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I am:) I’d love to find the right guy for me but till then yes, I’m happy without forcing myself to be with the wrong guy long-term.
/r/ExRedPill10/02/22 02:08 PM
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Women are not a monolith. They are individual people. We all want different things. So if you approach women as fully realized people who are complex and unique, you will go MUCH farther in building important & lasting friendships & relationships with them. Take me for example: I don’t give a shit about money or ability to give me expensive things or gifts. I value someone who I can have a connection with & great conversations with. Someone I never get tired to see & be with. Someone who values …
/r/ExRedPill07/02/22 01:04 PM
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Men play the odds, women tell the truth.
/r/ExRedPill01/02/22 02:47 PM
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Actually in that case according to the law she'd be raping you.
/r/TheRedPill26/05/16 02:19 AM
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If someone sticks his cock in your asshole and you don't push him off and you don't say no because you're fucking shocked it's happening, that is still rape. Doesn't mean it's punishable by law, but for the sake of therapy and acknowledging trauma to move past it, it's important to make that distinction. Many people are raped and don't think it's legit so they don't tell anyone and they don't deal with it properly and then they become more fucked up as time goes on till they deal with it. I'm ta…
/r/TheRedPill26/05/16 02:18 AM
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You know what? You're right - I found a subreddit where I was shocked at the things some women were saying about men, and it was disgusting. I suppose redpill is the man version of that. I know so many good men - it's not worth it to focus on these few who maddeningly don't get it. I suppose I wanted to help these dudes but anyone who buys into that propoganda won't listen. And if they do, it'd take too much work - these dudes need to realize in real life that these perspectives are toxic and wi…
/r/ExRedPill14/05/16 04:07 AM
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Try Nashville. It's the new LA of the south, lots of beautiful women who seem to conform to your standard (i.e. being young, beautiful, wanting kids at a young age but not necessarily overly shallow). However if you try Nashville and continue not to find the women you're looking for, you may want to consider if you're truly fulfilling all of the qualities that a young beautiful woman of substance would want in a mate/husband/father of their children. Always good to consider how you could fill th…
/r/askTRP07/05/16 01:24 AM
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I have a question; is debating redpillers just a fool's errand? For a few days I thought that speaking up and trying to engage redpillers was a good thing to do - however, it seems like many are operating under the fallacy that women are not to be trusted; ergo, no woman making a point can be heard in any legitimate sense. If I tell a redpiller that, in my personal lifelong experience as a woman, I've never wanted a guy for his money/traded up for someone more 'muscular' or 'alpha' and in fact h…
/r/ExRedPill05/05/16 04:40 PM
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I don't argue that you shouldnt go for the partner that you see is the best fit for you. I do argue the theory that, in general, women who are virgins or have slept with the fewest number of people are inherently better partners. And the metaphor comparing women with cars is personally unappealing to me (as a woman). But of course you have every right to lead your life the way you want. You do you, as they say.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/16 09:44 PM
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Again, comparing people to things is problematic. Sorry you felt like a purse. Not all women do that to men btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/16 09:14 PM
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I think comparing people to cars is a problem. It's a metaphor that reduces the person to an object which in this case (when discussing people's 'virginity') is a bit dangerous, imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/16 09:03 PM
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Haha absolutely:) But when we're online noone knows what level others are at so they're just trying to cover all bases. But seriously don't listen about the smoking thing - unless you're going after someone who smokes (and again - why? it's so bad for you!) you don't need to become a smoker yourself to be attractive to the opposite sex. You just need to be your best self.
/r/ExRedPill04/05/16 07:00 PM
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So....Marlon Brando? Not manly? Paul Newman? My grandfather who fought in WWII not manly? Because they all cried. Crying is as valid an expression of emotions as anger, laughter, etc. And I agree with the others who say forcing yourself or forcing a child not to cry is physically harmful to them and to you. You gotta let it out once in a while, man. We all do.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/16 06:55 PM
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THIS. I agree with MissMaude - and ironically the thing that I believe many TRP dudes misunderstand - many many feminists want more rights for men as well - when men are tied to a patriarchal system and expectations of what a man "should" be, that man is now limited to fulfill that expectation, regardless of his individual personality, life experience, etc. Men should know they are still men even if they've been raped. Even if they show fear or sadness. Even when they need to seek therapy or go …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/16 06:43 PM
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I've read lots of articles criticizing hip hop and rap trends in their portrayals of women in hip hop. I don't believe this is truly considered an off-topic for feminism. Here's one article (of many) i randomly pulled out by doing a google search for "portrayal of women in hip hop": http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/hip-hop-misogyny-double-standard_us_55cdf7b9e4b07addcb42a7b8 Your portrayal of feminism in this respect I believe is inaccurate and misinformed.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/16 06:38 PM
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Agree except for the smoking. I've said no to multiple guys because they were smokers. When you're a non-smoker, smokers smell and taste TERRIBLE to you. Don't do that. Just do the best you can with what you got. Change the things you know you want to change about yourself, and yes, good hygiene is always important. But good hygiene means no smoking.
/r/ExRedPill04/05/16 06:05 PM
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Hey man, woman here. The only way for any of us to find love is to love ourselves. I have similar issues and I know that I will never be on the outside what I would like to be until I love myself on the inside. Sounds really freaking corny but it's taken a long time for me to learn that it's absolutely true. When you really love yourself on the inside (and are truly like "wow! i'm really an awesome person!"), you will naturally make healthier choices for yourself and it'll be easier to do the th…
/r/ExRedPill30/04/16 10:18 PM
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Got it. If you don't believe me because I'm a woman there is no more for us to discuss.
/r/ExRedPill30/04/16 02:28 AM
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Another big one: denying a woman's right to report rape, not believing a victim if one is victimized, blaming a woman for being raped etc etc.
/r/ExRedPill29/04/16 11:47 PM
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Advocating emotional violence, manipulation to gain sex, not listening to a 'no' if a woman doesn't want her space/body violated, painting an entire gender as inferior/childish/manipulative by nature is the same as painting an entire race as the same. These are all forms of violence. They may not all result in physical violence (though some does), but certainly emotional violence. I would also argue they unknowingly hurt themselves and their future relationships with men and women by espousing s…
/r/ExRedPill29/04/16 11:46 PM
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That's awesome. I'll check these out! I completely see the value of learning about relationships and getting advice, but I believe it's so easy to think that "all guys do this" or "all guys want that" or "all women do this" or "all women want that" is when we all get into trouble. We definitely need reminders that everyone has their own thing, into their own thing, and all we can do is be our best selves. Thanks, Ill check out those links!
/r/ExRedPill29/04/16 10:54 PM
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That does sound toxic! That's fucked up. Sorry you had to find that. Of course you're right - it goes without saying that I know most men aren't like that. It's just stunning to see something like this. I know that some men visit redpill for the legit advice, but it is disturbing to see the promotion of violence against women on it as well. I don't think it's ok to advocate violence against anyone, and it bums me out to read it. But I've stopped reading it and learning about other really great s…
/r/ExRedPill29/04/16 10:51 PM
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I'm not phrasing things in such black and white terms. I'm not saying "men are pure evil and women are innocent". In fact, I've said multiple times that I love men, have a lot of men in my life, friends, brothers, parents, etc and I want them to be happy. But the reason I love them and they love me is there is mutual respect. I believe that men and women aren't as different as theredpill is making them out to be. My having a diverging opinion on this as a woman doesn't mean I'm automatically bei…
/r/ExRedPill29/04/16 10:37 PM
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I'll have to check it out! I hope women are allowed on the site. It's so sad - these dudes on redpill like to think that every woman is a shallow gold-digger. I've only known a handful of women like that in my life. These dudes need to find a better crowd. I don't know why I have hope for them - just makes me feel unsafe to know there are ANY men like this. But of course there are. Anyway - thanks!
/r/ExRedPill29/04/16 05:41 PM
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YES. And kids who grow up in that environment actually are more vulnerable to abuse and neglect. Not all single parent households have that, but a lot (mainly because just one person can't keep their eye on their kids at all times, not due to the fault of the parent). It's like these guys believe they're victims, and the only way to NOT be a victim is to be a perpetrator. I've been abused many times by guys (emotionally, sexually, physically - this all sounds terrible and some were and some were…
/r/ExRedPill29/04/16 04:27 PM
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Haha that was great:) Maybe I'll do that. I have to wonder: is there a subreddit that can genuinely encourage men to be as awesome as they can be WITHOUT encouraging misogyny? There have been a lot of recent positive sources online for young women in this regard (Rookie Mag, Amy Poehler's Smart Girls, etc). I think it would be FANTASTIC if there was a site that appeals to dudes and shows them that giving into these stereotypes and limited views on life will only narrow their scope even further a…
/r/ExRedPill29/04/16 04:11 PM
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Yeah. It's true! I know everybody does this to some degree but when it's such a bizarre and hurtful point of view it baffles me who buys into it. But as you say, c'est la vie. I really do feel sorry for those guys - I hope they change their thinking before it leads them to more isolation or even worse, to violence. Seriously, as a woman, reading that subreddit is like stumbling onto a pro-isis forum. It feels that violent and ridiculously incorrect. Fuckin scary. I'm staying away from now on.
/r/ExRedPill29/04/16 01:48 PM
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Thank you! I really do think sites for men can be really helpful - of course men who've had trouble socially with women over their lives will feel resentful and confused and angry about their situation. There definitely is a vacuum of good, convincing advice out there for men and it saddens me to see redpill filling this vacuum with such hatred and misinformation. I studied the holocaust in high school, and the way the nazis would systematically justify to other germans why Jews (and other minor…
/r/ExRedPill29/04/16 01:38 PM
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Thanks! I need to check out /r/thebluepill. It's interesting that redpill is such an insular community (you have to be a member to comment?) that behaves like an echo chamber of hate and self-loathing in the form of getting ripped and getting laid. Any community that can't handle criticism or questions or outside perspectives is always suspect to me. I suppose it DOES help to think of this group as a very small minority - but as a woman, like many women, who's been threatened directly in person …
/r/ExRedPill29/04/16 01:19 PM
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