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| 1 | Plate frequently brings up how badly ex husband treated her.So long as she brings the fucks you give 0 fucks. Love this, dude and you're 100% correct. I wouldn't consider myself an alpha, more purple pilled but I'm working on myself everyday to comb out any emotional weakness / scarcity mentality I may have and not putting myself first. She's still plate, but has been lobbying hard for the LTR title because she suspects I have other women, and if she asked I'd tell her straight out. | /r/askTRP | 21/01/21 11:21 PM |
| 3 | Plate frequently brings up how badly ex husband treated her.That's a solid point about dread. She has been on the hunt for LTR status because she suspects my other plates, and my ex showing up out of the blue solidified that I have other female options. That really brings up a good point about dread on her end, to try and get me to hamster. Truth be told, I have absolutely zero reason to believe she's still in contact. But frankly, even if she was, I really couldn't care less. I know what I have in myself; I lift, well paying job so if she wanted to chas… | /r/askTRP | 21/01/21 11:16 PM |
| 1 | Plate frequently brings up how badly ex husband treated her.Stop the presses, right? | /r/askTRP | 21/01/21 11:11 PM |
| 2 | Plate frequently brings up how badly ex husband treated her.Really appreciate your two cents man, you raised a lot of good points. She’s already divorced, she’s too lazy to change her last name, she’s bringing up her ex a lot meaning there’s still some entangled unresolved feelings. Exactly, the unresolved feelings is what I'm getting caught on. Talking bad about exes is always a huge red flag. I don't like my ex, but when asked I just give a simple "we just weren't right for each other," and that's that. I don't know if I'm falling into one-itis or scar… | /r/askTRP | 21/01/21 06:50 PM |
| 6 | Advice: Tinder Game ConversationsHonestly, dating apps are like the wild west. What works on some, doesn't work on others. I'd say I'm an above average looking dude, but my game in person trumps my app/texting game so my goal is to get them in front of me sooner than later. I go on probably 1-3 dates/week but it's from a wide sample selection. For example I get about 10-12 matches on bumble and of those 10-12 3 or so respond, and of those 3 two are usually horribly boring with no personality so I just unmatch an move on. Sounds… | /r/askTRP | 02/11/20 08:05 PM |
| 2 | Addicted to approaching? FOMOI got addicted to gaming women and bedding them. It's like a drug. +1 to this. It's an absolute drug and/or high. A few months ago I was addicted to spitting game at women to where I had dates lined up every night of the week, to the point where it was interfering with my job because I would go out for drinks and put all my energy and resources into getting physical with a new woman rather than the shit that mattered. Covid/WFH only exacerbated this since I was at home and chasing a high, workin… | /r/askTRP | 31/10/20 07:00 PM |
| 10 | Invited girl to my apartment and she just sat on her phoneExactly this. If you're getting the vibe that she's not feeling it, give her an our without it being awkward. No point wasting your time with a girl that doesn't feel it. My best guess is that OP made the move to get her back to the spot, but didn't escalate and missed the window. Happens to all of us, just gotta be on your game when she shows indicators. | /r/askTRP | 31/10/20 06:50 PM |
| 16 | Do you go down on women?If shes clean and no smell, it's a no brainer. 200%. Patrice O'Neal said you can't eat pussy you got to be a pussy eater. As in embody it. I personally love it and will eat pussy and even ass on the first date. If you're fucking with sluts, or low value women then my answer will change drastically. If anything down there is unkempt, has smell or anything like that, hard pass. | /r/askTRP | 31/10/20 04:38 AM |
| 3 | Tinder questionsI was in an LTR for 7 years so when we broke up earlier this year this was my first foray into online dating apps, then covid hit. Covid put up a ton of obstacles but I still have had success f-closing off apps, but it's a numbers game for sure. 75% of the women on there are boring as fuck, if they're not matching my effort on conversation, I unmatch. Another 20% are good at conversation but are weird as fuck, you can tell something is wrong like they overtalk or they are just there for validati… | /r/askTRP | 31/10/20 04:07 AM |
| 15 | How to not get accused?I've been around the block, and have been the victim of a false claim by my BPD ex girlfriend that I had to get a restraining order on. Point is, this is the point of red flags. You never stick your dick in crazy.. ever. Yes, it's the best sex ever, but at what price are you willing to put on getting a nut. This happened to me 13 years ago, and I was scarred for a long time, the next women I banged I made sure I knew them through and through, and even then I recorded them saying they give consen… | /r/askTRP | 31/10/20 12:42 AM |
| 12 | Does anybody think being too overtly sexual over text puts girls off?Abso-fucking-lutely. You see all these memes of cheesy overtly sexual Tinder ice breakers, that shit doesn't work, and if it does revert back to normal convo very quickly. If a girl and I are vibing, I might toss out a dirty ambiguous pun that has double meaning, but it would be after our first meetup. One of my plates now said she had no idea I was this kinky, freaky animal in bed, she never would've guessed from beforehand. When in doubt, dirty talk is for after you have sex, absolutely never … | /r/askTRP | 30/10/20 11:08 PM |
| 1 | Virtual Video Chat DateSolid point dude. Video Chat won't lead to any attraction, but juts an opportunity for me to say the wrong thing and her lose interest. Appreciate it. | /r/askTRP | 29/10/20 07:53 PM |
| 1 | Virtual Video Chat DateSolid advice man, appreciate that. It was difficult to strike the balance between being too pushy and just having a pen pal conversation. Video chat won't build attraction, but it could build comfort but either way seems like a hurdle just to get to square one. Thanks dude | /r/askTRP | 29/10/20 07:53 PM |
| 6 | This is a shit test right?She's seeking comfort. If you don't want this plate to break, I would give her a little. Something like, "This week has been hectic, thinking of grabbing a coffee and going for a walk, care to join?" That way it's not just come over let's fuck, a walk in a park near your house is close proximity so you can walk and go back and close, and it's still on your terms, and you're not doing anything you don't already do "hit her up for sex". If you're indifferent about the plate breaking, just go with … | /r/askTRP | 22/10/20 08:21 PM |
| 2 | Women who get Tats after breakup?Isn't he the beta now? Could be, but you shouldn't care whatsoever. The fact that she's showing you conversations is also a huge red flag in itself, you shouldn't give a fuck about what dick she used to swing on. Another red flag is if she talks shit about him to you. | /r/askTRP | 20/10/20 10:16 PM |
| 10 | I Acted Like A BitchDrop it. Just simply drop it. Look, you fucked up, we all have and continue to do so. Fuck ups are a learning experience. But this raises the bigger question. In one of your responses you say it bothers you so much because you feel disrespect coupled with lack of empathy. Since you've been in an LTR for a few months you're still finding out about this person. If she continues to exhibit these traits (if she actually does, this isn't going to be the first red flag) then you can drop her, if not, … | /r/askTRP | 20/10/20 10:11 PM |
| 9 | Women who get Tats after breakup?Tattoos, piercings and hair dye are out of the "I just broke up with my boyfriend," cliche playbook. From what I've seen it's usually an impulsive sign of, "I do what I want when I want." and it is a huge red flag. One of my ex LTR's got a tattoo after I broke up with her, and when she was moving out, she made it a point to show it to me thinking it would make me mad. She has a new guy now, but still hits me up for ONS (that I don't indulge in, never go through your garbage). If she constantly b… | /r/askTRP | 20/10/20 10:02 PM |
| 5 | Not climaxing during sexYep, you're in your own head too much. Overthinking anything can make not climaxing happen to the best of us. Also, my n count is in it's 50s-60s range and I always have performance issues with the first time of a new hookup. For me it's all in my head, and I'm not fully comfortable with the person especially on the first date. Give it time, get out of your head and you'll be cool. | /r/askTRP | 19/10/20 02:31 AM |
| 32 | She started denying sex. Told her I need to see other women because I'm not having my needs met. How to go from here?this this this and fucking this. If a woman denied you sex, you don't get butthurt, you become less available. If she denies you sex that means she's getting all the fulfillment she needs and isn't going to make the effort to go the extra mile. Patrice said in one of his Black Phillips shows that if this happens you smile say ok and then go jack off. Getting pissy accomplishes nothing and just reaffirms her decision to withhold. By telling her "I'm going to fuck other girls," comes off as insecu… | /r/askTRP | 19/10/20 02:09 AM |
| 3 | Asked a girl if shes a hoe, she cancels date same day then offers to see each other next weekend i leave her on seenabsolutely bro. Honestly, this isn't too bad of a fuck up that you can't recover from. If you don't want to wait for her to hit you up, I'd say on Wednesday, shoot her a text saying some shit like "it's been a crazy week, thinking of grabbing a coffee and going for a walk, care to join me?" if she says yes, do your thing. If she says no, say alright cool have a good night. outcome indifference is crucial. | /r/askTRP | 19/10/20 01:59 AM |
| 16 | Asked a girl if shes a hoe, she cancels date same day then offers to see each other next weekend i leave her on seenHER: im not gonna hold you ik whatchu tryna do which is igh i had a lot of fun hanging with you the those last two times. but im not tryan just fuck or be in each other pants. sorry if i gave you that impression since it was tinder and all that. Classic anti slut defense. If you already had hooked up, she's trying to get you into her frame, and it worked liked a charm. Now that she flaked on plans, she has the upper hand. Usually I'm not into game playing and I would hard next a girl that plays … | /r/askTRP | 19/10/20 01:46 AM |
| 31 | Swallowing the pill hurts. A lot.Honestly inner game is the most crucial in my opinion but it's also the biggest bitch to get your own mind right. Hobbies are my go to, find something that makes you happy and pursue it. I like economics and investing so I immersed myself in that. Also like hiking, so I like to get out and explore in addition to working out. If you have hobbies it gives you depth, and passion and also something to fill your days with. In addition to that, books really helped me. Love my dad, but he never taught … | /r/askTRP | 19/10/20 01:13 AM |
| 98 | Swallowing the pill hurts. A lot.I'm in my mid 30's and yes, the red pill was a tough swallow and there's always room for improvement. One thing you got to make sure of is you don't swing from one extreme of the spectrum to the other. For example, after I started incorporating RP ideals into my dating life, I went from needy to way too unavailable. Just be true to yourself, and by that I mean make sure you're looking out for number one and not putting anything or anyone above you. Before I used to use women to supplement me, I … | /r/askTRP | 18/10/20 11:58 PM |
| 17 | Lost my frame. How would you have handled this situation better?Just want to add Her ex, who supposedly ruined her life and she doesnt speak to, was there This is always a huge red flag to be on the lookout for. When women say this, more often than not it means that the guy went no contact on her and it drove her crazy. I have 2 exes from this year and I only go NC, not to be a jerk, but it helps me move on and it is the most healthy for me. The unfortunate side effect of NC is it drives them crazy and they crave your attention like a drug. My two exes and m… | /r/askTRP | 18/10/20 10:35 PM |
| 6 | Dealing with complainsWell for one, her complaining is a comfort test. It sounds like you're being on the extreme side of the spectrum of distant. If someone is taking a train to get that dick, and you enjoy seeing her, what's the problem with just meeting her? It doesn't lower your value and if she only complains about logistics of meeting up then just get your ass to the train station to meet her. I've had disrespectful plates in the past and if it was unwarranted then I hard nexted, don't put up with that shit, bu… | /r/askTRP | 17/10/20 05:18 PM |
| 2 | Am I losing self respect by texting a girl that I told off?Absolutely man, honestly if you're feeling her and can get past her telling you about her past, there's no shame in hitting her up to see if she wants to hang out. At best you get a good thing, at worst you get a learning experience. Best of luck dude. | /r/askTRP | 12/10/20 01:50 AM |
| 4 | Am I losing self respect by texting a girl that I told off?I'm probably twice your age, but one thing you're going to have to realize is whenever a girl, no matter what age, starts talking about past sexual history.. you put an absolute stop to it. Younger girls love to talk about that, because they want a guy who is good with women, so with their nonsensical thinking they think that telling us about their hookups make themselves appear sexier when it actually does the opposite. Onto your question, no it wouldn't be beta, but if you're texting her ONLY … | /r/askTRP | 12/10/20 01:45 AM |
| 3 | F-Closed but with performance issues.Don't sweat the "performance" issue. It happens. Yeah, I have a feeling I'm way too in my head about it and it's just me ego-tripping. On Sunday I took another woman on a date, she was a little thicker than her pics, but I don't like slender women. When we got back to her house and got naked, her clothes were very deceiving and I lost it half way through there. Two times in one week is rough, but I guess it happens to the best of us. Do yourself a favor and learn to take yes for answer. I met a … | /r/askTRP | 09/10/20 01:54 AM |
| 2 | LTR went from hot and heavy to ice coldand it’s because they get too comfortable when they’ve “got” you. That makes perfect sense. In my old LTRs I would always hard next when this started to happen, but now I'm noticing a trend. At the beginning it was always on my terms and if something didn't manifest I didn't give it a second thought. Then the LTR happened, she became unavailable and my hamster wheel started spinning to orbit. Called it off and she straightened up, but now it's back to where it was at that time. It’s sad that it … | /r/askTRP | 30/08/20 01:42 AM |
| 2 | LTR went from hot and heavy to ice coldShit, re-reading my post you're not wrong. Thought my inner game was tough, but I guess with the LTR I let my guard down and got comfortable. | /r/askTRP | 29/08/20 10:43 PM |
| 2 | Pics with ex on tinder?I got you bro. Alright, based on your post I have to preface this with I'm probably a bit older than you (32), however this year I've plated a few that are a decade my junior and that came with working and reworking my pics on these apps. A bio isn't going to get you laid, and neither is a picture, but to us in the ADD generation a picture will get you the in to supply some good text game. It also prefaces what you're all about. So i'll break down what you shouldn't have 2: pic on couch at party… | /r/askTRP | 06/07/20 03:15 AM |
| 3 | Pics with ex on tinder?If you're going to do a shirtless pic, you gotta frame it like you're not putting it on there because of your body, but because you're doing shit that wouldn't require a shirt. Playing volleyball on the beach? cool. Working on your car in a beater and it's hot as fuck outside? cool. Standing there with your shirt off for the sake of that comes off as desperation. You'll attract thots for sure, but there's an art form of showing women what your body is, without being blatantly in your face about … | /r/askTRP | 06/07/20 03:01 AM |
| 1 | this plate, questionshahaha first of all dude don't trip about getting on your wheel. I used to be BB and have made every mistake in the book. As I aforementioned during this time falling victim to that shit is an easy trap to fall into. The RP community might disagree with me, but if you read all the literature in the world, you still don't know shit until you test your emotions practicing it. a.k.a. a lot easier said than done. the weird thing is she basically turns her back on me when she goes to bed where i’m us… | /r/askTRP | 05/06/20 03:02 AM |
| 2 | this plate, questionsi know what you’re thinking, she’s trying to be my gf...but i could NEVER see her asking that..at times i feel like she’s just using me just for my cock She got you to hamster, homeboy. Jumping to conclusions of what she wants, and wondering why exactly is she fucking you. It's also totally understandable. During these shelter times our pick of partners is limited, so it's easy to fall victim of oneitis. Just be careful with this shit. One of my plates acted in the same exact ways as yours. I wo… | /r/askTRP | 05/06/20 02:51 AM |
| 5 | Just need some wordsI had an ex of 6 years leave me this year. She left me, when I said let's talk about this, she said there's nothing to say. When I heard that, I picked myself up by my bootstraps and started living for myself. Got back to lifting, working on my professional career, and generally feeling good about myself. It's been a few months, and she saw on my Snapchat that I've been out dating, and when she reaches out to me I don't respond. She's resorted to hitting up my friends to talk shit and gain insig… | /r/askTRP | 01/06/20 12:17 AM |
| 4 | Caught oneitis for a plate that's NOT relationship material. Despite my logic of knowing she'd never be a halfway decent LTR I can't get the idea out if my head. Any suggestions?It's refreshing to see that you have enough self awareness to realize that the emotions that you are feeling is what TRP preaches. It's human nature to want what we can't have. However, when a plate or even an LTR tries to "play hard to get," you let them. If you turn into the pursuer you enter the world of living in her frame. If you're living in her frame and she's calling the shots and attraction fizzles, respect fizzles and the prize she latched onto is all of a sudden available and is no lo… | /r/askTRP | 23/05/20 03:13 AM |
| 1 | Older girl 36 asks me the oldest girl I’ve been with? How should I respond to that type of of question? (I’m 20)I say just change the subject, man. All my points from my original post still stands, get out of the quicksand of talking about past relationships. Being with a plate means making her want you, and her wanting you, and bringing up other fucks doesn't accomplish that in the least. Best of luck bro, but hop out of the beartrap and start building rapport. Tell her you're going to watch some netflix and have a few drinks and ask if she wants to join. | /r/askTRP | 21/05/20 02:55 AM |
| 12 | Older girl 36 asks me the oldest girl I’ve been with? How should I respond to that type of of question? (I’m 20)Iron Rule of Tomassi # 2 NEVER, under pain of death, honestly or dishonestly reveal the number of women you’ve slept with or explain any detail of your sexual experiences with them to a current lover. Never ever give any details about your sexual history. It's a total shit test. You could say in your 20s, she'll think you only go after young women and disqualify you, or that you can't handle an "older" woman. You could say someone in their 40s and she could have something against men who date wo… | /r/askTRP | 21/05/20 02:42 AM |
| 1 | Fwbs - Weirdly cooling off. What to do?I said "can I be honest. I feel I've upset you in the last couple of weeks?". She replied "how? I think you're being super sensitive. I've just been busy with work". I said "I just think I have. Like the time when I mentioned about going out for a walk". She had to leave but then messaged me later and was grilling me about it Homie, you are operating entirely within her frame. Asking a FWB if you've upset them is poison. It shows that you need validation from her. Then she says you're being too … | /r/askTRP | 14/05/20 09:47 PM |
| 10 | Your sexual past is none of her business. Her sexual past is none of yours.If you're not her first and high school sweetheart, she is. The older we get, that's what happens. Chads are nasty, and even the sweetest, innocent most conservative women will succumb to that. The point I was driving home is there's better shit to worry about. Improve yourself, maintain abundance mentality. All previous past talk gets you to hamster and cause self doubt. Nothing positive comes from it. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/05/20 03:30 AM |
| 3 | Still confused about texting after sexFirst things first you got very lucky with her volunteering to leave after. Guys having to gnaw off their arm is a cliche for a reason. As for the morning after text, I don't bother. If I want to see her again I would say text me when you get home. She does, and I won't respond or say something like gnight. Then if you want to see her again, she works 20 mins from your house, forget driving an hour. "Thinking of getting take out 'some bullshit place near where she works', care to join me?" Perso… | /r/askTRP | 14/05/20 02:03 AM |
| 2 | 5 words really got me thinking.Dude you're being way too sensitive about your name. As other posters here have commented, Sheldon is an awesome name. It's uncommon too, so you could use people calling you Shelly to your advantage. It's the perfect bait to flip it if you want to plate her. "hmm, Shelly? I only let people call me that after they've bought me a drink. What's your schedule like?" "haha not really doing anything the rest of the week "going to unwind tomorrow night with a few beers at my place if you care to join" … | /r/askTRP | 14/05/20 01:53 AM |
| 2 | Girl doesn't tell me who her ex is?The more they trash talk the ex, the more emotions they have built up about the ex, the more they miss the ex. Fucking bingo. This is the reason I stick to the iron rule, don't ever talk about the past, relationships, n counts, etc. This girl telling OP that her ex was a fuckboy that did this, did that that... guess what, you're now in the land of having conversations that she has with her girlfriends. Then what happens is you start wondering and asking questions, i.e. getting in her frame and b… | /r/askTRP | 13/05/20 09:42 PM |
| 20 | anyone ever have success reaching out to ex?It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was. Been there, done that my dude. What you're feeling isn't a longing for good pussy, but for a romanticized scenario that you made up in y… | /r/askTRP | 23/04/20 11:11 PM |
| 3 | "you don't talk to me" shit test or comfort test?Without a backstory, what was the reason she was saying that you don't trust her? If she fucked up her trust to you, that's very difficult to earn back and depending on how long you've known her, it's the difference between a hard/soft next. Aside from that, this conversation is taking a serious tone. If she hit you with that out of the blue, you could've agreed and amplified to de escalate the situation. "I don't trust you? Remember when I said you pick where we went for dinner?" That kinda bul… | /r/askTRP | 23/04/20 04:37 AM |
| 2 | Being the side guy to a Bpd chick??You're welcome. Usually that is a shit test that will get you hard nexted. I know from experience. However, I don't care if this girl has the best sex and the golden body, hard next will work in your favor 110%. She's not worth all the baggage she will bring, and it will drive you absolutely up the wall with all the shit tests and emotional baggage shes carrying. I understand you think nothing more will come, but wait until you catch feels or get jealous. As guys we have our up and down days whe… | /r/askTRP | 23/04/20 02:48 AM |
| 3 | Being the side guy to a Bpd chick??Run for the fucking hills my dude. You can read all the philosophy you want, but you won't get this shit ingrained in you until you're out in the field and can recognize these red flags as they're happening. All the character flaws and mental illness aside, her asking to come over after all this was a shit test. Classic to see if you hold frame, and you were operating in her frame. She didn't have a good reason for flaking, she was testing you to see if you still wanted it despite agreeing that … | /r/askTRP | 23/04/20 02:23 AM |
| 4 | The Red Pill and Dick SizeI'm going to be real with you dude. You need to work on your inner game, and making this post about dick size is a way of not coming to that realization. I'm very terrified, and I do not use that word lightly gentleman, of the response that I will receive from women when they view my dick. In the past, I've only had 1 woman return to want to have sex with me because, she liked me for who I was and how I made her feel. That last sentence is it in a nutshell. Let me flip it on you, I know many peo… | /r/askTRP | 23/04/20 01:58 AM |
| 3 | Enforcing boundary, she tries to negotiate exceptions. Should I have demoted her instead of soft nexting?but more like dealbreakers just as I dont date vegetarians, becomes too irritating and not worth the effort. Plus I expect her to know who adds value to her life. I repeated once more "You can do what you want, I dont communicate with exes and I expect the same from my girl" Any fwb I have after the first night I tell them that their past is none of my business, and my past is none of theirs. My focus is on mine and her pleasure in the present and I'm 100% firm dealbreaker on that. I'm bringing … | /r/askTRP | 15/04/20 07:58 AM |
| 61 | Be wary of quarantine cheatingI don't know how old you are, but I've been through a few LTR and a lot of spun plates that lost momentum that ended up breaking to know how emotions can fuck with you in the aftermath, especially after an ego blow of being cheated on. During covid times, we're basically all at home, and if you don't have solid inner game (lord knows I don't, but it's a constant work in progress) you're going to have moments of weakness. You're going to wonder if she posted something, who is commenting on her sh… | /r/askTRP | 15/04/20 01:02 AM |
| 2 | Plate asked to be in a relationship. Said no, shit test galore ever since.I personally love destroying shit tests, but it ultimately comes down to finding another girl who gives you less shit and letting this plate break if you desire. Absolutely agree. Shit tests are a great way to test your own validity, and to show you're in control of your own, I suppose I'm just going to have to get used to these rapid fire ones. If there's one thing I've learned is inner game really is everything. Sincerely appreciate your breakdown, man. | /r/askTRP | 07/04/20 05:51 AM |
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