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Want a woman that "looks younger" out of available dating pool, as opposed to one that has let herself go and probably looks older than she is. I'm not a fan of dating apps, but I have seen some women on them and thought they were adding 20 years onto their age for some reason. I've seen some women and thought they were taking 20 years off their age for some reason. Its perception, not some logical process. Yes it is possible to get with a much younger women, but I would say this is not common.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 07:25 PM
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Someone I used to work with, met his GF when he was Twitch streaming himself playing songs on his gutair to request.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 07:15 PM
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Life always finds a way https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kiVVzxoPTtg
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 07:12 PM
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Look mate, all I know is when I started lifting the first time, women spoke to me instead of pouring drinks over my head and guys stopped punching me in the face. Sorry, if that upsets you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 07:08 PM
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Nah, everyone can look like Arnie in his prime bro. You just need to do a 3 weekly all over body workout. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 07:05 PM
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Women aren’t honest about what they want, or may not even know what they want. They say they don’t care about muscles, but when I started lifting weights, I got tons of compliments on my body, women feeling me up at work, even making negative comments about other men’s bodies during sex. Its not just women, its friends and family. Society as a whole likes to tell you, you are fine the way you are. Sometimes, nothing is further from the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 07:03 PM
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I'm from the UK. If all I had was apps, and actually was not allowed to speak to women, I would probably be doomed. On Apps, I might get one match a year. Granted I take a quick selfie and don't even put a profile. But I know I can goto social events and sooner or later small talk will lead somewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 06:50 PM
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True, but it put an end to the "It is personality that matters", "Beauty is the eyes of the beholder", "Men are shallow for focusing on looks" lies and deciet that women were selling to men hook, line and sinker before dating apps came out.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 06:47 PM
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Look I was asked a question. I answered honestly. I actually don't give a fuck what women do after reading those books to be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 06:43 PM
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Thats fair, I guess we all interpret everything different ways. IME, in red pill, this mainly means shitting on men who don't want to bulk up and just want to do cardio or get lean. I lift, if anything its just burning off fat and resulting in a leaner more defined body. I'm not doing roids or SARMS, I'm also not into the bulking/cutting stuff. However, if I just do Cardio, yeah I get smaller but I am the same shape. Even speaking to personal trainers and saying I just want to lose weight, they …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 05:32 PM
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Not who you replied to. I never got this impression from TRP. It just balanced out the shit that I was not doing. Resulting in me being a more balanced person overall.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 05:17 PM
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Same here. Yeah the old massive nightclubs have reduced in number. But bars are generally staying open later than they used to. Hell as for Saturday, my entire city was one big damn party, it is Summer, it is Sunny, people like being outside. Bars are capitalizing on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 05:16 PM
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Because it would show they have confidence instead of making up an endless stream of excuses as to why they shouldn't even try.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 05:14 PM
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You goto the Manosphere by choice. Because whatever it is you are doing does not work, No-one is forced to follow the advice. But if what your doing does not work then why not give it a try. I see anglo-western "traditionalist / red pillers" are so obsessed with getting all men to act like the roided out, low-IQ gymbro that's used car salesmen level of aggressive and who's only emotion is anger, and who spends 24/7 in a desperate attempt to "compete" with everyone around them and collect hordes …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 05:08 PM
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Online food delivery's. What do you think a lot of people did during lockdown?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 05:02 PM
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A musical? No thats called going into a theatre.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 05:02 PM
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Look even when Cold Approaching was the only way to find women outside of social circles. No women actually wanted to be approached by a man they found unattractive. Nowhere in history have women said "I want unattractive men to approach me".
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:56 PM
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Beta Fux / Alpha Bux BF/AB
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:54 PM
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Alpha fux/beta bux. Just do them both at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:47 PM
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Its just the norm in some cases. Hell some men don't get over women they never even got with. Oneitis can be for life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:47 PM
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Is that why strip clubs DJs always announce the next dancer's academic achievements when she's coming to the stage? Have you ever been in a strip club?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:39 PM
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I'm aware. I have never said being successful at dating is easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:35 PM
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Oh I know, but ironically once you stop being so desperate, the creepy vibes stop. Its a strange paradox, the less you care, the easier it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:27 PM
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Guys have performed Chadfish experiments. Guys have posted pics of just a female hand. Then there was piglady. The disconnect, is you are talking about finding someone decent. Guys are talking about someone responding period. If you never recieve any messages what so ever, and then see a womans profile get 100's of hits a day, when you pose as a woman and just post a pic of a hand in a velvet glove, well yeah your gonna feel a bit worthless.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:21 PM
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What has that article got to do with meeting women via cold approach or warm approach. It just means they won't put out as easily, Whether they can remain a volcel or not is another matter, watch what they do not what they say.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:17 PM
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Noone is forcing you to go outside. You don't need to see them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:13 PM
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Your obviously a troll or lived under a rock. Anyway, I will put my own views on the matter below from another thread This is my thoughts only. For a minute forget what men say and look at what they do. And I am talking about the average Joe Bloggs, not celebrities that live in a totally different universe. Are men in general going for women that "Are Younger" or just "Appear Younger" in relation to the other women in their age group? When you hit 30+, be you man or woman, your lifestyle choices…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:04 PM
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Noone knows why exactly., All we have are theories relating back to when we were cavemen.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:56 PM
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Read up on the effects of aging, then you will understand biology better.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:54 PM
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OK
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:53 PM
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As much as I want to say you should clean up before hand, I strangely respect your authenticity in this matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:50 PM
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This is PPD, you are using logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:46 PM
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Mate, have you ever actually slept with a woman, because you know in the morning, when you get up, the makeup isn't there. When you are in a relationship, you generally have to wait around for a while, whilst the woman applies her makeup. This isn't some conspiracy. If you have experience with women beyond whatever your favourite porn site is, you would realise this. Please, go touch grass. Yes your eyes will hurt a while when you go outside for the first time, but you will get used to the sun e…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:45 PM
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OK
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:41 PM
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This is my thoughts only. For a minute forget what men say and look at what they do. And I am talking about the average Joe Bloggs, not celebrities that live in a totally different universe. Are men in general going for women that "Are Younger" or just "Appear Younger" in relation to the other women in their age group? When you hit 30+, be you man or woman, your lifestyle choices start to show. If you have spent your life eating shit and being lazy, it will be visible. As a guy, who eats semi he…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:39 PM
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Option B: Someone being confident and secure in themselves will just come across better. I don't how or why, its just that people who are confident and secure in themselves generally come across better IRL. However, this is all dependent on how you interpret these things. If in your example "confident and secure" means they are going to start shit and be competitive for no reason because they are a "Strong Independentz womanz", then no. Option A as there is no choice C.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:17 PM
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I was thinking that
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 02:54 PM
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Replacing women with sexbots? What the pro's and cons.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 01:55 PM
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But its not how you dress normally, so are you not selling a false impression of yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 01:51 PM
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Do you put more effort into how you look before you go on a date?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 01:47 PM
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They will find another excuse to not try, so they don't need to face their social anxiety.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 01:32 PM
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I don't think OP wants to attract men,
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 01:29 PM
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OK, don't date these women then. No-one is forcing you too. What is your point? If you see a woman in make up and don't realise she is enhancing her looks with products, then you are a f**king idiot.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 01:28 PM
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Personally I’m of the belief that the experience of an actual relationship goes far beyond me just having someone I think is hot enough to treat like a pump and dump fleshlight every now and again I'm in agreement here. However, the thing with being a human (at least for me), is looks are the first thing I see about a person (be it man or woman). And not being physically attractive, well what is the opposite of attraction? If I do not find someone physically attractive, what is their to inspire …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 01:19 PM
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Flat Earth is not a conspiracy theory bro, its the truth. This is why hot summers worry me, What if the icecaps around the edges of earth melt and all the water falls off the planet? What then, we are fucking doomed bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 01:15 PM
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Why the hell would you want to read a book that makes you depressed. After watching 13 reasons why, I never want to go down that rabbit hole again.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 01:11 PM
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Ahh fair. I have not read "The Stranger", so cannot comment. Wasn't sure which book you were talking about specifically.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 01:09 PM
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I'm in agreement, female attraction is different to male attraction. And so is male/female behaviour, Thats why I put the bit Men should read these as well, so they can stop complaining that nature is unfair.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 01:09 PM
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I'm in agreement with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 01:06 PM
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Look if a woman creates a cure for cancer, she will probably be able to cash out, get research papers, probably I would like to think be in fucking history books forever, as well as appear on the cover of time magazine. Then probably be hounded for interviews and be pushed to write a book, as well as have books written about her forever. Like what else do you want? And what does this have to do with relationships and attraction?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 01:01 PM
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Since when from the dawn of time and in any other species, does the females "contribution to society" define if she is a good mate or not. That strikes me as something women are looking for in a male and just projecting. It would be like me going "Oh I like boobies, I know if I go HRT and grow some, women will find me more attractive". Nowhere in history nor as far as I know in the animal kingdom, does the females "contributions to society" impact how attractive she is to the male of a species. …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 12:54 PM
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What book has the purpose of illustrating how people should act, think or behave?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 12:46 PM
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No its not fair. But for me at least, once I understood the way nature worked, I accepted it for what it was and stuff made sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 12:44 PM
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But if you saw some pudgy dad bod saying he was hot, would you not think "Er no mate, your a fat fucker".
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 12:22 PM
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I blame Reddit, they shut down the Inkwell communities, so these communities just polluted other communities. It would of been better to leave them as they were, where they minded their own business in their little echo chambers. Now there is nowhere for the newly initiated inkwells to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 11:54 AM
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I'm in agreement. TRP has been over run by inkwells, That said, I honestly don't know if a lot of guys who follow influencers actually class themselves as redpilled or its just everyone else lumping them all together. On this sub however, some of the guys claiming to be RedPilled are more BlackPilled. However... this is something the RedPill community needs to sort out. However, I don't think it will as all thats really happening is more branches are being created.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 11:52 AM
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What was the definition of HVM in the FDS handbook. When I glanced through it, it just said something like "Give off Queen Energy as though you are the boss" or something like that. Then it had its rules on filtering out men. I only glanced at it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 11:49 AM
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Filtering the diamonds from the shit, in TRP is just the universe testing if you are worthy to get a better life. Some men fail even this bit. Its just evolution doing its thing,
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 11:37 AM
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You make a great point about male validation seeking. Basically the "Fight Club Effect" of joining a cult of dudes where you have to stay in by being cool, edgy, indifferent, badass, whatever. It's actually sort of ironic that the co-founder of RSD, Owen Cook, chose the alias "Tyler" in reference to Tyler Durden from Fight Club. It was a great community (at the time). Like it or not, but success with women is the one thing that men can bond over, regardless of age, race, career, etc. So guys who…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 11:32 AM
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If a man is not used to being around women of beauty, then yes, If he is used to being around women of beauty, then nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 11:07 AM
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All I really know from my own life, is I spent a lot of time either feeling sorry for myself or being angry at myself. Time spent doing these things did not make dating any easier, it just meant I wasn't doing other things I could of been doing that would of been more beneficial to my life. I could of still put myself out and had the oppurtunities I had if I hadn't of spent time feeling sorry for myself and being angry at myself. That said, I know my issue was anxiety. Hence I became reliant on …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 10:58 AM
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This isn't playing games, they are just rejecting you. They probably don't intend on rejecting you purposefully. They give you a chance, but maybe you don't build enough comfort, don't create any attraction, maybe you are just boring. I dunno But you can only change what you do, not what other people do.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 10:44 AM
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Brutal.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 10:22 AM
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I am not complaining, my point is more that you may start focussing on other things and enjoying other things rather than some fantasy. Energy flows where the attention goes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 10:21 AM
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No actually I do know. I know I used to only be happy when I was in a relationship. Yeah I was a lot happier and my entire state changed. However, I have now reached the point (partly through hypnotherapy and working on myself) where I feel like that regardless. I am not dependent on a woman to feel happy or alive. Now the whole virginity thing... yeah fair one.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 10:20 AM
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I want to throw up.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 01:52 AM
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Woman's greatest achievement in history. The invention of prostitution. We should have an international prostitution day to honour whichever women invented the profession.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 01:50 AM
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Guy just seems full of nervous energy. No eye contact with camera Loads of fidgeting Speaking fast Easily fixable.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 01:44 AM
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It stands out.so they catch our attention. If they did t stand out, they wouldn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 01:38 AM
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What about them. Have I met women, which have totally made me lose all interest in other women, yes. However there is not a lot to say about love and connection. Its something you feel, not really something to talk about in regard to dating strategy. Love and connection does not motivate me to date, attraction does. However, with the right person, those feelings can grow very strong. Trust me, when I am loved up, my focus completely changes. “We have this idea that love is supposed to last forev…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 12:48 AM
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That is the male experience. Living in a world where you are treated like that. You either cope with it or you don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 11:51 PM
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Do you think simps simp for just no reason at all? They don't think that by simping they will get something out of it?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 11:40 PM
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I think that's the hard bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 11:39 PM
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Heres a question for you, after getting married what are your views on letting yourself go? TRP origins were a lot of angry men who had been divorced, cheated on, etc. I see it around me, guys getting married then thinking the game is over and letting themselves go. Yeah I see some happy marriages, but I do see miserable guys and hear women complaining about there "deadbeat husbands who just eats food and plays video games". So lets assume, if you become a lazy useless slacker, then there is a c…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 11:31 PM
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Thankyou for your response. I did find it disgusting, when the male suicide count dropped and feminists complained and also when they actively shut down male support shelters.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 10:29 PM
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I'm in agreement with the "what is true is not new". However.... Its the packaging, the way it sells itself, compared to other groups that say the same stuff. Yeah for the stuff I did take from TRP (the sub mostly), yeah its elsewhere. But lack of success in dating, did not lead me to things like meditation, lifting weights, dressing smartly, etc. I didn't realize a lot of the things that were an issue were actually an issue, until I ventured into TRP. Granted I have gone deeper in a lot of othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 10:27 PM
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In regard to point 2, it was more than just my appearance. It was my entire self worth as a person. It changed, I do not know how, nor do I care (hypnotherapy is about results not the why), but the way people responded to me was totally different, even at work. It was as though it was the world that had changed, when really it was just some beliefs in my head that had changed. I would go as far to say that the external is just a reflection of the internal.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 10:20 PM
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Why is therapy the standard for whether anyone appreciates life? Oh I'm almost finished rewatching the Saw movies. Just thought it was a cool John Kramer quote. Totally unrelated.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 09:42 PM
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Don't be stupid. This is PPD. Women care about looks only remember. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 09:39 PM
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User flair does not check out
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 09:36 PM
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She said... She said... She said.. She said... Watch what they do, not what they say.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 09:35 PM
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User flair checks out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 09:33 PM
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Have you heard of AWALT? The idea is to accept it and not need to complain that women do it. Your out with some woman who flirts with another guy, well so fucking what. Its what women do. Next time your out, tell her to hold your beer and go flirt with a woman yourself. Yes RP advocates questionable behaviour, but it also preaches AWALT. The idea is to ultimately accept things for what they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 09:32 PM
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Height is normally due to genertics my friend At least that is the reason I am 6ft. No leg extension operations on this callsign.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 09:28 PM
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Do you think that simping then is manipulation? Paying for dinner dates is manipulation? Doing household chores is manipulation? You could say anything you do in a relationship, is manipulation?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 09:27 PM
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Do you blackpill guys cry about everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 09:20 PM
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TRP sub was more game orientated. The RedPill itself is truths. It depends what you do with those "truths" to which community you will fall. The TRP sub was game, But: MRA: Lets take legal action MGTOW: Fuck this shit I am checking out Game: How can I use these truths to attract women Blackpill: I am doomed, it is unfair, woe is me. Take "Women cheat with Higher Value men" as a lame example MRA: Lets make some law (I really don't know what MRA's believe actually) MGTOW: Fuck this shit I am out G…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 09:17 PM
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I don't think FDS actually involved manipulation. It was basically how to get rid of every man except the biggest cuck/simp. Do not be emotional at all on dates. Make sure he pays for EVERYTHING. When you tell him to pick you up from a girls night out, if he does not buy all your friends a drink, he is a LVM, dump him. Limit your phone calls to 5 minutes If he does not respond to your text instantly, dump him Etc Etc It is not manipulation, it is filtering out any man who has the slightest bit o…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 09:12 PM
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As per the thread I made and the response from a mod: So what does this have to do with the daily thread? There was an easy way to make this simple rule more prominent. Since making it title of the daily thread I would say post misflairs have dropped from like 70% to 20%. Nothing in the daily thread actually changes because of the title change. It pissing people off isn’t really a concern, everyone on this sub is mad about something, especially concerning the mods, so if it wasn’t this it would …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 09:03 PM
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They are not changing it back. I made an actual post regarding this and a mod answered: So what does this have to do with the daily thread? There was an easy way to make this simple rule more prominent. Since making it title of the daily thread I would say post misflairs have dropped from like 70% to 20%. Nothing in the daily thread actually changes because of the title change. It pissing people off isn’t really a concern, everyone on this sub is mad about something, especially concerning the mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 09:03 PM
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Are guys actually using this sub to try and hookup? I mean this sub. Of all places? This sub is probably more toxic than the TRP sub itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 08:59 PM
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This is PPD, the people with the Red Flair seem more like Black Pill/Inkwell. They at least were, a totally seperate thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 08:53 PM
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And why was her ex an asshole?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 08:51 PM
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What is your definition of an "Alpha Male" mindset? Do you have any evidence of the results of your theory (in field videos, etc)? What makes your method stand out from amongst the rest?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 08:49 PM
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Did you take both the Redpill and the Bluepill at the same time?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 08:47 PM
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I have had results from Hypnotherapy. Using CBT on myself has also helped. Traditional therapy, where you just "understand" stuff after hours sat on a couch, I am not sure. With the example of "I do not feel attractive". Does the reason why and the history of that belief even matter? Not really, I can spend hours exploring it with a therapist, or I can see a hypnotherapist and just have new beliefs put into my subconcious. To me that actually produces results.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 08:44 PM
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They don't need to understand "Men" per say, but just nature in general, so they can stop viewing us as though we are wired the same way (but defectively). The Red Queen - Matt Ridley Sperm wars - Robin Baker The Selfish Gene - Richard Dawkins Men should read these as well, so they can stop complaining that nature is unfair.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 08:41 PM
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Did it taste better or worst?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 08:20 PM
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Well you asked a question, I gave my answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 08:20 PM
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Have you heard of plate theory?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 08:13 PM
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As I said, Yes if she did the above. No, if she did not. For me to consider someone for an LTR, they need to make themselves stand out from the rest.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 08:05 PM
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User flair checks out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 08:04 PM
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We are sleeping together as a mutual arrangement. If she is the one who wants more, then she can wine me and dine me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 08:02 PM
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If she made all the advances and planned the initial dates and was the one proposing a relationship, yeah If not, I wouldn't be after more than what I have, so would be happy with what I had.so No
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 07:56 PM
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I dunno. I used to be good at dwelling on the past. Yeah I probably could of used NLP and CBT to slowly get myself out of it. But seeing a hypnotherapist cured it in 2 sessions. Just seems more efficient to me at least. And now I'm not beating myself up all the time. It's great.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 07:46 PM
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I have read Mark Manson's "The subtle art of not giving a F***" several times and listen to it occasionally on Audible. So although there are some things I do give a f*** about, I have it down to a certain level.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 07:31 PM
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If you can date younger women, maybe just learn to grow a thicker skin, as like it or not people are going to judge you. The reasons they judge you do not matter, they will still judge you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 07:25 PM
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Look if a woman told me she had slept with one hundredish guys, yeah I would feel repulsed But even then, would they ever tell me that even if it were the truth. It just dosn't strike me as something worth losing sleep over. Like women will have had sex with someone before me, and in other new, the sky is blue.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 07:21 PM
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Its not something I personally ask. Normally a conversation does come up, where she mentions her sexual history, but yeah she is a women, she has had sex with another man. Wow who would of guessed, so I am indifferent to it, depending what she says I may say "Respect". What else can a man do. Freak out - look sexually unconfident Be too eager - look desperate. All a man can really do is say "Respect" and be indifferent. However, its impossible to be indifferent unless you really are indifferent.…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 07:07 PM
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Pornstars - Nope Prostitutes - Nope Dancers - Maybe Also, a pornstar is going to be f**king all day. When she comes home, f**king even more is probably going to be the last thing she wants to do. However I have never dated one so cannot say for certain. I did have some dancer tell me she was a pornstar though, to which I responded "Respect" after that she was more friendly, bought me a drink before going off and having men pay her money to dance.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 07:04 PM
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Do you want a relationship built on truth or lies? Why not just do what politicians do and if asked "What is your n-count", answer a different question.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 07:01 PM
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No but no-one cares about the guys who get with uggos, it is too cringe. But when you see a guy with someone of immense beauty, you do ask yourself "Damn, who the hell is that dude".
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 07:01 PM
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I find meditation helpful. But its not really a fix to anything in particular, it just means clearer mind in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 06:54 PM
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Either some guy who is pill unaware has stumbled in here by mistake, he is a massive troll or we are all "posessed by demons". I love this place.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 06:47 PM
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I've not actually posted much in the N Count thread. I think the only thing I have done is reply to you. What are your views. Do you think if a woman has a lot of sex and gets married she will want sex with other men instead of her husband? I love it when innocents stumble onto this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 06:45 PM
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I goto all sorts of social events. The next one I have planned however is a music festival that happens in my city every year. However, it might be an organized walk or scramble. It might just be going to a terrace bar or cocktail bar. It might just be the local climbing centres "Social Night". Or I might just spend the day driving to a museum and looking round. And what do you mean by formal enough. You meet someone, if you are chatting for 2 - 3 hours, that is generally a sign they are interes…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 06:43 PM
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Where have I said any of this. On here, I will probably be more likely to be telling Inkwells they need to leave the basement. Are you new to this sub. The reason "N Counts" is a weekly chat now, is because otherwise, every post got filled with inkwells complaining about n counts. Again, are you new to this sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 06:38 PM
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I specifically saw see a hypnotherapist every now and then. I am dubious of traditional therapy. But for things like actually seeing myself as attractive, it helped. Then mostly I try and notice what makes me anxious (self applied CBT) then see a hypnotherapist when I notice a pattern. And having Christian parents did not help things.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 06:35 PM
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Like sorry, but what does any of this have to do with women on this sub saying "Men need to see a therapist" then looking at if therapy for men actually has any advantages over all. Are you new to PPD btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 06:32 PM
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Most the guys here just want to attract a woman.... A lot of them however hate themselves and also everybody else, women and men who can attract women. You seem like you are new to Pill Topics. If you don't know why the n count is a thing. Its a fear that if a woman has been with other men, she will want to fuck other men once married as she does not find her husband attractive. Or.... its a fear that she will compare the guy to every other guy. For me.... its not somthing I am going to obsess a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 06:29 PM
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Again what does this have to do with what I wrote. I just wrote a thread, probably not in the most structured form saying if you get therapy you can enjoy life more, stop being obsessed with relationships all the time (if that is the case) and life can be a happier place. And this can also mean that in social situations, you have better interactions because your not giving people the "Ick". And this is what you take from it. Anyway, despite refusing to answqer my question, I will answer yours. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 06:12 PM
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What has my post got to do with any of that? Please I am confused here.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 05:45 PM
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Yeah when I goto social events, if I see a woman I like, I will put my best foot forward and approach. If a woman seems receptive I will escalate and see what happens. Seeing a therapist, a hypnotherapist, has meant that I spend a lot more time not thinking about my replationship status as I used to. I see this as good and I focus on a hell of a lot more things than I used to and I am happier than I used to be Anyway, thats more ramblings from the asylum right?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 05:44 PM
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Did you not find therapy helpful for your depression. Or do you just take Adderall so you don't have to face life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 05:29 PM
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Im on about what appears to be the current state of TRP as in The Red Pill Sub on reddit. You aren't attached to her. You're attached to how she made you feel. The above for example, I personally think thats an interesting topic. The OP specifically said TRP in the title. And as per PPD description PurplePillDebate is a neutral community to discuss sex and gender issues, specifically those pertaining to r/TheBluePill and r/TheRedPill. If you look at TRP sub, it will bluntly say "If you cannot ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 05:16 PM
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My issue with Dread Game, is some of it is basic being a man (IMO at least) Level 1: Learn to recognize and start passing Shit Tests. Begin building a strong, indefatigable frame where you are not affected by her sexual denials. Like, should a guy be an emotional mess to begin with? Where sex or lack of sex dictates his emotional state? You should be doing you regardless, otehrwise sex can be weaponised. Level 2: Develop an action plan to improve the major areas of your life. Develop the physica…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 05:03 PM
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Gym was good today, defo feeling more confident about myself and life in general after being able to lift more weight than normal. Confidence is key to everything. Regarding the "Just Lift Bro", is it just not being a fat fuck or skinny bean pole that makes you attractive, or is it more powerful with guys that need the self confidence to start with.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 04:43 PM
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. Literally everything you said could be applied to men just as readily. I could honestly imagine it being posted to FDS with the genders swapped. In agreement, in certain parts of the manosphere, it will tell you you should flirt with other women as it will make you more attractive. Like how do you even know someone is attracted to you, until you test it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 04:40 PM
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Exactly, if another person, who happens to also be male decides to do something, it has nothing to do with me, Men are not a monolith, we don't DM each other planning shit stuff to do. We don't hold committees over who will be raped, murdered, beaten etc. Also, despite being a man, I do not hold the power to prevent a murderer from murdering just because they also are a man. But this will fall on deaf ears. I am a man after all, so I must be in on it all, planning and execution. I am the masterm…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 04:32 PM
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I actually agree. Its better to be single than with someone toxic. However, I don't think this should mean give up on relationships altogether and do not work on yourself so you can attract a better quality of person.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 04:26 PM
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Makes me happy I was single when my dad died of cancer. Being dumped on top of a family member dying would just make things worst.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 04:19 PM
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I have just checked the TRP sub. Its still full of advice such as Victim Mentality "Girls won't fuck me because my jaw line is 0.5mm smaller than chad." - said the incel that has never approached a girl "I was born into a middle class family" - said the depressed loser who did not study hard in college and is stuck in an $80k per annum job. "What is the point of lifting? My genes are horrible" - Said the guy who has been working out for 6 months without a solid plan and a diet. Being a victim of…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 04:06 PM
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"Where can men hit on women" was posted one day ago. Its quarantined not banned.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 03:59 PM
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I think FDS is more about filtering out the men you have persuing you, so you can find the men with higher value and reject the rest. However, I do not know if it covers how to actually appeal to a man which a person would class as HVM. That said, what they class as HVM, seems to be a complete simp with no backbone what so ever. If a FDS woman thought I was a HVM, I would probably suck start a shotgun. Its the greatest insult ever created.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 03:57 PM
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One difference that I've noticed is that TRP tends to state things like "All women are like that" Dating is harsh, hypergamy, solipism, machiavellianism and immaturity are all things that one can encounter in the wild, resulting in branch swinging, blame shifting and emotional impulsivenesses for example. AWALT or NAWALT does not actually matter. If a man accepts these as the norm, when and if they happen, it is to get over and deal with. Where as if you believed all women were magical unicorns,…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 03:44 PM
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I always view this as a test to see if I am confident enough to step in. Granted it dosn't happen anymore really. Only when I lacked a lot of confidence and was anxious around women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 02:49 PM
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The whole Manosphere does seem to have changed drastically. When RSDNation was a thing and Game/PUA seemed one of the main focuses of the manosphere, it just seemed overall more positive and uplifting. I am not saying it was perfect, or ideal. It was far from it. But guys were activively supporting each other and Blackpill/Icel retoric would result in guys being booted from communities. Despite the mainstream media pushing that PUA/Game was about hating women, at least to me it just seemed to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 01:06 PM
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Maybe she wanted to be a dentist.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 11:18 AM
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I make sure I give gifts but the constant hassling about what do I want as a gift is annoying. I have earn a wage and am capable of buying shit I need or want. Also as for my birthday, the fact I am 365 days older does not mean much to me, why the obsession with my birthday. That said, I will remember a partners birthday, as I know being 365 days older than you were on your last birthday impacts your life greatly.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 10:44 AM
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Every piece of IKEA furniture I have has arrived with needed Allen Key
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 10:40 AM
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TRP = How to attract women FDS = How to filter men That said, both of them feature a lot of angry, disillusioned people, who probably just like the echo chamber where they can share their bitterness. However at least TRP understands that for some "The Anger Phase" is just a phase. However it does also accept that a lot of men attracted to TRP just spend eternity in the Anger Phase. Both these communities are probably giant homing beacons to negative and toxic people. Also, that said, these days,…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 10:11 AM
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Me
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 11:01 PM
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Be easier to reduce men to 10% of their current amount, However achieving this would be problematic. Only allowing 1 boy to be born out of every babies, may fix it. Then men will be a rare commedity.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 10:27 PM
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The inkwell uprising is never going to happen. If it does, watch a while and figure out who will win before picking sides.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 10:24 PM
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Smell?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 10:16 PM
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The dead cannot say no.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 10:14 PM
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OK
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 10:11 PM
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Yes, with a sarcastic "Wow..... you look like you are having the most fun here"
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 10:07 PM
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Then why was she not on the date with someone else? Like the other guys she rejected?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 09:46 PM
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I don't know. I don't date them so I don't care whT they do. Maybe more a question to ask women who seek these guys out and ask them what the appeal is. I am only talking in regard to dating. As work colleagues and managers, these women can be great. But for my lifestyle preferences they don't appeal.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 10:49 AM
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What if you are "Exclusive" and I don't mean a covert contract or saying "But I felt like it was serious". I mean actually having an exclusivity talk and agreeing to be exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 09:55 AM
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It is estimated that there are over 56 million deaths occurring annually which translates to approximately 4.6 million deaths monthly, 150,000 daily, 6,000 hourly, 106 every minute, and nearly 2 deaths every second. When ever you press a button on something, 2 random people die any way. 8 people have died whilst I typed this out. No wait... even more people have died. When you take a shower, how many people die?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 09:33 AM
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Would you rather (and you must pick one) A) Have teeth as hair B) Have hair as teeth
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 09:31 AM
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Why do you not want to be groped by women?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 09:30 AM
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“Instead of glimpsing anonymous individuals hurrying by, I see different archetypal products of bad parenting. That meek old man with the blank stare was probably beaten senseless by his father; the sad-looking obese guy in an undersized T-shirt may have grown up with a mom who expressed love only through her cooking; the uptight businessman was likely raised by strict parents who never allowed him to be imperfect. Suddenly there seem to be very few adults in the world, just suffering children a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 09:28 AM
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Most of the places I have worked, the people who become less replaceable are needed more and more and get more and more responsibilities. A company phone for them becomes the norm and they are always "On Call" even if they are not actually on-call. Someone I used to know, is basically being mentored by the companies CTO. However to get to that point, she had to spend all her spare time doing a masters degree in the evening (paid for by the firm) and now spends all her evenings writing processes …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 09:09 AM
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This is why TRP at least in its original form, hammered the importance of having a purpose and mission in life. I do wish I had clicked onto this sooner in my own life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 08:59 AM
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"Career woman" is used as a derogatory phrase to describe certain careers in some online communities. Having a career is one thing, but actually identifying yourself as a "Career Woman" or "Power Woman" does set off alarm bells with some people. I have never met a guy who describes himself as a "Career man" but most men I know do have careers.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 08:54 AM
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Best example I can give was when I somehow ended up dating a director for a bit. I ended up breaking it off, as she had a very time consuming job which basically meant she was never really available due to dealing with firefighting crises at work and due to that her whole life revolved around her job. She was always mentally "On the job" even when she wasn't working. Also Big Law firms and their lovely 80 hour weeks. Not had anything to do with anyone who works in law, so don't know if its as ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 08:44 AM
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The chase is the fun part. Maybe one day, I will put as much effort into maintaining a relationship as I have put into getting to a competent level of cold approach in social venues. But for now I enjoy the thrill of the hunt and feasting on my prey.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 08:31 AM
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I'm actually in total agreement. Like I said Some careers can make a woman unattractive though. Don't understand how your comment relates to this? Although its more the attitude to work life balance, but some careers demand it. Again, Don't understand how your comment relates to this?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 08:18 AM
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I don't get it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 06:26 AM
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To be fair, this sub is bad for mental health. But like most things that are bad for you it's addictive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 06:15 AM
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Thank you. I appreciate your kind words.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 06:03 AM
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I don’t actually think he should vet better. It was a quip about how the men here blame women for the abuse perpetrated against them by men. What else can you women actually do. Serious question, because I dunno. And you keep complaining, myself at least, I have no other solutions to this problem. I actually think if someone feels unsafe in a relationship, of course within normal limits, it’s the person making you feel unsafe’s fault. Yeah I agree. But saying its someones fault, dosn't change an…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 05:55 AM
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I had a rest day to let my muscles recover.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 05:48 AM
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True. If Debbie is unattractive. A career cannot add to this. If Debbie is attractive, well she is attractive. Assuming she is not entirely focused on her career only, then she is attractive. But if Debbie is attractive and just has a job that pays for her lifestyle that meshes with mine, it does not matter that she does not have a career. Why is this so hard to grasp????
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 05:41 AM
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Some careers can make a woman unattractive though. Although its more the attitude to work life balance, but some careers demand it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 05:39 AM
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What is a "successful career woman"? Someone who is never around, who stays up till 2am doing powerpoint presentations for "The man" so he can buy a new yacht. Why not just stay single. You will never see the other person anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 05:39 AM
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Not who you responded to. Why? In your scenario, there is a solution, talk to a tree. Yes vetting better is a solution, but its more complicated than talking to a tree. Why solve a problem that you have already solved. Yes, if I was making the mistake again and again and again and didn't have any other solutions, vetting better would be the answer. But there are other solutions that are effective and a damn site easier that vetting for something that no longer matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 05:35 AM
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Also, just a point to note. The scenario in the OP was as follows: Maybe it's something embarrassing, or a very raw and tender topic you would like to share that is "out of character" for you Not you have an actual potential life crisis.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 05:27 AM
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I'm more on the extroverted side, I like to talk problems though (even if it just me "thinking aloud" at times). So that is how I come up with a plan, to stick to, to take action. I can't just start taking action without a plan. Sure some of those things, if I experience them more than once, I can go onto autopilot. However, if I don't discuss them with somebody, or at least admit to somebody that I have an issue, I will supress shit. Debt: Been there done that, spoke to debt advisors, went over…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 05:14 AM
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What was stupid for me was I knew it was a bad idea, it just felt wrong. But I did it anyway. Was about the 3rd or 4th time I realised opening up was the problem not the women. Hey I guess it's away of ending a relationship though if you ain't got the balls to end it yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 04:17 AM
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Why do we need a new partner? Who ever the partner is, the tree wins. You believe there is a choice being made. There is no choice, just the tree.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 04:06 AM
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Same. Had it happen, seen it happen to others. NEVER AGAIN
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 03:57 AM
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Yes. That is a management problem however. Managers get paid to solve these problems, so leave em to it. If they can't find a way to implement this rule, fire them as they are incompetent pieces of shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 03:13 AM
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It's so if she reports you there is evidence. Also a good manager surely dosbt want his female staff being molested either..... do they? This should be a win from HR angle.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 03:10 AM
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That's a fair point actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 02:50 AM
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You could just learn to meditate and practice stoicism. Then none of this matters and your just over complicating shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 02:44 AM
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Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 02:14 AM
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Actually. Thank you for that. I thought it was some sort of word joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 02:09 AM
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Just gotta do what works. Old fashioned meditation also works.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 02:05 AM
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Telling them nothing is the nest filter.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 01:50 AM
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With a tree. Just voicing something is generally enough. A tree won't judge and a tree won't end things. If your happy with your relationship why do shit that will end it, just tell the tree then read a book on stoicism. It's all a man can do.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 01:48 AM
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I dunno, I'm not really into law and order.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 12:21 AM
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Do you believe a cheater is morally superior to someone who dosnt cheat. If your partner cheats does that make them morally superior to you (assuming you have never cheated).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 11:46 PM
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I was thinking about starting a thread on it. But will probably be denied by the mods. Would be strange, a thread on PPD where everyone agrees.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 11:18 PM
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Yeah it is the way the SMV is. Do with that knowledge as you wish. Telling women what they should or shouldn't do will not change anything. The only thing you can change is yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 10:22 PM
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I found redpill more helpful. Things changed. Just stating "looks are 90% of dating experience" changed nothing. Hell some of my most interesting experiences are probably when I have looked my worst. That said, I think RedPill was meant for normie guys lacking little bits or maybe who were a bit clingy, desperate, whatever. But maybe you found the Blackpill has helped you more in life. Whatever works for you bro. Like the TRP sidebar said "Take what works and discard the rest"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 10:18 PM
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I don't see why your being so pissy with them tbh. Like the whole flair thing is a bit cringe, but you seem a bit too affected by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 10:11 PM
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Well TRPers had the saying "Attraction cannot be negotiated". but thats Red Pill shit, so probably not something you would agree with.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 10:01 PM
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I had a physio give me some, I could suddenly run properly.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 09:58 PM
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High foot arches mean your feet are already fucked. Walking and running as though you are permanently on tiptoes is not good,
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 09:58 PM
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WHat about the person you are actually in a relationship with?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 09:53 PM
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You forgotten your meds today?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 09:52 PM
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Men don't need to use societal shaming as a weapon. They will just use their fists and beat the shit out of the "other man". Shaming is a weapon, used when being physical is not an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 09:48 PM
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I generally spend the first half of Saturday doing the cleaning. Sure I will do the dishes everynight and basic stuff. But the main cleaning can wait till the weekend. As for cooking, fair one, I guess. But its easier to just slow cook stuff over the weekend and then store it in the freezer, take one meal out a night. Anymore than this and its self inflicted. Maybe she just dosn't know how to relax.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 09:09 PM
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SO what are your views on people repenting their past sins? Do you not believe that your lord and savior forgives people for their past. Do you not believe they can be forgiven regardless of their past? Maybe these women are ashamed of their sinful past?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 08:54 PM
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Ironically, you probably are NOT a Christian. PS: I have no issue with religious folk, but this is some serious level of hypocrisy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 08:50 PM
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Are you even a Christian?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 08:50 PM
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Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? As a Christian man, do you not believe that once a person accepts Jesus into their life, their past sins are forgiven? Do you believe as a Christian, that you should be judging others for their past sins, instead of repenting on their own. Also, as a Christian man, why are you trying to lead your fellow Christians to a life of sin. Do you not believe as a Christian, you should wait fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 08:45 PM
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I dunno mate, I don't go round asking women if they are virgins to be honest. Regardless of if I am attracted to a woman or not, that seems a pretty low value question. I sure as hell am not going to spend my time arguing with women over their virginity either. You really should get a hobby or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 08:38 PM
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I know right, only men should be homeless.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 08:00 PM
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Straight for the jugular.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 07:51 PM
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Yes but a lot of men desire that lifestyle despite what mainstream media says. I don't see what mainstream media says as meaning anything. Like so what, who cares. Sorry, just don't get your point unless your saying we should become social robots (yes not the original use of the phrase I know, for those who know) that just follow social media and forget our own desires.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 07:41 PM
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Well no shit, the discussions of what makes an Alpha an Alpha is based on these naturals.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 07:28 PM
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This is PPD. Any man who has been with a woman ever, is a Chad. You see the average man cannot get with any woman what so ever. Only Chad can. So if you have ever been with a woman, you must be Chad. This place is great for stroking the male ego.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 07:26 PM
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Fuckboi's and players, have never been promoted by mainstream media ever. What is your point. People are fully aware of this, hence most stuff is underground and in private groups. It is kept away from the average mediocre person who just blindly follows what society tells them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 07:24 PM
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Because they are in denial that there partner will cheat on them. So they blame the other person. This then gives a green light to the cheater who will do it again possibly. At this point I have no sympathy for the person being cheated on, they are a fucking idiot. Feel me once shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 07:12 PM
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Northern Ireland. Love that place.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 07:02 PM
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Then it was mentioned, and the convo just went elsewhere completely.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 06:50 PM
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Which men, which nationality? Extroverts or introverts?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 06:24 PM
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Look I am not speaking for all men here. But a while back I went on a hike from a meetup group. There was a pretty hot Northern Irish Woman (damn I love the accent, but thats a different story). It was after 1 hour of conversation the topic of jobs came up. Can you please stop saying that some of us have nothing else in our lives to talk about but how we make money. Sorry, the gaslighting on here is really getting to me today.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 06:18 PM
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Yeah its the weekend. Had too much of this work from home BS. Only time i have been around people is at the gym, at the supermarket and the one day I go to the city centre for work as need to be in office on a Wednesday. Tomorrow I will pointlessly wonder around places where there are people even if I have no reason to. Its nice to feel like part of civilisation again with this WFH malarky. I don't mind WFH too much, but on a Friday, it does affect my mood.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 05:33 PM
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Fair, just reread. I honestly cannot answer this one. Nah f**k it, still go with number 1. No-one cheats with the intention of being caught.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 05:25 PM
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If partner cheats with someone who does not know me, well nothing to say about that person, they are a stranger. However relationship is over. If partner cheats with someone I know who is a friend. Relationship is still over as well as friendship. Not sure about responsibility, if someone cheats, there is no blame game to be played, its just the end of the relationship.... period. Placing blame on the other person, especially if it is a stranger, makes it sound like the partner in question has n…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 05:16 PM
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True but is it still funny or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 04:14 PM
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Well woman 1 of course. She sounds super clingy and will probably still love me when I cheat on her with woman B.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 03:04 PM
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If a fat person falls over in a forest and noone sees it, is it still funny?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 02:56 PM
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Fair, I don't follow the social media side of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 02:45 PM
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Ahh cool. Was just going by what I could with what you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 02:17 PM
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No...... Ironically it is that belief that fucked my head up when I was younger. I viewed women as men and thought if they were willing to sleep with me, they would be willing to sleep with any man whatso ever and I was just lucky to be talking to them. It didn't occur to me that women were more selective than men in who they slept with.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 02:16 PM
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I'd feel they are a fucking idiot, if that was all they did and they thought it would be a deterrent.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 02:12 PM
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User flair checks out.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 02:08 PM
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You shouldn't lounge in the sun. You should chase after someone elses child. Hang on a minute..,...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 02:05 PM
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Why are you not dating other women, whilst your not dating her. Yeah stay in touch, but this sounds like putting your eggs in one basket and being over invested in well.... nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 02:02 PM
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Depends on which part of the Manosphere. It is not a monolith Game - How to be a high beta (beta with some alpha traits) MGTOW - I can't be arsed with this shit Blackpill - ItS sO uNfAiR Redpill just states the way things work (in general), the differnent sub communities respond to this info in different ways. There is no monolith however.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 01:50 PM
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Depends on which part of the Manosphere. It is not a monolith Game - How to be a high beta (beta with some alpha traits) MGTOW - I can't be arsed with this shit Blackpill - ItS sO uNfAiR Redpill just states the way things work (in general), the differnent sub communities respond to this info in different ways. There is no monolith however.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 01:50 PM
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Maybe she is, maybe she isn't. There is no way of really knowing. Its something I have to decide on, so eagerness to sleep with me, for me at least is what I use as a gauge.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 01:40 PM
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Well as the saying goes "expect the worst, hope for the best" You are correct, maybe it is a small subset, but one never knows. So all you can do is expect the worst and hope for the best. Granted, I would more likely be willing to wait till 2 or 3 dates. But any more than that in this day and age, is my limit.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 01:35 PM
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ONS can and do happen. Look I know you like pulling the wool over mens eyes "tee hee", but most men have either been in at least one ONS or at the very least know someone who has, if not been there when a friend takes a woman home for the night. So this denial of instant sex, although it might have worked if men did not communicate with each other, we do, so we know what happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 01:01 PM
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Can only talk from my experiences. I like my life at a certain level of chill. I know what my incomings and outgoings are, I know how much to save to get 1 or 2 holidays a year, I can keep my car on the road easily enough, etc and I can afford a social life I enjoy. This relates to a certain level of chill, work wise. Basically I don't need to bust a gut in the workplace and I can relax. Now when I have dated women who are more successful than me, I am complained at and "encouraged" to leave my …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 12:33 PM
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Alpha fucks/beta bux. If a woman does not want to sleep with you instantly, she is not attracted to you instantly, she is just after you for your resources. How is this woman you describe any different. How would the life for the non sexual beta man be any different? Beta is still Beta. Granted at best, the average man can hope to become high beta, not a natural Alpha. But that is still a lot better than just being a beta.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 12:20 PM
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Obviously HR exists in the office. But jokes like "He needs a pass from his wife", "He is under the thumb", "He has a ball and chain", "Oh your married, guess we will never see you again". Then you have the obvious ones who come in stressed and complaining due to the home life that they chose to live. They are the best for dumping work, ideally the harder work on, just to watch them crack and go crazy. Nah simps and dudes whose wives do not appreciate them are hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 12:11 PM
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It was the "I doubt this happens IRL" bit I was referring to.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 12:07 PM
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Your life is over at that point regardless. Wait till the other guys kid reaches an impressionable age. Max out all credit cards, incure debt, gamble on your house until you lose etc. Then buy a shotgun and suck start it in front of wife and other guys kid at dinner to mentally scar them for life on your way out of this shitty existance you are stuck in. Obviously 100% revenge fantasy. Realistically, I would probably go reclusive, resent my wife, resent the kid, resent myself and probably end up…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 12:03 PM
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Date around and extort men for money\cars\breast implants etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 12:00 PM
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Com eon, surely you work at a place where there are simps. You may not call them a Simp, but you know they are under the thumb and a pathetic speciman of a man. Sure you may call them simps when you laugh and joke about them in the pub after work,
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 11:54 AM
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Look if you don't want mutual sex, go become an escort. Then you will not need to give away freebies.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 10:55 AM
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Who gives a fuck, why does it matter so much. They can either afford a lifestyle that meshes with yours or they don't. I know people who work as tech support in law firms and banks who out earn System Architects in other firms. The Job Title means Jackshit. If someone can't afford their lifestyle, yeah thats something I want to avoid. But for me personally, someones level of debt is more important than their job/career. As well as do they have a work/life balance. Level of physical attraction, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 10:37 AM
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Why are you not dumping women who are shit in bed? Women have standards, men on here seem to have none.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 10:05 AM
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Because they exist, can and do happen. I am not looking for a SAHM or a "Housewife". If I can get a 50/50 relationship, then why is becoming a sugardaddy going to appeal to me as an alternative.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 08:53 AM
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It’s not just about money though. I value work and life balance, so I’d prefer to date someone with a similar attitude. I wouldn’t date someone performing dangerous jobs, because I don’t want to worry about their safety all the time etc. This. I'm one of those peeps who uses the phrase "Career Woman" and to add some clarity, what you have just put is what it is in reference to. Do I want to date someone who has no job/career, no, I am not a tradcon, I'm not into the man must pay for everything m…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 08:46 AM
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Its a question of when. If its the first thing out of a persons mouth and they dwell on it for longer than a couple of min. Then the first date is the last date. Bye Bye.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 08:37 AM
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father,
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 08:09 AM
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White Dragon Tantra Modern Day Sexual Man
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 01:16 AM
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I used to know a guy who as he put it "worked in medicine" aka he was a doctor he would just drop that line where everr we were and all attention would be on him. I get it, some careers actually make men MORE attractive (for the sake of this sub assuming they are outgoing and hit a certain looks threshold). However I am not sure If male attraction is wired the same. I know for myself, a career or job cannot ADD to how attractive I perceive someone. Sure it can make someone LESS attractive in cer…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 12:42 AM
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I dunno. Does that ge really make men less attracted to you or more attracted to you? The next question is, do you want the you are talking to to be attracted to you or not. Attraction isn't a choice. Beung attractive is.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 12:30 AM
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The guys I have know it to help just had to make a few tweaks or could even take it way too far. Where as some guys tried and tried and tried, and it probably fucked them up even more.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 12:12 AM
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He said "aren't ever attracted to a single perrson". Can you honestly say you find every woman attractive. Like seriously.... some are just not attractive as others, then some although still attractive just are not compatible. I didn't read that as only try to appeal to one person, but more that he dosnt view all women as the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 12:09 AM
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"We don't care about your career or degree" - How do you actually interpret this? I am someone who has said this. If two women were identical in personality and looks, yes the career or degree (depending on what is was a degree in, as everyone has one these days) may make a difference. However, rarely are all other things equal. If someone is using their degree or career as some sort of crutch, then it generally comes across as try hard and funnily enough seems to be over compensation for someth…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 11:58 PM
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Because a close family member had just died, so I wasn't exactly my normal self. Having parents die can affect even the "emotionless" men you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 10:51 PM
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Because my dad died of fucking cancer. Sorry that I have fucking emotions and the death of my dad bothered me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 10:49 PM
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Yep everything, like sitting down in a chair and standing up, tying my shoelaces, etc. Its horrible. Maybe if I knew no different I wouldn't realize though.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 10:49 PM
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has this happened in real life? or are you speaking hypothetically? Yeah if I am in a bar or a club, if I have seen a guy making a woman clearly uncomfortable, I have either butted in and pretended to be her bf/partner which she was grateful for, or if its a guy that I reckon can take me on easily, I will speak to a bouncer. I have worked in bars and clubs when younger, I know the shit that goes down and will not just stand by and watch. would you say a woman is a "good woman" if she just privat…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 10:47 PM
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Do you think men don't make fun of fat men? "Yeah he may have driven us all to the match, but he is still a fat fuck". What is your point? Fat women and fat men get shamed equally. There is no inequality here.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 10:41 PM
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Yes, I enjoy doing things like going hiking, scrambling, etc. I hate being sat in all day. So for me, if everything becomes a struggle, yeah it will affect my life massively. I am just confused at the minute as all my tops seem to have gotten longer as well as looser.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 10:33 PM
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No one is complaining about what they post on Tik Tok. Damn you don't even need to pay for that entertainment.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 10:27 PM
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I am so asking a random group of women this, next time I am in a bar, just to break the ice.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 10:19 PM
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Been there, its horrible. Out of breath walking to the shape. Dreadful sleep. Always feeling tied. Heavy breathing. Nah man, I cannot do it. I first did weights to look good for women. After going from fat to inshape to fat again, several times, I need to be inshape now. Just for me. Now I have experienced life like that, I do not wanna go back. The extra attention and all that is just icing on the cake.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 10:17 PM
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Glad to hear.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 10:15 PM
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you say you are one of the good men. what makes you good? I can only say I am good insofar as there is some shit I won't stand around and let fly IRL, which some other guys would. There are also some attitudes on this sub, which I strongly disagree with, the latest of which I just hid the thread. Thats really all I can say. Other than I can probably be a good listener one day, a jerk the next, etc. It is what it is, us men are not perfect beings. Yeah we act and behave like pigs at times, hell s…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 10:11 PM
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That combined with an extremely demanding night shift job. Thats a fair enough point. Been there, done that, yeah social life does get eaten up. Granted I could of made more of an effort than I did, but nights does fuck you up.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 09:42 PM
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Maybe, will find out sooner or later regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 09:39 PM
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What the actual hell
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 09:37 PM
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I had shit going on (family member passing away after a year of basically waiting for it too happen) so it probably seemed like I was ignoring and/or rejecting her. I get it, just stung a bit when I saw her the other night at the gym and the atmosphere was different. But just gotta get over it and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 09:26 PM
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I have nothing to do with anyone from College. What city are you from btw. I mean I shouldn't be able to find any social events happening if you give me a city name right? As there are none????
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 09:20 PM
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Look I am not going to go onto reddit and post "thats bad" on every piece of shit comment I see. I get enough shit on here from men and women, hell some guy thought I was a women. I do not need to add to my shit collection. This place is actually a cesspool and saying "Thats bad", "thats bad" will just be pointless. Yes, in RL, if I see something bad happening and its a guy who I do not feel threatened by I will step in and or I will fetch a bouncer. Thats probably as far as my special treatment…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 09:17 PM
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The door and the window shut. There was a woman at the gym, who I would say was into me. Always apprpoaching me, making jokes, talking smiling, waving at me when she left the swimming pool. Now she is cold towards me. So yes, I believe the door was wide open and now even the window is shut. But its time to move on and get over it. For he who does not take the initiative, gets the door shut in their face.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 09:12 PM
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I honestly do not know. Society would be a different place. Like would nightlife still exist in a world where this was a thing, dating apps probably wouldn't. Everything would be different. It might be different in a good way, it might not, I do not know.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 09:09 PM
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I think once you start having standards instead of broadcasting that you are desperate and needy, you do actually become more attractive. I cannot explain it but its a thing, I am sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 09:06 PM
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Being non-judgemental and indifferent works. They never shut up then as they don't feel judged. The only downside (is it a downside?) is you actually have to stop caring about this shit, so once they start divulging everything about their past, you no longer give a fuck. I miss the days when things like DGAF were discussed more than the optimal wrist size for attracting women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 09:05 PM
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Are men going to start totally ignoring women and stop simping en masse. So the only way a woman can get any male attention is by putting herself out there?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 09:03 PM
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Even as a guy, I find some of the complaints guys have on here as stupid. "Women don't approach men" - Well no shit. As per the common complaint, if a woman starts a dating app profile she gets loads of hits and men get none "ItS sO uNfAiRz". Well if you get loads of hits, why the f**k do you even need to start messaging men. If you logged into a dating app and had 100s of messages from women, would you feel an urge to start messaging even MORE women? Like use some f**king common sense. The same…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 09:02 PM
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In agreement.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 08:59 PM
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believing that the strong should just be able to take advantage of the weak bc they can is what barbarianism is. men who are leaders and protectors would not think like this. leaders and protectors look out for the little guy. they don't say "well i got mine so everything is good". thats, again, what a barbarian does. Yes I have read books on Natural Selection, I know how nature works.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 08:44 PM
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uh men not acting immorally and exploiting women? Yeah you know that would be nice, but you see, I am not the God of Men. I am not in charge of what other men do. I am flattered you feel I am that powerful. and since bad people will exist no matter what, the "good" men who aren't "all men" could say "uh that's bad" like the women in this comments section are. What and that would change anything? Do you honestly think they would care? I do not come on to Reddit to police men. I again am flattered…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 08:43 PM
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No men do actually have feelings. Look if you want to try and use some argument someone other person who happened to be a man used, like... maybe argue with them. My personal view is men have emotions. Maybe this is wrong, I dunno, I don't really care tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 08:37 PM
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Some men settle for people they are not really into, because its easier than put in the effort to become the man they need to be to get the person they are truly attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 08:34 PM
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Coming on PPD seems a very strange pastime for a man of your stature.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 08:27 PM
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No I just don't know what the alternative is. Speaking for myself only (not "All Men"), I am a strict believer in setting boundaries. Break them once have a chat, break them twice, its over. Like the saying goes "Fool me once, shame on me. Fool me twice, shame on you". I don't even see the point in saying "Women should do this, women should do that" as a guy. To me at least, the only persons whose actions I can control are my own. Its easier to wear slipper than to carpet the world. So if someon…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 08:20 PM
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Oh I totally agree. But the guys onshore cannot even get to that point yet. So baby steps and all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 07:07 PM
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Its entertaining though thats the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 06:49 PM
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Ironically, I am actually a guy who was into PUA and who also agrees with a lot of Rollo Tomassi's works. However I don't see it as doom and gloom. It just means I am going to have to put myself out there and deal with rejection. However having "The Rationale Male" explain things, makes the field easier to navigate than just having nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 06:44 PM
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I am under no illusions it takes work to get laid as a guy. But this place is full of full on Black Pill doomers. Its easier to leave them to their doom than try to reframe the way they view themselves. This place should be a psychologists wet dream.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 06:40 PM
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Yeah. And I have also gone out to social places with female friends, female family members (cousins as no sisters) and I know its a totally different experience to going out solo or going out to social places with male friends, in the way other women respond to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 06:23 PM
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Short man syndrome is nothing new,
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 06:19 PM
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Well you would have no savings. I guess your wages may be paid to you via cash, if the companies can get the cash. If they still make profit after no one has bank accounts. Liquidators would be called in, so all credit card debt, overdrafts, mortages etc would be demanded straight away to cover costs that the bank needs. Then after the chaos we can go back to bartering.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 06:17 PM
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A woman with you is a woman with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 06:05 PM
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I'm beginning to think that those people for whom redpill and PUA advice works for, already had it in them, and it was just a case of bringing it to the spotlight.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 06:03 PM
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Why not. If a person can do it consistently they are probably the best example. Would you ask a fisherman that catches no fish, how to catch a fish?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 06:01 PM
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What do you actually do.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 05:54 PM
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OK, you mean Taking a shower Ironing some clothes Putting on said clothes Spray on some nice cologne or aftershave Making sure your shoes or trainers are clean before putting them on THEN opening the door Going somewhere where there are other people Sooner or later someone makes small talk Then you just take it from there Is that better for you. Do I need to provide the specific muscle movements for your robot brain to understand?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 05:52 PM
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Its the obsession with it that it somehow makes you more attractive. The USA unemployment rate is 4.3%. So you have a job, wow so do most people. Now what actually makes you interesting other than you have something 95.7% of the population have,
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 05:49 PM
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If your degree or your job is all you have to talk about, well.... I dunno what to say. I may as well hunt out my own degree, put a hole in it and thrust my cock through that hole until I cum. Its just as interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 05:44 PM
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Most stuff is weekends or I book the odd Friday or Monday off or it's scheduled over Bank Holidays.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 05:28 PM
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And a lot of the “personality” traits and “social skills” that people talk about are the result of being preselected anyways. So... just let a girl friendzone you. Actually be friends, then goto social places with her, with zero intent and be preselected by her. Fucking hell. It really is that simple Pre-Selection and being friends with women go hand in hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 04:00 PM
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You mean "Open the front door"?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 03:57 PM
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Neither is he. Anyway, enjoy your excuses, they serve you well.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 03:55 PM
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Oh right, well I live on this planet called Earth. The other month I went on a mountain scrambling trip, with about 40 other people. Next month I am going to a giant yearly festival. On saturady nights we have these things called cocktail bars. There are also loads of other social activities, sadly there are onbly a limited number of evenings per week, so I have to choose what to do and what to skip. Sorry "reality" isn't as interesting a place as the Planet of Earth.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 03:54 PM
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Do you honestly not meet women doing kayaking and outdoors stuff?????? I find walking groups and kayaking expeds great for meeting women who are actually active.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 03:51 PM
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Well AWALT is correct. This is the point of AWALT. Just because you meet someone and get with someone, you still have to get off your fat lazy ass and put in effort. Otherwise the woman will leave you..... AWALT. The bitch bit.... yeah I disagree with that. More like she had better options.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 03:50 PM
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Fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 03:48 PM
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Ive got a mate, who us obese, short, smells, dosn't have a job, lives with his parents, hoards loads of shit. He also does Viking Reenactment, basically swings axes at peoples heads (probably too scarey for you as it means leaving the beasement), due to this, women who watch shows and exhibitions are quite willing to get fucked by the mad hairy viking dude. Also, the vioking group he is in, has a band. He is their roadie, so goes to all their performances with them, which are full of women and y…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 03:46 PM
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It's very rare for a man to have ZERO interests outside of silently hiding indoors and playing video games. Reading this sub, I am not sure anymore. Maybe leaving the basement is a rare thing that only some of us do.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 03:42 PM
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How can you stay sane having these conversations on this sub. Sorry, its just a waste of time, effort and energy. Some people choose to be hated, its their choice and they work hard at achieving it. It just is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 03:34 PM
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What is the weather like on your planet? Genuine question
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 03:24 PM
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What are your hobbies, do they involve leaving the basement?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 03:22 PM
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Well he has basically summed you up from what you present here. Here a better question, what would you even bring to the table for a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 03:20 PM
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Reading this sub, I am honestly thinking either everyone who leaves the house is a magical chad or this forum is full of burn victims suffering from elephantitis.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 03:17 PM
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Status to whom and in which community? What gives someone status to you, may mean Jack Sh*t to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 03:04 PM
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This is what you wrote "I told him I wanted to make it exclusive and he kept saying he's not in a good place but he just wants me in his life " Anyway, you keep talking about your imaginary boyfriend in your imaginary relationship. Its kinda cute and adorable. I hope your next imaginary boyfriend treats you better,
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:57 PM
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So do these "BangMaids" have no agency? Is Divorce illegal where they are from? Is Breaking up a relationship illegal? Sorry, if you are from Sangin DC in Helmand Province, yeah I get it, its shit. But if your from a developed country, you are choosing this life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:54 PM
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I'm just going by what you originally wrote, it dosnt sound like he agreed to be exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:12 PM
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Nicer than settling fir someone who will do.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 01:56 PM
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To bust your nut. To not feel the "ick" aftere you shoot you're load into a minger. Post nut clarity is real.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 01:55 PM
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Fair. For me the two are speakers things.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 01:51 PM
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Thanks I also needed that. Shifted my perspective a bit
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 01:33 PM
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Yeah....thought that was normal father son bonding.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 12:39 PM
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Wearing clothes that actually fit properly and don't colour clash is different to being into fashion and fashion trends.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 12:26 PM
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Did your dad never take you to the pub for a Sunday afternoon drink, start talking to girls, introduce you, then just leave you to it?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 12:10 PM
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Join the armed forces. Civvi street is to easy for these sorts of bonds to be needed. Once you do basic training, where you only have each other and everyone else just screams at you and beasts you, you will build that bond.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 11:54 AM
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Some of the horrors I see walking around, make me consider hammering nails into my eye sockets to ease the visual suffering I have to endure. Or sometimes, I just want to see what happens when lightening strikes on female pinhead.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 11:50 AM
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Yeah if they break them twice, its over, the end. If your not willing to walk away, you never cared about your boundary's.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 08:28 AM
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Only time will tell. Not my kind of cup of tea tbh, but each to their own. If it works it works. If it backfires somehow, we can all get a good laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 10:16 PM
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Blue pill dating rejection at its finest.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 10:07 PM
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Lets just hope that guys with higher value than yourself dont suddenly show interest. Hypergamy and all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 10:05 PM
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It could be one of many other things that create attraction, looks, money, pre-selection, social proof, etc, I could go on and on and on, listing things. Status is just one thing out of many. However, if you choose to build status or just rely on luck, is down to a person. Personally, I never found myself that lucky, so it made more sense to focus on what I could control, than just hope to be lucky.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 09:43 PM
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Just say "No thanks". None of this "maybe", as that makes it sound like there is a chance. Ideally I would like the exact reason why, but that is asking too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 09:13 PM
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No one is on about ugly dudes. If you really are ugly, soz bro, its game over as far as dating goes. Dating advice is not for ugly guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 08:42 PM
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Yes you can. Most things we do are formed by habit. Just make a logical list of little habits you want to do every day. Then sooner or later your brains neuroplasticity will take over and it will be second nature, However, there is no magic one off thing that will make you more attractive. Its lots of little lifestyle changes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 08:41 PM
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Men are not a monolith, for some of us, there is truth to this. However as we are individuals and have different experiences, I guess it is only natural we may disagree. However I am not talking on behalf of anyone but myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 07:37 PM
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The larger issue is the very narrow minded approach on how to be attractive, instead of focusing on being your most confident, well put together and fun to be around self you’re more focused on “how can i pull as many women as possible” which is a viable strategy…. if you were in sales. Yes the solution is "on being your most confident, well put together and fun to be around self" but if you don't initially ask yourself “how can i pull as many women as possible” or just "how can I bang any woman…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 07:15 PM
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he was not really your ex then. Just a guy you were fucking. If you were not exclusive, then well how can he be your ex?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 07:05 PM
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Attraction cannot be negotiated. Either work on those things, or become a monk, Theres no 3rd option.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 06:52 PM
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Yeah fair enough. Even Mystery who I would say his book helped me, I have pretty negative views on. He is still in business, and from what I have seen, it is guys spending thousands, to basically watch him chat to someone in the street then be told they can do it too. I do agree its all a scam. And the current "Only we can give you a certificate to state you are a Master PUA" is just disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 06:36 PM
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I was hit and miss before I had "The Method". Socially awkward, had to get at least tipsy to talk to someone, When women approached me, I just sort of stuttered (funnily enough, it never happened when I was smashed out of my face, maybe being drunk wasn't that attractive). So yeah following challenges and having mates edge me on, helped tremendously. Sure i had success, some relationships, but like I say it was hit and miss and far apart. A lot of it was also, mates pointing out my shit body lan…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 06:01 PM
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Its not, its a complete misinterpretation of what TRP actually said.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 05:53 PM
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Hope it all goes well.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 05:52 PM
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Fair point. Me and some of my mates could never afford boot camps, so we basically just worked through all the challenges in a £10 copy of "The Mystery Method" and "The Rules of the game", where as someone we knew did tons of boot camps, but then yeah, just regurgitated whatever the latest person he was following said. It was actually scary watching someone spend the equivalent of 2 mortage deposits each year on bootcamps. Although I no longer have anything to do with that guy (too much validati…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 05:50 PM
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True. None of its new. Its just rebranded and rebranded. Not sure about the current Cult of Personalitys though. I think its all about influencers getting followers and selling products. Its no longer communities of guys helping guys, flying to different countries, cities to go sarging with new wings, like it was in the better days. Christ and I'm not even a boomer.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 05:27 PM
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I wasn't totally unsuccessful, I was just hit or miss and occasionally got lucky. Guys I knew were getting new women every night, had groups of female friends, etc. I also had a lot of self hate, which I worked on with a hypnotherapist. But I like my life now, so for me thats what matters. Sure some guys can spend their whole lives pulling a different woman every night. You know what, I'm just focussing on me now, comparing myself to others will not help. Yeah it would be nice to live like Hugh …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 05:19 PM
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But what would you say is the X factor that makes these guys stand out?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 04:49 PM
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I agree but disagree. I used to have to get drunk to do a cold approach. Then I just started doing challenges like "Do 5 cold approaches whilst sober" after a while I didn't need to rely on alchoholl ike I used to. But yeah if all I did was read then I'm in total agreement. Social awkwardness and being stumped for words was all I needed to work on. Alcohol helps buts its not a Permanent fix.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 04:44 PM
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It is "The Rules", which like I said is what FDS was based on and not sure if Sprinkle Sprinkle is the same thing rebranded.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 04:05 PM
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This is from before TRP was a thing (1995).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 03:55 PM
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Most manosphere places I frequent are more geared towards spinning plates. But its a vast place.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 03:54 PM
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It was probably a 90 year old dude in a wheelchair with an oxygen tank. I wouldn't be too heartbroken, he probably died of old age.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 03:47 PM
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If the only way you can be happy is people spending money on you, then maybe they need to find someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 03:44 PM
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WHich bits do you find complicated. They strike me as straight forward to be honest. I think a lot of it is the ability to count the number of dates and knowing what day of the week it is, is that what you find complicated?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 03:38 PM
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I'm just asking, does it work mostly. And what the hell is Sprinkle Sprinkle, is it any different from these rules that are nothing new what so ever. As to how is it different from Red Pill, its not written so crudely. But it probably has a different Target Audience.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 03:36 PM
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Its basically what FDS was based on. I still have no idea if the Strategy from FDS actually yields results......
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 03:33 PM
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What the actual hell is Sprinkle Sprinkle. Is it any different from FDS, is FDS any different from "The Rules" Be a "Creature Unlike Any Other" Don't Talk to a Man First (and Don't Ask Him to Dance) Don't Stare at Men or Talk Too Much Don't Meet Him Halfway or Go Dutch on a Date Don't Call Him and Rarely Return His Calls Always End Phone Calls First Don't Accept a Saturday Night Date after Wednesday Fill Up Your Time before the Date How to Act on Dates 1, 2, and 3 How to Act on Dates 4 through C…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 03:16 PM
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She is just not that into you. If she were, she would also be saying "I don't normally do this". Basically your unattractive not attractive, but she won't just outright tell you as you may have resources she will happily receive in exchange for a dead bedroom arrangement (non verbally of course).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 02:53 PM
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Yeah, he has agency and is choosing to stay. Whats your point, its his choice, leave him to it. If it blows up in his face, remind him, he made that choice no-one else and can live with the consequences of his choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 01:49 PM
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A man wouldn't be "trapped", he would be staying by choice. Unless he is literally chained to a radiator and the door locked, he can always walk out. There is always a choice. If a man says he is trapped, he is just making shitty excuses for his behaviour. He probably secretly enjoys whatever it is he claims to dislike.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 01:45 PM
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Do women not have agency?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 01:40 PM
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Why would seeking out someone who is more likely to leave be a good idea?? Men generally are the ones who initiate so we will be seeking someone out regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 01:14 PM
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It depends if you want the relationship to last or not. At the early stages, I would say the love is not there, it has not developed. So at this point love is irrelavent.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 12:54 PM
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The thing is, will anyone care. Why would it be poorly received. Like yeah, I will go "Yes I do that" then get on with life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 12:50 PM
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"Realist who wants a relationship to last"
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 12:48 PM
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If she did the approaching and made all the moves, sure I wouldn't reject her. But as far as making moves myself, I probably wouldn't notice her.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 12:29 PM
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What planet must you live on to have men revealing that they value looks to be some sort of epiphany.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 12:27 PM
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What belief do you need confirming. Men are attracted to looks. This is hardly rocket science.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 12:27 PM
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Once it totally stops working for you, it is irrelevant to you. However, as far as Millenials go, some of us are still in the dating market. So if it works for us, it still works for us. I still don't bother with dating apps, I really don't have the time or interest to just swipe on app when I could be out talking to people instead. So I just do what works for me. If it works it works. This is the thing with advice, it is just advice, not set in stone rules. Try it, don't try it. Find what works…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 12:10 PM
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This depends. Yes the whole "I only date younger women" is a good cope/excuse if you are undatable and want to convince yourself its because of your high standards. On the other hand, attracting and dating a younger woman is harder than attracting and dating someone your own age, so if a guy IS dating younger women, then he can probably get with a woman his own age, if for some reason they became more appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 11:38 AM
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Of course it won't. Its just information. What will solve your problems (maybe, nothing is guaranteed in life, except death), is getting off your ass and taking action. If you don't get the results you want, analyse your actions and change them. Maybe TRP statements will align with your experiences, maybe they won't. Thats for you to find out, the field holds all the answers. Or do nothing... and keep not getting, whatever it is you have not gotten. Your life your choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 10:35 AM
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"How do you two know each other?"
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 09:39 AM
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Yep, at end of the day, a photo is just a photo. Even sending messages, isn't it something like 93% of communication is non verbal. If you are somewhere IRL, you can convey status. A photo does not necessarily do that, However, the downside, is IRL, you can also convey lack of status.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 09:23 PM
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I am going to say it comes down to status, looks and money. However, what is important is having any 2 out of those 3. Just 1 or none and its not enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 09:18 PM
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I don't know what you do in life. But surely you are involved in some sort of circles. Surely people in those circles carry some sort of status. Why do they have status, how did they achieve it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 09:17 PM
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I would say at least any 2 of the 3 (Status, looks, money). If you have none or just one, well its like playing a game of poker already in debt before the game begins.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 09:16 PM
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You get it. However, in terms of dating and relationships, its probably in regard to the circles where people are meeting. I used to work in a nightclub when I was younger, I knew the DJ, the Barstaff and the Bouncers as well as free access to the VIP area if I was there as a punter. So as far as this environment went, I had status. So as far as dating goes, status matters. So what can I do with that nugget of info (once we accept that "Being yourself" is BS). Simple, I look for women, in that e…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 09:13 PM
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Sometimes you just have to do what works.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 09:04 PM
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If its a genuine compliment that I know I have earned then I have no issues. If however, someone says I look great for no reason when I gained a but of weight, but say nothing when I have lost weight or gained muscle, then yeah my radar goes off. If I know I have gained weight or at least think I have or have an issue with something else and I ask, getting an honest answer like "You have gained weight" "you need to lose some weight" or even something more extreme like the example I gave, I at le…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 09:01 PM
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Yes there is more to life than feeling good. If it dosn't fix the problem, I will repeatedly feel bad. So in the long run, it makes no difference. Anyway, I have cut people like that out of my life and my life is generally better for it. The thing about occaisonly hitting rock bottom is you have to take a hard look at your life. Without someone emotionally manipulating you so that you can stay at the bottom of the barrel, its actually quite easy to do. I would value a mate who said "I know 5 fat…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 08:42 PM
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Dating Apps destroyed that bullshit years ago. Sure before dating sites and apps were a thing, "Looks don't matter, its the inner beauty that counts", then along came Dating Apps and Chadfishing. The end of the "looks don't matter" BS is the only good thing that came out of these apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 08:35 PM
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Well then you will acquire better game and probably be more consistent than a guy who has height as a crutch.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 08:30 PM
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"No game game" is still game. Game is just the way you approach women and the SMV, either what you do works or it dosn't. If your getting women, you have game, even if its "No game game"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 08:29 PM
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In agreement. Most men are slobs. Sadly we dismissed rites of passage centuries ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 08:10 PM
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Looks are just the beginning. Beauty is common. A woman needs more than just looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 08:09 PM
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As someone who has a few gay friends, I can confirm that mens standards for other men are even higher. Its just that women are more content with dollar, social value, etc. So will overlook fitness and looks in trade for those.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 08:09 PM
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I dunno, someone online told me that as women like dad bods why are men still rejecting chubby women, Its basically a shit attempt at emotional manipulation. Sure if you never touch grass, you may fall for it. But if you go from fatty to lifting, you soon experience the difference in the way women and everyone else responds to you and realise it for what it is. Getting in shape == earning your right to be treated like a human.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 08:07 PM
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How is deluding me going to make me feel good in the long run. Yeah I may feel good for a while, then I feel like I have been slimed. For me at least, all I need to feel good is a plan, then I can get started on the plan and see changes. If the changes are in the positive then all is good, if not, I need a different plan. Just telling me I am fine the way I am, not helping me come up with a plan, hell crab bucketing me is not going to be good in the long run. That said, people who are full of fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 07:58 PM
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Yeah and even this some people some to go ape shit about. That said, I have learnt that who I interact with and keep in my social circle contributes to that, I can't really blame insecure people if I choose to interact with them, that is on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 07:54 PM
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Most of it was self inflicted. I believed the be nice and be who you are, there is someone for everyone and all that shit blah blah blah.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 06:18 PM
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I am not talking about Bodybuilding, that is more than just "Going to the gym". Even to become lean, you can't just sit on your fat useless ass all day. But lifting a few weights, doing classes or doing cardio is totally different to body building or power lifting. I would get it, if someone actually said they wanted to be a body builder, but most peeps just literally mean "goto the gym" and thats it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 06:16 PM
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I'm 6 foot and I know it gives me a crutch in regard to attracting women. However, the disconnect comes when shorter guys seem to claim that height is ALL that matters. Its as though us 6 foot tall guys have never faced any problems or issues ourselves, because being 6 foot tall is magical and everything is perfect right? Life is just fucking wonderful when you are 6 foot tall and nothing bad ever happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 06:04 PM
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How is telling men that the reason they have failed in life is their own fault and they need to sort their own shit out even remotely cultish. Its harsh tough love and crude, but telling guys they have no worth unless they create that worth and work on themselves does not strike me as something a cult would do.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 05:58 PM
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WHy do you care. People are gonna sometimes disagree with what you do. However you are you and not them. Living to please others will not bring happiness. Anyway, its your life. Have a nice day.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 05:26 PM
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1st option.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 05:23 PM
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I sometimes find it suspicious, like if I gain weight and a male friend tells me I look fine, yet if I goto the gym and they say nothing, hmmmmm, whats the motive here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 05:19 PM
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If your only thinking of getting onto STEM for social validation, it may not be for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 05:14 PM
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Hows does agreeing or disagreeing with what someone says or believes make that person any more or less attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 04:42 PM
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Random internet women: "Going to the gym does not make you attractive", "Muscles are not hot", "Dadbods are in season, why do you goto gymz", etc, etc. Many men's experience after just 6 months of dieting and lifting: "Wow, its like I have finally earned the right to be treated like a human". Why the disconnect? Why the crab bucket mentality. Why the desire to hold men back? Is it just one giant shit test or is there a darker more sinister motive at work?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 04:37 PM
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The ability to create jealousy is itself attractive, Why buy flowers, go on expensive dates and weird shit, when you can just talk to another woman. Cheaper and less time consuming. Plus more powerful in creating responses.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 04:26 PM
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I see it all the time on the internet. Its funny for a while but then gets boring. My favorite was "I have a lot of classic cars but no man wants to date me" blah, blah, blah. Anyway, if you have never seen or heard these complaints, I envy you. Have a nice day.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 04:21 PM
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Last time I came on here, I was arguing with some guy who was "Man must pay for everything", all I could get out of him was "My dad taught me that". I think the reality of the matter is whatever your beliefs, reality will merge itself to fit them. So guy who believed he had to pay for everything as his dad taught him that women were incapable of doing so, then cool his reality will reflect that. For me, I generally only attract women who are willing and capable of paying for themselves, so whate…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 04:15 PM
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To be fair, a lot of PUA advice did seem counterintuitive as though it shouldn't work. RP is the only thing so far, that makes it make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 04:05 PM
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A lot of us are not saying women "Have to" do anything. We actually don't give a fuck, its your l;ife your choice. But once you start dumping your problems, "Why can I not find a good man", "Why does no-one want to date a successful careerz woman such as myself", we will give you answers and solutions which you may not like. If you like your lifestyle, then why the complaints. Its what you wanted right? You should be happy not complaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 03:55 PM
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