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Escalation & CalibrationNChSh/r/seduction07/11/24 06:53 PM
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You can text them some random bullshit but women are getting texted by their exes all the time. The best way is to send them something funny/clever and specific to them with no seeming agenda attached to it. If they're interested they'll write a bunch of shit and if they're not you didn't look thirsty.
/r/seduction12/05/26 11:10 PM
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/r/seduction15/11/25 10:20 PM
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I dont like sleeping with women anymore if I am relatively sure that they want a relationship with me but I know I dont want one with them. Women are great and that makes me feel gross not validated
/r/seduction14/11/25 03:12 PM
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It really depends where you live
/r/seduction01/11/25 06:32 PM
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"Yeah well, my type hasn't been working put for me lately" - she will likely realize she is single and has been dating her type.
/r/seduction26/10/25 04:29 PM
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You gotta do all of them. Online dating is relatively easy to convert into actual dates although I'd take a cold approach over the vast majority of my online dates. But if you don't go out on dates you are not in practice. You gotta be going after it
/r/seduction25/10/25 02:19 AM
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Put on a record and pour some wine
/r/seduction24/10/25 05:22 PM
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I think when you just start dating after a divorce or whatever just go out with anyone to practice, but once you've gotten reps in for sure try to be targeted
/r/seduction24/10/25 03:51 AM
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The thing you can do before is get in really good shape and go on a diet and then also be funny in your chat with her
/r/seduction23/10/25 02:36 PM
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Its what I call my "strategic reserve"
/r/seduction04/10/25 05:36 AM
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I think of it as my strategic reserve. Its usually not very fruitful but you can hit here and there. Just don't reach out to more than one at a time so you don't blaze through the whole stockpile. Check their socials for sign of a boyfriend first too
/r/seduction22/09/25 05:20 PM
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My personal theory on double texting is that: a.) it is so out of vogue now that men send them less than ever, and b.) women are used to getting them at least a bit but now are barely getting any. So with the dearth of double texting women are almost flattered to get them now. I have been double texting a lot lately and I am literally like looking forward to it. It doesn't work every time but it is hardly the death knell people make it out to be.
/r/seduction22/09/25 04:40 AM
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Also women misrepresent themselves on app all the time its better to meet in public for both of you
/r/seduction20/09/25 04:34 PM
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Hello
/r/seduction17/09/25 01:14 AM
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I think women are all different. Dating is just as exhausting for women as it is for us and a single wolf in sheep's clothing problematic guy can really turn them off from it for awhile. Its not uncommon for women to arbitrarily go on Hinge or whatever on a random day, pick 3 matches from just that group, get busy that week and only have one match still active a week later. Some of them want a partner and just dont absolutely crave validation like others do. They're out there but its hard to tel…
/r/seduction06/09/25 05:11 PM
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I use ChatGPT to hone messages and advise on when to send them but no ai will be able to do this on its own
/r/seduction04/09/25 06:53 PM
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Its not really a movie it's more of a documentary
/r/seduction03/09/25 01:06 AM
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This is honestly way more believable than most shit posted on here frankly. And hes not even trying to sell a class or some bs like that. The woman is probably nuts but who cares
/r/seduction02/09/25 01:39 AM
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I've been on enough dates where I missed going to the dry cleaners in time or talked to women in bad clothes to realize its hard to correlate dressing nice with women actually wanting to date me or not. How I act and how "on" I am matter way more in my experience. Your confidence matters so if dressing nice makes you more confident then great. I also dress in clean pressed clothes but im hardly a fashionista is all I mean
/r/seduction31/08/25 01:13 AM
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Lol have you actually started dating yet
/r/seduction23/08/25 12:26 AM
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Yeah like that would be great but the dating pool often has really cool, attractive avoidant people in it that have been emotionally trained by others to hide some of their impulses. It's harder to filter this shit out than you're giving it credit for
/r/seduction22/08/25 05:54 PM
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If youre approaching and consistently getting numbers first off thats tight. If youre getting ghosted after its probably not because they think youre nice a big number of women will literally still try to friend zone you. Youre probably spooning them a lil
/r/seduction17/08/25 02:12 AM
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Yes but you don't know which woman is super shallow about looks and which isn't. There are some women who are vain as hell and only get activated by the dopamine hit of the guy being handsome. But a.) who gives a shit what they think about you and b.) There are a lot more women who can get activated by personality than you'd think
/r/seduction15/08/25 05:37 PM
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You can still be a "nice" person and believe you are worthy of dating. Im still super nice and do ok, im just good at dating too
/r/seduction11/08/25 03:38 AM
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I hear you but I vow on my life I will never stop lol
/r/seduction08/08/25 07:19 AM
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How to write an em dash
/r/seduction07/08/25 03:53 AM
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Being friends with women has gotten me women over the years. If you can only see yourself dating a particular woman be flirty then clear with her but being friends in a vacuum is great
/r/seduction28/07/25 03:01 PM
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After finishing, I sipped some water and tried to catch my breath — I had pushed that set pretty hard. "Ok so ChatGPT, make sure to emphasize how hard i was working whenever possible" lol
/r/seduction25/07/25 12:01 AM
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Women in a lot of cities in the world have a glut of options in 2025. They can be picky in a way that you cannot. Also, having sex with women is fantastic and a lot of men will do basically anything to do that. They will try as hard as they possibly can and center their life around trying to do it as much as possible. Also a lot of women are dating less than ever and this is probably the worst decade since like 1930 to be dating as a man (in most cities). So any woman who wants to date right now…
/r/seduction18/07/25 10:03 PM
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I mean were you in a big crowd of people? Just tell him to go find a new girl this one is his ex and he's just going to stick around forever? He's going to punch you maybe once or twice with your guard up around a million people it won't do much and you can probably get him kicked out after that and you'll look good to the girl. Don't fucking use a weapon that's pussy shit
/r/seduction12/07/25 08:26 PM
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Theres kind of a paradox where its like the more I have in common with a woman, especially if we're having drinks, ill just get to chatting and have a great time. Then get ghosted. Women apparently dont like a familiar feeling conversation though and will not be attracted to me for having no sexual tension on the date. At first when I started dating I found this completely perplexing. However with women I have less in common with, even if theyre way hotter, I usually do way better in terms of ge…
/r/seduction07/07/25 11:50 PM
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Hotter women often have higher standards than less attractive women 🤯
/r/seduction29/06/25 07:19 AM
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More desirable women are harder to sleep with than less desirable women lol
/r/seduction20/06/25 11:02 AM
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I do best on Bumble but I think Bumble's algorithm really rewards engagement and momentum
/r/seduction11/06/25 10:20 PM
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I always thought of this as like Groundhogs Daying
/r/seduction08/06/25 12:08 AM
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Im sure you do want to find women to have sex with whenever you want on your terms lol
/r/seduction05/06/25 03:42 PM
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By "MagnusMain" a DOTA 2 reference lol
/r/seduction04/06/25 05:40 AM
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That's not mutually exclusive. Its easier to go on a bunch of dates at 42 than 27 but to land a secure woman at 42 is really difficult
/r/seduction03/06/25 08:10 PM
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Eh never initiating anything is pretty common even with women who like you. Mind games and postponing are often from avoidant women and they might actually like you but are a little advanced for a lot of the posters on here to actually date. Like this basically is a list if you get a secure woman how you want to see them treat you, which if you do hold on to her because they are fucking rare as you get older lol
/r/seduction03/06/25 05:01 PM
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If you want a repeatable skill that will def help you with women and make you look better, take up photography. Not even joking
/r/seduction28/05/25 02:21 PM
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If you have to brag, make them tease it out of you. Don't just offer it. Bragging is a huge turn off I think guys see it as a short cut to getting a big spike in attraction but it doesn't work that way. If they find out you can do those things organically without you offering it though they love it. So just let it happen if you do it
/r/seduction27/05/25 10:15 PM
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One for me is if there is a lull in conversation in dates 1-3, never be the one to start talking again. Just look super comfortable, relax, smirk and just kind of lightly laugh while making eye contact. Be completely at ease. They will always start talking again and process it as a moment
/r/seduction26/05/25 08:52 PM
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The real paradox/irony or whatever is correct is that dating is more skill based than ever but women still want a guy who is only into them. Like look at the rates people were having sex in the 90s vs today, its literally like 3x as much. And im doing great with women but I have multiple pipelines to get them from and rehearsed dates and have studied how to build attraction on dates. I ate shit for a year getting all that down, but when I was eating shit I was probably a much better long term pa…
/r/seduction26/05/25 03:07 PM
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I also have a date where I make a beach fire with a charcuterie board and wine. Its a ton of work. I had a first date with a woman who was so different than her profile for the worse and then I was just stuck there with her. And it was so much work! Great second date though
/r/seduction24/05/25 11:32 PM
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The ones I talk to that said no or walked away cross my mind too, and unfortunately it's often right before I go to talk to a new woman. It's part of the problem ha
/r/seduction23/05/25 09:03 PM
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You seem like trouble is the exact line ChatGPT always feeds me too ha
/r/seduction22/05/25 03:12 PM
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Yeah it's like would you rather go out with a woman that is interesting and fun or a woman who is nervous and like is scared to say their opinions to you. There you go right?
/r/seduction21/05/25 02:29 PM
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OLD for sure. I didn't even know if I was allowed to kiss a woman after a date after my divorce, I had no idea where I should take them on dates, I had no idea how to text, no idea how to flirt. Now it's like the baddest women in real life are in range because I know how to handle them. And the women on OLD are fucking hot if you get your profile right
/r/seduction19/05/25 03:27 PM
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Lol I need not just one group of friends to go out with, but a second tactical group that goes to a different bar so one group can bring everyone to the other at some point
/r/seduction14/05/25 10:19 PM
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What I'm finding is that every woman on the apps, in person, through friends, etc that are single and willing to date 42 year old me are avoidants. I am like catnip to them. If I find a secure woman I like I'm scared I'll use the same tactics on them and I'll blow it before I realize what's going on. But uh it's great for now
/r/seduction06/05/25 08:47 PM
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I'm 6'1" but if you run my picture through Photofeeler and ask it to be reviewed by women aged 30-44, my most common score is "0" attractive. So like a picture I think I look good in will often get every single woman saying I am ugly. I'm 42 by the way. However I do amazing on the apps because all my photos are "gimmick" shots. A picture of me where I look like every other picture I get a 0 on gets almost an 8 overall attractiveness if I am playing guitar on the beach for instance. I am sure tha…
/r/seduction06/05/25 05:14 PM
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Two quick ones too are - trim your nose hairs and make sure your fly is up. Can't stress these enough
/r/seduction05/05/25 11:30 PM
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Yeah and honestly the women I know IRL that I consider wife material are guarded as fuck. If they gave non mixed answers out they'd be wifed up already so that's the tradeoff. Its like the final boss of dating
/r/seduction02/05/25 04:10 PM
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If you mean from online dating they're a bunch of avoidants anyway. They hate try hard shit. Just don't be lame and look like you have your shit together, maybe have a festival pic for a bit of edge, then get them out for drinks. Smothering them with this shit turns them off. Maybe you'll get a nonavoidant off line or something but good luck
/r/seduction29/04/25 01:48 AM
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I would absolutely try to sleep with you but if you explicitly said no I wouldn't. You're going to need to double down gracefully during the makeout though
/r/seduction28/04/25 12:45 AM
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Put your profile into chatgpt and say how do i reshoot this, be really candid and do not spare my feelings. Tell women you'll only do drinks on 1st date. There you go
/r/seduction27/04/25 06:18 PM
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I mean kind of but you only get better and internalize it if you start going on lots and lots of dates. You only internalize the things that work after doing them, but you still need to do them. I was in full on "interview mode" for like the first 15 dates I went on after my divorce and then had to internalize a lot of things to get out of that, but granted a big part of it was being on enough dates that I stopped being as "happy to be there." It could just be that trying to do things like leani…
/r/seduction23/04/25 05:54 PM
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It's fucking absurd how technical everyone is getting to get women to like them. But I mean it works I don't know what to say. "Ok 45 minutes in you're going to want to lean back 17 degrees and modulate your pitch 1/6th of an octave down, so make sure you have a timer set"
/r/seduction23/04/25 05:06 PM
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I think they piece of advice in here that works is if you're going on dates and they all end the same, then you gotta start taking some chances. Send a flirter text than you might have before. Try to switch venues faster. Etc but you gotta start experimenting.
/r/seduction23/04/25 01:36 PM
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The only advice I'd give is always meet before in public and you're already doing that
/r/seduction10/04/25 10:53 PM
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A lot of men are too protective of their chances with a given woman so they play everything too conservatively. They don't get reps in freelancing and seeing what women respond to. That makes them act like lots of other guys and are therefore boring
/r/seduction04/04/25 10:48 PM
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My thinking is I'm more fun to talk to than most guys, so I just need to stay in a conversation long enough that they get to see that. I start with hi and just try to make it to like 5 sentences
/r/seduction12/03/25 03:33 PM
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It’s a date, not a game of chess I was out with this really hot Russian woman last night. I stalked her socials before and saw that she went to Burning Man last year, which I have been to a bunch of times, but neither of us had any kind of signifier really of that in our dating profiles. I was able to naturally weave it into conversation and I am almost certainly getting a second date because of that lol. It was literally a game of chess I was fishing so much like "oh do you have any travel late…
/r/seduction21/02/25 08:03 PM
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It really depends on the woman. Ill do a few dates if I really like her and I don't have to drop a bunch of cash to see her. After about 5 or 6 though I'll end it though unless date 7 is guaranteed, but in my experience a lot of women won't sleep with you quickly due to past trauma, which is not their fault but a couple times I've gotten massive, unsettling trauma dumps around date 4 or 5 and I'm usually glad I didn't get involved
/r/seduction18/02/25 10:10 PM
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If she's interested she'll reach out if you don't turn her off. It's unlikely but you have better odds than asking her when she's ready or whatever. The only move is not to play
/r/seduction06/02/25 06:24 AM
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"Hey what's up! Your shirt/necklace/dress reminds me of [forced transition to my funniest story]. Oh and [second funniest story]. Anyway do you wanna come back to my house, listen to records and make out? I have whiskey and cocaine"
/r/seduction06/02/25 06:02 AM
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Theyre going out with me and sending a "no spark" text the next day lol
/r/seduction06/02/25 03:42 AM
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Why did I sleep with you? Oh because of push pull of course. Get outta here
/r/seduction05/02/25 07:42 PM
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It absolutely does like this
/r/seduction05/02/25 07:41 PM
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I have it but the trick is you have to be the one to organize and event people to things. This means you have to cook and have a dinner at your house where you invite people you think will get along. You need to invite people to concerts. You need to throw a party at your house or like a park. Like if you find out it's a friend's birthday party, offer to help plan it with them. Then there is a thing that I call "Party Scaffolding" where it's like ok, if I throw a party with my core group of frie…
/r/seduction04/02/25 08:05 PM
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He works a 9-to-5 job, maybe goes to the gym, maybe gets some exercise - and then he spends his evenings alone. Sometimes he’s out getting drunk with friends, but most of the time, he’s just alone. No romantic connections, no adventures. I'm 42m and the majority of the women I go out with are like "I get up at 4:30 am every morning, go to the gym, get ready for work, work until like 5, come home and eat some bullshit I saw on Instagram and then watch reality tv until my 8:30 bedtime. I've been s…
/r/seduction03/02/25 10:18 PM
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I live here and the guys thing is a lot of like 18-22 year old military guys and nerdy engineer shut ins. So not as bad as it sounds. The city is not super promiscuous but there's places like Pacific Beach that are pretty crazy. If you're a gay man though it's probably the most promiscuous city on Earth though those dudes are fucking crazy with it
/r/seduction28/01/25 01:59 AM
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Never a classical coffee shop like a Starbucks. Like you might as well be at a Dunkin' Donuts. You want it to have a fun interior more than anything and a big corporate place is not going to have that charm. I think you live in Dubai? So you want an interesting interior with good lighting like at La Nena vs something like a Bateel where you are in a bright mall sitting across from each other with no art or ambiance. Try to get a good interior shot of the coffee place/bar/restaurant and imagine t…
/r/seduction22/01/25 07:12 PM
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I think of it in terms of the baseball stat VORP. Am I more fun than what she'd be doing otherwise? It makes you focus on being funny or interesting instead of worrying if you are doing well enough
/r/seduction12/01/25 05:17 PM
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Use it as a learning experience. Getting these missives and pressure is super annoying, especially after she told you it's just ajar. Get a therapist if you need to vent
/r/seduction03/01/25 05:02 PM
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ChatGPT likely blows these out of the water anyway and if your message smells of AI even a little bit that's game over. But ChatGPT is so good at workshopping good openers
/r/seduction03/01/25 07:21 AM
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How could you have a type when women from different races are all so hot
/r/seduction31/12/24 01:03 AM
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Theres a reason Travis Scott, an international pop star, brags about that: I just hit a three peat (ooh) Fucked three hoes I met this week (Robert Horry) 3 for 3 would be good for anyone and you're new.
/r/seduction26/12/24 07:37 AM
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I feel the opposite. Dating apps are practice. I've had tons of dates but the women on there have a hair trigger to move on. It's made me way better at navigating dating so when I meet women IRL I'm way better in practice
/r/seduction25/12/24 10:02 PM
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If the really great women were easier to get and didn't give you shit tests, a bunch of loser guys would be all over them.
/r/seduction24/12/24 04:53 PM
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Grad student for sure
/r/seduction09/12/24 07:46 PM
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Just mindlessly book dates until you go numb from it. It's the only way
/r/seduction26/11/24 07:27 PM
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It's normal you gotta keep at it. 3.5 months is like the you're getting first dates but not second dates stage. We were all there just learn from what you're doing
/r/seduction23/11/24 05:45 AM
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I saw a woman with something like "Sexual chemistry is big so if we match, tell me what you are looking for 😈" but was a goody 2 shoes looking lawyer. Also wtf do you even write to that it's so direct
/r/seduction22/11/24 09:13 PM
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On Hinge I do numbers and I'm not ripped or well dressed. On Tinder I get no attention. So let them all stay there who cares, the women I'm matching with have six packs lol
/r/seduction22/11/24 12:54 AM
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That's why you try to tell the same stories and disclose the same things on every first date. I was forgetting who I said what to before haha
/r/seduction21/11/24 07:38 PM
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Ugh I rarely check these and my dream woman is in my stack today. Why did I have to see her haha
/r/seduction21/11/24 05:20 PM
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Yeah does Xing them out of there really put them in your stack? Also the only time I've seen women i know in real life on Hinge was in my standouts and im sure as hell not rosing them
/r/seduction21/11/24 04:57 PM
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I try to go for the kiss but I've had solid dates where I didn't get one that still lead to a second. But yeah to everything else
/r/seduction21/11/24 07:33 AM
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Lol yeah
/r/seduction21/11/24 06:48 AM
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It's a first date but my dog is awesome and basically is bonus points for me. This works really only if she has a dog too. After you are at your cars you say "well I don't want to drink more tonight and drive but our dogs can't go in an Uber. Do you want to come back to my area of town and go out there?" And then say "ok meet me at my place it's [my address]" then when they come over open wine and put on a record
/r/seduction21/11/24 04:10 AM
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4 things: 1.) Growing out facial hair and keeping it super short with a cleanly shaved neck. 2.) Dressing nicer 3.) Going on so many dates I have no nervousness at all and have no problem touching a leg or arm out of nowhere to build attraction. Lots of eye contact too 4.) Venue selection. So there's one bar that is nice, great low lighting, music is always good, and the seating makes you really close to your date. I also make beach fires but that's more of a second date thing. Then my magnum op…
/r/seduction21/11/24 02:54 AM
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So you improved it by moving the fuck away? Lol
/r/seduction18/11/24 04:27 PM
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The apps have kind of fucked everyone's heads. If I go 1 hour of my life where I am not actively talking to a woman or have a date lined up, I feel worthless, but I go on like 4 dates a week. I never had 4 simultaneously FWB, but the way I "cured" myself from your thing was the women started calling me at like 4 am drunk and on pills to scream at me for not loving them, showing up at my work unannounced, etc. And they all seemed like normalish people when I met them.
/r/seduction18/11/24 03:27 PM
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This happened to me and I grew my stubble out, dressed nicer and picked date venues better. I try to be more physical too. Its like when you first start, it's hard to get matches. Then it's hard to get dates from messaging. Then this happens. Then it's hard to turn 3rd dates into sex. But it's all shit you can learn it just takes awhile
/r/seduction16/11/24 03:33 PM
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Yeah the issue you run into next is if you have two identical dates and you end one even just asking for a kiss vs one you don't and you're dramatically more likely to get a second date. If you just invite them back to your place, you're more likely to get a third date. She can say no to both and as long as you're like, "I totally understand" it still works. Now I have no accurate way of knowing if I want to date someone after 1 2 hour date. So if you're trying to evaluate a woman, you need to t…
/r/seduction15/11/24 02:34 AM
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Just go on more dates in general. Once you get a little momentum your confidence spikes and it snowballs. Just dress decent, trim your nose hairs, groom facial hair and make sure your fly is up. It's mainly confidence though
/r/seduction12/11/24 01:07 PM
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Guys in nursing homes get it in
/r/seduction09/11/24 10:36 PM
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Leaving handcuffs on the table when you get back to your place is going to chase a lot of women away that...already came back to your place lol
/r/seduction09/11/24 04:51 PM
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Dressing for the crowd is so important. I was on a hot streak lately and kind of feeling myself. I went from work to a gay bar near my house, because a gay VIP in from out of town wanted to go. A super cute woman was dancing there and she had this sick like cut off clown outfit on, it is hard to describe but she looked incredible. I made eye contact, immediately walked up to her and she's like "you're cute but dressed like a goober" and basically started dancing 5 feet away from me lol
/r/seduction28/10/24 07:05 AM
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No you don't
/r/seduction27/10/24 05:07 AM
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A lot of us were there too. You literally have to go on another like 6-10 dates but it will start to click as long as you are honest with yourself. It's totally normal and you're not alone in feeling this! But it's totally learnable. Get new clothes, tease them, stay relaxed
/r/seduction26/10/24 05:12 AM
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I would say do make that mistake at least once so you learn but otherwise yeah
/r/seduction26/10/24 12:25 AM
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Yeah but if you're not hot, you have to do what the rest of us do: wildly overthink everything
/r/seduction16/10/24 04:59 PM
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I agree it's just you need to be able to tell when it's on the table. I feel like it's a layup on the second date so why bother a lot of the time anyway. A lot of the women I want the most have their guards up for it, so you have to "pull the chair" and go the other way on the first date. Like on weeknights a lot of women won't let you hit on a first date period you're just going to annoy them - I suppose unless you are way better at this than me ha
/r/seduction08/10/24 08:00 PM
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The backbone of getting second dates from both approaching and OLD is that you need to better yourself in general and do interesting things. You should have hobbies and friends ideally so that you have things you can talk about. You shouldn't brag on dates but you should be able to talk about the life you have in a positive way. Contrary to a lot of advice on here, you don't need to get sexual on a first date. Plan the date well. Don't be weird. If she asks to split the check, split it and don't…
/r/seduction08/10/24 07:18 PM
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Like some girl had as one of her two truths and a lie yesterday that her parents met when her mom won a bikini contest on the beach. I said "No way! My parents met when my dad won Mr. Speedo 1978. He looked incredible" and she was like "Really? Let me see a picture" and I sent her this picture If I am really in a bind, I screen shot their entire profile into ChatGPT, ask it to sim writing the profile 1,000 times, then ask it for the 5 most common messages and then ask it for the 5 messages that …
/r/seduction03/10/24 11:54 PM
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Yo bonus question because I am working on a message right now: I am writing on Bumble to a woman who's location is turned off, but the area I live in is huge (San Diego) so she could live like 40 minutes away. How do you walk into that? Do you go "Hey wanna get dinner tonight at X" or "Hey do you wanna get dinner tonight, does [Area of town] in general work for you?" etc. Asking where they live seems troublesome
/r/seduction03/10/24 10:29 PM
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This is way too one size fits all IMO. Like this advice And I’ve personally never had a girl that got so turned off from me suggesting we meet at my place that she wouldn’t go on a regular date afterwards. - I mean I've had women turn me down because I asked them to dinner instead of drinks AND on different times because I asked them to drinks instead of dinner. I think what has really helped me is to take every conversation seriously but learn to let go if it fizzles out. I asked a woman out af…
/r/seduction03/10/24 05:43 PM
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There's always more women so you don't need to worry about it, and this isn't the line
/r/seduction02/10/24 02:51 PM
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Um I wouldn't be so sure! Sending an extra text is not like a Herculean task. I think you are in your own head a bit
/r/seduction01/10/24 08:09 PM
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Her: it’s just that I don’t have time. I work all week and do sports on the weekends. Nothing else happened. She blatantly ignored my question, which signaled to me that she was not on the same page, so I unmatched. Wait she wrote that and you didn't send another message, you just unmatched? If that is the case then I mean it's kinda on you
/r/seduction01/10/24 07:58 PM
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For online dating I literally screen shot their profile and upload it into ChatGPT. Then I ask it to describe in text the entire profile in as much detail as possible. Then I ask it to Sherlock Holmes it and deduce all they can about the person. Then I ask it to simulate writing that profile 1,000 times as a bot that is good at writing messages as if it were regular men using a dating app and give me the 5 most common messages and the 5 that stand out the most. Then I glance at the 5 that stand …
/r/seduction26/09/24 11:23 PM
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I break 1 all the time and I have to say it works for me
/r/seduction26/09/24 05:05 AM
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The amount you have to text becomes like a soft "salary cap" on the number of prospects you can have actively
/r/seduction25/09/24 05:03 PM
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Also gay guys are fun as shit. A lot of them spend like 80% of their day partying even if you count sleeping. And contrary to popular belief, they're not going to really hit on you if you're straight. Unlike us they have no problem getting laid haha
/r/seduction22/09/24 07:16 PM
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Flowers is a lottery. Like a quarter of women lose their mind over it and the rest think you're a try hard loser. If you correctly guess right it's great but it's risky from our side of things
/r/seduction22/09/24 12:17 AM
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Double-texting when she doesn’t reply: This shows insecurity and pushes her away. She saw your text man, she just isn't interested. I've seen guys think like "oh well every once in awhile it works!" but the other side of that coin is that there is an opportunity cost. You are not going after other women and you are all caught up with one that is not interested, so you are a lot more likely to miss out on someone new than you are for the old person to get back to you. Just keep it moving. Also th…
/r/seduction17/09/24 09:36 PM
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Because you need to have a good Instagram and post good photos all the time to be a threat on there. It's like another job. I'm 41 and it's kind of hard to do it right at my age though, I concede if you're 28 it's probably easier
/r/seduction12/09/24 05:18 PM
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I truly believe that if enough men do this then less women will exhibit dry texting. No this will never happen. Just move on and don't be petty for your own good. You'll feel better just dropping them back
/r/seduction10/09/24 10:42 PM
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What's annoying is that you wish you could get to know someone on a date but earnestly getting to know a woman on a date is apparently the least sexy thing you can possibly do lol. I keep ending up in bed with psychos too because they seem so fun. I really wish we could cut the bullshit and talk with each other but it's all this song and dance. I think OLD and game are great for practice but I'm relying on social circles for actually finding a partner.
/r/seduction10/09/24 05:09 PM
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Some people say to wait a few days before you message someone to avoid looking needy but that just causes her excitement to die down I think this was true pre smartphone but things move faster now
/r/seduction08/09/24 10:16 PM
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If women wear ear buds at the grocery store, they might as well be transphobic
/r/seduction08/09/24 08:10 PM
1

You are throwing parties so that is good, but I recommend theme parties and make the parties at least 100 people. You end up working it like an event is the problem so you want other people to help out. Try to get a couple people to DJ. You can literally do this into your 50s
/r/seduction07/09/24 06:22 PM
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You have to start throwing parties. Theme parties are the best. Individually text your like 20-30 coolest friends first and say you want that person there and you would have the party either day x or y, then pick the one with the most cool people. Then start inviting the rest of people. I call it a "party scaffolding". If there are women you want there, think of which of your distant acquaintances would impress them that you are friends with them, then invite those people first then the girl. So…
/r/seduction07/09/24 06:20 PM
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I remember when I went from 0 likes on dating apps to dates every week, then finding out those dates go nowhere unless you get this additional skillset. It's such a grind
/r/seduction07/09/24 05:14 PM
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In the last week, I had 2 dates. A couple weeks ago I has crazy sex with this woman from out of town. Date 1 was least attractive woman who came from dance class to a restaurant in sweats. She was nor attracted to me and I had to carry the entire conversation. Woman I had sex with called me drunk and probably on a pill or something? just screaming at me that she needed me to fly her out her again and that I'm not serious enough about her. Lots of flicking the camera off. Yikes Date 2 sent me thi…
/r/seduction07/09/24 02:36 PM
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It goes both ways too. You've obviously never had a woman you were sleeping with get belligerent after knowing her a week and screaming in your face for four hours about how you don't love them
/r/seduction04/09/24 04:03 PM
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Yeah this is what I've landed on, too. Basically what I have learned is that every photo you have up should be have a "gimmick" or hook. Like you should be playing guitar, shooting a basketball, hugging a dog, catching a frisbee on the beach, with friends, sailing, painting, etc in EVERY SINGLE PICTURE you put up. I know there is advice to have a smiling headshot and a full body shot, but you need to work those into a picture of you doing something. Women are scrolling through like 50-100 profil…
/r/seduction03/09/24 05:56 PM
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The magic words are "how would you feel if I kissed you right now?" while making heavy eye contact.
/r/seduction31/08/24 11:40 PM
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Alcoholism
/r/seduction30/08/24 04:34 AM
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I usually get a date confirmed at message 4 or so, I'm not sure you need to bother with all of this
/r/seduction24/08/24 09:56 PM
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The dark arts are you ask "what are your dating intentions" and then just say "yeah, me too" to whatever she says
/r/seduction23/08/24 08:11 PM
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And, the reality is, the men who do very well at passing that initial bar often have no interest in passing the second bar. That’s why they’ll do situationships, lead the gal on, pump n dump, etc. The guys know they can get away with it and just meet another. What's fucked is that I just started doing this and it's like you get momentum and don't even really know how to stop yourself. Like I became single last year, took about 9-10 months not dating, then started trying to date. All my online pi…
/r/seduction19/08/24 05:34 PM
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Volunteering for what? I've volunteered for all kinds of shit and it's never been even a copper mine
/r/seduction11/08/24 04:14 AM
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The biggest differences are both annoying. They are as far as I can tell: 1.) Everyone is way more vain because of social media. People with attractive faces now out perform everyone and both genders over select for how someone will look in their Instagram feed. A 5'9" guy with a handsome face who writes he's 6'0" will crush on a dating profile 2.) I have a wide social circle in a major city. The 5 most beautiful women I know that are single have not dated anyone in at least year and none of the…
/r/seduction25/07/24 07:42 PM
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The very fine women want men that are literally better than them (morally/ethically). I've been joking about staging a photo of me in a tuxedo reading Little Women in a nursing home to a bunch of grandmas for my dating profile but I might actually do it now
/r/seduction24/07/24 04:50 PM
1

Here you go
/r/seduction24/07/24 02:47 PM
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I'm 41 and have been single after a long term relationship multiple times. This does seem like the worst time to be single ever but I'm still getting dates and there's some seriously hot single women out there. It's frustrating right up until you're having new relationship sex every day with a super hot woman. Keep your eyes on the prize
/r/seduction22/07/24 11:27 PM
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The most effective use of physical touch I’ve used the Princess hand hold. Place your hands under hers during conversation in playful manner. Some guys are uncomfortable doing this at first, so you can compliment her nails or piece of jewelry. Personally I think it’s best to just be confident and go for it. Ask if a ring she is wearing has some special significance, it's a good way to start this
/r/seduction22/07/24 09:01 PM
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I've had too many bad experiences so I don't anymore, at least intentionally anyway
/r/seduction18/07/24 05:28 AM
2

Stamina is cardio + kegels
/r/seduction14/07/24 08:23 AM
1

I have learned that I don't necessarily want to hook up or date every woman I match with. Some of these women are nuts and/or massively misrepresenting themselves. The hottest women I've matched with have already been burned and are not going to fall for this, either.
/r/seduction11/07/24 09:16 AM
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Call me Michael Douglas
/r/seduction08/07/24 06:34 PM
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I'm dating one now and the taking photos constantly is annoying. We're having a good time and then everything is derailed for 10 minutes
/r/seduction08/07/24 12:57 PM
1

I do and it helps
/r/seduction07/07/24 05:12 PM
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Your self esteem will take a hit at first but just bear through it. For reference, a decent picture of me smiling with a nice background gets a 3.9 on there and a picture of me with a guitar is an 8
/r/seduction06/07/24 10:01 PM
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I hired one and can only use 1 of the pictures. I am not ugly but I'm not handsome and I look like a complete dork in most pictures. Try slightly changing your expression every shot and use Photofeeler with the money you would have used on a photographer
/r/seduction06/07/24 09:53 PM
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Don't! Get a tripod and clicker on Amazon. You need like 40 tries per picture a photographer won't sit there with you
/r/seduction06/07/24 09:46 PM
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You went into my comment history for ammo and that's all you got? Literally all I do all day is seek validation. You don't even get it
/r/seduction06/07/24 09:45 PM
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Um ok killallwomen98, I'm sure you get way more pussy than me lol
/r/seduction06/07/24 08:16 PM
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Every photo should have a gimmick like a dog, guitar, traveling, etc. A picture of just you standing there is not going to make you stand out
/r/seduction06/07/24 08:16 PM
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My profile is good and I do pay for Hinge. I can in practice have a new date with an attractive woman every week. I'm average looking but 6'1", have a dog, guitar, good job and politics women like. The problem is I keep going for the hottest woman I match with and they're all kinda listless
/r/seduction06/07/24 07:16 PM
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The best way to deal with this is get in a long term relationship with one of them and then break up with them, then the next time just don't tolerate it but you should now see the warning signs as they arise. I mean that is how I learned lol.
/r/seduction03/07/24 10:07 PM
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Women seem to get way less attention on Hinge vs other apps, I'm having way more success with it than Tinder
/r/seduction03/07/24 08:28 PM
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I end up on a date with about 1 in 10 matches, but I also choose girls over others and effectively drop women I could go on a date with. So it could be like 30%. I have only been on a few months though
/r/seduction03/07/24 08:27 PM
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Women get super horny around 35 and hit their sexual peak for about ten years. They often cheat and go crazy around here.
/r/seduction03/07/24 04:04 PM
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I'd love to see a dating guide called like "BPD Method" lol
/r/seduction27/06/24 06:56 PM
2

Hell yeah validation
/r/seduction26/06/24 02:54 PM
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It's here
/r/seduction26/06/24 06:40 AM
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My unscientific attempt to analyze this: 1.) She is really cool/personable and is used to having lots of friends including men. In this instance, it's probably great to be friends with her because she'll have cool shit to invite you to but you are very unlikely to sleep with her 2.) She's a train wreck who would sleep with her coworker while in a committed relationship. It's totally plausible you could sleep with her but you'd probably regret it There's a slight chance she's cool as shit and her…
/r/seduction12/06/24 05:40 AM
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Is there a female analog to this community? No, right?
/r/seduction09/06/24 09:39 PM
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This is going to make me look like an ego maniac, but I'm getting divorced and am just now trying to date again and I noticed only really hot women were giving me vibes. Regular women just gave me friend zone vibes or treated me like I'm asexual. I started getting an online dating profile going and ran some pictures through Photofeeler and was getting like 3.9s and just assumed I wasn't very handsome. My mind started thinking "well my wife was super hot, women who kinda know me probably saw my e…
/r/seduction08/06/24 05:56 PM
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He was a legend in the community and also the former Chair of the Ohio Utility Agency. He used to pull like crazy
/r/seduction24/05/24 08:25 PM
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Sam Randazzo
/r/seduction24/05/24 06:44 PM
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The fucked up thing is i don’t mind not fucking these women as long as they give me attention. I’m literally becoming a woman. This comes off as a little nuts. Validation from women is great obviously. You do not need to sleep with everyone. A better way to think about women is that they have standards. If I go to a party and I look around and don't really feel any kind of way towards the women there, but would talk to one if they approached me to see if they were interesting but otherwise would…
/r/seduction22/05/24 04:51 PM
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Then you are confirmed in the 99.9% lol
/r/seduction06/05/24 05:29 AM
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Um ok so you slept until like 2 hours before your date, then ate a full lunch and then one hour later were still so hungry you then ate TWO burritos, then you put on bad shoes and got self conscious, then you ate a third meal that you ordered well into conversation...I mean I don't think the takeaway here should be that dinner dates are bad
/r/seduction06/05/24 05:28 AM
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People have been doing this forever though. It's just more deranged rich guy shit
/r/seduction03/05/24 10:04 AM
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Dude my man over there is spitting facts. There are billions of people and some of them are like her and some of them are like you. You can't change this woman through strategy or pleas. The two of you are not a match. You are emotionally attached to her so you're having a hard time letting go. There's other women out there and you will almost certainly find one who is a better match for you than her, and when you find her you will wish you had made yourself available sooner. You're like 24 or s…
/r/seduction26/04/24 09:58 PM
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Eat them out and do kegels
/r/seduction26/03/24 05:46 PM
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You can in the flow of a conversation brush a woman's arm or make a lot of eye contact which will build physical chemistry. I am friends with some beautiful women that are also on the apps and matching with guys who have great profiles and seem to have put together careers. These men do things like stick their fingers in the womens mouths when they go to yawn, literally honk their boobs on the second date, try to guess where they live to pick them up to surprise them about how good they are at u…
/r/seduction21/03/24 11:40 PM
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You move the reservation and offer the new date. I also have used a burner email to make 2 reservations there to give a backup date.
/r/seduction07/03/24 03:37 PM
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Make the reservation first! Then ask. If you ask and can't get a reservation you look like a choad
/r/seduction07/03/24 05:18 AM
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The thing I am noticing is that since I got divorced, I am at a much higher point in the dating pool than I was before, but now I have to also compete with like the hottest guys in my area for the girls I want. I can beat those guys on most of the "looks doesn't do" stuff but I still need to get like an hour of conversation in. My plan is to start basically posting me doing hobbies and shit on Instagram all the time which is like intellectual thirst trapping but I don't know how else to advertis…
/r/seduction20/02/24 06:53 PM
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I have money and even in a vaccuum, there are free dates that are fantastic. But I often see bad advice, like let's walk around a park (kind of boring) or let's go on a hike (freaks some women out for being secluded). The best ones are bullshit women want to do anyway like an art walk or some kind of holiday light show around Christmas. Look for the website for the biggest park near you or a downtown civic organization and see what events are going on like that. It makes you look really put toge…
/r/seduction04/02/24 06:40 PM
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