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grate314/r/seduction13/09/14 12:33 PM
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Yeah this, and keep in mind that true seduction isn't going to translate to the screen very well, besides the bedroom eyes. It's about more than looks, height, etc... It's an energy, I'm guessing Duchovny's got it.
/r/seduction15/08/25 09:54 PM
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Best advice? Don't try to go for sex. It sounds weird, but removing that agenda from your frame will reduce any anxiety a fair amount. You're there to have fun, focus on that. If you're attracted to someone, you will subconsciously communicate that to them. If they're attracted to you, they will as well. These are called IOIs, or indicator of interest. Touching her hair, laughing at your bad jokes, etc... Receive 3 or more of these, escalate. Go for a kiss, ask for her number, go to another loca…
/r/seduction08/11/24 01:26 PM
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I've been workshopping cold approaches in the field, trying to increase my comfort level. This frame is based on an old college buddy who was an annoyingly good natural. Like you I'm also tall and not terrible looking, so this should work. If you see someone you want to approach, try not to make eye contact at first. Be focused on your exercise, but not too serious. Try to look like you're enjoying yourself. Ignore everyone around you, but don't be a dick about it. You're there to lift, like eve…
/r/seduction29/06/24 11:39 AM
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Oh yeah, you gotta push past that. There are moments in the game where you essentially "level up". These are called sticking points. Places in a social interaction where you begin to feel uncomfortable. This is your survival instinct screaming at you to be safe. You are in no real danger. You can't get what you want, if you don't go for it.
/r/seduction16/06/24 02:47 PM
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I excel here. Techno parties aren't going to work. You want somewhere with a festival atmosphere. Like a street fair or a music venue. A place where there are young women open to an experience. You dress like you would have in highschool, if you'd been cool. The 90s are popular again. I rock a polo and some old Levi's with Vans. It doesn't really matter, you want to dress like a cool dad. This works for some reason. If you can bring a lot of confidence and share stories about what a big dork you…
/r/seduction16/06/24 12:17 PM
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I'm grate314, lol... Why would there be a huge backlash? I don't understand. Who would treat you poorly in your friend group? Don't sound like great friends to me...
/r/seduction04/06/24 06:54 PM
2

I'm pretty Aspy, so take this with a grain of salt. When I first started sarging solo, I would feel so uncomfortable. I would usually find someone who was also alone, but seemed relaxed. I would then simply find a spot and ape their body language. Fake it til you make it, homie.
/r/seduction03/06/24 01:41 PM
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I'm starting to realize that most people's movements are largely subconscious. I don't think girls are testing us, they just are the way they are. We're consciously controlling ourselves during social interactions and I believe this skews our thoughts into thinking that girls are as well. Most people have their little thoughts and follow their pathing, we're choosing to carve our own path. Being aware of that helps me not take things personally.
/r/seduction03/06/24 01:37 PM
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Lol...
/r/seduction03/06/24 01:33 PM
7

Short answer. It doesn't matter. You were honest and upfront about what you wanted. What she wants doesn't line up with that, so you moved on. No biggie, plenty of fish. She'll likely reach out again at some point
/r/seduction03/06/24 12:53 PM
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This. Also, it's so much better being a sigma male: https://www.feranoid.com/blogs/news/sigma-male
/r/seduction03/06/24 11:13 AM
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Yes! I find when I cold approach, my brain gets this big ol' dump of chemicals. It's like a heightened reality, anything can happen. It's a rush, dude. Glad to hear I'm not the only one. https://youtu.be/ElC7-v6UTms?feature=shared
/r/seduction01/06/24 11:17 AM
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It's a rush. Almost as good as doing stand-up
/r/seduction01/06/24 11:14 AM
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I just read your whole post, not just the short version. She's into you, dude. Go for it.
/r/seduction01/06/24 01:08 AM
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I believe it comes down to confidence. Attractive people are typically more confident. Confident people are okay with talking to others without worrying about what that person wants from them. People who are not confident are always on edge about what's going to happen, simply because they don't feel like they're in control of the situation.
/r/seduction31/05/24 12:30 PM
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That's an IOI, an indicator of interest. It's not flirting, really, just an opening. She's saying that she's receptive to you coming over and speaking to her.
/r/seduction26/05/24 12:07 PM
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Dude, yes. I'm a dad and happily married. Our kids are great, but a lot. I've accepted that I'm never getting laid again and it's like a super power.
/r/seduction24/05/24 07:17 PM
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Yeah, there's too many fish in the sea to string someone along.
/r/seduction09/05/24 01:46 PM
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Lol. You figured out how to be alpha on accident, by being alpha. Good job!
/r/seduction23/11/20 07:17 PM
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I knew I shouldn't have used a specific example... People can't help but lock onto specifics, human nature. Which is what we're really discussing here. I was trying to make a more general point: If one is an awesome person, outgoing and comfortable in their own skin they will do well in life, regardless of how they look. If one has the same great personality and really takes care of themselves, physically, they'll do even better. If both personality and looks are great then they'll do the best. …
/r/seduction07/01/20 04:06 PM
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No, girls average a guy's personality in with his looks. This is why pairings like Lyle Lovett and Julia Roberts happen. You could be dead ugly, but if you're confident and hilarious you'll get laid more often than not.
/r/seduction07/01/20 03:08 AM
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You're trying to get women to pursue a degree in Mechanical Engineering? Good luck... 🤣
/r/seduction10/11/19 12:14 PM
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Yes. Ask out another girl.
/r/seduction13/09/19 04:57 PM
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This is something that's going to require some legwork on your part. Trial and error, then recalibrate. Find what works for you. There really is no cookie cutter answer here. Sexually charged jokes require a lot of balancing between inappropriate and not quite over the line.
/r/seduction28/06/19 01:58 PM
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My takeaway is this. Achieving a goal will not bring you long term self-esteem. It will carry you for a bit, but eventually it will fade. Whether it's getting that promotion, finally putting up 400 on your squat, having sex with a bonafide 10, etc... If you can instead learn to enjoy the process and take esteem from working toward something, rather than accomplishing something, you'll be much happier overall.
/r/seduction24/05/19 04:55 PM
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Jim Carrey said, "I think everybody should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of so they can see that it's not the answer."
/r/seduction24/05/19 01:32 PM
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I just re-read the post, and I'm not seeing anything particularly dramatic. Could you point out what you're referring to?
/r/seduction09/05/19 04:47 PM
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You should read this post from u/BlueMachine89.
/r/seduction09/05/19 01:31 PM
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Think about it like this. It's a small change, but totally worth it if you can internalize. No one expects a happy feeling to be permanent. No one. We understand intrinsically that moments of happiness are just that. Moments. Fleeting. Meant to be cherished, but ultimately short-lived. Almost no one thinks of negative emotions in the same way, however, but it's just as true. None of this is permanent. Everything is temporary. Enjoy the good, when it's good and get through the bad, when it's bad.…
/r/seduction20/03/19 12:56 PM
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It is true. It's documented. I didn't give enough information earlier. LBD happens around the 6 month mark, not years into a relationship. Also, it's not about wanting sex, it's about initiating it. Of course women want sex, that much is obvious. Intiating sex, however, is another thing entirely.
/r/seduction06/02/19 08:15 PM
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There's that, but it's really much deeper. There are cultural, anthropological and biological forces at play here. Men, typically, have a much more intensive drive to mate than women do. This is mostly due to testosterone. Just found out about something interesting. Lesbian Bed Death. Once all the Oxytocin and other fun chemicals from falling in love wear off, there's no testosterone in the relationship to drive intimacy.
/r/seduction06/02/19 06:15 PM
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That's great, it really is. For me it was the wanting to sleep with them that caused the most panic. I've always been naturally outgoing. That idiot talking to everyone in line everywhere. The second I was attracted to a girl, however, complete shutdown. It was terrible. I read books, articles, websites, anything I could get my hands on. That fear never went away. That was until I forced myself to get out there, and realized there are hot girls that are just big dorks. Awesome.
/r/seduction22/01/19 08:12 PM
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Yes! The vast majority of people drawn to seddit are, IMO, guilty of overthinking, or intellectualizing. From Models: Intellectualizing – A popular one when it comes to men and dating advice. In fact, I guarantee that this is part of the reason you’re here: you have some sort of fear, anxiety or pain related to women, and instead of actually DOING something about it, you got online and decided to look up an answer that you could study.
/r/seduction22/01/19 11:52 AM
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What you need to do is seemingly simple, but actually very difficult to pull off. You'll have to remind yourself every time it happens, until you internalize it. You simply need to remove your ego from the equation using an extra layer of abstraction. Think of this scenario: there's a man standing in the middle of a mall/grocery store/college campus/insert public forum here and he's selling newspapers/credit cards/you get the idea. He tries to sell you his product and you politely decline/tell h…
/r/seduction18/01/19 08:14 PM
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This is something I've been thinking about a lot lately. I come from a pretty decent household, once my mom got sober, anyway. There were some rough patches, though. I started therapy when I was pretty young. Depression, anxiety, bipolar, you name it. I was lucky, however, to have several strong male role models in my early life. Anyway, I spent a ton of energy and effort on self-reflection when I was younger, and built a toolkit to help me navigate life. It's very interesting and helpful, IMO. …
/r/seduction19/12/18 12:13 PM
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That's funny, it has the opposite effect of me. It's almost an upper. I heard something recently... People find their drugs. If you can do cocaine and go to bed, you probably have ADHD. If you smoke and get really productive and chatty, you're probably depressed. Interesting.
/r/seduction05/11/18 02:18 PM
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I spent a lot of time smoking in my 20s, and what I slowly started to realize is that it makes being bored "okay". Sitting watching your roommate grind an RPG is pretty boring, but if you're high... "Hell yeah! Another iron dagger!" I realized that none of my friends were really living life, so I moved back home for a couple years, went back to school, and hit my 30s hard. That being said, there's nothing better to do when the wife is out with friends, the kids are in bed, than get high and make…
/r/seduction05/11/18 02:15 PM
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https://youtu.be/xa-4IAR_9Yw
/r/seduction30/10/18 05:04 PM
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Lol! Yeah, if you've got it, you've got it. Not all of us are classically handsome, though...
/r/seduction26/10/18 04:46 PM
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Yes, he means to work on your inner game and everything else will fall into place. Of course you can't meet women if you don't approach them.
/r/seduction26/10/18 01:06 PM
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Too true. I'm an Engineer. I dress like you'd expect. Thick glasses, plaid button-down, khakis... but I make it work.
/r/seduction11/08/18 03:39 AM
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A thing to consider is, "What is good-looking?" Most of us are not Brad Pitt, nor are we Moe Szyslak. We're somewhere in between. You can't really change your face, you can't really change your body-type, you can't really change your height, etc... What you can do, however, is make the best of what you've got. You're balding? Shave that shit. You're chubby? Try keto and hit the gym. You're short? Fuck it, get some cowboy boots and own that shit. Seriously, take care of yourself. Get a nice hairc…
/r/seduction11/08/18 01:48 AM
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I mean, most of us just get the banging a lot of girls part out of the way first, but yeah, that's the ultimate goal.
/r/seduction31/07/18 01:37 AM
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Read a book awhile ago. It was terrible, but the thesis was sound. It was called "Love Languages". Basically it says that different people show affection in 1 of 4 main ways. The biggest 2 are "talkers" and "doers". Me I'm a talker, and I love getting and giving compliments. My wife's a doer. It caused some friction early on, but we've figured it out.
/r/seduction25/07/18 11:06 AM
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Don't get her back, trust me, it isn't worth it. Move on. Move on completely. Don't think to yourself, "Oh, if I date girl B for awhile girl A will want me back!" Just date girl B for awhile, and enjoy her for her. Then date girl C, then D, etc... If girl A does happen to wander back in, enjoy it while it lasts, but move on. When you're ready for an actual relationship, you'll realize she's not the one for you.
/r/seduction24/07/18 08:00 PM
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Sure thing! Seriously, though, that weird old guy at the bus stop drinking a Bud Ice out of a sleeve, whoever's in line with you anywhere, police patrolmen just walking their beat, etc... You get it where I'm going, talk to everyone. Don't have an agenda. People are interesting, listen to their stories, make small talk. Will you still be nervous when you approach a pretty girl? Probably. That's a good thing, it means you're excited, but it won't be crippling. Good luck!
/r/seduction06/07/18 05:38 PM
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Start small. Go to the grocery store, shop if you need to or just grab some gum or a drink. Pick a line with a nice old lady cashier, grandmotherly. Talk to her. Old ladies love talking to young guys. It may sound stupid, but the more you practice talking to normal people, the better you'll get at talking to girls.
/r/seduction05/07/18 05:48 PM
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Physiologically, excitement and anxiety are the same. This video sums it up nicely: https://youtu.be/0SUTInEaQ3Q
/r/seduction04/07/18 11:58 AM
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I'll level with you. If your goal is same-night lays, don't change anything you're doing. You will, though, have to let go of the 'Why didn't this work?' mentality. Same-night lay is a numbers game. Approach as many women as you can until one says "YES!". Only a specific type of woman will be down for your particular brand, and you just need to plow through until you find one of those women. If you, however, want to know why a certain technique works on some nights/women and doesn't on others, y…
/r/seduction01/07/18 02:49 PM
1

Have you read Models yet?
/r/seduction01/07/18 01:47 PM
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Hahahaha! I've been married 5 years now, man. Separate bathrooms. I still fold the TP end into triangles, though. I just like it nice, now. Plus, my BR also serves as our guest BR when we have company.
/r/seduction02/06/18 02:54 PM
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That's next level. Quick question, how's your bathroom? In my opinion, the most important part of having a girl over to your place for the first time is that she is going to use your bathroom at some point during the evening. The state of a man's bathroom says a lot about his character to a woman. Thoughts?
/r/seduction02/06/18 12:35 PM
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This story made me think of the night my brother met his wife. She was new to the area and her cousin was in town visiting. She's hammered drunk and we're at a meat-market bar. They approach and she says (in a drunken New England accent), "Hey, we're taking a survey, are you guys Arkies?" (Pronounced Ah-keys). Anyway my brother starts chatting her up, I start chatting up her cousin (who's a 3-4). None of us go home together, but he got her number. The rest, they say, is history. Probably my best…
/r/seduction30/05/18 01:28 PM
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This made me think of Sims 3. Hug, hug, present, hug, kiss, marriage proposal. Lol, it's about right.
/r/seduction05/04/18 01:55 PM
1

Do you have any hobbies or interests that are a bit nerdy? Like board games, politics, sword fighting, etc... If so, you should try using Meetup. It's a great way to meet people with similar interests, and you can work on your basical social skills before moving to the next step. I don't really go any more, but board game meetups are a lot of fun. And there's usually mostly guys, so you won't be as nervous.
/r/seduction21/03/18 01:32 PM
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I think he might have meant it as, a supporting character who steals the show. Like Randy Marsh from South Park, for example.
/r/seduction19/03/18 09:03 PM
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It's simple. Have sex with both girls.
/r/seduction17/02/18 06:21 AM
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You don't, you just put speech on a different channel from your internal monologue. That way you don't have to think about it too much. Think instead about what you're saying is accomplishing, not what you're actually saying. That's what I do, but I already talk slow because I'm Southern.
/r/seduction24/01/18 02:34 AM
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That was an awesome comedic turn, I laughed.
/r/seduction13/01/18 01:38 PM
1

You just need a state change. Physically/chemically speaking anxiety and excitement are the exact same thing. I've been a performer my entire adult life. Plays, bands, etc... I always get butterflies before going onstage, it's my favorite part. I feel truly alive in that moment. It's great.
/r/seduction21/09/17 06:54 PM
1

Yeah, it's pretty simple. Just isolate her when you get the chance, make sure that she's on the same page as you and go for it. Make sure you have a condom. Losing the V-Card is something that we build up in our minds, but it really isn't that big of a deal.
/r/seduction31/03/17 07:13 PM
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Agreed. 5 messages is way too many, you should have a date arranged by that point.
/r/seduction03/03/17 03:30 PM
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Yeah, you should probably just hit the gym, maybe take a class at the community college, just get reinvigorated with life. Work on you.
/r/seduction16/01/17 04:48 PM
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I really think it's as simple as 'fake it til you make it'. You've yelled before, right? Tried to talk to your friend when you're at a loud concert, NASCAR, Shuttle Launch, etc...? RIP shuttle program... Anyway, just try to trick yourself into thinking, "It's loud in here, I should speak up." When your brain say, "Hey, you're yelling indoors, that's rude!" Ignore it. Be too loud for a bit. You'll find a balance eventually, but obviously your internal mechanism isn't working and you need to recal…
/r/seduction24/12/16 01:54 PM
1

I don't remember where I read it, but there was an excerpt from "The Game" where Neil Strauss talks about getting Brittney Spears' number. I remember thinking, "I gotta get this book!"
/r/seduction05/12/16 08:13 PM
1

http://soundcloud.com/larry-amos-jr/sets/dale-carnegie-how-to-win
/r/seduction31/12/15 03:54 AM
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Do you have a PDF of "Models"? "How to Win Friends and Influence People" is on SoundCloud BTW, I've been listening to it on my commute.
/r/seduction20/12/15 01:44 PM
1

Start small. Start very small. You need to get out of your comfort zone. Go to a public place and just ask people for the time, or something along those lines. Start with people who don't make you uncomfortable: men, old ladies, etc... Seriously, just start talking to people you don't know. Eventually, you'll figure out that people aren't scary, they're just people. Everyone's got a story.
/r/seduction17/12/15 12:06 PM
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I was actually thinking about this topic on the way to work today. On a Nerdist Podcast recently, I think it was the Shirley Manson one, Chris Hardwick was saying that Shyness is in fact a form of Narcissism. Which if you think about it, makes sense. It's this feeling that, "Everyone is looking at me. Everyone is judging me. I should make myself small and quiet." Now there's nothing wrong with being small and quiet, if you want to go about your life as a mousy person, that's your prerogative. Th…
/r/seduction16/10/15 01:14 PM
2

Well, it's that, internet dating, or dying alone. Pretty much it, unless you meet a nice girl at church or one of your grandma's friends granddaughters or something.
/r/seduction13/10/15 03:13 PM
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Just get married, then you never have to have sex again. Unless, of course, she wants a baby. Then you have lots of sex, then nothing.
/r/seduction19/02/15 10:28 PM
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I think pBeatman10 means that you should make any social interaction about the other person, not yourself.
/r/seduction12/12/14 07:51 PM
1

Whenever I have to call customer service of some sort, Bank, Xbox, etc... I always jot down the person's name. I pepper it through the conversation and always make sure to say, "Thank you for all the help 'name'," at the end. It makes the whole ordeal go much smoother.
/r/seduction12/12/14 07:49 PM
2

Stage play, the moment before you walk out on stage and are still in the wings is an amazing feeling.
/r/seduction08/12/14 05:25 PM
1

Hmm... I think you guys are confusing the words kind and nice. It's a common misnomer. I'm not a nice person, at all, I'm grumpy and mean. My wife is nice and happy. We work well together, however, because we are kind to one another. I don't make her feel bad for being a positive person, she doesn't make me feel bad for being a negative one. It's a good balance. She is better at handling all of the friends and family crap, and I'm better at handling the dirty work, calling the cable company, etc…
/r/seduction16/10/14 04:27 PM
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I don't follow... How so?
/r/seduction16/10/14 03:46 PM
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What he's saying is that you only get what you give. If you want someone who's kind and caring, that you can trust, you need to be someone kind and trustworthy. If you want someone only looking for a good time, be that. Life goes in stages, and after a tough break-up there's nothing better than getting out there and getting laid. Some guys are comfortable staying there. I was for years, but eventually I wanted something better, for me.
/r/seduction16/10/14 12:47 PM
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Just got WiFi sorted.
/r/seduction15/09/14 02:18 AM
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Yeah, but it's $2/Mb.
/r/seduction13/09/14 06:19 PM
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I'll be in Mexico, so no data...
/r/seduction13/09/14 06:02 PM
11

Seduction is a lifestyle, you're right, romance takes effort.
/r/seduction13/09/14 03:49 PM
5

It's real, I can't catch my breath right now...
/r/seduction13/09/14 03:48 PM
6

Thanks!
/r/seduction13/09/14 12:46 PM
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No, I'm 33. Ha!
/r/seduction13/09/14 12:45 PM
2

I just want to apologize, but I read this in Stuart Pritchett's voice, from 'Hello Ladies", I also wanted to say, good job! This is an unknown fact, but talking to girls is remarkable easy, and I'm glad you're setting out on your journey. I like to walk up to random groups of people and say weird stuff, like, "Do you guys like frakking Battlestar?!" I like to weed out non-nerds early, b/c I'm only interested in nerdy girls.
/r/seduction13/09/14 12:43 PM
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Sales is essentially conversations, really getting to know someone, then trying to get them to give you money.
/r/seduction09/08/14 09:57 PM
2

Religion and politics are my no-no's.
/r/seduction09/08/14 09:55 PM
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Haha, unless it's a coffee date!
/r/seduction09/08/14 09:54 PM
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Exposure, that's really the crux of it. I forget the number, but there are only so many personality types, 12 maybe? Anyway, after awhile, patterns will emerge, if you're analytical, which it sounds like you are, you will pick up on this. If you talk to enough people it becomes easier, you just stop caring about what other people think of you. If you like yourself other people will pick up on it. Unfortunately this is one of those Zen moments where the answer is the question, or something... I d…
/r/seduction09/08/14 09:52 PM
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