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Oh look! I found your ole fwb! What a coincidence 🤣🙄💀 https://www.reddit.com/r/meirl/comments/w8zx3m/meirl/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/seduction27/07/22 04:55 PM
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There are! It’s right up the road from Kennesaw State!
/r/seduction22/07/22 03:04 AM
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Kennesaw mountain would be a good spot to meet people, Stone Mountain park(more of a drive for you but it’s always busy, even during the week in the middle of the day), there are tons of places to go hiking or kayaking(there’s a nice place in Athens that’s super fun and the people there have always been friendly and laid back)
/r/seduction22/07/22 02:43 AM
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What kind of places are you looking for? Local bars? Clubs? What are some of your hobbies? Do you like the outdoors? If so, I def have recs for that type of thing!
/r/seduction22/07/22 02:34 AM
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Depends on how well you know the guy.. if it’s someone I’ve known a while making a self deprecating joke, I’ll laugh along or whatever. But if it’s someone I don’t know very well, it makes me uncomfortable and would definitely be a turn off. Especially if it’s about your looks or appearance 😬
/r/seduction22/07/22 02:15 AM
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I don’t live in Atlanta anymore but depending on your location, I might be able to suggest a couple spots. Are you from the Atlanta area? Are you staying in Dekalb?
/r/seduction22/07/22 02:09 AM
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If she wants to go to prison, yeah..
/r/seduction21/07/22 02:52 PM
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I def like the wingwoman part of this comment. A lot of women enjoy matchmaking. Every guy friend I’ve ever had, I’ve wingmanned for and hooked them all up at least once 🤣 now.. I don’t have the best success with longevity, but I have no issue helping guy friends get laid or start a fwb/fling situation.
/r/seduction21/07/22 04:05 AM
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Such a good and helpful answer. OP- it might take seeing a couple of different therapists before you find someone that you have a good rapport with! If you haven’t found seen improvement after seeing the same person for this long, maybe try someone new! And like Ram said above, YouTube has a ton of videos that can help you help yourself! You can even learn CBT and other coping techniques there. I think getting your depression under control is the most important thing for you right now. Put yours…
/r/seduction17/07/22 02:25 PM
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✨BULLSHIT✨ that last line about your “source of sex” has me rolling. That’s because your ‘source’ is your hand 🤡💀💀💀 I thoroughly enjoy reading your posts in my best Napoleon Dynamite voice. Actually.. Kip might be more appropriate🤔 I’ll have to remember that for your next one ✍🏼
/r/seduction16/07/22 10:56 PM
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This 💯 she probably gets hit on often at the gym so you’ll just be another one of THOSE guys. Long game, all the way.
/r/seduction14/07/22 05:45 PM
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Are you 12? Because you definitely sound it. I literally read your posts and comments in the Napoleon Dynamite voice 😂💀🤡🤡🤡
/r/seduction14/07/22 04:38 PM
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If that were the case you wouldn’t be posting on the internet for equally inexperienced and lonely men to validate you and give you an ego boost 😂😉 your post about “day game” literally had me rolling because it sounds like someone sat around and thought up a bullshit story to post for likes and pats on the back.. all your “I thought this and that and her ass was so round and tight”.. and your detailed play by plays were cringe worthy. It never happened. Go drool over fresh & fit some more and da…
/r/seduction14/07/22 04:35 PM
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You talk a big game and it’s absolutely comical because I’d bet money that you’ve never even pulled a girl. You’re a freaking fan boy for men that actually DO pull women 😂💀🤦🏼‍♀️ that says all we need to know 😬
/r/seduction14/07/22 04:22 PM
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Watch American Pie
/r/seduction14/07/22 05:48 AM
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Got any friends that would take pics for you? Have your friend snap some candids of you!
/r/seduction14/07/22 05:47 AM
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Online dating/apps aren’t designed for you to find someone. They’re designed to keep you on the app/site. I realize some people have success, but realistically these apps and sites are there to take your money. If you get in a relationship and delete the app, they lose your $. So, keep that in mind and try not to take every rejection to heart. I think finding other ways to meet women might be the best way to meet someone. There are plenty of single women that don’t do dating apps. And definitely…
/r/seduction14/07/22 05:44 AM
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Well, I’d chalk that last one up to her fucking it up. Doesn’t sound like anything you did. I wouldn’t go on a 7 hour road trip date unless I was really feeling the guy. So, you’re obviously good on that end. It sounds like she may have had feelings for a fwb or something and while she was into you and liked you, she was using you in an attempt to get him to commit while keeping you as a backup. (I just blew my own mind by figuring that shit out lol.. but that’s what I’d bet money on is what hap…
/r/seduction14/07/22 05:11 AM
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Looks are subjective. To one girl you may be extremely unattractive while her best friend could consider you hot af 🤷🏼‍♀️ people have different things they’re attracted to. Make sure you have good hygiene, wear clean and wrinkle free clothes, cologne. Try to stay well groomed. No nose hairs, ear hairs, neck hair..But def make sure you always smell good. Those things go a long way.
/r/seduction14/07/22 03:42 AM
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You sound like you’ve done a lot of work and seem to understand yourself very well. This is HUGE. Lol.. I’m not even kidding. It’s hard for most people, and especially men, to put forth the effort to analyze themselves enough to pinpoint or admit to a possible character flaw. The fact that you’ve already done this and are actively working on it says so much about the kind of person you are. It sounds like you’re also struggling with issues surrounding your self worth. You gotta flip this thought…
/r/seduction14/07/22 03:26 AM
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Would you like to elaborate on what you mean by your neediness and overcompensation? If you’d like to discuss it in depth, feel free to dm. And I will say this.. sex isn’t necessarily something you have to practice to be good at. When most men think about sex, they seem to automatically relate sex to ejaculation. Men are so focused on the end goal of getting off, that they miss out on the best part.. the lead up to getting off. The physical act of sex shouldn’t be so focused on ejaculation but m…
/r/seduction14/07/22 02:48 AM
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When a man I’m attracted to uses kino, I’ll respond. Here are a few reasons she may not be responding(these are based solely on my own experiences as a woman)... -she’s not interested -she’s not interested but she knows you fairly well and doesn’t want to make things weird for you/her -she respects you and doesn’t want to offend you or hurt your feelings -she’s nervous or anxious about the interaction
/r/seduction14/07/22 01:21 AM
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Yeah don’t try to get drunk and then fuck for the first time. That def won’t turn out like you’re thinking 😂😩
/r/seduction14/07/22 01:16 AM
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I’m prob gonna get downvoted first this but oh well.. if they’re hooking up with you on the 1st or 2nd date, they may not be looking for a relationship or to settle down. I’m not saying that in a slut shaming way either. From my own personal experience and my gfs, I realized I don’t enjoy sex with someone I don’t know very well. Mostly because it usually sucks 😂 you don’t know each other well enough and aren’t usually comfortable enough to communicate your turn ons and relax enough to fully enjo…
/r/seduction14/07/22 01:15 AM
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Probably not overall. Some people are attracted to people with tattoos so it would probably be the case in a situation like that. But, for the most part I don’t think it’s going to be a dealbreaker for most women if you don’t have any or aren’t into that.
/r/seduction14/07/22 01:02 AM
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Yass! Introverted men are my jam. Every guy I’ve ever “fallen for” was introverted. Also, I think there’s a BIG misconception about what dominance means on this sub. There’s a difference in dominance and assertiveness. Women like men that take the lead and are assertive but “dominance” can come off as abrasive and, dare I say it.. abusive 😬, if not done in the right context or situation. A “dominant” man that repeatedly talks over me or doesn’t value my opinion or doesn’t listen to me or respect…
/r/seduction14/07/22 12:56 AM
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I really love this response! Spot on. This post gives me the feeling OP could be coming off as obnoxious af and over the top trying to get girls attention and it’s not a good look. A “fuck/bad boy” wouldn’t come off as judgmental because the whole attitude of a FB/BB is that they just don’t give a fuck. If girls are saying all you care about is sex, it shows that you have nothing else going for you and nothing better to focus on. Yeah, sex is great but if that’s your main “vibe” and focus, you c…
/r/seduction14/07/22 12:39 AM
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Yep! If she’s attracted to you and interested, she will be up for it. I’m not saying don’t text her at all. But I think limiting text communication in the early stages is crucial if you want more of a chance at things progressing. Usually, there’s a limited emotional connection or excitement when it comes to texting. If you’re asking her a bunch of questions over text, you’re losing talking points you can use on the actual date.
/r/seduction13/07/22 02:05 AM
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I doubt that would be the case if she’s already agreed to go on a date with you and plans are all set.
/r/seduction13/07/22 01:46 AM
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I agree with this. You also have to accept that she may not even give af. Don’t expect her to chase you. Recognize your own self worth and walk away without any kind of expectation on the other person. You aren’t doing it FOR her, you’re doing it for YOU.
/r/seduction13/07/22 12:11 AM
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A million percent this. You’re building MORE tension and excitement by NOT texting her a lot beforehand. She’s probably thinking about you more because you aren’t blowing her phone up with dumb texts like every other guy. This is the way to intrigue a girl...
/r/seduction13/07/22 12:07 AM
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You don’t. Because that isn’t YOUR personality. It’s a fabricated personality. There are women out there that enjoy talking about politics, finance and history too! If you’re more introverted, you can try to make an effort to talk more but trying to overhaul your entire personality isn’t the way to go. And I’m sure you’re plenty funny around the right people or when you feel comfortable. Everyone has a sense of humor, maybe it’s just that sometimes not everyone understands yours. And that’s okay…
/r/seduction12/07/22 11:59 PM
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This sounds like a typical guy’s response to me lol.. guys can be a bit oblivious to women’s interest and sometimes even the overt behavior women use to show they’re attracted. Smile back next time you see her. You raising your eyebrows at her at was at least an acknowledgment that you saw her smile. And she may be thinking some of the very same things you posted here.. her hands may have been shaky when she made eye contact with YOU, she may have felt anxiety about the interaction. Girls experi…
/r/seduction12/07/22 09:41 PM
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And that’s why I think this subreddit can become very toxic and unhealthy, eventually causing more harm than good. Want my best piece of advice? DON’T overthink it. Don’t take every post or whatever to heart. Don’t believe everything you read on here. It’s the internet. I’d bet my life that more than half the “success/field report” posts are completely fabricated. Some of the advice men give other men to say or do is extremely cringe advice.. And I’m a married woman that stumbled over months ago…
/r/seduction12/07/22 09:01 PM
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I fucking cackled 😂💀
/r/seduction12/07/22 08:50 PM
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Dm me. I’ll give you my perspective 🙂
/r/seduction12/07/22 04:37 AM
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Don’t. This would make me feel uncomfortable because I’d automatically feel like you were fishing for me to validate you in some way.. “oh.. stop! You aren’t THAT short”.. or it would make me feel put on the spot to react a certain way. Self depreciation is funny when it’s someone that you’re already acquainted with. If you cold approach a girl and make a joke about your height, she’s likely not going to find it amusing or entertaining. And the thought of someone approaching me and doing this gi…
/r/seduction12/07/22 04:35 AM
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I don’t think this is so black and white. Some people feel an instant attraction to another person and will immediately show signs of interest while another person may feel that same instant attraction and not show it outwardly. Some women are shy, less confident, anxious.. it all depends on the person and the situation at hand. There are also different levels of attraction. While she may feel immediate attraction towards your physical appearance, you might open your mouth and sound dumb as rock…
/r/seduction11/07/22 04:39 PM
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That’s YOUR experience. Doesn’t mean that’s the standard. Like I said, looks are subjective. Obviously you don’t know what that means.
/r/seduction08/07/22 02:56 PM
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Gotta crawl before you can walk 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/seduction08/07/22 04:04 AM
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Very well said. Confidence is key. And I like that you emphasized KIND. A man that shows compassion and kindness isn’t a bad thing. It’s extremely attractive and for me personally, has always been a huge turn on. The “bad boy” types literally disgust me to my core. That’s not even a little bit impressive or exciting to me.
/r/seduction07/07/22 09:04 PM
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Looks are subjective and my appearance has nothing to do with what’s being discussed here. Just trying to add a woman’s/my personal perspective on things. Take it or leave it.
/r/seduction07/07/22 08:54 PM
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You said y’all were both trying to hookup with her so that probably made your friend think it was just a sexual thing. Did you ever at any point communicate to your friend that you liked this girl enough to consider seeing her as something more than a hookup? It sounds like a miscommunication more than your friend trying to be an asshole and swoop in on your girl.
/r/seduction07/07/22 08:35 PM
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You sounded pretty bitter and angry, so yep. I originally typed out a response along the lines of “I bet you’ll be posting in here asking for advice a year from now” and decided before I posted to check your post history. And lo and behold! 😆.. I was actually shocked that it’s something you’ve struggled with that long. Probably because of your inability to listen to women. 🤷🏼‍♀️ you don’t want to hear what women want or like, you don’t care what women want or like- you just want someone to agree…
/r/seduction07/07/22 08:23 PM
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Who hurt you lol 😂 you’ve been posting in this subreddit for FOUR YEARS, my dude. Maybe it’s time you take a woman’s advice..
/r/seduction07/07/22 08:09 PM
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And I’ve got no skin in the game. I’m happily married. And you aren’t helping other guys either by using blanket statements about an entire group of people. My husband is a “nice guy”... he’s a gentleman, he’s reserved and quiet. That’s what turned me on about him too. The challenge of pulling him out of his shell and getting to know him because he intrigued the fuck out of me. There ARE women that are into the good guys and to try and say there aren’t because you feel inferior to “the Chads” an…
/r/seduction07/07/22 07:23 PM
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I’m sure it works with some women. The ones that don’t have any other options and have nothing going on in their life. 🤷🏼‍♀️ if that’s what you’re after or all you can get interested in you, use whatever works.
/r/seduction07/07/22 07:13 PM
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I didn’t say it wouldn’t work. I said that I could see this working to temporarily gain a girl’s interest. I’m sure it works great on girls that don’t have much going on in their own life, or girls that don’t have a lot of options or other men wanting or trying to talk to them. Which is WHY it would work. But is that the kind of girl you’re looking for? Someone that sits around staring at her phone screen waiting on you to text her back? 😬 probably not. A woman that’s got her own social life and…
/r/seduction07/07/22 07:12 PM
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Yeah...wouldn’t take advice from a guy that uses his sisters and mom’s dating experiences as a guide for how to pick up women. Just saying 😆😬
/r/seduction07/07/22 06:58 PM
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Nothing wrong with that!! A lot of guys are so uptight about the way they’re perceived by women(and even other men) that they end up coming off as boring and probably get looked over because of that. Be yourself. If she doesn’t like that, it wouldn’t ever work anyways.
/r/seduction07/07/22 06:48 PM
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Very true! Our bodies work very differently than a man’s. It takes a lot longer to get us fully turned on and “raring to go” and most men don’t have the knowledge or patience to get us there before sex even gets started. And doing it the same way every time is boring af.. especially if we aren’t getting anything out of it.
/r/seduction07/07/22 06:46 PM
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THIS!!!! For me anyways.. if a guy can turn on my mind.. my body will quickly follow suit. 🤓 most men aren’t into talk and especially about deep stuff. So when a guy IS into that, it’s a huge turn on. 🥵
/r/seduction07/07/22 06:43 PM
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Start by realizing that sex and sexuality are completely natural and part of life. Without it, no one would be here. It’s no more “wrong” than eating when you’re hungry or taking a shit. There’s no right or wrong way to be sexual as long as you’re respecting the other person/people. Being overtly sexual CAN be VERY creepy. The best advice is to make sure that whoever you’re trying to get sexual with, is open to the idea and is reciprocating your energy. If she’s flirtatious and touchy with you, …
/r/seduction07/07/22 06:36 PM
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Is she getting off when you hook up? Are you SURE she’s getting off? It’s common for younger, more inexperienced women to say they came when they didn’t and if a guy isn’t very experienced, he won’t be able to tell the difference. That could explain her disinterest and rushing to get it over with.
/r/seduction07/07/22 06:28 PM
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Cut her loose and don’t look back. If she wanted to be with you, she wouldn’t be fucking around with other guys. It sounds like you have deeper feelings and are more attached than she is and that situation is only going to lead to disappointment and heartache on your end.
/r/seduction07/07/22 06:21 PM
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I could see this working temporarily. She will be thinking about you that evening but if she has any life at all, she likely not going to be sitting around on pins and needles waiting for your response. I don’t think this trick is something that will MAKE a girl like you or be overly interested in you. Especially if your follow up question isn’t very engaging or thought provoking.
/r/seduction07/07/22 06:16 PM
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More like the poonani code 😹
/r/seduction07/07/22 09:34 AM
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I use handsome to describe a more distinguished looking guy.. you know- good looking, well groomed, well dressed, carries himself with confidence and is self assured.
/r/seduction07/07/22 03:18 AM
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I have. And those situations were always difficult because I had enormous amounts of guilt that I didn’t share the same feelings. It hurt me to know that I was unintentionally hurting someone that I cared about and valued and enjoyed having in my life. Some of those guy friends eventually got past it, some didn’t. Overall, I still talk with them here and there and have never been on bad terms because of it. I still have crazy respect and love for all of them too. I’ve also been on the receiving …
/r/seduction06/07/22 12:51 AM
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They were genuine friends. It was a regular friendship before and there was never really an indication of them wanting or hoping for a sexual encounter on their end. Not that I ever picked up on anyways.
/r/seduction06/07/22 12:43 AM
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Disclaimer- I’m a woman.. the only guys I ever considered for a fwb situation were guys that were already my really good friends. Someone I was comfortable around, could vibe with and shoot the shit with. I never went looking for a fwb but the situation transpired sort of organically a few times and the sex was always hot bc it was with someone I already had a good amount of trust and respect for and visa versa. Now looking back, I dk how much work was put in on their end to make that happen lol…
/r/seduction05/07/22 10:49 PM
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Yes! Definitely call her. And sooner rather than later. Just be chill about it and don’t inquire about her not texting back. Keep the call light and short and ask her out on a specific day/time and see what she says! And a board game meet up sounds fun af! How did you find something like that? Lol.. I wanna find a board game meet up!
/r/seduction05/07/22 07:47 PM
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Hard to say. It may not even be anything you did or didn’t do. Maybe she will still respond. Maybe not. Do you have social media? Is it public? As in, can anyone see your posts, friends, people you follow, etc?
/r/seduction05/07/22 07:25 PM
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Sounds like you need to find someone that doesn’t have kids. That’s not exactly something you can compromise on.
/r/seduction25/03/22 04:40 PM
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You are thinking about it from a male perspective. Most women NEED that emotional/mental connection to be attracted to someone. Men are more visual and physical when it comes to attraction. I think obviously if a guy is conventionally attractive it helps his chances with women, however men with emotional, mental and SPIRITUAL intelligence will win out for me every single time. If I can connect with a man in those ways, his looks are secondary and much less important to me.
/r/seduction14/03/22 06:04 PM
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You aren’t a child anymore and obviously she’s a predator that’s into children.
/r/seduction12/03/22 03:30 AM
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Maybe he’s just comfortable with his body. It is his house and all... I walk around in my underwear at home and am not weird about that sort of thing.
/r/seduction10/03/22 09:56 PM
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?
/r/seduction26/02/22 03:35 AM
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Hmmm.. I don’t think your name has anything to do with your appearance. However, I do believe that every name has a certain vibrational energy and can express similarly in people’s lives. Have you ever noticed similarities(personality traits etc) between people that have the same name? Also, this is deeply rooted in numerology! Very interesting stuff! 🙃
/r/seduction26/02/22 03:02 AM
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This one is tricky because it’s hard to know whether she’s suggesting doing stuff with friends because she will feel for confident/comfortable around you while y’all get to know each other or if that’s her way of friend zoning you. My suggestion would be to continue being friends with her but not actively pursue her. Do the group hangout and see what happens but don’t put all your energy into this girl.
/r/seduction24/02/22 05:32 PM
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Not necessarily. Some people are more sensitive to drugs and alcohol. If I have more than two or three drinks I spend at least 2 days feeling like shit. Only takes a few hits of weed to get me geeked. But if this guy has an actual cocaine habit, that’s probably why it’s happening.
/r/seduction22/02/22 04:06 PM
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I’ve heard some really good things about micro-dosing psilocybin mushrooms!
/r/seduction22/02/22 03:30 PM
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Drinking and drugs definitely lowers your vibration. That’s why you’re struggling with meditation afterwards. I think the best way to do this would be to go to clubs with friends that aren’t drinking as heavy or partying so hard. If you’re looking for people to talk to/get to know, people watch and find women that seem relatively sober.
/r/seduction22/02/22 03:29 PM
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Sounds like she isn’t interested in dating you but enjoys her friendship with you and doesn’t want to lose that.
/r/seduction22/02/22 05:30 AM
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Ohh vent to me! I’m a good advice giver 😜 and I can look at your astrology chart and tell you what’s happening 🙃
/r/seduction22/02/22 04:19 AM
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Prefacing this by stating that I’m a heterosexual female that frequents this subreddit out of curiosity. I think there are a few things but the most important trait that makes a not so good looking guy attractive is his ability to hold a conversation with me. Women like to talk and we love it when someone engages with us and it’s coming from a genuine place. A few other things I find attractive that have nothing to do with looks- -A man that is interested in other people’s lives. The kind of guy…
/r/seduction12/02/22 10:42 PM
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I totally agree! But I think there’s a difference in having enough self awareness to understand how others see you, and using sex/women for validation. I also think that when we allow other people to define us(our looks, our worth/value, etc) it can lead us into a vicious cycle of people pleasing and approval seeking.
/r/seduction12/02/22 07:37 PM
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Oh honey 💗 this hurt my mama heart. The only person that can validate you is YOU. Don’t rely on anyone else to determine your worth.
/r/seduction12/02/22 06:53 PM
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Sounds like she took something and it kicked in while you were chatting. If her pupils stayed constricted, I’d bet that she’s on some sort of opioid medication and that is why it happened.
/r/seduction12/02/22 05:23 PM
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No, bc that post nut clarity be hitting.
/r/seduction12/02/22 05:12 PM
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You have a really good imagination
/r/seduction12/02/22 04:53 PM
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Lol.. this is true. 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/seduction09/02/22 01:52 AM
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I’m sure you’re fine. If you were nowhere near cumming when you pulled out, I wouldn’t worry too much. But I would recommend getting an std check.
/r/seduction09/02/22 12:18 AM
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Sounds like she wanted to see your apartment that night lol I don’t think it’s too forward to invite her for a cooking/home date considering you have mutual friends.
/r/seduction08/02/22 10:28 PM
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This! I’ve given hairstyle advice and fashion advice to my male friends. Not in a condescending way at all but more like suggesting what I think would better suit their face shape/style/personality.
/r/seduction08/02/22 07:38 PM
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Being approached in this type of situation would make me extremely nervous.
/r/seduction08/02/22 07:37 PM
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My thinking it was a scam has nothing to do with the Kinsey scale. I was just concerned for OPs safety because I could see some sick person using this as a ploy to lure someone in and rob/hurt them.
/r/seduction08/02/22 07:13 PM
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Those examples don’t sound creepy at all! 🙂
/r/seduction08/02/22 05:11 PM
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True. You aren’t wrong. Initial attraction is usually based on looks/physical appearance. With my ex, we talked online for a few months and on the phone for a few weeks before meeting. So I already vibed with him and liked his personality, sense of humor and the way we interacted together. When we met, we just clicked and the fact that I felt comfortable around him was what made me like him so much.
/r/seduction08/02/22 04:28 AM
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Ok this is true lol he has the patience of a saint for putting up with my needy ass 😂🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/seduction08/02/22 04:14 AM
1

I was in a serious relationship with a guy that was “fat” for 5 years. And he was fat when I met him(for the record)
/r/seduction08/02/22 04:10 AM
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That’s awesome! I say go for it then!
/r/seduction08/02/22 03:18 AM
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I’d honestly be cautious about this being some sort of scam. Make sure you share your location with someone you trust that can keep an eye on you while you’re meeting this person.
/r/seduction08/02/22 03:12 AM
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Depends on the girl. Some girls are really materialistic and care about that kind of thing. I’ve dated guys that drove piece of shit cars where the window won’t roll up and I got rained on 😂, one guy had a Monte Carlo ss with 20” chrome wheels and low pro tires, another guy drove a 1970ish? corvette, jacked up pickup trucks. I never really cared very much bc idgaf about cars 🤷🏼‍♀️ If you’re going to buy a car, buy it because YOU like it. That’s a shit ton of money to spend so just make sure it’s…
/r/seduction08/02/22 02:52 AM
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I think a lot of the people on this forum are already discouraged and frustrated. I guess I was trying to put a positive spin on it so that those guys sitting there already feeling frustrated and struggling with low self esteem/insecure about their looks, won’t feel even more hopeless about women finding them attractive. I was trying to put it into perspective for people that aren’t “conventionally attractive” because personality and life goals plays a big role in attracting a mate. I’ve talked …
/r/seduction08/02/22 02:17 AM
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Attractive to who? Attractiveness is subjective. There’s physical attraction and emotional attraction, sexual, romantic...Biologically speaking, people aren’t only considering physical attraction when choosing a mate.
/r/seduction08/02/22 01:57 AM
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If it’s a girl you know fairly well, I’d imagine she didn’t really respond because maybe she’s shy or didn’t know how to react.
/r/seduction08/02/22 01:50 AM
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Compliments coming from other women aren’t intimidating. When coming from a man, it puts us on the spot and we have to consider how to respond because the compliment is coming from a stranger. If the guy has commented on my ass like in the example above, I’m not even going to waste my time responding because it makes me think 1.) He does this all the time... 2.) That all he is looking for is someone that’s desperate enough to be flattered by that type of comment
/r/seduction08/02/22 01:45 AM
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No, there are plenty of women that pursue men based on their body type. You are obviously right about that. However, I don’t think someone’s physical appearance is the main determining factor in how receptive women will be to you.
/r/seduction08/02/22 01:26 AM
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Some of the most valuable I’ve ever been given is this- it’s not my business what other people think of me. When you get to the point where you realize that other people’s thoughts and opinions of you DO NOT DEFINE YOU, you’ll level up.
/r/seduction08/02/22 12:45 AM
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That’s actually really interesting! Maybe they see you as someone that’s knowledgeable about health and fitness and value your opinion and advice! I can definitely see that!
/r/seduction08/02/22 12:32 AM
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You really think women will approach you based on your body fat percent? Where are you getting these statistics from? As a woman, I can safely say this is something that has never once crossed my mind when talking to a guy lol.. Editing to add- I think it’s awesome you are encouraging people to get healthy and giving them resources and advice. I’m a fan of intermittent fasting and I have seen and experienced results from it! I apologize if my comment came off snobby at all. That wasn’t at all ho…
/r/seduction08/02/22 12:27 AM
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I’m a girl btw. It sounds like a normal friendship to me. If he told you he didn’t feel the same, I would respect that. If he’s into you like that, he will let you know since he already knows how you feel about him. By normal friendship I’m meaning, the compliments and daily life stuff, asking your opinion about things.. sounds like he respects and values you and that’s why he trusts you enough to ask things like that.
/r/seduction08/02/22 12:11 AM
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My husband is highly logical and I am sort of the opposite. I think it depends on the way you communicate though. I’ve known people that are logical and super intelligent but they communicate like they’re talking down to people and it’s off putting. If you can still maintain a conversation and be open minded, while being logical, I don’t think it’s something that would prevent you from connecting with someone emotionally. You’ll eventually find someone that balances that out. For example, I’m th…
/r/seduction08/02/22 12:07 AM
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I think you have to realize that everyone struggles with self confidence issues at some point, everyone gets nervous or has social anxiety sometimes. Instead of getting wrapped up in your head about talking to a girl, first work on talking to all kinds of people. Attractive women, attractive men, people that you aren’t at all attracted to.. this will help you become more comfortable with socially interacting with people in general, which will help you feel more confident when talking to attracti…
/r/seduction07/02/22 11:55 PM
1

I wouldn’t try to initiate sex yet. I’m a girl, so obviously my advice will differ from some of the men here. It’s hard to tell a person when to start to take things to the next level because a lot of things factor in to how she’s going to respond to you. If she wants to do it, you’ll know it. But with that said, I personally have gone out with guys(that I’ve been really into) and had them try to sleep with me on the 2nd date and it turned me off completely. It made me feel like our goals weren’…
/r/seduction07/02/22 11:45 PM
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I would think it’s possibly something to do with meeting them in a bar or pub. They are probably intoxicated to some degree when you meet them and the next day or whenever you call or text, they’ve sobered up and their memory may even be fuzzy on who you even are.
/r/seduction07/02/22 11:35 PM
1

This! Life is a boomerang!
/r/seduction07/02/22 08:13 PM
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If your gym has any kind of group fitness classes, take those. The women that attend these regularly will adopt you under their wing. I was a member of a gym and attended their group fitness classes and small personal training groups. The men that attended regularly were always the life of the party/center of attention and the women would make a point to engage them so they felt comfortable.
/r/seduction06/02/22 09:24 PM
7

Nothing is impossible. There are plenty of beautiful women that would see your value and want a relationship with you. But beauty is subjective, so what’s beautiful to you might not be to them.
/r/seduction06/02/22 07:02 PM
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This is a really good reply, OP. It shows that you have standards and your own morals that you stick to.
/r/seduction06/02/22 06:55 PM
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Move on and keep your options open. Not trying to sound judgmental at all, but from a girl’s perspective- bringing home a stranger from the pool hall to sleep at your apartment while actively talking to another man/pursuing a relationship with another man, isn’t necessarily common. I would consider this a red flag.
/r/seduction06/02/22 06:54 PM
1

Tell her that you enjoyed spending time with her and would like to see her again if she would be up for it sometime.
/r/seduction06/02/22 06:49 PM
1

Back off. Red flag. That’s not healthy behavior or normal for someone to act that way towards a person they barely know. Unless she’s somehow mad at you about something and isn’t communicating it to you. But even if that were the case, she’s not handling it in a healthy way and her reaction is still a red flag. Proceed with caution ⚠️
/r/seduction06/02/22 06:36 PM
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Prefacing this by letting you know I’m a woman, so take my advice with that in mind 🙂 It doesn’t sound like you really did anything “wrong” to me. She was obviously into you if you made it to a 4th date and she let you around her kids. Something is probably going on in her personal life and the reason you haven’t heard from her has nothing to do with you. Some people are anxious avoidant when it comes to getting close to someone. I’ve known many people like this and it’s actually really common. …
/r/seduction06/02/22 06:32 PM
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*when
/r/seduction06/02/22 03:14 AM
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I’d recommend working on your self awareness and social skills first. You seem a bit inept.
/r/seduction06/02/22 03:11 AM
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What makes you think there won’t be competition? Just because she’s obese? How do you even know she’s single?
/r/seduction06/02/22 03:05 AM
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Lol that’s actually not a bad idea though 🤔
/r/seduction06/02/22 01:43 AM
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I cackled 😆
/r/seduction06/02/22 01:18 AM
1

Start singing Time After Time by Cyndi Lauper 🤣
/r/seduction05/02/22 10:31 AM
3

Not a guy, or black, but I follow this black guy’s YouTube channel. Your description of smooth and educated describes him very well. I’m friends with him on Facebook and follow him on Instagram because he posts a lot of really inspiring content. He goes live on FB quite a bit, or he use to. Find him on Facebook and add him as a friend. https://youtu.be/eYfTE2S-Y-M Also, Sevan Bomar. I could listen to that man talk for hours because his intelligence completely mesmerizes me. https://youtu.be/XfhN…
/r/seduction05/02/22 10:22 AM
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Ghosting is such an asshole move. Damn.. if you don’t like somebody you can explain it kindly and move on, takes 5 minutes. 🤦🏼‍♀️ sorry she hasn’t respond. Don’t take it personally though! If you had a good date and made out and she even told you she wanted to see you again and texted you that night after making it home and then ghosted you the next day, it likely has nothing to do with you at all. Sounds like you did everything right.
/r/seduction05/02/22 12:22 AM
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I love your positivity! This is awesome! And it sounds like you didn’t do anything wrong at all! She has a boyfriend so there’s your answer lol If she was single I’m sure it would have gone in the direction you were hoping for.
/r/seduction04/02/22 11:11 PM
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I’m a girl! Hopefully that doesn’t change how you interpret my advice too much. But nevertheless, you did great! You sound like a really cool guy and having that no pressure, chill attitude is what’s gonna get you somewhere 🙂 I bet she still went home thinking about you and was impressed with how you handled the situation and still wanted to be nice and finish out the date and be friends. That says a lot about your character! If I were her I would’ve probably already told my single girlfriends a…
/r/seduction04/02/22 10:26 PM
2

The hand holding trick is adorable! I love that! How was the vibe leading up to you trying to hold her hand? It sounds like a super casual interaction so it may not be as well received just based on that. If there’s obvious flirting and a good flow going, I think that’s the perfect opportunity and way to get her to hold your hand though! Stay in touch with her. Maybe she has a friend she can hook you up with 😉
/r/seduction04/02/22 10:03 PM
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If you want you can send me screenshots of your convos like this and I can help offer suggestions about your replies. What is the context with this convo? Were you talking for a bit? You said you were playing 2 truths and a lie, did you ask her a ton of questions leading up to this last one about the border?
/r/seduction04/02/22 09:54 PM
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Fuck yes you can! I love that lol.. and yes, I do believe in aliens 👽
/r/seduction04/02/22 09:47 PM
1

Self discipline is hard for some people no matter how much effort they put in. I am one of those people. I have horrible ADD and this is extremely common for people that are neurodivergent.
/r/seduction04/02/22 09:41 PM
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This is really good! Also wanted to add- don’t be on your phone. This is so obnoxiously common for people. You’d think it would be common sense but apparently it isn’t 🥴 AND don’t talk about yourself boastfully. A lot of men do this when they feeling uncomfortable and it’s not attractive. Don’t say thing like “I’m not like other guys”. Those have always been immediate turn offs for me.
/r/seduction04/02/22 09:32 PM
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Because if a guy asks for snap it’s usually to send an unsolicited dick pic lol.. it comes off as someone that’s really only looking for a hookup. If that’s the case, maybe somehow find a way to imply it or let her know before asking for her snap.
/r/seduction04/02/22 09:27 PM
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Instant as in you walk up and talk to her and immediately go on a date? If so, then it would make sense for you to at least offer to pay.
/r/seduction04/02/22 09:22 PM
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You sound similar to my husband. He has great social skills but when we first met and for the first week or so that we were talking his already chill personality was SUPER chill lol.. like he talked but I had to pull some of the conversation out of him. He was nervous around me(I couldn’t tell that btw). There are girls out there that are persistent if they like a guy and he’s not picking up on the signals. It’s so common with men. You guys are so in your own world that you don’t notice women ch…
/r/seduction04/02/22 09:14 PM
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That sounds like a really fun first date! Just be yourself. She’s probably worrying and nervous the same as you so just keep that in the back of your mind from the beginning. Be polite, open the car door for her, smile a lot(in a natural way lol), make eye contact, try to hold her hand. Be interested in whatever she’s talking about or at least try to seem like you are. I don’t think it would be too forward to kiss her since you’ve been talking quite a bit. I wouldn’t try to suck her face, maybe …
/r/seduction04/02/22 09:05 PM
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My intention would never be to give bad advice or to lead someone in the wrong direction. Maybe I shouldn’t be commenting here. I stumbled on the forum not realizing it was a sub for men and went down a rabbit hole after reading some of the posts here. I genuinely care about people, probably a little too much and I get invested in wanting to make a positive difference. I’ve been with men that had sexual/intimacy/confidence issues. I would never want to have a negative affect on someone’s confide…
/r/seduction04/02/22 04:29 PM
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Oh nonverbal communication is so powerful! And it’s amazing when you’re in a situation with someone and have an unspoken sexual vibe with them. The tension, the eye contact, skin touching, sitting close enough to feel them breathing and it getting faster because they’re aroused by you being so close. I’ve been around a decent amount of men that don’t always notice a girl’s energy and when she’s not feeling it. And I don’t think it’s on purpose either. A lot of men have complicated relationships …
/r/seduction04/02/22 03:54 PM
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Respond saying something like, “would you like it to be a date?” She’s being ambiguous and isn’t very good at communicating. It’s hard to tell if she’s trying to get you to SAY it’s a date or trying to imply that she doesn’t want it to be seen as a date. Be direct with her since she’s not being direct with you. But honestly, she sounds like someone that’s wishy washy and if you’re looking for a relationship with someone that’s definitely not a good trait for them to have.
/r/seduction04/02/22 03:45 PM
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Don’t reply immediately every time because it makes it look like all you do is sit on your phone. Send funny memes or gifs. The first message would depend on who you’re sending it to. If you have someone specific in mind and want help wording it or would like, I could proof read it and give you a girl’s perspective. Just inbox me.
/r/seduction04/02/22 03:40 PM
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Flirt with her in an obvious way. Tell her you love her company, compliment her on things that aren’t related to her appearance(“I love know much you know about _.” or “you’re so good at _"). Tell her that she makes you feel happy when you’re around her. Talk about the kind of girls your into while describing her specific traits. For example, if she’s sweet say you love girls that are sweet and a little while later comment on how sweet she is. You could use funny, smart, talented instead of swee…
/r/seduction04/02/22 03:38 PM
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And how’s that working for you? Our bodies don’t work the same as yours. Putting on the pressure adds to the anxiety of our doubt or hesitation. I get that I may have misunderstood your meaning behind your comment. But at the same time, I think we need to be very careful and CLEAR with the advice we give to other people about sex. Not everyone has common sense and could think you’re saying to keep rubbing on a girl and telling her you want to fuck her, even after she’s told you no. Sex is a danc…
/r/seduction04/02/22 12:30 PM
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You know the two have nothing to do with each other right? Don’t you WANT a woman to WANT to have sex with you? Like no doubt in her mind, dying to fuck you and is reciprocating the experience? If she’s hesitant at all it’s not going to be enjoyable for her. Trust me. I know from personal experience.
/r/seduction04/02/22 12:18 PM
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It’s unnatural for a woman to chase a man. It throws off the feminine/masculine energy. Women aren’t driven by the need to procreate like men are, so they’re not going to chase. The women that chase men are more likely to have control issues and be dominant. How is a “high value man” or “alpha” gonna be able to handle a woman that tells him what to do? Lol.. not that I buy into that bullshit. Those are just buzzwords these people scamming guys out of money use to gain followers and make money.
/r/seduction04/02/22 06:59 AM
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Cool! I actually stumbled on this post yesterday and I would recommend doing something similar! 😉 the types of pictures this guy has on his profile make him seem adventurous, interesting and fun! And his bio is hilarious! My inbox is always open tho! 🙂 https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/sin24m/reddit_dwellers_may_i_please_have_an_honest/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/seduction04/02/22 06:53 AM
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Thanks for your service! I think there are plenty of women out there that would be open to dating someone with a spinal cord injury or disability. The key thing with a dating profile is to mention it up front in your bio. I think posting pictures of you being active will encourage more interest too. You mentioned playing sports and traveling. Post pics of you doing those kinds of things to show people that just because you have a disability, you don’t allow it to hold you back or define you. You…
/r/seduction04/02/22 06:41 AM
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But for the record... coercing someone to do something when they’ve clearly stated they don’t want to is not something any decent person would do. You may be hard up for a piece of ass but getting it from a girl by way of coercion is weak af and you’re a pitiful excuse for a man.
/r/seduction04/02/22 06:34 AM
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Why, so you can have other people that think just like you validate you? I don’t care if you listen to me or take my advice. You obviously aren’t in a place where you can receive it. Wishing you luck though!
/r/seduction04/02/22 06:27 AM
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Sounds like you’ve got a hoppin social life. Could your female friends introduce you to girls they know that might be compatible? Or your guy friends girlfriends could bring a friend along and y’all double date! Sounds like you need to connect with a girl mentally before you know if you’re into her.
/r/seduction04/02/22 06:20 AM
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Ask her if it’s a no bones day 😂 Actually maybe don’t. It’s a TikTok reference and she may not get it. But bring up pugs lol.. everyone likes pugs.
/r/seduction04/02/22 05:53 AM
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I’m not a guy and I can’t listen because you typed it.
/r/seduction04/02/22 04:22 AM
1

That’s cool! Sounds like it has good potential! Especially with her being someone in your social circle! 🙂
/r/seduction04/02/22 04:06 AM
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You said he’s “taking what she’s saying at face value”.. there is no face value. She said she wasn’t ready. It’s that simple.
/r/seduction04/02/22 04:03 AM
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Yeah, but girls don’t want a guy repeatedly making advances on her and not respecting what she’s telling them. If she verbally says no, trying again is fucked up. Are you serious? 🤦🏼‍♀️ bless it
/r/seduction04/02/22 04:00 AM
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Knowing all of that, I don’t think she didn’t try to sleep with you because she didn’t like you. She probably got nervous about it and it sounds like she already had a stressful day before the date. It may have put her in a weird headspace or something.
/r/seduction04/02/22 03:30 AM
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Maybe you made her nervous and she wasn’t feeling as confident about the idea in person. New sex with someone is awkward. She could be inexperienced or got her period. Who knows. I wouldn’t ask her though. Just relax and go with the flow.
/r/seduction04/02/22 03:23 AM
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Yeah, I love smoking but it gets me in my head like crazy and if I were using and going into a social situation immediately it would definitely give me extreme anxiety 😂 But usually it gets me aroused so if I’m comfortable, it’s a help in that area. But I’m a girl so
/r/seduction04/02/22 03:02 AM
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Talk to your wife and have an open, honest discussion about your kink and if she’s open to participating. Otherwise you’re gonna run the risk of her fucking some guy and catching feelings and leaving you.
/r/seduction04/02/22 02:53 AM
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Find a Gemini or Sagittarius 😜 just kidding.. sort of lol.. But for real, women love men that can have a deep conversation. We love men that are introspective. Men that know a little about a lot. If a girl is just after someone to take care of her she may not be as attracted to your ability to make her think. Guys that get me thinking turn me on and I definitely obsess over the intellectual types more than the not so intellectual types lol.. there are a lot of women that need mental stimulation …
/r/seduction04/02/22 01:51 AM
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Sounds like she’s not a phone whore. If she wasn’t on her phone at your house then that’s probably just how she is about her phone and likely doesn’t check it often. Don’t fret 😉
/r/seduction04/02/22 01:38 AM
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Our relationship with our body, the opposite sex and with the act of sex is something that is completely natural. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you wanting to date, kiss or sleep with a woman. Please don’t feel disgusting or gross! What was your relationship like with your parents growing up? What were their views on sexuality? I grew up in a family where I was taught that premarital sex is bad and I’ll burn in hell for engaging in it. I developed a very negative view about my body and …
/r/seduction04/02/22 01:31 AM
2

I’d be upfront about your height in a clever way. Make a joke about it. I know men can be insecure about their height but that’s not something that’s ever been a deal breaker for me or most of my friends. We’ve actually got a running theory that short guys are usually packing 😆
/r/seduction04/02/22 01:18 AM
2

Have you known her for a long time? From the way you described her reaction it almost sounds like you guys are acquaintances. How have you been flirting or connecting with her up until this last time where you ended up complimenting her?
/r/seduction04/02/22 01:10 AM
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Such a hard situation. The problem with using it to supplement real life sex is that when it comes time to be intimate irl, your mind and body will have a hard time responding to the situation naturally. It conditions your mind and body to respond to visual stimulation on a screen and masturbarion. It affects your ability get or maintain an erection or climax. Porn is fun and all but it is really damaging longterm to men sexually. I’ve known a few guys that have really struggled with porn addict…
/r/seduction04/02/22 12:37 AM
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I’m not sure that’s how most women would describe a “fuck boy”. I don’t think it would necessarily be considered a good thing if a girl called you this.
/r/seduction04/02/22 12:31 AM
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I’ve never heard of marijuana negatively affecting someone sexually. I guess I could see this happening if you’re just totally blazed. Is this really a thing?
/r/seduction04/02/22 12:24 AM
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All the good looks, money, nice clothes and nice cars will never make up for a shitty personality and a bad attitude. The more negative your energy and angry your attitude, the more of that you’ll attract and never get out of the situation you’re in. It’s okay to have a bad day but it’s not okay to allow it to consume you. You seem to have a hard time communicating respectfully. Which is perfectly fine but that’s going to be a huge problem when it comes to any relationship, business, friendship,…
/r/seduction03/02/22 03:51 AM
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That’s what you got from his post? I don’t buy into the alpha/beta bullshit that gets spoon-fed so often around this forum and you’d be better off if you didn’t too. Comments like yours are a lot of the problem on this particular subreddit. Criticizing men that are genuinely asking for advice or help and making them feel like they’re lower than you somehow, while trying to peddle your fake “alpha” male personality. All while your comment or “advice” has an underlying distaste for women. Yikes on…
/r/seduction03/02/22 01:02 AM
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Obviously not if she’s not hooking up with OP.
/r/seduction03/02/22 12:50 AM
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Did you ask her for her number? And she said she would give it to you later and then didn’t? Also, how did she say goodbye with her eyes? It sounds like she may not be interested.
/r/seduction03/02/22 12:27 AM
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Yeah, you can only talk about so much over text. Can’t really convey emotion or meaning unless you’re very good with words usually.
/r/seduction03/02/22 12:23 AM
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I agree about texting. It’s convenient and easy but it’s impersonal. If you share the occasional phone call(hopefully more often than occasionally lol but I’m using that as an example), it’s harder for someone to ghost you. Phone calls humanize who is on the other end. A text is just words on a screen.
/r/seduction03/02/22 12:12 AM
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If texting has died down and you make yourself scarce you might not hear from her again. It’s so easy to ghost someone when all you’re doing is texting them.
/r/seduction02/02/22 11:27 PM
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This is nice! Shows that you notice people and care enough to inquire about how they are in a genuine way!
/r/seduction02/02/22 11:19 PM
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@conversationprize387- Yes, it is a lot. Guys on this forum don’t usually like it if you disagree and that’s cool and all. But as a woman, I don’t like being “hit on”. And I know guys think they’re being flattering using a compliment but it gives women the vibe that you’re just approaching her to try and get with her. Yeah would you think it cuts to the chase and let’s her know you’re interested, and some women may not mind this approach, but from my experience as a woman being hit on I don’t li…
/r/seduction02/02/22 11:10 PM
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Oh duh. Somehow I misread that. You could still go up and ask if she would be okay with you sitting with her. If she’s always sitting alone, she may not know anyone there or have many friends.
/r/seduction02/02/22 11:05 PM
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That doesn’t sound bad. Also, you could just go sit next to her and ask about something to do with the class and keep the convo going, laugh and joke around with her. If she’s responding well and obviously enjoying the interaction, when class is over ask if she wants to sit together tomorrow. If she says yes, give her your number the next day and go from there.
/r/seduction02/02/22 10:44 PM
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You did great! Found a common ground to talk about and from the sounds of it she seemed to enjoy talking with you! I like the way you made it seem like you were just chatting with her but showed interest in how she was doing with the class and where she’s from. Let’s her know you’re interested in her but not in a creepy way. I like the part about how at the end you said you should meet up and hang out. You showed obvious interest in talking to her and learning about her without being too forward…
/r/seduction02/02/22 10:13 PM
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It’s hard to say for sure but maybe she is only wanting to hook up with one partner at a time. Also, she could’ve caught feelings for the other guy and that’s why she’s distanced herself from you a bit.
/r/seduction02/02/22 09:41 PM
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Oh I definitely agree that those things make life easier and more enjoyable! For sure! But loving and appreciating the person you are and seeing your own self worth is something money can’t buy. And I think when we love and value ourselves, it attracts others that will love and value us. Thanks for your reply 🙂
/r/seduction02/02/22 09:29 PM
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I’m sorry to hear about the way you were treated. A healthy, sane, decent person wouldn’t belittle someone or harass them. It takes a mentally unstable person to do something like that(under any circumstances) so whatever they were saying, likely isn’t true and don’t take it to heart. Block those bitches and forget about them. When it comes to approaching girls try and start off with figuring out what you’re looking for. Hookup, friends first, fwb, relationship? What are your hobbies? Strengths?…
/r/seduction02/02/22 09:22 PM
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I’ve met guys at the dog park and at the regular park lol.. so yes!! Gives you a good approach topic. Ask her about her dog/then talk about your dog. Ask advice about training or what vet she uses and then transition to talking about other things.
/r/seduction02/02/22 09:05 PM
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That they don’t suffer from anxiety, depression, mental illness and struggle socially just as often and guys do. I think it’s common for us to relate good looks, money, relationships, friends and material wealth with happiness but even the most beautiful people can be lonely or anxious or unfulfilled. I’m in a Facebook group that posts about people’s deaths for all different reasons and usually links the profile or social media accounts of the person that died. (Sort of like an obituary type thi…
/r/seduction02/02/22 08:46 PM
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I don’t think this is something that you can tell from appearance necessarily. I’d think if she’s willing to hookup early on, that could be an indicator but I wouldn’t say this is a definite sign of a high body count.
/r/seduction02/02/22 07:46 PM
1

Would you be alright with me sending you a PM?
/r/seduction02/02/22 07:37 PM
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Okay lol.. I was just making sure she wasn’t in it for you to buy her things or wine and dine her. 😆 it definitely sounds like she enjoys your company!
/r/seduction02/02/22 07:35 PM
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Women that are making mean spirited comments aren’t the kind of women you would want to associate with. If you hear a woman talking negatively about men, take a mental note that she’s probably not a very kind person. It’s okay that everyone has their own likes and dislikes or turn ons, but it’s never okay for anyone to mock another person or be cruel. If you aren’t a girls cup of tea, so what! Maybe if you got to know her you’d realize she wasn’t even your cup of tea. Usually when something does…
/r/seduction02/02/22 07:31 PM
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I have had guys approach me out of the blue many times. To be totally honest, I’ve never really receptive to someone approaching me to ask for my number or to compliment me. That has always been something that makes me uncomfortable and I feel awkward about it. I worked as a chiropractic assistant for years and I met many people that way. It would usually start off as small talk, the whole “hey, how are you today?” type deal and ask a question about where I went to school or what year I graduate…
/r/seduction02/02/22 06:06 PM
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Looks are subjective. One guy I consider good looking may not be appealing at all physically to the girl next to me. Everyone has different tastes and some people don’t have any particular “type” they’re attracted to. I’ve checked out plenty of hot guys and then when I talk to them I quickly lost interest because of their personality or attitude. I’ve also not been physically attracted to guys and then get to chatting and I’m ready to tear their clothes off.
/r/seduction02/02/22 02:12 PM
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You’re welcome! Hope it helps!
/r/seduction01/02/22 08:52 PM
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When you guys are going out is she paying for her own stuff? If you’re clothes shopping is she shopping along with you and buying things for herself or is she hinting at you to buy it or making comments that might encourage that?
/r/seduction01/02/22 08:51 PM
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She probably just wasn’t into it. If you were giving vibes you thought she was boring it probably put her off. If someone is boring you with conversation, change the subject instead of giving “obvious” vibes that they’re not entertaining you. Women’s bodies do not respond to sex the same way men do. If you can’t stimulate us mentally or emotionally FIRST, then usually we don’t get overly turned on. Maybe she found you boring and that’s why she was dry and cold towards you.
/r/seduction01/02/22 07:08 PM
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Then why are you still here? If you’re picking up this many women, how do you have time to frequent Reddit forums and make long elaborate posts about your supposed success? 🤔 seems like if you were this good at picking up women, you’d be so covered up in dates that you’d have no free time to worry about interacting with people on the internet. I mean, looking at your comment history it seems you update a lot on your numbers. Why hasn’t it evolved any further than that? If you’re picking up 8s 9s…
/r/seduction01/02/22 06:53 PM
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It doesn’t sound very manly to sit in constant fear of being laughed at or ridiculed. Stop giving a fuck what people think and you’ll be a much happier, more secure person. With your logic, you could get her number and text or call her and her boyfriend answer the phone to cuss you out for hitting on her. And then she still has your number to do something “malicious” with it. 🤦🏼‍♀️ Some of what you’re saying may work, I’m not denying that because how would I know? I’ve never hit on someone lol..…
/r/seduction01/02/22 06:46 PM
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Yes! I can’t with all the game playing 🤦🏼‍♀️ I’m an anxious person and psychoanalyze and overanalyze everything so I get it, but at some point you have to realize that attraction and meeting people has nothing to do with “pickup game” and definitely isn’t based solely on appearance. Yeah, using “game” might pull some girls that are willing to have sex on the first date a time or two but how far is that going to actually take you? You might get a number but then what are you going to do with it? …
/r/seduction01/02/22 06:40 PM
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This!
/r/seduction01/02/22 06:31 PM
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And is that really a thing? Women posting a guys number on social media to mock them?? I have never seen this happen and I’m sure it has, but the idea that someone would do that blows my mind. If you are being respectful and kind and someone responds to you with this type of energy, please know that you’re better off. People that are mean, rude, or cruel to other people without a legitimate reason are toxic and unhealed and that is in no way a reflection of your attraction.
/r/seduction01/02/22 06:26 PM
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She may have gotten distracted. I’m ADHD af and I do this all the damn time and then end up feeling stupid and like a shitty person for forgetting to respond and then get embarrassed and responding late gives me anxiety bc I don’t want the person to think I’m rude or something. Text her back this evening. See if you can think of something to reference when y’all were together. Ask her a question about something you guys discussed or send her a funny meme.
/r/seduction01/02/22 06:22 PM
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I didn’t say give anyone your business card. That’s douchey af and obviously wouldn’t get a positive response. I still have my husband’s phone number that I got from him. I saved it and we’ve been together for 13 years. So yeah she may keep it to laugh if she’s a hateful cunt, but if that’s the case you wouldn’t want her calling you anyways. But she could also give you a call and it go somewhere. Just saying. 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/seduction01/02/22 06:17 PM
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Ask her for one! Keep an old receipt in your pocket for this exact scenario lol.. I say receipt because then it doesn’t seem like you’re carrying around scrap pieces of paper with your number already written on it. If you need a pen, ask her for one. Most women keep a pen in their purse. Make it cool, casual and no big deal. Don’t make it seem like you want anything from her. Talking to girls randomly like this is the way to go. It disarms them because most men use the same old approach when it …
/r/seduction01/02/22 06:10 PM
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I think logically what you’re saying makes so much sense. But rejection is hard. People can be mean and the idea of not knowing how someone is going to respond to you is naturally intimidating. Guys need to realize that if a woman rejects them, it’s not always a personal thing. Sometimes it’s THE WOMAN that has issues and it has nothing to do with you, your looks, your approach or your value. AT ALL. Do not allow any person, man or woman, to make you feel less than or like you are somehow not as…
/r/seduction01/02/22 06:04 PM
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Give the girl your number. The old school way. On a piece of paper and hand it to her and say that you enjoyed chatting with her and if she’s interested to give you a call sometime. The reason I say a piece of paper is because it’s cute and endearing. Anyone can pull out their phone and do it but the paper trick will stick out! Don’t ask about a boyfriend or ask for her number. Don’t reference wanting to take her somewhere or comment on her appearance. DO NOT ASK FOR HER SNAPCHAT OR SOCIAL MEDIA…
/r/seduction01/02/22 05:58 PM
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Thank you for your reply! I really want to try and help if I can, so when you elaborate it makes that a little easier to understand. I understand the anxiety in wondering what to say and when, how it’ll be received and that sort of thing and it sort of ending up self sabotaging. From the situation you described it sounds like she’s interested in you. Texting is so convenient and easy but it’s also hard to interpret and makes miscommunication or misunderstanding much more likely. Also, some peopl…
/r/seduction01/02/22 05:50 PM
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So, I’m a creeper and checked your post history. You’re a good looking guy! I know that looks aren’t everything and even the most handsome men can be vomit inducing with their personality or attitude. But if I were to meet you out someone and you had a decent personality and basic social skills, I would like you(I’m sure your personality is way better than decent, I’m just using that as a bare minimum example lol). Based on looks alone, I would be attracted to you(not that you asked but I’m just…
/r/seduction01/02/22 05:36 PM
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Lol.. this is why you’re on this forum. 😂🤦🏼‍♀️ and you’ll never understand women because you won’t allow your little boy ego to be put aside long enough to listen to what they want, like or need. Have a nice day!
/r/seduction01/02/22 12:07 PM
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lol ok 👍🏼
/r/seduction01/02/22 05:07 AM
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Thank you, thank you! I truly hope it helps! I’ve spent a few days browsing this subreddit and it breaks my heart to hear how many guys are struggling with anxiety and confidence issues. I know that’s common for a lot of people but to read how much it impacts you guys is hard. I was hoping I could comment and offer some advice or suggestions that might help somehow, even if only a little. Wishing you all the luck and happiness in the future! 💫
/r/seduction01/02/22 05:06 AM
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Not at all! I’m being serious! When guys approach girls and don’t have expectations and they’re just enjoying the good conversation, it completely changes the way women respond. It puts us at ease and takes the pressure of an awkward situation off the girl. Women usually don’t enjoy being hit on by men. But if a guy is just chill and chatting it up with us about random everyday stuff, it makes us feel a lot more comfortable and women are more likely to WANT more conversation and connection with …
/r/seduction01/02/22 02:39 AM
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This is how to talk to girls. Exactly like this!
/r/seduction01/02/22 12:11 AM
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Exactly! Instead of thinking about what SHE’S thinking, try to clear your mind and be present in the moment with the conversation or whatever the exchange you’re having with her may be. Try not to focus on her appearance and listen to what she’s saying and enjoy the conversation. In doing that you might just realize she’s not as hot as you thought because she’s the boring one lol.. you being caught up in her appearance and letting it make you nervous can literally distract you from noticing if s…
/r/seduction31/01/22 10:34 PM
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YES!!! I do think there are ways to approach women without making them uncomfortable or being off putting. I think the first course of action is to evaluate exactly what you’re looking for and what YOU want and draw that line in the sand and don’t settle for anything less than that. I think you are truly onto something with the abundance mindset. Our outlook on life is SO important and truly does determine a lot about our future and what is possible. I think the best way to go about this is to s…
/r/seduction31/01/22 10:25 PM
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Yeah, that huge ass age gap says a lot. Especially when you’re pushy about trying to hook up with her immediately after she gets out of a long term relationship and won’t take no for an answer. This guy screams sexual predator.
/r/seduction31/01/22 07:32 PM
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Wait, what?! So you’re trying to talk to a girl that is still living with her previous boyfriend? Why? What are you going to get out of that situation other than a huge ass headache from all the drama it will likely bring?
/r/seduction31/01/22 07:23 PM
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I’ve been with a few guys that experienced performance anxiety and it’s much more common than men realize. There’s a lot of stigma surrounding men openly and honestly talking about their sexual habits, turn ons, ESPECIALLY when it comes to sexual issues or struggles. Men are a lot more likely to boast and embellish when it comes to their sexual successes and abilities which makes other men automatically feel inferior and anxious. Men tie their self worth up in their sexual ability. They compare …
/r/seduction31/01/22 07:09 PM
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Honestly, slow tf down. If a guy did that to me I’d block him and never speak to him again. You seem inconsiderate and pushy.
/r/seduction31/01/22 06:10 PM
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And actually care about their answer 😜
/r/seduction31/01/22 06:05 PM
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Also, who cares if you’re sexually inexperienced? Men put so much weight on that. Everyone has been sexually inexperienced at some point. I’ve been with guys that ACT like they’re really confident and experienced with women and let me tell you 😂😩🤦🏼‍♀️ THOSE ARE THE ONES THAT SUCK IN BED. The guys I’ve always had the best sex with realize that men and women view sex very differently. They understood the biological and emotional differences in my needs vs their needs when it came to sex. Your dick…
/r/seduction31/01/22 06:04 PM
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Realize that attractive women get nervous too 😉 also, I think it’s really common for men to see themselves differently than how women see them. I’ve known many attractive men that don’t see themselves as attractive and struggle with confidence issues and are completely oblivious to women being interested in them because of this. For all you know, these attractive women that make you anxious when talking to them could be feeling the exact same way when you’re talking to them.
/r/seduction31/01/22 05:58 PM
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This person gets it. The reason for this is because you’re taking the pressure off of yourself. Energy is everything and women are much more sensitive to “vibes” than guys are, usually. We can sense if a guy is anxious and has a one track mind and it puts us on edge and makes us feel uncomfortable. I have always been able to tell before a man hits on me that he’s about it do it. We can sense it and it’s almost always off putting to us. My personal opinion for the reason this is, is because a man…
/r/seduction31/01/22 05:50 PM
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Good on you for taking the time and effort to better yourself! That’s HUGE! It’s so common these days for people to ignore their own hang ups or problems and blame others instead of working through it and using it as an opportunity for personal growth. That alone says A LOT about you! Find a hobby! Join some meetup groups that interest you. Think of something you’ve always wanted to learn but never did(playing an instrument, riding a horse, a sport, art classes, book club) and get out there. Peo…
/r/seduction31/01/22 05:27 PM
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The pandemic has nothing to do with it. The world isn’t permanently digital. Get out and join a meet up group or two. Find a hobby and make new friends. Put your energy into making connections with ALL kinds of people and not be focused only on talking to girl, meeting girls, sleeping with girls. You’ll be expanding your social groups and making new friends who will also introduce you to THEIR friends which will increase your chances at meeting women. By doing that you’re taking the pressure to …
/r/seduction31/01/22 05:11 PM
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You have a really nice body and you’re actually a pretty attractive guy. I think most of it could come down to your own attitude and approachability. Having a negative self image or pessimistic attitude has a HUGE impact on so many things. Know that you are worthy and interesting and have a lot to offer someone and women will respond to that. Don’t put so much pressure on finding a girl to kiss and just focus on having a good time and enjoying the moment and you will attract more attention from …
/r/seduction30/01/22 04:45 AM
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I wouldn’t stress about the way your apartment building looks on the outside. As long as it’s clean inside, she likely won’t judge. I wouldn’t. Don’t put pressure on her to go further sexually just bc she’s coming to your apartment. Make dinner for her, listen to music and enjoy the conversation and let it happen naturally. Play a game, watch a movie, cuddle on the couch.. put her at ease and I guarantee she will be more likely to take the next step with you physically.
/r/seduction30/01/22 01:08 AM
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Sounds like she’s just doing her job and making conversation with you. Hair stylists, estheticians, massage therapists, and similar jobs require social skills and that’s how they get repeat customers.
/r/seduction30/01/22 12:56 AM
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Personally, I think you would have been better off not sending the text about things feeling off/not being her texting buddy. She may have been busy or forgot to respond. Some people suck at texting completely and just aren’t good at it. Now if she was taking forever to reply to your texts and the conversation was one sided, I could understand you feeling like she’s not interested. But even the I think the text about not being her texting buddy is odd. Especially when you followed that up with s…
/r/seduction29/01/22 10:48 PM
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Yeah I bet you’ve had great results with this 🤣🙄🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/seduction29/01/22 10:30 PM
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I can understand cultural differences. I think it’s healthy for men and women to be able to communicate about sexual topics openly. However, I think it should be done in a respectable manner. If you are asking your female friends sexual questions or trying to have those types of discussions for your own pleasure or gratification, I think it’s inappropriate and disrespectful. I think being able to talk about sexual stuff without judgement with friends of the opposite sex is actually a really heal…
/r/seduction29/01/22 08:15 PM
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Which is exactly why you’ll have better results 😘 men don’t realize how easily women are intimidated by them. And not in a good way. A lot of women have had negative experiences with men hitting on them or cat calling them and automatically have a guard up 99% of them time around men we don’t know, especially in public.
/r/seduction29/01/22 07:40 PM
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I talk to my male friends the same as I do my female friends. Why wouldn’t it be okay?
/r/seduction29/01/22 05:58 AM
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Give her YOUR number. As a female, it’s always a bit intimidating when a guy asks for your number. By giving her your number you’re putting the ball in her court.
/r/seduction29/01/22 04:11 AM
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It means you have chemistry. And that’s hot af!
/r/seduction29/01/22 04:06 AM
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Sounds like a miscommunication. Maybe she was hinting for you to suggest a specific day or time to watch the show with her?
/r/seduction28/01/22 02:21 PM
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Jot it down on a scrap of paper and hand it to her, smile and tell her you’d love to talk to her again sometime and to give you a call if she feels comfortable.
/r/seduction28/01/22 01:50 PM
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Yessss! Yes! Yessssss!! I really think dating has become so impersonal over the past few years. Not just dating, socializing in general. Bring back old school phone calls and meeting people in real life. 💯
/r/seduction28/01/22 01:49 PM
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I think it really depends on the situation. If it’s someone specific that you already know, just ask. Don’t overthink it, don’t stress out about it. If you’re talking about asking out a stranger, take baby steps. Most women wouldn’t agree to a date with a random dude from the jump. For example- you’re out to dinner with friends and you find your server attractive and want to talk to her. Instead of asking for her number or a date immediately, first make conversation about something that’ll get h…
/r/seduction28/01/22 01:43 PM
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Back off and move on. Don’t waste your time.
/r/seduction28/01/22 01:31 PM
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Like a specific girl or just in general?
/r/seduction28/01/22 01:29 PM
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Cuz she wants to wild out 😂 duh! There’s a difference in slutting it up after a bad breakup and actually dating someone in a serious way.
/r/seduction28/01/22 01:08 PM
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I will admit, my comment was bitchy af. I’m sorry for saying something so mean. 😣 I do enjoy giving guys advice on women. I think a lot of men are scared to ask some things and a lot of women aren’t as honest as they should be about the way we think. This post for example, the girl was dumped by her boyfriend and she’s prob still devastated but I’d be willing to bet my right titty that if her ex called her tomorrow wanting to get back together with her, she’d drop OP and not think twice about it…
/r/seduction28/01/22 01:05 PM
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What even is a pickup “artist”? Seriously. Think about that term for a second. You value a pickup artist’s opinions on how to meet, talk to and sleep with women? Where are their reviews? How do you know how effective their strategies even are? Other than by asking an actual woman. I doubt these PUA content creators have 5 star reviews from real women singing their praises on their success. However, I can say based on personal experience that women sit around and laugh at their vids and cringe at…
/r/seduction28/01/22 12:54 PM
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Who said I’m a woman? Just kidding. I AM a woman. I’m fairly certain your experience with women and critical thinking skills are extremely limited, just based on the fact that you think men should be the only ones giving dating advice. About women. 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/seduction28/01/22 12:39 PM
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Personally, I don’t think it changes much. If she’s not over him and is still grieving the loss of the relationship, she’s not able to be fully invested in you/a new relationship. That’s not fair to you. Also, if her bf is the one that dumped her and he randomly decides to hit her up again for whatever reason, she will be a lot more likely to get back with him. If you’re willing to take that kind of risk and possibly develop feelings for someone that can’t fully reciprocate that, go for it! But …
/r/seduction28/01/22 12:30 PM
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Keep work and play separate. If it goes south, you’re fucked. And not in the good way.
/r/seduction28/01/22 11:33 AM
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Please don’t idolize PUA content 😩🤦🏼‍♀️ I can promise you that the men making those videos are sleeping alone every night.
/r/seduction28/01/22 11:28 AM
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Sounds like you’re self sabotaging bc your feelings for her are becoming more serious. Talk to her about it. Tell her exactly what you wrote here. Be honest and transparent with her about your fears. Let her support you and show you how much she loves you back. 🙂
/r/seduction28/01/22 11:26 AM
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Leave her alone. She’s confused and isn’t ready to be dating anyone yet.
/r/seduction28/01/22 10:45 AM
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People can definitely sense when someone is trying too hard. Women probably notice you more on nights you’re out with friends and enjoying yourself because you’re relaxed and carefree and not obviously looking to try to talk to women 😉
/r/seduction28/01/22 10:42 AM
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It comes down to polarity. I think when men(and women!) are trying too hard to meet someone, trying to force conversation with the intent of hooking up or whatever, it has a tendency to repel what they’re trying to attract. The anxiety of the approach and worry about how you will be received is what is working against you. Men that I’ve noticed women are most receptive to, approach social situations in a more lighthearted manner and honestly don’t seem to gaf if people like them or not. I’m not …
/r/seduction28/01/22 09:50 AM
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When approaching a girl to introduce yourself try and frame it as an opportunity to learn something new! Say something witty/funny and leave it at that, be nonchalant and when she laughs and quips back, then ask her about school or work or the city or bar or whatever. Also, one thing I’ve noticed with men that are outgoing and easily talk to women is that they don’t single out a specific person when talking to new people at the bar or wherever. Just talk to strangers like they’re already your fr…
/r/seduction28/01/22 09:42 AM
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