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Earl Silverman and Frederick Douglass are the first to come to mind with the prompt ETA: He isn't historical but I have mad respect for Chen Si
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/03/23 03:49 PM
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I understand, thank you for taking the time to write such a thoughtful response. It is a little odd that it took me so long to overcome misandry. Looking back even I feel like "What took so long?" It seems out of character and I do have a lot of shame about it now. I know how it ended up happening (trauma and a need for understanding & support which was provided by the radfem community,) and I know part of why it took me so long to get out of it (stuck in an echo chamber, fear of being attacked …
/r/AntiFeminists18/01/23 09:00 PM
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Me, I'm the leftist you find interesting to listen to Lol jk That is one of my top pet peeves tho, you ask a question and they respond by insulting you. Like, I'm trying to learn, why do you have to be such a dick lol
/r/AntiFeminists15/01/23 11:04 PM
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Yeah, I think from now on I'm going to try to listen to more diverse opinions and keep myself balanced that way. Even places full of people I strongly disagree with, I want to try to be open to why and how they came to those beliefs because I'm learning open, meaningful discussion and empathetic listening are the only way to understanding and being lead out or helping others find their way out of dark places. We can't just hide things under the rug or further marginalize those who already feel m…
/r/AntiFeminists15/01/23 09:58 PM
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Thank you! Tbh when I was first leaving I felt a lot of anger, like I had been part of a cult. They made me feel safe and loved after going through so much trauma, validated my feelings and fears, but then eventually I realised, after getting in so deep, if I stepped even slightly outside of their narrative, they would turn on you and be exceptionally cruel. It felt like they used my traumas against me to make me fall in line with whatever they were trying to push. Leaving was so hard because I …
/r/AntiFeminists15/01/23 09:13 PM
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Mostly I just don't appreciate someone who knows naught about me swooping in just to make worst case assumptions, like there is no other circumstance that I would have been able to overcome misandry, nor do I appreciate them referring to my having my son as "a bad move ... but you made your choice," particularly in the context of me asking if they think I should have aborted my child, as well, because they believe any woman who struggles to overcome misandrist beliefs would have been an inherent…
/r/AntiFeminists15/01/23 06:13 PM
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Yeah, fuck you.
/r/AntiFeminists15/01/23 03:44 PM
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Thank you so much! I'm sorry to hear your therapist validated fears about men, that is pretty fucked up. People are just people and gender doesn't determine who is trustworthy and who isn't. I am now advocating locally for male victims of domestic/intimate partner violence and it is unbelievable how many people working in those sectors just don't care about male victims, or will say "while they CAN be victims" and then explain why they aren't important enough overall, and that is just one portio…
/r/AntiFeminists15/01/23 03:28 PM
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I'm not really sure what your point is. I did have a boy so I did change. We don't and will never know if something else would have precipitated a change for me, either. Are you saying it would have been better for me to have aborted my son, instead of having him, learning more, changing my worldview, loving him immeasurably and taking great care of him? Because that is fucked up and out of line.
/r/AntiFeminists15/01/23 03:12 PM
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Two things happened in my life concurrently. 1) I had a son. I found myself viewing him as a ticking time bomb of toxicity that I had to find a way to defuse (in large part because of significant trauma from being mentally/physically/emotionally/sexually abused by several many men in my own family and personal life.) I was disgusted by myself feeling that way then, and I am now, but it is how it was. 2) I got very, very deep into the Depp/Heard trial. I will admit when Heard's allegations first …
/r/AntiFeminists15/01/23 02:28 PM
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Having a baby boy was what ultimately caused me to face my issues with misandry, leave feminism, and start learning about the difficulties men face so I can help my son through them. Hopefully, if she does keep the baby, and it is a boy, her love for him gives her a change of heart, too.
/r/AntiFeminists15/01/23 12:30 AM
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It wasn't sarcasm, it was genuine disbelief. Also, I don't owe you an argument. I'm just wondering if you know what a century even is.
/r/AntiFeminists06/01/23 02:42 AM
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...That's a thing you believe?
/r/AntiFeminists06/01/23 02:37 AM
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It is so weird the term was co opted from a woman describing herself to be used to mean like "violently misogynistic men." Just taking a woman's ideas out of her hands and using it to vilify men, sounds like feminism
/r/AntiFeminists05/01/23 04:24 PM
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The entire true crime community, which is primarily women, thinks this and her attempt at redemption are complete bullshit, tho
/r/AntiFeminists28/12/22 03:30 PM
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Yyyyyup.
/r/EverydayMisandry27/12/22 08:14 PM
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I mean, yeah, we should get rid of the term feminist because mainstream feminism is a toxic cesspool mess of hypocrisy and politicking with a deep history of racism and other vile attributes. And then, yeah, you can either be a benign person or a sexist. Sounds good to me
/r/AntiFeminists21/12/22 04:20 PM
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Do you feel that is a newer development socially? I thought that was sort of a very long held system of belief, that we must protect women from all men and never let her alone with one lest he rape her
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/08/22 09:01 PM
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Thank you I also thought it was this Dr Curry lmao
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/08/22 12:09 AM
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I love when someone smarter than me articulates something I had a suspicion about
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/08/22 11:57 PM
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Oh yeah same but like there is a lot more room for nuance and variety of opinion than what is in the scope of modern mainstream feminism
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/08/22 11:51 PM
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Thank you for the link, I'll check that out! And heteropessimistic, what a mint term
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/08/22 11:46 PM
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Well it says women have a duty to stand up against sexual objectification which I mean I think they think feminist and woman are somehow interchangeable
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/08/22 11:43 PM
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Yeeeeaaaahhhhh the extent of gaslighting in certain communities is a lot - if you disagree, you are x or y terrible thing, you can never just be a good person with a different viewpoint. It is so "us or them" that it is scary, tbh.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/08/22 06:27 PM
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Interesting. Similar tactics have been used by women before... Now I have to sit all day and think about what that might look like and lead to
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/08/22 05:33 PM
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I just want to be sure I understood you, you mean like hetero men should stop pursuing women romantically en masse to force women to have to initiate contact?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/08/22 05:29 PM
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I find it interesting that both men and women equally seem to hold the belief that men should be able to provide financially for the family to be a good partner... What do you think is the best way to get a shift going in that view for everyone?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/08/22 05:24 PM
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I mean they literally have a rule (8) that if you have an opinion that varies, you are encouraged to consider if you are actually internally misogynistic, not doing your duty as a woman, bargaining with the patriarchy, or mentally ill.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/08/22 04:06 PM
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This is really difficult to watch. I wonder how much not only being a man, but being a black man prohibited him from feeling he could speak out against her as a white woman. I feel like the misandry and racism prevalent in society had a hand in his death. Shit's fucked.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/08/22 04:02 PM
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Ooh I'll go read it when it's my boy's nap time! Thanks for letting me know!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/08/22 03:54 PM
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Oh my God fucking throw out Duluth pleeeeaaaase and SERIOUSLY rework the primary/dominant aggressor model - I understand why both of them started and their intention but they are not being used fairly or correctly and they are problematic not just for gender reasons so just... No with those, for me Imo, the most important thing is to put equal or near to equal importance on male victims and female perpetrators in the education and training of emergency personnel (EMTs, nurses, police, etc) and s…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/08/22 02:44 PM
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Thank you for the compliments haha I am not sure if I believe in blank slate, either, but I am happy to have gone from a place where I felt like I needed to raise a daughter to know how to protect herself from men, or tamp down in a son the chance to be one of those toxic men to now knowing anyone can be toxic and there isn't anything inherent in men that makes them more toxic or anything I do still recognize that feminist issues aren't made up by and large, and historically women have been fuck…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/08/22 11:46 AM
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Well, so, I had a son and I kept looking at him like a ticking time bomb because somewhere along the way I came to believe that something inherent to men was toxic that needed to be tamped down (at this point of my self reflection I think that is because my family has a very long intergenerational history of abusive men, I had my share of relationships with abusive men including being confined and being mentally, emotionally, psychologically, physically, and sexually abused, AND while the radfem…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/08/22 04:38 PM
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I am a woman, thank you for having my back and making sure my gender expression is respected, but I'm also a Dudeist so Dude works for me 😋
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/08/22 07:42 PM
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Aww thank you so much that really, really means a lot to me 🥰
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/08/22 07:40 PM
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My guess is that it is because the fundamental and widespread heteronormative belief is still that men are abusers and women are victims ("gender based violence," "violence against women," "wife abuse," are all terms commonly considered somehow interchangeable with DIPV) Most of the resources for victims that I have found are put together by feminist groups (for example in my province it is done with help from the Women's Equality branch and you can find a lot of your information on government r…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/08/22 11:32 AM
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Right?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/08/22 11:49 PM
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That's true, thanks for looking out for me
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/07/22 07:57 PM
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Hopefully they find the backing they need or enough people fight to get back what they had
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/07/22 08:10 PM
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Why in the fuck did they do that
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/07/22 07:58 PM
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I definitely at min will have a man as my partner, I am really adamant about that rn And yeah I wonder if CCMF has outlines for how they do their groups or if you have some free reign to do different things like that, I also really liked the idea of the group doing charity work together now and then, too
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/07/22 07:57 PM
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Contrary to radfem rhetoric, your gender does not invalidate your opinion or wisdom simply because you're not personally affected by these issues. You're right, I have definitely been taught that- to always stay in my lane or whatever - but I should trust my ability to empathize and have compassion more than that, as long as I am listening. If I do that, I should be able to lead or co-lead effectively. And don't worry about how we started off! I came in weird lol HELLO I AM BIASED AGAINST MEN HE…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/07/22 03:32 PM
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That is true, it might be better PR for a woman to at least get it going, even if I do pass it on Regarding your edit, may I PM you?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/07/22 03:23 PM
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That's true, if we are the only one, you might as well give us a shot lol And hopefully I can prove to them pretty quickly that I am an ally
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/07/22 03:23 PM
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Ngl, I've been trying to stay not directly involved because I'm a woman. My goal was to set up an organization for men run by men. I don't really know how I feel being a leader of a group for men, do you feel that would deter you from using the group if a woman was half the leadership? I suppose I could always try to eventually find someone who seems interested enough to take over my position?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/07/22 02:12 PM
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Thank you so much! That is really helpful to know!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/07/22 12:16 AM
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Oh shit
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/07/22 10:50 PM
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Thank you so much for sharing that with me, that is a really beautiful and inspiring story
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/07/22 04:33 PM
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Lol valid and possible
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/07/22 02:57 PM
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Thank you!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/07/22 12:55 PM
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Is it okay if I lurk there a bit? (I'm a woman)
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/07/22 12:12 PM
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So you think it would be better maybe if the group was action-oriented in a sense, like, say, playing cards and talking? Or just you would want to find resources there about how to live a healthy lifestyle with examples (exercise, meditation/mindfulness to a degree, nutrition, self-care)?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/07/22 11:44 AM
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What are your favourite things about the groups you attend? How do they operate?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/07/22 11:40 AM
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Obviously, these are valid points, but I certainly wasn't thinking of a support group where men are forced to reexamine their privilege and whatever. I was just thinking of a left leaning group (or neutral group) where men can literally just hang out and talk each other through their shit lol I think, especially now when men are shut down so often when they try to express themselves, it is really important for men to have those spaces to have non judgmental emotional support - non judgmental as …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/07/22 10:42 AM
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Oof
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/07/22 04:14 AM
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You can view masculinity as a gravitational force that draws males towards a core of male traits - while femininity is another planet. Historical conditions and individual differences influence where one ends up - and some are born to another planet. But the gravitational force is there. This makes some sense to me, but then what are male traits? In your opinion, those are action orientedness and striving for objectivity?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/07/22 10:46 PM
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While I appreciate finding commonalities to create unity and mutual progress, I'm also heavily invested in male victims of domestic violence at this point and men do generally statistically tend to react differently to being abused as well as need different techniques for treatment so knowing differences is as important as finding commonalities. I dont think differences mean we can't be in unity or move in mutual progress, either - quite to the contrary. Understanding is the most important thing…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/07/22 09:15 PM
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masculinity aspires to objectivity, to the external world. It's not a convenient, neverending introspection. It needs action. It is politically dangerous. Do you mean this "right now," as well, or historically/inherently?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/07/22 12:37 PM
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Well I know what I'm gonna be thinking about all day
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/07/22 07:40 PM
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Thanks for that! I wasn't sure whether to add them since they seemed to be more about amplifying the voices of other activists, but I thought since this post was about research CAFE was spreading awareness for they would be useful in that respect, as well. But yeah it isn't quite the same thing.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/07/22 05:54 PM
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Does this work?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/07/22 05:32 PM
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I have no idea if any of this applies to where you are, but there are resources in other countries, for example: Americans have 1 in 6 for male victims of sexual assault, Dad's Divorce for help with child custody issues, and The Domestic Violence Hotline is explicit that their resource is for men, as well. Generally, they also have The National Center for Men, Men's Rights, and The National Coalition for Men. In the UK, there is the Men's Advice Line and Mankind Initiative for male victims of DI…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/07/22 03:26 PM
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Mm but certain members in here want to know why men don't just fight for themselves and not ask for the help of women Curious world we live in, isn't it?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/07/22 01:53 PM
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I have responded to her with this, I'm gonna set up that correspondence journal a couple people suggested, and I will let you all know when I know something! Thank you so much, that is very exciting news! I look forward to seeing what changes are made. If it helps, I have been looking and found there are a few nationally available online resources for men in Canada that could be added, which could be helpful in the interim before NB develops a local program: The Men's Support Group https://menan…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/07/22 01:45 PM
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Thank you! I'm definitely going to make a diary to keep track of these things
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/07/22 02:40 AM
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It does! And thank you, that is a good idea, I should keep track of who I talk to, when, when I need to follow up, and what has been said and still might need to be said
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/07/22 01:43 AM
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Never been happier that I didn't circumcise my boy! My husband fought for it but I told him "There is no circumstance on Earth under which you could force me to mutilate my child for no medical reason," and he let it go. I really just had a gut reason, I just felt wrong about it, and it is good to know there are a lot of concrete reasons.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/07/22 01:31 AM
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Thank you!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/07/22 01:21 AM
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I will definitely follow up with her so if she thinks she is rid of me she can THINK AGAIN
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/07/22 12:48 AM
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That's definitely a lot of the premise of what I have been emailing about, a) that the resources need to be gender neutral so it isn't prohibitive to a man's understanding that he can be a victim, b) a women-as-victims/men-as-abusers paradigm for DIPV alienates members of the LGBTQ community as well as cishet men and causes them not to be able to see themselves as victims, c) men need specific resources in order to feel comfortable enough to report DIPV particularly when the situation with the p…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/07/22 12:47 AM
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Same but just not being dismissed and it moving up the ladder felt like a win haha Celebrate every win, right?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/07/22 12:27 AM
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Lmfao I forgot about that
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/07/22 06:46 PM
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I don't really believe in or want to live a life where I believe anyone should be on their own. Everyone who is in a vulnerable position needs allies, even if they come from other places. A lot of work toward the equality and protection of women has been done with the help of men and always was. Why abandon our brothers when we might be able to serve their good - and all of our good?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/07/22 06:29 PM
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East coast represent :P
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/07/22 06:26 PM
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This is from the Senior Consultant to the Department of Justice and Public Safety in my province regarding changing the gendered language in their resources and starting a resource for men! GNB is the Government of New Brunswick.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/07/22 05:15 PM
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This is from the Senior Consultant to the Department of Justice and Public Safety in my province regarding changing the gendered language in their resources and starting a resource for men! GNB is the Government of New Brunswick.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/07/22 01:45 PM
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"used to refer to a thing, no matter what."
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/07/22 12:27 PM
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Yup, sure were. Because dont forget when they are looking into domestic violence, what no longer matters is who hit who but who is the predominant aggressor aka who poses "the most serious, ongoing threat," one of the determinants being "Is there a physical size difference between the parties?" They clarify this with "Law enforcement officers should be aware of situations that may further complicate the determination of the predominant aggressor. For example, the IACP instructs law enforcement t…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/07/22 01:14 AM
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I will definitely do a rewatch with my new perspective! I agree that any violence used should only be for protection and not for gain.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/07/22 10:56 PM
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From my understanding of what I've been reading, that is what studies, show, too - but I was also wondering how much of the studies on maleness or the masculine norm is sort of an equivalent of the times when women were said to have hysteria and shit, in that it's bunk lol
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/07/22 10:54 PM
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Yeah I guess that was part of what I was wondering - is it masculinity that makes you male? What is maleness? Maybe it is indefinable tho
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/07/22 10:52 PM
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See it is kind of funny because I'm wondering like we are gonna hit a point where my kid is like what are boys and what are girls, what's the difference, and I am just gonna be like "I dont even know, dude, but look around and you might pick it up" lol
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/07/22 05:27 PM
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Bruh we are all only getting started with meaning of life and stuff I do like your idea that masculinity as a broad term is kaleidoscopic or mosaic. And I think it's lovely you wanna do the chasing and flower giving! To be honest, I also love giving flowers and my male partners have been invariably surprised and touched and often said "No one has ever bought me flowers before," which I always found sad. Flowers are just nice lol
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/07/22 05:18 PM
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Omg I cannot even tell you how deeply differently I look at Fight Club since learning more about men's side of things lol What's funny is that looking back in my life I have most heavily identified with male cultural figures like RP McMurphy or Luke Jackson and the Dude or Space Dandy. Like these are figures I seriously leaned on as examples of how to survive my abusers or how to tackle life, just as a person in general, since I am a woman, myself. This was unrelated, I just spent several minute…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/07/22 04:45 PM
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Thank you, this is certainly something to think about! I wasn't trying to scientifically prove what masculinity was or weaponize anyone's answers or even question their beliefs, I was just simply curious what the beliefs might be when presented in a male-friendly sphere.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/07/22 04:36 PM
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So, potatoes?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/07/22 03:12 PM
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These are really good points, thank you!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/07/22 11:07 AM
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Omfg they have online national resources, these should be on our directoryyyyyyyyy
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/07/22 07:47 AM
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Wow they are the ones who opened the shelter in Toronto and their PR is LOW lmfao The only articles I ever read kept talking about how they couldn't reach their funding target to open, I had absolutely no idea and am really happy to discover they opened last year - that deserved more coverage - and Canada DOES have one single shelter for male victims! Definitely gonna have to try to look into how they got that done!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/07/22 07:41 AM
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I get squidgy about requesting something like "available to men and women" because not everyone falls on that binary. If the resource is gender neutral, it should be referred to without reference to gender, imo. "Available to all victims," vs, for example, the shelters section of the resource page which will obviously still say "Available to women," because we haven't got any male shelters for male IPV victims.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/07/22 07:33 AM
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First paragraph under subheading 4.3, A Shelter for Men
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/07/22 07:25 AM
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🥰
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/07/22 10:56 PM
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Thank you ❤
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/07/22 10:39 PM
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I've heard of them but this is the first time someone said I was like one, I love their name lmao
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/07/22 10:03 PM
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It wasn't really the overconfident thing that was the issue lol It has just been bugging me for days - who cites themselves? I am going to say this. As proof that it is true, I have said it before!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/07/22 09:25 PM
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This is silly but when I think about "progress is slow" I watch my son trying to learn how to stand (like literally because he is a baby) and just falling on his ass over and over and over but he doesn't stop and he isn't going to stop because it's what he's supposed to do. I am taking a lot of inspiration from that lol
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/07/22 07:58 PM
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Thank you!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/07/22 05:39 PM
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Oooh didn't even know they existed, thank yooooou!!!!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/07/22 05:38 PM
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Karendome: Two Karens enter, one Karen leaves.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/07/22 05:23 PM
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Tbh, I think Roe v Wade being overturned is incredibly important and I am blessed that abortion is not an issue on that scale in my country so I am able to continue to focus on this and not be derailed by that conversation. Canadian police culture is not significantly different from American police culture, in my opinion, although perhaps less violent in accordance with our overall less violent tendencies, as I understand it. But the racism, abuse of power, etc., it is all there. Specifically to…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/07/22 05:15 PM
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I do have the skills and willingness to go full Karen, tho, so... Can anyone defeat Karen?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/07/22 04:52 PM
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Can I private message you?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/07/22 04:51 PM
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Ooh these look fascinating, thank you! And thank you for all your lovely, encouraging comments!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/06/22 10:52 AM
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I will try to! I have only 1 reply so far and I am currently reviewing her syllabus
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/06/22 03:55 PM
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Thank you very much I'll be reading through these tomorrow!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/06/22 03:49 AM
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Oh they do the verbiage of the resources of government websites in Canada often literally refers to general victims as she/her 🙃
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/06/22 02:36 PM
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Ok well I guess that's worth downvoting me for
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/06/22 06:38 PM
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It is an extremely common acronym and most domestic violence resources today will refer to it as intimate partner violence or IPV. At least in Canada.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/06/22 06:29 PM
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Wow, she is an actual reachable human person... I thought she would be kind of a big, inaccessible figure lol
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/06/22 04:16 PM
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Thank you! Adding these to my list! Just finished Myth of Male Power and I am on Who Stole Feminism?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/06/22 05:54 PM
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I can certainly go do some lurking and see what I learn!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/06/22 06:25 PM
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Just a little update if anyone sees this and cares, I started The Myth of Male Power and I discussed some things I had learned from it with my husband - and he already knew it all and was clearly educated in these topics! I don't know why he never discussed these things with me, maybe I didn't seem like someone who would be receptive, but now that open communication is happening between us, too, which I think is going to be really good for our family. So rest assured that even if my promises to …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/06/22 05:48 PM
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For the record, I do have a diploma in early childhood education and I definitely know the importance of rough play for all children. On top of that, we are big AEW wrestling fans (my husband and I) so, I mean... we weren't going to FORCE him to be a wrestling fan and try to Thesz press us launching off the couch but we weren't going to say no either lmfao Allowing some rough play and dizzy play and all that was something we always imagined for our children.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/06/22 10:54 AM
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Thank you ❤
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/06/22 10:32 AM
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I'll definitely do further research on this since there seems to be some difference of opinion even in here on that one
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/06/22 01:49 AM
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Thank you very much 😊 I definitely need to get my meditation practice back in order lol
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/06/22 11:40 PM
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I won't pretend not to be new agey now and then lol
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/06/22 10:58 PM
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Ooh thank you very much those sound like they will be really helpful for me
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/06/22 10:53 PM
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I am in therapy! I have a psychologist. I actually started out with full blown borderline personality disorder and through years of work I have overcome that and no longer hold the diagnosis (havent for a couple years.) I hope that encourages you to believe in me that I really will do this work and I do know how to go through difficult emotional and perspective changes and overcome beliefs that were developed at least in part due to trauma.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/06/22 10:12 PM
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Thank you this is all very constructive I will definitely try to find resources, especially on trans men like you said, to be exposed to a more balanced view of men. And I will definitely work on bringing gender into discussions where it isn't relevant, that is certainly something I've been guilty of, mostly jokingly, but a child doesn't always understand that.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/06/22 09:59 PM
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Lol thank you, I also wanted to say, I'll be raising him to be who he is, not who I want
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/06/22 09:50 PM
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I agree with you that the patriarchy is held up by women and men. I am starting to see ways in which it is women and certain feminist groups that perpetruate patriarchal notions or toxic masculine characteristics
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/06/22 09:40 PM
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Okay, I am glad you mean well because it felt a little as though you were repeating all the points in my post to me as if I didn't know them (your attitude will damage your son, I said that was my worry, you need to stop learning men are evil and learn differently, I'm literally asking to unlearn that and resources to learn differently,) but with the added caveat of accusing me of abuse, so it hurt me. My son isn't even a year old, every time we call him a boy we say "presumably." We aren't even…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/06/22 09:37 PM
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I am on here deliberately admitting that I am uncomfortable with these feelings and know they are wrong. I am here deliberately admitting this is my cross and my work to do and that I need help to do it. I am doing this so that I can do the work while my son is still young enough that I greatly minimize or hopefully eliminate whatever negative affect my traumas may have on him. Please do not accuse me of abusing my son.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/06/22 09:24 PM
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You are right, I will need to work on how I speak about men generally, as well, and not just try to treat my son as some sort of exception
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/06/22 08:50 PM
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Thank you!!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/06/22 08:49 PM
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Do you recommend that interview from the YouTuber above? I also found this one that I was going to try.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/06/22 05:55 PM
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Thank you, that is a very compassionate suggestion. I will definitely look into these authors!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/06/22 05:34 PM
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Ooh thank you I will definitely watch some of these videos
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/06/22 05:07 PM
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Thank you!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/06/22 04:52 PM
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I have just gotten a couple ebooks - The Myth of Male Power and The Boy Crisis. Thank you so much for the recommendation! In my opinion, the best way to do away with your distaste for men is to ask yourself if your bad experiences with them are essential to who a man is; meaning, if they're one and the same. I will definitely be doing some thinking on this!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/06/22 04:52 PM
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