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You're saying a lot of the right words. The question is whether you'll ever start meaning any of them.
/r/askMRP30/05/19 01:06 PM
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She, she, she... Do you want to join the military or not?
/r/askMRP28/05/19 02:48 PM
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Congrats on being the lower branch. Don't do something dumb like call off the divorce if she shows you some affection. She's your ex now, so don't go rooting through garbage: https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/08/rooting-through-garbage/
/r/askMRP23/05/19 02:22 PM
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I'm under no impression that this is the new normal. Hysterical bonding, for sure. In more than one sense most likely. Decent chance that she's aware of the cheating, or at the very least suspects, and isn't sure what to make of it yet. And maybe that's the answer if you're okay with getting that particular itch scratched elsewhere. Don't ask, don't tell works surprising well in some cases.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 01:27 AM
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I was eavesdropping her friend had even went to great lengths to say “we are pretty girls we can get what we want” (devious fucking whore). My ltr immediately glanced over to me because she knew if I heard that shit the lid would have popped off. Except that you did hear it, you both know that you heard it, and you both know that nothing ever came of it. Take off your oneitis goggles and view your LTR as the average of the 5 people she spends most of her time with. Why would that person want to …
/r/askMRP15/05/19 01:31 PM
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Any unreasonable requests that my wife makes immediately get delegated to the dog. Wife, to me: Get me a shirt Me, to dog: Get her a shirt
/r/askMRP14/05/19 05:27 PM
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This site is all I gave sometimes to get me on track. I am the target audience here, 40, married, not some 22 year old coming here instead of TRP So why the fuck did you ignore all the advice you were given on your last post? This is worse than the people who stop in and can't recognize help when they get it. You seem fully aware of the value this place offers, but choose to ignore it anyway. You're getting great advice again, but I already know you'll ignore that too. You'll go on as you have b…
/r/askMRP12/05/19 05:39 PM
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Think about what you just said and apply it to your wife/LTR. Where does worrying about what she thinks and trying to be on her good side get you?
/r/askMRP12/05/19 01:59 AM
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Just say no and leave it at that. Their request is selfish and your refusal doesn't require any further explanation.
/r/askTRP09/05/19 05:56 PM
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When I said those things to her, she doesn't give a fuck What are your expectations when you tell her these things? You've built some covert contracts here, and you're looking for sex/reciprocation/validation in return. She already finds you unattractive, and the inherent neediness is this type of validation seeking is only making the problem worse. If you were complimenting her from a place of abundance, her reaction wouldn't matter so much to you. Yesterday I looked at her cell phone This was …
/r/askMRP09/05/19 04:01 PM
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You have a long history as betabux, so it's going to be quite a while before she sees you as anything else. The good news is that it doesn't really matter how she sees you, the path forward is the same regardless. After the kids go to bed she hides out in "her room" and avoids all interaction with me. Sounds like the perfect time to start catching up on the gym time that you've been missing. Commit to getting on a regular routine and go... regardless of what's happening at home.
/r/askMRP09/05/19 02:21 PM
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I'm afraid that it's too late to create a frame In simple terms, frame is the projection of your worldview. The only way it would be too late would be if you were already dead. It may be too late to regain the respect of your wife, but that's something else entirely. The fact that you defaulted to a position of seeking your wife's approval at the mere mention of frame shines a bright light on the underlying problem. Having a solid frame means that her shitty moods don't affect you. A lot of the …
/r/askMRP08/05/19 01:35 PM
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Short answer: your frame is shit, you aren't leading the relationship, and you give way too many fucks about fixing her feels. You've got a long way to go as far as unfucking yourself. You should post this over at askMRP and take your ass-kicking. You'll get a lot more value asking people that have dealt with / are dealing with similar situations.
/r/askTRP07/05/19 05:46 PM
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Why'd you delete your previous MRP posts before posting this one?
/r/askMRP04/05/19 04:38 PM
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A big reason is financial, she makes a lot of money and I get richer the longer we stay married. Selfish, but I’m okay with that. All her income means is that, along with no kids, you also have no reason to fear getting divorce raped. Is your time and freedom worth so little to you that you're willing to sell them both for a portion of your wife's income? I really don't think that's it though. I think your ego is wounded by the fact that she hasn't responded as you'd hoped, but you're too invest…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/19 09:44 PM
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After that she wasn't returning my calls for about an hour and finally picked up. "Calls" as in plural, in the span of an hour, when she wasn't picking up? This is your problem...
/r/askMRP03/05/19 05:58 PM
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You went full on Rambo, then caved in and apologized, then gave her permission to trample all over the weak boundaries you meekly attempted to establish just a few hours prior. In what universe is that "passing her shit tests?"
/r/askMRP30/04/19 01:03 PM
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It's pretty clear that sex is more about validation than any actual desire to be with your wife. It's also pretty clear, given that this is your 5th post in the last 6 days, that you're just looking for a shortcut. It doesn't exist. You're going to get absolutely destroyed for this post, but I'll keep it short. Your frame is nonexistent, you lack abundance, and you're far too ego invested. Read the sidebar material (all of it) if you're actually committed to bettering yourself.
/r/askMRP29/04/19 12:33 PM
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I have a hard time believing that you're reading the sidebar materials when you didn't even read the second or fourth sentences of the Dread Level 1 description: Begin building a strong, indefatigable frame where you are not affected by her sexual denials. Begin leading your wife more and begin seducing her. I don't think I've ever seen someone actually quote the answer to their own retarded question.
/r/askMRP25/04/19 04:02 PM
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she asked him "what would you do if you had me for a night" My guy asked me what my "intentions" are with her and if I'd be cool if he tried shooting his shot Sounds like she already gave it to him and he missed it. Anyway, unless you're already getting oneitis, who gives a fuck where some girl you haven't fucked yet is getting validation?
/r/askTRP24/04/19 05:01 PM
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The thing is, I realise that I'm sitting in the bottom of a hole but seem too content and at peace with it. I'm fluctuating between throwing myself off of a bridge and driving forward to where I want to be and throwing everyone else aside You aren't content, you're afraid to make the first move to improve your situation. Your overly dramatic impulses are a result of looking at your situation like you have to solve everything at once. Recognizing the futility in attempting to do so has left you p…
/r/askMRP19/04/19 12:04 PM
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Dinner dates are trash for all parties involved. He doesn't want the inflated bill, she doesn't want the expectations, and neither want the forced conversation that inevitably ensues. All around bad idea.
/r/askTRP18/04/19 01:05 AM
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Molly will take your oneitis and magnify it 200x. Just remember that your feelings are based on a drug induced judgment of a stranger in a perfect setting and on her best behavior. In other words, a fantasy. There are no unicorns, and if you met with her again you'd undoubtedly be disappointed.
/r/askTRP18/04/19 12:58 AM
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Lots of people older than that. I was 30 when I went back for grad school and there were undergrads that were older than me.
/r/askTRP18/04/19 12:50 AM
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Oh dear God don't do this. Parental abduction. There's a reason that I specified coming back at every step. Removing a kid from harm's way is in no way parental abduction.
/r/askMRP17/04/19 01:41 PM
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Grab the kid, tell her that your son isn't going to be raised in this sort of environment, and walk out the door. Don't let her stop you, don't answer the phone or respond to her messages, and don't come back until enough time has passed that you're both calm. If she starts again when you get back, repeat the process and wait even longer. If it comes to a 3rd time, let her know upon your return that if you have to leave again you'll be returning with the police behind you and divorce papers in h…
/r/askMRP17/04/19 01:18 PM
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they still text every few days. Not much, a few messages here and there but they do still text about random things, what's going on in life She was sending pictures of the dog for awhile but has since stopped doing that unless he requests one. they had talked quite a bit that week about the dog and other things. Yesterday I noticed that he had snapped her a video and chat message which she hadn't checked Are you snooping through her phone, or just hovering over her shoulder when she's using it? …
/r/askMRP14/04/19 09:13 PM
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George Carlin approves this message
/r/askMRP12/04/19 07:50 PM
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Hypergamy is about securing the highest value man, and what determines that value is subjective. It's not even fixed for the same women at different points in her life.
/r/askTRP12/04/19 06:08 PM
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My ex (Female 22) is a 10 she did modeling on the side Pics or it didn't happen. We have been dating for 3 years Your post about being a 22 year old virgin was only 2 years ago (specifically 3/11/17). You're either so alpha that you spent an entire year unable to get it up to fuck your perfect 10 unicorn girlfriend, or you're lying to a bunch of strangers on the internet. Any advice would be much appreciated Diagnosis: chronic oneitis for the first girl to let you have sex with her Solution: go …
/r/askMRP12/04/19 05:40 PM
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You blew right by sticking your dick in crazy and straight up married and impregnated it. I know you have some addiction issues in your past. She on anything, prescribed or otherwise? This isn't normal adult behavior. You have a tougher road ahead than most, but the path is still the same ---------->.
/r/askMRP12/04/19 05:25 PM
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It's tough to come back from unenforced boundaries. So don't dig that hole any deeper, and master the art of STFU. Do whatever it is that you need to do to ensure that she isn't fucking with your ability to function (i.e taking your wallet or preventing you from getting to work), but do not DEER. Just do it and move on. The lesser offenses, like the remote, should be treated as just another shit test. Eventually you'll need to just tell her knock that shit off, but right now you see how well tha…
/r/askMRP12/04/19 01:51 PM
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she kept being mad at me... she is angry... She feels left out of the relationship.... she doesnt even want... she cant properly talk to me... she tries to... she start criticising me. I quoted and highlighted the above to show you just how deeply you've fallen into her frame. The problem isn't that she feels left out of the relationship, it's that you're the drunk captain. Leadership 101... the buck always stops with you.
/r/askTRP11/04/19 01:54 PM
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The surf board came out last weekend for the first time this year. Definitely no big waves to talk about, but enough for a decent ride and the kids were impressed. I'm getting back into skydiving again as well, probably toward the end of the month for my first jump in over ten years. I have a small group together already, including a friend that has never even been on a plane before. Still not sure how I made that sell.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 01:55 PM
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Where does finding meaning in our actions meet the dancing monkey? If your wife/LTR/anyone else was out of the picture tomorrow, would you still be doing it? If no*, dancing monkey. *Don't be an autist here. Obviously "fucking your wife" would be off the table if your wife wasn't there.
/r/askMRP10/04/19 01:10 PM
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I think in a lot of cases, it's the hamster doing its best to avoid an obvious conclusion: that their life sucks and that the necessary changes may mean ending their marriage.
/r/askMRP10/04/19 01:06 PM
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But I literally can’t give her what she needs Give her what she needs right now (ie NSA sex) and let the future work itself out. You're putting way too much thought into a plate. The real question is what do your prospects look like if this plate breaks tomorrow? Back to celibacy or do you have others that you could contact?
/r/askMRP09/04/19 01:09 AM
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she sleeps in the other bedroom because of my snoring A lot of people start snoring after getting fat. Lack of any height/weight/lifts included above seem to suggest that this may be the case for you. I skimmed the rest and this is what I gathered. She cooks, she cleans, she takes care of the kids, she fucks on demand (despite an obvious lack of attraction to you), and she takes care of herself physically. She actually sounds pretty awesome. Her shitty behavior is a reflection of you. Should I g…
/r/askMRP08/04/19 05:46 PM
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What's your deadlift 1RM?
/r/askMRP08/04/19 05:28 PM
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Lately she's become a lot more confident but at the same time she says things like "I know you want to break up with me" or "I know you don't love me". Usually statements like these are indicators that she's given you a reason to feel that way. "I know you want to break up with me because I've done something that would cause you to do so" or "I know you don't love me because I'm not who you think I am and/or I've given you reason not to." It doesn't necessarily mean that she's cheated (though it…
/r/askMRP03/04/19 04:08 PM
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Interesting place to make this critique, given the name of the sub and how it came into being.
/r/askMRP02/04/19 07:38 PM
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Because the ultimate fear for her is that one day she becomes that fat woman and loses her man to a younger, thinner woman. Optimizing hypergamy isn't just about attracting the highest value man but keeping him.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 03:04 PM
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Spin plates with zero expectations, and then let the women in your life show you why you should invest more. You really need to be careful with setting arbitrary deadlines for marriage (evenly loosely defined ones), because it shifts your whole mentality and makes it more likely that you'll settle with someone that isn't worth it.
/r/askMRP29/03/19 02:15 PM
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You're in the right place. The only thing I have to add to the advice you've been given is to STFU about the work you're doing. Don't go looking for validation, not from anyone but especially not from your wife. NMMNG is going to tell you to talk to your wife about what you're doing. Don't. That's horseshit and it will make your life a thousand times harder if you do.
/r/askMRP28/03/19 06:16 PM
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There's a good bit of ego protection involved as well. Envisioning Chad as a rich and powerful business exec that deadlifts 500+ lbs and has every woman in the city trying to hop aboard his private jet makes it easier to accept why your wife would be attracted. When it's just another fat slob, it means accepting that your wife thinks that fat slob is still a better option (or at least a potentially better one) than you.
/r/askMRP28/03/19 11:52 AM
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she wasn't sure if we were ever really in love or if we married for the right reasons This is more alarming than anything else you said, a step past ILYBINILWY. Don't take the "ever" part at face value, but understand that it is your reality right now. Maybe she fucked the guy, maybe she didn't. You'll never really know unless you find out the kid isn't yours. But you know that, so why are you really here asking this question? Is part of you hoping that she did so that you can kill the puppy and…
/r/askMRP28/03/19 04:01 AM
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Women are incapable of introspection due to their nature Bullshit If it is the "mans fault" in their mind, they hamster and relieve their guilt and feelings of failure What's going on in her mind is not relevant to you in any way Women don't own their shit but pass the buck. A couple decades of management has taught me that almost no one owns their shit and damn near everyone tries to pass the buck. Man, woman, child, it doesn't matter. Hell, a puppy won't even look at you if it shits in the liv…
/r/askMRP26/03/19 03:23 PM
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my goal was to have an LTR Don't do this, with her or any future women. You're giving away the prize without any expectation that she earn it. You can want an LTR, but do not approach any specific woman with that goal in mind. I went completely broke, I’ve been struggling financially for months now, she's been bitchy This is pretty standard. Women will test you hardest when you're at your weakest. I read through your previous post and this relationship was doomed from the beginning. She's had yo…
/r/askMRP22/03/19 05:49 PM
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Looks like the triage is done and the bleeding stopped. Now I need to ask why it's even coming to this? Are you providing emotional stimulation, or is she being pushed to seek it out the best way she knows how?
/r/askMRP19/03/19 02:31 AM
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Why are you here? For the sense of this post that's a rhetorical question, but it should be the first question you answered when you laid out your MAP. I don't see any indication that you've thought any further than getting laid more often. If I'm being completely honest, this post looks like you downloaded "MRP Template 2019" and then plugged in a few vague details. You're either incredibly lazy or incredibly boring. I would suggest starting again at the beginning of the sidebar. The one lesson…
/r/askMRP11/03/19 04:02 PM
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I didn't bother to do a "she" count, but I'm sure it's embarrassingly high. You have no frame. None. This entire post was written about what's going on in her head, what she wrote a decade ago, what she told a friend about a song. Stop being a faggot. I know I could be in a better place if I upped my game, lost weight etc So do it, regardless of what you want from your marriage. What part of stay plan = go plan is confusing you?
/r/askMRP24/02/19 03:41 AM
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“HOPE” is the feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen. So if you have ‘hope’ you will never have anything but.. hope. This is perfect and I don't really have anything to add. I'm just copying these two sentences because OP is a lazy turd that probably skimmed through this comment and failed to realize just how important this point is. Maybe seeing it again will help it stick...
/r/askMRP23/02/19 08:15 PM
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Is my marriage salvageable? Here's a better question. If you knew for a fact that your marriage would end 6 months from today, what would you do? Be honest with yourself about what you want, but more importantly be realistic. Don't tell me that you'd bang 100 Instagram models when your fat wife won't even fuck you. The answer to that question above is your map. What's realistic right now (i.e masturbating to your SIL using your own tears as lubricant) is your starting point, and what you want fo…
/r/askMRP21/02/19 03:52 PM
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"Suffering arises from trying to control what is uncontrollable, or from neglecting what is within our power" - Epictetus I see both sides of that coin in play in the above post.
/r/askMRP20/02/19 01:12 PM
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Very few businesses are profitable if their end goal is to make themselves obsolete.
/r/askMRP09/02/19 07:38 PM
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Check out Bluepill Professor's YouTube channel. He does a whole series on Gottman. You'll find what you're looking for there.
/r/askMRP09/02/19 07:30 PM
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Responding to shit tests by holding frame isn't "punishing" the woman (as the comment I replied to implied). In fact, I'd say that any response that actively seeks a specific response from a shit testing woman is an automatic failure because you'd be in her frame. Extreme cases should obviously be handled differently, but most shit tests are insignificant and often times the woman doesn't even realize she's doing it. Those should barely even register and should be dismissed for your own amusemen…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/19 05:08 PM
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Why punish women for being women? Testing is in their nature. (Men shit test too, but that's another discussion).
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/19 03:25 AM
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Faggot. Now that we've gotten that out of the way... It's impossible to be living in your own frame if you spend your time obsessing over what another person is doing. Cut that shit out. If she wants to fuck someone else, she'll find a way to do it. Accept that statement as fact, and you quickly realize that you're worrying about something that's beyond your control. Focus on being the guy she'd be crazy to risk losing, and if she still does it then hard next and replace her. Have you read any o…
/r/askMRP09/02/19 03:06 AM
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In a word, frame. Like OP said, check out the MRP sidebar. What you're talking about is being the oak, which is possessing all the requisite alpha qualities but with enough beta sprinkled in for comfort. The latter isn't necessary for spinning plates but is vital in a marriage.
/r/TheRedPill08/02/19 05:56 PM
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My responses range from “K” or something sarcastic which of course just pisses her off further and makes her try harder to get under my skin. You're going through the motions of AA & AM but haven't internalized the mindset yet. Try to find the humor in seeing a grown woman behaving like a four year old, or take some amusement in the fact that it's so easy to rattle her with your nonresponsiveness.
/r/askMRP08/02/19 04:04 AM
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Woman asked my opinion about whether he ass looked fat in those pants, and then got upset when I answered honestly?? MMSLP covered this. She sent you a text out of the blue about her barely covered ass. She wasn't looking for approval on the bathing suit, but for feels.
/r/askMRP06/02/19 07:53 PM
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I am increasingly valuing the importance of close friends, family, and long-term stability. This should answer your question then. From the original post: my career, house, family, and childhood friends are all located here in the DC/VA area. Put oneitis aside and this becomes a no brainer.
/r/askMRP06/02/19 07:27 PM
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Good shit. This is what defining your mission and living by it looks like. Best of luck on the career change.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 02:44 AM
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Not just the physical attraction but the psychological benefits and confidence that comes with it. There's nothing like a set of bodyweight x 2 squats to help a guy locate his balls. All at once he starts looking better, thinking more clearly, and realizing that he doesn't need her but she does need him.
/r/askMRP05/02/19 02:28 AM
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I sent the kids to stay with the grandparents so I spent most of the time sitting by the pool with a drink and enjoying the quiet time. I did manage to get a few of the lighter projects done around the house, but mostly it was just a vacation.
/r/askMRP05/02/19 02:15 AM
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I have all of hers and she has mine. I don't snoop and at least as far as I know she doesn't either, but I'm upfront with everything I'm doing anyway so it wouldn't really matter if she did. It's mostly just a matter of convenience, ie if she needs to get a number from my phone she doesn't need me to unlock it.
/r/askMRP05/02/19 02:02 AM
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She's fucking at least one of the guys who's texting her. You can probably find her on a few dating apps if you looked. How do you think she's finding all these guys while she sits at home with 3 kids and no money? Going to the gym has turned into her saying I'm all about myself and it takes time from work. Because she doesn't want her plowhorse to start getting attractive to other women, so she's telling you to know your place and get your ass back to work. She knows that you aren't attractive …
/r/askMRP04/02/19 04:28 PM
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I am thinking of sending her a text and saying that... Would this be advisable or should I just STFU? There are exceptions, but any time you find yourself asking this question, the answer is almost always going to be STFU.
/r/askMRP04/02/19 03:40 PM
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You're a drunk beta that needs to be reminded to clean his own room. The fact that she's being a pain in the ass means that you have a loyal wife that's waiting for you to get your shit together. Consider it a favor, and realize that it doesn't last forever.
/r/askMRP03/02/19 10:52 PM
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Agreed, which is why I phrased as one he "let" get away. OP is obviously still caught up in her though and doesn't even realize the bullet he dodged.
/r/TheRedPill02/02/19 05:35 PM
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Checked your history and saw you're a regular meth user. Don't worry because I'm not going to go Nancy Reagan on you on anything. You're free to do what you want, but understand that this will absolutely be held against you if it ever came to a custody battle. Just something to keep in mind before you go Rambo on your wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/19 04:25 PM
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Part of my justification for some of this was "we went to a strip club together, it wasn't cheating then, she understands my desire for other women at times." So you've made a covert contract that says she'll be cool with A because one time you both did B?
/r/askMRP01/02/19 06:41 PM
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Then the question becomes easy. What do you value more, being faithful to your wife or occasionally getting some strange? Tailor your behavior accordingly.
/r/askMRP01/02/19 06:31 PM
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Getting hung up on a weekend of sex that you passed on a decade ago is the pinnacle of scarcity mentality. Ask yourself why it even matters at this point. I bet what you'll find is that you're still seeking external validation through sex, and even after 10 years you're basing part of your self worth on this woman's genuine desire. Knock that shit off and be the prize. Anyone with even the slightest amount of game plus red pill awareness should be able to pick up a decently attractive post-wall …
/r/TheRedPill01/02/19 02:47 PM
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How many women other than your wife could you call to hang out this weekend? If you can't immediately come up with at least two that would enthusiastically agree, then you're not in a place yet to determine whether staying with your wife is the right call or not. What dread level are you on? What value does your wife add for you specifically? Check out the Cut the Shit post stickied to the top of this sub and go through the whole exercise. It'll help you take the wife goggles off and do a real s…
/r/askMRP31/01/19 10:56 PM
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Do whatever allows you to live the way you want to live. If that means one woman, then that's your choice. The whole point is that you make the rules for how you live your own life, not anyone else. My current situation is married, one local plate that I see a couple times a month, and one out of town that I only see a few times a year. Just recently parted ways with another who moved away (military wife in an open marriage). Not in any hurry to replace her, nor am I looking for anything more fr…
/r/askMRP31/01/19 03:30 AM
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I entered a monogamous relationship when I wanted to Seemed pretty straightforward.
/r/askMRP31/01/19 03:08 AM
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It's not what a woman specifically says or does, but the subtext. Did she laugh at the joke because it was funny, or because she wanted to connect with the guy on an emotional level? Not looking for an answer to that, just an example of why context matters.
/r/askMRP30/01/19 08:02 PM
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It sounds like you went out with some friends to have a good time, and you're upset that she had a good time. So she may have flirted with another guy you were there with (hard to tell just from text). What the fuck was she supposed to do, ignore him entirely or ask for your permission to laugh? You're so deep in her frame that you're able to give us a play by play on their conversations. Try talking to the other women you were with instead of hovering around her. Not out of spite or to make you…
/r/askMRP30/01/19 04:28 PM
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You're still doing it lol
/r/askMRP29/01/19 07:40 PM
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So just don't answer. DEERing automatically puts you in the other person's frame. The point is that if you get butthurt about what a bunch of retards on the internet think, there's no way you DNGAF when your wife shit tests you.
/r/askMRP29/01/19 07:36 PM
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All the anger you're seeing in that comment is just one giant test of your frame... that you failed.
/r/askMRP29/01/19 07:07 PM
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Why did she send you a fucking email instead of telling you this? You can probably figure out where you went wrong if you can answer that.
/r/askMRP29/01/19 05:08 AM
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Not touching this except to say you need to talk with a lawyer before doing anything. Cover your own ass first and foremost. And next time, make sure you have a deal in place before you resign.
/r/askMRP27/01/19 04:33 AM
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I'm with everyone saying to switch up your routine, and I'd work the coffee shop in there as well. Start your day early, go lift, work a little from the coffee shop, then come finish up at home. Why? Because you want to. Because you prefer that schedule. It doesn't matter*. It will be better for both of you. Hell, give it 2 weeks and your wife will be pretending like it was partly her decision. *It doesn't matter as long as you actually do prefer that schedule. If it doesn't work for you, don't …
/r/askMRP26/01/19 01:53 AM
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Yeah, that actually makes sense as well. Still not crazy about the idea of OP even concerning himself with the other couple though. His issue is with his wife, and if the greatest punishment he can inflict on her is to threaten her standing with another man, then he has bigger things to work on than her.
/r/askMRP25/01/19 07:27 PM
1

Disagree. OP gains nothing by telling them. Wife potentially gets another shot at the branch swing she wanted if AP's wife ends up leaving him over this.
/r/askMRP25/01/19 05:40 PM
1

He didn't even make it through the first night. This could be a case study into the importance of frame and STFU.
/r/askMRP25/01/19 05:13 PM
1

But despite that im struggling because in my mind playing along and being with the kids 7 days a week maybe worth it. ONEitis by proxy. Theory is just masturbation if you're not willing to apply it. There's only one way to get the real world experience that you're lacking.
/r/askMRP25/01/19 04:02 PM
6

The way that ends is the kids see a weak, broken man for a father who sits idly by while he gets cucked. If you want to make this about the kids, make it about teaching them self respect. They'll grow to resent you as surely as your wife will if you stick around and allow yourself to be treated that way.
/r/askMRP25/01/19 02:57 PM
2

usually that means it might start up again but im sure she wouldnt dare try now and i believe her that it really has ended. If she wants to continue fucking him, she'll find a way to do so without alerting you. Creating a dummy email address, logging in strictly in secret/incognito mode, and making plans for when she knows you're busy isn't all that difficult. This is why it's paramount that you become your own point of origin. You can drive yourself to the point of exhaustion trying to police h…
/r/askMRP25/01/19 01:40 PM
9

Go back and read though the first post you made, and especially the advice you got in response. u/hack3ge hit it right on the nose in this comment, but the whole thread will show you how things got to the point that they did. This marriage is dead, so I'd suggest being brutally honest with yourself while conducting the autopsy so that your next LTR doesn't end up going the same way. If you ever catch yourself saying this again I desperately dont want to lose her then you'll know you're headed fo…
/r/askMRP24/01/19 05:53 PM
3

You sure the kids are yours?
/r/askMRP24/01/19 04:12 PM
2

On top of everything else that's been said, you should be gaming her throughout the day and not just when you want to fuck. Game her even when you know you aren't going to fuck. It sounds like you've conditioned her to think that every time you start getting physical you're going to try and escalate to sex. That's fine (if that's what you want) when you're attractive, leading her, and owning your shit. But right now... well, you see how it's working for you. Your focus right now should be becomi…
/r/askMRP22/01/19 04:24 PM
2

Thank her for pointing them out. "I hadn't seen them before, but now that you mention it they are pretty sexy." Unless they weren't, in which case say so. "No not really my type. That one over there, on the other hand..." As others have noted, you're a man and you're going to notice good looking women. You're especially going to notice good looking women when your wife is pointing them out to you.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 03:18 PM
7

Don't ever let her get the impression that other women flirt with you. Nope, let her know that you shut that shit down and no other woman can ever even hope to get your attention. Especially her friends... as far as they're concerned you're a eunuch. And you should really open up and share your feelings. Maybe even cry. Women love a "real" man that isn't afraid to show his softer side.
/r/askMRP19/01/19 02:44 AM
2

Great post. The bullet points you listed pretty much summarize what I've spent the better part of the last two years learning. The one that I would add is to learn how to embrace subtlety. Something like a nice watch can instantly upgrade the rest of your outfit.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/19 02:36 AM
1

Why so butthurt? I'd just say that must make her a lesbian and I'd see if she wants to scissor. It would hold no more weight than when my 4 year old calls me a poophead.
/r/askMRP16/01/19 02:13 AM
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she thinks it’s weird I’m still friends with ex ... she starts taking about a dude she went on dates with before she met me You see how clear that is once you remove all the useless clutter? You didn't say how you handled the first part, so I can only assume that you went full retard, prompting her bratty tit for tat response. You clearly got butthurt about it and failed that one too. Still does things that challenge my masculinity. Spanks me when I’m crossing paths with her. (That’s my move) Sm…
/r/askMRP15/01/19 01:27 AM
3

One look. I'm calling this one the Angry Zoolander.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/01/19 08:29 PM
12

Not so sure about this one. She admits that she is the issue and actually seems to be making an attempt to get past it. Pretty rare to see her take ownership instead of just blaming men.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/01/19 08:27 PM
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That's only reality if you let it get that bad. Handle your shit at home and at work, have a rock solid frame, and get back to the old relationship dynamic. I had no issues whatsoever after my first kid was born. Amused mastery was my best friend when it came to shit tests from my wife (gf at the time). Just remember that you aren't "helping out with the kid" but "raising your kid." You're also an adult that's entitled to free time, and if there's anything at all I can offer as advice, it's to m…
/r/TheRedPill14/01/19 07:30 PM
9

I'm graduating dental school in April What sort of increase in income are you expecting? Enough to trigger her mushroom-induced epiphany?
/r/askMRP14/01/19 03:01 AM
1

At moderate to high doses, psychedelics will inevitably make you face your own thoughts, fears, regrets, or anything else you may have mentally buried. When you hear of someone having a bad trip, it's usually something along these lines coming to the surface, and because they aren't prepared for it, it causes their mind to spiral out of control. The idea of using them therapeutically is to purposely bring these things to the surface so that you can deal with them directly. In addition, you'll of…
/r/askTRP14/01/19 02:50 AM
3

Guess I found the unicorn that would bite, because that's verbatim what I said the last time I got this question. She called me an asshole, play slapped me on the chest, and immediately picked up where we left off. Pretty sure the question for a question rule assumes that the response question is actually serious. This was framed more in a "just joking... unless you want to do it" sort of way. To much risk. Tell me who the prize is again?
/r/askMRP11/01/19 03:31 PM
12

"Are you saying you want a 3 way?" Sounds like typical ASD/LMR to me.
/r/askMRP11/01/19 04:42 AM
1

Start with Models by Mark Manson. It's limited and a bit self-indulgent, but still probably the best book I can recommend for developing inner game. If you don't think of yourself as a sexual being, then women are going to treat you accordingly. That's honestly like 90% of the battle.
/r/askTRP10/01/19 06:33 PM
4

I've had a couple bouts of depression; a short and relatively minor one in my early 20s and an extended, soul crushing one for most of my 30s. The short answer is that you need to do everything that your depression makes difficult. You lack energy, but you have to exercise (I cannot overstate the importance of lifting). You don't want to engage people, but you have to socialize. You can't work up a single fuck to give about anything, but you have to find something you care about. You can't focus…
/r/askTRP10/01/19 05:10 PM
4

Next girl I approached at the minimarket said hey. She instantely tried to turn me off by saying if I wanted to know directions to somewhere I could ask she shop assistant. These types are a blessing when you're just getting into approaching, even if they don't feel like it at the time. The mindset you quickly capture talking with these types (i.e. "I can say anything I want because I have nothing to lose") is where you eventually want to get with every approach. Just keep working at it.
/r/askTRP10/01/19 04:24 PM
2

Handsome means nice to look at, but not necessarily attractive. The latter requires frame, game, and looks (in that order). You probably project a safe, friendly persona. This isn't necessarily a bad thing, but it does mean that you'll need to be more diligent in making your intentions known when you approach. Work on flirting and subtly adding a more sexual vibe to your interactions with women. I can't stress the subtle part enough, because if you try to run before you've even mastered crawling…
/r/askTRP10/01/19 02:50 AM
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The way you handle manipulation is refuse to be manipulated. Don't give her what she wants. She wanted you home, so she pulled this stunt and it worked. Bad behavior rewarded. All the talking is filler, and the BJ was a bowl of kibbles to reinforce the Pavlovian response.
/r/askMRP09/01/19 10:46 PM
2

I doubt lifting is the key to maintain frame in my case, because I can't recall a single time when she showed interest in male physiques. I want you to really examine this sentence, starting with how you're defining your frame. You just openly admitted that your frame is entirely dependent on validation from your wife. "I don't think x will help me because mommy never said she wants x" Lifting will help you build your frame because it forces you to better yourself. It makes you face challenges h…
/r/askMRP05/01/19 05:30 PM
11

Ellie tells her to come clean, but notice that in her advice she lays the groundwork for questioning the husband's character. Several allusions to the "real man" trope, that he would somehow be of lesser character if he refused to raise another man's child. She even spoke of him forcing her to give the child up for adoption, subtly turning him into the monster for separating a mother from her child (when this was never even brought up as an option by the woman who wrote in). The thought that he …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/01/19 11:11 PM
3

"Looking for something real... here's my FetLife account"
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/01/19 05:45 PM
2

Her grandmotherly face is an interesting juxtaposition with the neck tats.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/01/19 05:39 PM
3

We spend every waking moment with one another. We haven't had sex in over 3 months (that I can remember). We have also been "broken up" for over 2 months. (Discussed that we can have sex with others, etc) So you're an orbiter? First thing you need to do is stop spending every waking moment with your ONEitis and start fucking other women. You lack abundance. I'm fit, good looking Define fit. Height/weight/approx body fat? Lifts? We argue heaps as of late due to dumb shit and her being a bitch...L…
/r/askMRP04/01/19 05:07 PM
3

You could be a metaphorical Lamborghini but if the Ford Focus is out there everyday, putting in the work, trying to make the sale, then 9/10 he's out fucking the Lamborghini's women while the Lambo sits at home and lavishes himself about how he is "the prize." Given that Ford advertises incessantly while Lamborghini doesn't bother, you just undercut your own argument. Lambo doesn't need to peddle bullshit in order to be in demand because they have a quality product and social proof. Ford knows t…
/r/TheRedPill03/01/19 09:18 PM
3

They can never admit that what they did is less than desirable, or makes them lower status. That's why they'll usually reframe it as something that was done to them. If she fucked a guy and it turns out that he wasn't the walking lotto ticket that he presented himself to be, that's "rape by deception" and she's a victim. (Never mind that the only reason the guy even spoke to her was because she was wearing makeup, fake lashes, a pushup bra, and pretended that she was really interested in him as …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/01/19 04:51 PM
21

"Oh, Billy? Don't worry about him, he knows I'm on this site. We're together and I love him so much. He's a real man and is secure in knowing that after a night of doing A2M with Chad, I'll always come home to him. What we have is so much deeper than just sex. He may not be 6'3 and ripped, but his credit score is over 800 he just gets me."
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/01/19 04:17 PM
7

Scarcity personified. If a woman cucks you (or otherwise shows herself to be unworthy of your time), you replace her. You're the prize, not her.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/19 01:41 PM
3

You made a mistake in vetting poorly, but at least you don't have any kids with her. Just be glad you found out now while getting out is still easy. 31 and single, no children, with a solid income and red pill aware... you'll be fine.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/19 01:22 PM
4

does anyone else feel like "all the other guys are crushing it, why can't I?" Don't worry about what anyone else is doing. Your goal is to be better today than you were yesterday, and to be better still tomorrow. The goal of this plan is to be financially stsble and physically fit by 2020, then resume Game when i am happier with myself and life in general. Always be gaming... always. It sounds counterintuitive, but it will be tougher for you to resume next year than it will to just push through …
/r/askMRP31/12/18 03:39 PM
4

I don't want to give in and hand her all the power back Ask yourself: if you had any power in the relationship to hand back, would you be on this sub asking this question? You're completely in her frame and it's spelled out all over this post... I spent money on something for myself and she found the receipt. I should be able to spend my money on myself If I want, but the cover-up and lying made the situation worse. Do I apologize for the lying or just continue to wait her out? The common theme …
/r/askMRP28/12/18 05:10 PM
6

Agreed. I know at my core that I do not need women. I know the absolute worst aspects of female psychology. I know that m-f relationships will always be imbalanced and that I will always carry the heavier burden. Yet I still choose to keep women in my life. That's love, not some hapless BP pussy that clings to the object of his oneitis like his life depends on it.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/18 07:49 PM
1

If you have to give him something, give him an envelope with his $11 in it and instructions on how to find the MRP sidebar.
/r/askMRP21/12/18 02:55 AM
3

Dancing monkeys will dance.
/r/askMRP20/12/18 01:09 AM
2

I don't think that this being a comfort test or an attempt at manipulation are mutually exclusive, and in this case I would treat it as both. Given that the average man is a blue pilled simp that will readily cede any and all power in their relationships with women, she's probably in uncharted territory right now. You can provide some comfort as long as you're mindful of the power dynamics, and watch for comfort tests morphing into compliance tests because that's where this exits any gray area a…
/r/askMRP18/12/18 03:48 PM
1

This is a good question OP. If he sees himself as the victim in all of this and can't see why a lot of this is his own fault, then he's not ready.
/r/askMRP18/12/18 03:38 PM
3

"There are three classes of intellects: one which comprehends by itself; another which appreciates what others comprehend; and a third which neither comprehends by itself nor by the showing of others; the first is the most excellent, the second is good, the third is useless.” - Machiavelli I can appreciate why you want to do this on your own, but once you recognize that you're not grasping something, it's foolish to continue that way. You just need to be good, so striving for most excellent (in …
/r/askMRP13/12/18 02:25 PM
1

Women are born, men are built. You'll hear weak little beta boys whine about this all the time, but it's actually a good thing. Embrace it. It means that the only limitations on what we can become are self-imposed, that the only thing that can stop you is if you won't do the work. You are responsible for your own successes, failures, and everything in between. You create your own mission and you make that your life's North Star. Internalize those ideas and I promise you won't give a single fuck …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/18 06:55 PM
1

It's just after the break up, all I can think of is how I don't want her to be more successful than me. Your lack of frame practically guarantees that she will be.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/18 06:30 PM
1

If you tell her, she shit tests you about TRT. If you don't, your frame will be weakened from within because you know that you're engaging in weak beta behavior. In the long run you'd probably get shit tested more about that than the TRT. I'd wait for the 2nd test results and then mention it casually, but in a way that makes it clear that the decision has already been made that this is something you're going to do. You aren't asking for permission or for her advice, just sharing relevant medical…
/r/askMRP07/12/18 05:03 PM
4

This is especially so for women. Regarding the date, a man will tell you what he did while a woman will tell you how she felt. Tying into the teasing point, it really doesn't matter what you actually say as long as you're outcome independent and your verbal and nonverbal cues are congruent.
/r/TheRedPill06/12/18 05:26 PM
2

Tl;dr Woman who sells herself as a sexual object is upset that her paying customers treat her like a sexual object
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/11/18 04:59 PM
7

I'm fine with anyone setting whatever sort of standards that they like as far as who they'll date/fuck/marry/whatever, but they need to accept that others get to do the same. I think I'm most bothered by the utter lack of personal responsibility though. "Sorry I don't make the rules" is just bullshit. She's talking about who she's willing to date and/or fuck. She's literally the only one making the rules.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/11/18 04:03 PM
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Your last sentence says it all. The world will throw enough shit at you to worry about. No need to invent problems. It may help to differentiate between your mission and your goals. I look at it like this: goals are what I want to do while mission is who I want to be. As such, you never really accomplish your mission, and progress is just living in a manner that's consistent with it every day. Goals are tangible accomplishments and more short term. If you feel yourself getting burned out, you ca…
/r/askMRP30/11/18 02:14 PM
4

You're losing frame. Don't worry about upping the ante or whether you're doing enough to keep a girl hooked. Are you pursuing your mission? Are you your own mental point of origin? Are you owning your shit? If the answer to those questions is yes, then you're doing plenty. Reflection and self assessment are good things, but don't lose perspective on why you're doing this.
/r/askMRP30/11/18 01:59 PM
3

I think it goes beyond societal conditioning. Problem solving is instinctual for men, as is coming to the aid of those in distress. Women have mastered the art of playing up the distress angle and then presenting the problem to be solved. They're simply taking advantage of the way we're wired and using it for their own gain. I don't begrudge women for doing this, but I'm certainly not going to play along with their little game.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/11/18 07:20 PM
7

He certainly found his sacred cow.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/11/18 05:39 PM
3

No history of beta behavior influencing those other interactions, while for most of us, our wives have seen us at our worst. MRP is hard mode for a reason.
/r/askMRP29/11/18 03:27 PM
2

AWALT. It's not that she's any different from the girls you dated before, but that you're different than you were when you were dating those other women. Don't let scarcity start creeping back in. As well as no red flags Red flags are for vetting women before you start dating them. Once you're already in an LTR, she doesn't get credit for not having red flags. That should be a given if she's made it that far (assuming that you were already unplugged when you met her). The better question is what…
/r/askMRP29/11/18 03:04 PM
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This. All of this. If you ever doubt that RP is spot on regarding female nature, just fuck a married woman. The mask comes off almost entirely and you get the unfiltered truth. A few from my own experience: Had a ONS with a married woman who called her husband within minutes of us having sex. She hadn't even cleaned the cum off of her yet and she's telling her husband how much she loves him (while making a face at me saying otherwise). Back in college, had an engaged woman call her bf from my li…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/18 10:06 PM
5

Why would you think that frame and abundance only applies to plates? Those are the cornerstones to any successful relationships. Not just in your personal life, but professionally as well. If you don't have a solid frame, people will not respect you. If you lack abundance, people will take advantage of you because you need them more than they need you. These are universal truths, which is why the sidebar material is so heavily weighted toward them. But when I feel like I showed too much beta qua…
/r/askMRP28/11/18 04:01 PM
7

Am I being a faggot? Yes, but probably not for the reasons that you're thinking. Sometimes I use dread on her or remove attention for a while. I'm not really sure what you mean by "use dread" on her. Dread is something that should be constantly running in the background as the result of being a high value man with a busy life and abundant mindset. Don't be a try-hard faggot that feels like you always have to show her that you can get other women. If you truly are the prize, she'll feel that and …
/r/askMRP28/11/18 03:06 PM
8

Simple. Tell your wife that you'll no longer have your sex life held hostage and that you created a Tinder account. You're just looking for sex, you'll take all the necessary precautions to ensure that you don't impregnate anyone, and you'll be as discreet as possible to prevent any embarrassment on her end. This battle was going to come eventually. Fight it on your own terms.
/r/askMRP28/11/18 01:34 AM
12

I might be in the minority here, but I actually see female hypergamy as one of the purest examples of logic and rationality that you'll find in humans. What's illogical about the following? Secure long term provisioning by offering literally nothing more than something she was born with Continue to fuck Chad when the opportunity presents itself. If a chance to swing to a higher branch comes of it, then great. If not, doesn't matter had sex 3A. Take comfort in the fact that her provider is locked…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/18 03:24 AM
4

If you're trying to solve her problems, what she sees is you making her frustrations all about you. Same if you try to change her mood or start joking before she's had a chance to process her own emotions. It's really the easiest thing, just listen. Empathize when you can but don't go overboard with it. Think of her talking as being equivalent to your lifting in terms of working out frustration. Let her get though her workout (within reason, you're not obligated to sit through hours of this), an…
/r/askMRP24/11/18 02:08 AM
1

"If it was me, I'd have dropped something heavier." If you're going to engage at all, you may as well have some fun with it.
/r/askMRP18/11/18 08:18 AM
3

Yes, everything is out in the open as far as what we earn (which is approx equal depending on upon how her bonuses and my commission end up). The way I handle it is that 80% of her paycheck is deposited into my account. The other 20% is hers spend however she wants, but it also has to cover her daily expenses. Her 401K is maxed out, and insurance also comes from her employer. I handle everything else in terms of finances. The best way to manage short and long term money goals is quite frankly to…
/r/askMRP14/11/18 02:19 PM
5

Unless you're able to demonstrate that disproportionate numbers of TRPs and MGTOWs struggle with codependency in other areas of their lives, then it's a distinction without a difference at best. They struggle with women because they tend to form codependent relationships with women. It only becomes an either/or scenario if the TRPs and MGTOWs in question show a tendency toward codependent relationships in general (family, friends, employers, etc), in which case their struggles with women can be …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/18 03:57 PM
11

If you think this is really about the laundry, ask yourself: Why would she save this particular chore for when you're home instead of taking care of it earlier? You sound tedious, like you're trying to micromanage your own home. Who gives a fuck how long it takes her to fold laundry? Are you paying her by the hour? She doesn't want help from the kids because, aside from the fact that it's not even about the laundry, she's already with them all day. She home schools them, so she's looking for an …
/r/askMRP13/11/18 01:51 PM
1

You're right, all drugs are completely the same. Next time you have a headache and run out of aspirin, just grab some fentanyl. Only an idiot would bother to distinguish between completely different drugs amirite
/r/TheRedPill12/11/18 05:59 PM
1

Noted, and thanks for the suggestions. Finances are where I'm hurting right now as well, so I'm definitely going to give these a look.
/r/askMRP09/11/18 02:17 AM
16

Still, she is disrespectful angry that I’m not “doing it right” and in general throwing temper tantrums where she gets angry and is not on her best behavior. When a woman complains that you aren't loading the dishwasher correctly, it's not really about the dishes. Same applies here.
/r/askMRP08/11/18 08:51 PM
3

My thought is that disciplining children has two goals. One is to correct the immediate behavior, while the other is setting an example of how to appropriately deal with others. If you find a way that you can successfully do both, then stick with it. Don't worry about how the wife is perceiving this. Her feelings are her problem.
/r/askMRP06/11/18 12:52 PM
2

I've been in the same position. Moved to a new city when I was 33, took a job with a small business and only had 3 coworkers (all 60+ years old), and spent most of my free time with the kids. I spent several years living like that with no real friends within 300 miles. It wasn't until I actively made the effort to meet people that anything actually changed. Take one night a week and make it yours, and use that time to pursue an interest that will put you around other people. Doesn't matter what …
/r/askMRP05/11/18 01:21 PM
16

No, and trying to do so will only make the failures worse.
/r/askMRP05/11/18 06:24 AM
3

So in other words, zero actual fucks?
/r/askMRP04/11/18 04:27 AM
5

Wanted to spend a night with you this week. Clearly the feeling isn't mutual. So you realize she didn't want to be there, but harassed her about it anyway? Then acted like a bitch about it after the fact? The only advice I have is to go fuck ten other women, but I don't think you can pull it off. So I guess my modified advice would be to go get shot down by a shit load of women, enough to realize that their opinion of you is meaningless, learn how to be attractive (lift, sidebar, learn game), st…
/r/askMRP04/11/18 04:22 AM
3

I wouldn't make your wife part of the plans one way or the other. "I'm taking (child) to the park" and leave it at that. She may decide she wants to come, or she may decide she wants quiet time at the house. Who really gives a fuck either way? Your goal is to spend some quality time with the kid. If she wants to tag along (i.e. follow your lead) then let her.
/r/askMRP02/11/18 11:38 PM
2

she refused to have sex obviously...my wife asks me from time to time if I mastrubated (She wants me to have it with her instead doing it alone) So she shoots you down for sex and then still expects you to ask permission to jerk off? Unless you're in some sort of D/s relationship and you get off on being her bitch, this is easily the most pathetic thing I've seen here. ​
/r/askMRP31/10/18 02:24 PM
43

she threw a dirty diaper at me A literal shit test. That's a first for me.
/r/askMRP29/10/18 05:39 PM
7

"My wife/she/her" count = 21... in a two paragraph post. ​
/r/askMRP24/10/18 01:59 PM
3

If you were divorced by tomorrow, what could you do then that you couldn't do right now? Unless you have a compelling reason to rush, wait until you're in a more favorable position*. You're thinking emotionally when you need to be thinking strategically. *And "I wanna fuck bitches" doesn't count. Get something on the side. If you're truly ready for divorce right now then you have nothing to lose.
/r/askMRP23/10/18 07:35 PM
5

Read the first three books on the sidebar and Rational Male before anything else. One warning on NNMNG... the author recommends that you tell your wife about what you're doing, but that is horrible advice. The book is a good resource, but it's still a mainstream blue pill book that misses the mark on a few things.
/r/askMRP22/10/18 02:10 AM
14

Isnt MRP designed to improve marriage? No, MRP is to improve the man. Usually the marriage improves as a result, but there's no guarantee. As for plates, do you want to fuck other women? If so, then do it. If not, then don't. You're getting hung up on details and missing the biggest piece: frame
/r/askMRP22/10/18 01:59 AM
4

"You're right, we need another source of income. I'll see about selling my body to that cute blonde in our accounting department." Don't take shit tests seriously.
/r/askMRP20/10/18 09:48 PM
2

A. Bullshit B. You admitted in the linked post that you liked hearing the details C. Why does it even matter if it was an all nighter?
/r/askMRP19/10/18 06:07 PM
3

nah not cuck Another guy is fucking your wife and you haven't left her. You even asked for details. That's textbook...
/r/askMRP19/10/18 05:57 PM
3

If you remain in the marriage now, whatever happens is 100% your fault. Your wife was alpha widowed when you married her and has subsequently gone back to fuck the guy on numerous occasions after the marriage. You've already tried to do the second chance thing and you see how that worked out... she went back and fucked the same guy and then blamed you for it. I know you think you got the whole story, but you've been trickle-truthed every step of the way. That's why you keep finding out new detai…
/r/askMRP19/10/18 05:35 PM
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Usually “my gag reflex is really bad lately” Translation: the thought of blowing you makes me gag. She hasn't physiologically changed since she was blowing you regularly (w/o gagging, I'm presuming), so the change is purely psychological. I'd take it as an early warning that attraction is waning. Maybe only slightly since she's still DTF, but it's definitely trending the wrong way. Increase (passive) dread accordingly.
/r/askMRP16/10/18 12:33 PM
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Seeking pity is even more pathetic than seeking approval. You've taken stock of your life and decided that you're not the person you want to be. That's good, because you can't change if you don't identify the problem. Now that you've identified it, it's time to stop feeling sorry for yourself and instead be grateful that you have the necessary tools to make the changes you want to make (if you can be bothered to put in the work). One of them is over there ------> Now stop whining and get to work…
/r/askMRP16/10/18 12:18 PM
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If a four year old called you a poopyface, would you dwell on it and let it dictate how you behave the next time you saw her? You give too many fucks. You reset easily when you honestly DNGAF about her childish behavior.
/r/askMRP15/10/18 02:08 AM
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i know I need to improve fitness but my attitude towards life and her is what’s gotten me into this mess. Exactly. Physical attractiveness is important, but frame and game trump everything else. anything other than “I’m sorry” when I did nothing wrong and she is just testy is an improvement. All those apologies become a negative feedback loop. You apologize, she loses respect and gets even shittier, which prompts even more apologies. It's the most damaging way to fail a shit test. If you're legi…
/r/askMRP14/10/18 01:38 PM
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Part of why you're getting so much backlash is because you posted asking for help, but then immediately started dismissing every answer that you didn't want to hear. You're also trickle truthing everyone here, when you could have come out and said from the beginning that this is a 3 month long relationship that appears to be limited to a few days a week together. I have plates that I see that often on some weeks. As u/SpitAndGIory noted, you couldn't have come across more weak and insecure. It a…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 05:29 PM
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After the kids went to bed she told me no one listens to her in the house Translation: "My usual methods of manipulating you aren't working anymore." But neither an overactive hamster nor PMS make it acceptable for her to treat the kids that way. She's gone well beyond discipline and is approaching flat out abuse.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 05:03 PM
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"No, I don't think you're fat. I know you're fat." Deliver with a shit-eating grin. "Having a hard time answering. Your gravitational pull is making it difficult to speak." Then walk toward her like you're being pulled, grab her tightly, and take her down on the nearest bed/couch/chair. "Only in the right places." Then casually slap her on the ass and continue what you were doing. Your answer wasn't great, but not as bad as an obviously placating "no" or telling her how you don't like thin women…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 04:08 PM
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This is all womanese for "We aren't an LTR, we certainly aren't exclusive, and I'll fuck whoever I want, whenever I want, even if I'm not doing it at the moment." There's no bluffing here. She's telling OP in about as plain of language as she can that she doesn't want a relationship (with him).
/r/askMRP12/10/18 11:34 AM
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You had a recent post saying that 3 months ago, you were a 30 year old virgin. Serious question, does the woman in question even know that she's supposedly in an LTR with you? I mean really know, because that BS "monogamy talk" (LMAO!) that you described is nothing. Trying to fight through the cringes and piece together what's going on here, she's a 40+ single woman that's DTF now that her kid is away at college. Met you and what should have been an easy lay and a good plate turned into... whate…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 10:56 AM
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Iron Rule of Tomassi #1: Frame is everything The self pity I'm seeing in this post will do more harm than any career change. You have a mission, you're taking the necessary steps in order to achieve it, and whatever short term sacrifices are needed are miniscule compared to the long term benefits. That's your frame. If she's onboard, then great. If not, then why would you want to cling to an LTR that isn't supportive of your mission?
/r/askMRP10/10/18 10:52 AM
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You live in one of the biggest tourist destinations in the US. Use that to your advantage and game tourists until you build abundance. Once you stop giving so many fucks about how you come across to American women, you'll see that they start responding a lot more positively. she has a history of 85% flakes and doesn't follow up with me at all, on the date (a girl I've known since June 2018) This is some weak shit. She isn't interested, so let her be and look elsewhere. You're giving this girl va…
/r/askMRP10/10/18 09:33 AM
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Even on this anonymous forum, I can't bring myself to explain it because it is so embarrassing to discuss This is pretty much the exact opposite of owning your shit. I'm going to assume that she fucked another chick, mostly because that's more fun than all the other shit that this could be about. It really doesn't matter because the problem is the same regardless: you drew a boundary that you weren't prepared to enforce. She called your bluff, and now you're here in damage control. You should ha…
/r/askMRP09/10/18 09:17 PM
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A gym membership for her is cheaper than divorce. Why not try that?
/r/askMRP08/10/18 09:39 PM
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He's a pathetic faggot and his wife already knew it. If his goal was to make sure that everyone else knew it as well, then mission accomplished.
/r/askMRP08/10/18 02:05 PM
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If she's giving you a hard no then drop it... for the moment. If she's saying things like "we have things to do" (i.e. not "no") then keep escalating. More importantly, keep gaming her throughout the day. Be more direct about what you want, but remember the push-pull nature of seduction. Pick her up and put her ass on the counter, kiss her hard, break the kiss before she gets a chance to, and then walk away and go back to whatever you were doing. Do things like this when you know you'll fuck her…
/r/askMRP06/10/18 05:10 PM
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But the STRANGE and frustrating thing is that she sometimes follows this behavior by denying me after she got me aroused and says "No, we have a lot to do today." then proceeds to lie in bed for 20 minutes when we could have had sex already, essentially leaving me blue balled after sucking me off for 10 seconds. I don't understand why she does this? You're asking why she'd get you aroused, give a slight push back, and then lay there completely available to you? Really? She wants you to be more a…
/r/askMRP06/10/18 04:47 PM
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she isn't adding much value to my life You sure this isn't the anger talking? If she truly isn't adding value, then what's keeping you in the marriage. You didn't mention if you're lifting or not. If not, start today and lift heavy. It will put your mind at ease and leave you in a better place to evaluate your life.
/r/askMRP06/10/18 04:19 PM
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What does it really matter if she has her ring on or not? How does the presence of some metal trinket on her hand affect you in any way? You're living in her frame. Step one to getting out of it is to stop giving a fuck about petty things like this.
/r/askMRP06/10/18 03:41 PM
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How many professional minded women do you know of that go after younger men that just graduated college and try to lock them down as providers? Women marry up, and she's an attractive lawyer in DC. When she wants her Nice Guy™ beta, it will be a 35+ politician or a senior partner at a major law firm. Not a 22 year old that hasn't even started building his life yet. More likely, she's not ready to get off the CC just yet and it's just your son's turn.
/r/askMRP05/10/18 05:14 PM
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This. It's basically a barometer to tell you what she thinks of you at any given time. Beta bitches get scolded for loading the dishwasher incorrectly. Chad could load the laundry in there with the dishes and she'd giggle at his carefree attitude.
/r/askMRP04/10/18 07:38 PM
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I can't figure out if this is fake or if it's the most shameless example of white knighting that I've ever seen.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/10/18 01:36 PM
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I estimate its a greater chance i have to leave my wife as a part of this journey, than for it to turn to the better. Being less nice guy will probably anyway be good for me. This is a good start. You're fixing yourself, not your marriage. Fixing the former may fix the latter, it may not, or may help you realize that you'd rather be single. Same plan forward no matter what. I have almost no contact with friends because she hates my friends and gets angry if i want to spend time with them. This i…
/r/askMRP03/10/18 11:50 PM
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Me: Good morning, I love you and my heart misses you One more thing. Why the fuck are you initiating conversations with someone that isn't sure they want you around? Next time you want to text her some weak shit like that, do 50 pushups instead.
/r/askMRP02/10/18 08:49 PM
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Get out and don't look back. She's staying with her "friend" so she can go home with whatever random Chad(s) that she wants. She's getting her alpha fix regularly while she shops around for a better longterm deal. If she can't find one, she "comes to her senses" and "decides to make the marriage work" with you (until the next time). You're falling right into line on this... "It blows sometimes but as time passes I am learning that I actually like having my man cave back" This is how she convince…
/r/askMRP02/10/18 08:42 PM
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What do you have to gain by calling her out? Fuck the new girl and soft next HB7-8. If she wants to win your attention back, she knows how to get in touch with you.
/r/askTRP02/10/18 12:55 AM
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Because you're a strong, independent woman that don't need no man. Counter, why is she asking questions when she's just going to turn around and scream "mansplainer!" at anyone who answers in a way that she doesn't approve?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/10/18 01:16 AM
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Depends on the circumstances, but typically I do tell them (plus I usually wear a ring so it's not like it's a secret that I'm married). You just have to own it. Some women will be put off, but others will see it as a positive because they know you aren't going to get too attached. Just use your judgment. It's only awkward if you make it awkward.
/r/askMRP30/09/18 10:17 PM
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Your hamster is about the break the damn wheel. You live in a city of 8 million people and you're worried about opportunity? Bullshit. Go to a park in the afternoon and start a conversation with the first attractive woman you see. Find one that's walking a dog and use the pet as your opening. Don't worry about whether she's single or not. Just start the conversation and flirt casually without any specific goal. Get in the habit of doing that regularly, wherever you go, and you'll inevitably find…
/r/askMRP28/09/18 10:45 PM
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One thing to be careful about with Snapchat. If your wife/LTR has it as well, they'll sometimes have friends of friends show up on the quick add list. My wife knows I spin plates, but if she didn't then I'd have been caught because of that. There's probably a way to disable that but I haven't looked.
/r/askMRP26/09/18 08:02 PM
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My question, to those that truly live the MRP lifestyle, how successful have you been in keeping your wife and spinning plates? The answers to this are going to vary widely, and quite frankly none of them will matter to your specific situation. If this is your goal, then work towards it. But be honest with yourself, you're here asking because you're afraid of her reaction... i.e. you're approaching the question from squarely within her frame. That alone tells me that you aren't ready to pull it …
/r/askMRP26/09/18 10:28 AM
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I have not read any of the books here that are advised on That's a shame, because 90% of your problems could be fixed by reading and applying the first 3 books on the list.
/r/askMRP24/09/18 05:34 PM
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Sounds like you made up an excuse to that you could justify letting the fear get the best of you. Next time, adjust that thought to "failure is part of the game, therefore I have nothing to lose by escalating." I would actually take it a step further than that and adopt the mindset that escalating alone equals success. Maybe she'll respond, maybe she won't. Who cares? You've improved your own game simply by having the balls to take action, and it will pay dividends later. You'll also develop out…
/r/TheRedPill24/09/18 03:35 PM
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A good discussion point (with the exception of the obvious; release of chemicals such as oxytocin and dopamine which serve an evolutionary purpose also) is it possible to have love for your wife without need and how would you define it? I'd go a step further than the implication here and say that it's impossible to truly know that you love her unless you do not need her. It's knowing that you have limitless options but voluntarily choosing her that defines love as a man, and it's the way that a …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/18 01:48 PM
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You like fucking strange. Accept it, embrace it, and don't get into another LTR unless: She's cool with you banging chicks on the side, or You can get a handle on your guilt You can't undo the past so stop focusing on it.
/r/askMRP23/09/18 10:32 PM
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I'm not going to tell you not to marry, but will highly suggest that you do not marry until your mid 30s (at the earliest). You've got your path ahead, she has hers, and they don't appear to be in alignment. You can love her, fully appreciate the value she has brought into your life, and still know that her role in it is temporary. Keep reading, you'll learn why there is no such thing as an LDR, why 18 means she's about to enter the party/CC stage, and why oneitis (even for a quality, LTR worthy…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/18 10:22 PM
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Why are you giving your "friend" free money and a place to stay when you could give him a job instead? Hell, just let him put you on his resume as an employer and then lie for him. Plenty of businesses will hire someone with a record... they just don't want to be the first ones to do it. That's how you could be an actual friend to him. Your wife is right.
/r/askMRP17/09/18 09:33 PM
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If only there were a book in the sidebar that addressed being able to say no w/o guilt...
/r/askMRP14/09/18 04:31 AM
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"texting this girl for about 2-3 weeks...seems like LTR material...We haven't met yet" Does not compute. She may be LTR material, she may not be. It sounds like you have oneitis for someone you've never even been in the same room with. Why not game as many women as you can and then see which one(s) stand out from the pack?
/r/askMRP13/09/18 07:07 PM
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I don't need to answer hypothetically, because I was you last year. Here's the short version of how it went for me: Wife and I used to bring women home occasionally, but that slowed down when we had the first kid and stopped completely once the kid was old enough to be curious about why some strange woman was over. I was slowly becoming drunk captain, wife getting bored, and a few years later she eventually begins emotional (she claims) affair w/ another chick. I find out, and was pretty much wh…
/r/askMRP10/09/18 03:44 AM
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Haven't been around here long but always found your posts and comments to be insightful. I use psychedelics as well... 2-3 times a year really helps keep me grounded. I won't go into too many details here, but I've come to many of the same conclusions that you described above. Good luck in whatever lies next for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/18 06:24 PM
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Flip a coin. Heads you keep the job, tails you quit. Do it now, and don't read on until you've flipped it. Done? Good, now forget about the result for a minute. Instead, what did your gut tell you when you saw how the coin landed? There's your answer. Whatever you choose to do, just fucking do it and live with the decision. Waffling assures that you end up with the worst of both choices. Not saying walk in and quit your job tomorrow with no plan in place, but take actionable steps to move on and…
/r/askMRP04/09/18 04:44 PM
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The NAWALT part was relevant because it tells us where your head is. Whoever cares less has all the power in a relationship. You pedastalize her while she disregards you, so where do you think the power lies? If she doesn't want to learn to drive, you cannot force her. My guess is you're enabling this by acting as her personal chauffeur whenever she needs to go somewhere. Otherwise why would you care? Stop doing that. The questions you asked really aren't difficult, but it would be a disservice …
/r/askMRP30/08/18 01:21 AM
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You've got the owning your shit part down, but abundance is definitely lacking. Your oneitis will undermine everything if you don't get a handle on that. You asked if you should be out and about if you hope to reconcile? The answer is do whatever the fuck you want to do. If you want to catch and release, do it. If you want to skip the bars and spend time with your kids, do that. If you want to fuck every legal age woman that you can within a 30 mile radius of your home, then fucking do that. You…
/r/askMRP28/08/18 04:19 AM
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I don't see the two as mutually exclusive. Argue from within your frame and let her feel your amusement at how dumb the whole thing is. Being the oak is just letting her feel secure in your emotional stability, it doesn't mean you have to go nonresponsive on her. If you've seen My Cousin Vinny, the way they argued over the faucet is a perfect example.
/r/askMRP25/08/18 11:23 PM
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"resisting the urge to just give in and tell her to move in." In short, hand over your balls and then apologize for not doing it sooner. After all, her bf isn't allowed think for himself and doesn't resist being manipulated. Why would you consider bringing that into your home?
/r/askMRP25/08/18 02:52 AM
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So she acts like a bitch and gets her car serviced for it. What sort of behavior are you incentivizing?
/r/askMRP24/08/18 12:49 AM
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Because AWA-NOT-LT ? Just the opposite. All women know an emotional tampon when they see one. Failing compliance tests (esp ones where she places herself ahead of your kids) is a fast track to getting there. It's an absolute shit situation, but RP principles still apply. I'm not saying to start being an asshole or to expect her to change her grieving process to suit you. I'm certainly not saying to start applying/increasing dread. I'm saying that her problems supersede anything going on in a rel…
/r/askMRP22/08/18 01:22 PM
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Great way to get shitty advice. What works for a wife/LTR of 4 years is going to be a complete disaster if you do the same for a relationship of 4 months.
/r/askMRP21/08/18 10:44 PM
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The common thread across all 3 of these is giving too many fucks.
/r/askMRP20/08/18 12:15 PM
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Your response: this is something I want to do.
/r/askMRP20/08/18 11:21 AM
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Confessing because she was afraid to lose you doesn't make a whole lot of sense, unless the confession was damage control... Usually "not prepared" translates to "afraid to go through with it" when people are speaking about divorce. Be honest and ask yourself if that sounds like you. If so, embrace the fact that everything is out in the open now. The bandaid has been ripped off. She's going to try and get you to work it out. That's obviously up to you, but just know that every day that passes si…
/r/askMRP20/08/18 12:13 AM
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Just saw u/mrp2017's comment and checked your history: "She was waiting for me in the bedroom and told me while balling her eyes out that she got drunk on 6 different occasions and hooked up with 6 different randos from the bar. She had 2 of them in her phone contacts." Damn. Found a better fix for your oneitis. Find a chalkboard and write: "My wife fucked 6 random dudes behind my back" Write it over and over, Bart Simpson style. Keep in mind that if she's confessing to 6, it was probably more l…
/r/askMRP19/08/18 11:44 PM
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Fuck it, I'll bite. What brought you to RP, why do you think 20 years of oneitis can be quickly erased, and why is strange (the best answer, btw) such an umsatisfactory response that it leads to this reply? I get if you don't want to fuck other women. RP is amoral so no judgement either way on that. But the only real cure for oneitis is abundance, and the quickest answer there (as you asked) is strange. It's not necessary to cheat, you can just flirt or catch and release to build an abundance me…
/r/askMRP19/08/18 11:29 PM
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Is this typical moodiness? If so, just be the oak and save your frustrations for the iron temple. You can still ignore unreasonable requests and shut down any behavior that goes way over the line, but you have to cut her some extra slack during pregnancy.
/r/askMRP19/08/18 07:24 PM
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Not necessarily, but it's definitely an uphill battle. She could be saying those things to reassure herself that she was correct in her initial assessment of you as pure beta. Could be that she's acutely aware of the way you've changed as she's trying to shove you back into your cage. Or maybe she still sees you as a beta faggot and doesn't give a shit about talking down to you. Hard to tell without context. Your course of action is the same regardless.
/r/askMRP18/08/18 05:37 AM
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This. Don't fight their instinct to rewrite history. Instead, be the man who makes her rewrite history in your favor.
/r/askMRP17/08/18 02:18 PM
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Einhorn is Finkle?
/r/askMRP17/08/18 02:01 PM
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"We've always been at war with Eurasia."
/r/askMRP15/08/18 01:45 AM
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Yup, shit test. Wants to see if your frame matches the improved exterior or if it's all just for show. It means that you're on the right track.
/r/askMRP14/08/18 06:05 PM
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Worked for him for 15 years... he's probably more of a father figure than anything at this point. She may have been fucking somebody for those 6 months, but I'm not convinced that it was this guy.
/r/askMRP14/08/18 05:57 PM
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Here's a question to consider: how would your feelings change if you found out that she's a self-proclaimed "born again virgin" after spending the past few years riding the CC? I ask because that's the only context where "I met a virgin on Tinder" makes any sort of sense. Personally, I'd say get over the preoccupation with whatever (whoever) she's done and ask if she adds value to your life, if she's as trustworthy as possible given AWALT, and you agree on what's important to you. If the answer …
/r/askMRP13/08/18 07:36 PM
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No. If you want to end it, just do it. Stop looking for us to validate your decision. Take some goddamned responsibility for your own life, faggot.
/r/askMRP13/08/18 12:12 PM
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Captain She-Ra sensed a mutiny building and she decided to crush it in its infancy. You were an already beaten down beta that never had a chance. Keep reading and focus on lifting. It gets a lot easier once you've read and internalized it all.
/r/askMRP10/08/18 02:29 AM
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You may want to have someone take a look at your form for squats and deadlifts. Squats shouldn't be higher, and it usually means that you're either not getting low enough on squats or at least partially lifting with your back on deadlifts. Especially since you're about to start on a new program, seems like a good time to refocus on form so you don't end up injured.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 04:59 PM
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Tell her that you wouldn't want to hold her back from all those options and limit contact as much as possible until the baby is born. Then get the DNA test and hopefully be done with her for good. In the meantime, follow the MRP program (lift, sidebar, STFU) as normal and go fuck 10 other women. You're effectively divorced as of now.
/r/askMRP07/08/18 03:22 AM
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You rid yourself of a clingy plate and your friend got a piece before she left. Sounds like wins across the board to me.
/r/TheRedPill03/08/18 06:03 PM
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That shits a bitch and I suspect low T is either a cause or a symptom You can get a temporary T boost just by successfully gaming some women. Go spin some plates and see if that helps. Don't worry about your wife, just tell her: "I need to do this because it makes me feel good and keeps me healthy." Oh, she wouldn't find that to be at all reasonable? Interesting...
/r/askMRP03/08/18 05:28 PM
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I’ve learned that stfu is great but you have to be yourself around your wife so if you have interesting stuff to say and chat about then do it. STFU doesn't mean be an autist and sit in silence with your wife. It means don't talk about MRP, don't talk about all the ways you plan to improve yourself, and don't engage when she's being shitty. The latter one is key when you've just started unfucking yourself and you're still deep in her frame. Of course you should talk about things you find interes…
/r/askMRP03/08/18 12:30 PM
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I take more of an enjoy the decline approach. Feminism as we know it is already in its death throes, which is exactly why there's been so much effort to try and explain its inevitability.
/r/TheRedPill02/08/18 06:51 PM
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"As a newly single woman, you're free to be as open as you'd like to be." Then let her discover on her own the joys of post-wall dating.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/18 04:20 PM
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Im in an LTR, and through the hole time my views have changed, dependant on where I was in my trp map. With the information and books that I have and my sidebar readings you can guess I am changing all the god damn time! I read things that resonates with me and change to that information! People change over time. Not your responsibility to check with her first and seek approval for those changes. It would certainly be easier to start over with someone that hasn't seen you at your weakest, but it…
/r/askMRP02/08/18 02:18 PM
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Confession usually implies wrongdoing. What, exactly, did she do wrong? Your mistake was asking a question when you really didn't want the answer. If you're going to get butthurt over her past, just don't ask. It doesn't fucking matter, and it's not like she's going to tell you the whole truth anyway.
/r/askMRP31/07/18 04:15 AM
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Tl;dr LARPing about LARPing
/r/askMRP30/07/18 10:57 PM
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You can expect it to help you shape your own reality, but it takes work. And of course there's no guarantee that anyone else will be onboard, but that's completely out of your control. Gotta face that shit head on if you want to get past the anger. Use it as motivation in the gym and then reflect on it once you've gotten it out of your system. Try to attack it with a clear head and you'll start to make sense of it. Soon you'll realize that all of your anger should be directed inward, and then ev…
/r/askMRP30/07/18 10:38 PM
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Did you actually move beyond the anger phase, or did you simply wait long enough for the anger to become despair?
/r/askMRP30/07/18 10:02 PM
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Just noticed that you said together for 5 years but didn't say married. Are you married? If no marriage, no kids, and still in your early 30s (assuming this is what the 1987 is for), you're not in a bad place. Certainly not one where you should tolerate a DB for 3 months.
/r/askMRP29/07/18 12:05 AM
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"I basically asked, not begged, for her to wait until I am the best man I can be...She thought it was good timing I came to these realizations after the threat to leave me." This is why you don't talk about fight club. You made yourself completely pathetic and then handicapped yourself in the recovery process. She thinks everything you've done to improve yourself is for her. I kind of think she's right. You're not at DL3. In fact, you're at negative dread. Dread is fear of losing you on some lev…
/r/askMRP29/07/18 12:00 AM
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Don't underestimate the role of momentum. She sees you improving, and her hamster is busy extrapolating those gains out weeks/months/years. And as she's seeing you become that best version of yourself, any dread she's feeling is as much about losing THAT guy as it is your current self. Also why it's important to stay motivated and never let up, as momentum can just as easily work against you.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/18 07:23 PM
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".... it's like having a captain and I need/like guidelines/framework to keep me on course" when it came to setting up our budget. I'm guessing that if she's looking for a financial leader she's looking for a leader in all aspects and overtly telling me so? This is one of the things I consider a milestone. That point when you finally realize that she's been giving you the answer all along.
/r/askMRP27/07/18 05:34 PM
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I feel you. If it was easy you wouldn't be here. Be mindful of whose frame you're operating from. Making a deliberate decision to sacrifice one thing you want for another that you want even more is fine. Hell, it's more than fine... it's life. But portraying yourself as a victim of circumstances is prisoner mentality. "I'd like to have my freedom back, but I'm more invested in raising my kids" = owning your shit and making a decision = strong frame "I want to leave but the kids need me/the wife …
/r/askMRP27/07/18 12:22 AM
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I can sum it up in 3 words: Live without regret That means owning every decision I make while also never overanalyzing something to the point of inaction. As long as I can honestly live up to that standard, then I know that any mishaps or missed opportunities were unavoidable and not worth a second thought.
/r/askMRP26/07/18 03:14 PM
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She can fuck right off as far as I’m concerned but the kids need me. FTFY. Of course the kids need you, but you can be a great father without staying married. And stop saying "new dad". You'd still be their dad, she'd just have a "new chump" to kick around.
/r/askMRP26/07/18 01:09 PM
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One thing to add. You probably shouldn't read anything beyond that from the sidebar. On the off chance that he does end up here, it's better for both of you that he take that journey on his own. There's a redpill wives sub linked on the main TRP page. That's probably your best bet going forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/18 12:25 AM
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You can try, but I'm not sure how much good it will do. From reading through your other post and the comments, he's the perfect picture of beta rage. He thinks that since he's holding up his end of the bargain (i.e. "personal ATM") that you should be falling over youself to fuck him. He doesn't understand that this isn't how attraction works, and he resents you as much for losing attraction as you resent him for becoming this way. His refusal to contribute at home is a passive aggressive respons…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/18 12:13 AM
1

Glad to hear you're already on top of that.
/r/askMRP25/07/18 06:32 PM
5

admitting to assaulting our 10 month old when I wasnt home. Get him the fuck away from your kid. Anyone that would assault a baby needs years of work (if they're redeemable at all). If you're dead set on giving him another chance, try a separation before you file anything. letting me be pissy when I was pissy because the world doesnt revolve around me Good that you recognize this. Now apply the same logic to him. His mental illness is his issue to deal with, not yours. You can support him in get…
/r/askMRP25/07/18 05:44 PM
4

Her behavior was a reflection of you. You're not turned off by her, but by the fact that you lived most of your life acting like a bitch. Welcome to the anger phase. You spent decades following the instructions step by step, only to find out later that you were building a sexless life of betadom. It sucks. Do whatever you need to do to come to terms with that or risk wasting even more time focused on a past that you can't change.
/r/askMRP24/07/18 11:02 PM
1

I just took a week off trying to get over something similar (both arms). There's a Youtube video on Athlean-X that addresses this and how to correct your form to prevent the injury from recurring.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/18 08:58 PM
2

Think macro level. The takeaway is to take initiative for your own life, for the sole purpose of making yourself a better man. None of the things you listed are bad, but the risk is that it becomes a checklist of tasks that you complete w/o first establishing your frame. That's just choreplay. Worker bee: "These are the things I need to do" Leader: "This is my goal, and these are the things that I need to ensure get done in order to reach it" Once you reach that goal, crack a beer and take 5 min…
/r/askMRP23/07/18 07:19 PM
1

Good shit on the social end... now just make sure you follow through. That will go a long way toward getting you out of her frame and help you start living for yourself again. It's no coincidence that she liked you more when you were spinning plates than when you had moved into her frame. Not saying to spin plates (also not saying not to, that choice is yours), but the abundance mentality that comes with it is inherently attractive to women. That's not entirely what I meant as far as feeling lik…
/r/askMRP23/07/18 05:14 PM
1

Need to focus on growing my life/friendships/activities outside of marriage What steps are you taking to make this happen? “well I would leave but then who is going to take care of the house (we do about 50-50 house work) and cook your meals?” This tells me 2 things: She doesn't really want to leave, because otherwise she'd have used your indifference toward her threat to justify doing so (you did well here) She feels like your mom (MAJOR work ahead) Keep working on leading, but expect some pret…
/r/askMRP23/07/18 04:35 PM
7

I'll be honest, I only read enough of this to see that you're complaining about the bahavior of a woman that gave birth 3 days ago. Nut the fuck up and captain your ship. You can deal with her shittiness later, but now is not the time.
/r/askMRP21/07/18 05:22 PM
2

Glad you recognize that, because his advice is spot on. Use this time to fortify your frame, because there will be plenty more storms ahead. How you conduct yourself now plays a large part in how those will go.
/r/askMRP21/07/18 05:16 PM
1

Short answer is that women aren't the only ones with overactive hamsters
/r/askMRP20/07/18 07:10 PM
3

I think a lot of was I became stale in and out of the bedroom. Sex was regular but I was never spontaneous or unpredictable. This is basically the equivalent of giving a woman starfish. Based on the shit testing and that she was still fucking you, there was still some level of attraction. But she was very likely bored. If a woman is going to cheat because she's looking to swing branches, she's looking for the highest value man she can get. Probably not the case here. But if she's otherwise conte…
/r/askMRP20/07/18 06:51 PM
3

But again, it was just snaps. Sounds like she's been working hard to minimize what actually happened. I'd be more worried about what prompted her to reach out and have a 45 minute conversation with him, at a time when she knew you wouldn't be around, and then save his information under a fake name. You're not going to find hard evidence when she uses a medium that automatically erases messages and has a password protected "My Eyes Only" tab for anything she wants to save. Does she usually commun…
/r/askMRP20/07/18 05:48 PM
3

The most important things are to keep her guessing, don't overthink it, and do it even when you know sex is off the table. As for specifics, get creative. Tell her to take her panties off and then demand proof. Tell her what you're going to do to her. Role play and tell her that your wife is away for the night and that you have something for her. My wife works in a restaurant, so I'll tell her that I'm only putting out if she brings me dinner. If she works with a lot of other women, you can use …
/r/askMRP19/07/18 05:23 PM
5

I’ll keep doing what I’m doing, begin the prerequisite reading, let her calibrate herself towards her household again, and keep the peace in my household desperately needed for proper child rearing - as opposed to divorce and all the negative shit that comes with it. Be honest with yourself. The most likely outcome is that she calibrates her behavior in a way that allows her to put her betabux husband back in his cage while still getting dick on the side. Hell, you've already seen an example of …
/r/askMRP18/07/18 06:53 PM
3

You have children, so you're well aware that giving in to tantrums for the sake of peace only leads to more frequent tantrums and unruly kids. Why would dealing with a woman be any different?
/r/askMRP18/07/18 04:48 PM
1

Thousand foot rope post here.
/r/askMRP18/07/18 04:26 PM
2

You've actually already done the hard part, which is an honest assessment of your weaknesses. Most people never get that far (still working on this myself to be perfectly honest). How do you find the gray area? Think about this logically. If you were standing on a floor that was black on one side of the room and white on the other, would you try to jump all the way across to find the shade of gray that you're looking for? Or would you move gradually and mindfully across until you found the sweet…
/r/askMRP17/07/18 06:10 PM
1

IIRC, you got called out for too much ego and lack of frame. QED
/r/askMRP17/07/18 05:37 PM
1

Consider this: she's changing things at the last minute and canceling on you because you're the backup plan. There's not a ton of info here so I could be off base, but that's the feeling I get.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 03:47 AM
1

SBX honestly thinks I’m going to entertain a “trial separation” when I’ll have my plan in place. The "trial separation" bit sounds like something she cooked up because she doesn't want to be viewed as the wife that killed the puppy while you were deployed, but also wants to be free to fuck Chad Jody without technically being a cheater. She's setting the stage to fight the post-divorce PR battle on her terms. Not much you can do about it right now except quietly play along and make sure that you'…
/r/askMRP14/07/18 08:44 PM
3

It feels good to think about being vindictive, but you're ultimately attacking your children by doing so. Their mother is the most important woman in their life, so whatever damage you do to her influences them (esp the younger ones). Get out of her frame and do what's best for YOU. I'll add this on to the other advice you've gotten. You no longer owe her anything, and that includes a timely decision or transparency regarding what you plan to do. Lift, read the sidebar (here and MRP), do fun shi…
/r/askTRP12/07/18 04:34 AM
1

Too much talking. If she's telling you by her actions that she doesn't want to be involved in the planning, stop involving her. Make the decisions yourself and go forward. If she wants any say in those decisions, she'll need to hold up her end of the bargain. That's how you enforce that boundary.
/r/askMRP11/07/18 02:38 PM
2

Not since my last prison stay...
/r/askMRP10/07/18 05:41 PM
9

Social life needs to be addressed before anything else. You won't be truly happy until you take care of that (no matter how often and how well you're getting laid).
/r/askMRP10/07/18 05:22 PM
3

Your situation isn't that unique. Many of us have been there. There's one of three things stopping you from getting what you want at the moment: She's not attracted enough to surrender herself fully to you She's not comfortable enough to surrender herself fully (i.e. fears being judged) She has hard limits that she won't break for anyone The answer to 1 is to make yourself more attractive. For #2, you need to create a sexual atmosphere where she feels comfortable sharing her most depraved though…
/r/askMRP09/07/18 01:53 PM
4

The article addresses the exact question you asked. Were you expecting a cheat code that allowed you to bypass the necessary work? Also, The Sex God Method, over there ----->
/r/askMRP08/07/18 04:23 AM
1

The apps serve their purpose, but you'll probably have better luck doing cold approaches. Best part is that if you can merely become adequate at it you'll stand out, because so many men just can't/won't do it at all anymore. If you have an active and interesting social life, use social media to your advantage. Get an IG account and post all the interesting shit you've been doing. That way when you do meet a few women and exchange information, they can see right off that you're a fun amd high val…
/r/askMRP07/07/18 02:08 AM
1

Why are you afraid to tell your wife that you think therapy might be beneficial to you?
/r/askMRP02/07/18 09:16 PM
1

So many questions unanswered. How old are the two of you? Any signs of emotional/mental health issues before this? Has she ever expressed fear at losing you before, or just after this party where she got drunk and returned clearly regretting something? I'm not qualified to assess her mental health, but I've suffered 2 extended bouts of depression myself (most recent lasted 5+ years). Neither just came out of nowhere like that. It's possible that she's just been hiding it well, but unless there h…
/r/askMRP01/07/18 04:38 PM
2

sex with horniness was something belonging to when you were young and met someone "with a nice body" She just told you she'd be horny for someone with a nice body. Also implied that unless you became that someone, the sex (when it happened at all) would lack horniness (i.e. starfish). She couldn't have been more clear about this. Should I just kill the puppy now and move on, or is there any hope that she will come around finally, and if that is the case , what would your advice be? Stay plan = g…
/r/askMRP29/06/18 12:48 PM
5

Don't get baited into doing anything that could be perceived as threatening (even raising your voice counts at this point). You can tell the kids in due time (if they want to know), but right now you need to be a saint. It wasn't an accident that she backed out of mediation, and unfortunately you probably won't know what angle she's playing until the accusations start flying.
/r/askMRP28/06/18 12:21 PM
2

I'd let this one go. Doesn't sound like she's irresponsible with money and this was something that needed to be done. As an aside, how is she pulling in $25K as a SAHM?
/r/askMRP28/06/18 01:16 AM
2

If you're AAing based on her perceived response, you're doing it entirely wrong.
/r/askMRP27/06/18 05:51 PM
3

My wife used to try and weaponize my schedule against me as well. Good that you recognize what is happening. The quickest way to put an end to it is to make sure you have a place to stay if you need it, and then leave the next time she pulls this shit. Don't tell her where you're going or when you'll be back. Don't say much of anything, except that you're not going to deal with her tantrums and that you'll discuss it later when she's calm. A word of caution... she's either going to go nuclear wh…
/r/askMRP27/06/18 01:54 PM
1

Only way I'm paying new car pricing is if the robot can change forms into whoever I want it to be that day.
/r/askMRP26/06/18 05:16 PM
2

Derp... apparently I can't read What level are you on now? And more importantly, are you prepared to get your needs met elsewhere if she won't do it? Women are incredibly intuitive, so if you won't at least entertain the idea of fucking other women then dread most likely will not work (no matter how well you fake it). I get that you want to honor your vows, but is she honoring hers?
/r/askMRP24/06/18 05:40 PM
1

You say you've been applying dread for 4 years, but what level are you on right now? Four years is about 3 years past fuck me or fuck you territory.
/r/askMRP24/06/18 04:46 PM
1

Both options are available, but some of the certificate ones have a cost. The ones I've done are just for knowledge.
/r/askMRP22/06/18 12:46 AM
2

Online business classes seem like a good place to start. Lots of free ones out there, and you can pick up a lot if you're willing to put in the effort.
/r/askMRP21/06/18 09:41 PM
1

So her words don't match her actions? Imagine that...
/r/askMRP21/06/18 03:25 PM
1

If there's no reason to hide it from your wife, then just bring it up casually. If there is a reason you're hiding it, just ask your parents not to mention it. If you're trying to stash the money in a separate account, just bring up the promotion and don't get into specifics on the raise. I think the bigger issue here is that you seem to hold a mindset where you sit and wait for life to happen to you instead of taking control of the situation. All of this is under your control as long as you're …
/r/askMRP20/06/18 02:17 PM
15

Maybe she knew that you'd talk about your questionable business online, and that $35,000 is bail money.
/r/askMRP19/06/18 12:44 AM
10

You're overthinking this. If she's generally sexually available and enthusiastic, then there's no need to withdraw attention for the occasional rejection.
/r/askMRP18/06/18 10:32 PM
4

The goal shouldn't be to memorize a bunch of responses to shit tests, but to stop giving a fuck about them. Work on that and everything else gets easier.
/r/askMRP15/06/18 11:21 PM
2

"This made me incredibly confused about which behaviors would be rewarded with intimacy and which ones wouldn't." As soon as you start to view sex/intimacy as a reward, you're lost. You may as well learn to roll over and play dead so she'll give you a Scooby snack.
/r/askMRP15/06/18 11:13 PM
5

"she said"..."She calls me to tell me"..."She says"..."She said"..."She said"..."She said"..."She hangs up and sends" Why are you paying any mind to her words right now? Everything that follows one of those statements (with the exception of the cat food) should be ignored, at least until you get home. Texting is for logistics.
/r/askMRP14/06/18 11:19 PM
3

You're starving yourself. Literally. Your body is preserving fat because a 1200 calorie a day diet signals that food is scarce, so your metabolism has slowed as a survival mechanism. You're burning muscle because it requires a high calorie intake to preserve, and your body is trying to shed anything that requires excess energy (because you've told it that the calories aren't available).
/r/askMRP14/06/18 08:38 PM
3

Go wherever you want from here, except for a wedding chapel. Count your blessings that this shit happened while you were engaged, and under no circumstances do you marry this woman.
/r/askMRP10/06/18 02:46 AM
1

Started gaming and now practice catch and release Are you gaming your wife as well? It sounds like she's looking for emotional engagement (gaming, being playful, etc). If you're not giving her positive emotions she'll try to force you to engage her negative ones. I'm in a similar situation. Only about 8 months into my MAP and sex was never a problem even at my lowest, but I was a drunk captain (type 1) for several years. Course corrected, then overcorrected and as a result faced a slew of shit t…
/r/askMRP07/06/18 06:49 PM
1

You're halfway there already then. Just spend some time on Youtube and find something that will work for you. Athlean X has some decent routines that you could make work with what's available to you now.
/r/askMRP06/06/18 01:05 AM
1

PF should still have dumbbells, and if not a set for the house is pretty cheap. Then hit Youtube and you'll get dozens of routines you could try. You'll spend a little more time that way, but you'll see results quickly if you stick with it. Get a real gym membership when you can, but don't let a lack of one be the excuse you tell yourself to put off getting started.
/r/askMRP06/06/18 12:43 AM
6

If you agree that you need to man up, then you answered your own question. You're doing this because you realize that who you are now isn't who you want to be in the future. You're internally motivated... and ultimately that's what matters. Also, keep in mind that these books aren't dogmas that must be accepted full scale. If you disagree with something, just write that part off and continue on. It's about shaping your overall character, not setting an arbitrary set of guidelines that you must l…
/r/askMRP04/06/18 11:23 PM
2

No reason to think that she is imo, but you would know better than anyone here. Worrying isn't going to change a damn thing either way. Just let it be for now and watch her behavior when she gets back.
/r/askMRP03/06/18 03:11 AM
3

Don't make important decisions when you're not thinking clearly. That's not even an RP concept, but basic common sense.
/r/askMRP03/06/18 01:46 AM
7

Her: I want x to eat tonight (and you will be paying for it and picking it up and bringing it home to me). Me: I don't want to do that. I would rather cook y instead. Her: -Guilt trip, reasons why she deserves the food, bad mood if she doesn't get it. You: I don't want x, so I'm going to cook Y. Should I make enough for both of us, or are you going to pick up x? If you are going out, can you also stop by (store) and pick up z for me?
/r/askMRP30/05/18 04:44 PM
1

Playing devil's advocate, part of being a man worthy of respect is having (and enforcing) boundaries. If you've allowed her to walk all over you for years, then drawing one line in the sand isn't going to do much to change her perception. However, it's a vital first step.
/r/askMRP26/05/18 03:12 AM
0

I actually think you made the right call agreeing to meet him. He knows where you live, and the last thing you need is for him and a bunch of his friends to show up unexpectedly. The fact that he didn't just show up already tells me that he probably doesn't want to fight, but refusing to talk could set him off. Then you get jumped in your own home after the gf lets them in. As for this talk, he probably envisions a scenario where you're overly apologetic, he gets to play badass for a few minutes…
/r/askTRP08/05/18 05:14 PM
0

AF/BB Our body agendas evolved long before the creation of birth control. In such a time, the rational thing to do for a woman that was just separated from Chad was to assume pregnancy and lock down Billy asap. Someone socially clueless is actually better here, because that's someone that isn't going to ask questions when she springs the news about "his" baby. Important to note that now this is all happening subconsciously. She's most likely being honest when she says she loves him for all those…
/r/askTRP02/05/18 02:23 AM
1

Even at that level, you should have learned about purchasing power parity (PPP). This explains why $1 in location A is not necessarily equal to $1 in location B. How can I live very comfortably in Jacksonville on a salary that would barely cover basic living expenses in Manhattan? Apply that to testosterone and its relative effect on male vs female sex drive.
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