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Fundamentals ElBajitoGordito/r/seduction22/06/26 11:32 AM
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Inner Game ElBajitoGordito/r/seduction25/01/26 12:16 PM
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Field ReportElBajitoGordito/r/seduction17/01/26 01:29 PM
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Fundamentals ElBajitoGordito/r/seduction24/12/25 10:51 AM
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ConversationElBajitoGordito/r/seduction01/01/26 02:04 PM
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Fundamentals ElBajitoGordito/r/seduction24/06/26 05:32 PM
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Fundamentals ElBajitoGordito/r/seduction12/03/26 10:12 AM
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Field ReportElBajitoGordito/r/seduction20/07/26 09:06 AM
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Fundamentals ElBajitoGordito/r/seduction23/09/25 10:12 PM
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On reflection I am at peace already. If not now I would have fumbled later down line. I friend zoned a girl middate the other day cause I wasn't feeling much of a flirty vibe. Have to keep looking at the wins.
/r/seduction20/07/26 08:39 PM
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I wouldnt say she is the one, but I've got attached yeah. Oh well ultimately dating is survival of the fittest and if it goes badly ultimately it falls on me to accept. I can still see the positives in it.
/r/seduction20/07/26 07:55 PM
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Appreciate the honest feedback. I guess I'm not just cut out for the casual frame. I guess when I first dabbled with this, I had a few girls really into me and the communication was better and the progression quicker.
/r/seduction20/07/26 07:31 PM
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Honestly, there's a decent chance that's already happened from her end. She as at a cultural festival yesterday and responded half-assedly to my texts with lines about waking up exhausted and a headache, voice and legs tired from the wekeend (ok we did karaoke and she was in heels)....translation girl code for I slept with someone else, right?
/r/seduction20/07/26 07:15 PM
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Point being? You have useful things to say or just troll.
/r/seduction20/07/26 12:12 PM
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But where else? I can't do my own place or hers, and we can't do a car. Call me a prude but I wouldn't be comfortable with a toilet, alley or park/nature for first time with a girl.
/r/seduction20/07/26 12:04 PM
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I'm going to be on a family holiday soon, I'm open to inviting her to stay with me in a place of our own for a few days - but its a big step.
/r/seduction20/07/26 09:29 AM
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Seems like a lot of pressure. I've always made the hotel conversation in person during a date when the vibes are good.
/r/seduction20/07/26 09:16 AM
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Not call as first point of contact, but sometimes I have just called girls without setting a time/planning a seed. Between dates I've done it to set up logistics keep comfort familiarity. At the end of the day, if I can't be funny, comfortable on a phone call, or if she just makes it dead, then there is probably no point taking it to a date.
/r/seduction24/06/26 06:09 PM
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The problem is I am quite a warm person, but it has been hardwired in my mind that warmth is icky to women.
/r/seduction24/06/26 05:36 PM
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Something like "this will probably end in under a year, but until then we can be exclusive" Most of my more regular adventures have been with tourists. I guess I probably have some issues to work out, whereby I can't have sex without emotional investment.
/r/seduction24/06/26 10:33 AM
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Playfully dancing can be a fun, easy way to break the touch barrier. It works even if you are hopeless at dancing.
/r/seduction24/06/26 10:31 AM
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To be fair, this girl was a bit of a pain to arrange a second date with, and I told her that meeting new people is supposed to be fun not a scheduling chore, so I told her to get back in touch in a few weeks. She responded well to it.
/r/seduction24/06/26 10:30 AM
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Honestly haven't got better at this over time, I've only been able to enter casual due to circumstance - out-of-towners / age gap (her being older) where serious becomes laughable by default. Messed up my first baddie last year in this kind of negotiation stage 'what are we'
/r/seduction23/06/26 08:19 AM
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I can drink, I can do some bars, but clubs is a hard no, too loud. I just get tired. Also I don't really get nightlife, never have. Where I live its sunny until 10pm in summer, why do I need to spend more time outside to pay to be in the dark? Weekend or weeknight I am totally capped out at 10/11pm.
/r/seduction23/06/26 03:05 AM
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But honestly if I haven't got that then there's little I can offer I can't be like "yo shawty I don't break hearts I break backs"
/r/seduction22/06/26 09:42 PM
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Well let's say we're meeting in the bar at 8pm, she's not gonna wanna leave her friends unless it's quite late. So what do I do? Clown her for 4 hours? At 1am she's already warmed up and someone else can take her home in a matter of minutes. Once flirting is established, I've tried saying "I like to be in bed by 11pm, I'm pretty boring, if I'm not in my own bed or someone else's by then, the night has gone very wrong". One girl looked at me intrigued I kind of missed some signals with her, the o…
/r/seduction22/06/26 09:40 PM
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I'm usually playful from very early on. But the sexual part is usually where I go wrong. What does a playful to sexual escalation look like. Unless they are very romantically minded when I go for the kiss, they respond to it but its more of like a 'might as well' rather than 'take me'.
/r/seduction22/06/26 01:00 PM
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Yeah, but I don't really know the communication style that leads to fuck without feelings. Let's say you're flirting with a girl you meet at a bar, you've broken the touch barrier and you're teasing each other with good eye contact...then what. Usually I'm too tired to see out the whole evening, and its pointless to get her number whilst some other guy fucks her later. I don't have a place or car of my own.
/r/seduction22/06/26 12:41 PM
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Bro who the hell is out there getting 10-20 new numbers a week?
/r/seduction28/05/26 06:52 AM
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Respect the hustle but honestly best that this sort of thing stays analogue. We'd then just have a bunch of basement dwellers not actually approaching and just tracking what other guys are doing. Cold approach is growing because of dating app pushback but it's still in a nice niche spot.
/r/seduction27/05/26 04:49 PM
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Sounds like you are able to find chill simple women that match your vibe - sniper approach not shotgun. I guess maybe a lot of these women are a bit anxious and so you have to do more of the heavy lifting. You can try and see if they'd be open to chatting on the phone before you go on the date - you can also talk you way out of the date that way but are likely to get more investment if it goes well.
/r/seduction25/05/26 10:54 AM
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Time efficiency. I'm still a beginner/volume guy so honestly for me a cold approach is easier than a date. Cold approach is free, takes anywhere between 1min and 30min - I'm already out and about, save money time and effort compared to date.
/r/seduction20/05/26 10:24 PM
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You caught my eye + specific compliment about her style vibe. Pause, measure reaction. Double down on initial compliment and make an assumption about her. Yeah you have this hippie vibe you look like you go thrift shopping. Share something about yourself. Ask for her name or share yours, if you feel she doesn't look excited or ask a question just back out anywhere between 30s and 1min. Why do you want to go on a date with a woman you don't know? Chat to her see if she's cool. The fact you aren't…
/r/seduction20/05/26 07:58 PM
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Breaking rapport might have to be dialled down in a low-trust, post me too, post social media era. People are just not that comfortable with strangers anymore.
/r/seduction17/05/26 05:05 PM
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You forgot to add: *Applies to conventionally attractive, highly feminine/sexual women with border line mental health problems. Tell me if I'm telling lies. A lot of regular women are not like this LOL
/r/seduction28/03/26 10:00 AM
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Some ideas: 1) not do you want to get coffee, I'm doing X, join me at place, time 2) seed the idea of date and the day in the in-person conversation 3) date should be framed as activity or adventure 4) sometimes I mention that I'm a bad texter and it's my red flag and I like to call people instead and use that to set up logistics like time and place 5) general principle: don't negotiate with terrorists...offer a plan, a second plan, not does this work for you, what day is best You can do all thi…
/r/seduction20/03/26 06:07 AM
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The only advice for the average guy I can give is this. You are probably not as bad as you think. Are you 15-25% bf, are you over 5ft5/6, are you not objectively ugly? Do you have some masculine traits? Confidence, low neuroticism, deep voice etc. Congrats, you have enough to compete - you meet the minimum requirements. You just need to be in a high volume area and leave your house enough. Talk to lots of women an in real life and keep things simple. Cold reads/assumptions, tease playfully (non …
/r/seduction18/03/26 07:38 PM
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I enjoy socialising too much in real life, I couldn't possibly concieve texting to get to know someone. Set up phone call quick or pretty much not for me. Phone call forces you to be present and concentrated for 5-30 mins. Texting is for the 'perpetually busy'. Again I'm sure it can work but it has to be very structured and I don't care much for it.
/r/seduction13/03/26 01:04 PM
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Have a good Insta show a good lifestyle, post cool stories yes because this demonstrates social proof. But text a lot...never, waste of fucking time. The more you text, the more likely you are to say something stupid. Also for me its like a screening / compliance test: I call and she doesn't pick up/offer an altenrative time/call back...not for me...too neurotic/anxious/uninterested to speak. Texting is very much the frame of women, childish, low effort. But perhaps lack of texting and lack of '…
/r/seduction13/03/26 06:12 AM
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Unless you are high on traditional LMS western women is a hopeless routine for most guys. You have to be really high value to break the feminist programming. Or high comfort/simp your way into a relationship.
/r/seduction12/03/26 11:28 PM
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All it means is increased volume or increased skill to compete.
/r/seduction12/03/26 02:40 PM
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Human biology has not changed so the principles of seduction are timeless (until genetic modification and chip/AI interface takes over) But employers (women) are saturated with attention from online so the bar to compete in short term has risen. Also increased female independence means the bar for partnership has also risen.
/r/seduction12/03/26 09:14 AM
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From a selfish POV, no lets not bring back pick up. Less competition for us doing it. Especially important in urban areas <100,000k population. From a societal point yes lets bring back PUA. If average healthy, socially calibrated, NT guys got into pick-up en masse, it would be over for women. No simping in DMs and on dating apps, no prolonged talking stages, no bullshit restaurant dates, no toleration of low interest. Collectively their hand would be forced to put more effort into early stage d…
/r/seduction24/02/26 11:43 PM
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About your last paragraph: Cold approach is somtimes simply just about being the first person to go up to her in person and say hi that night, that week etc. All of the dating apps and DMs they have fades into noise. She would never consider you on the apps, but now you're in front of her, you can show your wit, your humour, escalate physically with light touch...
/r/seduction24/02/26 09:49 AM
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So to get younger girls the communication style has to be a bit road/hood?
/r/seduction17/02/26 08:46 PM
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TUDO BEM. Caralaho. Danza Kaduro.
/r/seduction08/02/26 10:00 AM
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Both are pretty bad, but you can guarantee that too timid gets 0 results but too egotistical will get some results with a high burn/churn rate (lots of resistance). You need to be confident, but balanced and not jester like. The sub-communication needs to be sexual but the language should be comfortable. Its a fine fucking line. Neurodivirgents or anyone who deviates from the masculine ideal is always going to struggle with this and have a low success rate.
/r/seduction01/02/26 10:25 AM
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Nice comparison.
/r/seduction31/01/26 09:07 AM
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Shoe on the other foot. If 100 women of varying attractiveness wanted to fuck you over the course of a week, you wouldn't say yes to all 100. You might find 30 ugly 20 pretty but said or did something that put you off Of the remaining 50, 15 dissapear or ghost 20 of the remaining you aren't in the best of mood energy got work etc So yeah it's normal to get rejected What's not normal is to get series after series of blowouts or to never get any girl into you
/r/seduction30/01/26 08:53 AM
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Or some of us actually like flirting with women and the challenge of warming up a stranger.
/r/seduction28/01/26 09:06 AM
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Practice. You're just rusty.
/r/seduction26/01/26 05:52 AM
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Fine. But most girls are not being DMd by millionaires. They have creepy strangers messaging them on IG and tinder a couple of orbiters in the friend group and drunk guys at clubs. High quality women will still have plenty of good suitors through work, social clubs but cold approach still gives you a shot.
/r/seduction25/01/26 06:52 PM
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Ok wise guy. Normal lame nice guy: information exchange questions, scared to touch her, awardly asks for number directly at end of convo. Then leaves flat. Basic elements of pick up: push pull cold reads, playful/unliteral, kino escalation, venue change, future dates seeded before number close. Who does better? You can't turn no into yes but you can turn maybe off or on depending on what you do.
/r/seduction25/01/26 04:59 PM
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You can kind of talk about it in a jokey way. If she's already attracted to you it doesn't matter.
/r/seduction25/01/26 02:56 PM
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Never give unrequested advice is the key takeaway. Its another way of saying 'don't overinvest' a key pillar of PUA/seduction. I'm far from a pro but I went from zero to getting in the game. I'm happy enough. If normal well calibrated guys that went through normal socialization with positive reinforcement throughout went on PUA, it would be game over for women in the dating market. Let them stay in the dark though.
/r/seduction25/01/26 01:59 PM
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Online dating: swipe right while you sit on the toilet - so Impressive IRL Cold approach: balls to go up to a total stranger and maybe charm them from cold/RBF/bitch shield to mildly interested or better. Yeah, I know what I'll pick
/r/seduction25/01/26 10:03 AM
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Not as much as I would like, but I understand the theory well. I am in awe of the kind of 'dark triad' frame controller types. I usually just go down the make her laugh, don't be so literal type but the real pros will be able to 'sexually and psychologically break' the woman in a matter of minutes.
/r/seduction23/01/26 07:02 AM
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Every woman is different here, when it comes to level of deeper connection. But the basics are playfully disagree, tease, hypothetical silly 'we' scenarios. More advanced is accuse her of flirting with you/chasing you.
/r/seduction22/01/26 09:57 PM
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Yes - if you find that you've never really been swerved on a kiss, you probably aren't trying enough. Obviously if you do get swerved don't make a deal out of it and just back off and increase comfort building and other kino. More escalation is always rewarded, and escalation starts with saying hello
/r/seduction19/01/26 04:16 PM
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I've done a lot of volume as a total beginner with a history of undersocialization. You might expect at least 1 in 10 to give you their number and maybe as high as 1 in 3/4. You can expect like 1/3 to be total blowouts as well. After number close, there is huge variability. A lot of girls give their number as a 'send this guy on his way' kind of thing so whether those numbers are strong depends on the connection you create. You should aim for 5+ approaches in each session as it will take you a w…
/r/seduction18/01/26 07:47 PM
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Every single word I spoke with them
/r/seduction18/01/26 09:05 AM
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Pub in London.
/r/seduction17/01/26 07:20 PM
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Dating has nothing to do with connection and liking eachother, only mutual exchange of value. You can be the charmer, the funny guy, the betabuxx, the status and clout guy, the parties DJ and drugs guy, the artist.... It's no more unethical than being emotionally intelligence and seducing girls with charm At the end of day we are all just trying to get laid without commitment which is not easy by design because it violates the main female mating strategy
/r/seduction16/01/26 10:15 AM
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Excellent article.
/r/seduction11/01/26 12:11 PM
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What are you proposing? Maybe the AI slop posts aren't so bad...
/r/seduction11/01/26 11:49 AM
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Even if you do manage to get occasional casual sex, I bet those feelings of inadequacy will remain. Like what is the difference between a virgin and someone who has had sex 3 times. Very little if you compare it to the guy who's been in and out of flings since age 15. You can choose to make it a major mental hurdle or realistically understand that very little about you will change. The first steps. Are you doing things that allow you to meet women? Do you then talk to enough women? Do you talk t…
/r/seduction04/01/26 06:51 PM
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Awesome. In 2026 I know you can do so much more than that....but you have to increase your volume massively. And not just with girls, practice cold reading, teasing, bantering guys, talk to your cashier, just one more sentence always This has the purpose of being socially free and uninhibited - women can sense it. My mental state and belief about myself was probably the most determining factor on my success. When it was positive I did better, when it was worse I did worse
/r/seduction01/01/26 09:52 PM
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Thank you for sharing and your words of encouragement. Aside from porn usage (which I am guilty of) what did you do to really make change on the inner game.
/r/seduction01/01/26 08:12 PM
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Start with social events and singles events. The bar is so low. Literally hi. Trust me I understand this, I always used to think I need a reason something specific to saw but you don't. If you can offer an interesting observation about the venue or her appearance (fashion) that's always a good one
/r/seduction01/01/26 03:34 PM
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Keeps your skills up You enjoy it Prepping the mental and social skills for when one day in the future you do have the financial position
/r/seduction29/12/25 12:17 PM
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Usually solo. I do a lot worse with wings. I am usually a decent wingman cause I open a lot and open well.
/r/seduction25/12/25 09:16 AM
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Might be sad. But beyond creepy? Not sure about that. Might not work for US/UK girls but its with girls from other cultures.
/r/seduction24/12/25 10:01 PM
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So effectively restrict intimacy. I'm quite comfortable with pulling away first or learning in then pulling away. It winds them up. LOL.
/r/seduction24/12/25 05:53 PM
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How do you recommend selling yourself better...like yesterday we were kissing after like 20 min, talking about what we would do to eachother, biting eachother playfully (in a bar with plenty around us mind you) and she was like 'wait you want us to go to a place that isn't here?' when I suggested bouncing to a nicer venue This woman approached me by the way, for an idea of the levels of 'cooked' I am with respect to ONS.
/r/seduction24/12/25 04:02 PM
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Yes, probably met the best girl I've ever known. Was only travelling here and she is a bit older, but her character exceptional and pretty much solid basic technical game was required to hook her. Being myself was enough to make her stay.
/r/seduction24/12/25 04:00 PM
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Beyond being bold and direct, which I can do, I wouldn't say I am particularly masculine. I usually experience strong interest from girls who are interested that usually falters either within the first interaction or after a series of dates.
/r/seduction24/12/25 03:58 PM
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Game is not the way. But it has helped tremendously. 2024 I had never asked a woman out or flirted with a woman unless totally drunk, basically no female attention or presence prior to that and only had on LTR, long distance met online. But now I can go out myself escalate and get numbers, dates, make outs etc. The hit rate is appalling, for sure. I know I can definitely improve appearance further - more muscle mass, leaner face. Not really sure what the solution is, there is probably a biologic…
/r/seduction24/12/25 01:46 PM
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I do agree with your point. Its not really a numbers game. I've seen it with my own friends.
/r/seduction24/12/25 12:39 PM
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Maybe. Those are some reasonable advice points. Thanks. I will check out that course. I do need to work on approaching more of the conventionally attractive hot girls...kind of see them as a 'no chance here'.
/r/seduction24/12/25 12:36 PM
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Is it? Go out 3-4 times a week. 50 times a week. So what that is like 3-4 approaches a day? I know about compliance testing, its my favourite aspect of game. I guess I struggle with 'frame' - I am the prize, you are chasing me, dominanting her psychologicially etc. I also get 'boyfriend taxed' a lot.
/r/seduction24/12/25 12:35 PM
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Objectively average girls, 5-7/10, but that have something that makes them attractive to me. aged 20-35. Groups, and solo. What kind of girls should I be approaching? Unless I really like the music dancing is a bit uncomfortable. If it's a song I like I will sing along to it and I've caught a vibe like that occasionally. Hotels are actually reasonably cheap on certain days of the week in London. I've got 2/4 girls to agree to that but not on first meet.
/r/seduction24/12/25 11:29 AM
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Most hot girl, average guy did not meet on the street.
/r/seduction12/12/25 12:08 PM
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Nice post man. Well written. Agree with the sentiment.
/r/seduction11/12/25 10:29 PM
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No, he meant literal musculoskeletal frame. You can't set a psychological frame immediately (usually) takes buy-in during conversation
/r/seduction23/11/25 10:25 AM
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Always after two or three questions let the conversation settle, see if she asks something about you.
/r/seduction11/11/25 10:30 PM
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Highly recommend. I've burnt/gone nuclear on (i.e told them that this is a waste of time) women that don't progress things at a rate that I want or how I want. More often a better option has found its way to me. On the contrary where I've been patient, dragged it out, or 'slowly applied pressure' it has lead nowhere. Trust you can meet enough women in a week/month and you will be fine.
/r/seduction10/11/25 10:20 PM
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Held frame. And its respectful. Good job.
/r/seduction10/11/25 10:09 PM
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Cold reads / specific compliments work great.
/r/seduction09/11/25 10:50 AM
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If you see her taking a photo, or you have a camera on you, its a tourist attraction etc. I think its a playful next step, it shows leadership, competence, artistry you can put her in frame of modelling for you. But some lower stakes warm up conversation to build investment/hook seems more calibrated.
/r/seduction09/11/25 09:55 AM
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Bro sounds like your doing great.
/r/seduction09/11/25 08:46 AM
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If early in conversation probably just walk away. Next. If other IOIs extended chat then stay in the pocket my guy it's just a shit test. Can always go uno reverse and describe your type as the exact opposite of her.
/r/seduction26/10/25 02:04 PM
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You probably just need some time on the sidelines. It sounds like you've 'completed it mate'.
/r/seduction27/09/25 09:51 AM
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No, I would say the average I am approaching is a 6. I would probably put myself a 7 physically but probably a 4 or 5 because of the aforementioned social/psychological aspects. Logistics is a problem, I can't take them to mine. I have gotten some girls to go to a hotel and been invited to theirs. What are effective ways to make intentions direct or more sexual tone during a conversation. I never usually progress beyond light touch and teasing on a first interaction.
/r/seduction23/09/25 10:40 PM
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I haven't had much luck with social circle. Have found it stressful to navigate based on poor experiences at school and university. Rely on solo work at events or 1 or 2 wingmen. How would you recommend effectively flirting and building trust through social circle?
/r/seduction23/09/25 10:35 PM
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Ok, I accept your perspective. I am not coming here to say I am correct, the woman are wrong. I am looking for useful advice. Would you like to share any?
/r/seduction23/09/25 10:27 PM
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Fair enough. How do you define a connection between a man and a woman that leads to sex? I personally find deep conversations, intellectual topics, analytical stuff, really trying to understand how her brian works and sharing as the most sitmulating. That would be my natural approach. But that is very turn-offy/platonic for most owmen. I've only felt that mutual spark type of connection that women talk about once on those 500 approaches.
/r/seduction23/09/25 10:26 PM
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