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I think they were saying that women attract more attention in general compared to men, rather it be someone who wants something casual or someone who wants a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 06:35 AM
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The men who have no value aren't wanted and thus don't get to gatekeep anything. This hits close to home. As a man with no value, this is my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 03:54 AM
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As a man if you can honestly say you are bettering yourself everyday in some small way, care about your health and body, and want to be a supportive spouse but also have healthy boundaries then it’s only a matter of time befoee a woman notices this. Because average dudes who mildly take care of themselves are fighting off women with brooms.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 12:16 AM
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When's the last time you've ever heard tell of someone being asked for a proper relationship in a club? I don't think a loud and crowded nightclub is the most appropriate place to ask someone to be your girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 11:58 PM
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Women not want those men put them out or the dating race. This is coming from experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 09:32 AM
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I'm already in my 20s and my dating life has been non-existent. If dating is going to get more challenging for me, post-20s then it is all over for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 06:13 PM
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There’s plenty of options for the “nice guy” in the marriage:relationship market once he gets older or provided he’s not looking for the most beautiful woman on the market. As a nice guy, I have been looking for these options and have yet to find them,.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 01:19 AM
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You think I haven't been working on that? It's not like I can just buy charm like socks.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 10:45 PM
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I've been displaying these qualities yet little to no women , regardless of attraction, expressed any interest in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 09:57 PM
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As if chubby plain Jane is throwing herself as below average dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 12:26 AM
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This is the most cliche stuff I’ve seen. This is basically the 8 trillionth time I’ve seen this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 08:44 PM
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I’m 100% in that category.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 04:00 PM
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As a conventionally unattractive man, all women (regardless of attractiveness) are not interested in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 02:48 AM
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All the AI will do is just add to the sex market much like porn, sex toys, cam girls, Only Fans, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 05:22 PM
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The ableism in the subreddit is very troubling.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 06:18 PM
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Those people are racist and xenophobic idiots. Hope you get to see better people.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 12:06 AM
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non-asian woc(like brown latinos, indians, blacks) look ugly or masculine Firstly, that's ridiculous. And secondly, last time I checked, Indians and other South Asians are Asians. Also, there are Black people who can be classified as Asian (many of them are from India and South Asia). Asia isn't just East and Southeast Asia.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 12:01 AM
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The average male height in the United States is 5'9 while it is 5'7 globally.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 11:44 PM
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I've honestly noticed this among some of my female coworkers. There's a strong emphasis on pending to be distant and cold which makes them really insufferable people to be around sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 07:49 PM
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I think it's a bit of both.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 10:31 PM
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I have a friend like this. He's a knowledgeable and down-to-earth human being and is quite conventionally attractive. However, he's been having severe dating issues. It's mostly due to bad luck. A lot of women he dated were quite reserved, distant, and stuck up. I've seen that he wears his heart on his sleeve so a lot of his dates assume he's too cringy. However, he is now just seeking casual flings which I think is a good idea for him since he could really use the low risks and confidence boost…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 03:42 PM
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Because this is the internet and open racism and misogyny has been a big problem on the internet.
/r/AllPillDebate25/01/23 11:08 PM
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I don't see guys doing that as much. I don't think anyone who does this outside of middle school.
/r/AllPillDebate15/01/23 11:44 PM
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Also, the Black man fetish is mostly just a racist myth. Most Women are more likely to find Black men less attractive than White men.
/r/AllPillDebate15/01/23 11:39 PM
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"black men are %100 privileged sexually in 2023" As a Back man, where in the world is this privilege?
/r/AllPillDebate15/01/23 11:36 PM
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USA did a decade scan study showing women were much fatter than men back in 2004. To be fair, most women are more likely to pick up fat due to biological reasons. This may be partially due to pregnancy.
/r/AllPillDebate15/01/23 11:20 PM
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I don't see too many women (regardless of attractiveness) wanting to bang a random porn addict though. If that's the case, then I would've been slaying it as an undergrad in college.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 04:07 AM
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He's relatively average looking by American standards.
/r/AllPillDebate31/12/22 10:12 PM
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That neurotypical requirement broke me there. :(
/r/AllPillDebate30/12/22 11:02 PM
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Or the girl is simply just an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 01:56 AM
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In other words, it's over.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 01:48 AM
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This is the classic “girlfriend from Canada” argument.
/r/AllPillDebate20/12/22 06:53 PM
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Seems really dishonest to treat yourself as a product for a specific person to consume.
/r/AllPillDebate12/12/22 02:42 AM
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Incel wiki? Really?
/r/AllPillDebate11/12/22 10:03 PM
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Is the fat shaming necessary? Why hate on people for the crime of not being attractive?
/r/AllPillDebate10/12/22 11:44 AM
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So women face difficulties finding the right partner. Seems like they face less difficulties finding a partner compared to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 10:10 PM
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Do you have one to share ? I would be curious to read them. I love economics studies. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8179854/ Here is one study I have found. Also, on average, people spend 5 years in college and have their entire lives ahead of them once they leave. I highly doubt too many people in their mid-30s or late-20s are hung up on their college freshmen and sophomore hookup. Also, as a college student, I will tell you that the college hookup culture is not nearly as big as…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:43 PM
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This seems kind of interesting because studies have found that people are becoming more and more likely to befriend, date, and socialize within their socioeconomic class. So these working-class women getting laid by multimillionaire gigachads isn't really the norm as people are saying that it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:16 PM
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You dropped the truth bomb. I've been saying this for years.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 05:01 AM
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he red pill has too much of the us vs them mentality. It paints women as the enemy, someone to always be suspicious of, to always question their motives. To be fair, a lot of dating advice is based on this toxic mentality. FDS another example of this nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 10:13 PM
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I would argue that those who fell victim to the dangers of the redpill were always troubled individuals regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 09:22 PM
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That's the first time I've heard of liberal women being hotter and have pretty privilege. As a leftist, I'll be the first to say that liberal women are no more physically attractive than conservative women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 09:03 PM
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He has a history of domestic violence and theft and is an overall bad person. He's also a 9/11 truther, flat earther, and a QAnon and Black Israelite conspiracy theorist.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 07:20 PM
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My brother is what many would call a bad boy. He's in his early 20s and he's been in only three serious relationships. He mostly have FWBs and ONS. He could be in a relationship with many of these women if he really want to and he often talks about wanting a girlfriend. However, he's the type of dude would doesn't seriously commits unless the option is too good to pass up. A lot of his girlfriend were basically sugar mommas (despite them being around his age).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 07:14 PM
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Yeah. I don't really see too many conservative men fawning over AOC.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 07:06 PM
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To be fair, overtly political OLD profiles (regardless of political affiliation) are a massive turnout for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 06:59 PM
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"Most attractive women are liberal because of their privileged position leading to non reflectiveness about life." This the first time I've ever heard of this nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 06:58 PM
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I'm very socially liberal but quite centrist economically. A lot of the leftist women I'm talking about are far too left economically as well as socially intolerant (there's a lot a transphobia, homophobia, and misandry within a lot of radical feminist spaces). Being a Marxist or 'pro-worker' doesn't make someone inhume to racism, homophobia, or any other form of bigotry.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 04:43 PM
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That makes a lot of sense. I also guess the size of the city matters too. I went to college in a midsized city and there were far more conservatives than liberals. I'm not even talking about people who have very socially progressive views. I'm talking about people who are flat out Marxists, Tankies, and TERFs. These people tend to not be very progressive yet are super extreme on economic and foreign policy issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 04:21 PM
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Don't you think your conclusions have a little bit of selection bias? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 03:16 PM
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Honestly, this is dependent on where you live. I live in a red-leaning US state and young conservative women are not in short supply. I can't go to the lake without running into a bunch of young blonde wearing MAGA hats. Honestly, as a leftist, I it's super hard to find a leftist women who's a center-left social democrat. Far too many leftists woman here are just flat out crazy hard left, radical feminists, and Marxists.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 03:08 PM
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I honestly call bullshit on this. Given how important compatibility is in dating, I'm pretty sure most conservatives aren't going to be wifig up AOC regardless of how physically attractive she is. This equally applies for us leftists and liberals. As physically attractive as Lauren Chen and Tomi Lahren are, I wouldn't date those people if they were the last women on earth. Also, leftist women don't have a monopoly on porn. There's plenty of conservative and right-leaning women in the porn indust…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 02:54 PM
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Never understood that hypocrisy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 05:35 PM
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I agree that people shouldn't be needlessly mean to socially awkward and unattractive people. As a man who's both, women aren't letting me down easier than your friend. To be fair, your cousin dodged a massive bullet. I really wouldn't be remotely interested in a girl who was the evil school bully. This girl seems like a walking red flag and your cousin was wise to not fall for the bait. Also, the whole "they hit you because they like you" nonsense needs to stop. Sometimes kids can be just assho…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 08:52 AM
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Maybe he just wasn't remotely interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 08:40 AM
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Or we could just expand the social safety net by taxing the rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 12:53 AM
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When it comes to relationships, rather they be platonic or romantic, it's best to have someone want you than need you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 09:16 PM
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You say this as if confidence and charisma is something people can simply buy from the grocery store.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 03:29 PM
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Cheaters will be cheating regardless of how attractive or unattractive they or their partners are.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 07:10 PM
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Dating has always been a struggle for many people and it always will be, unfortunately, for many people. All OLD and the internet did was give the people struggling a larger platform to complain about it. And this is coming from someone who struggles a lot with dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 09:17 PM
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I'm Black so this White privilege you're talking about doesn't apply to me. Additionally, there's a lot of racism, neo-nazis, and xenophobic sentiment in Eastern Europe. It's highly unlikely, Black people are a hot commodity there. 😑
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 02:25 AM
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I was thinking the same thing. A lot of alt-righters and redpillers idolize male dating in Southeast Asia and Eastern Europe for some weird reason. I guess it has to do with the perception of those places being super traditional and conservative. But this is a super broad generalization of people and cultures.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 11:32 PM
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I don't know who are these people who believe that Europe is some dating paradise for average and below average men (and people in general for that matter) but they are going to set themselves up for disappointment when they move here. As an average man who studied abroad in Spain, France, and Portugal not too long ago, I'll say that I was as undesirable as I was in the United States. I also visit Canada a lot, and I was also undesirable. I recently visited Mexico this year and guess what? Still…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 11:25 PM
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In other words, grass is green during the spring.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:56 AM
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Reading this gave me flashbacks of the times I’ve interacted with my high school crush.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 02:05 AM
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You would think OLD would’ve gotten rid of singles events years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:04 AM
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People are getting married later in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 02:31 AM
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I've repeatedly tried but to no success. I've given up at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 08:33 PM
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Then I must be well below average. 😑
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 08:29 PM
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There’s plenty of great people who struggle with dating and finding someone who is attractive to them. Most men who struggle dating aren’t misogynistic incels or aspiring PUAs and most women who struggle dating aren’t gold diggers with super high standards. A lot of people just assume the worst in each other and it’s very frustrating.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 06:58 PM
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I wouldn't say so but who cares? Don't be too invested in the opinions of a bunch of strangers you don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 10:50 PM
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This debate on dating virgins is becoming more ridiculous than the whole debate of the dating age gap. Just date whoever you want and to hell with anyone who criticizes you for it. No need for you to waste time justifying your preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 10:14 PM
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What constitutes slut shaming is hating people for being sexually liberal. You cannot find someone to be sexually attractive yet you can also not be hateful to someone for not being attractive to you. If you personally don't find those women attractive just don't date them. That's perfectly fine. Likewise, if some women don't find short, poor, or socially awkward men attractive then they shoud just not date those types of men. However, if a woman is body shaming, poverty shaming, and being ablei…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 06:30 PM
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I know quite a few people who aren’t dating until later in life. I don’t think it’ll be the end of the world for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 04:24 AM
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If someone is conservative in their dating and sexual life, I don't see the problem but it's pretty ridiculous for someone who is living a playboy lifestyle to demand only a nun's hand in marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 03:49 AM
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I believe people should do whatever the fuck they want so long as it isn't killing anyone. I don't think it's immoral. However, some people would rather stick to dating people who are more sexually traditional and conservative and I have no issue with that. I personally can care less about that. No one (regardless of their body count) is dating me anyway lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 03:27 AM
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I agree that some people can be quite hypocritical in their dating preferences. All the best to you and your friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 11:52 PM
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Fuck what other people thing of your own dating preferences. Not dating someone isn't the same as shaming someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 11:50 PM
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I wouldn't say that itself. Some people are simply more traditional and want to date people who share their lifestyle. Someone who is more socially liberal minded may not jell well in a relationship with someone who's more socially conservative.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 11:40 PM
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Depends on you and others. If you don’t want to date then don’t date. If you want to date then date. Luckily there’s a growing emphasis of people prioritizing their own happiness and interests regardless of social pressure.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 11:32 PM
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People are well within their rights to have their preferences. Just don’t be an asshat about it. You can have a preference for a “low body count” partner or SO but that doesn’t justify slut shaming people. Just don’t date people you aren’t attracted to without irrationally hating them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 11:26 PM
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Women in the "west" (whatever the fuck that is) are no more romantic or no less materialistic than any other women around the world.
/r/AllPillDebate04/09/22 10:29 PM
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Seems like this observation says more about your pool of young women rather than the general consensus of young women as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 09:58 PM
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This is a super condescending and narrow lens. Kind of ridiculous that everyone on this subreddit are so quick to automatically assume the worst in people they don’t even known or care to empathize with.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 09:46 PM
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I’ll most likely will be flattered and will kindly say the tiresome “sorry but I’m straight” rejection. I honestly don’t get the animosity straight people have when they are approached by LGBT people. So long as they are polite and gracefully take no for an answer, I’m perfectly cool with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 11:28 PM
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Then I don’t see why you are outraged over a non issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 03:52 PM
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Because society is mandating that women date ugly men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 05:47 AM
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If you don’t support body positivity or acceptance for men then you are not supporting body positivity or acceptance at all. Body acceptance is about promoting inclusivity so I’ll be fucked up to only accept overweight women while rejecting all men and people with physical disabilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 04:50 AM
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This isn’t a ground breaking discovery. Men outnumbering women on many OLD apps is already common knowledge.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 10:20 PM
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Interesting point. Given your middle class childhood, one could also say argue socioconomics may play a role as well especially given how much of a role access to education, resources, and healthcare plays in many aspects of people's lives including their sexual and romantic lives. Likewise, a lot of lower income areas and marginalized people are disproportionately affected by STIs, domestic and sexual violence, human trafficking, abortion and family planning restrictions, and teen pregnancies. …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 07:23 PM
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Don’t think these people on tiktok are a true reflection of Zoomers. In fact, millennials and Zoomers are less sexually actively than older generations. Ironically, during the rise of modern sexual freedom, people are becoming less sexually active contrary to what the fear mongers say.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 08:05 AM
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How dare men desire attractive women and prefer them over women they don't find attractive! The audacity. I'm sure you would say the same thing if the genders were reversed. The hypocrisy from people on this subreddit is hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 12:15 AM
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I agree. Both cases are shitty. No one should be dating people they don't find attractive regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 11:24 PM
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It's kinda shitty to date people you aren't attracted to to be fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 06:30 AM
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To be fair, there are plenty of attractive women who have lots of substance and there's a lot of average and below average women who have as much substance as an empty cardboard box. This is such a "nice guys finish last."
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 06:23 AM
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Does it really have to be one or the other?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 05:21 AM
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I'm a man and I don't know a lot of men who are dating people they aren't attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 09:33 PM
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Why say that? Are you assuming most people are dating other people they aren't attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 09:28 PM
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That's fair but don't assume that's a dad bod because he still has a well above average physique than your average Joe dad with two kids and a mortgage.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 09:24 PM
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That same person might think you’re cheating if they catch you near random women in swimsuits lol 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 06:45 AM
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The definitions that i found range from not ripped to beer belly. Well, that's a super broad definition. Also, despite not being super ripped, Mamoa is still in really good shape so he still has quite an above-average body.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 04:04 AM
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I highly disagree with that. What works for one person may not work for everyone. People are different after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:32 AM
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A rational comment on this subreddit? I'm shocked. In al seriousness, I would feel the same way. There are plenty of people who casually watch porn or follow IG models without it damaging their relationships or social lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:21 AM
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Some women view it as cheating (you're only supposed to have eyes for me type thing). That is about it. If someone thinks you casually watching porn qualifies as cheating, then it's best for you to GTFO of that relationship. That person has a lot of red flags.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:14 AM
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This is why you don't settle for people you aren't remotely attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:08 AM
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But, he was shamed on vacation for having a dad bod. Not having a six-pack = dad bod apparently. if these people think this qualifies as a dad bod, then these people are so out of touch with reality and what average men look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:07 AM
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I'd call this guy a dumbass, there is literally nothing to gain of actual quantifiable value from having multiple sex partners, if this guy has such abilities than he should be focusing them on a life partner and possibly a family that he has started with her. To be fair, if this guy really enjoys and wants to have casual sex or multiple sexual partners, all power to him. Monogamous relationships are not for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:01 AM
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Are people still unironically buying this alpha-beta nonsense?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 02:56 AM
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Honestly, someone said that I give them school shooter vibes. However, this dude was an ableist asshole. Another person said I had pedo vibes but he was another ableist asshole who said that to anyone wearing large glasses. A lot of people who make those judgments are pretty shitty people from personal experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:52 PM
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There was one time when I was kind of trolling this person, pretending to be a religious fundamentalist (I was an edgy libertarian teenager at the time). However, I really don't remember being called creepy or having women being super creeped out by me. Most bad experiences I had with women are often due to those women not being super great people so I just brush those off. I'm quite introverted and am quite selective in who I hang out with and crush on. Additionally, it's quite easy for me to l…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:19 PM
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They also commit a few hate crimes and the worst are committing terrorist attacks.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/07/22 11:38 AM
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A big fucking yikes.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/07/22 11:35 AM
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I agree. There's a reason why living standards have continued to stagnate while labor productivity and revenue have been at an all-time high for the past two to three decades. A lot of people fail to realize how much your socioeconomic status could completely change your life for better or worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 06:46 PM
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The problem is the court system. You can say that for anything that you have a problem with to be fair. The US judicial system overall is fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 02:43 AM
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Yeah and getting married as a man is a smart decision since married men are on average happier, healthier, and earn more That has a lot to do with socioeconomics as well. Generally married couples have higher incomes (two people working will almost always make more money than one person working) and better access to healthcare (spouses can cover each other on their health insurance). This is an opposite reality generally for single people who have less access to health benefits and disposable in…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 02:38 AM
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Yeah, I had to call that nonsense out.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 02:32 AM
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I agree that there needs to be more public investment in avenues to promote more socioeconomic mobility such as affordable education and healthcare as well as more efforts to make cities more public transit-friendly. However, I'm not holding my breath for that day sadly. But it's pretty obvious that higher-income and upper-class people generally have better lives in most metrics. Likewise, this explains why their marriages are more successful and last longer. This can also be explained why finan…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 02:31 AM
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Because they are so many rich women wanting to marry poor men. :P
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 12:48 AM
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I think this is just mostly class-based which is missed in your post. These studies basically make a "just don't be poor" argument for those wanting successful marriages.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 12:36 AM
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A lot of these seem like socioeconomics. Couples of higher classes live better lives so it's not surprising that they have more successful marriages.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 12:33 AM
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Seems like those events would be super awkward to go to.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 01:49 AM
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TikTok is coming infested with a lot of FDS members and Pinkpillers.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 01:09 AM
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Seems like you are over reading this event. To be fair, a lot of events like these aren’t really popular and are becoming more and more extinct especially with the rise of OLD. From a lot of people I know, these events are often really awkward and cringe. It’s worse that some of these events are organized by governments (including Japan) to combat their shrinking fertility rates which is a complete waste of time and tax payer money.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 12:49 AM
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Thanks for showing appreciation for us men who are less conventionally attractive. 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 04:56 AM
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In other words, it’s over.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 04:42 PM
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It’s a little bit of both from what I’ve seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 06:37 AM
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I would argue that more people are just open to and are expressing more diverse attractions including being attracted to “less conventional” characters. Also, the social acceptance of the LGBT Community plays a role in this as well. Overall, this is a very positive thing. Great that more people are becoming more attractive to a larger share of the population.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 02:50 AM
5

Yeah. I noticed that. The internet is roaming with snake oil salesmen it’s not even funny at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 02:41 AM
9

Honestly, given that these apps are owned by cooperations, I don’t think anyone is under any illusion that about these apps caring for people. Likewise, most cooperations and organizations prioritize money over the well-being of their customers.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 02:40 AM
8

This is why the redpill is complete bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 02:37 AM
4

Don’t be embarrassed for her. A lot of these ‘reformed’ personalities are just grifters doing what is in fashion for quick money.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 02:30 AM
3

I’m sure she’s not a redpiller but I know a YouTuber by Courtney Ryan who gives dating and fashion advice to men. She use red pill language and talking points. However, compared to the redpillers and PUAs, she seems a lot more genuine and honest rather than a sleazy snake oil salesman like those from Fresh and Fit for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 02:28 AM
1

To the people who say OLD has made dating more difficult, I don’t know when was dating ever not difficult. As someone who go did OLD and IRL dating, I was brutally rejected and left in the dark in both cases. So, dating was never easy for below average dudes like me rather it was OLD or IRL. Seems pretty hyperbolic to expect Tinder of all dating apps to have so much influence to affecting the dating game for a decade. Honestly, OLD will be a thing but it’ll evolve and advance like all forms of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 02:18 AM
8

Who in the world wants to chase people they don’t remotely find attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 02:13 AM
4

To be fair, men are expected to be more active in seeking dates while women are expected to take a more selective role so this number make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 02:10 AM
19

They’ll just be another online dating app that’ll take its place. There’s already Hinge and Bumble and other smaller dating apps which are rivaling Tinder. I don’t know why people think Tinder has an absolute monopoly on online dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 02:09 AM
2

Please. Tons of women like sad emo boyz, jealous/possessive monsters, angry jerkwads, brooding musicians, sensitive artists —- if only to fix or soothe them You basically summed up the love interests in most 2000s teen girl shows and movies.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 02:45 AM
1

If you believe this, then you deserve a much better romantic partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 02:43 AM
1

I guess but most likely, people are going to have more than one sexual partner; thus, your first isn't always your best.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 09:07 PM
3

Seems like there are more productive things to do with your free time. Oof. I guess it must be a traditional thing given that Poland is among the most conservative countries in the EU.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 08:22 PM
1

Speed dating is supposed to be a solution to gather singles in one place. That's still a thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 07:46 PM
6

The alpha-widow thing makes no sense. The first guy a woman sleeps with is going to be the best she ever had. Are all women unable to get over their first? I never understood this because there are lots of jokes about people's first time being more awkward than romantic especially given the inexperience. I honestly can barely remember the name of the woman who I first kissed. I do remember that I gave her the most awkward makeout which ended with two pecks on the cheek and one on the forehead. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 07:36 PM
5

To be fair, straight men are also attracted to certain women. I'm also super sure that Lesbians are attracted to certain women and gay men are attracted to certain men. Additionally, bisexual and pansexual people are attracted to certain people. It's hard to find someone who's attracted to every person.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 07:23 PM
10

Given the rise of social isolation, especially with the pandemic, I’m not surprised by this.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 04:07 AM
4

As a man using OLD, a lot of men who want wholesome relationships are also in low demand.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 03:45 AM
6

No. Both men and women don’t want the same thing. Some men and women want relationships while some want something causal while some don’t want anything at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 03:23 AM
5

What's ironic is, I'm a submissive guy who's pro-gun. Reverse uno card. :P
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 02:55 AM
7

Is femininity submissive by definition? I've met plenty of stereotypical feminine women who are the exact opposite of submissive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 02:41 AM
30

I'm not really drawn to what many here perceive as "submissive" women; however, I did have a thing for shy and sensitive women when I was younger due to being shy and sensitive myself. In my first year at university, I had a huge crush on my RA and she was a typical small-town Christian girl Redpillers held up as a model citizen. However, as slowly grew and became a tiny bit more confident in my ability, I have expanded my preferences and I'm more open to women with unconventional and witty pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 02:36 AM
0

If it’s said multiple times, enough people followed it and failed so it may not be always true. People who say this stuff are wasting their time because we’ve heard it all before and the people who say often lack intelligent responses.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 10:13 PM
3

People tend to needlessly generalize others to make their social lives easier. Recognizing people having complexity and unique challenges requires introspection and empathy which a lot of people in this subreddit do not have.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 09:18 PM
1

This is the most tiresome and generic advice ever. I lost count of how many times people have said this on this subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 09:16 PM
43

You perfectly summed up the dating advice men always get from subreddits like r/dating, r/datingadvice as well as this subreddit. People always assume the worst in men who are struggling with dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 06:41 PM
8

Games and porn are basically the tiresome boogeyman of this subreddit. Men are evil because of porn and video games.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 08:28 PM
0

That's a pretty weird comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 06:22 PM
0

I really enjoyed his content and interviews. Seems like a really standup guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 05:11 PM
15

Aren’t most women in their 30s in relationships and married? And I’m sure a lot of them are with men in the 30s as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 05:09 PM
2

I don’t see too many sugarmommas anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 08:25 AM
5

“Lower your standards” is terrible advice. You have those standards for a reason. You aren’t doing anyone any favors by dating people you aren’t remotely attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 02:59 AM
4

This is a very big leap. I know plenty of men who selfless help their friends and families as well as acquaintances and strangers. Furthermore, most gold diggers (and most selfish people in general) are quite easy to find so if you are well socially rounded then you’ll easily spot them. Also, when you have shallow standards and preferences then don’t be surprised if you are attracting shallow people.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 07:44 PM
10

The only people who would do this are terrible friends and people. So if your best friend is hooking up with your girlfriend or wife, you need a new girlfriend and friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 07:18 PM
1

To each their own I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 10:13 PM
2

That's fortunate for you then. Not everyone shares your luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 10:12 PM
1

Who in the world want's to sleep with people they don't like nor care for?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 08:53 PM
11

This "golden penis syndrome" myth argues that college men are in very high demand simply due to women having slightly higher college graduations and attendance rates. However, as someone who has been in college that was basically 60% and 40% female to male ratio, many men (myself included) were perpetually single and women didn't give us the time of day. Furthermore, in a lot of settings (especially graduate school), students didn't have a lot of time to date and they already entered school in L…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 08:18 PM
1

People still do speed dating. I thought that died with the rise of OLD.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 07:25 PM
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As someone with a master’s degree, I’m telling you that men with college degrees aren’t in as high demand as people claim they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 05:56 PM
1

To sum up what you said, porn = bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 11:54 PM
2

The most common line from guys approaching me is them pretending they know me from school or something and then acting like they confused me for someone else. Someone actually pretend to know me from school and I remembered how weird that conversation was. Talk about unconventional game I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 02:06 AM
2

For smart men, personality boosts a woman's attractiveness. For weak minded men, attractiveness boosts a woman's personality. Well placed. Honestly, I found out that many people who put conventional attractiveness on such a pedestal tend to be super shallow people.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 01:40 AM
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"My leading theory is that the uglier the woman the more insecure she is, which manifests in volatile ways (like cheating on your ass for validation) . They are however more giving and caring. The hotter she is the more stable but also MUCH more selfish and flaky. Basically brats." That's a big generalization. I know quite a few confident unattractive women who are completely spoiled, mean, and selfish. I also know quite a few insecure attractive women who are compassionate, wholesome, and kindh…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 01:36 AM
1

This is why I can't really buy this whole pill nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 01:29 AM
3

Anyone who base their worth entirely off of being seen as conventionally attractive has very low self-esteem and needs some serious therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 10:25 PM
2

Yet gaming with people isn’t interacting with people who enjoy your company?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 04:30 PM
3

Those are some baseless assumptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 04:28 PM
0

That’s why setting boundaries and knowing your worth is important. Getting accepted and chased by terrible people is not fun either.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 04:21 AM
1

Glad that advice worked for you. Was told that advice and it didn’t work at all for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 04:38 PM
1

What if someone doesn’t want a LTR or marriage. Also, settling isn’t really good advice. Being with someone you have no interest in does no one any favors.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 04:34 PM
7

Remember to set boundaries and goals and make sure these are aligned with your partner. If you want a ONS or an FWB, you won’t hit it off with someone who wants a LTR or marriage. If you are a introverted couch potato, you will most likely not hit it off with an extroverted gym rate. Also, don’t forget to have fun. Contrary to what is said by Redpillers, FDS, and PUAs, dating is suppose to be enjoyable and fun. If you aren’t enjoying the compay of someone, why bother? This is is why you should i…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 04:32 PM
2

That’s pretty sad advice
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 04:26 PM
0

They seem pretty happy from what you’ve said though. Not everybody wants a big family.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 04:24 PM
4

To be fair, dating is really hard though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 09:02 PM
17

That’s basically what I’ve seen as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 05:07 PM
2

That’s pretty terrible advice if you are introverted.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 04:25 PM
1

How dare men be confident and want to date women they find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 07:15 PM
1

What puts ugly men above ugly women?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 05:06 PM
2

Anecdotal evidence aside, I agree with you. People are much more complex than what a lot of Redditors think. Another shocking revelation, not every woman want a 6’5+ gigachad who loaded with money.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 12:28 AM
1

Don’t some women also complain about men punching out of their league when approaching them?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 09:11 PM
1

To be fair, a lot of men can relate to that when they made the first move with a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 09:07 PM
0

Gender roles for you not for me is the lesson many FDSers preach. This subreddit is such a cesspool of hatred and delusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 09:05 PM
3

Also, there’s plenty of young women and female celebrities dating and marrying men and male celebrities older than them as well so I don’t see why men are pointed out here.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 01:11 AM
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I don’t get how young men are dating down by dating famous and attractive women who happen to be slightly older than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 01:08 AM
6

About time we had a wholesome comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 09:19 PM
1

I don’t see any nerdy or bisexual women lining up to date unattractive men. As someone who have had crushes on and have friendships with nerdy and bisexual women, I know this is really bad advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 11:07 AM
5

Never date people you aren’t remotely attracted to. You aren’t doing anybody any favors by doing this.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 10:31 AM
2

Found the Russian bot.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 10:24 AM
1

The whole HVM nonsense is also a product of toxic masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 04:26 PM
6

Pickmeisha, like dump, is quickly becoming a childish internet insult that has lost a lot of meaning. Whenever I hear it now, it’s most used when women are arguing with each other regarding their dating lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 05:20 AM
2

I’m not knocking them. People can do whatever they want with their sexual and romantic lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 09:13 PM
7

This must be how these “Chads” or “HVM” feel as well. Seems like when you are at your highest, you are most desired.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 05:15 PM
3

They aren't generally interested in dating some boring 35 year olds ass for free. I don't see a lot of 35 year old women wanting to do that either.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 05:22 AM
4

I appreciate both despite having a lean. I never got this debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 07:51 AM
7

I’m more of a tit man but that’s just me. I’m a heterosexual man so I appreciate and love the female anatomy and all her beauty.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 07:50 AM
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Are you really gaining anything by dating someone who doesn’t like nor care for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 03:42 PM
1

It’s better to be alone than to be lonely with company.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 09:01 PM
1

Exactly who the fuck is so happy to date someone they don’t find remotely attractive? Seems like you’re preaching to no one here.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 05:53 AM
2

It was always used as a backhanded compliment and was never used positively whenever I given that complement. Again, it’s basically you’re not like the other girls nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 05:50 AM
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Not at all. It’s basically the “not like other girls” backhanded compliment. I was never flattered by it whenever some called me that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 05:43 AM
1

Also, the internet gives assholes a louder voice. I see plenty of mean spirited stuff online but this really doesn't reflect the real world where most people are somewhat decent to each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 12:42 AM
2

Tik tok and many forms of social media tends give more cruel people louder voices.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 10:32 PM
0

Some of my mates used to go to clubs and make a game out of seeing who could make out with the ugliest girl, it was horrible and made the girls feel like shit. For your sake, I really hope you have a better social network. You deserve better people in your life than those losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 10:10 PM
10

You're speaking facts right there.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 06:39 AM
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To be fair, some people are just mean to unattractive people and have been like that for generations. Assholes are everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 10:27 PM
2

Asexual means she isn’t attracted to anyone. Actually, asexual people can be romantically and emotionally attracted to someone. They simply just aren't sexually attracted to anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 12:05 AM
1

No. It’s perfectly fine if someone doesn’t want to have children of their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 06:41 PM
1

I'm not really a fan of "girlfriend material" or "wifey material" either and not too many women I know are flattered by those labels. Although, those labels have a slightly different context compared to "boyfriend material" and "husband material." A lot of these labels can be somewhat condescending. As someone who was called "boyfriend material" and "husband material" frequently, I was never flattered by the "compliments."
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 08:48 PM
0

Of course they aren’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 04:57 PM
0

I don’t understand why anyone would use terms like “boyfriend material” or “husband material” when describing someone. As if any of those terms are a complement. It’s almost as annoying as the “not like other girls” comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 04:36 PM
8

Not in the slightest
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 10:36 PM
9

This is one reason why I never took boyfriend or husband material as a complement.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:38 PM
2

Based on this post, I’m the bottom of the barrel LVM.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 08:59 AM
14

Or maybe some women are just bad at giving signals and approaching.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 08:51 AM
5

There’s plenty of single of mothers who have plenty of suitors and options. Much more than any average Joe. This whole post-wall mid-thirst women living a loveless and lonely life is a complete myth.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 08:42 AM
6

This normie culture is a living hell for many average men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 08:37 AM
2

Good for you and them on the OLD success.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 10:55 PM
2

This is the opposite among many of my single male friends who regularly struggle getting a single date while using online dating. I only had two dates after years of using online dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 10:43 PM
2

I guessing this is from your social group which could be different from others’ experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 10:30 PM
1

Well done on him.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 10:25 PM
2

Are all these heterosexual women doing OLD?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 10:25 PM
15

For a lot of men, a response (unless it's a bot) is out of the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 12:55 AM
3

I'm really sorry about your dating stuggles. I'm sure you'll find someone wanting to be with you for you with sex being an after thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 12:37 AM
6

Yet Golden Penis Syndrome isn't really a thing outside of elite schools filled with good-looking people with a 7/3 gender disparity.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 12:31 AM
33

How is that possible when half the men here are upset that they can't get casual sex from dating apps? Most men can't get anything on dating apps, rather it being casual sex, relationships, or even friendships.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 12:27 AM
2

Depends on the circumstances and the person they are married to. I would say most healthy people are happy with their relationships and marriages.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 11:41 PM
2

There’s plenty of average and below average women who are getting married.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 10:46 PM
1

It all comes down to sexual compatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 10:25 PM
2

Honestly, sometimes people aren’t sexually compatible. If you like anal or oral and your sexual partner doesn’t then break it off and find a sexual partner who does.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 10:06 PM
0

While I do agree that men have a harder time dating (especially trying to find dates) but there’s no need to invalidate women’s dating struggles.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 09:00 PM
10

Platonic relationships are a thing so you don't really need a romantic partner to not be lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 10:28 PM
2

This is just me but I really appreciate cultural diversity and engagement from a woman. As someone who likes studying languages and different countries, finding a woman who shares that passion with me will be an absolute dream. This is one reason I'm attracted most by women outside of my racial, ethnic, national, or cultural background. Women who can speak multiple languages is a turn on for a lot of us nerds. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 09:36 PM
11

I prefer dating someone Im not attracted to over being completely alone That's where you and me differ.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 09:31 PM
20

but then nobody is going to date you either by that logic. Better to be single than to date someone you aren't attracted to. Trust and believe me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 09:03 PM
23

This wasn't gender-based. I agree that shallowness and resentment isn't healthy. With that being said, people have diverse tastes in attraction. It may take some people longer to find mutual attraction but it is possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 08:34 PM
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Controversial take, don't date someone you don't find attractive no matter how unconventionally attractive you are. You aren't doing anyone any favors by doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 07:56 PM
1

Average Joes aren't aiming for super models. They have a wide variety of women they find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 07:14 PM
1

I'm a man and I have female friends and acquaintances. I honestly have little interest in dating them; although, I really enjoy their company. Honestly, when establishing romantic and platonic relationships, it is important to know what you want. If you are more than happy with being someone's friend, then do that. However, if you don't want to be "friendzoned" then don't be friends with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 07:12 PM
2

Yeah. This is quite a false statement. There’s plenty of well-off and functioning men who struggle dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 02:10 AM
1

So much hatred from this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 01:50 AM
6

What society is telling men they get status for automatically being a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 08:03 AM
2

The number of women outnumbering men in the US is completely negligible and is mostly due to women living slightly longer than men. The number of young men is the same if not more than women in the US. Also, men outnumber women globally.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 07:56 AM
2

"My gut reaction is that people who are single long term are not as good at interpersonal communication, which would hurt them in employment settings." Kind of a huge leap to assume that people who are single have seriously negative characteristics by definition. There are plenty of single people who have great personalities and are great workers who happen to struggle with long-term employment or dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 02:19 AM
1

I'm glad you had a healthy relationship with your mother. I can somewhat agree with this; however, under the right circumstances such as you and your mother. Sometimes children may not have the healthiest relationships with their parents and some parents aren't as wise as they think they are. Likewise, I was relatively successful in my professional and academic life specifically not following my mothers advice (which was often out of date and didn't apply to this period of time).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 10:23 PM
1

Honestly, unless they have a very strong relationship with their parents, I don't see too many teenagers religiously following their parent's advice. Love my mom to death but she gave horrible advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 09:44 PM
1

I rather not deal with the drama.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 07:55 AM
1

Yeah. I’m a man and I had a huge thing for Chicana-style feminists (which isn’t seen as super attractive by a lot of redpill standards) when I was in middle school and high school. People have different tastes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 01:15 AM
11

To be fair, while some women may like that type of man, others may like men who are more reserved and passive. While my youngest sister fits that, my other sister is drawn by men who she describes as "nerd hot." People's tastes in partners aren't binary.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 12:14 AM
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I agree but it is also important to stress that women and men have different wants. Likewise, being rejected by someone doesn't automatically makes someone undesirable by definition.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 12:10 AM
3

Lots of women are, and lots of women aren’t. Honestly, most of these posts just angry women and men make baseless negative assumptions of men and women without any nuance of how complex and diverse people are regardless of gender. Likewise, this post claims how women want bad boys while ignoring the subset of women (honestly, you'll be surprised by the number of women with femboy fetishes for example) who are interested in non-masculine men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 11:25 PM
5

I guarantee you every girl who has complained about "slut shaming" has called a guy a "creep" or an "incel" or talked about him having "little dick energy" despite her being against body-shaming or whatever the case, fuck em lol I never understood these hypocritical people who cannot just mind their own fucking business.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 11:17 PM
3

Just like how men here point out they don't care about the woman's career and also cry about getting divorce raped. This is a weird complaint given that most people marry within similar socioeconomic backgrounds (which makes sense given that average Joes and Jane's aren't chilling with Bill Gates or Paris Hilton) so the whole "divorce rape" fear seems a bit overblown. Also, having people of higher socioeconomic statuses (regardless of gender or sex) have the lowest rates of divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 11:13 PM
3

Honestly, the whole "men dating young" dead horse is beyond beaten to death. It was struck repeatedly with hydrogen bombs.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 11:07 PM
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To be fair, the whole "nice guy" and "bad boy" things are nothing more than one-dimensional character tropes much like the whole "girly girl" and "cool girl" tropes. People are much more complex and have diverse characteristics. I used to identify as a nice guy in high school and was complemented when women called me that until I grew up in college and realized that I deserve to be much more than a simple character trope. We are diverse people and shouldn't be placed in binary boxes. Don't be a …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 11:01 PM
2

As an average dude, I’m at a loss for words of how far from reality this post is from. I’ve been wanting a LTR and tried dating online and in real life yet I don’t see any women wanting me. Believe it or not, not too many men are swimming in options rather it be casual or serious relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 05:38 AM
1

In what reality is she living in where average Joes are locking down 20 plus women?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 05:34 AM
1

Of course. As a heterosexual man who have a diverse group of friends and family members, I appreciate women of all races and cultures, including the sisters. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 01:14 AM
1

You are correct. I’m Black yet I’m falling head over hills for the Southeast Asian women with Chicano swag in my area.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 12:14 AM
3

"I don't want to leave him if he is truly the best I can do. I'd rather have him than no one" How romantic of you. This is such a lucky guy (massive sarcasm). In all seriousness, if this is how you honestly feel about him, I would cut it off and let him find someone who really cares for him.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/21 07:20 PM
7

This is why I don't buy the rating system given how diverse people's tastes are.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 12:05 AM
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Lowering your standards of attraction is terrible advice for both men and women. Don’t listen to this garbage.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 04:15 AM
2

Another bitter "men ain't shit" comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 11:43 PM
1

Men have unbelievable confidence while women generally don’t, which probably explains why we women aren’t confident enough to go after a very objectively attractive man. Because so many women are falling head over heals over dudes they do not find remotely attractive while so many men have such massive god complexes. What kind of horse shit is this?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 08:03 PM
7

If Gal Gadot and Megan Fox posted on the RateMe sub, these guys would probably give them a six. These dudes are tripping. To be fair, that subreddit is simply another roastme subreddit. I wouldn't read too much into that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 08:01 PM
2

Every man wants to be the single men who have casual sex. Every man? There's plenty of men who are traditional and would rather settle down in a nuclear house hold and there's plenty of men who would rather live alone. I'm a relatively introverted man and the thought of having causal sex with some random stranger creeps me out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:59 PM
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As a single dude, I can second this. This also applies to those single straight "men ain't shit" TERFs you see a lot on social media. Many of them can be just as toxic and hateful as the MGTOW dudes as well. A lot of single and unmarried people of all genders are completely functional and simply enjoy their lives. However, with social media, most toxic of the bunch are given larger platforms.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:55 PM
7

Tradcons of all genders are the absolute worst at needlessly pressuring people to conform to their ideas (which are completely out of date and only works for people exactly like them).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:33 PM
1

Men don't ever pressure each other to get into relationships... That's women It seems like it's heteronormative societal expectations that pressure people (both men and women) to get into relationships above all else.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:25 PM
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I wouldn't be too discouraged by this. Some people are just late bloomers. Given that more and more people are marrying and having families later and later in life, so there's a lot of hope for the virgins out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:23 PM
8

Though considering the can of worms it opened I would have rather not of had sex. I have to ask exactly what happen?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:18 PM
1

As a male who went to a liberal arts college, the whole idea of golden penis syndrome is complete horse shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 06:35 AM
2

This is a problem of many women’s making. Not anyone’s fault but yours if you intentionally shrink your dating pool so arbitrarily.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 06:32 AM
1

“LMV advocate.” I can’t stop laughing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 10:36 PM
1

This sounds like a typical 1950s household. I rarely see this among younger couples I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 07:59 PM
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And plenty of men get ghosted after the first date. When you say men are the gatekeepers of relationships, I’m pretty sure you are talking about supposedly “HVM” and not average Bob. Most men aren’t swimming in options rather it be sex or relationships. So it’s pretty easy for a woman to find a relationship with a decent dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 08:02 PM
2

How is a dating app not “the real world?” It’s just classic goalpost shifting.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 07:54 PM
2

Who are these lonely plain Janes who are being passed over by Insta models? More women I know are in relationships or causal situationships regardless of their level of attraction compared to men. Also, more single women I know are content with being single while more men who are single are extremely lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 07:51 PM
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Or maybe many women engage in hookups because they are having fun doing it. If they really wanted someone, they would’ve had one. Getting a hookup or a relationship isn’t hard for any average woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 07:44 PM
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I don’t know where are these women who are throwing themselves at subpar men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 07:37 PM
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Who are these lonely desperate women who are willing to date anyone because they don’t exist where I’m from at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 03:13 PM
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A lot of times this is used by lazy women who often place all the romantic expectation on the men. These are also the same women who complain about the man they fancy not asking them out. When you asked them if they asked him out, they get defensive and tell you that they gave them "obvious hints" (as if men are fucking mind readers). This statement is sometimes used to justify out of date expectations on men and remove any agency or accountability on women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 06:58 PM
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I have reserved the workplace and school as places off limits for dating. It has nothing to do with #metoo nonsense but it seems like doing it would bring unnecessary distractions and drama. I lost count of how many times people's academic and professional careers were needlessly made more difficult because of failed relationships with fellow classmates and co-workers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 03:15 AM
3

Maybe it can work in bars or clubs or other settings where people are open to talking to strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 03:10 AM
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From what I've heard from women I know, some extroverts would tolerate it while most introverts would absolutely hate it. I guess if one doesn't know their audience it will be a waste of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 03:08 AM
1

That's toxic positivity for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 03:06 AM
0

I would say that practice is more prominent.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 03:02 AM
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Shockingly enough, while there is more competition in big cities there are also more women This is an interesting take given that the highest female ratio is in the Northeast which is more urbanized while the highest male ratio is in Middle America which is more rural.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 02:09 AM
3

I wonder what is dating like in a small town in the middle of Alaska or Wyoming.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 02:06 AM
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Depends on the context. If you are playing the field and want a less traditional relationship or situationship, then the big city is the best way to go. However, if you are looking are looking for a more serious relationship, then a medium size city is best. I wouldn't dwell too much on competition or looks since you'll most likely be competing against decent-looking people regardless of where you are in the United States. From my personal experience, I would say the dating culture is more extra…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 02:03 AM
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I’m glad that wasn’t it. The whole “lower your standards” argument is tiresome and is always said by people who would never do it.
/r/seduction21/11/21 07:02 PM
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There's plenty of men who do all this yet struggle with dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 09:23 PM
1

As if average men have women lining up out of his door.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 09:16 PM
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they want attractive, college educated, in shape, good families, no major flaws like drug addiction or smoking, loyal, etc. I guess a man wanting a woman who is loyal, doesn't smoke, and doesn't have drug addictions apparently has standards that are unrealistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 09:06 PM
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I’m very prominent around a lot of different people and have an active social life with many different people. Yet I draw absolutely no romantic interest. There’s other men in my situation as well. Not every man (or woman) who’s struggling romantically are a loser stereotype. I also pay attention for typical signs my friends and family point out and have yet to find any. Also, you might want to be more direct in your romantic intentions next time. It’s hard for someone to know you are interested…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 02:11 AM
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No. You’re just not sexually attracted to that bookish woman (as you put it) and prefer to have sex with the hotties (as you put it). Romantic and sexual chemistry aren’t always in line and you could be romantically attracted to someone but not sexually attracted to them. It happened to me once.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 12:21 PM
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I’m one of those men who was never desired. That idea of men shooting out of their league is also a stereotype as well. There’s a lot of men who have very reasonable to very low standards yet still struggle to attract women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 12:07 AM
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There’s plenty of men that are active in life and yet are completely undesired by women. The last statement is just a stereotype.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 03:27 PM
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This was a very well thoughtful response which challenges my own biases. From a below-average man’s perspective, I’ve received absolutely no positive attention from women my entire life. I always had a grass is greener on the other side mentality and thought it would be cool to be sexually desired like my female friends are. However, your comment actually gave me much needed nuance. This is one of the few good responses I have seen on this subreddit. Congratulations on your life journey.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 02:45 PM
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You’re overestimating the amount of attention many men get.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 10:34 AM
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That’s a load of nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 09:37 PM
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I know quite a few women who prefer bald men and there’s plenty of bald men who are attractive to a lot of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 10:17 AM
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Other than some obvious self-help stuff, FDS doesn’t have a fair assessment on anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 10:07 AM
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I think it varies where you live. Some places are overpopulated while others are underpopulated.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 08:47 AM
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Not really given low birth rates are often sighs of positive economic development.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 08:47 AM
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This kind of reminds me of the stupid stereotype of homophobes being deep in the closet. Likewise, a lot of people assume that many sexists (both men and women) are like that solely because they had negative experience with some rando of the opposite sex. However what people fail to realize is that people (even under the clear and positive influences) are just bigoted and hateful simple as that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 11:55 PM
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Then all of this will go underground. It’s impossible to put the porn genie back in the bottle.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 11:55 PM
3

Poor you. The straights are so persecuted.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 12:58 AM
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People who say stuff like this are just people who will always find something to belittle someone else about.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 09:51 PM
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Or maybe people of all genders dislike TRP because it’s filled with a bunch of misogynistic and manipulative people. These people are even worse than the FDS crowd. The idea of interactions (both romantically and platonically) being narrowed down to as either “the chase” or “game” or “strategy” is very dehumanizing and toxic. Also, to hell with this league and tier nonsense. If you are dating someone that is isn’t an absolute 10 to you both physically and romantically (all of this is completely …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 12:57 AM
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Another “all single men are evil” post. Boo hoo you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 04:28 PM
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Reddit tends to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 04:18 PM
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This post got the FDS trolls on this subreddit salivating.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 04:17 PM
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You emphasized teenage girls who are also into male pop-stars. This Day more about the taste of very young women and teenage girls. I think it’s just women of different age groups having different taste in men. I don’t see too many mid-30s women fawning over K-Pop stars and I don’t see too many teenage girls fawning over bearded dudes. Your mother and your sister are more likely to not find the same man attractive for instance.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 06:07 PM
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This is even harder to do given how smaller friend groups are becoming. People are just more solitary than they were.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 11:03 PM
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Contrapoints is a legend among mortals.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 02:47 AM
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It’s also important to understand that college hookup culture isn’t nearly as popular as what its media portrayal. This is coming from a college student.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 02:39 AM
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Yes. This explains why single women on average prefer to be single while single men on average prefer to be in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 10:21 PM
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Let me guess. You’re a radical “gender critical” feminist.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 09:44 PM
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Is there really a difference? Most women tend to have both advantages and have a good number of men who are thrilled to be their sexual and romantic partners. The vast majority of men don’t have this luxury.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 09:14 PM
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Some people are not extra cautious and there’s still COVID hotspots across the world with increasing cases. Also, not everyone has access to vaccines.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 10:54 PM
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Women are ruthless regardless of where you are to be fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 10:15 PM
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As a guy, I’ve noticed a decline since COVID in both the number of matches I get and the willingness to meet up Well we are in a pandemic and I don't think meeting up with random strangers fit under social distancing mandates and recommendations.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 10:10 PM
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Yes but a lot of women get jobs not careers. Most people don’t have real careers they just have jobs and of those who have careers women are a small minority. To be fair, not a lot of people in general are having high paid careers. Most people just have jobs especially given the current job market and job security and benefits being at an all-time low.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 09:07 PM
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To be fair, there are plenty of 18-20 year old women who are in relationships already.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 08:37 PM
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This comment is seriously overgeneralizing women who are on apps. There are plenty of women who are on dating apps and travel yet are either wanting relationships or who are in relationships. This stereotype reminds me of the negative stereotype of gamer dudes being evil incels who live in their mothers' basements. People are more complex than that and we learn a lot from meeting different people.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 08:26 PM
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Both parties are toxic people you shouldn’t want to be in a relationship with.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 02:54 AM
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Bumble is even worse than Tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 02:37 AM
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I don’t see people saying men don’t have it harder on OLD. I see them saying you have to find ways to meet women outside of OLD, and that’s where the angry protests come in. Men who swear tinder is their only option because “no one meets IRL anymore.” Meaning they’re too shy to approach women and would rather pretend it doesn’t really happen or is completely ineffective. One could argue that OLD is a much safer approach since the expectations of dating and sex are clear which is far from the cas…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 02:34 AM
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I also am skeptical of exactly how picky women are. I think some women will sacrifice many, if not all of their standards, just to have an emotional bond with a man - a guy who won't leave them. They'll give the guy money, shelter, and occasionally get smacked around, anything to keep him. She'll even let him damage her interests. I've actually seen this scenario go on a lot in the few social circles I've been in. Obviously, the woman could do WAY BETTER, but they choose not to - they've made a …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 02:24 AM
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There isn't really anything you can take away from this study given how controlled the environment was. There's really isn't anything that can be taken from this study whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 01:45 AM
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Even with the best social skills so people are naturally boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 04:14 PM
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This went into conspiracy territory real quick.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 05:58 PM
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That was actually a good video and I learned a lot about dating from a woman’s perspective as well. A lot of her content is very engaging l, informative, and entertaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 05:54 PM
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And I repeat myself. Stable and boring are two different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 05:46 PM
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Fair enough. Not everyone can attract partners and some people have higher standards than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 05:24 PM
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Both pick me and simp are two of the most overused and misunderstood words on social media and Reddit. These terms are nothing more than weak childish insults now. I lost count of how many times I was called a simp and I lost count of how many times my sister was called a pick me
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 05:17 PM
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Yay. I get to be with a woman who only tolerates my existence out of stability and convenience and who thinks that I am a completely unimpressive person of no substance. How romantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 05:11 PM
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From what my friend group many male friends’ standards are very modest and this applies to relationships as well while my female friends are far pickier in what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 04:55 PM
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Sometimes dudes just fail because of circumstances outside of their control and women aren’t remotely interested in them no matter what they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 04:52 PM
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If that is the relationship you want, then to each their own I guess. I wouldn’t want to be with anyone I personally find boring and I wouldn’t want to be with someone who finds me boring. And I’m sure most women aren’t rushing up to lock down a dude that bores them to death. And I’m sure most men aren’t riding up women who are less interesting than watching paint dry. As a straight man, I would never ever want to be with a woman who just tolerates my existence because it’s stable and convenient…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 04:51 PM
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As if the only single men who exist are morally bad people. There’s plenty of decent men who struggle with dating and women are simply not interested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 04:43 PM
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Standards are far higher than that though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 04:40 PM
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And besides, who is turned on by someone they find boring? Wouldn’t you want to date someone with shared interests and enjoyable hobbies and a lifestyle instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 04:37 PM
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Are you being sarcastic? Because it can’t be boring if many people of all genders enjoy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 03:49 PM
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Don’t women have an easier time getting relationships as well due to having more willing partners compared to men?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 03:09 PM
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There could be a reason behind this. Most likely these men are in failed marriage with wives who don’t even like them as people. This is why many men need self-respect and not settle for anyone that gives them the time of day.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 03:06 PM
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Yet women have higher standards on average than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 02:46 PM
2

Seems like most genuine and enjoyable social gatherings are between people past 40.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 02:25 PM
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This is interesting given that single women one average would much rather be single than in a relationship compared to single men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 02:23 PM
1

Since when has enjoying sports or current events became boring?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 02:22 PM
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Seems like that’s typical behavior you’ll find in any dude pasted their mid-30s. Finding a man like that to settle down with is easier than finding tress in a forest.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 02:21 PM
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Exactly what do you mean by boring? I think you’re confusing boring with safe which aren’t the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 03:04 AM
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That’s a very sad and toxic way of thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 02:55 AM
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Are your single friends are still struggling or are they just fine being single?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 01:59 AM
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Dating is completely bad in general regardless of where you are. I'm in college right now let me tell you that social life here isn't puppies and rainbows and your social life isn't going to fall apart once you leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 01:40 AM
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There's quite a few jobs that prohibit this. And in some cases, employee relationships are considered very taboo.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 08:16 PM
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I'm not remotely worried about the #metoo stuff. I just think workface relationships add unnecessary drama and can enable toxic work environments. This can also apply for class mates at graduate school as well. As the old saying goes: "don't stick your pen in company ink."
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 08:15 PM
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I don't really do try to date women at work or school. There's a saying that is "don't stick your pen in company ink." I am very active at my school and work and I'm already stressful enough. The last thing I need is unnecessary drama. So any woman I work with or goes to my school is a hard pass for me no matter what. I'm not an elitist snob so I don't place value on people's degree or income in finding a mate. My economic standards are basically she has to have a job she likes and she is able t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 02:58 AM
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To be fair, I think it is almost impossible for someone to empathize with every human being on the planet. In order to truly emphasize with someone you will have to fully understand their struggle and put yourself in their shoes. Sometimes this is physically impossible to do for many people. We all have different experiences and are entirely different people. Of course, most women will never empathize with the men regarding their dating issues regardless of their physical attraction. And vice-ve…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 03:24 AM
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This is probably one of the most well-thoughout responses on this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 03:13 AM
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I’m just saying that many unattractive women aren’t wanting unattractive men to chase nor date them so it’s kind of pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 09:09 PM
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Then your words of unattractive women looking for mates are completely meaningless.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 08:19 PM
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As if unattractive women are throwing themselves at unattractive men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 07:50 PM
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No, women's standards are far from low.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 06:57 AM
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As if trope aligns with reality. There's plenty of men really wanting to be in a committed relationship and who would be great partners yet many women do not want to be with them or anyone for that matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 06:07 AM
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I would argue that online dating is a cyber version of the cold approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 05:51 AM
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Yet the most peaceful countries still emphasizes gender equality. Additionally, both Laos and Vietnam are communist dictatorships and these types of dictatorships are more likely to emphasize women's equality and education rights compared to others, especially strongman military dictatorships or theoretic regimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 05:47 AM
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China has the highest GDP PPP ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List\_of\_countries\_by\_GDP\_(PPP) ). Which means their citizens, have more wealth than Americans. GDP per capita, socioeconomic equality, and HDI are MUCH better indicators to measure how your average Joe is doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 05:41 AM
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Sure. But we grew up hearing men don’t want relationships w us. Men grew up believing women are desperate to trap them in a marriage. Yet this is clearly false and nonsense which very few people remotely believed.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 05:38 AM
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And men just simply not WANTING to be in a relationship. Yet women are far more likely to not want to be in relationships compared to men. Ironically, your comment is proof that it's actually women who are not wanting relationships than the other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 05:31 AM
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Women standards are currently low That's total bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 05:28 AM
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You can’t reason with the stupidity of Reddit sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 04:21 AM
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The US couldn’t defeat the Taliban so you’re expecting their total failure would turn into a success by training a far less advanced military of a failed state.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 04:20 AM
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China is an autocratic regime that is mostly dependent on international trade given how impoverished its people are. Not too many Chinese are seeing the fruits of that development. Also China’s level of development is still far behind that of most EU state and the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 04:17 AM
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Gender equality is much larger in Canada, New Zealand, and the Nordic countries yet they sre far more peaceful than the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 04:14 AM
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I think this is more of the fact that women are on average more content with being single compared to men. It has nothing to do with the quality of men or women. There are plenty of men who offer a lot to women and would make great partners but these women are just not interested in them and would rather be a lone than in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 03:29 AM
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Finally a common sense post. Never understood these people who thought the 50s was such a magical time for humanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 03:26 AM
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How can you build a cultural identity when what passes for your nation is destroyed every 10 years. Exactly, I honestly don't understand why are people on these comments making such simplistic remarks about this situation without addressing the geopolitical disadvantages Afghanistan has faced throughout its history.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 03:05 AM
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I agree with you that patriarchal societies are bad. However, some of your comments expecting unarmed civilian men to be successfully defeat the Taliban is super naïve.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 03:02 AM
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They were outmatched and surrendered unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 02:59 AM
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You are making the geopolitics of a very divided and war-torn country, way too simplistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 02:56 AM
4

To expect a bunch of unarmed civilians regardless of gender to take on a bunch of terroristic militias is absolutely stupid. Men can also be innocent civilians much like women and children.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 02:50 AM
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idk lots of men on OLD that would be a lot more attractive with basic hygeine. Where are all these men who are unhygenic slobs? They are very hard to find where I live.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 02:44 AM
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I could see some of this. Men on average have a much broader net on what they find attractive in women while women on average are much more likely to have a more narrow field of what they find attractive in men. Overall this maybe be true because generally, most men find most women attractive while most women generally find most men unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 02:40 AM
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We can all agree that women's rights and equality benefits everyone. This is supported by facts and statistics according to the United Nations. States with the highest rates of gender equality on average have far higher levels of development compared to those with lower rates of gender equality. This is why I laugh at how stupid these manosphere dudes sound when they say stupid shit like "[insert very high level developed country] is dying because of feminism." It's actually the exact opposite. …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 02:33 AM
1

So when a black guy comes along and says basically the same stuff, he's functionally immune to 95% of the usual criticisms. There's plenty of people who criticize Kevin Samuels and they can care less about his race or ethnicity.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 08:51 PM
1

Sadly, Kevin Samuels's popularity represents a growing number of people having a toxic idea of what both Black masculinity and femininity should be. This in terms upholds very negative stereotypes of both Black men and Black women. This dude's dating advice is even more toxic than Steve Hervey's. Sadly a lot of Black men and women watch these losers and take their advices unironically.
/r/ExRedPill13/08/21 07:25 PM
3

Exactly, I don't know where everyone is getting this idea that people who don't live in the gym and look like Olympic Gods and Victoria Secrete models are unhealthy goblins.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 08:08 AM
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Russia does has a serious issue with domestic violence and alcoholism from what I've heard. Hopefully things get better. With that being said, I do wish more women become more confident and active in their dating lives rather than overplaying the passive roles. Also, even when approaching, a lot of men are also told nonsense like "lower your standards," "hit the gym bro," "bat in your own league," or "take what you can get." I think we all benefit more in having more people (both men and women) …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 08:02 AM
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Honestly, I don't see why it wouldn't work for all people regardless of gender or level of attraction. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. As a man, I encourage more women to be bold enough to approach the men they are attracted to. For any women who's nervous about approaching a guy, I would have them talk to their male friends instead of their female friends if they want advice and pointers. A lot of men have more experience than a lot of women in this area.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 07:53 AM
2

Whoever is taking this advice, I honesty hope they aren't burning themselves out by abandoning enjoyable hobbies for "productive recreations" they have no interest in.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 07:29 AM
21

Man, I'd rather the idea of hustle culture would just die. Doing everything with a purpose IS tiring and isn't feasible even for extremely motivated people. People need to relax sometimes, lmao. Comment of the year right here!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 07:19 AM
3

'Productive recreation' was basically avoid screens and see if you can find ways to do stuff in groups of good people. You do know it's not impossible to make social connections through the internet right? Most of the friends I've met were met online by shared interest in geeky hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 07:18 AM
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Exercise sucks. Doing it out on a hiking trip instead of the torture chamber known as gym only makes it slightly less sucky. Honestly, you can get a decent amount of exercising by just walking between 30 minutes to an hour every day. Contrary to what fitness gurus say, you can be perfectly healthy without living in the gym.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 07:01 AM
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Any advice is telling people to drop "unproductive" hobbies that in favor of "productive recreation" to attract women then this is absolute horseshit advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 06:58 AM
1

Hinge is worse than Tinder. So many far-right theocrats on that sight.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 07:28 AM
0

It's true that throughout human history, women have contributed more to the gene pool than men (by sharing the top 20%) Don't you think this may be more do to younger men being more likely to fight in wars?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 07:21 AM
1

It's pretty obvious that women have different definitions of what a hot guy is though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 05:43 AM
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Nearly every young girl would fuck and/or marry Ryan Reynolds or Ryan Gosling or Hugh Jackman. I would strongly disagree. People have different preferences and types. For some people, age gaps are a serious deal breaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 03:41 AM
3

In reality the average woman is much better at introspection than the average man. Based off of what evidence?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 10:55 PM
2

"Lower your standards" is terrible advice to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 10:46 PM
1

I would on paper agree with this. It's always healthy to have a diverse group of friends. In fact, most of my friends are of a different ethnicity and a large portion of my friends are LGBTQ+. However, don't get a female friend solely on the bases that they will give you good romantic advice. Newsflash, while some women are good at that, many women are terrible at that. This also equally applies to women who are seeking male friends for romantic advice. Love my mom and sisters to death but given…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 10:42 PM
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This is comment is just a personal attack.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 10:34 PM
5

It's kind of weird that a lot of women on this subreddit have very toxic ideas of men and men's friendships. Almost all of the positive experiences I have are normally from other men and non-binary people compared to women. In addition, I later became much more appreciative of the male friends I have made recently. Compare this to my sister who cannot hold down a friend due to how toxic a lot of women in her life are. In summary, not all men are toxic and hateful towards each other and not all w…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 10:25 PM
3

I'm sure most people align with this position. I've mostly seen people on this subreddit and one or two others that make a huge fuss about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 06:05 PM
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Fair enough; however, this seems like this is just rhetoric to justify classist sentiment as well as justifying gender norms of "men are the providers" which are both toxic ways of finding a romantic partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:07 AM
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what could you posibily have in common with a person 5 years older/than you I agree. I have no issue with people dating people significantly younger or older than them. All power to them. It's just not my cup of tea personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:06 AM
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You described a typical tinder guy wanting a fun night or low key low effort coffee catch up and the vetting strategies weed that out immediately, theyre very basic things to avoid in seeking husband material. Since when are coffee dates low effort? Not everyone has the money to take someone fine dining every week.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 03:45 AM
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FDS is about only wanting a high value man By hvm, a man that conforms to negative masculine gender norms and who is easy to manipulate.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 03:35 AM
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Then there’s no point in people labeling that shit paper left wing indoctrination I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 03:21 AM
1

Chile, Uruguaya, and Argentina aren’t as bad. In fact, they are considered newly industrialized.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 03:15 AM
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I'm honestly sick and tired of this discussion on this subreddit. Honestly, the average dating age gap is two to three years so most people date within in their age range. This makes sense given that most people date within their social networks; likewise, you are more likely to date people you already socialize with and you are more likely to to socialize with people within your age group. Me personally, anything 5 below or 5 above my age is completely off limits for me. With that being said, p…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 10:43 PM
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When FDS advises for a more traditional gender roles FOR MEN ONLY, FDS women can be modern women but their man has to be traditional, they're empowering while still being feminist and progressive This is honestly my pet peeve with FDS and a lot of radical feminists. I'm all for challenging gender roles for women AND men equally.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 10:02 PM
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It's odd that a super progressive newspaper like the guardian would write a positive story about FDS considering that FDS is very sex negative and wants to rigerously enforce gender roles (at least for men) This is equally puzzling given that many FDS subscribers are often radical feminists who are often homophobic, racists against MOC, and extremely transphobic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 09:57 PM
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They are super left wing and anti-prejudice. Any yet we have this pro-FDS nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 09:50 PM
1

You have to be specific on what South American country because not all of them are poor.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 11:46 PM
3

That comment was pretty sad revenge fantasy fuel.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 11:25 PM
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For a subreddit that emphasizes dating, the people on FDS sure do hate men with a boiling passion.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 11:23 PM
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I gather most men on here hate women and if it wasn’t for their sex drive, have no use for them. You can say the same exact thing for women regarding their hatred for men on this subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 08:02 PM
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Let them be happy single. No man deserves to deal with such toxic assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 08:01 PM
1

What if someone's happily single or unhappily single. The term single in this situation is too generic.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 06:59 PM
1

Seems like this is just OP not liking the PNW either.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 04:46 PM
2

But as a Southerner, the Deep South is FAR worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 01:27 PM
2

Sweden's international ranking: 7th Happiness country in the world 7th Most developed country in the world 15th Most peaceful country in the world One of the top 10 countries in women's rights 3rd most democratic country in the world Yeah, diversity is really tearing Sweden apart.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 01:27 PM
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PNW is one of the least accepting places I’ve ever been. Uh, the Deep South would like to have a word with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 07:29 AM
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My impression of women from the PNW are very positive. Super attractive, culturally open-minded, intelligent, down-to-earth, and aren't tide down to bullshit games and strategies. This made me much more confidence in approaching women in the PNW compared to many of the annoying socially conservative women I've dealt with in the Deep South.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 07:13 AM
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You used to see couples who just happened to be split on the political spectrum. Granted, polarization is much bigger than than it was. Likewise, people who are from different political spectrums are becoming less compatible. With this polarization and as the political culture is becoming more and more extreme, there is less room for compromise. No offense, but there is little to no compromise between the Alt-right and BLM activists nor the "build that wall" and "DREAMERS are Americans too" posi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 07:04 AM
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Our grandparents and great grandparents on average had better relationships because they had to trust each other out of necessity Yeah because being trapped in a loveless marriage where divorce was nearly impossible and before the introduction of domestic violence and marital rape laws was so great for many couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 06:42 AM
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Diversity is a weakness. Austalia, Canada, Germany, New Zealand, Sweden, the United States: Are we a joke to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 06:33 AM
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You can still add Black to that. I'm Black and the dating game is stacked against Black men who don't portray negative anti-Black stereotypes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 06:27 AM
2

You're spitting facts.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 06:24 AM
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I visited the PNW and I really loved it there. Much better place to live compared to where I live (the Deep South). Hell, gender relations are much better than where I live. I was a lot more confident in talking to women there who were much more approachable and less rigid and traditional.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 06:22 AM
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I guess this is geographic then because I live in the Deep South where all things regarding gender, race, and LGBTQ+ issues and relations were absolutely horrific 50 years ago. These things honestly can't get any worse then they were 50 years ago where I live.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 06:20 AM
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It is important that the feminists you are referring to are not really most mainstream 1st and 3rd wave feminists. They are often a small number of radical 2nd wave feminists who are also anti-LGBTQ and are unironically misandrist feminazis.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 04:27 AM
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Are there any sources to back this up because I personally find this hard to believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 04:23 AM
2

So are these women are just getting in relationships with men they don't find remotely attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 04:43 PM
2

Yet women are always complaining how unattractive men are.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 11:02 AM
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They are two sides of the same hateful coin.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 04:59 PM
1

Most women don’t want relationships with most men though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 01:30 PM
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I don't know, Jeff Bezos is pretty visible. Jeff Bezos is far from below average to be fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 04:51 AM
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One thing that is interesting is that the net of heterosexual attraction for men is wider on average than that of women. Seems like men are more likely to find most women attractive while women are most likely to only a smaller fraction of men attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 03:12 AM
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As if most women would want men in their league anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 02:46 AM
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Seems like she should have called it off. She's no victim nor deserve any sympathy nor justification.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 02:41 AM
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Seems like this doesn’t change the fact that women on average would rather be single while men on average would rather be in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 02:46 AM
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I didn't make that argument. I just said that there any many men who would be great partners who happen to not seek interest from many women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 12:59 AM
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They are much more rare then men who want relationships. Furthermore, those commitment-phobic men seem to disproportionately received the most attention from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 09:12 PM
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Most women desire committed, monogamous, stable relationship. But get tired of all the commitment-phobes,pump & dump mentality guys while searching for her prince charming in their early 20's. The commitment-phobes and the pump and dumpsters are more rare than you think. Most men also desire relationships, commitment, and stable relationships yet are often ignored by most women. Also, there is a growing number of women who have no interest in finding the One or their Prince Charming. Likewise, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 07:49 PM
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I'm just sick of the gaslighting and "men are trash" nonsense I see on this subreddit that a lot of people spew. You are making a broad generalization of men and I (as a man) am telling you that your generalization is not as correct as you think it is. I often call men out on this nonsense when they make broad generalizations about women as well. There are plenty of men who would make great partners and companions yet you are only seeing the very few men who you are incompatible with.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 07:21 PM
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Your experience is mostly based on your own antidotal experience with very few men compared to many more men who use OLD. There are more men looking for relationship yet you and other women are not paying attention to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 07:06 PM
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I doubt you will find one woman who says she didn't play dolls and house growing up. I know plenty of women who didn't. I grew up with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 07:04 PM
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Even taking that into account, most men still get little to no attention on OLD. The experience many men on OLD are not those of pump and dumb predators. I send them plenty of engaging and well thought-out messages. They simply ignored me. I also used high quality pictures as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:52 PM
2

Not nearly as much as it use to.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:48 PM
1

To be fair, attraction can be subjective. So one person's 10 is another person's 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:42 PM
1

What is the orange pill?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:41 PM
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Nope. On old 95% of men I match with (and i try to swipe left on chads) aren't looking for a relationship when I ask them what they are looking for. You do know that most men get little to no attention on OLD so the men you are talking about are a clear minority. I've been using OLD for years and only received 3 matches in total and was mostly ignored by those matches.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:38 PM
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More and more young women are raised playing with video games and computer games. That may have been true in the mid-1900s but it isn't as common now. Also, statistically, more single women are happy being single then single men and more single women would rather be single than single men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:33 PM
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yet the overwhelming majority of men only want to pump and dump them. Those are the few men many women pay attention to. Most men aren't in a position to do any of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:31 PM
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More men want relationship then women though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:11 PM
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There are plenty of men who want companions and would be great partners yet the overwhelming majority of women ignore them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:10 PM
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Are you sure the reason is because she simply has high standards and she sees men interested in her as beneath her. Also, is she even interested in dating or relationships given that a lot of single women are single by choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:01 AM
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A lot of men maybe starved of care and connections but not too many women are especially now.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 08:51 PM
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Seems that a lot of women here fail to have any sympathy for men regarding any dating troubles they have no matter what. I lost count of how much gaslighting many women gave me whenever I say I have any issues dating rather it be casual sex or relationships. Seems that a lot of men are just tired of all the gaslighting and belittling we receive from a lot of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 06:22 AM
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I really respect this post and I agree many women have unique challenges in dating. With that being said, I hope the same sympathy and empathy is also applied to men with their unique dating struggles. Often, many women on this subreddit gaslights so many men who have problems dating, labeling them as losers and lvm with little interest in understanding or empathizing with their struggles. Reading the comments, I am also noticing the same gaslighting many men are giving women for expressing thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 05:33 AM
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Women not wanting relationships where their life expectancy is shortened and they are miserable is not the same thing as women not wanting relationships. Men wanting a mommy-fuck-wife is not wanting a relationship, it’s wanting a servant. This is just misandrist stereotypes. Why is it so hard for you to acknowledge that some women would rather than be single without making it a total condemnation of men?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 03:32 AM
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Technically it is even if you fall for the whole "men are trash" and "poor women" nonsense. What you said does not change the fact that men (on average) prefer relationships more than women (on average). This has little to do with men being bad or women being victims. More single women simply don't want relationships compared to single men, period. Also, I read the studies you were referring to; however, both men and women (on average) live longer in marriages compared to single people. This is …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 03:27 AM
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From what I've seen, the average first marriage age for Americans is between two to three years so this answer is no on average. Seems like most men and women on average would rather marry partners their own age. Additionally, marriage age gaps may be 3, 5, 7, or at most 10 years but there aren't too many 20, 30, or 40 year marriage age gaps. A lot of marriages are from relationships which are formed through social circles. Likewise, you are more likely to marry and be in a relationship with som…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 03:17 AM
1

At least we can agree that men (on average) would rather be in relationships while women (on average) would rather be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 02:34 AM
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At least we can agree that women on average do not a relationship as much as men and men want relationships more. Furthermore, this notion of the vast majority of men being bad partners is nonsense and projection. This is blatant "men are trash" and "poor women" propaganda. You do know that the majority of men are not bad people right? There are plenty of men who would make good romantic partners and are more than happy to carry their share (there are more men than ever who are stay at home dads…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 02:19 AM
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You proved the point that men want relationships more than women. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 02:06 AM
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So perhaps it’s more accurate to say that there are a lot of heterosexual women who would prefer a loving, healthy LTR that resembles a true partnership, but who have given up because so few men are capable of that. However, it is clear that many women who are single (if not most) prefer not to be in relationships, especially where I live. Maybe people are different from where we live. However, it is clear that more women who are single prefer to be single and without children compared to men. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 01:37 AM
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Nuance doesn’t matter to the “porn is evil” crowd.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 05:32 PM
1

Most men on dating apps tend to be open to anything though. Additionally, not a lot of profiles (for both men and women) have that on their bios off the bat anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 06:40 AM
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However, very little men on dating apps receive attention so you are basing this on the very few men who are selected compared the the many many many more men who aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 06:31 AM
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Your post kind of represents the mood I have been feeling since being on this subreddit. Thanks for sharing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 06:28 AM
2

That's fine if you aren't lying about your intentions.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 05:30 AM
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This is one reason why I am not a fan of FDS, TRP, or PUA. They treat dating and relationships as if it was some game that requires strategies. This includes manipulations, lying, and treating people you suppose to care about like shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 05:23 AM
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So wanting a relationship with women makes men look weak? Yet you think men are the gatekeepers of relationships. Also, these single women are simply just not interested in men. They were never turned off because they were never turned on to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 05:04 AM
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I guess it depends on where you are and the amount of attention you receive from women. Most of the single men in my area and class would love to be in a relationship yet are ignored. However, nearly all of the single women are mostly single by choice and embrace their independence from men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 04:21 AM
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That’s fair. That’s kind of my point. Men are more likely to find a wider net of women attractive than vice versa. This is why the idea of men being the gatekeeper of relationship is a total myth.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 04:11 AM
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Standard working class and lower middle class men in my area. A lot of them are single yet are often ignored by many women in my area.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 04:01 AM
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“ But women many women who opt out of LTR / marriage often do want marriage and long term relationships” This is not what I see from where I live. Almost all women I know are in relationships or with FWBs and the only ones single are willingly single and never had any interest in marriage or relationships. These single women aren’t bitter nor do they have any bad feelings against men. They just enjoy their independence.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 03:46 AM
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Yes women have far more options than men. Furthermore, men are far more likely to use dating apps than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 03:40 AM
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This may apply to a select few of men but this does not apply to the majority of men. Also, women are more likely to file divorce then men so women are more than capable of having the power to leave or commit to a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 03:35 AM
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I was referring to noticing by asking out, approaching, and recognizing potential partners. In this aspect a lot of women I know and talk do not notice a lot of men at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 03:30 AM
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There are plenty of dudes who aren’t either incels nor simps who are often ignored and have no leverage.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 03:27 AM
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Congratulations
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 03:01 AM
7

Yet those fuckboys draw the attention while most others are ignored. Again, these evil fuckboys are fees and far between. You are just drawn to them more compared to other men. There are plenty of men who are happy to be in relationships yet they are often forgotten by the “where are the good men” crowd for various reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 12:09 AM
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You failed to prove OP wrong. From what I’ve observed, men want both sex AND relationships more than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 11:58 PM
5

Thee men are very active and interact with women. It’s just that the vast majority of women are simply not interested in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 11:55 PM
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If those are your dating issues, then I truly envy you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 10:38 PM
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Those are just the men you notice. A lot of men happen to be invisible to a lot of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 10:09 PM
6

The fridge fuckboys tend to be the more assertive. But didn’t you say on your previous posts that you are down with casual sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 10:08 PM
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A lot of the issues with poverty in the US is mostly due to the lack of social safety nets rather than marriages or single mothers In fact, single mothers are a product of poverty, not a cause. Much more feminist and egalitarian countries such as Germany, Norway, and Canada have lower rates of single parent households and lower rates of poverty. Unless the US has stronger social safety nets and a stronger welfare state, any effort to "bring back the nuclear family" is completely useless. Besides…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 08:28 PM
1

This dynamic has existed where I live for a long time and it is unlikely to change anytime soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 08:22 PM
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I've talked to both women and men as well as observed multiple relationships. This statement is based on my observation. 9/10 the men were a lot more invested than the women were.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 08:21 PM
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I think you are grossly overestimating the leverage most men have. Often times, a lot of them are on the outside, looking in and have absolutely no leverage to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 08:18 PM
0

If we stopped giving women free money from the government coffers, they would all be trying to get married within a month. Who would want to live in such a society though?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 08:00 PM
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I guess we live in two different countries because where I live, it's the absolute reverse.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 07:58 PM
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That's more of the fridge fuckboy types though rather than your average Joe.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 07:30 PM
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This kind of debunks the myth of men being the gatekeepers of relationships. Given that there is a cultural emphasis on "men chase, women select," there will always be a disproportionate demand. Likewise, from what I see and my own experience, men are more likely to want and seek out women (rather it be for causal sex or relationships) a lot more than women would want or seek out men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 07:04 PM
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Like how?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 07:01 PM
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https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/relevant-research-and-articles-about-the-studies/brain-studies-on-porn-users-sex-addicts/#brain Seems like a legit source and not bias at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 04:51 PM
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Another ridiculous porn is evil take. Let me guess, global warming is also because of porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 09:35 AM
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A lot of people date within social circles to be fair so this has some moderate truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 02:52 AM
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To be fair, men are more likely to have blue collar occupations which are more likely to demand trade skills while women are more likely to work in white and pink collar occupations which are more likely to require a college degree. Additionally, you live in a relatively well-off area so your judgment was more clouded.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 02:41 AM
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A lot of women and men are equally shallow and shitty people. A lot of misogyny and misandry I’ve read from both men and women on this subreddit is just depressing. There’s a lot of women who complain about how trash and evil men are and there’s a lot of men who complain how women hit the wall and ride the CC. A lot of men and women just rant about how bad women and men are with misrepresented articles. Like, do these women even like men as people or do these men even like women as people? Anoth…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 02:37 AM
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Because every dude dating and married are model citizens. There are plenty of decent men who are great people yet are single.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 02:12 AM
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As if every single guy is just a repulsive human being.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 12:43 AM
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To be fair, the Japanese government is slowly becoming more attracted to this idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 03:47 AM
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Then all of their issues are completely self inflicted. They are free to waste their money on useless nonsense. After all, bigots are irrational.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 03:46 AM
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That’s pathetic. This is why all efforts to increase birth rates are often always a total waste of time and money. Just increase immigration and that problem will be solved overnight.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 02:53 AM
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That’s pathetic. This is why all efforts to increase birth rates are often always a total waste of time and money. Just increase immigration and that problem will be solved overnight.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 02:52 AM
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As long as everyone is happy and are willing participants, I don't see any issue with polyamory. People being more open with this idea would probably save themselves a lot of issues with infidelity. This applies to both men and women. Additionally, I think a lot of what is talked about in this post stems from patriarchal norms. This is why a straight man is phrased for having multiple partners while a straight woman is shamed for having multiple partners. Recently in South Africa, where it is le…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 09:21 PM
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Because women normally go on dates they don't want to. Okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 01:37 AM
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From what I've noticed among friends, even earlier dates in the US are becoming more casual especially among younger Americans. Formal and fancy dates are often reserved for anniversaries or special occasions.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 01:35 AM
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Not my fault...the patriarchy made me do it A lot of male-dominated fields often prohibited women from joining though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 01:32 AM
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Those men dodged a bullet.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 01:12 AM
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This is just gaslighting. What evidence you have for him being below average?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 12:59 PM
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The reason guts here don't think so, is because they don't compromise and only chance women who are out their league, so don't need to compromise. Seems like that is a very large claim based on no evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 07:37 PM
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And the gaslighting on this subreddit continues.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 07:06 PM
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However, men are much more compromising regarding their attraction to women than vice-versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 07:04 PM
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FDS and TRP are two sides of the same toxic coin. Both are shaming and bullying random people online as well as have hateful opinions of their desired gender. Their strategies are also often selfish and would drive any decent human being away from them. No wonder both of them complain about their shitty dating lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 04:28 AM
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Yeah this is not a good post at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 03:18 AM
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Bruh. They literally have a "darktriadwomen" discord where they discard all morals and encourage psychological and emotional manipulation of men to get what they want. I agree with you that these people are assholes. However, most people with mental health issues are not manipulative and hateful people though. I say this as a person with mental health issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 01:16 AM
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You know you have a lot of time to waste if you are participating on a subreddit called r/BlackPeopleTwitter
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 01:12 AM
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I wouldn't read much into it. FDS are filled with a lot of hateful and toxic assholes much like TRP and MGTOW.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 01:10 AM
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Although I hate it when male suicide rate are used by assholes to undermine women's issues, I do think that it is important for serious discussion to be made regarding issues of access to mental healthcare. Male suicides and mental health are serious issues which needs to be addressed. This equally applies to female suicides and mental health.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 01:08 AM
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To be fair, it's completely unfair and abelist to conflate toxic people with people who have mental health issues. There are plenty of people with mental disabilities and neurodivergent people who have perfectly healthy ideas of relationships and are decent human beings. However, FDS and almost as toxic as TRP and they both preach the same nonsense but from different sides. Both hate the opposite gender who do not conform to rigid gender norms, both encourage their members to be selfish assholes…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 01:05 AM
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There are quite a few decent people on this sub who express their struggles dating yet are often berated and gaslit. I have experienced this a lot on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 12:47 AM
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As if every dude struggling with dating or in general are just assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 11:36 PM
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Please tell me you are trolling?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 11:17 PM
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I'm no fan of the RedPill yet it's pretty sad how much people on this sub are so quick to berate, humiliate, and gaslight men who are struggling with their dating lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 10:58 PM
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This is HIS issue and HIS issue alone. He should have left out the "us young guys" then.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 10:56 PM
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I'm not defending porn and social media. I just think that blaming them for relationship problems is just a coping mechanism. Everyone needs a boogeyman.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 10:50 PM
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Or more and more young men and women are staying at home with their parents, going to school, and prioritizing their careers instead of buying houses, having children, and getting married. No, it's all this evil technology according to these boomers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 09:46 PM
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I'll be honest, especially us young guys, with porn and instagram thotties and models, our standards for objective beauty have gone up a bit and it's like were less tolerance of average looking and ugly women. Okay boomer. Can we please stop with this porn and social media are so evil propaganda?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 09:41 PM
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Really? Where did you get stats on that?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 12:43 AM
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And yet many overweight women have no problem getting into relationships. Due to the men pursue and women choose culture, women in general are more in demand than men are.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 12:22 AM
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Yet men are more likely to find more women attractive compared to the women regarding the average men. Most men I know are more than happy to settle with any woman who’s remotely interested given the little interest they receive in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 12:14 AM
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To be fair, more dating is through friendships and social groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 12:10 AM
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This comment is based off of out of date gender norms. There are plenty of men who are the primary caretaker of their children.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 11:59 PM
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Women could also have the same power as men and be winners as well by simply taking the initiative and pursuing men they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 11:49 PM
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The whole mother’s be crazy about their sons is just a stereotype and most mothers are just happy anyone would choose to marry their sons. There are just as many crazy bride parents who think no one is worthy of their daughters.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 11:26 PM
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True but this is becoming less and less of a thing now. People are becoming more than capable of managing their lives without family support.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 11:14 PM
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This is kind of hard to do given that men are more likely to pursue many types of women. So women regardless of looks have a lot of options. Additionally, these women in their league are most likelihood not remotely interested in the dudes settling for them to begin with. I’m speaking through experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 10:05 PM
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As if people aren’t independent thinking and are more than capable of making decisions for themselves and not caring what others think.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 10:01 PM
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That is complete bullshit given that men find more women attractive than vos-versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 08:22 PM
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The tired porn and video game addiction myth. Okay boomer.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 08:17 PM
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I think your failed marriage is clouding your judgment.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 08:15 PM
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Or that bride could say herself a lot of time, money, and headaches by just having a small wedding or just signing the papers at the court house and calling it a day.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 08:12 PM
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When are more likely to find more women attractive compared to women regarding their attraction to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 07:45 PM
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If all else fails, I would move to a smaller city or town with a more socially conservative vibe to it. The big cities aren't really a great place to look for traditional housewives nor sole breadwinning husbands. This is coming from a resident in relatively large city.
/r/RedPillWives02/07/21 07:09 PM
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I know a lot of ugly women and many of them have a lot of dating options. Lack partners isn't really much of an issue for the vast majority of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:36 PM
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To be fair, it is more of a cultural phenomena. I've noticed that Northern Europeans in general are very much introverted and reserved compared to most people. This also applies to other aspects in life. This is why a lot of immigrants and foreign students and workers complain about how hard it is to make friends in Estonia, Germany, Sweden, the Netherlands, and Denmark for example. The Australia example is kind of surprising given that Australia is known for its macho and sporting culture where…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:26 PM
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The ones who get approached by men constantly are generally Stacies This is clearly false from my experience. A lot of women, regardless of attraction, do not have a shortage of guys interested in them while only the most attractive men are rarely approached by women while guy below is ignored.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:18 PM
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This sub can be very toxic sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:03 PM
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Often dudes will be hunting for these young women among all ages, so it’s basically a ton of dudes competing for a small slice of single, young, hot women. Which is why it seems like none exist, because they kind of don’t. Is this really true? Because I see all types of women, regardless of age and level of attraction be approached by multiple men while it is often only a few very attractive men who are often approached by women and it's at a much smaller scale. It seems like it is the average a…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 05:45 PM
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Please tell me this is just straight up sarcasm because this comment was a good laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 05:38 PM
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It seems like more and more young people (of all genders) who are attending bars and clubs are just looking to have fun and drink with their friends. I rarely hear anyone talk about hooking up at bars and clubs. Most young women often complain about being hit on at clubs and bars and many young men often don't bother. Most casual sex and romantic relationships these days come from friend groups and this is becoming quite rare especially for young men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 05:35 PM
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Well good I don’t And dudes here pooh pooh that stuff all the time as useless and frivolous Maybe because your view of men are very distorted and one-dimensional. All you have to do is simply pay attention. P.S., I'm sure those dudes are just simply saying that doing that stuff isn't a guarantee to get a girlfriend nor get laid and you completely took that as men hate museums and fancy restaurants.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 05:27 PM
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Let me put it this way…how often do you see a group of young men at a fancy restaurant, a show, movie, shopping, sightseeing, grooming, museums, etc? If it doesn’t involve sports or getting laid, you’re not going to see as many guys This is among the most toxic ideas of what men do in their free time. You do know your average dude isn't a early college frat boy or high school athlete. I'm a man and I absolutely love sightseeing, shopping (especially for books and flags), and visiting museums and…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 05:23 PM
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Additionally, a lot of older women who are single tend to be widows.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 05:15 PM
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The infamous myth of "men only go for the 10/10 Stacy" is over done and has been debunked.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 05:14 PM
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THIS
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 02:12 PM
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I'm a college-educated man and I've yet to see this abundance either. This abundance doesn't exist to most college-educated men I know. These articles saying that college-educated men (or men in general) are in high demand are completely full of shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 02:12 PM
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"Be friendly and polite and not obviously interested in sex only, and it is not that difficult to met women." This does not apply to where I live then.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 01:39 PM
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This is a massive load of bs since men have a larger pool of attraction compared to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 01:08 PM
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I think this is a product of a toxic and patriarchal concept of what manhood is which is supported by al segments of the population. This includes people on this sub. There is so much degrading and gaslighting comments directed at men who express their struggles with dating on this sub and nearly every other subreddit. I lost count of how many times I have been humiliated, told to STFU, and had be brushed off whenever I have expressed any emotional vulnerability. This comes from both men and wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 01:23 AM
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Nah, that's more like why male friendships barely qualify as friendships in most cases in my eyes. Just superficial BS, don't know anything about each other, don't support each other through difficulties in life. Most male friend groups are not this stereotype though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 12:52 AM
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That study is mostly based on people that were already liked. Most men and women have different strategies regarding OLD to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 12:33 AM
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That's bullshit. I really never saw this. I am around women in their 30s and 50s who still have FAR more options and interests than men of all ages.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 12:13 AM
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They can drop a model for another model n then go to an actress n then go around sleeping with her friend circle, they always have another girl at their disposal at any age. What planet are you living on where men have these options. Most of the men I'm around have maybe one or two (at most five if they are very lucky) women in their lives who are remotely interested in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 12:04 AM
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But women can't get love and attention from the male they want predictably over longer spans of time and this is what they value. Yet, it is much easier for women to receive love and attention than men for the most part.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 11:26 PM
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I was saying the same thing. A lot of posts on here are just gaslighting and berating men who have trouble dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 09:42 PM
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Women do not overestimate their attractiveness; men do. Where do people get this nonsense?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:02 PM
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Most men on OLD don't have high standards. In fact, the only standards many have is respond to their first messages. You clearly don't know the sacristy a lot of men have on OLD. Most men can't afford to have high standards to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:01 PM
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That’s tinder in a nutshell.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 04:06 AM
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That’s ratio is more to due with women living slightly longer than men though. There’s actually a slight surplus of young men compare to young women in the United States but this could be mostly due to immigration.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 02:44 AM
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THIS
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 01:43 AM
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This is funny given that most white women who fetishize Black culture and Black men are into Black men who display negative stereotypes or have athletic bodies. Their interest in Black culture is limited to urban thug culture. They aren’t fawning over some average Joe Black guy who works a 9 to 5 job. Nor are they interested in soul food nor Black Civil Rights movements.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 01:29 AM
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Yet men’s sexual standards are normally lower and more accommodating than women’s standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 11:51 PM
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It won't but the conversation could be just an intelligent one. I'm pretty surr your parents gave you the birds and the bees talk right?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 11:40 PM
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Again, just have honest conversations with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 10:45 PM
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Seems like you could only insult people after being offered realistic advice. Sorry but children aren't going to live their entire lives believing babies come from storks.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 10:43 PM
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By less, you mean more underground in more dangerous circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 10:14 PM
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The only people who are big proponents of this model include middle aged white TERFs and old white male lawmakers. Very few if any human rights activists and sex workers are supporting these laws or proposals. At least these laws only make prostitution super taboo and does nothing to stop human trafficking. At worse it'll be a total failure in making sex work and prostitution even more dangerous. These laws don't stop sex work nor minimize it; they only push them under ground.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 09:49 PM
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Maybe you should have intelligent conversations with your children and monitor their internet usage if you think all of this is so scary.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 09:42 PM
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It's as if this is just fear-mongering nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 05:28 PM
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I’m struggling to look for these evil deadbeat dads. Most singles mother households are normally mom gets the kids on the weekdays while dad gets the kids on the weekends.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 08:58 PM
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What's NOW?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 11:17 PM
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There's quite a bit of overlap between these two groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 06:38 PM
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Kind of funny that given that both are two sides of the same toxic, sexist, and narcissistic coin.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 06:29 PM
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It's more of a scarcity issue a lot of men have. When you have little to no options, you're more than willing to accept anyone available.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 06:09 PM
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I don’t think this is remotely a good idea. It is also a serious human rights issue regarding social media providers as well as consumers. Additionally, bans like these are completely counterproductive and only grows a black market because the demand for the service will always be there.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:39 AM
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You clearly haven’t been in poverty to realize not everyone can just spend $200 like it’s lose change.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 10:44 PM
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Maybe for some fortunate men but not the more unfortunate men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 10:20 PM
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People in poor parts of the world also don’t have access to the same amount of education. They are not thought what it takes to have children, how you being poor impacts them & their community. They also tend to be more religious- meaning there is also an inherent belief that procreating is more of a duty unless of course, you are a pastor, priest, etc… This is far more of a bigger reason why they are having children despite their situation. This is the obvious answer. Apparently basic facts lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 07:19 PM
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One reason why poorer women have more children on average is most likely due to having less access to contraceptives (such as birth control and the Plan B which can be very pricey if not legally hard to contain in many places) as well as family planning. Often, pregnancies can be more of circumstances rather than hardline choices for many poorer women. Furthermore, poorer women are more likely to be either religious or socially conservative or at least been subjected to that environment. Likewis…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 07:16 PM
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This argument doesn't take into account that we've been having all of these issues with the dating market WAY before social media, OLD, and other technology. As if the mid-70s and 80s was such a wonderful time to date with massively high crime rates, high drug abuse, and the HIV pandemic at its height. Seems like the people who are making the argument of dating being so much better without OLD and social media are just having an unhealthy nostalgia. It's like those 90s kids who praise the 90s as…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 07:08 PM
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I don't see how having more access to entertainment and having a greater capacity to connect with different people virtually is remotely a bad thing for either men or women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 06:00 PM
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Then stop complaining about it. You all sound like Victorian nuns with your sexual repression.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:57 PM
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One other factor is the reduced stigma, back then you'd be called a loser nerd for being a gamer, now this much more acceptable and often even "cool". And this is a bad thing? All power to these people for finding fulfilling hobbies in their lives. I'm sure you are happy with the reduced stigma of slut shaming regarding women. So why can't men also challenge the same ridiculous gender norms enforced on them?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:53 PM
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To be fair, more and more men are becoming more content with being single. Furthermore, most men who are in their thirties who aren't married and don't have children most likely aren't interested in that anyway so nothing is lost in their lives without that. Your statement sounds as bad as those dudes who complain about middle-aged cat ladies (women who were never interested in marriage and children to begin with).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:48 PM
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The government having the power to blanket ban social media accounts is more horrifying than essential.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 04:53 PM
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I believe men's pickiness comes when the time comes to pursue a relationship From where I am, men are often more eager to engage in both casual sext and relationships and are more likely to settle for whatever while women are just as picky as they are with either relationships or casual sex. Often, most heterosexual relationships are on the woman's terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 03:32 PM
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But what are the chances she’ll be remotely interested in some average joe. Next to none.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 06:51 AM
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That’s mostly just due to women living slightly longer than men. And the sex difference is completely negligible.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 06:48 AM
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Is this really a thing. Where I’m from, most women go to bars and clubs to socialize with their friends and have a good vacation. They often are upset about sexual or romantic advances.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:34 AM
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I’m not getting the anti-porn narrative so many people are shouting on this subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 04:12 AM
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The nonsense gaslighting continues.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 03:50 AM
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All power to her. I’m just saying her approach is becoming more old fashion.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 02:48 AM
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Seems like she shouldn’t complain then if she’s too lazy to have any agency in her dating life. But her strategy obviously has its limits. Apologies that younger men aren’t out there on their knees begging for her attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 01:41 AM
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Then all of her dating issues there are just self-inflicting.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 12:19 AM
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I would be horrified, knowing that my country has turned into a repressive autocratic regime.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 11:28 PM
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I'm not blaming anyone. Sometimes people have unfortunate luck with dating and attracting partners no matter how hard they work on it. This is especially the case for a lot of men. And these men are not shooting out of their league as you would describe. Additionally, heterosexual male attraction is quite accommodating and expansive. Much like women, not every guy is attracted to the same type of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 11:13 PM
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Have you ever told her to approach anyone she was interested in? If she doesn't, then she has no right to complain.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 10:44 PM
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What is up with this porn is evil narrative?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 10:35 PM
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SO many of my guy friends are just sitting with their friends on Discord and gaming instead of meeting girls IRL (even before the pandemic). That's for all people regardless of gender. Due to the internet, it is just far easier for people find entertainment inside than outside. You could also make social connections online as well and you could also meet plenty of women as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 10:34 PM
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They can be ugly but still make money or even just have a decent personality and a woman will be there for him (and even that y’all don’t wanna do) This is the 21st century. Women are more than capable of making their own money. I'm not interested in being some loser's ATM.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 10:21 PM
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Fair point. However divorce rates have already peaked and are falling right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 09:33 PM
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Maybe we have different experiences or around different people. Almost every woman I know who do OLD, regardless of their physical attraction, have multiple messages a day while almost every guy I know who is non-white and is conventionally average or below is often left behind with little to no matches. I used OLD for two years and had a total of three matches and I was the first to initiate conversations. I have written well throughout messages complimenting their hobbies and so forth just to …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 09:31 PM
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Most divorces are settled out of court. However, you have a small point there. The higher someone's income is, the more likely their marriage will last.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 07:40 PM
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OL no not all all there are very few women I would classify as supermodels on online dating. Just out of their leagu However, as a man, this idea that dude are just shooting out of their league and are only interested in women out of their league is quite false. Where I'm from, the average men has less options than the average women and are far more willing to settle and compromise. Women on the other hand are more likely to have much higher standards and are willing to test the waters more.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 07:28 PM
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Seems like you are naive to think that men are out here only wanting supermodels.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 06:37 PM
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I’ve tried that and I had far less luck. It’s better to prioritize the ones I find most attractive and see if they are interested rather than waste time on the ones who I’m not as attractive to. Most women regardless of attraction deals with hundreds of messages and swipes by the way. So you’ll run into a similar problem. Remember that OLD is different for men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 06:30 PM
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Seems like the dating age gap is more of a minority given that most people of all genders prefer to date people within their own age range.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 11:54 PM
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The overwhelming majority of men who say this are in their early 20s and the overwhelming majority of women in their 30s have absolutely no interest in dating them anyway so there’s no loss on either party.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 08:31 PM
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Therapy is bloody expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 07:43 PM
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Seems like people on this subreddit are so quick to gaslight a lot of men who struggle with dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 10:12 PM
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That sounds like a raw deal though.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 04:23 AM
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The big thing is women desire attractive men, when MOST men are not attractive or handsome. Is it really true that most women find most men unattractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 11:48 PM
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"The tl;dr here is the average man thinks women don’t care about appearance because they put little to no effort into appearance as a group." Because average men are all dressing like a bunch of slobs and have terrible hygiene. I am assuming that this is a smaller city and smaller town issue because, where I live, there are plenty of men who are well groomed and are decent looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 11:36 PM
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I think a lot of men cast a wide bet regarding their approach to women is the belief of scarcity. A lot of men ask out as many women as they can hoping at least 1 out of 1000 says yes. Likewise, unlike women, many men feel like y they can’t afford to be picky nor narrow in their approach otherwise, they’ll end up without any options.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 07:19 AM
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To be fair, I think most sensible people understand that dating for everyone is quite complicated and hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 07:04 PM
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I made a similar argument on r/dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 07:53 PM
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This post is clearly based off of unhealthy gender stereotypes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 04:43 PM
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I was thinking the same thing. I'm against all rigid gender roles for all genders. I am more than happy to settle down with a non-traditional woman; however, don't expect me to be a personal ATM.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 07:03 PM
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Lizzo/Chris Evans To be fair, we all made moves on super attractive people and we all had celebrity crushes. So no need to shame anyone in this saga.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 06:55 PM
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Seems like you're probably best dating older men who make more money than you. From what I've read, you are already doing this and seems like your dating life has drastically improved. Unfortunately, not a lot of men nor women in their 20s are able to play that provider and sole breadwinner role. The financial stability of many young adults is also worse due to the pandemic.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 06:48 PM
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I see your point; however, you said it is easier for men to get sex if they choose to look for a committed relationship. As a man who doing just that, finding both sex and a relationship is not easy in the slightest. Out of my friend group, I’m the one that tends to look for relationships yet I’m by far the least romantically successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 03:30 PM
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Why would you be offended by not attracting people you clearly have no interest in. If anything, they are doing you a favor.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 07:00 AM
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Or maybe given that many online dating apps have men outnumber women 2 to 1 in many cases. Furthermore, most dating is done offline and through social groups and networking.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 06:43 AM
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If you are a man looking for a relationship you are a lot more likely to get sex. I have not had this experience at all. From what I've seen, many men who want relationships are more likely to struggle in the market and be alone compared to many men who want more casual sex. I would prefer to be in a relationship yet I had absolutely no interest from women while my brother (who is more into casual sex) has an abundance of women wanting to be with him. Btw, I would argue there are plenty of women…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 06:10 AM
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What? I thought women hate causal sex! *sarcasm*
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 05:22 AM
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Ugly girls want attractive men, some will settle but they'll never be happy. And who the fuck would want to be someone who is reluctantly settled for by someone they are mutually attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 04:51 AM
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That's weird because I haven't seen this too much. Maybe they'll be a few dudes who are desperate but most straight men I know are sleeping with and dating women they find very attractive and that level of attraction is a lot more diverse than what a lot of women believe it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 04:42 AM
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Seems like this is a quality vs quantity argument I make regarding the struggles of heterosexual men and women dating. Men have no options while women have terrible options is what I hear.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 09:24 PM
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To be fair, fewer people subscribe to your way of thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 09:11 PM
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I call bs. These types of women come in all levels of attraction and bad women will miss treat men regardless of both their levels of attraction. This lower your expectations cope is nothing more than gaslighting people to accept bad partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 08:01 PM
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I honestly think the red pill and female dating strategy makes dating to be out as some complicated game which turns a lot of people (especially younger people) off of it altogether.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 12:24 AM
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Women have to weed out sex predators when they're dating. Do straight men? No. Because only men can be sexual predators apparently. Pretty ridiculous statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 06:18 PM
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Okay? Just saying the dating pool for straight men is MUCH better than it is for straight women. If anyone believes in that horse shit, then I have a bridge to sell you. As a straight man, I will gladly tell you that dating is FAR from paradise and the "dating pool" many straight men have is nothing more of a puddle of wet shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 03:37 AM
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Yeah, social media isn’t real life. The desire for dad bods where I am is absolutely nonexistent. As someone with a dad nod, I’ve yet to see any women turning their heads nor expressing remotely any interest whatsoever in me. Not even a complement on my appearance. The athletes and Greek God bods are still the undisputed standards of male beauty.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 10:59 PM
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Apologies. Just not use to such a very bold yet factually incorrect statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 10:07 PM
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Based off of what evidence do you come to that ridiculous conclusion?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 11:49 AM
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Is that really true?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 11:46 AM
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and prefer men around my height and body type. I’m just more comfortable around them than with someone who could easily overpower me and it’s easier to walk and talk with someone of a similar height. The who "their women" thing is a yikes from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 01:42 AM
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If anyone isn't wanting to date a man solely for being short or a woman solely for being tall, then can we all agree that those are shallow people you shouldn't be dating anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 01:19 AM
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I am no fan of FDS and it reminds me of the redpill regarding indoctrinating people with the idea that dating and relationships are rulebooks one must strictly follow. With that being said, a you implying that women would not increase their dating chances by self-improvement, if so, then that is terrible advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 09:56 PM
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That's a myth.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/21 09:48 AM
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What is up with the fat-shaming on this post?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 01:27 AM
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I'm still looking for these heterosexual women who's sexualities are completely limited to Hollywood actors, body-builders, instagram models, and multi-millionaires. Do these people realize that, much like men's attraction women's attraction is subjective and it depends on which woman you are talking to. Like seriously, do you see herds of men only fawning over instagram models, young female celebrities, and porn stars. Of course not. Many men have vastly different tastes in women, much like how…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/20 07:56 PM
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I actually don’t buy the idea of women having more diverse tastes in men than women in women. I’ve known plenty of men who have a lot of diverse tastes. Furthermore, given that men are seen as the chasers and women are seen as the selectors, the criteria for a lot of young men in regarding women is just be interested in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 10:47 PM
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You say that as if any of the people you described aren't rich and famous celebrities.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 04:41 AM
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t seems that the vast majority of your replies have just been berating and belittling people for telling their stories... telling them they have something wrong with them and it's a you problem, etc... is that really helpful? Almost half of the content and posts here are about berating people to be fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/20 08:31 PM
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Or maybe you don't find too many people among your social group attractive or relationship material. In addition, maybe your social group is simply terrible in assisting you in finding potential partners. Believe me, it's annoying being that only single person among your social group. And your friends are always trying to set you up with the worst type of people who they wouldn't dare waste their time with. I've been in this same situation. One time, I have expressed interest in one super cute a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/20 05:41 PM
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To be honest, I see more women who subscribe to FDS than I see Red Pillers using that term.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/20 10:40 AM
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This "problem'" would be easily solved if women were encouraged to ask men out more instead of wasting their time giving out "hints."
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/20 07:35 AM
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This! This is the same with men. I tell the sane thing to my female acquaintances and friends. Those who love BBWs and those who love the insta models or those who love the girls next doors are very different men. Likewise, attraction is subjective and it depends on what each individual finds attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/20 07:28 AM
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This is relatively interesting and annoying. A lot if women rightfully challenge gender confirming norms forced on women yet re-enforce gender confirming norms on men. It's super frustrating seeing this stuff on FDS. Many women on that subreddit rightfully call out harmful gender norms enforced on women yet complain about men not being slim and attractive or proving for them or paying for expensive dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/20 07:24 AM
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To be fair, OLD has been a total cesspool of e-girls and bots from what I've seen. Your time is better spent on just meeting people through hobbies, friends, and acquaintances.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/20 07:12 AM
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Enough with the hints. Someone did this to me not too long ago and I lost all interest. Why can't people be honest with each other and not play games and chases?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/20 03:20 AM
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nse stereotype that the average woman is a Victorian Secret Model and the average man is Quasimodo's impoverished and abandoned brother. Glad you took enjoyment of my awkward description.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/20 02:16 AM
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I'm sorry but I don't buy this nonsense stereotype that the average woman is a Victorian Secret Model and the average man is Quasimodo's impoverished and abandoned brother.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/20 12:30 AM
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Speak for yourself and other shallow dudes. I'm a hetero dude and I rate personality a high priority compared to looks. As someone with autism, I clearly will not click with many average women. I also love cooking and I can clean my own house. I would much rather have a romantic companion, not a maid or mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 05:15 AM
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Such is life. People grow a part and that's no one's fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/20 04:19 PM
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Men do not have a monopoly on this validation and peer-pressure. I lost count of how many times my female friends are shamed by their girlfriends for liking, dating, marrying, and hooking up with 'losers,' 'uglies,' 'poor,' and no-good dudes. Honestly, like who you like and to hell what others think.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/20 04:13 AM
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Likewise, a lot of people who complain about gold diggers are the same people whose only criteria for a partner is being good-looking. Sorry, if your standards are that low, you'll most likely be settling with low-quality partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/20 04:06 AM
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As a dude who's done OLD, I (along with most guys) have yet to see any of this winning.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/20 08:21 PM
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I think it's more of the dating culture of men being the chaser and women being the choosers. I think once we get rid of these artificial rules and games of dating, more and more people (regardless of gender) will have more and better options in the dating market.
/r/MensRights21/08/20 06:18 AM
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You are upset about me debunking your misogynistic viewpoint and saying that women should be treated like capable human beings not creatures who need a man's protection?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/20 05:53 PM
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I'm far from FDS's biggest fan, but at least no FDS member killed anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/20 04:56 AM
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I was sympathetic to your post until you said the stupid phrase " You’re supposed to protect them, not attack them." Women aren't looking for some man for protection nor are men entitled to be their knight and shining armor. See women as flawed people and don't put them on a pedestal.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/20 04:47 AM
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nd set the dial for 1960, when the birth control pill was invented and ignited the sexual revolution. You are correct that premarital sex is not a recent invention, however, prior to the widespread use of "the pill" (which, when it was first released, was only prescribed to married women) if you got pregnant outside of wedlock, you got married. It was after it came into widespread use, which coincided with the women's liberation movement, that the marriage age began to creep up and up. The inter…
/r/askFDS10/08/20 03:15 AM
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Thank you for mentioning the changing economic reality. I would also argue that the premarital sex argument may not have much of an impact since younger people, on average, are having less sex than previous generations and this applies to both men and women. Also, more and more people are prioritizing their education and early careers and jobs.
/r/askFDS10/08/20 02:30 AM
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So it doesn't have anything to do with rising living costs and stagnating wages, making settling down far more expensive than it was in the 1900s? In addition, premarital sex didn't just magically appeared due to the rise of internet porn in the 2000s.
/r/askFDS10/08/20 02:25 AM
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The US economy changed. More and more young people are prioritizing their educations and jobs over starting families. Less and less jobs are stable and homes aren't as affordable than they were years ago. In addition, living expenses are skyrocketing and wages are stagnated. Likewise, settling down, getting married, and having a family is becoming too expensive for young men AND women, especially in their early-20s. Being able to settle down, requires a career with a decent income (for both part…
/r/askFDS10/08/20 02:23 AM
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MRAs' hatred towards feminists is really weird given that the most vocal opponents of male-only military conscription and selective services are feminists.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/20 08:44 PM
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Human genetic diversity is extremely tiny and small. Likewise, only two males reproducing with many females would be super detrimental to society.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/20 08:20 PM
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This is a stupid statement and it enables dangerous ideas of toxic masculinity. In addition, WWII was a demographic disaster for the Soviet Union and it is partly responsible for the demographic decline of Russia today.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/20 08:12 PM
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I'm not getting this. Are you implying that men should actively seek out women they do not find remotely attractive? Seems like a recipe for disaster.
/r/askFDS03/08/20 05:14 PM
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To be fair, it's not totally impossible for 3 or 4 men to find romantic relations or get laid, even if they exclusively go after 10s. It just requires taking the risks, improving themselves, and (I cannot stress this) trial and error. A lot of men need to stop being scared and ashamed of getting rejected and taking it personally. Sometimes people don't click and its no one's fault. Who cares if Stacy gave you the cold shoulder at the bar or the club. Just ask the next beautiful woman.
/r/askFDS29/07/20 11:53 PM
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