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The nature of your comment when you say "none of your friends here will tell you about" sounds like you're just trolling MRP. But say I give you the benefit of the doubt and explain to you - I wouldn't be here if I hadn't made poor choices or didn't have something about myself to work on. Do you have something constructive or applicable to say?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/15 10:46 PM
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EDIT: I'm editing this and keeping it short and sweet. Would it be too much to ask for a reference example? The gist of what I would like ... This probably should be sticky or something so it's the first thing new people see (like myself). But an example of "This is a post whining and seeking approval", and "this is what that post would look like if an MRP-er wrote it" would really be nice and might help convey what you mean. I think I'm starting to understand.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 01:33 PM
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It's even better (worse?) than that. Although I have my own checking and savings from before the marriage (which I've phased out from use) we have a joint that she draws money from when she needs it over there. BP me saw joining accounts as the next logical step in a closer marriage but at least didn't complete the process 100%. RP me realizes this was akin to - I can't think of a good analogy right now. Basically, it's setting me up for destruction.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 12:56 PM
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This whole thing is one massive punch to the gut, man. I read your reply twice. I need to read it again. I probably need to lawyer up and get a consultation so I can understand my options and possible outcomes. I never saw it as her family providing the beta stuff but it really lines up with her seemingly uncaring attitude about whether I switch jobs again overseas to satisfy her longing for mommy and daddy. Thank you for putting it so clearly. I love my kid. It tore me up going home leaving her…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 12:49 PM
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Our child will enjoy dual citizenship until age 18 or so - that's the plan anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 12:43 PM
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Good question, I updated the top of my post.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 12:42 PM
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User names like /u/thematrixwantsmeback or /u/fatalbinoninja or /u/gettheresomehow are just screaming out how plugged in and unprepared to change you are. The matrix doesn’t want you back man, you are expendable and the matrix could give a shit and would rather just flush you. Well, I'm flattered to be noticed and mentioned in such a thoughtful contribution to MRP. Hmm... You've made some really interesting points about usernames. I'm going to explain my username as I see it, but first I'll ackn…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/15 03:22 AM
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Welcome! I'm in a similar boat with you. I'll chime in with what others say and mention that WISNIFG is a really,really,really,really good read too.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/15 03:34 PM
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What's the difference between a shit test with insistence and a comfort test? Is there a canonical source I should be reading?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/15 01:05 AM
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I'm getting to that point, but since I'm not, I think you're right and I will start wearing it with the expectation we'll both be wearing indefinitely.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/15 01:05 AM
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After reading the comments here I'm thinking more and more that this might've been the best way to handle this - especially given where we are staying for the rest of the week. I need to learn more about how to recognize and understand comfort tests. I'm not sure if this was one - but if it was, what would have been a good clue?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/15 12:45 AM
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Actually I've purchased both. One in audio the other as an android eBook. Thank you for your guidance and encouragement. It is good to be reminded of their importance.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/15 12:30 AM
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Thanks for the thoughtful reply. I have to say you are right with that last bit. I have a lot of work to do on me before I can hope to have a lasting influence on her.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/15 12:32 PM
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Well, then I guess I ask for your patience. I'm still getting through the prereq books on MRP though I am making progress and have read some of the RP materials. It's hard to unlearn behaviors AND thinking.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/15 12:28 PM
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I have a lot to work on and a lot of pills to take. Thank you hardmode.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/15 12:26 PM
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I'll make more time for the books. A lot of things I can't do until I am back home though. :(
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/15 07:13 AM
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That's fair. Thanks for giving it to me straight.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/15 04:30 AM
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Also, just to mention, you're absolutely right. The rings are a symbol, and it's a symbol I held sacred. I would even flash my wedding ring at women that seemed interested in the past to make sure I didn't send the wrong signals. Now in a sexless joyless marriage where she constantly complains about me ... I don't want to be petty and butthurt, but on the other hand I feel pretty fed up with what feels like having lost the thing the ring symbolizes.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/15 04:10 AM
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Thanks. I think this is what I needed to hear. Decisiveness is something I'm struggling with as I recover from BP. Just started listening to NMMNG on audio. I really want things to be better between me and her. I actually don't want to wear the ring because I'm pissed about our relationship and our "dead bedroom" and that is what lead me here to MRP. I'm trying to feel out how much of that is being petty. I will definitely work on OI and make a big effort to socialize (maybe even light flirting)…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/15 04:06 AM
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Can you check my comment just to make sure? I'm pretty sure she'll be wearing hers.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/15 03:46 AM
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I think she will be wearing hers to impress her traditional friends and family at the event. What does OI mean? If she is set on wearing hers, does that change your advice? I mean, if it's truly important to her ... then what?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/15 03:45 AM
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This is pretty straightforward. So basically, I'm telling her IDGAF. The ideal scenario would be our marriage could get to a point where we're both proud to wear our rings again though ...
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/15 03:44 AM
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I'm grateful for your reply but ... I was asking if I was hurting my own cause by choosing not to wear it myself. I think she'll be wearing hers. My guess is that she wants to make a good showing to her traditional family and friends (the party is even at a church). Can you clarify?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/15 03:41 AM
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This was a riveting post for me. Thanks for the share.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/15 05:42 PM
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PS I read all of these in one sitting. Huge eye opening material. Every man (and boy) needs to read this. Thank you!
/r/askTRP17/06/15 10:11 PM
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Thank you for your reply! I have been practicing not bitching. It's my first baby step into holding frame and acting on RP.
/r/askTRP17/06/15 10:09 PM
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I'm starting to understand these things now as I have been reading RP material... thank you. The whole "you cannot negotiate desire" is like a 1000lb bomb. I see so many interactions I've had in the past and just a major facepalm now that I am coming to understand what this means.
/r/askTRP17/06/15 10:08 PM
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Does WISNIFG discuss these techniques? (still learning these terms, much less how to apply them) Yeah. I totally failed these tests in the past. Hopefully I can learn more so I can be better equipped next time. I've been very slowly getting into NMMNG.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/15 10:04 PM
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I will and you're right, this isn't easy. Last time we interacted for any length of time I was just practicing not bitching. So much BP in my system.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/15 10:03 PM
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I definitely have my work cut out for me. I'm still educating myself on what "DGAF" means and how to act on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/15 10:01 PM
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Yes I do.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/15 10:01 PM
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Just to be clear, you'd still tell (1) her in advance - or (2) just tell her if it comes up?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/15 10:00 PM
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Wow! You definitely put it in clear terms, thank you for taking the effort. TBH, I haven't spent any time looking for those traits in my Dad because I only started RP myself, but no doubt they were clear to her. I am working on my frame, it takes serious practice after years of being a BP bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/15 09:58 PM
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You may be right, but I'm not ready to accept giving up on her is the only option quite yet. It seems I have a lot to learn and while I'm at it I can work on self-improvement and maybe she might see me in a new light. If not, well, then maybe this is the course I need to take. Other than lost opportunities or lost time, are there reasons why you wouldn't wait as I've described?
/r/askTRP14/06/15 10:11 AM
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I'll have to look into what 'dread' means in this context. What you wrote seems, unfortunately, like it may all very well be true.
/r/askTRP14/06/15 10:08 AM
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I'm sorry. I'm new to reddit. It probably sounds ridiculous, but between finding "TRP" and redirecting to "ATRP" I somehow missed "married red pill" existed and thus the content on that specific sidebar. I'm sure I passed over other obvious and useful links. Thanks for your patience.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/15 09:58 AM
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I definitely need to do a lot of work on a lot of the things you listed... thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/15 09:57 AM
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I hate to say it... but it seems you are right. This is good advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/15 09:56 AM
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I listened to all of your podcasts in one sitting! Thank you for those. I hope you'll expand more on the shit tests topic and more examples of how to apply the techniques in dealing with them.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/15 09:56 AM
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I don't see anything in the sidebar about how to start lifting. I agree with everyone - I can see the importance of it after reading some RP. Any tips you might like to share on how to start? If you had zero knowledge of lifting, would you hire a trainer or something to get started?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/15 09:55 AM
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Thanks. I really think you are spot on there. This is good advice. My mother really was a very emotionally manipulative person. Fortunately, she cut herself out of the influence in my life, but not before doing plenty of damage. I'll definitely get to more reading...
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/15 09:53 AM
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I don't think she is cheating, but to be honest I've been a very trusting husband. I haven't spied on her phone or her fb. I only learned that she's complaining so much because one of the persons she complained to told me and it opened my eyes. I haven't confronted her about it as I think that might only make matters worse. How do you raise your SMV in a marriage? In a casual relationship you can totally tell someone off and walk away. In a marriage with a kid, especially in the US where I am, o…
/r/askTRP13/06/15 10:08 PM
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Thanks for your reply. I don't, but usually I'm just nice friendly and respectful to anyone that hasn't proven to me that they don't deserve it. I do feel pretty stuck. I feel like I've played the "marriage roulette game" and lost. It may seem silly but a guy with a background like mine might need a little more in-depth instruction on how to build the sort of character you're probably talking about.
/r/askTRP13/06/15 10:05 PM
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Thanks, I'm new to reddit. I'll look into that. I actually subscribed just to ask this question as I just don't know where to turn at this point. Is it reasonable or appropriate to ... "cross post" or "cross link" this question over to that reddit?
/r/askTRP13/06/15 08:34 PM
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