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Thanks for taking the time to break this down for me. I feel like I'm seeing the chemical and biological conditions that are driving interactions now. I guess I can't blame her biology. I was a male slut so wouldn't have been worthy of her LTR. Probably a good thing for me in the long run, especially considering how naive I was/am. If women want to be treated as side chicks, so be it. I'll just redirect all my generosity to myself. Committing to myself to never marry a woman is the ultimate hard…
/r/askTRP20/03/15 05:07 PM
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This is EXACTLY what happened. It's fucked up. Now I feel awkward going to shared venues where I have every right to be there and not feel like some loser jackass by her social circle judging me. I was great to her with remarkable consistency. Thanks for this explanation. It's extremely eye opening and is helping me overcome this issue.
/r/askTRP20/03/15 04:28 PM
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Just bought this on Kindle and will prioritize reading this. I readily admit I am way too sensitive and take petty shit personally. Need to grow in this area. Thank you.
/r/askTRP20/03/15 04:25 PM
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Yes, reputation takes a lifetime to build and a second to wreck. But, like you, I am confident those who know me know the degradation she threw at me was unfounded. Whatever makes her sleep easier at night. Bullet dodged.
/r/askTRP20/03/15 04:14 AM
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High five! Disloyal "girlfriends" leading us to self-realization and relentless self improvement. How thoughtful of them. The innocent flower veneer, and the fury latent in a woman who thinks she's been fooled by a beta are two things I've only recently experienced. Damn if I will ever let that bite me again. I really want to know who coined AWALT, so I can shake their hand. It's an incredibly helpful frame.
/r/askTRP20/03/15 04:09 AM
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Gain experience by taking action. Gain wisdom by reflecting on the outcomes of your actions and thinking how they may have gone differently if you made different decisions. Seriously what are your life's guiding principles or values? If you have strong values, they will help you make decisions.
/r/askTRP20/03/15 04:04 AM
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Thank you, I needed to hear this. I also gave my commitment to her way too soon and without proper vetting. Lesson learned.
/r/askTRP20/03/15 03:39 AM
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That's the thing. She seemed quite normal until the end. That's why part of me is debating how much credence to give her criticisms of me.
/r/askTRP20/03/15 03:15 AM
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How to not be so sensitive and overly self-critical?
/r/askTRP20/03/15 01:39 AM
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"The way of the samurai is found in death. When it comes to either/or, there is only the quick choice of death. It is not particularly difficult. Be determined and advance. To say that dying without reaching one's aim is to die a dog's death is the frivolous way of sophisticates. When pressed with the choice of life or death, it is not necessary to gain one's aim. We all want to live. And in large part we make our logic according to what we like. But not having attained our aim and continuing to…
/r/TheRedPill19/03/15 02:57 PM
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That's remarkably concise. Thanks for phrasing it like that. Be the 1/100. I was thinking about marketing concepts of positioning and differentiation today and think it may also apply along these lines. That is, be different and noticeable from all the competition. I think mixing the guy every girl wants to sleep with and somehow being fundamentally different than the competition is the best path forward.
/r/askTRP17/03/15 05:10 AM
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Absolutely correct. The reference points from experience, the bank of successful interactions, is like the muscle memory one develops in any activity they practice. I need to practice.
/r/askTRP17/03/15 05:01 AM
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Agree. If you keep doing what you've been doing, you'll keep getting what you've always gotten. E.g., if I don't approach then I won't get to be the selector. Meaningful change must be immediate and drastic. I.e., I must get out of my comfort zone by doing things I've never done with boldness, gusto, and reckless abandon.
/r/askTRP17/03/15 05:01 AM
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Thank you. I'm making it hard by overthinking it and not taking action.
/r/askTRP17/03/15 04:17 AM
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Time is that fleeting resource. What's a proven way to accelerate this?
/r/askTRP17/03/15 03:51 AM
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I get the difference between TRP and PUA. I'm just asking amoral sexual advice / how to be the man I want to be. You give good advice, but 20 new numbers seems so beyond reality to me. How's it possible to cultivate that kind of pipeline? Is it really lift, get money, dress well, be dominant/masculine, approach, escalate?
/r/askTRP17/03/15 03:51 AM
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Thanks for your thoughts. This shit is depressing. I had a good thing with my ex, she wasn't crazy at least and the sex was consistent if mediocre. But she demanded a fuckton from me and then cheated/branch swung so effectively I invested a ton of resources for mediocre sex. I'm trying really hard not to be MGTOW but between hypergamy and the risks associated with catching a crazy on a bad day, I'm starting to wonder just how important it really is to achieve sexual release. I guess I'm stage fo…
/r/askTRP15/03/15 03:39 PM
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I believe the TRP term is 'perceived SMV.' Maybe it's finally time to take the Tinder plunge, though I feel I'm late to that party. Definitely can't LTR the Tinder chicks though, right?
/r/askTRP14/03/15 11:52 PM
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I can relate and you sharing your story helps me see the cheating, branchswinging ex saved me a lot of trouble! Thanks for sharing this. Good riddance.
/r/TheRedPill14/03/15 09:23 PM
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This is solid advice, but I need to figure out where these people are and what value I can offer to them to get into the circle. I'm too old and awesome to be staying up til 2am chasing dumb party girls.
/r/askTRP14/03/15 08:56 PM
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Thank you for taking the time to express gratitude. I'm glad my writing resonated with you. I pride myself on my writing ability, and to have it singled out and highlighted means a lot to me. Against all sane advice, I actually did "shake her hand" via an email thanking her for teaching me a lot of life lessons. I didn't ask her back, I didn't apologize for anything, I just said I enjoyed my time with her, learned a lot of things I needed to learn, and I wish her the best. I want to be angry wit…
/r/TheRedPill13/03/15 12:52 AM
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One of my goals of this post was to condense TRP knowledge as tightly as I could. I'm glad you find it valuable. Best of luck! Be happy.
/r/TheRedPill13/03/15 12:41 AM
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All thanks to the TRP posters who came before me. The above post took hours to write. I read hundreds of TRP posts, all their comments, saved all the ones I found most value in to Evernote, tagged them all, categorized the tags by major themes, applied the themes to my life and recent experience with a woman, wrote a rough draft, revised quite a bit, posted (got deleted by the automod), re-posted. This was an extremely selfish, masturbatory post. But it felt so cathartic to get out of my system.…
/r/TheRedPill13/03/15 12:30 AM
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The mission is to every day be a better man than I was the previous day. This mission will be accomplished every day, inch by inch, by working toward progressing my goals across many areas of concern (solving grand challenges, entrepreneurship, academics, career, relations with family, friends, women, health, financial, spiritual, adventure, etc.) toward my life vision, which is answering the question, "What does success look like?" Civilization faces unprecedented challenges. Each of us has the…
/r/TheRedPill12/03/15 11:52 PM
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You speak the truth. I'm just avoiding my fears. The opportunities are right in front of me.
/r/askTRP10/03/15 05:00 AM
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I'm glad to be in good company and hope you're healing as well. My life philosophies include compassion and not holding on to hate or anger, so as hurt as I am, I am trying to acknowledge that I don't know everything about her circumstances and a lot of her decision probably had nothing to do with me personally. I want everyone to be happy and content, so I don't want to hold ill will towards her even when I felt she did me wrong. Turn the other cheek. As far as moving on, which is most importan…
/r/askTRP09/03/15 09:51 PM
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I recently described relationships to my friend as being the equivalent of World of Warcraft. I'm glad you categorized it as such. I agree true living is struggle and achievement, and my mission seems vague because I'm trying not to reveal too much about myself, but know that it is extremely dialed in as far as my life vision, what I want to be said about me at my funeral, the legacy I want to live on when I'm gone. I have that all mapped out backwards to the present, with SMART goals, project p…
/r/askTRP09/03/15 09:43 PM
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This is important and well received. Self-first is a good rallying cry, because really that's all any of us has. As you say, organic, volatile people are fickle and pinning my success, happiness, validation to someone beyond myself is foolish. I like the debrief part too. That's kind of what this post is about, only I'm coming at it from the last angle I'm struggling with, which is finally letting go and moving on. Thanks!
/r/askTRP09/03/15 02:12 PM
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I can't even imagine an eight-year breakup. It puts my four-month fling in perspective. Building new habits is something I am good at, so using it as a tool to have better thought patterns is solid advice. I'd say everything you've told me I am thankfully already pursuing: deleted her from my life, hid keepsakes for a day that's far off, no PMO, examining my belief system and philosophies, meditating and being present, lifting, dieting, cutting out bad habits and relationships. Sounds like I jus…
/r/askTRP09/03/15 04:59 AM
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If I treated myself like I treated the ex...I'm in for a great time. The empty unfulfilling life doesn't apply to my situation, I feel. I have a ton of amazing things going on that are very fulfilling and bring me happiness and purpose. I think my issue is more the disillusionment and pain of the first time getting dumped by someone you like more than they like you. I've dated other women before and the breakups were easy because I was the less invested one. This is my first breakup where I'm on…
/r/askTRP09/03/15 03:29 AM
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The opportunity to meet better women is exciting. Hate is such a strong word, but she did me dirty and I don't tolerate that shit. Her loss.
/r/askTRP09/03/15 03:19 AM
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I needed to hear this. I am totally romanticizing her in a way that's unfair to me. She was selfish and the way she cheated on me/branch swung and how she dumped me (I won't go into particulars) I wouldn't wish to happen on my worst enemy. And I hadn't done anything wrong except lose her attraction! I was never a dick or cheated on her or anything. I was super supportive, generous, caring, and kind to her. Crazy. So, replacing my pedestaled version of her with the one you advise, the heartless c…
/r/askTRP09/03/15 03:17 AM
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Nice way to frame it! I should be using this as an opportunity to have fun.
/r/askTRP09/03/15 01:55 AM
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These are good perspectives. Thank you for sharing them with me. TRP posts every day hammer home that women don't love men unconditionally, but it really takes getting burned to truly have it set in.
/r/askTRP09/03/15 01:54 AM
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This is a great explanation to a great piece of advice. I do some yoga here and there and the mindfulness meditation is part of it. I totally get the breath analogy and the importance of not grasping to impermanence or attempting to define experience. Thanks for this perspective; I think a lot of TRP readers would benefit from yoga, mindfulness, zen, etc. It's just as critical as lifting weights. In fact, I had a PM conversation the other day that I think is worth sharing: -- I have been leaning…
/r/askTRP08/03/15 11:22 PM
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Damn, I thought I had figured out this validation should come from inside thing, but when you phrase it that way, maybe I am seeking validation from women still. What about the sex! Sex feels good, what's so wrong about going after it? I don't know if that's necessarily seeking validation of who I am from women just because I enjoy sex with attractive women.
/r/askTRP08/03/15 11:14 PM
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Agree, I gave her power over me and it's on me that I got hurt. That's inexperience at work. I want to have sex with and adoration from cute girls that I think are awesome. I know from experience if I don't put myself out there, it doesn't happen. This is why they are on the list, though deprioritized. I must be the one approaching. And because I suck at both approaching and managing LTRs, I need to do it more than I want at this point in time to get practice to get better. But I completely agre…
/r/askTRP08/03/15 11:04 PM
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This is partly correct, and I appreciate the bluntness. I actually have a ton of life goals and am making great progress on them. I'm the fittest, highest-earning, most intelligent, most shit going on I've ever been in my life. And it's not arbitrary at all. I have a very distinct life vision and plan that I am progressing methodically and with best practices. I think the problem is I'm significantly older than you take me for, and I just don't have the dating experience a man my age should have…
/r/askTRP08/03/15 10:53 PM
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I appreciate the effort that went into your reply, and it's resonating with me in a major way. I'm thankful this community is so intelligent, generous, and full of camaraderie. I've actually been pretty good about deleting her number, blocking her on Facebook, hiding all pictures/notes/gifts. I need to get better about not talking about her to my friends any chance I get. Starve the beast, indeed. It's sad that I really cared for her, but I have some pride in knowing that I have that capability …
/r/askTRP08/03/15 10:15 PM
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These are all amazing tactics. Thanks for so many options. I got the self-improvement in the works, but need to focus more on approaching and spinning plates. But my recent post-break up dating has been a trainwreck and discouraging. My ex beats all of them so far, and that's hard for me to deal with. I guess I just need to keep going after higher and higher quality. Am I the male equivalent of an alpha widow at this point? Scary to consider.
/r/askTRP08/03/15 10:01 PM
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Also of note and perhaps demonstrating how following TRP guidelines does increase your attractiveness. I feel like all the takeaways I have gotten from TRP my ex was wielding with amused mastery over me. Maybe that's why this is so hard for me. She was selfish in the sense that she was always self-first. She had an abundance reality. She maintained boundaries, led, had confidence, inner strength, and a strong frame. She seemed to always be happy with herself, if not with me. With me, she was alo…
/r/askTRP08/03/15 09:24 PM
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This might be another aspect of how this situation has me so twisted. On paper, my SMV is above hers, so it's just kind of shocking to me how I could be discarded so nonchalantly. I said on paper because in practice I still have beta tendencies, and she probably met a higher value man that gave her more tingles than I did. But her loss indeed. I'm on an upward trajectory. I like your advice to have an abundance mentality but also to not give up commitment so easily and make them earn it.
/r/askTRP08/03/15 09:05 PM
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Thank you for the physiological perspective. Loss of not just her, but of my idealized notion of love, is jarring to the body. I'd say I'm doing a good job at being active. I am involved in high-value activities pretty much every single day from the time I wake up until the time I go to sleep. Still, during these activities I think about her and it distracts the activities. But keeping busy has helped for sure. In fact, I started salsa dancing lessons and I find that it's so challenging to me to…
/r/askTRP08/03/15 09:01 PM
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The ex used me as a status prop for her social circle, and at least three of her friends blatantly hit on me right in front of the ex. I consciously remember noting each time, because my SMV has never been that high where this was actually a thing that happens to me. I don't think the friends were the issue, I was too beta with the ex. She was also apparently prospecting for new alphas when I wasn't with her and I was oblivious to this. She found someone that gave her more tingles than me then m…
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Great advice, thank you. I am using her spite and betrayal for self improvement and motivation. And your second paragraph I need to get tattoo'd on my eyelids. I was the classic nice guy beta bux to her. Treated her way too well, committed way too early, and dropped everything in my life to fit into her schedule on her terms. It's so strange how being kind, respectful, and selfless to a 'nice' girl can turn them into mean-spirited psychos.
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Good stuff. I own the book and have read it once but need to revisit. This was one of the final lingering issues I'm exploring related to getting cheated on and dumped. I think I've worked my way through all of it: what I did wrong, how to improve myself so it doesn't happen again, etc. The last thing I wanted some guidance on was understanding how someone that seemed kind and caring, and who you treated well, could turn on you in an instant with extreme venom. It's been hard for me to realize I…
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