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This resonated with me in terms of shit tests. Before I knew what I was doing or why I was doing it or how it was hurting my relationship, I shit tested a lot. And I shit tested in the worst ways possible in order to get him to cave: crying jags, temper tantrums, the siltent treatment, being passive aggressive, being downright aggressive, begging, pleading, and generally manipulating to get my way. I think that a huge part of becoming a RPW for me was realizing that, yes, I do know exactly how t…
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 01:20 AM
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That he's a little bit of a perfectionist about things that really matter to him, or things he knows really matter to me. In the reverese, that he's chill when things don't go exactly as planned or when it really doesn't matter to him. He likes to have a solid and detailed plan, but is okay with deviating from that. That he comforts and supports me, without letting me wallow or babying me. He really balances having alpha/beta qualities and doesn't put up with my shit tests. That he supports my e…
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 08:28 PM
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Happy Wives Club is a great nickname! I think an important note about taking what feels right to you is that you really have to strip yorself down to figure that out. You can't go ask your friends or family. You can't ask the internet to tell you. You really have to look internally and deeply, past preconceived ideas or society's norms, to find out what is actually right for you. I think that once you do that, it's also a lot easier to be strong in your choices. I don't even feel the need to def…
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 03:33 PM
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Ahhhh, got it. I didn't realize it was referencing another post. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 07:52 PM
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Does anyone know what the author means by "the myth of the biological clock"? I thought women actually experienced hormonal changes, which increased feelings of urgency.
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 10:11 PM
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We're the exact same! I love the 'I love you's and words of appreciatation and he loves the little things I do for him. His lesser love language is also words of affection, which makes it pretty easy for us to communicate our feelings, generally.
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 01:52 AM
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You just aren't using vintage ribbons, obvi. ;)
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 01:41 AM
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Good reminder! I think it's also important to remember that alone time is time for you to recharge and do interesting things to tell him about later.
/r/RedPillWives03/04/16 05:57 PM
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He either wants you to work the room as well, or he wants you by his side when he does. I'm inclined to this it's the first though, by the way he introduced you briefly to the older man and then dove back into his conversation. At a party, my husband and I are very rarely together or engaged in the same conversation, because we're both working the room. It makes the party more socially successful for us, since it seems like we talked to everyone and gave attention to everyone. So, the evenyones …
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/16 11:29 AM
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I would rather not have friends like the ones you've described, and just be alone. I believe that the people we choose to spend our time with have a lot of influence over how we grow; so, you really need to consider what effect these women are having on you and your attitude. I wouldn't go on the trip to India, and I would slowly distance myself from the friend group. Learn to be comfortable with being alone, take classes and meet people that way, try meetup (or a similar). Look for women who yo…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/16 12:15 AM
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This means we'll get new subscribers, yay! Welcome, newbies and read the sidebar.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/16 03:30 AM
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I, too, get to enjoy the company of my husband when I come home from work. I'm glad we can agree on that :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/16 11:59 PM
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You definitely cannot fix this situation, and honestly, you shouldn't even try. You have so many of your own issues going on, that you can't be a good partner to Grant, or anyone else right now. You need to focus on fixing yourself: go to therapy, go to AA, make better quality friends, work out/eat right/drink water, practice self-discipline, etc. You shouldn't even try to contact Grant or be friends with him; the nicest thing you could do for him is disappear so that he can move on. Saying that…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/16 11:45 PM
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A partnership doesn't indicate an "equal division of labor", and I never said anything even remotely suggesting that. I'm sure you feel like you get something out of your relationship with your SO, otherwise, why would you be with that person?
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/16 11:33 PM
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I'm sure I would, but I'm not in a relationship because I want to do everything by myself. I'm in a relationship because I want a parnership with someone, and a good partnership is one wherein both people contribute and feel like they are getting something out of it. If my husband was unable to do these things, of course I would do them all and not resent him. But he's a perfectly able-bodied being, who would also have to do those things for himself if he was living alone.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/16 08:03 AM
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I wasn't taking what she said personally; I was disagreeing with her statement that the reversal of gender roles leads to divorce. In my opinion, it's not the reversal, but when roles are not clearly defined that problems and resentment arise.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/16 02:51 AM
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I disagree, actually. I think having clear roles, no matter what they are, are very important to a happy and successful marriage; not necessarily abiding by specific gender roles. Many of the women on this sub, myself included, are the sole bread-winners, "career women", or in dual-income households, and manage to respect their husband and have happy relationships. I think that both men and women become resentful when they feel that their partner isn't living up to their roles in the partnership…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/16 12:05 AM
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I also think that people being cohabitating for the wrong reasons, such as to save money or because they think it will fix a problem in the relationship. Cohabitation, like LTRs, needs to have a definitive goal and end-point, and so many people begin cohabitating without discussing those two things with their partner first.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/16 11:58 PM
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Interesting! I'm just discovering him, so I'll definitely check out the video you posted. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/16 08:29 PM
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Do you mind elaborating about the religion part?
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/16 08:23 PM
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I instantly thought of Hitchens when I first found out about him!
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/16 08:15 PM
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My favorite line is said when discussing the 1/4 women will be sexually assaulted on college campuses, and Milo points out that, logically, sexual assault would then occur more on college campuses than in the Congo, where rape is used as a weapon.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/16 08:14 PM
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I mean, when we were newly dating, I was definitely more reserved. But by maybe three months in, it was like our marriage. I think we're an unusually talkative couple though. We share a lot of articles and videos and other media throughout the day and talk about it when we see each other.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/16 03:44 AM
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I definitely don't withhold anything from my husband, but I also don't necessarily tell him everything that passes through my brain. For us, it's mostly situational and mood dependent. If he's busy, I try not to bother him, unless there's vital info he needs to know right now. If we have free time and feel like being verbally communicative, I'll give extraneous details or sometimes stream of consciousness (this is usually after an extended, relaxed time together). Most men hate drama, especially…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/16 03:27 AM
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What? A boundary in regards to what? He was being honest with her, in a moment of openness. Using what he said against him will ensure his mistrust of women and intimacy issues deepen, which the OP has worked hard to ensure does not happen.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/16 02:46 AM
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Oh, the masturbating death grip! My husband used to do this too, when we first got together. I had all the same problems: couldn't give oral to completion, missionary wasn't great, etc. We had a talk about it, and I asked him to stop masturbating for a month. In return, I promised to be sexually available every possible second. He was willing to give it a shot, and it made a huuuuuge difference in our sex life. He still masturbates now, but must have changed his technique, because it doesn't aff…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/16 07:57 PM
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A man who is more alpha than my husband would most likely make me feel like I have a crush (aka, tingles). However, when this has happened to me (like when I met a celebrity), I've purposely tried to find something unattractive about that man's appearance, mannerisms, or personality. I would also never put myself in a situation that would lead me to do something inappropriate. I truly do not care if/when my husband watches porn or masturbates. I've said this in another thread, but, in my opinion…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/16 01:04 AM
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Sending nudes doesn't make you a non-RPW... Why did you stop? This is kind of a different situation from if you had never sent nudes before.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/16 10:53 PM
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Do you guys have Snapchat? I know that your pics are still floating around the internet and that he can screenshot your photo, but if you've been together for 3 years, he should respect when you ask him not to. You can also buy a sexy mask and wear that in every picture, or not put your face in it.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/16 10:20 PM
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Thank you! We're not quite pregnant yet, but I'll keep you in mind for the future!
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/16 02:08 AM
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This is such a cute story! I love when you can tell that your SO is really listening or really noticing. Etsy might have some good, cheaper, options for a replacement ring.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 06:43 PM
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Random, but frozen grapes help me a toooon when I'm craving candy.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 06:41 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 06:39 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 06:39 PM
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If anyone needs a last-minute, or just delicious, dessert, these stuffed strawberries take about five minutes and taste delicious! I love these mega threads! Can't wait to hear how everyone is celebrating! Also, not deserving of its own post, but my husband and I have decided to start trying for a baby! It was a struggle for us to determine whether we wanted one or not, but now that we have, we're both so excited!
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 12:00 PM
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Second this! And don't just go to the meetups! Participate, exchange numbers with people, etc. Don't be afraid to initiate after the meetup (something like "It was really nice meeting you! I'd love to grab coffee if you're free this week."). I know a lot of friend groups that have formed out of and graduated from meetups.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 01:35 AM
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My husband and I don't really do anything super special on Valentine's day. I get him a card, because I know he loves when I write things to him (he even keeps all my lunch notes), but I also get him cards randomly. I don't demand anything from him; no card, no flowers, no chocolate, no gifts. He gives me those things when he wants to, not because Hallmark told him to. The only way we consistently mark Valentine's day, every year, is that we cook at home, not matter what. We are definitely, unde…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 01:32 AM
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I think you should text him. You seem to have had a good connection and a fun time while texting. While it isn't an excuse, NYC life can get very minute-to-minute. What do you have to lose? And if he doesn't reply or can't meet up, then that's a very clear indicator that he's not interested and you should have a fun time in NYC anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/16 02:51 AM
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I am your SO in this situation. My husband's dad hates me, and affectionately refers to me as "The Devil Woman". We also think he is a narcissist (no official diagnosis), as he exhibits most of the behaviors. We went no contact with both the dad and mom (no other option) about two years ago, and husband started therapy. At first, the dad would send husband awful, nasty texts and emails. Then, we didn't hear from him for a while. We just recently got an actually nice text from him over the holida…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/16 12:17 AM
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Thanks for your response!
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/16 12:04 PM
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You should feel reassured that he wants to act out his fantasies with you, instead of through porn. Own that shit! He finds you sexy, otherwise he wouldn't want to have sex with you.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/16 03:04 AM
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When a man watches porn, it isn't about the person he's with. It isn't about fulfilling his sexual needs. It isn't about his fantasies. It isn't about you at all. Its about his self-care. I know, it sounds very weird. Think of some of the things you do as self-care: get a mani/pedi, meditate, yoga, run, cook, clean, take a bath, etc. It's not weird for you to take a bath tonight even if you showered this morning. It's not insulting to your manicurist to redo your nails at home. It is not insulti…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/16 02:53 AM
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My very close female friends are all RPW in real life, but are not on reddit. We actually have a hard time making new friends in our age group (mid-20s), because women who aren't RP just don't "get it". I did tell my partner about it. He lurks on TRP subreddits and read "Married Man Sex Life". It helped our relationship a lot, and it helped him be more comfortable in his own position as leader of us. I do actually think AWALT. There are a lot of different brands of RP men and corresponding RPW. …
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/16 12:29 AM
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Out of curiosity, why would you vote for Trump?
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/16 12:25 AM
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I feel the Bern! Bernie has a very peaceful foreign policy (so does Rand Paul), and I am not in favor of more war. He's pro protecting the environment. Pro equal rights/gay rights, gun reform, women's rights, police reform, decriminalizing certain drugs. Anti Wall Street and not taking money from corporations for his campaign, progressive in addressing wealth inequality. I would love Elizabeth Warren or Rand Paul for Bernie's VP.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/16 12:24 AM
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Wow, that last bit was a big detail to leave out...
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/16 09:50 PM
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My husband and I have just recently decided to have children, and we've been working the details out. I have always wanted to be a SAHM, since that's how I was raised, and my husband supported that, since that's how he was raised too. But, what it looks like is actually going to happen is that he's going to be the SAHD. I have a high-paying (but pretty low stress), very secure job. His job is high-stress and would only come out to a little more than what a cool/housekeeper/nanny would cost us. S…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/16 07:37 PM
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Seconding wake up earlier! Getting up an hour before my husband has completely changed my mornings. I get up at 6, go for a quick run (listen to music that makes me happy), stretch, shower, and start getting ready for the day. Usually, he wakes up when I get back from the run, but I don't go in to see him until after shower time. By then, I'm awake, happy from the run, clean (and naked), and ready to be cheery.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/16 10:23 PM
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Hey! I have that problem too :( Usually good at not starting fights, but not so good at letting it go. If we're still shouting at each other, then I'm still contributing to the problem. As soon as I recognize that, I usually say something like "I don't want to fight with you, but I need a few minutes alone to calm down." and remove myself. Then, for a few minutes, I try to do something physical (jumping jacks, aggressively scrub dishes, etc) to release that pent-up frustration. After I start to …
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/16 01:28 AM
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I totally agree that workout classes are the way to go! You might try new classes that you wouldn't normally brave on your own. You get a workout. And it avoids the "I don't know what to say now" awkwardness that comes with hanging out with new people. Plus, when you go out afterwards, you automatically have something to bond over.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/16 08:18 PM
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I drink a teaspoon mixed with about 20 oz of water. I have at least 1 of those a day, first thing in the morning. If I'm home during the day, I'll have more.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/16 01:13 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/16 01:12 PM
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Supplements: apple cider vinegar, complete multivitamin Cleansing: TJ's serum after every wash, Mario Badescu enzyme cleansing gel at night, philosophy salicylic acid ceanser in the morning, honey and black sugar scrub two/three times a week, lush brazened honey face mask at least once a week. bliss triple oxygen moisturizer or Mario Badescu seaweed night cream; my choice varies by the weather, on really cold/windy/dry days, I go with the night cream. Make up: mascara, eyeliner, eyebrows filled …
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/16 01:32 AM
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What does the TiH theory incorporate that a RP marriage doesn't?
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/16 11:18 PM
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If his penis was in one of your orifices, you slept together and it counts. You need to accept that it happened, and that saying that it 'doesn't count' does not make it go away. If you haven't already, stop talking to/seeing/anything the beta. I agree with u/FleetingWish, the relationship with your bf is broken and toxic to both you and him. I think you really need to be by yourself and work on yourself for a good long time.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/16 11:05 PM
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I think we need more details. Nice how? How long have you known each other? How long will he be deployed for? Maybe give some info about yourself, too? Where are you in life? What do you want out of a relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/16 12:13 AM
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Ahh, Pinterest, both the bane of my existence and my true love! I work best with a schedule, so a daily/weekly/monthly schedule that I found on Pinterest will hopefully help!
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/16 07:58 PM
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Thank you! I'll give it a try.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/16 07:31 AM
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Dinner, champagne, shower, and sex sound great. Now, do all that in your sexy undies and throw in dessert and you've got a great night. I think you're over thinking it a little bit, if he agreed to spend the time at home, that means he just wants down time. Cook together, or have him make drinks while you cook, or let him chill while you cook. Wash him in the shower. And tease and flirt with him all day: flash him in the grocery store, blow him in the car, ask him "and where should we put this a…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/15 02:57 PM
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Lose about 20 lbs. I am currently at the higher end of a healthy weight for my height, but I'm not happy with how I look or feel. Plus, I just want to look better in the clothing I have. Deep clean my house more often. I get suuuuper lazy and just do a quick clean once a week, but it's just not cutting it. Once a month, I really need to dedicate some time to deep cleaning. Cook a wider variety of meals, while being calorically conscious. My go-to healthy meal is salad with some veggies, fruit, a…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/15 02:49 PM
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So, I think you might be misinterpreting what a guy means when he says "I'll go if this is important to you". I think most guys ask to make sure that they get to spend quality time with you during this thing, that they're not just there,for show or trailing you around. My husband asks me that, and I'll just be honest with him. If having him there is going to make my experience so much better AND I think he would actually enjoy it, I'll say yes, it's important. He's never, ever pouted about it, e…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/15 01:07 PM
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Congratualtions! One year newlywed here. The only advice I have is keep making each other laugh. That joy and silliness is so imprortant to keeping the relationship fresh. I hope you post and tell everyone the details!
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/15 01:05 AM
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I would argue that TRP and RPW are not competing, simply because we're not after the same prize. TRP has many different fascets and objectives: MGTOW, PUA, MMSL, etc. RPW basically only has two objectives: work to make yourself a 'better' woman, and commit yourself to a 'good' man. I would even say that MMSL rp philosophy and most RPW are seeking the same objectives: be married/committed to a desirable partner, work to improve yourself and your marriage, have good sex. Not in competition at all.…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 12:22 PM
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Why is it so hard to break up with this guy? How does one "try"to break up and fail? Also, I don't ever recommend acting out to get someone to break up with you, that's very immature. Meet him in a neutral location that you can leave from easily. Firmly tell him that you're no long interested in seeing him, then leave. Block and erase his number/email/etc, and don't respond to anything he does in the future. Example: NAME, I have enjoyed our time together, but I do not feel that we are compatibl…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/15 02:38 PM
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Sad to say that I cause/start most of the arguments we have. But I'm working on it! An argument usually starts when I'm tired, cranky, or feeling like I'm not getting enough attention (very mature, I know), over something small (like an empty beer bottle in the garbage instead of the recycling), I sometimes end up yelling. He's not an argumentative person, so when I start to pick a fight, he says something like "I'm not going to fight with you" and walks away. Most of the time, I calm down after…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 04:31 PM
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We have talked about it, but we just change our minds pretty often. I always thought I wanted kids, but now we're both just really enjoying adult "double income no kids" life so much, that I'm not sure anymore. I'm not sure if we're going to regret giving up our current life, or if we're going to regret not having kids one day.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 02:48 PM
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Is that really what it's like though? I've had a lot of experiences with kids and it kind of seems like it's just a crapshoot. But I don't really know, because I haven't raised that kid, do ya know what I mean?
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 01:06 AM
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I've always thought of it as "wife does with a smile" vs "mom does with a nag". So, as his wife/SO, you're cooking/cleaning/etc to make your SHARED home comfortable and happy for both of you. It's your contribution to the household and relationship. As a mom, you're responsible for teaching your kid how to be responsible and take care of themselves. So, it's your job to clean up, but also to teach your kid how to clean up. And when your kid doesn't do it right, you have to redo it and teach them…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 01:04 AM
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He has almost no experience with babies/small children whatsoever. The closest thing is he's experienced is probably my little sister, and she's 8. He likes hanging out with her and enjoys talking to her. I think that part of the problem is that we usually go out to 'adult' places, and if a kid is there, it really puts him off (it puts me off too, to be honest). I'm just not sure if we actually don't want kids ever, or if we're just not ready for them yet.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 12:52 AM
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I have spent a tooon of time around kids. I was the neighborhood babysitter and have a bunch of younger cousins. I mean, don't get me wrong, I love taking care of them and hanging out with them, but I feel like that's not really the same as having your own. Like, I couldn't ever discipline those kids, because they weren't mine. I like the playing parts and the activities parts and the exploring/learning new things parts, I don't even mind the crying/cranky parts, but the bratty parts really put …
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 12:50 AM
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I think that's part of where his anxiety over it comes from; everyone just makes it sound so horrible! Most of my friends aren't having kids yet (only 24 and not really part of the culture where I'm from), but I'll definitely have to look into making mom friends. I also feel like that's hard though, because most of the moms I happen to talk to (at work or wherever) default to complaining about their kids/husband/life. It's such a downer, and I just don't want to find myself turning into that if …
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 12:47 AM
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Okay, this weird, and not really RPW, but whatever. How did you and your SO decide if you wanted children or not? My desire for kids basically revolves around my hormones. His desire for kids varies based on his stress level. We're still young-ish (25/24), so we have a little time to really decide. Is there something we should be doing to come to a conclusion? Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 08:40 PM
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To tack on, if he doesn't continue after your soft no, you definitely have to talk to him about it. I am really big into prolonged arousal games, and when we first started getting intimate, my husband didn't understand that. So, we had a sit-down wherein I explained that I'm just playing when I soft no. He became more comfortable with the idea of playing around after a soft no once we came up with a "safe word", which I use when I actually don't want to have sex. Even then, I had to make my arou…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 04:04 PM
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I've found that a subtle smokey eye can work for day, if my brows are defined enough. I have really blonde eyebrows (almost nonexistent), so unless I dye them or fill them in, any eye accenting looks really ridiculous. Of course, I have no idea what your coloring is, so this might not work for you at all...
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/15 08:36 PM
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If he's flying home to see you in a few days, and it's in your budget, you can try calling the airline and upgrading his seat to business/first class. Being sick, stressed, and on a plane is the most miserable combination I can think of, and having that extra bit of pampering and space would probably make him feel a million times better.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/15 08:31 PM
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I totally understand this. My husband and I both telework on Fridays. His work is really intense and he needs to focus; and it's difficult for him to re-focus once he's been distracted and that frustrates him. My work is... much less intense, and I work best when I'm multitasking. When we're home together and supposed to be working, he's in one designated area and I'm in another, but we're usually in the same room. I don't go into his space ever, not even to bring him lunch or "be helpful". It's…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/15 08:26 PM
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These twix cookies are incredible and super easy to make. These peanut butter buckeyes aren't exactly cookies, but are a huge hit. They're also a little labor-intensive, but always come out great. Also, this isn't a cookie recipie, but I think this pumpkin cake is adorable!
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/15 06:43 PM
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I use the Lily Pulitzer calendar! They have a bunch of different sizes, I have the medium one. It gives a monthly calendar, and a weekly calendar, with room to write in the weekly section. It also goes for a year and a half, which is incredible. I also use the whole Google suite; calendar, keep, tasks, etc. Tasks and calendar especially work well together. Keep is more like a to do list.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/15 02:26 AM
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That's exactly why I kept all of mine! They match everything and can be really versatile. My dream is to live in a warm enough place that I can combine my two favorite things: Christmas and sundresses.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 06:55 PM
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I completely agree. I don't even change my jewelry or accessories that often (mostly because what I wear has sentimental value). Although, I'm a sucker for statement shoes.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 06:54 PM
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It has made my life incredible, easy, and stylish. I really can't recommend it enough. I don't even change my accessories to be trendy, just the same quality pieces every day.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 06:52 PM
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I've never tried Stitch Fix, but I have a few tips that might help you anyway! First, get rid of the gross/old/stained/unfit for daylight clothing. You won't be tempted to wear it in the morning if you don't have it. Second, look into the idea of the French wardrobe. I hate having to think about what to wear, and if X matches Y, and is that top clean. So, I basically pared my wardrobe down to a bunch of skirts, a bunch of sweaters/tees, and basics. I kept most of my summer dresses, because I con…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 03:58 AM
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I am dyyyying! I love/hate surprises and being surprised. But I'm sure it'll be great. Thanks, the ornament is actually surprisingly easy to make!
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 12:59 AM
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Yesssssssss!
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/15 05:58 PM
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Usually, around the holidays, Costco and BJs do free membership trials!
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/15 05:56 PM
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I love Christmasssss! It's my favorite time of the year! It's our first Christmas in our new house and our first Christmas wherein we get to celebrate exactly the way we want to. So, I want to start a bunch of new traditions and just have a really fun time. For the husband, I have purchased his favorite whiskey Writer's Tears, and we are getting each other Christmas ornaments! I actually made his ornament (looks something like this ). He's getting me a new dryer for my birthday (Christmas Eve ba…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/15 05:54 PM
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I don't think it's a very good idea, to be honest. I don't think he's going to be honest with you and I don't think you should reopen contact. I think it's much more effective to be introspective and look for non-verbal/visceral cues from guys you are dating now. For example, when my now-husband and I started dating, I would notice that he would subconsciously pull away or break physical contact if I did something he didn't like (usually, when I was being bratty). It wasn't an active "punishment…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/15 02:32 PM
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Yea, I could definitely see that happening. Obviously, don't have sex too soon, and avoid guys who even remotely festishize you (unless you're into that).
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/15 01:04 AM
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Honestly, I don't know if what was explained in that post works in the reverse. I think that, if you're a high-value, attractive women, most guys aren't going to care about your racial background. In fact, it might even be sexy to some guys that you're of mixed race. I do think you have to recognize that every human has a preference for what they find attractive, but you can't control that. All you can control is how you behave and look. Be prepared to deal with shit gracefully, if you encounter…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/15 12:54 AM
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Wow. I wish I had a syndicated column so I could just bitch about whatever was bothering me this week, instead of communicating with my partner or fellow employees (that is sarcasm). I LIKE making my house a home, I LIKE making dinner, I LIKE remembering birthdays and celebrating people. I wouldn't even want to be paid for that stuff, because, to me, it would take the niceness out of doing it. Could you imagine if your SO orgasmed and then didn't help you out too? Oh, but according to this artic…
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/15 08:47 PM
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Mr. Brownie and I met while I was visiting a friend from high school at her new college, where he also went. It was freshman year, and we didn't get together until a few years later. Actually, I had a huge falling-out with the friend from high school, because she liked Mr. Brownie. She was dating someone else at the time, and I asked her if it was okay for me to move forward, she said yes. So, we got together, and she was very wierd about it. She would say things like "I'm so glad I gave him to …
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/15 01:15 AM
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My husband and I both have a hard time disconnecting from our jobs when we're home. We've established a few rules for peace-of-mind. We turn our work email off from 8 pm at until 6 am during the week. On the weekends, our work emails get turned off at 8 pm on Friday until 6 am on Monday. We're each allowed to check our work emails once over the weekend, but only from an actual computer, not our phones. We both also have rituals to help us wind down from the day, work off our frustrations, and be…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/15 09:18 PM
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People are trying to manipulate each other all the time to get what they want. So much this. Everyone manipulates everyone all of the time. It's just the way it is; it's just the way people work. A lot of manipulation is just subconscious on both the manipulator and the manipulated's parts, so we don't recognize it or call it that. Great post, thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/15 12:47 AM
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I would ignore her, completely. Don't respond to her, don't look at her, don't engage her. It might be rude, but I don't think that matters at this point. I don't see a need to confront her; obviously no one likes her but I think it would reflect badly on you if you tried to put her in her place or something like that. It's not your job to teach her that her behaviour is unacceptable; everyone ignoring her is already doing that.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/15 12:00 AM
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I think this is a very interesting response. I HATE Amy Schumer. To me, she's crass, unfunny, and unattractive. She's that friend that no one actually wants to invite to girls night (along with Lena Dunham), because she's an embarrassment. I do agree that girls and women need better role models, but Amy Schumer is not one, in my book. I don't know if I agree that being a women is complicated though. I think we more complicate life for ourselves.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/15 10:27 PM
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I missed this the first time around, so thanks for posting! I think that her point about waiting to have sex is especially important. I know it's really easy to give in to pressure (from everyone, not necessarily just him) to have sex. I can't tell you how many times I was encouraged by other women to put out, or else I'd lose the guy. I don't know if it's a crabs in the bucket thing that makes women do that to each other or that most women try to devalue each other or what. Having a feminine de…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/15 10:17 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/15 01:40 PM
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Agreed, you need a job. Can you handle the debt that degree comes with? How soon will you be done/start making money? Will the money you make pay for school loans easily and quickly? Is there a job you can get without this degree? Can you volunteer at faith-based events/organizations to meet men? I have a master's in public health, which I got basically while I was waiting for my life to start. It's an incredibly useful degree, I now make 80k a year and will be able to telework if/when my husban…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/15 08:39 PM
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A degree isn't necessarily attractive to men. It might be a good move for you, depending on your finances/loans, and if it's worth it. But no man is going to fall in love with you because you have a degree in speech pathology.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/15 08:31 PM
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Here's mine! https://www.pinterest.com/BlondiBrownie/ It's mostly fashion, home stuff, and food! Brb, following everyone here...
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/15 08:29 PM
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This is a bullshit reply. How dare you try to shame the OP into dating, and possibly becoming emotionally connected, to this guy? You said that no one should judge the OP, but "You've chosen money over happiness" sounds pretty judgemental to me. Besides, it's a lot easier to be happy when you don't have to worry about how you're going to pay your bills this month. OP, you are not the mother of the guy you're posting about. You shouldn't be wasting your time trying to "guide" him anywhere. You're…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/15 08:19 PM
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But you'll complain to strangers on the internet. Ooookay...
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/15 02:49 AM
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Out of curiosity, why did you post here if you've already made up your mind to be a spinster? All I'm reading is that you've tried everything, you're not to blame for the failing relationship, and you're not going to try anything else. You say you're not looking for validation, but you're also not listening to anyone's advice. The women here aren't interested in spinster-sisterhood.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/15 02:38 AM
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Wedding anniversary this week! With all the changes we've been through this past year, we decided to put off our trip until a little later in the year. So, I've been trying to make this week special for husband without getting too carried away or over the top. I have a lot more free time than he does, so I can plan and carry out special things. I'm really focused on trying to remember that he's working hard for us and that's his special thing for me, and that I don't need anything (like a gift, …
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/15 08:11 PM
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the spark was gone... Aka, your tingles were gone. Almost immediately... Aka, you branch swung. We also used to spend lots of time together, we always have a good time. He has a lot of alpha traits that I admire. Aka, your tingles are back. has a child with the ex... Oh they also still live together...he says he's not emotionally ready for a relationship...but just doesn't know when. Aka, you are a plate. I am always thinking "what if" Aka, you're getting close to the wall and getting worried. G…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/15 06:51 PM
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Love this! I did ballet for years, and it has definitely taught me imporant life lessons. To be honest, I don't think you can get the same qualities and attitudes from a team sport. Yes, team sports might teach you about teamwork, but ballet teaches you so much about grace and other feminine qualities.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/15 08:01 PM
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I think reading the surrendered books are a good place to start; Laura Doyle discusses entitlement a lot. I also think that volunteering at charities and putting yourself in a position to see less-entitled people has always really helped me keep my focus. It's hard to feel entitled when you realize just how bad others have it.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/15 03:04 PM
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I agree with your point about the ugliness of the word "feminist". The current particular brand of feminism boils down to entitlement. I am entitled to a relationship with a great guy, even though I don't work to make myself great for him. I am entitled to the same pay as a man, even though I take more time off. I am entitled to being respected as a "strong, independent woman", even though the state pays for my mistakes and life decisions. I am entitled to say whatever I want, live a sheltered l…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/15 03:00 PM
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I don't know if I would judge him based on his laundry, cleaning, or eating habits, because they're not necessarily indicative of "having your life together". To a lot of men, those things just aren't important and get pushed to the side in favor of work or hobbies. Also, a guy who has a ton of time on his hands might have the cleanest apartment ever, but no life plan. I think we have to be careful about assessing if a guy has the skills already, or if he has the capacity to learn the skills. I …
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/15 04:11 PM
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If the problems are actually time and energy, then you should just pay someone to clean weekly or bi-weekly. Yes, you might be spending extra money, but your home will be clean (makes you happy) and you'll have time to do things on the weekends (makes him happy). I do all the cleaning, cooking, laundry, etc in my house. My husband's only responsibility was lawn care. After several weeks of it going undone (he's very busy, and also doesn't want to spend his weekends doing lawn work), I asked him …
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/15 02:57 PM
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I like to embroider and knit. I've never made anything more completed than a pillowcase and sweaters, respectively. I also love to cook. I took a series of "basis" cooking classes last fall and really recommend it to everyone. It taught me knife skills, sauces, soups, basic baking. The thing I really loved about it was how the instructor stuck to extreme basics, but would detail how to change up the recipes to suit your dish. I also read a bunch. I met new people in my neighborhood by joining a …
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/15 09:14 PM
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This is really, really great advice. Thank you. I will definitely be using "We are going to talk it over and make a decision later." when I need to. I usually don't have to ask why they feel strongly about a certain topic, it gets thrown into the conversation when they're stating what they think we should do. I admit that I do not usually go into my thought process with them. I think it's partly because it's very difficult to talk to them while they're on a roll about something. All my thoughts …
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/15 03:47 PM
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You really expressed the relationship better than I did in my post. I'm not trying to hide anything or leave them out of my life; I want them to participate in my life, but still recognize that it's my life. My dad says the same thing! "What you should do is..." and the conversation totally degenerates from there.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/15 03:41 PM
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That's exactly it. I also think it doesn't help that I did a lot of my maturing away from them, where they didn't see it happening. We've never really had a chance to transition from adult/child to adult/adult. It happened very abruptly and everyone involved still has a hard time with it. I will definitely try to stay on common interest topics. And I think you're right, shutting it down quickly and firmly is the only way to handle when they ask about personal stuff. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/15 03:40 PM
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I agree, to a certain extent. I actually talk to my parents all the time (at least weekly). The problem seems to be that they give their opinions/counsel whether I ask for it or not and then expect us to act on it to the letter, then get angry with us if/when we don't. So, it's very difficult for me to tell them what's going on in my life, because they immediately jump into what we should be doing. For example, husband had a cold last week, I mentioned it to my dad, my dad immediately started ta…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/15 03:16 PM
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We do the kiss thing too! It's so fun and cute. We also can trade in kisses for other favors ;)
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/14 12:31 AM
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You said yourself that you're fighting him. How can he feel alpha in social situations if he isn't even king of his own castle? Consider letting him dictate the social schedule got a while, while you work on fully supporting him. Make sure you're not putting him down in public, even saying something small like "oh, he didn't want to come, but look at how much fun he's having right now!" could make him feel uncomfortable and unhappy in that social situation. Focus on letting him lead, both at hom…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/14 02:30 AM
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Have you read any of our sidebar to try to figure out what we stand for and who we are?
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/14 05:06 AM
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I disagree. You married your husband, he was there first, your relationship was established first, you loved him first, your children are a product of that love. Why should they replace it? Husband and wife need to be good husbands and wives and good to each other before they can be good to someone else. I'm not saying a child doesn't need attention or love, but it absolutely should not be a detriment to your and your husband's relationship. You need to prioritize him, so he can support you and …
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/14 09:20 PM
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I think this is a great idea! I'd like to give up frivolous shopping, being lazy about running in the morning, and cursing. Cutting out frivolous shopping is going to be the hardest, by far. No eating out (barring a special occasion), no clothing purchases, no Starbucks; groceries and toiletries only. Ahhhh! I think I might start today, to give myself a few days to mess up :P
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/14 01:40 PM
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Personally, I have always acted in a wifely manner with my boyfriends (3 LTRs, one of whom became my husband). I have cleaned up after them, done their laundry, cooked for them, given money/paid for things when they needed it, and put out. In return, every single guy acted in a "husbandly" manner to me. They paid for most things, fixed things, helped me with things, took care of me. I still do all of those things every day for my husband and he still takes care of me. A girl who makes a good wif…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/14 01:29 AM
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You should wear things that emphasize your small waist. Dresses: 1, 2, 3. Pants and shirts: 1, 2, 3. There are tons of guides online that help with dressing for your shape.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/14 02:01 PM
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Don't let yourself get lazy. Groom every day: shave, make-up, hair, nice clothing, etc. Cook and clean, especially for him. Bring him treats: letters, yummy goodies, surprise lingerie. Don't start nagging; he's been doing a great job leading so far (I'm assuming), so continue to let him lead. Story time: I HATE shaving. My husband LOVES the feeling of freshly-shaved legs. So, every day, I shave my legs. Just for him.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/14 12:13 AM
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Where do you draw the line? When is the "appropriate" time to start cleaning? When does he "earn it"? On the flip side, what if he decided not to buy her flowers or pay for dinner or let her keep a toothbrush in the house because it's "too soon"? How would that make her feel? How is he supposed to figure out what she contributes to his life if she's not doing it? Most of her behavior should not radically change after they've passed a certain arbitrary milestone.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/14 03:00 AM
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I totally and completely disagree. I cleaned for my boyfriend(s), I cleaned for my fiance, now and now I clean for my husband and he appreciates it beyond most anything I do for him. The only thing he loves more than coming home to a clean house, the bed made, the laundry and dishes done, is a hot dinner. My husband is an incredible, amazing partner who has neither the time nor the interest in keeping a clean house and never has. Do you know why he never shows his diligent work ethic through cle…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/14 01:22 AM
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Usually, he'll list them when he sees that I really need extra appreciation. So, he'll cuddle with me and say "I really love how you made my favorite meal two nights ago and it was so delicious and then you wine you picked to go with? Incredible! And you always work so hard to make a great dinner for us, and all the guys were so jealous because their wives only make them sandwiches, if anything." etc. Although, if I do something really great (like if I make strawberries and cream unexpectedly), …
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/14 07:00 PM
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Depends on what she likes! Personally, I absolutely love and feel most appreciated when my husband just takes the time to tell me how much he appreciates what I've been doing for him, down to the last detail. It shows me that he's paying attention and not just taking it all for granted. I also like when he makes a special cocktail for me, plans a date from start to finish, buys me a little something just because he saw it and thought I'd like it. Maybe she would appreciate if you cooked for her …
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/14 03:47 PM
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I don't think feeling insecure in your current relationship is going to keep you in line. If you're feeling insecure, you're going to be looking for something more secure, for that feeling of security and safety. You either have the confidence that you've been developing from your teens or you're feeling insecure; I don't see how you could be both of those at one time. Personally, it sounds like you need to slow down and work on yourself a lot. Why did you cheat in the past? How do you ensure yo…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/14 11:17 AM
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I think that child-centric parenting not only has a negative effect on the mother and father's relationship, but also a negative effect on the child's future relationships with others. A child that is raised as the center of the universe is not going to be able to tolerate an adult relationship wherein he/she is no longer the end-all-be-all. It's where all the "Disney prince charming" ideas come from; the girl is so used to being treated like a princess by her parents for the sole reason of exis…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/14 09:58 PM
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Here's the trick: you don't have to like them to work with them. You just need to be polite, nod your head sympathetically a bit, go to a few work-social functions and that's it. You don't need to be bosom buddies with the women you're working with, you just need to keep your personal life and opinions to yourself and do your work.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/14 02:00 PM
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/u/BlackWind13 was speaking to the OP, not to or about women in general. OP, because she wants to be a SAHM, is going to be happier than she would be as a career woman, especially a career woman who felt that she had to pick the career over her true passions. Edit: thanks for the gold! Wooo!
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/14 09:56 PM
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Luckily for me, everyone has had me pegged as a SAHM since I was a kid playing with dolls. So, I never had to deal with negativity from family. I came right out and told my now-husband that I wanted to be a SAHM if he and I decided to have children while we were dating. (Sidenote: I think it's so important to hash out some of the "life" details with your SO before you get too involved or tie the knot. Things don't always work out the way you two might have talked it out, but it's nice to know yo…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/14 08:18 PM
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I think it's great that we live in a day and age where a woman can actually choose a career or kids. But please, don't mistake the positivity of that choice as meaning "I can have a full-fledged career and happy, healthy kids!". I think it is really great that some women choose to not have children and instead, focus on a career. But, that wasn't the point of /u/BlackWind13 's post, so why are you commenting in a manner that doesn't contribute to the conversation?
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/14 08:09 PM
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We got married when I was 22 and he was 23. We're 23 and 24 now, respectively (one year anniversary coming up!). A lot of people were "concerned" when we announced our engagement, but surprisingly, both sets of parents were totally okay with it. It was mostly my non-RP friends who told me to "fool around more" and "not grow up so fast"; mind you, none of these friends had any solid relationship prospects at the time and most still don't. I mostly responded with a smile and a laugh and something …
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/14 01:36 PM
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No worries!
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/14 10:26 PM
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I don't think I said anywhere that these complaining women annoy me; I think that was /u/JustAnne. I am scared shitless of being unable to have a baby (I'm 23 and we're not trying yet) just from all the infertility-horror stories. You have an exceptional situation for why you chose not to have children sooner and it seems like you made the right decisions. I just think that most women don't make the right decisions and then suddenly decide to have a baby when they're 45+ and expect everything to…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/14 10:06 PM
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I think you might be misunderstanding my point. My question is why aren't they secure in their 20s? And I fully support women going to college in order to be able to financially support themselves or their families, be they feminist women or not. However, most women aren't going to college for a degree that will ever make back the money that was spent on it, and need to spend their twenties trying to pay off some student debt before they can even think about having a family. We actually seem to …
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/14 07:25 PM
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I somewhat agree with you in that I also feel sad for women who were trying to be financially responsible and secure before having a child. However, I do feel like we need to examine why a husband and wife AREN'T financially secure until their mid-to-late-30s. Was it because she went to college for an art's degree and racked up debt? I have no sympathy. Was it because she needed to pursue a career to show people "I can have it all"? I have no sympathy. Was it because she dated "bad boys" and the…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/14 06:56 PM
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I think you should be social, polite, but also interesting. Constant inane chatter is going to annoy anyone if it carries on long enough. Instead, consider talking about "serious" stuff, like world news, politics, etc. Also, a good rule of thumb is talk for 1/3 of how much you listen. You should be able to carry a conversation, but also focus on what the other person is saying and let the conversation flow naturally. Don't just wait for your turn to talk. Try to talk to different groups over the…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/14 01:30 AM
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Male and female sexual strategy isn't the same. A man having many sexual partners means he has a high SMV, while a woman having many sexual partners lowers her LTR potential. If women consent to be plates (give up sex without obtaining commitment), then I don't see why men shouldn't have plates. I'd never consent to be a plate, so I wouldn't be with a man who wants me only as a plate.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/14 01:41 AM
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You've already made how you feel clear to him, there's no need to tell him again. If it's a deal breaker for you, leave him. If you can deal, then stay. He's not into her, from what you've stated. So, it comes down to if you can trust him or not.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/14 11:42 PM
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Your friends will always think that now. They will always think he is a cheater and you are a doormat. I think /u/MrsKittenHeel is saying that if he was a good captain and leader and cared about you, he would have sat you down, explained that he doesn't believe in male monogamy and told you that he was going to have sex outside of the relationship. But, he also would have cared about your reputation, his reputation and your reputation as a couple, as therefore, avoided your friends and a public …
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/14 01:42 PM
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Spot on! I also think that there will be an element of trust that you've never felt before with another person. You will fully trust that he has your best interests in mind and that he truly cares for you. And you'll learn to trust in his decisions and trust that your part in the relationship is necessary and important for your success as a couple. ♀ (not sure if I did that correctly)
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/14 12:41 AM
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Read. The. Sidebar. Please. Then, read it again. There are so many resources there to help you better understand yourself, your behaviors, what men are looking for and how to become that. They don't care about your entire second sentence; in fact, when you start talking about that on a date, that's probably what comes across as aggressive. Also, if you're desperate, men can tell and it probably really scares them. You've made the right move by coming to this sub and by maintaining your looks, bu…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/14 12:38 AM
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While I think it's important to listen to what the other ladies are saying about learning HIS love language, I also think it's important to communicate your own desires and your own love language. So, no, I don't think it's tacky to tell him. He's not a mind reader. You don't need to make it a big, serious talk. You could just tell him that you feel especially loved when he verbally compliments you. Or, when he does compliment you, you could say that you love that and really appreciate him sayin…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/14 11:49 PM
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Thanks, but /u/_wingnut_ posted this article!
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/14 06:17 PM
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Well done, Margery! I especially love point 2 about SAHMs. I think it's so incredibly important for children to be raised by a responsible adult who loves them, and isn't just being paid to make sure they don't die. I think Margery hit the nail on the head with that point. It takes strength to face feminists who sneer at your choices, to be on-call for your family 24/7, to not allow yourself to become lazy, and to be patient.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/14 04:42 PM
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It sounds like he's making you work for it and like he has a lot of other things on his plate right now. Things on his plate: his mom died, estate planning, planning a wedding, moving up the work ladder, etc. Making you work for it: he wants you to prove that you're not the same selfish woman you were two years ago. He wants to make sure that this isn't just a pre-wedding facade. He's been putting in work for five+ years and now he's tired of doing that. He wants you to work for it too. Sounds l…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/14 02:59 PM
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The best similar piece of general advice I can give is don't give in to your negative emotions, but always give in to your positive ones. If you feel sad, unhappy or mad, distract yourself for 20 minutes and see if you still feel that way. 85% of the time, I completely forget what I was negatively feeling after 20 minutes, but if it is still bothering me, I'm calm enough to discuss it. On the flip side, my husband has never yet told me to stop smiling, laughing or being positive, so I never hide…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/14 05:26 PM
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Sweetheart, when it comes to being tossed around, I really don't have any shame ;) Be on your way now!
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/14 06:09 PM
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We met when I was 19 and he was 20, we started dating right around his 22nd birthday. We got married when he was 23 and I was 22. He's 24 and I'm 23 now.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/14 01:59 PM
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I saved your comment, so hopefully I'll remember to post them when I get home. I think they might be linked on TRP's sidebar though, if you're impatient! :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/14 12:40 AM
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It is so, so hard! Luckily, I have two really good girlfriends who are RPW (but don't know the terms or about this subreddit) so I get together with them and connect with them as much as possible. But, yea, most of my other girl-acquaintances just keep making bad decision after bad decision and then lament "where have all the good men gone?". Isn't it cool that your husband is your best friend though?
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/14 12:34 AM
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To be honest, I don't read TRP much because I really don't belong there. I understand that some men enjoy plate spinning, that some women need dread game to be kept in line, and that men as they get older have more options than women as they get older. It sounds like you're an amazing wife and first mate to a great captain and that you have nothing to fear. Your husband isn't going to drop you because dinner was less than five-star one night. You should frequent AlreadyRed (would link, but I'm o…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/14 11:45 PM
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First of all, no one went to your husband and forced the red pill down his throat, so there's no need to thank us for that. He went looking for marriage advice because he wasn't happy with the way things were in your marriage together. You need to take a good hard look at your marriage and ask yourself why he could possibly be unhappy. Then, you need to sit him down and ask him why he's unhappy and why he wants you to be submissive and why he wants to "break you" (what does that even mean?). Wha…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/14 07:52 PM
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The best piece of advice I've ever heard on compatibility boiled down to "you have to hate the same things and people". And I honestly think that's true. My husband and I are about 50-60% similar: we are both outgoing but need relaxation time, we both really like having new experiences and trying new things, we both like traveling, we are both very driven and competitive, and we are both very specific about the things that we hate. On "less compatible" areas, we either just do our own thing (he …
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/14 03:19 PM
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Take a weekend trip with your husband to somewhere you've always wanted to go, but never found time for. Read one book for pleasure, one book to learn a new skill and one book on something you know nothing about. Take a knife techniques class and learn to chop really fast. Spend one day a month away from your phone and other electronic devices.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/14 12:38 PM
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I don't know if the stages are the same for women as for men. Men feel the stages (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance) because they have been LIED to by society. About their place in the world, their worth, women, everything. Women haven't been lied to in the same way as men, and so, wouldn't experience the same stages. Personally, I didn't go through any set "stages". I was angry with feminism and the world for a while, and still get angry when it pops up on my radar. You may exp…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/14 04:30 PM
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That's so awesome! That small bit of appreciation is what I live for. What's your cleaning routine like? I like the "clean one room a day and spot clean everything else", because I feel like I accomplished so much! And we only have five rooms in our house that really need to be cleaned weekly, so I get two days off.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/14 04:21 PM
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It really depends on the man and his love language. My husband has never, ever bought me flowers. Just hasn't, not a big deal. As a joke, once while we were dating, I bought him flowers and he gave them back to me. So, now I occasionally buy flowers for him, to remind him of that time we had a good laugh. Some guys might appreciate the gesture, some guys might not!
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/14 01:47 AM
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I sing that to my husband when he's supposed to be helping me with the yearly big cleaning! He doesn't always appreciate it.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/14 12:06 AM
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I agree, that phrasing was very derogatory. If that was the only thing a man valued in women, he would hire a prostitute. The other thing is, what if a man just wants cooking, sex and looking good from his woman? Is that a bad thing? How many women can honestly give that without a fuss?
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/14 03:38 PM
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My husband LOVES being the leader. I don't think he sees it as a burden much. He seems to be more invigorated when we move forward in our lives, according to plan, rather than drained by it. It took us a while to get to the point where he is comfortable delegating and I am comfortable carrying out tasks, but that's pretty much how we work it. He'll handle the big picture, the long term plan, and I'll take care of the details. If I'm unsure of how to handle something or what steps to take on my o…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/14 12:24 PM
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Why do you want to be a lawyer? How old are you? Are you seeing someone now? Is he a good captain? Are you sure you want kids? We can't decide anything for you.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/14 02:07 AM
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That doesn't mean your friends aren't in debt. They might be living completely out of their means. You don't need new clothing, a beautiful house, more disposable income to be happy. You need to break that "keeping up with the Jones's" mentality. When you're 60/70/80, will you remember what you bought or will you remember that time you and your husband made a mish-mosh dinner with whatever you had in the pantry and bonded together? Bags and shoes and houses don't matter. Experiences do, and you …
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/14 12:18 AM
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Okay, what exactly is so wrong with taking a man's last name and cleaning up after him? The line "Don’t pick his clothes up off the floor. He will run out of clean underwear eventually and find the laundry basket. Get a regular cleaner." pisses me off so much. Is it so hard to pick up after the man you supposedly love? that attitude is so reminiscent of the line "I would do anything, but I wouldn't do that". I don't even think most women who claim they didn't change their name for "professional …
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/14 03:46 PM
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I'd recommend coming up with secret signals to use around the family. I talk a lot when I'm nervous, and around both of our families, my husband doesn't want to say "Blondie, please shut up". So, he does this (basically, pinches his thumb to his index and middle fingers, usually down by his side or something). It's so small no one else notices, but it helps remind me that he's looking out for me and for us. Hope that helps and great job on the improvement!
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/14 06:45 PM
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We're moving too! We're leaving our lovely, organic farm because my husband got a job offer from an agricultural and natural resource firm. First, it took a lot of courage for him to leave what he knows and loves to take this amazing opportunity. Second, he's putting a lot of trust in his sister and her husband to run things while we're gone. Third, he's really stepped up and is looking for apartments for us to live in and handling most of the arrangements. The position is for a year, with a pos…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/14 05:23 PM
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I am 23, and my whole family makes fun of me because I dress "like a suburban housewife". Personally, I find that a complement :P. I wear dark wash jeans with cute tops (think business casual) or sweaters and flats or converse. I wear a lot of fitted dresses with flats or boots. Mostly everything I buy I consider an investment and save up for. Sure, I can buy six trendy, cheap tops that will fall apart after one wash. Or, I can buy two nice tops that will always look good and feel good. If you h…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/14 03:33 PM
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I lost it when I read that Jezebel "create[s] truly smart editorial content for female readers".
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/14 04:58 PM
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Well, first you told him that you wanted a LTR, and he didn't respond with "Me too!". So, that's when you should have started pulling back. Secondly, you claimed to want a LTR, then fooled around with him, so that gave very conflicting signals. No good guy is going to find that dissonance attractive, because it means that what you say and what you do are two different things. I don't think you blew it with him; he didn't want a LTR from the start. You weren't going to change his mind. The good n…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/14 11:08 PM
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The first step for me was realizing how unpleasant I actually was. I was abrasive and cool and very devil-may-care and quite downright bitchy. And I thought these qualities made me attractive to men, after all, there were (beta) guys falling all over me. But after a failed relationship, I took a step back and really evaluated why the relationship had failed and what I could do to change it. In the midst of coming to terms with my personal qualities and outlook on life, I met my now husband. The …
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/14 02:48 AM
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I really love this! I think 8: work out problems with each other and not others, is so important for a happy marriage. It really helps solidify your strength as a couple, both to each other and to outsiders, when you keep problems between yourselves. 9: be a force of positivity and encouragement, is something I struggle with. I get so focused on solving the problem or getting the job done that I sometimes forget to face a good attitude about it. And I need to work on maintaining that positive at…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/14 11:08 AM
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Please share it! I love Pinterest and would love to see more RPW content on my home feed!
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/14 06:29 PM
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Yep, just missed the edit. I also agree that there isn't one main culprit, but heat styling is the one you can prevent.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/14 05:25 PM
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Did you miss the part where hair damage from heat cannot be repaired? No matter what oils or deep conditioners you put into your hair. That's in the first link (and the second). I don't particularly care for your anecdotal stories about your own hair or your experiences with hair. I've worked for a dermatologist who dealt with a lot of hair loss, what does that matter?
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/14 05:21 PM
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How long have you been heat styling your hair? Several studies (I linked below) have shows that heat styling causes irreversible hair damage and that the hair that has been damaged actually has to be cut off completely because it will never be healthy. I used to heat style every single day and on days that I didn't, my hair was completely unmanageable (think huge, teased, frizzy mess). I stopped heat styling cold turkey and dealt with my awful hair for 6 months, then got a bob (of all healthy ha…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/14 05:18 PM
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This link discusses ways that heat styling can damage your hair. This study also discusses hair damage, specifically in aging hair. While no study directly links heat styling to a more oily scalp, the two links above have shown that heat styling removes natural oils, and this study has shown that once stripped of sebum, a new layer of sebum is allowed to form on the scalp. If the original layer of sebum had not been stripped, it may have prevented the second layer from forming upon the scalp. I …
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/14 05:02 PM
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I highly recommend you don't heat-style your hair. It completely kills your hair and dries it out, no matter how much you deep condition. Also, it will make your scalp produce more oil to counteract the dryness. You can wash your hair at night, let it air dry, braid it or bun it first thing in the morning, go work out, wipe down and head to work, leaving your hair in the braid/bun. You can also try using dry shampoo to counter oiliness, sephora and Amazon have some great options. Some gyms have …
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/14 11:56 AM
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Layers, layers, layers in the winter! Silky cami, under a bright button down, under a fitted deep vee-neck sweater with a short skirt, tights and boots. You'll have the sexy, the pop of color and show off your legs (even if they're wrapped in tights). Take the cute sundresses and put tights under them and sweaters over them and that can work too. Bonus, you're re-using your summer wardrobe. My husband loves when I wear thigh-high socks over my tights in the winter! And it's extra warmth for me. …
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/14 11:48 AM
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I highly recommend pinterest over tumblr for RPW stuff. Tumblr heavily monitors and easily shuts down "offensive" or often-reported pages. And most tumblr users are very pro-feminism and will definitely report anyone not using trigger warnings (I wish I was kidding).
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/14 10:29 PM
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Do these three things really, really matter? I have the same problem as you, and can also have a hard time letting go. One of the ways I deal with it is I make myself be nice and cuddly with my husband. It's really hard to be angry or upset, especially when he takes the opportunity to be more affectionate in return. Don't get me wrong, it's really difficult to be extra nice and cuddly, especially if my feelings are hurt or I'm upset. But it's really worth it, because he and I both feel loved in …
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/14 09:18 PM
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Thank you! PM me if you have any questions. And good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/14 08:48 PM
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I'm sorry, but I totally disagree with this. I have a way easier job than my husband does. We're homesteaders, and his job is still hard and stressful. In my average day: cook, clean, work out, help with farm chores, tend to my personal garden, read, maybe do a house project. In his average day: look after a herd of animals, deal with interns, deal with clients/customers, take care of food for sale, get ready for markets, mow, plant, water, distribute nutrients on the field, paperwork, house stu…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/14 07:56 PM
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It was all my husband's fault! His family had owned the land for quite some time and were renting it out to a neighboring farmer. Then my husband's sister and her husband started doing veggies on about half the land. Then, after he and I graduated college, his dad bought us a house next door and we started doing animals on the second half of land. Honestly, I was really not into the idea at first; my husband was supposed to be only taking a year off before going to law school. But, in that year,…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/14 07:40 PM
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My husband and I have a small organic and biodynamic farm. We do animals, his sister and her husband do plants. Currently, we have a herd of 18 pigs, 11 rabbits, 7 geese, five sheep, five ducks, three turkey, and innumerable chickens. And three dogs. We hope to get a cow and a few horses at some point. We really love the pigs though. They're incredibly smart and we train them well. We have 15 wooded acres and 37 planted. Each household has a personal garden. We have interns every summer, and the…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/14 08:54 PM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/14 04:19 PM
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Thank you! We work really hard to make it so!
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/14 04:19 PM
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Thank you, and I'm sure that advice definitely applies to some other ladies here! My husband and I did long distance for a long time and, as a result, neither of us like to have alone time from each other. There are definitely times we've been too social and need "just us" time, but we prefer to decompress together (whether we're actively doing things together or not). In fact, even when we're so angry with each other we can't talk, we like to be in the same place (just maybe not talking). I've …
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/14 02:24 AM
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Thankfully, I get my period very regularly. The two days before my period I can get a little out of control if I don't contain myself. My husband keeps track (and I warn him) so we're both very gentle on those two days. I also practice a LOT of self-control. My rule is generally if it bothers me in an hour, I can say something about it. I hardly even remember what happened that made me upset after an hour. I don't ask for alone time, he'd see that as rejecting him. I just constantly remind mysel…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/14 12:59 AM
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H&M has some very cute pieces of lingerie! If you're looking for sexy, go dark: black, deep red, deep purple. Depending on your style (and whether you're going to be wearing these pieces under clothing or not), you can go crazy with the frills, bows, and straps. Just make sure the top and bottom match. Have fun!
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/14 11:09 PM
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It sounds like you know that you could do with some toning up, and you knew that even before he said anything. So, I don't think you should be feeling resentful towards him for noticing something you, yourself, have noticed. You can ask him to be extra supportive by asking him to verbally praise you when you go work out or eat a healthy meal, but honestly, you should be able to validate and self-praise. Tone up, cut out carbs, focus on weights. You might not lose actual weight (poundage), but yo…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/14 12:13 PM
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Congratulations!!!! It's going to be so exciting!
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/14 02:54 PM
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I really love my dad. It took me a long time to come to appreciate how hard he works for his family and how hard he tries to make us good people and give good guidance. We fought a lot when I was younger, but get along great now and have actual adult discussions. He was the first person who started to help me get my temper under control. I know not everyone has a great dad, but I couldn't be more thankful for mine.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/14 01:57 AM
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I think, even if we spelled it out for everyone, they would still choose not to agree with us. Plus, they would definitely cherry-pick phrases and words (such as "submissive" or "feminine") and twist them all kinds of ways. I think it's a good idea, but so hard to pull off.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/14 01:53 AM
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Hear hear!
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/14 01:48 AM
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We'd really appreciate it if you read the sidebar and came back with more specific questions. Thanks and welcome!
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/14 12:22 PM
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Haha, because that's EXACTLY what I do on a bad day!
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/14 05:08 PM
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Invest in good tights and leggings for the colder times of the year. You'd be surprised how versatile sundresses can be with tights, cute boots, and a sweater/cardigan over them. Use pinterest or polyvre to make outfits from the pieces you already have. Also, a word of advice, get rid of all the old, baggy stuff he hates. That way, you won't be tempted to wear it on a "bad day".
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/14 03:48 PM
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Firstly, if you don't like it here, don't be here. No one here wants to convince you. We're not missionaries. Secondly, when my husband tells me "no" he does it with good reason. He doesn't just tell me no because he wants to wield his power over me or wants me to know "my place". We hash things out too, but in a very respectful manner with zero manipulation on my part to get my way. He handles the things that he's best at, I handle the things I'm best at. That can mean different things for diff…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/14 12:57 AM
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I comb through the Bloomingdales sales rack or JC Penny. They're both good because of the variety of designers available in one space. I personally like the understated look on a guy, but if it's for a special event I see the need for something with a bit more panache. For dress shirts in literally every color, go to Macy's. They have coupons available online nearly every single day.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/14 02:09 AM
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He rewards me when I've done something that pleases him. For example, my husband loves when I get feisty in his defense. We just had a litter of eight piglets born on our farm to our favorite sow. Usually, the litter has a runt, but there wasn't one in this case. My husband's mother became very concerned because one piglet was slightly less hefty than the others and began insisting we bottle feed it. I politely but firmly shot her down and ranted a bit about it to my husband in private afterward…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/14 11:53 PM
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These stories are so cute! My husband can be a little absent-minded at times, so when I send him to the grocery store (even with a list) I usually get a phone call asking for help. One day, he goes to the grocery store, and I get no call. He comes home, we unpack and start to make dinner together. We were having a few friends over, so dinner is a bit more rushed than usual, he cutting meats and cheeses, I'm making pasta sauce and waiting for the pasta water to boil. The water starts boiling, I a…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/14 09:56 PM
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Why didn't you say anything to the first comment? I've noticed that, most of the time, saying "what do you mean by that?" with an icy look can make women back down. There's no reason for you to accept comments like that, and by not saying anything, you're allowing yourself to be bullied.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/14 06:14 PM
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Which aspects of TRP are you referring to exactly? I think most of us would identify our husbands/SOs as RP, but interested in a LTR. A man cab be RP but interested in the PUA or the MGTOW aspects of RP.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/14 09:00 PM
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We (3-5 girls) usually go to dinner, a quiet and classy bar/lounge, movies, spa things, sometimes (if we're all skint) we just have a picnic in the park or we'll have a potluck at one of our houses and just talk about what we're all reading.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/14 05:30 PM
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Haha, thanks! It's pretty much the bomb. It's a lot of hard and physically demanding work, but the payoff is incredible.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/14 05:18 PM
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Usually, when he has a boy's night, I try to have a girl's night. One of us will stay in the house and one of us will go out. If he's having a boy's right and I don't want to/can't go out, I do my best to stay upstairs and out of the way; he does the same for me. There are definitely things he does that I don't do and vice versa. He and his best man friend went sky diving actually! The other guy's gf and I both went along and just chatted/clapped/took pictures. I would probably plan something I …
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/14 04:20 PM
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...I wasn't either. I commented on what MY husband would prefer. I'm simply offering a different perspective. She knows her husband better than I do, obviously. So, she should be able to decide for herself whether to tell him or not. I'm only speaking from my experiences with my husband, hoping to offer a different perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/14 02:41 PM
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Personally, my husband would want to know if someone said things like that about him. He would consider it hiding things from him. Plus, my husband wouldn't appreciate my babying him by reasoning "Oh, he can't handle this info, I'd better not tell him".
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/14 02:36 PM
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I think the current movement is too fractured and too involved with in-fighting to be taken seriously. Additionally, young persons (who are or will be leading the movement) just don't have the same drive towards real activism as leaders did in the past. Today, a young person thinks that by choosing the right hashtag or bringing their own bag to the grocery store instead of using a plastic bag makes them a "good person", and that's enough; very few are actually willing to give up their own comfor…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/14 02:27 PM
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You shouldn't reply at all. It's completely not your business; your MIL should be talking to her son if she has a problem with her behavior. Your MIL is trying to use you as a shield against your husband's anger if you try to advocate for the MIL's case. Definitely inform your husband and let him read the texts, but tell him that you're not going to respond. If your MIL keeps sending messages, inform her once and only once that you will not tolerate negative talk about your husband and that she …
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/14 02:22 PM
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Pinterest would be my life if I had nothing else to do!
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/14 01:55 PM
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Wake up at 6, go for a run. Get back, jump in the shower, start breakfast for husband and the interns. Start on either a house project or a farm project. Water check all the animals around 11 am, then go start lunch. Feed everyone, then break from farm work for the day. After lunch is usually when I clean the house, but sometimes we nap, go for a swim, have sex, read, etc. Around 4-5, head back out for more farm work, start dinner afterwards. Watch and bed checks for the animals after dinner, th…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/14 01:54 PM
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I love how feminists think hashtags and slut-walk-protests and tumblr and "20 things to think if you're a feminist" are going to change the world. I hate to break it to them, but very few people have the power to change the world and they're not going to waste their power and resources on nipples; no matter how big a tantrum feminists throw and how many people they get to reblog their article.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/14 09:22 PM
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Part 1: This is kind of a tricky question, because the level of involvement your SO wants from you in regards to the new place can vary a lot from guy to guy. Just make sure you recognize that anything you're doing, you're doing for his space, not a shared space. Don't try to turn his apartment into a "love nest" or something like that. Part 2: Make some kickass dip for the chips, a few subs, then go home and pamper yourself! The best possible thing you could do for your SO and his friends is st…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/14 06:12 PM
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If he was really fit and didn't cheat on his own diet, I'd be willing to give it a try. But if the diet didn't suit my lifestyle and it's a deal-breaker for him, then it's better we break up early on so we can both find new people.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 12:05 PM
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This is probably a very terrible thing to think, but how big of a payout did he get for the accident? He co-founded a company and is probably still on the payroll there (he is listed on their website). The company seems to be doing well. Also, I wonder how disabled he is. I mean, he can't work apparently, but can he actually make decisions? Was he even capable of saying "I do"? Personally, I really hope that they were just so in love and so happy before that she can see past the accident. The pe…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/14 04:58 PM
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I fast on Tuesdays and Thursdays (fast as in eat less than 500 calories). I also sometimes fast on Sunday, if I took a break from running. Clean eating means I eat food grown on my farm, except for very special occasions. When our growing season is over, all our veggies/fruits come from non-GMO, certified organic (which in America, doesn't mean much) sources. We eat meat pastured on our land or locally sourced seafood (luckily, it's very cheap here). I do not recommend hot yoga for an inexperien…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/14 08:18 PM
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I run about 5k 5/7 days a week and do yoga the other two days. I'm going to look into hot yoga one a week over the summer again. It really helps me keep the general summer puffiness down. I do intermittent fasting on the two yoga days and eat cleanly pretty much all the time.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/14 07:05 PM
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I do and I love it! He gives my a budget and a list of what he needs and I find the best possible deals. He hates shopping, and I really love it, so it works out perfectly! I wouldn't buy things I know he doesn't like though.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/14 06:23 PM
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I especially see the "crack jokes at his expense" part. If any husband did that to his wife, she'd explode. But he's supposed to just laugh it off.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/14 10:50 AM
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My toes get a bright color in the spring/summer and a darker color in the fall/winter. I usually do them myself, but every two months or so, I get them done at a salon. Both my fingers and toes are kept square. I don't put colored polish on my nails, not much point on a farm. My husband loves that I keep my toes painted, but he especially loves when they're dark (he thinks it looks sexy). I think any color is acceptable in the workplace as long as the polish isn't chipping.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/14 11:48 PM
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Since you really have no idea or direction, I highly suggest you find a department store nearby that does free personal shoppers. You can book an appointment, walk around with someone who knows how to dress others, and find things specifically for you. Nordstrom definitely has this resource, as does Macys.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/14 05:31 PM
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My husband treats me like a child when I act like one. When I'm tired or hungry and I throw a fit, when I get upset because I want something I can't have, when I don't want to go somewhere or do something but I know I have to, he either ignores me or teases me. His actions draw attention to my behaviour and I usually get pretty embarrassed pretty quickly. As a result, I've learned to just be an adult about it when something isn't going my way.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/14 10:55 AM
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I try very, very hard not to curse ever. I think cursing, especially often, indicates a poor vocabulary and inability to articulate oneself. I laugh at dirty jokes, but only ever make them to my husband in private, and pretty rarely even then. My husband and I have a habit of saying "private bathroom time" when one of us needs to poop. I don't know where it came from, but we both really like keeping the mystery of that part of daily life. I also developed the habit of replacing "I need" with "Do…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/14 01:38 AM
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I think a little extra touching-feeling could help drive home the point that the OP and her SO are doing well and very happy/secure together. I agree that the OP shouldn't care what the orbiter feels, but she obviously does (or else this wouldn't even be a post). More importantly, the OP cares about what the other friends in the group think, which is why the orbiter is even going to the event. Usually, if I'm extra touchy-feely (due to hormones, some guy who hits on me is there, I'm feeling inse…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/14 03:03 PM
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Really? My husband LOVES that. Mind you, we're very touchy-feely anytime we're out, so it's not unusual behavior for me to be all over him (alone or with a group). I can see how, if you're not usually like that with your SO, it could seem suspicious.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/14 02:40 PM
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I don't think you really need to say it explicitly unless he says something explicit. I think you should not touch him at all. Not even to hug. Just give him one of those waves (I wish I could post a gif from mobile). If he touches you, immediately pull back and say "I don't like that, it makes me uncomfortable" and refuse to engage if he asks why. At the mini party, try to interact with him as little as possible. Don't sit next to him at dinner, or even across from him. You're the hostess, so y…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/14 12:56 PM
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"I'm sorry, but I don't really feel comfortable meeting men one on one while I'm in a relationship." "I'm sorry, but I already have plans with SO, we'd love if you joined us though!" "Sorry, but SO isn't comfortable with me meeting men one on one." Something along any of those lines would work. They're not too rude, but definitely get the message across.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/14 11:50 AM
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What religion is this that advocates for chastity, doesn't push for procreation, and allows the use of some sort of birth control? And you or your husband will have to use birth control to get out of having kids....
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/14 09:20 PM
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My husband calls my perfect in specific scenarios: when it's been a difficult day and we haven't fought, when I've supported him in a special way, when we've figured out a big problem, etc. It's not something he just throws out there randomly, it's more like our version of "good girl". I don't quite understand what you mean about language being manipulative.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/14 12:06 PM
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One of the main reasons I love this subreddit is because it demands introspection. The women here demand I look at how I might be causing issues or making myself happy or making my husband happy or how I might be a better person. When it comes down to it, I'm the only person who has control over my own life and that means responsibility. Every other subreddit coddles the OP, especially the women posters. My husband says "you're perfect", and RPW has taught me that I'm perfect for him because I w…
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/14 01:49 AM
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The only piece of advice of value in there is the dress to impress one. I think a lot of girls in college interpret that as always dress up. I actually interpret that as dress appropriately for the occasion with a feminine twist. For example, if a guy you like invites you to a baseball game, don't go in heels and a dress. Rather, go in cute sneakers and jeans with a feminine blouse and his team's cap, and he'll be in love.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/14 11:45 PM
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Personally, I love duck everything way more than chicken anything. I eat duck eggs and make bone broth from duck leftovers whenever possible. FYI, the broth freezes really well!
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/14 03:27 PM
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We don't do cows (yet!), so I don't have too much advice on that. The only thing I'd say is healthy cow= healthy milk/marrow/etc from cow, so choose your rancher wisely. I actually make a lot of really good bone broth from our ducks, turkey, even chickens. Chickens are honestly probably the easiest to start out with and provide so much, if you have even a little backyard space for them.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/14 02:13 PM
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Honestly, depending on where you live, there aren't many veggies yet. So, this week, I'd sleep in if I had that option :P
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/14 01:44 PM
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I'm finally going to pack up the winter clothing and pull out the summer clothing. Also going to try to wash and put away all the winter linens this week. Farmer's market season is gearing up, so I'm going to prep for that as much as possible during the week instead of the night before the market. Also, I have to pull out canned goods that didn't sell last year and we didn't eat over the winter and make sure it's all still good and sellable.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/14 01:26 PM
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Out of curiosity, what's the benefit of a hula hoop?
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/14 01:24 PM
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Love this! Always good to have a reminder. I know what I'm doing for my husband tonight (hint: it isn't the freshly baked bread).
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/14 08:37 PM
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Sure! I highly recommend you read all the sidebar material too. There's a ton of good advice there and most of your questions will probably be answered.
/r/askTRP07/05/14 06:02 PM
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Hi! At RPW, both men and women post, so you won't be missing out on any valuable male perspective. The goal of RPW is to help establish a long term relationship with a "good" man as well as discuss self-improvement. Plus, you'll have a forum chock full of ladies in stable, loving relationships who give great tips on becoming "wife material". Hope to see you there!
/r/askTRP07/05/14 05:51 PM
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Solipsism is the way females think, unless they actively stop themselves from thinking that way. I actually think female solipsism is rooted in our deep empathy (i.e. we feel very strongly), but Western culture then pushes ideas of "your feelings are valid" onto impressionable young girls. That emotional validity, which used to come from fathers and husbands, gets warped into "all of my feelings are valid, everyone else must have the same feelings as me and if they don't then they're wrong", the…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/14 05:44 PM
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Okay, wow that thread got really convoluted. Of course men really, really need sex. As dana said in the thread, that's the reason men get into relationships. Oh the other hand, I fully believe men are capable of taking care of themselves while their LDR isn't there. That's what my husband and I did for two years before we got married. We were long distance (NYC TO D.C.) and saw each other once a month or so. We had incredible sex the times we saw each other and had a lot of phone/skype "sex" (mu…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/14 05:38 PM
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I'm also with a bearded gentleman, and, dang, can that thing hurt! Try this product. I've been buying it for my husband since we were dating and it's amazing. It absorbs super fast, which was his main concern, and it smells very sexy, which was my main concern.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/14 02:45 PM
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I love this advice. It took me a long time to get a handle on my temper. Small things like leaving a mess, I now just take care of as opposed to yell at him about. As for bigger things that I need his help with, honey definitely attracts more flies than vinegar. He appreciates when I ask nicely, and I appreciate that he gets it done. We have a chalkboard in the kitchen and write things we need the other to do. That way, we both know it's there and the other person knows when it gets done/erased.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/14 02:36 PM
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Late to the game, but oh well! Try to thrift if you can! My husband and I are in-progress with our new house as well. We made a rule to accept any and all furniture anyone offered us. We got couches, lamps, art, bookshelves, stuff for the kitchen, a bed or two, a ton of stuff! We've been slowly re-purposing a lot of it (I have re-upholstered or re-painted nearly everything) and we don't feel guilty about getting rid of something that just doesn't work with our style (because it was free!). Depen…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/14 02:22 PM
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RPW don't really advocate for manipulating men into giving in. I suggest you instead put some thought into why you want to go to your bf's country over the summer and come up with a clear and logical argument. Trust me, your dad isn't going to fall for you being extra nice to him right before you tell him that you're going away. He's honestly probably going to be more hurt and upset that you felt the need to manipulate him.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/14 12:09 AM
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We have a homestead/organic farm too! I pretty much live in Hunter boots and yoga pants unless we're going out. Do you guys do markets? I've noticed that people buy more when I wear a dress to the market, haha.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/14 07:17 PM
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It's mostly because I really enjoy sex that I give fewer bjs! But, he also doesn't like bjs as much as sex. He really likes when we have a.2:1 orgasm ratio (in my favor) and so, would rather have sex.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/14 06:49 PM
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Usually, if I'm not in the mood and my husband initiates, I very quickly get in the mood. We spend a lot of time on foreplay: kissing, touching, teasing, everything but actual penetration. He knows that it sometimes takes me a while to switch tracks from whatever I've been thinking to thinking about sex. We also play "catch the wife" a lot. He'll have to chase me or play-fight with me to have sex. Usually, to let each other know that we're playing, one of us will say "catch the wife". Somehow, b…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/14 11:21 AM
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I completely agree with your post. I also try to please my husband with my body shape. For me, that means really watching what I eat and currently losing weight. I'm shorter than him, and he loves that, but I know he would really like if I was slightly daintier, so that's what I'm working on. I also totally agree that women are bringing other women down. Most men see a woman and either say attractive or not; they don't try to give the girl a complex over it. But women are so horrible to other wo…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/14 11:44 PM
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Thank you so much for your reply! I really do not know many homeschooled people or families, so it's great to hear that perspective. My husband and I own a rural farm and I am really not pleased by the school options nearby. I'll have to look into groups, activities, and learning centers!
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/14 05:10 PM
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I am not pregnant nor do I have kids, but education is always something I've been very concerned with. I think the current American school system hurts a lot more kids than it helps by enforcing obedience, pushing unnecessary drugs to stifle "unwanted" behaviors, etc. I am just interested in researching the best possible educational options.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/14 05:07 PM
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I don't know many people who have been homeschooled, so I have no frame of reference. Thanks for your input!
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/14 04:53 PM
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That actually sounds like a viable option! One of the things I'd be worried about if I homeschooled my kids is developing a warped parent-child relationship with them, because I'd also have to be their teacher. I don't know many homeschooled kids, so I have no frame of reference.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/14 04:52 PM
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Wouldn't charter and private schools be subject to the same issues, as mentioned in the article though? Most teachers would women, kids are forced to sit for eight hours, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/14 04:50 PM
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No no no! You've got it all wrong! It's the man's CHOICE to cheat! His partner not putting out has absolutely nothing to do with it! Can't he control himself? What an animal! Mind you, when a woman cheats, it's because her partner wasn't loving enough and she was FORCED to cheat to get the attention she deserves! Obviously /s
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/14 04:04 PM
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I love how hard my husband works. We own a homestead farm that he operates with his sister and brother-in-law, and my favorite days are the days he comes home sweaty and dirty. Those days give me the opportunity to be the best possible wife for him, and honestly, the dirt and sweat is pretty sexy. I also really really love how he makes me laugh. He calls me a "laugh whore" because I laugh at everything, but it makes us both happy. Oh, and I love when he fixes stuff around the house and opens jar…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/14 11:08 AM
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You are not a RPW. Sorry, but you just aren't. From your post, you sound very arrogant, self-centered and quite unpleasant. Maybe you think that isn't what you show the world, but, trust me, when you think some guy is wasting your time it shines through any fake sweetness you might put on. Also, you're not really a RP ideal woman. You have daddy issues and not many friends, both huge red flags. Honestly, it sounds like you can't find a man because you can't see past how great you are to see how …
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/14 10:56 AM
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Maybe you could introduce her to paleo or keto? Sometimes, eating too few calories can really mess up your metabolism. Running is great, but your body gets used to the cardio pretty fast unless you change it up. If you guys spend any time watching tv at all, I suggest you make a competition out of who can do more sit ups during commercial breaks and so on. As for the dread vs beta question, don't back down now. She's not happy with her body and won't be, even if you back down and say you are. I …
/r/askTRP23/04/14 12:49 AM
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You're still very young, so I really wouldn't worry about "finding" a man. Instead, focus on getting and staying fit, learning skills, getting a VALUABLE education and choosing dates carefully. It's much easier to find a good-quality man than it is to a find a good-quality woman, especially in college. Most men are going to approach you and you'll just have to be receptive, friendly and an asset to his life for him to make it work. I suggest you focus more on what type of "good RP man" you want …
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/14 03:30 PM
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I am going to sit up straighter. I don't care if it's uncomfortable or if I'm not used to it. A hunchback isn't attractive or healthy. I am also going to research how best to build a smokehouse for the homestead. The 5:2 diet is going great! It's getting easier to moderate my caloric intake and be aware of just how much I'm eating. The hardest part of my week is making myself go to yoga. I love it once I'm there, but it takes a huge effort to get up and go at the end of the day when I'd rather j…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/14 02:39 PM
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My husband is very visual. So, he really likes when I surprise him with a new dress to wear when we go out. I don't do it every time, but when I do, it gets a huge reaction. He also really really loves lipstick. So sometimes I'll put some on just before he comes home from a regular day to surprise him.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/14 11:50 AM
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I absolutely love Aldo heels. They're very reasonably priced and usually real leather. They get new stock in all the time, so I generally wait until the pair I want goes on sale (you can get them for about 50% off). Their flats are very cute too!
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/14 11:40 AM
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Dancing with the stars is still on!
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/14 07:20 PM
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I was raised somewhat RP too. My dad works, my mom stayed at home (before she passed away; my stepmom stays at home now). My parents encourage me to work on my own degree and hobbies and life. I think it's in case I didn't meet a man or I needed to support myself. I had been in a very unfulfilling relationship. I was nagging, bitchy, unkind and no longer sexually interested. He was a constant gamer, unfit, no drive in life. We broke up after a two year long relationship and I really wanted to fi…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/14 12:17 AM
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Married Man, Sex Life! It's incredibly amazing and very helpful! It's geared towards men, but I still think it's a great read.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/14 05:21 PM
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You eat normally (1200 calories or less for me) five days out of the week, and eat less than 500 calories for two, non-consecutive days. So, I eat normally on Monday, Wednesday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday and eat less than 500 calories on Tuesday and Thursday.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/14 11:02 PM
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The difference being that a key that can open any lock is a master key and a lock that opens to every key is a broken lock. A man's number and a woman's number indicate very different things about them.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/14 05:17 PM
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Very very beginner friendly! A small few of they ingredients can be hard to find, but substitutions are easily found online. One of the most important things about baking is knowing your oven. For example, mine runs about 25° hot, so if I set it at the recommended temperature, my goodies burn easily. Good luck and have fun!
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/14 01:36 AM
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I. Love. Baking. Seriously, I am a baking freak. Thankfully, my husband has a sweet tooth and loves it too! It's probably one of the nicest things I can do for him, in his mind. I really recommend the baking book by Cook's Illustrated. Actually, I really recommend their monthly magazine too. Everything is really clear and well laid out.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/14 12:52 AM
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I've never taken jazz, so I really can't say. Ballroom should cover some of the jazzier dances though, like the foxtrot and the one step!
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/14 12:49 AM
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Haha, I'd be much more interested in making that cake for myself!
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/14 12:25 AM
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If anyone lives in NYC I really recommend they visit Boom Boom Brow Bar! The people there are amazing and help shape your brows for your face and teach you how to do it!
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/14 12:22 AM
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I think prom dancing is probably the least important type of dance to learn. I've taken ballet and ballroom and both can be very fun! I think basic ballroom is very important. You'll be using it at weddings and whatnot. For prom, I recommend you just copy a dance move someone else across the dance floor is doing. You can also try to play Just Dance for Wii or Kinect to get some general dance moves. Have fun!
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/14 12:20 AM
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The funny thing is, all signs of my life on paper make me out to be an anti-RPW. I was born and raised in a huge city, I was college-educated in psychology by a liberal arts school, my mother died when I was young so I had no maternal figure to take as an example, I'm not religious, I love kids but could never teach, and so on. Honestly, what really happened was that I had the foundation and I found a man who made me want to be a RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/14 06:20 PM
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Deep cleaning of the kitchen was completed in time for an amazing dinner yesterday! I made a fruit tart that killed (thank you, Paula Dean). This week: I am in charge of alcohol, dessert and the Easter egg hunt for Sunday. Thankfully, we're not hosting, but I'd still love to clean the house a bit more than usual. The 5:2 diet is coming along great and I want to do my best to not over-eat on Sunday.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/14 11:29 AM
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This is how I first started! I vowed to let him be the man for a week, just one little week. Go along with decisions he made, not nag, cook, dress more femininely, etc. After that week was up, he and I both refused to go back to the way things had been, and we've never looked back!
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/14 01:14 AM
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You eat five days normally (1200 calories or less for me), then on two, non-consecutive days, you eat less than 500 calories. So, for example, I eat only 500 calories on Tuesday and Thursday, and normally the rest of the time.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/14 10:03 AM
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I'm going to deep clean the kitchen this week in anticipation of having my husband's family over for big dinner on Sunday. The fear of being judged should help me get on that asap, haha. I've, unfortunately, given up on keto. It's been too difficult with all the traveling lately, and I think it's bad to go on and off. Instead, I'm doing the 5:2 diet and it's working out really well!
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/14 04:40 PM
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Don't be manipulative about it. He's probably playing to relieve stress. Ask him to stop playing for twenty minutes while you clearly explain how you feel. And then leave it at that. Don't nag or whine; he will change his behavior if he wants to. And if it's a deal breaker for you, then leave him without a big fuss.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/14 11:51 AM
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I'm sure other women will have better advice, but it's all I've got. My mom was a stay-at-home mom with four kids, all birthed within eight years (one every two years). She also ran my dad's business from home. We had a housekeeper/nanny/cook combo three days a week. Basically just an extra set of adult hands. It sounds like you have a lot to handle on your own. I understand that you probably can't afford to hire someone, so it's understandable that something has to slip. Honestly, if this were …
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/14 09:41 PM
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Out of curiosity, how did you get back into shape after having three kids? I'm neither expectant nor a mother already, but it's something I really, really worry about. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/14 12:41 PM
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This. Take a good, hard look at everyone who is telling you not to have children. Do they have children? If yes, did they have them later (when they're energy levels were lower)? Are they happy in their lives? Do you think they feel fulfilled? You and your husband need to decide what is the right time for you to have children. You're the only two people in this marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/14 12:39 PM
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I'm still young too (23) but having wrinkles/bad skin is one of my biggest fears. Luckily, I have natually oily skin which supposedly helps. I use two face washes: morning and night. In the morning, I use this lotion and nothing at night. By the way, all of the soapylayne products are incredible.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/14 05:09 PM
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That's just my opinion. The only other point I would add is that a fertile woman needs to be protected in order to have and raise a child (protection comes first). Even if a child is lost, the mother can have more. It is better to invest in the health and safety of the mother than of the child.
/r/TheRedPill02/04/14 01:59 PM
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I think you're right that women have a biological need to have genetically strong children. That need would explain pre-agri (multiple partners, strongest sperm wins), agri (one partner who provides), and post-agri sexual behaviors (combination of the two previous). I do think that the strongest need governing women is the need to be protected and provided for though. The secondary need to to produce offspring and have the offspring protected and provided for. I'm on mobile, but a quick google s…
/r/TheRedPill02/04/14 01:39 PM
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Women want to ensure the survival of their own offspring and themselves. In pre-agri days: any fertile woman and her children were protected by the entire tribe/clan. This encouraged having as many offspring as possible by whomever. In agri days: any fertile woman and her children were protected by the man she was bound to (father or husband). This encouraged have as many offspring as possible by her husband. In post-agri days (modern society): women are protected and provided for by the governm…
/r/TheRedPill02/04/14 01:15 PM
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I have a bachelor's in psych and am currently getting my master's in public health. I chose psych because I came out of undergrad with a bachelor's of science, but it was easy (had a high GPA) and I finished a year early. I chose public health because hospitals always need administrators and the field doesn't change; so I can have and raise kids, then go back to work when they're in high school or college. Both rounds of my schooling are fully paid for by my amazing dad. (Side note: I took out l…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/14 12:55 PM
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Heels?! Invented by the patriarchy to make women run slower! A REAL woman wears crocs to dinner! /s
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/14 07:46 PM
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That's amazing! Oh my gosh, well done!
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/14 05:17 PM
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"Pih san key" emphasis on the first syllable.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/14 01:25 AM
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These are my own designs, but pieced together from traditional symbols and patterns. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/14 05:02 PM
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I not only disagree with your advice, I also intensely dislike your posts' tone and the use of certain language. Firstly, this is a forum for men. I am a RPW and come to read here often, but I almost never comment. This is not the place for me to comment; if I truly want to discuss something posted here, I would cross-post it to RPW and discuss it there. Secondly, the tone of your original post indicates that you are speaking for all women. Different women react to the scenarios differently and …
/r/TheRedPill31/03/14 04:29 PM
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I think drama, in an LTR, means more keep things interesting. I think two of the easiest ways to do that are by not constantly telling her where you're going/what you're doing and by coming up with activities. The first one is obvious; you'll be on her mind all day. But, by the second one, I mean that you should tell her "wear comfy shoes, we're going for a ride." And then you take her hiking or whatever. I usually hate giving anecdotal evidence, but when my husband does that ("do X, we're going…
/r/askTRP27/03/14 12:30 PM
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Anthropologie has the best hats ever. They're expensive, but good quality. Most of them are very classically styled with a twist, so they always look good. I invested in one four summers ago and it still looks phenomenal.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/14 05:14 PM
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Nice! Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/14 12:46 PM
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The only objection I have to this is the ultimatum part (tell him to man up or you're leaving). That's directly not in line with RPW thinking. If he's been reading TRP stuff for men, then he's going to see an ultimatum as a situation where she gets next-ed. I agree with your reasons as to why he might be acting this way though. Edit: Also, usually changes made my manipulation or coercion don't last. So, I wouldn't expect an ultimatum to work effectively.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/14 12:29 PM
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I think it depends on what you're looking for and what he's looking for. If you're looking for a LTR and he's not, you need to stop seeing him. If you're both looking for a LTR, then it sounds like he just doesn't have the alpha/beta balanced quite yet. As someone mentioned, direct him to MMSL. I think you might be forgetting that a RPM and RPW have different life goals (hint, that's why there are different sub-reddits).
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/14 12:26 PM
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That's gorgeous! But, oh my gosh, so intricate. I really love the geometry of Ukrainian pysanky art.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/14 02:05 AM
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I'll do my best! If you live in NYC, there are several classes you can take at the Ukrainian Museum and the Ukrainian Institute. They provide all the materials and give a small lecture on the symbolism.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/14 05:17 PM
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Finally finish "Lean In". I've been hate-reading it in order to be informed and able to combat it politely, but it's dragging. Get started on amassing supplies to make Ukrainian pysanky (dyed eggs) over Easter. Deep clean one room a day (two days for the kitchen).
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/14 12:10 PM
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Honestly, it really depends on what you and your partner are comfortable and happy with. My husband and I live on our homesteading farm and if I walked around in heels I'd kill myself (and look ridiculous). That being said, my husband loves when I wear heels, so I always do when it's appropriate. If your SO thinks you look cute in sneakers, then pair them with a sundress and call it a day.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/14 07:13 PM
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I've read that book too! And yea, it does work. BUT! Think about the guys it worked on while you were using the methods laid out in the book. I think it's partially because opposites attract (i.e. "strong" women and "weak" man) and also that beta men are taught to think that they want a bitchy woman. No alpha is going to stand for any of those behaviors mentioned as "attractive" in the book. Also, think about it; why would you take dating advice from another woman?
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/14 10:16 PM
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Hey there! I wear jeans, skirts, and dresses about equally (weather permitting). I love a good skirt, but, gosh, they are hard to find! Most skirts available are either tiny or meant for business attire. I long for full, knee-length skirts to come back into style! I must disagree with you about jeans though. Perhaps they were originally meant as men's working clothing, but women's jeans today are definitely not the same as men's jeans from the past. I think jeans can look very pretty and feminin…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/14 02:26 AM
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Maybe try switching shampoo/conditioner. I LOVE this shampoo and conditioner. It's all natural and very very gentle on hair. Aloe vera helps hair become stronger and grow faster. I actually find the shampoo feels slightly drying before I apply the conditioner, but then my hair feels amazing. I try not to wash the conditioner out too much. I recommend washing your hair at night, braiding it, and then taking it out of the braid and combing through with a wide-toothed comb. That way, the waves stay…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/14 05:02 PM
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She's the man is probably my current favorite. It's so bad, but so good!
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/14 11:42 PM
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Bad movies. Specifically, rom coms. I try really really hard to limit myself to one every two weeks, but sometimes a really good one is on and I can't help myself!
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/14 10:22 PM
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Hi! This is my second round of keto. The first time, I did it from September to the start of December (stopped for the holidays). I didn't lose much weight the first time, only about 10lbs. I did get noticeably more toned (wasn't working out at the time), didn't have the post-meal exhaustion that comes with carbs, and also didn't mood swing as much. I also didn't have a lot to lose (5'5, 145lbs now, but actually and legitimately big boned. I only look about 130lbs) so I was happy with the result…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/14 02:24 PM
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I cleaned out my closet and began my journey into the "French wardrobe". Shockingly, I didn't need to buy anything new to have a complete wardrobe. I've been running every day, except for the two nights I go to yoga. I really recommend the app "couch to 5k" if anyone is interested in starting to run! I'm working on my temper (which had always been a huge problem for me) by trying to step back and figure out why I'm upset before I lash out. Usually, it's because I'm hungry or tired. Also working …
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/14 12:40 PM
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I actually agree with the article about the "husband, then children" thing. To me, my husband came before my children in terms of time. He and I were the original unit. He is the captain, not the kids. The kids are, of course, very important and require parenting and protection. But, to me, that doesn't trump the importance of my husband. I would never, ever go behind my husband's back to change a decision he made (about anything, including the kids). If I had an issue, I'd discuss it with him a…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/14 09:47 PM
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To add on to your comment: nutrition. Nutrition in both the mother (prior to, through and after pregnancy/birth/breastfeeding) and child is of utmost importance and the key to having mentally and physically healthy and active children. The western diet really doesn't cut it (read "Nutrition and physical degeneration" by Weston Price) for the average person, let alone women literally supporting babies with their bodies. An average-looking woman might not have had the nutrition necessary for prope…
/r/TheRedPill04/03/14 12:39 AM
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Oh, I'm definitely encouraged to contribute to conversation, when I know what I'm talking about. I've actually been purposely reading up on basic philosophy as it apples to current American politics in order to be able to at least follow the conversation. I guess it's also that, in that particular setting (my SO, his male friends and very few females, most of whom are also SOs to men there), the men really like to pull an old school "let's go drink brandy, smoke cigars and congratulate each othe…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/14 02:33 AM
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I actually felt that very same thing the first time my SO (he wasn't at the time) and I hung out with his friends. He and another man sat there and discussed philosophy and politics and things like that. I was completely in awe of how intelligent and well-educated he was. I think I actually sat there open-mouthed for a bit, haha. In stark contrast, a girl in the group (who had the hots for my SO) tried to impress the guys by contributing to the discussion, but couldn't back up her comments with …
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/14 01:19 PM
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Physically, you can become more graceful by taking ballet or tai chi. Both make you more aware of your body and teach self control in movement as well as purposely slow, controlled and precise movements. Ballet especially makes you more aware of your posture (something I am the worst at) and your resting stance. Also, practice controlling your facial expressions and maintaining a calm resting face (also hard for me, I naturally have bitchy resting face). Emotionally, learn to let go and not swea…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/14 09:58 PM
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Gotcha. I didn't understand that he was already past college. Good luck to you both and thank you for answering!
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/14 04:59 AM
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A few questions, if you don't mind. What is your SO's major and prospective job market? Have you two considered forgoing college or that major, since you'll basically be sinking yourselves in debt? I'm not trying to be mean or anything like that, I'm genuinely curious why you're taking a route that makes you genuinely unhappy and leaves you in such an unstable financial position.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/14 10:57 PM
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I don't think the article is advocating sitting at home and doing nothing. You can be an interesting person and go out while also dressing modestly keeping your phone number private. I think that the article refers to guarding yourself against being used as a plate or ONS for a "player". I, personally, find it acceptable to worry about a man's intentions, especially if I have never met this person before and he seems to be escalating quickly.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/14 07:21 PM
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This sounds like an amazing idea! I really love that you're going to pick a place and activities that he would enjoy, and I don't think it comes across as controlling. Definitely look at Groupon getaways or Livingsocial vacation packages, you can get a great rate on hotel/B&B stays with possible food/events thrown in. Read the fine print on all deals before you buy, because they sometimes have specific dates you have to travel. Just make sure nothing else is planned on the weekend you choose. On…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/14 05:08 PM
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Something that has really helped me in the kitchen is to start cooking with a clean kitchen and empty dishwasher. That way, as you're done with pots, pans and utensils, they get rinsed and go straight into the dishwasher. I've found that this is the most helpful when cooking for a dinner party because: cook, run full dishwasher while eating, empty dishwasher quickly, load dinner plates into dishwasher, run dishwasher, serve dessert. At the end of the night, you only have dessert dishes left, as …
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/14 01:49 PM
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I'm going to go against the other commentators here and say yes, I do use my femininity purposely. In my work life (healthcare field), I use it to get patients to come in for necessary appointments and pay their bills. I've found that most patients, male and female, are much more likely to respond positively to a clean, well-mannered, soft-spoken young lady rather than a brash, loud and demanding child. In my personal life, I also use femininity to my advantage. I frequently downplay my strength…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/14 01:38 PM
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This is why I really love this sub. That was incredibly eloquently, kindly and firmly explained. Frankly, it should be added to the sidebar. Thank you for laying it all out for new users (which I also am) so clearly. I especially like the "two sides to every story" part. Well done!
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/14 03:48 AM
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I completely agree with this! You want to look young and wholesome and a little maternal (but not matronly). The only thing I would suggest is to wear your hair half up, and half down, like this. That way, you're not constantly tucking your hair behind your ears and you won't be able to hide behind your hair curtain (I am so guilty of this), but you're still showing off your hair.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/14 04:15 PM
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I think this one is really hard for a lot of us (especially the younger ones), because of how we were brought up. Honestly, the competition among women makes it very hard to find honest and true female friends at all, let alone ones who also think RP is the way to go. The other issue with connecting to other (non RP) women is the issue of what to discuss. Most women immediately fall into a gossip-fest about their SOs. Luckily, I have one female close friend who is RP (but doesn't know the termin…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/14 11:34 PM
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I think cooking matters if it matters to your SO. The act of cooking can show that you support your man, especially if he isn't the most verbose or open with his feelings. I find that cooking a special meal or favorite dessert can show my SO that I recognize he had a difficult day and that I'm taking that into account. That may not apply to all couples, of course.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/14 11:26 PM
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You shouldn't dismiss NYC so quickly. Yes, the city is very liberal. However, if you go vaguely north (consider along the Metro North lines), you can have the benefit of small town living and accessibility to the city. Also, the city is so diverse (due to the very large number of people) that there are all kinds of women everywhere. Just keep in mind that RPW are not going to be at a club/college bar and looking for them there is a waste of your time.
/r/TheRedPill02/02/14 05:01 AM
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I think it depends a lot on the man and the woman in the relationship. For instance, I can barely handle budgeting myself, and have to stick to a very very strict budget or else I get carried away easily. As a result, my SO determines the budget and it's both our responsibilities to stick to it. However, if my SO was too busy or not arithmetically minded, we'd either handle it together or I'd take over. I agree with the trust premise laid out in the chapter though.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/14 07:03 PM
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What kind of puppy were you thinking of getting? My SO lives and works on a farm and we were considering getting a bouvier de Flanders. I had one when I was a child and they are completely amazing dogs (but huge).
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/14 11:47 PM
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Hi everyone! I'm really proud that I ran 2.2 miles this morning! I'm also pleased to report that, after a bumpy weekend, my SO and I are back on track. We've decided to each pick an article in the morning, send it to the other and discuss in the evening. I'm really excited to try that out, because it sometimes seems like we're out of things to talk about by the end of the day.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/14 06:00 PM
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I really agree with the "let her be girly" aspect of your comment! I think it's very important, especially because it leads to a comfortable personal identification with her own gender. Along those lines, I think it's important to foster "girly" habits, behaviors and activities. That's not to say that she can't be in sports or also learn about traditionally "manly" things. She should know both how to change a tire and hostess an amazing party.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/14 10:05 PM
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Mine doesn't let me down often, but just that one time... I do really need to get better on taking control of my temper. The hardest thing to deal with is that he doesn't like when I walk away to calm down. He wants us to deal with it right now and that's when my temper gets the best of me.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/14 01:45 AM
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