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Pathetic, what’s your new girls number? I know some single men she might be interested in. Think about that now, once you give in to your childish fantasy of reuniting a dead relationship an other guy will be rearranging the guts of the girl you somehow attracted after your previous failed relationship. Why do you want to torture yourself?
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 07:51 AM
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This is the MO of hiring a divorce lawyer to solve things for you. The judge sounds like a feminist activist, you might want to dig in on the judges cases to see how men are treated in the divorce proceedings.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/24 09:37 AM
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There are no women in America or men for that matter, only persons capable of bearing children and persons who are not.
/r/seduction02/05/24 06:28 PM
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Yes they are
/r/seduction02/05/24 06:25 PM
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It takes patience and character with a bit of arrogance.
/r/seduction15/08/23 10:39 AM
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I think self-deprecating is important in your post here. I used self-deprecate all the time. I would joke about having a small penis for laughs, I actually have a fairly good size ( I am 6’2). I stopped and now when I joke about my size I’m arrogant about it. I know I’m not the biggest but she’s going to have difficulty swallowing. I’m surprised how many offers I get to prove me wrong. Arrogance has worked wonders for me despite women telling me all the time how they hate arrogant men ( they don…
/r/seduction17/07/23 05:10 PM
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Hookers, hoes and escorts. You’ll get over that oneitis fast. The only difference between a committed relationship and seeing an escort is one you pay to stay the other you pay to leave.
/r/seduction19/04/23 10:25 AM
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I think you already answered your own question. You’re not ready, act accordingly
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 03:19 PM
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My ex-gf did the same. I know the pain. Others have said it. Revenge is a fish best served cold. It didn’t feel like it now but you’ll understand soon enough. Don’t let the trash marinate too long but do take your time to grieve. This is like a death in your family. Everything will be ok, just don’t lose your head to the jelousy.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/23 07:12 AM
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Go fuck yourself
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 08:49 PM
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Again you are clueless and very unhelpful in my situation so kindly go fuck yourself
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 08:49 PM
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Why don’t you comment on something else? You’re advice is very unwelcome.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 08:41 PM
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I am currently dealing with CSEA quite a lot, thank you for the complete AH comments. I have a 120,000 salary and I live in New York. One of the toughest states on the subject. This year after tax I will take home in pay 22,000 dollars. Without family and sympathy I can’t live. The state does come and take you away and put you in jail if you lose your job and fail to pay. And they also keep the tab going and when you get out they give you 90 days and put you back if you’ve failed to find work.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 08:37 PM
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You are absolutely clueless and it shows.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 08:30 PM
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I don’t expect anything but I do not consent to the government deciding how to spend my money 💴 r to force me into labor(slavery). Fair enough?
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 07:40 PM
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You go right ahead and let them take your rights away. It is your right
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 07:30 PM
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Family court is run by lawyers. The referee/quasi judge(fake judge) is a lawyer sitting on the bench. The codes of family court were written by the Barr assoc. family court lawyers are trained on family court proceeding and not laws or rights, they aren’t interested in protecting your constitutional rights. They are all in it to take your money from the outset of divorce. They want your property, they dont want you to get along. They do not care if you die paying child support.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 07:08 PM
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Go to YouTube and search childsupportmadesimple or the child support hustle. Child support is not even intended for your children despite how much the government might give her. It is for welfare and to pay the courts. They aren’t even real courts and they will take your rights away as soon as you consent to anything. Do not consent
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 04:51 PM
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I get it, I did everything you did. The state is physically fucking me every week. Raw, no lube. I make 120000 a year, I should be living comfortably. I thought my ex would never try to harm me after the divorce. I only get to keep 30% of what I make . They are taking everything because I consented to CS. I waived my rights because we talked about adjusting and being fair on how much I could pay. Do not consent to anything. You must dig in and find that inner bastard. Fuck everything else.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 04:49 PM
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Do not let her leave the state with your child, you are not thinking clearly.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 04:30 PM
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Visit childsupportmadesimple on YouTube before you agree to paying child support. They can only enforce something you agree too. Fight tooth and nail to remain off child support. Do not agree, do not agree, do not agree.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 04:29 PM
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There are plenty of bordelos around that if you just want to fuck you’ll find plenty of willing participants. It can get a little expensive but getting the fucking out of the way makes the seduction part much more fun.
/r/seduction18/08/22 02:19 PM
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Yes, usually once they figured out that they made a mistake. Don’t be the the sponge that soaks up the damage of their mistakes. Let them live with that mess and go find a bigger fish. Become Ahab looking for that elusive white whale.
/r/seduction18/08/22 02:47 AM
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Money
/r/seduction04/08/22 01:46 PM
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You have rights, do not give her custodial rights without a fight. Do not agree on a parenting plan without a lawyer and do not agree to let her leave the state with the children and relocate. You are going to pay but so does she if you have a lawyer. Take it from me, living in New York. My ex moved my children to Oregon because I never thought she would weaponize them against me. We did a uncontested divorce, no lawyers. I wish I could tell you I’m happier but suicidal thoughts and depression a…
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/22 09:34 AM
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Yes, keep doing what you’re doing.
/r/seduction06/07/22 05:58 PM
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Men and women are land sharks and your confidence is your blood. Sharks smell blood and if you’re not bleeding confidence no one will even give you a second glance. I’m not the most attractive guy and I’m not wealthy and I’m out of shape, I still get laid. I wear jeans and a shirt. But i play guitar, i con, i garden, i home, i go biking and i talk to women, even the ones I’m not interested in and I treat them like humans and expound all my nerdiness on them. I used to think like you, I changed m…
/r/seduction04/07/22 02:21 AM
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And finally, never agree to an uncontested divorce. Get a lawyer to fight for you, always.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/22 02:04 PM
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It’s why I recommend you check out one of those dating coaches. We’ve all been there.
/r/seduction13/12/21 10:39 PM
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Probably not the best sub for help. But you’ve already been there before, if you keep freaking out with your feelings you’re going to look weak and possibly do something irrational. The rules haven’t changed, just your feelings. Check out a dating coach like Craig Kenneth, he’s a break up coach so you may think the info doesn’t pertain to you but it does. He not going you how to seduce her, he’s not going to show you how to get those feelings in check and then check out Corey Wayne. He will help…
/r/seduction13/12/21 07:37 PM
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You don’t have to lead anyone on. When it comes to communication the only time you should be using a phone to contact a woman you’re interested in is to set up a date. Save the conversation for the date. Don’t over text or talk on the phone, save that stuff for your date. If they ask if you’re seeing anyone else then tell them you’re not seeing anyone seriously. They don’t need to know details and you don’t have to give any of them false hope. You don’t have to share every detail of your life ei…
/r/seduction19/10/21 05:25 AM
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Don’t talk about what you do. Playfully deflect the question. Something like “are you investigating fir the fbi?” Then talk about what they like to do. Stop talking about yourself, that’s why they’re drawn to the jock/thug. Those guys don’t have to talk about what they do, it’s unimportant to the women.
/r/seduction10/10/21 03:31 PM
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Slow and steady wins the race. There’s no rush. Ask her to lunch, often. If she keeps taking lunch with you it will progress. Give her the space she needs to process from her breakup. Good job mate.
/r/seduction16/08/21 06:13 PM
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The best advice I have for you is to avoid night clubs. It’s not that you can’t find gils that are enthusiastically willing but as a socially inept guy, building that skill in loud night clubs is difficult. There are lots of activities that single girls do where you can meet women and build your social skill. Dancing lessons, music lessons, language courses and festivals where the activity of talking is encouraged (the ambient noise of the environment doesn’t require you to yell to have a conver…
/r/seduction11/07/21 09:09 PM
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She’s a possible bipolar personality type with signs of narcissistic personality disorder and an avoidant. The best thing to do is to continue on without much thought. She’ll get bored and then come in and out of your life. If your cool with that then just have fun otherwise set your boundaries now that way you know when you’ve had enough and you don’t want any more relations with the girl.
/r/seduction16/06/21 03:50 PM
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Do not give up custody no matter how hard you think the opposite is. You’ll regret it if you do.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/20 02:57 PM
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Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/19 11:23 AM
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We have finite lives. There are nightmares of nature, society and of our own making. Some people have no choice but to suffer their nightmare. You have choices where others have none. From my own experiences it never ended well when I felt the best thing for me to do was to show my prospective partner I was doing good. They knew it was a lie; you know it’s a lie. You want change, you have to learn to accept yourself and move on. Love starts when you love yourself first. It sounds selfish but thr…
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/19 02:24 PM
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The guys in this group have come to a conclusion or are wanting a change in their situation. Some people can be narcissistic and hurtful. Usually both sides are at fault. But even when your just separated for just a short amount of time this group will still be there. We’ve all been where your at, feeling like we fucked up. Right now your lamenting your decisions in life. We all get it. When your ready to talk about it we’ll be here to listen. None of us are perfect and we give less than perfect…
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/19 09:39 AM
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That means that your financial info is readily available to the enforcement unit. Tell her to contact her enforcement office to get the info she desires. You’ve already provided it. Edit: additionally, if you want to get her financial info request modification through the enforcement unit. She will also have to comply.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/19 05:23 PM
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Just one question regarding this issue. Are you registered with Child Support Enforcement for your area? If not then I would make sure you have yourself set up for all your financial info to be handled through them. This has two benefits to you. The first one is that your info is granted to them automatically. The second is she cannot claim you are not sharing your financial info because you’ve registered yourself through enforcement. Also enforcement goes through mandatory audits and will modif…
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/19 05:17 PM
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This clause here if enforceable will be handled by CSE. If CSE doesn’t enforce it then it becomes unenforceable. There is a lot of language in a divorce decree that the courts cannot enforce but if they do the the CSE will see to it. It’s all bullshit otherwise.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/19 05:11 PM
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Yes, they can. After she has taken the energy and time to file for proceedings, otherwise the courts don’t give a fuck. Also you will have time to comply after getting service of complaint. The costs are all the same regardless of wether you take it before a court or not. Again it takes years before there would be a negative that could possibly land op in jail. By that time she will have exhausted a lot of energy and finances to hold his feet to the fire. I say if your ex is high conflict when y…
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/19 04:25 PM
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I would talk to your lawyer to see if you can get and emergency temporary modification until the courts rule. You will definitely have to get a permanent modification and expect it to be expensive.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/19 04:17 PM
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How about you think like an adult. There is a filing coat in court for every time you want to bring a case before a judge. There’s a fee to have the paper work processed. Then there’s legal fees. The letter of the agreement is all voluntary and relays on both parties to act in good faith but if one decides over another they aren’t going to act in good faith then the government has to enforce it. The government is not going to enforce it though unless his ex holds him in contempt. Same court and …
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/19 10:03 AM
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How money is she going to get then? Zilch. It takes years of abuse before they’ll start trying to put him in jail. Edit: My ex has been held in contempt a total of 5 times now. Guess how much jail time she got? Guess how much it cost me to hold her in contempt for something unenforceable?
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/19 09:40 PM
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That is the extreme worst, and you would ha e to be a complete asshole to get to that point. His financial info is none of her business. Period. She’s already aggressive when he shares it freely. He can do what ever he wants, I’m sharing my opinion and I already said I’m not a lawyer. I’ll say what ever I want.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/19 09:29 PM
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And if you suspect she’s making more money then she’s in contempt, right? And if you decide to hold her in contempt what are the minimum court cost with a lawyer? About $5,000, right? And the courts are going to drag it out for how many months, taking the both of you from work? If I’ve learned anything from my ex that’s if she wants any info make her pay for it and rearrange her schedule otherwise shut up and say nothing. I’m no lawyer, and I have a parenting plan and there are things I agreed t…
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/19 09:07 PM
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So, who is enforcing this? I’ve learned that those types of agreements are unenforceable and you should stop informing your ex how much you make. Let her go through the courts if she wants to pay filing and legal fees to have your money modified. Just don’t share that info anymore, she has no right to it.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/19 08:24 PM
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Your in the grieving process really, not unlike a death in the family. I was able to go through that process before we split because I was the one planning on leaving but it’s really hard to define meaning. If by meaning you need to kill yourself going to work to provide for someone who could give a shit less then it’s time to redefine meaning. I found meaning through food. I spend time learning delicious dishes to make that way of my relationship goes south I can keep focus on my cooking. And i…
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/19 05:19 PM
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Best thing my aunt ever taught me - “ if you love it let it go, if it comes back, nobody else would love it, let it go again”. You’re not a punching bag, go hit a punching bag. You’ll get into shape, relieve that stress you’re mulling over not knowing who will be there and possibly meet someone else who will care for your well being genuinely.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/19 10:56 AM
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Don’t go out with anyone other than it makes you feel good, ignore all the middle school bullshit of doing this to play on her emotional connection to you, it’s toxic. Set boundaries now or the remaining relationship will become really toxic. Stay calm, emotionless in front of her and relaxed. Don’t get or show any anger, go away if you have to.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/19 08:04 PM
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You need this site my friend. https://shrink4men.com If your lawyer is telling you (I don’t know the whole situation) that the law is on her side then you might need another lawyer. Look through the material here, be honest with yourself and start listening to the advise on this site; ignore every fucking thing else that is telling you to play nice. Nothing feels better than revenge, when you can service it coldly to your ex spouse and all they can do is eat crow. Your not alone, we’ve all been …
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/19 03:29 PM
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That was my relationship too. I think you’ll learn a lot from shrinkformen.com. I got tired of feeling like I wasn’t good enough
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/19 03:25 PM
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Maybe you’ve already been mentally preparing? This is good. You should mourn this process like a death of a loved one, there was love at least once I’m sure. Have a plan on where your going, gather important documents and medical records. Keep all you evidence of abuse or start documenting it, if you are also guilty of verbal abuse come to terms with it now, nobody has this kind of relationship without becoming that which they hate themselves. Here’s a pretty good list of things to get in front …
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/19 02:54 AM
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I may win sole custody this year and get out early!
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/19 12:40 PM
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I can see why your wife is overweight, frustrated and bored. You think like a third grader. It’s okay to get some cookies and milk sweetie and sit this one out.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/19 01:58 AM
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After being married to a prick like you that’s what everybody on this sub is hoping your wife gets, sex with a real man that has an average to better than average penis size.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/19 11:48 PM
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I also think you should take your pathetic attempt to probe for material to take to your counseling session somewhere else like r/incels for instance. This is a legitimate place for men who are looking for help and support them n the divorce processes not to be your vetting of material to fat shame your wife. Your prick probably was to small and that’s why she’s depressed and over eats, grow a dick if you want your wife to be happy to lose that weight for you.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/19 11:31 PM
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You don’t deserve her, do her a favor and leave.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/19 11:05 PM
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I get the knee jerk reaction here is grab a lawyer and make her life miserable. Believe me when I say that all I wish for my ex is happiness but she doesn’t make it easy. Let’s unpack what you learned first though and I’m not trying to bring you down or anything but while it sounds nice to make things more difficult for the ex keep in mind it make things worse for the children too. So first, while the ex has a boyfriend that she’s not happy with, you divorced her, she’s not required to share any…
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/19 03:32 PM
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Unless you have a law degree I would not suggest an uncontested divorce. The minimum I would suggest is mediation. In the end you could misfile something and spend a ton of money to correct it. My ex and I were to share custody of our children, I filed the wrong document and the courts have awarded her sole custody. She uses it to her advantage and it makes my life miserable. Mediation is my recommendation.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/19 10:30 AM
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So a mediator is definitely a better route than an uncontested divorce and certainly less expensive than attorneys. So this sub isn’t good for legal advice so take this opinion with a grain of salt. Once you work out custody, it’s binding, but either one of you can fill out and file change of custody petitions or parenting time change petitions if circumstances change. It will get expensive if it reaches that point. Take the time now to decide what you both want and both parties being flexible i…
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/18 03:17 PM
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The police won’t help unless you have primary custody. File a parenting time enforcement petition at the family court. Let her explain it to a judge. Edit: changed wording
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/18 08:37 PM
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Does no funds mean right now or do you make any money or is she the primary provider and is leaving you with no support? This is a support group but not one that is great for legal advice. Post this to r/legaladvice for a much more thoughtful response. The long and the short of it is you need a lawyer, if you cannot find a way to retain one then you can ask the state to assist but many people will tell you a private lawyer is much better than a public one, especially if you plan on challenging y…
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/18 02:18 PM
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Child support is not retroactive unless there is a court order and then only to the date the modification petition was filed. You are not legally obligated to tell her of an increase in pay in the same way she is not required to report changes in her financial changes to you. Most people will eventually figure out if things have changed for the better in their exes lives and so that is the reason for the existence of support modification. You are only obligated to follow the court order so unles…
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/18 01:57 PM
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Yak her to court and hold her in contempt. The courts will take it from there.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/18 08:29 PM
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Get a lawyer, change your direct deposit and let the judge worry about spousal support. Don’t pay her a dime without an order from the judge. If you have a bank account with some savings built up leave half of the money and withdraw half into your account. Keep the record to show that you did not leave her with nothing. Your right, a judge would not like it if you took all the money and left her with nothing but beyond that your not a lawyer or a prosecutor so stop interpreting your state law an…
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/18 10:02 AM
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Okay, take a deep breath, because there’s little to worry about here financially. Your marriage was a little over a year you say? Well you may be surprised but if she gets any spousal support awarded to her from a judge it will be in the tens of dollars, literally, unless your a millionaire and if you were you wouldn’t be stressed about supporting her. If you have a joint account stop directly depositing money into it immediately. Go and open an account and have your money directly put into that…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/18 09:24 PM
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So.. there isn’t a cheap way
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/18 08:54 PM
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This. I used to think like you OP and I let her get away with it for 12 years. I learned my lesson after the fact, fighting tooth and nail for access to your kids is what the courts like to see. Legal though, don’t threaten but be stern, you expect to see your daughter.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/18 11:21 AM
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How do you think counciling will affect what has occurred? And if she suddenly sees the light will it unfuck the guys she put out for while she “separated” from her? Is that something your really willing to forgive? It’s okay if your forgiving but this should be a huge red flag for you. If you have children is this an activity you condone whenever she feels freaked out? My relationship started toxic and I stayed for twelve years because she did get pregnant with in the first 3 months. Had I list…
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/18 12:10 AM
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I do understand, I didn’t know the financial was settled but you do have the right to ask for alimony from her and you can ask for her to repay you for the things she used to set up her current relationship. You need a lawyer, you are not the first male to regret being so easy going and I’m sure there is evidence that that nice house she lives in was paid in part by you. I don’t care about your relationship with your kids, neither does the judge, but you want to show you take parenting seriously…
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/18 02:43 PM
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There’s always an upside. I left a marriage of 12 years. It was toxic. I got a new girlfriend, we were friends first. I love her but I didn’t think I would find anyone at my age. She was everything I wanted but I had to focus on me first which is why we were friends first. Do the things you love, find other people who love those things. Do them without her.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/18 02:06 PM
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Let’s just start with the relationship she has now. You need to erase all language from your vocabulary that is misogynistic or derogatory, especially if you plan on having a favorable parenting plan and as not to repeat them here I strongly urge you to replace any of those terms in your above post. You’ll also want to avoid that language on any post you make because if your stbxw has been planning ( she has ) then posts you make online will be used against you. Anger is not an excuse that will …
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/18 01:50 PM
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Give up documenting your child support in your taxes. Next thing is to get your child support handled through the state so that means you want to file for that divorce and let the government decide how much you pay to her. They have a standard system for determining CS that is a lot more fair than the system your trying to balance. If she doesn’t like what she gets tough, she made her bed, let her lie in it, stop trying to fill the space for her. If she doesn’t collect the money from the governm…
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/18 11:13 AM
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Yes, there is no order in place stating where the children should live or who they should be with. I’m not familiar with guardian ship laws of SC, or for any state for that matter. I feel though that even though she may have signed over guardianship, what’s to prevent her from changing her mind? A parenting time order.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/18 07:37 PM
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Since there is no parenting plan filed there is nothing to stop her. My first step would be talk to a lawyer, they will give you a free consultation, then file a petition for parenting time plan and push to be the custodial parent and ask for child support. You may feel you gave her everything but your children are everything. Anything else is meaningless
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/18 07:32 PM
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If the relationship has become toxic it is time to part ways. You will have to reconcile within yourself not being around half the time, it is hard, but ultimately you should think about the example you want your daughters to follow in life. By that I mean it will be an example for them if and when they find a partner with similar toxic behaviors. You have to self analyze and be honest with yourself, is it you or her that is causing the toxic behaviors. You could both be responsible but for what…
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/18 12:59 PM
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This, hold her in contempt and make sure that your checks are being garnished. You want to give the impression to the courts that you are working with them to pay a fair amount of the ordered child support. She could be in real trouble for not updating you on where her and the child are. If you can afford it get a family lawyer to file the petition for parenting time enforcement. Attempt to renegotiate parenting time through the petition. File for custody petition when she fails to uphold the pa…
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/18 11:57 PM
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