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Anytime finances are an issue and someone entertains expensive addictions, that usually means this is their life forever.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/26 04:08 PM
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I've been in a few trade shows/ conferences. If I'm manning a booth, the only time a phone comes out is if I'm coordinating something with colleagues there. If your goal is to be inviting for foot traffic, you cannot have a phone out. If I'm the foot traffic or just observing a talk, if it's low priority I might be able to text, but if anything is remotely social for networking, it's never coming out.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/26 03:55 PM
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Man here, but anecdotally from the women in my life, this checks out. Different women have different opinions on the "I don't need no man" mentality, but largely I'd say women tend to be way less independent than men, and not necessarily due to financial reasons. My wife and my mom are two opposite extremes. My wife currently makes more than I do. She's stable, makes good decisions and has a good support system. She's probably the epitome of the woman who could actually 100% be independent and n…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/26 04:15 PM
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was respecting women enough for you to get a girlfriend? was the bar truly in hell I don't know any woman who actually has this take, but; got first GF from being situational alpha and being attractive enough. Second gf, now wife, got FOMO when she learned I was dating someone else and a week after first gf and I broke up, she made a move. It's not red or blue pill, it's both. Being physically attractive gets you in the door, if you're not socialized properly, you'll still be ruled out. One or t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 10:09 PM
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If you're not hooking up then it's not as serious, but if he's even aware you're dating someone else it could still trigger a similar response. It's bad etiquette to step on the toes of someone else's relationship. That sort of thing is for movies, irl I don't know many decent guys who want to play the pick-me dance. Again, I don't know you, so don't take my prescription, but my wife was 100% in on me and 0% in on other guys. We were young, but we'd been friends for years. We both seemed off-lim…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/26 03:53 PM
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I don't his values, but if you're already entangled with someone else, I could 100% imagine that's pegging you in his mind as off limits. I know plenty of pretty girls who I got along with, but if another man is currently banging them, I'm not interested. Girls who I found attractive have offered to cheat on their boyfriends with me, which immediately killed how I thought of them. If she's into non-exclusive relationships, I'm probably never interested. Perhaps he's similar. If he's okay with no…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/26 03:24 PM
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I'm not looking to be adversarial, but you've contradicted yourself a few times which looks like a disconnect from the reality of dating. It could be naiveté from you, but it might come off as entitlement. You say you never had "hot" on your list, but list tall and muscular. Your goalposts for intellect are vague enough for people to know what you mean, but you can say it's not that much when it looks like your asking for a lot. The end effect looks like you want a lot, but simultaneously don't …
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/26 02:55 AM
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If you're just looking for what to look for, you should be the only judge of that. The original list you of standards you submitted is long and will exclude 9999/10000 men. Pick what's important to you, trim the rest. By definition, you're going to be closer to the average girl than the top .01%. I'm not saying settle for trash, but use your experience to pick the most important characteristics of a guy at your level. If he needs to be hot, great, but then he might not be loyal. If he needs to b…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/26 09:02 PM
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I don't know how many men you interact with, so I don't want to make assumptions, but you might have a bit of an inflated self-view, assuming your social circle is more than a couple people. Like tends to attract like. Your social circle is mostly likely full of people at around your socio-economic class, intelligence level, and share similar morals. If you're doing it right, you should be able to find people like you out of your social circle. If you can't attract those types as acquaintances, …
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/26 08:37 PM
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Every woman wants this. What sets you apart from the 99% of other women? Having standards is free, but taking a list of demands to men with high optionally and the attitude of "serve me because I had a bad breakup" sounds like a losing plan.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/26 04:22 AM
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Could be my observer bias. There's been a lot of "the guy I'm seeing wants me to accept a one-way open relationship, is very aggressive, and doesn't share my values, but he's very attractive. What should I do?" type posts recently and I cannot tell why people even need to ask.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/26 05:27 PM
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Generally if you're at the point where you need to make a reddit post about someone's behavior, the situation is not normal. People need to trust their gut more, it's right 99% of the time.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/26 03:45 PM
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What advice are you looking for? The summary of what you wrote is "he's not relationship material". You described like 4 dealbreaking red flags. If you're looking for a comitted healthy relationship, look elsewhere.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/26 01:30 AM
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If your family's faith cannot survive one caregivers beliefs, it is incredibly brittle. You will encounter thousands of those who don't share your beliefs, it's well past time to learn how to work with them.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/26 01:57 PM
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I'm a guy with a quiet personality. I might be missing context, but this doesn't strike me as quiet, but rather cagey. If I like a girl and she's putting in the effort to see if we align, I'm absolutely giving her the info she needs. One word answers like "family" to important questions sounds more evasive/ dismissive than quiet.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/26 03:17 PM
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On its own, the "thing" you give/ do doesn't matter a whole lot. The thought behind it is doing the heavy lifting.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/26 08:19 PM
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Baked goods is a stellar option.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/26 08:16 PM
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Man here. To me, the gesture is a simply a "I'm thinking of you, and wanted you to have something nice". Not super high effort, but just a way to remind them they're on your mind even when not physically present. It shows they can think about what you want from your point of view, instead of getting you what he would have wanted. The reciprocal act is anything that indicates you're thinking of them while out. It's usually low-ish investment, and tailored for their wants, not yours. A BJ could ma…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/26 03:24 PM
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You've blanketed the entire group "men" in with some subset of whatever red pill beliefs you're concerned about. Ask 100 different men their view on women and relationships, you'll get 100 different answers. You're concerned with the values of a single-digit subset of men, you don't have to date and marry those men. You can pick men whose beliefs will make for a good partner.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/26 10:08 PM
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RP is a toolkit to get what you want. Plenty of men want a committed, monogamous relationship and a stable family dynamic. In most marriages, Mom and Dad and Grandma and Grandpa are still getting it on. Kind of hard to reconcile your belief with how the majority of people age in their marriages.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/26 09:52 PM
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Some men are like this, most aren't. Seek better men. If you can't find them, look elsewhere.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/26 09:35 PM
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If you're straight, odds are you're not attracted to Lady parts. If he's straight, he will be, without much effort on your part. You're not the intended audience, he is. No need to fret over details, because he's not paying attention to them.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/26 02:49 AM
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People having ex's isn't necessarily a red flag (unless there's a lot of them), but the behavior they exhibit in past relationships can be. I'd take a girl who had 3 exes that ended due to them moving away or learning the guy isn't what she needs or something vs a girl with one ex who cheated on her that she doesn't seem over. If she's mentally 100% here, doesn't have a sketchy past and is bringing her best, who cares about the guys she dated. If we're not even out of the honeymoon phase and she…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/26 04:22 PM
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It's hard to know if she is healed or just look like she is, until something happens. It's a risk. Some guys accept the risk. Some don't.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/26 01:54 AM
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You can learn many lessons from seeing that. My parents have more than a half dozen divorces between them. I saw a lesson of what not do to there, not a guide to follow.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/26 01:34 PM
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Yes, if that's her goal with him, then it's a bad call IMO. But yeah, other fish in the sea who don't have drinking problems.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/26 06:44 PM
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It does not sound like he has the level of responsibility needed to beneficially contribute to raising a child. She's already expending energy taking care of him. She won't get that back when there's another dependent.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/26 06:38 PM
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Happy to hear any feedback on this This doesn't sound like a man worth procreating with. If that's your goal, expect to do it alone.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/26 05:13 PM
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I wasn't even bringing up age, but yeah that goes without saying. There might be fewer of them now, but there's still plenty of younger people perfectly willing to have stable monogamous relationships, my wife and I were examples. Some subset of them will be sufficiently attractive. An even smaller subset of them will make good money, it's a number's game, we all know how few people out there we're willing to share a home with and want to jump their bones. It's just that she calls out wanting to…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/26 06:48 PM
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Not a woman, so feel free to delete or ignore if not relevant, but from what you wrote, you didn't really describe the guy you're seeing as a person, more of a blank check with caveats. You contrast him vs. "enjoying your youth", so I assume you don't enjoy your time with him. What's your goal of dating? If you want a comfortable stable guy who loves you, you've got one and you seem "meh" on it. FWIW, I know a handful of women (and was raised by one) who did the fun in their 20's thing and then …
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/26 06:21 PM
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I would not expect the venn diagram of people who need to pay for a date and people you'd like to go on a date with to overlap in any way.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/26 08:54 PM
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They exist, but the conditions to find it are very specific. My wife and I are early 30's, each other's first "real" relationship. Started dating her just prior to my 16th birthday. Both her parents and grandparents are high school sweethearts, and my parents have a combined 7 or 8 divorces between them. She was comfortable emulating what she saw growing up, and I was happy to do the opposite. It worked for us. To have good odds of making it, you need to build relationship experience one way or …
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/26 03:22 PM
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Form a platonic relationship first. If you start a romantic encounter with some (aka a date), don't be surprised when the theme drifts sexual. See if you can form a relationship with someone with a non-sexual foundation first. If you could see yourself dating them/ are attracted to them, see if they're open to escalating it.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/26 09:37 PM
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For better or worse, those traits alone make you stand out among many of your peers. Smart men will appreciate that.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/26 05:09 AM
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Fun and interesting makes for good friends. I believe you should be friends with your spouse, but your spouse occupies way more important roles. For example, I have a female neighbor I basically have been going on a once a month coffee date to talk shop, as she's in my profession and we can share a lot of insights with each other. We're friends who are essentially networking, and I enjoy our chats. But.., I don't want to talk shop with my wife. I used to literally work with my wife a few years b…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/26 10:38 PM
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One idea he explored was proposing while seated on a bench and having me kneel in front of him as a symbolic gesture of submission, possibly with the children present to tie it to legacy. This is bizzarre He also discussed maximizing power imbalance before marriage, maintaining dominance long term, and ensuring airtight legal protection. I support a prenup and I am not financially dependent on him. However, he also explored the idea of a contractual structure where if we had a child and I ever l…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/26 05:22 PM
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Ask ten men, get ten different answers. The common threads are usually a few points in what men are and aren't looking for. They're generally looking for the things you'd expect. Feminine companionship, someone who makes them look good, good mother to children, sex, etc. Even some of these are flexible. Number 1 of what they're not looking for is drama. Everything else is extras. I won't date a woman because she's funny, or educated, or really good at golf, or whatever. I will instead do quite a…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/26 03:54 AM
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I met my wife in 6th grade, started dating in 10th. Teenage girls don't really need to do much to attract their peers. If you have the eye, spot guys with potential to grow into what you're looking for. If you don't, you're fixated in the wrong types of guys. The types of guys who have the ability to "gain experience" are probably too busy filtering through options to commit to one at such a young age. Spread your attention around. You don't have to date anyone necessarily if no one is what you'…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/26 03:03 PM
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How is he going to help raise a family when he'll be in assisted living before the kids are moved out.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/26 09:17 PM
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It is a blessing in disguise, for him
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/26 02:16 PM
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From what you describe, he's not ready to take on the provider role happily. If you want to be a financial co-contributor 50/50, go for it. If not, he needs to change his attitude. You're 30, waiting 5 years to let the relationship degrade from where it is is a disservice to yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/26 02:28 AM
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You cannot rely on someone to provide if they're consistently weaponizing it. You can want him to be a provider all you want, but he acts like he resents it, and like you won't have a say. If you're letting him provide money, it is assumed you're providing other things, but if he only values money, then you will never be valued. You're here because your gut says this won't work, listen.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/26 01:09 AM
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Sorry, didn't see your response a couple days ago, but a couple notes; Getting married quickly: - Strongly depends on the type of guy you're dating and where you both are in life. Coming out of the gate and saying "We won't be having sex until we're married" may sound like strong, normal boundaries, because they were not that long ago, but depending on your culture that's akin to saying "You won't get what you want until I get what I want". It's sounds self-serving, even if you're a catch. Offer…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/26 06:02 PM
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Non-religious guy but I can appreciate the "restrained" attitude. I don't know many non-religious men who would be interested in such a relationship. Those who agree likely won't have options, and are undesirable. The rest won't agree either because they're not getting what they want out of the relationship for years, or they assume you're doing a bait-and-switch (except with no bait. Men will assume they're walking into a dead-bedroom and divorce fees. Can't see this playing out without religio…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/26 07:35 PM
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Yes, male sperm correlates more strongly to the health of the baby, but how many babies you will have is hard limited by the woman's age. As a dude with a 1 year old, I find the #1 most important thing is just being young and having energy is crucial. I can't imagine all the sleepless nights and extra labor happening when I'm 40.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/26 04:37 PM
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Man here. Generally for short-term; hot. For relationships; innocent/ cute.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/26 02:14 PM
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Very possible. Not everyone is terminally online, so their beliefs can form from a lack of info. Not being involved in 100% of the news is not a bad thing.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/26 02:47 AM
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You're quoted as saying his worldview is different than yours. I don't know if that extrapolates to your values or not since I don't know either of you, but given the tone and title of your post, I assume it does. I can accept that not everyone shares my values, we live in a diverse world and that's fine. She could have all the upsides in the world, but if we don't share the same fundamental beliefs, there cannot be mutual respect. Money doesn't change that. I don't know if it is the same way fo…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/26 11:06 PM
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I'm not unbiased, but I don't think you can have that deep of a relationship without sharing the values you consider most important. For me, a person with the opposite political beliefs cannot share the same values as me, and I need to share the most important values to trust and love a partner. I don't mean to accuse you of anything, but disregarding shared values because he has a lot of money is not a good optic. I always ask myself "would I want them to impart their values on my kids?". I und…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/26 09:51 PM
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Just wanted to mention you don't seem to be asking any questions here. What's the purpose of the post other than an introduction?
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/26 12:37 AM
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I know I can't talk you into broadening what you're attracted to. I'm a rule 9 and this is a woman's space, so I'll don't want to sound accusatory or anything since I don't know you or what you experience, but the men who are attracted to you are very likely your league. but men do prefer to shoot above their league in attractiveness. I am not sure where you came to this conclusion, but in my experience, this is not often true. For hookups, men go for a "shotgun" approach and approach everyone, …
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/26 12:00 AM
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Waiting some number of years to date is arbitrary. It mentally excludes you from being open to interacting with someone who'd be fine for you. The Vice President (allegedly) fucks couches, there is someone out there willing to date you, even if they're not 100% the optimal 10/10 attractive man. I'm not a believer in cosmetic surgery in general, so waiting until that deadline to even start being open to date is putting a lot of pressure on something that might not solve all your problems.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/26 11:36 PM
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I've never heard of a man making fun of a woman for her age IRL, it just means fewer men would say yes to a date/ ask her out. There's upsides and downsides to being with anyone of any demographic. Older women are just less likely to be able to successfully have multiple kids if that's your goal. Guys who can do the math and want a large family will inherently be less interested, if a similar but younger woman was interested in him.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/26 07:34 PM
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Rule 9 here. This is a personal value, which I'd suspect extends to a lot of guys, but pretty much as soon as a woman indicates "You're not what I want", the ego goes into protection mode, and feelings plummet to somewhere around zero. When the illusions in our head haven't been broken yet, it's easy to project the ideals of what we want on a woman, when our ideal doesn't like us, she's probably no longer our ideal. For me personally, the prospect of anything past that point would be over, no mo…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/26 04:26 PM
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Garnering interest isn't a problem, do what's comfortable. For being taken seriously, find a serious man looking for what you're looking for. Don't entertain jokers.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/26 03:32 AM
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Your number 1 issue will be finding these men. Be where they are and put yourself in front of them. It is unlikely anyone here is one of them, so you'll have to do your own research on that front. Second issue is that you and nearly every other girl wants or is open to that type of man, so you'll have to be better than all of your competition. Be what they want, moreso than everyone else. If you're not already that type of woman (I would assume personality and upbringing are most important), it …
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/26 04:25 PM
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Yeah, I don't hear of many HVM with backups who suddenly change their mind and commit to a casual girl in their rotation for no reason
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/25 03:42 PM
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Don't know for certain as I’ve never gone for those types. But, on the low end, it might be a woman who makes it easy. She comes over to his, they have good sex, then she leaves him alone until he calls again. On the high end, it could be stealing from target, getting drunk, having feral sex, forgetting to take her BPD meds and then slashing his tires when he looks at another woman. I don't know his type, but it's likely he has a "why settle for one when I can have both?" Mentality.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/25 03:23 PM
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Peaceful men want peaceful wives. I have never met the type of calm man who builds a stable life want a chaotic woman. Perhaps younger, in-demand guys who aren't ready to settle down. The guy you want sounds in-demand. When exciting women throw themselves at him, your competition might be more than you can offer.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/25 02:51 PM
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Seconding your mom
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/25 04:44 AM
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I'm a guy, but this advice seems less beneficial for women and better for men. It's all anecdotal, but I think I'm probably a better catch now in my late 20's/ early 30's both physically and financially than I was earlier in life. I could probably have fun if I wanted to date around now. If she was just starting to look seriously, my wife on the other hand would be a lot more frantic to secure a good dude. It was kind of a meme when I was in college that "all the good ones" are taken by the time…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/25 03:29 PM
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I've been married for half a decade and dating the same woman for 15 years. I can't speak 100% for her but here's the condensed answers. Appreciation is the biggest reminder of what you should be doing, so you should reinforce the behavior you want. If your partner is doing something you like, demonstrate your appreciation in the way they understand. Your relationship will change and your lives will look different throughout, but you should continue to demonstrate that you see their effort (assu…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/25 07:30 PM
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Manosphere content mostly appeals to the scorned man. These men aren't interacting with women beyond a revenge fantasy. The men you want will like women, and manosphere men don't like women. Age might make them slightly less appealing, but there are plenty of things within your control to make a year or two irrelevant. The only caveat you should consider is family planning with multiple kids. If you want one, you can be fairly confident you'll be able to meet your family goals nearly until your …
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/25 05:42 PM
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I get the nuance, but it still seems like you might be focusing on specific types of men. Men with confidence, looks, and options. It makes sense you're running into men with history, because these are the types of men who generate history quickly. If you choose to surround yourself with these men, do not be surprised if they start looking at you like you'd be fun for a while, and then relegate you to history shortly after. I get they're attractive, but they're attractive to everyone. You can't …
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/25 04:46 PM
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I'm sure I'm missing background but so far your description of a good guy worth approaching is physically attractive and he's worth keeping if he isn't tied up with exes. The type of men physically attractive enough to catch your eye without much other interaction probably have a lot of options. They won't be incentived to commit if they have an army of casual sex thrown at them.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/25 02:17 PM
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You cannot expect to be 100% passive and have the man you want show up in your life. You will need to pursue the man you want from the woman's role.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/25 01:10 PM
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I commented on your last post, the jist of what I was trying to get across was that you should avoid learning the wrong lessons here, and that your "past" isn't really that bad. There will be some men who are bothered by your actions, don't date them. There are going to be plenty of men who either don't care or can get over it when you bring other positives to the relationship, date one of these men. I'd focus less on what men think of you and more on what you think of yourself, since that seems…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/25 12:04 AM
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The jist of the advice is that to attract guys who value openness, don't be defensive about your past. Should benefit the couple, not just a man. There are plenty of desirable guys who can get over a body count, but would be concerned about avoidant behavior. If you disagree, I'm happy to remove the comments, but I'll stand by the point. --- Yeah, I think I must have failed to clearly make my point. OP seems to have abandoned the post anyway and most of the audience here is already married and i…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/25 06:24 PM
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Absolutely, I didn't mean to insinuate that men are out there asking for sexual details or anything, I more meant that I don't see many couples getting engaged or married that don't know each other's entire dating history, either through conversation, or observation if you've spent enough time with each other. It's not just a "men-only" thing, I think I probably see just as many women asking for a guy's relationship history, if not more.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/25 06:01 PM
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I appreciate your enthusiasm. It seems you'd like your own anecdotal experience to matter, but not mine own, so I'm not really sure if there's much for us to debate here since there's more than one right answer. I doubt either of us are going to meaningfully change each other's minds. We're both married anyway, OP will ultimately do whatever it is she'll do, so unless you intend to offer up your husband as proof of your point, I'm comfortable parting from this discussion since I suspect you or o…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/25 05:44 PM
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Essentially. Have a hobby that can occupy your time. Demonstrate you can care about things, and dear god get off your phone/ social media.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/25 06:06 PM
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There’s nuance in sharing information about exes & past relationships. That stuff doesn’t need to be hidden, but should be revealed at the right time, to the right person. I'm not 100% sure I get what you mean. I understand not writing them an essay of your faults to be delivered upon first meeting, but I also don't think you should be revealing things "at the right time", unless you mean that the right time is when the conversation comes up. Anything else sounds like hiding shame.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 10:06 PM
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Life is full of double-standards. We can choose to be obstinate and angry about it or accept it and play to our advantages. I've learned playing to your strengths is the wise thing to do, and I've had to learn a handful of painful lessons based on wrong assumptions myself. However you feel about it, men and women are judged by different standards of attractiveness, you won't meet 100% of them for every person. I think it's wise to look at what you want, and work backwards on how to get there. Wa…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 09:37 PM
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Good attitude. Treating a potential partner with dignity is very dignified itself.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 09:21 PM
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Curious as to how you would manage this The easiest way is to pair up with someone similar; find someone who doesn't care because they're the same way. Lying or obfuscation is not a great way to enter into a relationship with a trustworthy partner. Goes the same way for both genders.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 09:14 PM
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In your case, time is probably the best bet. If I took off my roof rack and sold all my gear, people might believe I'm done skiing. That's a demonstrable action. If my life looks exactly the same and I say I'm done, I'm asking people to believe me without evidence. I don't know what your enabler is/ was, but if you can ditch it, ditch it, if not, then you're just left making new habits which will be its own challenge to juggle. At 27 I wouldn't sit waiting for time to pass since there's other gu…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 05:14 PM
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Whenever guys hear "in the past", it comes with a lot of cultural inertia. It invokes the voice of millions of women trying to gaslight men into thinking they should not consider their past as a predictor of what happens in the future when everyone knows that's the best data points to use. Bluntly, your "past" is somewhere between yellow and red flag, and your perception of "past" (you mentioned it's been a year in other comments) will not align with most men. It's a stupid example, but I'll use…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 04:46 PM
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I see this point a lot and while yes I'd agree that any man who comes straight out and asks it is likely to be trashy, most men will (especially ones looking for commitment) will be paying attention to clues, and trying to evaluate relationship style compatibility. While a trashy guy might ask "how many men have you slept with?" on date one, you should expect the relationship history conversation to occur relatively quickly with non-trashy commitment-minded men. Women who don't have skeletons in…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 04:13 PM
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My thing is, how many men on this planet will care about my count or should I just give up dating now? Rule 9 here. It can be forgiven, but it will rule out a lot of the men you would desire. I get that you weren't the party girl/ "I can do what I want" feminist type, but attaining a high count due to insecurity will still trigger a lot of guys to wonder what happens the next time you're feeling insecure. Your best bet is to construct a narrative showing that you're not the type of person who wo…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 03:50 PM
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I don't really have anything specific to help here, but imo you're either able to believe or you're not. I'm not, and left the church in my teens for various reasons. I don't know how important it is for him for you to genuinely believe, but I'd let him know you might just not have that faith, and let him see if he can live with that.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/25 02:06 PM
3

Never too late to snatch defeat from the jaws of victory.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/25 04:08 PM
7

I'm probably close to your "middle man". I wasn't single long, but were I looking, I wouldn't just ask women out unprompted. Being attracted isn't the issue, if you're attractive, they're probably attracted, the challenge is signaling you're wife material, which requires continuous exposure. You need to find these men and spend time near them.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/25 12:21 PM
5

You can be shy and still suave and shy and have a touch of the 'tism, I'm not sure which you are. I don't recommend picking men off looks alone since you won't be the only one to do so. Identify anything shared to talk about. Maybe your phone is the same, maybe you both go on Wednesdays, whatever, just pick something and make a remark, leave it open and inviting
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/25 12:32 AM
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Not to be reductive, but go where the guy you want is. If the guy you want plays chess, go to the chess club, if he's a gym rat, go to the gym, etc... If you don't know what kind of guy you want, you can go for the broad strokes with dating apps, finding people on campus if you go to school, anywhere with a lot of people who are liable to interact with you.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/25 11:56 PM
1

My wife and I got together younger than you and we didn't have kids until age 30. The reality is that people can have all the "shoulds" of having kids as they want. Most often cannot afford to raise kids properly until later, if at all. We're high earners and didn't feel financially secure until recently.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/25 01:14 PM
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You're overthinking it and will sabotage yourself. If you want to go, go, if you don't, then don't. Yes, he's a man and will try to get laid, whether that happens or not is up to you.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/25 08:21 PM
8

Being physical isn't the problem here. You're acting out of order. First step should have been to define where you stand and set the boundaries you need to be comfortable. You're not comfortable with him seeing other women, and he sees it as fine. Figure that out first, then go nuts.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/25 08:47 PM
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For background, I'm a guy. Been with the same woman for half my life but take what I say with a grain of salt. I don't know you or what you have to offer, but I'm not sure you're seeing the situation for what it is. Take a step back and try to look at it through an objective lens. Men don't have the same motivations as women, and don't get hung up on the term "high value". If the term isn't helping you get what you want and feel secure it's doing you no good. You've met the guy once, fooled arou…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/25 08:29 PM
15

What is your goal here? You've described a casual relationship with a man you barely know, with no defined relationship structure. Getting over him hooking up with other girls seems like a secondary concern if your goal is commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/25 08:06 PM
5

What he says he feels doesn't matter. Crying is irrelevant, how you feel about what he says to you is irrelevant. You've been dismissed, you're not together, that is the critical fact you need to center yourself around. He got what he needed and while he may wish for you to get what you want, he's made it clear he isn't going to give it to you for whatever reason he's keeping to himself. This is shown through his actions. If he wanted to be with you, he'd be with you. I started dating my wife a …
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/25 05:00 PM
5

Rule 9 here with blunt truth. He's not interested in you as a long term item. You served your purpose to help him get through his break-up, he's had time to evaluate if he wants to be with you, and he determined the answer is no. Guys give "maybe's" to make you feel better, not because they might actually change their mind and want to wife you up. He cut you loose because he has the decency to not string you along, but you need to cut contact since you clearly can't handle it. You being "in a di…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/25 03:42 PM
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You will receive the treatment you tolerate. He's gotten away with it a half dozen times with what appear to be no consequences. If there are going to be consequences, enforce them. If there aren't going to be, accept that this is your normal.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/25 11:47 PM
2

This line of reasoning assumes every woman is the same as the worst woman, or that women don't have free will, it's not even worth engaging with. AWALT assumptions don't hold up under the slightest scrutiny.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/25 07:43 PM
3

I never made any claims about attraction vs relationship maintenance, frame or anything other than my original point. You're trying to argue points I'm not discussing. It's great you feel strongly about something, but I don't have the time to discuss the entirety of TRP's value in each specific social context. My point stands, those who have the information don't need to go looking for it. Women are inherently aware of this.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/25 07:28 PM
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TRP describes women's behavior and sexual preferences, and how to leverage that information to get what you want in your relationships. Men who are getting what they want already don't need that information. Men who already understand women's preferences don't need that information. TRP has plenty of factual and useful information, but men who label themselves as such are advertising they're the type of man who needed to go seek that information out from third parties, which is not desirable.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/25 06:59 PM
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Most women would find themselves quite happy to have these two issues as the most significant relationship "problems". Learn appreciation, try paying more heed to what he does for you, rather than what he doesn't do.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/25 06:53 PM
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I have a sneaking suspicion any men on that list could find a replacement without needing guidance from TRP to do it.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/25 06:41 PM
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TRP for men is primarily a set of guidelines for getting what you want from women. Men who are already high value do not struggle with getting what they want, and thus don't need an ideology to help get what they already have. This is why most women, even RP women, are rightfully wary of RP men.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/25 03:47 AM
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I got married at 23-24 timeframe, it was fine, though my wife and I had been together since 10th grade so we had a lot of history. If I was being realistic, we hadn't really changed as people all that much since 18, we could have married then and been fine. If you've got everything sorted out and you're marriage minded people, it'll work.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/25 10:03 PM
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Male perspective; you're already aware most commitment-minded "family" guys are negative on hookup pasts, so I won't dig into that. After reading your post, the thing that stuck out the most significantly was your lack of autonomy in your own life. You describe things that happen to you, as if you're just along for the ride. The scariest thing for a monogamous man is committing to a woman with no morals, or no agency. Even if you're coming around on morals, you sound as if you're a stiff breeze …
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/25 05:56 PM
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Dude here, but I'll throw in one of the things that tends to prevent a lot of conflict, especially when babies show up. The two of you should define and agree upon who owns what responsibilities. You and your partner should communicate early on and be on the same page about what the each of you contributes, and it should be as close to fair as possible. Communicate if the arrangement needs to change before resentment build up. Don't try to be a martyr and take on a disproportionate share of thin…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/25 08:59 PM
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I can't really teach someone to lower their standards. Usually most people have a vague sense of where they stand and if they want it enough, will flex a bit on what they want / provide to even up the relationship. If you don't want anything from guys at your level, there's really no basis for a relationship. Guys above your level will likely never commit. Up to you to decide what you want and if it's worth working/ compromising for.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/25 10:04 PM
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What would you advice me to do? Your level is who you can attract, so pick the best option at your level, or increase your level to that which you're attracted to.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/25 07:03 PM
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Compatibility is not a binary yes/no status you have with each person. Compatibility is mostly about attitude. The most important thing is to be with someone who shares your values around sex, make sure you are attracted to one another, and especially if you are inexperienced, be willing to share and receive feedback without getting defensive. Sex has meaning, but it is also usually fun and lighthearted.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/25 08:40 PM
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I don't think you've done anything wrong, per say, but as you've mentioned the way you're going about communicating your issues with him are probably going to or already have triggered defensiveness, which won't inspire the change you're looking for. Guys see emotionality as a problem to solve right this second, it doesn't change long term behaviors or how we think. Even though you feel bad as a result of how he handles organization, he doesn't feel the same feelings, so it's not as significant …
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/25 05:11 PM
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Am I settling or being greedy? Without more background, gut reaction says you're being quite greedy. You're allowed to feel however you feel, but from a male perspective, you have a pretty sweet deal, and you questioning what he does for you (which appears to be a lot) probably puts a ding in his self confidence, and eventually his feelings for you. It sounds like he should have earned more gratitude from you by now, not you questioning what more he can do for you. I don't know what you bring to…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/25 03:42 PM
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Supply and demand. A guy who's physically attractive enough to be approached by women has interest from more than just you, he's in high demand. I don't know what you want from such a guy, but securing commitment from a man who has women literally throwing themselves at him will be a challenge. If your proposition is "You're attractive, buy me dinner", I don't see you meeting that challenge with much success. The other side of the supply and demand coin is supply. If something is abundant in sup…
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/25 09:17 PM
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Yeah, not to dismiss you but I think you're worried about a non-issue. For you, the problem is your feeling embarrassed, but from my POV it seems you're likely the only one who cares. It's not really that hard to integrate someone into your family and friends. Unless you're trying to keep the relationship a secret, you just bring him with you every so often. People will get the memo you're an item. You don't need to broadcast to the world your every feeling.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/25 04:44 PM
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Okay, people know you're dating, why do they need to know your specific feelings about him? Does your bf get the impression you don't like him or something? Is he unhappy about your lack of vocalization or does he get the jist of it some other way? Most guys don't really care about your words, they care about actions. My wife could literally be mute and illiterate and if was perceptive enough she could still communicate she cared enough for me to be content.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/25 03:54 PM
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I'm confused, you're dating a guy and can't admit to anyone that you like him or are dating him, even though you're openly in the relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/25 03:46 PM
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I'm home with my wife most days. 6-7 days a week unless she or I is out with friends or on work travel, but we're usually out together. Probably 330 days a year.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/25 02:12 PM
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You seem pretty convinced all the men in your country are uninterested in being the typical provider. I don't know what your country is or if every man in it is a broke scumbag, so I can't really defend my argument, but I'd be willing bet there's decent ones who aren't on your radar, or you aren't on theirs. Relationships form around what you need from each other. If you lead with "I have money, I don't need your money", don't be surprised when you start meeting men who have no money, and need y…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/25 12:20 AM
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I get what you’re saying about how you don’t stop dating even when you’re married. I like dating when I like the man I’m dating. Granted, I realized after I commented that you more meant the act of filtering through guys rather than going stuff with one specific guy. I’m going to disagree on the not dating in my 20s part. Things were tight. I was really unhappy to the point where I was suicidal and running myself ragged trying to get my finances in the clear with no support from family and being…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/25 11:26 PM
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I'm a rule 9 with a wife who's close to your age, so perhaps not your target audience for advice but probably more relevant for insight into men your age. I will be blunt. Given your goals, you should be and are feeling a time crunch, you have recognized this, so at least you have that going. Everything after that stops making sense. You want kids, yet you're with a guy who's stated he doesn't want kids. You want a husband, but you hate dating. You don't stop dating once you get married. Most hi…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/25 09:39 PM
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I wouldn't listen to other women trying to hype you up. On a good day it's just them being nice. On a bad day they're preventing you from the reflection required to make positive changes. Since you have experience with the types of guys you're talking about, the easiest way to see what makes you incompatible is just reflecting on why you didn't work out. I'm not talking about the platitudes for why you broke up like "it just wasn't the right time for me", but the actual reason. If the answers ar…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/25 07:01 PM
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Yeah, though I still would look skeptically at a couple with polar opposite schedules. Most men could be satisfied with 15 minutes or less dedicated to sex. Most women I know require a lot more time to build up the suspense throughout the day or week. If you're only interacting for an hour a day, sure she could throw him a bone here and there, but long term they will need more.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/25 06:16 PM
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My relationship is somewhat atypical, but for the most part my wife handles the day to day finances, while I handle investments. I'll have a say in the rough budget so we're in agreement, but after autopay and monthly deposits are set up I rarely check the bank account. She's a spreadsheets for everything kind of girl and for me as long as the numbers are going up roughly the right amount I don't care (though I am pretty frugal). She can't handle my type of approach and neither of us take issue …
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/25 03:44 PM
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A high value man who values monogamy will lead the relationship with that as a core value of the relationship. If he expects your fidelity and does not offer his, you are a plate, not his other half.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/25 04:00 AM
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Then you have a schedule problem, not necessarily a libido problem. If he wants more time with you, he needs to make that time. You can't really have a marriage and never see each other.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/25 01:00 PM
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Full time is only 40 hours. When I had no kids I could easily manage work and chores with 3-4 hours left in my day. Where is your time going?
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/25 11:16 AM
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I don't know if you plan to have kids, but if you do plan to, do you think this is the guy who will be able to support you through it, and you both will emerge happily out the other side together? This seems like a trial run for that kind of thing and it looks like a failure. Are you okay with that?
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/25 09:16 PM
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Why would a man commit to any of them when he can get what he wants from all of them while saving the hassle? My recommendation would be to forget him, acknowledge you never won him, and to not compare future men to him.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/25 10:10 PM
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What a man says is irrelevant, you're not looking hard enough at what he's doing. Men marry when they want something from a woman they can't get without marrying her. Usually this is some combination of kids/ sex/ domestic labor. Frankly speaking, you didn't offer anything (that he wants) that he can't get from someone else for less effort. You're barking up the wrong tree if you want marriage, pick someone at your level.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/25 04:24 AM
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<image> I'm a simple man, I just want to see the dislike counter again. Also fuck google.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 06:50 PM
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Google has plenty of money from harvesting and selling your data, they'll be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 06:38 PM
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If the entertainment's worth paying for, I prefer give the money more directly to the creators. YT takes a humongous cut of it for the job of essentially streaming audio. Vanced also has sponsorblock which auto-skips sponsor segments, fluff, non-music sections in songs, etc and is overall highly configurable. It's overall just better and lets you put that $12 toward the people making the content if you're not stingy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 06:22 PM
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https://revanced.app/
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 06:10 PM
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There's the vaguities like "feeling connected/ more like you're on the same team", but the one that's most obvious and tangible to me is the amount of patience I have. She's not too bad, but she has leagues more neuroticism and anxiety than I do, it's my role to talk sense and talk down her worry even when I'm putting up with the same things that cause that worry and more. Essentially unpaid on-demand therapist several times a day. Good sex life recently? Not a problem, it's a fun challenge that…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/25 05:52 PM
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As the guy, it's astounding how my mood shifts toward her the day after sex compared to 3+ days after. If the majority of a relationship takes place in the 3+ days since sex timeframe, there will be dozens of extra "unrelated" problems that would magically go away if you just had sex more often.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/25 04:11 PM
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You cannot simultaneously be currently engaging with people you've had sex with (which following on social media is), and claim "it's from the past". He is interacting with other women in a sexual context. If this is a boundary for you, act like it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/25 04:28 PM
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My father had a bit of a savior complex. The obvious downside is that once she's saved, the relationship starts to fall apart. When she's in need he looks appealing, when her problem is solved, he just looks a guy who can only get with a woman in need.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/25 09:25 PM
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I am not looking for a partner to step in when my baby is born. This is my burden to bare and I have a lot of family and friends who have agreed to help me. That's fine, but realistically you're running into the exact same problem you ran into with him before - you're both in different stages of your life, it's just that the roles have reversed: I asked if he wanted to start dating... He said No and I cut him off that day. We eventually had a conversation to reflect why he wasnt interested and I…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/25 05:58 PM
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I will be frank. While you might like him, a HVM is not going to be interested in a sexless relationship with a woman about to deliver another man's child. Even if he was a HVM and you both were willing to give it a go, a new baby throws a wrench into any strong relationship. It’s not his baby, and your relationship isn't strong. I've woken up at 4-5 am for the past 5 months and am operating off 4-6 hours of sleep per night because of my 5 month old, and that's the easy part. If I wasn't helping…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/25 01:55 PM
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Except for point #4, the things you list as cons aren't really negatives. Everyone's idea of "high value" is different, what kind of man are you hoping to attract, and do you currently have any prospects? Ultimately you don't need to appeal to every guy, just the one you want.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/25 04:22 PM
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Raising the best children, mentally and physically, requires that you be physically and mentally strong yourself. If you're not, it's better to recognize you might not be the ideal parent and refrain from having kids, than have them and figure this all out later when you've already sabotaged their success.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/25 12:29 PM
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Rule 9 violation here: It matters a little bit, but it can mostly be ignored as long as you meet a couple conditions. - It shouldn't have bad optics or be embarrassing. You know what industries these are, don't be in them. Secretary isn't it so you're fine. - You should be able to financially pull your own weight. This is as much a question of spending habits as it is income. If you make $20k but you survive off $18k and year and save the other $2k, you're more desirable than a woman who makes $…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/25 06:28 PM
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Another rule 9 violation here. I know the post is old at this point, but just wanted to add 2c from a guy who has been in and out of the religious scene. I usually advise folks who have demons in the closet to get them out early, and in your case it will stand in stark contrast to the person you have become. I won't make value judgements one way or the other, but I am sure I don't need to explain how the former adult entertainer turned wait-until-marriage prude is not going to make the type of m…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/25 11:33 PM
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I wouldn't let it hang over you two, personally. You're probably asking folks here because your gut is telling you it's a conversation that should be had. If that's the case, trust your gut. No need to go into nitty gritty details that he wouldn't want to picture, and give him space to say if he doesn't care to know, but if he's going to care, best to know now, and if he doesn't care, then you can release that anxiety and move forward with confidence.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/25 08:47 PM
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Since you've given us a high level view of the situation, it kinda looks like you seem to want an opportunity to steer the conversation around your past and avoid the shame, and whether that's true or not, I'd avoid that look as much as possible with him. Odds are he probably prefers an honest, virtuous and repentant non-virgin to being led to assume something incongruent with your beliefs. But yes, ultimately if you ask, he'll ask you back. To the end of how I'd structure the conversation, lead…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/25 09:21 PM
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Male perspective here. Not religious, but both wife and I are each other's only. As for what to communicate; you're in a bit of a conundrum and fighting two uphill battles. You didn't mention if he's a virgin, but if he shares your value that one should wait until marriage and practices what he preaches, that puts you at a disadvantage, so tread carefully if this is the case. If he doesn't share your value here, or does but is in the same situation as you, then he may not care you're not a virgi…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/25 07:05 PM
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Hey, hey. What's your new pfp?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 01:05 AM
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Baby boy has been a lot of and I'm back to work with a bajillion urgent projects so I'm busy and tired. Traveling next week for work, too. Life got busy, but I suppose that's not a bad thing. Oh, and I got my hands on one of ht 9070 XT's so I'm stilling riding that high. What did I miss?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 12:57 AM
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Your baseless assumptions aren't needed. She has valid reasons to be skittish.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 12:18 AM
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Bummer, I owe her baby pics
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 11:48 PM
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Dang, should have tried to grab her contact off here.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 11:47 PM
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What happened to u/snoopydru?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 11:44 PM
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Yeah. 18 and inexperienced is not the same as a 25 year old who has chosen to only have LTR's even if their count might be the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 06:48 PM
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Same, but usually values and n-count will be heavily correlated. It's the question of would you rather have someone with an n-count of 3 but they were healthy relationships that ran their course, or someone who had a bad threesome and swore off sex since. Everyone wants someone with similar values, rather than trauma or bitterness. The number just happens to heavily correlate.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 06:46 PM
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Men just have a wider distribution in ability to sleep with more people in general. If they have access, the values regarding sex would probably be less diverse.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 06:43 PM
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Not them, no. The loss of their current partner would not spontaneously cause them to completely do a 180 in regards to their approach and value of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 06:42 PM
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Yes, actually. Most of my couple friends have been with their partners since college or earlier. All our friends know each other's entire dating history, and those with similar values tend to spend more time together.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 05:20 AM
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IRL people tend to date and marry people with the same attitudes surrounding sex. Higher value low n women are usually with higher value (voluntarily) low n men. Sluts are with sluts, prudes are with prudes, monogamous people tend to identify and stay with each other. I don't know any "reserved" women who would tolerate "player" types of dudes, much less marry them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 09:46 PM
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Win for you, and yeah arguably a lose for him. A 7 year loan at 13% is insane. Good thing you're not on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 01:30 AM
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He better be or I'll have to get one of those paternity tests people keep talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 04:52 AM
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The coup made me feel better about American politics for a few hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 02:40 AM
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Most fears are rational. You have the feeling for a reason. If you're afraid of doing something to jeopardize it and the reward isn't worth much, don't do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 02:39 AM
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Go by gut feel. If you don't want to lose them and the thought makes you anxious, play it safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 01:37 AM
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Kid zoned
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 01:37 AM
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Yeah they do kinda have nutsack skin when they come out
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 09:13 PM
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If our baby comes out ugly but my wife and I are both 7's, who's to blame?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 05:43 PM
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Send it to u/babazuki np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/1hl49dd/comment/m3nysrc/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 12:38 AM
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I'll mug an old lady to keep our karma balanced
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 12:33 AM
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j It's over for j
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 12:32 AM
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I'm not made of money, seeding it yourself is the only way.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 12:07 AM
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You just described any imbalanced power dynamic. Real life example of this: Pitch to a potential investor. You and investor consent to meet. You pitch the idea and let them mull over investing. They have the power to invest or not. The money can change the fate of the company and the founders. Of course this is reasonable. Both parties consented to the interaction, understand the stakes, and hopefully did their due diligence. Based off an assessment of the company/ idea, the investor is expected…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 12:03 AM
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This seems divorced from real life. Where are you finding these women who are moving in with guys and then demanding they entertain them? Manosphere content creators?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 11:58 PM
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Surely I don't need to waste our time explaining to you how gargantuan of a leap that assertion is, and how badly it doesn't track.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 11:55 PM
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"The lady doth protest too much"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 11:38 PM
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Women just dislike stability Run me through that logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 11:38 PM
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Yes, almost like we have a preference and act on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 11:23 PM
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Not enough gelatin?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 11:03 PM
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Sidewalk food
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 10:42 PM
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I give up with you people
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 10:39 PM
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Finally. Actual food.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 10:29 PM
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Yeah. I can't think of any reasonable negative connotation.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 10:16 PM
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It's mostly the "haha" kind of salty. She's not insecure about it or whatever. She just would have liked to have been my first and only anything, since I'm the first guy she dated.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 09:23 PM
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TL;DR is that all of my friends are couples and 90% of them have only been with one person.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 09:22 PM
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That's weird, bro. That's not normal. Jealousy is normal. I've talked to IRL and read posts about women who get the ick if their partner isn't jealous/ protective of them, there's a million examples. If the thought or sight of your partner kissing someone else doesn't trigger a jealous reaction, congratulations for your fortitude, but most do not share it. Mate guarding behavior is as old as time and is not limited to either gender. I'm in pretty sexually conservative circles (not politically/ r…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 06:31 PM
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This isn't remotely limited to men. I kissed another girl prior to dating my wife and 15 years later she's still salty about it. Women tend to ask and overshare on these topics. I actively try to not learn details about other people's sex lives and somehow it still slips out, usually directly from the woman or from her friends. Over time when you're with someone, you eventually start to piece the information together into a more coherent picture. Pretending the info doesn't come out for argument…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 06:11 PM
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The only IRL guy named Chad I know is a short pudgy dude dating a single mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 05:16 PM
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She's willing as long as it's my butt. I have yet to take up the offer. Also c'mon I'm basically an honorary Chad
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 05:08 PM
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I think the only case where a woman's n-count genuinely doesn't matter to a guy is when she treats a non-Chad like Chad. Doubly so if you're the only guy she's treated that way. She's been with 12 dudes but you're the only one she initiates often with, is willing to try new things with and overall you can barely keep up with her? Not many guys are going to rock that boat. She's been in active hot and heavy relationships with 2 other guys and she's a passive starfish with you? Different story.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 05:05 PM
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This should be a crime
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 09:58 PM
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I only make lazy food. If the food requires 500 precise knife cuts it's not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 09:52 PM
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I want my celery to have that cronch
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 09:41 PM
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I premake and freeze homemade broth so I don't really need extra flavor. I just want to know the timing required for tender potatoes and stuff. 1 hour ain't it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 09:36 PM
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Stew recipes that tell you to put the veggies in at the beginning should be purged from the internet. I don't want my squash to be mush.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 09:30 PM
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Maybe this is just another benefit of the doubt thing, but I don't buy that sane people just have a bad day and resort to insulting their spouse. I've had bad days and never is my response to lash out with random insults at my wife. That was likely just what she actually thought slipping out. but come on, the idea of “the appearance of XYZ being true can be almost just as bad as XYZ actually being true” is not some evil woman exclusive phenomenon. This type of thinking works for people who only …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 10:33 PM
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Yeah I have no sage wisdom for that other than practice and fake it. Practice can be on real girls or it can be learning/ copying what other people do, real or fictional. Fake it can be making up a whole persona and just doing what you think the persona should do if the normal "you" would be too awkward. That was my go-to.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 10:26 PM
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I'm purple pill, but I think that's my optimistic male pov hoping women think how I do. Whenever I actually talk to women about their preferences I'm more and more convinced that is not the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 10:11 PM
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Honestly you're not unattractive. Your profile is probably fine as is to get enough matches. Working on your banter is probably more worthwhile than trying to get the perfect set of photos.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 10:08 PM
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This has been a very red pilling interaction to have all the women tell me appearances are the most important part of the relationship. I told my wife all the RP guys agreed with her and why and she told me they're right 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 10:06 PM
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Unironically I've had months where my company really just needed some prototypes or low volume stuff done NOW and I was getting paid engineer money to be a solder tech. I don't even have any certs.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 10:04 PM
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Ah, so then I'm training your replacement. Get a job where you need your hands for more than pressing buttons on your PC. Boom, irreplaceable.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:57 PM
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"Do" literally anything other than street fighter. The pussy doesn't want what it doesn't want don't shoot the messenger. I know plenty of nerd chicks who are into DnD. If you have a good/ funny pic of that it could work for the right crowd. And yeah what ladies don't love beyblades?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:54 PM
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When ChatGPT can unplug a cable I'll start to take people who say that more seriously. People who write code do not just sit in a box and program all day.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:51 PM
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Looks better than it did. Only other point I'd have is to add more photo variety if you can. People who use them, feel free to correct me but I'd guess the photos are 98% of what people look at on apps, so having a few locations are good, but painting more of a picture of "I do ___" seems to work well. 4ptTakedown as an example. He got a professional photoshoot done of him at a boxing match and painted a picture of him being an amateur boxer and apparently got so much attention he ascended from …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:47 PM
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"They hate us 'cause they anus?"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:32 PM
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It can write most of my code for me. I'll be interested when it can reason and execute it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:26 PM
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Quoting men more accomplished than you just kind of reinforces my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:24 PM
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Agreed. Speaking of which, you took street fighter off your dating profile, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:21 PM
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I understand the attraction perspective, I just find it beyond belief you'd still be having to jump through hoops and looking busy to maintain attraction at that point. Maybe he's fat or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:19 PM
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That's where I'm lost. Imagine if the genders were reversed.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:17 PM
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I'm trying not to make any extra assumptions about the post. I don't have any other info about their relationship/ working dynamics so I won't comment on it. I'm not sure how you know that this guy isn't spending time with his wife when she's home from work or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:16 PM
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Personally I agree, but looking at it from a higher level, what's the threshold of success you have to achieve before you're allowed to just do what you want to relax for a few months? I doubt many here have done the startup thing, I only did it for a few years. 15 years of it would be incredibly draining, I can easily imagine someone recently retiring just wanting to recapture some of the lazing around they missed out on, even if just for a short period of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:14 PM
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You're a multimillionaire?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:11 PM
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For me it's the disrespect/ entitlement aspect that makes it seem like a big deal. I can imagine scenarios in which the behavior would be frustrating, but I can't imagine a scenario in which she would not address how the behavior makes her feel before jumping to insults.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:11 PM
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The OP cited "healthcare" as a reason why, but I can't imagine that she absolutely has to keep working lest the face homelessness or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:10 PM
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I'm trying to avoid assumptions outside the scope of what I know but I hadn't even considered the fact that she likely has a couple months each year she's not working and that's why they can go on those summer vacations. Her idea of free time hobbies is to just enjoy the stuff he's paying for.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:09 PM
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The "if I were ___" arguments don't hold much water for me. You didn't do the things to get to the point of that level of success. It often comes with burnout, you cannot rationally make the claim of what you'd do because you never have been there nor will put in the work required to get there.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:07 PM
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That's my argument. He already toiled. If you build and sell your own company in the span of 15 years, and that's not enough to earn the mundane entertainment of your choice for a winter, what is?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:05 PM
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So it's an image/ looks issue. If he adopted a different kind of look for his entertainment it'd be okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:04 PM
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So she's right because she's incapable of seeing objective reality?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 08:01 PM
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Trying to, anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 07:59 PM
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You've got $2M in the bank, you can buy some febreeze or hire a cleaner or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 07:57 PM
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How is he like a trust fund baby? He made his own money and then is enjoying it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 07:53 PM
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I understand how she might feel, but does that feeling make her right? Is he a loser?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 07:52 PM
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The dude's 41 and had been building a company for 15 years. He likely recently sold it. In what way is calling your husband who bought and takes care of your house, has $2M in liquid assets, makes $125k a year a loser after he just sold his company and likely wants a bit of a breather tough love?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 07:50 PM
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My hypothetical is the woman comes as they are. I don't know the dude's requirements but for argument's sake say he's looking for someone around as attractive and probably doesn't care how much she makes, but most women in that age range will be making about the same amount.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 07:47 PM
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<image> Settle a debate for me. My wife says the guy's wife is right. I'm telling her she's delusional and half of single women aged 25-45 would gladly take her place if all they had to do was not insult him.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 07:43 PM
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Scaring solicitors work really well. For a few months there were an army of solicitors at my college that would hit as many people walking around as possible asking for money for some kids with cancer organization or whatever. After the 12th time of having the usual pitch thrown at me starting with "Do you like kids?", I decided to try the nuclear option and (louder than I intended) told her that I fucking hate kids, and hope they die. One of my class' TA's heard the exchange. Wasn't bothered ag…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:29 PM
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If he went on tinder or just into a bar and pitched that to the first 10 girls he met he'd probably get at least some interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:22 PM
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But I do know that he has eyes, saw that I had just gotten up and was unclothed, and that I was on my way downstairs, where my clothing is kept People don't work this way. Whatever is on the top of your brain is your focus in his case it was getting dogs fed, in your case it was getting dressed. Don't expect him (or anyone) to consider what you're doing to this granularity when they're also completing tasks that needs to get done without either teaching him to think this way over a long period o…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:22 PM
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Your theory is that intellectually capable people don't learn and respond to the things around them, because it's old fashioned? That's an interesting take.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:57 PM
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Girl one. Women mellow out over time and I'm really good at nudging people's values closer to my own.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:55 PM
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train - verb teach (a person or animal) a particular skill or type of behavior through practice and instruction over a period of time. Intellectually capable people learn from experiences and adapt their behavior to match. Every time you do anything, and the situation doesn't go 100% how you want it to, you refine behavior for a better outcome. "Train" is the correct verb here, regardless of your personal feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:49 PM
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No problem
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:35 PM
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I've always wondered if I could end someone's relationship with a conversation about height in front of his girl. "Nah bro, there's no way you're 6'. I'm 5'11" and I'm at least an inch taller than you. Have you been lying to her about your height? Yikes."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:33 PM
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I'm trying to figure out if he was just upset that I wasn't immediately receptive to completing the task he was giving me You showed annoyance before he even asked you to do anything. Even if you knew he was going to ask you do to something, to him it looks like you were annoyed by him just addressing you. In other words, it looks like you were just annoyed at him. It doesn't matter if he's correct or not in assuming that, it's what you put out, so it's what he perceives. Non-ND folks wouldn't i…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:26 PM
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6'2" ish. CDC says I'm around the 95% percentile for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:13 PM
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If I were on Tinder I would say I'm 5'11" just to bring that much more chaos to the world
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:05 PM
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CDC collected the data for that study. If it was Tinder I'm sure the numbers would be higher. https://dqydj.com/height-percentile-calculator-for-men-and-women/
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:04 PM
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In the United States, 14.5% of men are 6 feet or taller. However, 33% of men in the U.S. report being at least 6 feet tall
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 05:55 PM
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That's why I love working in military adjacent fields. "It's classified" <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 05:51 PM
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I peaked at 6'2" in high school. Gravity will probably bring me back down to 6'1" in the next couple decades.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 05:47 PM
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I just hit my growth spurt early. The 190 lbs wasn't muscle, I was no Chad
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 05:43 PM
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Depends on the matchup, but probably the boy. I was 6' and 190 lbs at age 13.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 05:32 PM
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That's why he puts a bag over it
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 05:26 PM
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Since he's banned he sent me his face reveal and asked for a rating: <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 05:19 PM
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Everything originates from some asshole somewhere. You can do the thing without adopting every ideal of the person who started it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 07:41 PM
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I've got my dad's old Christmas train set I don't really use but I might upgrade when son gets a little older. Every time I tried to set up train the cat just derails it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 07:35 PM
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Gotta file those babies. Scaring away the other lesbians
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 07:34 PM
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What's your top 5 most played games?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 07:31 PM
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Chew your nails?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 07:30 PM
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Thigh gap
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 07:30 PM
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<image> You and Voldemort gonna cast Avada Kedavra at me
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 07:29 PM
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So her having sex with you inside a committed relationship makes you a beta bux? No, it's if she forces you to wait until you're in a committed relationship, but did not hold other men to similar standards. Her regret is irrelevant. She still made the decisions and actions she made based off how she felt then, and she's doing so again now. It's just that her feelings for you don't inspire her to be as fun, which is kind of a bummer. Honestly if anything it's slightly worse because it indicates w…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 07:23 PM
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Why do your fingers look like the elder wand?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 07:15 PM
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Sure she could, but most guys are in a relationship for access to sex, everything else is secondary or entirely irrelevant. Women for the most part understand the dynamic. If she makes you work for it more than other guys, she either is less sexually attracted to you than other guy, or doesn't understand what men are looking for. Either case is undesirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 07:10 PM
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kms stands for Kiss MySelf It's still not to late to kys my man!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 07:04 PM
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You deserve your place here
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 06:51 PM
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I gotchu
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 06:48 PM
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I think it's just if you have to pay to play, and other guys didn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 06:42 PM
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My friend's dad works for them. Pears are out of season. Enjoy your fancy pretzels.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 06:41 PM
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This one's me
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 06:40 PM
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I don't get how people can sustain attraction for people with bad RMV.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 06:40 PM
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I do like trains and hot chocolate though so I can't be mad
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 06:20 PM
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My younger sister said this dude reminds her of me 16 years ago and that still cuts to this day
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 06:20 PM
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Messages on a phone aren't high social priority. She probably say it, dismissed it while doing something else and then forgot about you for the 4 days until you reminded her you existed.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 06:12 PM
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You want your tsundere
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 06:10 PM
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I've loved maybe one person and my childhood dog, so no.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 06:09 PM
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Mine's around somewhere but y'all judged my scars.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 06:06 PM
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Ugh, yeah. You've just triggered memories of maybe 20 girls in high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 06:03 PM
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My sister's married to an Indian. He doesn't have hips in his Kurta.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 06:02 PM
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The happiest people are living their lives. The most miserable people tend to not want to spread their misery.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 06:00 PM
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Since your pfp is someone accused of murder, are you attracted to the status or would you be independently attracted to the dude? Keep in mind he's 5'7" and has a bad back.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:58 PM
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Those hips ain't lyin'
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:57 PM
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Maybe it is the ick then. I've usually seen the ick used to describe men who are a 3-6 not passing a shit test and getting demoted. I've seen women ogle pictures of known white nationalists so I've been under the impression the two were separate.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:54 PM
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Yeah. I'm also reminded of a few physically attractive girls I knew who had the worse, most annoying voice and manners of speaking. Think cali-girl but extra nasally. Just hearing it triggers a disgust response.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:50 PM
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Dull outfits >
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:47 PM
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Because conspiracy theorists are pretty insufferable
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:46 PM
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For me it's like a 5-7 point jump.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:44 PM
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When I've seen it talked about by women, they only get it for men they were on the fence about being attracted to. I'm talking about people you are already physically attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:44 PM
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Sounds like dude's legs weren't healthy. He didn't marry. Probably not.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:42 PM
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Do y'all experience a loss of physical attraction for someone upon learning something negative about them? Say you're attracted to someone and you learn they kick puppies, or they're attracted to an asshole, or they think the moon landing was fake, and now when you look at them you physically perceive them as uglier?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:39 PM
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monster-lily energy
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:34 PM
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I've found the most miserable people are usually the most quiet about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:33 PM
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I've been in my relationship for 14+ years and have mostly couple friends. If I had to make a stereotype about people, it's that they tend to pick someone as close to them as possible. Low n-count girls marry low n-count guys. Higher earners marry like. People with similar emotionality tend to gravitate together. Everything else on OP's seems like traits in people who won't be able to secure an LTR. I will say that if I was single I'd probably live in a box van to save rent. That one might be tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 05:22 PM
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Stumps or no?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 10:34 PM
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Man we gotta find you a wingman. If you have any willing lady friends, see if they'll let you practice fake flirting with them for a few minutes or something and make her tell you every time she'd get the ick and why.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 10:31 PM
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He's just like us
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 10:26 PM
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I mean this in the nicest, least judgmental way, but do you have a touch of the 'tism? "I knew you weren't going to ghost me 😉" sounds at best anxious, at worst could be misconstrued as passive aggressive. I get the nervousness but you don't gotta let her know you're nervous.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 10:25 PM
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If you did nothing other than ask her questions and then respond to everything with "Oh yeah 😏...?" you'd be doing better than "please don't ghost me"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 10:20 PM
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You've been hit
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 10:19 PM
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<image>
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 10:17 PM
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Same
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 10:14 PM
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There's plenty of smart people in PPD. Most everyone here has something of value to offer, and if they don't, it's obvious. I don't know if you consider it social media, but I consume most of my info through YouTube and just by nature of the quality of people I'm listening to, I have access to better info than most. Dismissing information because the same source hosts incorrect information is shortsighted. It just means you have to know how to filter and vet information.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 10:14 PM
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You gotta do better than ChatGPT in your texting flirt game. That would have been sub-ChatGPT.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 10:07 PM
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Do not say that
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 10:02 PM
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What? You don't have to consume the trash to find good information? There's thousands of hours or five nights at freddy's slop on youtube, there's also thousands of hours of really good history content. If I'm interested in learning how to read a webpage in Python I don't first need to look up Jake Paul, I just search for what I want? You don't have to consume all the garbage before you're allowed to get to the good stuff. Just use the good and ignore the bad. It's not rocket science to figure o…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 09:59 PM
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Was kinda hoping it was just that men aren't entitled to sweaty sex, but everything else is on the table
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 09:43 PM
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SwEaTy Sweetie*?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 09:38 PM
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It's a roundabout way of saying they're crazy. Even if you're right, people don't like to acknowledge that they're being crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 09:37 PM
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My opinion is you should be apathetic about your exes. You shouldn't be wanting to stick body parts inside each other anymore. Red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 09:36 PM
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Maybe I spend too much time on the internet so I'm too dumb to understand. I have no idea what you're attempting to say or how it's related to the source of information people use.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 09:33 PM
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How is it rape if they're consenting to it?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 09:28 PM
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Then she can give me Battletech minis for Christmas in 2041.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 09:25 PM
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While there is garbage on the internet, there's also loads of great information.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 09:24 PM
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I'm with Automatic on this one
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 09:23 PM
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I went to a state school and had friends at more prestigious schools and noticed the same. State schools seem to be concentrated with decently smart people who are just there to get what they need and do stuff with it. Fancier schools seem to have a lot of people there for the prestige.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 09:22 PM
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You have to actually be interested in the topics to learn about it. I like listening to society/ engineering/ history/ military/ political YouTube whenever I'm doing a brainless task like dog walk, cleaning, or less brain intensive things at work. I have the better sources of information sussed out after a decade and I absorb about 2 hours worth of info from them a day. You tend to repeat what you hear. If you listen to dumb people, you'll sound dumb. If you listen to smart people, you'll sound …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 09:17 PM
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Buy it with your own money, keep it out of my sight.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 09:09 PM
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Lying's lame. I show my wife the crazies on here. Don't know if I'd date a girl that posts on PPD, though. I think I prefer them ignorant.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 09:08 PM
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The more you train a person how to plan, budget and make good decisions, the less impulsive decisions they make. It's hard to have an unplanned pregnancy if you know how babies are made, don't want to be pregnant right now, and don't have someone overriding that decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 07:58 PM
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Gilf supercedes milf. You may have once attained the rank of Corporal, but if you've been promoted to Sargent that's your new title.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 07:17 PM
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You'd die of credit card debt first
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 07:15 PM
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Too busy enjoying my expensive cheap noodles
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:51 AM
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It's just regrettable that so many people still buy the bullshit and take it on each other while people profit off the anger.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:35 AM
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Worth it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:32 AM
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Yes, and those three ingredients on their own aren't worth the calories and sodium
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:25 AM
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I don't think I've ever met a man who desires to subjugate or hurt women. I've met hundreds of men who desire incomes and cost of living that would enable them to be appealing partners to have a family, like the majority of men a generation ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:23 AM
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A textual relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:20 AM
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Top Ramen: Too salty, bland, requires 14 ingredients to make edible. Shin Black: Sophisticated, flavorful, comes with tiny little mushrooms.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:19 AM
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I'm still in NAWALT camp, even when it comes to this kind of stuff. A lot of PPD women, especially in the main threads just have a stick up their ass because they spend as much time here as their male counterparts and both genders will hate each other after a while. IRL women seem to "get it" more. My wife, who either is or at least was a feminist understands that if the left's media stopped shitting on men so often, there would probably be a woman entering office next year. Normal people are ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:17 AM
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For Christmas I want a lifetime supply of these. This is the best 8 minute meal for $2.50 money can buy: <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:10 AM
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You are not the only one
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:08 AM
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While yes that is horrible, it seems like kind of a weird take to dislike an entire gender for the actions of a few abusers. If you apply that kind of logic to literally any other demographic you'd be banned.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 11:58 PM
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It probably could have been 250 if the authors made the tables smaller.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 10:16 PM
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If I printed it, it would be a 300 page book.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 10:00 PM
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I read most of a 300 page datasheet. Does that count?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 09:57 PM
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This implies that you only value a woman based on the fact that there were no other guys. Yes, this is obvious, it is what most guys here say. Her having sex with other men offers me no benefits, and instead offers several downsides. Why would I value something with no benefits and several downsides? Women are both godesses and Goddesses. I guess this answers my joke question. Still wonder how goddesses can't just raise their own value, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 12:55 AM
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Either way, that seems to mirror both the CDC's data and the original claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 12:16 AM
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I think I'm gonna make a salad for dinner
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 12:09 AM
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The CDC has stated that 43.8% of lesbian women reported experiencing physical violence, stalking, or rape by their partners. The study notes that, out of those 43.8%, two thirds (67.4%) reported exclusively female perpetrators. Huh, so about the same or just slightly higher than the estimated amount for straight couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 12:02 AM
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Aren't woman-woman relationships some of the highest in terms of DV cases?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 11:54 PM
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Too black and white. If you're asking "is all killing evil", the answer is obviously no. There's the obvious case of "some dude breaks into my house and threatens to kill my wife, child and me, is it moral to defend yourself?". If you cede that killing the invader is justified because it prevents a worse act from being committed, then it's just a value judgement of where you draw the line, and which acts you're personally willing to tolerate being done. Used to be Christian.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 11:53 PM
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I'm confused, are women goddesses or are they Queens? And why would I leave a woman who has only had sex with me? I value girls I like having sex with me and not having sex with other men. I like her, she has sex with me and no one else. No one ever claimed a woman having sex with them lowers their value to themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 11:49 PM
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If women are goddesses, how come they don't have the power to raise their value back up?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 11:37 PM
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She was 16 when we started dating, a late bloomer for any of that stuff, and very fearful of both unintended pregnancy as well as going out and getting birth control/ the conversations that would bring up with her parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 11:28 PM
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1, I waited a little over 2 and a half years.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 11:19 PM
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Is the man forcing her to do something, or does the woman have autonomy?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 11:15 PM
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It's probably demographic dependent. You know my background, completely straight is a little boring, but if I'm honest long wavy/ flowy is what would catch my eye.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 07:38 PM
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I was more hoping it was an ad for a guy named Jesús who gets you off when you call the number, releasing you of your lust.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 05:24 AM
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It's best we don't spoil her view of women. Let her have that, at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 05:18 AM
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You sound like the Jesus billboards in town. "Shackled by LUST? Jesus sets you free! Call 855-FOR-TRUTH" Oh, and then on the other side is an ad for a strip club (not kidding).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 05:11 AM
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I had this scenario recently (not with MIL). My name is not a good name to give our kid, she's right.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 04:56 AM
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Yeah, I mean it sounds like you're using your best judgement. If she's not interested, she's not interested. Operate under the assumption that it won't escalate and make sure you're getting what you want out of a platonic friendship. If a girl doesn't show much more than lukewarm interest, pushing it into a relationship is going to feel like peeling your own skin to try to get anything out of it. Improve looks, meet new people, learn how to talk to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 11:25 PM
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Practice lying. Casually mention it's good you can't get a word in since after you watched that guy die last week you're really looking forward to not having to talk much. Refuse to elaborate further.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 11:06 PM
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np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/1h6b26k/comment/m0f89wz/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button "Lies"...? 🤨
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 10:47 PM
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She has also told me several times that she doesn't date friends. Sounds like she might not understand social cues and I'd if she doesn't consider those she dates as friends she might pick bad men. I don't know a lot about this girl other than what you've told me, but you might be pedestalizing her.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 10:45 PM
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People are hopefully friends with those they date, but "not wanting to ruin that bond" does sound like "don't push it". Having female friends isn't a bad thing, at least. It's social proof.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 10:13 PM
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If it's public knowledge you like her and she hasn't explicitly told you she's not interested, I would be astounded if giving you a key to her place was not some sort of a signal.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 10:06 PM
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Bizarre. Only way I'd give a key to someone is if I'm legally bound to them or if they're a trusted neighbor and I'm out of town.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 10:02 PM
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Bonus points if you find a good place, tip well and go there to the point where they recognize you and then wingman for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 09:48 PM
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Exactly. Get your stupidity out somewhere where it doesn't matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 09:46 PM
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As the holidays get closer, I think it's time to appreciate the unsung value of spending time with people you don't really like. I feel like you can be the most socially experimental with people you don't really care about. I've honed a lot of my humor and story-telling on dumb family members so by the time I use it on people I actually want to see I have the delivery down.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 09:37 PM
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How do you get to the point where she knows you like her, doesn't reciprocate, and gives you a key to her place? Is your flirting so bad that she doesn't know you like her, or are you bad at reading signals and she wants you to make a move?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 09:30 PM
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Dudes playing with balls in public is kinda gay ngl
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 09:28 PM
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I made a venn diagram to explain the problem, hope it helps: <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 10:48 PM
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Obito isn't even the best villain in Naruto
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 10:45 PM
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Damn we gotta get you laid
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 10:44 PM
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This argument doesn't hold much water. If you wanted to, you could fix homelessness by letting people sleep in your house to capacity, but you probably don't because you probably don't want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 10:25 PM
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I know a few bi/ lesbian friends who didn't know they were gay when they dated men, and the common theme is that women are way harder to date. Gotta get Parfait's input on this if she has any data points.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 10:22 PM
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I'd make me and my immediate family's life comfortable, but do my best to keep them out of the spotlight. Immense wealth is a spotlight, and anyone else doesn't deserve the wealthy anyway. As much as I'd like to claim I'd set up a stable democracy or something, democracies are at the whim of the people, and well... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QFgcqB8-AxE&ab_channel=Kazwire
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 10:16 PM
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Don't know about all of them, but when you just put a woman in the room, men tone down the stupid rhetoric to avoid ostracization. Many men don't have a woman in the room. Give a dude access to sex and tell him all he has to do is be chill to keep said access, unless he's regarded, he'll probably be chill appreciate the companionship.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 10:04 PM
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If you believe that, that speaks more to your misogyny than men's.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 10:02 PM
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If I were being honest with myself I'd go for the benevolent dictator role. I would be firm and authoritarian, but do my best to improve society versus just pillaging the treasury for me and my buddies.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 10:01 PM
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Yes, and I've observed this phenomenon IRL. Don't know if their sex was amazing but usually they calm down immediately after they receive barely any female attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:59 PM
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"Most attractive" and not "expired" are not the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:44 PM
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So we can't afford healthcare because the doctor's gotta look well rounded and needs to pay off that extra degree?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:43 PM
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Cost of a 4 year degree is $45k and the cost of buying a $10 book per day for 4 years is $15k.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:42 PM
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Did people who take English in college not learn English? I thought we've all been spending the last 18 or so years learning the language, why do you need to pay money to study it more? Are they stupid?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:33 PM
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Getting one girl (that I actually like) to have sex with me was hard enough. Not going through that effort again if I don't have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:28 PM
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Not homophobic, just dick-phobic. Being penetrated gives your partner the ick, no matter the gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:26 PM
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The only time I will do so is when it's the eggo waffles. I never have freezer waffles with syrup, I prefer to eat them as a PB&J
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:25 PM
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It's a parental failing, imo. It's more common in women since it's not really acceptable to pamper males past the age of ~9. Don't think your sexuality has much to do with it, you just have a few brain cells to rub together to ponder the significance of things like materialism.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:22 PM
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Reusable bags are $1 from the store. $3 for a nice one. Is she stupid?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:19 PM
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Probably not. If she was down whenever I wanted I'd never even consider it. If it's a case of "I never want to have sex again, divorce me or figure it out", I'd probably figure it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:18 PM
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Take away the money. Would y'all be happier or worse off?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:15 PM
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Every girl within a 3 mile radius of a college in winter
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:14 PM
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The meta
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 06:17 PM
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The original object of the statement was women who favor protectionism in men, not men seeking women they think need guarding from other men. Men prefer to commit to women who they perceive as being less difficult to keep. It's just common sense that a woman who has a history of having many partners is less likely to be on her last.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 06:24 AM
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Why is a man even dating a woman who easily opens herself up to other men? That's.... my point? I think we're in agreement, you just got there via a different route.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 12:29 AM
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Being "protective" is almost always an act of guarding her from other men, which is made a lot easier when she doesn't have a habit of being open to sexual interactions with many men. "Protective" doesn't mean jealous, but many of the behaviors that drive those actions are synonymous. That's nice that you appreciate protective men, but protective men tend to prefer women who make that job simple. Also, obligatory callback to my other comment here today because you quoted me nearly 1 for 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 12:13 AM
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My favorite double think is the women who prefer their men to be "protective" of them, (showing guarding behaviors/ jealousy) and also claim that none of the men they date care about their count.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 10:21 PM
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Instead of men just saying "Men with options prefer to date low-n women" and women saying "You're wrong, my bf doesn't care <3 !!", we turn the thread into a search for the wikipedia page with the most letter n's. Go to wikipedia, go to a random page and report the # of n's on the page. Highest page wins. I got Chinese Names with 2,972 n's.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 10:18 PM
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I guess I'm confused. Men should increase their amount of investment they put into parenting before they've been selected by a woman and given the opportunity to be a parent? How are men supposed to get picked and have kids to demonstrate that value if women are the ones doing the selection, and they're selecting for the things they currently are?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 05:42 PM
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People are just louder about their opinion online where there's fewer social consequences. The opinions are still the same IRL, they just are more subtle about how they get the information. Of course it doesn't matter to every guy, but to the ones that it does, the conversation rarely comes up because they make a guess. If they guess its high and they're still talking to you, you're "recreational use" and you don't know it yet. This happens all the time because the low commitment high-n guys ten…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 04:54 PM
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Alright, Buying her a plane ticket. Current place or PR?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 03:47 AM
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She's a lab, the most aggressive she'll get is when her and the cat get in a slap battle. Her signature move to break apart wife and I is to sit nonchalantly on my lap and slide in between us to push us away. Shes very good with food. We will be watching her with baby though because her favorite game to play with other puppies we call "squish", where she rolls on top of them and wiggles around.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 03:44 AM
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Don't tempt me
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 03:12 AM
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Oh she knows where she stands on the totem pole she's just under the impression she's just confused about why mommy is allowed to kiss me and she's not. Doing her best to shove her tongue in my mouth and separate my wife from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 03:11 AM
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I would say trying to French your dad qualifies
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 02:57 AM
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She's trying to initiate a make out sesh and bullying my pregnant wife out of the way so we can't touch
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 02:56 AM
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She keeps trying to make out with me and I can't kiss or touch my wife without her butting in out of jealousy
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 02:55 AM
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That's just dogs in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 02:49 AM
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I somehow gave my dog daddy issues and I don't know how to fix it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 02:45 AM
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I'm almost 30, and not into kids. I think I am indeed happy about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 12:52 AM
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Maybe I'm too old to have seen it, or too sheltered. In either case I'll call it a win
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 12:32 AM
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As long as you don't call your bf the same thing. Dr. Freud gonna give you a ring.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 12:32 AM
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I dunno, there was a lot of "treat me like an inferior" in there
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 12:31 AM
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Does he go by "daddy"?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 12:30 AM
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That and anime has shown if you put every fetish into your product you will gain at least some popularity
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 12:29 AM
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Fatherless behavior
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 12:16 AM
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How common are women like this? I don't think I've ever met one IRL.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 12:12 AM
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This feels like a skill issue. Fun is made.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 12:08 AM
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Oh, fluent is a dramatic stretch of how much I've learned. I just happened to learn those two Kanji relatively recently.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:37 PM
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I am aggressively white.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:34 PM
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Perhaps you are crazy. Unrelated, but is your flair warui kusuri? Bad medicine?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 10:38 PM
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I don't mess with main thread anymore. Bunch of angry people over there with room temperature IQs.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 10:36 PM
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On a 7 year old, perhaps. But for adults, it's like the female equivalent of a bowl cut.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 06:13 PM
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All I have to say on this matter is that bangs are bad. Your hair is better than that, don't stoop to that level.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 04:06 PM
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It's pretty common for people to date at about their level and cheat down. IMO cheating is not a "Chad thing".
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 12:20 AM
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below average guys a chance because after they calm down from finally getting a partner, they will think they are amazing Did you forget? These dudes, the ones you're writing about.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 12:13 AM
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Where are y'all finding these people with no self awareness?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 12:04 AM
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I don't mean not having separate rooms, but if you can't live with them 99% of the time, moving in together is going to be rough
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 10:14 PM
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You can spend an indefinite amount of time with them without needing space, and you align on all the major things you'd need to in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 09:59 PM
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I'm disappointed in you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 06:13 PM
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I don't think I'd call myself a blue-piller but I do think the friends -> dating relationships tend to be more robust if you're long term minded. There is no romantic relationship without attraction, and you can grow to be friends with someone you started dating out of physical attraction first. The order in which you became friends probably doesn't matter in the long run, but it's not crazy to say that if you don't like spending time with someone in a non-sexual context, the relationship probab…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 06:11 PM
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Did you have this thought in the shower?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 06:04 PM
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It is exactly because you don't expect someone to be nice
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 04:46 PM
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"The bar is in hell for men" mfs better be saving this one
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 04:37 PM
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This is countered by the fact he is "Fully functional"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 04:33 PM
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I'm still on team move somewhere with snow, but if you need a therapist for to handle moving to somewhere people vacation to, moving to somewhere where it's dark half the year wouldn't be great.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 11:20 PM
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Not likely they thought that at all. The vast majority of people who get divorced were struggling to rub their two brain cells together before they got married, and they're likely on divorce #3. Thinking before you act is the skill that helps keep a marriage together.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 11:19 PM
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Keep chasing the dragon. Find a better stacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 11:15 PM
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Lol, this isn't a case of "maybe it'll rain". This hypothetical scenario is one that you control at every step of the way. This is like a 4-step process with poor decisions the whole way to get there.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 11:12 PM
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I'm confused about why you're worried about such a niche, unlikely problem that can be entirely solved or avoided with decisions that would cost you hardly anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 11:07 PM
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I guess I'm confused as to why you'd plan to have kids with a guy you plan to divorce you and control you with the kids. There's several layers of bad decision making to get to that point that can be easily avoided at any step.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 10:58 PM
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I mean, if you don't want them, don't have them
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 10:53 PM
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Weird. Well, if you want you're welcome to my yard compost bin. You can be like the homeless guy of weird herbal shit instead of cans.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 10:10 PM
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Tuesdays are frame day. Thursdays are bed-frame day. Not to be confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 10:04 PM
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I have a gingko tree but I don't think that's what you're talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 10:01 PM
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If everything's brown or grey then it doesn't matter the world is full of mud
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 10:01 PM
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We've got a roomba and it's just not her type
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 09:42 PM
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Oh my god. Where's Automatic when you need him
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 09:37 PM
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Mondays are headboard day
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 09:36 PM
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Dick robots have been around since before I hit puberty and I'm still gainfully employed.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 09:35 PM
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Same deal if I make a grilled cheese from kraft singles.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 07:52 PM
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You can dislike a trend of people misrepresenting themselves without hating half the world's population.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 07:51 PM
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Baby prep, learning some Japanese, dealing with fallout from the election at work.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 07:02 PM
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If you're at university your time is cheap. Just go do things
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 05:20 PM
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She sounds frantic and panicky, which throws giant red flags for dudes. She began to see the wall coming up and turns to jesus? I don't know her history or where she found her two previous boyfriends, but you can't really infiltrate the religious group as an outsider at 27-30 and expect to fit in and find a husband immediately. Sounds like an early mid-life crisis. Guys don't want to commit to someone in that level of panic. Accept that your dating market isn't the same as an early 20's girl and…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 05:12 PM
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Sounds childish, I'd be honest and tell her as such.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 05:03 PM
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Fashion tends to follow the generation. Looking to an older generation doesn't make a lot of sense to predict fashion trends, because their trends follow them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 06:36 AM
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The demographic seems to be pretty evenly split, actually. Women and extroverts probably have more fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 06:35 AM
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"Live, laugh, love" Thanks, I was dead, stoic and hateful before I read that. All better now.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 05:09 AM
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I think it falls pretty reliably along introverted/ extroverted lines
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 05:08 AM
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I'm the immovable object the unstoppable force needs to push to get me in there. I'm not even in sight of that line.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 04:19 AM
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Have security chase you out and get back to me
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 04:05 AM
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No offense but that's the lamest "I'll make it fun" I've ever heard. I was hoping for like dancing naked and security chasing you out stories or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 04:03 AM
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I guess I forget that people do hard drugs and call that a good time
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 04:02 AM
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Well now you've piqued my interest
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 04:01 AM
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This supports my theory so I'm going to ignore everyone else's data points and exclusively use yours to make myself appear more correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 03:59 AM
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You cannot convince me that every man who goes and pretends to have a good time dancing is not there looking for ladies.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 03:58 AM
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If I can't figure out the meaning of life from the couch life isn't worth living
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 03:51 AM
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You'll make it fun...?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 03:50 AM
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Worth it is up to your interpretation. Dancing isn't my thing so that's not even on my radar as something people could enjoy but that's just a me problem
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 03:49 AM
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That's more of a woman thing but sure I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 03:48 AM
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Indeed the untz untz ones
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 03:47 AM
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I need data points to settle an argument. For those of you who go to or have been to clubs, what percentage of the time would you say it was "worth it". Worth it meaning there's people there you want to meet/ interact with/ bang and you were successful, versus it being a sausage fest or lame or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 03:03 AM
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You don't need luck
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 02:57 AM
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Someone's gotta do the dirty jobs
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 02:36 AM
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If you spend a lot of time together, especially when you're younger, it's pretty easy to infer. My relationship is an extreme where we were both kids so we know we're both 1, but if you're hanging out in college and share a friend group, word gets around. If you've never met each other until you're 30, you'll eventually find out but it will take time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 01:14 AM
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Mad respect. And now if you ever have someone you don't like you can just stab your old battery and throw the burning battery in their car or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 01:12 AM
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Matt Gaetz for AG is a pretty good baseline for absurd
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 12:43 AM
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np.reddit.com/r/johnoliver/comments/1gs6ib7/joke_or_reality_john_oliver_called_the_results/ Skynet is the good guy, we need saving from ourselves
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 12:37 AM
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I genuinely feel sorry for most women because they will never experience the ecstasy of repairing an electronic device. I replaced my phone battery with a relatively new one and it lasts so long now.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 12:18 AM
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Tsk tsk
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 03:49 AM
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Did you make broth from scratch?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 03:46 AM
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Yeah, aunt in law. She's nuts.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 03:44 AM
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A lot of women are in to virtual signaling, which this and 4b stuff essentially boils down to. Relationship martyrdom to show how committed they are to the cause. A chat with the girls isn't a big enough audience for that martyrdom hit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 12:16 AM
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I guess I lump RMV stuff in with rule 1 since it's attractive, but yes it is more nuanced than that. Women don't like cheaters as far as RMV goes, but understand that sexlessness leads to that outcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 12:12 AM
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Anyone recording and posting their own breakup as content is going to be a certain threshold of vain and psychopathic, so I wouldn't read into it too much. That said, I do think couples should politically align, especially if you intend to raise kids. A difference in values on that front is a huge point of marital friction.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 12:04 AM
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Seems to mostly overlap with other standard principles of attraction. Passive dread is just following Rule #1 and 2, active dread is just showing that if you wanted, you can get what you want elsewhere?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 11:56 PM
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Yeah, it seems like it's mostly a tool to repair a DB with some other common sense "be attractive" points that you'd hear anywhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 11:35 PM
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I guess I've always had a lot of female friends so maybe I'm not calibrated. I've got a lot of couple friends, though and couple friends seem to have other couple friends. Not sure how much distance is an arm's length but interactions seem to be in a group.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 11:33 PM
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I feel like that's the default for most normal people with opposite gender friends, though
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 11:26 PM
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Ah, so rather than just jealousy existing, you're wielding it as a semi-manipulation tactic
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 11:24 PM
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“Dread” is putting the fear or ‘dread’ in your wife that you have other opportunities and other options rather than being chained to her whims. They HATE it- or at least they will TELL you they hate it- but women are irresistibly attracted to men who have options. This is well known as "Secondary Selection" or "Pre-selection Bias." I think my wife's got a case of this
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 11:23 PM
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Why they gotta invent a new word for jealousy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 11:15 PM
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"Where are our 2023 tax forms, the IRS is saying we need them for some reason"
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 11:14 PM
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What is dread/ dread game?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 11:08 PM
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Can't make an omelet without breaking a few eggs
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 11:00 PM
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Just graduate to FunEducation2026 and make a flair
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 10:43 PM
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Pre-brain worms
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 10:42 PM
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N-count is a symptom of behaviors and attitudes toward sex. Between two people who view sex should only happen in the context of a monogamous committed relationship, someone with 3 and someone with 5 would be a good fit if they've only had it with medium/ LTRs. If that same person with a count of 5 meets a person with 7 who had half of their encounters as a spontaneous ONS, they're far less likely to be on the same page about sex, even though their counts aren't too far off. You do not get to hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 04:52 PM
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Girlfriend requirements plus all of the traits you'd want in a business partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 05:32 AM
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If you're not physical it's platonic
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 03:06 AM
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I'll be your alien wingman and hype you up. Tell the alien babes you're a human 10/10
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 03:04 AM
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"I'm just a girl"
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 02:59 AM
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Grandma is just wife with experience. Sounds qualified
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 02:56 AM
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Lol, okay
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 10:50 PM
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Whether you agree or not is irrelevant. No man without a cuck fetish values a woman more for having had sex with more men. Given the option of two identical women in every way except one woman has slept around a lot and the other hasn't, for a long term monogamous relationship, dudes will pick the perceived safer option every time. We can get into bs like paternity certainty, cheating statistics, but it doesn't really matter because there's no downsides to a lower n-count, and there are plenty t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 10:35 PM
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You can't prove a negative. People say "I've changed" and have changed, people say "I've changed" and have not changed. The only way to know is to accept that risk. People with a lot to lose do not accept big risks like that. If fidelity is critical for you, and you have optionality, it would be insane to pick the person with a sketchy past and "has changed" over the person with a tame past, given all else equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 10:19 PM
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If a man has options he will chose the woman who has sex with just him early, and not anybody else.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 10:15 PM
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This ignores that past predicts future. Whether you study weather patterns or someone's sexual habits, what has happened in the past points to whats likely to happen again. History of cheating? You'll probably get cheated on. History of DB after 6 months? Expect DB in 6 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 06:58 AM
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Act embarrassed about yours and frame asking them as a way to loosen you up?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 06:56 AM
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I just went through the airport and it looked exactly like the stalls there. Gains are good, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 05:27 PM
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Looks like the handicapped stall
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 04:51 PM
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Are you in your socks and undies in a public bathroom?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 04:41 PM
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it’s kinda growing on me Heh, it's growing on you
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 04:34 PM
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Lol, yeah. Some of the advice ones aren't bad though. This one did a pretty good job of cutting through the "men don't like commitment" bs.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 04:29 PM
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Honestly once you're able to attract a woman you're usually able to attract most women. A 4 also likes what a 10 likes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 07:51 PM
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Out of curiosity why are you lumping black and purple together? And I presume spouses/ gfs don't count
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 07:30 PM
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I'll just assume you're a non-native English speaker that's still learning
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 11:43 PM
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You think Trump was a made candidate? Trump ran the same type of campaign, just with more inflammatory language. Established Republicans were hating on Trump until the moment he won the Primary.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 11:31 PM
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The bragging makes it even funnier
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 11:19 PM
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accept the fact reality is on my and always has been I bet your liberal friends are at least literate
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 11:13 PM
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I don't see a lot of anger as the response to that threat.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 11:09 PM
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You're missing the point. If someone's not getting something, threatening to take it away and shoot yourself in the foot just boils down to "the person threatening me is going to shoot themself in the foot, lol"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 11:08 PM
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I can't understand it I know
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 11:06 PM
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I don't think democrats have anyone currently, and that's kind of the point. I'd like to see less top down authority when picking a candidate. They tried to run Hillary in 2008 and she lost because Obama had a great grassroots campaign and he did a good job at speaking to the American public. If they keep trying to run corpo candidates, they shouldn't be surprised when working class people aren't interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 11:06 PM
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You can't threaten to take away something people don't already have. Dude's getting passed over are probably pleased at the idea of the women not having sex with them also abstaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 11:01 PM
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It's more indicative of other reasons/ beliefs why you wouldn't want to be close to them. Support for Trump is usually a symptom of a lot of other things I can understand not wanting to be a part of.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 10:54 PM
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I love the irony of women reducing themselves to men's sex objects for them to "earn" because people hundreds or thousands of miles away voted a particular way.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 10:49 PM
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Those and environmental voters who either abstained or voted for Green party.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 10:48 PM
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IMO Harris was a more compelling candidate than Hillary was, Trump is a less compelling candidate compared to 2016, and yet Harris did worse than Hillary. Democrats are tired of being assigned a candidate. DNC leadership shot down Bernie when he was gaining traction to run Hillary and she lost. Biden was unenthusiastically elected because DNC needed someone milquetoast to run, and Harris was a continuation of the theme of having our candidate selected for us. Not wanting Trump in office is a pow…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 10:46 PM
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He's right. I'm still pissed they snubbed Bernie in 2016 to run Hillary. DNC treats voters like they're blind. We can smell when a candidate has been purchased.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 10:38 PM
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You are correct. Couples often share values/ morals. The conservative couples will continue doing their thing and pumping out Catholic/ Evangelical kids. If liberal women actually had the coordination to sex/ relationship strike en masse (which I highly doubt they'll commit to), they would just drive the men closest to them away, and fail to pass on their values to the kids they're not having. Religious nutjobs will inherit the country be default due to social darwinism.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 10:12 PM
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Can threaten? I voted for Harris. This isn't a "this election" problem. This is an issue the democrats have had since Obama left office. Democrats suck at marketing themselves to anyone other than LGBT folks and minority women. It's not enough, the platform needs to become more appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 10:06 PM
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Good thing white men aren't the #1 or #2 largest voting demographic in the US. I'm sure alienating them won't come back to bite us.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 09:13 PM
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I don't know what you are, you gotta use your own judgement for that. And if you're a 2, that means you could get a 0.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 11:00 PM
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You have to pay it off in 3 years or the mafia will chop off an appendage every month until you are just a head and a torso.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 10:18 PM
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Disagree. Money is great, but two money is even better.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 10:07 PM
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Understandable
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 10:04 PM
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She makes as much as you, if you make nothing, she makes nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 10:04 PM
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If you value low value women though, then their value increases, making them more valuable.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 09:56 PM
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PPD isn't exactly representative of the general population. The people here positively select for not getting any, male and female.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 09:51 PM
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Q4M: You're probably somewhere between a 2 to an 8 out of 10. Would you rather have a girl 1-2 points lower than you in attractiveness who makes about as much as you, or would you rather have a girl 1-2 points higher than you who makes half as much?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 09:48 PM
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Well in my case it's because I'm ugly 😔 They figured it out
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 09:43 PM
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Looking's for free. Touching's gonna cost you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 09:42 PM
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It was indeed personal. As AutomaticMeaning pointed out, fatties can be chadste as well. I doubt chadstity is linked to being skinny, I'd suspect the opposite for exactly the reasons one would expect.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 09:41 PM
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I suspected as much. To honor your honesty, I shall accept your term and add it to the PPD lexicon, but we will need an adjective. Chadste?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 09:39 PM
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Or perhaps it's more personal
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 09:27 PM
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Used to work at a grocery store. They mostly ship it all back up and bring it back to the warehouse. They use the numbers of what didn't get sold to modify production for the next year. All the candy has a shelf life of way longer than you'd like.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 09:22 PM
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Lol, not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 09:20 PM
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I'm curious at to why you're thinking about such a term
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 09:15 PM
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Unlikely, I suspect he's a little chunky himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 07:31 PM
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I'd rather not drink my calories
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 07:30 PM
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I don't get the joke. What makes it funny?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 06:51 PM
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Yeah this takes me back to my church days and my gripes with the forgiveness and letting go sermons. There is always an objective and subjective truth to everything, both matter but to what extent is debatable. I always had disagreements with the line of thinking that if you and god forgive yourself, you're in the clear, which put me at odds with a handful of people when I disagreed. Even if god forgives you, we're not god, and we still have to deal with the consequences. I got to deal with many…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/24 04:40 PM
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Indeed, lol I should not respond when I'm half asleep. Your first response sounded like it could have been and I'm apparently an old man who's confused by the new layout. It's good you and your husband are unbothered by things in the past. I know that not all men and women are capable of leaving things there. I thankfully don't have to deal with much past since I got into my relationship so young, but I am admittedly probably one of the types who'd be bothered by such things. In the end, folks w…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/24 04:05 PM
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Without more context I'm only grasping at straws, so I don't know what the source of your conflict is. If you seem satisfied the source of your conflict and anger is not your past, I guess I'm confused as to why you made a post asking if it's about your past. Again, I don't know the context of your relationship, but if you just flat out have anger issues and he's not doing anything or judging you in any way, then it seems anger management resources would be more appropriate?
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/24 03:27 PM
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I'm getting into the realm of value judgement and speculation about a guy I don't know, but the past always matters for a few reasons: We are a product of our experiences, the core of who we are doesn't change dramatically after we're fully grown. We might learn lessons and do things differently, but the driving forces that led us to do what we do never really goes away except in time, and you're young. His view is likely that you won't cheat, but he can still be jealous for no great reason. His…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/24 05:23 AM
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It's all cosmetic at this point. The hand is fine. I heal quick, still
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 03:54 AM
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If he's as busy as you are, it shouldn't matter. Biggest thing is to not just be pen pals and have some in-face time. My wife and I dated medium distance for all of college. We saw each other for a weekend every other week and survived it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 03:48 AM
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Indeed. Going fast is easy, slowing down rapidly hurts.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 03:45 AM
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Lol, nah. If she has a complex about it, it won't work and you can redirect your energy elsewhere. If she doesn't have a complex about it, it won't matter. If you're funny, you can acknowledge the situation for a laugh, but don't fixate on it or she'll pick up that you're insecure about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 11:01 PM
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Up-front Disclaimer: Low-N count married dude here, take or leave the following: The short story is that a mismatch in how you go about finding sexual partners can definitely cross you off the list for some types of guys, but the majority won't care if you're a good fit for them. I'm not here to judge your relationship, but you might not be a great fit for someone like your bf if you're only 19 and already pissing each other off. I don't know if you have anger issues, but it is likely a response…
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 10:59 PM
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Tall girls are funny. Knew a tall girl (6ft+) who was a literal model in high school. Kinda dumb, with a very big ego. I tried to be friendly but she was pretty rude and I never really talked with her since I took IB classes and she didn't. She ended up going to the same college as me, and she must have been humbled at some point since I'm 90% sure I saw her check me out as I watched the "He's taller than me" gears in her brain going in real time when we bumped into each other during lunch one d…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 10:43 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 10:36 PM
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You will always be a bit busy. The longer you wait the smaller your dating pool becomes. Men get into LTR's and marry at certain points in life, and if you miss it, it's gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 10:27 PM
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You bet https://www8.garmin.com/manuals/webhelp/vivoactive3/EN-US/GUID-3400B50F-181E-40D5-90D8-28F9C941B57A.html#fntarg_1
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 10:11 PM
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Recently healed boo-boo
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 10:06 PM
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You misunderstand, the watch never comes off.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:56 PM
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Who was the RP dude doing the SEA updates? He gets #1. #2 - u/OffTheRedSand for the femboys #8 9 or 10 to SaulBasedman for the big booty babes
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:55 PM
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The scars shouldn't last forever, at least. The right's even more messed up.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:50 PM
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Too much metal; would be suspiciously jangly.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:49 PM
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North Korea
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:47 PM
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Ah screw it. I like my ring at least <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:45 PM
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PTSD triggered right here
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:35 PM
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Ah. So it was a side hoe reveal
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:34 PM
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Mine are scarred to shit
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:33 PM
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Calmly call or email them saying you have them on recording stating they owe you the check, it's past the stated 60 days, you have not received it, and that this is your final attempt to get your money back before you get the law involved. They're in the wrong, keep calm and collected but be firm and let them know that they're in the wrong, and that this is not a negotiation. With a legal threat it and you in the right, 98% odds you'll have it sent that day, if not, small claims court the next w…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:31 PM
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Steakman's gf reveal?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:27 PM
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Seriously, like $4 a dozen.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 08:20 PM
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This proves something, but I'm not sure it's proving what you want it to prove
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 08:18 PM
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I need someone with absolutely no trauma who behaves in a very predictable and stable way. I've got enough duct tape holding me together that I'm fine day to day, but too many wrong button pushes too quickly and I go into fight or flight mode.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 05:42 PM
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I've been in two clubs my whole life and I don't think I've ever been more miserable. I'd have better luck picking up girls at the dog park anyway, not to mention more fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 02:50 AM
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You're extrapolating beyond the point of the example, the what if's aren't relevant to the discussion. I understand people like to be helpful, and I apparently didn't make it clear enough in my example, but I was intending to illustrate an opportunity where instead of showing criticism for someone else's way of doing things a way you view as suboptimal, to instead show appreciation for them taking a responsibility off your plate. If you don't like that particular example given my description, I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 05:07 PM
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Agreed, the original point I was trying to make boils down to "don't sweat the small stuff, and foster positive interactions". Many folks here seem to pick out the negative and get defensive when confronted with this, which I'll admit I enjoy the irony of. A lot of positive interactions will make your partner feel like you're on their side. When they feel that way, it's easy to communicate these types of things without getting defensive, and when the bad things do happen, drowning them with all …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 12:08 AM
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Because the topic isn't "what does a completely one sided dom/ sub relationship look like". It's asking for an example. A single person can submit in some aspects and retain control in others.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 11:34 PM
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I'd agree that most men have sensitive egos, especially younger unproven guys, but this just kind of makes intuitive sense. If someone who feels insecure is getting reprimanded from their "equal" partner, they'll probably respond negatively. I'm just making the case that positive interactions do a better job of paving the way to getting what you want rather than punishing ones. It reminds me of the "emotional bank account" idea. An easy way to make a positive interaction, and reinforce behavior …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 10:52 PM
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I can't speak for every man since I don't know what kind of men y'all are picking, but most men as many of the women here so kindly pointed out are usually open to hearing suggestions that will improve your lives. I don't know many that will be terribly annoyed by "oh, I think that way is faster", or immediately jump to casting blame for missing a turn or something. There are certainly guys with emotional regulation problems, but they're in the minority, and you don't have to pick them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 09:07 PM
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Use your imagination. It's not that hard to find example of things people might do for people they like
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 07:37 PM
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Then you responded incorrectly. The "Feed" in the metaphor is favors, and taking on responsibilities. I would wager every man in a halfway decent relationship does some form of favor for his partner, and takes on a share of the responsibilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 06:44 PM
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I'm not interested in your personal attacks based off limited information, feel free to keep them to yourself. There is more going on that the two examples I've given and I don't have the time to write my whole life story out so that you might approve. I've already explained the answer to your question in other comments, feel free to read them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 06:42 PM
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I am aware of how modern society works. "Don't bite the hand the feeds" is a metaphor, do not take it literally. Perhaps you're not a native English speaker or they don't use it outside the US? The metaphor means don't punish people for doing things that benefit you. If someone does something nice, you say "thanks" and they'll go on to do more nice things for you. If you belittle or criticize them for not doing the favor exactly to your liking, they are much less likely to do the favor for you a…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 06:36 PM
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If your "most basic" example of submission is this much of a joke, I'd hate to see what you think "full submission" looks like 😂 But by all means, ladies, if you wanna tie yourself in ultra submission to a man who can't even hear, "Babe, are you going the right way?" without feeling challenged, then go for it. Have fun I guess. Couldn't be me. Lol I love how people are so quick to make value judgements about strangers based off so little information. This isn't an example from my own life, I'm s…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 06:32 PM
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These are all good and sound like the come from the point of view from someone doing them. It is hard for men to consciously see all the little things, but they are felt and appreciated.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 06:23 PM
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though if it was something i really really cared about i would just do it on my own You can still have a relationship of equals and "submit" in certain areas of your relationship. I've already made the case in other comments, but in my relationship, I handle everything kitchen related. I don't like the level of cleanliness my wife tolerates. I don't like how disorganized she is putting things away, and I'm the better cook (but she is learning). As a result, she "submits" all kitchen authority to…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 06:19 PM
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People get triggered and confused when they see the word "submission". It automatically paints a picture of some oppressed Mormon woman or something and while that's certainly a flavor of it, it's an extreme that does a disservice to the underlying idea. You can have an equal partnership and still submit. Just as the woman in my example submitted her control over the vehicle, the man can submit in other areas in their relationship. You just have to map out what your specific relationship looks l…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 06:13 PM
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At the crux of it, men are 1000x more likely to give you what you want if they like you and perceive being rewarded for it. Men crave female validation, doling it out appropriately is a skill the vast majority of women have not mastered. It can be scary letting aspects of your life be controlled by another person, but if you're with someone competent who likes you, then they have the same motivations as you and a track record of getting things done. It's okay to trust them
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 06:04 PM
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If you equate 5 minutes sitting with your partner to be equivalent to "continually falling on your face", I'd be sorry for your partner. The point was about not sweating the small stuff, and instead of making frequent small negative interactions, focus instead on appreciating that they're doing something for you and removing a responsibility. At work, even if I might be able to do something slightly faster or better than my co-workers, I'm still happy to delegate and "submit" the responsibility …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 05:57 PM
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You're* And no. It's about showing respect and appreciation. It's having the respect and trust for your partner that they will take the correct actions without treating them like a child and managing them. "Submitting" is often framed in the context of "I want an unequal partner who will do whatever I say", but it can go both ways. Just as a man might not want to be managed in the way he does something like drive to your shared destination, he can relinquish control and submit in other aspect of…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 05:49 PM
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The definition of submit is to "accept or yield to a superior force or to the authority or will of another person". It is to accept that you do not have influence over something someone else is doing, rather than try to influence it. I chose driving as my example because "submitting" is pretty much the metaphorical acceptance of another person behind the wheel. You can try to fight it and try to take over or you can submit to what they're doing and say "thanks for driving, I appreciate not havin…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 05:29 PM
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When men say submission, most of them are talking about a woman who is agreeable and trusts him to make good decisions and wants to please him Exactly, it's the "do not bite the hand that feeds" principle. If a woman makes it pleasant for her man to take charge, get things done and do things for her, he will do it more often. If she punishes him doing favors for her by nagging, criticizing, etc, she will not encourage the behavior she wants, but rather discourage him from interacting with her. N…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 05:24 PM
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The most basic way is to not give unsolicited input and to accept his decisions, even if the woman doesn't agree 100% with it. A small example; the man takes what you perceive is a wrong way, taking an extra 5 minutes to get to your destination. Instead of attempting to correct him, you keep your opinion to yourself and thank him for driving. If a woman makes it pleasant for her man to do things for her, he will do it more often. This often means you will have to give up micromanaging him or "su…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 05:16 PM
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"Preselection" is just a word to summarize "If someone else likes him, I should take a closer look". It contextualizes a guy. If the reason you were selected isn't obvious, a woman is more likely to take a closer look to find it. If the reason they like you is obvious (looks), then it gives the woman status to claim you. Anecdotally, I had crushed on the girl who is now my wife for a few years, gave up with her, dated someone else, and as soon as I broke up with the other girl the now wife swoop…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 10:35 PM
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Because the default dating dynamic is that men are expected to deal with their own problems and solve women's problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 12:01 AM
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<image> I do it to everyone. The people who get 3 point GPAs and above don't feel insulted, they just do it back.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 03:20 PM
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I'm very dark brown, not quite black. I at first had maybe 20 hairs at age 21, now I'd say 1 in 100-200 are Grey. Not quite salt and pepper, but I'm almost 30 years old and getting there. Having the darker hair definitely makes the greys stand out.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 05:21 AM
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Of course the 2 point-something GPA would rather play checkers than chess
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 11:51 PM
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Yeah but I started dating the girl I'm married to at age 15, so the greys didn't factor much in there.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 11:35 PM
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"On the farm, kids are free labor. In the city, kids are expensive pets"
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 11:21 PM
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Genes*
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 11:20 PM
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Yes. I don't want to be one taxpayer paying for 2 retired people's pensions/ social security. And for some reason old people keep voting to give themselves more money instead of setting up a government funded furnace where we can chuck them as they retire.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 11:17 PM
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I found my first greys at 21. Hasn't helped me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 11:01 PM
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Ultimately, companies and their writers have the authority to kill whatever IP they want to be inserting their short lived values into it. We can be grumpy about it, or we can continue enjoying the good things from it while we wait for the next good thing. It just makes it easier to save money in the meantime. I used to love Star Wars and Disney pretty much killed it for me. I was bummed about it for a while, but then I got into BattleTech stuff since I wanted a new good sci-fi IP to dig into. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:29 PM
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I mentioned this to Serpent, but yeah in general gaming has pulled the Disney move of shoving "the message" down your throat, but ultimately the problem fixes itself. We don't buy games we don't like, we do buy the games we do like. Stuff like Concord and Outlaws lose money, stuff like Helldivers and Baldur's Gate make loads of money. When media companies lecture their players, they spend their money elsewhere, the problem fixes itself as soon as the shareholders get tired of losing money.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:19 PM
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And then they die out because people stop buying them. We can complain about the insertion of certain values down our throat all day, but ultimately it only matters if enough people buy it, which they largely aren't. Two example games have inclusivity in them: Mass Effect and Concord, which one feels like its forcing "the message" down your throat? Which one isn't making any money, and is causing its studio to go under? The problem corrects itself, no need to ignore all the good stuff that's out…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:14 PM
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I'm floating two conversations here so I'm repeating myself a bit, but it's also a byproduct of who's playing what genres. Straight dudes are usually playing action adventures games where there's not much social decisions to be made and more shooting at stuff to be done. Women tend to more frequently play games where there's less of a competitive element and more social dynamics to explore. Their romance options show up in games like Stardew Valley/ The Sims, etc, and there's straight options th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 10:56 PM
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Action adventure games tend to appeal less to women in general, so it's natural they'd more frequently feature male protagonists. Straight female protagonists will be more rare just due to market dynamics. Male players want to romance women, news at 11? Games where women are more likely to play tend to have more diverse social interaction options. I've seen loads of women play games like the sims, harvest moon, hell I've seen animal crossing crushes, and they usually feature romance options, str…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 10:52 PM
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Because half or more of games that feature romance at all probably tend to be RPGs, which is why it's so easy to name them. Games with a linear story tend to be more infrequently targeted at female players, so they will less frequently go with a female-only protagonist to begin with, reducing your sample size.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 10:48 PM
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Missed that, got it now. Seems like cherry picking to discount the genre where the most and the best romance writing takes place though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 10:42 PM
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Ah, missed the discounted RPGs. RPG's tend to have the better romance stories so it seems odd to leave them out of the equation. Mass Effect, Larian Studios stuff (Baldur's Gate) and Fire Emblem Three Houses have some of the best romance stories out there. It seems disingenuous to formulate a hypothesis but where most of your data points will come from.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 10:32 PM
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I haven't watched them in forever. I think it's been since mid college. Good stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 10:17 PM
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Bioware stuff, like Mass Effect Femshep x Garrus/ Thane/ Kaidan/ Jacob (🤮) etc Any Fire Emblem. Example: Female Byleth and whoever you want (Sylvain or Dimitri is the correct choice). Skyrim female dragonborn and whoever Witcher 3's Ciri has some brief romances with charming fellows Honorable mention to Legend of Zelda. You play as Zelda in some of the games and you know they banging.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 10:16 PM
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Goood mythical morning!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 10:07 PM
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Not blue hair, but yeah. Ironically am/ was friends with a handful of them. They're now almost exclusively gay, so they stuck to their guns I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 09:15 PM
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This is where people need to get over fear of rejection, and gain some skill in not applying pressure. Unless you're in Asia or something where a confession is kind of a big deal, it doesn't need to be high stakes. "I have to tell you something" is way too serious for casual friends. Give it room and allow for de-escalation if she's not interested. Take her aside and go with something along the lines of: "Hey, I always have a great time hanging out with you. I think you're cute and I'd love to s…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 07:02 PM
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I'm not advocating for a loveless marriage, I'm just saying people should shift their priorities from feeling as #1 to the pragmatic things as #1. As long as both parties treat each other with respect, it is a lot easier for love to thrive in a household where you're not stressed about the things if we have enough money, if he's gambling, looking at insta girls, if she's talking to other guys, if she's spending way more than she should, etc. I love my wife, but there's no "we're soulmates", on t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 04:38 PM
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Tell your non-rational side that shared finances and not worrying about how you'll pay the bills is mega-sextastic.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 04:22 PM
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I've witnessed a lot of marriages, both good and bad. Most of the ones that end are ones with lots of feelings and a nebulous purpose. The relationships that last tend to have both parties making a shared plan and acting on it. The hard part of life is managing a household and potentially raising kids. Any illusions you have of a person get shattered as soon as money becomes an issue. If money is handled and both parties are pragmatic, it is a lot easier to be happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 04:20 PM
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Soulmates is a hollywood/ teenager thing. People who believe in that crap past age 21 get preyed upon until they're 40, single and with two kids. Adult relationships are mostly pragmatism with sex thrown in. The best thing you can do for yourself is to be attracted to the most stable/ successful single dude you can identify and be the type of person the stable type of guy wants to marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 03:56 PM
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I think we're settling on one but we're keeping it a secret. No one in our social circle-adjacent is pregnant (yet, some friends might be trying now), but we're superstitious that if we put it out there the name will be taken by someone we know. I realize that rationale makes no sense, but we have to prepare for things not making sense anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 03:50 PM
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She's doing good, thanks for asking. Wrapping up trimester 2, and its been relatively easy so far. She does complain regularly about him dancing on her bladder, though. I get in trouble when I make her laugh too much. We've in the buying baby stuff off FB marketplace phase and yesterday we made a detour to pick up a $20 of nerf guns because we're adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 03:43 PM
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I've got a proven track record. Go with the brand you can trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 03:38 PM
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Should have learned how to run fast, got some pokemon cards and hung out with the boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 10:23 PM
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That's just kind of how some early school relationships are, especially with girls who are more social and less "do". Boys have it a little easier because their hierarchy is essentially in order of who runs the fastest. Girls have some black magic voodoo equations to establish who is on top.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 09:57 PM
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"Looking busy" is probably a negative skill to learn, but sucking up/ schmoozing is a great skill to have. It's so easy to get on someone's good side early when little is expected of you, and after you're on their good side it's so hard to mess up.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 09:55 PM
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Childhood is full of examples of "The better you treat them, the worse they'll treat you".
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 09:48 PM
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I was taught the ease and value of lying when you've built good rapport with authority figures. My teachers always liked me because I was smart and could follow instruction, which made it really easy to get away with stuff. In 3rd or 4th grade, I made it a habit to finish my classwork early, grab one of those Goosebumps books after and knock one out per day. My teacher, being so impressed at my diligent work ethic did not notice when I started sneaking in my Gameboy halfway through the year, com…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 09:40 PM
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My dog doesn't taste her food so her treats are just the usual food kibbles.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 09:29 PM
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Lol, if you force them to think about how things end up and they have more than a few brain cells to rub together, they'll probably make the wiser choices. It's just a race to see what finishes first, puberty or the development of those brain cells. Thanks again.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 03:56 PM
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Thanks for asking, baby boy expected early next year, so as of now I don't have this exact conversation on my docket yet. That said, I've spent some time working with kids and I find the most effective way to get them to do what's wise (for either gender) is to present a question along the lines of "What is the type of person you want to end up with? What is the type of person that person wants? Are you the type of person/ doing the type of things that makes you two a good fit for each other?". …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 03:41 PM
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Hence my drawing a distinction between the two.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 02:37 AM
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Short answer is no, but you're not helping yourself. You're not more likely to be assaulted because of reputation, but you might be likely to be assaulted because you tend to put yourself in more dangerous situations. Being alone with men you don't know can be an inherently dangerous activity, if you're putting yourself in situations where you're alone with many different men, you're more likely to end up in a bad spot compared to women who don't do that. If your reputation is going to do you an…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 11:30 PM
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I listened to a story today about a mathematician at MIT who had kind of a weird and somewhat stringent list of requirements for a girlfriend, some standard stuff like "Has to be decently attractive, has to be within 50 miles of me, same age range", and some weirder ones like "has to share my love for [some obscure] mathematics". He calculated the probability of meeting said woman in a given period of time and it was like 1/6,000,000 odds. However, by the time his report had been released into t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 10:20 PM
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Gaslighting is a muscle that needs to be exercised. Dating is an easy area to gaslight in.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 09:05 PM
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I'm reverting back to a pogo phase. My music tastes are so comprehensively broken https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bl5TUw7sUBs
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 08:40 PM
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How irresponsible of you. Think of the children!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 08:36 PM
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Honestly yeah. I don't think I've talked to any women who aren't leaving a DV situation, but I've heard women complain about the same thing, I know the "I don't want help, I just want to vent!" is a meme, but I clearly outline how they either fix it, or that they should leave, they do nothing and I hear the same story two weeks later. Like, what a waste of both of our time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 08:35 PM
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Does it count as "single" if you've been with him for a decade?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 08:30 PM
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Or go the opposite: "Thanks babe, your boobs are so great, it doesn't matter you're not that smart"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 08:49 PM
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Just send her this: <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 08:44 PM
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Don't know where you live, but I've never met anyone IRL who'd feel comfortable enough to make it known they were pro-cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 08:12 PM
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Wat
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 06:56 PM
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Sure, I don't have statistics, but I usually don't seem them very often outside of a few men on PPD. Not sure where you're seeing them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 06:56 PM
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my crazy racist father
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 06:43 PM
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Not sure what subs you're on other than PPD, but I don't get that impression.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 06:42 PM
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It only applies if you want kids and you're still single.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 10:51 PM
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What's your BMI? Do you deserve a healthy (19-21 BMI) woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 10:50 PM
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I picked that number so it wouldn't discount people twice. It's a rough guess but I'd assume the average guy in finance is making $75k or more.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:39 AM
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Thanks. Don't ask me how much daycare is gonna cost.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 12:14 AM
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While they might physically be closer to you, unless you're able to peer into their soul and determine immediately if they have your two most specific asks; a finance background and a trust fund, you will still have to filter through hundreds of men. While figuring out of they're in finance might not take too long, not many guys won't disclose if they have a trust or not, and if you're asking they might assume you're a gold digger/ not marriage material. It will take time to filter through that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 12:11 AM
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That's probably the likely option.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 12:06 AM
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It doesn't matter if those people are "around". If I live in any large city there's dozens of millionaires "around", it doesn't mean I'm in their social circles. For fun and for scale, let's see how likely it is you'll find someone who meets your criteria: - Likelihood of finding an unmarried men, aged 20-40, at least 5'10", not obese and making at least $75k since I assume you want an employed guy: 2% - Finding a man in finance: 4137930 people in the US, or 5.5% of working men. - Finding a man …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 11:35 PM
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That shit's too late, assuming he's not just making up stories.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 11:13 PM
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I got through college on a 2008 Honda Rebel 250. I got it with 800 miles on it for $2300. It had 11.5 horsepower, and the 1/2 actually mattered. I didn't get a smartphone until after I had a job.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 11:11 PM
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You're describing a less than 1/1000 statistic. Unless you're already hanging out with finance people, probably not. Are you a 1/1000 kind of girl?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 11:08 PM
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Allegedly he does it "privately" and doesn't have a lawyer/ contract. Place your bets.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 11:06 PM
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We're starting a pool. My money's on the first child support case being in February of 2025. Place your guesses.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 10:05 PM
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It's anonymous until it isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 09:40 PM
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Courts can order tests, the state LOVES to establish paternity.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 09:34 PM
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Lol, PPD should start a betting pool for how long it'll take until you start owing child support. My money's on early 2025.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 09:31 PM
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You do it privately? Do you have a lawyer?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 09:29 PM
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Doesn't the state limit how much one person can donate so you don't accidentally have siblings that grow up, meet and bang, while not knowing they're half siblings?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 09:25 PM
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Yeah, it's not some safe room. If your body detects something wrong, it's happy to flush it down, though usually after the first 10-12 weeks you're in the clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 09:22 PM
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The wall’s not really real. If they want a kid or want a man who might want kids it definitely is. Unless you're going for a shotgun wedding, and don't want the option to have more than 1-2 kids, 30-32 is pretty much the last call for finding a partner and having enough time to vet the dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 08:08 PM
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You can’t have sex until you’re married Lol, this was not my experience with Christianity/ Christians. I guess I don't know your religion, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 08:04 PM
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Yeah, I stand by what I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 07:50 PM
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Hmm, yeah I can't really debate you there. Uh, I guess I don't have many spicy topic, either. Guns are good? The wall is real? Trans people are ____?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:54 PM
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Eh, if you're paying taxes I think you should get a vote in the representative who determines how its spent.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:45 PM
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You gotta give us something to work with here, one man's uncontroversial is another man's controversial. Here's an easy one, who are you voting for?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:44 PM
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We’ve revisited our discussions about life goals and money and retirement several times during our marriage. This is not the same thing as planning your divorce strategy. Every marriage with literate occupants have these discussions regularly, but I haven't seen many that continue to paint a picture of what separation looks like until separation looks likely. And regarding your friend, I presume she's initiating the divorce. Will doing so put her at risk of homelessness, or some other form of ri…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:41 PM
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I could have outdated information, but I don't believe women have the ability to spontaneously die after being subdued.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:30 PM
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I'll hold my opinion of religious folk's values, but my wife and I had enough time to vet each other and know what our actual values were. I won't pretend to be knowledgeable enough to advise others on how to see through the rose-tinted glasses, but meeting young and having lots of time prior to marriage really helped in my case.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:23 PM
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Some people just want to be married, even if it's at the expense of having a good marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:16 PM
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Life is dynamic. My marriage is young and it's already 5 years old. Any plans I would have made prior to it would have been obsolete within a few years. You said you and your husband had a conversation before marriage. 17 years later, how much of it is still relevant? A marriage comes with a legal framework for a lot of this stuff already. If it becomes relevant, you use the framework you've agreed to, this can include a prenup if you married older. You can formulate a plan for this stuff when/ …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:12 PM
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Of course, women are always at greater risk. Physically, financially, emotionally the average man is more resilient than the average woman, but women don't have to have kids with someone they don't trust. This is why marriage exists, you make a partnership out of what you both excel at. I want companionship and kids, but can't grow a baby myself. She wants the same things but can't handle the risk/ labor of child rearing on her own. When we marry, the risks are mitigated, we both get what we wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 05:57 PM
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Yup. A lot of people get miffed by the idea of one partner "needing" the other, but I don't know any decent IRL relationships where those in it aren't vulnerable. If you're spending your time practicing being independent, you will be great at being alone, and bad at being in a relationship. Codependency can be bad once it gets beyond a certain point, but it's required in a marriage to some extent, especially if you're starting a family.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 04:33 PM
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I'm not "traditional" traditional, but I'm going through the motions of the typical marriage and at the having kids phase, so I can relate. The fact is, there will always be a power imbalance regardless of how much you make if you're planning on having kids. If you're approaching the relationship with a mindset of "how do I protect myself" or "how do I take advantage of my superior position", you're not following any tradition I'm aware of. If you're going into the marriage planning your exit st…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 03:31 PM
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When you account for inflation my N-count is up to 1.34. What's the whore threshold?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 08:15 PM
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I'd take my chances. If I don't like the country conscripting me, I'll consider it free training and networking if I want to pull a Red Revolution when we get back.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 09:41 PM
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Aligning ideologies is one of the more important factors when considering a relationship, especially since in the US authoritarianism tends to be on the rise and no one really appreciates "the other" voting against their liberties. And she's good, thanks for asking. Apparently having your organs squished is no fun, though. Being hungry all the time while having a physically smaller stomach is a frustrating conundrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 09:16 PM
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Since I guess it needs explaining and this place is the death of humor; The phrase "take the democrat pill" was intended to be a joke to highlight the fact that values between single men on PPD and a lot of the single women out there in the world are vastly different and actually tend to matter when it comes to dating, rather than strictly focusing on surface level features like one's appearance. I hope that was dry enough for PPD to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:59 PM
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Yes, the post was mostly a joke to highlight this very fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:55 PM
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Well it's kinda gay to be dreaming about men, and most gay/ bisexual men are democrats, so.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:54 PM
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I don't recall telling men to mask to get women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:52 PM
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My state is closed primary. https://www.businessinsider.com/which-states-have-open-or-closed-democratic-primaries-2019-11
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:51 PM
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Depends on the specifics of the question and who's asking, but I've never answered with one of those two. I answer differently depending on what I assume their politics are. I'm on average probably fairly center, but registered Democrat so I can vote in the primaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:45 PM
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In the US you don't get to vote in the primaries if you're not registered one way or the other. I like to have a say in the primaries since it's the only vote I get that matters in my state.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:39 PM
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Apparently very few people date outside of their own political party, but most never-married women are are democrats at a higher rate than men. Single men, have you taken the democrat pill?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:34 PM
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I don't think you can either? Wasn't claiming you were, I just see it a lot with people here confusing what the purpose of having opposite gendered friends is. Having female friends isn't a dating strategy, but it does make it way easier to access and vet potential partners. If you don't want female friends, just a dating partner, collecting female friends is not going to fix your issue. However, the person who has a lot of practice having fun interactions with women who enjoy spending time with…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 03:39 PM
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I don't even think it's an unpopular opinion but most women have a trash sense of humor. The average guy is so much funnier than the average woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 12:16 AM
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I'm trying to get a basic idea of the amount of time I'll need to put into get something out of the advice that could be a new close friend, a romantic relationship, a fwb The way this was presented makes it appear like it's a little Machiavellian. Most of the (good) IRL relationships I know have started with the couple as friends first. If you're both single, have mutual attraction and know you jive well together, it's very easy to convert a friend into a relationship. You cannot, however make …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 12:10 AM
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This was when I was in high school, so take it with a grain of salt. I've always had a lot of female friends/ a mixed cohort of friends. My wife had been a friend for several years before we started dating. When I actually indicated my interest we started dating immediately. I was not friends with any of my female friends because my goal was to date them, I was friends with them because I enjoyed their company. If this was not the case, I probably would have not been successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 11:43 PM
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Hi, I guess I wanted to ask red-pill men Married male perspective here; take it or leave it. The TL;DR is yes, it's real, but I think the term is a bit of a misnomer. If you're looking for a relationship rather than just a hook-up, there are a million more factors to consider than what goes into pure sexual attraction. Value is in the eye of the beholder, and its calculated differently depending on who you ask. Men that aren't interested in commitment at the moment will value characteristics tha…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 09:52 PM
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Kind of. 1 example: women account for the majority of all purchases, so most things we use/ consume are tailored to appealing to them: https://girlpowermarketing.com/statistics-purchasing-power-women/
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 04:44 PM
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Because she has time to date, just no time to date him. You make time for those you want to keep.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 11:07 PM
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We probably have technology to inject a cheesecake intravenously or something. We'll get it in 'ya, don't worry.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 09:34 PM
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I'll just let him take it with the assumption he won't wear it. Over the next year, make a note of where he stores it, and steal it once he's forgotten about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 09:03 PM
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We'll just lock you in a Ford F-150 with a cheesecake and a 2-liter of coke.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 09:00 PM
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Save the text as backup and just post it here if it's removed
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 08:34 PM
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The turkish guy memes are pretty good, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 08:32 PM
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Visit the US, we'll straighten you out.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 08:31 PM
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“History doesn't repeat itself, but it often rhymes”
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:55 PM
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Let's be honest he's a blonde-haired blue eyed 9/10. Can you honestly say you're his looksmatch?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:34 PM
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Because your relationship with your cat is toxic. Makes you pick up his shit, probably abuses you, uses you for food and never pays for anything. Cats are giga-chad and you're just their simp.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:21 PM
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Sorry, didn't know that "When your wife cheats on you, it will also be exclusively your fault." was your idea of civil.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:48 PM
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Oof. If you're single and want the marriage and kids thing, the wall is age 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:42 PM
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If you're going to accuse someone of having a non-argument at least wait a couple comments before attempting personal jabs. Don't get me wrong I like a good chuckle when people splash around attempting to produce something coherent, but no one likes a hypocrite.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:40 PM
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Essentially. There's a lot of single men, if none of them want to commit to you, what's the likely common denominator?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:27 PM
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I've already hashed this out with someone else. Monkey branching is a dumb man's game, I don't concern myself with what self-destructive dumb men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:26 PM
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Just because you don't know how to pick women who stick around doesn't mean everyone suffers from the same issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:25 PM
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Ah, I see. Even then I'm not sure it's luck per say, but just being trained how to pick. Some women are one and done, they know what they want, some women just want to feel the feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 04:26 AM
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I guess it boils down to pairing up young. By the time you're in your mid 20's it might be too late already. I didn't grow up when RP content was popular so I didn't have this stuff bombarding me when my brain was still developing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 04:23 AM
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I know probably a dozen dudes in high school/ college who were having sex with girls their own age who weren't unattractive. Looks help get you your looksmatch, but if you're not chasing Stacies, you don't have to be a 10.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 04:22 AM
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You just said two contradictory things. If there "has to be an opportunity to look", but your ideal choice might have been your 5th or your 10th, then excessively looking and settling on your 101st was objectively the wrong strategy. If you'd figured out your wants by the second or third house, you'd have done much better.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 04:07 AM
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Having good values doesn't help you get laid at the end of the day. For the layperson, it unironically does. If you've got top 99% looks, or loads of money, game, etc, you can probably get what you want when you want and you're probably not on PPD as a result. A LOT of the guys here who would love to participate in the casual sex scene bring nothing to the table that would interest those women, they'd probably do much better with a different attitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 04:02 AM
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One thing I've noticed about men on PPD compared to real life is that a much larger portion of them seem less principled. I know I can't read the minds of everyone I interact with IRL, but the "f*ck you, I'm gonna get mine" set of values is pretty alien compared to the men I know who actually have good relationships. I've almost never seen a man's duty or loyalty brought up here in topics, and of my high quality married female friends, one of those two things are usually #1 or #2 on their list o…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:51 AM
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If you're hiding the relationship because you know your partner wouldn't like what's going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 01:57 AM
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You find friends doing things or by existing a certain way. "Oh, these are my ultimate Frisbee friends/ these are my friends from church". When the context is gone, the friendship becomes much harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 01:52 AM
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I like being able to learn things quickly. I, hypocritially, hate that people get a lot of their interactions through social media, yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 01:49 AM
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On average men make more, especially if kids are involved, so yes if you narrow down your dating pool to women who will make as much as you when you destroy your family you've been building, you have the option to maybe save a few thousand. Still not a great plan, in my view.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 01:47 AM
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Okay? Homewrecking is not a past-time of intelligent goal-driven men. Why are we wasting time discussing self-destructive idiots?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 01:42 AM
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I don't know many non-idiots who would go through the expense of marrying, probably having kids, and then eating the monetary cost of divorce, maybe spousal and child support indefinitely. The social cost of being a cheater/ monkey brancher and the familial outcast status of all of that and for the prize of being with a homewrecker. Are some men that dumb? Sure. Do I give a shit about them and what they do? Not really.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 12:54 AM
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If a man is dating with the intention of marrying and having kids, which many do, then it is counter to his goals to divorce and start over (and expensive). Most men do not willingly choose to do things that are expensive and counter to their goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 12:36 AM
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Stay with the men they found and married, probably. If she's good at being a wife then why would a man want to willingly go back out on the dating market when he already won?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 12:11 AM
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Use new.reddit and the redirector extension if you want it to be permanent.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 12:08 AM
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If it is a actual date and the woman is a good find, she has more to lose. The dating market is a market, a good woman can afford to find a guy willing to front the risk of paying for the first date. You will get what you're willing to pay for. If the price of a dinner gets you on the right footing with a feminine girl you're attracted to, that's a great use of a few dollars. The real world doesn't care about social justice, moaning about it shows your value.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 12:01 AM
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Da, Comrade <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 11:34 PM
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No (praise be to Allah)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 11:32 PM
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I'm sure this will catch me some flak here, but if you're bookkeeping before the first date has even started you will not get laid, and you will not get a second date. A date is just a get-together with sexual opportunity. Sexual opportunities are more expensive for women than they are for men, if the math is going to work out you have to make that up somehow. Pay for the dinner and eat the risk, it's only $20-50. If you can't afford that, make an effort and plan something nice but inexpensive. …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 11:30 PM
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GF - Goin' fighting
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 10:53 PM
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I've got a history of addiction on both sides of the family, I'm not risking it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 10:44 PM
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Receive compliment from Stacy: Probably boring, likely talks about my shirt or something. Receive compliment from the mighty Temüjin: Exciting, will probably spare my life in the coming slaughter.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 10:36 PM
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It's likely their standards or behaviors haven't improved, which might hint as to why they're a single parent. Pick a deadbeat guy/ cheater -> now you need to replace dad. She has issues that drive men away -> you'll probably be driven away. As a child of a single mother, I can tell you standards weren't the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 08:29 PM
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Yeah, except unironically and with more anal.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 06:54 PM
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Lol. Think of it this way, women will be way less likely to satisfy your breeding fetish if they're not allowed reproductive health services without the government breathing down their neck.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 06:45 PM
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I've got Mormon family in Utah and have Mormon friends where I live. The "Mormon women are so reserved" thing is a myth. The church is practically encouraging young men and women to go at it, so long as they're both in the church, they get married if there's a pregnancy, and the church can keep the kids in the system. Apparently their parties go hard and they can do some insane mental gymnastics to call themselves virgins before marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 06:42 PM
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You mean that it's rare she's still single past 21-23 ish.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 06:11 PM
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You've already broadcast you're overweight and provided some insight as to why. It's a tad late to be getting defensive about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 06:07 PM
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Your league is what you attract This concept doesn't work in the real world. Everyone isn't picking from a lineup of every available person with omnipotent information about each and every one of them. Women filter their photos, men lie to make themselves look like a better option, and sometimes you just might physically be located in an area with few single people. People are just less available, as you age, those in your age group who are still available will be lower and lower quality. If you…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 06:02 PM
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From google: 3 eggs: 234 Calories 2 Pieces of Bacon: 86 calories 2 pieces of white bread: 160 calories 1 oz of cheese: 114 calories Total: ~600 calories, which is medium to low satiety and 100 calories outside the range of a typical low calorie meal.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 05:57 PM
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If I'm a LVM then why have I won so many physical fights against men that have a higher smv than I do? Unless you're having sex with the men you defeat, your physical fighting prowess doesn't mean much if you're not marketing it correctly. There's not much real world value in winning fights.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 05:49 PM
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Just rent a lambo to take some pictures in front of and start a podcast about "the grind" that primarily appeals to 16-19 year-olds.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 05:47 PM
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No, I think we've just got a peek at an explanation if that's considered low calorie.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 05:47 PM
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I love my greasy cheesy foods as much as the next guy, but it's by no means low calorie.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 05:45 PM
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It's not unhealthy, it's just 4 very calorie dense foods.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 05:44 PM
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I can see how you reached 258.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 05:04 PM
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And men will buy a $110k electric truck that gets used like a 2008 Honda Odyssey because the CEO is a "genius" and somehow not see the cognitive dissonance when their new truck has been receiving repairs for half of the time they've owned it and said CEO's company's sales are rapidly plummeting. There's dumb women, there's dumb men. Dumb people get scammed.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 04:42 PM
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Women worship looks in both genders while men tend to worship success in other men. Men will simp over millionaires with a social media platform, or billionaires on twitter, while women will thirst over hot men or religious follow an already attractive woman's makeup routine or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 04:11 PM
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You'd be good to go if your husband ditched tomorrow?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 08:50 PM
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Like, doing stuff together, enjoying your time, and making plans to do it again? I don't invite people I don't trust to hang out and spend the night at my house. I'm not making you hand-made sushi if I think you're an ass. We're not driving to Yellowstone together in the same car if I don't like you, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 08:49 PM
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Mostly just messing with you. Plenty of women could take or leave sex, that's not that crazy, especially if you tend to pick underperformers.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 08:43 PM
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The winners have to go on a date
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 08:40 PM
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Men you've dated haven't offered you dick?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 08:35 PM
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Most shows and movies that are or are going to be timeless will showcase front and center male/ female cooperation. Things like Avatar, The Expanse, Firefly, The Incredibles, Star Trek, etc will always have twice the following because it can appeal to a wider audience and has an ethos that won't die out in a generation. Not naming any studios in particular *cough (disney) cough* that recently tend to blanket male depictions as idiots or oppressors, but I wish we were done with this phase of stor…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 08:27 PM
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All the places you mentioned but be more attractive and suave.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 08:19 PM
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Because there are more ways of demonstrating you enjoy spending time with someone other than buying things or talking about your feelings?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 08:18 PM
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She should get therapy
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 08:17 PM
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The only women other women should take dating advice from is grandmas. Every grandma I've met who doles dating advice is mega-based.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 06:39 PM
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I feel like because I've seen her I'm not allowed to comment. What's the protocol for objectifying your friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 06:13 PM
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idk what id do if i lost him Easy, just text him and ask where he is, or share location.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 06:05 PM
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I'm a split between the two but minus the mental illnesses.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 05:35 PM
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Lol you're probably the only person who responded who actually does
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 05:27 PM
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I typically don't express any feelings verbally either, that doesn't mean we need to buy things for another to somehow justify spending time together. The value is in the time, not the stuff we get on holidays.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 05:26 PM
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Let's be real, women are probably responsible for the account being deleted.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 05:19 PM
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I'm with the Jehovah's Witnesses as far as gift giving holidays go. I have what I need for day to day things and the frivolous toys I want cost $3k, you're not going to buy it for me. I have no room for random little crap. I'm not better at buying things for you than you are. Kids excluded, why don't we all just save ourselves the time and effort and buy ourselves what we want and not worry about others?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 05:16 PM
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Oof, distance sucks. Send him with some boudoir photos or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 04:50 PM
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I'm a slut for the really good organic whole milk.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 04:47 PM
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Thanks for the input.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 04:10 PM
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Thanks for your answer
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 04:08 PM
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Are you single now?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 04:05 PM
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This was me growing up. It just kind of became a self-fulfilling prophecy. I wanted more female attention than male, so I did whatever got me attention from girls. That caused me to grow up with a lot of female friends and know how to talk to them. Because I already had female friends to branch out from and knew how to entertain them, I easily made more.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 03:59 PM
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Thanks for the answer. Out of curiosity, have you told him that?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 03:52 PM
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Lol, do you want to talk about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 03:51 PM
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I'm getting the input I need, thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 03:50 PM
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You don't need a romantic partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 03:46 PM
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The "a" is more directed toward single women. If you already have a man you'd like to stay there you're more than welcome to insert him into the question. Thanks for your answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 03:46 PM
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Thank you for your answer
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 03:45 PM
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Let's say in the context of how you view your future. Is a man in the picture required to make your desired outcome a reality? Or can you accomplish it without one?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 03:38 PM
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I'll clarify, do you (eventually, if you're single) consider it a need of yours to have a romantically partnered man be a part of your life, or if it came down to it, do you think you'd be perfectly happy being single forever?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 03:34 PM
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I'm having a debate with someone and need input Q4W: Yes or no, do you need a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 03:25 PM
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Judging from what I've seen, he might with his baby momma(s). But talk to me in 20 years and I'll get back to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 04:20 AM
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Literally 1984
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 10:55 PM
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I read somewhere that societies with food scarcity tend to prefer larger women, and societies without food scarcity tend to prefer smaller women. Food for thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 09:33 PM
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This is what they used to fantasize about: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Venus_of_Willendorf
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 09:24 PM
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The biggest hurdle is getting your foot in the door, I'm also naturally quite introverted. The "preselection" people talk about for dating also applies to meeting people, but it cascades once you get it started. In college I'd been in classes with girls for years and never said more than a word or two to them, and then I made friends with someone else who was friends with them, and all of a sudden I'm friends with every girl in the engineering department. Leverage other people's friends if you c…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 06:54 PM
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Crying about it doesn't raise a childless 50yo's SMV.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 06:34 PM
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Well that rules out weird engineers designing RFID antennas, then.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 06:17 PM
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I don't know, but when I was working at my startup early in my career I got kicked out of a target for pushing around a stroller with a bucket containing a large RFID antenna. Do these people have buckets in their stroller?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 06:03 PM
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To air my bias, I've been in the same relationship forever so I don't have a ton of advice for dating around, I'm more relationship minded. I'm probably an objective 7 but know how to talk to women and make them laugh. Take my advice with a grain of salt. Don't be Schrodinger's catch, you have to be observed for women to want you. Women like lifestyle, you sound like you'll be set on that front. When you're young, the relationship minded women will recognize and account for potential. Be attract…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 05:56 PM
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If you're happy to accept your Darwin Award you do you but plenty of people aren't. And if you're only going for SMV, your lifestyle and money is much, much less important than your looks. An attractive 28 year old will be doing way better with girls around his own age than a 50yo with money in the bank.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 05:33 PM
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They're physically able to have children around that time, but their relationship value declines the same as women's, it's just pushed out a few years. It's been said here a million times already, but I'll say it again. When you look at the actual age gap of marriages in the US, you're looking at man being her age or less than ten years older than her 2/3rds of the time. After that it's more common for the woman to be older than the man than it is for the man to be more than 10 years older than …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 05:23 PM
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I don't think people will argue it's unjustified, but I and probably others would argue it's dumb, for the same reasons an attractive younger women having a "hoe phase" up until she hits 30 is dumb. It's squandering time when you're at your peak and could be securing yourself the best partner possible. Men have a shelf life, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 05:04 PM
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If I had spent half of that on a ring my wife would probably have declined it and maybe broke up with me. I think I spent about half a month's salary at the time when I was an intern.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 04:27 PM
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And thus childless
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 01:53 AM
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I wonder if Vance would take issue with the fact that Washington was childless.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 12:18 AM
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English is my first language and I think I understood maybe 1/3 of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 10:02 PM
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MGTOW - Machines Gonna Transition to Operator Wiggling
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 09:59 PM
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Man, I love CNC. Generals is my favorite. The music still gets stuck in my head.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 09:57 PM
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I prefer the behavioral focused episodes. A lot of people intuitively understand dating incentive structures but so many tip-toe around sensitive issues he's pretty blunt about, which I appreciate. Everyone already knows guys should be hotter/ make more money, we don't need to hear it again.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 09:46 PM
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The dating advice for men is geared more that way, yes. The average Joe isn't going to be hiring high end escorts to avoid relationship drama. The behavioral psychology stuff, especially regarding younger women is plenty applicable for most income levels and anyone with a few brain cells to rub together. I've reference some of it for advice to female friends trying to understand guy issues to good effect.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 09:28 PM
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His advice is for men who are desirable or women who want a desirable man, but yes I wouldn't apply his advice to a 26yo living with roommates or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 09:13 PM
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The best advice I've heard for either men or women is from Psychacks/ Orion Taraban. He's a little too focused on giving advice for the upper SMV echelons of men and women but a lot of the info can be applied to normal folks, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 08:48 PM
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It's been a bit so the comment might get lost, but here's an opinion from a married guy: What do you want, and what do you have to offer? Are they about equal value? I don't know what types of guys you're going for, how physically attractive you are or how old you are, but all you can do is leverage what you have against what people are looking for. Every guy values attractiveness, labor you do in the household and peace, so it matters but it's not the end-all. A guy making good money who wants …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 06:50 PM
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Skill issue
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 05:12 PM
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Call me crazy, but I guess I'm operating under the assumption that the couple is healthy and isn't keeping score for all the other men and women on reddit. In my marriage we share resources, we're a family unit. What's good for one is good for all. If you're still protecting yourself while trying to have kids why even bother. Keeping your spite out of your relationships will serve you much better.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 06:46 PM
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If you were not doing the labor, you would otherwise have to pay someone else $20k to do it. Therefore, if you're not paying the opportunity cost of $20k, then the monetary value is exactly what you would have paid. DIY has value even if it doesn't show up on a balance sheet, that's why people DIY.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 05:57 PM
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Yeah you're as out there as I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 03:07 AM
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Yeah but the bad sexist, not the good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 02:24 AM
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I appreciate how in the same subreddit I can essentially be called sexist and a libtard on the same day. I think that means I've hit the true perfect purple. Never change PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 02:16 AM
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Since I misjudged the reading comprehension at play here, I'll boil it down. The controlled wage gap is dramatically smaller than the uncontrolled gap. When women select the same careers men select, their pay gap shrinks by about 15x. In a free market economy, where companies will pick the cheapest labor that satisfies the job requirements, if women selected the same type of jobs men select, in the same quantity, their uncontrolled pay gap would shrink to the controlled level. However, they do n…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 01:27 AM
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I'm ignoring the other stuff. Just a rehash of the same thing. I can only repeat myself so many times before I get bored. Then why aren't they compensated for it? They are, the family isn't paying for childcare. I presume you're not married, but families with children tend to share expenses. The claim that women don't care about money is clearly refuted by the fact that they like it more when they are paid more. Again, I'm needing to repeat myself, but I'm suggesting they don't prioritize income…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 01:02 AM
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I haven't found clear info on how that's factored in. For example, a woman who take 6 months to a year off is still working after ten years, but she potentially only worked 90-95% the same amount of time as her husband who couldn't take time off. I presume the uncontrolled wage gap is not normalizing her time in industry, which will hurt her earned wages, but again I'm open to being disproved.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 12:17 AM
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The controlled gender pay gap, which considers factors such as job title, experience, education, industry, job level and hours worked, is currently at 99 cents for every dollar men earn ... ... women at the executive level earn only 95 cents for every dollar earned by men Executive women have a 5% gap compared to men in comparable roles, but non c-suite roles are 1%, which I personally don't consider to be a big issue. If it is to you, power to you, you must have more emotional bandwidth than I …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 12:15 AM
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I believe so, but there's conflicting information on if stay-at-home mothers are excluded from that number or not. The forbes article says " The uncontrolled gap represents the overall difference in pay between men and women, considering all the jobs and industries in which they work. " but doesn't break that down by age of retirement or if childcare is excluded or not so I'm open to clarification.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 11:56 PM
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The controlled wage gap is measured at 1%, which is pretty much in the margin of error as far as any measurement goes. If you want to get up in arms about it have at it, but your energy could probably be better spent elsewhere. And I don't know if you didn't read my second paragraph, but I already gave an example as to why, it's because it's not uncommon that they might pick up childcare duties. It's reducing their cost of childcare by taking care of it in-house. If they have kids, they physical…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 11:43 PM
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I feel like it's becoming more common for the layperson to understand that the .86c cited as the pay gap is misleading though. But my social circle is non-idiots so it could be skewed. I'm of the opinion people should make the same for the same job, but also am aware that this is currently already the case so there's no real issue, but I don't pay much attention to what media/ social is belching out nowadays outside of a few news youtubers, so what do I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 09:22 PM
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I can't believe it's 2024 and people haven't figured out the controlled vs. uncontrolled pay gap yet. The overall pay gap for every woman and man in 2023 was 16 cents, in men's favor. When you compare men and women with the same experience level in the same job, the gap is one cent. If you want to make more money, you need to pick a career that makes more money. Source: https://www.forbes.com/advisor/business/gender-pay-gap-statistics/ As a dude about to have a kid, I've learned early childcare …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 08:35 PM
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How's your sanity?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 04:00 AM
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You're easily one of the most rational and sane people in this sub. I'm amazed this place hasnt driven you mad.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 02:40 AM
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Yeah I tend to look at a bit more than global market forces for a single commodity when voting. If cheap gas was all I was looking for I'd move to Russia or Saudia Arabia. Besides, unless Trump took over all the global oil producers and the legislative branch, he barely makes a dent in what fuel prices will be.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 12:55 AM
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I've already declined my Darwin award. I require no feedback for my handsome face.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 12:10 AM
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A very rational take. Someone who's been with 30 people likely has very different values and approach to sex than someone with 1 or 2. Your count can be an abridged way to find out if you share those values or not. If you're ashamed or defensive of your number, that might say more about who's being asked than who is asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 12:07 AM
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Copy image -> Paste image, coward
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 11:56 PM
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Honestly at this point I'd vote for a smoothed rock over Trump. I'm not huge on Kamala, and I think the DNC is repeatedly shooting itself in the foot, but I'm just not interested in a repeat of 2016-2020.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 11:20 PM
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Relative to many folks here, yeah. I don't really have any personal emotionally jarring events that discolor my thinking one way or another. I can objectively see that some men and women are asking for more than they're worth, but I've been relatively lucky to pair up early and avoid drama. I've consumed a lot of information and more or less ended up where I started in terms of beliefs. Yes, you've been hurt and believe AWALT, but they're not, you're just attracted to BPD women for some reason. …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 09:45 PM
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Yeah, pill stuff is about is about transacting what you want from the relationship, and most women prefer to feel literally anything over talking about or being made aware of the transaction. It's fine to push for what you want, but you don't talk about the the nature of your money and the infrastructure of global payment systems at a nice restaurant. You sit down, enjoy the food, get a slight buzz, and then hand the server your card at the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 04:49 PM
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I am aware as we age I'll probably age better, but of the options out there she ticks the most important boxes, and she's bearing my kids. I don't have buyer's remorse.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 02:36 AM
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You've used the word "want" almost a half dozen times in the post. Wanting something is free, it costs you nothing. Guys already know what you want from us, but giving what you want costs us, whether it be dollars, time, emotional support, opportunity cost, whatever. If the woman in question is worth the cost, the guy will pay. While it would be nice for the guy to outright say if he's willing to grant her wants on her timeframe or not, women do the same in reverse for things the guys want. This…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 11:10 PM
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Ultimately it comes down to what we value on the dating market, when we have it, and the demographics of this sub. When you look at who's here, on aggregate men are not the prize. Women have a high SMV inherently. They could do nothing but be healthy and between 18 to menopause they'd have millions of men willing to sleep or even date her before she says a single word about herself. For men, it tends to be the polar opposite. Women might date the most attractive or smartest of younger men for th…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 08:14 PM
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What are you doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 06:49 PM
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If you're talking about value as in the SMV, then no. Higher value men who were on the market tend to already have been locked down by women looking to start a family. At some point those same men were single and recognized as high value, hence why some woman tried to lock him down.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 10:24 PM
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Someone's gotta get the team average up
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 12:31 AM
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I really respect your bravery to say something so wrong on a public forum.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 12:14 AM
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Apparently pregnant women aren't supposed to have eggs with runny yolks so everyone's mental health and favorite breakfasts are already ruined, and thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 12:03 AM
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You can't spell Chdad without dad
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 11:22 PM
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If we're better than my parents I'll call it a win. She's my polar opposite so we'll have all the parenting bases covered. Now it's just a question of if I can defeat pregnancy brain + hormones for 8 months, or if I'll die trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 11:20 PM
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Everyone should strive to be the closeness where you get the "my dong works" cake rather than the clearly inferior "she's pregnant" cake. And thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 11:18 PM
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I dropped off after my Japan trip but have lurked a bit here and there. I think all I missed was women choosing to get mauled by bears or something. You hot yet?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 11:13 PM
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Because it's still too early to early to tell non nuclear family members and friends, I might as well tell internet strangers: Just got done with the first appointment. She's a tad over 5 weeks pregnant, so far everything's normal. My dong works.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 11:09 PM
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Skill issue
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 04:36 PM
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The previous owners had three boys and the sole reason they were moving out was because the place was too cramped. Americans like privacy. If it were just me, or just me and the wife, I'd be happy with half or a third of the space.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 03:23 PM
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Birth rate drops as your square footage drops fairly reliably across the developed world. There's just something unsexy about your kids being able to hear mom and dad getting it on in your adjacent thin walls.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 05:43 AM
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My house is 1900 sqft, I'd be packing them in like sardines.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 10:46 PM
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Late 20's, actively trying. I'd be fine with anywhere between 0 and 2, she wants 2, but could be talked down to one if the first is a girl. We're plenty secure and have nothing else big going on in our lives right now. We've got time/ money to burn and planned for kids; so no time like the present. While I'm somewhat of the opinion the world is going to shit and I slightly feel bad subjecting them to it, I think I'd raise decent kids and can count on wife's family to be helpful and impart good v…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 09:39 PM
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Long red beards are an exception, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 11:01 PM
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Your office might work in Windows, but the world runs on Linux. I'm using this as a build machine for custom hardware. Pretty much everything that's not your personal computer uses it. If your job is writing emails and using Microsoft Word, Windows is probably better.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 05:15 PM
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Depends on if he's attractive or not. If he's good enough looking, he'll do fine blue pilled and probably be happier for it. If he's not, push him to looksmaxx. Never let him get fat/ enroll him in physical activities and he'll be doing better than 50% of kids nowadays. Little bowling ball dudes waddling around at the elementary schools near me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 05:09 PM
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Nah I just had an old thinkpad laying around and I need a dedicated hardware build machine. It's so old the OS was windows 8 and the SSD is only 120GB.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 05:06 PM
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People get tunnel vision on the worst parts of society, because it's what makes the best ragebait. The takes here are generally schizo because they're from guys whose only interactions with women are watching what RP content creators put in front of their faces. In real life, men are women are pretty similar in what they want, and anyone who tells you otherwise is probably selling something.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 05:05 PM
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There are few pleasures in life like wiping a windows drive and putting Linux over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 04:55 PM
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Polyamory is just an exercise in gaslighting yourself and others into thinking jealousy is a bad thing for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 04:45 PM
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If you're in the US, they're everywhere. It might be more likely that middle aged moms who've let themselves go are dragging the average up a little, but I'd guess it's fairly distributed.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 04:40 PM
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I've brought up the #KillAllMen posts that used to be fairly common there and a lot of the women here tell me it never happened. But, the post history is still there, we can still see it. I hardly spent any time there yet I'd consider it 90% the reason I stopped calling myself a feminist.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 04:36 PM
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I wish we could have good public transit without the crazies. I'd love to be able to travel into/ around town for $2-10 while not having to deal with traffic/ car maintenance. I'm liking the new micro-mobility electric stuff though (ebikes, scooters, etc.) as long as they're not temporary rentals that get dumped on the sidewalk.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 04:34 PM
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Industrialization does that, but eventually those investment dollars stop being as efficient as they were. The first train is a major boon. The 1000th is a liability.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 06:23 PM
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Yet
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 06:20 PM
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Degradation kink incoming
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 05:47 PM
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Usually Republicans are happy to take credit for Democrat's policies as they're leaving office, but taking credit for it 4 years into the Biden presidency is a new one for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 05:45 PM
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The volcels of PPD are too powerful.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 05:24 PM
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/M1_carbine#Carbine,_Cal_0,_M1A1 I think my uncle had one. I wonder what happened to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 05:22 PM
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Also, none of those are even pronouns. They're just adjectives.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 05:20 PM
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That's why you're the perfect match
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 05:08 PM
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Very fitting
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 05:08 PM
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I don't think so, she's talked about her boyfriends on here. Probably just ND.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 05:07 PM
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m1a1 Do you have any idea how little that narrows it down.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 05:07 PM
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I did too. She's way too jaded to be younger than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 05:03 PM
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At least they like me for something other than money, looks and status.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 05:02 PM
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It's been talked about before. There's some voicel website that rates your voice for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 05:00 PM
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I ran across her on some GenZ post on r/popular yesterday. I had never seen a PPD member in the wild before.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 05:00 PM
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K. Here, you can try this. Be careful though, highly reactive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:59 PM
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Gonna have sausage fingies
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:57 PM
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<image>
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:56 PM
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Can always drink salt water.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:54 PM
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Well I'm married, I've got a female dog, and my cat sounds like a little bitch when he wants food, so you do the math.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:53 PM
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He's not wasting his time here, actually. He's looksmaxxing right now with finger workouts as he types these out. We wouldn't understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:51 PM
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To nobody's surprise
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:49 PM
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I'm an electrical engineer so I can just plug in
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:48 PM
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Everything, minus those three things
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:47 PM
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If people only care about your looks, money and status, it's because you don't have anything else of value to offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:37 PM
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Tell me your personality sucks without telling me your personality sucks
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:35 PM
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Ken's a simp and both of them have no genitals.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:27 PM
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Hon hon, bon voyage mademoiselle
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:26 PM
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The only girls I'd marry would be ones who like money more than rocks. No geology girls for me (or ones who are easily swayed by corrupt corporate ads convincing them to buy expensive things that serve little purpose in our lives)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:24 PM
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I'm rocking a little of both.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:19 PM
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I'm usually the same way. Rimworld is my video game comfort food.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 06:50 PM
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It's niche and nerdy, wouldn't expect it. There might be a single woman in the entire community. I'm usually a singleplayer guy but get enough nerds in a room talking about Radar Cross Section and I'll eventually show up. I love coop PvE games, though. Helldivers has definitely piqued my interest
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 06:44 PM
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I gotta live up to my flair. I've been addicted to Nebulous.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 06:40 PM
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🪦🪦🐌🐌
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 06:38 PM
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I want to but I'm already addicted to another game and don't have room for two addictions.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 06:36 PM
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You really gonna hurt this little guy? <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 06:36 PM
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Now you're just trying to get me worked up
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 06:31 PM
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Did anyone ever play any of the Fable games?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 06:08 PM
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It's okay to be wrong sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 06:06 PM
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I don’t want to belong to any club that would accept me as one of its members I wouldn't trust it. I know I'm not worth lovebombing unless she's way below my league.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 05:09 PM
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It means you loaded Wolfenstein instead of doom.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 04:53 PM
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"Has technology gone too far??"
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 04:34 PM
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Bulk order of pregnancy tests and play doom during breaks.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 04:13 PM
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Didn't you post this already?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 04:06 PM
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Last
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 09:14 PM
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Only if you eat the packaging
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 07:46 PM
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About as healthy for you as just eating the packaging.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 07:38 PM
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When I get bored of it I let them punch each other. It's actually pretty funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 07:36 PM
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I punch my dog and my cat but they usually started it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 07:16 PM
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It's a trap, they'll steal your kidneys
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 06:22 PM
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I used to think it was directly in the front, like maybe just a little below the belly button
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 06:18 PM
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Then what are you 2 months in to if you're too nervous to approach?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 06:06 PM
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Maybe he wasn't fertile
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 05:59 PM
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...But, you can just talk to women?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 05:50 PM
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How to find someone chronically online. Just let them out themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 10:30 PM
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And for the more mature audiences, here's a Dick pic: <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 06:19 PM
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That's spicy. To give you the full experience of what you're missing, let me send you a D pic: <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 06:18 PM
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And 4pt, that was an entertaining journey.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 06:14 PM
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The numbers in his username are 3844, which I now assume is a hint to his BMI range.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 06:11 PM
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I bet your DM's are secretly wild. This is just to throw us off course.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 06:10 PM
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He avoided the question so until he clarifies the situation we can assume he's unhealthy (38-44 BMI). This would explain why no maidens are in his inbox.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 06:06 PM
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shooting Good thing you have that concealed carry.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 05:47 PM
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A lot of women think that men should have it as easy as they do, it's an assumption that if they don't, then they're not an equal, and romantically, they're looking for an equal. If they need advice/ help, they're not equals.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 05:46 PM
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It's academic, probably more likely to be Sarin gas or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 05:24 PM
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Why's that chick looking like the white Among Us guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 05:06 PM
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I have no idea about casual sex so I'll leave it to the experts (of which there might be 2 on this entire sub)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 06:06 PM
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I'm so proud you figured that out!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 06:05 PM
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This one's the winner.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 05:21 PM
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Seeing a bunch of unmarried people attempt characterize a married sex life is a simple joy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 05:21 PM
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Sounds like a political candidate's name. "My name is Ad Hoc and I approve this message"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 04:34 PM
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Not gonna get a gf as a depressive 3/10.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 11:28 PM
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Nice
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 06:15 AM
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Car are for schmucks. Slots are for suckers. Don't be a schmucker.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 06:08 AM
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Lame. Buy stupid shit instead, it'll be cheaper and more fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 06:04 AM
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Dude if you don't like money anymore at least buy cool stuff instead of giving it to rich people. I could have more fun with your money than you're having, just send it to me I'll waste it for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 05:55 AM
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I doubt I'm the norm but I won't entertain a woman that I wouldn't consider relationship material. It's a waste of time to differentiate between the two if you want a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 05:53 AM
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The guys who say this crap are usually the same people advocating men should be allowed to date multiple women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 12:56 AM
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She's hypergamous
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 01:03 AM
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My dog sleeps on the couch most of the day and eats her kibbles like they're 3 michelin star gourmet meals. Gets two walks, catches a ball and flirts with the boy dogs. She's healthy and happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 12:58 AM
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Good relationship, lots, bad relationship, none.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 12:49 AM
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Now you gotta do the guy version
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 12:49 AM
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Nope on both counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 12:46 AM
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I hear it's not that bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 12:32 AM
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Casual bestiality thrown in there really spices it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 12:30 AM
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Pretty unlikely. We've already seen the result of a Trump v. Biden election. Not many minds will have changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 12:18 AM
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People reacting appropriately to inflammatory posts is just consequences for being inflammatory, not an attack.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 12:15 AM
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The effect is already priced in. Overturning Roe v. Wade was not popular. Edit: Sauce https://www.pewresearch.org/politics/2022/07/06/majority-of-public-disapproves-of-supreme-courts-decision-to-overturn-roe-v-wade/
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 12:12 AM
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And quite a socially inept one at that
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 12:08 AM
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9/10 times it's a drop in activity. I probably eat 3k calories a day and don't gain weight because I burn it all. If I'm sitting all day and eat the same, I'd pick up weight pretty quick.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 11:59 PM
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Considering how none have been posted, done. I'll take that deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 11:56 PM
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It's a touch ironic that you're accusing other people of being socially inept
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 11:55 PM
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Coming out swinging with the vitriol today, are we?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 11:51 PM
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I'm declaring a tiktok ban. No more tiktok links. Violators will drop their phone and shatter their screens and your mom won't buy you a new one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 11:43 PM
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!RemindMe 73 years
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 10:43 PM
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If he's so obsessed with lawn care, sounds like he has a career option.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 10:09 PM
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Nudity is legal in my state. Can't be doing anything horny, and can't strip in public, but if you leave the house naked, you're fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 09:57 PM
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Your crush can be a celebrity, but I'm sure Dana has it going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 09:29 PM
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Yeah, that
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 09:27 PM
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Which one are you going for?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 09:26 PM
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✂️✂️✂️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 09:24 PM
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If I had a (non) celebrity crush, it'd probably be Kendall from Binging with Babish.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 09:21 PM
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Oh dang, that looks good. You're putting me into a Lasagna mood
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 07:53 PM
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No, food's too tasty.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 07:33 PM
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Weird, must be a bot or someone who's bored. And yeah, Ukraine is mulling over conscription for women. Modern battlefield has plenty of combat roles that suit women just fine. Many are training to be drone operators, and there's lots of other roles that women have been filling. Women will never be as useful at lugging heavy loads around, so it doesn't make sense to have them do tasks that men are better suited for, but the trend of female participation in combat is only going up.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 07:02 PM
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So far it's voluntary, the short story is that plenty are volunteering at the moment. Ukraine's military already prefers female snipers to male one. Plenty of women in combat roles, with the number increasing. Also, why tf you downvoting me?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 05:54 PM
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Ukraine's getting there: https://www.nytimes.com/2023/11/08/world/europe/ukraine-war-army-women.html#:~:text=Volunteer%20groups%20offering%20all%2Dfemale,Kyiv%2C%20are%20supporting%20the%20effort.&text=About%2043%2C000%20women%20now%20serve,before%20Russia's%20full%2Dscale%20invasion.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 05:40 PM
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I've seen a lot of men say things along the lines of "women should be required to sign up for the draft" as a reason why "woman bad, man good", and they ignore how frequently women sign up for military service when the need arises. Of course there's obvious individual examples like Joan of Arc, Tomoe Gozen, etc, but there's always been historical examples of women volunteering for combat (Cantabrian Dianas, Onna Bushi), and we still see it today (Ukraine)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 04:37 PM
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I heard some people saying how The Expanse was anti-woke, and I'm utterly flabbergasted. The people who use the term unironically probably don't have more than a few brain cells to rub together for warmth, and the folks playing to "modern audiences" are dooming their media to irrelevancy and financial ruin.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 04:28 PM
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Not enough money
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 01:13 AM
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There are plenty of women who are the cause of their own issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 12:58 AM
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Yeah. That sounds like fraud.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 12:57 AM
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I see. So a very unhealthy (38-44) BMI.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 12:54 AM
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Honestly she'd probably bust out the popcorn and watch me rizz up some girls from behind a wall. We had a mostly female friend group in HS and I had to be raunchy enough for all of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 12:41 AM
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Sure, but what is it now...?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 12:38 AM
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Yeah but most of them aren't exclusively going after healthy (19-21 BMI) women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 12:29 AM
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Of course, how did I not see it. Morbidly obese (38-44 BMI)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 12:21 AM
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(Also, I learned recently that he had not intended to get her pregnant, it was a little bit of a baby trap scenario)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 12:18 AM
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I suspect his obsession over a healthy (19-21 BMI) body type is projection for what he doesn't have. I'm gonna guess he's overweight (26-29 BMI).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 12:12 AM
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Not an idiot, eh? Being an idiot probably would have been easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 12:07 AM
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I can turn Tiffany away from god and fix her. If it was a entomological, cool looking species I might have been able to handle Renee. She might be too braindead and beyond repair.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 12:06 AM
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You gonna be the last of a long line of idiots? Find that someone stupid, I believe in you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 12:02 AM
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You still never answered whether or not you're healthy (19-21 BMI). Perhaps you're too out of shape for her since you seem to be avoiding the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 12:01 AM
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What type of butterfly we talking?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 12:00 AM
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The mormons have that, but the moms aren't technically single.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 11:57 PM
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Why not cut to the chase and wear something like this instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 11:55 PM
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Nah, I'd be too afraid of falling in love with an uggo.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 11:53 PM
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I can fix both.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 11:53 PM
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It boils down to a "The road to hell is paved with good intentions" situation. I had roads to hell, one labeled "hell", and one paved over to give me a sense of security. My dad was weak, but he was honest about it, I was able to make an informed decision to get away. While I think his wife is crap, his honesty meant I didn't have to be involved. My mom fought for custody, but she fought for me to suffer her bad decisions. She took kids down with her, and was unremorseful about it. My sister (da…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 11:51 PM
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Gifts can be good natured, and I have no problem with gift giving or friends of the opposite gender. The nature of a diamond necklace as a gift, even with an innocuous pretext is still romantic, and if it's expensive, significant. A single man giving a significant, romantic gift to my girlfriend would be inappropriate of him, and inappropriate of her to receive. There are unsaid signals being sent, intentionally or not that I consider to be a boundary. I don't even care that the boundary being c…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 11:41 PM
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My dad made more stable life decisions and ironically provided me with an incredibly valuable set of life lessons (of what not to do in my relationships, but what to do in life). Our relationship is arms length as I'm not interested in my step-family, but it still exists and we both understand his weakness. My mom was the BPD "I don't need no man" archetype who thought she was more capable than she was but consistently made devastating choices that impacted her children. Both my parents were wea…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 11:27 PM
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"Here's a diamond necklace, a symbol of my love, but don't worry it's totally platonic and completely coincidental that you'll think of me and how generous I am every time you look at it."
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 11:14 PM
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I'm not the police, she can keep it if she wants to. Maybe next valentines day he can get her some matching earrings, and then maybe go for a vacation for their 1st anniversary shortly after.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 11:11 PM
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Not before the step-mom. After, yes. My mom fought for me and he didn't, which I'll always appreciate her for, but it doesn't excuse the abuse. I learned from them both what not to be and what not to marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 11:07 PM
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Yeah, they split when I was a little over one. Was 50/50 custody until I was maybe 10 years old, where I chose to go with mom full time. My dad's new wife wasn't a fan of me and I was starting to develop stress tics.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 11:03 PM
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Lol, she's giving it back
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 10:51 PM
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They have a type
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 10:41 PM
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Yeah, but in the modern world we have contraception and family planning measures. Back when we didn't, the other guy probably represents competition. Unless you don't know how babies are made, the family will know how many kids they want and can afford. Most women want between 1-3, that means 33-100% of the kids you're presumably raising aren't yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 10:28 PM
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Yeah. While I appreciate the work she was willing to put in, man did she make some horrible decisions that put us through a rough time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 10:21 PM
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Usually the firstborn is smarter/ larger due to more resources being applied to them, and the following kids have a little better immunity from bacteria the first brings home. There's not much difference other than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 10:05 PM
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Carpal tunnel is no laughing matter
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 10:02 PM
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Indeed, kind of had these vibes but a little dantier. Custom designed/ made so it's technically unique.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 09:56 PM
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I mean, I'm kinda pulling more than my own weight already. I prefer to focus my efforts on my local community. But yeah, I'm a good, volunteering, tax-paying boy who will hopefully raise some productive, stable kids, even though it might benefit me more to spend my time doing fun hedonistic shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 09:53 PM
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Wait...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 09:50 PM
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How dare you not accept a darwin award
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 09:49 PM
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I mean, the societal consequences of blended families are not insignificant, and those who tend to have multiple children from several partners are usually unmarried, younger, and disadvantaged. I don't want to dogwhistle for poor and dumb, but it's kind of poor and dumb behavior. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4182921/
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 09:47 PM
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I'm a math guy, I do math: (Kids she'll have with me) = (Kids she wants) - (However many kids she already has)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 09:40 PM
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If you care about the continuation of your biological family, being with a single mother is the worst you can do: - She already needs to provide for a kid. Any resources are shared between kids you have no relation to. - She will only be able to handle so many kids, and one of them is not yours. - There is a potential baby daddy with associated drama you have to deal with.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 09:38 PM
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Honestly any noncircular cut does this, but it reminds me of those plastic toy rings for kids: https://www.amazon.com/Rhode-Island-Novelty-Plastic-Assortment/dp/B00629TPG8 It just looks cheap and childish.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 09:35 PM
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God oval cuts are so ugly. Emerald cuts are fine, but they really do look best on an emerald
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 09:28 PM
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I used it all yesterday. Fresh out.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 09:25 PM
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You can use redirector to automatically change reddit links into new.reddit links as well if you want. It breaks pictures but everything else seems to work fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 12:46 AM
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I'm theorizing here, but best guess would be frustration. The substance of their value to women they're attracted to is dictated by something that is just luck of what genes you got. Rationally everyone can understand people have preferences and dealbreakers, but I'd rather be rejected for something I can improve on for next time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 12:31 AM
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Can you burn a Luigi board?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 11:21 PM
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What is the best time to sex to be come pregnart?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 11:18 PM
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Am I .... Gregnant?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 11:12 PM
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And they can't get pregnant
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 11:05 PM
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If you have to pay people to be there it's not exactly socializing
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 11:05 PM
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I like the smart ladies, as long as she's not an ass about it, I'll take the smarter one.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 10:53 PM
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Welfare queen, expecting society to provide you with a healthy (19-21 BMI) female. Go out and EARN your healthy (19-21 BMI) female.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 10:51 PM
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