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dwebsterlight/r/askMRP10/03/19 07:18 PM
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Or My Macros +
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/20 06:25 AM
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I think you should check out David Googins. He talks a lot about his past, and how he overcame his high school tendencies to seek validation due to his abusive upbringing. He is also a big distance runner that lifts. He calls himself a “hybrid” in that way and, also, the baddest motherfucker on the planet.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 12:15 PM
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Reg Park part 2 is heavy on front squat and back squat so certainly would need to go light on that part for a while. The rest of the volume would be good though for a full body every other day. I swapped high pulls out for more standard rows and added some joint health accessories like face pulls... and some curls/skull crushers for the ladies.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/20 03:02 AM
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Start doing a program so you can build towards specific improved weights. I would throw Reg Park Phase II out there as a good one to run for a while
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/20 09:34 AM
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I could also say my biggest issues when I started this mission were not fitness, dressing reasonably, being successful and engaged social; my main issues were frame, pedestalizing, bad view of what a good relationship looks like, and leading. They are areas where I still need to approve. I also probably haven’t gained enough value for myself to end it. What am I missing? I know I’m selling myself short by just running the stay plan/go plan for too long.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 01:26 AM
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I did unattractive things for a long time, it took me a long time to internalize some of my issues (I thank everyone here for calling me out on many of those), and have been committed to running phase one of my MAP before killing the puppy. I’m nearly there. I haven’t seen the kind of improvement I was hoping for in this relationship but have improved a lot through the process. Still have more work to do though, I’m not blind to that.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 12:55 AM
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What lifting program are you running? You could easily add 5-10 lbs of muscle this first year while shedding fat. Anything above that is going to fall into the multi-year long game.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 06:49 PM
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OYS #31 Stats: 6’4” 212 BF 14%, 35, no kids, together 15 years Lifting/Health/etc.: Going to start a cut in the next week or two. Lifts and reps are currently (5 rep sets): Squat - 420 BP - 280 OHP - 180 DL - 365 Row - 270 Took a saliva T test. Was told last week how inaccurate they are. That coupled with a middle of the range measurement of 110 pg/ml for free test makes me want to pursue a full blood test in the coming month or two. Never have slept very much but it’s been worse than normal lat…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 10:07 AM
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Touché, I was planning to postpone if things seemed normal. I’ll look into the rest of the markers someone mentioned and into a better test.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 07:07 PM
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If it comes back on the low end of the spectrum I will. Not concerned about it yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 12:25 PM
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OYS #30 Stats: 6’4” 210 BF 14%, 35, no kids, together 15 years Lifting/Health/etc.: Still bulking and am working my way back up in some lifts after a deload, but others are new bests. Lifts and reps are currently (5 rep sets): Squat - 410 BP - 275 OHP - 180 DL - 365 Row - 265 Sent in an at home saliva testosterone test this past week. I don’t really expect it to be low and I know these types of tests aren’t as good as a blood test, but I wanted some kind of baseline to know where I am at. Frame:…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 09:43 AM
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I had spoken with him about my marriage prior to writing that. The part I left out of my post was how beta I realized he is with regards to relationships, something that conversation brought to my attention. I can be strong/big and still have a blind spot as to why my perspective has been fucked. I guess when I read WISNIFG, I didn’t pick up on things I should have.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 12:38 AM
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Too late for sex? Interesting boundary.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 02:09 PM
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Getting a virus is always good for cutting!
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 01:18 PM
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OYS #29 Stats: 6’4” 210 BF 15%, 35, no kids, together 15 years Lifting/Health/etc.: Still bulking and am working my way back up in some lifts after a deload, but others are Lifts and reps are currently (5 rep sets): Squat - 410 BP - 270 OHP - 175 DL - 365 Row - 260 In a former life I always avoided squat and DL but it feels good to have taken it on, and am seeing progress. I’m tall with bad hamstring/ankle flexibility so my DL sucks. With my squat and row numbers (not retard shrugs) I should be …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 01:08 PM
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How about your same weight but not fat? How about making solid investments when most stock markets are not up 15% over the past year? Research that or just put it in some reasonable index funds and stop fucking around. PBD... I eat plants, sure, but I’m not going to eat 10+ cups of lentils a day to get the appropriate amount of protein.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 12:55 PM
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OYS #28 Stats: 6’4” 213 BF 15%, 35, no kids, together 15 years Lifting/Health/etc.: Still bulking and am working my way back up in some lifts after a deload, but others are new max weights. Lifts and reps are currently (5 rep sets): Squat - 400 BP - 265 OHP - 165 DL - 355 Row - 250 Getting a couple days of cardio in per week. Planning to cut once I max out on this cycle of Madcow. Frame: Have been all mixed up lately. I was butt hurt over a rejection and stopped responding to my wife saying she …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 12:27 PM
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OYS #27 Stats: 6’4” 211 BF 14%, 35, no kids, together 15 years Lifting/Health/etc.: A Have been consistent in the gym. The Reg Park Phase II program has allowed me to put on some muscle and I’ve gotten stronger. Going to switch back to a cycle of my full body everyday Madcow routine. Started another sports league with some new guys. Game/Frame: No grade Spent a lot of time thinking about my goals during my two week rule 9 ban. Had another cycle of my personal development/leadership training sinc…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 12:33 PM
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I’m similar height but 10 lbs heavier. I only guess at my body fat percentage and think I’m 13% when my lower abs start popping. Probably need to get on a better testing method but really don’t care. I sort of hop between 13-15% depending on season. May drop to something lower this summer but don’t see the point during bulking season (winter)
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/19 10:07 AM
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Agree with most of the comments by you two. Thanks for the refocus.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/19 10:02 AM
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Can’t see your lower abs at 13% BF? Something seems off to me. Maybe you just mean they don’t have deep cuts like the uppers, or you are higher than 13.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/19 12:25 PM
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OYS #26 Stats: 6’4” 210 BF 15%, 35, no kids, together for 15 years total, married for 5. Lifting/Health/etc.: A Have been consistent in the gym. One thing I’ve been noticing these past two weeks has been weight gains even though I’ve been eating about 100 calories a day less than my lean bulk goal. I hit 210 this week, a number I haven’t seen since college during my last stint of lifting consistently (before becoming my “natural” skinny fat weight of 195). Bought one of those electric scales pri…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/19 09:59 AM
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OYS #24 Stats: 6’4” 208 BF 15%, 35, no kids, together for 14 years total, married for 4. 12 months into improving. Lifting/Health/etc.: B Took me two weeks to return to the weights where I was at after missing the gym due to travel/only doing body weight stuff. Makes me want to quote Jesus after he resurrected, “Money, weed, and bitches, I’m back!” Okay, just kidding but it feel good to be back in the routine. Game/Frame: A My frame has been solid. Game in the house is reaching an all time low I…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 12:13 PM
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OYS #23 Stats: 6’4” 206 BF 15%, 35, no kids, together for 14 years total, married for 4. 11.5 months into improving. Lifting/Health/etc.: C - slacked off but back at it now that I’m home After two weeks of Reg Park Phase II, I went on a work trip/solo vacation for a week and a half. I did some body weight and TRX stuff but lost strength during that time despite packing in the protein and calories. I’ve been back on the routine for two gym trips and it feels good. Going to run this program for an…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 07:37 PM
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That first puke and the responses I got showed me I had been a dancing monkey and was just going through the motions. Back then I was certainly following this sub to try to get my wife to have sex with me. I was in decent shape from a cardio stand point but was skinny fat and weak. My frame was weak. Afterward I started doing OYS posts, got some help in identifying issues I had been struggling with, and have made progress in becoming a better man. I basically reset my clock at that point and dec…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/19 12:43 PM
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OYS #22 Stats: 6’4” 207 BF 14%, 35, no kids, together for 14 years total, married for 4. 11 months into improving. Lifting/Health/etc.: A Two weeks into Reg Park Phase II. I’ve found that I need more sleep on this regimen but am still packing in a calorie surplus, and overall feel great. No real cardio these past two weeks, need to get some running in this week to burn off some fire. Game/Frame: B Had a night out with wife and friends on Friday, then took a fun day trip on Saturday with just my …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 07:03 PM
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I hear you and know that taking action on things like this is something I need to work on as well. I nearly went Rambo Nuclear about three months in but decided that I really wanted to wrap up this initial phase of my MAP before making that call. I have a specific timeframe tied to it and am focused and myself, not the relationship I happen to be in, so I’m not overly worried about the timeline. Yes, I’m missing out on the opportunity to spin plates in the mean time but I’ve come to terms with t…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 05:36 PM
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Initiating, yes. Getting laid, no. Wasting time in the relationship, probably. I have been waiting until a bunch of travel wraps up (will be done by the end of the year) to really make progress on the remaining portions of the MAP I created at the beginning of the year. I have become OI but want to take this approach before making any nuclear decision.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 01:09 AM
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OYS #21 Stats: 6’4” 204 BF 13% 35, no kids, together for 14 years total, married for 4. 11 months into improving. Lifting/Health/etc.: A After a week of travel with no lifting, some cardio via a sports tournament with some accompanying slight muscles tears, and a decent diet, I decided now was a good time to pivot in my program. Started this year with 6 months of 5x5 and went to Texas method for about 4 months, both with a good amount of ancillary lifts. I have done a deload and started Reg Park…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 12:36 PM
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OYS #20 Stats: 6’4” 206, BF 14%, 35, no kids, together for 14 years total, married for 4. 11 months into improving. Lifting/Health/etc.: A After doing recomp the first half of the year I switched over to a lean bulk. Starting to see weight/size gains but am keeping my BF in check. Hitting new PR’s on some lifts. Plan to start a new cycle soon with relatively higher weights for squat and DL given my recent 5 rep 1,000 lb club test (did 65 and 40 lbs above my program weights below). 5 rep working …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 06:52 PM
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Good insight. Thank you. I’ve been bad about avoiding conflict and my interpersonal goals aren’t really about her. I’ve used them as a barometer way to much. I am still mad though, very much so. I have been telling myself I’m over it but It isn’t exactly that. I think I just stopped putting in the effort of being a monkey and haven’t really become outcome independent. Need to set my goals better.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 12:52 AM
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I’ve acknowledged my marriage is over based on her actions. I’m running my MAP and practicing game in the meantime, with the goal of finishing my MAP before going nuclear. I’m being a faggot by not ending it now and being more firm about the boundaries. No doubt. It took me 8 months to stop the dancing monkey routine and start worrying only about myself/gain a full appreciation for being OI. Need a few more months to get all my shit together.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 10:44 PM
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Get yourself an app to track calories and protein intake.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 11:44 AM
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OYS #20 Stats: 6’4” 203, BF 14%, 35, no kids, together for 14 years total, married for 4. 11 months into improving. Lifting/Health/etc.: B Was on a vacation four days this past week. Got in some lifting the day before I left and the day I got back. Still missed a gym day though and didn’t visit a gym on the road or do any body weight stuff. Jumped right back into the program with no drop in weight so I was happy about that. Was able to keep my vacation “refeeding” in check and did a cold water o…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 11:39 AM
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You said the range is higher than your low budget $230k amount. I personally don’t like that tact of setting up a conversation down the road for a springboard raise. WHEN you are doing well then push for more as a result. Take the value now and don’t get underpaid compared to your new peers. I don’t know what other benefit could be on the table with this company but consider stock grants as part of the package.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 12:05 AM
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Calculated weight lifts?!? Don’t do that. Lift an amount an own it, then lift more. I don’t do 1RM lifts, I just post where I am with my 5 rep sets. Other guys post different working sets here. Imagine if this carries over into other areas. My calculated level of passing shit tests would be better if I didn’t have a hard day at work.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 11:51 PM
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I would recommend setting your protein at the right level and hit it everyday. I let the balance of carbs and fat deviate some, but make sure my total calories are correct.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 01:43 PM
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Have you asked your doctor or the ppl doing your T tests about your macros? I know you are recomping/losing weight but your macros seem high on protein and low on fat. You need fat to help T levels and only need 150 grams of protein a day at your size.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 12:07 PM
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OYS #19 Stats: 6’4” 203, BF 14%, 35, no kids, together for 14 years total, married for 4. 10 months into improving. Lifting/Health/etc.: A Had a good mix of fun sports and lifting over the past week. Have been working around a minor muscle pull but am still progressing on the program after my big PR day last week. Slowly starting work to stretching into my days not in the gym. Might find me a nice yoga class to join. Haven’t found a BJJ gym I like. Might look at the MMA or boxing gyms near me in…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 11:42 AM
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Good perspective, thanks. When I initiate strongly it eventually (rarely) pans out in the form starfish. That is negotiated duty sex and not desire, but I need to stop giving a fuck and just honor what I want.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 06:18 PM
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Thanks, need to set some new goals for my next cycle!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 09:48 AM
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It is pretty clear she doesn’t want to fuck. No fear of rejection here because I KNOW in advance it is coming. I’m just no longer interested in negotiating duty sex once every six months.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 09:27 AM
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I certainly want sex and am still practicing gaming her, but she won’t engage in anything beyond hugs and pecks. I am not going to try to push for sex as hard as I used to if she isn’t into it. I’ve got better things to do if that is the case and have gained more respect for myself than that. I’m not sure when I will initiate again. In reality, it’ll probably happen if I think she is responding to me but a part of me wants to wait to see if she full blown initiates. I’m guessing the right answer…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 11:52 AM
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OYS #18 Stats: 6’4” 203, BF 14%, 35, no kids, together for 14 years total, married for 4. 10 months into improving. Lifting/Health/etc.: A+ Started thinking about my goal of 5 rep sets for the “900 club” and how it was a month away per my program. Well, that was too far away. I went to the gym on Saturday with the intent of accelerating things and just knocking it out. After squatting 340x5 with relative ease I got real fired up and completed 400x5. Long story short, I broke the 1,000 lb club wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 08:45 AM
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Just joking about where he is likely carrying his fat
/r/askMRP14/10/19 06:09 PM
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Deload and keep on your current scheme to break through plateaus. I don’t think your lifts are heavy enough to go to 5/3/1 yet. I like Madcow better than 5/3/1 because you get more volume, then I do BBB on the muscles I’m not working on the Madcow days. Basically a fully body beating 3 days a week. As for cutting, just do maintenance calories while you are still in this new phase of lifting. You’ll still build some muscle and will lose some of that weight in your hips and tits haha. Then once yo…
/r/askMRP14/10/19 11:56 AM
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Thanks for taking the time and for the perspective. I was a dancing monkey for many months into this, and I’m still really driven by whether I’m getting sex or not so I focus on her too much. The past two weeks have made me look at this issue more closely. A lot of guys on her cite a date when they swallowed the pill but for me it has been more like how a snake eats it’s food. I know when I started seeing things differently, when I accepted some of it, and I’m just now starting to feel like the …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/19 03:56 PM
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The crime I committed was an “emotional affair” over a decade ago. My wife continues to bring it up occasionally ( a lot recently ) and is in the same mindset now as when it was going on. Limited trust and no intimacy. I’ve certainly tried to break that cycle but haven’t had any success.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 11:29 PM
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A little early to get locked down again with the lawyer? I know I wouldn’t jump into an exclusive but I haven’t been in that position yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 05:46 PM
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I change my style every couple of years but I get a hair cut every two weeks or so. Every two months to me just seems like trimming your nails every two weeks (too long if you eat enough protein).
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 04:55 PM
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OYS #17 Stats: 6’4” 201, BF 14%, 35, no kids, together for 14 years total, married for 4. 10 months into improving. Lifting/Health/etc.: A Picked up some pre-workout yesterday, haven’t ever used it but thought I’d give it a go. Felt great during lifting. More than a placebo, I think, haha! Goals 1. Initial consultation for my sleep apnea is today 2. Holding calories around 3,000 and am seeing weight gains slowly. Have lost my skinny fat and increased my weight by 5 lbs this year. Taking this goa…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 09:56 AM
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I’m probably do it all wrong myself but I think you laid a boundary where one was needed. Probably should have skipped the “want to bet” comment though.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 11:58 AM
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I’ve done all those validation seeking things in the past, but take the blowjob. Geez
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 11:47 AM
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OYS #16 Stats: 6’4” 199, BF 13%, 35, no kids, together for 14 years total, married for 4. 10 months into improving. Lifting/Health/etc.: A Working my way back up after last deload - started looking at where the program will have me in 4 weeks. Exited for some new PRs at that time but a lot of work between now and then. Madcow 5 rep working loads of squat 270, BP 255, DL 285, OHP 170, bent row 250, pull-ups at body weight plus 90. Goals Booked appointment for initial consultation for my sleep apn…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 11:41 AM
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Thanks for the perspective. Helps to hear it described in another way.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 06:09 PM
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I haven’t seen him since I noticed things going to far, and don’t want to do it via text. I’m not the least bit scared of this guy (I’ve actually TKO’d him multiple times while sparring years ago). I plan to confront next time I see him but haven’t gone out of my way to do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 06:07 PM
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Exactly. She has been trying to hamster it away as them just being friends. It happened because of how bad I let our relationship get. I’ve made sure the boundary here is clear. If it gets broken, it’s going to be a forrest fire. I haven’t confronted this guy yet, just cut off communication with him, but he was a friend who I hung out with frequently. Should stomp his ass but not going to make a new problem for myself. Aside from calling him out on the disrespect or just emasculating him in fron…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 01:02 PM
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OYS #15 Stats: 6’4” 198, BF 13%, 35, no kids, together for 14 years total, married for 4. 10 months into improving. Lifting/Health/etc.: A Working my way back up after last deload - Madcow 5 rep working loads of squat 270, BP 255, DL 275, OHP 165, bent row 250, pull-ups at body weight plus 80. I have been more consistent with arm and calve auxiliary work as of late. Goals -Decide on solution for my sleep apnea -Continue with increased calorie count to see better size increases -Get to “900 club”…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 11:32 AM
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You’re right.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/19 12:58 AM
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Also, N count of 1 currently, as far as I know, and does a poor job at adulting. Someone posted something about low N count recently. I’d say my experience is it can be a terrible thing if too low when you meet them.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/19 12:56 AM
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I’m assuming you are being sarcastic. Lol, still choosing to not close the deal on strange/poor batting average at home is making me put sex itself on a pedestal. The lack of sex messes with my head. I need to work on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 06:01 PM
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OYS #14 Stats: 6’4” 201, BF 13%, 35, no kids, together for 14 years total, married for 4. At RP for 9 months now, OYS posts more consistent as of late. Lifting/Health/etc.: A Working my way back up after last deload - Madcow 5 reo working loads of squat 255, BP 250, DL 275, OHP 165, bent row 240, pull-ups at body weight plus 80. Was sick a couple days this week but powered through it. Started adding probiotics and lions main to my protein shakes along with the existing creatine, ashwaganda root,…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 11:58 AM
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Yep, the stay plan/go plan is for non-cuck low drama situations. Be cordial but don’t be friends afterwards. She is just trying to keep her options open with you by the sound of it, just in case her branch swinging doesn’t work out.
/r/askMRP14/09/19 08:52 PM
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Good thought. As for killing the puppy, it has been a bunch of small things. Never as obvert as ILYBIANILWY. About 5 months ago she said she had stopped trying to make our relationship better and hasn’t seemed to start trying again at all, she doesn’t seem to care about other women hitting on me, when she doesn’t want to go do something with me she suggests that I “take someone else” though never specifies that it be a female, etc. I’m focusing on actions over words here but she hasn’t ever ment…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/19 12:45 AM
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OYS #13 Stats: 6’4” 195, BF 12%, 35, no kids, together for 14 years total, married for 4. At RP for 9 months now, OYS posts more consistent as of late. Lifting/Health/etc.: C Missed a day at the gym this past week due to the resort trip I set up. Did an extra cardio session to help make up for it. Game: D Still batting .000 over the past six weeks now. Tough to have any sort of intimacy when the weekday routine seems to be an hour or so of me handling an hour of shit tests when I get home follow…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/19 05:48 PM
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OYS #12 Stats: 6’4” 199, BF 14%, 35, no kids, together for 14 years total, married for 4. At RP for 9 months now, OYS posts more consistent as of late. Lifting/Health/etc.: B Deloading on bench, OHP, and some other lifts to hit new gains. Tried some preworkout samples this past week. Diet has been good but am dialing in on day to day swings for what my calorie count should be. It can’t be the same just because I lifted that day, or not, but needs to take into account whether I am doing other thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/19 01:16 AM
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That’s what I do. I alternate between heavy lifts and BBB sets on each muscle group each time I go. The accessory stuff changes here and there.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 05:32 PM
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Deload on your weights and start a new cycle, I always see gains from this. Change up accessory lifts too.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/19 06:57 PM
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OYS #11 Stats: 6’4” 199, BF 14%, 35, no kids, together for 14 years total, married for 4. At RP for 9 months now, OYS posts more consistent as of late. Lifting/Health/etc.: A, still seeing gains and have been consistent in light of doing a lot of other physical labor Working sets in Madcow with 5 rep max at OHP 175, bench 255, lat pulls at body weight + 75, bent row 255, 255 squat, 280 DL. Got over an injury and am doing some team sports again. Dialing in my diet further to focus on micro nutrie…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 06:31 PM
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Why are you buying second hand ratty gym clothes? You plan to be at this for a while, right?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/19 02:32 AM
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Spun plates well before her. Sex was great with all kinds of variety/enthusiasm for the first 7-8 years, and then I let things get really bad for far too long. I’m working my Plan for now. Currently working DL 8 and deciding when to move to 9. I was a whined and negotiated for sex for so long that I’m waiting for level 8 to build for long enough that it minimizes old memories of my past beta behavior. Would probably make us both throw up even thinking about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/19 12:30 AM
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OYS #10 9 months into it Stats: 6’4” 199, BF 14%, 35, no kids, together for 14 years total, married for 4. At RP for 8 months now, OYS posts more consistent as of late. Lifting/Health/etc.: A Working sets in Madcow with 5 rep max at OHP 175, bench 250, lat pulls at body weight + 70, bent row 250, 255 squat, 280 DL. Still haven’t settled on a martial art gym. Game: F Batting .000 over the past month now. Not due to lack of gaming effort, kino, 10 second kisses, etc. I’m an attractive guy with roo…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 06:20 PM
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OYS #9 Stats: 6’4” 199, BF 14%, 35, no kids, together for 14 years total, married for 4. At RP for 8 months now, OYS posts more consistent as of late. Lifting/Health/etc.: A Working sets in Madcow at OHP 175, bench 250, lat pulls at body weight + 70, bent row 250, 255 squat, 280 DL. I dropped down on squat and deadlift not because of a plateau but to work on my form some. My form on everything else is great but these two need some work. The other lifts are all at my best in a decade as of this w…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/19 03:37 AM
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I’ve been telling myself that for a while now, that it will ultimately be my rationale for why we get divorced. I let it get this bad though. Now I am working myself and seeing if I can bring this thing back from over the cliff. Just not going to pull the pin until I’ve made enough progress/given the rope enough time. Truth is I don’t think that it will ever be the same be the same but could be better in other ways, that’s the main reason I haven’t burned it down yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 08:20 PM
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OYS #8 Stats: 6’4” 198, BF 14%, 35, no kids, together for 14 years total, married for 4. Lifting/Health/etc.: B+ Back up to or at new bests 5 rep working sets at OHP 170, bench 245, lat pulls at body weight + 60, 295 squat, 320 DL. These are all moving up next week as well. I don’t want get ahead of myself but have started looking to move off Madcow at year end to change things up. Maybe a Reg Park or Ice Cream program. I dropped in on a BJJ/striking gym to see what they are about, still looking…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 05:04 PM
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You are right, it is. Ever try mentioning that you’ll get the need fulfilled elsewhere in a cool collected way? I guess it isn’t a deal breaker for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/19 05:30 AM
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You should be pinching your shoulders together when benching, this creates a natural “arch” or raise in your back. It supports your shoulders to prevent joint injury and is the proper form for power lifting.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/19 01:40 AM
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How are you communicating this need? Are you whining or just stating what you need from a marriage?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/19 06:09 PM
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Lift man, you sound skinny based on your stats.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/19 06:01 PM
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OYS #7 - going to post more than once a month in the future. Stats: 6’4” 200, BF 15%, 35, no kids, together for 14 years total, married for 4. Lifting/Health/etc.: Mostly back up to prior max lifts (but with more sets) after deloading post vacation and will be hitting new PRs next week. Reworking my workout plan. Been doing 5x5 and then madcow for 7 months now, along with good amount of ancillary work. Going to make off-day ancillary work for main muscle groups more focused on body building sets…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/19 11:10 PM
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Point taken. The most recent example was her making a statement I disagreed with (more sex if we get air conditioning, haha). I just told her that was ridiculous and moved on.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/19 06:38 PM
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Below 1,500 calories a day is going to mess with your hormone levels.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 01:17 AM
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I’m not sure how many days a week you run 5x5 but I always found it to be lacking upper body work at its base. I generally did 5x5 with ancillary lifts for upper body and added in Boring But Big sets for muscles not worked on that day (i.e. 5 sets of 10 at 70% of 1RM for chest on the days when 5x5 doesn’t call for it). Basically I do a fully body workout in an hour and a half every time I’m in the gym (three days a week). Below is an example from the chest day on 5x5. Before that, I will also sa…
/r/askMRP24/07/19 12:47 AM
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OYS #6 - several months in as I only post once a month or so. Stats: 6’4” 198, BF 13%, 35, no kids, together for 14 years total, married for 4. Lifting/Health/etc.: Been mostly on vacation over the past month. I found some local gyms when I could, brought a TRX along on most trips, and the trips were heavy on cardio activities (hiking, swimming, rowing, etc.). Didn’t lose much in strength because I kept my protein up and kept my calories in check over the course of a month of vacation as a cut c…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 04:00 AM
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OYS 5 Lifting: Madcow continues, gained a couple lbs of muscles since last post. Through my recomp and now the lean bulking is actually resulting in weight gain versus the steady weight I was seeing while appearance was improving. Probably have another 18 months before I will be back to where I should be. Game: keep day gaming to no results from the wife. I need to work on situations where I am getting IOI from others with her there if I’m going to progress. I know this is dancing monkey shit bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/19 12:42 AM
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Drop the monthly count, i learned that. Once you are fit and attractive, are holding frame, planning stuff, and are fun to be around the progression of dread starts upward. If you haven’t completed the basics of unfucking yourself the number of months you’ve kept the pill down doesn’t matter. After that, if you see the dread has no effect then the marriage is confirmed dead.
/r/askMRP30/05/19 05:50 PM
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OYS #4 Lifting: a couple new 5 rep PR’s via madcow for the past month. Doing 165 on OHP, 240 bench, weighted pull-ups with 35 lb weight for a really slow 5x8, and good accessory work. Was never a pull-up/machine or cable pull-down guy in any of my previous phases of lifting. I’m not the biggest I’ve ever been but my back work overall is relatively better than its ever been. Home: doing a lot of maintenance and new projects. Have a lot of travel planned this summer so want to spend this Memorial …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/19 04:40 AM
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Aside from grammar... point taken. Relationship is a mirror of my state. I’ve made a lot of progress but will always have additional work today, I’m of the mindset that there is always room to improve. I’m just struggling with thinking the rope will never tighten and I’m just wasting time.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/19 11:49 PM
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OYS #3 Stats 6’4”, 198, 14%, no kids, together 14 years Lifting - started a Madcow cycle and still don’t test 1RMs, but making progress none the less. Doing a lot of ancillary lifts on top of Madcow and know this weights are increasing/can just see it. Game/frame - I think the dancing monkey routine is over. I have been gaming the wife daily for the past two weeks. Initiating to varying degrees of soft and hard no’s depending on the feel of things. No butt hurt responses. However, last night the…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/19 06:55 PM
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Touché, I have only read some of your posts. I think the early ones. Thanks again for giving me perspective
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/19 01:08 AM
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Maybe a better question, why haven’t you ended your marriage? I’m struggling with this part.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 07:48 PM
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Maybe a better question, why haven’t you ended your marriage? I’m struggling with this part.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 07:48 PM
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I would say my deal breaker has been both lack of sex along with her shitty attitude, either one. The kid thing is not.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 07:34 PM
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Thanks Bill. Insightful as always. I think your approach of spinning plates and focusing on your outcome, while not ending the relationship is admirable. I just don’t see the point in maintaining the relationship if I don’t see any progress towards things changing. It would just cost me more in terms of life that could be spent more free/spinning plates (I don’t want to do that while married) and in terms of being further divorce rapped. What am I missing other than the opportunity to improve my…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 07:33 PM
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Stats: 6’4’’ 195, 14%, childless 35, together 14 years total, current 5x5 weights up to squat at 285, 315 DL, 160 OHP, 235 BP OYS #2 Lifting Making good progress Game/Frame Picked up a couple girls numbers while out this weekend. Honestly, it was almost by accident as these two were almost back to back trying to talk with me. One commented on my married status and said we could play around for a little while but that it wouldn’t turn into anything LT if I continued. Not looking for any of that a…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 04:13 AM
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OYS #1 You can see my basics on my first post to ASkMRP. Planned a weekend trip to a warmer place this past week. I had a fun time despite her not really wanting to go/complaining a bit. Still working on planning fun stuff to do together versus running off with my 10,000 foot rope doing things that she isn’t interested in or can’t participate in. Lifting is going well with a couple PR’s on my 5x5 and supplemental lifts. Had a couple friends and her comment about changes in appearance this past w…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/19 06:06 PM
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I needed this perspective, I was still too close. I had been a drunk captain for a while in many ways. Two weaknesses in my progress have been time to plan fun things to do and that I checked out without engaging her in the way I needed to. Other thing I didn’t mention but were obvious from the post is that she had withdrawn as well. No feelz but was also is not putting in the more basic effort outside of having sex. Paying more attention to social media than me, etc. I ultimately had a talk wit…
/r/askMRP18/03/19 02:04 PM
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The weekends and a day or two during the week is what I should have said.
/r/askMRP11/03/19 07:07 PM
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I would prefer kids but it isn’t a deal breaker for me. She works with at-risk kids all day at a non-profit and doesn’t want kids. I know there isn’t any unresolved trauma from her childhood. I think the rope isn’t fully taut yet, she hasn’t seen the changes for long enough for it to hit home that her dingy is getting left behind, or she is just trying to starve the puppy. I think your point about not putting in enough time yet is spot on. During the first couple of months I was lifting hard as …
/r/askMRP11/03/19 05:18 PM
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Thanks. That may be where this is headed. Not worried about the prescribed number of months anymore. The dread levels aren’t working and while I don’t think she is actually getting dick elsewhere she is covertly branch swinging and just doesn’t know it. Going to look more into the 1,000 foot rope topic mentioned and go with the approach of setting out what I want my relationship to look like. If that doesn’t work then... I may be back for some advise or will draw up papers. Appreciate everyone’s…
/r/askMRP11/03/19 06:13 AM
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Haha, the tension might be gone that way so we would have more fun. The sex would be about the same.
/r/askMRP11/03/19 06:08 AM
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Been working on being a better captain but am guilty of making demands/getting stuck in a cycle of working way too much. Work hours keeping me from being more fun and planning stuff to do is the biggest weakness in my MAP. Thanks for the reminder to focus on this
/r/askMRP11/03/19 06:06 AM
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Realized it wasn’t worth it but wanted to do the stay plan to see if it would work, while working on myself. OI at this point
/r/askMRP11/03/19 06:03 AM
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Good point, thank you
/r/askMRP11/03/19 06:01 AM
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