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The word you are looking for is reliant, not submissive
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 08:01 PM
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Or leave. Marital earnings belong to both of them so she'll be leaving with her half
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 04:11 PM
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No it isn't. Seriously buy a dictionary
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 04:02 PM
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People need a dictionary and to learn that 'submissiveness not the same as 'traditional'. Stay at home wives and mothers are rarely submissive
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 01:40 PM
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When life is stressful it drops and then picks up again when the stressful period is over. Same for him too
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 10:38 AM
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Turn him down.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 04:42 AM
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Lol, none of them are attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 08:50 AM
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I work in construction as an accountant. Most of the builders I work with are married to women with 'white collar' jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 08:15 AM
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I'd say a good portion but not a majority
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 07:29 PM
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I'm not going to agree with that but I will agree a portion were
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 05:26 PM
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This is most likely because it is now acceptable and allowed to talk about these subjects
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 07:02 AM
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No you aren't. You can resign and go get another job
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 06:59 AM
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What we have now, what we didn't have before is choice. We can choose our lives
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 06:56 AM
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I did not downvote you, I simply answered
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 08:41 PM
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No I do not. People should pay for themselves or go dutch
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 04:10 PM
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Clearly. I don't know a woman or man in my life who would be happy with the man paying for dates. This is very odd
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 01:07 PM
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No. Of course not. We either took turns or one paid food or one paid drinks.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 10:50 AM
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No. Most people go Dutch in the dating days then proportionally once they become serious then combine finances on marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 10:37 AM
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What? I mean just...what?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 10:15 AM
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Do you have the same judgement of Fathers who work?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 09:45 AM
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No they are not. It's a fiction created to be viewed. Do you know any women in real life who are like this?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 09:43 AM
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So you aren't actually seeing any of this in real life then?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 09:39 AM
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Youtube, reddit and tiktok are not real life. At all. Women wanted and want equality for freedom and choice, for cerebral equality. I give my husband expensive gifts on occasion as he does me, this is how it works in most modern relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 09:17 AM
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Everytimr I see a post like this I wonder if I live on a different planet or something. Where are these women who have everything paid for them? I and virtually every woman I know works (hard) in their chosen career. And the minority who are stay at home mums are working bloody harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 07:54 AM
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Yes and yes. Whether the preferences are reasonable is another question
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 09:36 PM
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Combination of both. Luckily I have both in my marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 02:05 PM
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This is great advice
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 06:25 PM
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Do you want any woman or the right woman? Because there are lots of women who very much like gym going IT types and they (we) tend not to be keen on overly macho or tattoos! Are you in shape? Quietly confident? Groomed? Do you dress like an adult? And where are you going to meet women? Source:am married to a scientist who lifts weights.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 06:23 PM
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I'm married to my one and only
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 10:28 PM
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I'm clever, ambitious, financially solvent and financially responsible, funny, very pretty and a damn brilliant partner. I love fiercely. I'm loving and caring but also show tough love when needed. I also am not boring. I love a good debate and a good night out!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 05:25 PM
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If my husband, who I have been with for 15 years and devoted my life to, asked me for a paternity test that would mean he thinks I am capable of cheating on him and lying about it. It would mean he did not know me at all and the relationship would be forever broken.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 12:13 PM
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Yes. Completely
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:34 AM
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Lovely fantasy you've built up there
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 06:37 PM
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Lol the idea that the most stubborn man in the world doesn't know what he wants is hilarious. And whipped? Low testosterone? Lol He wants to sleep with me and share a room with me because he likes me, loves me and likes our intimate life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 06:27 PM
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My husband and I vehemently disagree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 03:55 PM
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Yes. Me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 01:42 PM
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Because you started a topic about men aged 50 having kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 09:21 AM
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What about the trauma these young people will have to face losing their parents so early? The disruption to their lives and the emotional turmoil. The adult life WITHOUT that parental support? That wedding day without Dad to walk you down the aisle or no grandparent seeing their first grandchild? No guidance as you start your career or relationships? What if the grandparent are already dead? This is very likely if the parents are in their 50's I fully disagree. Far better to have two living, hea…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 09:21 AM
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So why should the child be burdened with such a lot in life?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 09:09 AM
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The child didn't
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 09:06 AM
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The options are elderly parents by the time you are 16 or dead parents. Neither are good for the kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 08:26 AM
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A child born to someone in their 50s will either be: a. burdened with elderly parents and b. Have to deal with very early parental death. Anyone who is ok doing that to a child should not be a parent. So in answer to your statement, yes there is something wrong with it. That anecdote has nothing to do with the topic at hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 08:21 AM
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Anyone having children in their 50's are selfish arses who do not care about the children they are creating. Also that sperm logic is awful. Even the best sperm will be degraded.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 08:14 AM
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12.30pm
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 11:19 AM
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We already do that. But it does not replace quality time together. Also, gaming once in a while is more than enough for him
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 05:19 PM
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I do and I play them. But they do not replace quality time with my husband
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 02:00 PM
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Only child.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 11:31 PM
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Just for fun this my usual daily schedule: Get up at 5.30, get ready for work and leave at 7am. Work from 8am until 5pm with 45 mins for lunch. Go to gym or yoga. Come home between 6 and 7. Shower whilst husband cooks. Do some chores. Eat at 8pm then chill with husband until 10.30. Go to bed. My husbands schedule is the same except he finishes work at 4 (although he often continues working) plus he works from our home office. There is no place for 2 hours of anything in that day unless we give u…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 02:51 PM
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After work, gym, cooking, eating and spending quality time with my partner I do not have the time to game 2 hours daily. I like gaming (have been this morning) but I reserve it for a few hours on a Saturday OR sunday.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 02:38 PM
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At which point are you spending time with your partner in this scenario?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 02:33 PM
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I think it would be too much time for any hobby.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 01:51 PM
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As I said...I game myself. I see no issue with it. I see the issue with the 2 hours a day. Edit: i would also have an issue with going to bed alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 11:41 AM
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No sex? Snuggling? Walks? You don't eat breakfast? Or prepare lunch? Or socialise? And very few people are home by 6.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 11:26 AM
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2 hours A DAY AND MORE ON WEEKENDS? Now I like to game but how the hell do you work, have a relationship and game that much?!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 08:05 AM
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For myself - i simply don't want to. I have a wonderfully happy life with my husband, an interesting career, travel. I have zero desire to give birth, clean up bottoms or vomit. I also had to be very responsible very young due to parental death which has contributed.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 12:58 PM
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If they value morals,honesty and transparency then yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 10:34 AM
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Yes. I think my husband is the most attractive man I have ever seen
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 01:17 PM
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Well I'm childfree so definitely the first option
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 06:53 AM
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I do. I have been with my husband for over 15 years and we are still excited, happy and are each others favourite person. But we live our lives together - his successes are mine and mine are his, we have quality time together, shared hobbies. We go out with friends separately but our live is a joined one. And we prioritise it above everything. We are also honest to the point of bluntness, no hints. No memory reading. The ones that separate tend to let things slip and live separate lives. Or they…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 07:47 AM
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My husband and I waited as i wanted to build our emotional relationship first and I consider sexual intimacy something I only wanted with someone I was in love with and spending my life with. He luckily had similar views regarding that. I'm English with Irish heritage. No religion. My parents had the opposite view on sex to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:33 PM
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They don't. Romantic leads ( like Mr Darcy) are generally good men. I like fantasy literature too, Aragon is also a good man
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 03:58 AM
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Well it's the evening where I am...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 06:11 PM
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You know how we say women aren't a hivemind? Well that counts for men too. Some men want a happy, settled shared life with a partner they love. For some men your suggestion would be hellish
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 07:36 AM
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Europe? Which part of this vast and varied continent are you referring to?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 08:59 AM
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We chose the cleaning company together. Why is this weird?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 08:32 PM
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Why not? One of the cleaners who come to our house is a bloke
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 08:29 PM
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The world isn't safe for anyone. That doesn't mean we shouldn't live a life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 04:40 PM
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You want to imprison her and never let her grow into an adult?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 04:30 PM
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What if its lost? Why do you want her to be incapable and helpless? Also, again - what if she wants to work? And learn?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 04:10 PM
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What about if she needs to? What about if the worst happens? She would be helpless. Also..What if she wants to?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 04:01 PM
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Men can be cleaners too.....
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 03:25 PM
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He would have to have a personality transplant to do that lol. The kitchen is HIS territory and he would not want me to make him one. Plus...'told'? My husband asks, requests etc. He does the food and I do the laundry. He would not do the washing and ironing and I would not make a sandwich. EDIT: I have made him food when he has been rarely ill but he was very vocal in how it wasn't to his standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 03:23 PM
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There is no biological advantage to me cooking over my husband. There is nothing in my being a woman that makes me a better chef genetically or biologically. Plus he is an excellent chef and enjoys it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 03:15 PM
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Well it could be the man or the woman. In your case it is the woman, in mine it is the man. There is nothing in the female genes that make us the chefs lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 03:01 PM
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They clean and tidy. Kitchen, Bedrooms, bathroom. Iron. Make the beds. Clean the skirting, the tiles and the grout...the list goes on. If we have any particular jobs we let them know but they are very good so very little input is needed from us.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 03:00 PM
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No it isn't. It is the job of whoever the couple have decided it is the job of.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 02:49 PM
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My husband and I work in excess of 50 hours each a week. We have a housekeeper 2 to 3 times a week as we have zero desire to spend our limited free time cleaning and tidying.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 02:32 PM
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We have a housekeeper as we both are not keen on housework and work long hours. He loves to cook and is excellent at it so he takes care of the food side of things whilst I handle laundry. However a housekeeper is a luxury, not everyone can afford this.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 01:44 PM
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Some men do. It's not part of your biology, you are not born with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 07:08 PM
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That's a false statistic
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 07:06 PM
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What does this have to do with my comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 07:04 PM
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Espacially when it's un irrational biological insecurity all men are born with. No it is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:58 PM
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It's not 'one insecurity' it is saying that the woman has : Met a man Kissed the man Removed her clothes Had sex. Lied and hid it Lied repeatedly about it. Lied about the pregnancy Hid all of the above
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:44 PM
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Bear as in tolerate. Not bear as in the animal
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 02:05 PM
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Well I'm married to a handsome, reserved (quietly confident) man. Could not bear a loud man
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 09:00 AM
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Not in my country. It is cancer here
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 08:11 AM
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Middle aged is half way through adult life, not your entire life. 50 to 70 is middle aged
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 04:24 PM
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Neither 30s or 40s is middle aged
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 04:13 PM
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Aren't you a teacher? Surely you should know all if this already?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 02:05 PM
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For starters the age at which children are taught to write is developmentally right for girls but too early for boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 01:42 PM
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The structure of (especially primary) education is more suited for girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 01:17 PM
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Breast Cancer.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 12:55 PM
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Because the biggest killer of men under 45 is suicide.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 11:32 AM
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Yes I do, especially in education. I have been reading Caitlain Moran's book 'What about men?' and it is so interesting to read. A large part of it is how boys and girls develop at different speeds. The age of learning to write and read is great for girls but not for boys, boys need another year. And by forcing boys to learn to read and write when they are unable you are instilling a dislike for reading and writing at that early age which then leads to boys not reading for pleasure or enjoying h…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 11:30 AM
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I'm loyal to my ideals. I'm loyal to being a good person. I'm loyal to doing the right thing
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 12:06 PM
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Why doesn't he have any? Most men have female friends from childhood
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 03:27 PM
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Why wouldn't he be interested in them? Why are his friendship needs only men? Men who see women as just romantic options tend to be quite socially stunted. Men who see women as people are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 02:50 PM
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Because it is socially healthy to be friends with both sexes. Why wouldn't he be friends with women?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 02:37 PM
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That's good but not really friends are they?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 02:24 PM
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1 without a doubt
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 01:41 PM
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You really have no interest in travelling outside of your own bubble do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 06:19 AM
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I am married and have a healthy sexual relationship with my husband. I do not and would never submit to my husbands authority and he would hate it if I did so
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 04:57 AM
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Lol. I'm a wife. I'm as far from a 'tradwife' or 'conservative' as it is possible to be. My husband is delighted about it!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 04:52 AM
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It also said 'maybe you didn't think it counted'.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 04:00 PM
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I was talking to my husband about that last week!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 03:57 PM
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Oh completely! Her parents are wonderful in teaching and encouraging her. She adores the outdoors and nature too. I was the same. I couldn't imagine being cooped up for my childhood! I climbed trees and played make believe and fell over.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 03:33 PM
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My 7 year old niece plays out all the time. With other 7 year olds!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 03:28 PM
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The weird thing here are the children who weren't allowed out to play. Not the children who were out playing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 03:19 PM
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I was the same. I went to a boarding school but in the summer I was expected to work as my parents wanted me to have a good work ethic and learn the value of money. You want it? Then you earn the money to pay for it!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 02:47 PM
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Having a normal, menial job does wonders for both your character and work experience. You learn so much that you won't otherwise. It's not the money, it's what else you gain. And the work ethic you gain is priceless too. I hire graduates, anyone without work experience before the age of 21 will not be hired, the amount of basic teaching and babysitting you have to do is ridiculous. To reach 18 without having worked any jobs is concerning. It's privileged to assume YOUR experience is normal. I'm …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 02:38 PM
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They are saying you witnessed it but didn't recognise it as harassment
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 02:19 PM
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Perhaps she's not comfortable confiding this to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 02:14 PM
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You left university with ZERO work experience? That is madness. It is madness to reach 18 without having had a part time job. You are assuming normality by the people you associate with and this is drawing you to false conclusions. I went to boarding school and Oxbridge. I know my experience of privilege is not the norm. You need to realise this
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 02:14 PM
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Typo. Meant to say 'walked' Did you not have friends that you played out with? Or spent summer holidays playing and having adventures with? That's quite extreme. So you were never allowed anywhere until adulthood? My parents were very protective but I was still allowed to cycle without parents and go out to play. Did you never run errands for your mum and dad?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 01:58 PM
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You never went out to play? Or did sports? Or walled anywhere?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 01:39 PM
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Is that set in stone or are you open to engagement, sex, marriage, children? As someone who had similar views I'm just curious
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 06:47 PM
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My desired outcome was to meet a man to have a wonderful happy relationship and to marry said man and build a life together
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 06:45 PM
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Disagree. I'd much rather have a full,emotionally invested relationship. These 'situationships' sound hollow and soulless
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 01:06 PM
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If you are happy in yourself and by yourself you are far more likely to find a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 09:38 AM
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Yes because this is about health and anatomy. What you are describing is not usual. You had something wrong. Also penises shouldn't smell if you are cleaning every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 04:40 PM
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Sounds like you had a condition, this is not usual at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 04:33 PM
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Where was the gaslighting in that comment? It was great advice
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 01:47 PM
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Have these poor women even stopped bleeding at that point?! Jesus.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 06:03 PM
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At 5'6 he's still taller than me. God cannot bear extroverts We bought our property together, the first if which was a 1 bed apartment
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 10:19 AM
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I agreed to support our household alone so he could pursue his dreams. He was very appreciative of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 03:47 PM
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Permitted him to give up his job for two years to pursue his dream. This is a horrid question, sex is something you experience together, it is not something to gift. I think both prominent female British monarchs ensured that their Consorts had their own position and role was a very loving thing to do?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 07:45 AM
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If you are happily married it is great for kids. If you are unhappily married it isn't and it models a bad relationship to the children involved who will then go on to have bad relationships themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 07:41 AM
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The USA isn't even in the top 5 richest countries in the world
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 06:48 AM
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Less than month? That's barbaric!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 06:46 AM
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Come on. Really?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 07:45 PM
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Why are the fathers of these children also doing the pick ups, dealing with their ill children?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 07:36 PM
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Congratulations
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 07:31 PM
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The person we are referring to is in the UK. Over 50% of maths and science teachers are men
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 07:19 PM
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Maths Teaching IS a male dominated job
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 06:42 PM
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Are you suggesting that women are procreating alone?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 06:39 PM
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All of these things are either done daily, every other day or weekly in my home. However most are not done by me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 05:34 PM
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If you live in a house. Good 10 minutes in our apartment, usually 3 times a week
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 04:27 PM
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A homeless shelter is housing
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 02:20 PM
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You are conflating 'equal' with 'the same'.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 01:16 PM
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How so? I'm very happily married to an equally high maintenance, clever and ambitious man who also enjoys a good argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 01:15 PM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 12:38 PM
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Housing is a necessity. It is a need. Shelter, food and water are all needs. Sex is a want, a desire but it is not a need. I'm a high maintenance, clever, ambitious and critical woman who likes a good argument. I was very familiar with men not wanting to date me when I was a younger woman. Had I not met and married my husband I would have most likely spent my life happily alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 11:43 AM
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As a woman who wanted to be married I agree. I did this and am very happily married! The mention scares off the ones who don't want to settle down
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 05:30 AM
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I would agree that not everyone should attend university. And planning should go into it especially when you are having to pay such exhortationate amounts, it is criminal really to charge such amounts. When I went to university my annual tuition was £3k a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 07:13 PM
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In what way? Academically? And in what area? My husband is vastly intelligent in science and is a scientist but I doubt he'd be a business man, that bears zero relation to his smarts or intelligence. My lack of debt is simply down to the country I was born and reside in
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 07:06 PM
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Is that not the fault of the American University system as opposed to higher education itself?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 07:03 PM
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Currently zero. No in the same way you do at university. To fully immerse yourself in that educated environment is a different thing altogether.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 06:59 PM
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My entire loan balance for my degree was under £10k. Worth each and every penny. To be educated by the best minds in the world, to open my mind to ideas and concepts, to enable my current successful path was worth it and I cannot wait to pursue it again.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 06:56 PM
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No it doesn't. It also doesn't surround you with other education minded and clever people to discuss and debate with. I wouldn't swap my wonderful university experience for anything. I studied English Literature and look forward to doing another degree in history.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 06:52 PM
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How about be a decent, caring, responsible, intelligent man? Many women want that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 06:48 PM
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Or liked education and wanted to pursue it for educations sake. Or wanted careers that required degrees.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 06:46 PM
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I think my best friends boyfriend is highly unattractive and flighty, she thinks he's the hottest man. She thinks my husband is boring and okayish looking, I think he's fascinating and Daniel Craig's more attractive twin (I find DC very attractive). We all.fancy different things
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 06:45 PM
2

My red flag would be someone who only likes one type of music.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 06:41 PM
6

Can we clarify on 'dark past' please?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 02:29 PM
3

Matt Damon wants a word.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 12:30 PM
1

Divorce rates are low for first marriages. And "husband material" is a compliment.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 07:26 AM
1

There are more happy marriages than divorces, the divorces rate for first marriages in 38%. As a woman, I prefer the freedom and choice of th3 modern day. Not the prison of no escape in the 'good old days' when women couldn't vote, divorce and where marital rape was legal.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:42 AM
1

How? Surely the one chosen for life and love wins?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:34 AM
8

I dislike clean shaven, too clean. I prefer stubble
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 07:11 PM
2

No it couldn't. Each period approached courtship differently. Which specific one are you talking about with your OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 04:33 PM
1

Lol. They do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 04:11 PM
3

The time period you are referring to
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 04:00 PM
2

Why are you refusing to say what period of history you are referring to?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 03:35 PM
5

Again, what time period are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 03:22 PM
8

When? What time period are you talking about? Also, as I said you have the stages wrong. Courting comes PRIOR to a proposal. It has never come after
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 03:10 PM
1

My grandmother worked and was married with children. It was very rare for women not to work unless you were wealthy. And for some women ( my grandmother and myself included) staying home in that way would be a prison sentence. Also no birth control. Which my grandmother has complained about loudly! And the sheer physical labour involved in being a housewife then.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 02:27 PM
2

Yes that is freedom. To choose your own path in life. To not be given the option - marry this person or starve? To have a bank account. To vote. To be considered a person and not a possession.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 02:19 PM
5

Well I was dating 15 years ago and was very upfront that I wanted marriage. Is that recent enough?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 02:17 PM
1

So you'd happily give up freedom and choice?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 02:16 PM
7

When you say 'good old days' when do you mean? Also, courting always came prior to a proposal
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 02:11 PM
2

I'm probably not the target audience for this question as my 'discovering myself' did not involve having sex. I discovered who I am, what matters to me, my true values and how much peace and stability mean to me. I also met the man I married who gave me so much confidence. I also spent several years just enjoying looking after me after being forced into a caregiver role for most of my teen years
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 07:52 AM
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50/50 or rather proportional is fine in the beginning but once your committed and building a life together it needs to be 100/100
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 09:42 PM
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Ban contraception? What? Who the hell would live there?!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 05:26 PM
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Well a Chad is an Alpha Male and Bingley is not an alpha at all! He asks Darcy for permission to propose
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 03:36 PM
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You win today!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 03:32 PM
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No he isn't. He is sweet and kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 03:07 PM
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Mr Bingley is not a Chad lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 02:50 PM
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Jo does not marry her friend. She marries the intellectually superior man she fancies
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 02:49 PM
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My literary heart is laughing it's arse off
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 02:48 PM
1

Teens and twenties.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 05:37 PM
7

Courting has always happened, it was a traditional part of the romantic ritual.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 01:34 PM
2

It's much more important to have similar values and complementary interests than hobbies. And very often the women in the male heavy group is viewed as one of the guys ( I was a gamer in my youth)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 01:23 PM
1

One of the sexiest things my husband does is care about cats. A man cuddling a tiny kitten is amazing
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 02:27 PM
1

No. I wanted to be married. He wanted to be married. He is my husband. Plus I'm not going into work saying 'My love and I did this over the weekend'. We wanted marriage ergo we needed it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 12:00 PM
8

Are you committed to all your friends? Do you share finances? Life decisions? Show non-sexual intimacy? Hold hands?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 08:27 AM
6

No it isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 08:24 AM
19

My husband isn't a wallet. He is my spouse. He is with me because I love him and he loves me. He has a supportive partner who loves him
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 08:07 AM
1

No. He's not my partner, we are not in business together. He's my love, my other half. It is not trite to want what he is to me ( and I to him!) to be reflected in our status to each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 06:58 AM
1

The idea of calling ym life.partner 'boyfriend' for the rest of my life has a rather large input into why I am married
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 05:07 AM
2

Lol I haven't been a teenager for a long time.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 08:20 PM
2

Because you haven't felt strongly enough about someone to change your decisions or life. When you are truly in love that person becomes the centre of it. This isn't optimistic, it is life experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 05:46 PM
13

Because we wanted to be married.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 05:39 PM
1

I'm the same. 15 years with my husband and we are still more and more passionate
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 05:29 PM
3

If that's how you feel then you have not truly been in love
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 05:23 PM
6

Love, affection, commitment, shared finances. A person who is your teammate and partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 05:22 PM
10

Because I love my husband and I wanted to be his wife and he wanted to be my husband
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 05:15 PM
3

Because some men ( like my husband) want commitment and love. He has never wanted to date casually and he's not alone in this
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 04:49 PM
44

I'm a childfree woman married to a childfree man. We love each other and make each other happy. That's it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 01:06 PM
2

Well, my husband and I have been together for 15 years and we fall in love more and more every day
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 06:04 AM
1

JK Rowling never said that about Draco and Hermione. What she said was that she did not understand why people liked Draco
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 01:02 PM
1

Draco? The racist who bullied her? There is no contextual evidence that Draco was smart at all. Ron challenged her frequently. He is contextually smart
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 01:01 PM
2

Ginny is the only one who understands, she was possessed herself and is very tough. Also, Hermione does not know how to handle Harry - he scares her quite frequently. Have you read the books? Personally I'd ask Ron.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 12:25 PM
1

No she didn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 12:23 PM
1

Why? Why do you think Harry and Hermione would be good together? They don't fancy each other and Hermione both bores and annoys Harry.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 12:16 PM
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God no, Hermione and Ron were a great couple. Hermione annoyed Harry and Harry would have bored Hermione to tears - the girl loves a good bicker! I'd probably do what I did now, business owner and writer but with magic!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 12:06 PM
5

I am and always have been a Slytherin
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 11:47 AM
3

Decent, kind and accountable.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 11:07 AM
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Why are you losing money? Why is she keeping the children? Married men are happier and live longer. Life with a best friend and lover is the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 10:42 AM
4

True but seeing how you deal with rent and savings and spending habits is so important and you cannot really do that without comingling to some extent.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 02:10 PM
8

Living together temporarily is not living together. And learning the financial habits of a future spouse is ESSENTIAL
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 02:07 PM
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To marry someone without really knowing them ( that means living together, 247, for at least a year) is incredibly foolish
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 02:02 PM
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The idea of a 'life script's fallen away now. People.are not following the script as they used to.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 12:09 PM
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I don't care, my husband doesn't care and my dad doesn't care
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 01:11 PM
1

Really? I know it results in longer life expectancy for men
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 04:38 PM
3

You know there are men who don't want kids too right....?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 04:36 PM
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That's rubbish. Pretty much everyone would go and see their partner is the hospital. I loved him (still do) and ended up sneaking in.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:37 PM
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The hospital blocked me because I wasn't his wife, just his fiancee.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:34 PM
17

What? I didn't?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:32 PM
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Health care decisions are financial? Legal standing? It has a lot more to do with the fact my husband was rushed to hospital before I was his wife and the hospital blocked my entry. As his wife they couldn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:29 PM
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I'm referring to childfree, not childless. There is a difference. 1 in 4 women are childfree
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:31 PM
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Nor mine! I was being snarky and I am sorry for that. I wish you well.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:27 PM
11

This was a huge part aside from the emotional side for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:23 PM
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Apologies, I have edited. Same concept though, I want to be married for me not for the purpose of kids. But then I am childfree! We are all different with different paths.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:22 PM
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You think you only have the opinions of your parents? There will always be childfree people as not everyone wants kids. 1/4 currently and the number is growing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:18 PM
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Because they want to be parents. They want offspring. I don't but I understand others do.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:17 PM
6

Could you provide a source for this? Childless, married women are the most stressed? Or mothers who happen to be married?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:15 PM
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Well you are speaking from an entirely different hymn sheet from my husband and I. We are childfree and happily married. We married because we loved each other and wanted to be each other family. If he only wanted to marry me to have children then I would view him very, very differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:14 PM
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That's the purpose of some peoples lives, not everyone's.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:11 PM
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Why have babies? Because they want to be parents. That desire is very strong for some women (not me, i'm childfree) and it is important to them
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:10 PM
9

Again - you are talking childbirth not marriage. Marriage has no impact on your life in that way
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:09 PM
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Yes but marriage is not needed to have a kid and you can be married (quite happily) without children
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:06 PM
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The risks you list are to do with pregnancy, not marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 12:51 PM
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Because you are losing someone you thought was a good friend
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 12:23 PM
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Way too long. Pick 4 things that are vital then just see if you like the girl Edit: I think you will have a tough time finding a childfree woman if you are red pill
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 07:58 PM
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You know, you can be feminine and have a career. Being feminine doesn't equal submissive or someone who wants to be a homemaker. And women pay their own way in this day and age
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 02:28 PM
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That's a sad family. I'm close to my aunts and uncles (also childfree) and my nieces and nephews. And what the hell is a 'wine aunt'?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 08:02 AM
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No I haven't. I am childfree. That figure is childfree not childless.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 07:24 AM
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As a childfree woman I am very aware of what childfree vs childless means. That's why I married a childfree man. The figure I quoted was childFREE
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 07:18 AM
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The 30% figure is childfree, not childless.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 07:06 AM
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The point is that being childfree is not an 'extreme minority l'
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:32 AM
2

30% of women are childfree and that figure is rising
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 05:58 AM
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You can have a family without children. I'm childfree and know many childfree people (older and younger), very few regret it. On the other hand I know at least 3 sets of parents who regret having kids. I always think it is far better to be childfree and have a chance of regretting it than force a child to be regretted
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 05:48 AM
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I'm married and childfree. Most of my social circle are also childfree and dinks. There are fewer of us but we are still out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 05:45 AM
4

Why? My husband cheers my successes and I celebrate his but then he likes having an ambitious wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 12:44 PM
3

So you were not proud of her for earning and succeeding?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 12:41 PM
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Because we don't want to. Also women have ALWAYS worked. Open a history book
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 12:35 PM
5

Wow that's a whole load of wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 12:34 PM
2

Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 12:20 PM
12

This man seems awful. Why would I want this? What does this have to do with feminism?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 12:16 PM
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My husband has six sisters. They were raised identically. All are good, moral, successful people with loving partners. They were not raised to be attractive to the opposite or same sex - they were raised to be good, happy, well adjusted adults. Your points are, to be succinct, rubbish.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 09:19 AM
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Relationships are partnerships,neither should be leading
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 07:04 AM
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I don't know what 'cope' means nor do I know who that person is
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 06:55 AM
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Because educated women have more options. We don't have to marry, we can choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 06:52 AM
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Educated professional men want educated professional wives and partners. Source - am married to one
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 06:27 AM
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That doesn't happen in marriages anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 05:45 AM
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My husband is my best friend and I am his. We have the most fun together and we have a shared group of friends. However that doesn't mean we don't need other friends. He needs blokey time. I have friends (male and female) who I like to socialise with and debate random literary facts
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 03:41 PM
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Same as men - respect, honesty and communication
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 02:11 PM
7

Just reading this thread make me thank god that I'm.not American. 12 weeks unpaid? You've barely stopped bleeding at that point. Poor mothers, poor babies! That's before we even get to the awful postnatal care over there
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 09:51 AM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 10:11 AM
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A man who maintains an Instagram is not a man I would have dated
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 10:04 AM
1

The standards that are reasonable are standards you meet yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 10:02 AM
1

Why are these men rowing toddlers?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 12:26 PM
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Why not? Girls have been called young ladies for eons
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 12:22 PM
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Female is used for animals, it describes the sex. And stop using gendered insults.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 12:21 PM
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I've been married for over a decade
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 11:50 AM
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Because its not perfectly fine and it is incorrect. If you are using language correctly then it should be 'female human', an easier way of saying this is 'women and girls' or 'ladies'
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 11:48 AM
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Female human = woman or girl. Just using female is othering women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 11:46 AM
5

I don't 'reed' books, I read books.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 11:43 AM
7

That is not what will make a relationship last. Values and qualities are.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 11:40 AM
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If you read my comment you'll see I've said having separate interests is great as you can SHARE them with each other, that means spending time together
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 10:58 AM
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What matters is common values, not common interests. It's great to have separate interests and then you can share them with each other
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 10:11 AM
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We are taking 2020, not 2014
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 12:20 PM
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Social media and dating apps existed before 2020 and Covid.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 09:31 AM
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The 'dude' often prefers to spend time with his wife. That's why he married her
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 06:43 PM
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It is super odd!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 06:37 PM
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You are not seeing the big picture. Are you just looks? No personality, interests, values? How is someone like me who wants long term intimacy and commitment supposed to fancy you if we don't know you? Luckily my sexy husband found it a compliment!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 06:34 PM
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Husband material is a great compliment. It means she wants you for life, she fancies you and loves you. I'm a married lady and I don't know a single woman who thinks as you do - we all fancy the pants off if our blokes!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 06:27 PM
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Why does everyone on here treat 30 as though it is 50? Most 30 year old women are fit and in their prime.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 06:24 PM
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Why wouldn't she?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 06:15 PM
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No it doesn't
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 05:46 PM
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Why wouldn't you want to be husband or boyfriend material?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 04:22 PM
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If you want a longterm, happy relationship it is better to have the emotional connection first. This isn't manipulation, it is good sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 04:17 PM
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Female with a husband. We met playing tennis
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 10:39 AM
2

Well you should clarify that then.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 10:01 PM
2

Moisturiser, spf, night cream, toners - these are all good for your skin.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 09:58 PM
2

Sorry are you seriously complaining about women caring for their skin and wearing bras as being dishonest? Seriously?!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 09:52 PM
2

The roughest to add that amount of years!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 07:30 PM
6

Why the '30' woman in that photograph at least 45?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 07:27 PM
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My husband is 10 years my senior BUT when we became a couple I was a fully functioning, independent adult. The issues come when the younger partner is young, dependent, naive which puts them at risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 07:25 PM
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Anyone who knowingly sleeps with a person I'm a relationship has the morals of a scumbags
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 05:03 PM
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Because it says a huge amount about who he is. It does not necessarily correlate to money
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 10:44 AM
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We loved each other, wanted to be each others family and wanted to swear to each other in front of our loved ones
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 06:57 PM
1

Only 30% of couples over don't have sex so most older couples do have sex
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 06:52 AM
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Lol 50 and 60 year olds do have sex. My grandparents had a reasonable sex life until my grandpa died at 83. Plus my parents in law still have sex in their late 60s
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 07:07 PM
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What do you consider 'older'?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 07:06 PM
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That is just like my husband and I, he'd hate to have a passive, agreeable partner!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 10:32 AM
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I'm pretty bossy but I certainly do not treat my husband like a child or a student. I just happen to be a bossy woman. My husband likes it and simply takes charge when he wants to. He tells me to sod off when I go from bossy to nag and I listen The way it works for us is that I run our day to day lives whereas he runs the 'big picture'.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 10:32 AM
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I mean those three qualities are great in a man for me. So much I married a man like that. I know several women who fell for men like that
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 05:25 PM
2

Well that's hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 07:17 PM
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That is not what I said. People who are abusers are to blame there. Very often abusers don't show their true selves until someone is locked down
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 05:34 PM
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It's a realistic question. Why would someone commit to an unkind person? Or an indecent one? These are things people should be asking themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 05:29 PM
4

Why would anyone marry someone they did not find attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 05:26 PM
0

He's had a terrible, awful romantic life.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 05:02 PM
5

For most women. Why would anyone get into a long-term commitment with someone who wa not decent or kind?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 04:27 PM
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Decency and kindness are HUGELY important
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 03:15 PM
0

Oh I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 02:31 PM
2

What if they developed snoring down the line?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 02:26 PM
1

Language mistakes. Anyone who said 'should of' would be an automatic no!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 02:26 PM
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Quality time together, regular dates, communication, putting each other first. Plus we don't have children
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 06:39 PM
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No. Chemistry is more important than anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 07:43 AM
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I did not wait for marriage but I did wait to be in love. I believe physical intimacy is the closest you can be to another person so I only wanted to go forward with someone I loved and who I was building a life with.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 01:17 PM
0

All of the things you say are 'his' belong to both partners
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:35 AM
3

Queen Victoria had very little power.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:10 PM
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I don't need to do research, I know the facts here. I'm also a damn fantastic wife
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 06:33 PM
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Why will I have housing? My husband and I co own our home? Why will I recieve money? I have my own career. Women do not benefit more than men in this area at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 06:29 PM
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Commitment, love, support, fun. Why are you avoiding my question?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 06:24 PM
9

If my husband and I divorce what am I gaining? What is he losing?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 06:15 PM
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She certainly didn't fail. Her work lasts to this day. Her prose is exquisite. Jane Eyre is a masterpiece
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:00 PM
22

The great writer. Sister of Emily and Anne.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 03:57 PM
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I said great minds. How about Charlotte Bronte? "Women are supposed to be very calm generally: but women feel just as men feel; they need exercise for their faculties, and a field for their efforts, as much as their brothers do; they suffer from too rigid a restraint, to absolute a stagnation, precisely as men would suffer; and it is narrow-minded in their more privileged fellow-creatures to say that they ought to confine themselves to making puddings and knitting stockings, to playing on the pi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 03:54 PM
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Any female great minds to quote?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 03:47 PM
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Let? Let?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 05:17 PM
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Day moisturiser is different, lighter and has different properties
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 01:34 PM
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Night Cream is a heavier moisturiser you wear over night. Like these: https://uk.elemis.com/skincare/by-category/night-treatments
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 07:58 AM
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When were we discussing schools? This is in reference to clubs, groups or societies. Men and women should be allowed to keep certain groups, it's healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 09:45 PM
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Oh! I see. Still not make up lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 03:04 PM
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Then he needs to make sure he knows what he's referencing. An evening cream is simply a night cream
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 03:00 PM
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Yes you did
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:56 PM
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You referenced evening cream in the OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 01:40 PM
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Sorry, you are counting night cream as makeup? That's basic skin care!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 12:36 PM
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I highly dislike the eradication of men only groups in this way. I think it is hugely beneficial for young boys and men to retain their own groups for men only.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 09:25 AM
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I'm late 30s and married (no kids). The majority of my peers are married with kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 08:27 PM
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Lol, I'm enjoying the typo. I'm a married woman who spends about 75% of her life bantering and teasing with her husband
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 01:34 PM
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How does this work with teasing?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 01:31 PM
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Haha, that's my husband to me! I'm quite delicate and I'm always developing a cold or something so he jokes that my software must be faulty
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 12:47 PM
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I've been eyerolling at my Dad since I was about 5, he does it back to me. It's called teasing
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 12:40 PM
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Oh totally. My husband teased me not half an hour ago about trading me in for a younger model, I laughed and teased him back about being wildly lucky to have me to start with. We love and adore each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 12:33 PM
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My husband and I roll our eyes at each other all the time, it's part of our teasing and banter with each other
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 12:30 PM
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Well that's codswallop
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 07:45 PM
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No they don't. I can survive easily alone, be in in normal life or in a survival situation
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 03:01 PM
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Clearly you know nothing about debating. Adding without making it clear is highly dishonest and highly bad form. Educate yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:41 PM
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It's dishonest to do that in a debate without making it clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 01:51 PM
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Let not forget carers as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 01:13 PM
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Bad reddiquette, You do know it is bad form to change your response after posting without making it clear? Just so everyone can see your original response was this: Really? How many garbage women do you see or know? Just one example.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 01:09 PM
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I don't any Rubbish Men either. But I do know female builders, painters, plasterers, accountants, civil servants etc I'm not sure what you point is here to be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 01:05 PM
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They don't, but if they decided to they COULD. That's the difference here. Women walk through a world where we can easily be overpowered and not be able to do a thing to stop it. I'm not hating them, I am very pro men, but I am pointing out the fact of why women are afraid and why a fair few men do not understand. And men don't keep the word running, not anymore. It's a joint effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 12:48 PM
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Are you seriously saying what you think doesn't matter? So if (in bizarro world) my husband viewed me as inferior and his property but treated me equally then that would be ok? What you are suggesting would lead to very dishonest relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 12:40 PM
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Let's say I also think women being afraid of harassment and creeps is waaaay overblown This is an issue of perspective. If you walked in a world where 50% of the population could overpower you without even thinking about it then you might have a different view on this. Men harassing women is not a rare occurrence. On your main question, yes of course it matters. But how he conducts himself is far more important. Some of the most interesting debates I've had with my husband are our perspectives o…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 12:13 PM
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All the men I know have a type. My dad, my husband, my best bloke friend. And they are very different types- posh bookish brunettes, skinny small blondes and tall, dark, crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 07:29 AM
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Yeah, he hasn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 09:52 PM
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I guarantee you he has not. Honest to the point of blunt rudeness my man is
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 09:51 PM
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What utter codswallop. Go on. Have a terrible sex life. Good for you. I'll stick with my very happy, very active sex life that doesn't involve turning sex into a chore.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 09:50 PM
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I'm married to a professional man. Why would he waste his time doing a dangerous job when we can pay an expert? Also, I couldn't make my husband do something if I tried Edit: nice edit, bad reddiquette. It's bad form to change your response without making it clear. I married an excellent, clever, capable, bear of man. He does not waste his expensive, valuable time doing gutters when we can pay an expert. Same with painting, cleaning, tiling or plastering. He's epic at woodwork though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 08:46 PM
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How does any of what you have written have to do with my post?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 08:38 PM
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This is so underrated. I fancy the pants off of my husband, one of the main things being he is fully responsible, does more than his share willingly man. Foreplay starts way, way before the bedroom
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 04:40 PM
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I said a great bonus, not just a bonus. And no
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 04:28 PM
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In what universe are the wwomen not also paying for said roof and said food?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 04:17 PM
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Sexless marriage is still a marriage. I certainly don't have the closeness with my mates that I have with my husband. Just to be clear, my marriage is not sexless. But it isnt just friendship + sex
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 04:13 PM
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You know what, I'll agree to that. Especially as both my father and husband are men who do more than their fair share and don't view it as 'woman's work'!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 04:08 PM
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If my husband ever did that I would feel so ugh. I'd hate for him ever to feel obligated like that. But then we don't have kids and have a fairly active intimate life.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 04:06 PM
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No it isn't. The type of emotional closeness and vulnerability in a relationship or marriage is eons away from being friends. Sex is the great big bonus.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 04:05 PM
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Some men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 03:55 PM
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Emotional connection and support is what a relationship IS
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 03:50 PM
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Not in my experience. My husband and I are physically intimate when we both want to be, neither of us would ever have sex out of duty. That's how you ruin a sex life.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 03:45 PM
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Because they are not equal things and what you are suggesting is a super fast track to a dead bedroom. If you make sex an obligation or a responsibility then the romance, the fun, the joy goes out of it, it simply becomes another chore. Both partners have a responsibility to emotionally support each other but they do not have responsibility to have sex when they do not wish to and to do so would be detrimental to the relationship. I am a long time married. I emotionally support my husband, he em…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 03:44 PM
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Which men are doing their own gutters? None i know, most people pay professionals to do stuff like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 03:35 PM
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Both partners should recieve an emotional connection from their partner, it isn't one way. It also isn't an exchange. This appears to be a very toxic view of relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 03:32 PM
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Well we've been happily together for 15 years and married for over 12 so we must be doing something right!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 03:16 PM
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If sex becomes an obligation or a responsibility it stops being fun and romantic. From an old married lady
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 03:07 PM
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The sheer trauma I imagine
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:30 PM
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To cheat is to be scum. So those high status attractive men? Not high status or attractive anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 11:02 AM
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Backalley abortions would return. Marriage rates would fall. Unhappiness would rise
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 12:57 PM
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A true natural look involves tinted moisturiser, mascara and lip balm. Not exactly masses
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 10:43 AM
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Every woman over 30 with dark hair, for example!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 10:40 AM
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Make up is about enhancing mainly
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 10:39 AM
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What super powers do you think everyday make up has? Mascara and a bit of concealer is not changing face shape, eye shape, eye colour, skin, figure!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 10:38 AM
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This sounds accurate. My husband would ignore any abd every health problem if left to him. With me he has a yearly Well Man Check plus any issues are immediately investigated
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 10:36 AM
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Happier, cared for people live longer.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 10:34 AM
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Since the monarchy became a constitutional monarchy the monarch has not held any power so this doesn't really hold water
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 04:34 PM
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Like that you coincidentally left out the physically demanding female heavy jobs? And construction ( an area I have ample experience with) is highly paid and respected
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 04:22 PM
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Where did i say I desire a role behind the scenes? And why is the assumption that it would be an easy job? My skills align with logistics, I have experience in that and would be the most benefit to the forces.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 04:21 PM
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I know. It is ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:55 PM
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That's not true. Heard of the Blitz?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:53 PM
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Lol women? Soft? I swear most of you don't live in the real world. Women are made of tough stuff. We give birth for christ sake.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:52 PM
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You might want to read about the blitz....not really that safe!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:44 PM
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Why am I making bandages? Why are you on the front line? There are many levels in the armed forces. Also are not bandages and medical care necessary in thr fighting of a war?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:41 PM
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I have zero problem fighting in the next war. But in reality my role in the armed forces of my country would more likely be behind the scenes as opposed to actually fighting.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:28 PM
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I mean in general I am wary of all men that I don't know. That's just good sense as a woman walking through the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 01:20 PM
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Personally no. And realistically in this day and age I very much doubt it happens often.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 06:06 PM
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Oh me too. It is the most unattractive attitude in the world
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 04:55 PM
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I adore the assumptions here that I am the lesser earner in my marriage. Or that my husband is an incompetent child that cannot do basic household tasks.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 04:54 PM
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No because those are not equal analogies.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 04:37 PM
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Oh god, read a book. No they didn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 04:04 PM
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The realities of life. There's more to.making breakfast than making breakfast
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 03:30 PM
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All aspects involved in the breakfast you spoke about
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 03:19 PM
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A woman. This was me in my 20s. Scared everyone away lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 03:12 PM
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Where? Who?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 03:05 PM
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What about the ingredients for breakfast? The groceries? The setting the alarm? Adding it to the household budget?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 03:04 PM
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I thought it was about being fair? I put 100% of OUR money and effort into our life,my husband does the same. We are putting in the same amount of effort. Any pay rises or wins are for us both. Our life is shared, our goals are shared. Raw numbers do not matter in a relationship and if you are bean counting in this way then you will not be happy in any relationship. It is about WE. NOT I
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 03:03 PM
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Is it more important to be exact or fair?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 02:52 PM
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To paraphrase Sheldon....are you under the impression that someone's success is only theirs? My success is down to me AND my husband and his is down to him AND I as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 02:50 PM
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How is anything I said turning a blind eye to finances. We contribute 100% of our incomes to our lives,so we are 100/100
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 02:48 PM
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We both do what needs to be done. If one is working more hours then the other spends that time doing house work. There is no such thing as exactly 50/ 50 in a happy relationship - it should be 100/100. I do not agree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 01:33 PM
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It ofcourse should be based on hours worked. I work more hours than my husband so when I'm still at work he does housework so that when we are both finished we gave quality time together. If it takes someone an hour to wash a plate they probably are great at weaponised incompetentance. Money doesn't matter in this concern as all money earned is OUR money. Each partner should be putting in 100% effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 01:27 PM
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And have no freedom or choices or safety nets?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 01:19 PM
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Well said. The best relationships are where both partners are putting in 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 12:34 PM
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It ofcourse should be based on hours worked. I work more hours than my husband so when I'm still at work he does housework so that when we are both finished we gave quality time together. If it takes someone an hour to wash a plate they probably are great at weaponised incompetentance
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 12:27 PM
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Ofcourse. Because that always results in a good time lol. No decent partner is waiting around with that
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 02:49 PM
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If your partner is only sleeping with you for a ring or the like then you are in for a truly terrible sex life
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 02:44 PM
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By formally committing we simply became more committed. Everything just got better and better. We felt safe and happy together
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 02:34 PM
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People find different things attractive. What you find attractive is not what the next person finds attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 09:22 AM
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Nurses are and have always been middle class
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 06:18 PM
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Well it is a good career in that it's interesting, provides a very good lifestyle and allowed my husband to pursue his career that he loves. And I'm certainly ambitious in both my day job and my writing. It's definitely more than just a job but it doesn't make my heart sing. Also my husband would hate to be with a scientist like him, it is our differences that make us work as a couple.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 06:14 PM
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Accounting is just my day job. My degree is literature and my true love is writing and creativity.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 05:58 PM
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Dear god no. I have no interest in divorcing my scientist husband for an accountant.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 05:09 PM
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That's a normal age to own. My husband and i rented for the first five years we were together. We both rented before that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 01:42 PM
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Move somewhere cheaper? It's about being self-reliant, which is a skill that cannot be underestimated ( wife of a self reliant man here!)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 01:39 PM
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Are they? Where will their wives come in the hierarchy of importance in this set up? And this is not about men caring for their parents, it's about men living with their parents
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 01:36 PM
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Rent? Flatshare? Houseshare?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 01:35 PM
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Where did I mention home ownership?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 01:30 PM
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Any man who lives with his mother is not going to be a realistic prospect as a husband. You want a man who is able to be independant and put you first, not put his mum first,
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 01:19 PM
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She made a lot of signals that she liked you. She's probably feeling foolish as it seems your not that keen on her
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 07:29 PM
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No it isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 11:30 AM
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It doesn't, it enhances what you look like. You cannot hide acne with everyday make up and scar disguising something else entirely. And ugliness? What do you mean by this? It's very ambiguous. Foundation and mascara will not turn an ugly.sister into Cinderella
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:34 AM
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Absolutely not . Make up enhances, that is all. It is fun though, it's great to frock up with some eyeliner and shimmer
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:32 AM
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I didn't say that, try reading again. I said it doesn't hide anything, which it doesn't. It emphasises and glosses
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:30 AM
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It's the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:29 AM
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You can't really hide anything in normal make up and it certainly won't change what you look like
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:26 AM
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Very few women wear enough make up to hide anything. Tinted moisturiser, lip gloss and a dash if mascara is what most women wear daily- nothing Iis being hidden there! Normal make up is not magic, it can't make you look like some one else
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:24 AM
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Actually a huge point of make up is to accentuate aspects that you like, as in myself I love my eyes so I accentuate them where I wear make up, I'm not hiding them - they are the star of the show.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:22 AM
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A prenup is for things owned prior to marriage. Within the marriage everything is combined
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 10:02 AM
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Yes but the ones I find attractive are not always the same as the next woman!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 08:50 PM
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Attraction is subjective, how he appears to me will not be the same as other women view him. My best friends partner I find quite plain but she finds him gorgeous
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 08:40 PM
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Number one only counts for me. I've had two boyfriends, one of whom i married. To me they both had a similar 'daniel craig-esque' look although I find my husband far more attractive than the ex-bf. I have no idea how they appear to other women but I know that other women find my husband attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 05:40 PM
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That's a different scenario. In a pub or club when you've been chatting and she wants to continue then she will return.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 05:37 PM
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Because they are my experiences of the topic at hand
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 04:10 PM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 03:52 PM
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I am a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 03:47 PM
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If the girl likes you she'll come back. And generally we are right as we've already discussed it ref going home together, signalling and knowing our friends. Personally I've never been wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 03:43 PM
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A stranger is not going to know the woman better than the woman's close friends
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 03:38 PM
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From who's perspective? The man's? Ofcourse he's not going to view himself as creepy. Women look after their friends like this, it's the way we look after each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 03:28 PM
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That's called being a good friend
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 03:20 PM
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Agreed. I know my best mate far better than Mr Random who is making her uncomfortable
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 03:19 PM
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I've never been jealous of men hitting on my friend ( we have vastly different tastes plus I'm now happily married) but when I've see her uncomfortable or not happy I have always interfered. It is the girl code.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 03:18 PM
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I think you mean 'loses'
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 10:10 AM
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They do. I care about my husband and know him, I like my male friends and know them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 06:40 PM
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Yes. My husband is my spouse, my partner, my other half. He means more than any member of my family of origin. He has been made redundant before. This had no effect on my feelings for him
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 06:10 PM
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What? Having a sense of humour is attractive. Have you never liked a woman for her sense of humour. My husband makes me laugh, that's attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 06:08 PM
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Women are individuals. We all have different opinions and feelings on things
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 06:01 PM
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The sense of humour IS part of who he is as a person
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 05:57 PM
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How is a sense of humour something provided? That's part of the person's personality
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 05:47 PM
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But they are not expecting them to pay for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 02:24 PM
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So not autonomy or independence then?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 10:30 AM
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Very few women in the modern age are expecting men to pay for dates. This is ridiculous. We were going Dutch when I was dating 15 years ago. What binds you to each other is feelings and commitment
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 10:29 AM
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Are happily married women not allowed to spend time with their friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 10:01 PM
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Happy husbands don't care about being attractive to other women
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 06:49 PM
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That is a false statistic. Only 38% of first marriages end in divorce, you cannot include 2nd, third, fourth marriages as it skews the true statistic. Also, married men are happier and wealthier
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 06:47 PM
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Agreed. I'm not telling my work colleagues the intimate reasons I love my husband but i will mention the roses he surprised me with.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 12:20 PM
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Attractiveness has nothing to do with it. Women pay for themselves now and have done for a long time. Perhaps it's an American thing? I don't know a single woman who expects to be paid for and certainly wouldn't allow the man to pay for them, that can lead to awkward expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 12:17 PM
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This sounds like a very old fashioned point of view. Pretty much everyone goes Dutch now and have done for a long time!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 12:11 PM
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No it is not. I do not know a single couple where the woman is with thr man for what he 'provides'. Most couples both work and provide for each other
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 12:09 PM
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It is. The question is how do I experience love? That is how.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 02:27 PM
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When I look at my husband my heart is full.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 01:40 PM
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He's a scientist. He would have a new job in a fortnight.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 05:07 PM
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I'd laugh. Never in a zillion years is he doing something like that
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 05:04 PM
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Not in my experience. My friends who are married ( as I am) wed the person they really loved.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 10:52 AM
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This analogy doesn't work. Jobs and money are not attracted to you. They don't come to you by virtue of being attractive and interesting. For me, yes it did happen.. I was single and had become content and happy just by myself with friends, hobbies and work. Then I met the man I am now married to. As I was not searching for a relationship I was completely and utterly myself which made him like me rather a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 04:17 PM
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I've never acted coy in my life nor have i ever been 'a preening bird' but smiling, flirting and engaging in someone this way is very normal with someone you fancy. It certainly not 'inscrutable'. My husband found my communication very clear! I was never going to outright say 'I fancy you' as that is the most unromantic thing in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 06:12 PM
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Smiling, playing with hair, gazing, angling towards someone - these are all communicating interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 06:06 PM
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Who is playing games? Where did I mention playing games?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 05:15 PM
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Well maybe you are an outlier lol, I think most women play with their air when flirting with a man they fancy. I know I did
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 05:11 PM
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I don't value it at all. My best friend and mother did not like my husband when they met him, it had zero impact on how i proceeded. Hygiene obviously was considered (he is very clean!) and he is incredibly good looking to me but all that mattered was him and me
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 05:08 PM
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Playing with hair and angling our legs towards you when sitting.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 05:02 PM
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For my husband and I they are both intertwined, one cannot occur without the other
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 02:14 PM
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Yes, I've said that about my husband. He so good and kind, he makes me want to be aa good as he is ( although he says I'm kinder than he is!)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 02:13 PM
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Why? He's better at cooking and I do other chores instead
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 08:13 AM
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What's wrong with the husband cooking? My husband does most of the cooking
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 07:44 AM
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It is highly sexist to 'other' women like this. Especially when op uses 'men' and not 'males'. The phrase they looking for is CIS women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 09:46 AM
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Women. We are called women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 09:33 AM
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The two situations are not comparable, you are trying to use this as a 'gotcha!' but it doesn't work. Lol which science books say that women evolved to take resources? I'd love some recommendations. My scientist husband will be fascinated.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 09:10 AM
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women evolved that way Please read a science book. No we did not. So just because my husband won't be like that you think we all should be trapped in marriage? What about people whose personalities change? What about people who become controlling? You want these people to be trapped in a place they cannot escape? That's awful.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 09:05 AM
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I do not 'take' any resources. In the situation where we had children my husband (who would be the father) would be raising said child WITH me. You want marriage to be a prison? If my husband (not that he ever would) committed infidelity or became abusive then I would want the ability to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 08:58 AM
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Female human = woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 08:49 AM
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Women, we are called women. If my husband and I were having child you are damn right I would be offended if he asked for a paternity test. That would mean he would think me capable of meeting another man, kissing him, sleeping with him and lying about it. My husband, the man I trust beyond anything would think me this deceitful and evil? That would mean he did not know me at all. Why do females always ask other people or want vetting for a potential partner then? These are not comparable situati…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 08:46 AM
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If my husband did that now I'd think it was lovely but if someone did it after a date or two I would never see them again. It's almost as bad as agreeing with everything someone says.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 01:45 PM
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Heterosexual men are the same as heterosexual women - attracted to the opposite sex. That is no wiggle room here.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 12:19 PM
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That is utter rubbish
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 12:13 PM
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I did not say 'muh' do why are you quoting that at me? It means heterosexual. Would you like the dictionary definition?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 12:08 PM
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Because the ones thar are straight are straight. You are aware that you cannot just alter sexual orientation on a whim right?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 12:02 PM
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Because they are not gay?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 11:55 AM
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Neither. Both are abusive. Team Ron Weasley!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 08:28 PM
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I find ambition attractive. I find laziness seriously unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 08:26 PM
2

Well that sounds terrifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 03:32 PM
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It would be pointless. My husband fancies me in the scruffiest clothes. I dress prettily for me. It makes me feel happy and confident
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 02:41 PM
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Well I would argue that. I don't know a single woman in my family or social circle who would have an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 09:32 AM
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Am wife. With a male best friend. I have zero issue with my husband going out with his female friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 09:04 AM
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I have 3 best friends - my husband, a bloke and a woman. At no point have i ever considered my male best friend an option for me as a romantic partner, he's simply my mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 09:03 AM
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I think people who have thought in depth about having children to this are more likely to be much better and present parents than many who don't give it a thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 08:31 AM
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Scrabble. Nothing beats scrabble
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 09:30 AM
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4, 1, 3,2,5, 8, 6,7,9 really do not matter to me. Woman married to a man
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 10:00 AM
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How is being moody and actual violence even comparable?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 10:33 PM
1

Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 07:04 PM
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Whining
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 06:56 PM
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During pmt it becomes more difficult for me to stay measured. I become quite weepy and snappy but I try to remove myself when this happens. I certainly don't yell at my husband. My husbands great though, he brings me chocolate and a book.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 04:50 PM
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Neither me or my husband had romantic success until we were well into our adulthood. All our parents cared for was our happiness. Gad I continued single but happy then my Dad would nor have been concerned at all
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 07:50 AM
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It was and is. Lovely weekend!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 04:40 PM
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SAHP. The tedium would kill me. But then I don't want kids
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 04:36 PM
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Was cocktail night (margheritas!) With the husband last night and pub then film night tonight. I was at the beauty place this afternoon
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 04:34 PM
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I am not attracted to promiscuous men. Had my husband been so I would never have dated him or married him. Promiscuous women like promiscuous men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 09:39 AM
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Lol that was like me and my husband. We went on a date and I liked him and then I saw him after the gym in the tightest t shirt showing off his arms and I lost the ability to speak.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 08:58 AM
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My husband is a decade my senior. But I dated him because of him,not his age
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 08:49 AM
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Arms. Men's arms are very distracting. My husband's especially
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 08:47 AM
1

Truly kind men with a backbone are the best partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 08:42 AM
1

I wouldn't want to go jogging. I don't even like jogging with my husband, I have to go too fast and he has to go slower than he'd prefer
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 07:38 AM
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Without a doubt. The man she us willing and wanting to build a life with means far more to her
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 09:22 AM
1

Marital funds belong to both parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:25 PM
1

No. Its half of shared items.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:10 PM
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Half your SHARED stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:47 PM
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Both of my grandmother's were lucky I admit. My maternal grandmother could quite have easily taken over the world if she'd been born a generation later
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 04:18 PM
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One of my grandmothers was a chemist. She didn't marry until her late 20s. She also trained as a bookkeeper and kept books for a large number of farms in a rural area. She married because she chose to, she could have supported herself and did until she married my grandad. All of her peers worked before marriage. She would not have 'been homeless without a man' and nor would her peers.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 11:25 AM
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I'm talking about the choices pre-marriage. A woman could be employed, be trained in a number of professions that would enable her to be viably employed and support herself. This is directly the experience of both of my grandmothers. They were also both paid in sterling for their respective jobs at the time. My point is that you didn't need to marry to avoid homelessness at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 11:22 AM
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Apologies, my assumption was in error. I assumed some figures that should not have been assumed!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 11:07 AM
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women would quite literally be homeless on the streets without a man Again, what century was this? Women could work and have careers in the 1950s and 1960s. They had choice, not as much as now but they had choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 10:56 AM
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Lol i'm a year from 40. My grandmother is in her 90s. She was 7 when WW2 broke out in 1939.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 10:44 AM
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Grandpa had to find a girl he liked in person, was expected to have decent hygiene, manners, talk to her, ask her out, have a car, take her on dates, court her, ask her dad’s permission to marry, prove that he could provide for her and their family, and go fight in world war 2 You may want to check your dates. Anyone who fought in world war two would be a GREAT grandparent, not a grandparent lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 10:41 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 10:38 AM
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Daily? In what UTI hell is this?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 10:32 AM
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What century are we talking about here? Women in the 50s and 60s could work and support themselves. They did not need to marry and they certainly were not allowed to be 'forced' to marry
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:42 AM
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Both of my grandmother's married for love. They were more than capable of supporting themselves, they did not need to marry at all. They both had high expectations of their husbands and would not have stood for any funny business. They were awesome women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:35 AM
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Most first and only marriages do not end in divorce. Its about 38%
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:06 AM
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Well luckily my husband wasn't one of them. Also I wouldn't want a man scared by directness or clarity. Here's how it went: 'Just so you know I want to be married one day, so if thuis isn't what you are interested in then it's best to know now. ' 'Oh, great I do too but I don't want children' 'Really? Awesome! Nor do I!'
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 09:04 PM
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Yes I did. Why waste each others time?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 08:52 PM
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If you've given up time for children. Or given up work to be an at home partner. If
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 08:35 PM
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There are protections with marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 08:31 PM
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Yes. Because I would have made it clear on the first date that I wanted to be married and if he didn't then we shouldn't waste our time
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 08:30 PM
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That isn't true. Plus why wouldn't you have a joint account with your spouse?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 04:44 PM
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We don't. All of our money is shared and we have joint accounts. We both stick to an agreed budget.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 02:01 PM
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Still is. Pretty much everyone I know has done so. One of my sisters in law did so within the last 6 months with her partner
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 06:34 PM
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Don't alot of people buy their homes with their partner or spouse?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:50 PM
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I've never had a date pay for me in my life. Why would I? I wear a little maje up and pretty clothes because I like them. My husband doesn't give a damn whether I wear make or not, it is definitely not for him!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 11:11 AM
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40 for both sexes. Lots of couples have babies late 30s
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 09:26 PM
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Can anyone get in the mood when living in a mess?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 01:30 PM
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How is that a red flag? Blokes fancying me means nothing. I love my husband more than anything and everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 01:33 PM
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They are happily married men and one confirmed bachelor. We simply are friends with common interests. And even if they were why would that matter? I am in love and loyal to my husband as he is to me. If you have no trust then you have no relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 01:26 PM
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Why not? What if they already have close friends of the opposite sex, many people do. I do. My husband does.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 01:17 PM
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You've given zero information about yourself. All you have said is that you are a man with a job. Are you kind? Interesting? Fun? Trustworthy? And what do you mean by 'standards'?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 01:15 PM
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That depends on your definition of 'compromising'. Do you mean no opposite sex friends or do you mean no dating other people?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 01:14 PM
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They are smelly and slobbery. Far prefer cats
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 11:00 PM
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None. I can't bear dogs
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 10:58 PM
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Anything that the man is question in interested in and passionate about. For example my husband is an engineer, it is so attractive to see him so passionate about his work.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 05:08 PM
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It runs to less than £150 a month which to us is worth it. I'd rather work overtime (if it was necessary) and pay for the cleaner than do the cleaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 10:17 AM
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Woman married to a man. Dishes - my husband does this daily. Laundry - I do the ironing daily and I send out the laundry Hoovering/mopping - my husband hoovers daily and the cleaner mops weekly. Trash - My husband does this every other day Bathroom - our cleaner does this weekly. Cooking - my husband does the cooking. We have a cleaner who does a full clean once a week. My husband does more of the day to day cleaning as he works from home and does less hours than I do. The kitchen is also 'his' …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 09:50 AM
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That's a false statistic as it applies to ALL marriages (1st, 2nd, 3rd). The true statistic for first marriages is about 38%
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 07:14 PM
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Half your SHARED assets. 50/ 50 is the normal custody arrangement nowadays. No CS with a 50/50 arrangement. Marry a working woman and there will be no alimony
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 07:12 PM
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Ah I apologise, I misunderstood
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 05:38 PM
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I act as a hobby. I've had to kiss people on stage. My husband is fine with it because it isn't me, it's a character I'm playing
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 08:14 AM
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If I'm asking if this dress makes me look fat then I want to know IF THIS DRESS MAKES ME LOOK FAT. If my husband lies and then I go out looking horrendous I would feel quite betrayed. Be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 12:06 PM
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If you want a stable, happy, long term relationship then this is terrible, terrible advice
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 12:03 PM
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I agree, definitely an American thing. I never expected a man to pay for me on a date and I stopped dating nearly 15 years ago! I also don't know any woman who would expect it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 11:57 AM
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Again, false statistic. Perhaps understand statistics before you quote them?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 07:39 AM
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So in the past women could have their own money then? Bank accounts?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 07:37 AM
3

That is a false statistic
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 07:32 AM
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Women had no choice, it was submit or starve! You want a woman to have to be with you because she has no choice?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 07:32 AM
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Thats when you know you are in charge. And for a relationship to last, the man has to be in charge As a happily married woman of many years this is absolute horseshit
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 07:28 AM
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He is not taking a feminine role. I am not taking a masculine role. Running family activities is a very feminine role to take.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 10:21 PM
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I'm the organiser in my relationship. I inform my husband what's happening and where we are going because I am the organiser. I am great at organising. My husband is not. This is not me pushing him around, it's simply my role in our lives. This does not mean I'm in charge. It just means I sort the itinerary.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 12:49 PM
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Perhaps it's an American thing? I don't know a single woman in my country who would expect this.b
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 01:13 PM
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Who are these women who don't go Dutch? I was paying my share of dates when I was single and that was 15 years ago!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 01:07 PM
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Illusion* No it isn't. It is a minor enhancement
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 03:40 PM
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Makeup is not a new face. It can only enhance what is already there.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 01:50 PM
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That is not normal makeup application though. That is hours and hours. Most of us are on mascara and some tinted moisturiser
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 09:49 AM
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What superstrength makeup are you using??
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 09:49 AM
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Where is this magic makeup that changes how you look? The minimal makeup I use simply enhances my eyes and smoothes. Do you use hair gel? Or shave? Or have haircuts?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 08:42 AM
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Painting on your own face can be fun, but once you're mature, you go beyond that. What's fun to children isn't really fun to adults. I hope never , ever to be so dreary that I am unable to appreciate childlike fun
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 08:40 AM
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Toxic. They love each other but cannot be together. Yes Yes Money, infidelity, lying. I was aware of them all Yes Yes Occasionally They both did their share. Dad did the cooking when they were still married. My mother did most of the parenting but I had a much better relationship with my Dad They were both godawful with money Yes Yes. Lots No Not in a million years
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 06:43 PM
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Why is it bad that retirees wish to live their own lives?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 01:14 PM
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How?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 10:31 AM
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How does me having an Instagram and Facebook affect my monogamous marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 09:31 AM
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None of my guy friends talk like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 09:30 AM
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My husband and I aren't wealthy ( we're good but not wealthy) and we get a man in for the fences
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 07:36 AM
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20s are awful for romance. 30s and 40s are where its at. From a happily married woman in her late 30s married to a man in his late 40s
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 12:30 PM
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Nope. Our values are far too different
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 09:02 AM
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Submissive is being obedient and passive. Feminine is gentle, kind, pretty, gently spoken, skirts and dresses and curled hair
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 04:08 PM
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Obeys? Yikes. Had me in the first half.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 01:20 PM
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I said that as many people seem to conflate being feminine as being submissive. Which it is not. Nor am I. Emotional labour - the organising, planning, anticipating in our life together. I am English.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 01:15 PM
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We have a mix. Both work, both do chores (although he does more than me due to hours worked). I handle the finances and emotional labour. He does all the driving and lifting. I do all the organising. He opens doors for me, I wear dresses and skirts. I run the day to day life whilst he takes the lead on the big life decisions. He is a very big, masculine man and I am a very feminine woman (not submissive, feminine).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 11:52 AM
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The latter. The first is bad for the children.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 09:50 AM
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What is selfish about my comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 11:03 AM
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If my husband of nearly 15 years thinks me capable of meeting another man, kissing him, sleeping with him, getting pregnant, passing child as his and keeping up said lie then the relationship is over already
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 07:29 AM
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The OP is about 'modern women'. I am a modern woman
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 08:51 PM
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This isn't that. The title references having children outside of marriage, this is relevant for both sexes
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 08:46 PM
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What about men having children outside of marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 06:02 PM
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I support and love my husband as he does me. As do all the couples I know! Most of my friends are men too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 02:21 PM
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Late30s, married. Not at all. I'm an adult
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 08:01 AM
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Only when the men don't want custody
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 04:56 PM
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She gets half of your shared property. And women do not always receive custody. The normal custody is 50/50
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 11:07 AM
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Absolutely none. My best friend and I have very, very different taste in me plus I use my own judgement
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 12:13 PM
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I am a British Conservative with a small c. I think that makes me mildly left wing in American lol. Hubby is the same
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 02:44 PM
8

What benefits?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 05:37 PM
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There so much wrong in your post that it is making my head spin
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 05:36 PM
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My father died when I was a young teen. My mother was left with little money and no work experience. I will never allow myself to be in that position. We should all have the skills and experience to support ourselves if the worst should happen!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 09:50 AM
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A fluffy one - My husband proposed to me abroad, on the beach with champagne. I took him racing on his favourite car. Serious - the most romantic things we've done for each other are sticking up for each other when the other couldn't to our families of origin. Being the partner you need is the most romantic thing. And champagne.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 04:43 PM
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Have you met British people? Our social lives revolve around the Pub!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 05:06 AM
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There is nothing nicer in the world than going out for a nice bottle of red wine with my husband
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 05:05 AM
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I mean I go and see friends but it tends to be shopping or a coffee or cocktails at a friend's house. Very rarely in a pub unless I'm with hubby. I have tge most fun with him
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 03:22 PM
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That's odd. I go drinking with my husband. It's great fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 03:19 PM
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And why is that a red flag?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 01:51 PM
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Sorry since when is drinking alcohol a red flag?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 01:32 PM
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Do people still do this? When I was single it was expected to go Dutch.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 11:14 AM
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Why is wanting a connection and a stable relationship before becoming intimate manipulative?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 11:58 AM
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Bloody do. Bit if he thinks me capable of that level of deception he certainly doesn't live or know me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 09:45 PM
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I love him more than life. But I'm not ok with being cast as someone I am mist certainly am not
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 09:21 PM
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If my husband and partner of nearly 15 years thinks me capable of meeting another man ,kissing him, sleeping with him, becoming impregnated by him him and then passing the offspring as his then the relationship is already over. I have never lied to him. If he thinks me capable of that level of deception then he never knew me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 07:36 PM
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Also by being healthier you will be far happier. This will also make you more attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 11:44 AM
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He has never been a friend. He is my beloved husband and partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 12:22 PM
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I say we are happy because we are happy. We love each other, we love spending time together, we make each other laugh. And we have a relatively active love life. We look forward to the weekends to go do fun things together. If either of us were miserable we would divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 07:44 AM
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Oh how sad to be so miserable to want to spread discord. We are not perfect but we are very happy. Yes I do. We both work from home. Share bank accounts. And he is honest to the point of being brutal (as am i). Some happy couples are genuinely happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 07:41 AM
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Apparently my husband and I have been acting happy instead actually being happy for 15 years. We should be on the stage
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 09:08 AM
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Ah then I apologise! And I agree!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 09:37 AM
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Nearly 40 happily married woman here. I didn't want kids at 18, 22, 28, 30 and I still don't want them. Having children is not a developmental milestone.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 09:16 AM
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I view it as a bonus. Not essential but great to have.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 07:22 AM
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30 year old women are not cougars. 45+ women are cougars
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 08:49 PM
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Because it sounds bloody miserable. Life is hard enough without having love and affection.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 08:17 PM
5

Well we clicked very quickly. But I found it hilarious how unfamiliar he was with things like periods lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 03:52 PM
10

Lol my husband has 6 sisters. He learned nothing about women from them
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 02:49 PM
10

That question is the sign she wants to get to know you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 01:09 PM
4

Why is that funny? Women in this day and age are perfectly capable of supporting themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 12:14 PM
9

I do not know a single woman who needs a man to survive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 08:30 AM
22

We are all aging. From the second we are born we are aging. Men age as well as women, men don't age any differently. And 30 for both sexes is relatively young, unless you have had a particularly tough life with hard living and sun worshipping both are going to look very similar to their 20s You are using 'cuz' in a sentence. I do not think you have any grounds for judging anyone's IQ.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 07:24 AM
37

Are you not aging? Have you discovered the secret of immortality? Do let us all in on the secret so we can all stop aging like you!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 07:18 AM
4

I have multiple male friends
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 11:22 AM
1

Well I've worked in both farming and construction so I wouldn't gave an issue at all
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 10:37 AM
4

Why am i marrying a liar?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 10:05 AM
2

Field? You don't play tennis on a field. We also don't shout 'sick burns' And no we did not shout. We bantered and were competitive about who was the better player. We then did that about pretty much everything else in life. Terrific fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 08:21 PM
1

No I played tennis and played in a mixed doubles competition. Met this arsy competitive man who was as competitive as I am and we bickered our way into falling in love. So I met him by playing tennis.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 08:08 PM
3

By playing tennis.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 07:31 PM
8

Sports are a great one. I met my husband through tennis
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 01:19 PM
9

Then after marriage and kids , their priorities change
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 12:02 PM
29

Why is it odd to expect husbands to do more once children arrive? The children belong to both parents, not just the mother
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 10:45 AM
1

Number 2 is false.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 08:42 AM
23

Tinder is a place for one night stands, not relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 10:40 AM
1

A good portion of people ( myself included) won't 'hook up' on the first few dates and months as they want to build a long lasting relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 10:39 AM
1

Woman, late 30s, married. We earn similar amounts now but it's switched several times We have a cleaner and everything else is 60/ 40 with him taking the most as he has more free time. We are both happy with this
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 06:18 PM
1

No. Expenses should be proportionally split, far fairer.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 11:57 AM
3

Late 30s and late 40s. Several times a week More now than we did at the start of our relationship (we are both quite reserved) No children.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 12:13 PM
5

I am married and have mainly male friends. I also work in an male environment. I'm happily married. Just friends with them as I would be with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 02:23 PM
3

My husband and I met through a sport. That worked well - we're both hugely competitive
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 06:39 PM
11

Any woman using surgery for cosmetic reasons is getting sideeyed by everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 07:06 PM
2

I'm late 30s and childfree. I have a two cats with my husband so not sure if that counts as a menagerie? It's certainly not to replace kids though, we just love cats. We have a martini or two on a Friday and a bottle of something over the weekend but that's about it really. We are certainly healthier and fitter than the people we know with kids due to the extra time we have. We travel a bit, go to the theatre and comedy. Overall we are very content
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 01:42 PM
16

He has been partying for their entire marriage. And touring. She's been pregnant back to back and has only just gone back to work and attended one wrap party
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 03:23 PM
23

They might be proactive but they are incompetent. Everything they have put out has backlashed.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 03:13 PM
9

Oh ofcourse! How could I forget?! Thank god for my husband who is none of the above!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 02:59 PM
11

This was stated in a joint interview with both Joe and Sophie where they both acknowledged that he is a partier and she loves being home.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 02:33 PM
20

She went to the wrap party for her tv series. She's been in the UK to work, not party. She gave birth just over a year ago and has worked very little since becoming a mother and this is her first series piece of work. She is very known for not being a partier. Joe however is known for being a partier, they have both mentioned it in joint interviews. Why is it OK for him to continually tour and party for the entirety of their marriage but not for her to work one job and go to one wrap party?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 02:30 PM
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She went to England to work. Not to party. He's been working all the time away from home for the duration of their marriage. She's vocally someone who loves being home and is a devoted mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 02:23 PM
45

He has behaved incredibly badly and is going to come out of this looking terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 02:22 PM
4

Ryan Gosling is not attractive to me. Like at all. Emma Stone is very pretty, albeit in a specific type of way.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 01:57 PM
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Vowing to love and care for someone publicly in front of all of your loved ones is a huge demonstration of commitment and one that alot of people want. Plus to be a family together. That 50% is a false statistic. That is for all marriages. The divorce statistic for first marriages is lower.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 11:51 AM
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Love, commitment, support?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 10:48 AM
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It's not your stuff, it's shared stuff. Have 50% custody. Marry a woman with her own career 3.Marry someone you can build a life WITH 4.Both benefit from marriage. Divorce rates for first marriages are not high. Married men are happier and live longer. There is nothing better than a happy marriage with someone you love.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 08:10 PM
1

Well 50 Shades is a book about an abusive man so I'm not really sure why this is here...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 05:15 PM
1

The most popular classic romances have a strong, flawed but ultimately a good man as the lead.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 07:21 AM
19

Well this sounds like my worst nightmare. Glad my husband is not like this and delighted i'm not as well!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 10:59 AM
3

The purpose of MY life is to have a happy life with my husband. That I have. That I would not have with children.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 03:17 PM
3

Hardly. We are happy together and have no interest in children.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 03:09 PM
2

No. We are childfree so just us two with our cat.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 11:48 AM
3

Yes we'll be fine. We loved all the time together during the last one
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 11:39 AM
1

I am a brilliant partner for the right partner. I am supportive, kind and tough. I will support my husband through anything and everything but will not put up with any self-pity or whining. I am fun, pretty and clever. I am very financially literate and prioritise financial stability above everything with the exception of the happiness of my partner. I am also difficult, critical and enjoy a good bicker. I also expect as much from my partner as I give. Luckily I have a husband who loves all of m…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 07:39 AM
5

Lots of people use albeit in the real world
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 02:44 PM
2

If you need a woman to be submissive to feel like a man then you are no man.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 02:43 PM
2

25 years then 6 months when we were having a particularly stressful time. The second one wasn't great but it certainly wasn't a 'struggle'
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 06:18 PM
1

Because the assets acquired during the marriage belong to both of them
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 08:57 AM
5

No I would not.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 03:16 PM
4

Very few adult men in my life act like the above.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 08:48 AM
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You've got it back to front I'm afraid.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 12:16 PM
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Minor? They are the big ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 12:06 PM
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Commitment? Love? Support?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 11:56 AM
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Agreed. All the married men I know (including my own husband) are good, supportive partners who do their share and more. We're childfree but the dads we know are great dads too. As is my own divorced father.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 09:20 AM
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This just sounds like this woman has a bad partner. There are men who are supportive, kind and do more than their share.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 08:58 AM
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I disagree. The fact that my husband does his fair share (and more quite often) is hugely attractive. Plus he makes the best food
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 09:15 AM
2

That's ridiculous. Noone cares if a teacher is dating a plumber. Plus the plumber outearns them!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 07:04 PM
12

I work with builders. They are some of the most genuine men I've ever met. I do t know why anyone wouldn't go out with someone in a blue collar trade. Plus the trades are well paid. They are all married as well
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 05:09 PM
2

If a person is identifying as a female then they are also identifying as a woman and visa versa
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 02:57 PM
3

There is no agreement or disagree. That is the dictionary definition and is a matter of fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 02:53 PM
1

Because the word woman means 'adult human female'.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 02:41 PM
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Just a point - it is either 'female human' or 'women'. I am quite a quirky person anyway so i wouldn't really care, I am an acquired taste. When I was single I would not have approached anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 02:39 PM
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If you look at the original comment I said female and feminine.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 05:22 PM
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That has absolutely nothing to do with your weird response about a uterus. I am English with an English degree. There is a difference between female and feminine. You are saying women wearing short shorts makes it a feminine piece of clothing. This is incorrect. And has nothing to do with your comment about a uterus. Edited: removed retaliatory remark as that was beneath me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 04:40 PM
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No. No it isn't. That's a very bizarre reply
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 04:33 PM
13

They can be female attire, that does not make them feminine attire. Skinny jeans are not feminine nor are crop tops.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 04:29 PM
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Submissive and feminine are not synonyms. You can be feminine with a mind of your own, with a back bone, with a career. Short shorts are not feminine. Ladylike women tend not to wear short shorts Why is like toys feminine?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 04:23 PM
4

Plain*
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 12:01 PM
24

Reread the books. James did not bully Severus, they picked on each other. Also lily did not get with James until he'd become a become a better person.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 05:25 PM
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They were together for 16 years
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 03:06 PM
0

Attractive, hardworking man for me. Laziness is very unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 06:45 PM
15

No it is ludicrous. Go Dutch!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 05:04 PM
11

Sounds like someone who has not had the joy of a happy and committed relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 09:09 AM
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They don't have to be. They shouldn't be. But having children is a choice, it is not something anyone has to do. Want to be a parent? Great! I hope the husband you choose and spend years with before babies (hopefully) is an equal parent and an equal partner. But it is not something we have to do. If a man chooses to be a Dad then he should be an equal parent. If a man chooses to be a partner he should be an equal partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 08:58 AM
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why they sit at home while men go die in war You may want to reread some history books...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 08:51 AM
6

This list is saying women HAVE to have children. We don't. There is a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 08:48 AM
4

Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 08:42 AM
1

The children are the responsibility of the mother and the father is they choose to have them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 08:42 AM
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Partnership, commitment, love? Where are you making a relationship such a transaction?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 08:37 AM
13

It really is. Beancounting destroys relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 08:33 AM
2

Yes. Already do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 07:25 PM
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Yes they are equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 09:45 PM
12

The arts are real fields, just as much as stem.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 09:39 PM
1

'Conventionally attractive' does not equal male model.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:06 AM
1

No, it's weird if he pays. You should be going dutch.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 11:01 AM
2

No. Certainly not for me. My husband currently makes no money and we have always been on par with our incomes. We sleep together because we love each other. I can fund myself quite easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 08:33 AM
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I said ease up, not quit.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:27 PM
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You want kids? Then when you have them you have to ease up on the career. Want the career? Don't have kids I am a childfree married lady as I like my career and so does my husband. If you have children their needs must come first
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 10:27 AM
4

I certainly can. A mother and homemaker is always 'at work' and never clocks off.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 10:10 PM
4

In your op you said 'a lot of time to do what i want'
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 10:07 PM
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Being a housewife means being a housewife and a homemaker. It is not a shortcut to doing 'whatever you want'
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 10:04 PM
4

Both. But they are both essential, continual development is a necessity for his career.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 08:06 AM
3

Work travel and personal travel are very different things. My husband does one work trip a month. We never travel separately for personal travel of more than a night (why would we?). We socialise with our own friends once or twice a month but also in a large group more often (at least once a week)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 06:52 AM
1

Yes. Books.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 08:40 PM
1

I am mid-30's. I have good friends in their late 60s and early 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 08:40 AM
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I never wanted them. Happily living that dink life
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 02:23 PM
1

That is not what introvert means. It has nothing to do with shyness or a lack of confidence. It is simply someone who prefers quietness and thoughtfulness.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 07:24 AM
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Introverted people can be confident, it is just more of a quiet, reserved confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 07:21 AM
1

Where are you meeting people? As the quiet, introverted ladies are not likely to be showing things off on instagram. It could be that you find extroverted women attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 07:18 AM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 06:15 AM
3

There are plenty of make goths. Men collect things too. What do you categorise as 'childish crafts'? Have you never seen grown men dressed up at comic conventions?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 01:49 PM
1

I find this utterly bizarre as my husband and I met when we were the same age with the same age gap and neither of us have ever had comments like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 04:18 PM
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There are female farmers, female builders, female manufacturers, women in the emergency services, women in the navy, raf and army. I work in rural construction (accountant) and personally know female builders and farmers. The jobs that men did during the world wars had nothing to do with physicality and everything to do with education ( ie doctors). These are jobs that women are qualified in now due to education access.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 09:54 PM
2

Group sex is not a hobby.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 06:19 PM
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All those jobs can be done by women too. That's what happened during the world wars
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 06:15 PM
8

All the things you've listed are not a 'privilege' they are the result of effort
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 02:51 PM
3

Love does exist. I love my husband beyond words. Love is a choice. We choose to love each other every day
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 03:44 PM
3

Oh then I agree with that. I mean if you don't consider your SO the best person in the world then why would you be with them? I treat my husband as my number 1 because he is, and he does the same with me. I admire his sense of humour, his intelligence, his looks, his determination and I tell his as often as possible!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 12:41 PM
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The right partner will increase your self-esteem. They will go out of their way to make you feel proud of being you. But the 'treating like a king/queen' is rubbish. If my husband is being an arse I will tell him, I am a huge proponent of tough love and honesty. But to do so with kindness.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 12:07 PM
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No it isn't. That is bollocks
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 03:40 PM
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Above average
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 02:58 PM
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No it is not. It is up to both parties to be a good partner
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 06:58 PM
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Living in France with my husband, eating cheese
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 06:54 PM
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Sounds like my husband and I!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 06:51 PM
2

You can be married to a man who does his fair share. And it is possible to be married and childfree
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 11:00 AM
12

It's weird to be worried. He's a doctor. Who cares. I'd worry about a man who was worried
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 10:38 AM
2

Because men can easily overpower us
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 11:13 AM
2

I would never give up my cats. The fact my husband is a catman was a huge plus. If he'd liked dogs then we could not have been together
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 11:12 AM
2

This is a debate sub and I find gender politics interesting. Plus as a happily married lady I have a different perspective than most here.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 07:41 AM
7

When my husband and I moved in together we both paid the rent. Why is this asked like it's a big deal?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 11:04 AM
1

Because I didn't have to birth my cats. Also they didn't affect my career. Plus they take a a lot less time to look after. Plus I like cats
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 05:54 PM
1

I didn't care if someone was a virgin. I did care if they had ever had one night's stands or had had lots of partners
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 05:05 PM
1

There are women in the navy
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 12:29 PM
1

Who on earth is saying this?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 12:28 PM
2

Met my husband through tennis. He was and is the most interesting person I've ever met. Sex life was good at the start but is even better now. He encouraged me to pursue my goals and I have achieved so much as his partner with his support. We are doing well financially
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 06:53 PM
2

Thank god my husband is far more sensible!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 06:48 PM
1

Why? Why is that amusing. I do work longer hours than my husband
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 05:30 PM
3

Chores have no relation to the finances
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 05:18 PM
1

We paid, before marriage, in accordance to our earnings.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 05:18 PM
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Polarity. My husband and I are the ying to the others yang. He's grumpy, i'm cheerful. He's logical, i'm creative. He's hot tempered, i'm relaxed. It works very well and also helps us have awesome debates. Although having the same values and goals is essential!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 10:32 AM
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This is completely and utterly false.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 05:07 PM
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takes half his their stuff in the divorce
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 02:59 PM
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Hail to healthy relationships!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 08:42 AM
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You don't have friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 08:30 AM
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My husband has female friends, I have male friends. I would hate to be in a relationship so insecure that neither have of us trusted the other, how pathetic would that be! We love each other. We trust each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 08:10 AM
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What about the child burdened with the elderly parent? Who has to deal with early parental death?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 05:53 PM
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Yes it does, starting from 35 but especially in the 40s. It's false that it does not decline. Also you are damning a child with an elderly parent
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 05:40 PM
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For both sexes, if you have not started to have kids by 35 to 37 it is too late really. Both sexes fertility reduces ( yes men's too!) Plus you'll be too old to be a decent parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 05:17 PM
2

Very sensible.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 12:47 PM
8

A partner who does not do for their share is definitely an immature partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 12:10 PM
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Many women who have the luxury of choosing work closer to the home, less working hours, lower/no overtime expectations, less stress tend to not think of it as "living off husband's money This is very rare as well. Pretty much all the women I know (including myself) work long hours in their careers, how else would we progress? I personally work longer hours than my husband and manage the money for our household.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 11:52 AM
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they obviously live off their husband's money This is very rare in this day and age. I certainly don't. My husband is fantastic and we split chores on hours worked and as a result he does more but he certainly does not do even half of that list! A good portion of it we pay people to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 11:14 AM
5

Are you not ironing any of these clothes?!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 10:57 AM
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Shockingly I bought new clothes, went to the gym and got a haircut this weekend and I'm a woman...who knew I could do that too?!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 09:57 PM
15

And father. The father's age impacts as well
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 01:18 PM
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Young, cool parents tend to be immature, not great parents. Betterto be older with a bit of knowledge and less energy I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 10:56 AM
1

You are right, noone needs any of the things listed. They are wants, not needs. Desires, not needs. No one needs steak, they need food. Happiness is not a need either.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 12:42 PM
1

What the hell is that? Body parts are not a comparable to a need. And, dear god, learn to use punctuation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 12:24 PM
1

That doesn't make it a need. It makes it a desire, a want. You won't die from lack of sex, you will die from lack of food or water.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 12:13 PM
1

Sex is a desire, not a need. You can live without sex you cannot live without food, water, shelter.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 12:07 PM
6

Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 04:16 PM
10

The money makes no difference in this scenario. What matters is whether he is working more hours than I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 04:07 PM
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Oh this is just hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 10:00 PM
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Why? Are you not a parent too? When does your wife get to chill out?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 09:56 PM
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Wow,nice easy life then. And you won't feel guilty or bad at all? I presume then you'll take 100% care of the children then when not at work? Up early on the weekends and all thar.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 09:52 PM
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So from 5pm until bedtime you'll just be sitting around? Whilst your partner rushes about? What about childcare?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 09:48 PM
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What chores will you be doing? Also an 8 hour day isn't a long day at all
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 09:43 PM
2

Some men don't care. Some men do
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 05:56 PM
7

No but mainly because I'm childfree
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 05:52 PM
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I didn't. My comment directly responds to the concluding paragraph
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 11:13 AM
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Finances have nothing to do with the amount each partner should be doing in the home. What matters is the hours worked
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 10:26 AM
-3

No. There is nothing more attractive than a kind, sweet, selfless man.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 07:15 AM
1

All women are female. Do you refer to men as male men?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 09:04 AM
0

Female women is a redundant phrase. By definition women are female so it should either be 'women' or 'female humans'
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 09:03 AM
13

Yes. I am a pretty woman and I have it easier than not so pretty women and beautiful women have it easier than me. Just like handsome men have it easier than ugly men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 06:18 PM
1

If she's into you the hints will be fairly obvious
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 10:30 PM
2

Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 11:31 AM
3

Nothing wrong with it as long you are holding yourself to the same standard
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 11:31 AM
7

Hardly. Glad my husband isn't like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 09:05 PM
8

That doesn't sound terrifying at all (!)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 09:01 PM
0

My husband and I both have close friends of the opposite sex
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 09:00 PM
19

I rejected more than a few men for their attitude to intimacy. I would never have dated anyone who had had a one night stand or slept with lots if women. It was a complete turn off for me
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 10:26 AM
1

My husband and I have completely blended finances and I manage the money (am an accountant) so I would very very, very surprised! But I would not be happy - we agree on all investments and spending together
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 10:21 AM
1

Thats lovely, it's how your partner should make you feel. My husband and I feel the same about each other
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:25 PM
1

Yes i can and I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 11:41 AM
8

Lol, this is ludicrous. Ofcourse women under 30 know what Pride and Prejudice is, for gods sake the film of Emma came out a couple of years ago and saw hugely successful
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 10:59 PM
15

No he's the guy they all avoid because they think he's proud and rude
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 07:42 PM
6

Book then tv series then film. And yes they do
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 07:41 PM
49

The oldest and most popular story directed at women is Pride and Prejudice - a story of a woman who falls for a man once she realises how good and kind he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 05:55 PM
9

No No No
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 07:10 PM
26

My body count is 1. My husband knows it is 1
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 06:54 PM
0

No you haven't, you are 23. Forget about 'game' and simply live a life that you enjoy, you are far more likely to meet someone that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 09:10 AM
3

Just live your life. You are more likely to meet the right person for you that way. Live life, work, develop hobbies, travel.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 09:09 AM
6

Whenever anyone gets a bit...flirty I shut it down.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 05:28 PM
18

Arrogance. Dishonesty. Cruelty. Unkindness. Non-ambitious. Lazy. Unmotivated
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 05:28 PM
3

Stop making your height the be all and end all. It isn't. You have a gf who likes you. Stop obsessing
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 05:02 PM
1

I have the copper coil. As it isn't hormonal it has not affected anything. Am married. Was on the pill, didn't want to be on it in my 30s. Tried the implant and I gained weight. Simply don't want kids
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 11:48 AM
5

Close your legs? Are you suggesting that all the married women who don't want children or any further children should stop having sex with their husbands then?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 09:53 AM
8

Like there is a phobia for the fear of childbirth and many people have it. One of the lesser reasons for me not wanting kids is the pain and what it will do to my body. I know 3 women who won't have any more children due to the pain they went through giving birth to their first child.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 09:45 AM
3

What about childfree men?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 08:31 AM
7

Sarcasm?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 08:30 AM
1

Ew. No. And he would never ask
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:42 AM
1

I would not swap my darling husband for anyone. Not richer or cleverer or more objectively handsome.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:15 AM
6

They are. Irritatingly so lol, be bloody annoying if they weren't all so nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 11:27 AM
4

Ah. I see. Clearly doesn't apply to my modelesque sisters then...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 11:23 AM
5

My sisters in law are all 21 up to 26. None of them are like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 11:16 AM
5

Live in a city, not sure what 'the city' is. Late 30s so does that count as 'old as fuck'?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 10:04 AM
21

Where are these women? I'm a woman and I've never met one who matches the above description in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 08:27 AM
4

No woman in her right mind is believing a casual partner who says they are on the male pill
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 03:07 PM
3

I think of everything my parents did and do the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 06:20 PM
2

Answering for how I was before marriage as I'm an old Smug Married now: Never once did that No it's because I had no interest in sleeping with anyone I wasn't committed to I would always have expected the man to make the first move My husband is an incredibly handsome man who is happy in his own skin. Make of that what you will. 5.Yes I wouldn't
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 01:53 PM
8

Quite a few late 60s and 70s couples are still attracted to each other. My partner grandparents fancied the pants off of each other well into their 80s. Attraction is not just physical - it's tge combination of a person you think looks nice as well as a personality you find attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 07:28 PM
6

If my husband asked for a paternity test that means he thinks that I, his wife, his soul mate is capable of the following: Sleeping with another man Lying about it Letting him believe he's a father Lying some more Lying to our hypothetical child Spending the rest of my life Lying He is accusing me of being capable of all the above.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 11:13 AM
2

Met him through a tennis club. He was sparky, competitive and great fun to argue with. We loved playing against each other due to both being competitive. He asked me out after about a month and that was that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 01:26 PM
4

Completed untrue. If I'm pointing out an issue it's because I want to work on it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 11:28 AM
2

As long as he stays fit. And as long as he doesn't expect her to bounce back within months after pregnancy. And as long as he understands that pregnancy permanently alters her body
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 09:43 AM
2

This sounds like my idea of hell. I love my husband, I love my dad, I like my male colleagues and friends. Why do I want to be separated from them?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 09:27 AM
22

Yes as I do not want to encourage strange men to approach me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 10:29 AM
2

Yes. Most of my good friends are men
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 04:34 PM
8

John would not have a choice about providing alimony and child support
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 10:30 PM
9

Well I'd suggest women look for men who pull their weight in the household, they do exist (I'm married to one)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 10:35 AM
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No she isn't, 30 years old is a fine age for childbirth. The decline tends to start 32 to 36 but its not usually an issue until late 30s
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:04 PM
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"Women should have the option to marry me or starve!" Lol wait until he learns that women have always worked....
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:46 PM
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Not especially, she simply didn't see marriage and children as part of her life, she wanted more excitement. Then she met my Pa and they fell in love very quickly and married. It took a very special man for her to even consider marriage. Edit: Same bloody thing happened to me!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:43 PM
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That may be true for your Gran but it certainly was not universal. My grandmother had no intention of marrying until she met my grandfather and he was attractive to her due to a great deal more than having a job! They got married in 1953.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:01 PM
1

Why can't romantic texts be romantic? My husband send me loving texts all the time and used to send me essays when we first met, it's a lovely gesture of his
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:32 PM
3

Have sex that much ruins the enjoyment. Better have it 3 quality times a week than 7/10 times a week
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 03:51 PM
1

That 50% is a false statistic. It is 50% for all marriages, for first marriages the statistic is late in the late 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 11:43 AM
2

Not at all. For example- my hen do involved both my male and female friends
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 03:16 PM
2

Yes they (we) do
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 07:35 PM
5

Yes your UK friends are going half'. . It is virtually unheard of for the man to pay in the modern day over here, everyone is going Dutch.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 04:38 PM
7

That's called a lie of omission
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 06:16 PM
5

Why is despicable or why is it cheating?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 05:55 PM
17

Yes that is cheating. Its also despicable
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 04:45 PM
2

Clubs? Societies? Choir? Board games?I met my husband through tennis.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 11:33 AM
2

Being incredibly dull?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 07:31 AM
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Is he funny, interesting? Does he have interests aside from the gym? Can he debate and banter? Is he kind? Is he fun? There needs to be more than 'hot with good job' as only 'hot with good job' is as boring as hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 07:03 PM
2

Well I married a man 10 years older than me (met at 26) but if he'd been settled with a house and all that I would not hVlave done so. I wanted to build a life together, not walk into one someone had already built! When we met we were at similar career stages.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 07:45 AM
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Both people over 25? No issue at all. A mid30s man with a 19 year iks is just icky. 19 is barely an adult and the life stages aren't even slightly similar. I am married to a man 10 years older than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 08:58 PM
1

Some men like challenging women who challenge them (literature is full of them!) and some don't. Personally I like a man who challenges me and who I challenge, it is what I have with my husband. It would be so dreary and downright dull to agree all the time!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 07:41 AM
3

Do you consider marriage to be equivalent to the military?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 10:27 PM
1

I don't think either gender is superior but if I went insane and actually want a kid I'd rather have a boy (the emotions of a teenage girl were enough of a roller coaster to experience never mind witness again!)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 07:29 PM
7

So no then?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 05:33 PM
-1

Listen to this sensible man!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 05:19 PM
14

Have you successfully dated and married a woman with this attitude?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 04:58 PM
2

Are you sure you are not missing the cues?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 12:35 PM
8

American healthcare is horrifying
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 07:38 PM
6

She looks perfectly pretty and nice
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 07:09 PM
3

21 -very young 26 - young Calling g a 26 year old older is insane
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 06:27 PM
1

Are you seriously categorising a 26 year old as an 'older woman'?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 06:05 PM
0

It's a bad analogy as people are nor comparable or equivalent to shoes
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 03:34 PM
0

People are not equivalent to shoes
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:00 AM
2

I think going Dutch should be the norm
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:01 AM
1

No. I hate dogs
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 12:38 AM
6

Yes I'm sure one of the most desired and wealthy women in the world is regretting her life choices
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 12:02 AM
-1

My husband is my partner in all things. His enemies are my enemies
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 02:29 PM
43

Lol i talked about marriage on my first date with my husband and I was 24. Had zero interest in investing time and emotions into a relationship that would not end in marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 02:27 PM
5

Am a woman. Am a wife. Am a career oriented woman and my husband would not have me be otherwise (he loves showing off about me).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 01:56 AM
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Women have always worked. It is only the very well off who have not. Sahm often had side jobs or worked at home as well as being a homemaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 01:52 AM
3

I'd be appalled. And shocked thar my equilitarian ofa husband was posting such things
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 07:19 PM
1

I didn't. I wanted someone smart with ambition. A university degree is not necessary for this. Also I work with plumbers and builders and electricians - they are some of the smartest men I've ever met and I went to Oxbridge
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 04:29 PM
1

Wherein gods name is 200k entry level for software engineers?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 09:17 AM
0

If I involved my dad I would end up with the most arrogant man in the world. No thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 10:04 PM
2

Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 09:20 AM
1

I know my dad is my dad, I'm far too similar plus I'm his mother reborn.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 10:16 PM
2

2.5 weeks. Insomnia. Worst I've ever had.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 11:07 AM
2

As a women with many shared interests with my maje and female friends this is false. As is the rest of your post
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 10:57 AM
6

Why is that selfish? Surely prioritising yourself when single over a hypothetical future partner is the better path?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 10:31 PM
1

I have a wide music taste so I am delighted that my husband is the same. Be so dull to listen to the sane music all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 10:27 PM
1

The truth as I would expect them to tell me
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 10:23 PM
5

What a lovely, patronising statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 10:12 PM
3

You put 'fit, handsome man' then put Chris Pratt as an example (next to Jon Hamm!). Chris Pratt is not handsome at all
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 04:26 AM
9

Chris Pratt is not handsome
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 04:17 AM
3

Well yes. As the below poster said that's the entire point so I didn't waste my time with men who didn't want what I wanted
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 04:41 PM
10

Why? Why not make myself clear? It didn't nean he had to propose within a month ( he actually proposed 3 years later after we bought a house) but it made my life plan clear and there was no misunderstanding. He did the same thing about children. Luckily we both like clear and transparent communication
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 09:30 AM
7

I informed my husband on our first date that I wanted to get married and married by 30 so if that wasn't what he also was after then we probably shouldn't see each other again.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 09:26 AM
0

Every single time he talks about his career and his passions. He is so clever and insightful and damned gorgeous when doing so.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 05:41 PM
6

The last bit makes me laugh. I am the wife and do all the repairing of any appliances, my husband would electrify himself and overcomplicate everything!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 08:34 AM
1

The girl was clinging to him because she likes him. This us obvious
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 08:30 AM
5

I'm married and have plenty of male friends. They do none of the things you listed
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 07:52 AM
7

I'd rather be nice and avoid the violent and scary 5% of men thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 07:23 PM
5

Absolutely not
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 10:53 PM
6

Because I wanted to be a family together. Be Mrs to his Mr. No desire to be his girlfriend forvtgexrest if my life ( and importantly he wanted to be my husband)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 06:52 PM
5

Getting married just costs the licence
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 06:41 PM
5

I'm married. Wanted to marry my husband because i loved him and wanted to share my life with him. Luckily he felt the same
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 06:40 PM
1

Do you mean gets loafs of women or has settled down with a single woman he is happy with?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 04:29 PM
3

I'm in an 'equal'marriage and we are very happy. We don't do a 50/ 50 split on money and chores though. All of our money goes into a single account and the chores are split by who has the more time outside if work ( ie if one of us works more hours then the other does chores during that time - if one is working then we are both working).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 08:03 AM
1

Happily married. Together over a decade
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 04:36 PM
6

I think the sheer misery of menopause may have something to do with it. Although pretty much all 40s and 50s ladies I know are pretty happy in life
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 11:14 AM
1

Well we're there right now. He's starting a business so unlikely to bring in money for a couple of years. No problem with this at all
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 12:59 AM
1

You can have kids without a marriage too. A great deal of people wish to be committed in every way. That is what marriage is for. It is also hugely beneficial if one if you is ill ( as I found out when I was rushed to hospital and my then partner - now husband - was not allowed to see me)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 03:08 PM
1

And the man. Men are happier married in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 02:57 PM
2

I am thanks. And marriage can provide happiness stability and commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 02:00 PM
0

Happiness? Commitment? Stability?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 12:11 PM
3

No it is not for children. It is for two people wi love each other to build a life together. I am happily married and we are childfree.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 08:34 AM
0

Well yes. I am not religious and I am married so it worked out well for me. Rather be alone than with a person not right for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 09:07 PM
1

Yes. I also would never have dated a man who had one either.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 08:12 PM
2

Why is getting your home ready for Christmas 'simping'? Will you not be there too?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 06:48 PM
5

I recieved a stunning heirloom sapphire as my engagement ring. We bought a diamond ring for me to wear on a day to day basis. I love them both
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 06:46 PM
1

I don't eat before the gym, I have breakfast when I get to work
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 05:42 PM
2

Be honest about who you are, what you want and what you need early on. It will save a huge amount of time and heartache
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 01:37 PM
5

Be honest about who you are, what you want and what you need early on. It will save a huge amount of time and heartache
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 01:37 PM
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Tell her the exact number, 50+ could mean like 200!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 12:39 PM
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Don't lie. It may put her off but it's better to be honest and move forward with a foundation of honesty
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 12:34 PM
1

No.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 03:33 PM
2

My head explodes everything I see soccor
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 04:00 PM
1

Am married. Honest in all things, genuine, kind funny, serious and able to have a good debate. A love of food and drink as well. My husband does have all of these things
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 07:10 PM
2

As a British person that all sounds delicious except for: 'Whipped vanilla yams' I dont know what that is and I'm not sure I want to, it sounds very weird
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 02:53 PM
2

Generally git or arseface. Occasionally darling
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 06:00 AM
1

It's increasing. Only one couple I now of my generation did the woman take the man's name, three couples they took hers and the rest merged or double barelled
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 10:27 PM
2

Absolutely not, it is a ludicrous question
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 01:25 PM
4

I would not be with either. Why would I be with someone I don't fancy or someone who doesn't fancy me?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 01:23 PM
4

May have to do with fact that most men are much bigger and stronger than women. If you had to walk in a world where 50% of all people could overpower you you would be more aware of the danger as well
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 08:19 AM
1

I've got friends from 25 to 78
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 11:05 PM
1

Besides being happy?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 07:03 PM
1

What's with the hatred for cats? Why is this an insult? Cats are awesome
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 06:31 PM
1

Gym 4 times a week, beauty salon every 4 weeks, hairdresser ever 6 weeks, skin routine is about an hour a day
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 06:30 PM
2

Love? Commitment? Intimacy?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 06:29 PM
10

For us it did. We wanted the same surname and to swear ourselves to each other. And to call each other husband and wife. To have the solidity of marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 06:23 PM
18

I love my husband, he loves me. We wanted to be a family together and so we were wed
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 06:17 PM
2

Yep. I love the Harry Potter novels.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 08:26 AM
4

I have a wonderful relationship and my husband makes all of my sandwiches
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 07:29 AM
1

It is. I have friends who happen to be men, they aren't my friends because they are men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 06:59 PM
2

That's a weird question. I have friends of all genders due to shared interests and affections
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 06:09 PM
1

It was an error, for which I have apologised. Surely no need for such a comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 05:01 PM
13

No, I'm a woman. Married to a man. Edit: just saw this is a question for men! Sorry!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 02:04 PM
9

Mid 30s. My husband is childfree too. I also know quite a few men who are childfree
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 01:57 PM
18

Cheating, dishonesty, not being clear on finances, wanting kids
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 01:31 PM
2

Imagination
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 10:41 PM
23

Some were homemakers. All working class women worked.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 10:38 PM
1

I am not the aimed audience of this as I have a career I love. But it is very dangerous not to. If she has not career or job history then she has nothing to fall back on if the relationship fails. And it puts the man in a position of controlling power
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 10:37 PM
3

I am actually as he is to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 03:29 PM
10

Nah, I want to be the centre of my husbands life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 03:08 PM
3

I love Jane Eyre. Favourite novel of all time!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 07:22 PM
18

I know but I detest people disparaging classic literature
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 12:39 PM
16

Again, they fix each other - it isn't one way. And remember this is the regency period, not the modern day. D'Arcy's money doesn't change his rank. And her family is not indecent, they are just embarrassing. Doesn't change the fact that Elizabeth is a Lady and D'Arcy a Gentleman.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 12:21 PM
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Read them again. Jane is an heiress at the end of the novel and socially superior to Rochester. The whole plot of the novel is that they are equal in the passion and hearts Elizabeth and D'Arcy are equal in rank. She teaches him to be a better man and he teaches her to be more humble. Again, a matching of equals. Indeed Elizabeth is considered his social superior to all who know them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 12:08 PM
38

You may wish to reread Jane Eyre and Pride and Prejudice....
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 12:01 PM
2

What are we categorising as 'older women'?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 03:48 PM
9

'For having children? Maybe, but it is likely they will be born autistic.' No it isn't. She's 30, not 49.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 07:30 PM
1

A lie is a lie. A lie by omission is still a lie. I live in Britain and don't drive. Perhaps move somewhere with better public transport if you are in so many accidents.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 10:41 PM
3

It has everything to do with being a woman. My husband and I are childfree. I ger grilled every single time. He's never been grilled about it once
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 10:38 PM
4

Perhaps you shouldn't be driving? Or lying to your spouse?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 10:34 PM
1

I'll quite happily be there for my childfree uncle, he's been wonderful my entire life. My parents can sort themselves out.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 10:33 PM
1

I think this is true for men and women. People get stuck in following the 'life script' without considering if its what they want or if it is what will make them happy
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 10:32 PM
1

He's pretty but not attractive to me. Just too pretty and I don't like his face particularly. My husband is much sexier to me, he's more the Daniel Craig type ( who I think is so sexy!)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 05:36 PM
3

Brad Pitt. So very pretty but not sexy at all
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 04:14 PM
2

I love Henry Cavill but only as Geralt. In real life he's a bit too clean and styled to be attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 04:13 PM
42

I commented on that post. You neglect to mention that most of the women who commented (myself included) said they earned more than their partners. And still said that they wouldn't do 50 50. I personally wouldn't as I am married and all our money is ours.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 01:05 PM
8

Not really. Pretty common for the Boss and the Secretary to get together
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 03:13 PM
14

I'm married. There are no 'split expenses'. All our money is marital income, it is both of ours. I outearn him currently. Does not matter. It is all our money.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:28 PM
2

Just an FYI as I have commented a few times - I outearn my husband considerably currently and will do for the next few years.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 06:29 PM
5

It takes 2 hours just to deepclean a single room.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:12 PM
6

I could not ever imagine being this heartless to my husband - ' Hey darling, we've both worked in excess of 40 hours this week but since I make more than you I am just going to relax here on the sofa whilst you run yourself ragged!'
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 12:01 PM
4

And does this result in a happy and loving relationship for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 11:38 AM
9

Why? Am I creating less mess just because I bring in more cash?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 11:11 AM
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How much money you make has zero impact on how much housework you should be doing. What matters is how many hours you work. Both of the couple work outside the home for 40 hours a week - equal housework. One works from home and the other has to commute then the remote worker does the equivalent of that commute. One works 20 hours and the other works 40 hours then the 20 hours worker should be doing 20 hours of the housework and cooking. My husband and I work it as - if one is working then the ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 10:29 AM
1

I'm married and I'm certainly not solely responsible for chores or making our home homey.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 07:30 AM
3

I know a few couples like this and they are very happy. Not for me though
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 07:29 AM
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Paris. We went for our honeymoon and it was glorious
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 10:47 PM
2

Why do you need to lose her?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 12:56 PM
3

I am completely content in my life (as being happy 100% of the time is unrealistic for everyone). I have a wonderful husband, a stable life, an interesting job. I care not what other women have or don't have. I don't need to prevent myself from being unhappy as the life I have chosen and the man I share it with bring me joy. Also, stop referring to women as a singular - we are all different in our wants and needs as are men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:16 AM
3

I dated people I see as a 10 for me, not necessarily for other people. My husband is a 20
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 09:50 PM
12

My husband did that and I was honoured. We have another ring for daily use though, I'd never forgive myself if I lost or damaged it!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 07:01 AM
2

What do you mean by 'date down'?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 09:43 PM
1

"That was what second wave feminism was about" No it was not. It was a about equality beyond voting rights
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:24 AM
1

Well that would be the part to be open and honest. I should not have to actively ask for him to tell the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 07:05 PM
4

'How many partners have you had' conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 06:50 PM
5

I expect both men and women to be honest with complete clarity
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 06:49 PM
6

I expect both men and women to be honest and moral. I am and so I expect my partner to be
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 06:48 PM
5

Why would I need to ask? An honest man would be honest
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 12:51 PM
15

Because I would hope he would be in possession of a moral centre and be honest
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 11:15 AM
1

The word your looking for is "romantic'
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 09:39 PM
1

Yes. So do 70 year old people
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 09:11 PM
3

Not at all. We both have plenty of opposite gender friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 10:21 PM
2

My husband is MY husband. He is mine and I am his, we're not sharing each other with anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 09:59 PM
1

Hairy men are super attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 02:19 PM
1

Is different for each man and woman
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 02:18 PM
5

I did and married him. I would never have dated a man who had dated around
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 07:27 AM
1

Johnny Depp has always been beautiful and will continue to be so, despite age and abuse. He will never, ever be ugly
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 09:30 PM
1

Lol he still is!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 09:07 PM
3

Johnny Depp is pretty. It means delicate features and is a compliment
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 06:06 PM
2

I'm pro- black all the way. Go Daemon
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 09:55 PM
2

I'm married. I'm not going around complimenting random men on their looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 08:49 PM
8

Yes they do. Don't be silly. Source: am in longterm relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 02:21 PM
9

Well do enter the real world where noone has the time or energy for sexy time every single day. We all have jobs, hobbies, friends, family, housework, bills, pets and the rest! Every day is a hugely unrealistic ideal but 3 - 4 times a week is great.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 01:02 PM
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