
| 1 | I love it when the trash takes itself outI have no faith in any of these sites. I know people who have been catfished on even the paid sites like match and eharmony. Good call deleting! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 10:14 PM |
| 15 | Even gay men get sick of hook up cultureTHIS! I am part of the lgbtqia+ community, and I hear horror stories involving older, wealthy gay men creating queer spaces to use as a dating ground. They invite barely legal, fresh out of the closet boys to parties that oftentimes devolve into orgies. When their latest plaything displeases them, they recruit someone else to fill the position. This leaves so many boys feeling abused, mistreated, and betrayed by a community they thought would protect and care for them. Of course, there are plent… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 09:55 PM |
| 11 | Porn use literally damages your dopamine reward systemI believe it can hurt women as well. Maybe not in the exact same ways as men, but it can still be harmful nonetheless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 09:41 PM |
| 3 | Quick unmatch after one early text. I’m finally learning to not waste time by trusting my gut.That’s so gross I’m sorry you have to experience that! When I lived in Asia, I’d routinely hear other guys (American and European mostly) make comments that they’d NEVER date another foreigner. They only wanted Japanese or Korean girlfriends. It was so weird to me. Like they’d moved abroad just to swipe on tinder in Tokyo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 04:54 PM |
| 1 | I used psychedelics to work through some stuff (k!nk and other trauma recovery), my experience:Thank you! And definitely. People really need to do their research. I wish I had back in the day, but maybe someday I’ll be healed enough to try again :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 04:50 PM |
| 101 | Quick unmatch after one early text. I’m finally learning to not waste time by trusting my gut.Japan is a wonderful place to live but when guys are obsessed with Japan for only very superficial reasons I instantly fear they have yellow fever and some weird submission fantasies going on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 02:22 AM |
| 16 | I used psychedelics to work through some stuff (k!nk and other trauma recovery), my experience:I am sober for the foreseeable future, but the potential benefits of psychedelics in mental health treatment plans is very interesting. Microdosing on shrooms may be the way of the future once more studies and trials are done. Thank you for sharing this powerful, healing experience. I’m so happy you were able to recover from painful past trauma. Unfortunately, alcohol and other substances besides my prescribed medications make my mental health issues a lot worse. Only occasional low doses of mar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 01:48 AM |
| 70 | When an older man tries to ask “what do you bring to the table?” RUN!!!I would rather be broke and making my own way than entertaining an old man who who thinks he can reduce me to the parts of my body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 02:39 PM |
| 92 | I desperately need more women friendsWow three solid female friends sounds like a lot to me. I mean I guess I have around 6, but we are scattered across the country/world. Once I’m less afraid of the delta variant I want to join some local groups and hopefully start making good friends that way. I have also found since getting a dog I’ve made fellow dog-mom acquaintances. I’ve met them at dog parks, the vet, walks in my neighborhood etc. And my pup keeps me a lot less lonely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 01:04 AM |
| 5 | If he pulls away, don't give him space...Okay thank you! That makes sense and is what I already do in my relationships. This is a much more respectful approach than just saying “heads up I’m gonna ghost you for a few days or weeks” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 12:04 AM |
| 6 | Is this why old men in current government dont care about women’s rights today? Because their dad’s wrote & believed bs like this?God they act as if coming home from their office job is the equivalent to returning from war. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 11:25 PM |
| 11 | If he pulls away, don't give him space...I agree with most of the sentiment here, but sometimes I need space too. I’m more introverted and tend to date introverts as well. Is there a difference between the situation you’re describing and just asking for some designated alone time to decompress? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Welcome to FDS!Hello! I’m not on Reddit a ton but I would love a flair since the website is buggy for me :) I love this sub and the podcast is amazing everyone needs to listen to it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 11:25 PM |
| 9 | Thank you!!This is horrible I’m so sorry. Very glad you blocked and deleted him. That’s unacceptable and criminal behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 11:37 PM |
| 146 | A very serious warning: keep your eyes wide open with men that seem to work too much.Facts. My mother was conned by a LVM masquerading as HV. Everything looked great on paper. Our families had met and got along. In fact, his parents were friends with my grandparents. Only catch was he worked a TON and was away on frequent business trips. Guess who ended up being a convicted criminal living a double life with another serious girlfriend who he married while still dating my mother?? Idc how great someone is. If they’re going to have intimate access to you, run a background check an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 02:01 AM |
| 7 | Things that are definitely NOT queen energy and why FDS must remain blunt and focused on priorities / real life strategies rather than blind following ideologies and people pleasing everyoneThe tough love is so necessary! Thank you for this post and all you do on this sub! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 11:12 PM |
| 16 | 🙄🙄🙄 Age gap 🚩clearly lying about how they got together (cheating) cos he hadn’t officially separated from his wife🚩. In fact doesn’t seem like he broke up with his wife at all, as they’re still in VERY close contact 🚩who’s gonna tell her? 🤡This hurts my soul | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 02:07 AM |
| 9 | "right person, wrong timing"Gosh that sucks. I don’t think it’s bad at all you sent him a few words of encouragement, I just wouldn’t send anymore. It’s very difficult to focus on building a romantic relationship when you’ve been hit with devastating news. Just let it go and move forward. The best way to do this I think is to give yourself some time to grieve those feelings and then immerse yourself in the things you love doing. Reach out to friends, loved ones, and block him everywhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 08:59 PM |
| 15 | Stop letting men triangulate you against other women - they are trying to deliberately belittle you because they are threatened by your confidence. You are a Queen. A bad bitch. You laugh in the face of men who try to make you jealous- you see them as insecure and attention-seeking. They are LVM.Aside from mentioning a crazy ex what are some other examples of triangulation you all have experienced? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 08:28 PM |
| 7 | Finally left the narcissistic abusive ex after one last strawI’m so sorry I can’t even imagine how that must have felt. Sure, you may have lost your cool, but ultimately he is out of your life and you can start prioritizing yourself and your healing. I’m also sure nothing you said could’ve been worse than whatever it is he put you through. You have no reason to feel guilty. He’s the abusive piece of crap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 11:08 PM |
| 6 | Trauma will keep you in a loop of your pastInner child work is so important!! We can’t reach our full potential until we acknowledge our trauma and work through it (hopefully with a professional) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 07:17 PM |
| 10 | Although OLD is a dumpster fire, let me highlight the new way scrotes can cheat!Wow this is so messed up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 03:21 PM |
| 18 | Ex NVM slept with a prostitute before dating me and lied about it. His bff thinks it is okayI’m so sorry this piece of shit lied to you and was so disgusting! You dodged a bullet by breaking up and not getting an infection. It’s good to know that herpes and HPV are not routinely screened in most STD panels. Herpes is very common (one strand produces cold sores) and relatively harmless. It’s recommended to get tested only if you have an outbreak or were exposed to someone with a known infection. Blood tests for herpes without an outbreak can be falsely negative or positive. Because of t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 01:57 AM |
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