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QUEEN SH*TChachaDosvedanya/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 09:28 PM
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As a fanfic author I feel both attacked and validated 😭I am literally rewriting a work to undo the toxic influences I projected into the story and love interest from my relationship from years ago. It feels incredibly good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:22 AM
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Thank you. It is literally the only thing that saved me and it only happened because the voices here weren’t drowned out with the incessant whataboutism and derailing that happens elsewhere. It’s shocking how opposed a lot of people are to us talking about these experiences unvarnished, and in women being able to draw their own conclusions from those stories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 07:43 AM
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Exactly. Everytime someone makes a comment, no matter how small, it reminds you that your body is constantly being tallied, which feeds into the vicious cycle. It's hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:31 AM
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Thank you. But I'm unfortunately just one of many. When I say it out loud even now I can't believe, it but it is the truth. I was absolutely spiritually devastated. The kicker is he started this over text while I was on business overseas because wait for it, he went to a LITERAL PORN FESTIVAL with fRiEndZ and was upset I, effectively his live in dominatrix * dIdn'T wAnT tO bE pOLy anYmOrE yOu'RE OpprEsSing mE!!! Overnight my entire life fell apart and I am still picking up the pieces. I am a rec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:23 AM
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Yes. It's despicable. Just a few years ago when I was going through a life-shattering divorce (coincidentally how I came to find this sub) I was in the deepest depressive episode of my life and couldn't eat. I lost a very steep amount of weight overnight because I was grieving. Some woman I worked with flounced up to me, looked at me dead in my haunted grey face and grey eyes, and was like OH YOU LOST SO MUCH WEIGHT*, WHAT'S YOUR SECRET!? *Granted I was 1) literally completely normal weight, eve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:28 AM
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Seconded. Slipping into disordered eating is downright socially encouraged. I never got as much attention as when I was literally starving. And worse, people go out of their way to give you fucked up positive reinforcement for it. Our species is doomed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 12:45 AM
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This woman is fully and completely brainwashed. Holy. Fuck. There is not a chance in hell a supposed “parent” screaming at their own six year old trying to show human empathy is their “only issue”. This is an abusive spouse and father. Jesus just delete that whole sub already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 06:22 PM
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You are absolutely correct. There is no 'winning' because the game itself is bullshit. The only truth is that no matter what we do, we're wrong and not good enough. Better wOrK oN yOUrsElf with a side of cOmMunIcaTe. I also don't know if I can date a gamer. I actually know when to shut mine off and walk away. I have heard of men wearing diapers these days for this shit. I have no words. I think it comes from them not understanding how to have a personality around things that aren't patently "app…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:34 PM
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Midsommar is a perfect litmus test for whether someone can recognize a toxic relationship. It definitely has a plot and point, it's just not spoon fed to you. It's so incredibly metaphorical and layered that it's one of my favorite movies; it was also a Whole Mood to watch this after my ex-husband left me for a pick me, 2 weeks after our honeymoon after I was a forever girlfriend (16 years) A. Whole. Mood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:29 PM
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That's really kind of you, I have been wanting to write for a long time and sometimes it pops out when I get passionate. I really appreciate your compliment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:28 PM
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I lived this; I was the ideal virgin female who "tamed" the handsome Casanova with my purity and brain. I know because his parents basically told me that much and rewarded me for it, all while they tried to convince me to get me pregnant for years to tie me to him. It all crashed down the literal moment I woke up and started telling him (not asking) him to be accountable for how much he went out of his way to make me feel like shit for not being able to perform for him sexually and his specific …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:24 AM
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I agree. Admittedly, formerly coming from the BDSM community (not exactly willing, brainwashed/pressured/ultimatum'd into it by my ex) I went through a period brimming on idolizing these women. I even considered it, but goddamn if this sharp doses of reality don't make it sound like every other horrible service industry job, x1000000% the psychic pain
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:08 AM
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Haiiiiii it's meeeee!!!!! And yes, he was my first boyfriend/serious partner and I was effectively groooooomed!!!!!! Don't miss him or the lifestyle one bit!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:04 PM
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It's a money thing because unconsciously they see us as a utility to be bought, but preferably, to be acquired for free - because they're taught from birth they're owed one of us to their particular specifications and standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 07:48 PM
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COAL DIGGER! I'M DEAD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 07:44 PM
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OH OH and my OTHER favorite part of this is when she is casually and straightforwardly just like “yeah I’m 43” and the audience AUDIBLY GASPS and Wendy looks like she’s about to have a stroke. I. Love. Her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 12:45 AM
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YEP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 12:43 AM
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Funnily enough she did date a French count. I think she left him lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 10:48 PM
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heart shaped glasses is also a reference to Lolita. let that sink in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 10:42 PM
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Keanu is HVM. If we ever find out opposite I vow to go to reverse gay-conversion therapy to forcibly become a lesbian because he is my only hope that good men exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 10:41 PM
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Yes, they were married and in their 30s. She found out that he was cheating on her, I believe actually with Evan Rachel Wood, and then in legendary fashion had a moving truck show up, move her shit out of their house in one day (Christmas Eve or around Christmas) and she walked out like the queen she is. Cut him off and only communicated through lawyers. He is a petty bitch and even tried to get HER DOG in the divorce to spite her. source: long time Dita Stan. Look her up if you don't know about…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 10:37 PM
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You will love it. It’s what you make of it. I literally spent the last ten years just exploring and collecting butterflies/rare alchemy ingredients lmao. The mod community is also one of the best on earth so anything you want, someone probably has a mod for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 03:10 PM
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This is the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 03:08 PM
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This is absolutely the truth. Are you me? The amount of mentally unstable lunatics I got when I even breathed a whisper of the fact that I was into games (naively trying to find something someone with similar interests) was literally unreal. I had one guy try to get me to fuck him for (probably imaginary) E3 tickets/access - apropos of absolutely nothing. You laid out the strategy perfectly; basically, be a cipher; keep 99% back. Getting to know the true, deeper aspects of your personality and p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 07:06 PM
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Did you ever consider that he did this deliberately to tear you down? It probably wasn't an accident that he targeted this attack on you during a celebration of something might have been making him insecure. I know because my ex was not ambitious and he would punish me like this, picking apart my appearance alwaaaaays somehow around when I achieved a major goal - because he felt small, but was too much of a coward to say it directly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:37 PM
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"Fight back, ladies. Stay solo rather than take this sh*t." Yep. Because of my divorce and long term relationship before that, it was a complete culture shock entering OLD even BEFORE the virus, and honestly, I am no longer pursuing men. The ones accessible to me at the moment will literally bring nothing to my life except possibly a serious illness and stress. I'm working on myself, trying to survive the pandemic, slowly bailing water into a new career hopefully, and finally and seriously picki…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 07:30 PM
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Yep. My brother and he’s nearly 50. Except for video games it’s movies and a literal toy collection. Only adult I know that doesn’t pay rent. It’s disgusting. Oh yeah and he hates me for going to college and basically making better choices than him with life when he objectively has more talent than me in certain areas. Doesn’t mean shit if you’re a nasty person and you don’t follow through on anything. Also a raging MAGA head, Alex Jones conspiracy theorist, and hater of women. We’re all bitches…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 01:51 PM
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I am a weird gamer girl formerly from pretty extreme poverty. I am also a highly educated career woman who now lives a very comfortable life. I went through every single phase of this comic and it is incredible how the systemic pressures of patriarchy and I would even argue aspects of capitalism as an outgrowth of patriarchy can lead so many of us to turn on each other like too many guppies in a tiny fish tank. I am so glad to see us waking up and throwing that whole, sick system and bad men’s f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 04:02 AM
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Yes. This was the guy I mentioned in a previous post who randomly brought up his love of Ronald Reagan immediately - and I mean immediately - after sex. Same with his other political and religious boundary pushing literally 30 seconds after we had finished and we were laying there. Looking back, I dodged a massive bullet as this behavior was super insidious even though he was such a "nice" guy. This is when I was super nascent in FDS and not following the waiting rule on sex and full, thorough v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 06:50 PM
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Yes. Same. Or like my ex who was a libertarian i.e. a conservative who likes to fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 04:06 AM
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Yes, but there were also a fair amount that were younger, like sir Viking cosplayer clownfuck that’s making the rounds. This problem won’t die out with boomers sadly. I’ve heard the level of hard right radicalization in the USA compared to where Al Qaeda was in the early 90s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 04:04 AM
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exactly, and it's also dangerous and not just because of COVID. like hell am I going to walk around a secluded park with a man I don't know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 07:39 PM
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Nerd here, I won't list off my credentials but I have seen enough of men over the decades who of course dominate and eventually destroy the spaces of fandoms and culture I hold dear to my heart, and I can tell you you're 100% correct. Because of this, I keep my hobbies secret from men IRL because frankly, I've seen things and been the subject of abuse literally for existing. Anime is specifically one of the things I let any man who says he's a nerd talk about with no leading questions on my end …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 05:57 PM
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Thank you. Some of the sentiments on this thread I think have truth but feel slightly wrong somehow. I think beauty is a form of influence, but not true, objective power because beauty is subjective by its nature. Power is power. And it raises another question - are we then saying that aesthetically unappealing women have less power? Like I’m not trying to be reductive here, but I am more ‘attractive’ than say, Angela Merkel or even some of my female supervisors- but they clearly have more power…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 07:47 AM
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Yes. Among other red flags (found out he punched things when angry in the same conversation) I dumped a man over this. He had the audacity to tell me that “the Irish had it worse” than black slaves and would not stfu about it. This was during my early FDS awakening and I sat with the discomfort of the fact that he actually believed this for a night and cut him loose the next day. I figured there was absolutely no way we would be compatible or he was as good of a person as he billed himself as if…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 06:31 AM
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Thank you for sharing, forwarding to a fellow trauma survivor lady friend of mine. We always darkly joke that in basically any other decade we would probably both have already been lobotomized for the crime of surviving abuse. Tangentially, I made the mistake of parsing through the comment section and it is literally nothing but male trolls trying to justify this behavior and attacking the top comments pointing out the bald misogyny. Why am I not surprised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 05:41 AM
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Ah yes, because it’s all for attention right. Because it’s all just a fun performance, right? Yes, when I literally can’t get out of bed to shower for days it’s for fashion, Kevin. They can all go fuck themselves because I certainly won’t be doing it for them. This is why I don’t date doctors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:15 AM
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But....did you try cOmMunIcatIng? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 11:37 PM
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Yes. My one and only male therapist gaslit me on my PTSD diagnosis. He literally slouched back in his chair, stared at me with a cocked eyebrow, and asked “come on ChaCha, do you rEalLy think you have PTSD?” I fired him, got re-evaluated by a woman, and yes fuckhead, I rEaLLy dO have PTSD (because of a man, go figure). Same exact thing happened with my male PCP and I fired him too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 11:35 PM
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This. Henry Cavill became instantly dead to me after I found out about his thing for teen/barely 20 girls with a massive age gap. Can't even look at him the same way anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 06:52 PM
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Bless you too sis. I feel like I’m always on here writing these novels but I hope to share these stories to show how sickeningly banal these little traumas are. I wondered why it all felt so wrong. Wasn’t I supposed to be having fun? Putting myself out there? But no - it wasn’t fun and it wasn’t until I came here and had the fucking pickmes and LVM scrotes infecting every relationship subreddit AND IN MY OWN FAMILY LMAOOOO out of my life that I could see the truth and start getting in formation …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 07:06 PM
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Oh yes he is blocked now. He actually got a NEW NUMBER to text me bc he was blocked before. Blockity block block
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:04 PM
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I was a lot older than you and made this mistake when I first started OLD. Don’t blame younger you for the crime of being innocent . You got entrapped and then completely discarded under false pretenses. This happened to me too and I felt like complete shit in the morning. I, living in the city with no car, insecure that I was “hitting my wall” was the girl who was dumb enough to Uber 30 minutes to deliver literally Uber Pussy to this fuck I was hoping for an actual relationship with. lots of fu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 05:59 PM
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Hahahaha laughs in toxic ex who has texted me out of nowhere out of presumed holiday loneliness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:23 AM
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Can we get squares for: standing in a river posing with a dead fucking fish, hands up in the air at x natural landscape, beanie to cover obvious balding, and picture with the ex cropped out/poorly erased with MS paint
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 06:43 AM
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Nothing, literally nothing, you said here was inflammatory to warrant a ban or anti-feminist in the least. You know we’re onto something when the censorship is this bad. I spent hours on those other subs looking for answers and being gaslit and made to feel like shit for not cOmUniCaTinG. This is the only place online that has helped me question the massive yet subtle systemic splinters I was feeling in my toxic past with my ex as well as the hellscape that is trying to date for the first time i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 05:59 AM
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Thank you. That means a lot to me, and somewhat ironically after spending almost a year working on myself now I am rediscovering the joy I once took in writing before everything metastasized into shit. I'll take your message as a sign. He never liked hearing what I had to say if it wasn't to 1. prop up his ego and 2. buy his low key gold digging dick something new, so you can imagine where my writing went. Now I do what I want, wear what I want, eat what I want and say what I want. My replacemen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 10:57 PM
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Hello, it was me on r/relationship_advice or r/AskWomen (can't remember), until one of you saved me in the DMs with just the name of this subreddit. Literally changed my life and helped me peel the nearly completely beaten down last dregs of my self respect out of a nearly 15-16 year slow soul death at the hands of a pornsick LVM who financially leeched off me and pretended it was fairness, used me and pretended it was love, and ultimatum'd me into a kinkmeisha under the guise of open mindedness…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 10:14 PM
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I had one literally, out of nowhere, try to start a debate on reaganomics after sex. I mean immediately after sex, like we had just finished maybe 2 minutes earlier. I respected that his politics were different than mine and kept quiet (as I had done with my family and exes family that are quite incensed about their brand of politics) but it was something he kept pushing with me bc apparently I was the only person he knew that wasn’t on his side of the aisle. I was so incensed I turned to him an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:00 AM
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Right after my ex left me, I was sad crying alone at a damn Friday’s bar on a work trip. It was midnight, my client had just finished verbally reaming me out, and my I was still freshly broken from my LV ex husband yeeting himself into a much younger pickmeisha so fast I was in a dust cloud. An absolutely beautiful woman who was having a drink with a girl friend asked me why I was crying silently into a shitty drink at a Friday’s bar. Fair. So I gave her the LVM elevator story including when/how…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 08:59 PM
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Women: Have every square inch of our bodies trussed up like cuts of meat and held to an untouchable ideal typically with a name. Snatched waist. Thigh gap. Glass skin. Etc. To live in a reality where it’s normal to have other women’s hair sewn into our scalps, have needles full of botulism injected into our faces, live under a layer of paint, have bags of gel injected into our chest through our nipples, our assholes bleached, our labia cut. To be socially pressured from everyone including family…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 12:58 PM
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Thank you. I was a terrified pickme victim of this shit as I was pressured into it by my ex (also into BDSM) and he spent years guilt tripping me into thinking there was something wrong with ME for being uncomfortable with it. I actually loved him so I never slept with anyone else so I got the lovely experience of being his main aka mommy who stayed home alone while he threw his dick down every hallway he could find. Every single poly person I have met has been the most self righteous shitbag an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:29 PM
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Yes, first half of this was me. As soon as I told him I didn’t want him fucking other people he left me right after. My fear was correct the whole time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:16 PM
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Copy on the physically ill. I had to unsubscribe from this shit show of a sub lately because posts like this are literally triggering for me. There was one a few days ago about a girls boyfriend being jealous of her rapists in revenge porn he was forwarded while she was under age and I had to peace out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 05:34 AM
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Oh my fucking god you described my ex to a fucking T. I was with him for 15 years, a forever fiancé, convinced him to go to college to get out of our shit town. We were both poor, him less so but his greatest dream was to join the military bc he had a gun fetish. I literally completed his classes for him so he could get his degree (engineering, myself as well) because he was dEpreSsed, though he not once ever supported me through my depression in 15 years even during suicidal ideation after I lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 11:34 PM
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She’s probably looking for validation because she knows she’s going to get gaslit/accused of nAgGinG. We all move at different paces to throw this shit in the trash where it belongs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 02:05 AM
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