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Yes it's beta behavior, the real issue is people treating 'beta' like a bad word or insult. Care, nurture, consistency, steadiness, it's all essential in moderation. It's arguable that boys are beta by default and are built into alpha men by their fathers, brothers and other male figures who have more wisdom about women's nature. Women desire the innate beta traits from alpha men and therefore must earn it. Deep down, all women know this. This is why a man can nurture and sacrifice for a well-be…
/r/TheRedPill29/11/23 02:18 PM
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I didn't know what end result OP wanted from this situation so I assumed that since he didn't go no-contact, he wanted to try plating her. I agree with you, that's why I ultimately discouraged him from doing so. If it were my situation, the post would've ended with fucking one of her friends and forgetting she exists. In his reply to my post, OP clarified what he intends to do, he's in good shape.
/r/TheRedPill26/11/23 05:03 PM
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Why bother flirting? In OPs case, he only has to do this once or twice at the most if he runs into her in the near future - it's to lower her defenses. I don't think he has to flirt if several years pass, but she's in lioness mode right now. She wants to run into him as a powerful girlboss while he's either stagnated or gotten worse. Him going up to her with better looks, higher confidence and then going "Is that you smelling so good?" derails her power fantasy. Not only is he eye-to-eye instead…
/r/TheRedPill25/11/23 02:02 AM
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If you want longevity and quality, yes. If your wife of ten years just had surgery and isn't in the mood for sex for a few weeks, you don't go ghost and wait it out until she's DTF like you would a plate. You make her some tea and monitor her health until things are back to normal. No mental chess games, no alpha this or that. It's full beta, and it's necessary. However, your frame is the constant alpha channel that contextualizes your behavior even when you're going full beta mode. When your fr…
/r/TheRedPill25/11/23 01:43 AM
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I understand this. I relate to it. I agree with many of your points. I highly discourage this as a sustained mindset. Gratitude is self-serving, it's a masturbatory reflection of your current place in the world: how you've moved the chains forward, stayed afloat, or even did not-bad instead of godawful. Maybe why you think it's "for losers", is because gratitude is often framed as "that one small thing I've got going for me while I'm drowning in a sea of bullshit." This is inaccurate. Gratitude …
/r/TheRedPill25/11/23 01:14 AM
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I have a feeling that you're young, but you need to learn something right away. What's worse than falling for broken-goods pussy, is you being a shitty fucking friend. Your 'friend' asks for your blessing to pursue her (which is an honorable favor because you're not the pussy police), and he achieved what he set out to do. You proceed to get jealous, physically threaten him, and do your best to try and fuck up his operation. HE sounds like a decent enough guy. YOU sound like the biggest loser in…
/r/TheRedPill24/11/23 06:38 PM
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Yep, Brad Pitt is a great example.
/r/TheRedPill23/11/23 07:59 PM
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I'm glad you addressed this. I meant to bring it up towards the end of my post. I'm not going to blue-pill you and insist that all smiles are beautiful and created equal. This is very personal to me. At the age of 6, I lost four of my front teeth in an awful accident and never smiled for almost ten years. The physical damage healed on its own surprisingly well, but in the meantime I was aggressively under-smiling. My face always looked mean, and I would only ever laugh through my nose and pursed…
/r/TheRedPill23/11/23 10:47 AM
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Thank you lol. There are so many men who are stuck between looking like they're gonna kill someone out of fear of looking weak, and grinning unnecessarily bc they're going off the basic "smile to make friends" advice Mom gave them on the first day of middle school. This post doesnt have to be followed like a Patrick-Bateman-facemaxxing routine. It's just help people provide modes of control over their expression, which as you mentioned contributes a lot to your perceived confidence. And I'm also…
/r/TheRedPill23/11/23 10:26 AM
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I understand your sentiment but completely disagree with what you're saying. Becoming more disciplined and intentional in how you express yourself is fundamental. We can argue the particulars, but saying that it counts for nothing at all is just false. Edit: To add, this is bigger than pickup game. So many people complain about how exhausting it is to step outside and go into work, to a party, a date etc. and exude great energy around the clock. What I'm saying is that if you fine-tune the prese…
/r/TheRedPill23/11/23 05:20 AM
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She never saw any beta energy from me until after I got dumped and freaked out. Even without knowing anything about your relationship, I must disagree. The balance of alpha and beta is always present, any long term relationship with hopes of satisfying the woman involved is contingent upon a man leaning into his beta side. Forgiveness, unearned attention, reassurance, etc. You can muddy the waters in her head by dressing up beta behavior in alpha clothing or vice versa, but the distinction and r…
/r/TheRedPill22/11/23 11:36 PM
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Lots of issues here. I won't dig into you too hard here, but take a step back. When the relationship ends, especially when not under your terms, the first thing you do is withdraw all of the beta shit that you provided her throughout it. All the reassuring actions and words, the 'trying to make it work', the grand displays of emotion. Internally, you need to go from 'loving boyfriend who just got dumped' to 'single man playing his options' in the blink of an eye. Instead of pleading you should'v…
/r/TheRedPill22/11/23 10:31 PM
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Right, no man ever pays for the first date. I must've bumped my head. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 04:07 AM
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Your incisive, nuanced, unique, toe-curling point being... checks notes "Men only want sex." Jokes aside, I do hope you meet a man who expands your perspective on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 03:57 AM
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If what you're saying is that these things are incredibly common and textbook for men, then the answer is yes. That's the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 03:48 AM
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Sex isn't mentioned at all in my post. My assumption is that, in this free world of ours, if a woman lays in bed with a man its because she wanted sex with him in the same way he wanted it with her. I argue that the very reason women see man as more than sexual objects is because of the effort men put upfront towards showing their masculine traits and values can be of intimate and exclusive service to one woman. Nothing is exclusive or personal about a woman sitting pretty. It's nice, and many m…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 03:23 AM
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I don't consider a man or woman's personal value alone as something they bring to the table. "I'm rich, I'm hot, I'm built" aren’t bringing anything to the table. "I'm a provider, I'll fulfill your fantasies, I'm a protecter" are.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 02:35 AM
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I'm fne with my sex life, I didn't claim in my post that dating is unfair or slanted against men. I'm saying there's nothing unfair about women's 'expectations' in dating, especially young women, compared to the degree that some of them claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 02:26 AM
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See, I never understood how looking good is considered something you extend to your partner. Do you not just exude that and therefore provide it to anyone with eyes to see? I say that the lengths men and women go through to look decent on a day-to-day basis are not a gift to the world in and of itself. Its vanity and largely self-interested. Its certainly key for both genders in getting desirable results in the dating world, but I don't see it as much more than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 01:09 AM
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I think a lot of people that have commented are missing my final point, and in hindsight I should have made it more clear in my post. I'm in my early twenties. For as long as I can remember, women my age and younger would always take huge issue with the unfairness of traditional feminine roles, but it would consist of roles that they've never done for a man or have been expected to perform at their age. So why do many young women get fired up about these 'expectations' when they're apmost all us…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 12:21 AM
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A man's attention is as free as the air we breathe. One of my female friends, who is moderately overweight, never shaves, has bad teeth and doesn't wear makeup and has a rather plain face, told me that Tinder is like 'UberEats for sex'. I know a -lot- of guys who bathe and wear clean clothes who couldn't possibly say the same for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 12:11 AM
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To your original point, nowhere in my post did i complain about men's roles. The last sentence in my post is my only grievance, and its aimed towards young women who seem to think they bring an equal amount to relationships as men do, leaning on expectations that have been pushed back and reserved for older women for at least a half century now.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 11:57 PM
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80% of this response is strawmen. But it seems that we at least agree that the initial crop of expectations for men are so normalized that you can find them this easy to hypothetically wave away like they don't count for anything. But the bar stills exists for us; any man who insists on only rising to the occasion of proving himself as a man after the relationship deepens rather than before, is going to be single for life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 11:42 PM
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Thanks, great response. I do think part of my grievance is that for men (maybe specifically in the US, idk) when it comes to dating around in search of a serious partner, sometimes you go through whole short term relationships with women and never get to experience those tangible indicators of care or commitment, while there is a level of expectation to provide it sooner on our end.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 11:27 PM
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As is masculinity, so I'm really not seeing your point.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 11:16 PM
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Agreed. My point is more that when young women claim that pressure exists at the same capacity for them as it does for young men, it's very hard to believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 11:12 PM
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You can enable certain behaviors & expectations, there is no such thing as enabling a lack thereof.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 11:08 PM
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