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Yeah, it turns out that I lost the baby. I’m ok, but it’s been a strange time.
/r/RedPillWives01/03/18 05:32 AM
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I’ve been holding objects with two hands forever and men love it! Even men I’m not trying to seduce (which is pretty much everyone but P now lol) love it when I do this and always comment on how adorable it is. Cups of tea, Japanese soup bowls, large wine glasses, burritos, really anything that you can hold with one hand, you can hold with two. It’s very low-key sexual, more like sensual, and highlights the polarity between you and the man you’re with because he’s not going to be sipping tea wit…
/r/RedPillWives01/03/18 03:48 AM
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Thank you. We are not too worried, as I'm 26 and we have plenty of time to try again. The doctor has said that it's unlikely that I am the problem, more likely that it was a random fluke that is unlikely to happen again.
/r/RedPillWives20/02/18 10:14 PM
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It was a big week for support, as unfortunately my pregnancy ended at 6 weeks (we're fine, I'm fine, it's just an odd and unfamiliar time). So, we've been supporting each other. Honestly, I've needed more support than P by far, who is just worried about me. So really, this week has been about doing my best to support myself so that I can function properly and continue to be a good wife and bring my husband joy. P has been so patient and gentle, and I want to be his soft place to land, and his li…
/r/RedPillWives20/02/18 08:16 PM
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I'm so well-taken-care-of in my life that I don't feel the need to worry about things like that! I know that if I want or need something, I only have to ask. I got to go out to a new place, spend time with my husband and look at birds - definitely not a bad day!
/r/RedPillWives13/02/18 04:37 PM
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I'm not sure what you mean by this. My husband and I routinely get tea together but I hardly need some kind of consolation prize every time he gets to do something I don't. Giving up wine tasting is not some deep burden. I drank water and was happy about it. :)
/r/RedPillWives13/02/18 03:19 AM
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Things have been stressful lately, but on Sunday P suggested we go wine tasting (or rather, he taste and I watch, as I’m pregnant and not drinking). It was quite spontaneous but in the spirit of “fun” I happily went along with it and we had an amazing time! We found a fallow field full of 1000+ Canadian geese grazing on the tender grass and we watched them fly overhead all at once. It was incredible! I’ve never seen so many birds at once, and I felt like I was in a nature documentary. It was so …
/r/RedPillWives08/02/18 09:36 PM
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If you think he would enjoy it, perhaps compile images of this departed pet in some kind of keepsake way: a small photo album, a wall or desk calendar, etc. It’s a way to honor the pet and it’s memory in addition to giving him something pleasant to reflect on, especially if the pet was ill for an extended period of time. Being able to see the pet in the glow of its youth and prime years will reinforce positive memories and help him celebrate its life, and think less on the death itself. Perhaps …
/r/RedPillWives07/02/18 06:01 AM
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I just found out I am pregnant two weeks ago - I think I'm about 7 weeks along now. It's unexpected but not unwanted, as we were going to start trying later this year anyway. However, my anxiety is through the roof and I can't handle it. Every day I wake up and think "Today is the day I lose this baby." I can barely let myself get happy about it, let alone excited, because I worry that if I lose the pregnancy I'll be utterly devastated. The result is me feeling sort of emotionally hollow, which …
/r/RedPillWives02/02/18 06:05 AM
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That’s wonderful! It’s always nerve-wracking but exciting to host people, but it does get easier and more fun as time goes on. I’m so happy everything worked out well! :)
/r/RedPillWives18/01/18 01:42 AM
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How wonderful! Three dogs sounds ambitious, but I love dogs so I can understand the desire to have more than one. :) I've never played video games - neither P or I have any interest - but it's awesome that you two can play together and bond over that! I'm always so impressed when people build their own computers.
/r/RedPillWives15/01/18 06:35 PM
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I've been very absent around here lately, but I've been having so much fun in the real world! P and I are so happy, and I think a large portion of that has to do with my reduced anxiety. I've been working very hard to manage my anxiety and it has been wonderful. Without my emotions to manage, P has flourished and pursued advancement in his career and received a promotion! I don't think his success is dependent solely on me, of course (he's incredibly capable and ambitious), but it has been notic…
/r/RedPillWives15/01/18 05:39 PM
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Sending good wishes your way! P and I both caught pneumonia a few years back and it is nasty! I'm glad M is recovering/responding to treatment and getting the care he needs. Serious illness is frightening but for us at least, it has brought us closer now that we are well again and look back on when we really clung to eachother. P had to have his appendix removed in an emergency surgery 3 years ago and I had to do pretty much everything around the house and in our lives for a few weeks while he h…
/r/RedPillWives14/01/18 07:15 PM
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What leadership style do you prefer/ respond best to? P was very clear on his expectations and desires even in the early years of our relationship (in our teens). Obviously many of his needs have changed lol but, the core principles are still there. Once he establishes a rule and boundaries, he's not very interested in micromanaging me and will only step in if I slip up. However, as soon as I do slip up he will swoop in and correct me/make his displeasure known. He's not particularly lenient in …
/r/RedPillWives27/12/17 07:56 PM
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Depending on how many guests you'll be having, I love roasting a whole chicken instead of a turkey. It's festive but not an insane amount of food or work for you. Still goes perfectly with all the trimmings like cranberry sauce and stuffing if that's what you like! :)
/r/RedPillWives20/12/17 11:51 PM
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I definitely believe that interest/attraction = effort! I think that if a woman is serious about her man, she will seek out the things he really cares about and prioritize those things in addition to working on herself overall. P cares little about whether or not I'm wearing a full face of makeup (base level is always expected though), but definitely loves it when my hair is styled in his preferred way. It's a rare day when my hair isn't softly curled and shiny, and I keep it quite long because …
/r/RedPillWives10/11/17 09:49 PM
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Please post the recipe! I've always wanted to make one of those cakes and yours sounds so special!
/r/RedPillWives10/11/17 04:21 PM
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Oh wow, that does complicate the whole "seasonal decor" thing. I can't imagine having Christmas in the summer, but I suppose if you've been doing it your whole life it makes perfect sense to you!
/r/RedPillWives09/11/17 04:53 PM
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Embrace candles! White pillar candles grouped together always feel so wintry and festive to me without being overtly "Christmas." Then, you can add holly or evergreen boughs to the groupings come December 1st! :D
/r/RedPillWives09/11/17 03:36 AM
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I've had great success with a fall twist on the Old Fashioned! P requests it almost nightly. Here's what you'll need: • 2 oz Bourbon or Rye (P loves Rittenhouse Rye) • 1 oz Grade A real maple syrup • Cardamom bitters (we love the brand Scrappy's) • large ice cube or 2-3 smaller cubes Directions: In an old fashioned glass, combine maple syrup and 2-3 dashes cardamom bitters. Stir to combine. Add ice and stir again. Add whiskey. Stir for about 10-12 revolutions around the glass. Serve with a smile…
/r/RedPillWives09/11/17 03:33 AM
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Definitely look into Indian cooking. There is so much built into that cuisine, since vegetarianism is a core tenant of certain religions in India. They do so much without using "fake" chicken/artificial "meat" subsitutes, and I love that. Sometimes P will grill portobello mushroom caps instead of burger patties if he wants to switch it up. We also love chick peas and lentils in hearty curries. Also paneer, a firm Indian cheese, is great if you want something dense that isn't tofu (it's not very …
/r/RedPillWives08/11/17 07:53 PM
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"In a nutshell, her thesis is this: intimacy in relationships is frequently – and inexplicably – the enemy of sex. The intimacy Perel’s referring to is the romantic ideal of semi-conjoined couples who believe that love means quashing mystery in favor of sweet companionship. In order for couples to remain interested in one another, they require distance, transgression, surprise, and play. We must be able to stand back from our partners, to view them as separate, mysterious people, for them to rem…
/r/RedPillWives08/11/17 07:41 PM
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I definitely agree that it's not constructive to expect your husband or man to act as your female confidant and close friend. Growing up, I had three very close girlfriends who were always with me. We would sleep in the same bed, share clothes, cuddle while watching movies, the works. I do love it when P holds me close and "cuddles" me but it's definitely a different feeling and a different need. I feel adored, cherished and protected when he does it, and there is always an element of the sexual…
/r/RedPillWives30/10/17 06:17 PM
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P has been sick with a cough, and last night I helped him host at his bar trivia gig! He lamented about losing his voice, and I casually offered to help him read off questions. He was incredibly grateful, and I had lots of fun going out with him and being his assistant. Usually when he's off hosting, I stay home and clean the kitchen and do the weekly grocery shopping. Breaking that typical routine has made me anxious, and looking at the kitchen with its dishes definitely makes me nervous, but I…
/r/RedPillWives17/10/17 03:47 PM
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YES! I love all these! So excited!! :D
/r/RedPillWives10/10/17 04:58 PM
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You can also do this to make your own Instant Noodle Bowls for all you soup fiends out there (like me)!
/r/RedPillWives28/09/17 05:22 PM
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Like u/Camille11325, I take special joy in creating traditions and small holidays/rituals that mark time through the year. Doing this marks time in an active way, anchoring you in time and connecting you through time to both your past self, and a community that does this with you. I have found that the key to creating a tradition is intention. When you do things in a specific way at specific times, even the simplest thing can become a tradition that is special and held dear to whoever is partici…
/r/RedPillWives28/09/17 05:15 PM
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Conversing one to one I think doesn’t belong to a particular type. Union and intimacy is part of sx in online descriptions - but I’m convinced that they belong to the social instinct. My premise is that sx is fusion and becoming one, and social is a link, bond, coexistence. I did notice that your post made it seem that sx was the only instinct that was seeking any kind of deeper one-on-one relationship, but I agree with you that one-to-one conversation is something done by all types. It's the go…
/r/RedPillWives26/09/17 02:44 AM
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I absolutely love the composite images! I am so/sp and I see so much of myself in the so/sp female composite image (though my jaw is smaller than the composite woman's). I love the categorizations of light/depth/contrast, and they match my own level of contrast! It's so fascinating when the physical matches the character. My husband is sp/so and I see the sp influence especially in his eyes (which are hooded and rather small especially upon smiling). Our pairing of synflow vs contraflow works we…
/r/RedPillWives25/09/17 08:00 PM
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These are so cute and would work well for a wreath! :3
/r/RedPillWives21/09/17 05:25 PM
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I have had great luck at Hobby Lobby for false flowers. Really my main advice to keep things looking "real" is to do as much false greenery as possible and then splurge on really nice looking false flowers. Flowers are so much harder to make look convincing, but greenery fools lots of people and is less expensive. I also love the abundant verdant look of a greens-heavy wreath, so it's partially my own taste coming through here as well. I thought that it would be hard to do green-heavy wreaths by…
/r/RedPillWives21/09/17 03:44 PM
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I love Anthropologie for quality scented candles en masse. Bath and Body Works is fun, and their White Barn line is pretty good, but Anthro has the more upscale scents and it does make a difference. If I want a Voluspa candle or something by Illume, I'll go there. Plus, they often house their candles in gorgeous jars that fit in perfectly with decor (think mercury glass, porcelain, etc). Urban Outfitters also has a surprisingly good candle selection (UO is a sister-store of Anthro so that makes …
/r/RedPillWives21/09/17 03:39 PM
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There is a lovely candle from Bath and Body Works called "Chestnut and Clove" that would probably work for you. It has a woody depth and spice that doesn't smell sweet enough to confuse with food. We love it for cold nights :)
/r/RedPillWives20/09/17 10:15 PM
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Wreaths!! I love making wreaths as well. My husband has caught on, and now demands new wreaths every few months. I can't complain, because I do so love shopping for really convincing false flowers! :)
/r/RedPillWives20/09/17 07:42 PM
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I think saying, "I feel nervous about x" would be better because it's not about making an objective claim about safety. Yeah, this would have been just as good, maybe better. My husband gets irritated when I declare my nervousness randomly - he sees it as complaining - so asking him a question like I posited would be more positive in my own situation. You have to assess your own relationship, of course, and make the best choice for you :) Glad your relationship didn't suffer due to the mistake.
/r/RedPillWives13/09/17 03:27 PM
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If our travel documents or something equally crucial are on the line, I will voice my opinion. Safety is another thing I will always speak up on. Occasionally my husband does not see something on the road that I see, for example, and I will point it out. He is always grateful for this, because I don't generally criticize him or point things out. He knows if I point something out, it's important and he listens to me. This is another huge benefit of cultivating an atmosphere of respect for your ma…
/r/RedPillWives12/09/17 11:45 PM
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To me, any man in the room while I'm giving birth sounds awful. I've always seen it as a distinctly female experience, and I want experienced women who know what they are doing in the room with me, not my husband. I would not wish for him to see me in such a messy, frightened, stressed experience. I would likely be worried about what he thought of me during the process and it would distract me. He is perfectly fine either way apparently - he said it's something that the mother should decide beca…
/r/RedPillWives07/09/17 02:47 AM
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Love hard cider! Champagne-style cider is amazing for that festive feel, I love it. Craft cider is amazing, you can just do so much with it!
/r/RedPillWives18/08/17 09:23 PM
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I really hope that women don't get outsourced by technology, but it seems to be heading in that direction. I don't think that men will ever stop wanting to have sex with real women, but I do think that the practical reasons for having a relationship with a woman will be drastically reduced once it becomes possible to gestate a baby in an artificial womb. I do wonder though - who will be caring for these babies? Men definitely have a desire to have children, but actually nurturing them and caring…
/r/RedPillWives11/08/17 10:15 PM
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:3 just to reiterate I'm not actually British lol I just love my heritage and I love corgi gifs
/r/RedPillWives04/08/17 01:41 PM
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We just celebrated 9 years together this past weekend, and in addition to a weekend trip my husband tracked down a thermos I saw in a shop window over 2 months ago and bought it for me. It is covered in garden birds - I LOVE birds! - and it is the perfect size. The fact that he even remembered the thermos, let alone bought it for me, just blows my mind! He isn't the most effusive/mushy with his affection outside of time alone, but he shows his love for me through his incredible ability to plan a…
/r/RedPillWives02/08/17 04:09 AM
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Yes, women may not need to nor have to posses a high level of agency. But they can posses agency. Imo, any individual has the potential to be the master of themselves and their domain. I only make this point because it's sometimes easy to assume that agency detracts from femininity, when ime, it doesn't. Just to clarify here, I never said that women cannot or even should not possess any agency, just that they don't need/should not strive to possess agency equal to that of a man. Obviously all hu…
/r/RedPillWives01/08/17 05:46 AM
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Do you agree with the idea that “Most women, in their heart of hearts, are still ancients. Most men have moved on.”? Both in general and as it applies to you personally. This is 100% correct in relation to me personally, and I absolutely think that it is also largely true in regards to most women. This idea that women are more ancient in our hearts as opposed to men is very apparent in my relationship with my own husband. He has "moved on" from the spiritual/magical and has turned to science, be…
/r/RedPillWives01/08/17 03:26 AM
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Congrats on those wonderful milestones! I always reward myself with books. Allowing myself to get lost in a new world is one of the best rewards I could think of. :)
/r/RedPillWives28/07/17 05:25 PM
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Today marks 9 official years in a relationship with my husband (we've only been married 9 months)! I knew at 16 that he was someone worth holding on to and I've never once regretted my choice to follow him through life! I'm just so happy! :D Tonight I'm in for some special surprise, and knowing him it will be awesome! For any young women in relationships wondering if it really can last - it can! Nothing could ever replace the slow, wondrous glory of growing into adulthood alongside my husband. A…
/r/RedPillWives28/07/17 05:24 PM
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Awww I like Littlefinger, he doesn't seem like a "Nice Guy" to me at all! Is this because I haven't read the books? Yeah, his attitude comes out as more subversive and a little more bitterly-driven in the books imo. not only do writers have more leeway, people allow themselves to enjoy things that are not PC/ in line with modern values because they are protected by the fact that it is in the past + fictional. I completely agree with this! It's actually one of the reasons I love fantasy so much, …
/r/RedPillWives28/07/17 03:26 PM
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He never feels troubled by conflicts just resolves things right then and there then discards it from his mind. This really baffles me You're not alone in your bafflement! This is one of those "man traits" that I can't even really imagine doing, let alone replicate.
/r/RedPillWives27/07/17 07:59 PM
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I expected special treatment! The story - and constantly dashed dream - of my life lol :p
/r/RedPillWives27/07/17 07:33 PM
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One thing I have found with his kind of personality is that he is very quick and a bit harsh in judging sometimes, he won't bend standards much. This 100% true in my experience, high standards for himself, high for everyone else too! If you want to carry the family name, you better earn the right lol
/r/RedPillWives27/07/17 05:45 PM
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OK obviously SPOILER ALERT. I really love GOT because it is one of the rare shows that rather accurately showcases most of these male archetypes and lots of their derivations. It's generally rather honest in the portrayal of different kinds of masculinity and the pitfalls that come with each supposed "ideal." Each time a new Hand of the King is introduced, you get to see a new archetype blend try and, effectively, be the "power behind the throne." Ned Stark is perfect for the North, (where King …
/r/RedPillWives27/07/17 05:38 PM
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I will comment more fully tomorrow (so many dishes to clean tonight!) but I LOVE this topic!! I'd say right off the top of my head, my husband embodies the "King" archetype very well. He's the firstborn oldest son, the "heir" to his family and he takes the role as leader very seriously in all aspects of his life. I call him my "scholar king," definitely a strong "Magician" undercurrent to his leadership. He loves learning, accumulating knowledge and using it to inform his choices. He's very logi…
/r/RedPillWives27/07/17 03:02 AM
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Congratulations on your new wee one!! :D happy dance!
/r/RedPillWives27/07/17 02:43 AM
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Ahhh, yes ok. You're right re: what is exchanged. I didn't think of it on that level but you're right the scope is too big for a vassal/King label. And yes, also too impersonal! Maybe the "Queen" label is throwing me off in terms of how I perceive myself in the world. In that case, perhaps "queen consort"/King would be a better term in that it can imply marriage and deep love/exchange without actual ruling status (as in a "ruling pair").
/r/RedPillWives24/07/17 11:53 PM
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I understand where you're coming from with this, I personally don't feel that it removes love but I can see where it would appear that way. On the whole the king + queen analogy works better and has a wider application in traditional dynamics, so I agree that my original statement should be amended to reflect more of this idea.
/r/RedPillWives24/07/17 09:26 PM
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Well if I'm being fully honest, I do think it's a bit weird for a woman not to want children. Though, you're pretty young, so that can always change. But even if it is weird, it's not a problem unless you're working at cross purposes to your man.
/r/RedPillWives24/07/17 07:59 PM
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I think that it really depends on your individual relationship. There are plenty of women on this sub who don't have and don't want children. Really the idea is to firmly understand your own goals, and then pursue a relationship with a man who wants the same thing, and to be the best companion to him that you can. Whether that involves marriage or children or whatever is all dressing. There isn't really a strict formula, and no one is going to tell you the "RPWi way" to do any one thing specific…
/r/RedPillWives24/07/17 07:35 PM
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Yes! I personally believe that this bond can only truly be complete in marriage, when you become of the same clan, the same blood, the same will (lead by the husband). Before that true bond, you can and should prove yourself to this end, but the ownership is sealed through the marriage vows. Only then can a woman truly be owned imo.
/r/RedPillWives24/07/17 06:56 PM
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Yes indeed! Except, a car has no choices, so it's ownership means less. It is possible for you to nag, backstab or be cruel (even if you never do). Him being able to trust your choices is what elevates the relationship from object to subject. If he owns you, what it really means is that he owns your loyalty, your admiration, your fidelity. It's not that you cannot physically betray your oaths. Ownership comes when he believes that you will not, despite your own ability to do so as a human. You a…
/r/RedPillWives24/07/17 06:43 PM
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This is an incredibly relevant question and I absolutely consider myself "owned" by my husband. But, in the same sense, I think that considering myself as another object in his household is too shallow of a description. If I were to actually be an object, I would have next to zero obligation to do anything. Taking the car example: a car does not go out of its way to do anything (obviously, as it is inanimate). Now this may seem simplistic to say, but viewing oneself as a piece in your man's coll…
/r/RedPillWives24/07/17 05:32 PM
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I think your worries are well-founded and probably true! I absolutely think that in order for this more ideal timeline to work there needs to be an enormous shift in the perceived "success timeline" for women that would make hiring them later in life more desirable. I'm not sure if this could even happen in my lifetime, so its definitely something to worry about. Honestly, there is no easy answer to this, but I think that if more women start to see this as an option in life, maybe it could begin…
/r/RedPillWives20/07/17 03:48 PM
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These are great questions! I'm not really holding this woman up as any kind of role model, I just enjoyed the discussion of the reversed timeline, and the questioning of why women seem to view only the first half of their life as the time in which to achieve material success. I don't personally believe that most women should seek careers at all. I work but it is at most a job, not a career, that I will quickly drop when we decide to have children (which is hopefully soon!) I really wish that thi…
/r/RedPillWives20/07/17 03:43 PM
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Great point! Thanks for explaining it so clearly! :)
/r/RedPillWives19/07/17 01:42 PM
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It's a shame that more women haven't heeded the advice/warnings laid out so plainly in this post. I always wonder why women don't heed this kind of advice when it's laid out so well. Why choose the harder more destructive road, even when you now know that there is an easier one right next to you, and it's always been there?
/r/RedPillWives19/07/17 03:26 AM
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As someone at the tail end of the official Millennial generation, it's nice to watch some people younger than me start looking at the prescribed life path and asking hard questions. I used to get weird looks when I talked about my opinions on marriage and family and women in the workplace. But now I get more thoughtful nods or even "wow your marriage sounds so great!" from fellow college "liberal and educated" folks. I think even some Millennials are starting to wake up and realize that they can…
/r/RedPillWives19/07/17 03:20 AM
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Came across this article quite by accident while searching for another, but I LOVED it so much! The article itself is full of excellent links to further reading, but the topic in and of itself is still incredibly relevant despite being written 5 years ago. Probably my favorite part of the entire article was the fact that it really questions our culture's approach to the idea of success, and how women are pressured to follow the same "success timeline" as men - now isn't that sexist? So many peop…
/r/RedPillWives18/07/17 09:05 PM
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Thank you! So glad you did!! :D
/r/RedPillWives18/07/17 08:46 PM
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I'm so grateful for my husband's steadfast presence. Lasts night I was crying and he held me till I fell asleep, making me feel so safe. I'm loving all the sunshine we are getting, and how long the days are! Sun sets at 9:30 which means I can walk around the neighborhood after dinner! I'm grateful for public libraries - they are such an amazing resource and really elevate a community. Bonus: The best advice I have given recently was to tell your man he's amazing! Because he probably is. So go te…
/r/RedPillWives18/07/17 05:39 PM
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Of course not! I mean, for me personally, if I am constantly receiving praise in certain circumstances I will think I don't need to improve. It has been my observation that men in general don't think in this manner as often.
/r/RedPillWives18/07/17 03:42 AM
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Perfect, beautiful passage! :)
/r/RedPillWives15/07/17 07:39 AM
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How wonderful! :) So exciting for you, and reassuring that he's so on top of things.
/r/RedPillWives14/07/17 11:13 PM
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This entire article is full of insanity, but perhaps the most telling line is this one: I am so grateful for the excitement surrounding my upcoming marriage, however, I often wonder why the event of getting married is put on a higher pedestal than the true successes that come along with an education and career. "True" successes - what a fascinating phrase. Why is it that getting married isn't allowed in the realm of "true" success? Isn't this an incredibly subjective topic anyway? What about all…
/r/RedPillWives14/07/17 06:25 PM
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What helped me when dealing with this issue was that the wedding isn't really for the couple getting married, it's for the families. The ceremony is for the couple, but the reception is for the community. When I realized this, I stopped viewing our wedding as a narcissistic event and started thinking of it in terms of how best to allow our family and friends to celebrate :) It really enabled me to become invested in allocating the most funds possible into a celebration instead of acting miserly,…
/r/RedPillWives09/07/17 03:11 AM
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Inner Beauty: Increase psychological femininity by embracing my own emotions as I feel them. I am a very sensitive person by nature, but as a child I learned to squash my sensitivity or channel it into anger/biting wit. I really want to break this habit down and learn how to be vulnerable to myself. Update: This has been my major current project, and it's going well! I've been much more conscious of my feelings recently, and I have been allowing myself to just feel sad, or embarrassed, or ashame…
/r/RedPillWives03/07/17 03:53 PM
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Omg right????!?!
/r/RedPillWives02/07/17 02:12 AM
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It's good to have you! This community is so wonderful, I totally agree that it breaks up that feeling of mental/ideological isolation. :)
/r/RedPillWives30/06/17 04:16 PM
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Why does a man see his Woman as a competition at all? Why can there not be two experts in various fields? This is exactly what I'm talking about. Separate spheres eliminate overlap and competition. My husband does not try and control every aspect of my entire life, especially the things in which I excel. He does not look over my shoulder and critique my cooking, or point out minor flaws in my writing while I'm doing it. He doesn't come into the room while I'm singing and tell me I'm doing it off…
/r/RedPillWives29/06/17 06:30 PM
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Trying to make your man more alpha is (to me) about changing a fundamental aspect of your man (his dominance level) so that he suits your preferences better. I think that so many women equate dominance with being "domineering." Lots of people consider this a negative trait, I don't. But I also think a man can be just as alpha or dominant without being domineering. Men who are more introverted have more of an introverted dominance style and I think a lot of women just aren't looking for this. Obv…
/r/RedPillWives27/06/17 09:37 PM
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Obviously everyone is flawed, but our feelings aren't the same as an objective standard. This is so relevant! One of my husband's favorite sayings is "I deal in fact, not feeling." He will not listen to complaints if they deal in "what if" or "I'm afraid you will __". If I can point to concrete data of what has happened, he'll listen and generally take my words into account. Perhaps you're trying to say that you're not saying these things to your man in the most charming way? Since you're being …
/r/RedPillWives27/06/17 08:28 PM
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I usually try to be as feminine as possible to create an atmosphere free of competition. That way, my husband is free to be himself and not feel judged or "bad" for being masculine. I have greatly reduced my irritation with his sense of stubbornness or pride, because I think that these traits are inherent to him and in 95% of cases they form a large part of his positive masculine influence on me and our life. The other 5% of the time when they cause slight irritation or stress are not significan…
/r/RedPillWives27/06/17 07:54 PM
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It strikes me being popular in the same way people compete for who gets less sleep. Hahaha my husband and I need to stop playing this game. We're both winning... or losing? :p
/r/RedPillWives23/06/17 08:10 PM
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As a writer, I assume, you spend sometime in your own head, as I do. Haha you have no idea! I've been more and more isolated in my own thoughts the past few years. I'm an extrovert but I also do enjoy my alone time. Lately, that's all I ever get. I crave deep, intense fellowship, and sometimes the early stages of friendship irritate me to the point where I'd rather just keep myself company. I would probably appear introverted to someone who didn't know me, but I don't feel rejuvenated after time…
/r/RedPillWives23/06/17 06:00 PM
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I can't forget that he fell in love with me, in part, because of my vivacious nature. This is so relevant to me! I was so much more vivacious when we met, and I definitely over-corrected to kinda boring. Now that I'm bringing it back, I've gotten a lot of positive response from my husband. I was so chatty, creative, and had these grand sweeping dreams. Not sure where that girl went.
/r/RedPillWives23/06/17 05:17 PM
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Thank you! :) I hope I can make it work, I feel like it will solve a lot of mental problems.
/r/RedPillWives23/06/17 01:12 PM
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Re-posting here because everyone is posting here :p Inner Beauty: Increase psychological femininity by embracing my own emotions as I feel them. I am a very sensitive person by nature, but as a child I learned to squash my sensitivity or channel it into anger/biting wit. I really want to break this habit down and learn how to be vulnerable to myself. I don't intend on breaking into hysterics every time I see a puppy or receive a strong rebuke, but I also really want to fully re-integrate this as…
/r/RedPillWives23/06/17 03:10 AM
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So true! I was more toned when we met, and my husband has asked me to bring back the tone lol! Despite the fact that I weigh the same, shape/firmness is also important. I'm pretty embarrassed actually, I didn't realize I had gotten so lazy. However, me being the same relative size and weight has definitely kept the love flowing. It's less of a "this is bad" kind of thing, more of a "could be better" problem. Much easier to fix than losing 15+lbs! Maintaining weight makes slip-ups in routine far …
/r/RedPillWives22/06/17 06:14 PM
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It's not necessary, though it does even you out. You may wish to invest in a tinted moisturizer instead, they are much lighter and many include sunscreen as well. I love Laura Mercier's tinted moisturizer quite a bit, no complaints about it. It's great for that sheer, even, flawless look. Excellent for daytime wear :)
/r/RedPillWives22/06/17 04:44 PM
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Omg I love the fluffers!! :3
/r/RedPillWives22/06/17 01:47 AM
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Go take a trip to Sephora and just kind of browse around for a bit. Tell one of the salespeople that you're a total makeup novice, and you're looking to start a basic routine (I'm assuming you want to start at basic, but if you want to jump into a more intricate routine obviously tell them this). Find the correct foundation for your skin color, invest in a nice eyeliner pen or pencil, and get some good mascara. Blush or bronzer is also nice, and it's easy to apply. These four items can form a gr…
/r/RedPillWives21/06/17 11:10 PM
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Thank you!!
/r/RedPillWives21/06/17 08:09 PM
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I'm grateful for my husband's generosity with our finances. I am always so well taken-care-of and I want for nothing. I'd never be able to live the kind of life I do without him! I'm grateful that it's about to be summer! This winter has been so long, cold, and grey. I'm eager for hours and hours of sunshine! I'm very grateful for dogs. This sounds silly but they are just the best creatures, and every time I see one it makes me smile! Whenever I am sad I pull up a file of puppy pictures I have o…
/r/RedPillWives21/06/17 04:50 AM
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Oh man I have the same problem! Double jointed arms, tight hip flexors. Any tips on stretches to work out the hips?
/r/RedPillWives21/06/17 02:02 AM
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Right to religion is a basic human right but right to Sharia law above the law of the land isn't! This is so important! Theocracy is not compatible with Democracy. You must pick one.
/r/RedPillWives20/06/17 06:37 PM
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Definitely agree there!
/r/RedPillWives17/06/17 01:08 PM
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A general concern for environmental welfare comes under my personal umbrella of human concern, simply because we live in the environment and I do think we have a duty to keep it functioning and habitable to ourselves. But yes, putting vague concern for "the animals" or "nature" over people is silly. Just because I care about people before animals or the environment doesn't mean I don't care about the latter two at all. They just come after. The Left doesn't seem to grasp this distinction lol
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 10:38 PM
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I'm all for humane and sustainable raising/ranching/slaughtering practices but the hyper-sympathy of vegetarianism/veganism is just so pretentious. Like why do you care if you're eating a chicken? The suffering? Some poor 9 year old is suffering in a factory in Sri Lanka to make your shirt you smug milksop. Care about that first :p
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 09:17 PM
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Acceptance means you accept your husband as he is today with no changes. You realize that maybe he could and even should be better, but this is HIS responsibility. This is so wonderful and I love this. Accepting a person doesn't mean you just ignore all his flaws, or even stop wanting him to change some things. But accepting a man for who he is in the moment increases love! And it will so often lead him to correct things himself anyway. It's hard to imagine a better version of yourself when even…
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 09:14 PM
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veganism or vegetarianism What an excellent way to filter out pretentious weaklings lol! I never thought of this but it's absolutely a dealbreaker for me too.
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 09:01 PM
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Oooh thank you for this! Such good points all 'round. I've actually told my husband "I'd be the first of many, as long as I'm first." He always looks at me with a troubled/bemused face - the idea of contradicting his own oaths of fidelity disturbs him on a core level. Honestly I don't even think his fidelity stems as much from his love of me as from his personal pride in the integrity of his own honor lol (but obviously he does love me a lot).
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 08:56 PM
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Ah no! Thank you, as a writer I am ashamed XD
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 08:49 PM
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Thanks for the book rec, I'll definitely check it out! I keep trying to get my husband to take all these personality tests and he just pulls faces like "no software can define me, don't put me in a box, etc." I love his pride, but I wanna know mannnn :p
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 08:48 PM
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:3 please, you're making me blush!
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 08:44 PM
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You do sound a bit like him haha! My husband is great, we bring out a lot of good in one another. He has a good imagination but isn't particularly creative instinctively, which makes him an excellent story-telling audience haha.
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 08:43 PM
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Yeah the negative numbers confused me, I like the original test better for this reason. I also think the sliding scale of answers leaves things a bit too open to interpretation by the testing software. I got a high score as Type 8 "The Leader" with the new test but got like a score of 1 or 2 on the original test for the same type, and the description is nothing like me.
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 08:05 PM
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lack of ambition, curiosity, self knowledge Fascinating that you mention curiosity! My husband is quite ambitious but very selectively curious. I'm always asking "why?' and "how?" but if it's not relevant to the immediate situation my husband feels very "meh" about it all. It's always baffled me and we have had minor clashes because I'm always like "don't you want to know why XYZ is the way it is?" and he just shrugs like "nah."
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 07:42 PM
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What Type are you?? :D
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 07:27 PM
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Happily I've never encountered a true "deal breaker" in my own relationship. There have been points of strain, but generally I usually concede or we reach a satisfactory compromise. The list of things I 100% cannot bend on is relatively short: Must be comfortable leading and making most of the decisions Must be reasonably physically fit (attractive weight, reasonable activity endurance) No smoking or hard drugs Must be interested in marriage and children, with an emphasis on me in the home Must …
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 07:03 PM
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Has anyone else felt like this entire week has been offset by a day? Yesterday I thought it was Friday, today my husband woke up convinced it was Saturday. Anyone else experienced this phenomenon this week?
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 06:05 PM
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I am awful at this, it's the one thing I can't seem to organize functionally. This thread is wonderful, I'm getting so many good ideas. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 05:51 PM
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The reassurance need is real!
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 04:50 PM
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I'm equal on Type 4 "The Artist" and Type 6 "The Skeptic." Sensitive, emotional and intuitive plus extroversion, anxiety and a craving for stability/authority. Exactly me haha. I really enjoy how this system will even point to some of the reasoning behind your Type, like in my Type 6 summary, some of the anxiety and "searching for danger" can stem from childhood trauma. This is correct in my case, I spent about 4 years in near-constant pain from an internal injury and was always waiting for the …
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 04:49 PM
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ENFP here. Right there with you, I got my degree in following my husband around, they just happened to let me get a second degree in history while I was at it lol
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 04:20 PM
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As someone who did long distance for 2 years, you are very right. Basing an entire relationship on long distance will almost certainly lead to unpleasant surprises. After our 2 years of long distance, we spent the next 6 living in the same college town and got to see the good and the bad. It's easy to put on a perfect face for a 3 hour skype call, but reality is far different.
/r/RedPillWives15/06/17 03:56 AM
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Definitely, definitely. You're right in that regard, no point in looking back if it's already done. Only forward.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 06:28 PM
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This entire thread is such an object lesson in proper vetting imho.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 05:48 PM
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I am so excited to go get my Professional Seasonal Color Analysis done this weekend! Field report/write-up forthcoming on FNF! I'm really looking forward to buying clothes, it has been very frustrating holding off on summer purchases. Very very grateful for my husband's love of talking/listening to me talk. We have wonderful conversations! Sometimes I read about men being very quiet and close-mouthed and that's fine but I would despair. We are very well matched in this regard, and can talk for h…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 12:04 AM
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Books are also a very pleasant refuge! Usually the bees come into play when I'm laying in bed and can't be bothered to turn on lights or electronics. :p
/r/RedPillWives13/06/17 11:49 PM
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I've heard it called imposter anxiety I think? Yep that's exactly what it is.
/r/RedPillWives10/06/17 06:52 PM
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How I imagine anyone that's actually complaining about "manspreading". Always good for a laugh.
/r/RedPillWives10/06/17 06:45 PM
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I have a few terribly guilt/embarrassment-inducing memories that plague me even years later. One time, my husband (then boyfriend) and I got caught fooling around up in a canyon behind our town - by the police. I thought we were both going to go to jail, but I called my mom and she came and smoothed everything over. It used to keep me up at night, I would lay there and replay everything that could have gone wrong and just lay there in shame and guilt and awkwardness. It's been like 8 years since…
/r/RedPillWives10/06/17 06:28 PM
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I can't agree with this enough!! I used to complain to my mother about problems when I was young (and I do mean young, like 16-19), and it took a long while for her to come round on some aspects of my husband's personality. Now, I only talk to her about my own feelings and I keep my husband out of any conversations (unless it's positive obviously). That way I can cry and receive comfort but it doesn't involve my husband or my mom's perception of him. This has in turn improved my mom's relationsh…
/r/RedPillWives10/06/17 04:05 PM
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These are so cute! Thank you!
/r/RedPillWives10/06/17 01:47 AM
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Saw this on Facebook! I thought someone would post it here eventually. This is so good! I've seen so many girls totally abuse their boyfriends and it's just the worst sort of spoiled arrogance. Just because you're not giving your boyfriend black eyes doesn't mean you can't ruin his sense of self, or privacy, or pride. These wounds are equally cruel and scarring to a man.
/r/RedPillWives09/06/17 10:27 PM
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I don't think I explained myself well enough. I don't mean to say RP is compatible with feminism or the hard left, but I don't think that you have to be only conservative politically to live a personal life that is conservative/traditional. I'm very much not a feminist and my husband does not agree with feminism. I just think that aligning the principles of a traditional dynamic with only one political party is unnecessary.
/r/RedPillWives09/06/17 06:25 PM
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Come talk to me in the IRC channel, my work isn't going to procrastinate itself! But in all seriousness I love talking with the women in this community. You're all great!
/r/RedPillWives09/06/17 05:08 PM
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It really depends on how important politics are to you, and how much of an active role they play in your day-to-day life. If you and your SO disagree but you can still respect his opinion and trust his leadership, I don't think it really matters. My husband leans further left than I do, and I largely think it has to do with his training in the sciences at university along with a general insulation from the crazy train the far-left of the US is running. He's never been with an adamantly feminist …
/r/RedPillWives09/06/17 02:01 AM
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I would love another one of these!!
/r/RedPillWives07/06/17 11:58 PM
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I currently carpool home with my husband from work, but I love advance notice when it's applicable. It really does allow me to get everything "just so" and present my best self/best home for him (or any guests he's invited over). My husband will always let me know the most accurate time that any guests will be coming over, and that is essential. I love it when my husband surprises me by coming home early from an event or day of work, but surprise guests make me crazy and it's definitely a very k…
/r/RedPillWives07/06/17 10:51 PM
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I am so grateful for my husband's cool-headed response to crises big and small. I had a horrible bout of seasonal allergies this past weekend and his steadfast shepherding got me through a very rough 24 hours. I'm grateful for the finally warm weather we've been having! I have missed the sun like you would not believe. I'm grateful for running water in my apartment. This seems silly but we got it turned off for the day while a new water main was installed, and I realized how inconvenient life is…
/r/RedPillWives07/06/17 04:51 AM
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Thank you for sharing! I agree that time is the best cure. If you walk a path long enough in your mind, it becomes well worn and easy to take where once it was frightening and overgrown.
/r/RedPillWives07/06/17 04:44 AM
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a man’s primary emotional need is respect. To a man, respect is love. If you respect him and lift up his best qualities 99% of the time, he will internalize this respect well enough to listen to the 1% of time you may need to critique some of his life choices or behaviors. Your criticism will be seen as wise, balanced counsel instead of just another sniping remark. I am always careful to keep my husband's respect-meter at or near 100%, so that if I truly need something from him, or am worried ab…
/r/RedPillWives06/06/17 07:18 PM
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Go Out Femininely Dressed Tonight!
/r/RedPillWives05/06/17 11:30 PM
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Thanks for the comment! I actually am quite fond of technology, I simply view it as a tool instead of a place to put my faith. I understand your argument but I'm just one of those girls who needs a little blood on the altar in order to feel spiritually fulfilled (this is a metaphor, I don't actually sacrifice living creatures). Judging by your "sky wizard" comment I take it you are an atheist? That's fine, but would you say that you still have a place to put your faith? I know some people refute…
/r/RedPillWives03/06/17 01:45 PM
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I think that a low level of anxiety can actually enable femininity and better performance as a wife. It will make you more likely to feel dread, which will motivate your girl game. This is so true! I definitely don't want to eliminate all my anxiety, I agree that it does help motivate me to be my best self. Being slightly insecure (but not debilitatingly insecure) is endearing and pleasing to most men and I definitely see that at work in my own relationship. I have found that my personal anxieti…
/r/RedPillWives02/06/17 11:55 PM
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It relieves anxiety, any need for control and puts a brake on the shit tests while increasing my unquestioning trust. This is so true! I recently went through an odd week of shit-testing, and we both finally figured out that it was likely because we hadn't been intimate in about a week (which is long for us). After we fixed that problem, all the other problems just disappeared. It's such an easy reset button, I don't know why more people don't understand this phenomenon!
/r/RedPillWives02/06/17 01:51 AM
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Makes sense
/r/RedPillWives01/06/17 10:58 PM
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Do you let the dog lick your face/hands after watching this epic carnage? This is a legitimate question by the way. Is it weird?
/r/RedPillWives01/06/17 09:44 PM
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Uhh, if you're going to have a kid, wouldn't you WANT them to have every advantage they can? Seriously, I'm not sure why this is a problem to some people. I want my future children to have as many advantages as possible. One person's success is not dependent on another's failure. Prosperity is not a zero-sum game.
/r/RedPillWives01/06/17 08:15 PM
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Thank you for re-posting! I think that it is easy to fall into a bit of a lull with your Female Sexual Strategy when you are married or in a very long term relationship. You feel like you can sit back a bit, because you "made it." You did all the RPW things, you got your man, yay! Some things deepen greatly over time, like Companionship. However, the warm fuzzies of companionship can turn into something closer to familial love if it isn't accompanied by regular Sex. In order for both to be a net…
/r/RedPillWives01/06/17 07:40 PM
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I am grateful for my husband, who drove us all the way up the West Coast so I could take possession of my grandmother's antique china collection. It is gorgeous and I have been wanting it ever since I was a little girl! I am so grateful for my parents. They gave me such a love of learning and stories, and always encouraged my imagination, even when others told me I needed to be more "realistic." I am very grateful for my little dog. She is getting old, but she's still so sweet and happy. Every t…
/r/RedPillWives31/05/17 02:20 AM
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I think the taboo comes from essentially admitting women are whores. I actually think the problem goes deeper than this. The idea of exchanging sexuality for goods has been made taboo even within the confines of a relationship, which is definitely a far cry from the "sex for cash" kind of whoring that springs to mind when you first say the words "sexual currency." I'd love to get deep into the reasons why we are so embarrassed to admit that we exchange our sexuality for comfort. It doesn't actua…
/r/RedPillWives31/05/17 02:09 AM
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My SO and I agree on a lot of things but he wouldn't care enough to read up on these kinds of things so it's something I save for this place. Yep this is pretty much how it is for us too haha
/r/RedPillWives31/05/17 01:54 AM
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I would love a discussion on female sexual currency! I'm not sure why this subject is so taboo across the board, but you're right it really is! It's such a huge underpinning of relationships (both platonic and romantic) but no one is talking about it.
/r/RedPillWives30/05/17 11:31 PM
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I really appreciate the attention to sources on this post! I was looking for an article to send to my husband about this issue (he is naturally dominant but not very red pill aware) but I couldn't find anything well sourced enough to make a decently convincing argument. I think that the red pill/"alt" community in general could (and should) seek to link more data-based source material in its posts. A rational person will listen much more readily to raw data numbers. If one seeks to make headway …
/r/RedPillWives30/05/17 10:35 PM
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It's definitely a very thought-provoking book. It makes lots of points that lean left politically, and lots that lean right politically. I like books like that because you're forced to really solidify your own convictions. The author doesn't really spoon feed you the point of the book. You have to find it yourself :)
/r/RedPillWives30/05/17 05:46 PM
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I would read the book first. It's 16 years old and it's much more ambiguous in its social/political slant. More room to come to your own conclusions about things.
/r/RedPillWives30/05/17 01:19 PM
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Omg this is great!! XD
/r/RedPillWives28/05/17 12:41 AM
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As a total nerd who usually whines about "teh accuracy!!1!", I totally loved it and Charlie Hunnam did a great job.
/r/RedPillWives27/05/17 02:01 AM
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Super off-topic but it is Free Friday. Has anyone seen the new "King Arthur: Legend of the Sword" movie? It's gotten ripped by critics but my husband and I really liked it! It's a pretty masculine-positive movie I'd say, not many "strong female characters" aside from a girl who can literally do magic, so her badass-ness is way less absurd, and she isn't sexualized. They definitely took a few liberties with the original legend, but I really appreciated the fact that the director was not afraid to…
/r/RedPillWives26/05/17 08:25 PM
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Really trashy bachelorette parties. I know it's been popular for a long time to go out and go hard for a bachelorette party but I mean... you're not a man!! Stop trying to basically re-enact "The Hangover" only with way more moscato and drunk crying. Ughh. It is just the tackiest thing, especially all the girls wearing stripper heels and tottering around in sparkly sausage casing dresses. Why would you celebrate your upcoming marriage to a man by acting like a total slag??
/r/RedPillWives26/05/17 04:03 PM
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The word "uncouth" is not used nearly enough. It's such an excellent adjective.
/r/RedPillWives26/05/17 04:00 PM
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I think it's sad women would rather settle for a man because he worships the ground she walks on and does anything she says (aka buys her shit) than find a respectable man. "If you put a woman on a pedestal, she has no choice but to look down on you."
/r/RedPillWives25/05/17 07:46 PM
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But in real life, it's okay to just go to sleep! Lol this is too real. Me: "Hey it's 10:45pm, want to have a deep, intense conversation?" Him: "No wtf, go to bed. Leave me alone." Me: "But, don't you want --" Him: "OMG GO TO SLEEP!!"
/r/RedPillWives25/05/17 06:02 PM
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Contrary to many girls my age, while I watched a lot of Disney movies and girly TV shows, I formed the majority of my relationship expectations around books. I read a lot of epic fantasy (ok, that's all I read lol, and if you need a recommendation I'm here for you), and the heroes of those books formed a large chunk of my expectations for men and relationships in general. I think this is good and bad. In most fantasy novels, the protagonists come up against catastrophically difficult odds: dark …
/r/RedPillWives25/05/17 05:58 PM
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H men are going to be more sensitive to disrespect I think Haha definitely. Sometimes I'll say something and it's just insta-scowl, and I know I've screwed up :p
/r/RedPillWives25/05/17 03:11 AM
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How men perceive disrespect - body language, word choice, tone, expressions, etc. Male respect vs female respect Male archetypes. I speak about it in this post but I think it'd be cool to really explore and celebrate the different types of masculinity. We can also talk about where our men fall on the spectrum of different archetypes and how their traits mesh with our female archetypes. Both of these please!! Sometimes I will disrespect my husband without even knowing what I'm doing and I obvious…
/r/RedPillWives25/05/17 02:37 AM
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Merging the office and home only reinforces the idea that our days should be dominated by working for someone else and everything else should come secondary. This is so true and it's really unfortunate. I agree that re-thinking the system would be a better choice than trying to patch all of its holes with bizarre solutions. The weirdest thing is that so many people know that the system is broken, people write articles about it, they talk about how it saps people of life and community, but no one…
/r/RedPillWives24/05/17 07:11 PM
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You would feel dread, and have a tangible sense of the consequences to your actions. He may be meeting your dominant threshold but his method of dealing with your bullshit isn’t expressive or strong enough. I do think this is key. You definitely need to ask yourself whether or not the response you get from your man fuels your need to test or snuffs it out. When I try to incite anger in my husband, he doesn't really rise to it the way I am needling at him for. I'm glad because I really think that…
/r/RedPillWives24/05/17 07:01 PM
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I'm so glad you like my insight! I've definitely seen lots of parallels between us, our relationship styles, and some of our challenges. Lately I haven't been as submissive and kind as I should be in my own relationship, but writing always helps me figure out what I'm thinking so I can correct it in myself. It also has the benefit of helping others, if it's relevant. Is there any benefit putting the impetus on him to resist my shit tests, as opposed to putting it on me to simply make them? Defin…
/r/RedPillWives24/05/17 04:19 PM
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Sexist cities! Now that's one that I haven't heard before, though I'm not shocked. Honestly this article is pretty silly. However, some of the ideas listed would actually be beneficial to lots of different people, not just women. First off, I think that the push toward a more all-encompassing, communal urban setting reflects the increasing blur between work life and home life. This has exactly nothing to do with women or men and everything to do with technology and the ways in which we now work.…
/r/RedPillWives23/05/17 11:50 PM
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Hello! You don't know me but I read lots of your posts many months back, and I'm glad you're back. I just want to say that you're not alone in trying to "incite" some feelings in your man by shit testing him. I've just come off a rather odd week of doing the same thing to my husband (albeit in a much, much smaller and less damaging way). I'm LH but I was raised in a household that encouraged rather savage verbal banter, specifically between my mother and I. I will be the first to tell you that I…
/r/RedPillWives23/05/17 09:10 PM
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#triggerwarning
/r/RedPillWives23/05/17 08:35 PM
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"women can be just as logical, stoic and analytical" As a woman who went to a top-tier university and met some of the smartest men and women in the country, I can say that while this is true, it is so rare. And those women who are actually masculine in their intellectual capacity are never the ones who screech and complain about sexism, etc. They are too busy conducting research, writing papers, and generally ignoring the opinions of others because they are so focused on their mission. Ya know, …
/r/RedPillWives23/05/17 08:10 PM
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Yes! Also, I think a weird side effect of casting masculinity as violent and "toxic" is that other masculine traits that aren't as "physical" or obvious get cast as feminine or passive, thus causing some men who aren't as physically aggressive to question their masculinity (even though they have no reason to do so). My husband is very level-headed, independent, rather stoic and a great planner. He never had a problem sitting still in school, nor did he get in fights. But to cast him as feminine …
/r/RedPillWives23/05/17 06:35 PM
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so many things are called bad that are masculine, so there is no cultural respect for men. This is so true, and I think that this attitude is what causes a lot of the so-called "toxic masculinity" problems that are often talking points of feminists. I think that by blanket-casting masculine traits as toxic, men are not encouraged to pour their masculine energy into channels that are productive. Violence is largely not productive, but aggression can be channeled in ways that are incredibly positi…
/r/RedPillWives23/05/17 05:54 PM
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At this point just a swing back to the center would be wonderful. As someone who leans center-right, I'm so sick of feeling like a "radical conservative" for holding what I always imagined as more centrist views. No shade on radical conservatives, but I mean statistically it's impossible that everyone is on either fringe of the political spectrum! I'd love a nice period of balance. I'm so over this SJW nonsense.
/r/RedPillWives23/05/17 05:48 AM
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My husband and I spend a considerable amount of time together but we don't actually share that many common interests. Generally we will watch fun movies or shows and go out to restaurants and bars together, and we both share a love of walking/hiking, music and museums. But as far as actual hobbies go, we don't do most of them together. I love to read and write, worldbuilding keeps me occcupied for hours because of its creative freedoms, and I love talking about my creations. My husband is a prac…
/r/RedPillWives21/05/17 06:26 PM
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Of course! I think when I was a bit younger I used to feel more guilt when my husband was kind, but it was also at a point in time when I felt utterly worthless as a person. Unfortunately I'm still just as anxious, just about new things! lol XD
/r/RedPillWives18/05/17 02:54 AM
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Oh man, "benevolent god" is way too apt! My husband is also dominant in this way. I've also called this style "the good shepherd." Sometimes I forget how much steel and ice is underneath that warm exterior, but if I stray too far out of the planned trajectory, you bet I remember lol.
/r/RedPillWives17/05/17 03:53 PM
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Of course! So glad everyone likes it so much! :D
/r/RedPillWives17/05/17 03:13 PM
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I'm so excited to see my family this weekend for a family wedding! I live far from family, so seeing them is a rare and welcome treat. <3 I'm grateful for my Kindle! It's a library in my hand. Amazing. I'm grateful for my husband's love of planning, because it really stresses me out and not having to plan things really takes a weight off my mind!
/r/RedPillWives17/05/17 05:33 AM
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Thank you! Being feminine should be fun, and what's more fun than a nice drink? :)
/r/RedPillWives17/05/17 05:28 AM
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Your flair image makes this comment exponentially greater.
/r/RedPillWives16/05/17 10:29 PM
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Another low dominance, high threshold lady with a dominant man here! When we first got together, I was nearly incapable of showing negative emotions and being assertive. It is a struggle that I still have to work on, especially my assertiveness. I think once the realization that your man actually loves you deeply hits home, it becomes easier to show your sadness, anxiety, anger, etc. especially if you do it in a function, constructive way and don't throw fits. My biggest breakthrough regarding a…
/r/RedPillWives16/05/17 09:22 PM
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I'm not shocked that I never thought of this (planning is not my forte) but now that you've mentioned it this seems like a great idea! Thank you!
/r/RedPillWives16/05/17 08:39 PM
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I am horrible when it comes to being direct sometimes, or even just speaking up. I often don't have an opinion (this could be about food or where to hike), and he won't have a strong feeling one way or another so he'll ask me. Instead of saying what I feel like, I just start listing off possible options (which he knows as well, so it's not as though I'm helping hahah). Oh my goodness, this. This is my largest struggle. I rarely have an opinion about anything, but sometimes my husband just doesn'…
/r/RedPillWives16/05/17 08:31 PM
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So glad you like it! Omg I'm so honored to be on the wiki, seriously though :) Made my morning! I love this sub and I just wanted to add some fun knowledge!
/r/RedPillWives16/05/17 03:13 PM
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I met my husband when I was 16, so while marriage was not something that was front and center in my mind, within the first day of knowing him I thought, "this is a man I could love deeply." After 6 months, we knew what we had was special enough to commit to going long distance for 2 years (this is not something I would generally recommend, especially if both parties are over 18). But even at 16 and 18, we would talk about our future together. Not quite "wedding bells" future, but years ahead cer…
/r/RedPillWives16/05/17 12:01 AM
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It may be that you have some slight anxiety, and that it revolves around the things that you care about most, like your relationship. This happened to me all the time when I first met my husband, and occasionally it will still happen to me. The first thing I do is tell my husband that I'm feeling afraid, and that I need his help. I used to just keep my fears to myself, but that usually led to them spiraling out of control. By telling him upfront, he can head off the worst of my anxiety by giving…
/r/RedPillWives15/05/17 06:38 PM
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Wow thanks! :) That really means a lot!
/r/RedPillWives15/05/17 12:25 AM
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I'm actually looking into making some flavored syrups from scratch and your comment has reminded me to do that, so thanks! :)
/r/RedPillWives13/05/17 04:05 PM
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Funny enough, blue curacao was one of the first things I ever bought and I used it only once! I think it's the color - just too weird for me.
/r/RedPillWives13/05/17 06:47 AM
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So glad you enjoyed!
/r/RedPillWives13/05/17 06:45 AM
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It's so good!! Like drinking a cloud :3
/r/RedPillWives13/05/17 01:55 AM
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Haha my husband thinks the same way, all he's been buying lately is scotch!
/r/RedPillWives13/05/17 01:54 AM
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Ooh that app looks really neat, I will look into that! And I totally agree on not splurging on certain liquors. We definitely hide some of ours in the back! I've found that spirits like vodka just disappear into the drink anyway, so their taste profile doesn't matter as much. Whereas I will definitely taste the quality of bourbon or gin.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/17 10:34 PM
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My husband is naturally a logical and critical man with high expectations. When we first got together, he would often hurt my feelings with his honesty about what he did and didn't find acceptable about me. Over the years he has gotten more gentle about it, because he knows that if he is too harsh I will either fire back defensively, or curl into a ball of sorrow and weep. I'm very sensitive, and I usually cover it up with my quick wit. But insulting your husband is a bad strategy, so I have to …
/r/RedPillWives09/05/17 07:05 PM
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Yes! As an example, when normal heterosexual couples use the term "partner" to express their "equality" it really just shows how much things have changed. Marriage isn't two becoming one anymore, it's two individuals leading separate lives that intersect when mutually beneficial. Oh my goodness, this is so true! I have a very close friend who uses this language and I just can't figure out why it brings her any kind of joy. She is also the type to say things like "I don't need my husband, I just …
/r/RedPillWives09/05/17 03:27 PM
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Ooh, good point about thinking your man wants the kind of love you provide just sort of by default! I didn't even think of that. Honestly I think that women should seek to pair up as young as possible. Growing into an adult with my husband instead of trying to cram two separate lives into one has made so much of a difference between my relationship and those of my friends. It's gotten to the point where I don't even know who I would be without the influence of my husband. My personality has been…
/r/RedPillWives05/05/17 02:26 AM
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Honestly, I've never really understood the concept of the "love language," especially the idea that you give love in the way you want to receive it. This is not true for me. I show my affection by doing things for people and telling them how much they mean to me. I feel most loved when people buy me things and spend time with me - preferably at the same time. However, I think that my confusion on the topic of love languages comes in part from being with my husband since I was 16. We formed each …
/r/RedPillWives04/05/17 11:57 PM
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I am grateful for my husband's work ethic and general attitude towards the world. He is ambitious and works hard to give us a great life and future. Our debt is zero, our savings are flush, and we are on such an upward trajectory thanks to him! I'm grateful for audiobooks. Seriously, sooo grateful. Now I can "read" while at work without getting stern lectures from my bosses about productivity. ;) I am grateful for my Kitchen Aid standing mixer. I have always wanted one mainly due to kitchen vani…
/r/RedPillWives03/05/17 01:57 AM
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Good point about finding interests! I love writing but haven't been able to find a writing group in my area that is populated by people under 40. :/ Ah well, gotta keep looking!
/r/RedPillWives26/04/17 03:53 AM
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Well if I find anything that works for me I'll let you know :)
/r/RedPillWives23/04/17 07:44 PM
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I agree that this isn't a big deal. I love reading gossip and drama, and living it vicariously keeps me from starting any in my own life. If it's not making you upset or affecting your relationship just keep doing what brings you joy, even if it's a little petty ;)
/r/RedPillWives23/04/17 07:13 PM
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That sounds stressful! Honestly I'm not too worried about other women sniping at me, I think that vetting friends is something I'm good at. A little TOO good at. I will usually default reject a person and assume that they will dislike me before I even get to know them. I'm really sick of doing this and I'm looking for resources on how to overcome these feelings and behaviors.
/r/RedPillWives23/04/17 07:08 PM
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Oh goodness, I think the last time I took one was years ago but if I recall it was ENFJ. Edit: I just re-took it. ENTP is now the verdict.
/r/RedPillWives23/04/17 01:58 AM
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This is so true! I'm always effusive with my gratitude, and my husband is usually happy to receive it. But, there is a point where gratitude sort of turns into self-flagellation. Like "oh, I don't deserve this, you are too kind, I'm not worth this kind of trouble." At that point, I usually find that my "gratitude" isn't really revolving around how grateful I am for what my husband is doing, it's revolving around my own insecurities about what I "deserve." My husband can tell when it's becoming t…
/r/RedPillWives09/04/17 10:38 PM
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