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| 3 | Sex Work Twitter makes me feel LESS compassion towards voluntary sex workers 🙄I’m not bleching at you just bleching at your point. It’s horrifying to think about | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 10:51 PM |
| -1 | Sex Work Twitter makes me feel LESS compassion towards voluntary sex workers 🙄Blech. No one here has power. It’s all crabs in a barrel. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 04:32 PM |
| 7 | On the myth that your 20s are when you have the most options with HVM.We are so used to women being disrespected that most of the time we don’t even see it. Almost all HV couples I know depend on some degree on the woman humiliating herself | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 03:33 PM |
| 11 | On the myth that your 20s are when you have the most options with HVM.I got preyed on the most around your age and just after when I was looking for jobs and opportunities | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 03:24 PM |
| 2 | Sex Work Twitter makes me feel LESS compassion towards voluntary sex workers 🙄A counter narrative to sex work is legitimate work and deserves respect? I think that is already the ... waves at everything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 03:16 PM |
| 30 | Sex workers accusing us of slut shaming then in the next breath mocking us for "sucking dick for free" ...wow. And they have the audacity to demand we "support sex workers"This is a class war. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 02:57 PM |
| 10 | Sex Work Twitter makes me feel LESS compassion towards voluntary sex workers 🙄I’m not into the idea of, yet again, of focusing our rage on other women, rather than the men who cause the pain. I understand the frustration, and I definitely noted away from a friend who told me she was a prostitute (even though at the time I was pro sex work). It’s just too convenient of a target and patriarchy loves when we rage at each other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 11:24 AM |
| 14 | Give a guy a bit of power and he'll use it to harrass a woman.I was stalked by a cop and he acted like it was this really funny friendly thing that he was just always driving around the neighborhood looking for me, pulling up on to sidewalks in his unmarked undercover vehicle, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 05:18 PM |
| 29 | Indian scrotes discussing what they’d ask women before an arranged marriage. The audacity.I am so happy this is becoming a more commonly held POV It warms my heart | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 12:26 AM |
| 7 | "I want to leave, but we have kids."I think a lot of women with children are not in a financial position to live independently. Sometimes staying for the kids sake means the kids get to live in a comfortable house and go to a good school. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 12:20 PM |
| 16 | Dick does nothing for me.I’m so happy I got to lose my virginity and have sex before online porn was a thing. Me and one of my first boyfriends would spend literally days just smoking weed and experimenting. We had a copy of the Kama sutra and we would try out different positions and switch who would take the lead on certain things. It was fun and playful and sweet. I can’t believe we managed to ruin sex even more than it already was ruined by “women’s liberation “. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 09:08 PM |
| 37 | Dick does nothing for me.A necessary step might be to draw a cartoon version of your clit on any surface that you come across, especially on dusty car windows and in snow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 01:36 PM |
| 52 | Dick does nothing for me.And I think it’s totally normal not to be fixated on the genitalia of our lover. Fixation on body parts is weird. Guys are just fixated on their own dicks and somehow we get the message we have to be too. It would be weird if women were like, look at my clit!!! Tell me it’s big! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 01:07 PM |
| 161 | Dick does nothing for me.I think sex has gotten exponentially worse in the age of porn. It’s all simulated rape now. And it’s all this weird power struggle. I literally have to physically struggle and fight with guys for them to get me off sometimes. It’s rare when that is not the case. My wish for you is that you someday find a lover who you actually like and who wants sex to be about generosity, appreciation, and mutual pleasure and respect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 09:12 AM |
| 20 | Pickmes are cancer to women’s liberationI just had an interaction with a man saying he suffered from DV and men were “the most alone” “with no support “. Except it was his ex partner who lived with a roommate and her 8 month old with him while he lives in a house to himself and feels comfortable talking about how “unbalanced “ she is to near strangers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 09:05 AM |
| 34 | No, you shouldn't do whatever you wantThis sort of reminds me how much criticism Kim Kardashian has gotten for fundamentally saying what Billie is saying. When someone blond and they can manipulate comes along whose working for them anc not herself, suddenly it reads different. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 09:00 AM |
| 30 | What kind of dumbass neckbeard neggs Azealia Banks online?! LMAO!I mean the media sort of going after her fpr having beefs is nothing new. And I think part of it, and I am no hip hop scholar, so correct me if I’m wrong, is going after whoever is hot. It’s what hip hop battles, events which form the building blocks of hip hop culture, are about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 03:40 PM |
| 42 | What kind of dumbass neckbeard neggs Azealia Banks online?! LMAO!Yeah he gets called crazy for being hung up on a woman, not having a beef with Pusha T | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 03:38 PM |
| 75 | What kind of dumbass neckbeard neggs Azealia Banks online?! LMAO!Beefs are a hip hop tradition. It’s funny no one calls Drake or the Notorious BIG “crazy” for having beefs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 03:17 PM |
| 22 | NVM's wife raised the kids and managed their home for nearly two decades yet he resents her for not working? Feels like an abuse victim?? He has the option to retire early and live a comfortable life together but comments he rather have her work a cashier job "for the principle"He's double fantasizing about the boat he wants to buy and how he wants to drive them into financial ruin by refusing to downsize | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 10:30 AM |
| 2 | Women, Especially Trauma Survivors, Don’t Need Further GaslightingI think something that goes along with this is invalidating someone’s desire to be married to a man or the whole, why doesn’t she just leave? There are so many women where being in partnership or marriage, even a bad one, hugely changes their way of life and access to jobs and social spaces. Also, I know a lot of lower income women who physically could not leave if they tried. I’m happy for everyone where being married doesn’t matter, who have access to jobs and friends and entertainment while s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 10:06 AM |
| 8 | I got my coworkers to tell on themselves; a translation of the male mindYep. I don't even think he is waiting for his dream girl. He's just along for the ride in life. His parents baby him and has resources. A girlfriend is for the company, sex, etc. He will be nominally in a partnership with her until she gets too bothersome. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 05:14 PM |
| 59 | How is this even a question??!!2005 girl! Being cheap was first. Being a psycho manipulative cheater came next. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 12:42 PM |
| 17 | I got my coworkers to tell on themselves; a translation of the male mindI feel like they have more emotions than we do and just expect women to manage them for them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 09:02 AM |
| 30 | I got my coworkers to tell on themselves; a translation of the male mindI don’t believe that they are emotionally unintelligent or that that’s truly how they feel. It’s a status game for them more than anything. Are you of value to them as a number or a prize? It depends on the type of status you bring to them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 08:56 AM |
| 27 | I got my coworkers to tell on themselves; a translation of the male mindMy family friend didn’t see anything happen with the person he now lives with . | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 08:54 AM |
| 24 | I got my coworkers to tell on themselves; a translation of the male mindThe funny one to me is the whole we don’t feel but we know exactly how they feel. Like, y’all have all the emotions we do, pretend like you don’t, project them on to us, be incredibly convoluted and toxic about it, rinse and repeat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 08:52 AM |
| 25 | PSA: Men are learning about FDS but like most things they don't get it all. Stay on Scrote Watch!This whole thread healed something inside of me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 06:44 PM |
| 14 | PSA: Men are learning about FDS but like most things they don't get it all. Stay on Scrote Watch!Do tell! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 06:43 PM |
| 35 | This will never not be funny.Stop to be mean at me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Black women and weaponsEven my most lefty friends. Even my black friends. They somehow hold this notion that the way things are better in other places could never work in the US and that things are ultimately better in the US. I had a super lefty friend say that she still thinks people have "more rights" in the US. Right to what? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 08:10 PM |
| 18 | Some nonsense, and people calling it out lmaoThe twists of logic in this post are truly dizzying | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 01:32 AM |
| 7 | Black women and weaponsThe pandemic is becoming another excuse to exclude people and create huge gaps in access to resources. The world is getting worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 04:27 PM |
| 7 | Black women and weaponsThe US talks so much about freedom but it’s one of the places with the most intrinsic fear. Homelessness and disease are literally hanging over the heads of the wealthiest individuals because the psychological /social fabric has been ripped to shreds by white supremacy. If people don’t perform white supremacy correctly they are ostracized. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 04:25 PM |
| 14 | Black women and weaponsThe video of the police shouting Blue Lives Matter over the body a dead 15 year old girl. Fuck Columbus Ohio! Fuck the Midwest! Fuck America! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 04:19 PM |
| 2 | The sad truth.Yes. I think so many of us have been there. Your story is funny because of how true it is. You are wonderful and strong and you deserve for someone to drive around all night looking for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 10:05 AM |
| 12 | The sad truth.I just finished watching Atlanta and the way he treats women in that show is just... no comment | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 04:17 PM |
| 7 | The sad truth.Nikki Glaser | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 04:16 PM |
| 9 | The sad truth.lol so true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 04:15 PM |
| 38 | The sad truth.What kind of reasonable person doesn't drive around all night looking for the person that just threatened them with a handgun? lmfao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 04:06 PM |
| 11 | The sad truth.Because they sure have wanted to har har. Get it? /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 04:04 PM |
| 41 | Sis... you defending him or your ego? Just stop. Sick of reading these posts lolEven the actual men think this way. “I only cheat because she doesn’t check up on me.” “I don’t wash the dishes because she never asks me.” Etc | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 01:38 AM |
| 37 | Do you, ladies!Or the fact that they weren’t. There have always been women politicians, scientists, artists, saints, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 09:20 AM |
| 3 | Men don't just hate when we speak. They hate when we vocalize at all.I think it is important to remember, even if people misuse it. I don't think it is the same as calling someone b*tch. It is about someone wielding their socioeconomic power to hurt or endanger people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 04:11 PM |
| 25 | Men don't just hate when we speak. They hate when we vocalize at all.The term was created to point out a specific type of dangerous racist behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 03:46 PM |
| 6 | Ladies, stop giving HIS house free renovations with YOUR moneyAnd when you are married, make sure your name is on the TITLE and MORTGAGE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 03:34 PM |
| 90 | How to not catch feelings for men and protect your heartThe thing that used to f me up is when guys would get all heart broken and butt hurt about the rejection. I would then take it upon myself to explain that I really did like them but I wasn’t ready to get there and then beat myself up for hurting them or not giving them a chance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 08:45 PM |
| 82 | Update: I dumped him!I get turned on by people not farting in my face. Thank you for the support. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 05:41 PM |
| 5 | Having kids early in life is a rich woman's luxuryYes! I was raised by a poor single mom. I am definitely not commenting on quality of life or access to opportunities. I think people who have connections to the BBC or a law firm are upper middle class. They can afford child care and rent or mortgage and can afford to have children. It is the big chunk in the lower middle where having children becomes untenable, just in terms of actually being able to care for the child, feed, and clothe them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 06:10 PM |
| 21 | Having kids early in life is a rich woman's luxuryWhen you are poor you participate in alternative economies of favors and extended family (for better or for worse) and are eligible for certain public benefits that can make having children feasible. If you are middle class, you are expected to pay for everything, and you are often socially and economically punished if you can't (that corporate manager maybe won't give you the promotion if you live in a housing project, etc). So if you are making $1,000 a month but paying $250 in rent and child … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 03:37 PM |
| 2 | Having kids early in life is a rich woman's luxuryWhich part? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 03:15 PM |
| 10 | Having kids early in life is a rich woman's luxuryIt's less expensive to be poor. That is why poor women can have children young. It's become virtually impossible for middle class women to have children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 02:42 PM |
| 7 | Pick me makes sure to give her credit card to her boyfriend so it can look like he payed. I hate this.Search the sub! 11/10 best story | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 12:55 AM |
| 278 | Pick me makes sure to give her credit card to her boyfriend so it can look like he payed. I hate this.This and the Nest is why I come to FDS for all my comedy desires. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 01:12 PM |
| 124 | On a post about a woman saying she doesn't want to get married and be reduced to a "wife" and a "mother". I wish more men would call out the mysoginy of other menIt’s such “my dog has such a big personality” vibes. My problem with marriage is that I have so much I want to do in life that just not being a bang maid doesn’t cut it. If I have a partner then I need to be supported and every man I have been with either puts his own projects front and center or is trying to cut me down. And it doesn’t work for me. It doesn’t sound like this guy is in a partnership. He just is proud that he basically polite to his wife | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 04:34 PM |
| 12 | When women get angry, we call out men for their behavior and speak out about why we’re angry. When men are angry, they resort to abuse, harassment, rape, and murder. My dear male lurkers, we are not the same. We would never do this to youFemicide | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 09:16 AM |
| 46 | When women get angry, we call out men for their behavior and speak out about why we’re angry. When men are angry, they resort to abuse, harassment, rape, and murder. My dear male lurkers, we are not the same. We would never do this to youIncel femicide culture is out of control | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 09:14 AM |
| 56 | Why do people think women are being tricked/manipulated into casual sex?They prefer having sex with women who want ltr ‘s and not nsa sex because they get off on the power, manipulation, and lies | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 11:22 AM |
| 36 | Saw this on Twitter — horrifyingIt’s all harmless after all | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 09:00 AM |
| 5 | Vice claims that the #1 way to prevent men from going on mass killing sprees is decriminalizing sex work so that incels can direct all of their gender-based violence onto trafficked, marginalized women. Same author who wrote the smear campaign against FDS 🤡I have dated so many broke dudes where all I wanted was good company and companionship. They were incapable without making it some big drama, cheating and abusing me. This has nothing to do with money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 12:26 PM |
| 18 | Spreading wholesomeness! He feels like it's a privilege to get married to her. So happy for her!His imperfections | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 12:24 PM |
| 31 | Spreading wholesomeness! He feels like it's a privilege to get married to her. So happy for her!Posts a tik tok crying: “I failed at my calling.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 12:23 PM |
| 5 | A man doesn’t have to call you a bitch to be a misogynist.I am so sorry for the literal hell this person put you through and I am so happy you made it out alive. It also makes me think about how there are no straight lines as a woman. Many of those women probably had that as their only path to promotion. Damn! We live in a fucked up world, where we are all being held hostage. Hugs through the internet! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 07:39 PM |
| 6 | A man doesn’t have to call you a bitch to be a misogynist.And I feel like there is sometimes an inverse relationship between how much someone talks about something and how serious they are about it. My most vocally feminist guy friend from high school broke his fiancée’s jaw and paid her to sign an NDA | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 07:12 PM |
| 21 | A man doesn’t have to call you a bitch to be a misogynist.In my experience, the ones who talk the most about women’s liberation are the worst. I wouldn’t waste my time talking about it. It’s like a switch that’s on or off. Do you see me as a human or not? I think there are signs. Do they understand your reasoning for certain decisions? Do they respect your time and effort? Things like that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 12:33 PM |
| 116 | Piers Morgan is the quintessential “nice guy” with a fragile wittle ego all because he can’t stand that Meghan Markle rejected himI would bet a million dollars it wasn’t a date and he just implied as much to paint a colorful picture and say she is a slut. I don’t think this has anything to do with dating. She went to a work thing before going to a party. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 05:36 PM |
| 278 | Piers Morgan is the quintessential “nice guy” with a fragile wittle ego all because he can’t stand that Meghan Markle rejected himIt is so gross to me that he even considered it a date. A dinner between colleagues in the entertainment industry is very common. There isn't a planet in the 1,000 closest galaxies where I believe MM would consider dating this old gross goat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 03:07 PM |
| 33 | Why so many women dont have orgasms or sexual satisfaction in relationshipsYeah like ew. Don't care about me just because you want to have sex with me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 02:07 PM |
| 69 | Crazy ex trope-do not fall for it queens.Actual conversation with an acquaintance - Him: I am thinking of breaking up with my wife. She is too crazy and demanding. Me: Really? Like what does she say? Him: She is too jealous and controlling. She is always looking at my phone and wondering where I am. 5 seconds later Him: I have always wanted to get with you. You are beautiful. I wish we were together instead. Him: | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 06:08 PM |
| 49 | Crazy ex trope-do not fall for it queens.I mean since non of our thoughts or emotions are given any validity, it really is nay impossible not to be a crazy lady in this day and age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 06:03 PM |
| 11 | Crazy ex trope-do not fall for it queens.hahahahahahahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 06:02 PM |
| 44 | If this has been posted before please remove it. But sisters, this is where 50-50 will get you. It's their kid, but her bills.$50,000 is good money for a lot of people not in the cities | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 01:22 PM |
| 12 | America's Next Top Model is male propaganda that grooms young women to think they're not allowed to say "no"Google Jean Luc Brunel and John Casablancas. When Tyra is saying anything she means it and has most likely been raped and abused and is living out a weird grooming trauma response. Every single model I have known has a story of being low key or high key trafficked to high net worth individuals, including Gaddafi and Saudi princes. By low key or high key, I mean covert or overt. I was recruited to model and told to lie about my age and molested by a photographer. The fashion industry has only bee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 07:59 AM |
| 22 | I love it when men recognise LVM!Periodt | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 11:25 PM |
| 10 | Seriously?“Conservative taste in girlfriend...” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 09:55 AM |
| 14 | Does anyone else find it so hard and cringey when reading other dating subs?Except it would read, she just got out of an 8 week coma and claims her grandmother died. I have never met her grandmother so I have my doubts | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 09:27 AM |
| 6 | Does anyone else find it so hard and cringey when reading other dating subs?I have always thought this was such an f’ed up part of the concept of love that somehow it’s possible to love someone in a way they can’t feel or perceive | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 09:22 AM |
| 31 | Is dick worth it?The only thing that makes it worth it is a bigger house and more money and social access and power. Other than that, of course not. Dick arrangements can come at a much lower cost. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 11:49 AM |
| 8 | Another truth bomb from this guy!Clean the house period. Clean up after her and whoever else lives there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 06:25 AM |
| -16 | There’s nothing empowering about OnlyFans. The consequences of engaging in sexual acts on camera always lie with the woman, which is unfair, but it’s the world we live in (sadly).She was probably making money to feed the kids | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 06:45 PM |
| 15 | I can receive a notification, see a part of the comment, and not even a MINUTE later:Best mods on Reddit. I never see derailing comments or trolls | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 08:36 AM |
| 74 | I took it all.Only a man would be like, I have decided all these things you bought in your home that was in your name where you paid rent are now mine after midnight by individual decree! Is his name Christopher Columbus? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 07:40 AM |
| 13 | This man has the audacity to just walk into a woman’s house uninvited! But she fought back!Oh this is triggering to watch. I would have fawned so hard | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 01:17 AM |
| 24 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inI found this radical place where women don’t think it’s ok to rape them lololol so hilarious | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 06:43 PM |
| 302 | Cut my date short at the first sign of disrespectShe was so intimidated by my overwhelming charm, intelligence, and capacity that it broke the internet connection and she drowned in the Adriatic Sea. I have that affect on women. It's an unfortunate consequence of being so disarmingly handsome and a genius. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 01:19 PM |
| 388 | Cut my date short at the first sign of disrespectMoney is on he never figures it out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 12:33 PM |
| 66 | Cut my date short at the first sign of disrespectLost years like this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 12:32 PM |
| 8 | Why being single is preferable over dating for many women- especially when unlearning pickme behaviours.Yes! I hate this gaslighting of “it’s the 21st century, you don’t need a man!” Its bullshit. I’m socially ostracized from my friends who have families. And even from new people I meet. I’m glad other people live in some rosy land of free single women, but that is not my experience. And I won’t have the vacations my married friends do. I only have the house because of inheritance. Every single conversation people look down on me because I haven’t “landed” a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 08:40 PM |
| 16 | Why being single is preferable over dating for many women- especially when unlearning pickme behaviours.We still face relative poverty and social isolation though. As the perpetually single woman I am seen as not worthy of trust and I will never pull in the money a mediocre man can make. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 12:11 PM |
| 12 | Why being single is preferable over dating for many women- especially when unlearning pickme behaviours.I also don’t want to do the high class version where you date someone for eleventy million years while they slowly pick you apart and decide whether “they want to spend their life” with you. Bitch, this is our life. You are just making it miserable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 12:09 PM |
| 125 | Women's lives need to stop revolving around men“Your picker is broken!” “Why do you keep in attracting this into your life” “it’s not like he’s a real boyfriend “ “You are the one that dictates how you should be treated.” “Expectation breeds disappointment.” Just constant psychological gaslighting about how it’s all our fault. I seriously don’t have the energy at this point to do whatever I am supposed to do apparently to be treated with basic human decency. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 10:33 AM |
| 76 | The BarAs demonstrated by the guy I was chatting with on OLD who told me I was "mistaken" because I responded to an app generated prompt. Then he told me I was making random accusations when I laughed that this was the "interesting conversation" described in his profile and that I lived too far away anyway. LOL Why are you even here? I do not get it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 03:53 PM |
| 41 | “Traditional” relationshipsThat’s great to add it up that way: (rough estimated value) - cleaner 3x week - $35,000 - chauffeur - $45,000 - gardener - $15,000 - full time nanny - $50,000 - social secretary $20,000 Estimated value $165,000 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 03:21 PM |
| 22 | A little louder for the ladies in the back.I would honestly like to have a more open conversation about why we repeatedly choose LVM. What are we honestly gaining? And it has to something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 11:31 PM |
| 1 | Things your rapist can use against you in courtI work in copyright and the dissemination of media. Someone absolutely can share a picture they took of you. There is no copyright claim you can make, unless they are using it to sell a product in which case they need a signed release (nothing to do with copyright). In terms of the artist, I’m sure he probably thought it was cool that his images were being viewed millions of times on thousands of pages. If there is no money changing hands there is very little you can do to control your image onc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 10:53 PM |
| 12 | So trueAlso because no one validates us and we just have to get things done and survive. It’s not because IDGAF for sure. Would I prefer to have money and validation? Probably. Will I live my life anyway? I have to | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 09:02 AM |
| 1 | Things your rapist can use against you in courtNope. It’s not legal but it’s out there. The artist had my release, so he would have had to ask for the pictures to be taken down. I mentioned it as an example of how quickly things spread. And how little control we can have. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 08:52 AM |
| 89 | I wonder what that means about the rest of them...I find the distinction so gross. Our beauty standards are the features of 10 year old girls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 11:30 AM |
| 2 | Things your rapist can use against you in courtThank you for clarifying. Yes. They would only need your permission to share a photo of you if they “publish” it. I don’t know what the courts would count as “published “ Edit: just adding because someone would not need permission to share a picture of you that they took with a friend and then there are thousands of sites publishing without permission. I did an art shoot with an artist. Unbeknownst to them the photo was posted to thousands of “tasteful “ porn site. It was seen by millions of peo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 09:17 AM |
| 6 | Things your rapist can use against you in courtIt’s only copyright infringement if they make money off of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 01:13 AM |
| 42 | Men can be a gamer OR he can have a girlfriend. Not both.One of The founders of Napster became addicted to WOW. Never made any companies or anything after that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 04:46 PM |
| 1 | She is right, society pushes us to give “nice guys” a chance even if we are not attracted to themWhat if the guy we actually are attracted to his lvm- asking for a friend | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 09:21 PM |
| 42 | You know fds is working when other platforms are noticing (and hating ofc) us.The whole patriarchy game from the plow onward has always been about keeping money and resources away from women since they were the original planters | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 12:25 PM |
| 1 | Literally every guy I meet that I’m nice too thinks this. It’s why they hate women who are snarky. Unkind women are the worst thing on the planet according to them.Or marry them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 11:47 PM |
| 23 | 3 lessons I learned from my dad's two mail-order brides.Ding ding ding. It’s white supremacist colonialism | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 10:37 AM |
| 7 | 3 lessons I learned from my dad's two mail-order brides.I think it’s the opposite actually. We are trained to accept unacceptable situations. Any normal, healthy human being looks out for their own interests. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 10:06 AM |
| 29 | 3 lessons I learned from my dad's two mail-order brides.I think a lot of times they know exactly what they are going to get and they see it as a path to residency / education. The ones caught up in the dream are the men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 09:17 AM |
| 10 | I am so glad that more and more women are realising that casual sex is a complete scam for women.Western culture sexualizes bananas and ice cream cones. I wouldn't tell women to not eat bananas to protect themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 07:07 PM |
| 21 | I am so glad that more and more women are realising that casual sex is a complete scam for women.Yes it’s so gross. And it’s not just porn, it’s American puritanical, white supremacist culture. It’s racist. I come from a culture where dancing is important. Americans are always sexualizing it. They are like, how can you let an 8 year old dance like that? Well we haven’t minimized people dancing to sexual objects instead we see them as partaking in important expressions of our culture and vibrancy so maybe don’t with your colonial sexual fantasies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 04:55 PM |
| 53 | I am so glad that more and more women are realising that casual sex is a complete scam for women.So true. Sex with a partner you know and care about is thousands of times better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 01:43 PM |
| 28 | I am so glad that more and more women are realising that casual sex is a complete scam for women.The only thing I take issue with here is seeing twerking as sexual. A woman getting paid millions of dollars to dance by her self on stage is not sex and definitely can not be equated with low value casual sex. Dancing is not sex. Twerking actually has religious roots and dancing has been an important way African Americans preserved their cultural roots and identity even when their language and religions were prohibited. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 01:42 PM |
| 2 | Leveling up and relearning how to be by myselfCongratulations! There really is no limit to house decor. It’s my favorite thing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 11:12 AM |
| 76 | Woman is violently assaulted/raped by a Dom. The comments tell her she should have spoken up and stopped it. FDS gets a ton of heat for opposing BDSM, but it’s a world that is an a misogynist and abuser’s playground.This is so horrifying. I couldn't read the whole comment, but the fact that the second commenter mentioned rape when she never even used that word is so telling. They all know it is rape. My heart goes out to her. And he is such a crazy pathetic loser to get off on that shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 12:53 PM |
| 11 | Woman is violently assaulted/raped by a Dom. The comments tell her she should have spoken up and stopped it. FDS gets a ton of heat for opposing BDSM, but it’s a world that is an a misogynist and abuser’s playground.I think it is a southern American thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 12:51 PM |
| 7 | OLD is truly a dumpster fireDon’t sign up for the Leaugue. It is a waste of money. I’m convinced it’s for escorts or something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 12:41 PM |
| 19 | I’m tired of porn affecting my relationships, and I broke up with my boyfriend last night. How can I obtain a porn-free man if it’s so normalized, I’m 23 years old.You’re just as attractive with your normal human proportions as an animatronic doll, sweetie. Edit: s/ in case it’s not obvious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 06:19 PM |
| 9 | Even men recognize when another man is playing a woman.They are the first to recognize it. And they are filled with contempt for women who can’t see or ignore their attempts to humiliate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 11:45 PM |
| 5 | Forgive yourself if you can't follow FDS principles perfectly. It's okay to slip up as long as you recognize your mistakes and you vow to do better next time.As long as you have some escape plan, I think it works. Some money saved, a house in your name, a good prenup that includes alimony and a settlement and child support, money for a lawyer, or a plan to get to work when your child turns 4. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 10:27 AM |
| 2 | Oversharing as a false way to make yourself think you have a connection with a dateme too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 11:56 AM |
| 28 | Just realized something about why men hate usLOLOLOLOL He hated himself for loving for no reason... I started to try to break this down and then realized it is not even worth that much time and effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 11:13 AM |
| 23 | I haven't had a single healthy/ beneficial male relationship in my life...everSame girl. I have benefited from men but it has come always at a weird price. I have never had a boyfriend who was fundamentally kind or generous with me. It’s fucked and I’m sorry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 10:49 AM |
| 1 | FDS has been saying it all along and women are catching up. Men do not love women like women love men and that's why we need to start demanding more and holding back the energies we give out for freeIt’s pathetic that sex has devolved into mutual humiliation rather than mutual pleasure | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 10:15 AM |
| 44 | Erection does not equal affection, ladies. Someone can desire you who doesn't truly value you. Wait for the one who will truly treasure you, body AND soul.We were taught that physical affection equaled romantic interest. In every single tv and movie, the couple finally kisses and then their romantic journey begin. In the kiss they have already communicated commitment, love, and respect. It has never ever worked out like that for me. And I actually don’t know even what the beginning of a good relationship looks like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 08:55 AM |
| 6 | Don't take the bait if a scrote from your past contacts you. They are only contacting you for nefarious and selfish reasons.It's shocking. And this dude was woke, makes a whole career talking about the "African matriarchy". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 10:40 PM |
| 239 | FDS has been saying it all along and women are catching up. Men do not love women like women love men and that's why we need to start demanding more and holding back the energies we give out for freeA lot of the time I don’t even think they are sexually attracted to women either. They are stimulated more by male approval for their conquests than the actual intimacy with a woman. They have sex thinking about how they will tell the guys how he “banged her” and that recounting is what is actually stimulating to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 10:13 PM |
| 123 | The 'evolution' of a LVM in a relationshipI didn't realize they stuck around Edit: Thank you to the FDS goddesses for taking me out of pickmeisha jail. It was a rough time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 03:04 PM |
| 18 | LV lurker gets triggered by a comment I made here, lets me live in his head rent free 😂It’s an incredibly nuanced academic text that links the kings of yore to the pocket pussies of present day. My womanly brain can’t quite piece it together, but it’s obvious the exigency of the historical analysis addresses fundamental processes that are important to understand. Lololol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 02:27 PM |
| 11 | LV lurker gets triggered by a comment I made here, lets me live in his head rent free 😂Im like, I am pretty sure I still know how to read.... lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 12:55 PM |
| 41 | LV lurker gets triggered by a comment I made here, lets me live in his head rent free 😂I don’t understand any of the words in logic form | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 11:59 AM |
| 41 | Don't take the bait if a scrote from your past contacts you. They are only contacting you for nefarious and selfish reasons.Dude! A guy just sent me a picture of his two month old, meaning when he was calling me 6 months ago he was expecting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 10:38 AM |
| 17 | LVM are crapping themselves todayThat is so fucked up. I can’t imagine how angry I would be . I’m so sorry | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 08:56 AM |
| 12 | Do not discuss your finances/nest egg with men you are dating!Your reaction was completely normal | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 09:13 AM |
| 17 | LVM are not a prize, they are the pipeline to women's poverty. Financial, social, physical, mental, spiritual and generational poverty.100% not worth the risk. It’s better to spend that time getting a degree or job experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 06:57 PM |
| 33 | LVM are not a prize, they are the pipeline to women's poverty. Financial, social, physical, mental, spiritual and generational poverty.An LVM doesn't invest in their partners businesses and investments and might even sue the woman if they think money might have been going to an unauthorized destination. I have been asked out by billionaires who wouldn't give me $100 to buy ice cream on the corner. Good luck to those women who can swing it, but I think it is a huge risk. I have met several women who were hot and wintering in St Barth's with their LVM in their 20s, only to be left with out a penny and no track record for a job or… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 05:09 PM |
| 74 | LVM are not a prize, they are the pipeline to women's poverty. Financial, social, physical, mental, spiritual and generational poverty.Yes! Absolutely! And I think an addendum to this is that this is the case even if he himself is rich. I have seen so many beautiful, smart women fall for the trap of the rich LVM and be left penniless and without an education at the end. The rich LVM sometimes demands even more attention, time, and resources than the broke LVM because you don't even have the chance to keep a job or get an education because "you don't need one" and you will be too busy flying around the world to suck his dick on … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 04:18 PM |
| 12 | Just because you were “easy” before, doesn’t mean you have to stay that way forever. It might be hard, but start drawing boundaries and require that people follow them. It’s not selfish, and it’s not bitchy.She wouldn’t let me rape her. What a bitch! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 01:03 PM |
| 12 | Just because you were “easy” before, doesn’t mean you have to stay that way forever. It might be hard, but start drawing boundaries and require that people follow them. It’s not selfish, and it’s not bitchy.Consent is not a policy decision that has to be written out before hand. Consent is not a bureaucratic process. Consent can be freely given and retracted based on nothing but your mood, feeling, disposition, or whatever else comes solely from the deepest inner workings of a person. It is so rapey for men to even think this way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 12:56 PM |
| 29 | There's an all-women African village. They wanted to escape abusive husbands, old pedophiles, genital mutilation, and so on. Now, many living there don't even want a husband at all anymore, and work together in their village. It's a facscinating short documentary well worth the watch.I toured one in Belgium, where there were little cute townhouses arranged around gardens. Literal heaven. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 11:08 PM |
| 35 | There's an all-women African village. They wanted to escape abusive husbands, old pedophiles, genital mutilation, and so on. Now, many living there don't even want a husband at all anymore, and work together in their village. It's a facscinating short documentary well worth the watch.In the Middle Ages, there were villages only for women called Beguinages. I want to go to there! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 09:53 PM |
| 40 | "Men don't care about your career, all we want is a woman who is young, reasonably attractive, and with a tolerable personality"They theoretically want an “interesting “ woman who is ambitious but not anything that goes a long with it. Tired from long days? Stressed from a proposal? Unavailable because you are pulling all nighters? You become unbecoming. There is like a tier of acceptable passion and drive. Dental assistant not dentist. Nurse not doctor. Casting exec not director. Etc etc | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 04:28 PM |
| 30 | "Men don't care about your career, all we want is a woman who is young, reasonably attractive, and with a tolerable personality"I’m 42 and I got played last year. Like, when does it ever, ever end???! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 04:20 PM |
| 72 | Dear male lurkers: FDS is coming for your girlfriends.I think an addendum to this could be, it’s really not that hard to be a decent human being and partner. Women manage to do it all the time. We care about your feelings and your well-being. We think of ways to make you happy and lighten your burden in life. And we do it without cheating on you or ritually humiliating you. All we ask is that you grow up and dedicate yourself to being a full, responsible adult who cares about other people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 09:03 PM |
| 1 | This is the only way a walking date would work.For you it might be buying a car or moving or looking for a house, things a partner can support you with and make more fun maybe? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 07:42 PM |
| 1 | This is the only way a walking date would work.I’m sorry if I misused FDS terminology. I wasn’t aware and I will reread the handbook. From a lay perspective they could be seen as the same thing maybe. I’m still confused as to why it’s so contentious but I see it’s something people feel strongly about! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 05:21 PM |
| 92 | LVM/NVM just want a mommy with benefitsLiterally just watched a woman get food and serve her two grown sons and husband before sitting down to eat herself. And she was anxious eating as if she was waiting for someone to ask for something. It’s hard out there for these slaves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 01:36 PM |
| 2 | This is the only way a walking date would work.It’s bare minimum to me to care about my family and want to have positive involvement in my life. Are people seriously like it would be ok for a boyfriend/partner to be like sorry you have to take of your life but if something doesn’t revolve around me I won’t participate but basically respect that you have something else to do maybe because you know I might be cheating. Sure! The ice cream is nice, but otherwise yes, it’s the bare minimum that someone want to lessen my burden in life and intera… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 01:29 PM |
| 5 | This is the only way a walking date would work.Yeah, personally, if someone didn’t care about the people closest to me and being a part of making their lives fun and good, I would find no reason to be in a relationship with that person and feel like they didn’t fit into my life. Americans are so individualist though. And yeah it’s crazy that the sub downvoted so much for these standards that work for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 10:05 AM |
| 5 | This is the only way a walking date would work.I don’t know. My bare minimum includes my partner caring about my family and wanting to share in the experiences and burdens of life with me. Someone just “understanding” what I’m doing and not getting upset because I can’t pay attention to them exclusively will never be an actual partnership in my eyes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 08:58 AM |
| -45 | This is the only way a walking date would work.Bare minimum | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 08:32 PM |
| 2 | How my best friend's bf took her away from meI don’t think you can teach someone consequences and I don’t think it is OP’s responsibility. You can only enjoy or not enjoy having someone in your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 01:35 PM |
| 6 | How my best friend's bf took her away from meThere is a saying that goes, man’s rejection is God’s protection. It’s true. There are also certain times in our lives when we part ways with people we love because our life circumstances and life choices change and we know longer walk side by side | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 01:19 PM |
| 5 | Don't let them trick you, BDSM was never empowering.That’s how I feel. Though the fucked up thinking is the norm and the fun/respectful lovers are the outliers. It’s so sad. Like, if you are licking my pussy, you are heightened in my mind. I will have more respect for you! It’s so sad that they have managed to make something so good be so bad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 12:47 AM |
| 29 | Don't let them trick you, BDSM was never empowering.In an ideal world, I would love to give and receive oral sex with respectful lovers that care about my wellbeing. In this world, I don't even really want to talk to "men" lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 05:12 PM |
| 34 | Don't let them trick you, BDSM was never empowering.This is part and parcel of toxic masculinity. I had a boyfriend who wanted to marry me and “respected me too much” to let me give him a blow job. Da fuck? I enjoy pleasuring my partner. That’s the point of sex for me. The fact that he would “let” other women give him blow jobs before who he “didn’t respect” was so bizarre and, I realize, so typical. It’s all just so gross. And I know I’ll probably be called a pickmeisha again for saying I like to give blow jobs lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 03:18 PM |
| 4 | Ladies make sure you are stable before you go into the unstable dating world.The irony | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 09:57 AM |
| 67 | Almost burnt outShe so obviously is and I think what OP was trying to do was intervene in her own special way, letting the kid know that her feelings actually do matter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 03:28 PM |
| 21 | I’m so sick of men interrupting me while I am running to give me advice or try to chat me up - I am WORKING OUT. I do not WANT your attention.Did anyone else see the video of the bear getting very close to the girl on a trail. Everyone was comparing it to a girl in a club. They know what our fear looks like and they get off on it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 11:19 AM |
| 24 | I’m so sick of men interrupting me while I am running to give me advice or try to chat me up - I am WORKING OUT. I do not WANT your attention.Back when I was young prey, I found the best way to react was to be super super friendly. They get off on the fear, so the minute you break into a big smile and say something like “well that’s great HOW are YOU doing?” They immediately back off. That was my strategy. It doesn’t make it less bothersome but at least it shifts the power dynamic a little. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 11:18 AM |
| 3 | Here is what my hijab (headscarf) taught me about male entitlement, the male gaze, and the conditionality of men's treatment of womenI love that we get to read the unstructured thoughts of an academic. Thank you for sharing. Yes to all of it. “Have you also ever found yourself offending your male colleagues simply because you are assertive and self-assured and can stand your ground?” Yes. What seems to irk the men in my life has gotten more and more minute. I am so tired of being judged for not displaying appropriately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 01:56 PM |
| 38 | She's strong on her boundaries, but asking reddit for advice is asking for pornsick losers to chastise her for having themAnd how long they will keep up the con | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 10:20 AM |
| 2 | Pacific Northwest LVM starter packDresses like a four year old. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 09:21 PM |
| 60 | LVM coerces woman into sex while sick and then calls her a disgusting pig when she voms on him. Because she was SICK.And this is how married women meet early deaths | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:54 PM |
| 99 | LVM coerces woman into sex while sick and then calls her a disgusting pig when she voms on him. Because she was SICK.And now he resents her for being a pushover. It is never ending. There are so many bad relationships | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:48 PM |
| 7 | Talking of low bars, you might want to look in the mirror sisYep yep yep | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:44 PM |
| 9 | My ex telling me I "have" to talk to him. I only reply if its about our son.Long tradition of women having lives = satanic. They can’t even articulate why it bothers them. It is just of the devil!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 05:52 PM |
| 29 | Being angry at men is not "counterproductive." It is an essential component of your level-up journey. Properly recognizing abuse and having an appropriate emotional reaction to abuse is essential to the healing process.Even the very best husbands and fathers that I know have lied to and manipulated women, at some point, to get sex. They just don’t think of “most girls” as human. We truly have lived during one of the darkest ages and times in the history of women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 09:57 PM |
| 815 | I found a child porn sub and reported to the FBIIt is so traumatic to find that stuff. I am sorry | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 02:11 PM |
| 21 | I literally don’t even have wordsI’m stressed out that she doesn’t have her shoes on | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 10:00 AM |
| 54 | How did watching porn become normalized when this behavior would be absurd if acted out in real life?This is such a good point that we forget. Porn became a huge industry | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 12:59 PM |
| 26 | Speaking of bare minimum! If you have to ask to then proceed to do it yourself, he is a LVM. I learned this in my last relationship. NEVER AGAIN!Every man that has ever washed a dish leaving the sink in a disgusting state... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 05:27 PM |
| 61 | Of all the Horrible Things I’ve seen from Men on Reddit, r/DeadEyes is the one that broke meI feel like the arousal from dominance and abuse is getting so much worse and leading to ED in some men ( because I think it doesn’t actually work for them half the time, it’s just hammered in that that is how it has to be). When I was 19, I spent days lovingly experimenting with my boyfriend at the time with all different ways to please each other. Years later, I am pretty sure a boyfriend broke up with me because he was not able to dominate me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 09:22 AM |
| 1 | Men are getting lazier and lazier when it comes to dating (found on tumblr)I hear you. In the midst of dealing with the deaths of two close family members and two close friends, this is not a bullet I am willing to take right now. The last time I let someone know (my boyfriend’s best friend’s girlfriend) the woman got mad at me and felt too ashamed to be my friend (they stayed together). It sucked. I think this woman may know too. I am all for protecting people but at a certain point these are grown ass people who can make their own choices as to how to spend their tim… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 11:48 AM |
| 24 | What we’re not going to do is...I love the specificity | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 11:36 AM |
| 28 | Men are getting lazier and lazier when it comes to dating (found on tumblr)Watching an old family friend (male) get into a pandemic relationship where they basically live together now. He moved in with her. He’s ambivalent about her. She thinks she has found the one. He’s fucking his ex girlfriend on the side. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 12:11 PM |
| 26 | It's almost as liberal feminism actually benefits men and that's why they like it so muchI feel like this is my problem with most guys. How am supposed to know if I even like you if I don’t know you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 12:38 PM |
| 14 | It's almost as liberal feminism actually benefits men and that's why they like it so muchSo well articulated. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 12:31 PM |
| 17 | Don't bother "communicating", actually. Just go.Wow! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 10:11 PM |
| 2 | FKA Twigs has formally sued Shia LeBouf in a suit depicting details of domestic abuse she endured at his hand and he came has come forth to say "some allegations are false" to save face instead of taking full responsibility for his degenerate behaviour.And was featured on SNL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 04:31 PM |
| 11 | Reminder that it's ok to not be ok. Feelings your feelings/Missing someone is not wrong and is totally valid. Just be sure that you're not letting yourself fall into toxic situations again, because you're in a bad place temporarily. If you need support, we got you!Sometimes someone is not an asshole. Sometimes someone is deeply important to us and gets subsumed in terrible ways by a very troubled world. I’m so sorry you are going through a break up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 08:27 AM |
| 16 | Reminder that it's ok to not be ok. Feelings your feelings/Missing someone is not wrong and is totally valid. Just be sure that you're not letting yourself fall into toxic situations again, because you're in a bad place temporarily. If you need support, we got you!There is so much psychology that has weird evolutionary theory basis that starts with “it would have made sense to have this feeling when we were hunter gatherers but now you are just an idiot” and as women also we are taught that every single feeling is an over reaction. In the first case, there are plenty of dangers and things to be afraid of in modern life. And, all of our feelings are valid because we feel them. They are justified because we are feeling them. It’s not more complicated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 08:25 AM |
| 4 | FKA Twigs has formally sued Shia LeBouf in a suit depicting details of domestic abuse she endured at his hand and he came has come forth to say "some allegations are false" to save face instead of taking full responsibility for his degenerate behaviour.Yep she was 24 with a powerful man chasing her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 11:53 PM |
| 15 | FKA Twigs has formally sued Shia LeBouf in a suit depicting details of domestic abuse she endured at his hand and he came has come forth to say "some allegations are false" to save face instead of taking full responsibility for his degenerate behaviour.Heard was also very young when she got together with a millionaire actor. There is just no comparison in their power dynamic. And Depp continues to try to ruin her life. It’s insane. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 02:03 PM |
| 12 | FKA Twigs has formally sued Shia LeBouf in a suit depicting details of domestic abuse she endured at his hand and he came has come forth to say "some allegations are false" to save face instead of taking full responsibility for his degenerate behaviour.No one believed her. And Jim Carrey’s still a hero | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 02:01 PM |
| 5 | FKA Twigs has formally sued Shia LeBouf in a suit depicting details of domestic abuse she endured at his hand and he came has come forth to say "some allegations are false" to save face instead of taking full responsibility for his degenerate behaviour.And what they hate most of all is being outed for being so pathetic. They think they have the right to take out their shit on people rather than deal with it like grown ups. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 01:57 PM |
| 5 | Straight men shouldn't be OBGYNs- what are your thoughts?And definitely not at a college or university. I was “crazy” and wouldn’t let a woman nurse leave my side during an exam with my college’s male gyno. Years later, I read that he molested dozens of people over many years. This has happened at more than one college too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 08:14 AM |
| 8 | Thoughts?True! Thanks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 06:23 PM |
| 154 | Thoughts?Don’t waste another moment of your time gently coddling someone’s feelings who was not even considering yours. Edit: a word | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 12:08 PM |
| 165 | why we don't do hookups.. straight from the horse's mouthThis! They love the power and want to make sure we are in love with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 02:34 PM |
| 17 | Dating is supposed to be funMy thought of the day while I was getting a massage: we shouldn’t have to do cost benefit analyses of our relationships. Relationships should feel good and bring us company and support. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 06:18 PM |
| 2 | How You End Up A Forever GF, Or A Reluctant FWB...STRAIGHT From The ANIMALS Mouth...The second best all around student at a school after the valedictorian. They usually deliver a speech at graduation and normally should at least know how to spell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 10:19 PM |
| 4 | How You End Up A Forever GF, Or A Reluctant FWB...STRAIGHT From The ANIMALS Mouth...Same! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 09:11 AM |
| 7 | How You End Up A Forever GF, Or A Reluctant FWB...STRAIGHT From The ANIMALS Mouth...He was salutatorian | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 09:05 AM |
| 6 | Why are mothers such Pickmes for their sons?FYI I find those groups to be super toxic after a while. They are interesting to learn from though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 11:16 AM |
| 21 | 💅There is no way I would put my kids in danger to prove a point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 01:51 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020I'm so annoyed that Johnny Depp is still intent on ruining Amber Heard's life after he lost his suit and got fired from Fantastic Beasts. He will literally follow her to the ends of the earth to torture her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 03:39 AM |
| 20 | Reminder that men are men and gay men can be misogynists too.Why? Cause it’s not a rainbow bright caricature of gayness? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 11:45 AM |
| 5 | WHYYYY Are There So Many Female led Podcasts All About the Guys They Fuck? Can Women’s Entertainment Do Better please???Not by Accident is the journey of a woman having a baby solo. And Strangers is filled with cool stories. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 12:42 PM |
| 1 | WHYYYY Are There So Many Female led Podcasts All About the Guys They Fuck? Can Women’s Entertainment Do Better please???Call Your Girlfriend is so good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 12:40 PM |
| 39 | 👻 Spooky Truths 👻In any way putting your plans on hold to be with them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 09:32 PM |
| 8 | LVM behaviours displayed on 1st dateTelling someone they are a pickme is not a compliment in this context. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 03:03 PM |
| 5 | LVM behaviours displayed on 1st dateShe wasn’t saying those qualities would make a man a good partner. She is saying she is looking for someone with those qualities. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 03:02 PM |
| 4 | LVM behaviours displayed on 1st dateI related so much to wanting to find someone as worldly and intelligent as myself and not finding it often | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 02:46 PM |
| 9 | LVM behaviours displayed on 1st dateWhy wouldn’t you look at someone’s qualities and see if that is what you want in a life partner? This is confusing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 02:45 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020Wow! Congratulations on law school | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 01:19 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020Maybe you can explain to us why women should not be executives | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 01:15 PM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020He is sexually harassing you. The behavior is illegal. We all have dealt with it. It is a nightmare. There is no good way to deal with it because society is fucked. Do whatever you need to do to do your job. Screen shot the texts. And show them to your manager. Ask your manager to schedule you at different times than him at the very least. If you have to look for another job, so be it. It is not worth the trauma. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 01:13 PM |
| 9 | Just a reminder please vote! Women are the majority in this country and our vote doesn’t only matter for president but also in the house and senate.Vote in person or drop off your ballot at a guarded ballot box. It is too late to mail in. If you are in line when polls close, stay in line. This administration is carrying out medically unnecessary hysterectomies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 07:11 AM |
| 8 | Warning from a woman in the military.I am so sorry. I was just sexually harassed by a temporary subordinate and it was a complete nightmare. I can only imagine | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 07:06 AM |
| 29 | Reminder: Never EVER build a man up. He will throw it all back in your faceThey tried looking for lawyers and all of them asked for some sort of retainer fee. With 4 kids and minimal child support, she doesn’t even have an extra couple of thousand for that. He makes good money. She married him when he was illegal immigrant and put him through school. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 03:28 PM |
| 38 | Reminder: Never EVER build a man up. He will throw it all back in your faceI have a friend in a similar situation. She can’t afford a lawyer | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 11:10 AM |
| 22 | Beware: After years of a committed relationship, a SCROTE will decide that you were just FWB the entire time. He will play dumb and try to gaslight you. Do not believe his lies girl.A dog is obviously a horse unless it comes with a pedigree | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 02:03 PM |
| 2 | I don't know who first posted about this queen, but thank you a thousand times over. Her posts are 🔥This stuff is too confusing to me. It feels like we come up with more and more convoluted ways to tell women they are wrong and they have to change. It’s so obfuscating of what is really happening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 11:33 AM |
| 17 | Don’t give away your honey to just anyone: A literal and metaphorical lesson.I love crystallized honey | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 11:21 AM |
| 47 | Beware: After years of a committed relationship, a SCROTE will decide that you were just FWB the entire time. He will play dumb and try to gaslight you. Do not believe his lies girl.They think they can get off on a syntactical technicality. It’s like they don’t think words describe things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 10:20 AM |
| 26 | Beware: After years of a committed relationship, a SCROTE will decide that you were just FWB the entire time. He will play dumb and try to gaslight you. Do not believe his lies girl.The only difference between what he described and an actual relationship is that in one case he might have actual respect for another human being. No one can “consent” them into having values. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 10:18 AM |
| 18 | Beware: After years of a committed relationship, a SCROTE will decide that you were just FWB the entire time. He will play dumb and try to gaslight you. Do not believe his lies girl.I just don’t want to spend that much time with people who don’t care about me. It’s horrifying | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 10:15 AM |
| 37 | We need to stop with the myth that dating is sooo hard for all men and that men will treasure you because your attention is rare. 🗣 THEY’RE PLAYING ALL OF US AND THIS IS HOW!Yes! My last very serious boyfriend also had to leave to live out his colonialist fantasies once I had built up his self esteem *sigh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 08:57 PM |
| 8 | Ariana Grande’s New Song “positions” 😬A man probably wrote and produced the song | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 06:31 AM |
| 26 | This. I felt this was since i was 13 and got exposed to hardcore porn. People told me that i will change my mind when i grow up. But now i'm 21 and still feel this way, even worse now after my encounters with men and all the misogynyI had a boyfriend who didn’t want me to give him blow jobs because “that was for whores.” It just seemed to reflect some weird perceptions of sex and gender. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 07:36 PM |
| 1 | Are you tired of being alone? Are you feeling lonely or incomplete? You don't need a boyfriend. You need friends for human connection and you need to be happy on your own without a man.It really is so hard. My mother spent her life building a community in the US that really has not been there for me, at the end. People just think it is normal to be individualistic. It is one of the reasons why I have chosen to move back to my parents home country even though I didn't grow up there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 03:13 PM |
| 3 | Are you tired of being alone? Are you feeling lonely or incomplete? You don't need a boyfriend. You need friends for human connection and you need to be happy on your own without a man.I think some people are wired to be more social than others. And there are all types of studies talking about how loneliness is so bad for one's health, so I don't think it is the case that being single is not hard for a lot of people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 03:12 PM |
| 9 | I paused dating this year because of how many creeps I encountered, this morning I found out staying home and not engaging with men doesn't keep me safe either.A big dog can also do wonders. I have a 120 pound Rhodesian ridgeback and a 100 pound dog. People do not fuck with me on the street and a guy who had been threatening me immediately backed off after my dog came to live with me. Also, they would definitely protect me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 10:30 PM |
| 9 | I paused dating this year because of how many creeps I encountered, this morning I found out staying home and not engaging with men doesn't keep me safe either.It doesn't pay to be rude to them either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 10:27 PM |
| 2 | Never forget 👑Ok Please humor my questioning as newbie though: How people see us defines our value to them. If we are low value to be people around us then doesn't that make us low value? How is value defined in the FDS universe? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 03:49 PM |
| 43 | HVM actionsThank you for your answer. It is one of the only communities I have found where I have seen honest discussions of women’s lived experiences without being condescending | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 04:24 PM |
| 42 | HVM actionsI’m wondering what brought you to FDS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 02:44 PM |
| 21 | I.... I can’tExcept if they are arrested doing civil disobedience | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 10:03 AM |
| 11 | Are you tired of being alone? Are you feeling lonely or incomplete? You don't need a boyfriend. You need friends for human connection and you need to be happy on your own without a man.There is a level where I feel gaslit and shamed by this though. I’ve travelled the world by myself; gone to the theater, restaurants, grad school. I’ve had big jobs and own property. My parents just died and being single is hard. Making important life decisions alone is hard. Not having family is hard. You can only depend on your friends for so much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 10:03 AM |
| 7 | “There’s nothing wrong with being alone.” - Daniel Sloss - JigsawAs someone who has been mostly alone, it’s really fucking hard | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 10:48 AM |
| 2 | My boyfriend destroyed my 7 year old Bonsai treeThis is so insightful. He probably wanted to break up with her and wanted to make it her “fault”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 11:51 PM |
| 42 | My boyfriend destroyed my 7 year old Bonsai treeOne time, I thought, what if ALL our feelings are valid? It was so liberating | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 11:33 PM |
| 18 | This kind of shit is propaganda to make women feel like promiscuity is empowering. The truth is that being selective and waiting a long time with my sexual partners is the most empowered I’ve ever felt sexually.Don’t worry. Women are shamed for being “sluts” and having sex too. It’s a no win situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 11:19 AM |
| 8 | This kind of shit is propaganda to make women feel like promiscuity is empowering. The truth is that being selective and waiting a long time with my sexual partners is the most empowered I’ve ever felt sexually.I think they are told it all the time and it’s part of toxic masculinity and part of the problem. They are told that to prove themselves they have to brag about endless sexual conquests. They have to regard sex as meaningless. They have to dominate women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 11:17 AM |
| 3 | Don’t marry just for loveAlso, they seem to have unrealistic standards romantically. She should like my favorite candy, be a fan of my sports team, and know all the trivia for my favorite band! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 12:44 AM |
| 42 | FDS is NOT about manipulating men into getting into a relationship they don’t want toThe fact they think we would benefit from being in partnership with someone who doesn’t want to be a partner shows us how low we really are on the totem pole to them. They sincerely think we benefit from association with a man no matter how fucked that man is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 01:52 PM |
| 8 | I felt my brain cells vanish after reading thisShe is also incredibly erudite in her influences. She has a very specific artistic and musical education that most people who go to school would not have. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 09:33 AM |
| 3 | I'm tired of men gaslighting me over my caloric intake.Why are they so obsessed with what we are eating? My roommate (guy) doesn’t like his girlfriend because she doesn’t eat a lot. How else is she supposed to maintain her super thin girlish figure? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 10:32 AM |
| 25 | Twitter been killing me with these memes 💀It will be a co-parenting agreement between the two women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 02:00 PM |
| 34 | A whole wordRape by deception | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 04:46 PM |
| 81 | A whole wordRape by deception | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 04:45 PM |
| 42 | Why you should never date gamersImagining that poor macaw shrieking hurt my ears | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 12:02 PM |
| 43 | American murder, family next doorI mean he was not emotionally supportive in the least. I remember reading their texts (didn’t watch the doc). He was checked out. The scary thing is he was checked out on a level many of us consider normal. And we have to admit there is something very wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 12:04 AM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 29 2020You are not alone | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 12:01 AM |
| 14 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 29 2020“Thanks for the suggestion. I would prefer a female therapist.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 11:56 PM |
| 26 | This is what I’m saying next time a LVM interrupts meYes. Two of the same except one was calling out to his white supremacist followers to stand by. It’s so cool for us to have violent paramilitary groups attacking people on the streets and the president supporting them and people posting about how he and the opposition “are the same”. It’s cool. Everything is fine. /s And to the point of OP. Biden’s approach to dealing with a pathological narcissist was a good one. They respond only to blocking, NC, or ridicule. That is why FDS does not recommend… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 10:29 AM |
| 17 | So you WANT her to cry over your dumb ass...okay. Sick emotionally manipulative mfYour comment really clarifies for me how this is all connected to capitalism and white supremacy, social structures which thrive on dominance and humiliation. We are taught that capitalist /western cultures are the least misogynistic. At least in other places, women are not feminized to the point of complete incapacity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 09:54 AM |
| 12 | Do NOT let a LVM leech ruin your lifeSo you brother is pursuing solutions. That’s not what OP is talking about | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 12:15 PM |
| 1 | Reframing of the Pickme PhenomenonThank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 07:47 PM |
| 5 | Reframing of the Pickme PhenomenonI don’t think giving to someone who is not grateful or can’t receive is love. The other part of the pickme description that confuses me though is “the cool girl”. Like how do y’all have time not to be a cool girl? To dress up and text every day? Maybe I’ve been so neglected I have become the ultimate cool girl, so focused on work and other things. I never felt like I fit a heteronormative/white narrative, so it feels strange to me. This is a jumble of thoughts. If anyone has an insight lmk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 12:00 PM |
| 7 | The gaslighting this woman experienced is unreal. Let this serve as a reminder of why not to get involved with a LVM.Sauna is sometimes code for gay sex | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 09:49 PM |
| 27 | The term “gold digger” is men projecting their own scavenging ways onto womenThey got the dowries | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 09:42 PM |
| 56 | The term “gold digger” is men projecting their own scavenging ways onto womenMy cousin said he would make his girlfriend wait to get married to make sure she wasn’t a gold digger. She waited 7 years. Guess who bought their apartment and paid for their lavish wedding ? Edit: it’s pure delusion | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Ladies at some point we have to acknowledge our poor pussy management. Like I know most men are trash but if you continue messing with a LVM male people are going to have less empathy for you. It’s better to be alone than to be with trash.I mean even as a property owning independent American woman, I face a lot of flack for being single. Whether it’s job opportunities or being invited on vacations or the considerably less money I make. Some people don’t want to face all that and make the calculation to just be treated like shit as long as they can have a better life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 08:40 PM |
| 1 | Ladies at some point we have to acknowledge our poor pussy management. Like I know most men are trash but if you continue messing with a LVM male people are going to have less empathy for you. It’s better to be alone than to be with trash.Also to all the women who face social death if they leave or economic hardship for themselves and their children. Most people do not have the resources to pick up and make it on their own. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 02:37 PM |
| 4 | Every woman - friend / roommate / acquaintance I’ve ever known who‘s looked through a man’s phone(s) or device has always had their suspicions confirmed. Trust your gut and don’t let anyone shame you for doing so.My cheating ex told me to watch a movie on his computer when I wasn’t feeling well. He left his gmail open where on the first page in the first line (where you can read it without opening the email) there was an outgoing message that mentioned he had a lot of sex on a work trip I did not go on. I had to tab through his gmail to close it. And he still got mad at me for snooping. I was on a plane the next day and made him pay for it all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 06:22 PM |
| 10 | The State of the Subreddit: Flair EditionI stopped commenting because all of my comments were being deleted for lack of flair and I couldn’t find the description of how to become part of the sub in the handbook. Thanks to this post for clarification. I will start commenting again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 06:11 PM |
| 26 | Woman har her jaw dislocated during sex w/ fiance. Doesn't want to tell friends in case they think bad about him.....Im so sorry . That sounds like rape | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 09:10 AM |
| 3 | Men are the BIGGEST hypocrites🤣🙄Rape by deception | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 08:50 AM |
| 2 | When a woman in a relationship with a man finally snaps...My ex boyfriend had a pet name for me which translates to something like Little Hard Ass/Naglette/Miss Annoys Me and 3 years later I realized that is not my personality. The dude was just driving me crazy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 02:15 PM |
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